Apart from the weather and pressure of servicing bills, individualism is the problem in western world. People are busy facing their lives preventing them from socialising. But in a place with plenty of sunshine like Africa it's difficult to not socialise because the sun has influence on our mood. The sun inspires happiness and healthiness.
@@lindaval2367Its very true that sunshine could have impact on happiness.But over the years I have chosen not to allow weather be it sunshine or dark determine my happiness.If weather is a determining factor for happiness it will be a depressing life.
My ex called off our wedding and moved to the UK in January. Felt betrayed and badly pained that she was secretly working her way out of Nigeria while I was planning our wedding alone. I can now relate why she’s consistently checking up on me. Wish her the best coz I’ve since moved on. Thanks for making me laugh really hard! 😅 Civilization is actually not doing us too good in the area of marriage. My little advice to everyone out there in this situation: don’t let the system change you. Keep all your hopes alive and avoid being too defensive. Everyone shouldn’t be a suspect. There’s always an exception. Thanks again
She’s now lonely AF in the UK! 😂 Now she realizes she needs to compete with Asian women, European women, Arab women, Caribbean women, black Brits, and she stands no chance in the sexual marketplace 😂😂😂
Bro you moved on fast ooo😊. I think I read or heard somewhere it is easier for those in relationship before to get another than those who weren't in the first place.
Sis, you are right. After 40 years in America I decided to come home. I can’t tell you how happy I am. They take life too serious while God gives us life to enjoy it. Sis the only advice for you is : make your money and come home to enjoy it. Don’t let anyone fool you. Life is sweet here
I envy you and i'm so happy for you. Still hustling for now and will hopefully end up back home. Thanks for your encouraging words and it is greatly appreciated.
@@mightbyson I slightly disagree with you. “ to cultivate the earth “ implies to complete God’s work. Who are we to enhance God’s work? Didn’t God created every thing and at the end He created human beings and told them everything here (earth) is for them under their domination?
Sis, I haven’t laughed so hard in while. 😂. I accidentally came across this video and boy you spitting out some truth. I live in Canada too. One of the problems with dating here is that a lot of people don’t show their true colors until you’ve dated them for a while. I got married in Ghana, brought my wife over to England and then to Canada. We’re now divorced. When women get here they turn into “I know my rights” and throw away all the values that bonded us together. I married a second time, this time a white woman. I asked for divorce again as she turned out to be my worst nightmare. I have stuck to my values, standards and principles of being monogamous, respectful and reciprocating in relationships but finding the same from a partner here is nearly impossible. I’m never going to get married again here because most women are not feminine, respectful and submissive. When meet them and they like you they will treat you like you are the best thing since sliced bread but give it a couple of months to a year and you will see the real person. Peace and blessings to you. ✌🏿🙏🏿
As an African woman this is one of the things I love about being abroad. Having more rights and power to leave relationships that don't make us happy. African men flourish in cultures that oppress women and I think thats why so many of you are unhappy when you get to the west because nobody is submitting for the sake of submitting here.
@@crookedlychoppedchicken3887 This is funny because it is for the same reason so many women are lonely and unhappy and always asking where are all the good men. Without knowing the background to the situation you already concluded that it’s about oppression. If that was the case why do every woman I left or divorced try to come back and some go to the extent of stalking me? Buy a dog and die alone. Remember women hold the key to sex but men hold the keys to relationships. You decide who to sleep with but men decide who they marry.
O brother i'm sorry for all these that happened to you and i'm so happy you didn't loose yourself in the mist of all. I don't blame you at all for choosing to no longer marry because that institution can be very draining and too demanding of one over the years especially if, you settled for the wrong person. I hope you have finally found your happy place and may God reward you for all your good deeds.
@@erniet my bother is because when the woman comes her family will be depend on her when she comes abroad but u male will want to over control and when the woman working u want to control all the money
This lady is funny, I was laughing throughout. All your points are valid. The western world is a cold world. You will be in the bus or train or tram, everyone is quiet like they are in a cemetery. There is less human interaction here.
@@morganbmgtow8879 are you normal? Who the hell are you to dictate my life? For your info I conform to the customs of the society I live. Who asked you about the history of your life? Numbskull get a seat and do something better. Frustrated he-goats.
@@lindaval2367 The social life is dead because of feminism, so men cannot talk to women , and they make it difficult to talk to them to even meet them..
I don tire.....it freaks me out. They are so socially awkward it makes simple social interactions uncomfortable. People are solitary creatures, it's actually very VERY annoying. This is why I have alot of African & Caribbean friends. Without them I will go insane.
@@lindaval2367 haha, you pass across the message in a very funny but interesting manner. I just saw your channel now. I've subscribed. You're so funny 👌
I've tried finding a woman to build a relationship with but all efforts have proven futile. 2016 to now and i have experienced all you've mentioned. You are such an honest soul.
I gave my naija colleague a friendly compliment and she said it made her uncomfortable... nearly landed me in HR trouble over a compliment.. since then i dey my in my lane... meanwhile that babe is still single looking for love😂😂😂
The video has been coming up on my RUclips for days and I decided to watch this morning. She’s so real, it’s not easy at all. Finding Love is like gold in Europe. @Linda, I think you should consider comedy too 😂😂😂
In Canada safety is a huge deal. Which I know is good but sometimes it can be ,taken out of proportion that it’s now perceived as paranoia. That I think is caused by cultural differences.
Its peculiar to all immigrants from different countries cos of pressure of being abroad , the citizens and owners of the country finds love and socialise amongst themselves.
I got into canada, was bored cos i work from home, i attended a small church, i got the tinder app, most people on the app are straightforward i think, they'll say what they want unapologetically and i appreciate that, went on few dates with weirdos, mostly no second date. I sha eventually met my husband, we wanted the same thing and we started dating without any promise of marriage, i told him all i wanted was to be one of his closest friends and vise versa, a year and a few months later we got married. 🎉
I am not sure why she includes Europe on the list, but her description of the dating scene in North America is spot on. People are becoming increasingly absorbed in their gadgets, often at the expense of natural instinct and common sense. A society that appears polite but feels fake and overly individualistic. The bonds of family and love-based friendships seem to be fading away.
Europe is more of a mixed bag even today but in general I would agree with what she says about north America when say comparing it to 50 years ago or so.
Sister, you are spilling fact with a great humour, you nailed it 😂, No socializing!and internet is a very lonely place. The side effect of social media and virtual reality has just begun
@ Linda Val, thanks for your insightful observation. I think as a single woman, I would recommend internations group for you where you can meet potential single men from different countries depending on your preferences. This group is in about 100 countries and when join, you can attend events they organise every weekend to socialise and through that, people do meet their suitors there.
Linda, you're the most authentic RUclips I've ever come across. You present facts, with examples so that people can better understand what is going on. Bless you!
As a Canadian man I’d say it’s the downfall of our economy, housing in despair and laws and divorce stats that prevents men to even bother looking for anything but a hookup. Having our lives ruined at over 50% chance it’s just not worth it.
I'm a year late, but still very relatable to date. You didn't talk about trying to meet singles at church & all the ladies are at the door before the grace is over. Not also forgetting to mention don’t bother talking to a lady if you don’t have your papers especially my African sisters.
What if you make her pregnant and are deported, do you care enough about how tough a situation you would put her in? Lets reason like men not children please.
Don't underestimate the power of networking. You have to be intentional about your goals. I see people meeting and getting married in Canada. There are lots of single, mature ladies too in Nigeria. The abundance mindset is important to cultivate.
And what is the percentage of the single, matured women in Nigeria vis a vis those in Canada? I will tell you that if you take the statistics, there is a huge difference.
Its really hard to find compatibiltg in this dating world. Sometimes you find someone realy good looking but within the a few space of time you realize alot of negative character in them. Marriage is not that easy , dating for a long time before marriage also isnt easy. It is very important to know excatly what you want and what you can tolerate in your partner before embarking on life long journey. Do not marry because you are lonely and neither shoukd you marry because you are getting old. Marry because when you are convinced and mentally ready to tolerate your partner regardless all flaws. Marry someone you would still find so loving in the midst of uncertainties and caos , not one you would find easy to dump and neglect when things are rough.
