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- Опубликовано: 18 фев 2022
- Just me, late at night, overthinking things again... and talking to myself.
Still wondering how to determine the line between obsession and passion, between when moderation is a good idea and when abstinence (or sobriety) is the better option. I guess I tend toward both obsession and sobriety.
Also - I realized while editing this (which was a lot of fun!) that I said "I never thought you'd ask" instead of "I thought you'd never ask" but it's too late to fix it. Oops. 😬
DAY 24 of daily videos! :)
“Everything in moderation, including moderation” is a quote I really like. :)
It's been one of my key philosophies for ages. Our bodies evolved to survive in a "feast and famine" reality. Assuming we are more or less functionally healthy, we can handle amazing amounts of both celebratory overindulgence and stress/deprivation without long-term harm...as long as both are short-lived and do not become the norm. It's when you spend all or most of your time in one or the other situation that the whole thing goes spectacularly off the rails.
screw self-deprecation !
I totally agree! -restriction very often leads to binging.
This reminds me of a video I saw where someone said “don’t think of an elephant.” It’s hard to focus on NOT thinking of the elephant, because then it’s all you think about. The mind doesn’t do well with negative commands. So, rather, instead of restricting, it can be helpful to change your perspective on the situation and replace the habits you want to cut down on with other activities you enjoy. Say, for someone who is wanting to cut down on drinking, perhaps creating a routine on the weekend that’s fun and enjoyable to replace the void would be helpful. Or for cutting down on social media -if someone has a hard time limiting their screen time, instead of focusing on “not scrolling”, plan in activities you enjoy that redirect your focus. That could be snowboarding, visiting a friend during the day, reading, learning how to cook, creating a wind-down routine that you really enjoy at night that you wouldn’t want to miss, etc.
It would feel like less of a loss and more of a gain (or at least a fair exchange). If it doesn’t, evaluate and try something new!
I myself have a hard time with limiting screen time, and I think quitting it altogether would drive me insane. Haha. Sometimes you’ve gotta be okay with chipping away at it and noticing the progress, no matter how small. Pennies, too, add up over time.
By adding things to your life that you enjoy you kind of shift from a scarcity mindset (in regard to the thing you’re quitting/cutting down on) and into more of an abundance mindset (noticing the positive new things that you’re adding to your life). This way of thinking has helped me so much in my life.
Anyway, enough of my rambling haha. Love the video Lefie!
YES, Samantha! "The mind doesn’t do well with negative commands." < Love this!
It will get easier. Keep pushing forward. I have done a lot of things in my life that I regret, but I never regret getting clean and sober.
In 9 years, I have never seriously thought to myself, "man, if only I was still using heroin," or "I wish I had spent more of my life drinking." That doesn't mean I don't have cravings, I still do (although they're very mild these days). But cravings are always about drinking and using in the _future_ . Its the fantasy that using will fix or enhance whatever I'm feeling
For me, being in recovery is about shifting into a mindset of doing things I feel good _about_ rather than things that make me feel good. The things I feel good _about_ , I can remember them at any time, and feel good about them at any time. After I did enough of them, I started to actually not hate my life. The things that make me feel good... they tend not to bring any joy or good feelings once they pass.
I quit Instagram in July last year. I intended it to only be for a month. It's been 7 months. I don't do Twitter or Facebook or Tiktok. It's not for everyone, the quitting. It was a brilliant thing for me. My creative life is so much richer. Comparison is no longer a daily, hourly, painful companion. And in general, my life is better for it, healthier, happier. I was obsessed with social media, with what others were doing, achieving, creating, etc... And wishing I was doing, going, creating, achieving. Now, I simply do, go, create, achieve for me.
Love that! I have limited my time on Instagram quite a bit and feel so much better. 😃
@@lisagorska7389 I've thought about it. Downloading them again. But I know me and the temptation to scroll and waste time would be strong and the stress would be greater. I've traded those things for writing new books, cooking, exercising, reading, napping. I appreciate the question, though. I'm always interested in perspectives.
This one was really creative... nice :D
oh and btw, I just wanted to say congratulations on DAY 24! It's becoming one month, can you believe it? 😃
CRAZY, right?! I've found the groove. 🙂
1:28 The 'oh, no?' kills me every time 😂
Oh my gosh this is me and my inner-critic every flipping day! 😵💫😵💫😵💫
I love Lefie on the left. Face expressions are 👌
I'm so glad you are sharing your genius! You have so many insights about what is rattling around in my head.
The root of the word passion means “to suffer” so I think you’re both right 🤷🏻♀️
Also, this new format? I thought I’d hate it? I looooove it!
Passion comes from suffering?! Whoa - something else to think about, haha! Thanks, Grace - glad you're enjoying them 😁
@@Lefie the word for passion in German is "Leidenschaft". In German you very often put words together to create new ones. Most classic one would be "Kühlschrank" -> "Cool cabinet/box" (fridge)
Same for Leidenschaft. If you split the two into their individual words it means "something that causes suffering" (or just "causes suffering")
But together, it's passion ;)
@@Marczking I was gonna say the same!
@@gwynneio :)
Brilliant. very clever and so true. great video.
You’re really inspiring me to do a video a day! Loving these short and sweet ones.
My fiancé said to me in regards to my recent sobriety, “I believe in moderation for everything.” I said even cheating?
