As a 19 year old female I'm very intentional about almost everything that I decide to invest my time in. I am grateful there's someone like Sihle who has different opinions than those that have become a norm on social media. I'm out here thinking maybe true love doesn't exist anymore because of the divorce rate in SA and relationships falling apart however, maybe most of them were in these relationships for the wrong reasons. Bring back dating with the intention to get married and purposeful relationships. Also if my relationship ends I shouldn't be looking for the next best thing or try to maintain how I'm perceived on social media since I'm known for being spoilt by men and getting allowances and expensive vacations. I don't want to find myself cursing relationships or even going to therapy because another human being did me so dirty. Lets be kind humans and be intentional, social media and likes should never be the goal. But the covenant of marriage should be goal.
Mmmmm a 19 year old with this kind of mindset. I love it when I hear girls like you and Sihle speak like this it gives me hope. There are still young women who think like you. That's beautiful queen.
Truth!!!! I find being single very peaceful. I am a lover, and these days its dangerous to pour your heart out to someone😢.... like people are so good at pretending its terrifying.
Social media is setting unrealistic standards for young men ,I mean, how do you expect someone who's still in school to give you a girlfriend allowance??
Moving in silence has always been my mantra I do my best to practise. Coz you don't let anyone one in ..including social media critique squad..plus a peace of mind is way better than strangers wanting to know your thoughts about your privacy😂
I really love you sihle, I always feel like when I pray to god about something, he responds in the form of your videos. just yesterday I was watching these relationship vloggers and feeling jealous, but I could almost hear god telling me that it wasn't real. this video confirmed everything!!
Social Media has taken away sacredness. It is so sad that everything we do in todays age, we just want to post. Make it your aim to live a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to earn your own living, just as we told you before. 1 Thessalonians 4:11
Sihle you really spoke facts about this matter and I wish a lot of women would see this video. I immediately walk away once I see you prioritize content over the relationship. It is very easy to spot this behavior even on the first date. This content thing is a major problem because even when I want to do something nice for the woman first, I would have to contemplate doing something that just won't end up as content, and that's about it.
Approaching women while sober has become difficult for me. When I’m drunk, I feel more confident, although it doesn’t make me feel proud. Nowadays, many women are influenced by TikTok and Instagram lifestyles, which sometimes makes it hard to connect authentically. This shift has impacted relationships, as men often feel pressured to impress rather than be themselves, which only adds to the challenge.
Damn as a 20 year old she calls me out in every video 😂!! Thank you for this reality check sisi… I’m realising that I’ve been brainwashed so much and that I have a lot of learning and unlearning to do.
honestly, as a man i can't speak for anybody else but for me personally i don't really mind doing nice dates, flowers etc for any woman i like (if i can afford). problem is nowadays these girls DEMAND (they don't ask, or at least gently give subtle hints) and it's because of the social media influence like you said. so it ends up coming from a place of entitlement which makes me NOT do it 🤣🤣
Yhooo black women in particular love this. I have dated many women who just want to brag about content instead of working on an actual relationship.the relationships I've been in have lacked so much substance and the women just felt like a burden...
😂 I used to have Facebook relationship back in the days. We tagged each other and commented on each other's posts. I fed off that Facebook romance. 😢. Before insta became a thing. Glad nobody remembers me 😅
Influence holds a big weight on how society turns out even if people say I'm not a role model, they are running away from the accountability of the influence they have because they know they are guilty and mostly of bad influence...
I wish all women were smart like this. Women these days are easy to date, you just have to offer her picture-worthy moments for, her to create content. You don't even have to talk much, and even when you do talk much and wanna get to know her she will find you boring and a waste of time.
the problem is that people have no standards and zero discernment! extravagant displays of “affection” have become a placeholder for authenticity. also, 10:50 is SO REAL🤣🤣🤣 yho sana, isibindi esingaka! they live life on edge shame but sadly at their own expense. could never.
In day of age it's hard to hear such words from a young woman who speaks the truth especially with the dating pool in SA. Big ups to you my sister✨️👏🏾👏🏾
People are living for people, seeking constant approval, validation or sense of value from people they don't know,and comes down to the lack of identity of who you are and whose you are. The outer court Vs the inner court What it presents Vs what it is.
