@@L1zHarris The big question I have - can you sign one thing, while speaking in English a whole different thing? As in, spontaneously where you're trash talking them in sign language, but saying something much nicer in English at the time?
that’s what i was thinking too. i know general words from watching tv and having a deaf person in my high school classes. but all i know is single words like yes, no, help, thank you, mom, dad, etc
I know almost zero sign language but I know how to say "thank you". Certain ASL words are very common knowledge among hearing people, that being one of the more commonly known ones.
i think it’s great that some hearing people know like at least a few words but i think like everyone should be taught how to spell in asl because yes it may be annoying to spell all your sentences out when talking to a deaf person if you don’t know sign but it’s way easier for deaf people to understand than having to read lips (i’m a hearing person and i take asl as a class)
You didn't call her names, you just expressed annoyance at having to throw out an expensive drink. I'd say you have a point, and odds are she just knows how to say thank you in sign language 🤘. And honestly if this happened to any of us we would be inconvenienced too. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Agreed, I always listen to the video like two or three times, both so I can learn ASL and also because her voice and nails clicking along with watching her sign is so relaxing. For some reason I’m really into asmr visual triggers and watching her sign often gives me asmr tingles
My mum speaks in her native language to talk crap about people lol but when we went to visit her home country she forgot to turn on her filter because she was so used to just saying whatever she wanted and I had to keep reminding her that people can actually understand her there lol
Thank you is the only sign I know how to do correctly besides 🤟🏻, so maybe she recognized you use ASL but wasn’t fluent enough to understand your signing!
I sometimes feel I experience this in basically the opposite way with spoken language. I live in a part of Canada where speaking French is not the norm but I know it. Sometimes I’ve caught people talking and gossiping about other people like on the bus or whatever. I remember one time I needed to get off and they were standing in my way so in French I said “excuse me ladies this is my bus stop.” The look on their faces when they realized someone else on the bus knew what they were saying about strangers on the bus was telling. I also used to work retail and one time as I was heading to the back I heard two ladies say how the employee they just talked to was so rude to them in French so I went over and started to speak French and ask if they needed anything, etc. Turns out they were wealthy women from Paris and they ended up buying a ton of products from me afterwards and said they wished they could take me back to Paris with them. It’s amazing how knowing another language can change an interaction so fast. I have been trying to learn some basic ASL and Japanese lately.
Aw didn’t sound like you were like directly rude or nasty to her though just annoyed because you really wanted your expensive coffee haha Idk if she signed thankyou to let you know she understands what you signed or whether she noticed and did basic sign that she knew so you’d feel more comfortable communicating with her haha but If I was the worker just following “rules” I literally wouldn’t care if someone was annoyed about not being allowed there coffee inside because I would feel the exact same 😂 it’s kinda a stupid rule that some places have to be fair
@@L1zHarris aw no it definitely would be!! I can’t even imagine 🥺 if it was all she knew though I’m happy that she atleast tried to sign after she noticed you were 😊
It's so that they don't have to clean up if u spill the coffee. Most clothes shops have that rule and it makes sense for an arcade too. Some times ita just so that if you're thirsty u have to buy their overpriced drink instead of getting one from outside.
1)Thank you is a really recognizable sign, most people know that if nothing else. If she has said “have a nice day” or tried to extend the conversation in any way, I would’ve been more concerned. 2)You didn’t say anything too harsh(as far as we saw in the video) so you’re good. 3)As someone who worked in fast food, when people would complain that something was annoying, the comment would go straight through me cause I didn’t care. So, I think you’re good.
You're so Nice! Usually, people aren't this nice when they try want to "trash talk" someone in another language. I've heard people complaining in another language that they know the other party didn't know to insult them and criticize them. You didn't do that! There's no need to apologize, honey 💕
You inspire me to learn sign, really! I was a girl scout in primary school and I can still sign the alphabet! But I think I should also learn how to sign more words. Hopefully, it will be helpful one day
Guuuuurl my uncle was the same with his friends signing ASL with the other vets in the VA. All just signing mad fast. Im so greatful that I learned so young and have memories of community. Im autistic I really appreciate how blunt ASL is.😌 ASD is hard but
Thank you for sharing your experiences! I’m trying to learn sign and your videos are so helpful to try to sign along and learn about culture and experiences
A similar thing happened to my friend. So he and one of his other friends were signing during a test (because it doesn't count as talking so they usually let us do it after we're done because it's not distracting other students) and they were signing some rather in appropriate jokes to each other. And then the teacher signed back at them to stop. And they were so embarrassed. They had no idea the teacher knew Auslan and so they were just saying whatever they wanted like usual
It very well could be also that that’s like one of verbal things she actually knows. I used to know much more but you don’t use it, you lose it. I know most of the alphabet , Girl Scout, change the world, together, thank you, forget, and how are you, and fine. I’ll usually use them if I can when I notice someone signing, they get excited and just start signing and tgats when I throw my hands up… like idk. So try that! If they sign do something more complicated one and asks them something, if they don’t or can’t then they prob don’t really understand Celt a few phrases.😅
I don't know about the ASL community, but here the sign language community has a very straight forward, blunt to the point of potentially being rude in spoken language, culture. If that's how it is with ASL too, if she knew enough to tell what you were saying, she probably understood the cultural context and knew not to take it personally or more likely she didn't know enough, just recognized that you were speaking sign language and signed the couple phrases she did know.
