My sister used to purposely talk or even sleep with guys she knew I was interested in. She did the Same with her friends. Just some of confidence issue imo. Was so aggravating.
Seriously your saying this because I'm 8yrs old only and my mom said that I can't see those stuff so you better stop or stop it ok ok ok ok ok ok ok thank you😤😤😡😡😠😠👹👹
Shallon you need to make storytime videos! Your life experiences are so interesting and relate to any advice you give us. It’ll be nice to do the reverse and just tell stories of your life and add bits of advice here and there. :)
She wrote a whole book about her dating experiences! Here's the amazon link: www.amazon.com/Exes-Ohs-Downtown-Facebook-Stalking/dp/0307885119/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1540044638&sr=8-1&keywords=shallon+lester
Same, me and him are so close but any guy I get close with my friend after a little tells me she likes him, like she’s done this at least twice to me now and I just don’t get itttt 😫
You shouldn't get mad at her cause its not here fault that she likes your crush. I know this bec im in this situation too but we have worked out things. Anyway you guys have to talk about it and ask yourself and her,friendship or "that guy"?
I'm pretty young, and this just happened to be recently, and I was literally about to scream since my friend on multiple occasions said how he's so weird and how she would never like him. Thank the lord someone like you exists. ;w;
In college, my friend liked a guy, but he liked me. She told me she was fine with it. I asked over and over again. She said it was fine. It wasn’t fine. She hated me after the fact. Oh well... girl should have been honest. Another time after college, another friend liked another boy... I tried to set them up, but... he liked me... I was in a relationship, so I thought that was super weird, but I never told her that he liked me instead. We remained friends.
Why has he gotten lazy? Always have to find the root cause of the issue -- is it the people around him that enable him to act like that? is he not finding fulfillment in his career or job? is it way too easy for him around the house because he has no responsibilities? Ultimately once you figure that out it's just best to talk to him. Voice your concerns, put it out there. If he's unwilling to work with you or assure you that he acknowledges it and will do better then it's time to cut the cord. Hope it all worked out~
My ex-roommate when I was 17 really liked this guy - they were in the same degree program and they were friendly (I barely knew him, just saw him at parties sometimes, I thought he was hot, but he had a girlfriend so). My roommate talked about him often, always saying stuff like “I’ll never have a chance with him, plus he has a girlfriend” etc. Fast forward more than a year, my roommate and I are still friends but not as close, because we didn’t live together anymore. Her crush had broken up with his girlfriend a while back, we met at a party and made out when drunk. At this point, a whole year had passed since my friend telling me she had a crush on him, and I honestly COMPLETELY forgot about it. The guy started texting me, I started to like him and I could tell he was into me. A couple weeks later, I was at another party with my ex-roommate and mutual girl friends. Another girl friend asked me if I was seeing someone... I was about to tell her, when it suddenly hit me. I remembered my other friend used to have a crush on him. It was such an awful sinking feeling, I felt like I’d betrayed her even though i had genuinely forgotten. I pulled my friend aside and told her what happened, apologised and asked if she was OK. She said not to worry, that she was cool with it and she was over him anyway. Fast forward 6 years, him and I are still together and me and my friend are closer than ever. We spoke about this recently, and she admitted she still had feelings for him when I asked her about it 6 years ago, but she put them aside because she wanted me to be happy. She is honestly such an amazing friend 💕
It's like you have a video for every experience of my love life lol. A year and a half ago, I lost a friend because we both liked the same guy. He's now my boyfriend. Tbh, I was actually starting to take my distance with my friend before I realized we both liked the same guy. She was a very toxic person, always involved in some kind of drama. She was very possessive and jealous of my friends. Ultimately, I didn't like the way she spoke about my friends, even if I considered her my best friend. Anyway, when she told me she liked this guy which whom I had a crush for the past 3 years, she was dating three guys, and was behind two more guys (one of them was a friend's boyfriend). But even if I was distancing myself from her and knew that she was cheating on several guys, I was willing to not do anything about this guy that we both liked. Buuuut... He was the one who decided to do something instead. He asked me to go out with him on a date. When my friend found out, she started telling me he was The Worst Fuckboy on Earth. Back when she had no idea that I was into him, he was The Best Man on Earth. All of a sudden, he became the worst of the worst. Anyway, maybe I'm not the best of friends, but I'm glad I picked him instead of her.
There’s a diff few scenarios for this tbf 1. It’s your friends ex? And they’re over him? - No, don’t date him 2. Your friend had a one night stand with him and barely spoke after? - Yes, date him 3. Your friends has barely spoke to him, she just thinks he’s attractive? - Yes, date him 4. Your friend has hooked up with him multiple times? - No, don’t date him 5. The guy blatantly led your friend on to hook up with her to say after that they’re ‘incompatible’ - No, don’t date him
I just wanted to say that I adore all of your videos! I was the "Shallon" in this situation last summer and wish I had seen this sooner, lol, but watching it gives me a healing perspective. Such great advice. thank you 🙏
9 times out of 10 I have never experienced any of the topics of Shallon's videos. I just like putting her on in the background in and taking from it the lessons that apply to me. I guess I'm one of the few people that does not have that much drama in my life and I'll take it. especially if it'll pit me against my best friend for a guy. In that case Shallon's advice applies i would put it all out there with my friend and whether or not she chooses to be reasonable or just be head-over-heels for the guy at least it wont be messy
i have a question. my best friend always “takes away” the friends I make at school and makes them like her more. they don’t even like me or talk to me anymore because of her. she is a big attention seeker. what do i do now and how can i guide those friends back to me again?
I have a story so I have this childhood friend and in grade6 this girl which is my bff liked my childhood friend even though I already had a crush on him ever since kindergarten and this girl just braggs about it and she told me that my crush said I like you to her now I feel sad and betrayed she knew I had a crush on my childhood friend.......
Sometimes I feel like me and my best friend are one In a million. We've always had crushes on the same dudes and we BONDED over it! We always helped each other get the boys instead of fighting over them, we are always there for each other!
Girl, you are not just cute. You are beautiful. You actually remind me of Hillary Duff. Thanks for the video. Very informative. Especially what type of friends are toxic and why.
