Tsis Tau Koob Hmoov Vim Phem Rau Niam Thiab Txiv. 5/19/2023
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Again..I'm going to say that Hmong funerals are too excessive for a person that is deceased.
120k is a ridiculous amount to spend. This money should have been used for your loved one when they were alive.
I've worked at 2 Hmoob KajSiab houses. I've learned that the older that they are getting, the lonelier they get. That's the reason why they keep going to these places to socialize. Let them get married even if they are old, they still want love just like the youngsters.
Getting married is only a symbol, kev cai. We need to learn how to have a partner at old age without the idea of marriage. It's the loneliness we need to cure, marriage is not the only way.
The male's kids will not want that to happen because now they will have to take care of their new mother-in-law and of course, they will not want to be responsible for the funeral expense.
This is too expensive funeral. Me. One day like Covid. I don’t want my kids to live with expenses and burden.
It is nothing about allowing the parents to remarry or not. The sons are frustrated about the funeral expenses that cost 100k for the step mother. I wish people stop making excuses that the sons are stopping him from his marriage, it is NOT the marriage, it is the funeral expenses that it is NOT fair to the sons to bury their parents and then to bury the stepmother too. This Is NOT fair in this hmong culture for the sons!
Exactly. I'm sure any one of us wouldn't want to spend that much money to bury a woman who is not our mother and didn't raise us. But ppl be talking as if they themselves wouldn't mind burying their dad's new wife. Like i said, easy to judge but if it's them then we'll see how they feel.
Wow...ib lub ntees 100k txaus ntshais dhau lawm os.
If your 60 or more please don't get re-marry just have a friend with benefits
Everyone deserve love at any age. Marriage is still meaningful and sacred to some even if others prefer sleeping around only.
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Agree!
@Monkey Banana yes but think about the kids , funerals are not cheap..first the mom, then dad then new mom omg
Whatever happens to "you can live without a man/woman?"
60 still young. If you have money and a house than you have power. No money no power.
Celebrate your life while you're alive and not when you're dead. When I'm dead, that's when I least want people to see me. Come visit me now when I'm still well and alive. I understand, back in Laos and China, Hmong people needed support because we are scared of dead people and have ghosts around. I don't know why Hmong have so many ghosts among us. Maybe because we keep calling them back. If the Hmong funeral ritual is the right way, we should be the wealthiest and smartest. But instead we are the poorest and the least educated. Yes, we Hmong-Americans have doctors and lawyers but we have not created a major company such as an automotive company, aircrafts, or even a national retail company yet. We don't need our own land, we just need to reinvent ourselves by being those things. When a lot of us are multi-millionaires (100s of millions, not 1 or 2 millions) and dozens of us are billionaires then the Hmong people will have come of age. Good luck to us all and may we be blessed with the knowledge and the courage to success.
Why do you always wait for your brothers. You can do things for your dad without the boys. Sounds like excuses. Don’t play the girl card. He is your dad. You have the same rights as everyone else.
Agreed
Yup. She played the girl card and put all the blames on her brothers. I'm sure she will feel different if she's the one that has to pay for the funerals.
@Listening_Snow she did pay for the funeral!! Same as all her brothers. If she pulled the girl card, then she will only kill a cow.
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Hmong funeral overrated. You can do a funeral under $20k
Hmoob ua neej rov qab pam ib tug neeg tuag mas pam cuag nkaus li ib tug huab tais
please hmong people when someone dies just make it simple save your money for the living omg
I haven't finished the story but these old parents should not get remarried after 65 years. I mean seriously how much longer can you live. Just live your best life. Date and enjoy but don't create a burden for your kids too. OG lifestyle are hard to deal with too. Sad for both parts.
It’s 2023, all kids doesn’t matter son or daughter should pitch in evenly for their parent’s funeral. Most importantly, Hmong people don’t need to do expensive funerals anymore.
Agreed! COVID proved it can be done in a day!!!
Totally agree!