That ''whose you are'' is the one 👏👏 these people need to know they belong to God they really are looking for validation affirmation and identity in all this and totally ''miss'' their chance to get it all when they forsake their Creator.
Bayezwa yini laba, that is why they going for foreigners from other countries cause of these standards of relationships, getting themselves in problematic situations.
She's so right.. when you date women like this you can feel it. They want do things that they saw on internet instead of doing it because they enjoy it. "Theme for what it's just a date"..
You have to look at someone's soul in order to truly know them , You have to want to know the person past Sexual activities. You almost have to be able to know what your partner is thinking without them telling you. 😊
Hey Sihle, i love your videos mama :) personally as a young girl myself that doesnt have much female role models in my life im learning so much from your content. I started binge watching your videos lately because i did not know you were on youtube!! So glad! I do have a question though, yesterday i saw your video about not dati ng for marriage in your previous channel.. if i may ask, do you still agree entirely with everything that was said there? .. if not, would you mind addressing what has changed so far because i think that there is slight change to what was said then vs what is being said in this video now.
Great question. The context of this video and the other one are different that’s why it sounds like they are contradicting each other. I’ll make a video about it coz that would be helpful for more women. Thank you 🥰
I know a lady who is studying psychology and she thinks exactly like the red flags you're pointing out, I'm still astounded, like what is the psychology taught at university producing?
Hey, i think you have a good ideas and opinions. Change your content a bit, the preachy content can still be there but have some other more chilled or fun content. Or if you want to keep this style focus a lot more on current affairs.
Here's what I'm seeing about the popularity of your content. On the one hand, there'll be other women who jump on doing content similar to yours. Some will be genuine and well meaning, others will just be jumping on the band wagon for traction. On the other hand, there will be people, mostly women, who will make reaction videos to your content and bashing you calling you all sorts of name. I may be wrong, but I doubt it.
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As a 19 year old female I'm very intentional about almost everything that I decide to invest my time in. I am grateful there's someone like Sihle who has different opinions than those that have become a norm on social media. I'm out here thinking maybe true love doesn't exist anymore because of the divorce rate in SA and relationships falling apart however, maybe most of them were in these relationships for the wrong reasons. Bring back dating with the intention to get married and purposeful relationships.
Also if my relationship ends I shouldn't be looking for the next best thing or try to maintain how I'm perceived on social media since I'm known for being spoilt by men and getting allowances and expensive vacations. I don't want to find myself cursing relationships or even going to therapy because another human being did me so dirty. Lets be kind humans and be intentional, social media and likes should never be the goal. But the covenant of marriage should be goal.
Wow siyabonga Nqobilee😢❤sengathi bangezwa abanezindlebe🙌🏻🙏🏻
Mmmmm a 19 year old with this kind of mindset. I love it when I hear girls like you and Sihle speak like this it gives me hope. There are still young women who think like you. That's beautiful queen.
The pressure is real in this generation….. most of us women are seeking for a wedding and not marriage.
They all killed personal preference and individualism..Everyone wants the same thing likeee😂
Truth!!!! I find being single very peaceful. I am a lover, and these days its dangerous to pour your heart out to someone😢.... like people are so good at pretending its terrifying.
Same❤At this point I'm even scared to date because the thought of being the next "Justice for her"...
@ntsehhh that is my fear too 🥺. We have a lot of wounds walking around with pretty and sparkling bandages, it's a horror.
also the marring for money trend on TikTok is probably influencing so many people right now.
We need FBI agents to protect her hle😭♥️🙌🏽
Please!
Central intelligence agency
We need the Army !!
No need for FBI😆she is content👌
Social media is setting unrealistic standards for young men ,I mean, how do you expect someone who's still in school to give you a girlfriend allowance??
We've gone backwards
Moving in silence has always been my mantra I do my best to practise. Coz you don't let anyone one in ..including social media critique squad..plus a peace of mind is way better than strangers wanting to know your thoughts about your privacy😂
I really love you sihle, I always feel like when I pray to god about something, he responds in the form of your videos. just yesterday I was watching these relationship vloggers and feeling jealous, but I could almost hear god telling me that it wasn't real. this video confirmed everything!!
It's God, remember the G is ALWAYS capital sis [there are other small false gods out there too but only ONE true God, that's why] 🙏.
Omg dude, this world is so fake, its actually sickening. Thanks for the content though 🙌
Social Media has taken away sacredness. It is so sad that everything we do in todays age, we just want to post.