I was called "Despreate but I know am not And I don't consider myself despreate. And it's really hard to live in life to me bc alot of people like to judge just because of something horrible I Did as a kid. And I love myself regardless of what anyone else thinks!
Hey Shallon!! Can you do a video about crushing on a coworker / boss (who also happens to give very mixed signals) who is older? (I'm 18 and in high school, he's 24 and out of college). I love your videos by the way!
Hey Shallon, it may be irrelevant with this video, but could you do a video on how to deal with a mean coworker? I just got a job in a law firm as a trainee and there is one particular co-worker, a woman (lawyer), that didn't like me from the moment she saw me, tried to diminish me by commenting on my attire, said that I can't speak inside the office (which is impossible of course since I just came there and I'm a trainee so I need to be taught some things and ask some questions) and generally she had an awful attitude from day one. How should I react? Should I speak to the boss immediately and ask to be transfered in another office? I believe that you have experience in that and you could help me. Thanks!
when I was 14/ 15 years old i used to have a massive crush on this one guy. We used to have lunch together because our families knew each other. i was crushing on this guy since my early 11 or 12 years, so he was basically the first guy I kinda genuinely felt attracted to... then one day he told me that he liked my best friend, my heart shrunk and broke (i really felt it), but on the other hand, i decided to tell my best friend because hey, I want to make people happy before I can be happy and pursue my own happiness i didn't want to be a dick about someone who didin't like me back so i told her -- shortly after that they got together. fast forward a couple of months, they dated and broke up -- it was a fast thing, didn't last very long -- I still liked him (still kinda do wehn i see him) but the butterflies were gone. 10 years later. I am studying, had to repeat a year, and ...BAM! There he stands! one of the most handsome guys I have ever seen in real life, he reminded me sooo much of my first crush that i immediately started to feel attracted to him... I want to know him better! I want him to talk to me, and only me! I got home and started to tell my flat mate how dreamy he is... and then... she met him at a home party, at his place, THE SAME DAY...she came back home and was all hyper and said " i think i am in love, i want him soo bad!" i am sad now because i have already had a really similar situation in the past... she told me " i am going after him, unless you want him?" ..i just couldn't tell her to keep distance and told her she should go for him even though I kinda want him to like me instead... it's up to him to chose and maybe he likes someone else... my flatmate is an amazing person, but i feel like she just wants him for a night... to "win him over" like a trophy or a prize, i'm also wondering if she is just so into him right now because she needs to prove our other flat mate (who has a crush on her) that she is not interested... ... and her way to tell him is by openly sleeping with other guys. ... i genuinely like him though and i would find it sad if my friend would "use" him just as a trophy... he deserves better.
I've had a best friend for 10+ years and she is really insecure so I do my best to help her with that but I dont think it's okay for her to treat me badly because she feels badly, especially when I'm doing my best to help her. I feel like she always tries to one up me. Every time I've told her I like a guy, she then tells me she likes him too (I'm in highschool btw). Then she goes for them and presses me to say it's okay. And then when I confronted her about it she said that she can't control how she feels and it just recently happened again and I don't know what to do... Please help!!!
what happens if you like this guy and your friend like the same guy but he likes you and you aren't ready for a relationship but he doesn't like her so she's mad at you for not liking her
it was 2018 when my best friend started to like a guy so I supported her. But then in 2019, there was a little complication. I and that guy became classmates and my best friend is from the other class. I tried to make them close to each other because that is my goal. But I didn't expect that he would have feelings for me and the same feelings I have for him (but I didn't tell my best friend about my feelings). It was hard choosing especially it was my first time. Up until now 2020 I always thought of that guy, I miss him already, but I know that any point of view in the world, we cant be together, because my best friend still likes him.
Hey Shallon, first of all i really appreciate your advice. I have a problem with gettung worked up in a guy. For example i've "fell in love" with a guy in my english class in college. I have probably talked 10 times to him, but i already fell in love with him, even though i did not really knew him. Then another example: another guy from college stopped studying this month. This made me so sad because i already imagined having a relationship with him or even just kissing him. But i've also never talked to him, besides saying thank you to him for picking up my pen😅. Now i am so sad, though i know that this is kind of sick already because i did not know him. But i always think what if he is the one and i've missed chance or sth. Can you pls help, because i'm sitting here being upset about a guy that i did not even knew.
I never liked this guy, but my friend has liked him for 2 years. She has gotten so close to dating him. She is the best person in the world and she was in the hospital when i was born. But now i have caught feelings for him. She doesn’t know this, but i hope she never does.
I just told my bff I liked her crush and that she could be with him because I'd rather have myself hurt than her and I told her I didnt want this to ruin our friendship and she told me i was fine and that she would just become friends with the guy for me and i still rejected it and I'm letting her keep her feelings for him
Me and one of my best friends I’m NOT SURE if she likes him but I am sure I have been adding up clues. She is going to tell me today though. I really like this guys, he is so nice! I THINK she does too, so I need helpppp!
I’m sad and angry and jealous cuz me and my best friend like the same girl and I brought her presents with heart balloons and flowers on Valentine’s Day, and I confessed that I loved her... and my friend one week later tells me he likes the same girl now I’m mad that he going to get her and not me he super fit, there no way if we get in a fight I’m gonna win!! Now he having conversations with her all day she paying more attention to him than me 🤬 and he talking about her every single day!! And I’m so mad I want to end him!!! But I try to keep as calm as possible cuz he one of my BFFs and I can’t lose that... so idk what to do!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!
Shallon my friend met the guy in a club one night that we were all at & they kissed but as soon as he saw me, he liked me & wants to get to know me. I fancy him too & wana know him. My friend is acting like i broke girl code & refusing to talk abt it with me. The guy says the kiss meant nothing & he never meant to do that & genuinely wants to get to know me. What do i do??? Love u Xxxxxx
What about if your friend doesn’t know you like him? Or like if she is kinda psycho about him, like I catch him staring at me but she says he’s looking at her
Ok so here’s the thing, I have this friend that I wouldn’t consider my bff and that I feel like whenever we start getting closer she starts using me for stuff to benefit herself, a while back she told me she liked a guy and I acted like it was good and all, but the thing is, I liked him before that and I’m starting to catch feelings again. This guy compliments me, listens to me and sits down with me to talk about things I like, he’s funny, he’s smart and he’s very nice, and you know what? I wanna ask him out. But the thing is, if I were to ask him out, that would make my friend feel bad and I don’t wanna do that to her either :( By the way I have another friend that used to like this guy and felt like he gave her mixed signals (which I don’t agree with, thinking that what he did was feel uncomfortable because she was coming on too strong, and that’s a habit of hers, but alas I still consoled her).
