17 AND PREGNANT! | TELLING MY NIGERIAN PARENTS, LABOUR AND BIRTH, FORCED TO MARRY YOUNG!
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- Опубликовано: 25 окт 2024
- Sharing my story as a pregnant teenager coming from a very traditional African household. How I found out I was pregnant and juggled studying, and social life during my pregnancy as well trying to hold down a few jobs with a toddler.
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African parents want you to get married but they don't want you to go out, just stay home and Download ↓your Husband 😠😠
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I know where u coming from had my son at 18 and I'm Haitian trust me my family is just like urs I'm 42 now my son is 25 and my dad still complaining about how I had him at 18 lol
Trust No one your dad still complains 😂😂😂 aww parents will be parents I guess. Lol
lol i had my son at 26/27 my ppl complain
me too
😂😂😂😂😂 lmaoooo.
Trust No one 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Please, I got pregnant at 23 and it was the end of the world! My mom made it all about herself and worried about how "bad" that would make her look ...now she's can't have enough of my son
23 ain't that young
@@princesschi7689 Some parents care more about the fact that it’s out of wedlock
I'm *not* crying, it's these onions... honestly! 😭
Omg this was a bit emotional but she's strong. The mother and son moment is goals ❤️❤️❤️
The ending with Koko made me tear up... The video was wonderful and Esther you look fab! x
ola I adore that your avi is Jimin 😏
he's my bias
same when I saw coco it made me instantly emotional!
Same here
ola im in tears also
The end made me cry 😭😭😭😭😭. God bless you for sharing your story
Youtuby J to
L was in the same situation, when l lost my mum for my very young age . it wasn't easy for me at all ,for losing my mum and became pregnant! but, for my struggle, iam the winner, Now my son is a medical doctor! Glory be to almighty God, iam blessed!!
I was pregnant in school, I was 15 years old and had my son at 16 years old. My son is lovely and I have a degree, been living alone since my son was born (since I was 16) Iv always worked and I'm quite ambitious but all my life I have faced nothing but discrimination due to being a teenage mum. In all my job roles (corporate jobs banking law etc) everyone is your friend until your 18 years and you tell someone your child is 2 years old and as my son gets older it has got worse. My son is nearly as tall as me and when we are out together and people ask my age and they look at my son like it is my brother but his my son but I just laugh at discrimination just like
Racism I realised these things will never end. I was full time at college working and a full time mum aged 16.
Bianca Johnson love and strength to you ❤
Golden states warriors bandwagon Destroyer please go play in traffic. Bianca, just keep on striving and ignore the judgemental people.
mfranc1971 thank you 😘😘
Grace Ncubuka thank you 😘😘
mfranc1971 it's ok they will come to me when they want a mortgage# sorry your application was declined 🤦🏾♀️😂
I swear I'm not crying..such a blessing that boy! You didn't talk about ur dads reaction, I understand hmmm. The African community can be so close minded sometimes. Imagine how many young girls have had abortions cos of fear of their parents reaction and the community. And these same parents and community that "judge"us don't teach and talk to us young girls about having safe sex and relationships. You are very strong and brave for keeping Koko regardless of what people said and I applaud you for that. Keep winning sis!!
Whyyyyyy 😩. When he kissed you my heart melted and my eyes began sweating.
Girl, "SOME" Nigerians will hide a pregnancy even when they're married and 30, lol it's cray! "all things work for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. "
Mitch and Yetunde True
Why would they be ashamed if they married tho 😆
Girl, they're superstitious...I too don't get it oh! lol
Dnt blame pple. Its our background. Always thinking something might go wrong. My mum n mum inlaw are verrryyy protective and against my husband and i posting any pictures on social medial showing my bump
Well, at least they're just talking about social media. I know a woman who didn't come to church the duration of her pregnancy.
