Man that "therapist" going like "you're drinking too much? Just stop drinking! Hang out with your drinking friends less!" is the basically equivalent of "You're Depressed?? Just stop being sad! Go for a walk!" LMAO
26:01 yah I feel that sums it up tbh 😅😭 I wanted to love "I want to Die but I want to Eat 떡볶이" as a Korean women who does mental health advocacy but it made me feel a lot of heart pain for the author. Cindy is def not as much as a 'dumbass American' compared to other reviews I've seen but yah the Korean cultural context informs all of these little bits that make you feel concerned for the author. Social drinking is a huge issue for women to succeed in the workplace and Se-hee was writing for a Korean audience so neither she or her professionals addressed it but my inner feminist cried a bit at the advice being given. same goes for the frustrating indirect talking-around-the-issue approach as that's still the Korean norm as per the idea of saving face--I still give Se-hee HUGE props for daring to write this book in the first place and admit to her struggles but it's still such taboo to actually articulate the direct causes of depression/anxiety on the patient: practioner sides. I think though that the author's honest attempt at sharing her story will help others understand just how confined the Korean zeitgeist is when it comes to mental health and hopefully encourage solidarity as more young working professionals try to overcome cultural/political barrier (woot woot to the Koreans who are going childfree like me despite the asshole president ㅋㅋ)
tysm for giving additional pov as a korean!! there def seems to be a lot of bigger systemic issues with social drinking, not directly talking about the issue, etc. and i'm sure it impacts women even more so due to societal expectations. i wish she got support and advice from a therapist who doesn't seem to be so entwined with those same cultural and political barriers tho :( i love that u are going childfree!! that's an important decision that makes so much sense when u evaluate finances, the general state of the world and future, etc and most importantly, u not wanting children is plenty reason enough
@@withcindy came back to this vid since I love rewatching your reading vlogs when in a book slump and thank you sm for your kind reply! lot of folks talk about Japan's shrinking birth rate but Koreans are having the same exact convo as the government (again, asshole anti-women president rn) is desperate to increase fertility while not addressing workaholicism. It's really nice of you to publicly encourage a stranger on the internet for their lifestyle choice and I really appreciate your words. I hope ppl scrolling in the comments also feel supported in their choices and/or become aware of women's struggles in pro-natalist cultures!
I read tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow last month and made the big mistake of continuing reading past the halfway point in the middle of the night (while on my period, pmsing real bad). I ended up pulling an all nighter and finishing the book at like five am sobbing my eyes out. I had a whole headache from crying💀 I agree with you about the platonic thing but i kind of interpreted it as him thinking he was in love with her because of how society always puts romantic love above platonic love. Sadie was his favorite person in the world so he assumed his feelings were romantic. From what i remember his ”romantic” feelings dont start until she starts dating a certain other character (no spoilers) and i feel like he was jealous because he knew that while their friendship was the most important relationship in his life, sadie valued her romantic relationship as much as/more than their friendship. I think theyre making a movie adaptation but i kind of wish theyd adapt the games because i really wanna play them!!
i hope the movie adaptation happens, i would def watch! i can see how he would get his feelings mixed up but i think it was unnecessary to label it as romantic in the first place. i think it can still be a valid issue where u have a best friend but feel like she's drifting away to her bf instead and ur friendship isnt as important. cuz that happens a lot to ppl too!!
@@withcindy hmm yeah i wouldve preferred it if she kept their relationship just platonic, but i feel like sam is probably somewhere on the asexual spectrum so i think it makes sense to have him questioning his feelings and attraction to others. I lowkey wish gabrielle zevin delved deeper into that. Really excited for the movie i hope they give us some info about it soon☺️
Cindy's journey to self heal is inspiring. I can still remember her video talking about her depression a few years ago and how it takes so much out of her life. Now she got a gf, Elliot and a fursona.
The way Cindy’s healing, I’m eagerly waiting for the Live Laugh Love poster in the loopy font and the Modern Farmhouse Aesthetic with a white kitchen and white containers.
You should read “The Jasmine Throne” by tasha suri. Its fantasy and has rlly good world building plus morally gray lesbians with a slowburn romance. The setting is based on ancient india.
What upset me too with Tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow is that while it was pitched as a friendship book, from male mcs perspective it was often more of a will they wont they moment, and it just felt so unbalanced and like romance found it's way in the book anyways :( It's like he's constantly kinda hoping for more, and also from before there were so many moments where he overlooked his friends wishes and concerns, in the end it felt like he was way more self centered.
