This is a real parental issue. Who are your sons making out with - someone else's daughter that feels like you do about your daughter. Teaching both physical and sexual responsibility would change relational outcomes for our society.
@@darrielwilliams2628 Pregnancy has a sex. Reproduction is not symmetrical. Are you pro choice? Do you think women should have to run a gauntlet in order to get an abortion? Men are BORN with the natural advantage of not needing to get pregnant to reproduce. Men get what women have to pay for, one way or the other, for free. That isn't symmetrical. Treating it like its symmetrical benefits women more than it does men.
@@novandita9071 Back in time, men were taught accountable. If you get some one pregnant you marry them. Now its whatever not your problem son. She opened her legs.
Anytime I got the "he can't get pregnant" line, I responded with "yeah but you do realize I can't get pregnant by more than one person, but they CAN get multiple women pregnant at the same time,right"
If things get hard, he can run away, you can't. She has to carry the child, Risk her life giving birth, And if all goes well, she has that responsibility for 18 years. U ain't stupid, u know that. Shut up, play the game if life. Appreciate that u are loved Unconditionally and get first picked to be saved in an emergency.
@@stephoncox5778Um abortion and adoption exist. It's really not hard to get rid of a kid. But for some reason women are b*tches for leaving, but it's fine for the man to do so. But your comment is stupid. Women can easily run away even if we give birth. You're not obligated to raise a child you don't want, but we feel pressured to do so.
@@stephoncox5778 That’s an awful standard to set on your child, he should not be a deadbeat dad, he is as much responsible for that child as the mother who would be risking her health. The only reason girls get first pick in an emergency is literally _because_ they can get pregnant, they’re more important for population survival than men.
There's no raising standards. Women will always complain, even if it's in their favor. Just ignore them. Ironically, they'll respect you even more when you do.
@@younglove3362men will always complain about women because they don't want to take accountability for their actions and their consequences. Women complain because it's always women who suffer because of men. Ofcourse you would choose to ignore, and that is why women are complaining
Another thing that makes me angry about this double standard is not only do they police Diane heavily, they are letting Jack be the kind of guy they’re trying to protect Diane FROM. And it pisses me off when I see this!! You tell your daughter to stay home cause you know what kind of guys are out there but then you let your son go out and date multiple girls and you encourage being sexual…your daughter can only get get pregnant once in a year. Your son can get a whole village pregnant in the same time. I’m sick of it.
I completely agree. It is a double standard. I don’t understand either why ppl are more worried about their daughters getting pregnant than their sons getting someone else pregnant. Both scenarios ruin kids lives.
@@starshine2675 they don’t care if boys are running around creating broken homes…they just care if they end up being one of those broken homes. It’s sad
I(22) am the only girl and the oldest. My 21 year old brother never got lectured. My mom told me "men only want one thing" and a whole lot of crap over the years then ignored everything she lectured me about as she watched my brother become the type of guys she wanted me to stay away from. Her only response: "well he's a boy, he's gonna be like that" He's gotten away with treating women any type of way emotionally and all she did was say "why are you doing that?" and basically laughed it off. She's shamed me for being "active," and he got a smile. Parents can try to say they dont treat their children different but they do.
@@dzas_cave It’s horribly demeaning, men who are raised into monsters aren’t reflective of the actual mature ones. Men do not only want one thing, some men are just raised awfully and end up wanting that one thing.
I agree with her, just because he can't get pregnant does t mean he can't get someone pregnant which is still just as much your responsibility as a parent to be in his business.
It would be but sadly if Diane gets pregnant she will have to CARRY that baby and unless it’s adoption she will take care of that child .Jack gets p a girl pregnant Dre and Bo can try and make him but you can’t force him to step up either that’s why there are more SINGLE moms mommas baby daddy’s maybe dad has more of an option to leave mothers not so much..
@@janderson947Both have an option to leave. Adoption is a legal way for a girl/woman to give up legal responsibility to her child. In fact women and girls can drop their newborns off at safe places without any legal consequences. Men and boys don't have the right to relinquish their responsibility to the child in these ways.
@@janderson947Wrong! All mothers and fathers have the option to leave, but mothers just happen to have a more responsible thinking. There are millions of mothers who abandon their kids yearly, it's just that there are millions more who have a good head on their shoulders and take responsibility. Father's should learn from that.
