This is true, though I have gotten to the point of not feeling any emotion. I have gotten rather good at bottling them up and hiding everything, except happiness... I can fake that one all day long as it is expected and accepted by those around me.
Seems to be difficult because both are relative conditions, depending on the person and situation. Should have a strong base to be made into a video and not from a subjective POV.
Yeah I like that idea. I myself at 25 have never dated, and while it’s my choice I still sometimes get lonely, feel negative and neglected. So videos on the topic would be amazing💗
This is my forever advice for romantic relationships: u need good friends first, a good romance starts with friendship, a bad romance starts with rah rah ah ah ah roma roma ma gah gah oo lala
@@hankhill3417 being friends and friedzone isnt the same though, just ask if you can go a bit further whenever you feel like its time, if its a no, stay friends or do whatever, if its a yes, tada you have a partner
@@TheNightShinesBright yea but then you might end up as friends with benefits for years, catch feelings and then some guy like me comes along and marries the girl you are in love with, or at least have some feelings for. True anecdotal story. Then I gotta deal with them both (literally talked to the dude for a full day) cuz they couldnt fully let eachother go, fuckin annoying
1. 0:29 - They don't talk about or plan a future with you 2. 1:02 - They can talk the talk, but they won't ever walk the walk 3. 1:32 - You're feeling a lot of negativity from the relationship 4. 2:20 - Your partner thinks love is an emotion 5. 3:11 - They don't make any effort 6. 3:37 - There is either no PDA, or all the PDA (public displays of affection)
"Love is not an emotion" Oh my God. This statement just lingers in my head, needing to be solved. I've always thought that love is an emotion, but now that i think of it, it's other feelings of happiness and excitement which are the emotions.
Love is a verb. Love is all the things you do for someone because you care about them and want to make them feel good, all the ways you have empathy and show compassion towards them, both when you feel like it and especially when you don’t 💕
Love is a deep, transcendental feeling though, something I feel in my heart, something positive but also kind of neutral in a sense, something I can feel for both for someone and from someone, whether I’m in a positive or negative mood or mindset, whether times are good or bad. I’ve felt it for family Maybe it’s not an emotion, but it is a feeling, not an action, imo. Just like emotions are symptoms of love, actions are symptoms of love too, not the love itself.
1.Dont plan a future with you. 2. Fail to show you they love you with their actions. 3. Feelings of negativity from relationship 4.partner thinks love is an emotion instead of a complex mental function. 5.they don’t make any effort and aren’t trying to grow as a person 6. no pda or excessive pda. 7.treatment alone vs in public
I just got out of a relationship exactly like this. Sure, being with a closeted women and being an open one makes things difficult, but when you constantly feel not good enough until you're alone with her and she treats you differently around people shes out to, it's just hard to bare.
It's not your fault mate. You did what you could. I hope you feel better, and to let you know... I feel like shit 24/7. I'm never happy... I still care.
@@nigelthornberry9073 Don´t feel like shit brother. We are all going to make it. It might take a while, but we will eventually reach our goals and happiness cuz we all deserve it. . You are amazing stay focused don´t give up. It is simple, but it is not going to be easy, but i know you are going to make it. I believe in you. "As iron sharpens iron so one man sharpens another"
@@JenSumma there's a lot of reasons a person would remain closeted that have more to do with survival than maturity - but yes, it's still very difficult to feel like you have to be someone else's secret
I think love is the most important thing in the world, we want it and need it, even though some people think they need only money, but a lack of love in their childhood effected them in a negative way and they can’t recognize it, so I truly believe we need love in our life to be happier
As a disabled person who has trouble even taking care of himself let alone others, this hit hard. I want to find a relationship but it may never be in the cards if I can't _do_ enough for my partner.
You can compliment her, be thoughtful to her, buy her birthday and anniversary gifts (online if you can't go to the shops). How badly disabled are you? Are you quadraplegic or completely paralyzed? Can you hold her hand? Can you visit places with her? You can listen to her problems without interrupting. You can notice when she is tired. Can you make her a cup of tea? Can you massage her shoulders or give her a back-rub? Can you buy her flowers for no particular reason? Can you text her? Can you show her that you truly care about her and her happiness? I am sure there are very many things you can give to a relationship, so don't put yourself down. I think that most people just want someone who is kind, genuine and caring. Good luck.
Bud, you’ll find love and your disability won’t take you away from love, only the feeling of not being enough will. Someone is bound to fall in love with you, allow it, own it and have fun, you deserve it ❤️
Your disability shall not in any way thwart your plans to establish a relationship with someone, the one which you have always hankered for. You do not necessarily have to be perfect or go on about to display obeisance in token of a relationship, because there will always be that one amazing person who accepts and supports you for who you are, notwithstanding your flaws (▰˘◡˘▰)
Thank you for this video. This is reminded me of what my previous relationship was like. They never included me in their future plans, never made any effort, and was extremely cold and negligent of my feelings. So I decided to choose myself and left. It was hard coping with feelings of betrayal and self-esteem issues for almost a year, but I healed. I'm now in a relationship where I feel loved and included, and I can't express enough how happy I am now. Always be kind to yourself, if you don't feel loved and your partner isn't putting in any effort in the relationship, leave! Prioritize your mental health and feelings, you are worth so much more than you think! Healthy relationships are a two-way street!
Love affects your mind body and soul, when someone says they love you and leads you on a charade of lies and manipulation it will mess with you long term!
I really like this video, it really hits home because when we are in love its so easy to not see red flags and ultimately could very well leave us in a state of insecurity and depression that could take years of building ourselves up. I love these videos. They are such a big inspiration in my life and motivation when i was once too "lost" in my own life. Thank you for the continious uploads!
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He talked about our future, exerted too much effort, and told me sweet words, but whatever he made me feel were all fake. They are getting good at pretending now. It looks realistic until you find out that you are not the only getting that kind of treatment.
"we are getting married" "I want to have kids with you" "I really love you" it's simple enough to say these things with a mask over their face that hides their true intentions 😡😡
Silver lining at least you now know and won't be wasting any more of your time with this individual. Give yourself some time to heal and spend it with the people that truly care about you. Best luck.
This comment isn't super related to the topic but I've been binging your videos the past few days on signs your partner is losing interest or signs someone is falling out of love because I've felt like my boyfriend was losing interest. Just a few weeks ago my boyfriend and I were talking and having great interactions. Out of nowhere he stops talking to me, he's too busy to talk or hang out or even play a game together yet I see him talking to people and hanging out with others constantly. I finally ask if he's even interested in me anymore, guess he's not. Guess for no reason the closest relationship I've ever had ends for god knows why. It hurts even more knowing right when he stopped talking to me he started hanging out with some new people over me. I literally have no idea what to do now, I have zero motivation to do anything even the things I really enjoyed. Still, I have no idea what I did or what happened and I really want to find out why he suddenly had no interest in me but I don't have any energy anymore. Now I've been watching your other videos on how to get over breakups hoping I can get over whatever I'm feeling as quick as possible. Thinking back after watching this it's more clear to me he didn't enjoy this relationship as much as I did so that gives me a bit of closeure. Thank you though, for making such good content. Outside of this I feel like it's helped me a ton so again, thank you.
I've gone through the same situation as yours but in my case, it seems to me the signs he didn't like me enough to start a relationship were there since the beginning but now that I'm out of the relationship I can see things clearly. I decided to talk to him and break up because I felt it wasn't healthy for me to stay in a relationship where I'm not a priority and it is also bad for him that he isn't totally free to do whatever he wants. It's been almost five months we are apart and I can see now that we just weren't meant to be. The worst thing for me was that he should have been honest and told me it wasn't working instead of continuing the relationship. It still hurts but much less than before. I'm in the process to understand what I can learn from this situation I've lived and what I can do to have a better one next time (hopefully 😅). I just wrote this to try to help you see that things are going to get better, I know it sounds cliché but that's true. Focus on your healing, if you want to cry, cry. You have yourself, so try to be your best friend. Later, you'll see things clearly and even understand that your relationship with him, the way it was, is not something you had dreamed of before and better things are on your way. Take your time now to prepare yourself to receive them. May God be with you and give you the best you can have from this life. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
The funny part it's that we feel the distance we feel that things aren't the same but we fool ourself that it's just impression. But that intuition have a reason put attention to it.