The whole thing about being present with the world is so healing. Sometimes, I just take a break from everything that I‘m doing, get on a bus to a random city or town, get off and just admire my surroundings. It sounds crazy but I live in Germany and I never realised how beautiful my environment could be if I opened my eyes to look
Bro.... tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow made me cry 5 times. Including at least one intensely ugly cry. I didn't know what to do with myself after, except reread it immediately upon completion. The characterization is amazing- I know these people and ended up caring about them all so much.
"entering my healing era" _The Colleen Hoover books waiting to be read:_ Fr though, go you Cindy! Self-healing is a journey, but taking a step towards self healing is so brave and an accomplishment in itself! You got this
what youre saying about i want to die but i want to eat tteokpokki is EXACTLY why im feeling so uncomfortable with the book. you voiced it out wayy better than i ever could and i thank you for that
Just stumbled onto your channel and I enjoyed the format of integrating life as you read books. Also love your synopsis of Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow - because I also *choked* at that plot twist. Thanks for the intersections of thought you integrate into your book reviews!
I came looking for a Jack Edwards alternative and I was blown away by how in-depth yet personal your first review was. THank you so much, you've won a new subscriber.
The analogy I give to myself is that of a sea wave. Don’t be afraid to let it sweep you even if it’s just a little bit of you. Repression is never a solution. As we know, it has done wonders for the global community 🌝
Watching this on the way to work. Taking notes on cindy's calm and confident tone to placate annoyed customers 💅 love you bestie, parasocially of course x
I'm so glad you uploaded this because I've been wondering how your mental health has been. I still remember your first video talking about depression ✨💜
Thank u! Tbh it's still been hard. Two weeks ago I was very depressed all week due to personal events that happened. Trying not to beat myself up whenever I feel down cuz I get easily frustrated at myself for any negative feelings 😩 but the book is right that I should welcome it cuz it's part of me
In all seriousness Cindy, seeing you so happy and watching you heal throughout your vid’s is so touching, I know it’s kinda weird and parasocial, but still, happy for you💜💜
Yay for the healing era! I'm so conflicted about Tomorrow x3 because it sounds interesting and everyone keeps praising it but I'm also jaded-by-the-industry (wannabe) gamedev so i'm worried i won't be able to turn off my judgement brain enough to enjoy it 💀
my friend's partner works in the video game industry and when she was telling them about stuff going on in the book they were like "yea.. that hits close to home" kljdsakldjsalkj
Damn, "Live Laugh Love" Cindy is also deep, intellectual Cindy. Love that for you and I'm eager to read Be Not Afraid of Love too ❤️ Re: Tomorrow×3, I rated that book 4ish stars initially and then ended up reading it a few months later and upgrading it to 5 stars. Reading it for the first time was a wonderful experience, but the author's craft really shines upon re-reads. Maybe it's because I'm a romantic asexual, but I read Sam as asexual too. He LOVES Sadie and there's some sparks as well as comfort and companionship there that could indicate romantic interest, but he's described as not very interested in or driven by sex in his relationships. In that framework, I really liked the idea that it depicted a very different sort of love story and one we don't see often in books. I also liked that it depicted that even as individuals, Sadie and Sam had very different relationships with different people... their friendships and romantic relationships varied but in ways that felt true to character. Just food for thought for my intellectual (parasocial) bestie!
really interesting points! u can tell the author put a lot of thought into the book so it doesnt surprise me that it's even better with rereads. i would have loved to see the author explore sam's ace identity more!
@withcindy That would have been great, for sure. The thought did cross my mind though that maybe because of the time frame and how these types of conversations around the spectrum of sexuality weren't front and center until more recently, maybe Sam wouldn't have had the language to identify himself that way and instead would just have a sense that true intimacy isn't sexual. I don't have the book in front of me but there's a moment in the book where in an interview he says that the type of relationship he has with Sadie is way more intimate than sex.
You're the first reviewer I've heard mention that Tomorrow x2 has cancer in it. Thanks for letting me know! 25:50 The Korean therapist responding like that does NOT surprise me. Mental health is still a HUGE stigma and is basically a "you should be able to fix yourself with easy things" still.
I need you to know that your description of Tomorrow x3 convinced me to place a hold for it at the library, and LITERALLY as you were saying you were so happy this book didn't have a romance between the two main characters, I looked over at the genre box and saw it was classified as a Romance. XD; Also there are over 45 people ahead of me in queue for this book so I guess I'll read it some time in 2024, damn!
