Life After Amputation | Stage 2: ANGER
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- How did I overcome the loss of my arm?
In this video I talk about going through the “anger“ stage of the grieving process.
If you're interested in hearing a little bit about my life or looking for some helpful tips, you're at the right place. If you feel like you are recovering from a trauma or loss and feeling angry all the time, this is a must watch- I hope this video can help you if you are someone who is struggling right now!
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I am 13 years old, close to the age when you were in your accident. As a fully able-bodied person, your videos have really made me think from a different perspective. Thank you!
They've probably rejected the stage theory, not because there aren't clearly different "stages", but because they aren't easily divisible or finite. You can cycle back through different ones, experience several at the same time, or go through them in a different order. I really wish videos like this had been available when I went through my traumatic event (completely different from yours, but I can totally relate), It would've helped so much.
I have a disability, have had it since age 23 (car wreck) and have lost a lot of the functionality in both my legs (toes to hips), it is chronic there. Also my arms (fingers to shoulders) are affected since it is a condition that can spread (CRPS). I went through a stage of anger as well. It lasted a good 10 years for me. I am 45 going on 46 now and it has "settled" a bit but it can still get difficult for me. Hang in there! I really admire you. Lots of hugs and greetings, from Belgium!
Megan is such a beautiful, strong and honest down to earth girl, seriously what’s there not to like. Thank you Megan for your inspirational videos.
Thank you for sharing your soul with people you don’t know! I appreciate your channel so much! I found you after my shoulder surgery when I wanted to see if it were possible to learn how to put my own hair up into a bun! My husband is doing a pretty good job but I can feel his annoyance sometimes! Anyway, thank you and you touch people with your insight and wisdom more than you know!
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Anger is the toughest emotion I have experienced so far. It’s been 2 years since my leg amputation and that anger still pops up. Ugh!!!
Please post on the next stages, this is incredibly inspiring. Thank you.
I want you to know that you are a delight to listen to and that a lot of us are here for you because you have a heart and you have a story that we need to hear so we do want to hear more about you and I want to encourage you to continue to share despite some of the ways and things that people show in their ignorance. I know that you have beautiful gifts and you have an amazing personality and you have so much to offer and I want to thank you for having the courage to share your story and be vulnerable and open your heart. Thank you.
I lost my dentures and can't play the trumpet anymore but my dentures are not an arm so I decided to pick up the double bass and the guitar. I like your videos. Thanks!
the more love you get hte more love you can GIVE, ICONIC.REVOLUTIONARY.
I am very glad that you shared all of this on this video about anger and about your life
she deserves more than 45k subscribers she’s definitely an inspiration to anyone going through hard times.
I'm so excited!(even though the topic could lean towards the sad side) but your videos are so inspiring! Thank you~
Ka Ly her attitude is amazing, and she's beautiful, just perfect!
Please keep posting videos on how you came to accept your situation 🙏🏻
In November 2020, I stepped off a 35ft bridge. I still get flashbacks to this day of the event and that feeling of falling. I fractured both of my heels and sometimes it feels so surreal that it happened, it feels like I'm in some kind of parallel universe to what should have happened. In a sense, I guess that's denial. Sometimes I get angry with my mum and dad because at the time, I said I was too stressed to go to college but it wasn't really listened to. Nothing that I said really ever kind of got heard in a way. I've never had a good bond with my dad either so in terms of growing up, there's a lot of fear about becoming an adult. The surgeon said my feet will never be the same so in a sense, that's a grieving process as they can't move side to side anymore. That's tough, sometimes I'll feel bad about being angry but that anger comes from a place of hurt and frustration at why they chose what to do earlier in my life with looking after me.
In my comments after Megan's 1st grieving video I spoke of having a Grief Counselor. After we had met for 3 weeks she said, "Jim, I think you're doing well but I have one big concern." What's that? "You don't seem to be angry." So we spent the next three weeks digging into why I was not angry. After that period she relented and said, "I've practiced for 30 years and have not seen this before, but I am accepting that you really aren't burying any feelings about anger." I think at this stage my left brain kicked in (I've usually been measured with brain function right down the middle) and I said, "Jackie, for me anger must have an object. I have no idea who I should be angry with. I'm not angry with her (my deceased wife) because this was not her idea. I am not angry at God because her death was the natural consequences of a mortal world. I'm not angry with myself because I certainly didn't cause this. So exactly who am I supposed to be angry with. IF you'll give me someone to yell at...believe me I"ll yell...but there is no one. And unlike the coyotes around here (I was in Texas) I don't think howling at the moon does much good." End of chapter on my Anger. Megan's story is different. No two grieving experiences are alike. She had elements of her life suddenly changed from which there was no return. BUT, interestingly, I can remember telling friends, myself, that death was like an amputation...eventually it heals and you get around...but there is always something missing. 23 years later I still feel the same.
