As a 19 year old female I'm very intentional about almost everything that I decide to invest my time in. I am grateful there's someone like Sihle who has different opinions than those that have become a norm on social media. I'm out here thinking maybe true love doesn't exist anymore because of the divorce rate in SA and relationships falling apart however, maybe most of them were in these relationships for the wrong reasons. Bring back dating with the intention to get married and purposeful relationships. Also if my relationship ends I shouldn't be looking for the next best thing or try to maintain how I'm perceived on social media since I'm known for being spoilt by men and getting allowances and expensive vacations. I don't want to find myself cursing relationships or even going to therapy because another human being did me so dirty. Lets be kind humans and be intentional, social media and likes should never be the goal. But the covenant of marriage should be goal.
Mmmmm a 19 year old with this kind of mindset. I love it when I hear girls like you and Sihle speak like this it gives me hope. There are still young women who think like you. That's beautiful queen.
Truth!!!! I find being single very peaceful. I am a lover, and these days its dangerous to pour your heart out to someone😢.... like people are so good at pretending its terrifying.
Damn as a 20 year old she calls me out in every video 😂!! Thank you for this reality check sisi… I’m realising that I’ve been brainwashed so much and that I have a lot of learning and unlearning to do.
Moving in silence has always been my mantra I do my best to practise. Coz you don't let anyone one in ..including social media critique squad..plus a peace of mind is way better than strangers wanting to know your thoughts about your privacy😂
Social media is setting unrealistic standards for young men ,I mean, how do you expect someone who's still in school to give you a girlfriend allowance??
Sihle you really spoke facts about this matter and I wish a lot of women would see this video. I immediately walk away once I see you prioritize content over the relationship. It is very easy to spot this behavior even on the first date. This content thing is a major problem because even when I want to do something nice for the woman first, I would have to contemplate doing something that just won't end up as content, and that's about it.
Approaching women while sober has become difficult for me. When I’m drunk, I feel more confident, although it doesn’t make me feel proud. Nowadays, many women are influenced by TikTok and Instagram lifestyles, which sometimes makes it hard to connect authentically. This shift has impacted relationships, as men often feel pressured to impress rather than be themselves, which only adds to the challenge.
I really love you sihle, I always feel like when I pray to god about something, he responds in the form of your videos. just yesterday I was watching these relationship vloggers and feeling jealous, but I could almost hear god telling me that it wasn't real. this video confirmed everything!!
honestly, as a man i can't speak for anybody else but for me personally i don't really mind doing nice dates, flowers etc for any woman i like (if i can afford). problem is nowadays these girls DEMAND (they don't ask, or at least gently give subtle hints) and it's because of the social media influence like you said. so it ends up coming from a place of entitlement which makes me NOT do it 🤣🤣
I know a lady who is studying psychology and she thinks exactly like the red flags you're pointing out, I'm still astounded, like what is the psychology taught at university producing?
the problem is that people have no standards and zero discernment! extravagant displays of “affection” have become a placeholder for authenticity. also, 10:50 is SO REAL🤣🤣🤣 yho sana, isibindi esingaka! they live life on edge shame but sadly at their own expense. could never.
Yhooo black women in particular love this. I have dated many women who just want to brag about content instead of working on an actual relationship.the relationships I've been in have lacked so much substance and the women just felt like a burden...
😂 I used to have Facebook relationship back in the days. We tagged each other and commented on each other's posts. I fed off that Facebook romance. 😢. Before insta became a thing. Glad nobody remembers me 😅
Social Media has taken away sacredness. It is so sad that everything we do in todays age, we just want to post. Make it your aim to live a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to earn your own living, just as we told you before. 1 Thessalonians 4:11
Influence holds a big weight on how society turns out even if people say I'm not a role model, they are running away from the accountability of the influence they have because they know they are guilty and mostly of bad influence...
I wish all women were smart like this. Women these days are easy to date, you just have to offer her picture-worthy moments for, her to create content. You don't even have to talk much, and even when you do talk much and wanna get to know her she will find you boring and a waste of time.
People are living for people, seeking constant approval, validation or sense of value from people they don't know,and comes down to the lack of identity of who you are and whose you are. The outer court Vs the inner court What it presents Vs what it is.
That ''whose you are'' is the one 👏👏 these people need to know they belong to God they really are looking for validation affirmation and identity in all this and totally ''miss'' their chance to get it all when they forsake their Creator.
