Are you afraid to leave the house because of anxiety or OCD? This might help.
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- Опубликовано: 9 дек 2020
- Does your anxiety or OCD make you afraid to leave the house? Do you stay at home to avoid being triggered?
Unfortunately the more you avoid, the bigger your anxiety or OCD can grow. When you don’t leave the house to avoid being triggered, you are at risk of developing Agoraphobia, making it even harder for you to leave the house over time.
In this week’s RUclips video I talk about how to handle the impulse to avoid leaving the house due to your fears and what to do instead.
Don’t let panic scare you and keep you home.
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I have ptsd and social anxiety and it got so bad that i cant leave my house. I feel so vulnerable and constantly in danger. I feel awkward and unsafe in my body and i'm so afraid that people will see this. And than bad things will happen. 😔
How you feeling now
I'm starting to deal with this. It's hard for me to go outside. I fear I might pass out anytime. I miss the things I usually do, go to the places I used to go to. This is hard but I'll try to overcome this with your advice. I really miss myself. 😔
I have this fear of passing out as well. Do you have any tips to make it better ?
i had this for over a year but you will get over it trust me the more times you try to do something outside and forget about that one tought of passing out then you will feel ,,normal,, again
@@MoongralABC123 I will. Thanks!
This is my fear too 😢 iv been taking magnesium and it helps a little
Me too
This is what I am dealing with... I never like to leave the house because I get so anxious and I start feeling as if everyone is staring at me and if someone is laughing about sth I think that it's me. I really need help with this since I've already joined college and Its been hard socializing with other students... I always feel like just being locked inside the house
Same here but don't worry dear💓👍
Yes I feel so self centered
Same
You might be a targeted individual. That's what the perpetrators do whenever you leave the house to go out to eat, the grocery store, or when driving in your car. They purposefully will turn their head and stare at you like a total freak, and then they will stomp the gas to stress you out. But either way I totally understand and I've lived through this myself. Agoraphobia is horrible.
Yes
Same
I cant leave my house.... I havent been to a store in months. I switched to grocery delivery even though its expensive. I have no family here. I have true actual panic attacks the moment I get behind the wheel. But I am a mother. So when I have to drive my child to school and pick him up, I am a full blown panic crisis the entire time. Racing heart, cant breathe, hand and feet are tingling and twitching. Every time I leave my house feels 100% like life or death.
I know how it feels
I can’t ever leave my house unless I am drunk or medicated in some way.. I start shaking uncontrollably & start fumbling over my words because my mind is going so fast.. nothing else works for it.
that's same feeling I get and the biggest fear is loosing self control I'm homebound 7 years now it's not fair 😧😭
I'm the same. Maybe we should start a support group.
Same 😪
Same feeling here! Been experiencing this for 5yrs and its really hard😢 its like a battle everyday
Help me me too
I am almost 47 and have been dealing with agoraphobia for 30 years. You're speaking to my inner child. Thank you. Anxiety presented itself very early in the form of ocd which I still deal with as well. I order all the things I need. I have a safe person. All the avoidance behaviors you can imagine. There is no help for me unless I figure out how to help myself as I cannot afford therapy.
If you can get help, any help, do it. Nobody wants to end up like me.
I tell myself that if I lived in a more remote area I would leave the house more often because there would be less people but I realise through your video that I would be making my world smaller again. I find it so easy to create a calm world inside my home but when I leave the house I almost always come across someone who is scary (aggressive, shouting etc lots of drugs around here). I know I need to face it but I guess I need to change my mindset in dealing with it. It’s a constant battle for me to just go outside but I know it will get worse if I don’t. Thank you for your video, its good to know I’m not alone in a world filled with people who seem to so easily fit into society.
I believe u can do it I struggle with this constantly due to low self esteem but I believe u can do it
I live in an extremely remote area and unfortunately it's just the same. I worry because there's still the "what if someone sees you". Even in an area where I can see for miles and I can see that there's nobody there I still worry people are watching me with binoculars or have set up secret cameras and are going to laugh at me. It's one of the reasons I struggle to do daily exercise as despite living where I do I just can't stop imagining that there's people filming me and watching me.
Even when I was around 10 we moved into a new house and I would wear a swimming costume in the shower and put a towel over myself to cover me when I used the bathroom as I deeply believed there was cameras in there.
It's so weird to look back on how paranoid I've been almost all my life.
I left high school super early, I've left college courses, uni degree, over 40 jobs... over something that doesn't exist.
Social anxiety disorder is a real and serious thing. It’s not something that should be demonized or ignored. We need to help these people.
