My Life with a Bipolar Spouse
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- Опубликовано: 8 апр 2014
- Sharing my personal experiences, married to a bi-polar, addict, treated with medication: BATman. Take my journey thru the high manic episodes to the low depressions and everything in between. Documenting how the bipolar family member effects everyone else's lives and relationships.
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My soon to be ex is bipolar and unmedicated. He wasn't diagnosed when I met him. He is a very selfish nasty narcissist. I have stage 4 cancer. I was bed ridden for 3 months. Whilst so ill and on fentanyl patches, he told me he didn't want to be responsible for me or the dog. All the time I was with him , his anger was off the scale. I financed everything also. Now, I will sell my apartment and move away. He is too self centered to be in a relationship, it's all about him. I just want to escape and enjoy what's left of my life.
Partner to a bipolar and BPD spouse too. It's amazing how similar your story is to mine and my husband and its so nice to know others are out there that are or have been where I am at. Again.
My husbands first big manic episode lasted about 4 months and like your story, he was undiagnosed when his first big episode happened. I didn't know what was going on, I though he was abusing pain killers at first because he seemed drunk or high (similar to the story about your husband at work). Things got bad, and we even went through a divorce. He broke the mania after a bad mediation session and I think the stress of knowing we were know going to have a judge decide our future finally burnt him out and threw him into depression. Fast forward two years to today. We are still married and cancelled the divorce. We are still incredibly in love, but right now my husband is in another episode. I was naive too in thinking I was ready or that he would not go 'that' manic again and I likely added more stress by not seeing it and being more understanding when the mania was starting to come back. A lot has happened in the past month and I have not seen my husband in almost a month. He is with a good friend of ours and I check in with him just to make sure he is okay. I get very fragmented messages back, but he at least responds to "I miss you" but not "I love you" right now. He has been splitting and If you know about this, the close loved ones often get ghosted during this time. I am staying strong and I keep saying "he will be home soon" but I miss him so much right now, but all I can do is be there on the side line, supporting from a far, and not doing anything that controls or makes him feel like I am controlling him. Just very hard on spouses like me that miss their person, best friend, and husband. Thank you for sharing, times like this I am very lonely and it lifts my spirts to know there is a whole community out there of others going through similar and we are not alone.
It is amazing how similar our stories are. Is he diagnosed now and on medicatiion? I have heard of splitting and experienced that a few times, though I may have been more of the instigator in those times. My husband was always sent back to me fairly quickly. I am so sorry you are going through this now and hopefully he comes back soon. I am glad that my videos give you some comfort. Let me know how things progress in the future.
Reading a lot of these comments is heartbreaking, I am bipolar myself, and have never been violent, in manic episodes, I tend to hurt myself, and try to get away from people. Please don’t treat the person with this illness as a child, they are just as adult as you are, maybe even more so, because they have had to adapt, live with a serious mental illness with a 25% suicide rate. That it’s self is hell. Maybe instead of just complaining, I do understand that someone with bipolar can be hard to deal with, but I would highly recommend counselling, as complaining on social media, just adds to the stigma and misunderstandings. I think that you should sit down with the affected person, when they are well, and put together plans of action for periods of illness, and ask them how they want you to help. Thank you if you actually took the time to read this, and please respect them as an individual, they are not just an illness.
Galatea my previous partner has bipolar 2. On and off of meds from my understanding. Never really acknowledged the fact that he has the diagnosis. Never really had an action plan when the depressive episodes would come. He was not violent, but he was a vicious with words. Broke up with me several times and it was just a cycle of uncertainty and fear on my end. It was just hard for me. And I understand it may be just as hard on him. But he didn’t acknowledge it and when I did my own research and seeked out a support group for myself to help me cope, it angered him. It was hard being with him.
Galatea, thank U 4 ur comment. I too "HAVE" bipolar...bipolar 1. I've had it since 19-20 yrs old. I am now turning 66 yrs old. I started just being very open,about my illness. So (I KNOW) by many, I am known as the crazy old lady. But everything U said, I appreciate. We R smart people, we R not going to hurt anyone, except maybe ourselves.We R not children. & another thing , this is a PHYSICAL illness of the brain. I know we can be hard to deal with, BUT we R just people who have a physical illness. We didn't do anything wrong to be this way. We try real hard to not annoy people, & IF U have to walk away from us, please know we never meant any harm & just love us from afar ! thank U 4 reading this !
Exactly. Ive been dating my amazing girlfriend for four months now with type two bp, and she is the sweetest thing ever. I have always been there to help her through her breakdowns and attacks, and when she gets in her moods and gets nasty, I know she doesn't truly mean it so I give her her time and space to cool down. I've been taking verbal abuse from my mom since i was 12 though so it is much easier for me, but not everyone is meant to be with someone with a large mental illness. But her and I have made it work, and she has also been there for me for so much too
What if the person had an undiagnosed bipolar disorder and refuses to get help? What would be your advice?