I understand why the boys didn't want their dad yo remarry at an old age. When your family is traditional... There are responsibilities you have to take on as a son. The daughters dont deal with that part. You can be the eldest daughter, but your brother will eventually lead the family.
I understand both sides' frustration. The elders put this on themselves because a funeral isnt cheap, so being marry again will put the burden on the kids again.
I would remarry, if i need to.
Example, even if this father didn’t remarried, his sons and daughters wouldn’t do much for him anyways. He probably would end up in senior or nursing home anyway.
When I dead, just dump me in a hole, I won’t suffer. But, when i’m old and unable, that’s where the suffering is.
They had their own money for their own funerals. My mil is 75 and I would totally encourage her if she wanted to remarry. We have enough money for her funeral so we're not worried about money. People needs to know It gets lonely and we as kids cant be there 24/7 for them.
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@@bluewhisper5008 it's good that yur mil has her own money, but a lot of times many elders don't and so the responsibility falls onto the kids. Plus, if yur mil remarries and passes away, u guys may have the money but u guys aren't responsible for taking care of her funeral. It's different when a fil remarries and the new wife dies.
@Listening_Snow we have life insurance and has saved enough on the side for her funeral. I'm appalled these kids are worried about a funeral. It's hard work but dang just do a 1 day thing. Smh.
A loving sister is on here bashing her brothers for her failure to keep her father happy. If you talk the talk then walk the walk. Stop barking if you refuse or is scare to take on the big celebration and life events alone. The ones that are barking are the ones that is always standing by while the silent ones do the hard labor.
Sounds like greed and money playing its evil part again. Some of us wish that our parents love us that much as the parents here in this story loved their children. The kids on both sides should be ever grateful for such good luck to have parents like them. Not once, but twice.
I feel like we need to stop this old hmong tradition where the widow woman married than her original children are not responsible for her funeral or death anymore. This is ridiculous. Your dad is old and want to marry. Ya should be supportive. And the widows children should be supportive and take the lead as to will be responsible for her death. Or they can live together and not marry. They old, let them live together and be happy.
Txoj no tu siab kawg 😢😢
Niam ntsuab teev kuv hnov koj dab neeg no e kuv tu tu siab li kuv cov nu cov nyab lawv tsi hlub kuv niam thiab kuv txiv nkawv li nkawv tuag tag e nkawv yeej tsi tseg koob hmoov rai lawv li thiab os kuv hloog koj zag no e kuv nim quaj os
lawv tsi yog ua rau nej txiv lawv ua kom lawv tau ntsej muag rau lawv xwb thiab lawv ua kom teb chaw qhua lawv xab nav
These kids better not remarry and stay faithful to your dead spouse forever 😤 and for you girls grow some backbone and stand up to your brothers. If yall wanna throw a party for your parents just do it with or without their help period..
I agree. My sisters and I always come through for our parents. My brothers are greedy so we never rely on them.
Niam txiv muaj power heev leej twg tsis hlub niam txiv ces nws lub neej tsis zoo tseev nws khwv
Must be the stubbornness of Traditional Men. I don't recall Christians having such issues as this! Also, Hmong Funerals are so expensive...so ridiculous!!!
Tsis yog tim koob hmoo, Tim yus ua neej tsis zoo xwb.
Txhob kev hlub hauv ntiaj teb yeej tsis ncaj ncees thiab tsis sib npaug.
Tim Hmoob txoj niag kevcai dabqhuas ua rau Hmoob txomnyem
Easier for the daughter to say bc she's not the one paying for the funeral. But if she is the nyab, I'm sure she would feel different if her fil remarried. Put yourself in the son and dil's shoes. Funerals are very very expensive. Having to pay for their mom, and eventually their dad, and now the new mom, is such a burden. Easy for us outsiders to judge the sons, but I'm sure no one here would want to do it 3xs too.
The daughters contributed 10k. Same as the sons for their dad's funeral.
But she put 10k same as the brother too for me I put 5k for my dad’s furneral as as my brother too
Hmong people need to stop spending so much on a funeral. That will lessen the burden on the kids.