He's so smart and handsome! He looks almost exactly like you. Your so strong I can't even deal!! I'm so happy you shared! The end was amazzzinggg. #newsubbie
I want to say a LOT. But all I will say is this touched me BEYOND & may God continue to bless you & Koko...This video is so emotional
Godbless U and koko. And my date of birth is 6th of April too. Am koko' s birthday mate. Godbless U him ABUNDANTLY. AMEN
Your son will bring you endless joy . Glad you did not terminate him. God will give you strength to raise him as a young gentleman.
aaawwwww the audio at the end
immi's snow globe I loved that
A while ago, we spoke on sc about how cool your mom is and not like the typical Naija mom, this pretty much proves it. I was pregnant at a young age too, my mom was obligated to help before my son was born. When I went into labor, she spent the whole 10 hours calling me ashewo and yelling at me, saying that's what I get for having sex. Mind you, I was 19, working (I was in the Navy), and in my own apartment where she was staying with ME. Your mom is a true gem! Great story, big deal then but not now. Koko is adorable! My kid is in college and I couldn't be prouder.
Snap 2 Tube I'm sorry your mother wasn't a comfort to you that's awful how she treated her own flesh and blood with such disrespect 💔but mad respect to you for pulling through May God bless you🙏❤
Omg
Calling you ashewoo? Thats wrong
Beautiful. The Nigerian community can be very unforgiving but thank God that all things work together for our good
I was reading the comments about people crying at the end while also watching the video and I thought "oh I'm probably not going to cry since I know what's coming at the end"...cried like a baby. That was so heart warming ❤️
The end was so heartwarming! Thank you for sharing
That's the thing about African parents, although they want the best for there children they have a very bad habit about pride and if they don't like something there don't try and compromise. I'm a black women and I was a young mum but here in uk black British parents are understanding even though I was 16 years old (my son is 10 years old) where as African parents don't really want to accept teenage pregnancy and they don't understand that their 'shame' can Destoy ones self esteem and leave one feeling useless. That's why some African women don't deal with the parents because of that reason.
Golden states warriors bandwagon Destroyer Being a teenage Mum is not normal here. Teenage pregnancy had been dropping over the years but if it does happen they are not looked at with respect
Bianca Johnson what do mean by black British?
Golden states warriors bandwagon Destroyer I was not thinking about the government when I fell pregnant 1) hence why I have a degree... I have never looked to the government for nothing 2) what you are saying is very stereotypical as you believe people think about the government when they have a baby in the uk... sorry but when the rich get pregnant they don't think about the governments and it depends on you as a person and your aspirations and if you are from a family who have relied on the government all their life... for me I'm a very ambitious well educated women and the government never once came into my mind and even when I had my son I never involed the government I did everything my self worked never claim benefits, for a degree, rented my own house all as a single mother. Even know my son is 10 years old I have never relied on the education system here although he goes to school I teach him over what they teach them... the government can not suppress me and thanks for your opinion.
Golden states warriors bandwagon Destroyer 😘lol I can see how offended people are maybe because I'm doing great for me and my son people are hating 😂😂😂😂I'm sorry that I'm not your average statistic, holla at me when you want mortgage or advice on law since that's my field :)
Golden states warriors bandwagon Destroyer actually don't approach me I was a teen mum and we are contagious 😂😂😂😂😂😂💸💸💸💸💸💸💸💸
Aren't You glad you did not terminate your pregnancy, what a special gift from God, he is adorable.
This story is just amazing Estare, really touching .. kinda touching home!! But the singing at the end thouuu so beautiful x - I pray God continues to open doors for you and because you never gave up on your son .. you SHALL continue to be fruitful in Jesus name xx
Wow thank you so much for sharing your story 💖 God has been so good in your life and this story can help others!
