I am german but I did copy the very british style saying no and I love it. Any time I want to say no I say. "Sorry, but I prefer not to". Nobody in my country would say it that way, but the brits are masters in that indirect superpolite way. "Sorry, but I prefer not to"... what a wonderful sentence...and about Tampo, I also figured out what to do: completely ignore that. After a few hours, she realizes it is for nothing. I go out walking and ignore her - she behaves as nothing did happen mostly the second I am back. The more you try to be sweet that moment, the more Tampo you will get. Backfire with a polite way to Tampo on her! I recognize also: after 6 years she lived in my country, she changes mentality in these matters into something more easy to handle for me. My wife did adopt my ! mentality by 50% allready what makes me feel more and more relaxed. Simply my wife gets angry more and more about other filipinas now... I am amused to observe how she does argue with her siblings when they ask her about money. Her latest response I did hear her giving them was... "sorry, but I prefer not to"... if she was 100% german, the answer would be like: "forget about it. Never ever!"
I finally learned what s u l k i n g means it means a girl being like a child and pouting my girlfriend of 3 years all of a sudden was sulking and told me that she wanted to end our relationship that she wanted to go back to school and all this kind of stuff and she needed to talk to her and I said go ahead goodbye you know we spent three years and you're going to waste my time now with this crap and she changed her tune like in a hurry especially when I said I wasn't going to talk to her for 2 days now until she apologizes for her but she still didn't understand why I got so upset about her s u l k i n g I said all it is is that you trying to get your way by making me feel bad which is not caring about somebody
If you become too agreeable this will not cause Filipina to become entitled, but she will lose respect for the man because he is not masculine enough to stand up to her. He has to have the balls to stand up to her and the spine to hold firm when she becomes emotional because of it. You will find many Filipinas grew up having strong fathers in their lives if you follow that tradition this becomes a comfort for her emotionally as she comes into your life.
I think the key is not allowing her to find some leverage over you. No Filipina wants to lose a good hearted Foreigner with means. Creating small petty situations that put you in a compromised way is just not fair to you even if it’s a Filipinas nature to do so. Honestly I think the best method to deal with these is to not react and if she goes all Tampo on you ignore her. If she does not see the error of her ways move on.
So kind of like dealing with any other woman in the world yeah just need to set boundaries upfront and make sure that everybody in the situation understands what they are got it
Funny...I broke most of those rules at first...let her bring her friends...we would go shop n spend like drunken sailors...1st visit after I met her I left flat broke! But I raised 2 kids already so saying NO is not a problem. She also knows that when I'm playing 8-ball with my team n I'm in a match...I don't even look at my phone. This coming trip our 4th together we'll start off on a road trip, just me n her. MJ is a sweetheart n took the "No"s well. She's an adult n we treat each other like adults. Like you say, Irish...no need to be an asshole...just be firm but kind. I let her know there's a limit n when she's close to it. I'm the one holding the wallet so I gotta set the boundaries n stick to them. Thnx for these videos tho cos they do give me more insight to her mindset n it really helps. You're wonderful n f**k the haters girlfriend.🤭
Beautiful dress... I would think that having understanding and talking should work with any reasonable person. They shouldn't feel entitled... It might be a sign of immaturity
Hello. I am in an LDR and my fiancée is working in Malaysia in a rehab facility. She is from Bohol where I am wanting to retire. We had talked about me moving into her apartment in Malaysia so she can finish her contract in September 2026. She has never asked me for money and she has purchased shoes and clothes for me. She said that she did this because she loves me and wants me to one there as soon as I can. I have some obligations that I need to take care of before I go. She told me she has not been in a relationship for 3 years. I am not one to dig in to someone’s social media but I did notice she stopped people from commenting on her social media accounts. Do you think I have any reason to be afraid?
EXACTLY, sadly western men never learn to be the boss / guide his Filipina / be non negotiable. It's like being a parent, when you say NO it's NO and non negociable.