My best friend is dating a guy that’s a gold digger, she said that she doesn’t care and she choose him over our friendship, but this guy is flirting with everyone even me, I hated him for doing that so I told her and she’s blaming me for “ruining her relationship “ they haven’t even met yet , she met him on only thru a friend of mine , that told me that he was a con artist and he used to used women for money since high school, what should I do? Let her get robbed of all her money and stay away or be by her side, I already know, and so does she that’s he’s a player. , but she doesn’t even care!!! Help please anyone thank you sooo much for your advice
What do I do when my best friend likes my BOYFRIEND my friend told me that she likes him and she told her not to tell me just to tell me she likes another guy... Should I confront her??
I had a girlfriend who was jealous of me and I didn't realize it. We would walk into a club/bar/party and she would look for the cutest guy and immediately claim him lol. She would be like "Oh, he's mine". If he approached me, she would be quick to remind me that he was "off-limits" or "hers". I didn't really care because I wasn't going to meet my "man" in that sort of setting anyway. I eventually let her go because she was being overly jealous all of the time and I couldn't deal with that.
Me and my friend had a crush at the same guy but when i found out the guy that i had a crush on he fell inlove with my friend they inlove with each other and me im just nothing to do with it im just nobody again hurt but im proud to my friend at the same time cuz its just a boy i don't want to destroy our friendship because of a guy. I just came up to be friends with my crush that's it. And i starting to step away and move on cuz it might be the cause of jealousy if i keep chatting with him or anything so yep that's the matter of life
I guess I’m the one taking the only person getting hurt haha. I had this boy I liked a lot but got rejected twice. Him and my besty start talking and she likes him now so it’s hard to not be jealous ig
GUYS I NEED HELPPPP!!!! ok so... I like this guy and so does my best friend. I liked him for a few months now but I never told her, and recently she told me that she likes him!! I got so mad. I don't know what to do... I feel like me and my crush are getting close, but my best friend is so gorgeous I feel like she will take him away :(. And I can't just tell her that I like him because she will get mad because she told me first but I did like him first... please someone help me and tell me what to do.
someone help. I have a best friend who used to be friends with someone, but now hates. That girl has a new best friend and that best friend likes the same guy as I do. I don’t know what to do about this situation, since we already have a poor relationship with each other. I tried to move on from the guy for her sake but it’s harder than I thought. help please.
so my bff had a crush on a guy that i like now but when i ask her if she still likes him she says no but then when i’m texting him she keeps saying it’s bothering her so idk what to do. also she has his snap password :///. so oof
I liked this guy first but then my friend told me she liked him (i dont think she knew i liked him because i never showed it) but he doesnt like her and he likes me....but i turned him down. I dont like him as much anymore but she still does. So we all just salty lol but at least we all still friends 😂
My ‘bestfriend’ likes my crush and she knows darn well I liked him first. So I feel it’s fair for her to drop him. Idk how to explain it she just makes me mad
I mean it really depends on who he likes. If he likes you then talk to your friend about it. If he likes your friend more you have the choice to continue to chase him and possibly ruin your friendship with your best friend, or Incourage your friend and try to stop liking him.
I really don't know what to do right now me and my crush are SO close and i really think he likes me back since he like blushes whenever we're together and always flirt with me. But now my friend who has a BOYFRIEND just told me she likes him and i couldn't tell her that i like him too so i just told her to confess to him.... And she was like "i think he likes me back" when he literally doesn't talk to her AT ALL Tbh i don't think she likes him cuz she's SO in love with her boyfriend and she always tells me about him.... My bestfriend told me MAYBE he told her to tell me that she likes him to see how i'll react or if i'll get jealous or something BUT i don't know....ugh that shit is so confusing lmao
I had the same situation we both liked the guy and he asked me out we are together 9 years now even though she forgave me sometimes I feel she's making sure I don't forget
So what if he started working at my job and she started crushing on him as I started to crush on him too. The next day he bought me coffee and has started talking to me. So now I kind of want to let her know but don’t know how to?
but what if you met ur friend when ur crush invited you to hang out, and u find out she likes him but now she and I are friends wth am i suppose to do and he likes me
Hey Shallon. There's a guy at my job who I really like and he likes me too. The problem is he's in a complicated relationship. We still flirt, hug, and cuddle, but it's never gone further that because I don't want to date him if he's still seeing someone else. What should I do?
Amira Elisabeth Wiley let me tell you from experience. If he's not breaking up with her right away or in the near future, that is clearly a red flag. I had a friend who liked this guy who was already in a relationship (I knew the guy too, he went to my school and my friend attended another school) and she too told me he liked her and was in a complicated relationship. Let me tell you right now, if he's not planning on breaking up with her in the near future, most likely, HE'S PLAYING BOTH YOU AND HIS CURRENT GIRLFRIEND. He's either loving the fact that he has two girls on his side, or he is completely indecisive, and neither of those reasons are worth pursuing him or anyone for that matter. Plus it definitely isn't fair to his current girlfriend and it doesn't matter what she's like, neither of you deserve that. In short, leave the guy, you can do better
There are guys who are just objectively hot, at least for most women. When they enter your social sphere that very likely is also your friend's social sphere, somehow to pretend that because you said it first gives you more of a right to flirt is ridiculous. Your friend might be interested also but hasn't probably said it yet. The guy should get a fair chance to make his choice.