Make it your aim to live a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to earn your own living, just as we told you before. 1 Thessalonians 4:11
That scripture mfethu no1.🙏❤️
You know I 1st saw you on Penuel's show and was impressed. Such a young lady with so much wisdom, there's hope for our young daughters..
2 minutes noddles 😂😂😂 this is so accurate, I like you dead honesty 👏🏾
😂😂😂
I love it here my sistaaa 😭🥺!
Sihle you really spoke facts about this matter and I wish a lot of women would see this video. I immediately walk away once I see you prioritize content over the relationship. It is very easy to spot this behavior even on the first date. This content thing is a major problem because even when I want to do something nice for the woman first, I would have to contemplate doing something that just won't end up as content, and that's about it.
I absolutely love how you you are in this world but not of this world you can think for yourself❤
I watched this video once and I thought I was done 😢, I had to watch it again cause you spiting fact 👏
Approaching women while sober has become difficult for me. When I’m drunk, I feel more confident, although it doesn’t make me feel proud. Nowadays, many women are influenced by TikTok and Instagram lifestyles, which sometimes makes it hard to connect authentically. This shift has impacted relationships, as men often feel pressured to impress rather than be themselves, which only adds to the challenge.
Be yourself, if shes superficial thats a her thing not a you thing. You'll find a girl who's authentic eventually, God willing
Damn as a 20 year old she calls me out in every video 😂!! Thank you for this reality check sisi… I’m realising that I’ve been brainwashed so much and that I have a lot of learning and unlearning to do.
honestly, as a man i can't speak for anybody else but for me personally i don't really mind doing nice dates, flowers etc for any woman i like (if i can afford). problem is nowadays these girls DEMAND (they don't ask, or at least gently give subtle hints) and it's because of the social media influence like you said. so it ends up coming from a place of entitlement which makes me NOT do it 🤣🤣
I'm glad that you're back on RUclips cause I don't have Tiktok. I truly admire your boldness and your truthfulness 😢
Yhooo black women in particular love this. I have dated many women who just want to brag about content instead of working on an actual relationship.the relationships I've been in have lacked so much substance and the women just felt like a burden...
Please activate your superchat. We need to support content like this
Yey ungasho uyiphinde. Awusakwazi nokuba in the moment. Si relaxile & happy all of a sudden sekuphuma ifone.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You've gained yourself a subscriber🔥this is the kind of content we need.
😂 I used to have Facebook relationship back in the days. We tagged each other and commented on each other's posts. I fed off that Facebook romance. 😢. Before insta became a thing. Glad nobody remembers me 😅
Raw, Unfiltered Content. I love it! ❤❤
I wish she could give dating advice, too. I think she is insightful fr.❤
I was surprised when all of a sudden girls wanted a tall, dark and handsome guy... It all makes sense now
The topic is what got me here🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Influence holds a big weight on how society turns out even if people say I'm not a role model, they are running away from the accountability of the influence they have because they know they are guilty and mostly of bad influence...
From the beginning to the end u said it all❤
I wish all women were smart like this. Women these days are easy to date, you just have to offer her picture-worthy moments for, her to create content. You don't even have to talk much, and even when you do talk much and wanna get to know her she will find you boring and a waste of time.
You're so spot on🎉🎉🎉 Keep up the phenomenonal content & commentary, Sihle!!! 👏🏼🎉👏🏼🎉👏🏼🎉👏🏼🎉 You are exceptional!!!! 🎉👍🏼👌🏼
the problem is that people have no standards and zero discernment! extravagant displays of “affection” have become a placeholder for authenticity.
also, 10:50 is SO REAL🤣🤣🤣 yho sana, isibindi esingaka! they live life on edge shame but sadly at their own expense. could never.
Siyabonga ntokazi kuzwakele 🙏
In day of age it's hard to hear such words from a young woman who speaks the truth especially with the dating pool in SA. Big ups to you my sister✨️👏🏾👏🏾
🎯👌. Very well articulated.
PROTECT SIHLE AT ALL COSTS
the way i love this honesty!!!!
Oh man🔥The truth in this
😂😂 "grey dashbord"
Look, at this point Let’s be friends because I mess with your pov & as a man I was telling my homie this exact thing this past weekend 😅
Please keep the videos coming! Love love love them so far! 🌸
Yoh what a shocking world. Sad.