I came across your video today and i laughed so hard watching this video. 😂. Finding love is actually very hard and Nigeria men are not helping matters at all,the just want to use you and dump you. One thing my uncle told me,is that i need to be open to other race and forgot about Nigeria men
True love is our generation's problem.. Going to Canada now in particular,many people think with money, they will get true love and so, refuces to sacrifice ..my advice is for all to look back in all relationships you have had and walk back to the true one
Social status is what makes people serious because everyone is trying to climb the social heir-achy… also if a man is single you have to do background check to make sure no serial killers … being foreign we have zero history of a person and they can exploit that. Be safe ladies
Bro, she had said it all but what I don't agree with was the mentality of the majority of African women that they are given their bodies to men during sex is just crazy and lack of ignorance coz women benefit more from having sex than men 100%. And that is why caucasian ladies never have such thoughts in their heads. Instead, they feel they're enjoying themselves otherwise the only option is a plastic stick to play with which can never be a natural feeling.
Facts….I’m in Germany and even talking to someone new is really hard because they call the police immediately on you if they don’t know you. Funny enough even my African sisters are not interested, because most of them are only interested in getting documents or someone with money. So it’s a double standard. The girls complain people are not approaching them, but that’s not true because they don’t see the struggling guys around them
In Europe there i raise hands for you guys. y'all just dey use each other for papers, survival etc( total confusion😩😅😂). Everything survival mode. No worry yr catapult go aim properly someday.
@@morganbmgtow8879 that’s the issue, if I achieved the level I want, won’t it be only right for me also to aim higher? Why would I want to follow someone who I know would only accept me base on the fact that I am at a high level.
@@morganbmgtow8879 everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, you can’t say “a struggling guy don’t deserve a good woman”, because the guy made poor decisions!!” That’s really low thinking, and I’m guessing you grew up rich or have made it in life already that’s why you assume struggling guys made poor decisions, and therefore don’t deserve a good person in their life. I agree with you on everybody should take care of themself, keep fit, healthy, smell and dress nice, read more etc because of themself, not because of trying to impress someone. “Get a nicer car” because he’s trying to get a partner? Really!!. In correction it’s a number game for non serious guys, someone who is good and true don’t go around asking every girl out because he believes if he ask 10people out one would say yes.That’s childish bro (you deserve more self respect). We all have things to work on to achieve our best self. But do it for you not because you are trying to impress someone.
And the theme of discussion was people (mostly women) complaining dating is hard. All am saying is if they looked around and get to know people and not judgement because they haven’t achieved the height standard they would see some people have great potential. “Just my opinion tho”.
@@folarinfarawe5151 You're right. Ladies who want made men don't earn their respect. It's wise to look at potentials and a man who genuinely cares not the one who throws money around to impress.
Sis your way of presenting is absolutely the best,I think if you had a youtube talk show it would be a big hit you have a natural talent,but I'm from the uk 🇬🇧 and it is the same over here,I know so many single people who have been single and unhappy for years 😢
I feel your sadness and desperation. The fact is you are a beautiful lady. I don’t know what you are doing wrong.I pray that you will have someone to love. Good wishes.
We are economic migrants, for the most part. Thus our main reason for being here is for financial gain. Social benefits are secondary. While those born here might easily cope, those of us who are transplanted from tropical regions will have obstacles socializing. I agree with your point about how the time for meeting others is restricted relative to conditions back home due to the seasons and personal tasks like work and such. We become socially detached over time and begin to compensate lack of personal companionship with things material. In time we..or at least some of us realize material things will not compensate for social interaction and the need for companionship. It is then we come to the realisation that she speak's of in the video.
Yes Chichi. The focus on materialism is just too much and i agree with you 100% on the main reason why we are here being for financial gains. So one just has to do what's got to be done and bounce as early as possible.
The reality of living in Canada and the downside of Social technology. Relationships are very hard to get or keep. Social technology created room for fake connection. It has also introduced a false sense of over hyped impression of one's self, courtesy of trying to tailor one's personality in line with that of other social media actors. When you talk to some single ladies in their mid 30's and above, you'll know that the idea of marriage is dead. Then when you go 27 and early 30's, you'll just give up. You'll hear lines from a movie and you'll be wondering if they played a role in that movie. The truth is we have too many unrealistic people filled with desires and fantasies that have been gathered through all sorts of environmental and social influences.
Finding true love is hard globally not just Europe, Uk or US It’s just that it’s easier to meet people in some countries than others However In countries where it’s easier to meet people socially, they face a different kind of challenge 😊 They meet but No one sticks 😅
Thanks for sharing and speaking on these very interesting topic, I live right here in Stockholm Sweden 🇸🇪, this issues is one of the kinds of situations that we experienced here in the Scandinavia. After I got my citizenship and passport here some people were advising me to move to Canada 🇨🇦, I simply told them that am already tired of facing these long winter periods of Scandinavia where the winter starts from end of September and end up after March, all I want is going back to Nigeria 🇳🇬 my current or rather move to other European countries that have short winter period. Imagine me moving from Scandinavia winter to Canadian winter, is that not a suicide and from bad to worst. At expense of getting good life in western countries many of us have lost times, lost good whether that we enjoy in Africa to continue to live in these countries that have a terrible whether conditions
In Canada, winter starts at the end of September up to end of April ( yes 6 months) and people stick to themselves unless you have been introduced to each other by a common friend. Add high rent costs !
I lived holland almost 10 years and its the worst to fine love i, think europe is more hard . I was born in Caribbean the black men born in holland dont like black girls but i loved this vedio 😅 I will be be in canada next month for the first time , I do fine dating in the usa better then Europe uk is nothing ,
Living abroad comes with serious prices to pay. You may be enjoying the good social amenities that we lack in Africa but you have to battle LONELINESS, DEPRESSION , LOVELESS LIFE, and sometimes RACISM. Life is too serious overseas which is totally the opposite of what we have in Nigeria in particular. Finally, if you're a single lady of about 28 years, do not travel overseas as there is a likelihood that you may clock 40 without having a single boyfriend overseas and masturbation will definitely be part of your life. Think well.
@@lindaval2367 I like your video . You said raw truth and I believe everyone will learn from your amazing videos. Don't worry , God will give you a good husband soon. You're very beautiful and I like your skin colour.
This is so true, I live in the UK and it's very similar to what you've described. Here in the UK, the dating scene is horrible for black women, a lot of British-born black men do not date black women and the majority of white British men prefer their own women. Also, many British-born black women do not want to mess with African men (particularly Nigerians) because they have a terrible reputation for using women to get papers and then abandoning them. Online dating is basically a minefield of psychos, timewasters and creeps so it's really tough out here. I love the fact that you can talk about this in a really comical way, it's so refreshing, but everything you say applies here, wishing you all the best and hope you find a good guy who will treat you like the queen you are. Just thought i'd ask - are you from Ghana? If yes, would you consider importing a husband from back home?
I’m not Ghanaian my dear. From Cameroon I am. And to be honest with you I will rather stay single for the rest of my days than import a husband. Where u from?
@@lindaval2367 to be honest i dont blame you, it's difficult to know who is genuine and who isn't. I'm from Nigeria originally but I was born in the UK.
@@lindaval2367 You will find a lovely husband sista, don't worry. I hope he is just as funny as you and he puts a smile on your face until the day the Lord calls you back. It's a serious topic but you still managed to make me laugh😂😂😂.