Hmong funerals are ridiculously expensive. All that spending just for face. Stupid asf
Zoo koj siab kawg puas yog? Qhov koj cov nus tsis tau koob hmoov. Cia nej tsev neeg ko phem liam ko tag. Nco ntsoov tias yog mus tsis kawg koj yeej rov los nrog koj cov nus ua uas tsis tau koob hmoov nyob.
Koj txiv tuag mus los yeej yug los rau nej tsev neeg xwb. Yus rov foom yus xwb ces kav liam nej.
Not sure why people spend $30k on a feast just to recognize the “leader” of the clan. Seems a bit pretentious.
Just like hmoob funeral, $100 grand
@@ThePrincessWorrior exactly
Some people go into debt just to impress others. For me, not worth it.
That his fault for spending 30k...
Cas peb li peb niam tuag peb txiv quaj2 kuv cov nus lawv tseem kom peb txiv mus nrhiav ib tug los ua nws khub txij thaum nws tau niam tshiab lawm nws thiaj txiv quaj lawm nws kaj siab ces yus kaj siab xwb os lawv
Your four brothers did everything for face. Wow.
Hope none of them remarried.
Yog yus hlub npauv ces yus ntaus thawj ntag hov.
There's a case similar to this case in Arkansas. Both parents recently passed just a year and a half apart due to the children didn't care for them but wanting the life insurance money from the parents and the property. Yeah, these kid's days in HELL are coming in no time. Just relax and watch! Especially the 3 daughters.
Yog tshaj plaws
The sons were in the wrong. Your parents raised you, love u, and supported you. But when they need it, they don’t get it in return. Love is love, doesn’t matter how old you are. Now if he was marrying a young girl from Laos, then that’s another story! Lol 😆
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So sad 😢how the son done the father wrong 😢
Bf and gf can live together not need to get marry it could be simple ppl jux need to understand
WOW…Peb Hmoob yeej ua neej rov qab…hlub thaum tuag xwb…the two daughters will receive all the blessings from their dad, not the sons…😩
Haha kuv paub ib co niag muam phem kawg thiab os.
All you kids on both sides are being unfair to your parents. That's not right. You hear of underserving father/mother neglecting and mistreating their children and when they come back, those abused kids take them back spoiling them and loving them. But good parents like this that care for and their love their children equally- they get terrible treatment from their children. Sad. Very very shameful and sad when hearing situation like this.
WOW!!! $120k for a funeral. That's crazy!
Why are hmong funerals so expensive? For some who have lots and lots of kids it might not be such a burden but when you have 1 or 2, that is their whole life savings. Furnerals need to be cheaper. Stop wanting to pleaee the community. Just do a funeral for 25,000
Tu siab rau cov kwv twj no cas lawv ho ua tau lub siab phem li ntawd rau lawv txiv. Peb niam pog tuag tas peb sawv daws kom peb txiv yawg mus yuav Niam tshiab tsam nws kho2 siab tsis paub nyob. Peb txiv kuj yuav tau ib tug niam tshiab hlub peb thiab nrog Kuv tus txiv Wb nyob tu Wb cov me nyuam loj hlob tag nrho. Peb kuj tuag hauv Wb tsev thiab. Peb Niam tshiab rov mus nrog nws cov me nyuam nyob lawm vim nws prefer lawv los peb hais tias cia nws xaiv qhov nws zoo siab vim nws twb laus2 lawm peb txhob yuam nws. Lwm hnub nws puv 120 xyoo los peb mam take care nws lub ntees. Peb cov kwv tij tshiab los kuj siab zoo thiab.
The sisters sounds too great in this story….you’re already married mind your own business. If you want to do it and they don’t they do it yourself. As a parent I don’t expect anything from my kids. As long as they live a healthy happy and prosperous life then I am happy.