I'm going to play this video to help me to overcome my fears I'm 7 years held captive by false fears it's not fair
hope your better now
I’m actually dealing with something that makes my stomach hurt if i leave anywhere. Whenever i leave my house it just makes my stomach upset and i feel like ill have to run to the toilette and if there isnt one im screwed. So its hard to face my fears.
I get that surprisingly if you ask your gp there are meds that stop the physical reaction only and cyclizine is something I take everyday
i have the exact same problem!
This is me exactly!!! I have to go to my boyfriends cottage today and last time was a nightmare due to my ibs and anxiety. I’m so scared I might puke 😅
Same! It's been six months... did you find anything to help?
I have had bowel issues for over 30 years. I found out that I have GERD and did not know something as simple as GERD could upset my system so much. Once I started getting medication and figuring out problem foods (which is a very very long list), I got to a point where what I eat does not cause me pain anymore, but for decades I would have painful bowel movements that would last hours daily along with sore stomach. What you are experiencing may either be psychosomatic symptoms or somaticpsycho systems or a combination of both. I have experienced these things many times in my life, especially when traveling on airplanes and knowing I'm going to be trapped in the security check in line and the boarding/deplaning lines. This is when psychosomatic symptoms kick in and the fear of being trapped and crapping my pants makes my stomach tight and starts wreaking havoc. Sometimes though even when I'm not worried if I eat something that makes my stomach start to feel bad the opposite happens, somaticpsycho symptoms where the tummy ache gives me anxiety even though I didn't have it before, now I start to worry about what it is going to effect in my schedule for the day because it creates a feedback loop to where now I'm feeling bad, now I feel even worse because the worrying starts and intensifies the sensation in my stomach all over again.
There's only three techniques that have helped me deal with this in my life. 1) Meditation & breathing techniques, if you try to take deep breathes and breathe deep in your stomach in your abdomen so that your chest doesn't rise or fall with your breathes this basically tricks your body into thinking its asleep and relaxes it, but other breathing patterns have been helpful. Sometimes when I have been stuck on airplanes I close my eyes and breathe in and out and in and out repeatedly slowly, 4 seconds inhale, 7 seconds exhale. This is something that takes practice. Andrew Huberman has a great video explaining meditation and how focusing on external things can sometimes calm your internal sensations down by forcing your body to take the focus off your internal sensations that I recommend you watch. Meditation is a low skill entry thing, but high skill ceiling activity. You can really get a lot better at meditation than people ever realize. 2) Exposure, exposure, exposure therapy the more I do something the more it becomes normal and the less nervous I get when I do it every time. I push myself to take bigger and bigger steps starting with baby steps. 3) The TAP method has worked for me. I am not very good at it, but if you read about it you can pinch between your index and thumb finger for example and repeat phrases like "I am fine, everything is good" to yourself in your head when you are out walking or whatever and it can help ground you and settle your stomach. One time a lady looked at me with an annoyed look on her face when I was walking down the street and it sent my body into a mini panic attack. I felt my stomach react immediately and it felt like I had to have a bowel movement. I was a half a mile away from my house, so at least 10 minutes away from a toilet. I used the TAP method along with a breathing technique combined and within seconds I grounded myself, calmed down, and the stomach issue went away and I could have stayed outside for another hour after that.
Your stomach can hurt for so many reasons and I have seen 7 doctors including 3 GI doctors, so I know how crappy doctors can be, but figuring out what your trigger foods are can save you a lot of grief. The only things I can eat safely are plain fresh meats, some low lactose cheeses like shredded mozerella, parmasean, and harvarti, grains, and unseasoned/unoiled vegetables. I can't even eat all sorts of veggies like onions, garlic, tomatoes, potatoes, eggplant, peppers, etc. I eat gluten free bread with two eggs for breakfast and a glass of soy milk, a turkey wrap for lunch with real turkey meat that I freeze from cooking thanksgiving turkeys in my deep freezer, some melted mozerella, a pickle, and some mustard (both the pickle and mustard brands I use do not have any seasonings in them, mustard typically has tumeric and paprika in it which will upset my stomach), and I have a nice big salad with olive oil on it. Then for dinner I have chicken and rice soup that I make home made with carrots and broccoli in it usually. I make the stock from scratch as well because the store stock has onion in it. I know these meals to be my "safe" meals and even though they are very boring, I know that if I eat these things that I will not have any stomach issues so if I have things to do or places to go I eat my safety meals.