It is basically the same as when people in countries like the US, where being billingual (/trilingual etc.) is not the standard often feel comfortable saying something rude in their other language without thinking strangers can understand them. That's why I always assume others know the language I'm speaking in and try to be respectful at all times. You never know!
There’s always a way around Baby Girl.. You could’ve also just as easily sat outside and enjoyed Your coffee… the arcade wasn’t going anywhere… 😘 I would just encourage You to let that little shit slide 🛝 Honey… and there’s nothing wrong with You expressing how You feel… but You can do that and not totally go off on the unscrupulous 🙃😉 …. “Don’t let ‘em see You Sweat” Babe… there’s nothing wrong with You!! ❤
it’s okay to express displeasure for the situation and it not be personal regarding the service worker. just my perspective from many yrs in customer service; we mainly don’t take things personally when it comes to to business. them signing in return is out of respect so no worries :)
It’s hilarious when I see people sign rude things in public😂 I have a DeafBlind uncle, and studied ASL formally for 4 years. My husband always asks what people are saying and I’m like babe I can’t just stare at random people signing that’s disrespectful 😂😂😂
I feel like most people know "thank you" and "i love you" in asl, so she probably just saw you signing, probably assumed it meant like "imma go throw this away" and said thanks
I've been caught calling someone something very rude. I was kind of surprised because I know most ASL signers where I live now have a very hard time understanding the Maritime Sign mixed with home sign I normally use and my ASL is meh at best. Just my luck that I was signing in my broken ASL and the person I was signing about was not only fluent in ASL ... but is from PEI and knows the dialect I grew up learning. Like ... Ugh. Face palm is luckily understood no matter the language. So I'm not allowed in that bar there any longer.
That reminds me of a time a customer came to the McDonald's where used to work and was and not-so-nice things to one of my co-workers in Spanish because he thought she didn't speak Spanish or assume she didn't but unbeknownst to him she understood everything he said because she's a flu in Spanish speaker
Today I started learning Indian sign language (ISL) so that I can give a speech for my English assessment (of speaking a listening) about how important it is teaching alternative communication thingies like how to communicate with a deaf person a person short of sight or a person who is both deaf and blind vause you sign there
I feel like language barriers can be awkward when you understand the language they might not want you to hear 😂 Used to get my nails done at a nail salon when I was younger, and they would rarely speak English to me and usually would talk to the other workers. I used a translating app and muted it so I could read what they say, and not gonna lie they were funny… but rude. They weren’t wrong about my weird lookin fingers tho, I’ve broken the same 6 fingers on two separate occasions 😂😂😂
Hearing people say rude things all the time. What you signed was venting frustration and probably the least offensive thing that employee heard/saw/signed from annoyed customers all day.
“Thank you” is one of the few signs I know. I use it whenever I say thanks as a reflex, especially if it’s loud or if it’s a friend who struggles with audio processing. What I mean is, it’s a more common sign and hopefully she didn’t catch what you said 🤞
I was taught that people who speak using sign are very open and are not filtered. I was taught not to read what they are saying if I am not in the conversation and if I sign in response to them signing to let them know what I can read. Best teacher ever taught me so much on how to respect people in general
*LONG STORY COMING UP* When I was younger, I used to have these really nice friends. They were part of the popular kids and I was the new kid who just started being friends with them. First of all, they talked bad abt eachother behind each others backs. Then, they were asking me “since you don’t have any friends, what are you gonna do now?” As if I wasn’t friends with them. At the end of the year I was kind of stressed and needed a DAY to myself. A DAY. And all of a sudden when I tried to sit next to this girl, we will call her Sarah, and Sarah was with we will call the other girl Ashley. And I sat down and they both just got silent. I was kind of uncomfortable because it felt like they didn’t want me there. Then Sarah thought it would be smart to pull out her phone and start typing a hateful message about me. Then when I tried to be nice and say hi, they just gave me that look that no one likes getting. So I just moved away. Anyway, it was towards the end of the year and keep in mind Ashley used to be super nice to me and always make sure I was included etc, but ever since that girl Sarah told her those things about me she stopped being nice to me and kind of just ghosted me basically. Everyone else was being somewhat nice to me for the most part and I felt like when I was with them I was still included. So after school ends during summer break, I decide to text them and just say hi and check up on them. The first one (we will call her Olivia) olive said hi in the group chat so I did the same. Then her best friend (we will call her Hannah) Hannah, said “Olivia I’ll kill you if you keep saying hi in random group chats!” And then they both left- then I said hi in another one and they both left again so- that was a bit awkward for me and it’s like Sarah, or someone else all figured since the school year was over they were just gonna ghost me and pretend like that stuff never even happened. So, moral of the story, please don’t become friends with the popular kids because you think their cool and perfect. In some cases, yes they could be very nice and it’s fine to be friends with them. But even if they tease eachother and say rude things, or anything small like that, could be a red flag. So don’t be friends with them because you think it will make you cool. It won’t. It will just make you fake friends. *again this is most of the time, some friend groups that are popular can be really nice and long lasting friends*
Nah. She probably just had a teacher like my 4th grade one. We said thank you, sorry and you're welcome in sign when people hold open the door, so that we would respect the schools of no talking in the halls. She understood that saying thank you is important, and how to make it fun for us AND educational. And that's pretty much Mrs. Jackson. If you see this you're the best teacher.
