At the end of a great concert you aren't mourning the loss of the concert are you? You are grateful to have been there . Happy to have had this beautiful experience for however long it lasted. In the same way you can regard the loss of people you love, you can rejoice in all the wonderful experiences you've had with them, and be grateful for what they brought into your life, instead of being sad about not getting more of it.
Yes. However the confusion here is the definition of love. What most people consider love, is actually obsession derived from a fear based reality. The fear of being alone. There is nothing to fear for one is always alone. Even in a relationship you are alone. You are born alone and die alone. Face it, accept it , overcome it and free yourself from this fear. Only then will you be loveable. A free person lives in the moment and is VERY loveable by ALL. I love you . Namaste.
Au contraire My Friend❣ Appearances deceive. We are never alone and ever one. One day, we all arrive at our Enlightenment and release death and fear. With this, we no longer tolerate ours or others delusions without intervening to aid. For their hurt and fear is ours, and ours is theirs. This latter is most important to be able to overcome on out own to help others, to know what to do. Rs
I used to this this way about been born alone, but I don't anymore. I understand that many people stay in relationships out of dear of being alone or accept things that they shouldn't accept. This part I agree with and when we can love without the fears of losing someone, losing some status, losing something, accept another with attachment yet detachment or rather the form of attachment that transcends normally what we perceive love is about (in the 3D sense)etc. Then if we are able to transcend the 3D reality based love, there are those who can achieve love which can be eternal. Coz I have started to believe that love actually never dies. We will always love those who we have loved, that's the kind of love that different religions have tried to teach people. We may have to move on from their lives or we may forget about them and they may forget about us eventually after we die, but the love never leaves us. When my parent and grandparents died with their death the love I had for them or that they had for me didn't die, that's the energy that doesn't die.
Interesting, because these same words could be used about the love that's about attachment too. I agree there are different kinds of love and we don't need to be attached to only the one form of romantic love. But what if someone's truth is to find the soul with whom they can have a life with romantic love? What if that's the role they wanted to play in the illusion of life?
@@Esprite9 I believe it is not a matter of "wanting", but a matter of discovering what is it that makes our hearts in peace and wholeness, because there lays our role in this life. If that is next to a person, our bodies will let us know, we won't have doubts, it will feel clear. But when fear is being felt, then we know that is time to let go of those situations and come back to self. And when we feel peace with our own selves, then naturally we will attract external situations, people, places, that match those vibrations and that does feel right and peaceful, but that thanks to that WE are in peace alone.
@@Esprite9 you will not find the truth with such high expectations. Also your relationship is to test you and life is ever change full i dont think you are ready for that
Most of us were raised to believe that we have a soul mate somewhere waiting for us but the truth is that first, we have to love and accept ourselves the way we are so that we are able to share our love with someone equally mature who is aware of consciousness. It took me a life of heart breaks to get here but now, though I'm 53, I totally understand what Mooji means. I've been single for 9 years and I've used this time to totally and completely heal myself and find God. Finally, God is now here, smiling as I write, the journey is far from over but every opportunity is a chance to let go of fear and trust the Divine within and outside because in presence, there is no separation.
Elizabeth Faraone There are “compatible” people all over the place. Look in the mirror. People that know how to love and are self realized can interact with many people very easily. Your over valuation of your own self assessment should be addressed. Look in the mirror.
I am on the same page. I've ever been in a relationship and I've discovered how to fulfill what I need by myself. Whenever I'll be or not in a relationship it will definitely be as an added value to my current life. That's why I'm in no rush. I know that what is true and what is authentic will find me.
@@Istayready that's the issue. You are attaching yourself to this thought, which gives you fear. And then you look for a relationship not as an added value to your life, but as a neccessity. So when the relationship ends, you feel like you lost a part of you.
I think twin flames is another illusion of separation from the whole and notions of "the one" with someone "special". It's a trend notion. We are all one and we are many too
47 years it's taken me to let go of the idea of romantic love making me complete .. very very stubborn indeed .. but right now I'm just experiencing waves of love and it's just me myself i
By realizing the truth. It is impossible to be with someone FOREVER. So Love them and leave them. Love with attachment is obsession. Obsession leads to suffering. One can never be alone. How can one be alone with 7 billion brothers and sisters. only if in the mind one considers themselves separate from others does one suffer loneliness. This obsession is a SELFISH thing because one who is obsessed is only concerned for their own happiness. So by rule of karma they inevitably suffer.
I agree with you in some respects, although love with attachment is just not love. Full stop. it can be so selfish but I also wonder sometimes if maybe when I speak this truth that i am being too harsh on another's learning as everyone is along different parts of the path. What about do no harm. I learned in the hardest way yet it seemed cruel to me. I was having this conversation with someone tonight and he thinks I was trying to be cruel so I let him think I'm a monster when to me I was showing my idea of love by cracking an illusion he had. Some don't know they're being selfish but who am I to decide that they must know the truth that I've taken so long to learn myself? Perhaps my own arrogance playing god. I don't agree that it's impossible to love forever and you always gotta love and leave, some souls do love and stay together through to the end of that particular incarnation which is that forever. There's a difference between avoiding true intimacy and love that is free of all expectation and obstruction. We dress it up sometimes to suit our agenda. I'm clearly just thinking out loud here.
people can love forever it's the receivers who can't for whatever reason. some people's middle name is love and love to love, it's about finding another who love to love without selfish conditions.
Love them and leave them? wtf, bro.. You will never know the future if y'all be together 'til death separates them. So why assume to leave this person someday?