I left the bipolar because I couldn't live with an unstable person, he was so abusive...it was just too horrible for me!
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We've had two experiences of infidelity within our marriage. It hurts me to no end. I have to tell myself daily, "that wasn't my husband" or I will leave. He was angry and abusive verbally to myself and our kids and I couldn't figure out what had happened to the man I married. Everyone else in his life has walked away. I believed in him. Drug use, alcohol, etc. yall know if you're involved with someone with the disorder all the things that come with it. He is medicated now and feeling great. We are in therapy together and alone. The worst part for me, he's not able to sit with me in the pain he's caused. It brings up so much shame for him. He's getting better with his therapist coaching him, but it's so much for me. It's been 3 years and still I hurt...
I can relate. Been with my bf for 2 years. When we started dating and then became exclusive, the next 5 months he was cheating on me with another woman. I left him when i found out, and a week later he had a full manic attack and was hospitalized and diagnosed with bipolar. We reconciled shortly after he began treatment (that was a rollercoaster of emotions getting him on the right meds). We're now over a year past it. I love him dearly, and even with the ups and very low downs, he is my favorite person in the world. There is so much love, fun and laughter when we're together (and he's stable). But due to the initial cheating, I was left with huge trust issues that I hadn't had the chance to properly deal with. I try to get some closure about it now and talk to him as the trust issues are really causing problems, but when I try to talk about it, he keeps saying he doesn't remember anything or that the conversation triggers him. I can imagine how much shame and guilt it brings him, but I'm left to sort of sweep it under the rug. It's heart-shattering. I keep telling myself it wasn't him, but it was so real to me.. I wish he would understand where my insecurities now come from. He just says "stop being so insecure. I love you and you know I have no interest in anyone else, it's only you" whenever I question who he's talking to or when he talks about meeting girls at university. But he won't address anything when I bring up what hurts me. It's the worst situation to be in. We had to end things as (I believe) he has been off meds for a few weeks, is in full blown mania and physically assaulted his mom and I in the last 2 weeks. I'm praying for a miracle as I still love him and don't want to give up on this..
@@Ollie8789 The trust, unfortunately, never returned for me. He turned to pornography. I realize now he had more than just Bipolar. Alot of Cluster B's come in a bundle. He had Borderline and Narcissistic as well. I finally threw in the towel in May. My mood is improved until he tries to contact me. I finally had to go "no contact" a few weeks ago. It will do more damage to you, the longer you stay. Thinking of you.
as a bipolar hearing "just an antidepressant" sends me chills
seriously don't omg right I’m bipolar to
true story
seriously don't uuuuuugh.. makes my skin crawl to even think about it. Mania isn’t fun at all m..
Yep being put on an antidepressant made mine worse and literally ruined my life. 3 years of hell.
For 11 years I was involved with an undiagnosed bipolar woman and it completely ruined me. I thought I was going Insane. She could shift from one thing to another. Love me one minute and then get sent into a chaos spiral. It was so confusing. I wish I never met her to be honest.
Thank you for your vids! The spouses seem to get forgotten in during times of mania and depression, so it's nice to not feel so alone. It's not easy being married to someone who is bipolar.
Ashley Ricci agree with these sentiments
Listening to your video makes me feel like your talking about me. I have suffer the effects of bipolar disorder severely.... My best advise to someone with the disorder is listen to your loved ones and accept the treatment. I would’ve avoided lots of headaches if had listen. Thank you for sharing the experience as a wife and for being so understanding it’s not easy.
I have a child with someone who is diagnosed with Bi Polar. We have been separated countless times. Finally, we divorced a year ago but recently have been trying to “make it work”. It never does. I’m on eggshells 24/7 trying to just get through the day without an incident. Anything can set her off. If I say something that she takes out of context it can turn into a blowout. I tried staying for my son so that I can give him both parents. I always say to myself, “it’ll be different. She’ll calm down and see she’s over reacting.” My sense of reality is all over the place from the gaslighting and chaos. Tonight she flipped out on me for folding her laundry (which if I don’t she’ll just let it sit out for days). I’m hoping I can stay strong this time and leave so that I can heal.
Thank you for sharing. My wife is bipolar and has been sectioned 10 during our 37 years of marriage. She is in hospital now with a very bad episode. When she is ill she spends thousands of pounds and as the illness progresses she becomes extremely violent and usually has to be removed by force from our home by the police and the psychiatric team. A couple of suggestions which may help you is, one anti-depressants are proven to lift a persons mood and bring on episodes and therefore should be avoided. Also there is the Manic depression fellowship, if you are in the UK, where he can get help to manage his illness. If you are not in the UK then I would imagine there are similar support groups in the country where you live. It maybe an idea to look online and see what is out there. Some of the signs I have noticed when my wife is getting ill is she becomes over friendly with people, gets involved in many different projects, has lots unrealistic ideas, stops listening to advice, starts buying loads of junk from gift shops and becomes very talkative and egocentric. One of the best drugs for controlling both ups and downs is Quetiapine, plus you should also speak to the psychiatrist about your partner being put on Lithium permanently, as this too helps stabilise the mood. Every success to you.