@@bitshous exactly!! I realized I was giving myself excuses for his behavior. I saw a part of a song today that says "I know that you feed me lies and I keep swallowing them every time just to say your mine" I identified myself so much in it.
I have just gone through something very similar. My first relation, things were very good for almost 2 years. But for some reason at the end she started losing emotions and interest, she didn't want to talk as much with me or discuss our problems and just freaking communicate like couples should do. Started blaming me for everything saying how she wants friends and to do more things and aaa..first breakup, was a bad one, she started hating me for no reason..now i have been addicted to this channel finding out many things i had no idea of and trying to learn about myself while dealing with the depression.
Sometimes people find themselves gravitating away from each other if they turn out to be less compatible than you seemed at the start. However, if your S.O. switches all of the sudden from a very intensely affectionate and love-bombing relationship to one where either they're always busy, making excuses to either not see you or neglect your needs and feelings, or prioritizing others over you (especially in public arenas like social media), it could be a sign of falling victim to the emotional manipulation of a narcissist. I hope that this is not the case for you, just remember to be mindful of this so you don't beat yourself up in scenarios where a toxic person is intentionally trying to hurt you and make you feel this way. You are worthy and deserve real love!
My ex said I "faked" my love for her. I did the opposite of everything in this video. Sure, I only saw her as someone who I didnt see myself in a relationship in when we first dated, but over time I did love her. Tho she says I never did. At least I know I that I was doing something right. Thanks for this, makes me feel not like a complete price of crap❤
The fact that I relate to majority of these signs hits hard. I always try to love my partner and show them that I care, but maybe there’s a reason why it never feels enough. Maybe it isn’t enough at all. Talking about a future is something that always hits a nerve, and in a bad way. I often smile and nod, but I never like planning about it. It’s always the present. But my partner, on the other hand, is enthusiastic about the life we could spend together. Actions are a little… difficult when we see each other face-to-face so little. High school relationships can be hectic, especially when it comes to seeing each other. I see a handful of my friends more than I see him. We both have strict parents. The relationship seems to have a bit of a negative air for me. Sometimes I’m happy, but sometimes it just feels downright depressing. And I know my partner is trying his best to keep me content, and I’m trying my best to appear grateful for all the support. But I can’t help but feel that something is wrong. I hope he doesn’t feel the same way. And I’m always hesitant on any PDA while he’s… overzealous, so to say. I can’t as much as utter a quiet “I love you” in public, and when in private, a hug is all that I can really manage. I just wish that things like this were easier for me. I’d guess that all this also links to my aromanticism. I just never feel that spark, that excitement, that other people might feel. Relationships, in the long run… they’re foreign to me. And I don’t know if they’ll ever be familiar to me.
i totally understand what you are saying. i’m going through that right now with my bf. the thing is we’ve been together for 9 months now and its been really hard for the both us and i’ve slowed realized that i don’t love him in the way i should, being in a relationship. this is a conversation i’ve had with him a few times now and i’ve felt terrible knowing how i felt and still being in the relationship with him. i thought that the best choice is for us is to break up because it just didn’t feel right or fair to him when he would give me all his love and effort to me when i didn’t feel the same but he constantly chooses not to let me go. we have so many issues and problems that we could never make solutions to, and we would have talks about how he never felt loved with me or felt special and it hurts knowing he feels that way. this relationship doesn’t feel right to me and i just feel like i’m constantly hurting him but he just wants to continue the relationship knowing how i feel about it. its just hurting and making everything worse.
@@jiaelleestelus3001 Relationships are not easy. There will always be one that will love more than the other. Problem is not only on your side and trust me as i am a man i know how your bf probably feels. Unfortunately a lot of the time we think that love is the same for both people and that we will get the same type of love as we give, but that is not the case most of the time. It just does not work that way. There will always be one that will love more and the other that will love less(but it can change as it can be you who loves more and then after a year it can be him etc.). There will be issues everytime idk what are yours or how serious they are, but the only think you can do is to communicate with your partner and try to fix it. If that tho is not an option anymore then there is nothing you can really do. Sometimes you just fall in love with a person that have almost nothing in common with you and that is fine as long as you can understand that and accept it, but you need to have the same goals or view on life as that is something you can´t change and cant compromise on. Once you sort it out you will know for sure, if the relationship is good or not good. No matter how you decide i hope you will feel better and your bf also. Have a nice day and take care.
@@jiaelleestelus3001 I hope you don't mind me saying, but I think you should end it if you KNOW that you will never be able to provide him with what he needs. But don't let anyone else tell you about your relationships, you must follow your heart. As long as we do that and act with honour then it will all work out x
My dear you have two options: 1. communicate a lot, do some deep analysis of your mind and soul, go to some specialist together/ alone if you must... just do NOT drown yourself in negative emotions. 2. end it here and now - there is big chance one of you will cheat. If you will drown in negativity, you will look for easy way out. If he... he just want to feel loved and he will fall for first sign of affection elsewhere.. not because he stops loving you, but because he wants to feel loved...... If you do neither 1 or 2 it will cost both of you PTSD and lost years maybe Good luck
As someone who got rigged by a girl showing plastic love, I can say this is all true. She never followed through with ANY plans to meet up like she said she would. Then when I try to talk to her about that, she starts to ghost me (even in person)! Of course I see her checking out some other guys within the next 2 days. People, if you don't like someone who is crushing on you, TELL. THEM. Stop playing these stupid anime games. Edit: Just an FYI, I have moved on already. I feel way better now and I'm happily looking for a girl worth my time and effort.
She might like you and has commitment issues. She has her guard up every time you try to see her maybe bc she’s scared of getting hurt. There could be million other reasons too. Communicate with her.
They both need love and respect. That saying came to be, because sometimes men, in their imperfection, tend to get wrapped up in logic and ambition, and sometimes forgets that the woman needs to be shown that tender and vulnerable love. While women, in their imperfection, tend to be much more emotional. So when they are upset and extra emotional, they sometimes forget to exercise self-control and respect, and sometimes say disrespectful things. So that saying is just a reminder to help a man and a woman to strengthen their particular weak points in a romantic relationship. I forgot to mention that it's actually mentioned this way in the bible also.
Wish I had seen this when I foolishly thought getting married to the fakest person on the planet was a good idea. Thank you for all your hard work and all the helpful & informative content, it means a lot even more so when you didnt know you had 20+ years of trauma because traumatic behavior was the norm growing up....wasnt until my late 20s that I realized my journey had been VERY different from most peoples and that my "authority figure" was a full blown narcissist....which unfortunately made me subconsciously attracted to narcissists and narcissistic behaviors. I've been single since 2020 and have been doing all I can to heal, grow, trust myself and bring peace to my life....but truthfully Im worried that I will still attract a covert narcissist or someone who just wants to see what they can get out of the situation (free meals, validation, attention with no intention of reciprocating, etc). Any thoughts Amanda....maybe this topic deserves a video...? I like to hear your feed back on this if possible. Anyways, thanks again.
Could you possibly make a video about different reasons why some people may feel suicidal, because the people who struggle with this have different reasons and mindsets as to why they feel that way, (ex. some people may want to because they can’t handle the immense stress they feel, and other want to because they feel like they cause immense pain to others), and I think it would be very educational for people to learn about these different reasons.
