Yeah, grandma and/or mom need to do something to make up for scaring the life out of her in the beginning. What a shame?!?!😢 They need to realize that they "have been their and done that"!!! And now it's DAUGHTER/GRANDDAUGHTER's TURN AND THAT'S ALL I HAVE TO SAY!! 😊
she doesn't want the gown & she doesn't want the guy That's how it feels to me, but I'm probably biased due to my own upbringing stifling me when I was that age
@@tianamarius2229 that makes a lot of sense imo - putting on the dress suddenly illustrates how final her decision feels. You know, no gap year to travel the world, no spending the money to get more schooling, etc. on top of the usual questions like "do I really want to renounce dating a-n-y-o-n-e else" the mom and grandmom seem so bossy!
How and where do you all find this info? I googled, but I guess I didn't research far enough. Anyway, I think she is beautiful bride - in the dress she couldn't decide on. Seems to be such a sweet and caring lady.
Gotta admit I hated all these sexual puns, and how they all made a thing out of the bride being a virgin. What if she said she wanted a pink dress? I'm sure they wouldn't be asking for an explanation then, so why ask why she wants a white one? It's none of the consultant's or the viewers' business.
There’s no way they didn’t script in the purity aspect. When a bride says it has to be a white dress, the consultants don’t automatically start asking “oh, white, why does it have to be white?” Nor do they question a bride when she says she wants ivory.
I think it's great the bride and her now hub waited for marriage. I read they are still married with a couple kids, so apparently they figured things out! Lol! She's super cute. I bet she was a lovely bride.
The whole waiting thing can really backfire because they also don't usually live together so not only could they be sexually incompatible (even just size wise) but you also don't know how they're going to be as a housemate
Actually statistically, people who live together first are more likely to end in divorce. My husband and I didn’t live together first and we’ve been married 11 years.
I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting, but purity culture can be toxic, abusive, and can have you second-guessing yourself in moments that matter. I remember picking my own dress. I wasn't a virgin, but I was raised in an abusive religious home, and even just putting the dresses on was such a huge shock. It brought up trauma that I didn't even know I had. I finally had to specify that the dress couldn't have sleeves on it because seeing myself in a dress that even looked like it represented toxic purity culture had me in tears because I had spent my whole life trying to rise above it and get out of it. I just could not see myself in a dress that reminded me of it. I'm honestly not surprised that this girl had an absolute emotional meltdown when faced with the reality of it all.
No one ever judges a man for either sleeping with the whole town or being a virgin. Society is so messed up. I respect the couple but it's not weird or anything to judge.
Its true in many cultures and religions but for me personally I saw the same standards of purity expected from all girls and boys. Boys usually broke more rules but were never pardoned just for being boys. That’s just in my experience though which I understand is rare.
It's not that it is weird, it's just that it is surprising and pretty rare in today's society. I think people's reactions come more from shock than they do from anything else.
People definitely judge a man for being a virgin. Remember that guy who was 26 and did the Bachelor? He got judged and made fun of constantly. I do agree with you on the sleeping around bit, though. People definitely give men a pass for that.
Men who are virgins with over 20 do get judged. And women often still get judged if they have slept with more than a few guys in her mid/late 20s. A female friend of me is 30 and has had 7 relationships and two or three short flings. If she were a man that wouldn't be considered much, but because she is a woman she sometimes gets crude remarks about it. Her mother, who lives in the same neighborhood, actually told her not to let her boyfriend or male platonic friends visit her at home because she doesn't want the neighbors to talk. I don't understand our world. It is fine to make experiences before marriage and it is fine to wait for the wedding night and both should apply to both genders.
I interpreted it as, "Why are you fixated on such bright white so badly when there are so many shades of white, along with other colors?" Most brides prefer white but not obsessively.
The shop sells all kinds of blush, pink, cream, ivory and white. Considering that she asked specifically for white and said that it was a big deal, it is reasonable to ask why. Some people fixate on having pure white dresses because of traditional marriage colours but then it doesn't suit them. There was a darker skinned lady who came in really wanting a white dress because she thought that pure white was the only proper colour for a bridal gown but then the pure white didn't look good on her because it washed her out. To know why someone wants a specific colour could be really important to the appointment.
Well 19 and 26 are pretty old to still be a virgin. However it is nobodies business but your own. Doubt she is embarrassed about it.....more likely feels uncomfortable explaining herself
My husband and I were both virgins when we married at 29. Honestly? One of the best decisions I've ever made! I don't get why people find waiting for marriage weird. We never have to worry about STD's or comparing each other to anyone else, and we have an incredible bond from choosing to only ever be with each other. I bet this girl and her husband are so glad they waited! She is beautiful and I think her decision is a beautiful one.