In day of age it's hard to hear such words from a young woman who speaks the truth especially with the dating pool in SA. Big ups to you my sister✨️👏🏾👏🏾
Bayezwa yini laba, that is why they going for foreigners from other countries cause of these standards of relationships, getting themselves in problematic situations.
Hey Sihle, i love your videos mama :) personally as a young girl myself that doesnt have much female role models in my life im learning so much from your content. I started binge watching your videos lately because i did not know you were on youtube!! So glad! I do have a question though, yesterday i saw your video about not dati ng for marriage in your previous channel.. if i may ask, do you still agree entirely with everything that was said there? .. if not, would you mind addressing what has changed so far because i think that there is slight change to what was said then vs what is being said in this video now.
Great question. The context of this video and the other one are different that’s why it sounds like they are contradicting each other. I’ll make a video about it coz that would be helpful for more women. Thank you 🥰
She's so right.. when you date women like this you can feel it. They want do things that they saw on internet instead of doing it because they enjoy it. "Theme for what it's just a date"..
I absolutely love most of your opinions. I just wonder how an intelligent intentional person can also believe in a religion. It would be so lovely to hear your thoughts on religion. Coming of curious place, don’t mean to be demeaning. 🙏🏾
You have to look at someone's soul in order to truly know them , You have to want to know the person past Sexual activities. You almost have to be able to know what your partner is thinking without them telling you. 😊
Hey, i think you have a good ideas and opinions. Change your content a bit, the preachy content can still be there but have some other more chilled or fun content. Or if you want to keep this style focus a lot more on current affairs.
Here's what I'm seeing about the popularity of your content. On the one hand, there'll be other women who jump on doing content similar to yours. Some will be genuine and well meaning, others will just be jumping on the band wagon for traction. On the other hand, there will be people, mostly women, who will make reaction videos to your content and bashing you calling you all sorts of name. I may be wrong, but I doubt it.
As a 19 year old female I'm very intentional about almost everything that I decide to invest my time in. I am grateful there's someone like Sihle who has different opinions than those that have become a norm on social media. I'm out here thinking maybe true love doesn't exist anymore because of the divorce rate in SA and relationships falling apart however, maybe most of them were in these relationships for the wrong reasons. Bring back dating with the intention to get married and purposeful relationships.
Also if my relationship ends I shouldn't be looking for the next best thing or try to maintain how I'm perceived on social media since I'm known for being spoilt by men and getting allowances and expensive vacations. I don't want to find myself cursing relationships or even going to therapy because another human being did me so dirty. Lets be kind humans and be intentional, social media and likes should never be the goal. But the covenant of marriage should be goal.
Wow siyabonga Nqobilee😢❤sengathi bangezwa abanezindlebe🙌🏻🙏🏻
Mmmmm a 19 year old with this kind of mindset. I love it when I hear girls like you and Sihle speak like this it gives me hope. There are still young women who think like you. That's beautiful queen.
They all killed personal preference and individualism..Everyone wants the same thing likeee😂
Truth!!!! I find being single very peaceful. I am a lover, and these days its dangerous to pour your heart out to someone😢.... like people are so good at pretending its terrifying.
Same❤At this point I'm even scared to date because the thought of being the next "Justice for her"...
@ntsehhh that is my fear too 🥺. We have a lot of wounds walking around with pretty and sparkling bandages, it's a horror.
Damn as a 20 year old she calls me out in every video 😂!! Thank you for this reality check sisi… I’m realising that I’ve been brainwashed so much and that I have a lot of learning and unlearning to do.
Same😂
Im 22 though
The pressure is real in this generation….. most of us women are seeking for a wedding and not marriage.
also the marring for money trend on TikTok is probably influencing so many people right now.
Moving in silence has always been my mantra I do my best to practise. Coz you don't let anyone one in ..including social media critique squad..plus a peace of mind is way better than strangers wanting to know your thoughts about your privacy😂
I was surprised when all of a sudden girls wanted a tall, dark and handsome guy... It all makes sense now
We need FBI agents to protect her hle😭♥️🙌🏽
Please!
Central intelligence agency
We need the Army !!
No need for FBI😆she is content👌
Social media is setting unrealistic standards for young men ,I mean, how do you expect someone who's still in school to give you a girlfriend allowance??
We've gone backwards
2 minutes noddles 😂😂😂 this is so accurate, I like you dead honesty 👏🏾
😂😂😂
You know I 1st saw you on Penuel's show and was impressed. Such a young lady with so much wisdom, there's hope for our young daughters..
