A short Naseeha delivered by Ustadh Abu Taymiyyah after Qiyam Layl on the 23rd of Ramadan 1445AH. Donate to the Masjid at cambridgeislamiccentre.org/donate.
So many times I had compromised my religion by saying it's ok to befriend with the opposite yet I keep falling to the sins. Most of the time when I feel lonely, I always justified that the way to cope that feeling is by coming towards the opposite and talk to them. Wallaahi it's the trap of devil
I live in a joint family with my husbands bothers , their wives and parents. I told my husband about this hadis because I’m not comfortable living like this but my husband said his brothers are not like that so it doesn’t matter and there are so may benefits of joint family so we have to live like this for now.
May Allah make your affair easy for you. Make lots of duaa to Allah to change his heart. Make lots of Istighfar Send salawath on Prophet PBUH Have taqwa (avoid sins, do good deeds) Allah WILL make a way out for you
May Allah give you a way out of this situation, please talk to your husband because this is a grave matter A wife should not go out in front of the brother-in-law or be alone with him in the house, because the Prophet (saw) said: “Beware of entering upon women.” One of the Sahaabah said to him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the brother-in-law?” He said: “The brother-in-law is death!” [Bukhaaree, Fath al-Baari, 9/330]
In islam a woman has a right to request her own accommodation. My personal advice is that if your husband cannot provide own accommodation perhaps you can consider moving back in with your parents and you and your husband can live seperate until you get your own place
May Allaah guide him if that was his response. Just about every man that desires women, is going to at least look at least once at something or someone he shouldn't in a way that he shouldn't.
I agree with many elements but here are my reservations: once married a couple should live separate from the immediate family. Free mixing is not wrong, how else is a man supposed to like and approach a potential partner and likewise. Our communities are full of single men and women who want to get married but dont know how due to all the restrictions imposed by imams and culture such as lower your gaze, dont free mix. Our mosques should be doing match making services. Families should be looking out and beyond the cousins for partners for their sons and daughters. Mixed ethnic marriages should not be looked down upon. If a man sees a women he find attractive outside the mosque but is unsure how to approach her or find out who her parents are, how should he go about it, this is missing from our khutbah's and our Imams should include such topics in their Friday and daily reminder Khutbah's
Free mixing is wrong brother, let’s not spread confusion. Imams don’t speak from their own whims but from the Quran & Sunnah. The ends should never justify the means. That’s how we end up like other religions that have been liberalised. May Allah (SWT) guide us all and make it easy for our single brothers and sisters to find righteous spouses.🤲🏾
Yes brother, free mixing is wrong according to Your Creator and his messenger pbuh, it is certainly not culture, it’s divine law, but I do resonate with the latter statement, some mosques do offer matchups I think Wa allahu ‘allam
@@kolvervlogs6915 definitely bro, from the little Allah (SWT) made haram there’s a lot that he made Halaal. We should always strive for the Halaal no matter how hard it is. May the Almighty accept it from us all.
All was good until you mentioned Andrew Tate. He cannot be looked up to by any muslim, let alone mentioning him in this type of gatherings. He made plenty of problematic statements without retracting them after becoming muslim. He shows arrogance, extravagance, and didn't made any statement regarding his past immoral businesses, heck even his current business is also a shady one. So, brothers in faith, be cautious who you take as role model. Certainly our role model is prophet Muhammad(SAS) who had no solid food for many months. He didn't say that his life is average or showed unhappiness. Sure, we all try our best to earn in the halal way, but not we earn in the haram/shady way and then brag about it and humiliate others because they couldn't earn as much. May Allah(SWT) guide all of us sincere ones and makes our life easier in dunya and akhira.
He literally put out the disclaimer that he does not endorse him, he was simply giving an example of a person who is looked up to by youngsters. The disclaimer was specifically for people such as you, who nit pick these details and create animosity between the people. Don’t forget that he is, as far as we know, your muslim brother. Instead of slandering him, focus on the reminder and take benefit from it. May Allah guide us all.