Sorry this is really late but, I like this guy super doper hot and a lot of my friends said oh yeah he likes you but at school there was things I had to do at recess sometimes and lunch sometimes and then I missed out on seeing him so then one of my best friends who liked someone else was like okay imma take this opportunity and steal him that’s literally what she said to my best friend that I’m never gonna give up on so here I am in deep love with this guy and he knows but he doesn’t really talk to me even though every one says he likes me and normally this guy isn’t awkward unless he likes someone so yeah I’m on the right track I’m wanting and feeling like oh yeah another awesome day at school and yeah but while I’m out my best friend she goes and starts to talk to him then later abruptly confronts me and says “I like the guy you’ve liked for about 2 years now so yeah sorry” I knew she wasn’t sorry but I kept trying but because he was awkward around me I couldn’t talk to him about it and what she was saying to me and what she was saying about him. She goes around and talks to him and then brags about talking to him because he doesn’t talk to me, it’s been going on for ages and just yesterday my friend came up to me and said when (your best friend that likes your crush let’s call her Gemma) Gemma looks (let’s call him Alex) in the eye she gets intimidated and when I look him in the eyes and he looks back a faint after that episode he was like “haha nice (let’s say Rudy lol idk don’t judge) Rudy” and fistbumps him which made me feel amazing like I was worth this cruel world and he seemed perfect everyday I loved him more and more until I came out of a meeting I was in and I saw Gemma and some other people chasing after him playing a game and suddenly I see Gemma look Alex in the eye and he doesn’t really look back but then she starts hysterically laughing and comes over and says oh wow that was great. She could tell I was jello so she kinda smiled and ignored me, she knew she was hurting me and she kept saying sorry I’ll stop but she never did and she thought it was funny sometimes. So then when we go inside to our class my friend ( let’s call her azalea idk) she comes over right in front of me and says I think Alex likes you to Gemma and I literally feel like crying so idk what to do and I think I should stop liking him but I can’t I’ve been trying to for weeks listening to my best best best best friend but it never works and I know he’s perfect for me but my friend kinda took him after she broke up with her bf so idk but I’m in a mood we’re I feel like talking to someone so should I talk to my crush and tell him what’s going on or what but if hes awkward around me then how do I talk to him?!
What happens if its ur rival and she doesn't like you and the guy is neutral like im in a very confused position as the guy is my best friend and for my rival she is close to him too and she knows and she kept flirting with him like sitting next to him and taking up my space and like im feeling very confused pls i need help ;(
My friend likes this guy that she announces two weeks ago and I have liked him since the first day and everyone thinks that he likes her but he hasn’t made it official and she and I weren’t even close friends but I wanted to be friends with her until I really noticed I started liking him baaaaad so she is one of the popular girls so I had no chance can someone please help me! 😩
The third kind of person you described feels kind of like the way my sister is towards me.. 😬 when we were younger (I’m 3 yrs older) she used to like older guys but most of them thought she was too young so they would try to talk to me or liked me and she hated me for that she always had this idea that i was taking the guys she liked and I didn’t most of the time I didn’t like them and just ignored them. Well I thought that went away as we got older but just recently this guy that she slept with was trying to talk to me and I told him no.. I know what you did with my sister. Well we were all 3 together talking and drinking and she was trying to cut me down saying things about me and making fun of me I don’t know what to think. Am I really a bad sister or is she!??
okay so I’m in 10th grade and my friend told me that she likes this guy and it happened to be the guy that I have feelings for and me and him text a lot but I can’t really tell if he like me or not…I literally can’t stop thinking about him and I will honestly be upset if he doesn’t like me…I just don’t know how my friend will react when I tell her that I have feelings for him since this has never happened before
Hi Shallon! How do I tackle a friend who keeps telling me how hot my former love is? I'm over him but it seems she doesn't really care about me when she tells me she has a passing crush on him. I've tried to be cool about it. But it's really annoying and disrespectful.
Me and my bff have a cruch on the same guy but he teases and talks to her while he talks and purposely embarrasses me also he asked me for private art lessons and one of our teachers said we can come in at lunch for it so I'm starting that tomorrow. Also everyone thinks my crush and my bff are dating and I know she has a crush on him but she doesn't know that I do too. So what do I do....
My sister used to purposely talk or even sleep with guys she knew I was interested in. She did the Same with her friends. Just some of confidence issue imo. Was so aggravating.
Seriously your saying this because I'm 8yrs old only and my mom said that I can't see those stuff so you better stop or stop it ok ok ok ok ok ok ok thank you😤😤😡😡😠😠👹👹
Dilenia Henriquez ...
Wtf
If they sleep with her they don’t deserve you
Shallon you need to make storytime videos! Your life experiences are so interesting and relate to any advice you give us. It’ll be nice to do the reverse and just tell stories of your life and add bits of advice here and there. :)
She wrote a whole book about her dating experiences! Here's the amazon link: www.amazon.com/Exes-Ohs-Downtown-Facebook-Stalking/dp/0307885119/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1540044638&sr=8-1&keywords=shallon+lester
My friend likes my crush but my crush likes me and every time she’s around him she blushes that makes me so 😡 😤
Get out my face SAME OMG
Same, me and him are so close but any guy I get close with my friend after a little tells me she likes him, like she’s done this at least twice to me now and I just don’t get itttt 😫
@@holaciao6334 give her a last chance and if it keeps going then talk to her
Same!!
You shouldn't get mad at her cause its not here fault that she likes your crush. I know this bec im in this situation too but we have worked out things. Anyway you guys have to talk about it and ask yourself and her,friendship or "that guy"?
I'm pretty young, and this just happened to be recently, and I was literally about to scream since my friend on multiple occasions said how he's so weird and how she would never like him. Thank the lord someone like you exists. ;w;
Joke on you haha...
Just like me😢
In college, my friend liked a guy, but he liked me. She told me she was fine with it. I asked over and over again. She said it was fine. It wasn’t fine. She hated me after the fact. Oh well... girl should have been honest. Another time after college, another friend liked another boy... I tried to set them up, but... he liked me... I was in a relationship, so I thought that was super weird, but I never told her that he liked me instead. We remained friends.
I have a problem rn😭
How do you handle or fix if your man has gotten lazy in a long term relationship? When is it time to walk away? Please do a video on this!!
Why has he gotten lazy? Always have to find the root cause of the issue --
is it the people around him that enable him to act like that?
is he not finding fulfillment in his career or job?
is it way too easy for him around the house because he has no responsibilities?