Wisp, I hope you're okay. And if this comment is about a friend of yours, I hope s/he is okay. Please reach out (or encourage your friend to reach out) to a counselor or trusted professional to talk about these feelings. Keeping suicidal thoughts held-in/hidden, they can get worse and become life-threatening. If you don't (your friend doesn't) have access to counseling, talk to a primary doctor (also called "general practitioner" or "family doctor") about this-they may have some good ideas. If you're at college/university, go to your school's health clinic or counseling office, to talk about this. Please don't be afraid to get help. Treat these thoughts & feelings as seriously as you would treat a physical wound that isn't getting better. If the suicidal feelings or the pressures/life-issues keep happening, or get any worse, and you're in the U.S., dial 988, the new national hotline where you or your friend can talk to a counselor 24/7. Or you can go to the Lifeline website 988lifeline.org, if you or your friend would rather do an online chat/message with a counselor rather than a phone call. If you hit the "get help" or "learn" tab at the top of the screen, you may also find the info. there to be helpful. You are not alone. Many are dealing with these feelings, or know others who are. Help does make a difference. Please Gd I hope you (& your friend) are safe, and that things get better and better. ❤
@@sherila4834 The reason why I wrote this was because of a previous experience with a friend of mine who was having these sorts of talks. Thankfully, she went to a medical professional and got the help she needed, but I felt bad because I didn’t notice the signs and even if I did, I didn’t know how to help her. So I thought it would be nice if they could make more educational videos about this kind of topic, and this was the one I first thought of.
When I was little I always used to think “love is the meaning of life”, I’d dream about finding “the one” and being together forever, loving each other, growing old together and having each other’s backs. I wanted to give my heart and soul to someone... even now, I want that...all I do is read and watch romance or stories that have characters I can obsess over. But... I feel I am incapable of falling in love... I don’t know how... I never have... and I don’t think I will... I’m going to die alone and I’m not really sure how to deal with that.🙃 How do I find love?
The meaning of life is different to everyone. It's what makes you feel happy, not necessarily what others expect you to feel happy about. If love comes to you, most of the times it's not when you expected it or planned it to. If it doesn't, that's also fine! Actual relationships are always different from fiction. No matter if you're in a romantic relationship or not, always treasure positive platonic relationships. That way, you won't die alone. I hope this helps!
@@missoffline1866 I appreciate your reply. I want to find love because it’s what I want rather than what’s expected of me... I think it would make me really happy. I’m also a bit hopeless at platonic relationships too though.😅 That said, I’m planning to rescue lots of dogs in the future (when I’m able to). Dogs love unconditionally and I want to give them love and a good home. A sweet doggos smile and tail wag will always brighten my day. I guess I should focus on that!!
@@dullpencil3257 Don´t want to be rude or anything, but i had the same thoughts as you do. Unfortunately as you grow older you will find out, that love will not make you happy(at least not the romantic love) because in order to have a meaningful relationship that works. You need to be happy with yourself first. Relationships may or may not make your life better or worse. Also a fact, that most people don´t really know... falling in love is nice emotion, but love as a real love is not an emotion at all. It is just a way of thinking about the other side as you no longer have this insane feeling(thank god you would not be able to do anything, if that was the case), but it is more like including your partner in everything you can and thinking about them and basicaly you start thinking as a pair not as an individual. Even tho ofc you have your time and hobbies. Nevertheless i hope you will succed in your goals and save as many dogs as you can. Also i hope you will find your happiness and love one day. One person, that will value you for who you are and you will be happier with them. Bless you and have a nice day.
I used to think like that before. I never looked for love, love found me. I just remained open minded and tried to build something together. I was married 2 times, became a widow and never regretted anything. Love will find you and I'm sure, at the place and circumstances you are never expecting... Just keep your eyes open and hope alive
Love is an energy not a complex mental thing. It all depends on mental, emotional, physical & spiritual state of the human being who uses the energy called Love. If the user is not foundationally balanced, they will misuse any energy out there. Love is an energy that you feel and your emotions are associated with your feelings, you can't think Love. If you think its mental, then you are not truly in love
All the exes I’ve had showed these signs… yet I couldn’t leave, but they left on their own. I don’t know if that was good or bad for me to do..but I feel like, I did my best in the relationship, they didn’t like. When I’ve been nothing but supportive, loving, kind, telling what is right and wrong.. I survived them with my heart and self worth broken all the time.. thank you for this video. 💔
I just caught on to the Mariya Takeuchi reference/easter egg with the thumbnail. This channel does not cease to amaze & amuse. I love the content immensely and yet these small details make my day.
this was my relationship to T unfortunately and it hurt so much when she cheated on me and she didn't regret or feel ashamed about doing it 😞. Months later, a lot of beautiful young women talk to ma and find me attractive and a lot of great paying job opportunities have opened up for me while she's in another relationship 3 months after breaking up.
Idk if you have same reactions as me but at some point every girl you like or talk to you like you want them to be ur gf but struggle to find that difference BTW friend or potential gf
@@Aesthetic626 yup. In the middle of a conversation with a girl I've met 5 minutes ago, my brain automatically starts to visualize relationship with her.. disgusting
@@dimitarenev5704 There's a way to take it slow. Try to understand her and if she is single and shows interest in you then there might be a chance. If she doesn't show signs then she isn't the one. That's what I'm doing like built a friendship if she is single then see where it goes but if she is not interested or so then it's time to move on or just stay as friends
Honestly, I feel quite bad for the people that had to be my love at one point. I love them but i can't help but do what 1 says, I like to go with the flow because I'm scared of plans going.. sideways. And I can't do 6 either, I'm very conserved, although I'll show affection in the house, I have difficulty doing it in public. it just makes me feel bad that i can't do these things.
From someone who just got out of a relationship like this: I got the "go with the flow" line too. Multiple times. It is not about the plans. It is rarely is. We want to see if you think about us in the future. If you see that future with us. Maybe instead of solid plans, you can say "I would love to go to Disney land with you one day". If it goes wrong communicate with them that you tried. The thought is what counts. The going with-the-flow mentality kept drowning me because I never got the memo that they tried or they thought about it.
@@zorasilver1519 I guess I could try to work on it, but I've almost never had a relationship where the person misunderstood my "Go-with-the-flow" attitude because I try to state it before the relationship gets too serious. I should probably still work on it though, I do want to show my SO that I plan a future with them, and I want to stay with them. Could you give me some advice on how I could show it?
@@TabbyCatq (I can only suggest what would have worked for me so take this with a grain of salt and btw, I got the line after the first date) I think the best for this is clear communication and to show it in your actions. Keep them in your thoughts and try to keep them at a healthy priority (you and your health first obviously but don't leave them always lower than casual friends and hobbies.) The plans part applies to everyday plans too. I for one did now get a second date for months while being together because every time her friends, parents or hobbies were more important. And if it really is more important maybe try to involve them in it. Bring them closer to your life. Ask them questions about what they want this future to look like? Any places they want to visit? Dream job? Get into a conversation about the common things you two find. It is not enough to just say 'I love you' and be done with it. Relationships are work. It is building a bridge between two people. You don't need to rush but start building...meet them halfway.
These really hit home with me. I had a short-lived relationship back in late Dec. -Early Jan. When he texted me, he would say how he "loved" me & how he was "so happy" I was in his life. However, face to face, it was a complete 180. He was always saying that I "could not be trusted" & I was "twisting his words around" when I caught him in lies. The 2 dates we were on ended in fights. He then blocked me on all social media, phone & email. I later learned from a mutual friend that this guy was "ashamed" of me because I was almost 22 years older than him, that I was so "fat" & that he didn't accept I was an Empath because "Empaths are not in the Bible. I am now using the knowledge you share in this channel & working with an Empathic Counselor to set boundaries, notice "red flags", & just take better care of my emotional, pathological & Empathic self. It's close to 8 months now, & still no "peep" from this dude; however, the "Empath" in me warns that he's gonna try for a comeback. This time, I'm ready.
having the same feelings about my new relationship; sometimes days go by between texts, I'm always the first to reach out or she just seems so far away even though she promises so much...a girl i was with for 5 years broke up with me over a year ago and my new relationship does not feel the same but I don't wanna prepare for the worst; I just want to be loved
I’m gonna be honest that’s already a big red flag and shows you that she ain’t the one, if she really loves you, you wouldn’t need to always reach out and she wouldn’t always take days to reply
Tell me about it. I recently had a conversation with a girl I liked through text. I put in more effort than her and she put in less. For example, some of here responses would simply be "lol" that's it. At that moment I knew she wasn't the right girl for me. It's kinda heartbreaking. Psa she is also single
@@Aesthetic626 Sometimes that can say more about you than her, maybe you arent doing a very good job at making conversation, or maybe she just isnt interested, this isnt me trying to say that its your fault that shes being dry, but its good to keep in mind that its not always the other person completely at fault
@@Crit7k I'm okay at conversations. It's just at times she never ask me any questions or doesn't seem interested. I can be boring at times but if the other side doesn't put the effort to continue the conversation then it becomes harder. One time I texted her and she took 3 hours for 1 response that could have been real quick to answer.