@cheikhsaadbousall6695 @06:35 The ustad said "There are certain people that we in society respect right? I am gonna mention his name but it's not an endorsement, I am not promoting him. A lot of young people here, look up to Andrew Tate today. Am I wrong to say that? Why do we all look up to him, why do you respect him? Because of all the things that you came to know about him. He says something you are going to take out your pen and paper and note it down. Because you've seen what he's accomplished and what he is up to, and right we respect that". You have to be deaf and dumb to think that he isn't saying Andrew Tate is someone we look up to and we should look up to because of his accomplishments. What's his accomplishment again? And as for the allegation of slandering Andrew, I never did. I just stated what has unfolded till now. Look at his Twitter or Rumble handle and you will find what I wrote, displays of arrogance, extravagance, and mocking others are plenty. I am not saying that he is not a Muslim, I am saying that he and similar personalities cannot be looked up to, as the ustad suggested that we did or should do. The ustad could have mentioned Andrew Tate only to warn Muslims of bewaring of his traits, not suggesting that some of us Muslims looked up to him. Indeed, may Allah(SWT) guide us the sincere ones.
Trust me if you really wanted to gain knowledge from what he’s teaching you would have gained knowledge, but because if your ego and ignorance and dislike of the Ustadh has blindsided you so you are doing your best to find faults in him and what he preaches may الله guide us and forgive your shortcomings Ameen
@ItsHusna528 So, are you claiming to know the intent why I clicked the video and watched it? Surely, Allah(SWT) knows what it was. And once again, you suggested to know my mind by saying I dislike the ustadh. However, I have got not a bit of dislike or hate towards him, and Allah(SWT) is my witness. Have we become so soft and fragile that one simply cannot point a mistake or argue a valid point? The ustadh is beloved to me, but isn't he wrong to suggest that Andrew is someone we should look up to? May Allah(SWT) removes ego, ignorance, blind hate, and blind love from our hearts.
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A short Naseeha delivered by Ustadh Abu Taymiyyah after Qiyam Layl on the 23rd of Ramadan 1445AH.
Donate to the Masjid at cambridgeislamiccentre.org/donate.
So many times I had compromised my religion by saying it's ok to befriend with the opposite yet I keep falling to the sins. Most of the time when I feel lonely, I always justified that the way to cope that feeling is by coming towards the opposite and talk to them. Wallaahi it's the trap of devil
Hope this is talked about in other masjids as well. Not comfortable with family (mix gatherings) which is very common here..
بارك الله فيكم
6:12 - Knowledge saves a lot of people
بارك الله فيك وعن كل عمل تقوم به من أجل الأمة.
I live in a joint family with my husbands bothers , their wives and parents. I told my husband about this hadis because I’m not comfortable living like this but my husband said his brothers are not like that so it doesn’t matter and there are so may benefits of joint family so we have to live like this for now.
May Allah make your affair easy for you. Make lots of duaa to Allah to change his heart.
Make lots of Istighfar
Send salawath on Prophet PBUH
Have taqwa (avoid sins, do good deeds)
Allah WILL make a way out for you
May Allah give you a way out of this situation, please talk to your husband because this is a grave matter
A wife should not go out in front of the brother-in-law or be alone with him in the house, because the Prophet (saw) said:
“Beware of entering upon women.”
One of the Sahaabah said to him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the brother-in-law?”
He said: “The brother-in-law is death!”
[Bukhaaree, Fath al-Baari, 9/330]
In islam a woman has a right to request her own accommodation. My personal advice is that if your husband cannot provide own accommodation perhaps you can consider moving back in with your parents and you and your husband can live seperate until you get your own place
May Allaah guide him if that was his response. Just about every man that desires women, is going to at least look at least once at something or someone he shouldn't in a way that he shouldn't.
Pray to Allah to instill more gheerah into your husband
Masha ALLAH
4:28 subhanAllah I just read that article a few weeks ago!
link to the article?