Ultimately once you figure that out it's just best to talk to him.
Voice your concerns, put it out there. If he's unwilling to work with you or assure you that he acknowledges it and will do better then it's time to cut the cord. Hope it all worked out~
I need friend like youu in my life!! haha
My ex-roommate when I was 17 really liked this guy - they were in the same degree program and they were friendly (I barely knew him, just saw him at parties sometimes, I thought he was hot, but he had a girlfriend so). My roommate talked about him often, always saying stuff like “I’ll never have a chance with him, plus he has a girlfriend” etc. Fast forward more than a year, my roommate and I are still friends but not as close, because we didn’t live together anymore. Her crush had broken up with his girlfriend a while back, we met at a party and made out when drunk. At this point, a whole year had passed since my friend telling me she had a crush on him, and I honestly COMPLETELY forgot about it. The guy started texting me, I started to like him and I could tell he was into me. A couple weeks later, I was at another party with my ex-roommate and mutual girl friends. Another girl friend asked me if I was seeing someone... I was about to tell her, when it suddenly hit me. I remembered my other friend used to have a crush on him. It was such an awful sinking feeling, I felt like I’d betrayed her even though i had genuinely forgotten. I pulled my friend aside and told her what happened, apologised and asked if she was OK. She said not to worry, that she was cool with it and she was over him anyway. Fast forward 6 years, him and I are still together and me and my friend are closer than ever. We spoke about this recently, and she admitted she still had feelings for him when I asked her about it 6 years ago, but she put them aside because she wanted me to be happy. She is honestly such an amazing friend 💕
R u guys still together
It's like you have a video for every experience of my love life lol.
A year and a half ago, I lost a friend because we both liked the same guy. He's now my boyfriend. Tbh, I was actually starting to take my distance with my friend before I realized we both liked the same guy. She was a very toxic person, always involved in some kind of drama. She was very possessive and jealous of my friends. Ultimately, I didn't like the way she spoke about my friends, even if I considered her my best friend.
Anyway, when she told me she liked this guy which whom I had a crush for the past 3 years, she was dating three guys, and was behind two more guys (one of them was a friend's boyfriend). But even if I was distancing myself from her and knew that she was cheating on several guys, I was willing to not do anything about this guy that we both liked. Buuuut... He was the one who decided to do something instead. He asked me to go out with him on a date.
When my friend found out, she started telling me he was The Worst Fuckboy on Earth. Back when she had no idea that I was into him, he was The Best Man on Earth. All of a sudden, he became the worst of the worst.
Anyway, maybe I'm not the best of friends, but I'm glad I picked him instead of her.
There’s a diff few scenarios for this tbf
1. It’s your friends ex? And they’re over him?
- No, don’t date him
2. Your friend had a one night stand with him and barely spoke after?
- Yes, date him
3. Your friends has barely spoke to him, she just thinks he’s attractive?
- Yes, date him
4. Your friend has hooked up with him multiple times?
- No, don’t date him
5. The guy blatantly led your friend on to hook up with her to say after that they’re ‘incompatible’
- No, don’t date him
I just wanted to say that I adore all of your videos! I was the "Shallon" in this situation last summer and wish I had seen this sooner, lol, but watching it gives me a healing perspective. Such great advice. thank you 🙏
This is one of the sweetest, most sincere videos you ever made! Adorable and such good advice omg
You remind me of Drew Barrymore in looks and your personality kind of reminds me of Samantha from Sex and the City. 😃
9 times out of 10 I have never experienced any of the topics of Shallon's videos. I just like putting her on in the background in and taking from it the lessons that apply to me. I guess I'm one of the few people that does not have that much drama in my life and I'll take it. especially if it'll pit me against my best friend for a guy. In that case Shallon's advice applies i would put it all out there with my friend and whether or not she chooses to be reasonable or just be head-over-heels for the guy at least it wont be messy
i have a question. my best friend always “takes away” the friends I make at school and makes them like her more. they don’t even like me or talk to me anymore because of her. she is a big attention seeker. what do i do now and how can i guide those friends back to me again?
The question is why is she your best friend? That sounds like a toxic relation
You don't need those friends back, they are not your real friends. And ditch your toxic bff, find new people to hang out with.
drop that toxic friend
Don't hang out with such kind of demons
I love you! You are so smart shallon what will i do with out you
3:33 the "thanks alot BITCH 😃" TOOK ME OUT 😂
Every single thing you mentioned is SO SO true! Wish I knew this earlier
This just happened to me now and I just wanna crawl into a hole and die.
Just change you attitude haha
SAME
It will get better
magnus ice cream easier said than done
I have a story so I have this childhood friend and in grade6 this girl which is my bff liked my childhood friend even though I already had a crush on him ever since kindergarten and this girl just braggs about it and she told me that my crush said I like you to her now I feel sad and betrayed she knew I had a crush on my childhood friend.......
Shallon, what do older women (mid 30s) look for in a relationship, especially being courted by someone in their mid 20s?
Thankfully this has never happened to me haha! But I always have to watch your videos :)
Sometimes I feel like me and my best friend are one In a million. We've always had crushes on the same dudes and we BONDED over it! We always helped each other get the boys instead of fighting over them, we are always there for each other!
Girl, you are not just cute. You are beautiful. You actually remind me of Hillary Duff. Thanks for the video. Very informative. Especially what type of friends are toxic and why.
love your videos shallon! keep up the great work! AND absolutely LOVE your "Happy Endings"!! Sets you apart from others!
I was called "Despreate but I know am not And I don't consider myself despreate. And it's really hard to live in life to me bc alot of people like to judge just because of something horrible I Did as a kid. And I love myself regardless of what anyone else thinks!
if me and my best friend like the same guy we'll prob both sleep w him and then talk about it 💅
Bro same
PIRIIT
Forrr reaaaal 😂
Forrr reaaaal 😂
but the both of them are my absolute best friends
Hey Shallon!! Can you do a video about crushing on a coworker / boss (who also happens to give very mixed signals) who is older? (I'm 18 and in high school, he's 24 and out of college). I love your videos by the way!
