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  • @RolloTomassi
    @RolloTomassi 4 года назад +3359

    Damn Josh, you were a lunchbox back then

    • @CUwaga
      @CUwaga 4 года назад +131

      Rollo Tomassi da facking gd fadda! Lol Mr. Redpill

    • @_Pyroon_
      @_Pyroon_ 4 года назад +160

      Haha, Josh rung the redpill bell. You guys are saving mens' lives!

    • @echoalpha9157
      @echoalpha9157 4 года назад +24

      The White Wolf visits :)

    • @TKUA11
      @TKUA11 4 года назад +18

      Don’t be thirsty

    • @TKUA11
      @TKUA11 4 года назад +20

      Don’t be thirsty

  • @BackSlashJvb125
    @BackSlashJvb125 4 года назад +3748

    Why does he look 35 in that old picture and now he looks 25, this guy is reverse growing lol

    • @VypeReaper
      @VypeReaper 4 года назад +195

      The strange case of Benjamin Button

    • @Shadower862
      @Shadower862 4 года назад +117

      It's a n-1 recursion loop

    • @MayorOfMoetown
      @MayorOfMoetown 4 года назад +88

      Lost his testosterone and reverted to pre puberty

    • @ancientgear7192
      @ancientgear7192 4 года назад +132

      @SEEK - R Unfortunately, the chances of finding a wife that loves you unconditionally with all her heart is harder than winning the lottery 100 times in a row.

    • @keysmith7415
      @keysmith7415 4 года назад +160

      Because he's single now.

  • @stever507
    @stever507 3 года назад +3132

    Never enter a contract with someone who gets paid to break it

  • @HM-ih7ku
    @HM-ih7ku 4 года назад +1127

    Josh is monitizing his divorce, meanwhile people trashing him in the comments are actually helping this video bc the youtube algorithms favor interactions...GG Josh and hope you dad is doing better

    • @tutejshaja
      @tutejshaja 4 года назад +14

      Yay, let's help monetize ☺️👍 I also hope your dad is doing better, and that you are feeling better, stay strong!

    • @prototowb244
      @prototowb244 4 года назад +4

      absolutely.

    • @kei2142
      @kei2142 4 года назад +6

      Like tech lead did?

    • @HM-ih7ku
      @HM-ih7ku 4 года назад +7

      @@kei2142 NOOO tech lead is shady af dont trust that man.

    • @HM-ih7ku
      @HM-ih7ku 4 года назад +2

      @@kei2142 well it's similar in the way that they both monetized their divorce...I just don't like tech lead anymore

  • @hatsunemika5313
    @hatsunemika5313 3 года назад +688

    I'll never understand why people say others who don't wanna be married or have kids are selfish??

    • @brandonjpj1
      @brandonjpj1 3 года назад +181

      misery loves company... they also get jealous seeing childless adults living their best lvies..

    • @StewartLucrative
      @StewartLucrative 3 года назад +85

      If you ask me getting married is extremely selfish, you basically are claiming ownership over another human being. Same with having children oh, many people have children who are not financially or emotionally ready and their children will lead terrible lives.

    • @Drain_Life_Archive
      @Drain_Life_Archive 3 года назад +20

      "Sign this form that benefits ONLY ME at your expense or YOU are selfish." That's the logic being hurled at men. Children are even worse. If you want custody, you better have a vagina, because people with those win 85% of cases. I always suggest a man to adopt his own kid if he wants one so he has guaranteed custody no one can later take away from him. All the orphanages full of abandoned kids have ensured that a man doesn't even need a woman to have a kid. If he creates his own, he is taking a huge risk of the mother taking it away from him. And he'll have to PAY HER for 18 years as well. It's much safer for a man to just adopt. So bottom line for men today is, no reason to get married, no reason to reproduce.

    • @n1ghtdr34d3
      @n1ghtdr34d3 3 года назад +26

      only a mad man get married today

    • @purpleskies4553
      @purpleskies4553 3 года назад +9

      I think its odd I mean having a bunch of kids and not really wanting it is selfish because the kids suffer so if you know you don't want kids and don't have them isn't that the least selfish you can be? You're not ruining someone elses life you know who you are and live by it ! Lol :)

  • @FrescoStevens
    @FrescoStevens 4 года назад +1652

    His wife had that “let me speak to your manager” hairstyle🤣😂😂

    • @Sandeep-cz7ls
      @Sandeep-cz7ls 4 года назад +131

      His wife just started spewing the Karen energy 😂

    • @jeffr5552
      @jeffr5552 4 года назад +15

      First thought I had too 😂

    • @ZackAngelSmith
      @ZackAngelSmith 4 года назад +2

      Hahaha

    • @ZackAngelSmith
      @ZackAngelSmith 4 года назад

      @@Sandeep-cz7ls yes thats it

    • @angreeee
      @angreeee 4 года назад +25

      Karen. Thought the same thing.

  • @Atomic_Sausage
    @Atomic_Sausage 3 года назад +1831

    She didn’t change. She just got tired of pretending and the real person came out.

    • @ggrthemostgodless8713
      @ggrthemostgodless8713 3 года назад +94

      That my friend, is the very definition of "changing" it doesn't matter if she changed from a fake one to a "real" one or vice versa, it IS change.

    • @Trust-the-vibe333
      @Trust-the-vibe333 3 года назад +10

      Yep, too draining

    • @whtfolks5517
      @whtfolks5517 3 года назад +6

      Well said

    • @vanessak7069
      @vanessak7069 3 года назад +26

      That's why its better to be yourself from the beginning

    • @Atomic_Sausage
      @Atomic_Sausage 3 года назад +76

      @@vanessak7069
      If women were themselves from the beginning they’d be alone forever

  • @MCC876
    @MCC876 3 года назад +177

    Disney, movies, and music have destroyed many lives.

    • @kayodeadechinan5928
      @kayodeadechinan5928 3 года назад

      Please, can you explain?...

    • @zuhairyassin505
      @zuhairyassin505 3 года назад +3

      agreed

    • @yudhveer99
      @yudhveer99 3 года назад +3

      Yes

    • @yudhveer99
      @yudhveer99 3 года назад +26

      @@kayodeadechinan5928 those movies, etc make people dream about impossible scenarios. They hardwire us to live in a fantasy world and when none of that works out it causes us depression. Hope is fine but those Disney movies provide us with False Hope!

    • @ibetternotseeyousimp556
      @ibetternotseeyousimp556 3 года назад +12

      @@kayodeadechinan5928 the Princess Syndrome

  • @ivanyoed
    @ivanyoed 3 года назад +42

    "There's nothing that I get being married, that I don't get by just being in a long-term relationship"
    ~ Joshua Fluke, 2020

  • @DanWhiteish
    @DanWhiteish 3 года назад +968

    I'm 67 years old, never been married, never regretted it

    • @ginmador9824
      @ginmador9824 3 года назад +47

      gay

    • @evitatruth8755
      @evitatruth8755 3 года назад +107

      @@ginmador9824 lol.....not necessarily true.......but funny response...

    • @MrZorro3250
      @MrZorro3250 3 года назад +33

      You are not alone!

    • @MuaSunny
      @MuaSunny 3 года назад +100

      @@ginmador9824 GAY men marry too, what a stereotype... ah c'mon...are we still doing this in 2021

    • @HeavyInstinct
      @HeavyInstinct 3 года назад +60

      @@ginmador9824 Stupid

  • @_baller
    @_baller 3 года назад +457

    Jeez if my "wife" called me a "beta male simp" that means she's probably cheating with someone who uses Reddit, I'd be done

    • @wellknown1204
      @wellknown1204 3 года назад +33

      Who called people "beta male simp" outside of reddits and certain RUclips channels😂. If someone called their man that in real life, I will judge them first based on that.

    • @Soulseeologia
      @Soulseeologia 3 года назад +17

      Beta male simp are new and useful terms that have been developed in the mansosphere to describe how self-destructive and badly men have been acting for the last few generations. But yeah they should be off limits for women to use especially against their men. That just ain’t right.