@@nickeni3050 let me ask YOU this where do they go unless the grandmother or nearest relative takes them in the system does I never said they didn’t but WHO carries the child definitely not the dad so it takes a toll on the mom physically and emotionally never said the mom won’t leave especially for post pardum but you do see MORE single mothers than fathers…
@@janderson947 Like I said, a mother will for one be more attached and two will choose responsibility... That's why we have more single moms.. Also, if you think relatives are the only places kids abandoned by mothers have been found then think again. I've seen not heard, seen babies been abandoned by mother's under bridges, kids left behind INTENTIONALLY by their mothers in parks or markets, Kids dumped in front of orphanages by mothers, Kids sold off into labor by mothers who finally decided to leave, Kids left on the streets intentionally, Kids left with a stranger by a mom who gives an "help me hold my kid" excuse to run away .. If a Father decided to leave, he leaves the baby with their mom; If a mother decides to leave, she leaves the kid in a place that would leave the kid traumatized for life. So yeah, father's should take responsibility more cause majority of moms who left their kids were mothers who the baby's father left the kid for her to take care of alone
@@younglove3362that is exactly what has to change. Why is one gender respected for the thing the other is shamed for. It’s not fair to men, it’s not fair to women, so what exactly are u proving here
@Talentless-daughterofapollo That you're slow. Men are not valued based off their looks, women are. Women are not based off what they provide, Men are. Women are not based off what physical labor they can and can't do, Men are. Women are not based off how many men they can sleep with, Men are. As much as you want to fall for the bs feminism stuff, we are not equal or the same. So if women want to act like they have penis envy then they'll be treated as such. Just like Men will be labeled weak by both genders if they're toshow their emotional side and submit to women. That's my point 👉. If you don't like it then too bad. But that's what it is.
"because he cant get PREGNANT" his ass can get someone pregnant every day. She can get pregnant once and is down for 9 months. I'd argue one of these is MUCH WORSE
@@corvonthompson4098 no he has to pay child support for any and all kids he has, and if he had a kid every day of the months she's pregnant, then that would be a couple fucking hundred. The THOUSANDS of child support.
@@paulekezie465 single motherhood is hard??? As well as single fatherhood??? Being a single parent is difficult?????????? People have a right to complain about that??????????
@@paulekezie465getting more than one girl pregnant in a year is worser than a daughter getting pregnant and her dying isn’t that likely people should be treating there children the same girls and boys should just be taught to be safe and being a single father is a thing
This reminds me of a really nice girl from high school who had a dad who resigned down on her hard, because ladies are the ones that get pregnant. She ended up jabbing a hot wire hanger where the sun doesn't shine to get a hysterectomy. 🤦🏾♀️
@@winniejohnson5559 not really it just means that it's not his responsibility which is not what one should be teaching their kids just because he's not pregnant doesn't mean he's not equally responsible for the pregnancy. Ik it's just a show but people act like that irl too.
Here’s my thing. If a girl had a bad night and gets pregnant, she can only have that happen every nine months (unless superfetation happens, which is astronomically rare), but a guy on a bad night can get an unlimited number of girls pregnant, so that feels like the bigger risk there
since some of the people in the comments think she's just going off for no reason she was angry because her parents scolded her for accepting a sweatshirt from a boy in school as she was only cold while her brothers are allowed to flirt and mingle with any girl they want (the parents even high-fiving her brothers for making out with girls under the stairs while her and her sister were expected to avert their eyes from men till their 30s) with no intervention or sit down. that's ALL. they had an entire lecture set out for her like SHE was the one in the wrong when there was nothing even remotely underhanded going on they just ASSUME it is BECAUSE she and her sister are women. the problem she has with her parents isn't a plea to up and rewrite biological differences she knows exists it's that they simply do not hold her brothers to the same standards of social and societal etiquette on their end of the spectrum that they SHOULD be (a common pattern within the show actually) and it's a valid reason for any young woman to be frustrated/upset about.
This was the truth that a lot of humanity needed to hear. And it is the root of a lot of problems in the world. Men and women are biologically different. But we should not be held to different standards of substance and actions. I don't want my son creating fatherless children any more than I want my daughter randomly pregnant. Period
@@Hero-and-Hooligan so men are too much of babies to have enough sense to think about the consequences of their actions and must have women and other adults do damage control for them instead of being responsible? got it 🙄 then yall cry bout not all men but spew this bullshit
As a girl that grew up with 3 brothers this is so relatable and the only reason they weren’t constantly watching and on my back about everything when I was in hs was because they found out I was gay.
