Thank you for saying it Tony!! Women must understand that being overly nice and catering to a man will not keep him. It creates an unhealthy path to becoming a doormat. A man that is genuinely interested or loves you will consider your needs and feelings as a person. Stop over giving ladies.
I have 2 male relatives close to me. They said, the women (some) seem so desperate. Buying gifts for a friend giving sex to an ex. Cooking elaborate dinners to someone you just met. We got to stop this. It saddens me to hear this. We have to learn to love ourselves. ❤️ 🙏🏽
@@Frugal637 I don't think it is that they have a good heart. I have a great heart, and will help anyone in need. However, I don't provide wife benefits to a man that I am not married to. Even if a woman is married to a man, she should not be co-signing or buying him a car; the biggest "No No" is giving a man money. The problem is our society in general teaches women or indoctrinates women into the belief that they are only validated as a woman if they are married or any a relationship with a man. That is why there is so much desperation out here on the part of women. Women need to stay busy with work and pursuing personal hobbies and interests while they seek and find Mr. Right and afterwards, if that is what they want in life.
@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814 Correct, it's not about them having a good heart. Someone told me years ago that she didn't cook for everybody, because that meant if she cooked for a certain man that meant she wanted him around. That still sticks with me to this day.
I’m so turned off by men. A guy came up to me telling me how beautiful I was and asked for my name. Yes, he seemed polite but I was not even flattered. I don’t even want a man. It’s me being single and living for the Lord that has brought me peace.
I have given up on men as well. And I ain’t no buss it open type woman. I’m very simple. It’s just too many lies & games dealing with men. I got off that merry go round of dating a long time ago. Unfortunately I may not have kids bcuz of this & that’s my only regret. But my life is peaceful without dealing with men.
I absolutely agree with you. I live in GA, but I am from TX. I have seen over time that as Mr. Blakes said “Women are out here buying men”. It’s happening here and there. They are paying off cars, buying stuff, sacrificing emotionally, physically, and financially to just say I have someone or have someone that looks nice. A person should not have to jump through hoops like a circus animal to prove her value. I believe overall my sisters are so fearful of being rejected and/or fear he will go to someone else. The reality is you are not losing anything when someone treats you like a maid or sex slave.
This is a great message. As a married woman, I totally agree. Keep your standards and boundaries ladies. There are some good men out there. I have one of them. Happily married after 19 yrs ❤ stop wasting time with grown boys who only wanna lead you to the bedroom.
Can’t touch my bootie and you not my man, I don’t even want to kiss on the first date. When I was younger, I was so deceived and compromising and did not know I was suppose to love myself. I had issues with childhood trauma and got therapy in my early 30’s. I was in a toxic relationship at the time. I am not going back to allowing myself to be treated badly not even to keep him. I love me today. God can choose the right person for me this time. I have standards today.❤🙏🏽🙌🏽
Loved this message. I have hella standards that’s why I’ve been single for almost 3 years. I’m currently abstinent until a man commits to me. Majority of men out here just want to have casual secx with no commitment. Nah I’m good on that. 🙅🏽♀️😒 I don’t benefit from that at all.
I’ve been to myself for the last four years, and I say this humbly, and even though I get a lot of attention, and men always telling me how I’m gorgeous the treatment from them is just not the best at all. It seems like they don’t even have morals or basic manners, and Mr. Gaskins seems to have a high level of emotional intelligence. I really wish us women would just all have the same standards but we really don’t and therefore they will continue to do whatever they want
I feel the same. It’s like all the “gorgeous” compliments mean nothing because eventually the misogyny, rudeness, etc., rears its head. There’s definitely been a shift with men and not for the best. And sadly there will always be a divide between the jezebels and women walking the straight path. Enjoying my singledom for now 💜
im so happy to see comments like this because I feel more normal that I dont feel excited or flattered by men anymore. its gone take a special type to get me to fold for him I haven't been excited about a man in a long time. I didn't even date in 2023 I turned down every date because I was so focused on myself and God and im seeing the blessings.
My standards are high concerning values but I can say it has weeded out the fake from the real and I pray God keep me so that however long it takes I will not settle and keep my standards because most men ain't serious bcuz of how easy it is out here
I totally agree wit U! Sis It shocks me wen they do somethings that lack common courtesy 🤦🏽♀️ Like pressing their phone d entire date😮 But wen u insist on ur standards ppl claim u set d bar too high💁🏽♀️
@shannanstewart Fast and pray girl. Fast and pray - nothing is too hard for God. Even Tony is starting to get jaded from being in the world and seeing so much.
God is always in the business of producing miracles. 🙏🏽 Don't lose faith, pray, fast, and wait on God. If you have that desire, its there for a reason. Hugs sister! ❤
This world is coming to an end. We are in the last days for real. It's too dangerous. And finding a true godly man is more rare than the rarest gem stone. Trust God is protecting you
Relationships and times have changed for the worse, no one knows what to do any more or how to approach relationships. Too much deception, lack of standards and values. Its become one big game
Thank you for addressing this Tony. I work for a domestic violence shelter and it’s unbelievable the amount of women who are r*ped by their own husbands! Ladies set boundaries and standards early and pay attention if he’s the type to overstep boundaries or refuse to take no for an answer (even with the little things)! The signs are there, you just have to love yourself enough to consider them!
