I've come back to your amazing motivation and Spiritual support. Bless you and thank you for being. My Aha moment is remembering the saying "man's rejection is God's protection " and to reach out to the difficult person and not just be with those who like me as I'm constantly looking for validation from others not accepting me. My elderst son Andre persevered being in my life when his siblings turned away from me as their mother. He taught me what your message was and still is today when I listened to you 6years ago and didn't get it. Now in 2024 I heard your lesson and understand it. Rather late then never. Not sure if you will ever reader see this. Thank you and bless you from a grateful grandmother from Australia Victoria.
I have repeated your grandmothers “man’s rejection is God’s protection” so many times not only to myself but others when they experience rejection for the last several years now. I was so blessed when I heard it for the first time from you.
"You only want to play with people who want to play with you..." This really hit me, because you can not force relationships to work...and if you value yourself and worth first, then it doesn't matter what other people say or do...because you will always walk in your greatness...Now that was a word! Thanks...
My ah ha was when Lisa said walking into room already accepted and not waiting for others to accept me. I've been a lifelong people pleaser trying to gain acceptance. I realized it aint gonna happen no matter what I do I need to love and accept me.
Lis Ozonder It gets easier as it is practiced more. I am at the beginning and am excited about accepting who I am no matter where I am not even a thought.
Yesterday I experienced the feeling of not being excepted by my family. This is an ongoing covert situation where I am not invited to parties or events. Whenever I ask why the answer is "we did not think you wanted to go". I prayed about it and God spoke the same message. "love yourself regardless of who shows you love. "be able to work with people who are difficult to be around" and " be a light in the darkness". God always provides confirmation. Thank you.
Hey Lisa, my aha moment, showing kindness to my emotionally abusive husband (whom I’ve left), while he’s incredibly cold towards me, to not let his behaviour affect how I feel about myself, my value. Love you Lisa!
I have had to sit in my darkness. I cried. I felt anger. I felt alone and confused, but i stayed in it. Not letting anything distract me. This happened a few times during my transition(break up). Now im learning so much about the woman i am. Thank you for that.
I really thank God for you Lady Lisa. It's a new decade for me to practice self love & learn to accept me. As you said "I like, I love & I accept me daily, and everything else is bonus" Wow....Man's rejection is God's protection? that's deep.
Lisa, my sister from a different mister... thank you. After reading your book, Abundance Now, I began to view myself differently. For years, I've been preaching "Self Love" but still I didn't fully get it. Past rejections made me doubt myself, and second guess my talents, my abilities, and what I was meant to accomplish. Proudly I would tell others and myself that I am not afraid of rejection, however, secretly I was afraid of how I responded to it. Yes, I am a get back up and keep it moving kind of woman but sometimes it takes much longer to get back up. And while I'm down, the inner thoughts are worst than anything any other person could ever tell me. However after reading your book and hearing you speak on this subject, I am now ready for when rejection strikes again. I am more confident that I will bounce back with style and grace. #BOL
Yes yes sis! You will definitely bounce back every time! I am so happy that my book and teachings are helping you and glad to see you putting in the work! I believe in you! Be blessed.
Lisa, Rejection has always been my thing. It's the thing that hurts the most and when it happens I roll up in a ball in a corner until I can peek my head out again or I get angry and lash-out. You are right, I'm going to have to listen to this over and over again to wrap my mind around it. I need this, I want to learn everything about this. These words are life to me. Thank you. OMG!
Yes "I only want to play with people who wants to play with me," I never thought of it that way because I'm always searching for validation and when I run across those who doesn't share my vision I internalize it and think there's something wrong with me. So long as I like me and know what my vision for myself is, I am better prepared to handle rejection which I don't see as a bad thing anymore because it's just Gods way of protecting me and driving me in the vision he sees better fit for me. Thanks Lisa your the best! P.S I love your hair it really brings out a beautiful glow in the tonality of your skin. And red is your color honey!
I woke up today struggling with a friendship I had to move away from because of the rejection and disrespect I experienced. That gave me the opportunity to accept and respect myself inspite of all.
Wow! Just WOW! I’ve been watching “The Secret” for two days straight nonstop... absorbing every single word and something told me to look you up. And WOW! Just... WOW. You say you’re not religious but the words you speak are biblical. Thanks for your obedience.
#BOL... "Man's rejection is God's protection!!" I recently experienced this at work, but I realized it was actually a blessing in disguise, because it didn't fit in God's plan for my life!
This is exactly what I have been thinking about this week! I am slowly more able to see rejection as bringing me closer to accepting myself and also helping me find the people who I DO want to partner with--I am appreciating how rejection helps me find my true path and not waste time on those who don't relate to me right now. Rejection doesn't usually feel good, except when I see it as a quick reminder to just be my best self and trust that I will meet the right people at the right time. I just need to show up and 'stay in the room' for myself. Thank you Lisa!
Lisa Nichols Good Day Ms. Lisa Nichols. I pray that all is well. Lately, I have been watching your videos. I love them soooooooooooooo much! I want to learn more, to be more. For many years I've wanted a mentor. I've looked to so many people for it. I've listened to Iyanla Vanzant, Tony Robinson, Michael Beck...I mean the list goes on. Nonetheless, I have NEVER EVER had a mentor whom I can sit down with one on one, face to face and do some real work. Is it too much to ask if that person can be you?
Wow - important lesson. Need to listen to this one multiple times. Rejection is part of my life - not only in love but also in career and business and social life. I always thought I wasn't good enough but deep down I knew it wasn't that. Despite their rejection, I have to love me first and keep living fully and bringing my best in life.
To walk into a room already accepting yourself. That is amazing!! I just went to a makeup event feeling looked down on but I kept my attitude positive and enjoyed myself!! I am accepting me!!! I am enough!!
Bam! Only play with people who want to play with you! I had an experience after I stumbled upon your book...so I was prepared for the rejection!! I'm so protected!! I accept it now!! Sincere serenity!!
Ah, I just found you, when searching videos about rejection. Thank you! You saved my day (my bad feelings about rejections...). There are no other options of what you told. Self-love, shining and be the compassionate best version of you.
I absolutely love this statement that you made: "Like yourself before anyone on Facebook does". People are fickle. One minute they like you and the next they can't stand you. We can't allow that to rock our world. We have to like who we are - flaws and all - whether or not we are acknowledged by others. I like me unapologetically. I look in the mirror and tell me who I am and that I like and love me. That is the key to overcoming rejection.
"A man's rejection is God's protection!" This one sentence has hit my core. Thank you my Queen. This is my 1st time seeing you. You pop up on my home feed and I watched an older video 1st. This is now my 3rd in a row, and wow! Thank you! I so needed to hear this. In more ways then one.
Rejection is just God’s way of protecting me and driving me! This is beautiful. And no, I am going to apply it into my life and get back here to share it with you!
#BOL Lisa I’m going through the darkness as we speak! Challenge accepted and will be defeated!! I’m on my Moses journey by myself to finding my strength and my own light. No more living up to Others expectations just my own!! Love you lisa💜💜🙏
Rejection....abandonment has been a constant struggle to overcome in my life. Going thru it now, this message was so on point at such the right time!!! My pastor spoke about turning the other cheek, and how God said "I said YOU turn the other cheek" this is not your fight it is My fight let Me fight that fight. Know that I love you!!
Demonstrate best version of you in whatever situation you are.... wow!!! What a statement!! When we are in a good situation, we are good with all and everything around us....but when we are in bad or uncomfortable situation, that's when we need to be or demonstrate best version of ourselves!! Thank you Lisa for these wonderful words!!!
Lisa, as I listened to you, I shouted Amen! I've been on this journey in relationships and associates. I was often frustrated, angry, and resentful but a turnaround occurred when I saw things differently and I was strengthened in character; good can come out of rejection. Thanks for all you do!!!!!!!