I get panic attacks whenever I leave my house.
i haven’t been outside in 17 months and i just can’t go out no matter how hard i try, i’m 18 and my parents dont even care cause this situation actually makes them happy.
i hate the fact that i’m so scared to go outside but at the same time i really want to have a life like everyone else. i want to go out, i just cant.
@@harrysrainbows3696 I feel you, I'm sorry you have to go through that
Wow
hey how are you now?
Just checking on you. It's been a year. You good?
The horrible thing is i push the what if thoughts away, i go out for a walk or a drive and 15mins away from home BAM full adrenaline, shaking, weak dizzy, i feel like im crazy
I do a social anxiety meditation and being present meditation everyday it helps alot
What medication do you take? Are there any downfalls to taking it?
@@itskaitlynduh9647 meditation not medication lol, like deep breathing
@@swaranbains8326 lmaooooo don’t even ask me how I managed to read that completely wrong🥲
I can relate to your world getting smaller and smaller. Im in a bad place. Sometimes i have attacks in the middle of the night and will freak out for days. Other times i can cope going to small quiet shops etc. iv been like this as far back as i can remember but its gotten worse over the years. Im 27 years old and am truly worried. The worst part is poeple feel its a made up thing and tell you to GET OVER IT, if it was that easy this wouldnt be a topic. why would anyone WANT to stay in there room and avoid everything. if it was made up people would get over it in a week max.... Anxiety gets you no attention etc, if anything it makes LOSE friends and family because they just dont understand. I wish there was a magic pill or something to help with this
hope you got better friend hope its all back to normal
Same... cant stay out to long... i feel like there is somebody will kill or harm me... they are everywhere... i dont understand whats happening to me... need that pill.
Nowadays there indeed are those magic pills
@@jamesss6970 same that paranoia😞ppl seem cruel and dangerous ⚠️
Jonathan, are you any better? I sure hope so ♥️☮️
This was one of the most helpful videos I've seen about agoraphobia and anxiety. Short and straight to the point and it was nice to have the blunt truth that this idea of home being safe is a lie. I'm currently very far away from home doing university work and it's terrifying to step outside of my hotel room, but I realise now that the hotel room is just my temporary "safe" space and I need to extend that safe space to include the rest of the world.
I struggle with emetophobia and to hear someone explicitly talk about feeling sick when leaving the house was very validating, I feel like nausea and sickness is a forgotten panic symptom sometimes but it can be so debilitating. I think I'm ready to finally face the outside and go get some lunch now, thank you for this!
Such a great video and such helpful tips. Remember that we don’t always have to feel like doing these things, the key is this...sometimes we have to ‘do it afraid’. This is the way that we conquer anxiety by doing the things that we fear. Whether that’s baby steps, big steps or gigantic steps. If we wait for fear to leave entirely we might be stuck forever! If you have setbacks try again the next day or two days later. Keep affirming yourself that things will get better as they will. Also keep praying as God knows exactly how to give you the courage, the healing and the encouragement that you need to beat this! 🙏🏽❤️
I never realized me not going to school was because of my anxiety until right now. Now I’m an adult who leaves the house maybe once a week. Sometimes even longer . Leaving the house today though and I hate it, but I know I need to. I feel better once I’m out in the world , leaving is the hardest part for me.
My house is MY safe space I feel like crying whenever I have to leave the house, when I stay at my boyfriends I feel like I want to cry and don’t want to go, I worry that things might happen to my family and I won’t be there.
@@thebestmusic572 anybody can have social anxiety
@@emmalouise9536 it's easier for girls for me I panic more when I see hot girls because I know they are too smart and can see my social anxiety
@@emmalouise9536 this social anxiety won't hurt me if I was considered alpha with girls and have succès with them this is my pain because I love girls too much and I can't have a girlfriend
@@thebestmusic572 🤨
@@punqs what🤔
Whenever I go out if feels like everyone's looking at me. I can't tell how nervous I get it's really hard to cope up with it
I have a fear of passing out so whenever I’m outside my house or even just standing up for too long I start to get anxious and dizzy and don’t know how to stop. I feel so bad for my boyfriend and family that they have to deal with me not wanting to go inside stores or restaurants.
Yes!! This!!! I can so relate to this 😭😭
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This is exactly how I feel. My mom doesn't believe me and she says she has it too but I dont believe it. We just have to take it slow and know that were safe no matter what. My biggest fear of passing out is once I do I'm afraid I'll keep passing out. That scares me but I can not let it control me.
@@canerakgul5466 şanslıyım, evden çalışıyorum
thank you for making these videos the past few weeks ive been struggling very badly with anxiety the past few weeks and your videos help me so much
Glad to hear that Sophia!