To love unconditionally even if it’s a short time whether it stays for awhile or teachers another to love we brought in this world to love our brothers and sisters unconditionally whether it’s selfish or and selfish one must trust in the divine for guidance
The happiest times I had in my life was when I was single. Being in a relationship honestly create more problems. Being alone helps you find your true self it's meditation avoiding distraction of giving and expectations. Relationships shouldn't be a priority you come first remeber that whoever is reading.
While I do agree with the last part of your comment, that relationship shouldn't be a priority, I find that what Mooji said carries so much Truth in it, that sometimes these romantic relationships help you to identify the parts of your life where the ego rules with such great strength and you are not even aware. For ex, the insecurities and possessiveness usually bubble up in romantic relationships more easily than they do in friendships, and hence one gets a big opportunity to become aware of that part of yourself too and let it go. Otherwise it may just stay covered up for a long time.
@@abhisheksharma8374 all I'm saying is a relationship shouldn't determine who you are you should know yourself already. You can't care for others unless you can care for yourself first.
If you can understand Mooji, it means that you understand yourself. He is a complete being, an enlightened being, he is awakened. He doesn't need anybody. He is not telling the truth, he portrays himself as a truth, and you need to discover that truth into yourself.
He' is Not More God than you and me, he's not a saint. Stay grounded people. He loves chocolate and coca cola, he doesn't like exercising he is an human beiing nothing more and nothing less.
Freedom is loving all with no attachments as along as don’t allow anyone to dis respect you. I’ve been married 12 years and i learned this through trial and error
Clarity of perception, accuracy of response. That is love. seeing everything exactly as it is and accepting it in that way. Attachment only breeds suffering.
The solution to all these problems is to forge a mental link or love-bond with God, whose love towards human beings is spontaneous, absolutely unblemished, unselfish, and is the love of the Mother, Father, Friend and Guide- all in one. It is the only kind of love which elevates the person who receives it.
It's true, many people think being committed to one means you can't love others, and that is deluded and sad. That's when you get people jealously guarding their relationship, not allowing their mate to have friends of the opposite sex, etc. That is deluded, divisive, and egotistical. And in this world, most relationships are full of ego and possessiveness. But it doesn't HAVE to be that way. True commitment means UNWAVERING love, not exclusive, possessive love. Commitment is commitment to love.
Jessie, love can last. I have no doubt about that. The desire of your heart, to commit to someone, to be with someone, is not selfish or wrong. Commitment takes much more unselfishness than being a solitary spiritual seeker "avoiding attachment." In love, you can give, and grow, and you will be refined by dancing with the heart and soul needs of your beloved.
Someone might die actually. Someone got paralysed on one side of body because of sadness when her partner left her. I myself went into deep sadness and my trigeminal nerve got awakened...when I go through the pain I wish I die instead.Last time I switched into a joyful spacious full of freedom existence after non stop pain...It is only the Love of my brother whom my soul saw preparing hot beverage for me in the kitchen that brought me back to body...I was crying not from pain this time...but because I had to come back into this body and this physical existence. Attachment and Love are there for a reason. If you try to disconnect them you are creating imbalance. A mother attachment to the baby is what gives the baby a chance to survive.
Thank you Mooji. It makes so much sense to me now. When I started to love myself I no longer felt dependent on my husbands love. I thought something was wrong with our relationship. Namaste
I used to love my husband like crazy.. u see the worldly kind of love that is.. it is never lasting at all.. and when u attach yourself like that the high it brings is the same kind of fall your gonna experience sooner or later you see.. because everything is constantly changing in this world/universe.. that's just inevitable. The suffering is given so that u completely break down.. and if ur wise enough you will spring board that suffering and use it as a fuel to grow spiritually.. and experience divine love. I used to b frustrated and angry and annoyed all the time out of the disappointment of my expectations.. i started meditating trust me it was not easy at all and still i took a resolve to break the cycle that kept repeating itself in my life. Once i stated self enquiry questions that I would ask myself after and during meditation it became clear that the mind was not me.. that the body was not me what love was actually fear that i will b left alone societal pressure and the feeling that am not enough, i can go on and on.... Love shouldn't be about any of that... It shud be only given and not in the expectation that it will comeback. If that's the basis then it's merely just a transaction. And of this world. Any everything in this world has an expiry date.. everything.. even u and me as this body will fall one day that's the law of nature. * Stop watering ur grass/plants(mind) with entertainment glorifying the romantic love or familial love even.. these are purposely programmed to keep you going in circles in the hope that i will find ur ideal one day.. herd mentality is purposely induced. * Daily listen to half or one hour satsang atleast... These day u can find so much online from great enlightened beings online for free if u know what to sear instaed of getting absorbed into entertainment or Get into a community.. if possible (pls have a discerning mind as to it will help you grow or not.. pls don't get into a cult) if not learn to stay alone.. discuss and debate with yourself or others like minded as to what you learnt in that satsang that day.. ask questions and you will b suprised as to how your inner being answers them... * Read an enlightened masters work how many pages you can each day... After u finish that book go to the next master's experience... There's so much to know. The kind of inner peace is extraordinary.. in the begining your inner ego the mind will give u all sorts of obstacles and diversions.. but trust me eventually the voices will quiten down. Observe ur thoughts don't react... * Bajans or chants(whichever suits you, i have even experimented with intrumentals) hear them daily.. * Do guided meditation.. * Do breath work.. pranayama or wim Hoff(personally tired them and they are very effective..) * Meditate meditate meditate... * Use alpha beta theta sound when u go to sleep... * Most of all ask the universe the creator or god whatever u wanna call the divinity as.. to help u... To make circumstances in ur life so that u start down that down and u send u some soul to help u guide u.. and trust me u will find. Each time ur thought wanders u consciously bring it back each time.. it will b like a tug of war.. if ur dedicated enough u will conquer your mind. After a point this world or the things will stop mattering to u....