I am bipolar as well. I am taking medication & it has helped some much better than a few months ago
I am so glad you have a treatment plan that is working for you.
My boyfriend of almost two months is bipolar and I figured it out without him telling me. I don't know how long he was planning on hiding it from me.
I am happy at least that I know now. He fluctuates a lot, gets very down every couple of days, and then gets very jovial.
I am looking forward to learning about how to help and sympathize.
Have you watch Polar Warrior or Bi Polar Warriors? If not, I think it might help. Good luck! Personally, I don't believe Bipolar people should be married or have children.
I was diagnosed as Bipolar in my 60's. I am on medication which I do take. I am learning triggers and I wouldn't wish me on anyone, I have crazy cycles, memory loss and major Depression. My worst cycling comes when I think about how I was abandoned when I wasn't on meds, by friends and all of my family. It's been a tough 6 yrs but I am so much better. The first thing that has to happen in able to get well is to quit denying you have a mental health problem. It's tough to accept that for me, but almost impossible as as it was for me, after I accepted that I was, I stopped covering up my illnesses and lots of avenues opened up for me. God Bless.
Your husband is so blessed to have someone so understanding
God Bless the both of you
My name is Derek and I have been diagnosed with bipolar OCD agoraphobia ADHD and not to mention PTSD, I have a clean record and that's thanks to my parents that instilled God in my life and I truly believe that God doesn't give you more than you can handle but it's kind of hard to believe at times. I took my ex-wife to court because she had post-partum depression and she slapped her child. Even though I was the petitioner I have lost my faith in the judicial system and in attorneys and judges. They are truly ignorant to this disease and I pray the in the future there is a cure for this but until then I have to deal with if people find out that I have a mental illness even though we get along great until they do they fear me that's why I isolate and I thank God that I have a therapy dog. It is hard for me to even see children on TV or in stores because I miss my children so much and the judge says it's not what I have done it's what I'm capable of doing. What the court doesn't understand is that if it wasn't for God I wouldn't be restraining myself and I wouldn't be putting myself through this. I pray for people that have this illness I wish I knew what to say to you to make it better. I've been in so many psych wards and all they do is check on you every 15 minutes and feed you and make sure you're on your psych meds even though they don't work especially when you're a rapid cycler such as me anyway I'm going to stop talking now I just want to let people know that God is with you and do your best not to give up God bless your friend in Christ Derek
Thank you so much for making this video. My husband also has bipolar, and it's great to hear from another spouse who is going through something similar. I just uploaded a video about our recent bout with him not being stable as well. I look forward to checking out some of your other stuff, and I thank you for being open and honest. Your video felt like a breath of fresh air, to finally find someone else who understands. Hugs!
What about all the ones who refuse to get help. What about all the lives they ruin? What about all the abuse and physical violence? Sometimes he does"kind" things, but it comes with a high price. Most of the time I feel like just stabbing him in the. Heart. I wouldn't do that, but that's how he makes me feel. You can only ignorant it so much before it gets to you. I can't take anymore negative obsessive behavior. This is more than chemical. It is a lifetime of conditioning. Someone save me from this bipolar monster.
I had to file for divorce after 18 years with a violent bipolar. he went off of his meds and went psychotic when his drug addicted sister killed herself. he was emotional abusive for years and we have three kids, and 2 are bipolar like he is. he refuses to take his meds and wound up killing an animal in a rage. now he is living with his parents going to bars and bringing women home....its pitiful bc he is not the same person that I have known my whole life.
My husband is bipolar and I have been looking around for ways to support him and you have been extremely helpful I am In love with your videos thanks you for sharing ♥️♥️
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23 years into my relationship with my wife who has Bi-polar1.
She had become very ill with a debilitating liver disease that she obtained tyhrough a blood transfusion during childbirth. After decades of struggle and her body being ravaged by it she no longer has it today. We had no idea about the Bi-polar until she had a breakdown about 10 years ago and she attempted suicide while I was at work.
After that, she was in a state of psychosis having hallucinations hearing voices and had an alter sense of reality for one instance she called me at work and told me that I was using my computers at work to control the satellites in order to do mind control on her, that all lasted for about three months but she was never violent.
I took her to the psy doc and they diagnosed her as being Bipolar but not determined as to what type. Before all of this she actually had just one day to get through at the end of her professional career and she would have had a full disability retirement from her insurance. But instead, she became angry at what she perceived as antagonizing behavior from a coworker and blew up and quit her job with one day left to go leaving her with no benefits and no income other than Social Security disability and Medicare now permanently.