    • @SocraticMethodGuy
      @SocraticMethodGuy 3 года назад +15

      if a woman ever calls a man a beta male simp, it's highly likely he is, because no alpha would tolerate any disrespect ever.

    • @Saint_Magnapinna
      @Saint_Magnapinna 3 года назад +8

      Exactly. Normal people don't use that vocab.

    • @dreonthetube
      @dreonthetube 3 года назад +2

      😂😂😂

  • @michelleseveney9113
    @michelleseveney9113 3 года назад +582

    His life, his choice. His choices aren’t hurting anyone- you do you Josh!

    • @Mike-mc3sh
      @Mike-mc3sh 3 года назад +17

      @Precious Erving-Frimpong lol wtf? He's explaining why he won't get married again. And he literally said at the beginning if marriage is your thing than do to it. So how is he influencing people? Get your head out your ass.

    • @smokeybirdman
      @smokeybirdman 3 года назад +1

      Does he have to do you!?

    • @mmmfun77
      @mmmfun77 3 года назад +11

      @Precious Erving-Frimpong but you have your own brain and you are responsible for your own choices so , truth is, no he is not. If anything he is showing them a choice, God Forbid. I chose not to marry or have kids. I own my own house and car. I am not in debt . I have my profession . I’m independent.
      A lot of people my age are now getting divorced since their kids are in college, etc. Many are financially ruined. It isn’t all sunshine and roses doing what ‘society expects of you’ which is to get married and have kids.

    • @tylersingleton9284
      @tylersingleton9284 3 года назад +7

      The problem is he isn't behaving like the utility he is supposed to be.

    • @1mol831
      @1mol831 Год назад

      He failed natural selection though. Its still all good, no one told you to pass natural selection.

  • @im.synikal2825
    @im.synikal2825 3 года назад +1141

    A lot of women want to be married but don’t want to be wives..

    • @markaurelius61
      @markaurelius61 3 года назад +83

      They want the status but not the mutual submission. They want to add the status of marriage to their lives without taking the life of the man needed for that status into account.

    • @josephang9927
      @josephang9927 3 года назад +63

      Sadly this is so true :( Marriage was OK for most people after feminists destroyed it.

    • @markaurelius61
      @markaurelius61 3 года назад +82

      @@harley6867 Of course men do. The thing is that for generations all the blame for cheating was on men. We are finally seeing the nature of women, now that they have been "empowered" with the pill, women's liberation, the sexual revolution and now Tinder, that they are less faithful and more able to play the opposite sex. It is not that men are seen as good, just that women were, and it was wrong. Many men, me included, believed the PR that praised the virtues of women, and found out to our cost that it was wrong.

    • @AjnaYin
      @AjnaYin 3 года назад +69

      @@josephang9927 Feminism hasn't ruined marriage. Women stayed in abusive as f marriages for centuries, now no one has to handle that bullshit and that's it.

    • @thelonesurvivor3955
      @thelonesurvivor3955 3 года назад +39

      @@harley6867 the female sex is the majority of the problem.They don't take it seriously.

  • @theneverending9319
    @theneverending9319 4 года назад +363

    I see a lot of people who have kids for their own selfish reasons.

    • @rickysnow400
      @rickysnow400 4 года назад +35

      There is no other reason to have a kid. The kid isnt alive yet. You make the decision for your self.

    • @containedhurricane
      @containedhurricane 4 года назад +33

      There is no social security in some poor countries, so the poor people gamble on having children. They hope their sons/ daughters would be successful and support them financially when they retire, but most of the poor parents can't give their children good education

    • @margaritasytcheva2730
      @margaritasytcheva2730 4 года назад +1

      Yeah lol. My selfish reason is (ironically) so my parents shut up about it. 😂

    • @manuelhubbard1
      @manuelhubbard1 3 года назад +2

      So true and then they expect or demand financial assistance.

    • @inspirex1831
      @inspirex1831 3 года назад +3

      Only few People should Make Children ,It would be Better.

  • @zee9419
    @zee9419 4 года назад +327

    The thing about lack of intimacy after marriage.... 100% true.

    • @Westcoaststyling
      @Westcoaststyling 4 года назад +1

      What if your wife's body still bangs into her 50's?

    • @jonmicsa2297
      @jonmicsa2297 4 года назад +56

      @@Westcoaststyling then the pool boy Chad is banging her

    • @jonmicsa2297
      @jonmicsa2297 4 года назад +5

      @@zoomman96 u must have been conceived at the greyhound in exchange for a bus ticket so your mother could skip town. Sorry you never knew your father.

    • @MyGreenNest
      @MyGreenNest 4 года назад +7

      Pfff I love my hubby 10 years in

    • @EK-jt5ex
      @EK-jt5ex 4 года назад +2

      @@MyGreenNest why are you gay?

  • @janeprepper177
    @janeprepper177 2 года назад +43

    I'm going to be 56yo, married once, no children. About to get divorced,... Will NEVER get married again. Do not regret the no children thing. There are people out there who never should have had kids. I knew it wasn't for me. "You owe yourself some joy". Amen. 👌

    • @scholaroftheworldalternatehist
      @scholaroftheworldalternatehist Год назад +1

      I don't think grannies are in high demand on the dating market, not to worry

    • @ralph4370
      @ralph4370 10 месяцев назад

      The irony is people who want kids have issues making the kids. The ones that are irresponsible and get pregnant and struggle are the ones reproducing at higher alarming levels.

  • @netteyf3857
    @netteyf3857 3 года назад +154

    I have a lot of respect for you choosing not to get married again because believe me it's overrated.

    • @whtfolks5517
      @whtfolks5517 3 года назад +17

      Way overrated. I’ll never get married again. Mgtow

    • @abeltesfaye_
      @abeltesfaye_ 3 года назад

      I'm single so just wondering, how is it overrated? I'm in no rush to get married so it'd be interesting to hear someone else's take

    • @patrusso7278
      @patrusso7278 3 года назад +5

      @@abeltesfaye_ .... watch ^ ^ & listen to this video.

    • @makakowsky7042
      @makakowsky7042 3 года назад +2

      @@abeltesfaye_ Yes, pretty much everything he says is true. Medical insurance is literally the only practical reason for marrying these days (at least in the states), and that's just not enough for some.
      That or if your trying to help someone gain citizenship... 🤷‍♀️

  • @ROKKANS
    @ROKKANS 4 года назад +513

    Bro zero regrets subscribing, this guy is one of the realist people out there, thank God that you’re open enough to share your experiences

    • @betht840
      @betht840 4 года назад +1

      @teflontelefon who says you can control your fate? You wish you did.

    • @Kanal7Indonesia
      @Kanal7Indonesia 3 года назад +5

      He is the realest guy on RUclips, so relatable whether you're a programmer or not. 💯

    • @chakkachanda
      @chakkachanda 3 года назад

      Genesis 2- the mystery of marriage... it is beautiful!!!

  • @riffsfromtheabyss666
    @riffsfromtheabyss666 3 года назад +779

    Smart men don’t get married now a days.

  • @oliveesperanzaolivar2807
    @oliveesperanzaolivar2807 3 года назад +417

    i remember my dad telling me, "a wife is like a hand grenade, remove the ring and your house is gone." back then i did not understand it because i was young, but now after seeing whats happening to ppl i know, i understand what he meant.

    • @davidevans7477
      @davidevans7477 3 года назад +42

      That's a great analogy. Wise father!

    • @ElmwoodParkHulk
      @ElmwoodParkHulk 3 года назад +37

      Marriage is a 3 ring circus .....first there's the engagement ring , then there's the wedding ring , then there's the suffering ....

    • @mgtowmonger2729
      @mgtowmonger2729 3 года назад +12

      Married women have a grenade of their own. It's called the "Fat Grenade" and once they have landed a sucker / husband, they are quick to pull that pin and get fat and stay fat LOL! And like any grenade, if you cannot get away in time you're caught up in the explosion!

    • @kingglitchez6851
      @kingglitchez6851 3 года назад +1

      @@mgtowmonger2729 what?