The best thing that ever happened for my anxiety was getting homeschooled. Absolutely changed everything for me, including socializing much easier
Thank you, this video helped alot with my anxiety of going outside and i will definitely watch you more, thanks!
Thank you so much for this, was one of the most helpful videos I have watched ❤️✨
Whenever I have to leave my house my entire body just tingles and I just don’t want to go out
For me it's more like I have a "social" or an "away from home" timer, that I set before I leave, and as it runs down, the urge to go home intensifies. There's absolutely no problem if I'm doing preplanned stuff, but the timer goes down very quickly when I run out of stuff to do. For example, I have no problem going camping, or staying at a friend's house, but the next morning it's like home, home, home. Unless I knew I was going camping for 2 or 3 nights then it would be no problem because I would have prepared my brain for it.
Or if I go to run some errands, then as soon as I'm done I'm trying to get home immediately; there'd be no such thing as spontaneously chilling on a park bench for an hour afterwards, or going for a coffee if I hadn't planned it.
It's like I estimate how long I'll be away from home, and what I have to do, and then I set an imaginary timer in my head, and if I'm lolling around outside, doing nothing, it's like my brain starts thinking: _"What are you doing out here, hanging around, when you could be at home relaxing? Go home, go home!"_
Exactly ! I got the same problem … infact it led me to skip many classes
@@aviationx1735 Damn, me too but I never realised it until now! I might drag myself out of bed to make it in to college for a 9:00am class, and then head home afterwards because my next class wasn't until 2:00pm!
But I'd make up some sort of crappy excuse for myself, like that I'd get more study done at home, or that the class wasn't important, etc.
It's sometimes difficult to know when your brain is playing tricks on you!
@@JoeBob79569 we share the same thoughts …i too use the same excuses to skip classes .
Exactly same Thoughts 😭
I'm feared of going outside
And my friends sometimes help me out ....
Everytime i go out something bad socially happens so i stay indoors. I hate meeting new people i fyxking hate it. Men sexually harass me & try to sexually assault me or eat me out or chase me down the street or someome is super mean i just stay to myself
Many thanks for this video! Panic attacks are devastating but we can learn to beat them! Well done!
This is so helpful ma'am ❤️
The past couple of years have been such an isolated time in my life, working from home for years already, then Covid, then just finding a hard time getting back into the world at all. It is scary when you realize you have started feeling unsafe in so many situations outside your home. But taking small steps is such a helpful approach. Something that helped me is just making myself go for a walk early in the morning most days, even if its just a short walk, its still a good step and a good way to start the day. Also, be kind and patient with yourself and set realistic goals. You may not feel well enough to go to a big gathering for hours on end, but what about a coffee and walk with a friend (or by yourself is nice too).....This is the approach I am taking and I feel a little bit better every day.
It’s crazy how I didn’t even realize i was building these tendencies and me growing attached to my home specifically my room. It all came a head to me when my Girlfriend wanted me to come with her and her friends today but i was “too tired” and passed, she was upset with me and as she left started to cry where she later explained it seems I don’t look excited or want to do anything she wants. All this time i’ve been dealing with this in my head and now seeing it effect my loved ones hurts…
I get nauseous when am out and am afraid to throw up in public. But today I went to the store felt nauseous but I still did it. Little by little going to go to other stores far from my house.🙏🏻
Agoraphobia isn't just staying at home. "Fear of leaving the house" is a separate condition. I have "fear of leaving the house" not agoraphobia ever since getting covid 3 times, 5 weeks sick each time. 😮💨. This video is great, I'm going to try the solutions at the end. You're right, the truth is I'm just as safe everywhere and I'm going to make a list.
My brain was telling me nothing is safe, and I can't go out there. My brain has been telling me these things my entire life. Thanks again for this video. It ended my panic attack. Blessings
Well the reason some people stay in because people are mean to them when they are out and about.And ruin their joy.
Thank you this was really helpful❤
Thank you. Seriously, thank you.
I have started getting this feeling of uneasy when I have to leave my house. I have a routine of get up and go to the gym but then I have to go right home. I have to plan my trips out but I only go three places: gym, Walmart, and home. Just before covid I was getting a little better about leaving but since covid, I am worse. I think about how far a place is and that is where my anxiety/ ocd start getting control of me. And from there I just start to panic as time gets closer to me having to leave. I will come up with reasons why I should leave and if I have too, I will have a panic attack.
you're describing my life, as well.... One day we won't feel like this anymore, I hope!