You're such a good narrator! lol
That twinkle little star bit melted my heart😭
Sat here crying and crying. You're an amazing Mama. I have 3 and had my 1st at 30yrs old. Motherhood regardless of age has its challenges and blessings in equal measure ❤️
Your son is so handsome! Thank you for sharing your story ❤
One thing about giving birth to a child is you never forget every little bit of it no matter how many year has past by
Such an amazing story, getting pregnant at a young age in a Nigerian household is extremely scary. Your mom was so supportive and you were so brave. Thanks for sharing, this is an inspiring story for young Africans girls who are in that situation now. Babies are blessing ✨
I loved that you shared this!! Nigerian parents hate unmarried pregnancy at any age, I was 28 not married when I had my daughter....and they felt like it was the most shameful thing!
Delightful Winks I was 27 sis my mum asking me whether I want to be a single mother forever
Wow that due date story - Oluwa was really involved! Sometimes things don't make sense to us but God usually has a non conventional plan for people that are meant to be great. We thank God for turning a presumably bad situation into blessings for you!
My cousin got pregnant and my family did a fake wedding Africans are mad.
What??😂😂😂
Wow
"the one who's pregnant hasn't spoken"
when i heard this....😰👀
A beautiful story. Koko is so handsome. Unfortunately, I went through this as well, even though I wasn't a teen. I received the most unwelcomed reaction. On track for medical school and pregnant, is not fashionable, I guess lol My story is way too long to share. I appreciate your courage in sharing this with us. The most hurtful part is, our parents consider us to be an embarrassment and disappointment. I was a bit extra and had twin boys though lol. I love them dearly, I almost died have having them, and they almost passed away too, as they were premature. My family didn't even care to come to the hospital, to see if we were alive or dead. I wouldn't change a thing though,no matter how my family continues to reject us. We will make it in this life. God be the glory!! Shame on African/ Caribbean parents for exhibiting this behaviour.
Oh my goodness! You've got me in tears, especially the Mummy and Son moment. All his questions and curiosity. You've done an amazing job, you should be proud. I had my first at 23 and I still wasn't prepared, I still felt too young. No one is ever prepared for having a child, so when God says it's time...its time and you were even given the date. May the creator continue to guide, protect and grant both your needs and dreams. So beautiful ❤❤
Soo beautiful ❤️🙏🏾. I can soo relate. Had my son at a young age and my parents kicked me out just because of that African pride. Had nobody. But now he's 3 and I'm preparing to go and study my midwifery degree 😁. Just got to thank God for everything like literally. None of us know why things happen but at the end of the day God has a plan and purpose for each of us and even though it may not be a straight forward journey we'll get there in the end. I think that's even the beauty of it all cause it just makes you appreciate God even more. Much love 😘❤️
May the Most High bless you immensely for sharing your story with us. We serve a living God. I am 26, currently 18 weeks pregnant and Nigerian. When I tell you our stories are almost IDENTICAL it is crazy. Even as old as I am I was so scared to tell my family lol because I know the stigma and taboo pregnancy out of wedlock holds in our culture. This video could not have came at a more perfect time. I truly know God doesn't makes any mistakes and I cannot wait to meet my baby boy in December 💙 Much love to you.
Alex Aguebor God bless. Currently in the same situation.
@Black Grace...abeg which one of us is not susceptible to sin? I'm not saying sex outside of marriage is the correct thing to do, but at the end of the day we are all human and no one is perfect including yourself. Things happen in this life and it is not up to you, who I can guarantee has committed your fair share of sins, to pass judgment on others. You are entitled to your irrelevant, passive aggressive opinions at the end of the day...be blessed.
such a beautiful journey! note: those dreams were prophetic, (holy Spirit was telling you things before they happen) could b; what God placed/assignment for your son. ask and pay attention to your son dreams, he is probably carrying that gift.
I don't know why but when your son joined you at the end I got slightly teary. I don't have any kids of my own and I'm only in my early twenties; don't intend on having kids any time soon. However I just felt so proud of you as a young woman, and most importantly I felt stronger (for some reason). I also admire the positive mindset you sustained throughout your pregnancy and after. God bless you and your son. Keep up the good work. X
Loved you before, but I love you even more now! This video made me gain so much respect for you. For one Nigerian to another great job beautiful.
awwww thank you for sharing. Koko is so cute!!!