Marriage is not an exception to sti’s, in fact a large amount of people that have them are married and another large group that has them are pregnant women usually married. I get what your saying as you are exclusive but being a virgin til marriage or married does not inherently exclude one from sti’s. People mostly find it weird because of its strong presence in purity culture and the fixation it has on the concept of virginity particularly that of young girls which is weird. It is lovely to hear about your happy marriage and close bond but most couples who marry for live regardless of sexual experience will have that (sexual experience, particularly understanding one’s body can actually make sexually relationships better)
I was bought up “you have to try on lots of shoes before you choose a pair” as long as you’re safe it doesn’t matter how many parters you have…also sex is meant to be fun…no one should be shamed for how many partners they have had/not had
Both opinions are fine. Wanting a virgin is a common red flag (to say your partner is controlling or abusive). you said yourself no one to be compared to -> much less likely to realize if you are being abused. Wanting for marriage is a common red flag for a blackmailing "making guilty" because it's an easy example for using old morals to dictate ideas. I really hope that it comes out as actual answer and not judgmental. ( it's similar case to how most murderers are psychopaths, however most psychopaths are helpful trustworthy people. It is scary to know someone is however it doesn't mean they are evil)
Good things can come out of it haha, I binge this show constantly and I think that's one of the reasons I ended up getting a job at a bridal shop (and it's my favorite job I've had so far)!! You never know 🤣🤣
I really, really, really, really, really, REALLY hope she doesn't change her name when she gets married. THEN I want her to get a doctorate, so she can be Dr Doolittle... 🤗
ladies and gents there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. I feel like those who wait til after marriage just shows they value their religion or morals and it really shows self control. P.s. if you're not a virgin there's nothing wrong with that either.
That poor, beautiful young woman feels so much pressure. I really hope she has decided everything for herself. That last dress looked spectacular, but I think it made the situation all too real for her. I wish her happiness.
Yeah, the title was a bit of a clickbait. I wanted scandal and virgin babies, not nervous brides and no purchases and the same ole judgy family members saying ew about the dresses.
Ok, I absolutely hated that third dress on her. The bodice was so unflattering. The first dress was the best one. I don’t understand why mom and nana hated the first dress (simple, no cleavage), but loved the third one. What a I missing? Just as an aside, am I the only one who thought she looked like she could be Jack Black’s sister (that is not an insult, by the way)?
Because casual/premarital sex has become so normalized that those of us that choose to wait have basically been branded as stupid, boring, outdated, losers, etc.
@@thePhoenixQueen Unfortunately, that is the truth. Few people understand that "having and taking control of one's sexual lust" is a wisdom. It is about being in control of our primal instinct rather than being controlled by it.
@@thePhoenixQueen those who choose to wait until marriage should be praised, not ridiculed. It is a wise and mature choice. Young people don't realize all the dangers of having casual sex. They are more than just unwanted pregnancies and STDs.
@@MsAngelique Well. It is true that many people use their "freedom" to enjoy pre-marital sex. Some (few) people use their "wisdom" to have control of their sexual desire. Should we alienate them?
I disagree, there are pre-interviews for this and there have been other times where the bride has wanted to wear pure white and they haven't been asked because they didn't bring up in their pre-interview that they were a virgin. I think it has to do with the girl or her family having said something to begin with because they don't have any information about you that you don't give. And if she hadn't wanted to answer she could have done what other bride have done and said "i don't want to answer that" or she could have said "it's just important to me" but she chose to tell them the reason and get into it. Usually they ask do you want to wear pure white for a reason as a way to gauge of they absolutely have to stay within that or if there's any wiggle room at all to work with.
Sometimes brides want pure white thinking its the "right" color or to fit a theme but maybe ivory or champagne might compliment the bride better. Anyway, the consultant could ask to see how much room the have to pick other gowns
I'm a Christian and I'm also waiting until marriage to have my first time. I think it's a beautiful thing to build a strong friendship first and everything else is a gift for married people. Little side note: I'm not saying what's wrong or right, I'm just saying how I feel about this topic. Each their own ^^ But when it comes to the first dress...even to me her mom and grandma seemed to a little too conservative.
I think her nervousness is more about the anxiety of losing her virginity than the actual dress part. Looking at herself and picturing herself walking down the aisle can be very overwhelming knowing what’s to come. I’d be nervous as all hell too. She’s only 20! She can wait a few more years.
I’m 30 and not only have I never slept with anyone…I’ve never had a relationship. I’ve never felt shake or embarrassed about it. Sure sometimes I might feel like I’m missing out on the nights where my friends go out with their boyfriends/husbands. But I know what I want and I’m waiting for it to come along. I’m very content being single (and a virgin)
That someone judges a human being’s value by a hymen is disgusting. Speaks volumes about the person doing the judging…. And the symbolism of a WHITE WHITE Dress? Who really wants to know that much about someone’s private life?
Um, the hymen thing is a myth. If your hymen had no openings you would not be able to have a menstrual cycle and it would be extremely dangerous. Surgery is performed typically.
It seems as though the consultant already knew the bride was a virgin before she asked why she wanted a white wedding dress. I have never heard that question asked before. It was as if they had the storyline scripted beforehand.