Each time I listen to this man, I get a life lesson. He is just amazing. I am so glad I found him. I just found him this week, and I discovered he lives in Portugal, where I am from. I just can't believe it. Such a gift from God.
You can be focused in a relationship, and give your all, and need someone, and all that is beautiful. It takes courage that most people don't have. And that's why these cold philosophies about not getting attached have arisen -- because most people don't have the courage to give their heart. Don't give up on what your heart knows.
Cold philosophy? Attachment equals suffering every single time. It's practically science. All he is saying is you can love without attachment. You misinterpret what attachment means you're thinking indifference.
I agree with this comment...This young guy is very wise. It's much easier to say "I really need nobody" than to love sincerely without expectations. Unfortunately in the most cases people replace love by "5 mins impacts" and here Guru's advice is the only way out. He is just discovering easy knowledge "Every person should love him or herself"...but you know guys...the problems is..the exact significance of the word "love" is lost here..
Each one lives by the guidance of their Higher Consciousness, give yourself private moments to be in tuned with the present. You need to do "Deep Breathing" and "Pranayama" this will give you deeper understanding of what "Self" wants. This Self keeps you attracted and dependent to everything. You cannot survive without this feeling! Accept everything that goes around you. Learn to feel happiness in being Alive and giving joy to the family for your support and care for each other. We all go through this feeling of freeing attachment. This is very natural, there is nothing to fear. Each one of us are captivated by the attachment of their ego. Meditation will free your negative energy and keep you feeling happy. Doing routinely all the things throughout the day is ok, but you must give a silence in your mind. This will take care of your emotions, God is mightier then ALL.
The first part of my answer is in a different comment. Ran out of space. Anyway: You can commit to one, and love all at the same time. Commitment is simply holding yourself accountable to love someone, through challenges, through joys. Commitment is to NOT go with the whims of your ego. To commit to loving someone is not selfish, it is TRANSCENDING selfishness and whimsicalness, in order to be trustworthy to those you love.
I'm surprised because I actually agree with him. I love him for this. I'm here in life present day now. I've been here a bit, so I can definitely say he's right. Most people closest to me don't even know my deepest feelings on this topic. I talk to people, ask questions, but I never really share all of me. This video is definitely on point.
Love is within us, you have to be selfish in order to find that. Just helping random people may not make you realize your love if you are just doing it out of conditioning. You must know yourself and love yourself before you can love others.
Ow! Do you really think loving people and leaving them is good? I find that so heartbreaking, it makes me want to cry just to think about it. Do you really think no one could love anyone for their whole life? That makes human beings out to be such unloving creatures. Even some birds will love their mate for their lifetime. I mean, I think people should be able to rely on each other.
All the commitment phobes like myself find this all very convenient. Maybe after all this time we are not commitment phobes at all but just appreciate our freedom. Freedom or fear of true intimacy, who knows...
Such beautiful truths, thank you Mooji, With or without a partner I choose to experience joy but it hasn't always been that way for me.. Loving someone out of desperateness, I think they're calling that codependency now, I've been there and it is the worst kind of feeling, but in experiencing it, and the loss of it, I began to find God and the goodness within myself, so my soul is grateful for the lesson. It's like you say here, those kinds of relationships teach us so much about who we are, or the patterns we repeat and the things in ourselves that call to be examined. Thank you. Love to all spirits in human form, Lori
Die Angst davor irgendetwas zu verlieren macht immer mehr Angst...mehr Angst mehr Angst und immer ärmer im selbst... das brauchen von etwas oder jemand macht uns immer wieder abhängig und bringt Schmerz...und wenn du alles los lässt dann ist in dir innerer Frieden ❤
Boy oh boy you said it. Yes there is love for need, housing enough of whatever you need. You get used to each other and stay stuck even before passing over. Since awakening I have no needs not met by our Creator. I am devoted to Love. People are not Love to me any longer, The Great I Am is Love. God is Love. When: IS
I think this lady are maybe co-dependant like i was. If you are reading this, look up Lisa A Romano on youtube. It helped me a lot. Good luck on your journey xxx
Mooji is some wise dude! Here is my take on this, not sure how I arrived on these videos though haha but any way. I think if you are true to your self and genuinely love your partner with no hidden agenda and your partner is the same, then you will never get hurt. But if you are casual,devious and not sincere then ultimately you will leave your self open to being hurt where love is concerned. Some people often mistake Lust for Love, then wonder why their heart gets broken. Good Video!
So you agree that those who need relationships are EGO maniacs. True Love is free of commitment. Any commitment is relative to the future. Life in the present requires NO Commitment. To have a commitment to one, means to interfere with, or have no such commitment to others. The relationship you speak of bonds you to one but separates you from the rest. A division at the root of ALL conflict on earth. Love thy neighbor as thy self. Unconditional love for all is the WAY. I love you! Namaste.
When you learn how most people are, you will hold that attachment close to your heart to guard it. You can do both...love deeply and freely however that "attachment= self love" will cover you.
You are LUCKY to be single as it's a good opportunity to deepen your awareness and CULTIVATE WHOLENESS with yourself however being in a relationship with a partner is an important tool of consciousness, which helps to exposes aspects of yourself needing development, that other types of relationships would not expose so well. The additional strength and support u can get from a partner is lovely but we should also learn to support love and support ourselves too.
live your life, trust yourself that you will attract what you need, once you start trusting yourself then it is easy to not to let your mind set the stage for your life out of fear that it HAS to be a certain way for things to be right/good/perfect. Things will be right because they will be right when they need to right, go with your instinct and TRUST yourself. In your wholeness so shall you also attract wholeness and love into your life because you are true to your essence and needs :)
i have heard him more than once say people are lucky if they are not in a relationship.i dont know if he is in one but if she hears this it means he is not happy with her i would be sad if i heard my man say this ..