I don’t understand why we Hmong pepo spend so much on funeral for a person but not much when that person is alive. We truly are spending money backwards
We should heard all side of the story...
yog lawv tsis yog yu yug ce luag yeej tsis hlub os cia rau lub ntuj mam lis txiav txiv rau kuv niam los kuj yog ib tug niam tshiab rau kuv 6 leej nu tab si lawv tsis nyiam kuv niam ce lawv yeej tsis hlub kuv txiv lis thiab kuv yog tu ntxhai ua nrog kuv niam los nrog lawv nyob xwb lawv yeej tsis hlub kuv lis thiab os tu siab kawg xav muab ntsov nyuj pov nram kwj ha xwb tiag niam lau aws
Anyone here purchased life insurance for tswb hawj before? Looking into for my parents
Have someone to love and they love you in your life is everything. Good and understanding children would support their parent to be happy. It sounds like these guys know nothing about love. May be the boys shouldn’t be married themselves in the first place, if they thought their father don’t need happiness. What a horrible children.
I agree. One of her brothers got remarried and the father paid for his 2nd wedding. Selfish greedy POS.
Why need so much dirt to filled the grave?
The funeral is the big hiccups.
Yog kawg tus me Viv ncaus yus yog me tub me nyuam tsis muaj Cai Txwv yus tej niam tej txiv Cia lawv ua raws li lawv txoj kev ntshaw yus ces tsuas muaj ua zoo rau tej laus xwb thiaj tau koob hmoov mog
Koj tu koj txiv koj yeej yuav tau koob hmoov xwb nawj
Tuaj koom koj dua os zoo kawg li
What? Over $100G for your mom's funeral? Oh man....thats crazy people...way too excessive.
Phim lim me tub me nyuam swb yos ua li no swb naj
Cov tub nyab lim hiam dhau puas tau koob hmoo ne yus niam yus txiv / luag tej laus tias hwm ntuj ces tau ntuj ntoo hwm niam hwm txiv thiaj tau zoo hwm ntuj tau ntuj coj hwm niam hwm txiv thiaj tau noj yog ib tub lim hiam qhab no tej zaum yuav tsis tau koob hmoo lau
The dad might be stubborn, but he is not wrong. You dont sleep with him at night and take care of his needs. How do you know his feelings and loneliness? The brothers are losers, especially the oldest son. A selfish jerk that only thinks of himself. You are willing to spend 30k on a pathetic party but can't even do anything right for your father. Is such a shame when people try to impress the world with their expensive funeral. There is no need to show off your wealth when your dad is not there to celebrate. Smh.
Peb tej tub kiv tsis txhob ntshai ntshai thiab txwv txwv Peb cov laus lawm. Thaum lawv tuag ua tau li cas yuav li ntawm xwb tiag. Nej ob pab menyuam no ntshe yuav tsis tau ntuj ntoo lauj. Tej laus yuav tus twg lawm los sawv daws sib pab thiaj yog qhov zoo po.
Yeej tsim nyog koj cov nus tsis tau nws cov koob hmoov os!!
I do understand from both sides, but no one can really live without a spouse. No matter how old you get, you would still like to have a spouse to talk to... to take care of you.... to feel loved. Just like all ya kids want to have a spouse to love and be there for you. How sad.
Whatever happened to "you don't need a man/woman to live?" Ppl normally say that to other stories, esp to women.
@@maryly09 : It's different when it comes to a parent. Their kid owes them for whatever makes them happy. Be happy by yourself only pertains if you are somebody unlucky with love.
Zoo heev li o
You complain against your brother's, why didn't you act like a son and make decision for your father. You complain but you failed to do anything but mourn.
Hmoob people crazy about funeral, too much $$$
My mom and dad just passed away and my brothers didn't get to spend a penny. Mom and Dad had plenty of money for their own funerals. My sisters and I spent just as much or more money then those brothers. However my brothers kept all Mom and Dad's money and never gave us sisters a penny. Those Hmong Lor brothers never said a thing. They let my evil brothers keep all the money. I am very disappointed with my blood brothers and those stupid kwm tij Hmoob Lauj.