Covid is mostly the reason that I can't leave the house. That made me so mad since I was going to college and by doing, I was slowly getting better over my anxiety but nope, covid has forced us all to stay inside and now I can't even leave the house
the same thing everytime i go out i feel that im going to faint or die but in reality when i face my fear and go out nothing happens for example once i went to a marriage i was nervous and about to faint i sarted comparing myself with others in the wedding i said look emna they are having fun why you are not doing it so i forgot about anxiety and went dancing with the bride and i had fun i spoke with all of the guests when i went back home i realised that i have nothing its just my brain trying to make stories and suff my advice is let go your negative thoughts im still nervous everyime i go out im not gonna lie to you but the moment i speak to others i forget keep urself busy develop yourself dont let ocd or anxiety take you down
sending all the love and support to you
emna
It really sucks having this agoraphobia thing whilst having a little socialite, active & inquisitive little boy. I’ve been taking him for little walks in the bush later in the day but then we just keep driving if I see lots of people are walking that same bush track. It really helps when I have friends or my partner with me going places, but I also know I need to fix the core wound because it’s been like this for years.
30 years of anxiety and staying at home and avoiding everything, started tiny and grew and grew and grew; with it came many other issues that spawned because of it all, it is a web of a mess and so mis understood. People who have never experienced these things think they are almost silly, in your head, just get past them and think more positive, its easy etc etc. They have no idea how life ruining this stuff is.
Thank you for this video
Don't know whether it's my aspergers syndrome but I have a very bad fear of people staring at me this stops me going out I usually have my headphones in but when someone is walking on my side of the street a panic even more odd is that I'm an extrovert and I like people
Same here but don't worry dear 💓👍
i havent left since the first lockdown its been a year and half since ive left my home im loosing my mind
Oh no :(
Even in the neighborhood
For the past few months I've been getting health anxiety. Went to ER 3 time for ecg but results are normal. And I'm getting panic attacks doing things I used to love like driving on the highway, playing sports. And now when I do it, I get anxious, shallow breathing, dizziness. I only find myself relax when I'm back in my room. I miss going out n having fun. These day I just punch through and try to get home as fast as I can. This is tiring.
There's a lady who hires a outdoor worker constantly scraping windows almost every other day. Drives me nuts. Even weekends. I can't get any privacy outside if I were to sit out because of him. They gave me no clear answer when their projects gonna be done and in the near future I'm getting road workers to build more stress with jack hammers.
Thank you!
I went to the grocery store yesterday and backed out several times before I finally left. While there, my body started to shake the traffic was freaking me out I physically got sick. I cannot believe this is my life
Ever since Covid hit I developed this fear ,I hate leaving my room too .My depression and anxiety got a lot worse due to being inside all the time :(
Same with me every bit abt this sucks but it helped me to see there are more ppl out there like me.
I currently scared to leave my house because there are street dogs who have come at me and harassed me everytime I walk down the street. I've looked at tips on how to not trigger a dog attack, but it has happened every day for three days now. I think if I go out in a car, like call an Uber, it would be OK, but I still feel hesitant to even go take out the trash, even though the dogs live down the street
I'm 16 and in germany it's legal to drink at that age, so my friends started doing houseparties and stuff and I'd love to go there with them, but I'm increadibly scared of not getting home. I just don't feel safe if I'm not sure that I can get home easily. Just the thought of being out there and having to walk home at night, being drunk, not even knowing the 5km long way back home is increadibly scary to me :(
It’s clever not to go, nobody at that age knows what they really want, you’ll end up messing something up and regretting later on
@@Fl4ngerr Almost 17 now, went there a few times and I honestly don't regret it.
The ways back home were honestly really enjoyable, didn't think going for a walk at night while listening to music would be that enjoyable.
@@grakalamontages5066 I know how it is, I experienced the same 9-10 years ago. Nowadays I use zero alcohol, last time 2016.
@@Fl4ngerr Y ofc alc is unhealthy af, but I never drink excessive amounts and very rarely (maximum once per month) so the chance that it's gonna have severe consequences is extremely low, but
if alcohol doesn't give you any pleasure or if you are the kind of person who can't stop drinking once they start, it's defenetly the best decision to stop drinking.
Can you do, shortness of breath or on anxiety medications, nice video as always
Hi Sachin, yes I’ll add that to my topics to cover. I know that can be a common one.