    • @mgtowmonger2729
      @mgtowmonger2729 3 года назад +6

      @@kingglitchez6851 After a marriage is secured, women let themselves go... (gain weight). What's a man gonna do?

  • @lauramcfee5533
    @lauramcfee5533 3 года назад +1170

    Marriage licenses need to be like driving licenses, they should be renewed every few years. That way you can choose to renew or terminate without all the legal crap !!

  • @jonescomplete
    @jonescomplete 4 года назад +186

    HOW DARE YOU MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR OWN LIFE SHAME SHAME SHAME

    • @MrSmileeey
      @MrSmileeey 4 года назад +1

      @Blackpilled Saint the person was actually referring to the fact that he got mad that she started changing...why does he feel like he has to decide how her hair is going to look like?

    • @anotherguyonthepc5
      @anotherguyonthepc5 3 года назад

      @@MrSmileeey get real, short purple hair is disgusting. You don't have to fit a mold, but most dudes don't dig that and sexual attraction is important if you're serious about a relationship.

    • @MrSmileeey
      @MrSmileeey 3 года назад +1

      @@anotherguyonthepc5 It's disgusting for you, not everyone thinks the same as you... sorry to break it down for you.
      If you really like someone does it matter if they have green, purple, whatever hair? please.
      Clearly, he didn't even like her in the first place and has the necessity to feel like he can control her choices.

    • @anotherguyonthepc5
      @anotherguyonthepc5 3 года назад +1

      @@MrSmileeey that's a lot of words just to say you're in denial, I've been through a similar situation and felt the same way. You gonna tell me if I went from my current lifter physique to a fatass and gave up that my wife/gf wouldn't have the same right to not be attracted to it? Get over yourself

    • @neosrdjan671
      @neosrdjan671 3 года назад

      @@MrSmileeey sorry for yourself.

  • @Nelo_Wolf
    @Nelo_Wolf 4 года назад +430

    You own a business. She would own more than a half in a divorce settlement.

    • @Nelo_Wolf
      @Nelo_Wolf 4 года назад +6

      @@jamesv3309 facts

    • @Nelo_Wolf
      @Nelo_Wolf 4 года назад +14

      @Super loyal to their options

    • @toplad8113
      @toplad8113 4 года назад +38

      @@og-sq8xt Lol. He was humiliated and bullied by his ex-wife. She was trying to trick him into cheating so she can force him into divorce. He didn't wanna divorce because he wouldn't be able to stay in the country and finish and get his degree. He would have lost years of his life for nothing. She actively kept him reliant on her and didn't even attempt to help.
      It was a case of emotional abuse and all around a horrible situation that he had to make the most of through getting his degree at the very least. Talk about being dishonest.

    • @Nelo_Wolf
      @Nelo_Wolf 4 года назад +19

      @@og-sq8xt cause she turned the tables on him. She was playing mind games. Watch the episode of him being married and divorced and returning to America

    • @dattebenforcer
      @dattebenforcer 4 года назад +9

      And you still need to pay her even after she leaves.

  • @Sarablueunicorn
    @Sarablueunicorn 3 года назад +195

    I've watched his marriage video.
    He married when he was only 19 and with a girl from a foreign country (Finland) and moved there, without previou knowledge of the culture, language, etc.
    He was also a student and the wife was working and being the only bread winner.
    A lot of struggles and incompatibilities lead to a painful experience.

    • @losthope98
      @losthope98 3 года назад +38

      Exactly. I got married young but never experienced any relationship issues solely because I found someone that I am compatible with.
      This video definitely seems to be shifting the blame to sound a bit more favorable.

    • @brrguitarist
      @brrguitarist 3 года назад +40

      @@losthope98 ive watched quite a few of his videos on his relationships and I gotta say, I dont really feel bad for this guy. A lot of his excuses are ignoring his mistakes. He is pretty self centered and the most painful part is he doesnt seem to understand how that effects relationships./

    • @losthope98
      @losthope98 3 года назад +26

      @@brrguitarist Absolutely. He kept showing up in my recommended I cant stand his content. It is one thing to play the victim and I'm almost always down for a good pity party, but the lack of accountability seems to naturally lead to a very MGTOW type of audience that floods his comments. People keep shitting on his ex wife but refuse to acknowledge his faults. I can't stand someone who let's their fans shit on women who refuse to have bums for husbands.

    • @brrguitarist
      @brrguitarist 3 года назад +19

      @@losthope98 look at the video talking about his recent gf cheating. The signs were there. She even attempted to get him to engage to rekindle the relationship and he ignored her. It sucks she cheated, but he didnt do much to prevent it.

    • @losthope98
      @losthope98 3 года назад +1

      @@vaughanbaker1177 being a better partner definitely helps

  • @gauloise6442
    @gauloise6442 4 года назад +196

    I dont understand the whole "you're selfish" if you dont have kids. The people i know with kids for the most part have them for their own ego reasons.

    • @bbbbbbb51
      @bbbbbbb51 4 года назад +3

      The wise words of Daniel Tosh, "MMMMMMmmmm. I fucked up. You try!"

    • @godwinyo5206
      @godwinyo5206 4 года назад +26

      Bringing life here in this world just to experience suffering is more selfish

    • @fortuneeeeeeeeeee5220
      @fortuneeeeeeeeeee5220 4 года назад

      Facts

    • @ElecktroHasARedHoodie
      @ElecktroHasARedHoodie 4 года назад +8

      Ive noticed most people have kids for 2 reasons: either because thats what society forced them to do or because they think a child will fix their lives. A kid should be a compliment to your life.

    • @calprowe
      @calprowe 4 года назад +6

      Well, it's pretty obvious why choosing to not have kids is thought of as selfish. You want more time, sleep, space, things, opportunities, and most of all, money... for yourself. What's not to understand?

  • @Mturner450
    @Mturner450 4 года назад +260

    You just killed marriage execution style. Most logical break down I've heard so far.

    • @crashlee9585
      @crashlee9585 4 года назад +7

      Was it executed like the spanish inquisition?

    • @Reactionary_Harkonnen
      @Reactionary_Harkonnen 3 года назад +6

      @@crashlee9585 probably the Moors invasion...
      The Moors killed more people in two days then the entire Spanish Inquisition.

    • @evilinside6327
      @evilinside6327 3 года назад +2

      Serial killer. :)

    • @crazeekids9744
      @crazeekids9744 3 года назад +2

      It’s logical if you have his mindset. Not everyone feels that way. I have had horrible experiences in marriage, but I still believe in marriage and believe that it can add benefits to your life. Nothing is 100% good or 100% bad.

    • @freethinker3083
      @freethinker3083 2 года назад +2

      @@crazeekids9744 what value does it have for you to be married vs just in a relationship?

  • @bluemountainlittle
    @bluemountainlittle 4 года назад +337

    Josh is realistic, not pessimistic. I am the same way, and find that people always confuse the two.

    • @MrAeternal
      @MrAeternal 4 года назад +30

      Because reality is harsh

    • @Soccercrazyigboman
      @Soccercrazyigboman 4 года назад +25

      Same. Jesus I get told I have a negative mentality. I'm like no, I'm just brutally honest with myself

    • @FlyboyHelosim
      @FlyboyHelosim 4 года назад +13

      People see me as always being negative but for years I've been a self-confessed realist. People like to live in a fantasy world, which is fine to a degree, but when shit needs to get real, I'll be the first to tell it like it is.

    • @Soccercrazyigboman
      @Soccercrazyigboman 4 года назад +2

      @Mr. Green got all that demon action YEEEEEAAAAH

    • @AlphaCrucis
      @AlphaCrucis 4 года назад +3

      I want to like this 10 times. Even after I explain it to people they still stick to believing I'm just being negative. How precise in my speech must I be before they understand?

  • @joewhittle801
    @joewhittle801 3 года назад +216

    Someone admitting they’re selfish- but not having kids- is not only totally cool, it’s admirable in my book. I can’t stand people who have kids then are self-centered and lousy parents. It’s like, don’t have kids if you’re not going to commit to doing it well

    • @bethanyleonalemleykottonqu7570
      @bethanyleonalemleykottonqu7570 3 года назад +8

      Me neither then innocent parents are loosing there kids to the state by lies falsifying court documents. And so much more . It happen to me and so many people I know personally . The system destroys relationships marriages turn the parent against the other parent turning the kids against both parents by a form of gaslighting narcissistic abuse and brain washing you do not even need a college degree to kidnapped people kids they hire cps workers that just got out of high school.