She probably had no idea. I can sign all of 5 phrases with confidence, and one of them is 'thank you'. When I worked at a register, I would tell any ASL users at my register thank you in sign. If I end a conversation in sign, it avoided awkward interactions and people thinking I know way more than I do. I can recognize quite a few individual signs, just from exposure, but it's more likely that person just knows how to say things like 'hello', 'please', 'thank you' and how to finger spell their name.
she probably didn't know know. at my work, we are often silent and use some signs to communicate with each other and guests but just because I understand finger spelling, know some signs, and can Identify the signs for deaf (or what a cochlear implant looks like) it doesn't mean I completely understand everything you signed. so she probably just saw you sign to your bf and followed suit with what she actually did know.
As many people said its easy for it to be the only sign you know. I lowkey automatically sign thanks when people hold the door open for me because college- mine has a program for the deaf/hoh so basic sign and deaf culture introduction are literally part of orientation. And they also warn everyone that “thanks” is on the front of your chin not under your chin 🤣
As an Italian living in Mexico, I find myself talking to my wife without filters in public... Until one day at the supermarket i scolded my son (nothing tragic, he just couldn't wait for his chocolate to be paid, and I didn't say anything terrible, just told him that if he kept yelling I wouldn't buy him chocolate anymore) and a lady understood me! She was mexican but lived in Italy for several years so she greeted me and I realized that maaaaybe I need to tone down my language... Because with my wife I'm really straightforward hahaha
Oh no, I am learning ASL because I’m hard hearing and I can’t hear when music is playing so my sister is learning it with me. Whenever music is playing and we’re trying to talk we just go straight into the sign that we know and communicate that way. I’m so scared that if I’m talking crap in sign someone will know what I’m saying
Yes, she knew. And a good rule of thumb, is to not be rude to any one regardless of what language or form of communication you are using. You’d be surprised how much people can surmise just by tone and context without fulling understanding what you are saying. Also, i don’t think what you said was especially awful, but i can’t stand when people make excuses for being rude like saying you “have no filter”. Like, the point is, people who aren’t rude have a filter. The difference between being rude and not being rude is having a filter to say say something nice when you could have or wanted to say something mean. So, don’t make excuses. Say it like it is, and be better next time.
i’m hearing and i sign thank you all the time especially if i have food in my mouth or something. i’m sure she only knew how to say that as it is common knowledge, but i understand the anxiety haha
I would probably express my annoyance out loud but not in a way that berates the employee. They're just following whatever their manager says, usually rather than being directly nitpicky... That being said, I've been avoiding going to a particular store because the last time I went they forced me to hand over my work bag that has all my stuff including paperwork I have to keep from being lost. They took FOREVER to unlock the cabinet they keep people's bags in. I almost missed my bus to work. The next time I go, I'm going to refuse to hand over my bag on that basis. If they're going to have such a dumb rule, they should get rid of the self checkouts they replaced all the registers with AND have someone manning both the doors and the bag lockup at all times.
As a hearing person I’ve known basic things in sign like thank you and clapping all my life so it’s likely she saw you signing and wanted to use the little sign she knew to be nice
If that's all you said there isn't anything wrong with it. It's understandable for someone to be a little thrown off if you are used to being able to have it and suddenly you can't. I am a northerner though and tend to speak our mind. Also, I don't think I know anyone who doesn't know thank you in sign language so she might not know sign language.