Is this true?Really there are foreigners that want to be in relationship for real😂?It's all a game man,try to ne smart and play this game better than her.Just enjoy everynight in bed with her and going back to your contry forget her.Don't spend any money to her.Remember U have a mission.Collect many girlfriends that in fact are not girlfriends,just little more than close friend in bed😎Enjoy
Well, partly not true. Being agreeable is fine. After all why stay with a guy who disagrees with you all the time?! Why date one who is argumentative and confrontational.... i'd rather choose someone who portrays warmth, yet kind in saying NO.
MY GOODNESS LADY! YOU ARE VERY INTELLIGENT AND I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR A LADY LIKE YOU TO MARRY. ALL THAT YOU SAY IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE. THE MORE YOU GIVE THE MORE THEY DEMAND. IF YOU STOP ONLY ONCE SAY FOR A SMALL MONEY AMOUNT, THEN IT IS THE END OF THE RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED OR COMMITTED TO SOMEONE ELSE I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW YOU. I AM COMING TO THE PHILIPPINES SOON TO MARRY A REALLY GOOD LADY. THIS IS DR. JIM MICHAELS A PROFESSOR, A GENTLEMAN, WITHOUT ANY BAD HABITS, AND A FAMILY-ORIENTED FELLOW. YOUR ANSWER HERE WILL BE APPRECIATED.
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This is some sage advice. I learned this the hard way ☹️.
I am german but I did copy the very british style saying no and I love it. Any time I want to say no I say. "Sorry, but I prefer not to". Nobody in my country would say it that way, but the brits are masters in that indirect superpolite way. "Sorry, but I prefer not to"... what a wonderful sentence...and about Tampo, I also figured out what to do: completely ignore that. After a few hours, she realizes it is for nothing. I go out walking and ignore her - she behaves as nothing did happen mostly the second I am back. The more you try to be sweet that moment, the more Tampo you will get. Backfire with a polite way to Tampo on her! I recognize also: after 6 years she lived in my country, she changes mentality in these matters into something more easy to handle for me. My wife did adopt my ! mentality by 50% allready what makes me feel more and more relaxed. Simply my wife gets angry more and more about other filipinas now... I am amused to observe how she does argue with her siblings when they ask her about money. Her latest response I did hear her giving them was... "sorry, but I prefer not to"... if she was 100% german, the answer would be like: "forget about it. Never ever!"
I finally learned what s u l k i n g means it means a girl being like a child and pouting my girlfriend of 3 years all of a sudden was sulking and told me that she wanted to end our relationship that she wanted to go back to school and all this kind of stuff and she needed to talk to her and I said go ahead goodbye you know we spent three years and you're going to waste my time now with this crap and she changed her tune like in a hurry especially when I said I wasn't going to talk to her for 2 days now until she apologizes for her but she still didn't understand why I got so upset about her s u l k i n g I said all it is is that you trying to get your way by making me feel bad which is not caring about somebody
That is my understanding of Tampo.
If you become too agreeable this will not cause Filipina to become entitled, but she will lose respect for the man because he is not masculine enough to stand up to her. He has to have the balls to stand up to her and the spine to hold firm when she becomes emotional because of it. You will find many Filipinas grew up having strong fathers in their lives if you follow that tradition this becomes a comfort for her emotionally as she comes into your life.
Sounds exactly like dealing with a spoiled child ….. Fifth most dangerous: her HUSBAND!! 😮😂
I think the key is not allowing her to find some leverage over you. No Filipina wants to lose a good hearted Foreigner with means. Creating small petty situations that put you in a compromised way is just not fair to you even if it’s a Filipinas nature to do so. Honestly I think the best method to deal with these is to not react and if she goes all Tampo on you ignore her. If she does not see the error of her ways move on.
I know about 20 Filipino in my woman’s Burangay. She knows she would be a complete idiot to lose me. All these people know I am a good person 😊😮😊😊
So kind of like dealing with any other woman in the world yeah just need to set boundaries upfront and make sure that everybody in the situation understands what they are got it
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"He is such a smooth talker that he can not only be cursing at you, you will be enjoying it!"