Lisa, I was struggling with my Spirit this week. Thank you for your advice...”Stand In Your Power!” “Be whole and complete irregardless of your choice!” “How can I provide the best version of myself in this moment!”❤️🌺 “Walk in the room accepting the whole version of yourself!”🌺 🙏🏽
This touched my heart today. I've been struggling with rejection within my social media posting to running groups due to politics and (lack of) popularity affiliations for me dictate' my joy. I let "them" get to my mind and impact my heart but recently I've been praying, listening to TD Jakes and today, came across your posting. I listened to your broadcast before; but today, this message was EXACTLY what I needed to "let it go" and move on to the business of being 'the best version of me'. My destiny is not defined by their approval. My disaster is. My destiny has everything to do with me loving me and being the best that I can be in difficult situations. I've walked steps, and ran too many miles to let "them" take me out for the count. I am going to focus on my internal JOY and walking in my trust but also standing in my trust and being comfortable if I am the "last man standing" on my island. The Lord got me! Thank you
I keep telling people that if they don't choose me then I can't choose them. People told me that I'm wrong for asking people to choose. I never asked! Others, narcissists, instigated the me or them. People say I'm wonderful and that they love me, then discard me without a reason. I just keep showing up as me. I've invested so much into myself and I won't stop. My considerable hours listening to help and motivation, I've never heard anyone address this. Thank you!
I can't stress how much I needed to hear this. My work environment is toxic and it challenges me to show up and show out EVERY day. My supervisor.....sigh....let's just say I started as an employee, showing up mentally as a supervisor, reporting to a supervisor that acknowledged my strengths and was threatened by my greatness and integrity. I challenged him to be a better person inadvertently with simply just being who I am. So, it went from him complimenting my work ethic, to being challenged by it. He walks by me daily, no words...not a good morning, good job....crickets. But, takes my group suggestions and uses them for his own credit later on. It's a daily fight and it almost made me seek other options of employment....but, I refuse to give him that satisfaction. Thank you, for downloading wisdom into my spirit to keep pushing and learning how to except rejection. 😊👊🏼🙏.
Lisa, I Thank God for leading me to you!!! I always believed what the enemy meant for evil, God will turn it around for his good. I love you!!! I was able to find the best part of me, in college giving a celebration speech, in a public speaking class. I was able to take that long journey back to myself!!! I celebrated God, you, myself, and my peers with a powerful quote from this dialog! Thank You!
Thank you Lisa. This has been a difficult thing for me to deal with in a "grown up"... lol... in the past my emotions have often overtaken the situation and I have placed blame, disguised as reason, on the other person because I couldn't understand why they rejected me and what i was offering and blaming them made me feel ok about myself. You have enlightened me in this video and I feel an emotional release. Now I understand that I need to detach myself from those feelings of rejection because it's not about me and it doesn't change who I am. It doesn't change who I am. Thank you.
I did this today when I felt upset about something that happened. I felt disrespected and gave the person a hard time as a result. I decided to stand in my truth and called the person to apologize for my part. That was the best I could do at that moment. Listening to you this evening helped me to applaud myself, be gentle and kind to who I am at this moment. Thank you Lisa.
My business proposal to a potential prospect was just rejected a few minutes before watching this video. I am grateful to have stumbled upon this video that has actually picked me up from my slump, and has reminded me of my true potential. Thank you, Lisa. I appreciate you!
I've learned that I'm not for everybody and that's okay. As long as I like me that's more than enough. Thank you Lisa! Sometimes we forget things we already know and you're always reminding us that we are more than enough and we deserve to be loved.
"You're self worth is contingent on the value you're bringing into the room" Just WoW #BOL #nugget !!! Once I realized what this meant, I feel like I have all the control over my self perception! Thank You Lisa!!
Lisa no matter how many times I listen to you, I am left overwhelmed. Even now as I am writing this. I get a ha ha moment each and every time. Yes, letting go of ego and letting unconditional love abide is not easy but it is worth it. And many times you/I benefit greatly from it. You know it's ego when you feel the need to prove yourself, explain yourself. It's unconditional love when you are in total acceptance of you and others no matter how difficult the situation may be at the moment. Stay focused on the positive and learn to forgive the negative. Lisa keep up the great work. You are reaching the masses and definitely, have reached me in a place sooo deep I can't describe. Love you Lisa and my fellow tribe members.
When I walk into a room....I have to WALK into the room ALREADY ACCEPTING of myself!!! That's such a breakthrough for me!! Bcz I'm so approval addicted and I'm doing my best to break that addiction!!!
I am doing this every day Lisa. I am walking into all environments giving the best of me and bringing LOVE with me. When it gets difficult... I am giving myself a TIME OUT. Reminding myself of the I AM, I FORGIVE, I COMMIT. I check myself and go right back in... IM GROWING - Thanks to YOU and these videos Lisa. SO GRATEFUL...
Lady Lisa, Rejection is what I'm working on becoming better at. I truly understand it starts with me. Words cannot explain how I know God loves me so much to bring you to me. I pray for God to bring people in my life so that I can become whole and prepared to deliver what he has asked me to do. Thank you God for this child of yours.
Bringing our best in the darkest situation and not letting circumstances or the environment dictate you. Paraphrasing. This went straight to my soul. I gather from this that we have be better and to better especially when the going tough without losing sight of who we truly are. Ouufff! I have tears in my eyes🤗🙏🏾👏🏽
Thank you for calling me out on to the playing field. I have allowed rejection to limit my creativity and drive. Thank you for holding me accountable to my greatness. Challenge accepted.
Thank you Lisa. I became a follower after seeing your video on domestic violence. It spoke to me. Your words were the words I had lost...”I said yes but I meant no.” Watching through this video on handling rejection helped me see his rejection and mistreatment and abuse is not a reflection of my worth. “Mans rejection is gods protection.” Thank you Lisa.
This message, among others, has transformed my life at work in customer service. I no longer get drawn in to negative attitudes of others or take the bait when they want to fight. When my smile and warm greeting is met by something totally opposite, I try to keep my feelings out of it and i empathize. They've obviously been dealing or not dealing with pain beyond our encounter. I have unwaivering faith in myself. What I've come through has prepared me to handle just about anything. I'm seeing the big picture and playing the long game. I forgive those that have hurt me deeply and I release the pain so I dont pass it on. One small piece of rejection wont disturb this tower I stand on. #Non-negotiable
This is bringing tears to my eyes on "How to walk in a room filled with darkness and disapproval?" Embracing yourself and not looking for "Validation." I heard you, but I would like more information as to How To Go About It? Thank you, Lisa. I love you, but God Loves you more. Keep healing our minds, body, and soul. Blessings!
I know I am years behind with my comment but this message is still touching. My wow moment is understanding rejection is God's protection and my environment doesn't dictate who I am. Ohh my goodness you truly are a blessing to me. Thank you lisa
#BOL "Are you playing full out or does someone else's choice to shut down and play small cause you to shut down and play small" Ouch, that was my AHA moment...
Lisa I lost sleep at 4am wondering about my life .....somehow the search led me to your RUclips. It's been 2 hours now enjoying and watching your beat iful transformation .....man this is what I have been looking for in a situation if of rejection, resentment, self pity, seeking to be loved and appreciated.....the list is endless. I will continue getting guidance from you well done.
I will practice asking myself that question, and pondering what it means in each situation "How do I bring the best version of myself into this situation?" I love the level of responsibility it makes me conscious of regarding my thoughts, actions and intentions. This way, the environment does not dictate the joy I will have in my day. It's practicing how to stay in my power. Find your center. Find your peace. Stay woke, and Bring the best version of yourself. I love this.