Seriously this is why people walk away when they talk crap, no one wants to hurt other’s feelings it’s just venting. I doubt she was hurt by it girl you’re fine! I would’ve chugged that coffee 😂
As a hearing person, some phrases I've looked up how to sign simply because it's easier than using voice or when noise is restricted when I need to say something, or on the off chance that I am with a deaf or HOH person and one of the signs I know is relevant in our interaction, so it's POSSIBLE she was hearing and picked up that you were deaf and signed thank you to accommodate OR maybe it was easier than using voice at the time? Two less embarrassing alternatives to thinking she knew sign and understood everything you said... 💀 Really though, you never know.
Idk, I just think that most of us overpolice our language so much that having a way to express what you actually feel without even thinking about what effect your words will have is actually very refreshing... of course you have to have a healthy amount of awareness over the consequences your words might have, but it can be extremely exhausting is all I'm saying...
Wow. Never really thought of this. Sign language is so much more apparent than vocal languages because you can just whisper. Either way I’m sure anyone could relate to you and say the same thing.
My friend had a situation like this once because her first language isn’t English and it turned out the person they were talking about spoke their language too 😭
most hearing people who have a some interest in sign language, know "thank you" I've met people trying to learn it to be inclusive in their jobs, but can't really "sign" they know a little to be nice. its possible she only knew that word lol
I love your videos Liz and your stories, so if someday I met a depth person I would like to have the oportunity to know about their stories too. Do you know where can I learn ASL? Love you and your videos ❤
I always sign "thank you" when saying thank you to strangers. Been doing it for years, don't really know why. There's no reason behind it. It's muscle memory at this point but I can't sign anything else. So chances are that she doesn't know what you signed before. 😊
I do not sign but I speak more than one language. From the scenario in the video, I don’t think it is too harsh. But for me, I try to still filter myself even speaking in a language that the clerks probably don’t know. It’s not because that I fear someone might understand but also I think there is a respect that I will maintain for the people working at a place or the products they sell. Because I think it’d be harsh to be made fun of or being called names behind the back if you put yourself in their shoes. But of course if they are being difficult then by all means, don’t hold back.😂
imo i feel like even if she only knew a few simple signs she could probably tell you were frustrated since asl includes your whole body with facial expressions along with hand movements
with her sweet smile you'd never guess she could be trash talking you in sign😭
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Apparences lie to us
That’s how you effectively trash talk in sign and in any language 😂
Noted lol (I'm trying to learn sign btw)
@@L1zHarris The big question I have - can you sign one thing, while speaking in English a whole different thing?
As in, spontaneously where you're trash talking them in sign language, but saying something much nicer in English at the time?
My guess is that she saw you using ASL but she didnt know what you said and just knew a few things like thank you and stuff
Honestly, this is the most likely scenario.
that’s what i was thinking too. i know general words from watching tv and having a deaf person in my high school classes. but all i know is single words like yes, no, help, thank you, mom, dad, etc
The sign for "Thank you" is very easy as well. And aparently same in a couple of sign languages.
Thank you is probably the one sign I know outside of the alphabet.
Yeah, I remember looking up the sign for "like" to say "I like your hair" to someone
I know almost zero sign language but I know how to say "thank you".
Certain ASL words are very common knowledge among hearing people, that being one of the more commonly known ones.
Very true
Exactly. Pretty sure thank you, mom, cookie, and a few color names are all I can sign.
i think it’s great that some hearing people know like at least a few words but i think like everyone should be taught how to spell in asl because yes it may be annoying to spell all your sentences out when talking to a deaf person if you don’t know sign but it’s way easier for deaf people to understand than having to read lips (i’m a hearing person and i take asl as a class)
@@levolancer I agree! The alphabet and numbers are not that hard to learn and can be good for kids to learn as well
Yea but I’ve also had a lot of people mess up thank you and sign “ f u “ 😭😭
You didn't call her names, you just expressed annoyance at having to throw out an expensive drink. I'd say you have a point, and odds are she just knows how to say thank you in sign language 🤘. And honestly if this happened to any of us we would be inconvenienced too. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
You’re right ❤❤❤❤
Ok but... listening to her nails click while she signs is so asmr satisfying
YES!!! I HONESTLY THOUGHT IT WAS JUST MEEE
i thought it was just me yesss
I KNOW RIGHT
YESS
Agreed, I always listen to the video like two or three times, both so I can learn ASL and also because her voice and nails clicking along with watching her sign is so relaxing. For some reason I’m really into asmr visual triggers and watching her sign often gives me asmr tingles
My mum speaks in her native language to talk crap about people lol but when we went to visit her home country she forgot to turn on her filter because she was so used to just saying whatever she wanted and I had to keep reminding her that people can actually understand her there lol
what country was it? hah just being curious
The way you talk is so perfect and calming. I could watch you talking all day
Even though I am not hard of hearing this feels like an oddly relatable situation
Thank you is the only sign I know how to do correctly besides 🤟🏻, so maybe she recognized you use ASL but wasn’t fluent enough to understand your signing!