Don't sit around looking dumb, being overly open, or being controlled. Work on being a God-filled person who bears fruit and you will prosper and your relationships will prosper. Tony has highlighted certain actions and characteristics to make you think about your movement. Set the foundation for being God-filled and bearing fruit. Prospering will occur in relationships from this foundation. Blessings!
The Men of Tuhday ,have no boundaries! Without boundaries anything goeS!! Lord we need structure this is a Spirit that is attacking The MEN! Sounds like saTan-
Thank you, Tony. I am glad I am keeping up my standards and boundaries. There are men that will become angry when you refuse to allow your boundaries to be crossed. Many Blessings to you as you continue to do the Lord's work.
Most of these men are more feminine than the women. Long hair, nose rings, wearing skirts and dangling earrings. What happened to the brothers wanting to wear a fade?
I agree. I even see men calling themselves Christians wearing earrings It's such an effeminate look. The man buns and pony tails? The nail polish? I just CAAIN'T..
This relationship stuff blows me now so much so I think I’m ok being by myself I just don’t even wanna make time for men anymore I don’t feel like figuring nobody out no more I’m over it I’m at peace I’m good I’m too old and too tired to join the circus anymore and I can focus on God and not a man for once in my life
Let’s go my sisters, we standing on business with Jesus. Thank you TG. It’s wild cus we don’t see the image or representation of a Godly Good Man. Appreciate you
With Jesus we have rest for our soul. We have the Kings of kings and the true Alpha. ===> Yet you have a few people in Sardis who have not soiled their clothes. They will walk with me, dressed in white, for they are worthy. (Revelation 3:4) ===> Remain in me, as I also remain in you. (John 15:4) ===> keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ that leads to eternal life. (Jude 1:21) ===> I am coming soon; hold fast to what you have-let no one deprive you of your crown. As for the victorious, I will make him a pillar in the Temple of my God, (Revelation 3:11) I didn't mean to for this to be so long.
It's because they usually do things single men won't unless they really like you. They know the person is willing to get married. Married men usually give out money.
that’s sad, if they understood God’s covenant for marriage, they would stay away from married men. it’s a dangerous game messing with a married man whose wife understands God’s covenant of marriage
Something not right with a lot of males on the dating market. Went on a first date with a guy and the very next day he was inviting himself over to my home for me to cook for him and get intimate. Disgusting
Once they say or do one thing Sus, it’s block & bye cus ain’t nothing more important then God saying he know me. Validation gotta come from God and not a men.
@@ericabridley5679 you gotta give us some grace queen . It’s still some good guys out here . I said that because you literally said 1 wrong thing or anything sis and it’s a block lol. That basically means there no room for error or mistakes
@@EastsideDee-mk6xkcertain things should not be errors for grown men.. especially in the start of a relationship. If someone is messing up in the dating phase that’s a red flag… a few years down the line is more understandable since we’re all human. There are some good men out there. I agree with that
@@blasiankiki7831there are certain men who want to learn your boundaries though - if something happens once it could be accidental, if it requires 2 or more decisions it’s a choice. If you’ve told him before you don’t like it - red flag. If the situation itself involved multiple decisions where he had to consciously ignore his conscience: red flag. But sometimes they want to do better and are actually impressed you set them straight. Doesn’t mean you have to fly off the handles, just tell him you don’t like a certain behaviour.
True, after setting boundaries I feel like it filters out most of the men as I wait for the right one that will respect me. Before I was feeding my people pleasing tendencies.
I'm like this forreal "THEY MUST BE OUT THEIR MINDS, OUT THEIR MINDS!" Living with God wholeheartedly is HEAVENLY because these men, will poke anything nowadays! I love the Lord more than myself, and I've been single since 2017. I have to see God in the end so He's of the most utmost importance to me! So....✌🏽
This is why it’s best to be single. No that’s not pessimistic; it’s reality. Going through countless me to find a good one isn’t worth it. Thank God for feminism. Otherwise we would have no choice but to deal with bad men to survive. Get you good friends and live to enjoy your life. Not be a servant.
Mr. Gaskins, my generation and the generation after mine is going to change their mindset on relationships and strive for healthier relationships because of your contribution to social media as well the world at large. Thank you so much for your great messages and advice🙏🏾🔥🔥🔥.
Brother, this is some amazing wisdom for a young dude like me (27). As I get older, I remind myself to be more intentional with the women I date. A big thing I'm personally doing is waiting to have sex until my date and I are in a place where we genuinely like each other enough to want to be together. I've always been in the position where I'd have sex with a date only to realize I don't find her a long-term partner; consequently, she tends to get more attached (oxytocin) after sex and wants to see me more. Then I have to be the bad guy and cut it off, mind you, with her thinking I used her for sex. I will never do it again (unless it's consensual on both ends that we want a hookup) as it alleviates pain for both of us. Long story short, intention and honest communication is vital. Like you, I've played the game heavily, and in the past few years, I've gotten to the point where having sustenance in a romantic partner beats one-night stands.