I must say in my opinion this is a bit preachy and might not really apply to people in real life. Of COURSE we're gonna form attachments, and rely on others to fulfill some of our needs- it's kinda the thing that's helped us survive all through history.. and you cant love yourself if no one has shown you that you are in fact loveable first(can be a friend, therapist etc and not just romantic partner)
It’s impossible to REALLY love someone without becoming bonded to them, and emotionally implicated. Mooji is not equipped to help with relationships; he’s avoided them himself. His answer, to have total space, is not satisfying to anyone who wants the tenderness and bonding that is natural in personal love. Don’t douse your heart the way he recommends. There ARE ways to make a relationship good, but withdrawing from the relationship is not one of them - neither is becoming callous or unfeeling.
He' is Not More God than you and me, he's not a saint. Stay grounded people. He loves chocolate and coca cola, has diabetics, he doesn't like exercising he is an human beiing who knows who he is, nothing more and nothing less. He teachers others about it maybe that separates him from the millions of others who also know the truth About life/ themselves but are quiet about it in that way but maybe are 'helping' others in less big visually ways Just like we all are who knows ourselves Mooiji spreads love and understanding 💕 🐒🐕🐾🍃🍂Namaste ✌🏼
My partner has PTSD and needless to say our relationship is challenged on a regular basis. His impulsiveness and instability is such that it brings much confusion for him in many realms. He has not learned about boundaries and lives with much shame and guilt. I am the one who tries to bring the missing elements and have invested much energy, time and money (from my credit mostly) and this puts me in a protective mode when threats to this relationship arise (real or non real). I am not desperate at all and often think I should terminate this very difficult relationship but it seems that when we part, we both cannot bear it. How uncomfortable is that? This has been going on for almost 5 years. I think I know who I am and I prefer to save my energy for people I care about deeply like my children and partner - I don't see anything wrong or limiting with that. I also take time to offer assistance and comfort in any way I can when the opportunity arise but I don't call that love.
+zabelicious I'm in a situation similar to this. I have to deal with verbal abuse frequently and most of all my partner loves to relinquish all accountability and just blame me and justify his actions. It is difficult to stay with someone like this. I have contemplated many times leaving.
Subconscious vs conscious mind. One tells you what to do based on programming. The other is mindful of what you do, based on the terrain your treading on.
I have been so lucky to ne alone at 46 and he is so right. All past relationships have bitten me, but also awakened me. Now, I dont mind if I am single til my last breath
At the end of a great concert you aren't mourning the loss of the concert are you? You are grateful to have been there . Happy to have had this beautiful experience for however long it lasted. In the same way you can regard the loss of people you love, you can rejoice in all the wonderful experiences you've had with them, and be grateful for what they brought into your life, instead of being sad about not getting more of it.
Love this analogy...I wholehearted feel this too.
" When someone leaves you, you're not going to die" -Yes. 🙏
111.micarl feels like it lol at first
@@nativechique7589 hahahaha
I'm not afraid to die I'm afraid of staying without this specific person in my life forever.
111.micarl lmaooo yes
odel levi they are not the key to your life. You are. Stay strong & get introspective
Yes. However the confusion here is the definition of love. What most people consider love, is actually obsession derived from a fear based reality. The fear of being alone. There is nothing to fear for one is always alone. Even in a relationship you are alone. You are born alone and die alone. Face it, accept it , overcome it and free yourself from this fear. Only then will you be loveable. A free person lives in the moment and is VERY loveable by ALL. I love you . Namaste.
Au contraire My Friend❣ Appearances deceive. We are never alone and ever one. One day, we all arrive at our Enlightenment and release death and fear. With this, we no longer tolerate ours or others delusions without intervening to aid. For their hurt and fear is ours, and ours is theirs. This latter is most important to be able to overcome on out own to help others, to know what to do.
Rs
One is not alone in spirit
anyone in a relationship and they feel alone, "get out"...point-blank
Hare Krishna 💙🕉
I used to this this way about been born alone, but I don't anymore. I understand that many people stay in relationships out of dear of being alone or accept things that they shouldn't accept. This part I agree with and when we can love without the fears of losing someone, losing some status, losing something, accept another with attachment yet detachment or rather the form of attachment that transcends normally what we perceive love is about (in the 3D sense)etc. Then if we are able to transcend the 3D reality based love, there are those who can achieve love which can be eternal. Coz I have started to believe that love actually never dies. We will always love those who we have loved, that's the kind of love that different religions have tried to teach people. We may have to move on from their lives or we may forget about them and they may forget about us eventually after we die, but the love never leaves us. When my parent and grandparents died with their death the love I had for them or that they had for me didn't die, that's the energy that doesn't die.
"You will not compromise your truth, for anyone".
Wow never thought this thank you
Interesting, because these same words could be used about the love that's about attachment too. I agree there are different kinds of love and we don't need to be attached to only the one form of romantic love. But what if someone's truth is to find the soul with whom they can have a life with romantic love? What if that's the role they wanted to play in the illusion of life?
@@Esprite9 I believe it is not a matter of "wanting", but a matter of discovering what is it that makes our hearts in peace and wholeness, because there lays our role in this life. If that is next to a person, our bodies will let us know, we won't have doubts, it will feel clear. But when fear is being felt, then we know that is time to let go of those situations and come back to self. And when we feel peace with our own selves, then naturally we will attract external situations, people, places, that match those vibrations and that does feel right and peaceful, but that thanks to that WE are in peace alone.