All of them are. They have so many applicants, you'll know why they were chosen based on the issues they emphasize during video. Not necessarily scripted, but definitely pre-decided topics and lots of video editing to tell the story they want, the way they want.
I respect virgins SO MUCH! I never understood why others don't! Especially people who think it's disgusting! How can you shame a person for not doing something disgusting? Plus, white dresses don't even mean purity. 😂 They mean unity.
*Lori* "Why do you want a white dress?" *Me* "Oh come on, this is the U.S., most brides wear white. Why is this even a question?"🙄 *Also me* "Oh, that's right, the show wants us to know that the bride is a - GASP - virgin. They chose to focus on the need for a _white_ dress--as if that was an unusual request!--to make that point." TALK ABOUT MANUFACTURED "DRAMA". *ALSO* I did not like ANY of those dresses on Danielle. For one thing, the necklines on all three were not that flattering to her. I don't know how many dresses she actually tried on, but it's hard to believe these were the best they could do.
They don't know about anything that you don't tell them about though so they would have had that information to press for unless someone said something. She didn't have to answer of she were uncomfortable.
According to another post, she actually wound up wearing a ball gown with a sweetheart neckline. The question was asked because it was most likely on her application for the show and one of the reasons she was picked. They had to say it although it was done really awkwardly.
Why is she so ashamed of being a virgin, she should hold her head high, and be proud, shame on everybody else for making her feel ashamed, waiting till marriage is a good thing
Saving you’re self for marriage is really romantic, it makes the moment more special and it bonds you with you’re spouse you should be proud to be a virgin lol
Special Edition! 'It's Not Your Bloody Wedding, Mother OR Grandmother!' Two for the price of one! Also: "Why is that?" I'm sorry lady, but how old are you? You already KNEW the answer, so you only asked that question to put that poor girl on the spot.
No, it was planned so it would be the theme of the episode. There always has to be something interesting going on...otherwise it wouldn't be on the show.
Being a virgin or not isn't really the main issue here - too many people make a big deal out of being one or not being one. It's none of our business. BUT big thumbs up to her for thinking things through. With the divorce rate around 50% in the USA (yes, 1/2 of these marriages on the show end in divorce), it's good to not rush a wedding decision. Although you cannot predict the future, you can minimize the chances of a divorce by not rushing into marriage. Yes, nerves can just be about the event but nerves can also be about something else - better to explore that before jumping the gun because divorces are messy and especially with children involved. PS - Before you assume, check out which religions (or lack of) have the highest divorce rates. Yup!
So what? Even if it is this century... Or past few centuries? Do dresses get skin showing as the clock ticks further? By that logic people will soon be without dresses as it ticks along.... Tick-tock
@@Awakening_Sunshine old fashion was equally skin showing for those following fashion trends. It is still modesty for those who want to stay modest. Passing of time into centuries has nothing to do with it
The obsession that some people have over a woman's body is creepy. I've seen it on several episodes of this show. Whether it's the dad, or a brother, or in this case the grandmother it is just plain weird. If a woman is old enough to get married, she's old enough to choose her own wedding dress.
Whether or not to have sex is always up to each person. But the idea of purity and virginity in general is so problematic. It's not that this family has any mal intent. But rather I see it as a problematic concept ingrained in culture and religion.
Wow, it's not her place to ask such personal questions to a total stranger. It's her choice to wait, and that's the utmost thing a young lady could do.
"What were you thinking?" ... I was thinking my dress choices are none of your business because I like what I like. Man so many jabs on both ends between the entourage and bride.
Wow. They always paint virgins to be the most awkward insecure people. I was a virgin till my wedding night and it was the most confident decision of my life 😂
The last dress was pretty, but the the first two dresses actually accentuated her waist and figure wayyyy more. They tried to accent her waist with the big belt on the last dress instead of simply allowing the dress to do the work. (And shout out to grandma for fixing the bride biscuits and gravy to make her feel better 😅)
🤣and now the narrator called her "wholesome!" 🤣 I think the narrator should follow this logic all the way through and call brides who've had sex impure and immoral and slutty! 🤣 I feel like I'm watching a show from the time before women could vote! 🤣
I loved how the grandmother said, “I’m going take her home and feed her some gravy and biscuits.” True southern love! ☺️❤️
I still think she would force her to marry and get stuck in a bad marriage and awful looking dress.
Gravy and biscuits......that's what you feed your dog! 🤨
@@kachi9293 that's not something to be proud of, when you feed a dog luxurious foods instead of giving to people who need it...
Yeah, grandma and/or mom need to do something to make up for scaring the life out of her in the beginning. What a shame?!?!😢 They need to realize that they "have been their and done that"!!! And now it's DAUGHTER/GRANDDAUGHTER's TURN AND THAT'S ALL I HAVE TO SAY!! 😊
@@catherinesmalley8587 😂😂😂
I'm almost 28 and I'm still a virgin. I have never felt embarrassed about it. Poor thing.
She is probably just embarrassed to be asked such a personal and private question on national television
I think she's embarrassed because of how they made it such a focal point of the appointment. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
you should be proud of it
Good for you, that is something to be proud of!!!