found it
@@libanjama4080 sorry! I just saw this. I hope you found it. I just searched freemixing on islamqa and it popped up
Mashallah
2:52 - A little bit of knowledge would have helped them and tawfiq to follow it
I agree with many elements but here are my reservations: once married a couple should live separate from the immediate family. Free mixing is not wrong, how else is a man supposed to like and approach a potential partner and likewise. Our communities are full of single men and women who want to get married but dont know how due to all the restrictions imposed by imams and culture such as lower your gaze, dont free mix. Our mosques should be doing match making services. Families should be looking out and beyond the cousins for partners for their sons and daughters. Mixed ethnic marriages should not be looked down upon. If a man sees a women he find attractive outside the mosque but is unsure how to approach her or find out who her parents are, how should he go about it, this is missing from our khutbah's and our Imams should include such topics in their Friday and daily reminder Khutbah's
Free mixing is wrong brother, let’s not spread confusion. Imams don’t speak from their own whims but from the Quran & Sunnah. The ends should never justify the means. That’s how we end up like other religions that have been liberalised. May Allah (SWT) guide us all and make it easy for our single brothers and sisters to find righteous spouses.🤲🏾
Yes brother, free mixing is wrong according to Your Creator and his messenger pbuh, it is certainly not culture, it’s divine law, but I do resonate with the latter statement, some mosques do offer matchups I think Wa allahu ‘allam
@@kolvervlogs6915 definitely bro, from the little Allah (SWT) made haram there’s a lot that he made Halaal. We should always strive for the Halaal no matter how hard it is. May the Almighty accept it from us all.
I beleive the non muslims call it in-breeding.
أُوتِیتُم
Salams Shaykh, not ء with sukoon on Waw. Waw sakin followed by Dhamma
There is nothing meritorious with Salam as a greeting. Use the full greeting - Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wa barakatuhu - or Assalamu Alaykum
All was good until you mentioned Andrew Tate. He cannot be looked up to by any muslim, let alone mentioning him in this type of gatherings. He made plenty of problematic statements without retracting them after becoming muslim. He shows arrogance, extravagance, and didn't made any statement regarding his past immoral businesses, heck even his current business is also a shady one. So, brothers in faith, be cautious who you take as role model. Certainly our role model is prophet Muhammad(SAS) who had no solid food for many months. He didn't say that his life is average or showed unhappiness. Sure, we all try our best to earn in the halal way, but not we earn in the haram/shady way and then brag about it and humiliate others because they couldn't earn as much. May Allah(SWT) guide all of us sincere ones and makes our life easier in dunya and akhira.
He literally put out the disclaimer that he does not endorse him, he was simply giving an example of a person who is looked up to by youngsters. The disclaimer was specifically for people such as you, who nit pick these details and create animosity between the people. Don’t forget that he is, as far as we know, your muslim brother. Instead of slandering him, focus on the reminder and take benefit from it. May Allah guide us all.
@cheikhsaadbousall6695 @06:35 The ustad said "There are certain people that we in society respect right? I am gonna mention his name but it's not an endorsement, I am not promoting him. A lot of young people here, look up to Andrew Tate today. Am I wrong to say that? Why do we all look up to him, why do you respect him? Because of all the things that you came to know about him. He says something you are going to take out your pen and paper and note it down. Because you've seen what he's accomplished and what he is up to, and right we respect that".
You have to be deaf and dumb to think that he isn't saying Andrew Tate is someone we look up to and we should look up to because of his accomplishments. What's his accomplishment again?
And as for the allegation of slandering Andrew, I never did. I just stated what has unfolded till now. Look at his Twitter or Rumble handle and you will find what I wrote, displays of arrogance, extravagance, and mocking others are plenty.
I am not saying that he is not a Muslim, I am saying that he and similar personalities cannot be looked up to, as the ustad suggested that we did or should do. The ustad could have mentioned Andrew Tate only to warn Muslims of bewaring of his traits, not suggesting that some of us Muslims looked up to him. Indeed, may Allah(SWT) guide us the sincere ones.
Trust me if you really wanted to gain knowledge from what he’s teaching you would have gained knowledge, but because if your ego and ignorance and dislike of the Ustadh has blindsided you so you are doing your best to find faults in him and what he preaches may الله guide us and forgive your shortcomings Ameen
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@ItsHusna528 So, are you claiming to know the intent why I clicked the video and watched it? Surely, Allah(SWT) knows what it was.
And once again, you suggested to know my mind by saying I dislike the ustadh. However, I have got not a bit of dislike or hate towards him, and Allah(SWT) is my witness.
Have we become so soft and fragile that one simply cannot point a mistake or argue a valid point? The ustadh is beloved to me, but isn't he wrong to suggest that Andrew is someone we should look up to?
May Allah(SWT) removes ego, ignorance, blind hate, and blind love from our hearts.