I found Be Not Afraid Of Love from you on Goodreads and i've just finished it today! 5 stars for me as well! a lovely, important, healing book that even got through to a cynic (i'm recovering) like me. i'll be rereading it loads, thank you for the rec! xx
ah, yes. visually assaulting us with elias crotch right in the begining of the video is, in fact, the best way to start a video. please make it a tradition, thanks
The lessons you took from that first book sort of remind me of a 5 star read I happened to just finish called “Nobody’s Normal”. Highly recommend, super informative!
I'm in my hot mess era so I'm living vicariously through your healing era. Also cindy Shadow and Bone S2 is out so can't wait to see your reaction videos. Saw a few episodes now and the Crows are dramatic but competent this time around 😂 (probs because Nina has the only braincell in the group)
Omg!! That's so true about Silvia Moreno Garcia's character's couple dinamics!! I read Certain Dark Things and I'm in the first half of The Beautiful Ones and it's the same dynamic in completely different scenarios
yes!! im especially prioritizing spending time w my college friends bc we have been thru so much and even tho we are spread out around cali i feel like they were so integral to my growth
it might sound silly but, man, ive been binging your videos while i work/draw lately and i love them so much, they have made me want to take reading back again. i used to read a lot as a child but i dont do anymore bc i find it hard to focus, but after watching a lot of your videos ive started a book after so long and im really enjoying the journey and looking forward to reading more! just wanted to say thank you!!
The Daughter of Doctor Moreau lowkey similar to the game Mad Father, with the girl being the naive daughter of a doctor who turns out to be a crazy scientist/serial killer and she keeps defending the father or denying her dad is the real monster
Im in support of your live laugh love shit era. Im in the same place with healing from past trauma and feel like im on the other side learning to accept and want love
I have a few issues with Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow but I think the relationship/friendship isn’t one of them. As an ace-spectrumed person it was actually really interesting to watch the unfold of an unspokenly queer platonic relationship between 3 people that kind of broke down because of poor feelings communication along the 3 separate levels of allo-attraction. It feels true to life somehow - people so absolutely in love, probably in love beyond the level of romantic love, but the necessities of romantic love to some parties within this unspoken bond strain things as certain relationships change. It felt really intentional to me and still representative despite being truly frustrating because it _is_ frustrating. Even being someone raised in the 00s rather than the 80s-90s like these characters and having the vocabulary they don’t to express these feelings, it’s frustrating and tough to navigate when you’re desperately in love with someone and that person loves you but you have almost an anti-desire to do move into a separate type of intimacy even though it would hurt you to see them achieve it with someone else you also love
The first book's line about suppressing your emotions causing you to doubt the fullness of life and yourself is SO real. I struggle with this constantly. And I also find healing in nature Also I have the Tteokbokki book on my tbr! I'm not korean or a culture expert or anything but from what I've seen about mental health in korea over the years, the way the therapist talks makes a lot of sense to me, but in a frustrating way. Mental health has a long long way to go in SK especially with regard to talking to people with those issues and offering actionable solutions. Often what you hear about is people talking around the core problems and giving surface level fixes that put most of the onus on the patient. And you're right that it's much more normalized in SK to talk about weight and looks very bluntly; even if lots of people don't like it it happens
this is how i spent my friday night: (also glad to hear you entered your healing era:D pls share more mental health stuff coz i just feel so relatable- i don't mean anything offensive but sometimes you talk about your being cynical, and that if you were the character you'd have done xyz. and i thought the same. i'm a very bitter and cynical and judgmental person because of my upbringing, and have always thought myself wicked and felt ashamed of myself, so just hearing another person being so open and cool about "being cynical" made me realise that i didn't have to beat myself up. obviously there's the problem of compartmentalisation which i've got to work on but yeah, love you and your reviews🥰) (and if you ever wrote a non-fiction book about your healing journey i'd 100% buy it.)
Awww ty!! It sounds like we are v similar with our cynicism lolol I feel like it's what helped us survive but at the same time we have to learn how to rein it in to accept more love and positivity too 😩
Banger video. Though I have to attend my uni admission exam next week instead of watching the video, I will take this video as an English learning session👀👀
I’m still reading tomorrow, and tomorrow and tomorrow but now I’m getting right into it which is good cause at first I was reading it super fast and then idk what happened
@@withcindy I just finished it in a day! I went from chapter one to completely devouring it! It has an emotional hold on me now :( and it reminds me of a little life but I haven’t even read that haha
Oh man yeah I probably would give daughter of doctor moreau 3.5 stars too looking back. I really loved it while I was reading it but the ending felt wrong and rushed, also just that the story could have certainly been fleshed out more like you said. However I still have mostly positive memories overall because I had the biggest book crush on Montgomery, I think he's great 🤣
Cindy you should do a book review on zodiac academy because it’s really bad but so many other people love it and I just wanna know if your opinion on it
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Elias really said: “Boy, do I have a treat for visual learners today!”