@@Aesthetic626 my current bf is like that and also a mute, the smallest word I got out from him was "ok" and that's it, haven't seen him in over 2 weeks 😞😞
:| damn thx for a a mean comment and it's not a dude it's a girl and I'm girl, I basically didn't nothing wrong. we are only taking time to think if we should be a Relationship, no need to be damn rude.
Don't know if this helps but my opinion is yes take time and make sure it is right for both of you. I'm what a lot of people call a nice guy and my opinion is I finish last but I don't really give up just go slow and make sure it is what we both want. Just recently divorced and in a so called relationship with a old girl friend, we text every day sometimes she is to busy at work to reply, I start most of the text but we work long days and hopefully we can find some time to spend a day together. Just do what you feel is right for both of you and don't worry about what other people think, only you can make yourself happy.👍😊
If someone shows any sort of interest in me, that person is faking. I am so socially inexperienced, that it is impossible for anybody to find me attractive. I am always on my highest guard to avoid becoming a victim to a social predator again. Thus, I am always very defensive when I have to be outside.
I wish I couldn't but I relate to this, just got out of my first relationship a few months ago, was made to be the bad guy but it was my ex who treated me horribly, and I was the one who got tossed out, sucks.
After watching this it truly has hit home for me. But however I was the one that have faked love before or I would say faking attraction. I have dated people that I never had any chemical reactions of Attraction or love of any kind mainly because of their physicality pertaining to obesity. Main reason why was because I was gaslighted by people in my life that I shouldn’t be shallow and should lower my standards and to “Love someone only on the inside and learn to see through there appearances” end quote from them. The guilt tripping was so bad that I thought there was something wrong with me to have a preference that finding athletic built types of people wether that be men or women to be more attractive enough I do feel a magnetic chemistry enough to wanting to get to know them out of interest. Sadly enough 4 or 8 failed relationships later, I’ve wasted a lot on people that I didn’t have any forms of attraction towards them because of the physical problems. I loved them for their personality, confidence and humor and achievements they had but as for sex wise and intimate wise there was nothing but discomfort and unease. Disgust and inadequacy. If taking viagara wasn’t bad enough to try and make things work even if it did for a short period of time, there was no emotional gratification and it felt vain. I quit the dating scene because of all the unsatisfied relationships I’ve had based in my choice but was influenced wrongfully for it. Let’s just say it’s better off not to settle for less and really go for what works for you
my ex didn’t love me while i loved them very much for a little over two years. if you feel these signs relate to u pls don’t ignore them like i did. i tried to bring them up but when it didn’t go how i wanted i stopped trying if this is the case with ur relationship as well as hard as it is they are likely going to leave u and it hurt even worse so u might as take control of the situation and talk it out or end things all together. in my experience staying friends didn’t work because the habit of trying to make them love me was too hard to break. our “friendship” lasted two weeks lmao so pls pls pls end it altogether
Most importantly if you ever have to question if they love you, more than likely they don’t or just have issues expressing it outwardly. But even if it’s the later do you really want to second guess someone’s feelings? There are so many people out there who will show you how lovable you are 💗
I don't have a lover but this is how my dad is with me. he's only nice to me in front of others but is cruel to me in private or with certain friends or family.
It has been 4 years since my last relationship ended and i thought i give this video, a watch out of curiosity to see how close it would get. I expected to get one maybe 2 that would kinda fit. Now after i saw the video i'm really surprised and hurt because, turns out, the person i loved like no other in my life, actually never truely loved me back. Every point matched to a tee. Love seems to really made me blind for her. Thank you Psych2Go to finally let me break the glorified Image i had of her and get her out of my head.
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I just don’t trust anyone when they say they like me at this point every girl I talk to pretends they like me so I don’t even know if it’s true but I keep it at fake
HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY THIS TOPIC REMINDS OF MY PARTNE, MOTHER , THE LAST TIME MY PARENT MOTHER TOLD ME THAT SHE LOVE ME I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL OVER 7 YEARS AGO, BUT NOW SHE TELLS ME THAT SHE WISH I WAS NEVER BORN , THANK YOU PARENT MOTHER HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE, OG NEED LOVE TO 💯🙏🖤
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We're going to need a lot of "it's okay to be single" and "it's ok if you can't feel love" videos to balance things out ♡
This is true, though I have gotten to the point of not feeling any emotion. I have gotten rather good at bottling them up and hiding everything, except happiness... I can fake that one all day long as it is expected and accepted by those around me.
Seems to be difficult because both are relative conditions, depending on the person and situation. Should have a strong base to be made into a video and not from a subjective POV.
Yeah I like that idea. I myself at 25 have never dated, and while it’s my choice I still sometimes get lonely, feel negative and neglected. So videos on the topic would be amazing💗
I don't know what to say...if Ms. Amanda Silvera is narrating a horror story #Psych2Go 🤔
THIS!!
This is my forever advice for romantic relationships: u need good friends first, a good romance starts with friendship, a bad romance starts with rah rah ah ah ah roma roma ma gah gah oo lala
Friend zone is a permanent place
@@hankhill3417 being friends and friedzone isnt the same though, just ask if you can go a bit further whenever you feel like its time, if its a no, stay friends or do whatever, if its a yes, tada you have a partner
@@TheNightShinesBright yea but then you might end up as friends with benefits for years, catch feelings and then some guy like me comes along and marries the girl you are in love with, or at least have some feelings for. True anecdotal story. Then I gotta deal with them both (literally talked to the dude for a full day) cuz they couldnt fully let eachother go, fuckin annoying
@@jackmemphis777 but that’s not everyone, it happens, yeah, but some actually let go, you were just unlucky man
Watch out for romanceeeee 🎶🎶
1. 0:29 - They don't talk about or plan a future with you
2. 1:02 - They can talk the talk, but they won't ever walk the walk
3. 1:32 - You're feeling a lot of negativity from the relationship
4. 2:20 - Your partner thinks love is an emotion
5. 3:11 - They don't make any effort
6. 3:37 - There is either no PDA, or all the PDA (public displays of affection)
WOW you guys must have followed my wife around!
Thank you
@@JoseFranc it seems that you’re learning early that some women or men or are gardening tools
I thought this was just a normal comment section
@@MrRickyvida wtf
Love is a verb, not a feeling or a saying.
you clearly never been loved before
Watch a person's ACTIONS,
And you'll never be fooled by his/her words.💖
"Love is not an emotion" Oh my God. This statement just lingers in my head, needing to be solved. I've always thought that love is an emotion, but now that i think of it, it's other feelings of happiness and excitement which are the emotions.
Love is a verb. Love is all the things you do for someone because you care about them and want to make them feel good, all the ways you have empathy and show compassion towards them, both when you feel like it and especially when you don’t 💕
nope. it's action. and we can learn it.
Love is a deep, transcendental feeling though, something I feel in my heart, something positive but also kind of neutral in a sense, something I can feel for both for someone and from someone, whether I’m in a positive or negative mood or mindset, whether times are good or bad. I’ve felt it for family
Maybe it’s not an emotion, but it is a feeling, not an action, imo. Just like emotions are symptoms of love, actions are symptoms of love too, not the love itself.
Love is a state of being.
Most don‘t have it or it‘s what is called „ape love“, fully accepted by society.
Society hates real love…
1.Dont plan a future with you.
2. Fail to show you they love you with their actions.
3. Feelings of negativity from relationship
4.partner thinks love is an emotion instead of a complex mental function.