I sometimes feel I experience this in basically the opposite way with spoken language. I live in a part of Canada where speaking French is not the norm but I know it. Sometimes I’ve caught people talking and gossiping about other people like on the bus or whatever. I remember one time I needed to get off and they were standing in my way so in French I said “excuse me ladies this is my bus stop.” The look on their faces when they realized someone else on the bus knew what they were saying about strangers on the bus was telling.
I also used to work retail and one time as I was heading to the back I heard two ladies say how the employee they just talked to was so rude to them in French so I went over and started to speak French and ask if they needed anything, etc. Turns out they were wealthy women from Paris and they ended up buying a ton of products from me afterwards and said they wished they could take me back to Paris with them. It’s amazing how knowing another language can change an interaction so fast. I have been trying to learn some basic ASL and Japanese lately.
Omg doesn't she just have the prettiest hands?? Gorgeous 💛 beautiful language and beautiful person
Aw didn’t sound like you were like directly rude or nasty to her though just annoyed because you really wanted your expensive coffee haha
Idk if she signed thankyou to let you know she understands what you signed or whether she noticed and did basic sign that she knew so you’d feel more comfortable communicating with her haha but If I was the worker just following “rules” I literally wouldn’t care if someone was annoyed about not being allowed there coffee inside because I would feel the exact same 😂 it’s kinda a stupid rule that some places have to be fair
She could just be signing thank you and not know anything else but the barrier is real😂 the struggle is alot sometimes
@@L1zHarris aw no it definitely would be!! I can’t even imagine 🥺 if it was all she knew though I’m happy that she atleast tried to sign after she noticed you were 😊
It's so that they don't have to clean up if u spill the coffee. Most clothes shops have that rule and it makes sense for an arcade too. Some times ita just so that if you're thirsty u have to buy their overpriced drink instead of getting one from outside.
I have no filter when I'm talking lol I feel you
1)Thank you is a really recognizable sign, most people know that if nothing else. If she has said “have a nice day” or tried to extend the conversation in any way, I would’ve been more concerned.
2)You didn’t say anything too harsh(as far as we saw in the video) so you’re good.
3)As someone who worked in fast food, when people would complain that something was annoying, the comment would go straight through me cause I didn’t care. So, I think you’re good.
I would have just had the coffee and then go in, instead of throwing it out😭
I signed up for my high school courses today and I’m planning on taking ASL thanks to you. Thank you for educating so many people!
Your voice is so relaxing!
You're so Nice! Usually, people aren't this nice when they try want to "trash talk" someone in another language. I've heard people complaining in another language that they know the other party didn't know to insult them and criticize them. You didn't do that! There's no need to apologize, honey 💕
Hi Liz! I love your videos!!!
I’m hearing, but I’m learning ASL. I trash talk people in sign to my friends and gf and swear in sign ALL THE TIME
You inspire me to learn sign, really! I was a girl scout in primary school and I can still sign the alphabet! But I think I should also learn how to sign more words. Hopefully, it will be helpful one day
Guuuuurl my uncle was the same with his friends signing ASL with the other vets in the VA. All just signing mad fast. Im so greatful that I learned so young and have memories of community. Im autistic I really appreciate how blunt ASL is.😌 ASD is hard but
I know someone who had no filter and it’s usually funny, but sometimes it really does start the worst situations
She’s lucky the worst thing you said is “this is so annoying”
Thank you for sharing your experiences! I’m trying to learn sign and your videos are so helpful to try to sign along and learn about culture and experiences
As a hearing person, "thank you" is one of the first signs i learned, and i would guess its probably one of the more well known signs
i would never throw out a starbucks coffee i would just finish it outside or in the car then come back
A similar thing happened to my friend. So he and one of his other friends were signing during a test (because it doesn't count as talking so they usually let us do it after we're done because it's not distracting other students) and they were signing some rather in appropriate jokes to each other. And then the teacher signed back at them to stop. And they were so embarrassed. They had no idea the teacher knew Auslan and so they were just saying whatever they wanted like usual
It very well could be also that that’s like one of verbal things she actually knows. I used to know much more but you don’t use it, you lose it. I know most of the alphabet , Girl Scout, change the world, together, thank you, forget, and how are you, and fine. I’ll usually use them if I can when I notice someone signing, they get excited and just start signing and tgats when I throw my hands up… like idk. So try that! If they sign do something more complicated one and asks them something, if they don’t or can’t then they prob don’t really understand Celt a few phrases.😅
You are such an adorable and i love your content 🥰
I don't know about the ASL community, but here the sign language community has a very straight forward, blunt to the point of potentially being rude in spoken language, culture. If that's how it is with ASL too, if she knew enough to tell what you were saying, she probably understood the cultural context and knew not to take it personally or more likely she didn't know enough, just recognized that you were speaking sign language and signed the couple phrases she did know.
same with my mom but now its a different language. she use her learned language when shes annoyed in public
Lol😂😂I’m bilingual and paranoid this will happen to me too
The girl watching this: 🫣🫣
It is basically the same as when people in countries like the US, where being billingual (/trilingual etc.) is not the standard often feel comfortable saying something rude in their other language without thinking strangers can understand them. That's why I always assume others know the language I'm speaking in and try to be respectful at all times. You never know!