He said 🍑
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Lets heal 2getha !!! 😘😘
Man that "therapist" going like "you're drinking too much? Just stop drinking! Hang out with your drinking friends less!" is the basically equivalent of "You're Depressed?? Just stop being sad! Go for a walk!" LMAO
my depression is cured!!
I’m so happy to hear you’re entering your Healing Era.
SJM is QUAKING! Rhysand is too stunned to speak.
He would want it to be my choice
She’s quaking!
…but not from-his dick 😋
@@withcindy😂😂😂😂😂
26:01 yah I feel that sums it up tbh 😅😭 I wanted to love "I want to Die but I want to Eat 떡볶이" as a Korean women who does mental health advocacy but it made me feel a lot of heart pain for the author. Cindy is def not as much as a 'dumbass American' compared to other reviews I've seen but yah the Korean cultural context informs all of these little bits that make you feel concerned for the author. Social drinking is a huge issue for women to succeed in the workplace and Se-hee was writing for a Korean audience so neither she or her professionals addressed it but my inner feminist cried a bit at the advice being given. same goes for the frustrating indirect talking-around-the-issue approach as that's still the Korean norm as per the idea of saving face--I still give Se-hee HUGE props for daring to write this book in the first place and admit to her struggles but it's still such taboo to actually articulate the direct causes of depression/anxiety on the patient: practioner sides. I think though that the author's honest attempt at sharing her story will help others understand just how confined the Korean zeitgeist is when it comes to mental health and hopefully encourage solidarity as more young working professionals try to overcome cultural/political barrier (woot woot to the Koreans who are going childfree like me despite the asshole president ㅋㅋ)
윤석열 can F off :3
tysm for giving additional pov as a korean!! there def seems to be a lot of bigger systemic issues with social drinking, not directly talking about the issue, etc. and i'm sure it impacts women even more so due to societal expectations. i wish she got support and advice from a therapist who doesn't seem to be so entwined with those same cultural and political barriers tho :( i love that u are going childfree!! that's an important decision that makes so much sense when u evaluate finances, the general state of the world and future, etc and most importantly, u not wanting children is plenty reason enough
@@withcindy came back to this vid since I love rewatching your reading vlogs when in a book slump and thank you sm for your kind reply! lot of folks talk about Japan's shrinking birth rate but Koreans are having the same exact convo as the government (again, asshole anti-women president rn) is desperate to increase fertility while not addressing workaholicism. It's really nice of you to publicly encourage a stranger on the internet for their lifestyle choice and I really appreciate your words. I hope ppl scrolling in the comments also feel supported in their choices and/or become aware of women's struggles in pro-natalist cultures!
Nothing like watching a Cindy video while having a nice burger and procrastinating
what kinda burger r u eating
I read tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow last month and made the big mistake of continuing reading past the halfway point in the middle of the night (while on my period, pmsing real bad). I ended up pulling an all nighter and finishing the book at like five am sobbing my eyes out. I had a whole headache from crying💀
I agree with you about the platonic thing but i kind of interpreted it as him thinking he was in love with her because of how society always puts romantic love above platonic love. Sadie was his favorite person in the world so he assumed his feelings were romantic. From what i remember his ”romantic” feelings dont start until she starts dating a certain other character (no spoilers) and i feel like he was jealous because he knew that while their friendship was the most important relationship in his life, sadie valued her romantic relationship as much as/more than their friendship.
I think theyre making a movie adaptation but i kind of wish theyd adapt the games because i really wanna play them!!
i hope the movie adaptation happens, i would def watch! i can see how he would get his feelings mixed up but i think it was unnecessary to label it as romantic in the first place. i think it can still be a valid issue where u have a best friend but feel like she's drifting away to her bf instead and ur friendship isnt as important. cuz that happens a lot to ppl too!!
@@withcindy hmm yeah i wouldve preferred it if she kept their relationship just platonic, but i feel like sam is probably somewhere on the asexual spectrum so i think it makes sense to have him questioning his feelings and attraction to others. I lowkey wish gabrielle zevin delved deeper into that.
Really excited for the movie i hope they give us some info about it soon☺️
@@fannyostman7818 I felt the same way about Sam.