Thank you for this episode. For telling me that the people in my life our bonuses to me. That when someone rejects me it isn't for the fit. That "we just don't fit," and to be grown up enough to see it in that perspective. Knowing that people are bonuses to your life there isn't a need to feel accepted or appreciated by others first, because you already accept yourself and appreciate yourself before stepping into any room. That I am only focusing on giving the best version of me, WOW! That is exactly what I need it, and also to stay powerfully in who i am as a person irregardless of those who love me or don't. Thank You, Lisa!!!!!!
Lisa, the person in my life that need to hear this particular message is ME. "Man's rejection is God's protection." Things become so clear when you open yourself to receiving the blessings the Universe is waiting to release to you. Thank you so much.
I've let go of every security blanket i had. I kept my security just incase God didn't bless me, i could always go back. Well now im fully vulnerable, trusting in him completely. Moving by faith and working till i sweat. Nervous, knees trembling Going All Out! Thanks Lisa Nichols for putting me on blast! The book Abundance Now is amazing! #BOL
Your words are food to my soul. Iv spent so many years feeling rejected and needing validation. Your words have shown me that I do not have to play with people who don't want to play with me. In loving myself I can now see the unacceptable and have started weeding out those negative influences in my life. Thank you xx
Lisa, I am where you were years ago, your message inspired me , I am a single mother, I am tired of being broke. So thank you for the motivational speech.
To be awake and yet still sleeping has been my life . But when I hear you speak I come to life. Thanks for being that angel on my shoulder that says try this girl it's ok we can do this together.
Bol! Omg! I have been rejected! I was hurt! Because of my need to be loved, accepted! It must come from me: the love, the acceptance! Thanks for the message! ❤️❤️❤️
I am going through Rejection from someone I loved so dearly. This video came at the right time because I needed someone like you to tell this to me. It hurts so much being rejected but this video has given me every reason to find the best version of me and to love me and to accept me. Thank you Lisa.
The timing is perfect for me to accept this challenge as I have returned to an atmosphere where all those dynamics are played. And I am the light placed here to shine on folks who are walking in their shadow s. Who are running a business they know nothing about n are NOT interested in any advice. But I am learning to BE in my space despite their unwillingness!
Aloha Lisa & thank you for sharing your broken heart so I could rescue mine. I am crying and crying AND CRYING in compassion because I CAN FEEL IN MY OWN HEART, MIND, BODY & SOUL the broken glass you had to crawl over during your huge betrayal and in recognition of what I need to do for me for my betrayals. I would love to be blessed like you by a son, family member or friend who could simply hold space while I have the complete meltdown, purge and reset experience. I am sure you tell your son every day how beautiful and special he is. For me, please tell him I THANK HIM for being my surrogate through you and for you so you BOTH could give this precious gift to me. I never really gave myself time to sit on the side of the mountain to feel and walk through my pain. I have been frozen, because I WAS SO AFRAID of reacting, yet I kept in motion throwing myself over one cliff after another in my search for relief. I didn't have the tools to walk myself through the journey alone though I searched for DECADES. I couldn't find any playmates as devoted to me as I was to them, and in the last few weeks, I finally got too tired to chase anymore down. You see, I dove deeply into every worthy process I came across during those decades from every self help book, program, and spiritual practice I could get my hands on, and I was always offering myself up as skilled, non-judgemental but discerning support while looking for genuine souls to grow with. You know how many will SAY they were "in" but behaved like it was a one way street, a dead end street or a stick to beat me with when I needed a kind ear or a hand up? I didn't just stick my pinky or little toe in, I DEDICATED myself to putting these things into practice and to finding my village, tribe or family. You know what I mean? Thank you for reaffirming for me to hold out for those who DO WANT TO PLAY BIG WITH ME!!! And it HAS BEEN LONELY for a long time. For the first time ever, I terminated an abusive "friendship" I had off & on - at her whim -- for nearly a decade. Walking away nearly 1 1/2 years ago was one of the kindest things I have ever done for me, and I honestly haven't regretted it. I have a huge people pleaser and server mentality, so this continues to surprise and delight me. In the midst of that searching & spending (couldn't find good help for affordable or like exchange), I even dug into my IRA believing I was investing that small fortune I could not afford into attending a spiritual University in India a couple of times. Yes, I was that desperate to be free of the pain and stuckness, and that eager to use my pain to help others avoid suffering, too. In the years since, I even tried several therapists who simply dumped me after a few sessions because they said I was a "liability" and needed more help than they were willing to provide. Yes, you know a "liability", because I was just this side of suicidal but clinging to survival, because deep, deep, deep down I knew I was worth it even if they didn't? Despite all that, I ended up more broke & broken, so I spent 9 months in a homeless shelter I only recently escaped from. For the last week Jessie, your financial manager, has been patiently working with me to get the funds in my debit card to clear from some sort of holdup with your bank so I can enroll on your campus for your Speak & Write for Ultimate Impact course. I am eager to see how it will come together for me to be at your workshop in Florida, because I plan to be there even if I have to sleep in my car for the entire conference! LOL! I just walked into the living room to grab my Lisa Nichols notebook, so I could write out the correct name of the program Jessie already gave me enrollment in, and there you were - larger than life - on my tv. I actually asked out loud, "Lisa, what are you doing here?" because I was so surprised that YOU WOULD SHOW UP FOR ME in my own home. Plus, I SWEAR I have not touched my tv yet today, and it is almost noon. But there you were, Lisa, on RUclips finishing a talk that I had been watching until 2am then paused to try and get some sleep in. I'll take that blessing, THANK YOU! I DID switch to you on my laptop while in my bedroom since the online church broadcast didn't work this morning at 8am - that tribe is in TX while I am here in CO. I like to start my day off with positivity and God. So if no JGLM, then you were my next best friend! Then here you were heroically, beautifully and authentically sharing a very real and very recent hurt. Lisa, I am SO SORRY you had to go through that betrayal. I ache for you, I REALLY do. I have the same doe in the headlight experience with cruelty and betrayal, and I have been accused of living in a castle in the sky MANY times when it comes to "THE REAL WORLD". Yet, your sharing the detail of the depth of financial cost, time cost and emotional devastation helped me so much! Oh, now I AM CRYING AGAIN. Instead of looking AT the people and the betrayals, I have been running around these people trying to please them AND NOT FOCUS on the BETRAYALS. I have run my joy, my dignity, myself and my life into the manure trying to run away from the TRUTH of the pain, the real SOURCE and PUNCH of the pain all while trying to figure out how to stop the damage and ongoing betrayals. Well, now I am sitting, and I am feeling, and I am crying because of your heroism. Now I have the consciousness and example from you to REALLY look at what happened and is happening so it WILL NOT CONTINUE HAPPENING! I'll start with it no longer being absorbed by me. After I get stronger, so that I am using my story for fuel and standing on top of it verses being immersed in it, THEN I will see what can be done to stop it from continuing to wreck the lives of others. Along the way, also thanks to your authentic sharing and examples, Lisa, I will embrace doing what I can to help others on my way to greater greatness. I kept buying into the myth everyone else around me has been shoving my way so that I believed I had to have TOTAL LIFE MASTERY before I could begin radically supporting others. I kept waiting and holding back thinking I didn't have this, that or really ANY area of my life mastered, so how could I help anyone? They were expecting me to be perfect and would ACCUSE ME OF BEING PERFECT while I was offering what knowledge, help and love I genuinely had. Mmm. So many lights going off now. This is like the liquid sunshine we get in Hawaii, where I am from: the sun shines brightly in the sky while a steady sprinkling of rain falls. I am like that Hawaiian liquid sunshine as I cry and feel my brilliance burst through at the same time. Lisa, my love, I am so GLAD you had the courage and strength to walk this path and AUTHENTICALLY SHARE. I have gotten so tired of the perfect images lightly sprinkled with bs, salesy talk or deflection. Tired of people USING their story to ENROLL or SELL vs to actually HELP. This is a BEAUTIFUL difference. I realize it has been over a year since this video was posted. I am in faith it will be read by everyone it will serve, and everyone who can reach out in service to me. I am not a facebook, email kind of fan, but you can call me late morning through say 9pm MST or text me to set up a call at 720-341-5970 so we can be real & meet heart-to-heart. God bless you! Aloha, Tame' PS. Now it's almost 1pm, but I am going to get up, make some tea Earl Grey tea with cream & a breakfast THEN come back to look fully upon the betrayals and go through my meltdown, purge & reset.