“So I looked to my boyfriend”
NOOOOOOO
There’s always a way around Baby Girl.. You could’ve also just as easily sat outside and enjoyed Your coffee… the arcade wasn’t going anywhere… 😘 I would just encourage You to let that little shit slide 🛝 Honey… and there’s nothing wrong with You expressing how You feel… but You can do that and not totally go off on the unscrupulous 🙃😉 …. “Don’t let ‘em see You Sweat” Babe… there’s nothing wrong with You!! ❤
it’s okay to express displeasure for the situation and it not be personal regarding the service worker. just my perspective from many yrs in customer service; we mainly don’t take things personally when it comes to to business. them signing in return is out of respect so no worries :)
Nah, I don’t know ASL but I always say thank you when I see people sign. It’s the only one I know
It’s hilarious when I see people sign rude things in public😂 I have a DeafBlind uncle, and studied ASL formally for 4 years. My husband always asks what people are saying and I’m like babe I can’t just stare at random people signing that’s disrespectful 😂😂😂
I feel like most people know "thank you" and "i love you" in asl, so she probably just saw you signing, probably assumed it meant like "imma go throw this away" and said thanks
lol this was so funny
I have a question is signing for you like memory muscle now or do you still have to like remember? 🤟🏼❤️
I think it would just be like learning any language, you forget words sometimes, but you get the hang of it
@@corinnelove6423 makes sense👍🏼
I've been caught calling someone something very rude. I was kind of surprised because I know most ASL signers where I live now have a very hard time understanding the Maritime Sign mixed with home sign I normally use and my ASL is meh at best. Just my luck that I was signing in my broken ASL and the person I was signing about was not only fluent in ASL ... but is from PEI and knows the dialect I grew up learning. Like ... Ugh. Face palm is luckily understood no matter the language. So I'm not allowed in that bar there any longer.
That reminds me of a time a customer came to the McDonald's where used to work and was and not-so-nice things to one of my co-workers in Spanish because he thought she didn't speak Spanish or assume she didn't but unbeknownst to him she understood everything he said because she's a flu in Spanish speaker
Today I started learning Indian sign language (ISL) so that I can give a speech for my English assessment (of speaking a listening) about how important it is teaching alternative communication thingies like how to communicate with a deaf person a person short of sight or a person who is both deaf and blind vause you sign there
I feel like language barriers can be awkward when you understand the language they might not want you to hear 😂 Used to get my nails done at a nail salon when I was younger, and they would rarely speak English to me and usually would talk to the other workers.
I used a translating app and muted it so I could read what they say, and not gonna lie they were funny… but rude. They weren’t wrong about my weird lookin fingers tho, I’ve broken the same 6 fingers on two separate occasions 😂😂😂
Oh no the 7 dollar coffee? That would ruin my day! Coffee is my life's blood
Hearing people say rude things all the time. What you signed was venting frustration and probably the least offensive thing that employee heard/saw/signed from annoyed customers all day.
“Thank you” is one of the few signs I know. I use it whenever I say thanks as a reflex, especially if it’s loud or if it’s a friend who struggles with audio processing. What I mean is, it’s a more common sign and hopefully she didn’t catch what you said 🤞
Nah the thank you sign is probably the only sign I do regularly… trying to learn more
Lol. Just be kind no matter.
I was taught that people who speak using sign are very open and are not filtered. I was taught not to read what they are saying if I am not in the conversation and if I sign in response to them signing to let them know what I can read.