"But he could get someone pregnant" good point diane, boys are always let off so easily after getting a girl pregnant while she's left to deal with the two big s(setback and shame)
Boys don't have to deal with any physical complications from pregnancy. They don't have morning sickness, gain weight, their feet don't swell, nor do they have to risk their lives in childbirth.
@@LoFromNOright…only teach girls responsibility. The boys don’t need to know the consequences of being a parent at a young age. They don’t need to prepare for fatherhood if they get someone pregnant. Unprepared fathers have worked WONDERS for our communities.
But she's being very disingenuous the fact that you're agreeing with a minor who has no actual understanding of the world is beyond me and it shows the mindset of all females when they want to compete with men but they cannot be men😊
Not really. There are double standards for a reason. Men and women are not the same and work differently. There are plenty of double standards that affect men way more than women. Like prison sentences. Men get way more time than women for the same crime. In domestic abuse calls. It is the man who is put in handcuffs when cops arrive at the place without even ask questions first. Basically saying that men are the abuser while women are the victim just assuming. Not to mention college and business hiring women because they are women. So what double standers are worst
My parents were too, and for good reason. No one was going to adduct my big bad ass, but not the same for my sister. If I had got someone pregnant the consequences in my family wouldn’t be in there every second. But if my sister get pregnant we all pay for it immediately. When I did something wrong my punishments were also way worse than my sister. It’s was more important that the son had harsher consequences because I can do way more negative damage in society. My parents also paid for my sisters college, but I had to find my own way which I did. My parents treated us all different from each other but it was for good reason and it worked. Treating all your kids the same doesn’t always work, some kids need different stuff to grow. I just needed more freedom than my sister to grow and she needed more attention. The genders are very different let’s stop pretending they are not.
@@Melly-uh7rkat the end of the day people are people who need to be treated with respect. As for children, it's a parent's job to steer their babies in the right direction and meet them where they're at (accommodating parent style to the type of child they have). All of this while also not being hypocrites as well as not perpetuating patriarchal biases.
@@Melly-uh7rk nah I firmly believe the genders are even more different, past the physical, because of how each are raised, not really determined by DNA and not really natural. If both genders were raised more smartly, the genders wouldn't feel like different species to one another and there would be less divide. You not getting your college paid for just because you're a male is one example of the faulty raising going on for decades. And yet many men wonder why women are a little too focused on money, well when they get raised in similar ways your sister did, how could they not? When they are the ones who get more attention, how could they not grow up to love attention in obnoxious and unnecessary ways? When men are taught from a young age that they are to not cry and they are to hold their emotions back (even though baby boys can often come out the womb crying, meaning it's a right for all of us), how can they not grow up to be emotionally dull (many are to the point sex becomes the thing that they feel the most about and for, causing a few different problems) and create a lot of issues within their lives and other's?
don't watch the show but wtf? Is this the 1800s? Is she ruined now and will she be forced to marry the boy to save her name since no decent man will ever want to marry her?
^Apparently as keeping the sweatshirt would “lead the guy on”, she wore the sweat shirt home bc the dude said she could keep it but Dad told her she had to give it back. She says alright and takes it off and she’s wearing a tank top and shorts (which is a pretty normal outfit) and her Dad completely flips out on her. Then when her mom comes home she lectures her too.
its less about being treated equally and more about being treated different for doing the same thing. having the same qualifications but no getting the job, being told they’re “aggressive” when men are seen as assertive, being “disgusting” and “unhygienic” if they dont shave, etc etc
@@saltz_n_pepper3332you can’t 100% determine what your teens will do with their newly found freedom. But you instill good morals and values in them like owning up to your mistakes and supporting the person they impregnated- whatever the choice might be. Because it takes two to get pregnant, both can also think about safe sex
That is such a fair argument!! Just because your daughter can get pregnant doesn't mean your son can't get someone pregnant. I 100 % believe boys should be held to just as high of a standard as girls when it comes to these things.
But the girl has the most power when it comes unto opening the gateway..That's why parents are more serious when it's a girl...Boys don't have the power when it comes to sex ,most women have control over that.
@@spooki_koki9881I think what he’s saying is if the girl doesn’t want it, sex doesn’t happen. Unless she’s raped, but that becomes a different conversation. So assuming everyone is acting respectfully and not violating anyone’s body, for sex to happen (for the most part), the woman is typically the one to give the green light
No she doesn't. A girl supposed to have class, have lesser work or be at home but People fool them to go work along with their husbands and let cost of living rise out of control. In this case Boys will always be boys. Girls are known to be smarter at a younger age so when they doing dumb things they are to punished more severely Diane is smarter than Jack by a country mile.