Hey Shallon, it may be irrelevant with this video, but could you do a video on how to deal with a mean coworker? I just got a job in a law firm as a trainee and there is one particular co-worker, a woman (lawyer), that didn't like me from the moment she saw me, tried to diminish me by commenting on my attire, said that I can't speak inside the office (which is impossible of course since I just came there and I'm a trainee so I need to be taught some things and ask some questions) and generally she had an awful attitude from day one. How should I react? Should I speak to the boss immediately and ask to be transfered in another office? I believe that you have experience in that and you could help me. Thanks!
Άσπα Δ. I would speak to your boss about it. That’s a hostile environment
This gets ugly! It’s best to just let it go
She’s more of my frenemie (we used to be friends then when I found out she liked him we started being fake to each other)
when I was 14/ 15 years old i used to have a massive crush on this one guy. We used to have lunch together because our families knew each other. i was crushing on this guy since my early 11 or 12 years, so he was basically the first guy I kinda genuinely felt attracted to...
then one day he told me that he liked my best friend, my heart shrunk and broke (i really felt it), but on the other hand, i decided to tell my best friend because hey, I want to make people happy before I can be happy and pursue my own happiness
i didn't want to be a dick about someone who didin't like me back so i told her -- shortly after that they got together.
fast forward a couple of months, they dated and broke up -- it was a fast thing, didn't last very long -- I still liked him (still kinda do wehn i see him) but the butterflies were gone.
10 years later. I am studying, had to repeat a year, and ...BAM!
There he stands! one of the most handsome guys I have ever seen in real life, he reminded me sooo much of my first crush that i immediately started to feel attracted to him... I want to know him better! I want him to talk to me, and only me!
I got home and started to tell my flat mate how dreamy he is...
and then... she met him at a home party, at his place, THE SAME DAY...she came back home and was all hyper and said " i think i am in love, i want him soo bad!" i am sad now because i have already had a really similar situation in the past...
she told me " i am going after him, unless you want him?" ..i just couldn't tell her to keep distance and told her she should go for him even though I kinda want him to like me instead... it's up to him to chose and maybe he likes someone else...
my flatmate is an amazing person, but i feel like she just wants him for a night... to "win him over" like a trophy or a prize, i'm also wondering if she is just so into him right now because she needs to prove our other flat mate (who has a crush on her) that she is not interested...
... and her way to tell him is by openly sleeping with other guys.
... i genuinely like him though and i would find it sad if my friend would "use" him just as a trophy... he deserves better.
what happened after this??
I've had a best friend for 10+ years and she is really insecure so I do my best to help her with that but I dont think it's okay for her to treat me badly because she feels badly, especially when I'm doing my best to help her. I feel like she always tries to one up me. Every time I've told her I like a guy, she then tells me she likes him too (I'm in highschool btw). Then she goes for them and presses me to say it's okay. And then when I confronted her about it she said that she can't control how she feels and it just recently happened again and I don't know what to do... Please help!!!
It's Me find a new friend. No callousness intended it’s just that that will never change and you need to prioritize yourself in relationships
She s mad she need a psychiatrist
what happens if you like this guy and your friend like the same guy but he likes you and you aren't ready for a relationship but he doesn't like her so she's mad at you for not liking her
What if this dude is your best friend also??
it was 2018 when my best friend started to like a guy so I supported her. But then in 2019, there was a little complication. I and that guy became classmates and my best friend is from the other class. I tried to make them close to each other because that is my goal. But I didn't expect that he would have feelings for me and the same feelings I have for him (but I didn't tell my best friend about my feelings). It was hard choosing especially it was my first time. Up until now 2020 I always thought of that guy, I miss him already, but I know that any point of view in the world, we cant be together, because my best friend still likes him.
And if someone says I am irrelevant I will not respond cause that just shows they care.
Shallon you have fucking changed my life with your vids
keep it up sis
I told my best friend that she can like him and that we will always be together. I'm sad but I love her soooo much and I can't loose her😔
Hey Shallon, first of all i really appreciate your advice.
I have a problem with gettung worked up in a guy. For example i've "fell in love" with a guy in my english class in college. I have probably talked 10 times to him, but i already fell in love with him, even though i did not really knew him. Then another example: another guy from college stopped studying this month. This made me so sad because i already imagined having a relationship with him or even just kissing him. But i've also never talked to him, besides saying thank you to him for picking up my pen😅. Now i am so sad, though i know that this is kind of sick already because i did not know him. But i always think what if he is the one and i've missed chance or sth. Can you pls help, because i'm sitting here being upset about a guy that i did not even knew.
I never liked this guy, but my friend has liked him for 2 years. She has gotten so close to dating him. She is the best person in the world and she was in the hospital when i was born. But now i have caught feelings for him. She doesn’t know this, but i hope she never does.
New videos make me so happy!
I just told my bff I liked her crush and that she could be with him because I'd rather have myself hurt than her and I told her I didnt want this to ruin our friendship and she told me i was fine and that she would just become friends with the guy for me and i still rejected it and I'm letting her keep her feelings for him
Me and one of my best friends I’m NOT SURE if she likes him but I am sure I have been adding up clues. She is going to tell me today though. I really like this guys, he is so nice! I THINK she does too, so I need helpppp!
your advice is legendary
I’m sad and angry and jealous cuz me and my best friend like the same girl and I brought her presents with heart balloons and flowers on Valentine’s Day, and I confessed that I loved her... and my friend one week later tells me he likes the same girl now I’m mad that he going to get her and not me he super fit, there no way if we get in a fight I’m gonna win!! Now he having conversations with her all day she paying more attention to him than me 🤬 and he talking about her every single day!! And I’m so mad I want to end him!!! But I try to keep as calm as possible cuz he one of my BFFs and I can’t lose that... so idk what to do!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!
How do you handle people who ignore you like you don't exist? I hope you do a video about this in the future. Thank you for all the videos Shallon
thanks for this queen
I have experienced this like 9 time my best friend wont stop liking the boys i like and i never told her
I like your many different looks, this look is very pretty.
Whats funny is the friend that likes the same guy as me her name is Erica.
Acidic Purple how is that funny 😂
Run!