I’m thinking of all the errands i have to run then I realize im still sitting at home
I am afraid to leave my home as well. Unless I’m drunk and if I do it makes me scared and dizzy. I hardly am able to throw out the trash, please help me!
i’m terrified to leave my house and this weekend i have to go an hour and a half away from home.. and i’m terrified i hate leaving the house at all/ and not even that, i have to go to montana which is 20 hours away from where i live for two weeks on vacation and i hate being away from home. when im away from home all i can think about is how im not home and what if i don’t make it home i feel so out of place and like somethings so wrong when im not at my house
I got vestibular damage this year and it pretty much messed me and my life up. I am scared to even walk around in my own place because I get messed up signals from my eyes and ears and I feel super dizzy 24/7, so going outside is absolute hell because I'm worried I could end up falling or passing out in public. I still go outside but I feel bad being there, not sure what to do about this other than taking the meds my ENT gave me for my ears and I refuse to take any ssris or snris because I don't believe in numbing the symptoms since they are important because something is damaged in my body and I don't think this should be ignored.
I had a panic attack during a car ride by myself at night where i was exhausted and almost crashed. I was by myself in the middle of nowhere and I was so scared. I had to wait for my mom to come get me essentially. @1:20. That's exactly what i do. I'm like, i should just stay home so i don't get panic attacks and i don't get exhausted and sick.
Thank you
Thank you so much you know I just try to understand everything but I am wondering what I am trying to understand to like what's the exact thing I been trying to avoiding and then I search how to get out of my house and that's how I know like damn I was living my life in my head the whole time
My case is that as soon as i know i have to go outside something happens in my stomach and then urge of bowel movement and nausea. I am unable to eat outside And i also cannot go outside if i have eaten a meal within 1 hour and that is what is the main prblm for me because i go to college and this thing bothers me every morning. All the ifs come in my mind and i feel helpless and no control over my mind and body.
I wish if i can get any magical advice which can heal this forever.
Also i feel less anxious when i know there is a washroom close to me when i am outside.
Hi, please could you help me with any advice for a OCD staring, I'm always alone and at home. I don't have to much friends. Thank you.
I’ve never had anxiety but I haven’t gone anywhere in multiple months idk what to do am scared some reasons are my hair is just messy and ugly I try and cut it but then it just looks worse then what I wear am scared if people think am ugly or anything and since I’ve grown in weight I feel uncountable wearing some clothes so now I shower every 2 days and am scared I smell bad or something I just feel like giving up and just stay like this I’ve tried everything I can I can’t tell my parents since they won’t take ky seriously and just laugh same with my siblings since they will just do the same.
When my son is scared of school. He won't go to cahms or come shopping. But tonight he went out when a friend called for him. He was out for 1hr. He has asd.
I have the fear mostly when having to leave for work.. I get woken up by severe stomach pains and needing to go to the bathroom, followed by the closing in anxiety. I get the cold sweats also before work but if I do not have to work that day I am usually more ok. I would rather give up my entire life to never have to be trapped at work again. The catch is that I want to work really bad and I get excited when the anxiety is no longer there. I call off a lot and it makes the anxiety worse because I feel like I am failing in my life. How will I get anywhere in life if I continue to call off work everyday? The anxiety and the stomach pains are unbearable. Does anyone else experience this? Anything you found that helps?
I won't come out alone anymore... I have anxiety at home too. How do I break this? Have fatigue too..
I've always traveled around the world, i used to go to every party, i used to go out everyday, and it all started a few months ago, i just can't leave my house, and it's triggering me cause it was the thing i love the most, and i have no clue what to do. I even get some sort of anxiety feeling when im at home. i just wanna leave my house, which i can but not for a long time and i can't go far away, i get like dizzy and start to shake, i had a panic attack in a mall 2 months ago and since then i just coudn't be able to do anything with the fear of having it again, should i go to the doctor? or is not gonna help in anyway of shape?
Same thing happened to me in a mall and then in Costco. I started homeschooling and then just made an excuse from going anywhere. 3 years later I have anxiety to go anywhere I barely go anywhere I have no social life at all and I overthink everything and I get anxiety attacks in my sleep and I’m only 19. Trust me try to face it now until you’ve wasted away more time of your life. It’s the worst feeling ever
@@oliviabonnet1533 you’re right!
I went to the doctor after I wrote that, and it was the best thing I did! I’m currently taking some medicine that has helped me a lot, I literally can go anywhere at the moment even drive through caos, he said it takes time but in 1 month I had amazing results!!