@Classy_thediva No shade but this comment demonstrated why Men don't open up. This comment this Man shared was vulnerable, and he acknowledged where he needed to grow and be better to others and himself to grow and be respectful. Men can have sex without emotions involved that's just the way they are designed and because they can do that a conscious Man a grown Man knows that this can cause damage (exactly what this Man explained in his comment) so he acknowledged he has to do better plus he is listening to TG which demonstrates his readiness to learn. We need to listen to Men instead of nick picking their openess (not being critical).
@@mssimone7147Thank you for speaking up in support of male vulnerability. I second this. We women at times need to learn the spirit of just listen with humility and silence. ❤
I wanted a family but the men I like are acting crazy. One of them had on an app that he is non-monogamous. Muslim men too a lot want to have sex before marriage. I don’t think my husband exists lol I had more connection in HS flirting than anyone in my 30’s
1000% agree with this message! Standing on your standards can be a lonely road, experiencing this now, but the “right person for you” will not have a problem adhering to your standards. I meet men often from hosting events and just being out in the world, but my phone is dry as the desert right now. How can this be? Because most men do not like to put the work in. I believe if more women stood their ground, we could change the dynamics of the present dating experience. Just continue being the person you want to attract and he will show up at the right time 😊
One of my favorite things about you Tony is you don’t let this world waver you one bit. You say the same things day in and day out for 15 however many years which is just as relevant today as it was then, if not more so. Thank you for being such a constant in a world that doesn’t seem to know its head from its toes.. this world needs you.
Hey Tony, so I’m a longtime follower of your channel, and I just want to let you know this. No matter what anyone has to say about the way that you think, live and conduct yourself, you are by far, a man who is truly whole-inside and out, and regardless of your imperfections. Thank you for your consistent dedication to enriching the lives of so many women across this planet. This world is that much more blessed because of your existence. Please don’t ever forget this. Deeply appreciate you.🙏🏽💕
Idk tony, Im an athlete still am. And that don’t give me the reason to sleep w women. & I’m a good talent & looking. With that since high school that actually made me not wanna sleep w that many women. Me being that athlete I didn’t want to abuse that or make it seem like that’s why I should. But everyone’s different . But me being that I made sure 100 women can’t say they’ve been w me .I love the vids tho Tg
Good job. Learn for those like me! In my time, where we were from, we didn’t have RUclips and cellphone and all you today to distract us. Our goal and fun was women. Keep up the good work!
If men are to be the leaders then they are supposed to be the one to lead with standards. A woman should also have standards and boundaries of course but men as leaders should LEAD in all areas. Sleeping with 100 women should not be made to seem as if it's normal "because you're an athlete" or because "that's what men do". Just my five cents.
Notice how the dissenting comments get the most likes. Yall listen to argue instead of understand. It was normal, but it wasn’t right. There is a different. Listen to understand instead of to debate. This isn’t a fairytale RUclips.. it’s not about what it’s supposed to be, it’s about what it is!! REALITY! If you go out looking for how it’s supposed to be you’re gonna get hurt all your life.
How did you get he normalized this behavior from what he said? Clearly his references to the number of women he's slept with is his testimony to how God changed him. Clearly this is how he's qualified to give sound advice in his videos. Our journey is never for us but to help others. Do you allow an inexperienced mechanic to repair your vehicle and you take heed to his advice? We are too quick to look for the negative to discredit people. It would behoove you to listen for comprehension and not to respond and disagree.
@@TonyGaskins 25 likes, including mine, to common sense comment is not outstanding! Woman pointed out the reality. And you too address reality all the time. Why are you offended at her commentary? What exactly there is off? What you been telling to us goes right in line to what this person wrote.
I went through it even though I should’ve known better , got vulnerable after the death of a family member . Once I realized he was trying to use me I called him out on his crap he became extremely angry I just caught him off and went about my business. Never again will I allow myself to be in that predicament.
Thank you for Sharing this Message. I am going to share it. Hope other men will read this and NOT be offended by your message. I like your word of RECIPROCATE which some people don't do. Limeyou said some are CONTROLLING and it is NOT HEALTHY! Tell your wife She is blessed to have you. And i must think that You are blessed to have her as well from what you are saying about her and how you appreciate and Chrished her. ✌️❤️🙏
After receiving no type of love from who I thought was a special friend, I was led here. The day before he was only concerned if I could get away from my child and elderly mother just to have sex yet as usual.. My standards have always been low due to having daddy issues. But yesterday, hell even today with the dry texting or no response back, was an eye opener I need to change for real and stop pretending like I have grown from past toxic relationships. I keep trying to find a mate and what I need to do is really find myself and get her somewhat back before it's too late.
I like your story. I'm a woman and I'm single. I really looking for the right man that gonna marry me and have a family. Not just to be messing around and use me. Because that's what a lot of men are out there is doing. You also don't even know if they had STDS either.
This is true. I met a man who asked me if I had a car, money, bank account, clean record. All this did not come at once he just spaced them out. But saw that I was smart and said never mind. I said, "SMH". Men keep trying to compromise good women. They want her to be where he is. Especially if she has boundaries. Women keep giving into the narrative of what men want as if he is a siren but towards women. ( I really feel like he needs to stop saying bus it wide open)
I had to learn this the hard way. Moving forward I think I'm just going to have to go to the next extreme of doing nothing. Very few men I dated added anything to my life and somehow I'm always the one giving.