Recently after years of living a fairly normal life, ups and downs a bit manic at times and various health problems but still a quality life worth living. Her treating physician advised her to stop taking her antipsychotic meds and she decided to stop taking the antidepression meds as well because they weren't good for her liver.
Several weeks later we got a call saying that our son had been shot 7 times while being robbed, he is gonna be ok Thank God!
The hospital gave her a hard time about getting information because he is an adult, she was highly stressed, to say the least.
Days later we are at her doctor's appt waiting and waiting when suddenly she decided to stand up in middle of the waiting room and start yelling at the office staff because it was taking so long, she then walked out without seeing her doctor and left me sitting as if I wasn't there.
Soon after that We had an uninvited drunken family member who decided to drop in for a visit late one night, of whom I had to make to leave. (He was walking no DWI) But during all the fuss my wife became upset and the next day she was in full blown Psychosis again accusing me of killing her little brother whom I have never met. He was murdered by a serial killer back in the 80s when they were teenagers. She was saying all sorts of vile and evil things to dark to want to remember and to evil to repeat.
My wife is a very loving and decent Christian woman normally.
But this time she has been constantly accusing me of every wicked thing possible for three months now thinking back she had been pretty sour leading up to this also.
The first couple of months into the Psychosis she was somewhat violent, extremely angry and frustrated and though she was reluctant and insisted that there is nothing wrong with her and still does even now, I have managed to get her to take her meds again and she is slowly normaling back out. She is still believing her own delusions as if they were the real and she insists that everyone else who has witnessed her behavior is lying and we are all trying to plot some grand scheme against her.
I have never been disloyal to my wife or broken any vows at all for 23 years now. It's very very hard to take the constant slander being directed at me from her all the time what's worse than hearing it is that she actually believes it.
I have my own health issues to deal with and manage and the weight of all of this is extreme at this point in our lives and I wonder if we get through it again will it happen again in another 8-10 years? I begin to picture myself one day breathing my dying breath listening to a wife who says she hates me and accuses me of all sorts of things I have never done nor ever could have done.
People with this condition don't have a clue nor will they ever have one as to what they do to you or anyone else for that matter.
This life is not for everyone and the condition gets worse with time. If you are gonna stick around for it, you will be living a life of absolute servitude and will never be recognized for it.
It could become dangerous even later on if it is not already. I couldn't imagine how a woman could deal with a man in my wife's condition a few weeks ago. If you call the police there is a good chance they may shoot your loved one because they only perceive the danger and do not understand the sickness. Had I known before having made the promise I might have chosen differently I don't know. I love my wife a great deal and I have defied the odds big time as they say more than %90 of Bi-polar marriages end in divorce and I am still here after 23 years.
Just know as best as you can what you are getting into or choosing to stay in.This is not a myth it is a very real problem with very serious possible symptoms ahead. Be sure you can handle the possibility of the person you love suddenly turning on you, perhaps even thinking they must defend themselves against you, anything imaginable is what could come with this condition, it's is what leads some women to drive their car full of children into a lake and drown them or a man to kill his entire family and himself. You had better never take it lightly, become familiar with the warning signs and never forget that it could happen again at any time, especially when times are hard or stressful.
May God watch over and guide you.
2012dnt WOW!! Thank you so much for posting/writing this!!! You should write a book!!! I can relate 100% to basically all the above and I’ve been married for only 4 years (next month!) I’m learning a great deal of self discipline and true LOVE and as you said Servitude! YES! Very thankful for my own strong Faith in Jesus Christ and that she too believes. Still seems hard to believe when the threats and evil unthinkable things are said in front of children or whoever! I do Love her like few men have ever loved in all of time. But I’m growing up too and making changes in my life that will help our future whether she agrees or not. But if she leaves she leaves, if she stays... her gain- I have to do something’s for my sanity, and the children’s and especially her own well-being. Thank you for your faith and again for sharing your story. Super encouraging.
@Don Ghiata How did you manage to stay in a nightmare for that long?
its almost ababdonment to leave a person with some degree of mental health issues "no one chooses their sickness, or chooses to be sick".I commend you if you are still in your relationship.It takes a lot to see past the episodes of anger and see the hurt in the depths of a humans soul.
My b/f of 20yrs.now hates it when I say lets split then if he's unhappy,.but I listen to his daily rants of folks he's pissed with, like former doctor's,.I can never say the right thing, its an emotional stress for me..I actually saved this guy and his sister, also their friend and brought them all into my home cause they were living sadly..
What an insightful comment.
Very well done!
I spent nearly 10 yrs in a relationship with a man who is bipolar. 10 yrs ago there was far less information (easily accessed) and so much less support for those of us on the other end of the bipolar relationship.