    • @jenkathefridge3933
      @jenkathefridge3933 2 года назад

      I think it isn't selfish to have kids

    • @MacChicken-up2rl
      @MacChicken-up2rl Год назад +1

      I can’t stand the parents who dress their kids in the same damn outfit they dress themselves in like those matching outfits lol 😂 reminds me of a Barbie doll I had where it’s little Barbie doll matched. Yuck 😂

    • @HaggisMuncher-69-420
      @HaggisMuncher-69-420 9 месяцев назад

      Lol. What a low bar you've set.
      I bet you're a loser that sets low expectations.

  • @naui_diver9290
    @naui_diver9290 3 года назад +43

    I don't know why everyone thinks they have any right to ask "why" about anything you do.

  • @MyGreenNest
    @MyGreenNest 4 года назад +201

    “She pulled a Britney Spears on me” 😂😂😂

    • @Salikhov23
      @Salikhov23 4 года назад +2

      ahahaha i was dead :D

    • @james_stewy
      @james_stewy 3 года назад +1

      Bro I spit out my drink when he said that haha 😂🙌

    • @crazeekids9744
      @crazeekids9744 3 года назад

      Pretty shallow. He never should have gotten married.

  • @RLucasReviews
    @RLucasReviews 4 года назад +42

    Divorce is so ugly and marriage is too easy to get into. I do remember sitting in my bedroom thinking......is this it....is this it? Truth is, spouses are hard to find and most people are not for you. Being human is strange.

    • @Midnight_Rain_Wolfgang-Telos
      @Midnight_Rain_Wolfgang-Telos 4 года назад +5

      R. Lucas so strange.

    • @Macheako
      @Macheako 4 года назад +2

      @@Midnight_Rain_Wolfgang-Telos Speaking of strange 😘

    • @melodylocklin5608
      @melodylocklin5608 4 года назад

      Damn I just read this and thought of this and its very strange that I want to do human anatomy how our brains are really wired as in nature not man made

  • @Albalam
    @Albalam 3 года назад +55

    I will never get married, thank you for your thoughts.

  • @tamimartinez390
    @tamimartinez390 3 года назад +17

    You are a smart guy. My boyfriend and I have agreed we don't want to get married because things are great the way they are. Several years in, we're still crazy about each other. We're older, so no worry about kids. We see all the benefits you listed of not marrying and are happy.

  • @cardsfanlv9371
    @cardsfanlv9371 3 года назад +365

    Being forced to pay alimony is so degrading. Hardest thing I've ever had to do.

    • @abeltesfaye_
      @abeltesfaye_ 3 года назад +12

      Why wouldn't you want to help support your kids? Are you that horrible of a person?

    • @cardsfanlv9371
      @cardsfanlv9371 3 года назад +135

      @@abeltesfaye_ you know nothing about me. I have my daughter 4 days a week. I pay child support AND alimony to a lazy deadbeat.

    • @n3phalem754
      @n3phalem754 3 года назад +76

      @@abeltesfaye_ Go and check your testosterone levels...

    • @abeltesfaye_
      @abeltesfaye_ 3 года назад +9

      @@n3phalem754 lmao wut

    • @abeltesfaye_
      @abeltesfaye_ 3 года назад +1

      @@cardsfanlv9371 k

  • @commandercoolify
    @commandercoolify 4 года назад +52

    I think he’s made excellent points. It is difficult to maintain your independence and maximize your potential when you feel obligated to compromise your aspirations. Marriage isn’t for everyone especially if you don’t care about having kids. Happiness and self-fulfillment is not achieved in the same way for everyone. You do you.

  • @weeevan3078
    @weeevan3078 3 года назад +254

    Marriage has never been about love. In fact the word love is no where to be found in the marriage contract

    • @Cahluvca
      @Cahluvca 3 года назад +5

      💯

    • @thecanadakid7622
      @thecanadakid7622 3 года назад +26

      Statistically with anonymous surveys it was found 75% of women married for money and not love. That should be enough to hesitate. That means 75% percent of the time they wont care about your happiness but what they are getting from you one way or another. They've decided they want someone to carry them through the rest of their life and that's it. Odds are they will cheat as well because they don't actually desire you, but what you do for them.

    • @cameroncox2931
      @cameroncox2931 3 года назад +6

      That’s what happens when you’re giving your attention/ soul to a female. Relationships do that to you, better off single!

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 3 года назад

      Deep yep

    • @bartzeegers3663
      @bartzeegers3663 3 года назад +4

      Bro, this is probably the realest advice Ive ever Came across. So much Points to not fall in to these traps..

  • @SCheco3
    @SCheco3 3 года назад +127

    I understand this cynicism but dam it's depressing it has become like this.

    • @Nicole-rq8ix
      @Nicole-rq8ix 3 года назад +12

      yeah i was thinking the same thing. i can't argue that his points are wrong. But it's depressing and makes me lose hope lol

    • @robertoamarillas
      @robertoamarillas 3 года назад +30

      @@Nicole-rq8ix Women are guilty of this for the most part

    • @Jojo_D_Northstar
      @Jojo_D_Northstar 3 года назад +7

      @@robertoamarillas yup

    • @SB-py5iu
      @SB-py5iu 3 года назад +3

      Lol its never not been like this

    • @SCheco3
      @SCheco3 3 года назад +1

      @@SB-py5iu maybe, I have only been on earth for 30 years.

  • @mikeking683
    @mikeking683 3 года назад +106

    She straight up did the "bait and switch"

    • @tubingforever
      @tubingforever 3 года назад +7

      Always the female plan. Get your condom on, get in there and leave - quick

    • @indy2316
      @indy2316 3 года назад +4

      No, she was struggling with the relationship too, trying to figure out how to be an individual and be a couple is very hard.. Most men grow beards without asking their partner for example..
      Josh was very fair, but notice how he got defensive when thinking about a woman controlling his money, but hated the idea of a woman going out and spending money the way she wanted.

    • @mikeking683
      @mikeking683 3 года назад +7

      @@indy2316 No woman will EVER control my money.

    • @indy2316
      @indy2316 3 года назад +1

      @@mikeking683 Is she allowed to spend her money?

    • @mikeking683
      @mikeking683 3 года назад +5

      @@indy2316 Yes. After she pays some bills.

  • @christopherevans9119
    @christopherevans9119 3 года назад +80

    I’ve always been blessed to miss that marriage bullet.. I look at how miserable people are being married, To always remind me what I’m not missing...

  • @polly9054
    @polly9054 3 года назад +61

    You know, I've been married twice. I wouldn't do it again. Never ever.

  • @eliasnyc1
    @eliasnyc1 4 года назад +258

    There’s no reason to involve government in ur intimate life

    • @Macheako
      @Macheako 4 года назад +11

      Except if you're a communist 🤣👌🏻

    • @DillonRust
      @DillonRust 4 года назад +5

      Naw Fam have you ever heard about Tax Deductions? If you find your actual soul mate I say go for it, but maybe that’s just because I’ve seen marriages that actually work in my own life

    • @wynnhorton1208
      @wynnhorton1208 4 года назад +1

      if you plan on having kids or expecting a woman to follow you here and there, I'd disagree. Otherwise, why marry?

    • @MrEdrftgyuji
      @MrEdrftgyuji 4 года назад +14

      @@DillonRust Is it really worth risking your entire life savings and a significant chunk of your future income for, at best, a few hundred dollars extra a year.

  • @73mleduc
    @73mleduc 4 года назад +52

    I made the same mistake and also planned on never getting married (my GF is of the same mindset) but I'm getting older and have needed medical help that would have bankrupted me without insurance. Long story short I wanted to chase my dream but it meant taking jobs with no insurance the GF recommended we get married so she could add me to her insurance so after living together for 11 years we got married. We have been married for years and have no issue's but I think the key was we knew each other and didn't enter it with any plans on anything changing. So it worked for me but I wouldn't recommend marriage unless you have lived with your other for 8 or more years, unfortunately, marriage is often pushed by people that think you should get married before you even know the other.