I’m keeping my standards. I use to do all my these things in the past. But I don’t do this anymore . I am not a slave and I will not allow this to happen again!
Nobody tells it like Tony... That is your right ladies. Don't let this world that is going to hell tell you what to do your body and life. Let the word of God define you.
simple as that! im just glad Tony one of them guys that actually live out what he talks about. I want my future husband to have character traits like Tony. emotionally intelligent, God fearing, actually care about other people and just a firm man!
Tony, can you please make a video on why women allow men to drag them and mistreat them over and over. I know someone who needs to watch this video. Ty for your honest information.
This is so true. Men want you to give but not give back. I asked a guy to not text me after 11pm and he still texts after that time. Today I will let him know this again and if he does this I’m going to be done.
OMG I just can't stop laughing on some of these videos... I'm so sorry Tony, but you are funny... he said "don't feel like breathing" - that be me more often than not lmaoo yes, I want peace and be in heaven already! Life is work...
Thank tony that a beautiful message this is all I was trying to get through to the man in my life. Because he thinks I am suppose to cook, clean, have sex there to for time a week,wash clothes and do what ever he say do in order to prove to him I am a wife. As man you want me to follow you but you can not tell me were we are going you are going to just make things happen and I do not have a clue of how when and where.
Thank you for saying it Tony!! Women must understand that being overly nice and catering to a man will not keep him. It creates an unhealthy path to becoming a doormat. A man that is genuinely interested or loves you will consider your needs and feelings as a person. Stop over giving ladies.
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This right here 🤌🏽🙌🏽
I have 2 male relatives close to me. They said, the women (some) seem so desperate. Buying gifts for a friend giving sex to an ex. Cooking elaborate dinners to someone you just met. We got to stop this. It saddens me to hear this. We have to learn to love ourselves. ❤️ 🙏🏽
They just have a good heart. Some are givers but they need to slow down and make sure it's being reciprocated.
@@Frugal637 I do agree. ❤️
@@Frugal637 I don't think it is that they have a good heart. I have a great heart, and will help anyone in need. However, I don't provide wife benefits to a man that I am not married to. Even if a woman is married to a man, she should not be co-signing or buying him a car; the biggest "No No" is giving a man money. The problem is our society in general teaches women or indoctrinates women into the belief that they are only validated as a woman if they are married or any a relationship with a man. That is why there is so much desperation out here on the part of women. Women need to stay busy with work and pursuing personal hobbies and interests while they seek and find Mr. Right and afterwards, if that is what they want in life.
@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814 Correct, it's not about them having a good heart. Someone told me years ago that she didn't cook for everybody, because that meant if she cooked for a certain man that meant she wanted him around. That still sticks with me to this day.
I’m so turned off by men. A guy came up to me telling me how beautiful I was and asked for my name. Yes, he seemed polite but I was not even flattered. I don’t even want a man. It’s me being single and living for the Lord that has brought me peace.
@@JohnSmith-rv6nf women are better companions than men anyway
@@JohnSmith-rv6nf She literally said that she prefers to be SINGLE and LIVE FOR THE LORD and here you come.
Me too. I feel you
I have given up on men as well. And I ain’t no buss it open type woman. I’m very simple. It’s just too many lies & games dealing with men. I got off that merry go round of dating a long time ago. Unfortunately I may not have kids bcuz of this & that’s my only regret. But my life is peaceful without dealing with men.
@@2cool57th you can always adopt
I absolutely agree with you.
I live in GA, but I am from TX. I have seen over time that as Mr. Blakes said “Women are out here buying men”. It’s happening here and there.
They are paying off cars, buying stuff, sacrificing emotionally, physically, and financially to just say I have someone or have someone that looks nice.
A person should not have to jump through hoops like a circus animal to prove her value.
I believe overall my sisters are so fearful of being rejected and/or fear he will go to someone else. The reality is you are not losing anything when someone treats you like a maid or sex slave.
I so agree. I believe it’s a strong spirit of fear and downright desperation that is making women accept any and everything.
💥 I concur💯
They are bragging about it too😳
@@relationshipsetcyes 🥴😭.
I’m not doing it!
This is a great message. As a married woman, I totally agree. Keep your standards and boundaries ladies. There are some good men out there. I have one of them. Happily married after 19 yrs ❤ stop wasting time with grown boys who only wanna lead you to the bedroom.
Absolutely! ❤
Can’t touch my bootie and you not my man, I don’t even want to kiss on the first date. When I was younger, I was so deceived and compromising and did not know I was suppose to love myself. I had issues with childhood trauma and got therapy in my early 30’s. I was in a toxic relationship at the time. I am not going back to allowing myself to be treated badly not even to keep him. I love me today. God can choose the right person for me this time. I have standards today.❤🙏🏽🙌🏽
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Yeeeeesss, same here!
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Actually date men with substance and you’ll get your respect.
Loved this message. I have hella standards that’s why I’ve been single for almost 3 years. I’m currently abstinent until a man commits to me. Majority of men out here just want to have casual secx with no commitment. Nah I’m good on that. 🙅🏽♀️😒 I don’t benefit from that at all.