It's like that , because western women are troublesome, they are the ones that knows all the rules ,all the divorce lawyers in the country and claiming all their rights before their so called rights turn to wrong in their sight. The western laws are too protective of women and their rights in a marriage and relationship are not supposed to be based on laws rather on emotion. As we say "you simply fall in love" rather than logic and laws. Marriage is a very long haul and most men don't want to sign a marriage contract with anybody claiming rights all the time. At least there must be a captain in a ship or a lead . For a long time to come those laws protecting women in relationships will be the Achilles heels of the concept of marriage. Simply put ,it will reduce the number of those willing to commit to the ideal concept of marriage.Thanks for a good presentation Linda.
I was born and raised in America. Caribbean family. I visitedAfrica for the first time in June . Married my 9yr old Facebook friend in SA. I’m selling my house here in the states. N moving to SA. Everything she said about the west is true
I understand your pain, I just want you to know that there are good Nigerian men and sincere ones too. We've heard what black girls do to make black men scared. But trust me there are good men.
Hi my lovely daughter Linda Val ,I just come across your channel ,and I like all your content ,I am from the DRC ,leaving in Namibia ,I just subscribe now !!!!!! You are very right ,cause us Africans ladies we believe in pure love , genuine love and good relationship I mean good marriage ,that make us feel dignified. Now yoh nowdays it's so horrible to find a relationship without obstacles .I love you so much .
Yes things have drastically changed over the years and most not in favor of both sexes. So glad to have you as part of my YT tribe. Thank you for the positivity you bring .
Honestly, you made my evening, I have been laughing and I stress free...thank you Val. This is my first time to watch your show. Its good keep up. Greetings from Uganda.
I can't stop laughing my Sister, you're 100% right. We leave in Vampires society. After 20 years leaving in Canada, i realized Africa is paradise. Soon i will go back home. Thanks Sister. God bless you
You are just amazing. Your manner of expression is out of this world. You are blunt with the way you speak the truth. You are also very entertaining. I love your vibes.
I agree with you. I’m from Jamaica and living in Canada is great, however building a solid relationship is hard. Living in Jamaica it’s extremely easy to find a woman and settle down. People are way more friendly in Jamaica. People in Toronto are rude! And feel entitled, and they compete with each other, it’s sad. So it can be frustrating. Great country, but not great for relationships, people are pretentious here.
If you are saying people in Jamaica are nicer than Canadians then Canada must me EXTREMELY bad because most 🇯🇲 are horrible especially Ja men. Yesterday my coworker and I were speaking about how we have to move from 🇯🇲 if we want to find quality men😢 😢😢😢
@@bonitami_amor56 Every one’s experience is different. I believe if you attract positive energy, you will receive it. I can say the same thing for Canadian women of black culture. However changing up what/who we are attracted to can fix the outcome. Most of the time “ wanty wanty can’t get it, and get it get it don’t want it”
@@bonitami_amor56 It thinks you can easily get a man as a woman in Jamaica than in Canada. His stance wasn't related to the individual or the general characteristics of a whole country. Canadians aren't flexible when it comes to relationships, unlike Jamaicans. Many aren't bothered by being single.
Walking 10km aimlessly in the summer just to go buy ice cream got me. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 It's hard out here. Ladies need to maximize the advertisement window before winter hits again! I came across your video by accident but I’m glad I did. I laughed literally from the second minute all the way to the end of the video. So funny but also because it’s all true. I live in Canada and yes, finding a "meaningful" long term relationship can be challenging for men and women alike. I don’t need to add too much to what’s already been said because you’ve covered most of it. The only thing I’ll leave here is that people can also consider online dating as an alternative to meeting people. I know it’s not for everyone but in Canada, you need to use all the tools in your toolbox if you know you have an objective. It’s hard to meet people out here. If you try it and it doesn’t work, you can leave it alone but at least you’ll know you tried. One love to all the men and women that remain persistent despite all these challenges. 🙏🏽
True true sister especially in Toronto. When I lived in Calgary I could chose and pick the man I wanted to date, I am originally from Kenya….so I didn’t care giving my bf a red card in Calgary because I was moving to a “multi-cultural” big city Toronto where I thought I was going to pick and chose, my goodness, bad idea, I am going back to Alberta, jobs and pay way better there, and men way nicer ❤❤❤..all the best single’s including myself 🎉
As hilarious as this content might sound, I quite agree with you on many fronts.I love your description of the winter, dresscode and earbuds. But what can we say, it is what it is.... 😂
I think people are lucky with relationships because they went to school with their current partners. But I understood your message. Or if it's somebody you knew or circle of friends 😅
One of the problems is many women still expect suitors in 2023 to jump through a series of hoops and hurdles to try to impress them. That needs to change going forward.
I think this comment is the problem, the so called hoops us men have to jump through are the responsibilities some of us are trying to run away from. We need to take accountability for our actions and stop blaming women
@@sebastianjones2014 It is your responsibility to jump through hoops? And it is a problem if men chose not to jump through hoops? Wow! Men will also be held accoutable for their decision not to jump through obstacles to be romantically involved with a woman? This is astonishing.
even paid dating sites have players too!! its hectic out there. sometimes i think our muslim brothers and sisters have it better with arranged marriage (not forced, ARRANGED). i wish i could just ask someone to find the right person for me coz i am tired of going through the sorting process ! lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣 the wildness be everywhere sis. You can have friends/family try connecting you. Just let them know you open to it and I’m sure u will be presented with a few men to choose from.
Good point!! I recently told a friend too ..the Muslims have it better bcos they believe in marriage. We are liberal in our approach to relationships/marriage and very materialistic..that's the problem. We leave what is important to seek after mundane things.
I agree with you because, i recently visited and i was carried away by what i saw(the vibe was energeing⚡️). So i do not blame you at all for wanting to relocate to Naija. All the best on your future plans😉.
As i keep watching your video, I'm on night duty. I couldn't help myself 😂😂😂😂, but I stopped laughing because what you said it's true (facts) i leave in Europe too, and I have experience a lot of negativity when I started dating to a point of deciding better being single...than facing dramatic challenges
So you don’t want to date again? Don’t let it put you down. Just take breaks and try again when you feel like. Don’t give up😉 there is someone out there for you.
@lindaval2367, I love your sense of humour. Your point is relatable. It is worse here in Germany. No white or black women for African men here. Black women generally show interest in you based on your status. May God grant you a lovely spouse. Just curious, do you have anything against Nigerian men?
I don't envy you guys in Europe. The white people don know us finish, so the olden days tricks that usually worked doesn't anymore. To answer your question, i do not have any issue with Nigerian men.
This woman spitted the hell truth, depression is real here in UK, companionship is herculean task. That is why i do advise people always travel to western world together with your spouse
My younger brother in Toronto has been complaining bitterly about loneliness. I found it difficult to comprehend him. How could one be lonely in a populous environment. I even advised him to join Nigerian groups, our tribe group but he said the story is the same. No one want to mingle . Everyone is just circumspect. Na wao.
If he’s new here and also depending on his age, I understand him. If he came in as a full blown adult it’s normal for him, to find it weird. Because he is already used to a certain lifestyle back home. Encourage him to try and do with what he has, found here and forget about back home for now. Trauma occurs when you keep comparing . But it will pass( just needs time).
@fidelisattah5761 everything takes time and we don't have the same experience and history. The only think I can suggest him is to try to be more outgoing, go to social networking, hanging out with colleagues or even try online meetup . He needs to move on or he ll be stuck for a longtime and God knows that Winter is harsh. He need to move forward and he has nothing to fear or lose. :)
Don't worry, I will come marry you soon but I can't settle in abroad, because I have my busy here in Nigeria, I can be coming and going back because of my business.
Do you know why? Because many doors are already opened for the princess of the water. You have to really hold fast on the Holy Ghost to get a settle relationship then marriage. Especially in the US and Canada! Too many queens from the coast
Its real and reality,sorry about what u are passing thru and all in all God bring to u the genuine guy will come on ur way and u will be happy forever.🎉🎉 otherwise i like ur expression 😂😂 u have really made day,God bless u
This is 'Reality Check 101'. It's not just about relationships in Canada or the western world by extension, it's about life itself. Linda, you've done a good presentation with this. Kudos! My very first time to watch your channel....and to think this is one year old broadcast! It seemef it was aired like yesterday! l've subscribed.Looking forward to more didatic stuffs from you in the future. Regarding finding your own love, hang in there with GOD, it will happen. Trust me.