@@Esprite9 you will not find the truth with such high expectations. Also your relationship is to test you and life is ever change full i dont think you are ready for that
Most of us were raised to believe that we have a soul mate somewhere waiting for us but the truth is that first, we have to love and accept ourselves the way we are so that we are able to share our love with someone equally mature who is aware of consciousness. It took me a life of heart breaks to get here but now, though I'm 53, I totally understand what Mooji means. I've been single for 9 years and I've used this time to totally and completely heal myself and find God. Finally, God is now here, smiling as I write, the journey is far from over but every opportunity is a chance to let go of fear and trust the Divine within and outside because in presence, there is no separation.
godspeed, thank you for sharing
I like what you said. Good for you. And God is always there we just have to be conscious of His presence
I’ve been single for over 20 years. It’s nice. If I found someone compatible with me, that would be nice too. I’m very happy.
What 20years??? How is it possible???why did you decided or you were not being approached
Thulani Mawelela but she's been having casual sex. That's wah she didn't add
Elizabeth Faraone There are “compatible” people all over the place. Look in the mirror. People that know how to love and are self realized can interact with many people very easily. Your over valuation of your own self assessment should be addressed. Look in the mirror.
I am on the same page. I've ever been in a relationship and I've discovered how to fulfill what I need by myself. Whenever I'll be or not in a relationship it will definitely be as an added value to my current life. That's why I'm in no rush. I know that what is true and what is authentic will find me.
@@Istayready that's the issue. You are attaching yourself to this thought, which gives you fear. And then you look for a relationship not as an added value to your life, but as a neccessity. So when the relationship ends, you feel like you lost a part of you.
When you realise you are complete, love for another can only compliment your wholeness ❤ #twinflamelove
HOW TO REALIZE????? WHAT to do to realize it????
What are twin flames in disguise?
I think twin flames is another illusion of separation from the whole and notions of "the one" with someone "special". It's a trend notion. We are all one and we are many too
Kooky Vidz l agree. We are the One we been looking for!
Exactly 🔥🔥
47 years it's taken me to let go of the idea of romantic love making me complete .. very very stubborn indeed .. but right now I'm just experiencing waves of love and it's just me myself i
mat B better late than never
Are u in a relationship now
By realizing the truth. It is impossible to be with someone FOREVER. So Love them and leave them. Love with attachment is obsession. Obsession leads to suffering. One can never be alone. How can one be alone with 7 billion brothers and sisters. only if in the mind one considers themselves separate from others does one suffer loneliness. This obsession is a SELFISH thing because one who is obsessed is only concerned for their own happiness. So by rule of karma they inevitably suffer.
I agree with you in some respects, although love with attachment is just not love. Full stop. it can be so selfish but I also wonder sometimes if maybe when I speak this truth that i am being too harsh on another's learning as everyone is along different parts of the path. What about do no harm. I learned in the hardest way yet it seemed cruel to me. I was having this conversation with someone tonight and he thinks I was trying to be cruel so I let him think I'm a monster when to me I was showing my idea of love by cracking an illusion he had. Some don't know they're being selfish but who am I to decide that they must know the truth that I've taken so long to learn myself? Perhaps my own arrogance playing god. I don't agree that it's impossible to love forever and you always gotta love and leave, some souls do love and stay together through to the end of that particular incarnation which is that forever. There's a difference between avoiding true intimacy and love that is free of all expectation and obstruction. We dress it up sometimes to suit our agenda. I'm clearly just thinking out loud here.
people can love forever it's the receivers who can't for whatever reason. some people's middle name is love and love to love, it's about finding another who love to love without selfish conditions.
Love them and leave them? wtf, bro.. You will never know the future if y'all be together 'til death separates them. So why assume to leave this person someday?
Rule of karma? What other rules are there??
To love unconditionally even if it’s a short time whether it stays for awhile or teachers another to love we brought in this world to love our brothers and sisters unconditionally whether it’s selfish or and selfish one must trust in the divine for guidance
The happiest times I had in my life was when I was single. Being in a relationship honestly create more problems. Being alone helps you find your true self it's meditation avoiding distraction of giving and expectations. Relationships shouldn't be a priority you come first remeber that whoever is reading.
While I do agree with the last part of your comment, that relationship shouldn't be a priority, I find that what Mooji said carries so much Truth in it, that sometimes these romantic relationships help you to identify the parts of your life where the ego rules with such great strength and you are not even aware. For ex, the insecurities and possessiveness usually bubble up in romantic relationships more easily than they do in friendships, and hence one gets a big opportunity to become aware of that part of yourself too and let it go. Otherwise it may just stay covered up for a long time.
@@abhisheksharma8374 all I'm saying is a relationship shouldn't determine who you are you should know yourself already. You can't care for others unless you can care for yourself first.
The way he kept eye contact... the power of that!
If you can understand Mooji, it means that you understand yourself. He is a complete being, an enlightened being, he is awakened. He doesn't need anybody. He is not telling the truth, he portrays himself as a truth, and you need to discover that truth into yourself.
Aleksandar Djurdjevic
Very well perceived.
Aleksandar Djurdjevic amazing ❤️❤️
He maybe lived through experience
Wow♥️
He' is Not More God than you and me, he's not a saint. Stay grounded people. He loves chocolate and coca cola, he doesn't like exercising he is an human beiing nothing more and nothing less.
"Don't let the mind set the stage for your life because it will always be a limitation" ~Mooji ♥
Elloooo😃
Freedom is loving all with no attachments as along as don’t allow anyone to dis respect you. I’ve been married 12 years and i learned this through trial and error
Thank you!!
love is freedom, truth... What an exceptional explanation said here. When you know who you are, all attachment falls away...
His peace just transferred to me 💙
Clarity of perception, accuracy of response. That is love. seeing everything exactly as it is and accepting it in that way. Attachment only breeds suffering.