5.they don’t make any effort and aren’t trying to grow as a person
6. no pda or excessive pda.
7.treatment alone vs in public
I just got out of a relationship exactly like this. Sure, being with a closeted women and being an open one makes things difficult, but when you constantly feel not good enough until you're alone with her and she treats you differently around people shes out to, it's just hard to bare.
It's not your fault mate. You did what you could. I hope you feel better, and to let you know... I feel like shit 24/7. I'm never happy... I still care.
@@nigelthornberry9073 Don´t feel like shit brother. We are all going to make it. It might take a while, but we will eventually reach our goals and happiness cuz we all deserve it. . You are amazing stay focused don´t give up. It is simple, but it is not going to be easy, but i know you are going to make it. I believe in you. "As iron sharpens iron so one man sharpens another"
I’m sorry I did I misunderstand the OP, you’re lesbian, no?
@@JenSumma there's a lot of reasons a person would remain closeted that have more to do with survival than maturity - but yes, it's still very difficult to feel like you have to be someone else's secret
That cover art has melted my heart 😭 I love Plastic Love 🥰
Love is not only an emotion but the feelings sure do count.
It's good to get yourself educated on psychological signs in relationships. Both good and bad. I hope everyone's day is better than your yesterday.
my yesterday is better than my today
I think love is the most important thing in the world, we want it and need it, even though some people think they need only money, but a lack of love in their childhood effected them in a negative way and they can’t recognize it, so I truly believe we need love in our life to be happier
As a disabled person who has trouble even taking care of himself let alone others, this hit hard. I want to find a relationship but it may never be in the cards if I can't _do_ enough for my partner.
im right there with ya. im physicaly disabled so being able to *do* enough for my partner has always been a huge struggle for me to!
The right person will understand and love you no matter what ❤️
You can compliment her, be thoughtful to her, buy her birthday and anniversary gifts (online if you can't go to the shops). How badly disabled are you? Are you quadraplegic or completely paralyzed? Can you hold her hand? Can you visit places with her? You can listen to her problems without interrupting. You can notice when she is tired. Can you make her a cup of tea? Can you massage her shoulders or give her a back-rub? Can you buy her flowers for no particular reason? Can you text her? Can you show her that you truly care about her and her happiness? I am sure there are very many things you can give to a relationship, so don't put yourself down. I think that most people just want someone who is kind, genuine and caring. Good luck.
Bud, you’ll find love and your disability won’t take you away from love, only the feeling of not being enough will. Someone is bound to fall in love with you, allow it, own it and have fun, you deserve it ❤️
Your disability shall not in any way thwart your plans to establish a relationship with someone, the one which you have always hankered for. You do not necessarily have to be perfect or go on about to display obeisance in token of a relationship, because there will always be that one amazing person who accepts and supports you for who you are, notwithstanding your flaws (▰˘◡˘▰)
Thank you for this video. This is reminded me of what my previous relationship was like. They never included me in their future plans, never made any effort, and was extremely cold and negligent of my feelings. So I decided to choose myself and left. It was hard coping with feelings of betrayal and self-esteem issues for almost a year, but I healed. I'm now in a relationship where I feel loved and included, and I can't express enough how happy I am now. Always be kind to yourself, if you don't feel loved and your partner isn't putting in any effort in the relationship, leave! Prioritize your mental health and feelings, you are worth so much more than you think! Healthy relationships are a two-way street!
Love affects your mind body and soul, when someone says they love you and leads you on a charade of lies and manipulation it will mess with you long term!
“did any of these points remind you of your partner?”
yup, all of them 😓
thank you for the perspective
I really like this video, it really hits home because when we are in love its so easy to not see red flags and ultimately could very well leave us in a state of insecurity and depression that could take years of building ourselves up. I love these videos. They are such a big inspiration in my life and motivation when i was once too "lost" in my own life. Thank you for the continious uploads!
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Yeah. I'd rather be single than going thru this similar cycle. 😅
He talked about our future, exerted too much effort, and told me sweet words, but whatever he made me feel were all fake. They are getting good at pretending now. It looks realistic until you find out that you are not the only getting that kind of treatment.
"we are getting married" "I want to have kids with you" "I really love you" it's simple enough to say these things with a mask over their face that hides their true intentions 😡😡
Silver lining at least you now know and won't be wasting any more of your time with this individual. Give yourself some time to heal and spend it with the people that truly care about you. Best luck.
Negative feelings towards themself menifesting into self sabotage !! This single line simply said the reason for my question why ? 😊
love is so complicated. I wish I had someone just like me who isnt afraid to show that they are in love with me.
This comment isn't super related to the topic but I've been binging your videos the past few days on signs your partner is losing interest or signs someone is falling out of love because I've felt like my boyfriend was losing interest.
Just a few weeks ago my boyfriend and I were talking and having great interactions. Out of nowhere he stops talking to me, he's too busy to talk or hang out or even play a game together yet I see him talking to people and hanging out with others constantly.
I finally ask if he's even interested in me anymore, guess he's not. Guess for no reason the closest relationship I've ever had ends for god knows why.
It hurts even more knowing right when he stopped talking to me he started hanging out with some new people over me.
I literally have no idea what to do now, I have zero motivation to do anything even the things I really enjoyed.
Still, I have no idea what I did or what happened and I really want to find out why he suddenly had no interest in me but I don't have any energy anymore.
Now I've been watching your other videos on how to get over breakups hoping I can get over whatever I'm feeling as quick as possible.
Thinking back after watching this it's more clear to me he didn't enjoy this relationship as much as I did so that gives me a bit of closeure.
Thank you though, for making such good content. Outside of this I feel like it's helped me a ton so again, thank you.
I've gone through the same situation as yours but in my case, it seems to me the signs he didn't like me enough to start a relationship were there since the beginning but now that I'm out of the relationship I can see things clearly.
I decided to talk to him and break up because I felt it wasn't healthy for me to stay in a relationship where I'm not a priority and it is also bad for him that he isn't totally free to do whatever he wants.
It's been almost five months we are apart and I can see now that we just weren't meant to be. The worst thing for me was that he should have been honest and told me it wasn't working instead of continuing the relationship.
It still hurts but much less than before. I'm in the process to understand what I can learn from this situation I've lived and what I can do to have a better one next time (hopefully 😅).
I just wrote this to try to help you see that things are going to get better, I know it sounds cliché but that's true. Focus on your healing, if you want to cry, cry. You have yourself, so try to be your best friend. Later, you'll see things clearly and even understand that your relationship with him, the way it was, is not something you had dreamed of before and better things are on your way. Take your time now to prepare yourself to receive them.
May God be with you and give you the best you can have from this life. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
The funny part it's that we feel the distance we feel that things aren't the same but we fool ourself that it's just impression. But that intuition have a reason put attention to it.
@@bitshous exactly!! I realized I was giving myself excuses for his behavior. I saw a part of a song today that says "I know that you feed me lies and I keep swallowing them every time just to say your mine" I identified myself so much in it.
I have just gone through something very similar. My first relation, things were very good for almost 2 years. But for some reason at the end she started losing emotions and interest, she didn't want to talk as much with me or discuss our problems and just freaking communicate like couples should do. Started blaming me for everything saying how she wants friends and to do more things and aaa..first breakup, was a bad one, she started hating me for no reason..now i have been addicted to this channel finding out many things i had no idea of and trying to learn about myself while dealing with the depression.
Sometimes people find themselves gravitating away from each other if they turn out to be less compatible than you seemed at the start. However, if your S.O. switches all of the sudden from a very intensely affectionate and love-bombing relationship to one where either they're always busy, making excuses to either not see you or neglect your needs and feelings, or prioritizing others over you (especially in public arenas like social media), it could be a sign of falling victim to the emotional manipulation of a narcissist. I hope that this is not the case for you, just remember to be mindful of this so you don't beat yourself up in scenarios where a toxic person is intentionally trying to hurt you and make you feel this way. You are worthy and deserve real love!
it's okay to not be okay, it's okay if you're single, it's okay, as a social reject i repeat that in my mind ❤
"If the world hates you, know that it has hated me first" - Jesus Christ.