Yes dear🫠it’s unbelievable how time flies. Welcome to my channel and I greatly do appreciate comments and energy like yours (keeps me motivated😌). Hope to overtime keep you, on your toes with more spicy/interesting topics😉💜.
I think you have well articulated a prevalent problem. Is it possible that we look deep and find a solution to this for every one? I am optimistic that there is a way out of this. ❤
ahhh my sister, i don't think the western world system is designed to have a permanent solution to this problem because of the lifestyle over here. You just have to keep on pushing and go with the flow and above all put God first in issues like this.
I have an idea on how to attempt at a long term solution. However, it's more like business to me and the solution to this problem will be a by product or vice versa. Anyway, thanks for the heads-up
Its an established system already....u can't change it. I traveled to the UK with my gf....after 2 months I cld not recognize her again.... No love talks again.. all became money....no intimacy no romance. This western world has an anti social wind. Na really who no go no go know.
@@lindaval2367 well, you may be right about the design of the western world. However, things can change and some change often begins with one simple idea. I might as well be full myself. Nonetheless, I try to always be optimistic about life. That said, we live the biggest problems for God at the end of the day.
If you're planning to come to any western world:- make sure to be married before trying to come as you "might wait" the rest of your life single man or woman. That will not be anyone's case 🙌🙏 That being said, doesn't mean u should settle with anykinda person, do your homework, be sure to marry your soul mate, don't have too high standards! High Standards aside other factors mentioned, is another factor to being single for too long. Whatever you're desiring in your type of "Ideal man or woman ( respect, love, sharing, submission, being loyal.... add to the list please... be sure that you're gonna give same in your relationship eitherway, it's reciprocal not one sided"
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Apart from the weather and pressure of servicing bills, individualism is the problem in western world. People are busy facing their lives preventing them from socialising. But in a place with plenty of sunshine like Africa it's difficult to not socialise because the sun has influence on our mood. The sun inspires happiness and healthiness.
Very true...Sunshine has a very huge impact on ones happiness.
No place like mama Africa
If you want the sun, move to Texas.
@@lindaval2367Its very true that sunshine could have impact on happiness.But over the years I have chosen not to allow weather be it sunshine or dark determine my happiness.If weather is a determining factor for happiness it will be a depressing life.
No place like africa
I’m living in Canada. The message in this video is 100% real . Sad, but it’s the true reality of life here .
Same in American cities.
Hi
My ex called off our wedding and moved to the UK in January. Felt betrayed and badly pained that she was secretly working her way out of Nigeria while I was planning our wedding alone. I can now relate why she’s consistently checking up on me. Wish her the best coz I’ve since moved on. Thanks for making me laugh really hard! 😅
Civilization is actually not doing us too good in the area of marriage.
My little advice to everyone out there in this situation: don’t let the system change you. Keep all your hopes alive and avoid being too defensive. Everyone shouldn’t be a suspect. There’s always an exception. Thanks again
Good for her. She think say she Dey wise. Who no go,no go know. Sorry for that experience😉.
The wedding 💒 day is often called her day for that reason your story will not get the coverage it deserves.
@@lindaval2367 I want to marry you, for real
She’s now lonely AF in the UK! 😂 Now she realizes she needs to compete with Asian women, European women, Arab women, Caribbean women, black Brits, and she stands no chance in the sexual marketplace 😂😂😂
Bro you moved on fast ooo😊. I think I read or heard somewhere it is easier for those in relationship before to get another than those who weren't in the first place.
I came to Alberta with my girlfriend in 2018, and now we are married...I love that woman so much.
I can't imagine canada without her😂
Lucky you!😌
Why did watch this clip
@@loves_all_races Anyone can watch to appreciate how lucky they are. No big deal.
You are lucky, most guys did and are regretting it now
Sis, you are right. After 40 years in America I decided to come home. I can’t tell you how happy I am. They take life too serious while God gives us life to enjoy it. Sis the only advice for you is : make your money and come home to enjoy it. Don’t let anyone fool you. Life is sweet here
I envy you and i'm so happy for you. Still hustling for now and will hopefully end up back home. Thanks for your encouraging words and it is greatly appreciated.
God doesn't give us life to enjoy. We came to life to cultivate the earth, which incurs suffering .
@mightbyson but after that suffering? He put in 40 years... definitely should enjoy now.
@@mightbyson I slightly disagree with you. “ to cultivate the earth “ implies to complete God’s work. Who are we to enhance God’s work?
Didn’t God created every thing and at the end He created human beings and told them everything here (earth) is for them under their domination?
@@andrews6600 God created the earth and it's not perfect. If it's not perfect, then it has a prospect for improvement; that's what we do.
Cheers.
This is the funniest yet real explanation of what life abroad is. Great stuff!
Thanks buddy.
😂😂😂😂😂
Hard nipple and wet particulars got me laughing😀😀😀😀
Sis, I haven’t laughed so hard in while. 😂. I accidentally came across this video and boy you spitting out some truth. I live in Canada too. One of the problems with dating here is that a lot of people don’t show their true colors until you’ve dated them for a while. I got married in Ghana, brought my wife over to England and then to Canada. We’re now divorced. When women get here they turn into “I know my rights” and throw away all the values that bonded us together. I married a second time, this time a white woman. I asked for divorce again as she turned out to be my worst nightmare. I have stuck to my values, standards and principles of being monogamous, respectful and reciprocating in relationships but finding the same from a partner here is nearly impossible. I’m never going to get married again here because most women are not feminine, respectful and submissive. When meet them and they like you they will treat you like you are the best thing since sliced bread but give it a couple of months to a year and you will see the real person. Peace and blessings to you. ✌🏿🙏🏿
As an African woman this is one of the things I love about being abroad. Having more rights and power to leave relationships that don't make us happy. African men flourish in cultures that oppress women and I think thats why so many of you are unhappy when you get to the west because nobody is submitting for the sake of submitting here.
@@crookedlychoppedchicken3887 This is funny because it is for the same reason so many women are lonely and unhappy and always asking where are all the good men. Without knowing the background to the situation you already concluded that it’s about oppression. If that was the case why do every woman I left or divorced try to come back and some go to the extent of stalking me? Buy a dog and die alone. Remember women hold the key to sex but men hold the keys to relationships. You decide who to sleep with but men decide who they marry.
O brother i'm sorry for all these that happened to you and i'm so happy you didn't loose yourself in the mist of all. I don't blame you at all for choosing to no longer marry because that institution can be very draining and too demanding of one over the years especially if, you settled for the wrong person. I hope you have finally found your happy place and may God reward you for all your good deeds.
@@lindaval2367 Thank you sis. I wish you well and God’s blessings
@@erniet my bother is because when the woman comes her family will be depend on her when she comes abroad but u male will want to over control and when the woman working u want to control all the money
Girl, You have a Great Sense Of Humor while dishing out Realities!!!
I appreciate that
I agree with you sir😂
nigerians do
This lady is funny, I was laughing throughout. All your points are valid. The western world is a cold world. You will be in the bus or train or tram, everyone is quiet like they are in a cemetery. There is less human interaction here.
We are like programmed robots🤖
@@morganbmgtow8879 are you normal? Who the hell are you to dictate my life? For your info I conform to the customs of the society I live. Who asked you about the history of your life? Numbskull get a seat and do something better. Frustrated he-goats.
@@lindaval2367 The social life is dead because of feminism, so men cannot talk to women , and they make it difficult to talk to them to even meet them..
I don tire.....it freaks me out. They are so socially awkward it makes simple social interactions uncomfortable. People are solitary creatures, it's actually very VERY annoying.
This is why I have alot of African & Caribbean friends. Without them I will go insane.