The only thing I can’t do yet is being in the middle of to many people like the mall, I can only do it if it’s at night time
Hey, so sorry to hear this. Yes going to the doctor is a good idea as you might be low on something such as iron, vitamin B or Vitamin D. There was an Author that had anxiety who wrote the book ‘Play it Away’ which I highly recommend, and he found out that he was low on vitamin B. I found out that I was very low on vitamin D. So sometimes when I take vitamin D or iron I feel so much better when out and about. Other than this, do you think that you could go out with an Uber? Or start going out with someone who you feel safe to be around. I found going out with my ex-boyfriend, my mum, my brother or someone who I just felt safe to be around really helped me to conquer a lot of my fear. I also encourage you to write a list of why you need to go out i.e. for fresh air, to socialise, to get food, to get natural Vitamin D, to meet new people etc. Look at this list daily and journal daily too, as these things will help to reduce a lot of anxiety in your life, along with 10 mins of exercise. If nothing works just try and get fresh air by walking a little bit outside your door or in your garden...as this will help you build momentum for when you do eventually go out properly. Hope this all helps.
@@queenchiomaofficial helps! thank you
@@d3stRuctv3 aww so glad to hear this. Anytime lovely. 😇
Hi i’ve been watching your videos and im REALLY desperate for an answer. Nobody else wants to believe me about these things and i just want closure. I struggle with a lot of things really, i cant see, hear, or say certain words and if i do I immediately have to go wash my hands. I avoid touching certain things because then ill have to sit there touching it until i feel like I’ve done it right. Also when im exposed to something that might trigger me i feel like it infects everything around me, especially my clothes so i have to put it straight in the clothing pile or constantly wipe my glasses if im wearing them- or retie my hair everytime i see/hear a word im uncomfortable with. Sometimes i even result to twitching after getting frustrated when i have to keep touching things. I really wanna know your input on this so i could know if i should ask my mom for help. At this point im really desperate and tired so i’d really appreciate your thoughts.
I have the same kinda thing :O
@@lbmt1234 really??? Omg im so glad im not alone- no one else really understands it when i explain it and i just have to deal with it myself :(
There are so many people who have the same thing going on for them right now, so no matter what you are literally never experiencing anything on your own, Mainly because there are 7 billion people on this floating rock we live on xD
Plus I don't think I have spoken to anyone (apart from one person I know with mild ocd) who has ocd as similar as mine
Have you guys tried out some Valium? Xanax?
22 and have started giving into the avoidance.. everytime i go for even a drive I’m so anxious. I’m always panicking that I’m in a dream or what’s happening isn’t actually happening.. only time i don’t feel that way is when I’m at home in my room b
dude me freaking too... how is it now? death is scary to me and feeling out of my body
I get panic attacks in my house and out im literly locking my self away cause i feel like i might up set ppl so ive not seen any one and its driving me crazy always scerd some one gonna come see me i get mad and want ppl to go away from me even loved ones
Thats what I'm nervous I'm afraid that when I'm out the house and I feel anxiety idk where to go to feel safe and it just sucks
When I get drunk I have no social anxiety I’m talking to everyone
I have the same feeling to be
I guesd this is just for kids im 64 and freak out been like this since 2000 do everything but and if nothing to do im so tried
I’ve got PTSD from a really bad childhood and sexual abuse and got addicted to heroin at a really young age and I’ve seen and done a lot of horrible things one of my best friend got his arm blown off in front of me. I’m two years sober now and outside of work and doing things I absolutely have to I don’t want to leave the house I don’t want to leave my safe environment I don’t want to see my friends I’m good on my computer with my games with my miniatures. This world is so goddamn scary and cruel and evil and I’m just safe here.
I’m afraid to be home. It wasn’t that way prior to February 04 of this year.
I dont have a problem LEAVING the house, MY problem is that if I am gone too long, I worry about the home front. What if a fire starts? What if a pipe bursts? That sort of thing. I get a picture of my pets trapped in a fire and all I want to do is go home.
When I get fear, I am afraid that it will be too cold and rain will appear, and then I will be locked outside and not able to come in… When I go outside, I have this fear that I won’t be able to come in back inside that night. That’s while I’m living in France… Because it’s so cold here. I hated LA County, but I found it much easier to go outside. I cold weather makes me afraid to leave the home, because I have a fear I won’t be able to get back in.
When my back hurts, I have a fear of leaving the home, that I will have a back spasm and will be debilitated on the street. It has happened to me before, where my back went out, and I was facedown on the street in the pouring rain… Moments like this makes me afraid to leave the home. And also when I was in LA, people would often threatened to stab me, and I got scared of people. Sometimes in LA, I would be out with friends, and somebody at a bar would offer me drugs… I don’t like to socialize with people because of this. I don’t like leaving my home where I feel warm and safe.