    • @aisham6819
      @aisham6819 4 года назад +2

      Mike Leduc they are plenty of people who know each other 1 week to three months and knew they wanted to be together forever in marriage. 50 plus add years later still happily married.
      It’s all about the connection between the two.
      But you being with someone for that long to marry them is also inspiring I think. 🌟

    • @donaldderrick1595
      @donaldderrick1595 4 года назад +1

      Bro ngl your girl doesnt sound anything at all like the kind of woman that anyone here is talking about.

    • @ryanmill2574
      @ryanmill2574 4 года назад

      Mike Ledu, great your marriage worked. I'm in a similar situation you described. Met a wonderful woman its been less than a year but she is already talking about plans for marriage. I'm for a long lasting relationship, but I don't know about signing paper work to make it official

  • @Paul-ou1rx
    @Paul-ou1rx 3 года назад +110

    Her hair is pre-Karen. Once she gets comfortable, it will be her life's mission to make everyone else uncomfortable.

  • @GravyyTrain
    @GravyyTrain 3 года назад +97

    I just wanted to say that if you cohabitate with a woman, even if you are not married, you can be seen as married under the common household law and still lose all of your assets.

    • @user-dv8bs7tb5c
      @user-dv8bs7tb5c 3 года назад +10

      No kidding that's what I was going to say lol...its literally still the same but without your commitment being said outloud to people and having an expensive party... either way.
      Also I think the commitment idea is nice it can definitely backfire and I definitely dont think it's for like 20 year olds lol but I think the commitment of being together and working through shit can happen married or not. Still nice to have the party though!

    • @Positiveenergy68
      @Positiveenergy68 3 года назад +7

      Yup, common law marriage is 12 years in California.

    • @salemdunning5954
      @salemdunning5954 3 года назад +10

      Only in specific states. If my state is even rumored to adopt such policies, splitting up on the spot.

    • @Cahluvca
      @Cahluvca 3 года назад +1

      Cohabitation agreement

    • @bourgeoisiewhacker2405
      @bourgeoisiewhacker2405 3 года назад

      Luckily my state does recognize it www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/common-law-marriage.aspx

  • @PlasticCogLiquid
    @PlasticCogLiquid 4 года назад +52

    When my cousin got married it was obvious it was for all the stupid reasons. He immediately introduced into every conversation "Well my wife and I......" just to make sure that every last person he talked too knew that he was completely normal and married, just like them. He's divorced, and so are every single one of my friends that got married.

    • @animelytical8354
      @animelytical8354 4 года назад +5

      Bloody heck

    • @38Fanda
      @38Fanda 4 года назад +3

      @@animelytical8354 fokkin 'ell m8

    • @UtdG01
      @UtdG01 4 года назад +2

      I did the math and I only have one main friend out of 8 that's gotten married within the last 6 years that's remained married till this day. It's fkin ridiculous how people treat marriage like if its so significant/sacred and then in a year its over, laughable. Idk but people now date for a year and feel like they truly know somebody smh.
      EDIT: Had to correct the timeframe it was actually shorter lol

    • @Macheako
      @Macheako 4 года назад

      @@UtdG01 were turning into kuntz

  • @jenninexus
    @jenninexus 4 года назад +146

    Can't tell you how many times I didn't have the time to explain these points to people when they bug me about not wanting kids. I'll just send them this video next time it happens.

    • @evam5134
      @evam5134 3 года назад +12

      Their is nothing wrong or weird about not wanting to have kids. Especially with the mayhem going on now. I have 3. We enjoy them. However definitely see both sides of the coin

    • @katv3116
      @katv3116 3 года назад +5

      Hi five 🖐 im the same. Dont want em

    • @ladybird491
      @ladybird491 3 года назад +3

      I am married and don't have any of his problems. You sound damaged like him.

    • @RealLifeFinance
      @RealLifeFinance 3 года назад

      Exactly. Got divorced years ago and dont regret it....without going into detail I got stabbed in the back multiple times. Everybody says you better get married again....um no thank you. When stabbed next time I can run not stay and go through court

    • @klopcodez
      @klopcodez 3 года назад +10

      @@ladybird491 your saying that because your from another generation of boomers....this a new age and if you don’t see somethings wrong with society then your sleeping...dating for was easier and commitment but everything changed since feminism and so on

  • @gizgad567
    @gizgad567 3 года назад +82

    I have been through 5 divorces with family. Most people need to find themselves before they even think about marriage. Most people have no idea who they really are inside. How do you find yourself? Time. Marriage was designed by lawyers for lawyers. It is a legal criminal organization.

    • @abab201
      @abab201 3 года назад +9

      You're sentence about finding yourself first, that's the key to everything, but nobody tells us this, nobody, and here we all are, dating, not even knowing who we are, putting on heirs, and learning the hard way

    • @joebloggs619
      @joebloggs619 3 года назад

      Not one or two, but five times! Surely you'd learn after divorce number 2. Unreal.

    • @abab201
      @abab201 3 года назад +4

      @@joebloggs619 I used to think people were stupid who get married divorced that many times; well it's not my call, maybe they are maybe they aren't.
      But I stopped judging because I've known some very nice people who after 3 divorces said never again and then just dated until they died lonely and alone, and others who kept marrying divorcing and finally met someone they're happy to have married and it works for them, they've been together for couple decades and happy.
      The problem with your comment, and I can say this because I used to think the same thing is, you believe that they should only get married X times because X is right and more than that is "unreal"..
      The problem with that is there's the right X and then there's reality.
      Reality is... everyone has their own path, and we don't know all the ups and downs ins and outs hurts and joys that shape someone to be the way they are.
      I'm not telling you what to do, but I'll tell you I don't judge people who get married "too many times" anymore; they have their reasons, they might even be stupid, but it's not my call/business to label their choices unreal because we all make stupid decisions, but we decide to make a big deal out of some and act like others are totally fine.
      These days with feminism, cancel culture, the decline and evisceration of manly men, the rise of manly women who are never happy/satisfied, it's a literal miracle anyone can stay happily married, to me that's unreal, whereas before I would have wholeheartedly agreed with you.
      Not attacking you, just asking you to open your mind

    • @xXCaHeTeLxX
      @xXCaHeTeLxX 3 года назад

      For some finding themselves mean sleeping around until get bored 😆

    • @pencey
      @pencey 3 года назад

      Accurate

  • @gregslone4874
    @gregslone4874 3 года назад +57

    You've learned what it took me two marriages to figure out.

    • @anotherguyonthepc5
      @anotherguyonthepc5 3 года назад +5

      I'm at zero marriages and I'm already there, I learn from others mistakes quick. It's a horror show out there

    • @TakuCityPop
      @TakuCityPop 3 года назад +3

      @@anotherguyonthepc5 Exactly, smart man. It's good to learn from your mistakes but even better to learn from others mistakes moreso.

  • @EnoI539
    @EnoI539 3 года назад +60

    A rose is red, just like how
    marriage is dead.

  • @jeffreycoriell9617
    @jeffreycoriell9617 3 года назад +24

    A good friend and coworker of mine has parents that are married but hate each other. Her mom has a boyfriend and her dad refuses to divorce because he knows that his wife will just screw him over with alamoney.

  • @stayanddrown
    @stayanddrown 3 года назад +20

    There's so many men in our generation opting out of marriage and family that being lonely when I'm older is of zero concern to me.

    • @Cahluvca
      @Cahluvca 3 года назад

      It will be a large amount of older singles....compared to the past

  • @JustASmallTownGirl85
    @JustASmallTownGirl85 4 года назад +34

    I feel the exact same. I don't know why it bothers so many other people in my life that I am so against marriage just for me. I was married, my husband passed away in a accident on the job in 2015, making me a 30 year old widow with children. After that, I srsly will never get married again or want to be married again..and if that's ok for me then no one else should care. Not all women or men need that piece of paper to be loyal or to be happy with the same person for many years.