InThe Mudra Quoting this. 💛
The solution to all these problems is to forge a mental link or love-bond with God, whose love towards human beings is spontaneous, absolutely unblemished, unselfish, and is the love of the Mother, Father, Friend and Guide- all in one. It is the only kind of love which elevates the person who receives it.
It's true, many people think being committed to one means you can't love others, and that is deluded and sad. That's when you get people jealously guarding their relationship, not allowing their mate to have friends of the opposite sex, etc. That is deluded, divisive, and egotistical. And in this world, most relationships are full of ego and possessiveness. But it doesn't HAVE to be that way. True commitment means UNWAVERING love, not exclusive, possessive love. Commitment is commitment to love.
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Ok let me show you're girl some love then Mr not exclusive haha. Boundaries and preferences aren't bad. You seem nihilistic
this guy knows his shit
xyne primavera wasn’t going to watch but your comment made me stay.
Wow. His words brought tears to my eyes.
Jessie, love can last. I have no doubt about that. The desire of your heart, to commit to someone, to be with someone, is not selfish or wrong. Commitment takes much more unselfishness than being a solitary spiritual seeker "avoiding attachment." In love, you can give, and grow, and you will be refined by dancing with the heart and soul needs of your beloved.
This☝️
Someone might die actually.
Someone got paralysed on one side of body because of sadness when her partner left her.
I myself went into deep sadness and my trigeminal nerve got awakened...when I go through the pain I wish I die instead.Last time I switched into a joyful spacious full of freedom existence after non stop pain...It is only the Love of my brother whom my soul saw preparing hot beverage for me in the kitchen that brought me back to body...I was crying not from pain this time...but because I had to come back into this body and this physical existence.
Attachment and Love are there for a reason. If you try to disconnect them you are creating imbalance. A mother attachment to the baby is what gives the baby a chance to survive.
Love your coment 😊😘
@@mirtefrommelt549 ⚖️is key
Almost same experience 😊
The hardest lesson for me...
Bart van der Horst me too
Thank you Mooji. It makes so much sense to me now. When I started to love myself I no longer felt dependent on my husbands love. I thought something was wrong with our relationship.
Namaste
explain me how to reach that Sara. I want to learn to love myself, still cant!
I set the intention to learn this in 2019.
How is that going for you Sara? I hope you can still reply after so long.
@@hazielivich3711 I wish people could share this experience here. Cos I can't learn it either. I just do not understand what it is...
I used to love my husband like crazy.. u see the worldly kind of love that is.. it is never lasting at all.. and when u attach yourself like that the high it brings is the same kind of fall your gonna experience sooner or later you see.. because everything is constantly changing in this world/universe.. that's just inevitable. The suffering is given so that u completely break down.. and if ur wise enough you will spring board that suffering and use it as a fuel to grow spiritually.. and experience divine love.
I used to b frustrated and angry and annoyed all the time out of the disappointment of my expectations.. i started meditating trust me it was not easy at all and still i took a resolve to break the cycle that kept repeating itself in my life. Once i stated self enquiry questions that I would ask myself after and during meditation it became clear that the mind was not me.. that the body was not me what love was actually fear that i will b left alone societal pressure and the feeling that am not enough, i can go on and on.... Love shouldn't be about any of that... It shud be only given and not in the expectation that it will comeback. If that's the basis then it's merely just a transaction. And of this world. Any everything in this world has an expiry date.. everything.. even u and me as this body will fall one day that's the law of nature.
* Stop watering ur grass/plants(mind) with entertainment glorifying the romantic love or familial love even.. these are purposely programmed to keep you going in circles in the hope that i will find ur ideal one day.. herd mentality is purposely induced.
* Daily listen to half or one hour satsang atleast... These day u can find so much online from great enlightened beings online for free if u know what to sear instaed of getting absorbed into entertainment or Get into a community.. if possible (pls have a discerning mind as to it will help you grow or not.. pls don't get into a cult) if not learn to stay alone.. discuss and debate with yourself or others like minded as to what you learnt in that satsang that day.. ask questions and you will b suprised as to how your inner being answers them...
* Read an enlightened masters work how many pages you can each day... After u finish that book go to the next master's experience... There's so much to know. The kind of inner peace is extraordinary.. in the begining your inner ego the mind will give u all sorts of obstacles and diversions.. but trust me eventually the voices will quiten down. Observe ur thoughts don't react...
* Bajans or chants(whichever suits you, i have even experimented with intrumentals) hear them daily..
* Do guided meditation..
* Do breath work.. pranayama or wim Hoff(personally tired them and they are very effective..)
* Meditate meditate meditate...
* Use alpha beta theta sound when u go to sleep...
* Most of all ask the universe the creator or god whatever u wanna call the divinity as.. to help u... To make circumstances in ur life so that u start down that down and u send u some soul to help u guide u.. and trust me u will find.
Each time ur thought wanders u consciously bring it back each time.. it will b like a tug of war.. if ur dedicated enough u will conquer your mind.
After a point this world or the things will stop mattering to u....
I’m on a journey to come home fully to myself 🥰
🥰🥰meetoo
So glad the universe pointed me to this video today. Self Love to Self Realisation first. Ok. Here goes!
Each time I listen to this man, I get a life lesson. He is just amazing. I am so glad I found him. I just found him this week, and I discovered he lives in Portugal, where I am from. I just can't believe it. Such a gift from God.
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You can be focused in a relationship, and give your all, and need someone, and all that is beautiful. It takes courage that most people don't have. And that's why these cold philosophies about not getting attached have arisen -- because most people don't have the courage to give their heart. Don't give up on what your heart knows.
YES! You put into words my doubts about the points made in this video
Thank you
Cold philosophy? Attachment equals suffering every single time. It's practically science. All he is saying is you can love without attachment. You misinterpret what attachment means you're thinking indifference.