Waiting until their dad passed away and spent $120k???! What a waste…
Nej tsev neeg no tej muaj nyiaj million xwb es ua dab tsi los thiaj siv nyiaj txog $1000.00 xwb os zoo heev
All I have to say is BULLSHIT to a 120k funeral! Your father deserve the best funeral, but 120k is too much. The brothers don't deserve anything at all. Shame on them!
Nyb zoo os tu kwv aw kv tuaj koom kj os rub tes thb os
My hate hmoob funerals!! My goodness!! Spent $120K ?? Wasted in the trash 🗑!
This father is very selfish, he’s old and going to die soon but brings another woman so his children can buried her. He should just live with his children and have a companion to talk, eat, and spend with when lonely. No need to marry and put a burden on his sons. This daughter makes her look righteous. Shame on you and your father.
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Nothing is stopping the stepmom’s kids from helping out too. It all comes down to Hmong people being greedy, period!
$30 txhiab los ua rooj mov zoo siab yus tau los ua tus coj tsev kwv tij tus kheej xav li cas ne zoo tswv yim los phem tswv yim na lawv
Hmong and there STUPID 100K funeral.....
Sister, your four brothers doesn't deserve forgiveness much less any goods left behind. What 0they have done to their father they should get the worst karma. They have children themselves. They'll pay for their evil ways
Hmoob cov Nom...hahaha😅 it's so funny!
The burial part. LoL. Fake. A little exaggerated 😂
koob hmoov tsis muaj tseeb
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Your funeral cost $1oo,000 is to much. You do your mom funeral by safe you face people or you just want his money.
120k for funeral expenses? Smh… khoob hmoo mus tham! And them boys think they getting FACES! Lmao… These kind of issues isn’t just this aunty only. There’s many Hmong family do the same. Karma aftr karma.
It was a good thing that your older brother didnt spend the $20k that your dad gave it to him as a security deposit for marryinga nrw wife, otherwis. 🤦♀️
Hmoob mas ruam heev. Tuag lawm ces ua li ua tau xwb cas yuav ua loj tshaj qhov yus muaj thiab yuav ua kom teb chaws hais txhob tau cas ho tsis ua thaum tseem nyob ma
It's frustrating to listen to this story when it's already obvious it's one sided and bias from the very beginning. This sister makes her brothers look bad from the beginning already. I won't waste my time listening.
You guys are messed up. Thov ua cas tsis thov yus Txiv. Yus Txiv yog tus yus ua txhaum rau. Tos tsis tau koob hmoov los vim nej thov yuam kev lawm ne.
Hmong people and their manufactured statuses are comical. Nobody recognizes you. If you are a wiseman or someone that the clan looks to for guidance and or cultural responsibilities, you should be celebrated. But, those fundraising parties at Bounsavanh for irrelevant events and recognition should end. Embarrassing.
😂😂😂 patha my butt! All they know is how to drink and party.
OMG hmoob mas ruam dhau xyov cas pheej yuav ntsej muag es muab nyiaj pov tseg rau trash xwb! Nyiaj khwv nyuaj ua luaj es nej ua ib lub ntees raug $120k wow way too much!!!😡😡
30k for pab tha party😵💫
IKR? Pretentious. Complaining about only getting $4k back 😅 what is the point? And then they want a big funeral. These guys are all about the image. Too shy.
Ntshaw2 pab tha ces nchuav nyiaj ua plhua mas
Or 100k for a funeral? For mom, dad, and now stepmom? Yeah.
I bet he only knows 30% of those people that attended. He just wanted to impress people.
Tsuav nej niam tshiab tseem pam nej txiv os. Peb niam tshiab pam quav xwb zov hmo twb tsis rho nyiaj los
Hmong people need to stop spending so much on funerals. I’ve never understand why the need to impress and cater to the community when most of those people won’t remember your loved one after the funeral? Why is it that it’s the family’s responsibility to cater and feed others when they are in mourning? It’s so backwards to me.