@@lindaval2367 haha, you pass across the message in a very funny but interesting manner. I just saw your channel now. I've subscribed. You're so funny 👌
I've tried finding a woman to build a relationship with but all efforts have proven futile.
2016 to now and i have experienced all you've mentioned.
You are such an honest soul.
Hi Akwa, thanks for your honesty. Please keep on looking and never give up. The rite one will definitely come.
I gave my naija colleague a friendly compliment and she said it made her uncomfortable... nearly landed me in HR trouble over a compliment.. since then i dey my in my lane... meanwhile that babe is still single looking for love😂😂😂
Africans behaving like some whites
My brother thank God for your life o...🤣🤣😂🤣 cuz his been good.
The video has been coming up on my RUclips for days and I decided to watch this morning. She’s so real, it’s not easy at all. Finding Love is like gold in Europe. @Linda, I think you should consider comedy too 😂😂😂
So the video has been tempting you😂. Thanks for clicking on it. Glad i didn't disappoint. As for comedy i do get that a lot...
She is so funny, i laughed all through the video
@Linda, you are so funny. Thanks for sharing
@ikechukwuogbu9306 you are welcome dear.
I live in Canada and that’s true. People are too serious and find it hard to socialize.
In Canada safety is a huge deal. Which I know is good but sometimes it can be ,taken out of proportion that it’s now perceived as paranoia. That I think is caused by cultural differences.
The problem is not about seriousness but lack of the author of Marriage, not LGBTQA+100😅
Its peculiar to all immigrants from different countries cos of pressure of being abroad , the citizens and owners of the country finds love and socialise amongst themselves.
I got into canada, was bored cos i work from home, i attended a small church, i got the tinder app, most people on the app are straightforward i think, they'll say what they want unapologetically and i appreciate that, went on few dates with weirdos, mostly no second date. I sha eventually met my husband, we wanted the same thing and we started dating without any promise of marriage, i told him all i wanted was to be one of his closest friends and vise versa, a year and a few months later we got married. 🎉
💚Wow from tinder! That is impressive baby girl. Y’all are definitely part of the lucky bunch.
Linda where are you oO been looking for you biko let’s make magic 🪄 ❤
I can't stop laughing....but she made my day and she's on point.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video and thanks for watching.
As a Canadian I understand and appreciate her perspective. It’s true ..
Thanks for your unbiased opinion Thomas. It is greatly appreciated.
I am not sure why she includes Europe on the list, but her description of the dating scene in North America is spot on. People are becoming increasingly absorbed in their gadgets, often at the expense of natural instinct and common sense. A society that appears polite but feels fake and overly individualistic. The bonds of family and love-based friendships seem to be fading away.
Not agree, it depends on you instead of focusing on others.
Do you want to exclude Europe?? What she said also applies to Europe.
Europe is more of a mixed bag even today but in general I would agree with what she says about north America when say comparing it to 50 years ago or so.
It applies to Europe wella
It applies to Europe very well spot on
Sister, you are spilling fact with a great humour, you nailed it 😂, No socializing!and internet is a very lonely place. The side effect of social media and virtual reality has just begun
Yes it has just begun and i have a feeling we are headed for worser times..
I have been lonely for years, till now still looking for relationships. I pray i should find one
@ Linda Val, thanks for your insightful observation. I think as a single woman, I would recommend internations group for you where you can meet potential single men from different countries depending on your preferences. This group is in about 100 countries and when join, you can attend events they organise every weekend to socialise and through that, people do meet their suitors there.
💡 O wow didn’t know about this. Thanks… 😀will look into it that’s for sure!
What's the name of the group I would like to join too
Oh international group. Thank you
May those who have hurt and betrayed the genuine love we showed to them. Face the worst of these challenges out there
Me i wish them well o Brenda😅. Won't let them make me become a monster. It is well sis😉.
You have a point there sis.Let God decide and let karma do his bidden. Only God knows best🙏
Amen
@ikwoikwo7615, come and take me ❤❤
Linda, you're the most authentic RUclips I've ever come across. You present facts, with examples so that people can better understand what is going on. Bless you!
Wow! thank you so much 🤗. This feedback from you made my day😀💜. Thanks again dear.
I also live in Canada and I can testify that this lady is speaking the truth
You will not know until you come.
@@lindaval2367 So true! You have to experience it to really know
Everything this lady is saying is funny, but it's 100% true. Canada is rough man for dating. It's so hard.
Let's be telling them o. One will not know until has officially entered the territoire😅😂. Canada shall humble one😂
Totally agree with you. Social life is very different and difficult here
As a Canadian man I’d say it’s the downfall of our economy, housing in despair and laws and divorce stats that prevents men to even bother looking for anything but a hookup. Having our lives ruined at over 50% chance it’s just not worth it.
U will find love.
Hi
I'm a year late, but still very relatable to date. You didn't talk about trying to meet singles at church & all the ladies are at the door before the grace is over. Not also forgetting to mention don’t bother talking to a lady if you don’t have your papers especially my African sisters.
Very true brother. Thank you for adding these ones😉.
What if you make her pregnant and are deported, do you care enough about how tough a situation you would put her in? Lets reason like men not children please.
@@cmukupo1606You mean getting pregnant can lead one into being deported?
@@winnifredkabajulizi832 being in a serious relationship with an illegal immigrant who may be deported at any time.
Don't underestimate the power of networking. You have to be intentional about your goals. I see people meeting and getting married in Canada. There are lots of single, mature ladies too in Nigeria. The abundance mindset is important to cultivate.
Who no go, no go know my brother, no be howfar na how well.
My sister i no sure se e dey canada o 😂
@@docsidetheaters4064 I dey Canada. Toronto
@@jio8244 how many wedding you don attend for this year so far??
And what is the percentage of the single, matured women in Nigeria vis a vis those in Canada? I will tell you that if you take the statistics, there is a huge difference.
Its really hard to find compatibiltg in this dating world. Sometimes you find someone realy good looking but within the a few space of time you realize alot of negative character in them.
Marriage is not that easy , dating for a long time before marriage also isnt easy. It is very important to know excatly what you want and what you can tolerate in your partner before embarking on life long journey. Do not marry because you are lonely and neither shoukd you marry because you are getting old. Marry because when you are convinced and mentally ready to tolerate your partner regardless all flaws.
Marry someone you would still find so loving in the midst of uncertainties and caos , not one you would find easy to dump and neglect when things are rough.
You have said it all @ayodipupoolorunsogo8301
I agree brother.
I came across your video today and i laughed so hard watching this video. 😂. Finding love is actually very hard and Nigeria men are not helping matters at all,the just want to use you and dump you. One thing my uncle told me,is that i need to be open to other race and forgot about Nigeria men
Omo see word....Not all Nigerians oh ... don't use the few to justify the entire Nigeria men
Not all Nigerian men...there are still the ones like me, search for one
The question is, are other races open to date you black women?
Are men of other races also not dumping women and not bad as some bad Nigerian men? There are bad men and women in all races on this planet.
True love is our generation's problem.. Going to Canada now in particular,many people think with money, they will get true love and so, refuces to sacrifice ..my advice is for all to look back in all relationships you have had and walk back to the true one
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣OMG!! This was a good watch.
I pray you meet someone who would not talk about the weather but Toast you & tell you you're beautiful 😄😄
AMEN...I RECEIVE IT🙂
looooool the African american game master. You must be a soothsayer. Abeg go and play with sand Jareh.
Hi Linda love is not enough to love somebody. You need more than love to love and that's compassion.
No one has been more crude about this topic. Enjoyed hearing it as it actually is 😂 Weather forecast..lol🤣
Social status is what makes people serious because everyone is trying to climb the social heir-achy… also if a man is single you have to do background check to make sure no serial killers … being foreign we have zero history of a person and they can exploit that. Be safe ladies
She's so funny...so candid and raw..I'm subscribed.