Cindy's journey to self heal is inspiring. I can still remember her video talking about her depression a few years ago and how it takes so much out of her life. Now she got a gf, Elliot and a fursona.
women really can have it all huh
My husband fought cancer for 4 1/2 before he passed. Honestly, humor was the best tool to make it through.
It's how we cope!!
Genuinely so happy for you and your healing era! Wishing everyone reading this a bit more peace of mind 💛
tysm!! it's still a struggle but im trying T_T
A new Cindy video to watch while eating my dinner? I call that a win for me
Whatcha eating? I'm about to eat an avocado and spam salad
@@withcindy Tagine Jban (Cheese Tagine) it's kind of Similar to Italian frittata but with Arabian flavours! Enjoy your food btw !
@@katherine6107 whoa I've never heard of it but Arabian flavors sounds super good!!
@@withcindy it's really good ! I actually nagged my mom for an hour until she made it rip
The way Cindy’s healing, I’m eagerly waiting for the Live Laugh Love poster in the loopy font and the Modern Farmhouse Aesthetic with a white kitchen and white containers.
i would 100% adopt that aesthetic if it meant i could be happy and at peace LOL
@@withcindy It will do none of those things and will probably be your supervillain origin story.
You should read “The Jasmine Throne” by tasha suri. Its fantasy and has rlly good world building plus morally gray lesbians with a slowburn romance. The setting is based on ancient india.
ty for the rec!
What upset me too with Tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow is that while it was pitched as a friendship book, from male mcs perspective it was often more of a will they wont they moment, and it just felt so unbalanced and like romance found it's way in the book anyways :( It's like he's constantly kinda hoping for more, and also from before there were so many moments where he overlooked his friends wishes and concerns, in the end it felt like he was way more self centered.
UGH AGREEEEEE
‘Be Not Afraid of Love’ by Mimi Zhu sounds like a great representation. Thank you for that!
It is! the author is queer and nonbinary too :)
@@withcindy Interesting.
The whole thing about being present with the world is so healing. Sometimes, I just take a break from everything that I‘m doing, get on a bus to a random city or town, get off and just admire my surroundings. It sounds crazy but I live in Germany and I never realised how beautiful my environment could be if I opened my eyes to look
it also helps u live in europe!! america is... selectively pretty
just like Cindy I'm also entering my live laugh love era so the first book seems fitting for this new arc
Proud of u bb
Bro.... tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow made me cry 5 times. Including at least one intensely ugly cry. I didn't know what to do with myself after, except reread it immediately upon completion.
The characterization is amazing- I know these people and ended up caring about them all so much.
“I gotta see another traumatised b***h in order for me to feel like I can be on the same boat.” - The New York Times.
prob why yall watch my vids too lolols
@@withcindy Hahaha idk what you’re talking about 🤭
The “I would just start the game again” line is one of my FAVORITES
"entering my healing era"
_The Colleen Hoover books waiting to be read:_
Fr though, go you Cindy! Self-healing is a journey, but taking a step towards self healing is so brave and an accomplishment in itself! You got this
reading verity by coho did indeed challenge my healing era
cindy bestie are you ready to binge season 2 of s&b when it comes out
Yes and Ellias and I will react to it!
@@withcindy omg yay!!! I was afraid that you weren't going to, I'm so excited for s2 is insane!
I saw the trailer snd was like oh I can’t wait for Cindy
what youre saying about i want to die but i want to eat tteokpokki is EXACTLY why im feeling so uncomfortable with the book. you voiced it out wayy better than i ever could and i thank you for that
Just stumbled onto your channel and I enjoyed the format of integrating life as you read books. Also love your synopsis of Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow - because I also *choked* at that plot twist. Thanks for the intersections of thought you integrate into your book reviews!
Welcome aboard! ❤️
I sprinted here as quick as I could
Hi hi!!
I came looking for a Jack Edwards alternative and I was blown away by how in-depth yet personal your first review was. THank you so much, you've won a new subscriber.
The analogy I give to myself is that of a sea wave. Don’t be afraid to let it sweep you even if it’s just a little bit of you.
Repression is never a solution. As we know, it has done wonders for the global community 🌝
that's a good analogy. i still struggle with fighting back or feeling like the "waves" are an indicator of failure T_T
@@withcindy I’m sure a lot of us can identify through what you have been in. All the best!
aahhhhh Cindy talking about her healing era is healing me as well 🥺🥺🥺
Lets heal together !!!
Cindy coming threw with quality entertainment, we have books and Elias crouch, 10/10.
All the things u need
babe wake up cindy dropped a new video
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Watching this on the way to work. Taking notes on cindy's calm and confident tone to placate annoyed customers 💅 love you bestie, parasocially of course x
You got this parasocial bestie!!