@@janicesellers3618 . Is it? That is a rather odd thing to be proud about
the poor girl looked like she was in the middle of a panic attack the entire time.
she doesn't want the gown & she doesn't want the guy
That's how it feels to me, but I'm probably biased due to my own upbringing stifling me when I was that age
@@meinhartfrancois she's probably been with him so long she probably has this pressure to get married imo.
@@tianamarius2229 that makes a lot of sense imo - putting on the dress suddenly illustrates how final her decision feels. You know, no gap year to travel the world, no spending the money to get more schooling, etc. on top of the usual questions like "do I really want to renounce dating a-n-y-o-n-e else"
the mom and grandmom seem so bossy!
They were married in 2013 and she wore a "cupcake" dress with a sweetheart neckline and halter straps. She's a teacher and they have two kids.
Really? This video is that old?
What's with the embarrassment about being a virgin? She's only 20.
I'm guessing some level of purity culture shaming 😬
There should be no embarrassment about being a virgin no matter how old you are. It’s your life choice, and people should respect that
CLEARLY staged/scripted. Why else were separate cameras on each of their faces (edited together)?
Why would she get married so YOUNG?
@@orla99913 why do you CARE
It's her God damn life
She got married in 2013 and wore a "cupcake" dress with a sweetheart neckline and halter straps. She's a teacher and they have two kids.
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did she get married to someone else or the fiance from the show?
From the show.
Thanks for your research! So fun to have a follow up!
How and where do you all find this info? I googled, but I guess I didn't research far enough. Anyway, I think she is beautiful bride - in the dress she couldn't decide on. Seems to be such a sweet and caring lady.
Gotta admit I hated all these sexual puns, and how they all made a thing out of the bride being a virgin. What if she said she wanted a pink dress? I'm sure they wouldn't be asking for an explanation then, so why ask why she wants a white one? It's none of the consultant's or the viewers' business.
Clearly, you don’t watch this show much.
According to another post it was most likely the reason they were pick cause it was part of her application so they had to make it a thing.
Well she was extremely fixated on it.
She didn’t have to agree to disclosing personal information!
Sex is an important part of adult relationships. I wouldn’t wait to find out I wasn’t compatible in that area. Just my opinion!
There’s no way they didn’t script in the purity aspect. When a bride says it has to be a white dress, the consultants don’t automatically start asking “oh, white, why does it have to be white?” Nor do they question a bride when she says she wants ivory.
Well she was extremely fixated on it
@@Angel-ts8rcNo, she wasn’t.
All of these reality shows are scripted.
I think it's great the bride and her now hub waited for marriage. I read they are still married with a couple kids, so apparently they figured things out! Lol! She's super cute. I bet she was a lovely bride.
That’s so awesome omg
my parents were each others 1st. I had only 1 person before my wedding. to my husband you just didnt
The whole waiting thing can really backfire because they also don't usually live together so not only could they be sexually incompatible (even just size wise) but you also don't know how they're going to be as a housemate
Actually statistically, people who live together first are more likely to end in divorce. My husband and I didn’t live together first and we’ve been married 11 years.
@@angelhoward9957 that is an excuse..... coupes who lived together often separate after marriage.
I was a virgin until I got married at 25. There's nothing wrong with waiting (or not). Our sexual experiences should have no impact on our worth!
Preach
I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting, but purity culture can be toxic, abusive, and can have you second-guessing yourself in moments that matter. I remember picking my own dress. I wasn't a virgin, but I was raised in an abusive religious home, and even just putting the dresses on was such a huge shock. It brought up trauma that I didn't even know I had. I finally had to specify that the dress couldn't have sleeves on it because seeing myself in a dress that even looked like it represented toxic purity culture had me in tears because I had spent my whole life trying to rise above it and get out of it. I just could not see myself in a dress that reminded me of it. I'm honestly not surprised that this girl had an absolute emotional meltdown when faced with the reality of it all.
No one ever judges a man for either sleeping with the whole town or being a virgin. Society is so messed up. I respect the couple but it's not weird or anything to judge.
Its true in many cultures and religions but for me personally I saw the same standards of purity expected from all girls and boys. Boys usually broke more rules but were never pardoned just for being boys. That’s just in my experience though which I understand is rare.
It's not that it is weird, it's just that it is surprising and pretty rare in today's society. I think people's reactions come more from shock than they do from anything else.
@James Bond Ok. Probably her the most
People definitely judge a man for being a virgin. Remember that guy who was 26 and did the Bachelor? He got judged and made fun of constantly. I do agree with you on the sleeping around bit, though. People definitely give men a pass for that.
Men who are virgins with over 20 do get judged. And women often still get judged if they have slept with more than a few guys in her mid/late 20s. A female friend of me is 30 and has had 7 relationships and two or three short flings. If she were a man that wouldn't be considered much, but because she is a woman she sometimes gets crude remarks about it. Her mother, who lives in the same neighborhood, actually told her not to let her boyfriend or male platonic friends visit her at home because she doesn't want the neighbors to talk. I don't understand our world. It is fine to make experiences before marriage and it is fine to wait for the wedding night and both should apply to both genders.