😌Thank you! Welcome to the family💌
I tried talking to a lady ,and she was feeling like she is doing me a favor. Canada people una well done
Bros welcome to 🇨🇦. U never see anything😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Sorry eh
Bro, she had said it all but what I don't agree with was the mentality of the majority of African women that they are given their bodies to men during sex is just crazy and lack of ignorance coz women benefit more from having sex than men 100%. And that is why caucasian ladies never have such thoughts in their heads. Instead, they feel they're enjoying themselves otherwise the only option is a plastic stick to play with which can never be a natural feeling.
@@lindaval2367 no bad oooo, am cool.
Linda you are very funny and at the same time telling the truth 🤣
Facts….I’m in Germany and even talking to someone new is really hard because they call the police immediately on you if they don’t know you. Funny enough even my African sisters are not interested, because most of them are only interested in getting documents or someone with money. So it’s a double standard. The girls complain people are not approaching them, but that’s not true because they don’t see the struggling guys around them
In Europe there i raise hands for you guys. y'all just dey use each other for papers, survival etc( total confusion😩😅😂). Everything survival mode. No worry yr catapult go aim properly someday.
@@morganbmgtow8879 that’s the issue, if I achieved the level I want, won’t it be only right for me also to aim higher? Why would I want to follow someone who I know would only accept me base on the fact that I am at a high level.
@@morganbmgtow8879 everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, you can’t say “a struggling guy don’t deserve a good woman”, because the guy made poor decisions!!” That’s really low thinking, and I’m guessing you grew up rich or have made it in life already that’s why you assume struggling guys made poor decisions, and therefore don’t deserve a good person in their life. I agree with you on everybody should take care of themself, keep fit, healthy, smell and dress nice, read more etc because of themself, not because of trying to impress someone. “Get a nicer car” because he’s trying to get a partner? Really!!. In correction it’s a number game for non serious guys, someone who is good and true don’t go around asking every girl out because he believes if he ask 10people out one would say yes.That’s childish bro (you deserve more self respect).
We all have things to work on to achieve our best self. But do it for you not because you are trying to impress someone.
And the theme of discussion was people (mostly women) complaining dating is hard. All am saying is if they looked around and get to know people and not judgement because they haven’t achieved the height standard they would see some people have great potential. “Just my opinion tho”.
@@folarinfarawe5151 You're right. Ladies who want made men don't earn their respect. It's wise to look at potentials and a man who genuinely cares not the one who throws money around to impress.
Sis your way of presenting is absolutely the best,I think if you had a youtube talk show it would be a big hit you have a natural talent,but I'm from the uk 🇬🇧 and it is the same over here,I know so many single people who have been single and unhappy for years 😢
Oh yea you thing so?🤔😃 Anyways one never knows(maybe someday😉). Thanks for giving my video some of your time.
@@lindaval2367 I 💯 percent know so sis,you are a born star 🌟 and you are welcome 😊 bless you
Laughter is medicine for the heart. Cheers for sharing this.
Always! you welcome.
I feel your sadness and desperation. The fact is you are a beautiful lady. I don’t know what you are doing wrong.I pray that you will have someone to love. Good wishes.
Aw thank you.
We are economic migrants, for the most part. Thus our main reason for being here is for financial gain. Social benefits are secondary. While those born here might easily cope, those of us who are transplanted from tropical regions will have obstacles socializing. I agree with your point about how the time for meeting others is restricted relative to conditions back home due to the seasons and personal tasks like work and such. We become socially detached over time and begin to compensate lack of personal companionship with things material. In time we..or at least some of us realize material things will not compensate for social interaction and the need for companionship. It is then we come to the realisation that she speak's of in the video.
Yes Chichi. The focus on materialism is just too much and i agree with you 100% on the main reason why we are here being for financial gains. So one just has to do what's got to be done and bounce as early as possible.
Girl!!!! You’re so funny and authentic😅 a true African saying it the way it is!❤
☺️Thanks Lucy!
The reality of living in Canada and the downside of Social technology. Relationships are very hard to get or keep. Social technology created room for fake connection. It has also introduced a false sense of over hyped impression of one's self, courtesy of trying to tailor one's personality in line with that of other social media actors.
When you talk to some single ladies in their mid 30's and above, you'll know that the idea of marriage is dead. Then when you go 27 and early 30's, you'll just give up. You'll hear lines from a movie and you'll be wondering if they played a role in that movie. The truth is we have too many unrealistic people filled with desires and fantasies that have been gathered through all sorts of environmental and social influences.
This is on point👌. I appreciate your feedback.
The movie part cracked me up.😂
What an eye opener you are ! Thank you sis. I really pray you find a loving and kind husband in Jesus name 🙏🏽
Amen...🙏🏿 Muchas Gracias!
Finding true love is hard globally not just Europe, Uk or US
It’s just that it’s easier to meet people in some countries than others
However
In countries where it’s easier to meet people socially, they face a different kind of challenge 😊
They meet but
No one sticks 😅
Thanks for sharing and speaking on these very interesting topic, I live right here in Stockholm Sweden 🇸🇪, this issues is one of the kinds of situations that we experienced here in the Scandinavia. After I got my citizenship and passport here some people were advising me to move to Canada 🇨🇦, I simply told them that am already tired of facing these long winter periods of Scandinavia where the winter starts from end of September and end up after March, all I want is going back to Nigeria 🇳🇬 my current or rather move to other European countries that have short winter period. Imagine me moving from Scandinavia winter to Canadian winter, is that not a suicide and from bad to worst. At expense of getting good life in western countries many of us have lost times, lost good whether that we enjoy in Africa to continue to live in these countries that have a terrible whether conditions
I don't blame you. Winters can be brutal on this sides of the world. And all this starting over business hum😂person need to consider age too.
In Canada, winter starts at the end of September up to end of April ( yes 6 months) and people stick to themselves unless you have been introduced to each other by a common friend. Add high rent costs !
Some cities in BC , Canada don't have snow.Some Cities in Taxes,US dont have snow.
I lived holland almost 10 years and its the worst to fine love i, think europe is more hard . I was born in Caribbean the black men born in holland dont like black girls but i loved this vedio 😅 I will be be in canada next month for the first time , I do fine dating in the usa better then Europe uk is nothing
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Yes Europe is definitely harder🙃Good luck to you!😉
We'll definitely find true love someday! Loneliness abroad no be small.
Inshallah bros. We definitely will. dey no swear single-hood for our heads😅.
Living abroad comes with serious prices to pay. You may be enjoying the good social amenities that we lack in Africa but you have to battle LONELINESS, DEPRESSION , LOVELESS LIFE, and sometimes RACISM. Life is too serious overseas which is totally the opposite of what we have in Nigeria in particular. Finally, if you're a single lady of about 28 years, do not travel overseas as there is a likelihood that you may clock 40 without having a single boyfriend overseas and masturbation will definitely be part of your life. Think well.
Your last line finished me🙆🏽♀️🤣😂😅. As for everything else you mentioned is facts...
@@lindaval2367 I like your video . You said raw truth and I believe everyone will learn from your amazing videos. Don't worry , God will give you a good husband soon. You're very beautiful and I like your skin colour.
@@enuguman8689 AMEN!🙏 N WHEN I FIND HIM U WILL COME N EAT RICE NA FOR MY WEDDING NA OR😏😉?
@@lindaval2367 I will ooo.
dey no dey tell person
This is so true, I live in the UK and it's very similar to what you've described. Here in the UK, the dating scene is horrible for black women, a lot of British-born black men do not date black women and the majority of white British men prefer their own women. Also, many British-born black women do not want to mess with African men (particularly Nigerians) because they have a terrible reputation for using women to get papers and then abandoning them. Online dating is basically a minefield of psychos, timewasters and creeps so it's really tough out here. I love the fact that you can talk about this in a really comical way, it's so refreshing, but everything you say applies here, wishing you all the best and hope you find a good guy who will treat you like the queen you are. Just thought i'd ask - are you from Ghana? If yes, would you consider importing a husband from back home?