I'm glad that you're back on RUclips cause I don't have Tiktok. I truly admire your boldness and your truthfulness 😢
Sihle you really spoke facts about this matter and I wish a lot of women would see this video. I immediately walk away once I see you prioritize content over the relationship. It is very easy to spot this behavior even on the first date. This content thing is a major problem because even when I want to do something nice for the woman first, I would have to contemplate doing something that just won't end up as content, and that's about it.
Approaching women while sober has become difficult for me. When I’m drunk, I feel more confident, although it doesn’t make me feel proud. Nowadays, many women are influenced by TikTok and Instagram lifestyles, which sometimes makes it hard to connect authentically. This shift has impacted relationships, as men often feel pressured to impress rather than be themselves, which only adds to the challenge.
Be yourself, if shes superficial thats a her thing not a you thing. You'll find a girl who's authentic eventually, God willing
Omg dude, this world is so fake, its actually sickening. Thanks for the content though 🙌
I really love you sihle, I always feel like when I pray to god about something, he responds in the form of your videos. just yesterday I was watching these relationship vloggers and feeling jealous, but I could almost hear god telling me that it wasn't real. this video confirmed everything!!
It's God, remember the G is ALWAYS capital sis [there are other small false gods out there too but only ONE true God, that's why] 🙏.
honestly, as a man i can't speak for anybody else but for me personally i don't really mind doing nice dates, flowers etc for any woman i like (if i can afford). problem is nowadays these girls DEMAND (they don't ask, or at least gently give subtle hints) and it's because of the social media influence like you said. so it ends up coming from a place of entitlement which makes me NOT do it 🤣🤣
I absolutely love how you you are in this world but not of this world you can think for yourself❤
I know a lady who is studying psychology and she thinks exactly like the red flags you're pointing out, I'm still astounded, like what is the psychology taught at university producing?
😂
I watched this video once and I thought I was done 😢, I had to watch it again cause you spiting fact 👏
My first date I want to see if she subscribes and likes your channel I marry her straight away,this is good influence for your future wifes
😂
the problem is that people have no standards and zero discernment! extravagant displays of “affection” have become a placeholder for authenticity.
also, 10:50 is SO REAL🤣🤣🤣 yho sana, isibindi esingaka! they live life on edge shame but sadly at their own expense. could never.
Yhooo black women in particular love this. I have dated many women who just want to brag about content instead of working on an actual relationship.the relationships I've been in have lacked so much substance and the women just felt like a burden...
I love it here my sistaaa 😭🥺!
Yey ungasho uyiphinde. Awusakwazi nokuba in the moment. Si relaxile & happy all of a sudden sekuphuma ifone.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I wish she could give dating advice, too. I think she is insightful fr.❤
😂 I used to have Facebook relationship back in the days. We tagged each other and commented on each other's posts. I fed off that Facebook romance. 😢. Before insta became a thing. Glad nobody remembers me 😅
Social Media has taken away sacredness. It is so sad that everything we do in todays age, we just want to post.
Make it your aim to live a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to earn your own living, just as we told you before. 1 Thessalonians 4:11
That scripture mfethu no1.🙏❤️
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Influence holds a big weight on how society turns out even if people say I'm not a role model, they are running away from the accountability of the influence they have because they know they are guilty and mostly of bad influence...
I wish all women were smart like this. Women these days are easy to date, you just have to offer her picture-worthy moments for, her to create content. You don't even have to talk much, and even when you do talk much and wanna get to know her she will find you boring and a waste of time.
And those are the same ones who hide they persons face on the socials lol
You're so spot on🎉🎉🎉 Keep up the phenomenonal content & commentary, Sihle!!! 👏🏼🎉👏🏼🎉👏🏼🎉👏🏼🎉 You are exceptional!!!! 🎉👍🏼👌🏼
Look, at this point Let’s be friends because I mess with your pov & as a man I was telling my homie this exact thing this past weekend 😅
Raw, Unfiltered Content. I love it! ❤❤
The topic is what got me here🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
PROTECT SIHLE AT ALL COSTS
People are living for people, seeking constant approval, validation or sense of value from people they don't know,and comes down to the lack of identity of who you are and whose you are.
The outer court Vs the inner court
What it presents Vs what it is.
That ''whose you are'' is the one 👏👏 these people need to know they belong to God they really are looking for validation affirmation and identity in all this and totally ''miss'' their chance to get it all when they forsake their Creator.