SisiYemmieTV Sisi my love you are so sweet supporting all Nigerians 😁. How is our son?
Man this was so emotional, I enjoyed every second of this video
Awww the way he looked up at mummy and pecked her on the cheek. Something very special about mother and son bond!
I was a mum at 15 and I feel all the emotions you went through. Thank your mother, she did marvelous. God bless her.
Strong presence on camera... He is a very bright kid. Got chills seeing him..he is going to do big things
Damn I didn't even know she had a child, but this story is so beautiful. Honestly God doesn't give you battles you can't fight and everything happens for a reason. He will grow up to be great
The paternal grandmother was so concerned about you, that's rare!
He is the most precious little boy ever! Wasn’t expecting him to join in the end. Beautiful watching him ask you questions & be so intuitive!
This video is so moving. So brave of you to share. Thanks
Coming from a mum who also had a baby at teenager as you did. I am well proud of you, you made the best decision of keeping the baby. I kept mine too and now she is 15 years and my best friend. Just stumbled across this video now. That boy would go to places and be great in life, God bless you and your son.
My parents were so strict , if I got pregnant I think my parents would have literary killed me . But my niece had a baby and it happened when we where grieving my brother's death that my parents didn't even have the time to go crazy on her. Today that baby is a big girl and I am glad that my niece had her. I dream like that too, draw closer to God He will show you more visions etc
It's crazy that just a little bit of sex literally changed your life
jacpppp lmao
*little bit of sex* 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
jacpppp I laughed so hard 😂😂
You just killed me 🤰😂🤰😂😂😂😂
That's so dope that your sisters were so supportive and was there for you to tell your mom that means a lot. Everything happens for a reason thanks for sharing your story. Your baby is a blessing. I didn't know your culture was so strict I've learned something from this story time.
Aww koko such a polite and well mannered young man x
This is my favourite video of yours, so I had to come back and favourite it this morning 😢❤. There's so much I want to write because I can relate. I don't know you personally, but I'm so proud of you and how far you've come. God will continue to bless you and your son, and you shall reap the fruits of your labour. Amen!
I am crying why you gotta drop that twinke twinkle ! I love this we see you beeing succesfull and beautifull but its nice that you got a story aswell. May God keep you and your family and May we see Koko become a great and wonderfull man !
awww who else is loving the twinkle little star ending?!
U LOOKING HELLA GORGEOUS💘😍😍😍😍
But the outro guys! 😭❤️ loved this video, I love how you and your son interact and the relationship you have! God bless you both xx
I never comment on videos , but this made me cry😭 God bless you girl and you'll continue to be blessed and blessed and blessed more!❤️❤️❤️
One of the sweetest and realest things RUclips has suggested I watch! And the mother/son part at the end got me 💖 so beautiful!
I had my first son at the age of 18. The thing I dreaded most wasn't even telling my mum it was when the rest of the family and community found out. I thank god, he is my biggest blessing like my other two I know I am blessed. I love your story. You should be sooooo proud of both your son and yourself because you've come far and it's not easy in this big wide world
This made me so emotional! Estare all I can say is I am so happy for you. The blessings you constantly receive and are still yet to receive. God used you in an amazing way and I'm so glad that through all of this you're such an amazing woman. I wish you nothing but the best. God Bless
Loved this video. I wasn't looking for it but it showed up in my feed. Never even saw you on RUclips before. Made me cry. Confirmation that I need to record my pregnancy story. You did and are doing great. I've subscribed, can't wait for your labour and delivery story.
The ending was very heartwarming! Your story is amazing and the fact that you didn't give up on yourself and didn't care what others will think. THATS EVEN MORE AMAZING! This is what it means to understand your purpose and destiny. 💕
your son is soooo beautiful.... thanks for sharing your story!