@@SunshineSuperstar agreed
@@trulynoct Got another one for you that also rings true and us a bit less...religionie...
The more value something has the less people can afford it!
My ex said I "faked" my love for her. I did the opposite of everything in this video. Sure, I only saw her as someone who I didnt see myself in a relationship in when we first dated, but over time I did love her. Tho she says I never did. At least I know I that I was doing something right. Thanks for this, makes me feel not like a complete price of crap❤
It seems like she truly never tried to understand you if she was saying something you know is false by how you know you were feeling inside.
The animations really hit my heart. I can almost feel the emotions
The fact that I relate to majority of these signs hits hard. I always try to love my partner and show them that I care, but maybe there’s a reason why it never feels enough. Maybe it isn’t enough at all.
Talking about a future is something that always hits a nerve, and in a bad way. I often smile and nod, but I never like planning about it. It’s always the present. But my partner, on the other hand, is enthusiastic about the life we could spend together.
Actions are a little… difficult when we see each other face-to-face so little. High school relationships can be hectic, especially when it comes to seeing each other. I see a handful of my friends more than I see him. We both have strict parents.
The relationship seems to have a bit of a negative air for me. Sometimes I’m happy, but sometimes it just feels downright depressing. And I know my partner is trying his best to keep me content, and I’m trying my best to appear grateful for all the support. But I can’t help but feel that something is wrong. I hope he doesn’t feel the same way.
And I’m always hesitant on any PDA while he’s… overzealous, so to say. I can’t as much as utter a quiet “I love you” in public, and when in private, a hug is all that I can really manage. I just wish that things like this were easier for me.
I’d guess that all this also links to my aromanticism. I just never feel that spark, that excitement, that other people might feel. Relationships, in the long run… they’re foreign to me. And I don’t know if they’ll ever be familiar to me.
i totally understand what you are saying. i’m going through that right now with my bf. the thing is we’ve been together for 9 months now and its been really hard for the both us and i’ve slowed realized that i don’t love him in the way i should, being in a relationship. this is a conversation i’ve had with him a few times now and i’ve felt terrible knowing how i felt and still being in the relationship with him. i thought that the best choice is for us is to break up because it just didn’t feel right or fair to him when he would give me all his love and effort to me when i didn’t feel the same but he constantly chooses not to let me go. we have so many issues and problems that we could never make solutions to, and we would have talks about how he never felt loved with me or felt special and it hurts knowing he feels that way. this relationship doesn’t feel right to me and i just feel like i’m constantly hurting him but he just wants to continue the relationship knowing how i feel about it. its just hurting and making everything worse.
@@jiaelleestelus3001 Relationships are not easy. There will always be one that will love more than the other. Problem is not only on your side and trust me as i am a man i know how your bf probably feels. Unfortunately a lot of the time we think that love is the same for both people and that we will get the same type of love as we give, but that is not the case most of the time. It just does not work that way. There will always be one that will love more and the other that will love less(but it can change as it can be you who loves more and then after a year it can be him etc.). There will be issues everytime idk what are yours or how serious they are, but the only think you can do is to communicate with your partner and try to fix it. If that tho is not an option anymore then there is nothing you can really do. Sometimes you just fall in love with a person that have almost nothing in common with you and that is fine as long as you can understand that and accept it, but you need to have the same goals or view on life as that is something you can´t change and cant compromise on. Once you sort it out you will know for sure, if the relationship is good or not good. No matter how you decide i hope you will feel better and your bf also. Have a nice day and take care.
@@jiaelleestelus3001 I hope you don't mind me saying, but I think you should end it if you KNOW that you will never be able to provide him with what he needs.
But don't let anyone else tell you about your relationships, you must follow your heart. As long as we do that and act with honour then it will all work out x
My dear you have two options:
1. communicate a lot, do some deep analysis of your mind and soul, go to some specialist together/ alone if you must... just do NOT drown yourself in negative emotions.
2. end it here and now - there is big chance one of you will cheat. If you will drown in negativity, you will look for easy way out. If he... he just want to feel loved and he will fall for first sign of affection elsewhere.. not because he stops loving you, but because he wants to feel loved......
If you do neither 1 or 2 it will cost both of you PTSD and lost years maybe
Good luck
Sometimes tough love is the love you need even if you don’t want to hear it 🥲
As someone who got rigged by a girl showing plastic love, I can say this is all true. She never followed through with ANY plans to meet up like she said she would. Then when I try to talk to her about that, she starts to ghost me (even in person)! Of course I see her checking out some other guys within the next 2 days.
People, if you don't like someone who is crushing on you, TELL. THEM. Stop playing these stupid anime games.
Edit: Just an FYI, I have moved on already. I feel way better now and I'm happily looking for a girl worth my time and effort.
She might like you and has commitment issues. She has her guard up every time you try to see her maybe bc she’s scared of getting hurt. There could be million other reasons too. Communicate with her.
Move on lol
@@24SEVIN It's hard to communicate with someone who refuses to talk to you back lol. I tried communicating but she won't say anything. Oh well.
@@53Strat I already did. Just wanted to share my experience. Is that wrong?
@@DeRez19 You are right, my bad.
Omg the video cover. Whoever drew it. Thank you ❤️
Now i can fake it even better
actions speak louder than words is 100% true. ppl maybe dont say "i love you" but show it in different ways.
Yeah.... most of these were signs that things between me and the woman I loved would indeed end.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE PLASTIC LOVE THE THUMBNAIL MAKES ME HAPPY
I remember being told a women needs to be loved and a man needs to be respected. Still can't really tell the difference
They both need love and respect. That saying came to be, because sometimes men, in their imperfection, tend to get wrapped up in logic and ambition, and sometimes forgets that the woman needs to be shown that tender and vulnerable love. While women, in their imperfection, tend to be much more emotional. So when they are upset and extra emotional, they sometimes forget to exercise self-control and respect, and sometimes say disrespectful things.
So that saying is just a reminder to help a man and a woman to strengthen their particular weak points in a romantic relationship.
I forgot to mention that it's actually mentioned this way in the bible also.
Women don't know who to love until they hit their 30s
Everyone needs-and deserves-love & respect. No matter what gender they are.
@@Aesthetic626 I don't believe the majority of women don't ever learn who to love. Even after their 30s. May be after their 50s but idk
@@sherila4834 try teaching that at school
Thanks for this video. This made me realise my ex (as of today officially) never truly loved me.
OMOOO the thumbnail!! I love it 🥰😍❤🤍
Your thumbnail is not only good clickbait but also connects well with the video's message.
Wish I had seen this when I foolishly thought getting married to the fakest person on the planet was a good idea.
Thank you for all your hard work and all the helpful & informative content, it means a lot even more so when you didnt know you had 20+ years of trauma because traumatic behavior was the norm growing up....wasnt until my late 20s that I realized my journey had been VERY different from most peoples and that my "authority figure" was a full blown narcissist....which unfortunately made me subconsciously attracted to narcissists and narcissistic behaviors.
I've been single since 2020 and have been doing all I can to heal, grow, trust myself and bring peace to my life....but truthfully Im worried that I will still attract a covert narcissist or someone who just wants to see what they can get out of the situation (free meals, validation, attention with no intention of reciprocating, etc).
Any thoughts Amanda....maybe this topic deserves a video...? I like to hear your feed back on this if possible.
Anyways, thanks again.
I ignored all of these signs, now I was left alone and heartbroken, since I spend 2 years of my life giving my 200% while she only gave me crumbs.
Ok but can we appreciate the thumbnail it looks so good!
Could you possibly make a video about different reasons why some people may feel suicidal, because the people who struggle with this have different reasons and mindsets as to why they feel that way, (ex. some people may want to because they can’t handle the immense stress they feel, and other want to because they feel like they cause immense pain to others), and I think it would be very educational for people to learn about these different reasons.