I'm so glad you uploaded this because I've been wondering how your mental health has been. I still remember your first video talking about depression ✨💜
Thank u! Tbh it's still been hard. Two weeks ago I was very depressed all week due to personal events that happened. Trying not to beat myself up whenever I feel down cuz I get easily frustrated at myself for any negative feelings 😩 but the book is right that I should welcome it cuz it's part of me
In all seriousness Cindy, seeing you so happy and watching you heal throughout your vid’s is so touching, I know it’s kinda weird and parasocial, but still, happy for you💜💜
Thank you so much! I'm trying but it def aint easy T_T
Congrats on entering your healing era! A recommendation to help it and experience peak fiction - Everything Everywhere All At Once!
such a good movie!
FILL OUR LIVES WITH LOVE AND COMPASSION --- YESSS FOR BEING IN OUR HEALING ERAS!
YES LETS DO IT!!
I just recently discovered your channel, and I've really been enjoying your videos! Props from a fellow Bay Arean :)
Welcome aboard! Where in the Bay area are you from? I'm currently in East Bay but I visit San Francisco sometimes
@@withcindy Thank you! I'm in the East Bay, too ♥
Yay for the healing era! I'm so conflicted about Tomorrow x3 because it sounds interesting and everyone keeps praising it but I'm also jaded-by-the-industry (wannabe) gamedev so i'm worried i won't be able to turn off my judgement brain enough to enjoy it 💀
my friend's partner works in the video game industry and when she was telling them about stuff going on in the book they were like "yea.. that hits close to home" kljdsakldjsalkj
@@withcindy oh no 😂😂
I was literally searching for something to watch and then this popped up to save me from my boredom. Thanks Cindy!
You are so welcome!
I freaking RAN 🏃♀️💨 when I saw that you posted 🤭 cant wait to watch the video!!!!
You're the best! ❤️
I really liked the picks in this video. I hope the Healing Era sees only the best titles headed your way.
thank u!! we shall seeeeee
Love your videos Cindy. I love your humor, and it’s cool seeing a fellow judgmental Asian book nerd in this space who keeps it real
Damn, "Live Laugh Love" Cindy is also deep, intellectual Cindy. Love that for you and I'm eager to read Be Not Afraid of Love too ❤️
Re: Tomorrow×3, I rated that book 4ish stars initially and then ended up reading it a few months later and upgrading it to 5 stars. Reading it for the first time was a wonderful experience, but the author's craft really shines upon re-reads. Maybe it's because I'm a romantic asexual, but I read Sam as asexual too. He LOVES Sadie and there's some sparks as well as comfort and companionship there that could indicate romantic interest, but he's described as not very interested in or driven by sex in his relationships. In that framework, I really liked the idea that it depicted a very different sort of love story and one we don't see often in books. I also liked that it depicted that even as individuals, Sadie and Sam had very different relationships with different people... their friendships and romantic relationships varied but in ways that felt true to character.
Just food for thought for my intellectual (parasocial) bestie!
really interesting points! u can tell the author put a lot of thought into the book so it doesnt surprise me that it's even better with rereads. i would have loved to see the author explore sam's ace identity more!
@withcindy That would have been great, for sure. The thought did cross my mind though that maybe because of the time frame and how these types of conversations around the spectrum of sexuality weren't front and center until more recently, maybe Sam wouldn't have had the language to identify himself that way and instead would just have a sense that true intimacy isn't sexual. I don't have the book in front of me but there's a moment in the book where in an interview he says that the type of relationship he has with Sadie is way more intimate than sex.
Hurrah! A new withcindy video has arrived!
Wheeeeee
You're the first reviewer I've heard mention that Tomorrow x2 has cancer in it. Thanks for letting me know!
25:50 The Korean therapist responding like that does NOT surprise me. Mental health is still a HUGE stigma and is basically a "you should be able to fix yourself with easy things" still.
ugh such a shame that its a big stigma :(
11:19 The game you are talking about is Oregon Trail which was my favorite computer game as a kid.❤
thank goodness. i've been craving one of your videos all week !!!
Yay! Thank you!
thank you for uploading, cindy
Thanks for listening
I need you to know that your description of Tomorrow x3 convinced me to place a hold for it at the library, and LITERALLY as you were saying you were so happy this book didn't have a romance between the two main characters, I looked over at the genre box and saw it was classified as a Romance. XD; Also there are over 45 people ahead of me in queue for this book so I guess I'll read it some time in 2024, damn!
hmm there is some romance i guess but its not the main point of the book and the 2 central characters arent a romantic couple!!