I am glad that you acknowledged how difficult being that light is. I am currently going through a transition in life, in which I had to move past bitterness and resentment. It took a lot of mental cleansing, but I am empowered by my strength to overcome.
Thank you Lisa for the reminder … the hardest part is remembering everyday what my why is … and after listening to your video i remembered that I did wake up today and thought I do like myself ❤
Hi Ms. Lisa Nichols, I am taking you up on your challenge this is where I am. Of course I am a recovering people pleaser. Just recently I reconnected with some high school classmate and I must say we are in different places in our lives. I found myself getting angry and never wanting to see or even speak to this people again. That is not who I am so I sucked it up and continue to have dialogue with them in-spite of all the underhanded remarks and personal references that were made. So I thank you because it is my desire to bring healing and awareness to the soul of mankind. Thanks again.
Thanks for this message. I cried when l listened to this I have been looking for acceptance all my life. I was neglected by 3 different men and have been abounded with there kids. But thank God for a wonderful husband who took me in and accepted my kids as his own. I never loved myself and now this video has just changed my mentality. Thanks Lisa God bless you.
Lisa, for years I have been seeking approval from others, it stunted my spiritual growth, personal growth ,and who I am as a child of God. Now, I let God work in and through me to accomplish His work. It no longer matters what others think about me. I stand in my power!
Walk into the room already accepting yourself and everybody else will do what they want with it...love That! I needed this message, don't want to and won't get stuck where his walking away left me.
Thank u so much. Rejection has been a huge barrier for me all my life. My mom has been on drugs since I was young, my dad left shortly after and never looked bk, my marriage after 12 yrs ended in abuse, every relationship I've been in ends leaving me feeling abandoned and I have 2 out of 4 children that are going totally opposite in life than what I taught them...... Point being I kno rejection very well. I'm 37 and reinventing myself and I realized REJECTION is my main fear and scar. Listening to your msg helped me to begin to look directly at this truth of my life. I am even now slick excited to except your challenge to face my fear of it and begin to control my mindset as I'm being rejected or to even not consider whether I'm rejected or not. May God continue to bless u. U have a beautiful gift and I'm so glad we have your existence. 💯💜😊
Lisa...Lisa....LISA!!!!!!!!!!!!! My sister in prosperity you speak to my soul!!!!! I have been stuck in an endlesss cycle of blaming myself for rejection or not playing full out in fear someone will judge me. After hearing this message I realized it was because I don’t wake up reminding myself just how special, unique, full, and most importantly ENOUGH I am! I’ve made the vow to myself to only play with those that want to play with me and just the energy I get from my upgraded circle of influence has been everything I NEEDED! Thank You So Much Queen!!!!
My friendgirl and sister sent me this video, it's her birthday🎂 today. Her name is Ruby💎 We we're just discussing how to move OUR EGO out of the way and love our co-workers 💖 amazing message and confirmation! Thank you for sharing 💖 beautiful spirit💖
Mrs. Lisa this message really helped me. Rejection is a major flaw in my life. By watching this episode, I can walk with my head held high and accept who I am. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much , i found you at a stage in my life where i really needed your help. After having faced my rejections I have realised it is always about the other person,it is never about you. It is something that the person cannot accept about you, but you still got to love yourself.
Smh! It's that simple? After all these years of anxiety, hating holidays and general frustration over failed relationships? Where have you been all my life Lisa, my breakthrough QUEEN?
I think I did it! I just came out of situation that I ran into so that I could help my daughter survive domestic violence. Our relationship was already strained, but I put that on hold to show up and help. It was one of the most difficult periods of my life. When I showed up, she was 8 months pregnant and very difficult to deal with. I wanted to run every day, I was so uncomfortable, but I stayed until I got her through that period safely. Talk about anger and resentment, darkness and shadow! That was the environment. I brought music, laughter, resilience, compassion, love, and caring to the situation. But in the midst of that, I was treated unfairly. I wasn't acknowledged, honored, appreciated ... I could go on. After helping her prevent physical violence, I found myself on the reactionary end of a cycle of abuse. I reached out and got the support I needed for my own mental and emotional well being, to get me through it. I left when my mission with her was accomplished, but this video is making me reflect on that time. What was the lesson in there? Was it meant to test my determination? Was I brought there to flex my bounce back muscles on her behalf? Or was I there to be a demonstration? I don't know. I keep trying to make sense of it for myself because it was a painful time for me, but a lot of good came out of it to, because I stayed focused on my circle of influence. Her way of being is detrimental to my well being, so I prefer to love her from a long distance and a little communication because she tries to hurt me. I love her but hate being around her. Could you make a video about how to deal with people after you've rejected them? I have close relationships that I have outgrown. As a result, I've said, I don't want to be your ... anymore. What follows is anger and you nailed it "make wrong." That's what I've been experiencing. #BOL Now I see why people have been behaving the way they have. I've had people (who used to love me) lying, focusing on every shortcoming I have real and perceived, setting me up to beat me up, insulting me, talking about me badly, spreading rumors, and abandoning me in my time of need all in an attempt to make me wrong. I'm just now understanding the motivation. One by one, I rejected them or threatened their [superior] "position" with my growth, and making me wrong makes them feel better. In the midst of that, showing the best version of myself would be to stay in my power, and not let them steal my joy or my peace. It's hard to have compassion for someone when they're being mean to me, and treating me badly. But now that I see the motivation more clearly, that lessens it's impact. Hurting people hurt people. Got it. Thanks. For that I can have compassion. I still need to protect myself. In my No Matter What pursuit of the life that I love, I've had to rely on all of these people at one time or another. As you can imagine, that is when I was confronted with and vulnerable to their anger and resentments. Ugh! These past two years have been even more challenging, as a result. Sorry for the long messages. You asked me to comment, so I'm sharing my thoughts and experiences.
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I always love your grandmother's wise words! "Baby, man's rejection is God's protection" ♡♡♡♡♡
" Don't let your environment dictate you happiness" yes, YES.
That really hit home..."Man's rejection is God's protection." Thanks!!
I've come back to your amazing motivation and Spiritual support. Bless you and thank you for being. My Aha moment is remembering the saying "man's rejection is God's protection " and to reach out to the difficult person and not just be with those who like me as I'm constantly looking for validation from others not accepting me. My elderst son Andre persevered being in my life when his siblings turned away from me as their mother. He taught me what your message was and still is today when I listened to you 6years ago and didn't get it. Now in 2024 I heard your lesson and understand it. Rather late then never. Not sure if you will ever reader see this. Thank you and bless you from a grateful grandmother from Australia Victoria.
I have repeated your grandmothers “man’s rejection is God’s protection” so many times not only to myself but others when they experience rejection for the last several years now. I was so blessed when I heard it for the first time from you.
My highlight on this message is "Do not let the environment dictate your happiness"
People's rejection is Gods' protection..... I have been truly blessed by this... Thank you.
You literally teach me all the lessons I missed in my pre-teen years! It’s NEVER too late to learn how to create the best version of yourself.
"You only want to play with people who want to play with you..." This really hit me, because you can not force relationships to work...and if you value yourself and worth first, then it doesn't matter what other people say or do...because you will always walk in your greatness...Now that was a word! Thanks...