…. “Ok fine. Good point.”
This is so great. I’m enjoying your new ways of communicating. It’s so creative! 👏
Loving these short videos.
love yourself!
Fantastic, brilliant video!
So creative! I loved watching this. The recent video in your handwriting was just as good.
So creative and so relatable.
HAHAHAH this one was awesome, i love tired lefie she's A MOOD
I like this new style of vids ,Keep it up homey!!
Aaaaa twinning, I love it!
Love love love this
Hi Lefie ☺!
I'm really enjoying all your videos!
I would like to share... when I started going to a nutritionist it helped a lot in my body and mind 🙌🏻! Then I added exercise and it was even bigger 🏋🏻♀️ my body stopped craving alcohol and now it's been more than 3 years without it 😎!
This helped me be more present however, I'm struggling with personal relationships... when I started changing my habits a lot of "friends" disappeared from my life and not going to lie it can be a lonely road but worth it 🤓!
Anyway please have a great Saturday Lefie ☺🤗!
Thanks, Silvia! You too!
Better to be alone and healthy than in toxic company 😉 as an only child, I can attest that you will be okay
This was fun. You seem like you're having fun.
Loving these videos fi
I feel like you went in my brain and then made a video about it
I can sooo relate to this conversation. Im detabting it regarding my socialmedia consumtion. What is "good" for me, do i have to quit compleetly for a while?? Yeah and i also overthink... allot. :)
change "some people" to "I" when it comes to bingeing whatever I'm trying to stop doing and this is me, yep.
Sweet!!!!!
The last sentence felt directed at me
Awesome little video and so very true 😎😎🔥🔥🤔🤔🧐🧐☕️☕️
Cool!
Hahahahaha, great one!
If you had stopped overthinking we wouldn't have ALL YOUR AWESOME CONTENT to watch😱
Thank You
✌🏽✊🏽❤🙏
Ah - the silver lining! 😊
Great video
Nice!
Your inner dialogue and my inner dialogue might really get along at 3 a.m.
(Also what is this about quitting social media? Random example or hint of things to come?)
Just an example! RUclips has never felt like social media to me, for whatever reason - no worries, I'm not leaving. 😁
Finding what works for you is so hard and ever moving. Quite difficult. I haven't found it. Trying is worth it.
Off topic question: Since you even appear doubled in this video, I wondered if it was hard for you in the beginning of making videos, to see and hear your self on recordings. I can barely even listen to my own voice in memo messages. No matter how appreciative I am of my looks in the mirror or how many compliments are given from others...seeing myself from other angles is so weird and I also hate getting photos taken that I cant select myself later. Did you not care from the start or was there some inhibition you just pushed through and got used to it?
Bonus round: If everyone would quit social media, wouldnt that be a huge blow for artists and designers who promote their works online? (Instagram etc...). And isnt stuff like Behance Network or Artstation considered social media too?
Hi, Calista! It's definitely still weird seeing myself on video - after I'm done editing, I don’t really like rewatching stuff I've made because of that. And my voice does sound "better" in my own head, but I've also had people comment "I really like your voice" so that's helped me get over that.
I try in general to accept “this is how I look and sound” and since I have no control over it really, I just focus on making the best video I can in that moment and that’s it. I don’t ever want to be paralyzed by perfectionism - I’d rather put something out that’s the best I have right now than hold back because something’s not “ideal.”
Bonus round: Yes! Yet another conundrum… 😊
@@Lefie Alright thanks
that was good
hehe i like this one
Ikea cushion :D
"I think we should stop overthinking things too much."
"I really don't think that's gonna happen."
Hahaha I so relate!!
Yes! Great video!
accurate
"I think we should stop overthinking things so much."
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
I think every creative person has this argument with themselves at some point.
It’s about priorities. There’s no such thing as a “balanced” life
I would argue that there is such a thing, as long as we understand that said balance is dynamic (like balancing on a ball), and not static (like a post cemented into the ground). Overall balance achieved over spans of days, weeks, months and years (depending on the context and area of life in question) is absolutely possible. Maintaining a constant balance across all sectors of life at all times is not.
…..and this is why I watch: originality.
I think you and yew need to do "Waiting for Godot."
🤔💜💜
😂👌
Hi Lefie, yeah, I don't think either 😉 (pun intended).
Thinking is highly overrated, and more often than not leads to trouble, at best to nothing.
I would please like you to recreate the music video for Fatboy Slim ft. Bootsy Collins - Weapon Of Choice 😃
Ohhhh, don't tempt me... 🙃
😂
moderation is a good idea with regards drinking cause apparently people who drink in moderation live 2 years longer than those who practice total abstinence! Did you know you can get cat wine? :-)
who practices total abstinence though?
I think they realised later that the research was skewed because those who abstained were often alcoholics who had poor health outcomes
Please tell me it isn't like the cat coffee.
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@@violet3627 Nope it's not like kopi luwak! 😻
why is this my brain 😂
Happy to hear I'm not the only one! 😁
Lol
I never thought you’d ask. *snort*
👑🌹🤍😊
Everything comes down to introspection. Is this right for me? Am I doing well or do I need to back off and do something else? We have to go within, which is something I have had to learn bc of my hyper focus (pretty sure I have ADHD or something).