What kind of consultant asks the reason why a bride wants to wear a white wedding dress?
I interpreted it as, "Why are you fixated on such bright white so badly when there are so many shades of white, along with other colors?" Most brides prefer white but not obsessively.
For TV
@@MsAngelique There is one and only one reason that a Southern bride insists on a pure-white wedding gown. The consultant was playing to the cameras.
@@rballenny Exactly right. The consultant surely knows the unstated reason. No wonder poor Danielle looked like a terrified rabbit the entire time.
The shop sells all kinds of blush, pink, cream, ivory and white. Considering that she asked specifically for white and said that it was a big deal, it is reasonable to ask why. Some people fixate on having pure white dresses because of traditional marriage colours but then it doesn't suit them. There was a darker skinned lady who came in really wanting a white dress because she thought that pure white was the only proper colour for a bridal gown but then the pure white didn't look good on her because it washed her out. To know why someone wants a specific colour could be really important to the appointment.
I think it’s messed up that she feels embarrassed about being a virgin. I was a virgin until I was 26, and I was reluctant to let anyone know.
Now days woman don’t go virgen to the altar I went to the altar virgen and I was 19
Well 19 and 26 are pretty old to still be a virgin. However it is nobodies business but your own. Doubt she is embarrassed about it.....more likely feels uncomfortable explaining herself
@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat agreed. Your choice is your choice
@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 19 and 26 is not old let them be ..
@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 19 is old??!?!?!?!
So according to Mom and Nana, they're looking for a dress that is "plain", "conservative", and "modest". Sounds like so much fun....
I was also like: God forbid she will have more fun at HER wedding than you...
'I am glad to know that' was hilarious. I hope she's not going into a controlling marriage because these two older ladies seem very controlling.
Ohhh yes, so controlling
they dont not at all
I think manipulative, more so than controlling.
Not at all. She's only 20. She needs to be assisted in many ways.
@Elcée and?
My husband and I were both virgins when we married at 29. Honestly? One of the best decisions I've ever made! I don't get why people find waiting for marriage weird. We never have to worry about STD's or comparing each other to anyone else, and we have an incredible bond from choosing to only ever be with each other. I bet this girl and her husband are so glad they waited! She is beautiful and I think her decision is a beautiful one.
Marriage is not an exception to sti’s, in fact a large amount of people that have them are married and another large group that has them are pregnant women usually married. I get what your saying as you are exclusive but being a virgin til marriage or married does not inherently exclude one from sti’s. People mostly find it weird because of its strong presence in purity culture and the fixation it has on the concept of virginity particularly that of young girls which is weird. It is lovely to hear about your happy marriage and close bond but most couples who marry for live regardless of sexual experience will have that (sexual experience, particularly understanding one’s body can actually make sexually relationships better)
I was bought up “you have to try on lots of shoes before you choose a pair” as long as you’re safe it doesn’t matter how many parters you have…also sex is meant to be fun…no one should be shamed for how many partners they have had/not had
I think both options are fine. Waiting for marriage is fine. And sex before marriage is also fine.
Both opinions are fine. Wanting a virgin is a common red flag (to say your partner is controlling or abusive). you said yourself no one to be compared to -> much less likely to realize if you are being abused. Wanting for marriage is a common red flag for a blackmailing "making guilty" because it's an easy example for using old morals to dictate ideas.
I really hope that it comes out as actual answer and not judgmental. ( it's similar case to how most murderers are psychopaths, however most psychopaths are helpful trustworthy people. It is scary to know someone is however it doesn't mean they are evil)
First dress looked stunning on her!! Needs to try on more dresses ☺️☺️
5:15 "Just *being* pure as the driven snow works for me." Lol love that.
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The bride is freaking adorable. I love her!
I know she is too cute
I know she is too cute
I’m a virgin and I’ll be 27 in a few days. Im getting married In August
That’s wonderful!!! Congratulations 🎉🍾🎊💞
I'm glad you had the strength to follow your convictions! God Bless you and your future hubby!
Very cool!!!!! Congrats on your upcoming marriage!!! ❤
Wow beautiful! Have an amzing wedding
I whished to marry on day... On the right time its just amazing thats what is is
I seriously need to stop binge watching this show. I don't even have a bf!
Same sis
All good, married 17yrs still watching 🤣
Good things can come out of it haha, I binge this show constantly and I think that's one of the reasons I ended up getting a job at a bridal shop (and it's my favorite job I've had so far)!! You never know 🤣🤣
Same here 🤣🤣🤣
Don't be silly! I'm 64yr. and Love watching these shows! Enjoy!
I really, really, really, really, really, REALLY hope she doesn't change her name when she gets married. THEN I want her to get a doctorate, so she can be Dr Doolittle... 🤗
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This is a really old show.