Tell ‘em
Keep educating the girl child
9:07 I was called out on girlfriend proposal vele I wanted it😭😂
People are living for people, seeking constant approval, validation or sense of value from people they don't know,and comes down to the lack of identity of who you are and whose you are.
The outer court Vs the inner court
What it presents Vs what it is.
That ''whose you are'' is the one 👏👏 these people need to know they belong to God they really are looking for validation affirmation and identity in all this and totally ''miss'' their chance to get it all when they forsake their Creator.
I like the fact that you are not judgemental
Zero lies detected here. FACT AFTER FACT!
and umuhle kakhulu with your natural look
You nearly lost me kula allowance lol😂
"Don't have to blow twenty thou' to get to know honey's style
Show her the town, steal her heart, no money down" - RAKIM
Bayezwa yini laba, that is why they going for foreigners from other countries cause of these standards of relationships, getting themselves in problematic situations.
Authenticity has been highly attacked lately, simply because of people wanting the exact same thing. No sense of autonomy and individuality at all.
Date for a purpose 👌
And those are the same ones who hide they persons face on the socials lol
😂😂😂😂yoh ayi finally someone to steer these girls in a right path 😅
She's so right.. when you date women like this you can feel it. They want do things that they saw on internet instead of doing it because they enjoy it. "Theme for what it's just a date"..
My first date I want to see if she subscribes and likes your channel I marry her straight away,this is good influence for your future wifes
😂
The way I love amantombazane abizwa ngo "pick me"😅
Love your content, I am here to stay❤❤❤❤
AMEN!
Powerful ❤❤❤
You have to look at someone's soul in order to truly know them , You have to want to know the person past Sexual activities. You almost have to be able to know what your partner is thinking without them telling you. 😊
Someone on tiktok once said unobuso benja (a dogs face) and now i cant stop seeing it 😭😭
Hey Sihle, i love your videos mama :) personally as a young girl myself that doesnt have much female role models in my life im learning so much from your content. I started binge watching your videos lately because i did not know you were on youtube!! So glad! I do have a question though, yesterday i saw your video about not dati ng for marriage in your previous channel.. if i may ask, do you still agree entirely with everything that was said there? .. if not, would you mind addressing what has changed so far because i think that there is slight change to what was said then vs what is being said in this video now.
Great question. The context of this video and the other one are different that’s why it sounds like they are contradicting each other. I’ll make a video about it coz that would be helpful for more women. Thank you 🥰
@Sihleeey Thank you for responding!!! 🌸🌸
LET HER COOK!
Sihle for president,I wish to get to your level of thinking
❤️❤️❤️muhle Ntombi
I love this true ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
I LOVE YOU!!!!!
As I subscribe because wow 💯
06:08 😭😭😭
Yey… 😩
🤣🤣
I know a lady who is studying psychology and she thinks exactly like the red flags you're pointing out, I'm still astounded, like what is the psychology taught at university producing?
😂
Yhoooo Sihle!!!!
the question is - why are women twirling so hard for love, romance, rships, men?
You are doing the Lord’s work 🫶🏻
Hey, i think you have a good ideas and opinions. Change your content a bit, the preachy content can still be there but have some other more chilled or fun content. Or if you want to keep this style focus a lot more on current affairs.
Bahlukuhle mntanam😂🎉😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 please this topic is serious neh but you’re hilarious.
You're so lovely girl special
This is why I wanna date you😭😭
haibo sifike nini 😂😂😂🤣🤣
😂😂😂lol
Chommie of akana mali,uzomenzani😂..
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6:25 or RUclips video's
Here's what I'm seeing about the popularity of your content.
On the one hand, there'll be other women who jump on doing content similar to yours. Some will be genuine and well meaning, others will just be jumping on the band wagon for traction.
On the other hand, there will be people, mostly women, who will make reaction videos to your content and bashing you calling you all sorts of name.
I may be wrong, but I doubt it.
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❤❤I love you
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Hey Sihle, what's your surname?
So much wisdom from such a young beautiful lady ❤💯🤌🏽. From a small RUclipsr like me this is so profound.
subscribed
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ba botse sihle nna
Eh! 🙆🏽♂️
Babygirl you look like Decent Q are you related in anyway?
Where can we find woman like you🥹❤️
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