    • @NotMarkKnopfler
      @NotMarkKnopfler 4 года назад +9

      Sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs from Scotland x

    • @animelytical8354
      @animelytical8354 4 года назад +2

      Sorry for your loss. Also sending hugs from Scotland

    • @vgnhdhe
      @vgnhdhe 4 года назад +5

      @@animelytical8354 simps on the loose

    • @MrWatchmen759
      @MrWatchmen759 4 года назад

      vgnhdhe that word lost all meaning at this point.

    • @JustASmallTownGirl85
      @JustASmallTownGirl85 4 года назад +1

      @@NotMarkKnopfler awe thanks I appreciate it, people can be jerks online and it's good to see some empathy every once and a while. Hugs back from Oregon🤗

  • @mrzed2614
    @mrzed2614 4 года назад +167

    "then she pulled the britney spears on me" XD

    • @tonon5413
      @tonon5413 4 года назад +5

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 had to get a knew pair of pants after this comment.

    • @swatts585
      @swatts585 4 года назад +5

      Lol yes that was funny ....how did she go from blonde bob to purple and shaved...the phrase ' youve changed' does not cover it. More like who the hell are you?

    • @neptunemike
      @neptunemike 4 года назад +6

      it’s a major turn off, most girls look like 12 year old boys shaven

    • @AlphaCrucis
      @AlphaCrucis 4 года назад +2

      Yeah, and then what are you supposed to do? How are you supposed to respond? "It's my hair. I have the right to do what I want with it." Well, yes, you do, but it shows how much you care about my input. Loud and clear.

    • @AvoidsPikes-
      @AvoidsPikes- 4 года назад

      Long story short, Fluke married a nut job.

  • @AJHornet1
    @AJHornet1 2 года назад +11

    Long term relationships are hard though. It’s not really a ‘marriage’ issue. People are complicated, have needs, change in so many ways, and go through huge life altering events. As time goes on, it is always going to be a grind. Also, if you are going into a long term relationship thinking that you are not close enough to share your money, there’s no hope. It’s good to realise that you’re selfish, but really, that’s the main reason your relationships are going to fail. You HAVE to put the other person ahead of you at least some of the time (and expect that in return).

    • @0verride881
      @0verride881 11 месяцев назад +1

      Convenient that women don't pay alimony so they simply don't have that financial slavery expectation.

  • @CaliforniaGuy88
    @CaliforniaGuy88 3 года назад +154

    There was a time when I wanted a family and get married, not anymore. The game is toxic and will make men sick. I'd rather adopt a pet and she will give me more love than any woman.

    • @evilinside6327
      @evilinside6327 3 года назад +15

      Just don't try to have sex with the pet. That wouldn't be cool or legal.

    • @lynette599
      @lynette599 3 года назад +27

      ALL relationships with humans cause trauma, one way or another. It has been proven that pets make much better 'partners' - a pet owner's stress levels goes down, they feel loved, depression lifts, they feel safe, content, they feel appreciated, pets even affect one's health in a positive way - everything one dreams a partner will provide, but in real life doesn't...with humans there is ALWAYS a cost, drama, unfairness, heartache, etc....even if you really love the other person, the love is always unequal...one partner ALWAYS loves the other more....it is never equal. Pets love unconditionally, most humans don't.

    • @Kanal7Indonesia
      @Kanal7Indonesia 3 года назад +2

      @@lynette599 AMEN

    • @lm3729
      @lm3729 3 года назад +1

      Haha, just don’t get a Basenji if you’re really wanting it to love you more. I actually got my Basenji because I don’t like neediness and clinginess. Very independent dog. He can be affectionate at limiting times, which is perfect as I’m about cuddles and showing affection at about 2-5min tops.

    • @DanWhiteish
      @DanWhiteish 3 года назад +1

      You got it right, Bro.

  • @flakes773
    @flakes773 4 года назад +59

    that's a nice leather jacket , gimme that

  • @matturner6890
    @matturner6890 4 года назад +98

    My stepdad called that area where the dudes sit in the mall the "loser bench"
    We didn't get along, but he definitely wasn't wrong on that one.

    • @matturner6890
      @matturner6890 4 года назад +13

      @ cause he was a stepdad lol

    • @communityhousing2677
      @communityhousing2677 3 года назад +3

      That was a good one, will remember next time I see that situation at the mall.

    • @matturner6890
      @matturner6890 3 года назад +3

      @ben s HAHAHA I wish I could've talked him out of it but I was 10. I was less articulate back then for some reason.

    • @ceola9092
      @ceola9092 2 года назад

      I honestly don’t see the problem with it. If my boyfriend is looking at something in the store taking a long time I just sit and do something else or go to a store/ section I like, I don’t get why it’s so bad to wait while your partner is shopping I do the same thing with friends or people o shop with in general

  • @hamedshafizadeh8900
    @hamedshafizadeh8900 4 года назад +68

    I agree with completely
    She's not yours. It's just your turn

  • @Snicoz-zd8dh
    @Snicoz-zd8dh 3 года назад +31

    Something I read somewhere that I think is very true: "I dont want you to promise me that you will love me forever, I just want you to promise me that if you ever do stop loving me, you will tell me." I believe it takes a very, very deep understanding of ourselves, to be able to promise to love someone else for the rest of our lives.

    • @wellknown1204
      @wellknown1204 3 года назад +3

      Wow, that quote hits different. I remember watching this Japanese couple vlog, and how sweat of a wife she is. Then, I saw lots of comments on her videos, written: "he better not cheating on you, or having an affair" she replied: "I love him now, what and who is now and if the future him would betray me, it's not meant his current love for me is not real" I was like, wowww... that is so true, we have always overthink to all kind of possibilities, and not appreciate what exactly infront of us.

    • @Snicoz-zd8dh
      @Snicoz-zd8dh 3 года назад

      @@wellknown1204 wow, yea that is so true, we cant control how we are going to feel in the future. All we can do is to appreciate the present, while we try our best to learn how to grow and change together.

  • @rosendoescutia9970
    @rosendoescutia9970 4 года назад +68

    Hm interesting. You look younger now than you did back then

  • @mostafamohammadi3695
    @mostafamohammadi3695 3 года назад +12

    OMG, it was like injecting a failed marriage into my brain! Thank you so much, I couldn't have know these things without getting married.

  • @ArantyrDarkhand
    @ArantyrDarkhand 4 года назад +66

    Droping those red phills. And youre right.

  • @lotusflower3154
    @lotusflower3154 3 года назад +139

    I never want to get Married again either and having children is heartbreaking and exhausting

    • @Vanessa-hk7ym
      @Vanessa-hk7ym 3 года назад +2

      THE REALEST COMMENT EVER!!!!

    • @jamesaaron279
      @jamesaaron279 3 года назад

      I made the mistake of getting married way too young, but luckily I didn't get trapped with any kids, although she did try to make me pay child support for her 1st husbands 2 kids with her.

  • @SublimeLullaby
    @SublimeLullaby 3 года назад +232

    You made me realize why I look 33 when I’m 43. Not married. No kids. only my own inner struggles to deal with. 💜

    • @pear1ycur1y83
      @pear1ycur1y83 3 года назад +11

      I've seen a 60 yr old lady who looked young and was married 🤷‍♀️

    • @vikumwijekoon3166
      @vikumwijekoon3166 3 года назад +15

      @@pear1ycur1y83 east Asians doesn't count

    • @pear1ycur1y83
      @pear1ycur1y83 3 года назад +12

      @@vikumwijekoon3166 they're not asian. There's sucha thing as proper diet and if you know how to manage your stress, even better.

    • @sorryociffer
      @sorryociffer 3 года назад +7

      @@pear1ycur1y83 Either unicorn genetics or spending her husbands money to stay looking young to bang the pool boy...