Yeah I’m sure this bride will break tradition 😂
You are funny, lol!
@@richardbowness1595 Haha. Thanks ☺
ladies and gents there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. I feel like those who wait til after marriage just shows they value their religion or morals and it really shows self control.
P.s. if you're not a virgin there's nothing wrong with that either.
There IS something wrong with not being a virgin unless u are a widow. Soiled goods.
I feel bad for her. She deserves to get the exact dress 👗 SHE wants!! It's her big wedding day!
Mom and nanna have to realize that it's what the bride wants and not what they want it's best to be happy and support the bride choice
She knows exactly what she wants
That poor, beautiful young woman feels so much pressure. I really hope she has decided everything for herself. That last dress looked spectacular, but I think it made the situation all too real for her. I wish her happiness.
How the conversation would've gone if I was a consultant:
Me: so what are you looking for in a dress?
Danielle: I'm really wanting white
Me: okay
I'm sure they knew ahead of time that she was a virgin and this would be the theme for the episode.
When I tell you this comment made me SHRIEK with laughter.
Right?! And almost everyone wants white. Don’t have to give a reason.
Scripted. Totally.
is it bad when i couldnt see the full title i was expecting it to be "virgin bride SHOCKS EVERYONE by suddenly announcing that shes pregnant"
Yeah, the title was a bit of a clickbait. I wanted scandal and virgin babies, not nervous brides and no purchases and the same ole judgy family members saying ew about the dresses.
another episode of; this is not your wedding
Ok, I absolutely hated that third dress on her. The bodice was so unflattering. The first dress was the best one. I don’t understand why mom and nana hated the first dress (simple, no cleavage), but loved the third one. What a I missing?
Just as an aside, am I the only one who thought she looked like she could be Jack Black’s sister (that is not an insult, by the way)?
This bride is so beautiful inside and outside.
I wonder why "people who choose to avoid sex before marriage" are often depicted as funny, or even caricature-ish, in many occasions.
Because casual/premarital sex has become so normalized that those of us that choose to wait have basically been branded as stupid, boring, outdated, losers, etc.
@@thePhoenixQueen Unfortunately, that is the truth. Few people understand that "having and taking control of one's sexual lust" is a wisdom. It is about being in control of our primal instinct rather than being controlled by it.
Because most people aren't into that.
@@thePhoenixQueen those who choose to wait until marriage should be praised, not ridiculed. It is a wise and mature choice. Young people don't realize all the dangers of having casual sex. They are more than just unwanted pregnancies and STDs.
@@MsAngelique Well. It is true that many people use their "freedom" to enjoy pre-marital sex. Some (few) people use their "wisdom" to have control of their sexual desire. Should we alienate them?
She's not ready to get married, and is refusing to admit it to herself.
Agreed
We dont know everything from a 5 min. clip. Cmon
No 20 year old is ready. Especially these days
What gave you that impression? She's not ready to pick a DRESS. Big difference!
She got married in 2013 and wore a "cupcake" dress with a sweetheart neckline and halter straps. She's a teacher and they have two kids.
Click bait! She's not unsure about marriage, she's not sure about the dress.
😨😰😱oh naur
That was very rude of her asking her the reason of wearing white. She had no right at all it was her personal
I disagree, there are pre-interviews for this and there have been other times where the bride has wanted to wear pure white and they haven't been asked because they didn't bring up in their pre-interview that they were a virgin. I think it has to do with the girl or her family having said something to begin with because they don't have any information about you that you don't give. And if she hadn't wanted to answer she could have done what other bride have done and said "i don't want to answer that" or she could have said "it's just important to me" but she chose to tell them the reason and get into it. Usually they ask do you want to wear pure white for a reason as a way to gauge of they absolutely have to stay within that or if there's any wiggle room at all to work with.
Sometimes brides want pure white thinking its the "right" color or to fit a theme but maybe ivory or champagne might compliment the bride better. Anyway, the consultant could ask to see how much room the have to pick other gowns
Its because she quite fixated on it
"just being pure as the driver snow works for me" say it gf
Damn I thought her first dress was a 10 out of 10 😮
She looked beautiful in all of the gowns. I'm glad she is taking control of her life. You have to be ready to get married!
I'm a Christian and I'm also waiting until marriage to have my first time. I think it's a beautiful thing to build a strong friendship first and everything else is a gift for married people. Little side note: I'm not saying what's wrong or right, I'm just saying how I feel about this topic. Each their own ^^
But when it comes to the first dress...even to me her mom and grandma seemed to a little too conservative.
I also waited, totally worth it.
im also waiting for the right one
🤣🤣 I was thinking that Nana's dress was conservative for those times (whenever this was) but probably would of been a bit too out there for her time.
It looked to me like the bride was being pressured into the whole wedding thing before she was ready to be married.
I think her nervousness is more about the anxiety of losing her virginity than the actual dress part. Looking at herself and picturing herself walking down the aisle can be very overwhelming knowing what’s to come. I’d be nervous as all hell too. She’s only 20! She can wait a few more years.