B.S boys and girls are different that's the way it's always been and always will be you must want your daughter online and shirtless people are fools these days
Plus boys pics are not safer than girls pics, there’s just a different set of standards when those pics escape their original posts. Both can still be targets of predators, both can still be victims of bullying, and both can have their pictures stolen without consent.
@@lilliedicks5534it’s a dumb comment because it implies that guys try to get girls pregnant when it’s usually an accident in which both party’s are equally at fault
Lol I had the same arrangement once, they replied with the fact that they would be responsible for my baby while they wouldn’t have to do anything for my brother’s baby 🤷🏽♀️
She is totally right just like Diane is your daughter and you don’t want her to become a pregnant teen, Ashley is someone’s daughter who doesn’t want her to be a pregnant teen. It takes two to get pregnant.
But the girl has the most power when it comes unto opening the gateway..That's why parents are more serious when it's a girl...Boys don't have the power when it comes to sex ,most women have control over that.
the boy has the freedom to influence, coerce or pressure because parents are not on him to not do those things that can result in pregnancy. Case in point no one’s telling Diane’s brother that he can’t do certain things because he can get a girl pregnant. Maybe if we had the same expectation of avoiding pregnancy made on both males and females we may have less teen pregnancies. If the girl is pregnant the guy is too. It takes two.
If youve never seen the show,, Diane is always like this 🤣 its not an "attitude," its her personality. Almost everyone in the house is usually afraid of her, except her grandma.
@@dezeraejames9698 listen with all the scary situations of being accused of s.a. to later turn out to be false, I would be making sure my son understands why that's so risky.
@@dezeraejames9698 Oh she almost did, wooo I would have a talk with her too, that's risky for her on so many levels including s.a. and not being believed.
That's what Dre did and he also let her have her say about how she is growing into a young woman now; a conversation that's been going on since the beginning parent and teenage relationships.
Super lucky to be the one breaking weird double standards and sexism alongside my brother. Neither of us were or would ever be wild enough to worry about, but still. Certain _colors_ being for girls or boys , “girls can’t be messy,” “boys don’t cry” it’s all a bunch of Bull and we actively went out of our way to point out how much bull it is!
I remember i talked with my mom about how she treats me differently from my brothers. And i tell her how come i wasn't allowed to hang out with my friends, but he can anytime. And she hit me with cause he can't get pregnant.. as soon as i heard that, i stopped talking cause i knew there was no point in talking with someone who uses that as a reason.
Yeah l saw someone saying, if their daughter gets pregnant their responsible for the baby but if the son gets someone pregnant it's the girls parents that are responsible for the baby, something like that. Dbt be having sex before marriage period men and women that evens it out nicely.
While I understand her anger, I have to say this: unfortunately we don't live in a world where your parents can treat you the same as your male siblings, and it's not about being unfair, but about protecting you, when I was younger my father confessed that if my sister and/or I had been males, he would have given us a little more freedom, he saw I was about to complain and get angry and all that, but then he told me: "as a girl, you're more likely to be r*ped, killed, "disappear", I know you are strong, and I know you would fight, but at the same time I know you don't really stand a chance against a son of a b*tch willing to destroy our lives" I felt the fear in his words, and how he was trying to protect us, and I feel sad for all of those with daughters, because I know the wished they could be as carefree as they are with their sons (I'm not saying men are not in danger, but you know what I mean), all I did was tell him I love him and I hugged him. In this sick world, thousands of girls disappear due to s3x traffic, cartels, r*pe or worse. We should be teaching boys not to be r*pists, or harm women (or other human) instead of teaching girls how to avoid it, but in the meantime, our parents have the hardest job.
@@MAUUmadness they don't if we don't make them. It's getti g better in some ways. My grandparents took the opposite approach, they taught me to go for blood if put in that situation. Carrying myself like this has helped me to avoid much problems from strange men in public. Only problem I had was a high school boyfriend before grandparents really drilled in the kill or be killed mindset. My only regret is they didn't start earlier. Now all of my male friends tell me I'm scary, and that we wouldn't be friends if we had met at work because they wouldn't approach me. There is another way. One where we can live our lives like a boy/man could. We should be afraid, if anything they should be afraid of what would happen of they tried. This is the world I dream of, but I know we won't get there is we don't refuse to let predators get away with it.