    • @pear1ycur1y83
      @pear1ycur1y83 3 года назад +14

      @@sorryociffer your negative comment says everything about you people. Maybe you wouldn't meet such ppl if decided to change your outlook and be less toxic to yourself
      Edit: btw someone who can manage their stress wouldn't be shitting on their husband. She was trying to get him to be on the same diet plan but he didn't want to so now he regrets it

  • @jax_wildguess
    @jax_wildguess 3 года назад +31

    I have never got married, but I'm damn sure I never will! After listening all this guys, I know better. This info for me is big, especially being in my 20's.

  • @ashkanbashiri
    @ashkanbashiri 4 года назад +52

    I'm beginning to think this dude doesn't want to get married... or have kids.

  • @champsammy13
    @champsammy13 4 года назад +40

    Never getting married, never having kids.
    If I'm dumb enough to get married I'm signing a prenup.
    Edit: I just won't get married period.

    • @leen8374
      @leen8374 4 года назад

      looool

    • @petartisma8609
      @petartisma8609 4 года назад +4

      Good let them illegalls replace you

    • @FaintAura
      @FaintAura 4 года назад +1

      @@petartisma8609 Then why don't you step up to get ramrodded by the divorce courts you simp?

    • @atomisedman6235
      @atomisedman6235 4 года назад

      @@petartisma8609 By illegals you mean natives?

    • @oxygeninhaled885
      @oxygeninhaled885 4 года назад

      😂😂😂

  • @t.williams3553
    @t.williams3553 3 года назад +17

    Coming home after a long day of work to a screaming kid and a wife yelling at me because i forgot to do something before i went to work is not appealing to me. I have never been married and dont ever plan on it. I see other men that are married i do not want it.

  • @eirikmurito
    @eirikmurito 3 года назад +13

    And then youre supposed to spend like 20 thousand on a one day event called a wedding while knowing that the money could pay down your 5 year car loan. Fantastic..

    • @mgtowmonger2729
      @mgtowmonger2729 3 года назад

      Imagine what 20,000 USD invested in Bitcoin back in 2013 would have done.

  • @LynnLeeTalks
    @LynnLeeTalks 3 года назад +57

    You owe nobody an explanation for your choices. They won’t be there for cleanup duty...

  • @MugenLord
    @MugenLord 4 года назад +14

    You're smart bro, marriage is suicide for men today. My dad has been married to my mother for 34 years, I watched my dad bust his ass day in and day out working to support his family. My mother was never happy with herself, she ends up divorcing my dad and took 60% of what he owns. She also takes half of his pension and she gets 4 of his houses that he worked so hard to gain throughout his time saving and working as a contractor. She divorced rape the hell out of him, never seen my father so broken ever in my life.
    Not only that my college bro just got divorced, not only does his wife keep the house, the kids, child support, and alimony. She also moved the man she was sneaking around with into the home. So as long as she dont get remarried, she can still collect alimony, while she can sleep with any man she wants. So my college bro is financing her, while she has another man in his house around his two kids. Until family and divorce court is fair for men, then its fucking stupid as a man to get married.
    I am a single father raising a daughter, the only blessing is the fact that my baby mom give our daughter to me without a fight and I have full custody and haven't heard from her ever again. Joshua you are smart bro!

  • @desertoctane6444
    @desertoctane6444 3 года назад +4

    STAY RED PILL MY FRIEND!

  • @beautifulfaceyoga88
    @beautifulfaceyoga88 3 года назад +15

    Marriage for love is BS, feelings fade away in 2 years

  • @Merle1987
    @Merle1987 3 года назад +7

    One thing about this guy, is that he's not "perfect," but compared to a lot of people who bash him, he's actually going through personal growth.

  • @Ezekiel33USA
    @Ezekiel33USA 4 года назад +20

    My sister dated a man for 30 years before she finally married him. They never had kids. Not sure why they decided to get married after 30 years of dating, but I guess once you stay together that long it doesn't matter whether you get married.

    • @americanbobtail1
      @americanbobtail1 3 года назад +2

      Social Security death benefits?

    • @TwoWorldsToo
      @TwoWorldsToo 3 года назад +3

      Next of kin rights in case either gets sick?

  • @SmashingDesign
    @SmashingDesign 4 года назад +32

    I'm married and unless you plan on having kids, I agree stay single

    • @JordensCadet
      @JordensCadet 4 года назад +5

      Men don't understand that nowadays.

  • @grendelsmama2302
    @grendelsmama2302 4 года назад +123

    As a single woman...I 1000% agree with you. I do whatever I want and it’s awesome. I genuinely feel in control of my life and no one can give me that. You are doing great 😊

    • @quadq6598
      @quadq6598 4 года назад +25

      Enjoy.
      How old are you? I can tell you my wife was exactly like you in outlook in her 20's but hormones have a funny way of changing things & by late 30's she was desperate for kids ( we had 2, 23 & 26 now both successful ). Unless your body fails to produce the same hormones every other female does you may well change your mind . Which of course is also fine -may happen, may not - you go enjoy things girl 😁

    • @frednil8304
      @frednil8304 4 года назад +10

      WGTOW.

    • @ananaanana8458
      @ananaanana8458 4 года назад +3

      Steph W.
      I am with you.
      I control my life.
      I hate a word "compromise", nope, never.

    • @qjtvaddict
      @qjtvaddict 4 года назад +6

      QuadQ so baby rabies

    • @johnnyblaze2257
      @johnnyblaze2257 4 года назад +10

      Enjoy your cats Old girl!🤣

  • @arguswil
    @arguswil 3 года назад +30

    It's hard being alone but even harder when you have to pay alimony and still wind up alone. Not worth the risk. Laws need to change.

    • @David-sq2en
      @David-sq2en 2 года назад +5

      just make some friends, and save money so you can hire a nurse that takes care of you or something... you can be as alone or as in company a you want.
      I don't know why nobody tell married guys: "you will never be alone"... lest see what face make when they hear that.

  • @angielou123
    @angielou123 3 года назад +23

    45 and never married. Never will either, I'm a loner through and through 👍🇬🇧

    • @ilqar887
      @ilqar887 3 года назад +2

      Longer u stay loner more u like being lonely

    • @angielou123
      @angielou123 3 года назад

      @Alex lmao...little boy talking like he's Peter Pan 🤣🤣

    • @angielou123
      @angielou123 3 года назад

      @Alex when you grow up and become a big boy, all will become clear ✌️ now stop interrupting ink master 🤣🤣

    • @angielou123
      @angielou123 3 года назад

      @Alex you keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better... You're a right catch ain't ya? Now please run along and let me watch sexy Dave Navaro

    • @angielou123
      @angielou123 3 года назад

      @Alex u lost the plot man

  • @freddyw4555
    @freddyw4555 3 года назад +8

    You are exactly right. Want to retire a millionaire, don’t get married. If you need sex take a vacation to Amsterdam. If you have dreams and ambition for the future they will tell you to stay where you are at. They will age you fast

    • @mgtowmonger2729
      @mgtowmonger2729 3 года назад

      Better to vacation in Mexico or Colombia. No Vax requirement, no antigen test required. Prostitution is legal and quite inexpensive! 1st rule of Mongering: Never overpay for the lay. 2nd: Always use condoms. 3rd: probably to always obey the US Protect act of 2003... Although in my book that is Rule 0 - Origin!

  • @pepperidgefarms6539
    @pepperidgefarms6539 4 года назад +124

    Dislikes are women that want their student debt paid lol!
    Josh you rock, you're actually asking someone to bring something to the table besides her winning disposition? Lol

    • @infinityreaper4652
      @infinityreaper4652 4 года назад

      depopulate the west. no more marriage. no more english speaking children. china be praised.

    • @Macheako
      @Macheako 4 года назад

      @@infinityreaper4652 long dongs ftw!

  • @runrockwater
    @runrockwater 4 года назад +44

    That woman reli messed him up. Lol he didn’t like the purple short hair 😂

    • @NanoNutrino
      @NanoNutrino 4 года назад +6

      If I remember the first time he talked about it correctly, I think she did this on purpose, passive aggressive way to to piss him off and drive him away

  • @Gromitdog1
    @Gromitdog1 3 года назад +17

    Thank god you didn't have children. Imagine the suffering of children in acrimonious relationships or separation.