The more people that relate their personal experiences, the better the support system will become for both the person with the illness & for their support team.
Your observation about your husband needing a "routine" is awesome; as is your comment about going with him to see the doctor. Things are easily missed if a member of their support team is not there to help fill in the gaps and make sure the correct issue is addressed.
Carol Rongholt Sometimes someone on the outside can see things much more clearly than the people in the relationship. Always good to have an outside source.
My sister is the same... She is currently home, she has no routine, so she is obsessing over me and my parents, it is chaotic and hectic! She is very violent and hateful with us.
I'm sitting here nodding my head like it's off it's hinges. This sounds sooo familiar. My husband has not received a solid diagnosis yet but the psychiatrist is leaning that way. Thank you for filming and posting this, I fell like some weight has been lifted and I can being to understand hat is going on.
+Mabel Peak You are welcome Mabel. Keep doing your research. You are definitely not alone and need to find some chat rooms or groups that you can talk to. Remember, you need support too.
Mabel Solomone me too nodding. It all makes sense.
Sooo glad I found this channel!!!
thank you so much and God bless you. stay strong
I love you guys and find your videos awesome. I think it’s pulling me out of a depression. Your a riot! 😂🤣🙌
My roommate (a woman) is bipolar. She gets into one of her crazy moods every 2 days. She throws out my stuff, and I have to fish it out of the garbage before the garbagemen get to it. Sometimes, I am not lucky, and they haul it away in the garbage truck and it is too late.
I use the hell out of rock n roll,drums keep pounding rithm to the brain.depressed people are stronger than most,be your own captin,stay close to the little ones.
thank you very very much !
Hi, I just want to thank you for making this video! My husband comes from a large family (11 kids) and he is bipolar and if that wasn't enough, he also has P.T.S.D. Our lives have been very unpleasant at times! We live in a community where mental illness isn't accepted as a dignoses. I also have to monitor his spending, talking to friends etc. and I know it sounds controlling but other wise he would spend everything we have or he has "verbal diareha" and then anything and everything comes out of his mouth.
We have tried keeping away from his family - which isn't an easy feat because I'm positive that there are more bipolar people in his family - but they keep telling him he needs to pray more, have more faith and then he wouldn't be feeling this way. Another thing they like to tell him is that the medication is making him behave "crazy" when in fact it has the opposite effect. He has tried telling them how he feels and that they are the triggers to his PTSD but they don't listen!! They sure aren't making our lives any easier.
Moving isn't an option for us.
Your video has helped me! Sorry for the rambling. Needed to get it off my chest!
tinyfairie my husband has been recently diagnosed with both of these, its comforting to read about someone who is going through the same scenario im in, thank you
0:50 - He was manic when we met. Aha
1:20 - Full Blown Mania. Lasting 8months. Oh wow!
3:10 - It will happen again. The Mania
3:30 - Someone thought he was drunk at work. Early signs
4:30 - Having a routine makes Mania less likely to happen
6:00 - Monitor what he's talking about
My sister is bipolar and has blamed me for everything for most of my adult life. I just can’t deal with her anymore, she is extremely hurtful and unpredictable to be around.
I was just diagnosed with bipolar and for the past three years my ex-husband ( I divorced him in one of my states) and I feel horrible for how I've treated him and I just got on Zoloft and hope fully we can be ok
This all describes DH to a T.. his mania can be truly terrifying. Very hard to stay with him. Ur an inspiration.
Thanks for the video! I have been dating a bipolar for 5 months. He is sweet and honest but he is very hurtful sometimes. He is taking medication but not seeing a therapist his life is a mess and he doesn't get anything done because he has been depressed. When we started to date he was manic. He was diagnosed about 3 months ago so it is really recent, does he hurt you? Does he manipulate you or try to find something to put it on your back? Does he get defensive? Thanks! My boyfriend does that. I feel I can't take it anymore, because it's painful
+Valdi Guintiliano All those things sound very familiar. That must be really hard in a new relationship. I hope you both can figure it out and move forward peacefully.
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Thank you ❤
You’re welcome. Thanks for watching.
I am married 8 years to a Veteran who suffers from PTSD, depression, anxiety and what i think is undiagnosed bipolar. He has rarely sought therapy, and only goes to the VA for his twice yearly visits to refill meds. We are on the verge of something drastic. I need to have a sit down with him and tell him that i will be making plans to move on if he continues to refuse treatment
Ik this comment is 5 years old but I relate so much my husband is a vet and he is diagnosed but he's in denial, he has depression,PTSD and anxiety as well I been with him 3 years but I recently left a few days ago i can not do it anymore its destroying me
Way to be supportive! Are you serious? Do you know that a lot of statistics show up to 50% of people with Bipolar disorder commit suicide? I would hate for him to see these videos when he's manic. You should know people who are manic do not think clearly. Do you really think if he feels this is too hard for you or you can't handle being with him when he's manic it might push him over the edge? You might what to watch what you say. I am bipolar with rapid cycling and it ticked me off, I can't imagine how you husband must feel.