I found Be Not Afraid Of Love from you on Goodreads and i've just finished it today! 5 stars for me as well! a lovely, important, healing book that even got through to a cynic (i'm recovering) like me. i'll be rereading it loads, thank you for the rec! xx
awww we are both recovering cynics!!
This vid has convinced me to read tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow, I know it's popular but didn't know what it's about
hope u enjoy!
ah, yes. visually assaulting us with elias crotch right in the begining of the video is, in fact, the best way to start a video. please make it a tradition, thanks
Gotta keep y'all entertained as I blather on
The lessons you took from that first book sort of remind me of a 5 star read I happened to just finish called “Nobody’s Normal”. Highly recommend, super informative!
Ooo ty for the rec!
I'm in my hot mess era so I'm living vicariously through your healing era. Also cindy Shadow and Bone S2 is out so can't wait to see your reaction videos. Saw a few episodes now and the Crows are dramatic but competent this time around 😂 (probs because Nina has the only braincell in the group)
Ellias and I will react to it!
Omg!! That's so true about Silvia Moreno Garcia's character's couple dinamics!! I read Certain Dark Things and I'm in the first half of The Beautiful Ones and it's the same dynamic in completely different scenarios
I knew she had a thing for this dynamic!!
So agree on Tomorrow!! Why couldn't it be fully platonic? I also didn't cry 😂 It was a 4 star for me. Gobbled it up but didn't love it.
totally on the same boat!
New Cindy video after I'm done with work makes me wanna live, laugh, love, thank you for the video!
You are so welcome!
8:46 to the text on screen; yes girlie! Go get that quality social time!!❤
yes!! im especially prioritizing spending time w my college friends bc we have been thru so much and even tho we are spread out around cali i feel like they were so integral to my growth
perfect timing xD watching ur videos are definitely the best way to relax after my mid-terms
You're so welcome! hope u get good midterm results!
We love to see it Cindy ❤
it might sound silly but, man, ive been binging your videos while i work/draw lately and i love them so much, they have made me want to take reading back again. i used to read a lot as a child but i dont do anymore bc i find it hard to focus, but after watching a lot of your videos ive started a book after so long and im really enjoying the journey and looking forward to reading more! just wanted to say thank you!!
That is awesome! ❤️❤️
22:30 I’ve been so intrigued by the title yet it never feels out of place.
the title was the most interesting part about the book tbh
deffo relate to wanting to feel my feelings better rather than trying to escape-and-repress™
The Daughter of Doctor Moreau lowkey similar to the game Mad Father, with the girl being the naive daughter of a doctor who turns out to be a crazy scientist/serial killer and she keeps defending the father or denying her dad is the real monster
Im in support of your live laugh love shit era. Im in the same place with healing from past trauma and feel like im on the other side learning to accept and want love
I wish u the best of luck bb ❤️❤️❤️
omg thank you Cindy, you literally healed a part of me thru this video
here's to your Healing Era Cindy!
ty im trying!!
I’m a newer viewer, and it’s really nice to hear you talk about books you actually enjoy, your content is very interesting!
Welcome aboard!
I have a few issues with Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow but I think the relationship/friendship isn’t one of them. As an ace-spectrumed person it was actually really interesting to watch the unfold of an unspokenly queer platonic relationship between 3 people that kind of broke down because of poor feelings communication along the 3 separate levels of allo-attraction. It feels true to life somehow - people so absolutely in love, probably in love beyond the level of romantic love, but the necessities of romantic love to some parties within this unspoken bond strain things as certain relationships change. It felt really intentional to me and still representative despite being truly frustrating because it _is_ frustrating. Even being someone raised in the 00s rather than the 80s-90s like these characters and having the vocabulary they don’t to express these feelings, it’s frustrating and tough to navigate when you’re desperately in love with someone and that person loves you but you have almost an anti-desire to do move into a separate type of intimacy even though it would hurt you to see them achieve it with someone else you also love
really interesting points! thanks for sharing
Thanks for reviewing "The Daughter of Dr. Moreau"! It's been on my TBR list forever and I need to still read it lol
curious to hear what u think!
the way im starting my birthday watching cindy iM ALL FOR THE HEALING ERA BESTIE LETS GET IT
happy birthday!!
@@withcindy thank you!! i can also concur that the briogeo mask slays for my hair too, i always keep a travel sized one in my bag~
OMG PIRA 😭🥺🥰 so so precious wth
Pira is so cute I love terrorizing him
I'm happy to hear about your healing era :)
ty im trying!!