@@micaela2284 I think we're saying the same thing, I wasn't raised to be a damsel in distress, but against a group of men I know what would happen, I'm sorry if it was not clear and there was a misunderstanding.
Yep. Our parents said, "You make adult decisions, you will take on adult consequences." it goes for us ladies and the lads too. The other one was "make your own money, stay in your own house and then you can engage in adult intimate activities that can affect our grandbabies." 😅 Put things in perspective for us.
relate this to my core! household chores were mine since i was young because i was a girl. i couldn’t even mention a boys name even if they were my classmates. while my brother was allowed to date very young. no wonder i got into more trouble and became a good liar.
I don't want my son creating fatherless children, giving diseases, or breaking hearts I don't want my daughter getting randomly pregnant, getting a disease, or getting her heart broken
@@_melany_melo_ I meant i do want any of my future kids being players, they're gonna stay with one person, if that don't work out they just don't date or find the right one. I don't want them being players
Right. If the daughter said she had a bf and the brother said he caught them making out she’d immediately be told to break up with him or told she’s too young for that. They congratulate their son not knowing the girl he’s doing that with is someone’s daughter, sister, cousin, most important of all she’s also a person but no it’s just “congrats on gettin some.”
My Ma treated us differently. She let my big bro go outside, to parties to events. But, she did tell us both not to get or get anyone pregnant. I have two sons. My brother doesn’t have children. He’s a lot more financially stable because he married once, stayed married and didn’t have children.
“He can’t get pregnant” so you would force your daughter to take care of her baby, but would be fine letting your son live his life like he’s not a dad. Being pregnant isn’t what makes you the parent, buddy.
Double standards exist for a reason It is what it is the female will always be more responsible for a kid especially teenagers That’s Y u shield your daughter from that even more so wen she has a brother around same age
Are you talking about let boys be a menace and don't let girls breathe? How is this reasonable and fair? You should explain to both kids about safe sex and how to treat their partners and be treated by them with respect. How can you be mad at boys for treating your daughter the same way your son is treating other girls?
Yep and that's exactly why we have girls wanting to be men and trying to become men and vice versa.. no you aren't treated the same !! Because you are different.!! Please !! Enough with this lunacy.. you are equally different!! One is not better than the other.. this feminist crap 💩 is truly nonsense
she is not right , boys get loose & untrained girls pregnant, then if parents train their girls they will abstain from sx .. the girl is just of her elder brother .. parents are more shameful when their girls are so loose & got pregnant.. it makes their parent hood worhless .. is the girls that accept sex dat , then its the boys that project sex , boys are not the same with the girls
This was my WHOLE childhood. My brothers could do anything they wanted and "its different because you're a girl" was the party fucking line. All because i can get pregnant. It fucking sucked
You're not too smart. Both would be parents so both would be responsible or did your dad leave you so you think men are generally irresponsible?@@carlh287
@@carlh287 it is wrong to hold a man and a woman to two different standards when it comes to having a child. We should hold both parents that contributed to the pregnancy to the same standard of involvement and responsibility for the child
I have 2 older brothers we had the same curfew and same household chore their reasoning is 1 if they get someone pregnant it will also be there problem not just the girls 2 learning basic household skills are essential to survive alone.
It’s true. This is what MOST parents do. They don’t care what their sons do because in their head, if the boy gets someone else’s daughter pregnant then that’s not their problem to deal with, it’s HER PARENTS problem. And they know that their son has the option to opt out and not have to deal with that baby. The double standards are real.
In general, who is telling 13, 14, and 15 year olds make out and risk any of the consequences, isn’t it a parents job to minimize these risks for the well being of their children?
Bro me and my twin sister (both female) get talked to and treated way different ok like if my sister want to go hang out with her friends alone and like run off to hang out our mom is really hesitant about letting her go she will ask lots of questions and what not but with me if I ask she just asks who I’m hanging out with and then say yes it’s not about treating they child different it’s about why they treat you “differently”😂❤
I don't watch this show, but even though the parenting isn't the best, the communication flow is at a higher tier than most. I have hope for them. Especially Jack; lowkey, his addition at the end there probably helped to highlight and resolve the disparity Diane wanted acknowledged in the first place. Seems like a nice family.