My ah ha was when Lisa said walking into room already accepted and not waiting for others to accept me. I've been a lifelong people pleaser trying to gain acceptance. I realized it aint gonna happen no matter what I do I need to love and accept me.
What a blessing you are. God is truly using you. I did send this to my girllllls. Man's rejection is God's PROTECTION. wowwwwwwwwwww.
Walk into a room accepting who you are....Know your worth!
#nugget
Audrey Chatman yesss... easier said than done 😌
Lis Ozonder It gets easier as it is practiced more. I am at the beginning and am excited about accepting who I am no matter where I am not even a thought.
Yesterday I experienced the feeling of not being excepted by my family. This is an ongoing covert situation where I am not invited to parties or events. Whenever I ask why the answer is "we did not think you wanted to go". I prayed about it and God spoke the same message. "love yourself regardless of who shows you love. "be able to work with people who are difficult to be around" and " be a light in the darkness". God always provides confirmation. Thank you.
Hey Lisa, my aha moment, showing kindness to my emotionally abusive husband (whom I’ve left), while he’s incredibly cold towards me, to not let his behaviour affect how I feel about myself, my value. Love you Lisa!
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I have had to sit in my darkness. I cried. I felt anger. I felt alone and confused, but i stayed in it. Not letting anything distract me. This happened a few times during my transition(break up). Now im learning so much about the woman i am. Thank you for that.
I really thank God for you Lady Lisa. It's a new decade for me to practice self love & learn to accept me.
As you said "I like, I love & I accept me daily, and everything else is bonus" Wow....Man's
rejection is God's protection? that's deep.
Lisa, my sister from a different mister... thank you. After reading your book, Abundance Now, I began to view myself differently. For years, I've been preaching "Self Love" but still I didn't fully get it.
Past rejections made me doubt myself, and second guess my talents, my abilities, and what I was meant to accomplish. Proudly I would tell others and myself that I am not afraid of rejection, however, secretly I was afraid of how I responded to it. Yes, I am a get back up and keep it moving kind of woman but sometimes it takes much longer to get back up. And while I'm down, the inner thoughts are worst than anything any other person could ever tell me. However after reading your book and hearing you speak on this subject, I am now ready for when rejection strikes again. I am more confident that I will bounce back with style and grace. #BOL
Thank you so much i LOVE IT
Yes yes sis! You will definitely bounce back every time! I am so happy that my book and teachings are helping you and glad to see you putting in the work! I believe in you! Be blessed.
Yes, yes!!!!
Lisa, Rejection has always been my thing. It's the thing that hurts the most and when it happens I roll up in a ball in a corner until I can peek my head out again or I get angry and lash-out. You are right, I'm going to have to listen to this over and over again to wrap my mind around it. I need this, I want to learn everything about this. These words are life to me. Thank you. OMG!
Amen Michelle! Same story over here. I will also listen to this many times.
Yes "I only want to play with people who wants to play with me," I never thought of it that way because I'm always searching for validation and when I run across those who doesn't share my vision I internalize it and think there's something wrong with me. So long as I like me and know what my vision for myself is, I am better prepared to handle rejection which I don't see as a bad thing anymore because it's just Gods way of protecting me and driving me in the vision he sees better fit for me. Thanks Lisa your the best! P.S I love your hair it really brings out a beautiful glow in the tonality of your skin. And red is your color honey!
WOW
Lanette Scott 🙌🏽 Worded exceptionally sister now from another mister
“Play with people who wants to play with you” .. my favorite 👏🏽❤️
I woke up today struggling with a friendship I had to move away from because of the rejection and disrespect I experienced. That gave me the opportunity to accept and respect myself inspite of all.
I feel you ..same thing I've done....
Wow! Just WOW! I’ve been watching “The Secret” for two days straight nonstop... absorbing every single word and something told me to look you up. And WOW! Just... WOW. You say you’re not religious but the words you speak are biblical. Thanks for your obedience.
I like Grandma's comment. Your words are too much for one listening. I need to hear them again; I'm saving this to get it more into my heart. Thanks.
everything happens for a reason.. love yourself
"only play with people who wish to play with you." I will take this with my for the rest of my life :) thank you!
#BOL... "Man's rejection is God's protection!!" I recently experienced this at work, but I realized it was actually a blessing in disguise, because it didn't fit in God's plan for my life!
Marilyn E amen
This is exactly what I have been thinking about this week! I am slowly more able to see rejection as bringing me closer to accepting myself and also helping me find the people who I DO want to partner with--I am appreciating how rejection helps me find my true path and not waste time on those who don't relate to me right now. Rejection doesn't usually feel good, except when I see it as a quick reminder to just be my best self and trust that I will meet the right people at the right time. I just need to show up and 'stay in the room' for myself. Thank you Lisa!
You are medicine to my soul
I see you, Kozeta!
Lisa Nichols Good Day Ms. Lisa Nichols. I pray that all is well. Lately, I have been watching your videos. I love them soooooooooooooo much! I want to learn more, to be more. For many years I've wanted a mentor. I've looked to so many people for it. I've listened to Iyanla Vanzant, Tony Robinson, Michael Beck...I mean the list goes on. Nonetheless, I have NEVER EVER had a mentor whom I can sit down with one on one, face to face and do some real work. Is it too much to ask if that person can be you?
Wow - important lesson. Need to listen to this one multiple times. Rejection is part of my life - not only in love but also in career and business and social life. I always thought I wasn't good enough but deep down I knew it wasn't that. Despite their rejection, I have to love me first and keep living fully and bringing my best in life.
To walk into a room already accepting yourself. That is amazing!! I just went to a makeup event feeling looked down on but I kept my attitude positive and enjoyed myself!! I am accepting me!!! I am enough!!
Thank you Lisa 💜your the best ..” man’s rejection is god’s protection…
Bam! Only play with people who want to play with you! I had an experience after I stumbled upon your book...so I was prepared for the rejection!! I'm so protected!! I accept it now!! Sincere serenity!!
Ah, I just found you, when searching videos about rejection. Thank you! You saved my day (my bad feelings about rejections...). There are no other options of what you told. Self-love, shining and be the compassionate best version of you.
I absolutely love this statement that you made: "Like yourself before anyone on Facebook does". People are fickle. One minute they like you and the next they can't stand you. We can't allow that to rock our world. We have to like who we are - flaws and all - whether or not we are acknowledged by others. I like me unapologetically. I look in the mirror and tell me who I am and that I like and love me. That is the key to overcoming rejection.
"A man's rejection is God's protection!" This one sentence has hit my core. Thank you my Queen. This is my 1st time seeing you. You pop up on my home feed and I watched an older video 1st. This is now my 3rd in a row, and wow! Thank you! I so needed to hear this. In more ways then one.
Rejection is just God’s way of protecting me and driving me! This is beautiful. And no, I am going to apply it into my life and get back here to share it with you!
#BOL Lisa I’m going through the darkness as we speak! Challenge accepted and will be defeated!! I’m on my Moses journey by myself to finding my strength and my own light. No more living up to Others expectations just my own!! Love you lisa💜💜🙏
Sweets B. This is so relatable. For the last 2 and half years I have felt as though I've been in exile.
Rejection....abandonment has been a constant struggle to overcome in my life. Going thru it now, this message was so on point at such the right time!!! My pastor spoke about turning the other cheek, and how God said "I said YOU turn the other cheek" this is not your fight it is My fight let Me fight that fight. Know that I love you!!
Demonstrate best version of you in whatever situation you are.... wow!!! What a statement!! When we are in a good situation, we are good with all and everything around us....but when we are in bad or uncomfortable situation, that's when we need to be or demonstrate best version of ourselves!! Thank you Lisa for these wonderful words!!!