Especially if I’m getting close to my period… I will be afraid because my period to get so intense that even if I take painkillers, I am rolling on the floor feeling like I’m going to die.
I always had an anxiety and OCD to go to high school and junior high school… But that’s because I was severely bullied, and sometimes boys would beat me up or throw food at me… I enjoyed going to college, though, and would get depressed if I wasn’t in school …
Hanging out with friends though does definitely trigger my anxiety. I don’t like seeing friends, even though I love them. I get anxiety for some odd reason and don’t know why.
Dear I feel anxious when I go outside or far from home,,, I feel folding fingers and then I have to shout or distract. My self deep breath but it is all so horrible I just don't want to go anywhere dear my kids also suffering bcoz of me any more tips to control plz
I’m passing through this issue/problem.
I’m 28 years old and since the end of Covid 19 I start to do the things I did before pandemia begun.
In the beginning I felt so out of my place when I leave my house and after almost 2 years I’m stuck in a situation where I just can’t go out, or if I do, it is only for a little walk with my dog or with the car for buying cigarettes.
Even the mall is impossibile to reach now.
I asked help but nothing seems to do nothing to me, even drugs for generalized anxiety disorder and alprazolam.
I don’t know what to do actually, can’t work, can’t go out with my friends, can’t do anything but staying home and asking to myself if my life will be like this forever.
Thank you if you read that and please if you have some advice about it, like some experiences like mine, please let me know. Again thanks
me too trying to look for a job remotely and also trying to get myself out in nature like I used to do before.
@@mo3542 I’m so sorry about it, we are all in this together.
@@CiossDrummerKick thanks, god bless
When I’m sober I’m nervous and anxious and I look at my phone alot
My mom doesn’t like to leave the house it’s sad, I think it has to do with child hood, not having a permanent place to live for years
I get scared that I'll get into a crash, my dad is a very safe driver, but it's others I'm worried about. And yknow. Just ocd in general
And does the worrying change anything.
5:05 When you said "That's a lie," I thought you'd follow it with "you can't handle it at home either" 💀
Why do i'm more a panic when i'm inside than outside
I’m so scared to leave my home when i start going to college
Unless it's in a taxi or car, I can't leave the house because of ever-worsening cynophobia. I not only fear dogs; I also despise them. Read what happened today in Detroit near a school
with a pack of dogs.
I can't leave the house because I'm afraid to forget to close the water faucet or leave the stove on.
Lmao
There are too many crazy drivers on the roads!
Im laying in my bed staring at a picture on my wall that says “I LOVE YOU TO THE MOON AND BACK” then I click on this video and see the same words behind you😳👀 hmm what is the meaning of this
I don’t want to eat in front of people
I had that in my teen years
For some there's no cure for this.
My life is dictated and ran by “what if’s…” it’s pathetic, truly.
Can I give you honest advice? Give your life to Jesus. I suffered tremendously from this until I realized “Hey, Jesus decided this isn’t the case so there’s no possibility it would’ve ever happened”
I have anxiety with throwing up I lost weight from not eating enough every day because i feel sick everyday right now I feel like I can’t be happy and I won’t be able to live the life bc I can’t leave the house even when I feel fine everywhere I go I get anxiety bc Im scared to throw up Im 18 with no job no license all because im scared to throw up I can’t even clean up for myself and it’s make me sad because my sisters do it and they still have homework and school the key is to throw yo and get it over with but im s scared too I haven’t thrown up in 5 years how do I get this anxiety of throwing up be gone because I want it gone 😢
Nothing is permanent ok keep you head up and just keep moving 👍
@@miathedog2024 alright I believe you let’s see if it isn’t permanent 😮💨🤞
Discord mods bigest fear
Sometimes I want to die
what if you have a pain in your ass, what if I poop my pants? What if I just hurt all over ? What if your son is in prison again? What if your only brother is sick with pancreatitis cancer? I just really find life too hard right now.
Heavy on the poop/pee one. Praying for us that we can understand that we should be around people
My roommate to a T! He NEVER leaves the house and getting unemployment to stay in school. He leaves his door open and you’re always feeling like he’s ‘just’ there’. Personally, I’m understanding but this is so irritating to be around. At least get out and take a walk! Something other then being around constantly. I’m moving because of it.
Now imagine how debilitating, irritating and awful it is for HIM. He's definitely going through worse shit than being annoyed at someone for always being around. If you think you're being understanding, you're not.
Good move out. Your roommate deserves better
Good, your roomate doesn't deserve an asshole
Thank you so much, your words actually helped me ..!🫂
Thank you