EXACTLY! Only one Benefitting is them and their urges. SMH.
Nowadays they call casual sex "vibing". smdh
@@RandaWise You aren’t lying. As soon as a man tells me that I just cut the conversation short. Lol
That’s the key! Ladies, keeping our legs closed stops a lot of foolishness and weeds out the bums✌🏾
I’ve been to myself for the last four years, and I say this humbly, and even though I get a lot of attention, and men always telling me how I’m gorgeous the treatment from them is just not the best at all. It seems like they don’t even have morals or basic manners, and Mr. Gaskins seems to have a high level of emotional intelligence. I really wish us women would just all have the same standards but we really don’t and therefore they will continue to do whatever they want
I feel the same. It’s like all the “gorgeous” compliments mean nothing because eventually the misogyny, rudeness, etc., rears its head. There’s definitely been a shift with men and not for the best. And sadly there will always be a divide between the jezebels and women walking the straight path. Enjoying my singledom for now 💜
im so happy to see comments like this because I feel more normal that I dont feel excited or flattered by men anymore. its gone take a special type to get me to fold for him I haven't been excited about a man in a long time. I didn't even date in 2023 I turned down every date because I was so focused on myself and God and im seeing the blessings.
My standards are high concerning values but I can say it has weeded out the fake from the real and I pray God keep me so that however long it takes I will not settle and keep my standards because most men ain't serious bcuz of how easy it is out here
they' re doing what they want, and then they're going to be thrown in the the lake of fire
I totally agree wit U! Sis
It shocks me wen they do somethings that lack common courtesy 🤦🏽♀️
Like pressing their phone d entire date😮
But wen u insist on ur standards ppl claim u set d bar too high💁🏽♀️
This is so sad because I want family and a Godly legacy so bad and I'm out here dealing with this 😩 the Lord knows what He's doing though.
@shannanstewart
Fast and pray girl. Fast and pray - nothing is too hard for God.
Even Tony is starting to get jaded from being in the world and seeing so much.
God is always in the business of producing miracles. 🙏🏽 Don't lose faith, pray, fast, and wait on God. If you have that desire, its there for a reason. Hugs sister! ❤
Does he? Cos you've been praying and doing good and all God seems to be giving you is garbage.
😂😂😂😂 get a damn dog, I sell cute puppies btw
This world is coming to an end. We are in the last days for real. It's too dangerous. And finding a true godly man is more rare than the rarest gem stone. Trust God is protecting you
Relationships and times have changed for the worse, no one knows what to do any more or how to approach relationships. Too much deception, lack of standards and values. Its become one big game
Yep 😢
Thank you for addressing this Tony. I work for a domestic violence shelter and it’s unbelievable the amount of women who are r*ped by their own husbands! Ladies set boundaries and standards early and pay attention if he’s the type to overstep boundaries or refuse to take no for an answer (even with the little things)! The signs are there, you just have to love yourself enough to consider them!
I see men making us jump thru hoop after hoop for nothing!
Don't sit around looking dumb, being overly open, or being controlled. Work on being a God-filled person who bears fruit and you will prosper and your relationships will prosper. Tony has highlighted certain actions and characteristics to make you think about your movement. Set the foundation for being God-filled and bearing fruit. Prospering will occur in relationships from this foundation. Blessings!
The Men of Tuhday ,have no boundaries! Without boundaries anything goeS!! Lord we need structure this is a Spirit that is attacking The MEN! Sounds like saTan-
Yes, it's spiritual attack on the men. We must pray for them.
Thank you, Tony. I am glad I am keeping up my standards and boundaries. There are men that will become angry when you refuse to allow your boundaries to be crossed. Many Blessings to you as you continue to do the Lord's work.
Those willkeep you cold at nite
Let them get mad… set your boundaries
They always get angry when they can't use you.
@@Blactrumpvoter but cool for all eternity
Please be safe 🙏🏼 ❤️ praying for my beautiful Sisters to be out of harms way and just be kept by the Lord Jesus Christ until He returns.
Most of these men are more feminine than the women. Long hair, nose rings, wearing skirts and dangling earrings. What happened to the brothers wanting to wear a fade?
💯🥴🥴🤦🏽♀️ Don’t forget fingernail polish. That’s a big turn off.
@@tinyking11I thought I was the only one who couldn’t stand the nail polish on men 😭🤮
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@@sweetheart9659 You aren’t I promise you. Once I see it my 🐱 gets dry lol
I agree. I even see men calling themselves Christians wearing earrings It's such an effeminate look. The man buns and pony tails? The nail polish? I just CAAIN'T..
Imma be single for a tick😂😂😂😂 I aint buying, cookn, or sexn nobody....periodt
This relationship stuff blows me now so much so I think I’m ok being by myself I just don’t even wanna make time for men anymore I don’t feel like figuring nobody out no more I’m over it I’m at peace I’m good I’m too old and too tired to join the circus anymore and I can focus on God and not a man for once in my life
Let’s go my sisters, we standing on business with Jesus. Thank you TG. It’s wild cus we don’t see the image or representation of a Godly Good Man. Appreciate you
Well said.