She looked drop dead gorgeous in the first dress.
I’m confused on why it even matters that she’s a virgin? She’s a bride, looking for a dress. That’s all that matters
I’m 30 and not only have I never slept with anyone…I’ve never had a relationship. I’ve never felt shake or embarrassed about it. Sure sometimes I might feel like I’m missing out on the nights where my friends go out with their boyfriends/husbands. But I know what I want and I’m waiting for it to come along. I’m very content being single (and a virgin)
That someone judges a human being’s value by a hymen is disgusting. Speaks volumes about the person doing the judging…. And the symbolism of a WHITE WHITE Dress? Who really wants to know that much about someone’s private life?
+ on me white white looks much much better than broken white for some reason. All my white clothing i buy white white
No judges by a hymen. Good God.
There are virgins with torn hymens and mothers with complete hymens.
Um, the hymen thing is a myth. If your hymen had no openings you would not be able to have a menstrual cycle and it would be extremely dangerous. Surgery is performed typically.
Who was judging anyone's value here ? She wouldn't be less valuable to her family if she wasn't a virgin..sheesh
"I'm gonna take her home and cook her some gravy and biscuits" that is the most southern thing I've heard 😋 damn now I want some
I loved the 1st dress she put on.
“Im gonna take her home and fix her some gravy and biscuits” 😭 I love grandmas ❤️
Grandmas that want her to wear that hideous dress?
I've never been ashamed of being a virgin. I'm pretty proud of it actually. Poor girl
Good for her & good for Nana, offering gravy & biscuits!
It seems as though the consultant already knew the bride was a virgin before she asked why she wanted a white wedding dress. I have never heard that question asked before. It was as if they had the storyline scripted beforehand.
All of them are. They have so many applicants, you'll know why they were chosen based on the issues they emphasize during video. Not necessarily scripted, but definitely pre-decided topics and lots of video editing to tell the story they want, the way they want.
Listening to her mom and nana no wonder she is so stressed and unsure about everything.
I think her mom is terribly mean. There are nicer ways to say you don’t care for something without criticizing the person who selected it
I respect virgins SO MUCH! I never understood why others don't! Especially people who think it's disgusting! How can you shame a person for not doing something disgusting?
Plus, white dresses don't even mean purity. 😂 They mean unity.
*Lori* "Why do you want a white dress?"
*Me* "Oh come on, this is the U.S., most brides wear white. Why is this even a question?"🙄
*Also me* "Oh, that's right, the show wants us to know that the bride is a - GASP - virgin. They chose to focus on the need for a _white_ dress--as if that was an unusual request!--to make that point." TALK ABOUT MANUFACTURED "DRAMA".
*ALSO* I did not like ANY of those dresses on Danielle. For one thing, the necklines on all three were not that flattering to her. I don't know how many dresses she actually tried on, but it's hard to believe these were the best they could do.
yup
Agreed.
They don't know about anything that you don't tell them about though so they would have had that information to press for unless someone said something. She didn't have to answer of she were uncomfortable.
According to another post, she actually wound up wearing a ball gown with a sweetheart neckline. The question was asked because it was most likely on her application for the show and one of the reasons she was picked. They had to say it although it was done really awkwardly.
How do people find out about these bitter pieces?
"I'm gonna take her home, and feed her some gravy and biscuits. Try to make her feel better." Now THAT'S a Granma!
Why is she so ashamed of being a virgin, she should hold her head high, and be proud, shame on everybody else for making her feel ashamed, waiting till marriage is a good thing
I'm gonna take her home and fix her some gravy and biscuits.
Saving you’re self for marriage is really romantic, it makes the moment more special and it bonds you with you’re spouse you should be proud to be a virgin lol
Me thinking back to my first time... It happened so fast, I'm not sure I even lost my virginity. It was quite romantic.
Exactly
Romance is subjective.
That's adorable, good for her and her man for staying virtuous, they will be happier for it, nothing to be ashamed about. all the love
Wow I started crying when she put on the 3rd dress!! I really thought she was gonna pick it
Stand up straight, girl! Put your shoulders back and don't be afraid!
I think the hesitation is because she really liked the first dress better but was being pressured to go with the third dress.
I love Monty’s sense of humor!
Virgin bride? Srsly?
What's the connection between buying a wedding dress and being a virgin? That was unnecessary
Getting married before 26 is statistically a bad idea (high rate of divorce)
Why not? But there is no need to advertise oneself, is it? Or Is it public news?
What's wrong with that? U still in highschool or something?
There are quite a few women that do NOT participate in pre-marital sex! And there is nothing weird about it! Get over it!
@@lisamarieashby2523 no that's not the point but what's the need of mentioning it?
What a sweet young woman! I hope she is so very happy with her husband.
Special Edition! 'It's Not Your Bloody Wedding, Mother OR Grandmother!' Two for the price of one!
Also: "Why is that?" I'm sorry lady, but how old are you? You already KNEW the answer, so you only asked that question to put that poor girl on the spot.