Shallon my friend met the guy in a club one night that we were all at & they kissed but as soon as he saw me, he liked me & wants to get to know me. I fancy him too & wana know him. My friend is acting like i broke girl code & refusing to talk abt it with me. The guy says the kiss meant nothing & he never meant to do that & genuinely wants to get to know me. What do i do??? Love u Xxxxxx
What about if your friend doesn’t know you like him? Or like if she is kinda psycho about him, like I catch him staring at me but she says he’s looking at her
I sat through every second of your video 😂 thanks for the advice!
Ok so here’s the thing, I have this friend that I wouldn’t consider my bff and that I feel like whenever we start getting closer she starts using me for stuff to benefit herself, a while back she told me she liked a guy and I acted like it was good and all, but the thing is, I liked him before that and I’m starting to catch feelings again. This guy compliments me, listens to me and sits down with me to talk about things I like, he’s funny, he’s smart and he’s very nice, and you know what? I wanna ask him out. But the thing is, if I were to ask him out, that would make my friend feel bad and I don’t wanna do that to her either :(
By the way I have another friend that used to like this guy and felt like he gave her mixed signals (which I don’t agree with, thinking that what he did was feel uncomfortable because she was coming on too strong, and that’s a habit of hers, but alas I still consoled her).
My best friend is dating a guy that’s a gold digger, she said that she doesn’t care and she choose him over our friendship, but this guy is flirting with everyone even me, I hated him for doing that so I told her and she’s blaming me for “ruining her relationship “ they haven’t even met yet , she met him on only thru a friend of mine , that told me that he was a con artist and he used to used women for money since high school, what should I do? Let her get robbed of all her money and stay away or be by her side, I already know, and so does she that’s he’s a player. , but she doesn’t even care!!! Help please anyone thank you sooo much for your advice
I’m actually having the reverse problem... what to do when you like two guy best friends 😭😭
This helped me so so much!! Put in words so perfectly thank you SO much xxx
What do I do when my best friend likes my BOYFRIEND my friend told me that she likes him and she told her not to tell me just to tell me she likes another guy... Should I confront her??
I had a girlfriend who was jealous of me and I didn't realize it. We would walk into a club/bar/party and she would look for the cutest guy and immediately claim him lol. She would be like "Oh, he's mine". If he approached me, she would be quick to remind me that he was "off-limits" or "hers". I didn't really care because I wasn't going to meet my "man" in that sort of setting anyway. I eventually let her go because she was being overly jealous all of the time and I couldn't deal with that.
I love you and all your amazing advice ❤️ Thank you Shallon🔥
What if the person you like is your best friend but your other bff also likes him
Me and my friend had a crush at the same guy but when i found out the guy that i had a crush on he fell inlove with my friend they inlove with each other and me im just nothing to do with it im just nobody again hurt but im proud to my friend at the same time cuz its just a boy i don't want to destroy our friendship because of a guy. I just came up to be friends with my crush that's it. And i starting to step away and move on cuz it might be the cause of jealousy if i keep chatting with him or anything so yep that's the matter of life
I personally would never stop 2 people who likes each other in spending time with each other. Rather 1 person be hurt than 3.
I guess I’m the one taking the only person getting hurt haha. I had this boy I liked a lot but got rejected twice. Him and my besty start talking and she likes him now so it’s hard to not be jealous ig
GUYS I NEED HELPPPP!!!!
ok so... I like this guy and so does my best friend. I liked him for a few months now but I never told her, and recently she told me that she likes him!! I got so mad. I don't know what to do... I feel like me and my crush are getting close, but my best friend is so gorgeous I feel like she will take him away :(. And I can't just tell her that I like him because she will get mad because she told me first but I did like him first... please someone help me and tell me what to do.
someone help. I have a best friend who used to be friends with someone, but now hates. That girl has a new best friend and that best friend likes the same guy as I do. I don’t know what to do about this situation, since we already have a poor relationship with each other. I tried to move on from the guy for her sake but it’s harder than I thought. help please.
so my bff had a crush on a guy that i like now but when i ask her if she still likes him she says no but then when i’m texting him she keeps saying it’s bothering her so idk what to do. also she has his snap password :///. so oof
End it. She's acting too shifty.
I liked this guy first but then my friend told me she liked him (i dont think she knew i liked him because i never showed it) but he doesnt like her and he likes me....but i turned him down. I dont like him as much anymore but she still does. So we all just salty lol but at least we all still friends 😂
My ‘bestfriend’ likes my crush and she knows darn well I liked him first. So I feel it’s fair for her to drop him. Idk how to explain it she just makes me mad
What if u and the guy have been friends for longer that u and ur BFF?
I mean it really depends on who he likes. If he likes you then talk to your friend about it. If he likes your friend more you have the choice to continue to chase him and possibly ruin your friendship with your best friend, or Incourage your friend and try to stop liking him.
Oop- sorry probs not useful bc it’s been 2 years-
ahh i’m in this right now and he doesn’t like either of us but i’ve liked him since 6th grade and out of nowhere she likes him and i’m so heart broken
I really don't know what to do right now me and my crush are SO close and i really think he likes me back since he like blushes whenever we're together and always flirt with me. But now my friend who has a BOYFRIEND just told me she likes him and i couldn't tell her that i like him too so i just told her to confess to him....
And she was like "i think he likes me back" when he literally doesn't talk to her AT ALL
Tbh i don't think she likes him cuz she's SO in love with her boyfriend and she always tells me about him....
My bestfriend told me MAYBE he told her to tell me that she likes him to see how i'll react or if i'll get jealous or something BUT i don't know....ugh that shit is so confusing lmao
I have experienced this 12 timeeeeeessssssssss
The dislikes are from the ppl that tried to say this to there friend but it went wrong
The question is, when is a good time to talk to them??
I had the same situation we both liked the guy and he asked me out we are together 9 years now even though she forgave me sometimes I feel she's making sure I don't forget
I'm curious. There are sex positions everywhere but what are good makeout and kissing positions?
So what if he started working at my job and she started crushing on him as I started to crush on him too. The next day he bought me coffee and has started talking to me. So now I kind of want to let her know but don’t know how to?
but what if you met ur friend when ur crush invited you to hang out, and u find out she likes him but now she and I are friends wth am i suppose to do and he likes me
Thank you, this helped me a lot with my situation.😊
Hey Shallon. There's a guy at my job who I really like and he likes me too. The problem is he's in a complicated relationship. We still flirt, hug, and cuddle, but it's never gone further that because I don't want to date him if he's still seeing someone else. What should I do?