+savvysapphires My husband has seen and approved all videos I have posted.
u just saved me from ruining a perfectly good thing during a low all I heard was " welcome to living with batman " and it all clicked thank you. I am bruce wayne again ;) , shes in my bed , luckyman , both me and ur husband
Biggest mistake in my life was marrying a bipolar person. Living hell.
pigjubby1 I’m really sorry, not all of us are the same, and I’m sorry that that particular person did make your life difficult. That is definitely not true for all though, I am really involved in my own treatment, am med compliant, and although I do still experience psychosis, it is only mild and does not effect my behaviour. I’m sorry that this happened to you, but please don’t assume that everyone with bipolar disorders the same.
Love is love. With that being said, you (pigjubby) didn't research enough to even care about her feelings. I'm having the same troubles in my relationship bc I'm the bipolar person. I try to tell him that I can't argue that I need time and space to collect my emotions and I never get the time I need and arguments blow up at home so I leave and I leave with my children and go to my mom's house. I get very mad and do things I regret but I also loose feelings for the reason I left in the manic mode the first place. Just like other people I have the same problem with. Another reason I only keep one friend. It's not just spouses
How dreadfully SAD to read that statement. If you had a partner that was ill..perhaps with diabetes or lymphatic cancer you may understand that Bipolar Disease is just another illness???
I can tell you, that I have had Bipolar II for as long as I can remember...I am 46 and have been marrried for 16 years together for 18. My husband is so very supportive and understanding...TRULY MY BEST FRIEND and that alone doesn;t FIX things, but it sure as hell makes my world and his much more .
Throughout my life, I didn't KNOW what was wrong but always felt just a little different. That said, Mental Illness presents itself TOTALLY different within each brain...But, perhaps if you took the time to "EDUCATED YOURSELF" and going into a part of your life during the difficult times, you may not feel as though you have to fix it?... I could say that looking at it as a "living hell" sounds quite harsh. That said, I don't know your particular situation. but could you be projecting your feelings onto them unknowingly?
Most spouses don't give up like that...
I mean, if your wife had breast cancer, or diavetes etc. "we generally don't give up on our partner with any other illness, so why give up on this?. EVERYTHING TAKES TIME, EFFORT AND EDUCATION TO SUCCEED.
Biggest mistake in my life was being bipolar... Oh wait. I never made that mistake. I was born with a mutation I never asked for, and the woman I married exploited the resulting cognitive impairments in both attracting and divorcing me as she made off with $6000 of my hard-earned money because she put a violent spin on my nutty social media posts. For 10 years now, I've been dealing with dipshit after dipshit who presses my buttons, finds out that I'm way more intelligent than they are, but exploits my emotional sensitivity to get revenge for unintentionally making them look dumb. Unintentional, because until my latest dose bump on meds, I couldn't even detect half of what was going on socially. But yeah, you're right. _We're_ the bad guys. _We_ make _your_ lives hell. I regularly face the statistical reality that I may one day kill myself, and your ass is complaining about the inconvenience we cause? Weak.
Yeah, us bipolar people suck.
You are good soul...
Has anyone looked into EEG neurofeedback therapy, specifically LENS neurofeedback?
RUN!!!!!!
I have a bio polar but I did not start medication, If I start taking and follow with a doctor, do you think as long as I take the medication, I will be always stable?
Thank you
Edres Mn Your bipolar will probably be more controlled but just like if you were on heart medication, it doesn't mean you wouldn't ever have a heart attack. For my husband, being on medication means longer periods of stability. He still relapses but can go 4 years in between.
My husband is a bipolar. I'm so tired. He don't take medcine nothing. We have 2 kids but now it's getting worse worse.