I’m not Ghanaian my dear. From Cameroon I am. And to be honest with you I will rather stay single for the rest of my days than import a husband. Where u from?
@@lindaval2367 to be honest i dont blame you, it's difficult to know who is genuine and who isn't. I'm from Nigeria originally but I was born in the UK.
@@lindaval2367 You will find a lovely husband sista, don't worry. I hope he is just as funny as you and he puts a smile on your face until the day the Lord calls you back. It's a serious topic but you still managed to make me laugh😂😂😂.
Thank you so much Felix. I'm not worried cuz i know the GEM i am😉
It's like that , because western women are troublesome, they are the ones that knows all the rules ,all the divorce lawyers in the country and claiming all their rights before their so called rights turn to wrong in their sight. The western laws are too protective of women and their rights in a marriage and relationship are not supposed to be based on laws rather on emotion. As we say "you simply fall in love" rather than logic and laws. Marriage is a very long haul and most men don't want to sign a marriage contract with anybody claiming rights all the time. At least there must be a captain in a ship or a lead . For a long time to come those laws protecting women in relationships will be the Achilles heels of the concept of marriage. Simply put ,it will reduce the number of those willing to commit to the ideal concept of marriage.Thanks for a good presentation Linda.
I was born and raised in America. Caribbean family. I visitedAfrica for the first time in June . Married my 9yr old Facebook friend in SA. I’m selling my house here in the states. N moving to SA. Everything she said about the west is true
wow what a bold move of yours for a person that was born over here💪🏾(i'm impressed). All the very best sista.
“Married my 9 year old Facebook friend “ ??? Typo somewhere there ???
We have been friends for 9 yrs
I understand your pain, I just want you to know that there are good Nigerian men and sincere ones too. We've heard what black girls do to make black men scared. But trust me there are good men.
Please tell them
What did you hear about black girls doing to black men?🤷🏾♀️
Hi my lovely daughter Linda Val ,I just come across your channel ,and I like all your content ,I am from the DRC ,leaving in Namibia ,I just subscribe now !!!!!! You are very right ,cause us Africans ladies we believe in pure love , genuine love and good relationship I mean good marriage ,that make us feel dignified. Now yoh nowdays it's so horrible to find a relationship without obstacles .I love you so much .
Yes things have drastically changed over the years and most not in favor of both sexes. So glad to have you as part of my YT tribe. Thank you for the positivity you bring .
I can't stop laughing, I am so engrossed with how funny she is describing the events 😂 than listening to the story to get the message
Dunno why I always have that effect on people🤣I’m happy I could at least make u laugh…
That's why AFRICA is blessed, we all know what to do at the right timing
💯 correct. Africa operates on principles and values that keep us in check
Honestly, you made my evening, I have been laughing and I stress free...thank you Val. This is my first time to watch your show. Its good keep up. Greetings from Uganda.
Welcome to the family and thanks for watching. Glad i made your evening.
I can't stop laughing my Sister, you're 100% right. We leave in Vampires society. After 20 years leaving in Canada, i realized Africa is paradise. Soon i will go back home. Thanks Sister. God bless you
Hi Christian, Africa is indeed a paradise but most people don't realize that until they find themselves here.
I was thinking the same
You are just amazing. Your manner of expression is out of this world. You are blunt with the way you speak the truth. You are also very entertaining. I love your vibes.
Wow, thank you. So nice of you💙. It just flows you know😉.
I agree with you. I’m from Jamaica and living in Canada is great, however building a solid relationship is hard. Living in Jamaica it’s extremely easy to find a woman and settle down. People are way more friendly in Jamaica. People in Toronto are rude! And feel entitled, and they compete with each other, it’s sad. So it can be frustrating. Great country, but not great for relationships, people are pretentious here.
My dear, you have said it all and thanks for watching.
This is a big problem
If you are saying people in Jamaica are nicer than Canadians then Canada must me EXTREMELY bad because most 🇯🇲 are horrible especially Ja men. Yesterday my coworker and I were speaking about how we have to move from 🇯🇲 if we want to find quality men😢 😢😢😢
@@bonitami_amor56 Every one’s experience is different. I believe if you attract positive energy, you will receive it. I can say the same thing for Canadian women of black culture. However changing up what/who we are attracted to can fix the outcome.
Most of the time “ wanty wanty can’t get it, and get it get it don’t want it”
@@bonitami_amor56
It thinks you can easily get a man as a woman in Jamaica than in Canada. His stance wasn't related to the individual or the general characteristics of a whole country. Canadians aren't flexible when it comes to relationships, unlike Jamaicans. Many aren't bothered by being single.
This monologue was better than most standup comedy routines I've seen. Very humorous. Just all round funny!
Thank you Dannie.
Walking 10km aimlessly in the summer just to go buy ice cream got me. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's hard out here. Ladies need to maximize the advertisement window before winter hits again!
I came across your video by accident but I’m glad I did. I laughed literally from the second minute all the way to the end of the video. So funny but also because it’s all true.
I live in Canada and yes, finding a "meaningful" long term relationship can be challenging for men and women alike. I don’t need to add too much to what’s already been said because you’ve covered most of it.
The only thing I’ll leave here is that people can also consider online dating as an alternative to meeting people. I know it’s not for everyone but in Canada, you need to use all the tools in your toolbox if you know you have an objective. It’s hard to meet people out here. If you try it and it doesn’t work, you can leave it alone but at least you’ll know you tried.
One love to all the men and women that remain persistent despite all these challenges. 🙏🏽
Well said brother👍
True true sister especially in Toronto. When I lived in Calgary I could chose and pick the man I wanted to date, I am originally from Kenya….so I didn’t care giving my bf a red card in Calgary because I was moving to a “multi-cultural” big city Toronto where I thought I was going to pick and chose, my goodness, bad idea, I am going back to Alberta, jobs and pay way better there, and men way nicer ❤❤❤..all the best single’s including myself 🎉
All the best, 🎉As me I'm not looking but men are there in Toronto...involve God
You are a wise woman. You better go back to Alberta because Toronto is a Jungle😂🤣.
As hilarious as this content might sound, I quite agree with you on many fronts.I love your description of the winter, dresscode and earbuds. But what can we say, it is what it is.... 😂
I'm glad you enjoyed it!😃 Thank you for your time watching.
@@lindaval2367 Welcome, Linda.. I hope you get to survive the forthcoming winter. 😂
Plenty clothes will help me survive😄
Her expression is really funny. But here's an iota of Truth in her points. The Lord will help his people.
Amen ohh bros.
I subscribed. This video won me over. Seeing you for the first time, I fell in love with your accent and all the points you gave are valid.
Anita!😀 thank you so much...😌. I'm glad you found my video very interesting.
Facts presented with lots of humour .I love your way saying hard truths.😂😂
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Headphones or earphones😂😂😂😂 that one troubled me at the beginning. They salute you when they can or just show a fake smile😅
That's how we roll😂🤣
I think people are lucky with relationships because they went to school with their current partners. But I understood your message. Or if it's somebody you knew or circle of friends 😅
👏😂😌😆😆 you are so funny love you all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦 you have a good sense aof humuor and a good story teller
Thanks so much. I'm glad you enjoyed the video
I have never laughed so hard yet what is being discussed applies to me, madam you really cracked my ribs up real bad🤣
Don't worry Arnold, laughter is good for the body. Glad the video resonated with you.
One of the problems is many women still expect suitors in 2023 to jump through a series of hoops and hurdles to try to impress them. That needs to change going forward.
I think this comment is the problem, the so called hoops us men have to jump through are the responsibilities some of us are trying to run away from. We need to take accountability for our actions and stop blaming women
@@sebastianjones2014 It is your responsibility to jump through hoops? And it is a problem if men chose not to jump through hoops? Wow! Men will also be held accoutable for their decision not to jump through obstacles to be romantically involved with a woman? This is astonishing.