No, it was planned so it would be the theme of the episode. There always has to be something interesting going on...otherwise it wouldn't be on the show.
the first two pictures of the fiancé…. GWORL
Exactly
I can’t help but wonder how much shame there is attached to sexuality that she felt embarrassed to say she is a virgin as a 20 year old.
I'm 28, and I'm abstinent. I've never been embarrassed by it, and it makes me sad that's she's embarrassed by it.
Being a virgin or not isn't really the main issue here - too many people make a big deal out of being one or not being one. It's none of our business. BUT big thumbs up to her for thinking things through. With the divorce rate around 50% in the USA (yes, 1/2 of these marriages on the show end in divorce), it's good to not rush a wedding decision. Although you cannot predict the future, you can minimize the chances of a divorce by not rushing into marriage. Yes, nerves can just be about the event but nerves can also be about something else - better to explore that before jumping the gun because divorces are messy and especially with children involved. PS - Before you assume, check out which religions (or lack of) have the highest divorce rates. Yup!
I don't think she's acting unsure about the marriage at all. I think she's unsure about that dress.
The Nana’s idea of a dress is totally ridiculous. This is the 21st century
So what? Even if it is this century... Or past few centuries? Do dresses get skin showing as the clock ticks further? By that logic people will soon be without dresses as it ticks along.... Tick-tock
@@Chrysolyte.Sparkles the bride obviously doesn’t like it either, which is ultimately the only opinion that matters
@@Awakening_Sunshine yeah, that's what is important... What the Bride likes is what matters... NOT the centuries
@@Chrysolyte.Sparkles my point was that the grandmother’s idea is extremely old-fashioned, which is simply a fact
@@Awakening_Sunshine old fashion was equally skin showing for those following fashion trends. It is still modesty for those who want to stay modest. Passing of time into centuries has nothing to do with it
"wellllll maybe the second most anticipated moment for this bride" jesus monty 💀😂😂
The obsession that some people have over a woman's body is creepy. I've seen it on several episodes of this show. Whether it's the dad, or a brother, or in this case the grandmother it is just plain weird. If a woman is old enough to get married, she's old enough to choose her own wedding dress.
i think her family has pressured her to the point she doesn't know how to think on her own. its sad she's getting married so young and is ashamed
Whether or not to have sex is always up to each person. But the idea of purity and virginity in general is so problematic. It's not that this family has any mal intent. But rather I see it as a problematic concept ingrained in culture and religion.
Wow, it's not her place to ask such personal questions to a total stranger. It's her choice to wait, and that's the utmost thing a young lady could do.
My mom already taught me to test drive the car before you leave the lot-
Humans aren’t cars.
@@stephaniepersin4145 ….it’s a phrase about having sex before marriage.
Good on the bride I was 28 when I got married and kept myself for marriage also
is anyone gonna talk about the fact that this channel has definitely posted this episode before lol
No kidding. If she did marry the dude, this was so long ago, she's close to having grandkids now. :P
Lol ikr 😂
Good that she has her own mind and didn't sllow herself to choose a dress if she had doubts. IF IN DOUBT DON'T. Best advice I have ever had.
Wearing a white dress for whatever reason is a private issue
"What were you thinking?" ... I was thinking my dress choices are none of your business because I like what I like. Man so many jabs on both ends between the entourage and bride.
Monte is cracking me up 😂😂😂
By the looks of Chris dont think he waited lol
I hate ball gowns, but she looks amazing in the first one. Not too big, very proportionate to her feminine figure 👌🏻🖤
This! The first one was drop dead gorgeous on her, can't believe how rude her momma and gram were to her about it
That first dress was gorgeous!!
Wow. They always paint virgins to be the most awkward insecure people. I was a virgin till my wedding night and it was the most confident decision of my life 😂
Monty's early comment took me a second. XD Lori's expression had me ROFLMAO. Lori's Team is priceless.
I loved the first dress
The last dress was pretty, but the the first two dresses actually accentuated her waist and figure wayyyy more. They tried to accent her waist with the big belt on the last dress instead of simply allowing the dress to do the work. (And shout out to grandma for fixing the bride biscuits and gravy to make her feel better 😅)
Can't believe I'm here 30 seconds after posting
after two minutes
9 mins
And so many important things to do, but what do we do: we watch....🤣
I dont know why, but the dress that her grandmother picks looks very beautiful in her
I don’t think the issue was the dress I think it hit her that this Is about her marriage and she realized she’s not ready for this commitment.
She got married.
🤣When the narrator called her "a virtuous bride," as if there is any connection between your level of sexual experience and your virtue! 🤣
🤣and now the narrator called her "wholesome!" 🤣 I think the narrator should follow this logic all the way through and call brides who've had sex impure and immoral and slutty! 🤣 I feel like I'm watching a show from the time before women could vote! 🤣
Yes! Well said!
Way to go. It's nice for people to wait. I think that is great!
It’s better to say no before than wish you had.
monte’s subtle innuendos >
Trust me.. Chris has not waited.