Amira Elisabeth Wiley let me tell you from experience. If he's not breaking up with her right away or in the near future, that is clearly a red flag. I had a friend who liked this guy who was already in a relationship (I knew the guy too, he went to my school and my friend attended another school) and she too told me he liked her and was in a complicated relationship. Let me tell you right now, if he's not planning on breaking up with her in the near future, most likely, HE'S PLAYING BOTH YOU AND HIS CURRENT GIRLFRIEND. He's either loving the fact that he has two girls on his side, or he is completely indecisive, and neither of those reasons are worth pursuing him or anyone for that matter. Plus it definitely isn't fair to his current girlfriend and it doesn't matter what she's like, neither of you deserve that.
In short, leave the guy, you can do better
@@orengkikuo8685 oh I gave up on that playboy a while ago
There are guys who are just objectively hot, at least for most women. When they enter your social sphere that very likely is also your friend's social sphere, somehow to pretend that because you said it first gives you more of a right to flirt is ridiculous. Your friend might be interested also but hasn't probably said it yet. The guy should get a fair chance to make his choice.
Sorry this is really late but, I like this guy super doper hot and a lot of my friends said oh yeah he likes you but at school there was things I had to do at recess sometimes and lunch sometimes and then I missed out on seeing him so then one of my best friends who liked someone else was like okay imma take this opportunity and steal him that’s literally what she said to my best friend that I’m never gonna give up on so here I am in deep love with this guy and he knows but he doesn’t really talk to me even though every one says he likes me and normally this guy isn’t awkward unless he likes someone so yeah I’m on the right track I’m wanting and feeling like oh yeah another awesome day at school and yeah but while I’m out my best friend she goes and starts to talk to him then later abruptly confronts me and says “I like the guy you’ve liked for about 2 years now so yeah sorry” I knew she wasn’t sorry but I kept trying but because he was awkward around me I couldn’t talk to him about it and what she was saying to me and what she was saying about him. She goes around and talks to him and then brags about talking to him because he doesn’t talk to me, it’s been going on for ages and just yesterday my friend came up to me and said when (your best friend that likes your crush let’s call her Gemma) Gemma looks (let’s call him Alex) in the eye she gets intimidated and when I look him in the eyes and he looks back a faint after that episode he was like “haha nice (let’s say Rudy lol idk don’t judge) Rudy” and fistbumps him which made me feel amazing like I was worth this cruel world and he seemed perfect everyday I loved him more and more until I came out of a meeting I was in and I saw Gemma and some other people chasing after him playing a game and suddenly I see Gemma look Alex in the eye and he doesn’t really look back but then she starts hysterically laughing and comes over and says oh wow that was great. She could tell I was jello so she kinda smiled and ignored me, she knew she was hurting me and she kept saying sorry I’ll stop but she never did and she thought it was funny sometimes. So then when we go inside to our class my friend ( let’s call her azalea idk) she comes over right in front of me and says I think Alex likes you to Gemma and I literally feel like crying so idk what to do and I think I should stop liking him but I can’t I’ve been trying to for weeks listening to my best best best best friend but it never works and I know he’s perfect for me but my friend kinda took him after she broke up with her bf so idk but I’m in a mood we’re I feel like talking to someone so should I talk to my crush and tell him what’s going on or what but if hes awkward around me then how do I talk to him?!
What happens if its ur rival and she doesn't like you and the guy is neutral like im in a very confused position as the guy is my best friend and for my rival she is close to him too and she knows and she kept flirting with him like sitting next to him and taking up my space and like im feeling very confused pls i need help ;(
My friend likes this guy that she announces two weeks ago and I have liked him since the first day and everyone thinks that he likes her but he hasn’t made it official and she and I weren’t even close friends but I wanted to be friends with her until I really noticed I started liking him baaaaad so she is one of the popular girls so I had no chance can someone please help me! 😩
3 of my friends like my crush but he likes me.. what should i do i’ve given up twice but i really don’t want to give him up again
The third kind of person you described feels kind of like the way my sister is towards me.. 😬 when we were younger (I’m 3 yrs older) she used to like older guys but most of them thought she was too young so they would try to talk to me or liked me and she hated me for that she always had this idea that i was taking the guys she liked and I didn’t most of the time I didn’t like them and just ignored them. Well I thought that went away as we got older but just recently this guy that she slept with was trying to talk to me and I told him no.. I know what you did with my sister. Well we were all 3 together talking and drinking and she was trying to cut me down saying things about me and making fun of me I don’t know what to think. Am I really a bad sister or is she!??
so many videooosss :)))
Your look in this vid ah so fit 😍
I have this problem right now me and my freind discuses this a lot and my best freind is my sister
I have been giving up my love for my bff over 3 times and I'm not gonna do that this time! 😁
okay so I’m in 10th grade and my friend told me that she likes this guy and it happened to be the guy that I have feelings for and me and him text a lot but I can’t really tell if he like me or not…I literally can’t stop thinking about him and I will honestly be upset if he doesn’t like me…I just don’t know how my friend will react when I tell her that I have feelings for him since this has never happened before
this happend to me my friend likes the same guy as me and she calls him cute in front of me the whole time- but he likes her an not me so its no point
Hi Shallon! How do I tackle a friend who keeps telling me how hot my former love is? I'm over him but it seems she doesn't really care about me when she tells me she has a passing crush on him. I've tried to be cool about it. But it's really annoying and disrespectful.
Me and my bff have a cruch on the same guy but he teases and talks to her while he talks and purposely embarrasses me also he asked me for private art lessons and one of our
teachers said we can come in at lunch for it so I'm starting that tomorrow.
Also everyone thinks my crush and my bff are dating and I know she has a crush on him but she doesn't know that I do too. So what do I do....
My situation sucks because all three of us are friends but the video helped
Well..me and my frnd like the same Jimin, heeeelppp!!
Why should 3 people be unhappy? Cause it's fkng unfair if I am the only one!!
Damn it, you're right!