My bf starting showing symptoms right as we started dating and have only been physically together half the time we been a couple which is 3 years and 3 months. HE goes back and forth from loving me to hating me to thinking we are too toxic. he came back for a week but due to one arguement and the fact i didnt run and hug him when he first came back (i was making him pancakes and feeding our daughter) he left. He said he was going to get more hel=p, he was mad at self for coming back early (Though gone for 20 months and just got back, there was stress we were looking for place and my mom was pissed he wasnt allowed here so we snuck him in and he would come back and all is perfect. He said six months then agreed to a few weeks. Now he is saying he is unhappy with our relationship and it will end and he is unsure if he wants to be with me but then he sends me messages saying he loves me and misses me. I dont know if he will come back or what I with someone iwth anxiety can do to be there without triggering with my anxiety. I have tried fighting back and being logical, when hormonal and pregnant i behaved like him (which is what he is basing the "we will never work" on though i was pregnant and behaving similarily to him you cannot count that), I have tried being super nice, I tried putting his cheating (which he claims never occurred though i have proof) and abuse behind me but he is focussing on past, he tells me to move forward not focus on past and not to be negative so I am now being overly positive getting a place on my own to make things easier, he says I do not compliment him enough or show him love though he went first six months of rs telling me he hates compliments and intamcy. So what can I do? he is diagnosed
You poor girl,.unless your daughter wants to see him,.I would leave that up& down relationship,.Hard to call it that, when he's selfish, I know I have the same kind of 20yrs. now,.why I'm saying you'll regret it,.Cause I'm at the point where I am regretting it, hardly any happiness,.Too much him, always him,.Mind you he has a few good points, but thats cause I'm more his mom than anything..But I never had a kid with him thank-God,.?His rages are bad at times I'm in tears for he's always cutting me down,.So be brave leave him, or it'll be bad and unhappy,.Those manics will wear unto you and your girl,.
He is. This guy will never love you. He is a bipolar for sure.
Were there triggers? What were they?
I'm Bipolar and am extremely successful Entrupener I make over 300k a year and Have Ups and downs that's just how this works Eat clean and exercise Take your fish oils 😉
Christopher Bojorquez me like $300k, are you single? 😍
Antidepressants dont generally work for bipolar can make it worse.
Can not be taken alone for sure.
I actually know somebody that's addicted to stimulants because they love the manic high. It's destroying me. Yes, very bipolar. I'm always on the run, wandering who she's going to be day by day. Does she like me does she hate me? Post-menopause didn't help. 😞😞😞
Gtf away from her. She will level your world. She will turn you into someone you don’t even recognize. Listen to me- IT.NEVER.GETS.BETTER.
It’s interesting that you don’t believe in medication but your partner uses stimulants. Set some boundaries and take care of yourself.
@@thebipolarmaniac2251 Thank you. I'm just trying to be honorable. 🙏❤️
Its interesting because comic book Batman is bipolar.
I didn’t know that! Lol
This is great. My daughter is bi polor. I will send to my son in law
Whenever I go full blown maina I call myself the bipolar crazy unstable lunatic fringe
We have identical husbands
my wife has it and i need to KNOW that its not her its the Pollar..
thanks
Has he ever been violent? Before my husband went on medication he has tried suffocating me with pillows, he has raped me once and locked me in a room for over an hour talking nonsense. Now for the record if he wanted me dead I would have been dead. When he would get like that it was as if he were possessed, I knew my husband wasn't in there anymore. It was a very scary in my life. I know a lot of people are against the use of marijuana but when we first were dating and living together he smoked and he was normal, there were no signs that he was bipolar.
***** Firstly, he has grabbed me by the neck only once, I called the police and he went to jail for the night. He has threatened since then when manic but has never touched me. He knows I mean it when I say I will call the police. Second, I am so sorry you went through that and I hope that you have someone you can talk to. Third, I find that pot most of the time is fine but when he is going manic, it is the worst thing for him and he admits this now. This is only my experience and opinion based on my life experience that pot makes mania worse.
Thank you, yes, I see a therapist and he also wants to go to the same therapist to fix our marriage when he gets out which will be around 9/16 or 9/20th of this year. A lot of what happened was when we were drinking and he told me that the drinking has to stop for both of us and I agreed. I did call the police several times on him and that is why he went from going to jail to now being in prison. He has told me that he will never go back to prison again. He wants to work on himself and on us. I personally think that something happened to him in there that he will not talk about over the phone and he said he will tell me when he gets out. It must have scared him enough where he wants to change.
The marijuana kept him on an even keel. I want to see if I can get him the marijuana card out here in Nevada. Music also helps him considering he is a musician and teacher.
***** Everyone is different and it is important to identify exactly what the triggers are. Sounds like you are moving in the right direction.
wow wtf dude
I don't like none of my psychiatrist all the medications
Why do u call him a addict if u don't mind me asking x
Victoria smith he is 25 years clean and sober but mania brings out his addictive side and he begins to think about gambling.
the bipolar maniac ... the addictions can be anything, including a very overactive sex drive ... I have seen this in several people with bipolarism ... its as if their hyper state makes it impossible for them to feel satiated ... if they are using drugs or alcohol they need to take in more because they can't get the same 'high' when they're not manic
+Carol Rongholt it's the same way with my husband, the sex and alcohol. it's never enough for him. He has agreed to stop drinking when he gets out but I doubt he'll stop the sex lol.