  • @josiah5776
    @josiah5776 2 года назад +2

    Josh, speaking from the experiences of more than one failed marriage, you are 100% spot on. People change and there is no way to predict how and when that will happen. Entering into a legal union is just asking for trouble, especially for a man because the legal system is substantially rigged against him. Also, wise decision not to have children if you know you don't want them. I am a single father and love my child dearly, however my parents didn't expect or want me ... and that caused devastating damage that was very hard to overcome.

  • @smegheadish
    @smegheadish 3 года назад +25

    Right on man.. you nailed it. Being "legally bound" to another person is insane. Dead on with the resentment concept.

  • @mostafaelnahass3790
    @mostafaelnahass3790 4 года назад +57

    Im not marrying the government
    Im not living a life to make someone else happy
    Im independent and I will never ever let anyone dictate how I live my life
    Live like Cristiano Ronaldo

    • @Madzguy007
      @Madzguy007 4 года назад +3

      Mostafa ElNahass Christino Ronaldo is very smart when it comes to women and kids

    • @mwanikimwaniki6801
      @mwanikimwaniki6801 4 года назад

      @@Madzguy007 how does he live!?

    • @NM-bk3sk
      @NM-bk3sk 4 года назад +3

      He is married dumb ass :D

    • @ladybird491
      @ladybird491 3 года назад

      You marry someone who want to make you are happy to.

  • @pedowise
    @pedowise 3 года назад +110

    Be careful Josh, she can still come back to take your money once you become successful. Dont let her know anything about you.

    • @coreytheisen6948
      @coreytheisen6948 3 года назад +29

      After the devoce and paper work she cannot take shit from him as long there no children involved

    • @stargazer2042
      @stargazer2042 3 года назад +16

      @@coreytheisen6948 Depends on the length of the marriage. Some courts leave the case open.

    • @Sarablueunicorn
      @Sarablueunicorn 3 года назад +21

      He was married in Finland, dumbass. The boy had nothing back then and his wife was the one supporting him because he was studying. Until the divorce was finalized she was still financially supporting him.
      She didn't get one cent for marrying him also also didnt get one cent for divorcing him.
      He has an older video about how he got married by the age of 19 with a Finnish woman.
      This kind of narrative attracts a herd like audience but certainly it wasn't his experience.

    • @lusly258
      @lusly258 3 года назад

      @@coreytheisen6948 that's not true.

    • @JC-fd8ho
      @JC-fd8ho 3 года назад

      And how can that happen can u explain to me thx.?

  • @freshely9309
    @freshely9309 3 года назад +7

    Just wanna say thanks for sharing your experience. I have learned alot from this, the truth about prenups for example. I'm a 22 year old and I'm glad to hear these different perspectives. I pretty much agree with these statements all the way through. You shouldn't have to have a relationship and be legally bound to love them.

  • @akash_gupta
    @akash_gupta 3 года назад +20

    Saving this video. I'm going to need this later, multiple times.

  • @oroville12345
    @oroville12345 4 года назад +15

    Josh she's a 49er....
    A 4 who thinks she's a 9

  • @Salted_Potato
    @Salted_Potato 4 года назад +16

    You are like a big brother i never had. Thanks for the advice Josh.

  • @DefaultName-qt2ke
    @DefaultName-qt2ke 3 года назад +4

    Everything you said … so true and right on target! All people should listen and take your advice to heart!

  • @bob8488
    @bob8488 3 года назад +78

    I was married for 7 years. I was miserable after we tied the knot. Now, I've been living with my current girlfriend for 8+ years.....and we're happy as hell. But, I still keep minimum stuff at her place. I can just grab 2 bags and I could be out of here in under one hour.

    • @bob8488
      @bob8488 3 года назад +2

      FYI, my girlfriend and I haven't boofed in years (she's more like a BFF now). I'd take off tomorrow if it weren't for this damn Covid! Another thing is that all of the women out there are wearing masks, sunglasses, and baseball caps. I can't even tell if they're super models or the local bag lady!!! It's frustrating!

    • @angelikabrown4247
      @angelikabrown4247 3 года назад +5

      @@bob8488 once you're free just don't move in with the next one. living together for 3+ years kills women's attraction. (biologically she starts seeing you as a family member and not a lover). I hope to rent a cheap room forever and never move in completely lol. unless there's kids in the picture, there's no reason to live with each other.

    • @bob8488
      @bob8488 3 года назад

      @@angelikabrown4247 True. But, she has no intentions of getting married either. Her son is 33-34 already. The only problem that I have is that (we think) her girlfriend is moving in with us. Not good!

    • @lifecyclestyled6732
      @lifecyclestyled6732 3 года назад

      @@bob8488 😂😂😂

  • @Rppiano
    @Rppiano 4 года назад +54

    Marriage is one of the few reasons for high male suicide rates in almost every country.

    • @talksolot
      @talksolot 3 года назад +5

      you made that up. stats show married men have longer life than single men.

    • @hal4192
      @hal4192 3 года назад

      @@talksolot Yes .... They're trying to outlive her so they can get their freedom back! ( Just a bit of fun)

  • @alexmackenzie6707
    @alexmackenzie6707 4 года назад +122

    "Men marry because they are tired; women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.” ― Oscar Wilde

    • @andrewmattox1233
      @andrewmattox1233 4 года назад +19

      "You can love women, or you can understand them. But you cannot do both."
      -also Oscar Wilde

    • @kevinrussell6530
      @kevinrussell6530 3 года назад +2

      @@andrewmattox1233 I wonder how Oscar Wilde knew? He was gay.

    • @andrewmattox1233
      @andrewmattox1233 3 года назад +1

      @@kevinrussell6530, no he wasn't.

  • @triggerhappy899
    @triggerhappy899 4 года назад +19

    "they dont talk back as dogs"
    Youve never had a husky have you?

  • @Soccercrazyigboman
    @Soccercrazyigboman 4 года назад +70

    That girl had a Karen hair cut on the side. Shoulda known. Nah jk bro, never change. Keep keeping it real. You're an inspiration

    • @lil8579
      @lil8579 4 года назад +2

      I was about to say the same time you don't marry karens

    • @VicenzzoCK
      @VicenzzoCK 4 года назад +1

      lol.. Karen haircut :D you win.

    • @elenabob4953
      @elenabob4953 4 года назад

      I'm a woman and every woman with such a haircut & hair color was a mad feminatzi. Now when I see one it's a signal for "avoid with all costs".

  • @theroadtoamillion
    @theroadtoamillion 3 года назад +11

    Not sure how I got here but I’m glad I did. New subscriber- dude you just saved me from making the same mistake. #mgtow

  • @sonicspectrum7130
    @sonicspectrum7130 4 года назад +42

    22:00 The reasons pre-nups can be disqualified sound hypocritical. Many do not know what they're getting into when they sign a marriage contract.

    • @guilhermekeffer8673
      @guilhermekeffer8673 4 года назад +3

      Wow! Nice one!

    • @scr4932
      @scr4932 4 года назад +3

      Unfortunately the ones who are pressured into signing marriage contracts are usually men, and believing men is heresy. Double-standards at their finest.

  • @tnorth7090
    @tnorth7090 3 года назад +24

    after 35 yrs of marriage i look back and realize i have been just a roommate for the last 25 yrs.
    when the sex stops your a roommate not a lover not a husband.
    have a plan to terminate from the start so you have joy in your life at all times

    • @honestyv6667
      @honestyv6667 3 года назад +1

      thanks for sharing your thoughts

    • @franz3810
      @franz3810 3 года назад +1

      I hope you are doing better right now. Life is far from ovet, enjoy!

    • @lusly258
      @lusly258 3 года назад

      Umm sex is not everything. Companionship is much more important in old age. Loyalty, honesty, that's where it's at

    • @mgtowmonger2729
      @mgtowmonger2729 3 года назад

      @@lusly258 Viagra wasn't invented because it's a pretty blue pill...

    • @lusly258
      @lusly258 3 года назад

      @@mgtowmonger2729 not everyone wants sex