With Jesus we have rest for our soul. We have the Kings of kings and the true Alpha.
===> Yet you have a few people in Sardis who have not soiled their clothes. They will walk with me, dressed in white, for they are worthy. (Revelation 3:4)
===> Remain in me, as I also remain in you. (John 15:4)
===> keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ that leads to eternal life. (Jude 1:21)
===> I am coming soon; hold fast to what you have-let no one deprive you of your crown. As for the victorious, I will make him a pillar in the Temple of my God, (Revelation 3:11)
I didn't mean to for this to be so long.
Facts! It’s all about setting standards. We as women need to get comfortable using our voice in a confident and self-assured way. 💯✅
yes!!
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I am shocked that so many women today have no problem dating married men.
It is so sad. 💔
Unbelievable what they say too 😮 I didn’t marry her the husband did 🤦🏻♀️ Trying to justify trifling behavior it’s so unreal!
They will lol
When i was married womem threw themselves at me
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It's because they usually do things single men won't unless they really like you. They know the person is willing to get married. Married men usually give out money.
that’s sad, if they understood God’s covenant for marriage, they would stay away from married men. it’s a dangerous game messing with a married man whose wife understands God’s covenant of marriage
Something not right with a lot of males on the dating market. Went on a first date with a guy and the very next day he was inviting himself over to my home for me to cook for him and get intimate. Disgusting
You're absolutely right! They want you to be cute and quiet 😂 have no opinion and go along to get along 🤦♀️😅
Be intentional in your marriage.
Let Your spouse know you love them.
Have standards ladies.
I love it.
Once they say or do one thing Sus, it’s block & bye cus ain’t nothing more important then God saying he know me. Validation gotta come from God and not a men.
So you think men suppose to be perfect
@@EastsideDee-mk6xk I don’t think any human is perfect.
@@ericabridley5679 you gotta give us some grace queen . It’s still some good guys out here . I said that because you literally said 1 wrong thing or anything sis and it’s a block lol. That basically means there no room for error or mistakes
@@EastsideDee-mk6xkcertain things should not be errors for grown men.. especially in the start of a relationship. If someone is messing up in the dating phase that’s a red flag… a few years down the line is more understandable since we’re all human.
There are some good men out there. I agree with that
@@blasiankiki7831there are certain men who want to learn your boundaries though - if something happens once it could be accidental, if it requires 2 or more decisions it’s a choice. If you’ve told him before you don’t like it - red flag. If the situation itself involved multiple decisions where he had to consciously ignore his conscience: red flag.
But sometimes they want to do better and are actually impressed you set them straight. Doesn’t mean you have to fly off the handles, just tell him you don’t like a certain behaviour.
The chase here in GA is beyond real...I'm glad I didn't move here for that. Legs closed...eyes and ears wide open. 🙌🏾
True, after setting boundaries I feel like it filters out most of the men as I wait for the right one that will respect me. Before I was feeding my people pleasing tendencies.
I'm like this forreal "THEY MUST BE OUT THEIR MINDS, OUT THEIR MINDS!" Living with God wholeheartedly is HEAVENLY because these men, will poke anything nowadays! I love the Lord more than myself, and I've been single since 2017. I have to see God in the end so He's of the most utmost importance to me! So....✌🏽
Tony is so hilarious 😂😂😂." SOME DAYS WE DONT FEEL LIKE BREATHING "😂😂😂
Tony so real he need mad bodyguards. Lord put a hedge around him in the mightly name of JESUS
TG; “some days you’on ehm feel like breaVin”😂😂
Lol he is funny
This is why it’s best to be single. No that’s not pessimistic; it’s reality. Going through countless me to find a good one isn’t worth it. Thank God for feminism. Otherwise we would have no choice but to deal with bad men to survive. Get you good friends and live to enjoy your life. Not be a servant.
Im confused at cooking everyday. Typically when i cook, it last 2-3 days. So its basically cooking 2-3 times a week, which isnt alot
It all depends on how many people are in your family? If it's a family of 5 or more people (especially with teen boys), food won't last for 2-3 days
Yea how much food are you cooking lol? In a house of 4 nothings lasting for more than two days
Right or I simply buy take out few days week
@@queenkeesh8660Take out a few days is too costly in the long run
Mr. Gaskins, my generation and the generation after mine is going to change their mindset on relationships and strive for healthier relationships because of your contribution to social media as well the world at large. Thank you so much for your great messages and advice🙏🏾🔥🔥🔥.
Know your worth Ladies! Never settle. We appreciate you Coach. 🤞🏾🤍✨
No is a complete sentence 💯
No more doormat lapdog stuff. We are waking up! God is turning it up. Let the world run with these fools.
Brother, this is some amazing wisdom for a young dude like me (27). As I get older, I remind myself to be more intentional with the women I date. A big thing I'm personally doing is waiting to have sex until my date and I are in a place where we genuinely like each other enough to want to be together. I've always been in the position where I'd have sex with a date only to realize I don't find her a long-term partner; consequently, she tends to get more attached (oxytocin) after sex and wants to see me more. Then I have to be the bad guy and cut it off, mind you, with her thinking I used her for sex. I will never do it again (unless it's consensual on both ends that we want a hookup) as it alleviates pain for both of us. Long story short, intention and honest communication is vital.