Funny...I broke most of those rules at first...let her bring her friends...we would go shop n spend like drunken sailors...1st visit after I met her I left flat broke! But I raised 2 kids already so saying NO is not a problem. She also knows that when I'm playing 8-ball with my team n I'm in a match...I don't even look at my phone. This coming trip our 4th together we'll start off on a road trip, just me n her. MJ is a sweetheart n took the "No"s well. She's an adult n we treat each other like adults. Like you say, Irish...no need to be an asshole...just be firm but kind. I let her know there's a limit n when she's close to it. I'm the one holding the wallet so I gotta set the boundaries n stick to them. Thnx for these videos tho cos they do give me more insight to her mindset n it really helps. You're wonderful n f**k the haters girlfriend.🤭
This message is spectacular! I love your videos Irish.
Good advice, initial impressions are difficult to overcome.
You make me smile Irish. You're just a sweet treat.
If I get a string of accusatory text messages while I am on a hike, I’ll just laugh 😆
BTW, the Irish won on Saturday, 49-14.
Better yet, on a hike, turn off your phone
You, my lady, ARE RIGHT.
Beautiful dress... I would think that having understanding and talking should work with any reasonable person. They shouldn't feel entitled... It might be a sign of immaturity
This was very good advice
Spot on.
Cheers
Thankyou
Top of the morning to you Irish ☘️. Your Irish, American admirer❤️.
Lovely dress
Hello. I am in an LDR and my fiancée is working in Malaysia in a rehab facility. She is from Bohol where I am wanting to retire. We had talked about me moving into her apartment in Malaysia so she can finish her contract in September 2026. She has never asked me for money and she has purchased shoes and clothes for me. She said that she did this because she loves me and wants me to one there as soon as I can. I have some obligations that I need to take care of before I go. She told me she has not been in a relationship for 3 years. I am not one to dig in to someone’s social media but I did notice she stopped people from commenting on her social media accounts. Do you think I have any reason to be afraid?
Haha love it just say no to everything
EXACTLY, sadly western men never learn to be the boss / guide his Filipina / be non negotiable. It's like being a parent, when you say NO it's NO and non negociable.
This applies strictly to Americans, Australians, Canadians, New Zealanders, and British. We South Europeans are completely different ALL THE TIME!!!
So don't give them everything they want. Can say the same for most all women.
Why are you wearing a spacesuit ?
To take you to the moon. "Take me to the moon la la la la" 🎵
I like it because it's bright, summery and feminine.
Is this true?Really there are foreigners that want to be in relationship for real😂?It's all a game man,try to ne smart and play this game better than her.Just enjoy everynight in bed with her and going back to your contry forget her.Don't spend any money to her.Remember U have a mission.Collect many girlfriends that in fact are not girlfriends,just little more than close friend in bed😎Enjoy
Great video , thank you ! You are very smart lady . 🌺
Well, partly not true. Being agreeable is fine. After all why stay with a guy who disagrees with you all the time?! Why date one who is argumentative and confrontational.... i'd rather choose someone who portrays warmth, yet kind in saying NO.
Not just no but Hell No 😁
As soon as I say no to filipina gf they always disappear 😂😂
That sounds like something that can be utilized as a feature, instead of a bug.
MY GOODNESS LADY! YOU ARE VERY INTELLIGENT AND I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR A LADY LIKE YOU TO MARRY. ALL THAT YOU SAY IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE. THE MORE YOU GIVE THE MORE THEY DEMAND. IF YOU STOP ONLY ONCE SAY FOR A SMALL MONEY AMOUNT, THEN IT IS THE END OF THE RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED OR COMMITTED TO SOMEONE ELSE I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW YOU. I AM COMING TO THE PHILIPPINES SOON TO MARRY A REALLY GOOD LADY. THIS IS DR. JIM MICHAELS A PROFESSOR, A GENTLEMAN, WITHOUT ANY BAD HABITS, AND A FAMILY-ORIENTED FELLOW. YOUR ANSWER HERE WILL BE APPRECIATED.