Aww the Koko part made me tearup so sweet. May God keep you both safe and sound and make him a joy continually.
I was also 16 and pregnant, but had my baby 2 weeks after my birthday. Absolutely love your story.
Very beautiful story....I love when u brought Koko in at the end and him singing as a baby dat wat heart warming 😊 God will continue to give u the strength to continue to raise him u have done a great job.
omg i'm sooo happy that you did this video! i am also a young mom and its alot to balance being a mother, working, social life and chasing your dreams. but i can say being a mother has given me so much purpose... thanks your sharing your story!
I actually started tearing up when he came in the video. Then, fully cried when the audio came on 😩
he's so well spoken, you're blessed!
Thank you for sharing this! I can't imagine how hard it was to talk about this. People see all this success but there IS a process to everything. You're truly an overcomer and a great mother. I hope future young mums are inspired and given hope that everything will be ok.
We have similar story 😍😍😍 I was 15 when I had my son, I'm 24 now n my son is turning 9 this year.... it's difficult but worth it.... being the only child for my mom was very hard but she had to take it n now my son means the world to her n can't live without him..... ❤️❤️❤️
Hawa Bah are u sierra leonean?
SaloneDutchess no! I'm a Guinean Liberian
Hawa Bah me to but im mostly guinean
unique ishatu wow 😍😍😍
God's Child from my Hawa name
Girl you brave! I'm so glad that everything worked out for you! God is good and he will keep the blessings in your life coming!
Honestly cannot work out what people could dislike about this video, it was beautiful xx
Your son is very inquisitive. Super smart!
Him singing at the end is so precious. Crying cause im a step mom....and getting divorced 😭😭
I can say am very comfortable with this video especially when you quote that life is a Journey , because I also was a teen mom.
this was so sweet. I've been watching your videos but I feel like i know you so much better from this. You should be so proud of yourself. More videos like this please.
Aww I love the fact you brought your son in at the end. What a blessing.
Thanks for sharing Estare, the ending of the video with Koko singing made me teary. Love you.
The ending with Koko singing as a youngin! 😇😢😢😢 So beautiful, I was not expecting that, God is so good!
What a blessing Kids are love the fact that u opened up abit. It always good to make yourself vulnerable to your family of subscribers coz we care. Love the visionary and audio soft touch. x
The grandmother is caring, a lot of other nigerian grandmas will start cursing you.
Estare you're such a strong woman ! Through all circumstances you really managed to remain calm and PLEASE do you labour story !
God bless you and your son. Such a lovely video. I'm sure your son is very proud of you. I don't know you and I am proud of you. May God continue to guide and protect both you and your son in life. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story with us!
I support you 100 percent. Shine like a star. Never give up. Live life and let live
Koko is honestly the cutest! The recording at the end made my heart melt
This is such an emotional story. I can tell your a very brave mother . The ending made me cry 😭.
Wow im sitting here towards the end and tears are streaming down my face. Coco is so poised and wise, you did well Estare!
What a lovely video!!! I love you Estare, love you Koko! The twinkle twinkle little star audio clip actually melted my heart! xxx
The audio at the end made me cry Omggg I love you Esther God bless you and your son
Your story is beautiful, he's such a blessing, wishing you both the best.x
He is such a beautiful boy!! God bless you and your family!!
Look at me crying this is so emotional sis , you’ve tried your a real inspiration above all this issue didn’t break you , your amazing to accept what has happened move on from it and your doing well , your a strong woman keep it up
Loved this ❤️❤️🇬🇭
Sekyiwa B 🇬🇭😊✊❤
Naa I cried so much at the end! God bless you and the fruit of your womb !
The end part was so cute! I just love the way you are with Koko. You are his mother but you're best friends too!
The end literally got me in tears 😭...... God has been faithful!
Wow that was beautiful to watch thank you for trusting us with your story 😊😊