The first book's line about suppressing your emotions causing you to doubt the fullness of life and yourself is SO real. I struggle with this constantly. And I also find healing in nature
Also I have the Tteokbokki book on my tbr! I'm not korean or a culture expert or anything but from what I've seen about mental health in korea over the years, the way the therapist talks makes a lot of sense to me, but in a frustrating way. Mental health has a long long way to go in SK especially with regard to talking to people with those issues and offering actionable solutions. Often what you hear about is people talking around the core problems and giving surface level fixes that put most of the onus on the patient. And you're right that it's much more normalized in SK to talk about weight and looks very bluntly; even if lots of people don't like it it happens
yea unfortunately its very common in asia to comment on people's weight openly! ppl dont realize how much of an impact that can have :(
@@withcindy yeah hopefully it's changing over time
Mmmm that drink at 8:51! But woo, nice set of books this month 👍
AND WE SHALL GET MORE CHE IN VIETNAM
this is how i spent my friday night:
(also glad to hear you entered your healing era:D pls share more mental health stuff coz i just feel so relatable- i don't mean anything offensive but sometimes you talk about your being cynical, and that if you were the character you'd have done xyz. and i thought the same. i'm a very bitter and cynical and judgmental person because of my upbringing, and have always thought myself wicked and felt ashamed of myself, so just hearing another person being so open and cool about "being cynical" made me realise that i didn't have to beat myself up. obviously there's the problem of compartmentalisation which i've got to work on but yeah, love you and your reviews🥰)
(and if you ever wrote a non-fiction book about your healing journey i'd 100% buy it.)
Awww ty!! It sounds like we are v similar with our cynicism lolol I feel like it's what helped us survive but at the same time we have to learn how to rein it in to accept more love and positivity too 😩
Woah Be Not Afraid of Love sounds perfect for me!
Rise for Cindy!! 🎉 Omg two videos in one love it 📚🍑
Edit: I am a traumatised bitch too and slowly healing we got this Cindy 💅
lets heal 2getha!!!
devouring this video
feast on me like im feyre and ur rhysand
@@withcindy trust me i will
Banger video. Though I have to attend my uni admission exam next week instead of watching the video, I will take this video as an English learning session👀👀
Best of luck!
I’m still reading tomorrow, and tomorrow and tomorrow but now I’m getting right into it which is good cause at first I was reading it super fast and then idk what happened
curious to hear what u think!
@@withcindy I just finished it in a day! I went from chapter one to completely devouring it! It has an emotional hold on me now :( and it reminds me of a little life but I haven’t even read that haha
@@elisazouza I have heard A Little Life is gut wrenching. Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow had a great balance of happy and sad moments
Not Sylvia Moreno-Garcia only writing about losers as the not-so- love interest 😂
ITS A PATTERN
Great restaurant choices, as always!
Thank you 😋
Watching a new Cindy video at midnight is better then sleeping
get some rest bestie
Cindy video upload, I feel spoiled! Cheers to another video 🎉
Hope you enjoy!
Ah yes, my daily dose of Cindy. Thank you for this amazing content :D
ur welcome!!
I can just hear that cat's thoughts while you were petting it sfiwejfjf
hehehe
I LOVE BELL HOOKS TOO
Definitively going to pick up Mimi Zhu's book!
omg love your t-shirt of strawberry shortcake! 💝
Me too!! It's from hot topic
MY JAW DROPPED OPEN 😂
😳😳😳
29:31 this is interesting because gods of jade and shadow has the opposite dynamic lol
It’s sooooo good to see you back Cindy!!
“A bruised burden” oof that sounds so heavy but also super reflective
-sincerely a fellow poetry bitch
We aren't burdens!! What we go thru is valid ❤️
hell yeah ! fav pho spot in sj for sure
Omg my friend Brandon looooves it But I thought it was overpriced tbh 😩
Certain Dark Things is Garcia’s most imaginative.
Oh man yeah I probably would give daughter of doctor moreau 3.5 stars too looking back. I really loved it while I was reading it but the ending felt wrong and rushed, also just that the story could have certainly been fleshed out more like you said. However I still have mostly positive memories overall because I had the biggest book crush on Montgomery, I think he's great 🤣
THE LEONARDO DICAPRIO JOKE IS KILLING ME
wish it killed him too
@@withcindy ????? HELP??
That looks like some great food. Yum.
It was!
Now I want to read "Tomorrow, Tomorrow, and Tomorrow".
Cindy you should do a book review on zodiac academy because it’s really bad but so many other people love it and I just wanna know if your opinion on it