Wisp, I hope you're okay. And if this comment is about a friend of yours, I hope s/he is okay. Please reach out (or encourage your friend to reach out) to a counselor or trusted professional to talk about these feelings. Keeping suicidal thoughts held-in/hidden, they can get worse and become life-threatening. If you don't (your friend doesn't) have access to counseling, talk to a primary doctor (also called "general practitioner" or "family doctor") about this-they may have some good ideas. If you're at college/university, go to your school's health clinic or counseling office, to talk about this. Please don't be afraid to get help. Treat these thoughts & feelings as seriously as you would treat a physical wound that isn't getting better. If the suicidal feelings or the pressures/life-issues keep happening, or get any worse, and you're in the U.S., dial 988, the new national hotline where you or your friend can talk to a counselor 24/7. Or you can go to the Lifeline website 988lifeline.org, if you or your friend would rather do an online chat/message with a counselor rather than a phone call. If you hit the "get help" or "learn" tab at the top of the screen, you may also find the info. there to be helpful. You are not alone. Many are dealing with these feelings, or know others who are. Help does make a difference. Please Gd I hope you (& your friend) are safe, and that things get better and better. ❤
@@sherila4834 The reason why I wrote this was because of a previous experience with a friend of mine who was having these sorts of talks. Thankfully, she went to a medical professional and got the help she needed, but I felt bad because I didn’t notice the signs and even if I did, I didn’t know how to help her. So I thought it would be nice if they could make more educational videos about this kind of topic, and this was the one I first thought of.
@@wisp7627 so glad to hear that your friend got help!
The references to Japanese culture are getting more obscure, but I appreciate the plastic love thumbnail
Stole the words out of my mouth. I had to check it out just for that, lol
For a sec I thought it was a cover lol
Lol thought I was the only one who caught that!
Eh?? I din actually understand ? Was there supposed to be a japanese reference ?
@@Going_wid_the_flow the thumbnail is a reference to a song called Plastic Love By Mariya Takeuchi.
When I was little I always used to think “love is the meaning of life”, I’d dream about finding “the one” and being together forever, loving each other, growing old together and having each other’s backs. I wanted to give my heart and soul to someone...
even now, I want that...all I do is read and watch romance or stories that have characters I can obsess over.
But... I feel I am incapable of falling in love... I don’t know how... I never have... and I don’t think I will... I’m going to die alone and I’m not really sure how to deal with that.🙃
How do I find love?
The meaning of life is different to everyone. It's what makes you feel happy, not necessarily what others expect you to feel happy about.
If love comes to you, most of the times it's not when you expected it or planned it to. If it doesn't, that's also fine! Actual relationships are always different from fiction.
No matter if you're in a romantic relationship or not, always treasure positive platonic relationships. That way, you won't die alone.
I hope this helps!
@@missoffline1866 I appreciate your reply. I want to find love because it’s what I want rather than what’s expected of me... I think it would make me really happy. I’m also a bit hopeless at platonic relationships too though.😅
That said, I’m planning to rescue lots of dogs in the future (when I’m able to). Dogs love unconditionally and I want to give them love and a good home. A sweet doggos smile and tail wag will always brighten my day. I guess I should focus on that!!
@@dullpencil3257 Don´t want to be rude or anything, but i had the same thoughts as you do. Unfortunately as you grow older you will find out, that love will not make you happy(at least not the romantic love) because in order to have a meaningful relationship that works. You need to be happy with yourself first. Relationships may or may not make your life better or worse. Also a fact, that most people don´t really know... falling in love is nice emotion, but love as a real love is not an emotion at all. It is just a way of thinking about the other side as you no longer have this insane feeling(thank god you would not be able to do anything, if that was the case), but it is more like including your partner in everything you can and thinking about them and basicaly you start thinking as a pair not as an individual. Even tho ofc you have your time and hobbies. Nevertheless i hope you will succed in your goals and save as many dogs as you can. Also i hope you will find your happiness and love one day. One person, that will value you for who you are and you will be happier with them. Bless you and have a nice day.
I used to think like that before. I never looked for love, love found me. I just remained open minded and tried to build something together. I was married 2 times, became a widow and never regretted anything. Love will find you and I'm sure, at the place and circumstances you are never expecting... Just keep your eyes open and hope alive
an amatanormitivty thing?(or however it is spelled)
I was doing few of these because I knew from the start that it's too good to be true.
Love is an energy not a complex mental thing. It all depends on mental, emotional, physical & spiritual state of the human being who uses the energy called Love. If the user is not foundationally balanced, they will misuse any energy out there. Love is an energy that you feel and your emotions are associated with your feelings, you can't think Love. If you think its mental, then you are not truly in love
All the exes I’ve had showed these signs… yet I couldn’t leave, but they left on their own. I don’t know if that was good or bad for me to do..but I feel like, I did my best in the relationship, they didn’t like.
When I’ve been nothing but supportive, loving, kind, telling what is right and wrong.. I survived them with my heart and self worth broken all the time.. thank you for this video. 💔
I was some of what you spoke of and decided to work on myself a long time ago. The hardest thing for people to ever hear, is honesty.
This video won my thumbs-up by the thumbnail alone❤️
I just caught on to the Mariya Takeuchi reference/easter egg with the thumbnail. This channel does not cease to amaze & amuse. I love the content immensely and yet these small details make my day.
this was my relationship to T unfortunately and it hurt so much when she cheated on me and she didn't regret or feel ashamed about doing it 😞.
Months later, a lot of beautiful young women talk to ma and find me attractive and a lot of great paying job opportunities have opened up for me while she's in another relationship 3 months after breaking up.
Jesus.. two years after we broke up, I still can't get on my feet.. I literally can't function properly without being loved :/
Idk if you have same reactions as me but at some point every girl you like or talk to you like you want them to be ur gf but struggle to find that difference BTW friend or potential gf
@@Aesthetic626 yup. In the middle of a conversation with a girl I've met 5 minutes ago, my brain automatically starts to visualize relationship with her.. disgusting
@@dimitarenev5704 There's a way to take it slow. Try to understand her and if she is single and shows interest in you then there might be a chance. If she doesn't show signs then she isn't the one. That's what I'm doing like built a friendship if she is single then see where it goes but if she is not interested or so then it's time to move on or just stay as friends
Hehehehe the "plastic love" reference. Such cute and clear videos! thank you lovelies!
Honestly, I feel quite bad for the people that had to be my love at one point. I love them but i can't help but do what 1 says, I like to go with the flow because I'm scared of plans going.. sideways.
And I can't do 6 either, I'm very conserved, although I'll show affection in the house, I have difficulty doing it in public.
it just makes me feel bad that i can't do these things.
From someone who just got out of a relationship like this: I got the "go with the flow" line too. Multiple times. It is not about the plans. It is rarely is. We want to see if you think about us in the future. If you see that future with us.
Maybe instead of solid plans, you can say "I would love to go to Disney land with you one day". If it goes wrong communicate with them that you tried. The thought is what counts.
The going with-the-flow mentality kept drowning me because I never got the memo that they tried or they thought about it.
@@zorasilver1519 I guess I could try to work on it, but I've almost never had a relationship where the person misunderstood my "Go-with-the-flow" attitude because I try to state it before the relationship gets too serious.
I should probably still work on it though, I do want to show my SO that I plan a future with them, and I want to stay with them.
Could you give me some advice on how I could show it?
@@TabbyCatq (I can only suggest what would have worked for me so take this with a grain of salt and btw, I got the line after the first date) I think the best for this is clear communication and to show it in your actions. Keep them in your thoughts and try to keep them at a healthy priority (you and your health first obviously but don't leave them always lower than casual friends and hobbies.)
The plans part applies to everyday plans too. I for one did now get a second date for months while being together because every time her friends, parents or hobbies were more important.
And if it really is more important maybe try to involve them in it. Bring them closer to your life.
Ask them questions about what they want this future to look like? Any places they want to visit? Dream job?
Get into a conversation about the common things you two find.
It is not enough to just say 'I love you' and be done with it. Relationships are work. It is building a bridge between two people. You don't need to rush but start building...meet them halfway.
@@zorasilver1519 Thank you for the advice.