Best teacher ever taught me so much on how to respect people in general
*LONG STORY COMING UP* When I was younger, I used to have these really nice friends. They were part of the popular kids and I was the new kid who just started being friends with them. First of all, they talked bad abt eachother behind each others backs. Then, they were asking me “since you don’t have any friends, what are you gonna do now?” As if I wasn’t friends with them. At the end of the year I was kind of stressed and needed a DAY to myself. A DAY. And all of a sudden when I tried to sit next to this girl, we will call her Sarah, and Sarah was with we will call the other girl Ashley. And I sat down and they both just got silent. I was kind of uncomfortable because it felt like they didn’t want me there. Then Sarah thought it would be smart to pull out her phone and start typing a hateful message about me. Then when I tried to be nice and say hi, they just gave me that look that no one likes getting. So I just moved away. Anyway, it was towards the end of the year and keep in mind Ashley used to be super nice to me and always make sure I was included etc, but ever since that girl Sarah told her those things about me she stopped being nice to me and kind of just ghosted me basically. Everyone else was being somewhat nice to me for the most part and I felt like when I was with them I was still included. So after school ends during summer break, I decide to text them and just say hi and check up on them. The first one (we will call her Olivia) olive said hi in the group chat so I did the same. Then her best friend (we will call her Hannah) Hannah, said “Olivia I’ll kill you if you keep saying hi in random group chats!” And then they both left- then I said hi in another one and they both left again so- that was a bit awkward for me and it’s like Sarah, or someone else all figured since the school year was over they were just gonna ghost me and pretend like that stuff never even happened. So, moral of the story, please don’t become friends with the popular kids because you think their cool and perfect. In some cases, yes they could be very nice and it’s fine to be friends with them. But even if they tease eachother and say rude things, or anything small like that, could be a red flag. So don’t be friends with them because you think it will make you cool. It won’t. It will just make you fake friends. *again this is most of the time, some friend groups that are popular can be really nice and long lasting friends*
She probably didn't know exactly what you said. Most ppl know how to sign thank you.
Nah. She probably just had a teacher like my 4th grade one. We said thank you, sorry and you're welcome in sign when people hold open the door, so that we would respect the schools of no talking in the halls. She understood that saying thank you is important, and how to make it fun for us AND educational. And that's pretty much Mrs. Jackson. If you see this you're the best teacher.
She probably had no idea. I can sign all of 5 phrases with confidence, and one of them is 'thank you'. When I worked at a register, I would tell any ASL users at my register thank you in sign. If I end a conversation in sign, it avoided awkward interactions and people thinking I know way more than I do.
I can recognize quite a few individual signs, just from exposure, but it's more likely that person just knows how to say things like 'hello', 'please', 'thank you' and how to finger spell their name.
she probably didn't know know. at my work, we are often silent and use some signs to communicate with each other and guests but just because I understand finger spelling, know some signs, and can Identify the signs for deaf (or what a cochlear implant looks like) it doesn't mean I completely understand everything you signed. so she probably just saw you sign to your bf and followed suit with what she actually did know.
As many people said its easy for it to be the only sign you know. I lowkey automatically sign thanks when people hold the door open for me because college- mine has a program for the deaf/hoh so basic sign and deaf culture introduction are literally part of orientation. And they also warn everyone that “thanks” is on the front of your chin not under your chin 🤣
is there different sign that’s under your chin or is it just a common mistake?
As an Italian living in Mexico, I find myself talking to my wife without filters in public... Until one day at the supermarket i scolded my son (nothing tragic, he just couldn't wait for his chocolate to be paid, and I didn't say anything terrible, just told him that if he kept yelling I wouldn't buy him chocolate anymore) and a lady understood me! She was mexican but lived in Italy for several years so she greeted me and I realized that maaaaybe I need to tone down my language... Because with my wife I'm really straightforward hahaha
me: *trying to learn sign through visuals*
her hands: *moving so fast i have to watch 3 times just to learn 3 words*
Oh no, I am learning ASL because I’m hard hearing and I can’t hear when music is playing so my sister is learning it with me. Whenever music is playing and we’re trying to talk we just go straight into the sign that we know and communicate that way. I’m so scared that if I’m talking crap in sign someone will know what I’m saying
LMAO the bilingual struggle
Oh no! Loll
Could you make a vid with your boyfriend? I'm new so maybe you have already but at least tell us how you met! Love you 🤟💞
Maybe sometime in the future! I don’t wanna jeopardize the relationship 🤟💖
@@L1zHarris lol 😂😂
She said thank you for throwing ur coffee away and following the rules
Yes, she knew. And a good rule of thumb, is to not be rude to any one regardless of what language or form of communication you are using. You’d be surprised how much people can surmise just by tone and context without fulling understanding what you are saying. Also, i don’t think what you said was especially awful, but i can’t stand when people make excuses for being rude like saying you “have no filter”. Like, the point is, people who aren’t rude have a filter. The difference between being rude and not being rude is having a filter to say say something nice when you could have or wanted to say something mean. So, don’t make excuses. Say it like it is, and be better next time.
i’m hearing and i sign thank you all the time especially if i have food in my mouth or something. i’m sure she only knew how to say that as it is common knowledge, but i understand the anxiety haha
Thank you is the one sign everyone kinda just knows I see people all day and that’s all they say to me in sign is thank you
That's fine. Deaf culture is very open and honest, it's just part of your culture
I would probably express my annoyance out loud but not in a way that berates the employee. They're just following whatever their manager says, usually rather than being directly nitpicky...