I like the fact that you are not judgemental
The way I love amantombazane abizwa ngo "pick me"😅
the way i love this honesty!!!!
Authenticity has been highly attacked lately, simply because of people wanting the exact same thing. No sense of autonomy and individuality at all.
In day of age it's hard to hear such words from a young woman who speaks the truth especially with the dating pool in SA. Big ups to you my sister✨️👏🏾👏🏾
Bayezwa yini laba, that is why they going for foreigners from other countries cause of these standards of relationships, getting themselves in problematic situations.
Please keep the videos coming! Love love love them so far! 🌸
Date for a purpose 👌
Zero lies detected here. FACT AFTER FACT!
and umuhle kakhulu with your natural look
🎯👌. Very well articulated.
From the beginning to the end u said it all❤
You nearly lost me kula allowance lol😂
😂😂 "grey dashbord"
Tell ‘em
Keep educating the girl child
NOT A SINGLE LIE DETECTED 📌💯
"Don't have to blow twenty thou' to get to know honey's style
Show her the town, steal her heart, no money down" - RAKIM
Siyabonga ntokazi kuzwakele 🙏
Oh man🔥The truth in this
Yoh what a shocking world. Sad.
😂😂😂😂yoh ayi finally someone to steer these girls in a right path 😅
mmmm.... they gonna come for you sisi😅 this is so true tho!
Hey Sihle, i love your videos mama :) personally as a young girl myself that doesnt have much female role models in my life im learning so much from your content. I started binge watching your videos lately because i did not know you were on youtube!! So glad! I do have a question though, yesterday i saw your video about not dati ng for marriage in your previous channel.. if i may ask, do you still agree entirely with everything that was said there? .. if not, would you mind addressing what has changed so far because i think that there is slight change to what was said then vs what is being said in this video now.
Great question. The context of this video and the other one are different that’s why it sounds like they are contradicting each other. I’ll make a video about it coz that would be helpful for more women. Thank you 🥰
@Sihleeey Thank you for responding!!! 🌸🌸
9:07 I was called out on girlfriend proposal vele I wanted it😭😂
Love your content, I am here to stay❤❤❤❤
She's so right.. when you date women like this you can feel it. They want do things that they saw on internet instead of doing it because they enjoy it. "Theme for what it's just a date"..
I absolutely love most of your opinions. I just wonder how an intelligent intentional person can also believe in a religion. It would be so lovely to hear your thoughts on religion.
Coming of curious place, don’t mean to be demeaning. 🙏🏾
the question is - why are women twirling so hard for love, romance, rships, men?
This is it!!!!❤❤❤❤
You have to look at someone's soul in order to truly know them , You have to want to know the person past Sexual activities. You almost have to be able to know what your partner is thinking without them telling you. 😊
06:08 😭😭😭
Yey… 😩
🤣🤣
❤️❤️❤️muhle Ntombi
AMEN!
LET HER COOK!
Sihle for president,I wish to get to your level of thinking
Powerful ❤❤❤
I love this true ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Bahlukuhle mntanam😂🎉😂😂
Hey, i think you have a good ideas and opinions. Change your content a bit, the preachy content can still be there but have some other more chilled or fun content. Or if you want to keep this style focus a lot more on current affairs.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 please this topic is serious neh but you’re hilarious.
I LOVE YOU!!!!!
Yhoooo Sihle!!!!
This is why I wanna date you😭😭
haibo sifike nini 😂😂😂🤣🤣
😂😂😂lol
As I subscribe because wow 💯
Chommie of akana mali,uzomenzani😂..
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Here's what I'm seeing about the popularity of your content.
On the one hand, there'll be other women who jump on doing content similar to yours. Some will be genuine and well meaning, others will just be jumping on the band wagon for traction.
On the other hand, there will be people, mostly women, who will make reaction videos to your content and bashing you calling you all sorts of name.
I may be wrong, but I doubt it.
6:25 or RUclips video's
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💯
❤❤I love you
ba botse sihle nna
Someone on tiktok once said unobuso benja (a dogs face) and now i cant stop seeing it 😭😭
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subscribed
You're so lovely girl special
Hey Sihle, what's your surname?
Eh! 🙆🏽♂️
Babygirl you look like Decent Q are you related in anyway?
So much wisdom from such a young beautiful lady ❤💯🤌🏽. From a small RUclipsr like me this is so profound.
You are doing the Lord’s work 🫶🏻