I love the drama you added while passing your points, its very sweet.
Makes you look more attractive
Funniest Canada video I've watched 🤣🤣🤣🤣 was having a tough time already just laughed all through. Thank you
Glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching
Thank you for this comedic TRUTH!
Randomly found your channel and have been binge watching and enjoying oo
You are very welcome! Ely.
even paid dating sites have players too!! its hectic out there. sometimes i think our muslim brothers and sisters have it better with arranged marriage (not forced, ARRANGED). i wish i could just ask someone to find the right person for me coz i am tired of going through the sorting process ! lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣 the wildness be everywhere sis. You can have friends/family try connecting you. Just let them know you open to it and I’m sure u will be presented with a few men to choose from.
Good point!! I recently told a friend too ..the Muslims have it better bcos they believe in marriage. We are liberal in our approach to relationships/marriage and very materialistic..that's the problem.
We leave what is important to seek after mundane things.
This is soooo true!!!! I hate it here 😅 I lived in Nigeria for 1.5 years and it was the best time of my life. Hoping to finally relocate there soon.
I agree with you because, i recently visited and i was carried away by what i saw(the vibe was energeing⚡️). So i do not blame you at all for wanting to relocate to Naija. All the best on your future plans😉.
As i keep watching your video, I'm on night duty. I couldn't help myself 😂😂😂😂, but I stopped laughing because what you said it's true (facts) i leave in Europe too, and I have experience a lot of negativity when I started dating to a point of deciding better being single...than facing dramatic challenges
So you don’t want to date again? Don’t let it put you down. Just take breaks and try again when you feel like. Don’t give up😉 there is someone out there for you.
@@lindaval2367 Thank you ❤ appreciate your encouragement 😊, in life we never give up 🙌🏾
How are you
@@patiencemtetwa Mtetwa Patience
Hey Linda! You made very valid points albeit, very hilariously. I really like your delivery strategy and also, you are so real, so natural.
Hello!🙂Thank you for taking your time in dropping, these encouraging words.#grateful#
I have been laughing all through this video 😂😂apart from you saying the truth you are making it hilarious 😂
Aw i am pleased i, made your day wherever you are start well😊.
Omg you cracked my ribs this afternoon. I laughed so hard. Your are beautiful and your video is hilarious. Everything you said is right on the money.
Thank you so much for the compliment brother. I appreciate you.
@lindaval2367, I love your sense of humour. Your point is relatable. It is worse here in Germany. No white or black women for African men here. Black women generally show interest in you based on your status. May God grant you a lovely spouse. Just curious, do you have anything against Nigerian men?
I don't envy you guys in Europe. The white people don know us finish, so the olden days tricks that usually worked doesn't anymore. To answer your question, i do not have any issue with Nigerian men.
This woman spitted the hell truth, depression is real here in UK, companionship is herculean task. That is why i do advise people always travel to western world together with your spouse
That is the best advice u've been giving them brother.
My younger brother in Toronto has been complaining bitterly about loneliness. I found it difficult to comprehend him. How could one be lonely in a populous environment.
I even advised him to join Nigerian groups, our tribe group but he said the story is the same. No one want to mingle . Everyone is just circumspect.
Na wao.
If he’s new here and also depending on his age, I understand him. If he came in as a full blown adult it’s normal for him, to find it weird. Because he is already used to a certain lifestyle back home. Encourage him to try and do with what he has, found here and forget about back home for now. Trauma occurs when you keep comparing . But it will pass( just needs time).
@@lindaval2367 Thank you for the advice. He came to Canada as a graduate with over 5 years work experience. I hope he fits in quickly.
Let him date white women as well. They appreciate the seriousness of immigrant african men. We came to work and hopefully build some wealth
@fidelisattah5761 everything takes time and we don't have the same experience and history. The only think I can suggest him is to try to be more outgoing, go to social networking, hanging out with colleagues or even try online meetup . He needs to move on or he ll be stuck for a longtime and God knows that Winter is harsh. He need to move forward and he has nothing to fear or lose. :)
Don't worry, I will come marry you soon but I can't settle in abroad, because I have my busy here in Nigeria, I can be coming and going back because of my business.
You are very correct
Me I live in Europe and is the same here too
Do you know why? Because many doors are already opened for the princess of the water. You have to really hold fast on the Holy Ghost to get a settle relationship then marriage. Especially in the US and Canada! Too many queens from the coast
Clothes hanging everywhere had me in😂😂you cannot even show your shoulders haha
Yesss we have all turned to clothes hangers😅🤣😂.
The Nigeria bad guys have spoiled the good once 💔💔💔😭
My name is bright I live in German I'm still nice
Its real and reality,sorry about what u are passing thru and all in all God bring to u the genuine guy will come on ur way and u will be happy forever.🎉🎉 otherwise i like ur expression 😂😂 u have really made day,God bless u
Amen and amen😄😌. Thank you so much Steve and God be with you too in all you do.
You wouldn't blame the men, we are afraid of having a police problem ⚠️
This is 'Reality Check 101'. It's not just about relationships in Canada or the western world by extension, it's about life itself. Linda, you've done a good presentation with this. Kudos! My very first time to watch your channel....and to think this is one year old broadcast! It seemef it was aired like yesterday! l've subscribed.Looking forward to more didatic stuffs from you in the future.
Regarding finding your own love, hang in there with GOD, it will happen. Trust me.
Yes dear🫠it’s unbelievable how time flies. Welcome to my channel and I greatly do appreciate comments and energy like yours (keeps me motivated😌). Hope to overtime keep you, on your toes with more spicy/interesting topics😉💜.
You hit the nail! Too much rights prevent women from having real loving relationships.
You are 100% spot on in your analysis regarding life in the Western world, it can be depressive.
Thanks for the therapeutic laughter.
My pleasure! Olawale😃. Laughter is very good for the body and i'm glad i was able to make you laugh. Stay blessed brother.
😂😂 facts Internet be killing physical Conversation
It is so sad my dear, but that's the world we live in right now.
All I could do was laugh, the accent is GOLD. YOU ARE VERY RIGHT, about it being dark😘
Awww i'm glad you enjoyed it. Thank You!
That's why I carried myself and went to go find wife back home in Nigeria. I don't get time for Canada Abeg.
Im glad you found a good one🙏🏿
@@lindaval2367 thank you!
Be careful, most guys that tried that are crying now....a new environment can change people
Watched till the end... Very funny though a serious topic 😂😂😂
I'm happy i was able to make you laugh, while talking about the harsh realities we face abroad when it comes to dating.
I think you have well articulated a prevalent problem. Is it possible that we look deep and find a solution to this for every one? I am optimistic that there is a way out of this. ❤
ahhh my sister, i don't think the western world system is designed to have a permanent solution to this problem because of the lifestyle over here. You just have to keep on pushing and go with the flow and above all put God first in issues like this.
I have an idea on how to attempt at a long term solution. However, it's more like business to me and the solution to this problem will be a by product or vice versa. Anyway, thanks for the heads-up
Its an established system already....u can't change it. I traveled to the UK with my gf....after 2 months I cld not recognize her again....
No love talks again.. all became money....no intimacy no romance. This western world has an anti social wind.
Na really who no go no go know.
@@lindaval2367 well, you may be right about the design of the western world. However, things can change and some change often begins with one simple idea. I might as well be full myself. Nonetheless, I try to always be optimistic about life. That said, we live the biggest problems for God at the end of the day.
If you're planning to come to any western world:- make sure to be married before trying to come as you "might wait" the rest of your life single man or woman. That will not be anyone's case 🙌🙏
That being said, doesn't mean u should settle with anykinda person, do your homework, be sure to marry your soul mate, don't have too high standards! High Standards aside other factors mentioned, is another factor to being single for too long. Whatever you're desiring in your type of "Ideal man or woman ( respect, love, sharing, submission, being loyal.... add to the list please... be sure that you're gonna give same in your relationship eitherway, it's reciprocal not one sided"