All of them matched my previous partner. Thank you for confirming what i was analyzing about the relationship and my feelings. ❤️💯
I LUV THE THUMBNAIL!!!
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These really hit home with me. I had a short-lived relationship back in late Dec. -Early Jan. When he texted me, he would say how he "loved" me & how he was "so happy" I was in his life. However, face to face, it was a complete 180. He was always saying that I "could not be trusted" & I was "twisting his words around" when I caught him in lies. The 2 dates we were on ended in fights. He then blocked me on all social media, phone & email. I later learned from a mutual friend that this guy was "ashamed" of me because I was almost 22 years older than him, that I was so "fat" & that he didn't accept I was an Empath because "Empaths are not in the Bible. I am now using the knowledge you share in this channel & working with an Empathic Counselor to set boundaries, notice "red flags", & just take better care of my emotional, pathological & Empathic self. It's close to 8 months now, & still no "peep" from this dude; however, the "Empath" in me warns that he's gonna try for a comeback. This time, I'm ready.
The thumbnail is adorable
having the same feelings about my new relationship; sometimes days go by between texts, I'm always the first to reach out or she just seems so far away even though she promises so much...a girl i was with for 5 years broke up with me over a year ago and my new relationship does not feel the same but I don't wanna prepare for the worst; I just want to be loved
I’m gonna be honest that’s already a big red flag and shows you that she ain’t the one, if she really loves you, you wouldn’t need to always reach out and she wouldn’t always take days to reply
Tell me about it. I recently had a conversation with a girl I liked through text. I put in more effort than her and she put in less. For example, some of here responses would simply be "lol" that's it. At that moment I knew she wasn't the right girl for me. It's kinda heartbreaking. Psa she is also single
@@Aesthetic626 Sometimes that can say more about you than her, maybe you arent doing a very good job at making conversation, or maybe she just isnt interested, this isnt me trying to say that its your fault that shes being dry, but its good to keep in mind that its not always the other person completely at fault
@@Crit7k I'm okay at conversations. It's just at times she never ask me any questions or doesn't seem interested. I can be boring at times but if the other side doesn't put the effort to continue the conversation then it becomes harder. One time I texted her and she took 3 hours for 1 response that could have been real quick to answer.
@@Aesthetic626 my current bf is like that and also a mute, the smallest word I got out from him was "ok" and that's it, haven't seen him in over 2 weeks 😞😞
Everyone wants to be loved. *hug*
They never say ILY but I have even tho we ain't dating yet cuz we're taking time to think
my advice is that unfortunately you seem to be at a dead end
You are what you're name says for doing that. Give a nice guy a chance instead of wasting time with a guy like that.
:| damn thx for a a mean comment and it's not a dude it's a girl and I'm girl, I basically didn't nothing wrong. we are only taking time to think if we should be a Relationship, no need to be damn rude.
Don't know if this helps but my opinion is yes take time and make sure it is right for both of you. I'm what a lot of people call a nice guy and my opinion is I finish last but I don't really give up just go slow and make sure it is what we both want. Just recently divorced and in a so called relationship with a old girl friend, we text every day sometimes she is to busy at work to reply, I start most of the text but we work long days and hopefully we can find some time to spend a day together. Just do what you feel is right for both of you and don't worry about what other people think, only you can make yourself happy.👍😊
Dudeee! Your so kind! :D
I had to figure out myself that love wasn't an emotion because nobody told me 😭
Next up: 6 signs someone's going to make you want to say Stay With Me
How true. It hurts.
If someone shows any sort of interest in me, that person is faking. I am so socially inexperienced, that it is impossible for anybody to find me attractive. I am always on my highest guard to avoid becoming a victim to a social predator again. Thus, I am always very defensive when I have to be outside.
I love the information you guess have provided. It has helped me on my healing journey. Thank you🤗
Sounds mostly like someone not putting effort into the relationship rather than actively faking
I love the plastic love thumbnail!!!!! :D literally was obsessed with that song a couple months ago and I just recently listened to it
Shoutout to whoever made that thumbnail. Plastic Love FTW
I love how you included Mariya Takeuchi in the Thumbnail. Plastic Love Rules! 😭✨
I wish I couldn't but I relate to this, just got out of my first relationship a few months ago, was made to be the bad guy but it was my ex who treated me horribly, and I was the one who got tossed out, sucks.
thats pretty terrible
For people who that now see the flaws in their relationship sorry you deserve better
I’ve been waiting for a video like this
After watching this it truly has hit home for me. But however I was the one that have faked love before or I would say faking attraction. I have dated people that I never had any chemical reactions of Attraction or love of any kind mainly because of their physicality pertaining to obesity. Main reason why was because I was gaslighted by people in my life that I shouldn’t be shallow and should lower my standards and to “Love someone only on the inside and learn to see through there appearances” end quote from them. The guilt tripping was so bad that I thought there was something wrong with me to have a preference that finding athletic built types of people wether that be men or women to be more attractive enough I do feel a magnetic chemistry enough to wanting to get to know them out of interest. Sadly enough 4 or 8 failed relationships later, I’ve wasted a lot on people that I didn’t have any forms of attraction towards them because of the physical problems. I loved them for their personality, confidence and humor and achievements they had but as for sex wise and intimate wise there was nothing but discomfort and unease. Disgust and inadequacy. If taking viagara wasn’t bad enough to try and make things work even if it did for a short period of time, there was no emotional gratification and it felt vain. I quit the dating scene because of all the unsatisfied relationships I’ve had based in my choice but was influenced wrongfully for it. Let’s just say it’s better off not to settle for less and really go for what works for you
i love how quickly i clicked on this when i saw it... or maybe i dont love that
I love the song reference in the thumb nail! :D
my ex didn’t love me while i loved them very much for a little over two years. if you feel these signs relate to u pls don’t ignore them like i did. i tried to bring them up but when it didn’t go how i wanted i stopped trying if this is the case with ur relationship as well as hard as it is they are likely going to leave u and it hurt even worse so u might as take control of the situation and talk it out or end things all together. in my experience staying friends didn’t work because the habit of trying to make them love me was too hard to break. our “friendship” lasted two weeks lmao so pls pls pls end it altogether
best thumbnail ever!
Most importantly if you ever have to question if they love you, more than likely they don’t or just have issues expressing it outwardly. But even if it’s the later do you really want to second guess someone’s feelings? There are so many people out there who will show you how lovable you are 💗
I don't have a lover but this is how my dad is with me. he's only nice to me in front of others but is cruel to me in private or with certain friends or family.
I’m actually in tears because my ex did almost all of these things. I don’t even think she wants to be friends no matter what she tells me
Omg that thumbnail!!!!
This video gave me the closure i needed, thank you!
i really, genuinly, sincerely needed this. Thankyou
That thumbnail is brilliant! Keep it up
It has been 4 years since my last relationship ended and i thought i give this video, a watch out of curiosity to see how close it would get.
I expected to get one maybe 2 that would kinda fit.
Now after i saw the video i'm really surprised and hurt because, turns out, the person i loved like no other in my life, actually never truely loved me back.
Every point matched to a tee.
Love seems to really made me blind for her.
Thank you Psych2Go to finally let me break the glorified Image i had of her and get her out of my head.
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love the plastic love reference in the thumbnail 🥰
I just don’t trust anyone when they say they like me at this point every girl I talk to pretends they like me so I don’t even know if it’s true but I keep it at fake
Somehow, this channel literally posts a video immediately applicable to my situation on a regular basis hahaha
Having some boundries are healthy and not co dependant
Love the Mariya Takeuchi reference ♡
God will bless you with the right person
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I love your channel! Learned so much from it, even though I've been in therapy for years.
I'm suffering from severe emotional numbness so showing I care is extremely difficult since I don't strive for anything
plastic love is such a good song !
The fact that the thumbnail is an inspired digital version of Plastic Love by Mariya Takeuchi is making me hyped up
This one hurts the most
I just broke up last week, and here I am finding the reason why I don't feel his love..
Oh I've waited for this one
Best thumbnail choice ever