Lisa, as I listened to you, I shouted Amen! I've been on this journey in relationships and associates. I was often frustrated, angry, and resentful but a turnaround occurred when I saw things differently and I was strengthened in character; good can come out of rejection. Thanks for all you do!!!!!!!
Lisa, I was struggling with my Spirit this week. Thank you for your advice...”Stand In Your Power!” “Be whole and complete irregardless of your choice!” “How can I provide the best version of myself in this moment!”❤️🌺 “Walk in the room accepting the whole version of yourself!”🌺 🙏🏽
This touched my heart today. I've been struggling with rejection within my social media posting to running groups due to politics and (lack of) popularity affiliations for me dictate' my joy. I let "them" get to my mind and impact my heart but recently I've been praying, listening to TD Jakes and today, came across your posting. I listened to your broadcast before; but today, this message was EXACTLY what I needed to "let it go" and move on to the business of being 'the best version of me'. My destiny is not defined by their approval. My disaster is. My destiny has everything to do with me loving me and being the best that I can be in difficult situations. I've walked steps, and ran too many miles to let "them" take me out for the count. I am going to focus on my internal JOY and walking in my trust but also standing in my trust and being comfortable if I am the "last man standing" on my island. The Lord got me! Thank you
I keep telling people that if they don't choose me then I can't choose them. People told me that I'm wrong for asking people to choose. I never asked! Others, narcissists, instigated the me or them. People say I'm wonderful and that they love me, then discard me without a reason. I just keep showing up as me. I've invested so much into myself and I won't stop. My considerable hours listening to help and motivation, I've never heard anyone address this. Thank you!
My moment: Is to remember how to accept those that don’t choose you. And how maintain being the beat version of myself even in difficult time 😱
You just helped me finally get free of a memory from my past because of your grama's saying. 🙏🏻
I can't stress how much I needed to hear this. My work environment is toxic and it challenges me to show up and show out EVERY day. My supervisor.....sigh....let's just say I started as an employee, showing up mentally as a supervisor, reporting to a supervisor that acknowledged my strengths and was threatened by my greatness and integrity. I challenged him to be a better person inadvertently with simply just being who I am. So, it went from him complimenting my work ethic, to being challenged by it. He walks by me daily, no words...not a good morning, good job....crickets. But, takes my group suggestions and uses them for his own credit later on. It's a daily fight and it almost made me seek other options of employment....but, I refuse to give him that satisfaction.
Thank you, for downloading wisdom into my spirit to keep pushing and learning how to except rejection. 😊👊🏼🙏.
Lisa, I Thank God for leading me to you!!! I always believed what the enemy meant for evil, God will turn it around for his good. I love you!!! I was able to find the best part of me, in college giving a celebration speech, in a public speaking class. I was able to take that long journey back to myself!!! I celebrated God, you, myself, and my peers with a powerful quote from this dialog! Thank You!
Thank you Lisa. This has been a difficult thing for me to deal with in a "grown up"... lol... in the past my emotions have often overtaken the situation and I have placed blame, disguised as reason, on the other person because I couldn't understand why they rejected me and what i was offering and blaming them made me feel ok about myself. You have enlightened me in this video and I feel an emotional release. Now I understand that I need to detach myself from those feelings of rejection because it's not about me and it doesn't change who I am. It doesn't change who I am. Thank you.
I did this today when I felt upset about something that happened. I felt disrespected and gave the person a hard time as a result. I decided to stand in my truth and called the person to apologize for my part. That was the best I could do at that moment. Listening to you this evening helped me to applaud myself, be gentle and kind to who I am at this moment. Thank you Lisa.
My business proposal to a potential prospect was just rejected a few minutes before watching this video.
I am grateful to have stumbled upon this video that has actually picked me up from my slump, and has reminded me of my true potential. Thank you, Lisa. I appreciate you!
I've learned that I'm not for everybody and that's okay. As long as I like me that's more than enough. Thank you Lisa! Sometimes we forget things we already know and you're always reminding us that we are more than enough and we deserve to be loved.
"You're self worth is contingent on the value you're bringing into the room" Just WoW #BOL #nugget !!! Once I realized what this meant, I feel like I have all the control over my self perception! Thank You Lisa!!
Lisa no matter how many times I listen to you, I am left overwhelmed. Even now as I am writing this. I get a ha ha moment each and every time. Yes, letting go of ego and letting unconditional love abide is not easy but it is worth it. And many times you/I benefit greatly from it. You know it's ego when you feel the need to prove yourself, explain yourself. It's unconditional love when you are in total acceptance of you and others no matter how difficult the situation may be at the moment. Stay focused on the positive and learn to forgive the negative. Lisa keep up the great work. You are reaching the masses and definitely, have reached me in a place sooo deep I can't describe. Love you Lisa and my fellow tribe members.
You have taken a long journey and you have arrived at yourself. wow that was mine, bless your heart L. N.
When I walk into a room....I have to WALK into the room ALREADY ACCEPTING of myself!!! That's such a breakthrough for me!! Bcz I'm so approval addicted and I'm doing my best to break that addiction!!!
You are the only person my son and I have now. I deeply appreciate you are here. Your light give me hope.
I am doing this every day Lisa. I am walking into all environments giving the best of me and bringing LOVE with me. When it gets difficult... I am giving myself a TIME OUT. Reminding myself of the I AM, I FORGIVE, I COMMIT. I check myself and go right back in... IM GROWING - Thanks to YOU and these videos Lisa. SO GRATEFUL...
Lady Lisa, Rejection is what I'm working on becoming better at. I truly understand it starts with me. Words cannot explain how I know God loves me so much to bring you to me. I pray for God to bring people in my life so that I can become whole and prepared to deliver what he has asked me to do. Thank you God for this child of yours.
Bringing our best in the darkest situation and not letting circumstances or the environment dictate you. Paraphrasing. This went straight to my soul. I gather from this that we have be better and to better especially when the going tough without losing sight of who we truly are. Ouufff! I have tears in my eyes🤗🙏🏾👏🏽
Thank you for calling me out on to the playing field. I have allowed rejection to limit my creativity and drive. Thank you for holding me accountable to my greatness. Challenge accepted.
Thank you Lisa. I became a follower after seeing your video on domestic violence. It spoke to me. Your words were the words I had lost...”I said yes but I meant no.” Watching through this video on handling rejection helped me see his rejection and mistreatment and abuse is not a reflection of my worth. “Mans rejection is gods protection.” Thank you Lisa.
thank you sooooo much from kenyan lady! GOD BLESS YOU
The only way compassion, forgiveness and love can enter in that room ect.. Is through me. It's not easy but it's so worth it! Thank you sis
This message, among others, has transformed my life at work in customer service. I no longer get drawn in to negative attitudes of others or take the bait when they want to fight. When my smile and warm greeting is met by something totally opposite, I try to keep my feelings out of it and i empathize. They've obviously been dealing or not dealing with pain beyond our encounter. I have unwaivering faith in myself. What I've come through has prepared me to handle just about anything. I'm seeing the big picture and playing the long game. I forgive those that have hurt me deeply and I release the pain so I dont pass it on. One small piece of rejection wont disturb this tower I stand on. #Non-negotiable
This is bringing tears to my eyes on "How to walk in a room filled with darkness and disapproval?" Embracing yourself and not looking for "Validation." I heard you, but I would like more information as to How To Go About It? Thank you, Lisa. I love you, but God Loves you more. Keep healing our minds, body, and soul. Blessings!
I know I am years behind with my comment but this message is still touching. My wow moment is understanding rejection is God's protection and my environment doesn't dictate who I am. Ohh my goodness you truly are a blessing to me. Thank you lisa
#BOL "Are you playing full out or does someone else's choice to shut down and play small cause you to shut down and play small" Ouch, that was my AHA moment...