Like you, I've played the game heavily, and in the past few years, I've gotten to the point where having sustenance in a romantic partner beats one-night stands.
It's nice to read your transparent and honest comment. It's nice seeing men share their thoughts!!!
Glad you are treating your relationships with more honesty and respect.
I meen technically didn’t you use her?
@Classy_thediva No shade but this comment demonstrated why Men don't open up. This comment this Man shared was vulnerable, and he acknowledged where he needed to grow and be better to others and himself to grow and be respectful.
Men can have sex without emotions involved that's just the way they are designed and because they can do that a conscious Man a grown Man knows that this can cause damage (exactly what this Man explained in his comment) so he acknowledged he has to do better plus he is listening to TG which demonstrates his readiness to learn. We need to listen to Men instead of nick picking their openess (not being critical).
@@mssimone7147Thank you for speaking up in support of male vulnerability. I second this. We women at times need to learn the spirit of just listen with humility and silence. ❤
Tony breakdown the lists a woman doesn't have to accept anything and know your worth in 2024.
I did all of that to end up physically abused… I learned my lesson the hard way 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You're 100 percent Right.
There’s nothing new under the sun. The devil will not control. God will tear that azz up!
😂heavy on the “check on out” but God‼️
MISTER GASKIN ….. HATS DOWN TO YOU FOR TELLING US THE TRUTH ! WE NEED MORE MEN JUST LIKE YOU !
I wanted a family but the men I like are acting crazy. One of them had on an app that he is non-monogamous. Muslim men too a lot want to have sex before marriage. I don’t think my husband exists lol I had more connection in HS flirting than anyone in my 30’s
1000% agree with this message! Standing on your standards can be a lonely road, experiencing this now, but the “right person for you” will not have a problem adhering to your standards. I meet men often from hosting events and just being out in the world, but my phone is dry as the desert right now. How can this be? Because most men do not like to put the work in. I believe if more women stood their ground, we could change the dynamics of the present dating experience. Just continue being the person you want to attract and he will show up at the right time 😊
Tony this is so true!! I promise when I get married. I am coming on here to tell my story!
1000% Facts.
One of my favorite things about you Tony is you don’t let this world waver you one bit. You say the same things day in and day out for 15 however many years which is just as relevant today as it was then, if not more so. Thank you for being such a constant in a world that doesn’t seem to know its head from its toes.. this world needs you.
This is so on point.... be careful out there yall! Thanks for dropping wisdom...wish I had this information a long time ago!
What an amazing husband. Keep up the great work as a husband, father & sharing great messages to us.
I agree women are humans and it's important to prioritize your humanity and feelings
You ain't never lied about this! And I'm posting my comment before I even hear your message. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Hey Tony, so I’m a longtime follower of your channel, and I just want to let you know this. No matter what anyone has to say about the way that you think, live and conduct yourself, you are by far, a man who is truly whole-inside and out, and regardless of your imperfections. Thank you for your consistent dedication to enriching the lives of so many women across this planet. This world is that much more blessed because of your existence. Please don’t ever forget this.
Deeply appreciate you.🙏🏽💕
Idk tony, Im an athlete still am. And that don’t give me the reason to sleep w women. & I’m a good talent & looking. With that since high school that actually made me not wanna sleep w that many women. Me being that athlete I didn’t want to abuse that or make it seem like that’s why I should. But everyone’s different . But me being that I made sure 100 women can’t say they’ve been w me .I love the vids tho Tg
Good job. Learn for those like me! In my time, where we were from, we didn’t have RUclips and cellphone and all you today to distract us. Our goal and fun was women. Keep up the good work!
Mad respect to you. This blesses my heart. 😊
You are rare.
Tony, thank you for this encouraging message. Stay and be blessed🙏🏽🙏🏽 Amen
If men are to be the leaders then they are supposed to be the one to lead with standards. A woman should also have standards and boundaries of course but men as leaders should LEAD in all areas. Sleeping with 100 women should not be made to seem as if it's normal "because you're an athlete" or because "that's what men do". Just my five cents.
Notice how the dissenting comments get the most likes. Yall listen to argue instead of understand. It was normal, but it wasn’t right. There is a different. Listen to understand instead of to debate. This isn’t a fairytale RUclips.. it’s not about what it’s supposed to be, it’s about what it is!! REALITY! If you go out looking for how it’s supposed to be you’re gonna get hurt all your life.
How did you get he normalized this behavior from what he said? Clearly his references to the number of women he's slept with is his testimony to how God changed him. Clearly this is how he's qualified to give sound advice in his videos. Our journey is never for us but to help others.
Do you allow an inexperienced mechanic to repair your vehicle and you take heed to his advice?
We are too quick to look for the negative to discredit people. It would behoove you to listen for comprehension and not to respond and disagree.
@@mskesia36 beautifully said!
@@itskadimusic thank you.
@@TonyGaskins 25 likes, including mine, to common sense comment is not outstanding! Woman pointed out the reality. And you too address reality all the time. Why are you offended at her commentary? What exactly there is off? What you been telling to us goes right in line to what this person wrote.
This video is Golden! Mr. Gaskins is as good as it gets. I tell myself all the time that Single life ain’t so bad.