That being said, I've been avoiding going to a particular store because the last time I went they forced me to hand over my work bag that has all my stuff including paperwork I have to keep from being lost. They took FOREVER to unlock the cabinet they keep people's bags in. I almost missed my bus to work. The next time I go, I'm going to refuse to hand over my bag on that basis. If they're going to have such a dumb rule, they should get rid of the self checkouts they replaced all the registers with AND have someone manning both the doors and the bag lockup at all times.
As a hearing person I’ve known basic things in sign like thank you and clapping all my life so it’s likely she saw you signing and wanted to use the little sign she knew to be nice
If that's all you said there isn't anything wrong with it. It's understandable for someone to be a little thrown off if you are used to being able to have it and suddenly you can't. I am a northerner though and tend to speak our mind. Also, I don't think I know anyone who doesn't know thank you in sign language so she might not know sign language.
just take a few mins to finish your coffee outside and then go in 😭
😂 my mom tried to get out of a ticket this way but the officer sighed back
I really hope my math teacher dosent know sign 💀💀💀💀
I dont know why the sign language is just soo satisfying 😂😂😂
I kind of doubt that she knew, thank you is a really easy sign, it's literally one of the only ones I know
Seriously this is why people walk away when they talk crap, no one wants to hurt other’s feelings it’s just venting. I doubt she was hurt by it girl you’re fine! I would’ve chugged that coffee 😂
As a hearing person, some phrases I've looked up how to sign simply because it's easier than using voice or when noise is restricted when I need to say something, or on the off chance that I am with a deaf or HOH person and one of the signs I know is relevant in our interaction, so it's POSSIBLE she was hearing and picked up that you were deaf and signed thank you to accommodate OR maybe it was easier than using voice at the time?
Two less embarrassing alternatives to thinking she knew sign and understood everything you said... 💀 Really though, you never know.
IM PRAYING THAT SHE ONLY KNEW BASIC SIGNS LIKE THANK YOU PLEASE IM SORRY EAT DRINK STUFF LIKE THAT BUT MAYBE NOT IDK😭
Maybe it’s because you express yourself best when you are signing so it’s kind of like whatever you think immediately goes to your hands😅
If she know knows, then you good, because that means she understands what it's like to sign , but she probably only knows thank you.
Idk, I just think that most of us overpolice our language so much that having a way to express what you actually feel without even thinking about what effect your words will have is actually very refreshing... of course you have to have a healthy amount of awareness over the consequences your words might have, but it can be extremely exhausting is all I'm saying...
Wow. Never really thought of this. Sign language is so much more apparent than vocal languages because you can just whisper.
Either way I’m sure anyone could relate to you and say the same thing.
Slowly learning sign watching you. Thank you! Love the content.
My friend had a situation like this once because her first language isn’t English and it turned out the person they were talking about spoke their language too 😭
most hearing people who have a some interest in sign language, know "thank you"
I've met people trying to learn it to be inclusive in their jobs, but can't really "sign"
they know a little to be nice. its possible she only knew that word lol
I love your videos Liz and your stories, so if someday I met a depth person I would like to have the oportunity to know about their stories too. Do you know where can I learn ASL?
Love you and your videos ❤
She probably didn't know everything but she knows what thank you is lol,
that wasn’t even that petty we worry too much about how we’re perceived
I always sign "thank you" when saying thank you to strangers. Been doing it for years, don't really know why. There's no reason behind it. It's muscle memory at this point but I can't sign anything else. So chances are that she doesn't know what you signed before. 😊
FWIW I don’t know ASL except for the alphabet and a handful of random words. I can say “thank you” but I definitely couldn’t follow your conversation.
coffee in asl be lookin pretty sus 🤔💀
Aww she's spoken for? Well congrats! 😊
Hearing people need to understand that the deaf culture is more forward with anything they say so really it’s just getting used to a different culture
I do not sign but I speak more than one language. From the scenario in the video, I don’t think it is too harsh. But for me, I try to still filter myself even speaking in a language that the clerks probably don’t know. It’s not because that I fear someone might understand but also I think there is a respect that I will maintain for the people working at a place or the products they sell. Because I think it’d be harsh to be made fun of or being called names behind the back if you put yourself in their shoes. But of course if they are being difficult then by all means, don’t hold back.😂
I would have drank the coffee outside then go in. Hate when people make you throw out expensive coffee you just bought
imo i feel like even if she only knew a few simple signs she could probably tell you were frustrated since asl includes your whole body with facial expressions along with hand movements
Lol she knew and was being polite because she was at work. I've done this before I'm just learning how to do asl I've seen some stuff.....
Me and my cousin do this is public we have noo filter 😭