Lisa I lost sleep at 4am wondering about my life .....somehow the search led me to your RUclips. It's been 2 hours now enjoying and watching your beat iful transformation .....man this is what I have been looking for in a situation if of rejection, resentment, self pity, seeking to be loved and appreciated.....the list is endless.
I will continue getting guidance from you well done.
I will practice asking myself that question, and pondering what it means in each situation "How do I bring the best version of myself into this situation?" I love the level of responsibility it makes me conscious of regarding my thoughts, actions and intentions. This way, the environment does not dictate the joy I will have in my day. It's practicing how to stay in my power. Find your center. Find your peace. Stay woke, and Bring the best version of yourself. I love this.
Mans rejection is Gods protection! My new mantra
Thank you for this episode. For telling me that the people in my life our bonuses to me. That when someone rejects me it isn't for the fit. That "we just don't fit," and to be grown up enough to see it in that perspective. Knowing that people are bonuses to your life there isn't a need to feel accepted or appreciated by others first, because you already accept yourself and appreciate yourself before stepping into any room. That I am only focusing on giving the best version of me, WOW! That is exactly what I need it, and also to stay powerfully in who i am as a person irregardless of those who love me or don't. Thank You, Lisa!!!!!!
Omg when you broke down the reason for feeling hurt when you are rejected all I could say YES, YES. Thank you
Lisa, the person in my life that need to hear this particular message is ME. "Man's rejection is God's protection." Things become so clear when you open yourself to receiving the blessings the Universe is waiting to release to you. Thank you so much.
I've let go of every security blanket i had. I kept my security just incase God didn't bless me, i could always go back. Well now im fully vulnerable, trusting in him completely. Moving by faith and working till i sweat. Nervous, knees trembling Going All Out! Thanks Lisa Nichols for putting me on blast! The book Abundance Now is amazing! #BOL
Your words are food to my soul. Iv spent so many years feeling rejected and needing validation. Your words have shown me that I do not have to play with people who don't want to play with me. In loving myself I can now see the unacceptable and have started weeding out those negative influences in my life. Thank you xx
Lisa, I am where you were years ago, your message inspired me , I am a single mother, I am tired of being broke. So thank you for the motivational speech.
To be awake and yet still sleeping has been my life . But when I hear you speak I come to life. Thanks for being that angel on my shoulder that says try this girl it's ok we can do this together.
Bol! Omg! I have been rejected! I was hurt! Because of my need to be loved, accepted! It must come from me: the love, the acceptance! Thanks for the message! ❤️❤️❤️
Man rejection is Gods protection wow lisa that statement just hit my mind thank u so much
I am going through Rejection from someone I loved so dearly. This video came at the right time because I needed someone like you to tell this to me. It hurts so much being rejected but this video has given me every reason to find the best version of me and to love me and to accept me. Thank you Lisa.
The timing is perfect for me to accept this challenge as I have returned to an atmosphere where all those dynamics are played. And I am the light placed here to shine on folks who are walking in their shadow s. Who are running a business they know nothing about n are NOT interested in any advice. But I am learning to BE in my space despite their unwillingness!
She’s so amazing,I get the will to push on as a single mother who’s struggling
Lisa you made me cry tonight. Been sulking for hours after being rejected for the 2nd time.
Aloha Lisa & thank you for sharing your broken heart so I could rescue mine. I am crying and crying AND CRYING in compassion because I CAN FEEL IN MY OWN HEART, MIND, BODY & SOUL the broken glass you had to crawl over during your huge betrayal and in recognition of what I need to do for me for my betrayals. I would love to be blessed like you by a son, family member or friend who could simply hold space while I have the complete meltdown, purge and reset experience. I am sure you tell your son every day how beautiful and special he is. For me, please tell him I THANK HIM for being my surrogate through you and for you so you BOTH could give this precious gift to me.
I never really gave myself time to sit on the side of the mountain to feel and walk through my pain. I have been frozen, because I WAS SO AFRAID of reacting, yet I kept in motion throwing myself over one cliff after another in my search for relief. I didn't have the tools to walk myself through the journey alone though I searched for DECADES. I couldn't find any playmates as devoted to me as I was to them, and in the last few weeks, I finally got too tired to chase anymore down. You see, I dove deeply into every worthy process I came across during those decades from every self help book, program, and spiritual practice I could get my hands on, and I was always offering myself up as skilled, non-judgemental but discerning support while looking for genuine souls to grow with. You know how many will SAY they were "in" but behaved like it was a one way street, a dead end street or a stick to beat me with when I needed a kind ear or a hand up?
I didn't just stick my pinky or little toe in, I DEDICATED myself to putting these things into practice and to finding my village, tribe or family. You know what I mean? Thank you for reaffirming for me to hold out for those who DO WANT TO PLAY BIG WITH ME!!! And it HAS BEEN LONELY for a long time. For the first time ever, I terminated an abusive "friendship" I had off & on - at her whim -- for nearly a decade. Walking away nearly 1 1/2 years ago was one of the kindest things I have ever done for me, and I honestly haven't regretted it. I have a huge people pleaser and server mentality, so this continues to surprise and delight me.
In the midst of that searching & spending (couldn't find good help for affordable or like exchange), I even dug into my IRA believing I was investing that small fortune I could not afford into attending a spiritual University in India a couple of times. Yes, I was that desperate to be free of the pain and stuckness, and that eager to use my pain to help others avoid suffering, too. In the years since, I even tried several therapists who simply dumped me after a few sessions because they said I was a "liability" and needed more help than they were willing to provide. Yes, you know a "liability", because I was just this side of suicidal but clinging to survival, because deep, deep, deep down I knew I was worth it even if they didn't?
Despite all that, I ended up more broke & broken, so I spent 9 months in a homeless shelter I only recently escaped from. For the last week Jessie, your financial manager, has been patiently working with me to get the funds in my debit card to clear from some sort of holdup with your bank so I can enroll on your campus for your Speak & Write for Ultimate Impact course. I am eager to see how it will come together for me to be at your workshop in Florida, because I plan to be there even if I have to sleep in my car for the entire conference!
LOL! I just walked into the living room to grab my Lisa Nichols notebook, so I could write out the correct name of the program Jessie already gave me enrollment in, and there you were - larger than life - on my tv. I actually asked out loud, "Lisa, what are you doing here?" because I was so surprised that YOU WOULD SHOW UP FOR ME in my own home. Plus, I SWEAR I have not touched my tv yet today, and it is almost noon. But there you were, Lisa, on RUclips finishing a talk that I had been watching until 2am then paused to try and get some sleep in. I'll take that blessing, THANK YOU!
I DID switch to you on my laptop while in my bedroom since the online church broadcast didn't work this morning at 8am - that tribe is in TX while I am here in CO. I like to start my day off with positivity and God. So if no JGLM, then you were my next best friend!
Then here you were heroically, beautifully and authentically sharing a very real and very recent hurt. Lisa, I am SO SORRY you had to go through that betrayal. I ache for you, I REALLY do. I have the same doe in the headlight experience with cruelty and betrayal, and I have been accused of living in a castle in the sky MANY times when it comes to "THE REAL WORLD". Yet, your sharing the detail of the depth of financial cost, time cost and emotional devastation helped me so much! Oh, now I AM CRYING AGAIN.
Instead of looking AT the people and the betrayals, I have been running around these people trying to please them AND NOT FOCUS on the BETRAYALS. I have run my joy, my dignity, myself and my life into the manure trying to run away from the TRUTH of the pain, the real SOURCE and PUNCH of the pain all while trying to figure out how to stop the damage and ongoing betrayals. Well, now I am sitting, and I am feeling, and I am crying because of your heroism. Now I have the consciousness and example from you to REALLY look at what happened and is happening so it WILL NOT CONTINUE HAPPENING! I'll start with it no longer being absorbed by me. After I get stronger, so that I am using my story for fuel and standing on top of it verses being immersed in it, THEN I will see what can be done to stop it from continuing to wreck the lives of others.