Update: my ex-husband now did get out of jail and we tried to make it work but i guess he thought drinking a bottle of whiskey was more important than our marriage. He went to jail on June 7th 2016. We even moved back east thinking it would help save our marriage but it didn't. He was drinking, we got into an argument and he tried to choke me to death. The only reason i survived was i offered him sex so he would stop the choking. The next morning i pretended i was going to work and i dont know why but he wanted to come with me. i let him but he didnt realize that i went to work to call the police. i could have died that night and no one would have known because he would have buried me in the woods, that was what woke me up to the reality that i couldnt help him anymore. He is now in prison awaiting trial for Aggravated assault, rape and assaulting and trying to disarm a couple state trooper. i didnt want things to be like this, it was suppose to be our new start but he was on his lithium and decided to drink knowing what could have happened and it did. im still to this day mourning the loss of my husband and still terrified about what happened that night.
***** I know it's not easy, but the risks just aren't worth it ... sometimes, as much as we love them, WE are not the ones that can give them the help they need ... sometimes We are the ones that make it worse for them :-( .... it seems to me that you have a higher power at work in this, Trust that everything is where it needs to be and give thanks that you are still alive. .... You have done your best to make it work, it truly seems that its time for you to move on with your own life minus the abuse & drama ... send him love and healing prayers and ask for strength in letting him go. Please Know that I have been there personally and I do not write this 'lightly' ... I totally get it ... Love & Strength to you ((hugs))
I am sat here laughing at you you sound like you're talking about me even I know you're talking about your husband but we are right medication is very bad for us that's why I smart cannabis doctors are trying to get me off it but it keep me calm at the best of times it's my medication
addict? you realize that bipolor isn't a decision?
Pretty sure she means he suffers from addiction along with being bipolar also.
@@exoxoe7128 it’s called duel diagnosis
Accent sounds Canadian.
Choose a psychiatrist that you trust and stick with this psychiatrist, like super glue or something.. you should always see your doctor once a year for example, and in every appointment.. don't quit any medication intake before getting a DOCTOR permission 😉
its hard to keep the mouth shut
Where are her examples of his episodes
Don't effing judge her, u clearly have NO CLUE what it's like being married to a bipolar with addiction issues. IT'S HELL
no meds,self reliance,be alpha or nothing.
you have to find your own way,doctors are not the ansure,they are like bandaids.
"you have to be careful when 'bipolars' are talking to eachother..."
nice.
could i say "you have to be careful when 'the cancer folks' are talking to eachother..." ???
sounds sort of judgmental to me....
Caroline Wiser No, not only do many bipolar people in manic phases go off their meds, they convince other people to go off their meds; but they also feed off of each other's manic phases--it's a positive feedback loop which just makes mania spin even more out of control. When you are the only person behaving a certain way in a crowd, you're more likely to examine your own behavior and adjust your meds accordingly. It's a fact, not a judgement.
i respect your response. however, the phrasing in the video was offensive to my sensibilities. it is what it is.
Laura Burgett it was in fact talking to others with bipolar, which in fact saved my life, as they showed me that you can get through it, and that I wasn’t alone. It is not necessarily a problem unless one of the people is extremely unwell at the given time.
@@ladyfantastic765 If your really bipolar, I'm sure you heard a lot worse.
@@bystanderbutch3509 and if you’re really human, you know that people can be ignorant assholes.
Hope you aren’t justifying the shitty wording here by assuming much worse things can be said…what does that have to do with the language here, which is the issue at hand?
whataboutism gets us nowhere.
it's the marriage that made him a full blown maniac lmao..
Mikko Lucernas lmao
Mikko Lucernas yes in my situation it was the marriage so he says and having two children and a mortgage all apparently made him manic.
@@tvieknowle7696 When me and my husband got married hes bipolar and went into full blown mania too. Why do the y do this? is it too much for them.
here's the problem with all due respect.... What about you? You have conformed to his disease. What about your healing and your trauma? Your ptsd? You will NEVER be prepared for the outbursts. The drunk at work thing happened at my house too. There was also a hyper state going on in my house. He has meds and won't take them. They don't care about anything NOTHING. My husband was off for a few weeks and started obsessing about everyone too. Til he threw me out for absolutely no reason at all... now he wants to be all apologetic and wtf ever. I have no sympathy for it anymore. Because like I said from the start... Whate about you ? What about me? FUCK THEM.
I totally understand and feel like that a lot too. I have set many boundaries for future episodes to make sure I take care of myself. I hope you do too.
@@thebipolarmaniac2251 their illness is not our problem. We are not educated or experienced enough to deal with them. You can’t help but to wrap your entire life around them because they 100% require it “or else”. I work for the City.. I have a government job. Since I went no contact- he blew a gasket and posted on social media that I’m sleeping with my boss. First off- I’m not defending his bull shit, but if I wanted to sleep around- it wouldn’t be my 5’8 160# boss. And I guarantee he’d say the same thing about my 5’9 200# self. Part of bipolar is paranoia. Idk how you’re still living with the monster but God bless you for doing it. I hope you can find an outlet where you can unravel sometimes.