I just wanna hug him🥺🥺🥺
He’s so peaceful so calm you feel like home with him❤️❤️❤️❤️
I agree with this comment...This young guy is very wise. It's much easier to say "I really need nobody" than to love sincerely without expectations. Unfortunately in the most cases people replace love by "5 mins impacts" and here Guru's advice is the only way out. He is just discovering easy knowledge "Every person should love him or herself"...but you know guys...the problems is..the exact significance of the word "love" is lost here..
Anna Lucky hard pressed to find acceptance of the idea of words that are no longer useful, especially widely-used ones like love.
Each one lives by the guidance of their Higher Consciousness, give yourself private moments to be in tuned with the present. You need to do "Deep Breathing" and "Pranayama" this will give you deeper understanding of what "Self" wants. This Self keeps you attracted and dependent to everything. You cannot survive without this feeling! Accept everything that goes around you. Learn to feel happiness in being Alive and giving joy to the family for your support and care for each other. We all go through this feeling of freeing attachment. This is very natural, there is nothing to fear.
Each one of us are captivated by the attachment of their ego. Meditation will free your negative energy and keep you feeling happy. Doing routinely all the things throughout the day is ok, but you must give a silence in your mind. This will take care of your emotions, God is mightier then ALL.
The first part of my answer is in a different comment. Ran out of space. Anyway: You can commit to one, and love all at the same time. Commitment is simply holding yourself accountable to love someone, through challenges, through joys. Commitment is to NOT go with the whims of your ego. To commit to loving someone is not selfish, it is TRANSCENDING selfishness and whimsicalness, in order to be trustworthy to those you love.
Wassup
My favorite. I watch this over and over. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm surprised because I actually agree with him. I love him for this. I'm here in life present day now. I've been here a bit, so I can definitely say he's right. Most people closest to me don't even know my deepest feelings on this topic. I talk to people, ask questions, but I never really share all of me. This video is definitely on point.
Love Liberates - Maya Angeloue 🌸
The meat of the nut. Perfect❣ 🙆♀️🙋♀️
Love is within us, you have to be selfish in order to find that. Just helping random people may not make you realize your love if you are just doing it out of conditioning. You must know yourself and love yourself before you can love others.
“You will not compromise your truth for anyone.”
that in itself speaks volumes
YES YES YES - thanks soooo much Mooji - for all of your sharings: ..... don't compromise your truth for anyone .... !!!!!
'you will not compromise your truth for anyone' - truest truth
Sometimes I feel like people ask certain questions just to see if he has an answer for them... Because he always has an beautiful answer.
A bird lands nearby
you feel love.
The bird flies away,
you smile.
This is love without attachment.
Ow! Do you really think loving people and leaving them is good? I find that so heartbreaking, it makes me want to cry just to think about it. Do you really think no one could love anyone for their whole life? That makes human beings out to be such unloving creatures. Even some birds will love their mate for their lifetime. I mean, I think people should be able to rely on each other.
This is exactly what I needed. Namaste Mooji.
All the commitment phobes like myself find this all very convenient. Maybe after all this time we are not commitment phobes at all but just appreciate our freedom. Freedom or fear of true intimacy, who knows...
Such beautiful truths, thank you Mooji, With or without a partner I choose to experience joy but it hasn't always been that way for me.. Loving someone out of desperateness, I think they're calling that codependency now, I've been there and it is the worst kind of feeling, but in experiencing it, and the loss of it, I began to find God and the goodness within myself, so my soul is grateful for the lesson. It's like you say here, those kinds of relationships teach us so much about who we are, or the patterns we repeat and the things in ourselves that call to be examined. Thank you. Love to all spirits in human form, Lori
4:14 He says this and pauses. That pause has so much compassion for her.
Die Angst davor irgendetwas zu verlieren macht immer mehr Angst...mehr Angst mehr Angst und immer ärmer im selbst... das brauchen von etwas oder jemand macht uns immer wieder abhängig und bringt Schmerz...und wenn du alles los lässt dann ist in dir innerer Frieden ❤
Dang that hit hard 😭 don't know how I came across this video but woowwww I needed this.
Love Mooji. I hope to meet him one day. His Satsang are so helpful.🤗
I don’t how he got on my video feed but I’m glad he is very wise man. 🙏🏾💯🌻
Circling back here again :-) 10 months later
Romantic love is the unreal love, ( fleeting ego based)
..like coming home.
Truth is so comforting. : )
Oh Love, peace ,serenity! What a great man!
This was so powerful & the end made me cry for some reason
Celisse Willis because you understood and became happy ♥️ and when we are happy , our soul is happy, and love enters with tears
... so much wisdom shared
Boy oh boy you said it. Yes there is love for need, housing enough of whatever you need. You get used to each other and stay stuck even before passing over. Since awakening I have no needs not met by our Creator. I am devoted to Love. People are not Love to me any longer, The Great I Am is Love. God is Love. When: IS
Indeed.🙏🏻 felt it through my heart. The love from being. Much love for all of us.
Wow 😳 totally got this message. My ultimate goal is to be able to love selflessly, unconditionally.
I think this lady are maybe co-dependant like i was. If you are reading this, look up Lisa A Romano on youtube. It helped me a lot. Good luck on your journey xxx
Look up selflove (channel) as well
Now that you say this, I can see it in her, too. You are very perceptive.
Mooji is some wise dude! Here is my take on this, not sure how I arrived on these videos though haha but any way. I think if you are true to your self and genuinely love your partner with no hidden agenda and your partner is the same, then you will never get hurt. But if you are casual,devious and not sincere then ultimately you will leave your self open to being hurt where love is concerned. Some people often mistake Lust for Love, then wonder why their heart gets broken. Good Video!