Just purchased a woman’s influence excited to take on the knowledge shared in the book ❤
You’re right this world is going to hell. I’m rejecting it completely idk what they say❤️
True even with Muslim men or Muslim women… we are humans and we are weak except those of us who are stronger
This man don’t miss. Thank you for your work Mr. Gaskins.
I'm happily single. I'm good
I feel calm and peaceful in and with myself!
I went through it even though I should’ve known better , got vulnerable after the death of a family member .
Once I realized he was trying to use me I called him out on his crap he became extremely angry I just caught him off and went about my business. Never again will I allow myself to be in that predicament.
Thank you for Sharing this Message. I am going to share it. Hope other men will read this and NOT be offended by your message. I like your word of RECIPROCATE which some people don't do. Limeyou said some are CONTROLLING and it is NOT HEALTHY! Tell your wife She is blessed to have you. And i must think that You are blessed to have her as well from what you are saying about her and how you appreciate and Chrished her. ✌️❤️🙏
Everything here.. truth Tony.. keep on teaching. Masculine energy has gone into the ditch. U the tow truck
After receiving no type of love from who I thought was a special friend, I was led here. The day before he was only concerned if I could get away from my child and elderly mother just to have sex yet as usual.. My standards have always been low due to having daddy issues. But yesterday, hell even today with the dry texting or no response back, was an eye opener I need to change for real and stop pretending like I have grown from past toxic relationships. I keep trying to find a mate and what I need to do is really find myself and get her somewhat back before it's too late.
I like your story. I'm a woman and I'm single. I really looking for the right man that gonna marry me and have a family. Not just to be messing around and use me. Because that's what a lot of men are out there is doing. You also don't even know if they had STDS either.
This is true. I met a man who asked me if I had a car, money, bank account, clean record. All this did not come at once he just spaced them out. But saw that I was smart and said never mind. I said, "SMH". Men keep trying to compromise good women. They want her to be where he is. Especially if she has boundaries.
Women keep giving into the narrative of what men want as if he is a siren but towards women.
( I really feel like he needs to stop saying bus it wide open)
Gratitude Bro Gaskins☮️💯🙏👏🏽🙌🏽
You sound like my husband! Hes a good man! Preach to them, thry need to hear it! May God Bless all my people!!
Yrs ago Ive been there done that but God kept me and had mercy on me.
I had to learn this the hard way. Moving forward I think I'm just going to have to go to the next extreme of doing nothing. Very few men I dated added anything to my life and somehow I'm always the one giving.
To The Host: Well said.
I love this. Old school and traditional. Thank you
Preach Tony. Thank you.
Context is everything when reading God word ❤
I decided I won’t let nobody half way F**k with me no more CUT OFF GAME STRONG! that goes for anybody and everybody
I’m keeping my standards. I use to do all my these things in the past. But I don’t do this anymore . I am not a slave and I will not allow this to happen again!
It’s crazy because my oldest son and I was just talking about this, and I agree.
Congrats on the 500K🎉You deserve even more!!! Thanks for all you do for your supporters, we truly appreciate you💯
I love your videos thank you for sharing your wisdom very helpful. Sending Peace and Blessings to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 🙏💙🩵🕊🕊
Nobody tells it like Tony...
That is your right ladies.
Don't let this world that is going to hell tell you what to do your body and life.
Let the word of God define you.
Keep teaching TG ❤ STAND ON BUSINESS
simple as that! im just glad Tony one of them guys that actually live out what he talks about. I want my future husband to have character traits like Tony. emotionally intelligent, God fearing, actually care about other people and just a firm man!
You are so on point with your videos !!! 💯💯
Tony Gaskins, please do more videos grooming men on how to treat women. We really need them to take initiative for a change. Thanks
Tony, can you please make a video on why women allow men to drag them and mistreat them over and over. I know someone who needs to watch this video. Ty for your honest information.
Tonyyyy , thank you for All the Advice
Mother to her children I love that ❤❤❤
Truth, I tell younger women this but many have it all figured out with little to NO restrictions. It really does not take all of that in LOVE.
🎉May God protect you sir
And may He give you more wisdom and blessings
Thanks again, Tony ❤
I guess had to do that, last week and the man had try to touch my behind, I had to tell to move back some, but he had got mad at me
Don't see him again. He should apologize. That's wrong.
This is so true. Men want you to give but not give back. I asked a guy to not text me after 11pm and he still texts after that time. Today I will let him know this again and if he does this I’m going to be done.
The right one will know you are serious about what you want. Don't waver! Mean what you say; say what you mean.
OMG I just can't stop laughing on some of these videos... I'm so sorry Tony, but you are funny... he said "don't feel like breathing" - that be me more often than not lmaoo yes, I want peace and be in heaven already! Life is work...
Thank tony that a beautiful message this is all I was trying to get through to the man in my life. Because he thinks I am suppose to cook, clean, have sex there to for time a week,wash clothes and do what ever he say do in order to prove to him I am a wife. As man you want me to follow you but you can not tell me were we are going you are going to just make things happen and I do not have a clue of how when and where.
Men controlling women is nothing new unfortunately, and patriarchal religion has played a role in this.