Along the way, also thanks to your authentic sharing and examples, Lisa, I will embrace doing what I can to help others on my way to greater greatness. I kept buying into the myth everyone else around me has been shoving my way so that I believed I had to have TOTAL LIFE MASTERY before I could begin radically supporting others. I kept waiting and holding back thinking I didn't have this, that or really ANY area of my life mastered, so how could I help anyone? They were expecting me to be perfect and would ACCUSE ME OF BEING PERFECT while I was offering what knowledge, help and love I genuinely had.
Mmm. So many lights going off now. This is like the liquid sunshine we get in Hawaii, where I am from: the sun shines brightly in the sky while a steady sprinkling of rain falls. I am like that Hawaiian liquid sunshine as I cry and feel my brilliance burst through at the same time.
Lisa, my love, I am so GLAD you had the courage and strength to walk this path and AUTHENTICALLY SHARE. I have gotten so tired of the perfect images lightly sprinkled with bs, salesy talk or deflection. Tired of people USING their story to ENROLL or SELL vs to actually HELP. This is a BEAUTIFUL difference.
I realize it has been over a year since this video was posted. I am in faith it will be read by everyone it will serve, and everyone who can reach out in service to me. I am not a facebook, email kind of fan, but you can call me late morning through say 9pm MST or text me to set up a call at 720-341-5970 so we can be real & meet heart-to-heart. God bless you!
Aloha, Tame'
PS. Now it's almost 1pm, but I am going to get up, make some tea Earl Grey tea with cream & a breakfast THEN come back to look fully upon the betrayals and go through my meltdown, purge & reset.
I am glad that you acknowledged how difficult being that light is. I am currently going through a transition in life, in which I had to move past bitterness and resentment. It took a lot of mental cleansing, but I am empowered by my strength to overcome.
Thank you Lisa for the reminder … the hardest part is remembering everyday what my why is … and after listening to your video i remembered that I did wake up today and thought I do like myself ❤
Hi Ms. Lisa Nichols, I am taking you up on your challenge this is where I am. Of course I am a recovering people pleaser. Just recently I reconnected with some high school classmate and I must say we are in different places in our lives. I found myself getting angry and never wanting to see or even speak to this people again. That is not who I am so I sucked it up and continue to have dialogue with them in-spite of all the underhanded remarks and personal references that were made. So I thank you because it is my desire to bring healing and awareness to the soul of mankind. Thanks again.
Thanks for this message. I cried when l listened to this
I have been looking for acceptance all my life. I was neglected by 3 different men and have been abounded with there kids. But thank God for a wonderful husband who took me in and accepted my kids as his own.
I never loved myself and now this video has just changed my mentality.
Thanks Lisa God bless you.
Lisa, for years I have been seeking approval from others, it stunted my spiritual growth, personal growth ,and who I am as a child of God. Now, I let God work in and through me to accomplish His work. It no longer matters what others think about me. I stand in my power!
Walk into the room already accepting yourself and everybody else will do what they want with it...love That! I needed this message, don't want to and won't get stuck where his walking away left me.
Just out of a RELATIONSHIP a month ago that wasn't self serving, and this spoke to me. Thx mama Lis... love you to life!
Thank u so much. Rejection has been a huge barrier for me all my life. My mom has been on drugs since I was young, my dad left shortly after and never looked bk, my marriage after 12 yrs ended in abuse, every relationship I've been in ends leaving me feeling abandoned and I have 2 out of 4 children that are going totally opposite in life than what I taught them...... Point being I kno rejection very well. I'm 37 and reinventing myself and I realized REJECTION is my main fear and scar. Listening to your msg helped me to begin to look directly at this truth of my life. I am even now slick excited to except your challenge to face my fear of it and begin to control my mindset as I'm being rejected or to even not consider whether I'm rejected or not. May God continue to bless u. U have a beautiful gift and I'm so glad we have your existence. 💯💜😊
Lisa...Lisa....LISA!!!!!!!!!!!!! My sister in prosperity you speak to my soul!!!!! I have been stuck in an endlesss cycle of blaming myself for rejection or not playing full out in fear someone will judge me. After hearing this message I realized it was because I don’t wake up reminding myself just how special, unique, full, and most importantly ENOUGH I am! I’ve made the vow to myself to only play with those that want to play with me and just the energy I get from my upgraded circle of influence has been everything I NEEDED! Thank You So Much Queen!!!!
You only play with people who wanna play with you. I love this speaking to me in the now ' broken and angry. Thank you my coach ❤
I am excited at the thought of building a tribe that holds me accountable to my greatness! Yes! Yes!!!
My friendgirl and sister sent me this video, it's her birthday🎂 today. Her name is Ruby💎 We we're just discussing how to move OUR EGO out of the way and love our co-workers 💖 amazing message and confirmation! Thank you for sharing 💖 beautiful spirit💖
Mrs. Lisa this message really helped me. Rejection is a major flaw in my life. By watching this episode, I can walk with my head held high and accept who I am. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much , i found you at a stage in my life where i really needed your help. After having faced my rejections I have realised it is always about the other person,it is never about you. It is something that the person cannot accept about you, but you still got to love yourself.
Smh! It's that simple? After all these years of anxiety, hating holidays and general frustration over failed relationships? Where have you been all my life Lisa, my breakthrough QUEEN?
I think I did it! I just came out of situation that I ran into so that I could help my daughter survive domestic violence. Our relationship was already strained, but I put that on hold to show up and help. It was one of the most difficult periods of my life. When I showed up, she was 8 months pregnant and very difficult to deal with. I wanted to run every day, I was so uncomfortable, but I stayed until I got her through that period safely. Talk about anger and resentment, darkness and shadow! That was the environment. I brought music, laughter, resilience, compassion, love, and caring to the situation. But in the midst of that, I was treated unfairly. I wasn't acknowledged, honored, appreciated ... I could go on. After helping her prevent physical violence, I found myself on the reactionary end of a cycle of abuse.
I reached out and got the support I needed for my own mental and emotional well being, to get me through it. I left when my mission with her was accomplished, but this video is making me reflect on that time. What was the lesson in there? Was it meant to test my determination? Was I brought there to flex my bounce back muscles on her behalf? Or was I there to be a demonstration? I don't know. I keep trying to make sense of it for myself because it was a painful time for me, but a lot of good came out of it to, because I stayed focused on my circle of influence. Her way of being is detrimental to my well being, so I prefer to love her from a long distance and a little communication because she tries to hurt me. I love her but hate being around her.
Could you make a video about how to deal with people after you've rejected them? I have close relationships that I have outgrown. As a result, I've said, I don't want to be your ... anymore. What follows is anger and you nailed it "make wrong." That's what I've been experiencing. #BOL Now I see why people have been behaving the way they have. I've had people (who used to love me) lying, focusing on every shortcoming I have real and perceived, setting me up to beat me up, insulting me, talking about me badly, spreading rumors, and abandoning me in my time of need all in an attempt to make me wrong. I'm just now understanding the motivation. One by one, I rejected them or threatened their [superior] "position" with my growth, and making me wrong makes them feel better. In the midst of that, showing the best version of myself would be to stay in my power, and not let them steal my joy or my peace. It's hard to have compassion for someone when they're being mean to me, and treating me badly. But now that I see the motivation more clearly, that lessens it's impact. Hurting people hurt people. Got it. Thanks.
For that I can have compassion. I still need to protect myself. In my No Matter What pursuit of the life that I love, I've had to rely on all of these people at one time or another. As you can imagine, that is when I was confronted with and vulnerable to their anger and resentments. Ugh! These past two years have been even more challenging, as a result. Sorry for the long messages. You asked me to comment, so I'm sharing my thoughts and experiences.