So you agree that those who need relationships are EGO maniacs. True Love is free of commitment. Any commitment is relative to the future. Life in the present requires NO Commitment. To have a commitment to one, means to interfere with, or have no such commitment to others. The relationship you speak of bonds you to one but separates you from the rest. A division at the root of ALL conflict on earth. Love thy neighbor as thy self. Unconditional love for all is the WAY. I love you! Namaste.
People learn to be alone but not lonely..all these people seem broken..learn to love yourself..then you can be loved and love another..
🥰Today I came across Mooji for the very first time ever and it was NOT a coincidence....3rd video in👽🖖🏽💜💞♍
THE REBEL same me too!!
When you learn how most people are, you will hold that attachment close to your heart to guard it. You can do both...love deeply and freely however that "attachment= self love" will cover you.
You are LUCKY to be single as it's a good opportunity to deepen your awareness and CULTIVATE WHOLENESS with yourself however being in a relationship with a partner is an important tool of consciousness, which helps to exposes aspects of yourself needing development, that other types of relationships would not expose so well. The additional strength and support u can get from a partner is lovely but we should also learn to support love and support ourselves too.
yes, om namaste.
I honor you Mooji and i honor your words of wisdom .... 🙏
live your life, trust yourself that you will attract what you need, once you start trusting yourself then it is easy to not to let your mind set the stage for your life out of fear that it HAS to be a certain way for things to be right/good/perfect. Things will be right because they will be right when they need to right, go with your instinct and TRUST yourself. In your wholeness so shall you also attract wholeness and love into your life because you are true to your essence and needs :)
Powerful truth recipe for True freedom spoken in love. I'm grateful for the confirmation thank you!
Expectations are such a pain...yup 😂
i have heard him more than once say people are lucky if they are not in a relationship.i dont know if he is in one but if she hears this it means he is not happy with her i would be sad if i heard my man say this ..
I must say in my opinion this is a bit preachy and might not really apply to people in real life. Of COURSE we're gonna form attachments, and rely on others to fulfill some of our needs- it's kinda the thing that's helped us survive all through history.. and you cant love yourself if no one has shown you that you are in fact loveable first(can be a friend, therapist etc and not just romantic partner)
It’s impossible to REALLY love someone without becoming bonded to them, and emotionally implicated. Mooji is not equipped to help with relationships; he’s avoided them himself. His answer, to have total space, is not satisfying to anyone who wants the tenderness and bonding that is natural in personal love. Don’t douse your heart the way he recommends. There ARE ways to make a relationship good, but withdrawing from the relationship is not one of them - neither is becoming callous or unfeeling.
Eve Goodman read Bhagavad gita it will teach you how to love without attachment.
I believe you are right
Love your interpretation, Eve.
Said it the best way I could understand it🎯
when i saw myself that is consciousness in every other being I began to love all and look past their form :)
Love you mooji baba 😍
He' is Not More God than you and me, he's not a saint. Stay grounded people. He loves chocolate and coca cola, has diabetics, he doesn't like exercising he is an human beiing who knows who he is, nothing more and nothing less. He teachers others about it maybe that separates him from the millions of others who also know the truth
About life/
themselves but are quiet about it in that way but maybe are 'helping' others in less big visually ways
Just like we all are who knows ourselves Mooiji spreads love and understanding 💕 🐒🐕🐾🍃🍂Namaste ✌🏼
❤ oratory skills with wisdom!
This was beautiful. I listened to the ending on repeat a couple times.
Fact you cannot compromise yourself for anyone! Fact Thanks Brother!
"You won't compromise your truth for anyone".
Love without a purpose so they need a purpose look forward not backwards God will lead the way
This is good I needed this thank you 🙏🏽
~Freedom is love~
Comme il a raison ..... l'Amour est, et inclut l'amour...Merci de traduire cela, vous m'avez permis de découvrir Mooji, et cela m'aide énormément.
sir, i like your speech ,sir you are such a mooji parsan love you so much....and i following you in my life
My partner has PTSD and needless to say our relationship is challenged on a regular basis. His impulsiveness and instability is such that it brings much confusion for him in many realms. He has not learned about boundaries and lives with much shame and guilt. I am the one who tries to bring the missing elements and have invested much energy, time and money (from my credit mostly) and this puts me in a protective mode when threats to this relationship arise (real or non real). I am not desperate at all and often think I should terminate this very difficult relationship but it seems that when we part, we both cannot bear it. How uncomfortable is that? This has been going on for almost 5 years. I think I know who I am and I prefer to save my energy for people I care about deeply like my children and partner - I don't see anything wrong or limiting with that. I also take time to offer assistance and comfort in any way I can when the opportunity arise but I don't call that love.
That's beautiful
+zabelicious You may not be "desperate" but it sounds like you're "dependent." Strive for #interdependence.
+zabelicious I'm in a situation similar to this. I have to deal with verbal abuse frequently and most of all my partner loves to relinquish all accountability and just blame me and justify his actions. It is difficult to stay with someone like this. I have contemplated many times leaving.
T Roby
Very good
Subconscious vs conscious mind. One tells you what to do based on programming. The other is mindful of what you do, based on the terrain your treading on.
I have been so lucky to ne alone at 46 and he is so right. All past relationships have bitten me, but also awakened me. Now, I dont mind if I am single til my last breath
Mooji, you are beautiful and you remind me of the beauty within myself. Thank you. :)
don't bother looking for one. and just listen to mooji's words open heartily. judgement in others means judgment in ourself.
Just rings with clarity
This is so beautiful!
4:45 some very deep words.
6 may 2022
Love without expectation and attachments, so when someone leaves you you're not going to die
Toxic relationship is definitely a lesson
Cosmos greetings and thanks for the important information.