Dear Megan. I had just turned 11 when my father passed away suddenly he was one day short of his 34th birthday. My angry phase was very long. It was a life changing event but I have tried to keep it from becoming a life defining event. I am sure you have read or studied Kubbler-Ross’s work on the five stages of grieving (death and dying). If you ask someone I forgive you be prepared for them to say no, but that is ok they are being honest with you. It is your responsibility to ask forgiveness but you have no control over the response of anyone else. God bless you and continue being strong!
Jesus is so close to those that grieve and go through such horrible trauma. I lost my mom dad and sister in a month 2 weeks apart I can relate and understand and I can just feel you naturally because of the gifting that I have in the Lord and I know that this has not been easy for you and I want to encourage you to continue to ask Father questions and have faith that Father will answer and comfort and strengthen you in Christ in a way that would draw you closer to Him who loves you and is calling out to your ❤ even now in Jesus name amen
You are killin’ the RUclips game, Megan! ❤️ Alyx and I live together now and every time we see that you’ve posted, we sit down to watch together ☺️
Love this Megan. This is so helpful to others going through the grieving process. I love watching your videos from the start and think this series is great. Thank you for sharing your own experiences with us.
Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I haven't lost an arm or anything that hectic but its really help me realise what I'm going through atm and how to react to it. Love your channel and your personality, you're awesome! Lots of love from France
Yes and lots of 14-16 girls can struggle with their anger so it's even more understandable . I really liked the bit you said about 'self love' which is an important part of any healing process 💕❤️x
Thank you so much. Your tips are helpfull .inspiering ⭐️
At 14 had a stroke and lost my arm function. And party my leg . I went trou similar stages with out knowing.
I cant wait to see your next video
Really helpful video. Love how smart and articulate you are! That's a great choice of background color IMO. Thanks for doing what you do 😘
hello Megan, sometimes I'm still at this stage and what affects me the most is to be angry with my mom when she's my hero and role model, I fight my head to not be like this but my emotions explode to her, I hope these emotions go away soon because I'm a happy person, but sometimes something dark appears in my heart and I hate that
Your background is awesome. You're so pretty. Thanks for sharing. Seriously appreciate it
your videos are always inspirational Megan.
I love you xxx
Such a legend ❤️
You are such an motivation, thank you!!
Such a nice message to hear! Thanks for the video!!!
You are just so cool idk 🤷🏽♀️
Yes, as you said in this video... more about your life would be great. I do understand the privacy issue as well as the need to not be "on" all the time. In my apartment building, I am an emotional rock, and people want my attention - even when I'm struggling to just get past them without falling, carrying something heavy to my car or whatnot; however, I am very interested in hearing more about your life (as I am interested in other people around me. Does that sound creepy? After losing half my brain, I sometimes can't tell. If so, I do apologize. And thanks for teaching me how to do some of the things I hadn't already figured out.
You are so incredibly beautiful! I feel like I have no reason to feel any loss. I only lost half of my thumb - 5 days ago.
I lost my leg After a car accident where i also lost my dad when i was 7... I thought more about my dad and was more though the stages because of my dad than my leg...
I was diagnosed with a stage 4 cancer and people wouldn’t stop telling me they’ll pray and always be there I was always so annoyed and I knew it was my fake friends. The process is rough I had a 10% chance of living so I thought I was done I’m fine now but I understand the struggle girl
Nearly 40 years ago I had a traffic accident in which my leg broke into 6 pieces. After a few weeks something seemed to go very wrong and I nearly lost the leg. Nearly... but the doctors managed to rescue it. However, I was angry for a long time, especially withvthe driver who caused the accident.
Thank you for the words of encouragement! ❤️
I believe in the stages I do agree
Thank you for your story. You are so helpful
Megan, where are your new videos? I hope you're doing well and we see you soon!
that intro is badass actually
Thanks for this one.
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Im not positive but I think when they were discrediting the stages of grief they were discovering that there is no specific order and sometimes you can repeat steps and it takes everyone a different amount of time to work through it.
whats the name of your nail color
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Love you, too beautiful. God bless
You angry? Pfffttt! Just kidding. Your human. And anger & fear go hand in hand. Going somewhere in life you’ve never been IS scary. How you deal and get through it make you who you are. I hope you can find the right balance between your channel to help others, and sharing some of your personal life entertain us as well. Thanks MA. ☮️
really lovely person
Megan you are very beautiful
hello beautiful how are you doing? big hugs from Budapest for you!