Tried this conversation multiple times with my parents and only got beat and called ungrateful. Proceed at your own risk kids, being in your 20s will not save you💀
“He can’t get pregnant.” Dumb af excuse. 💀💀💀 Guess what, he can’t, but if he decides to play around he can get every girl in town pregnant. Watch as he busses off and let’s mommy and daddy take the heat from the girls’ parents, then get forced to pay child support (assuming the parents won’t force the daughters to abort the babies).
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We are three brothers and 1 girl in my family, we are all treated differently. No matter how you try you can't treat your kids the same even in the same gender not to talk of different. My dad is over protective of my sister and he only takes advice from her, while if we as boys get into trouble, he could literally leave us to find our way out. She always got more allowances, but we had more freedom of movement, so we can't pretend like all the genders can be treated the same. Being a teenage mother would ruin her life, while her brother inpregnating a girl wouldn't do much except the child support payments which he is underage to pay
And thats why it's f up, why is a teenage pregnancy would only "ruin" a girl future? Because we as a society don't put the same expectations of parenting on men, a teenage boy could get 10 different girl pregnant in just one day but how many kids can one girl have in the same amount of time?
@@paolac.9468 because the guy is not carry baby for 9 months, a guy won't have his relationship chances affected by a baby, a guy won't burden his family with an unplanned baby. Instead of arguing about how society is, accept it as it is. Why can't a broke guy get married but a woman can, why do women get shelters while men stay homeless, why is an unemployed man a failure, while an unemployed woman isn't? That's just life you win some you lose some but you can't only complain about the double standards that don't benefit you
THIS COMMENT IS IT! Men and women are different like boys and girls are. I was the only girl of two and although I’m the oldest, my brothers are far taller and bigger than me. Everywhere I went I had to take at least one of them, but they were fine to go places on their own. But with that, if my brothers wanted anything or to do anything my dad and mom would tell the boys to ask me. As I was the more responsible (being the oldest) and I knew more information about them than my parents did. They always trusted my judgment.
She has a point... Not saying they need to less up on how they treat her... They just need to tighten up on their leniency with the boy, or he'll easily go astray
Yup, she's absolutely right. I have fraternal twins, a boy and a girl I always tell them you have 18 years to be a kid. You have 60 to 80 years to do adult things. Don't rush your first kiss Or feel pressure into having sex or smoking weed or get drunk Or Being experimental. You only get one childhood. But you have multiple experience to grow as an adult.
Boy or girl, it’s about principles and values. Not creating broken homes and unexpected children is the product of INTENTIONALLY AND SINCERELY being in a relationship. No cheating, no sleeping around, and NO CHILDREN unless you are mature enough to commit to the responsibility you will be held to/not allowed to forget. The world would be different if people were not coddled and enabled to engage in mature activities while demonstrating the social prowess/self awareness of an ill raised middle schooler.
Having the same conversation with a family friend the other day. He has a boy and a girl and is funny how he was saying he advice the boy to fuck anything he could because he’s young and he went quiet and offended when I told him out there there’s another man who’s advising his son the same thing and that’s the one who’s gonna mess around with your daughter and you won’t like it.
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May God help us to train our boys the same way we train our girls, this is the root of the problems in relationships and marriages, parents wants to protect their girls from the same kind of boys they raise,a girl can only get pregnant once in a year, but a boy can get a thousand girls pregnant in one year, imagine a father hailing his son in such situations,he is raising his kind.
So far I don’t have that issue too bad because I don’t have any sort of social media other than RUclips, but I have experienced it. My mom always tells me not to get pregnant but never tells my brother(who’s ONLY a year away from being 18) not to get anyone pregnant. It is COMPLETELY unfair
So I definitely get her point but real talk both kids are going to have to different life experiences, so they will 100% need different things buuuuuut I think the problem comes when one child is allowed to get away with things the other isnt. Wrong is wrong regardless.
Not really seeing as they're training him to be a deadbeat father. " He can't get pregnant " Is enough for me to know how these people think, child not growing inside him equals not his responsibility equals a deadbeat.
We're suppose to be treated differently but in terms of other things the same(like dating and teaching men how to be husbands or dads...and taking care of themselves. And mostly cause they're most likely to cause chaos and k*ll
Also the way that they celebrate that he’s “gettin some action” while you know damn sure if she was makin out with someone in a stairwell they’d be berating and grounding her smh
This isn't a black issue, this a society issue. God clearly condemns it for both genders, hence why it is best to wait for marriage and it s frowned upon about fornication.
I had a mate whose parents treated her differently than her brother. He ended up a mess: five babies with five different women and in none of their lives. She became sneaky and as soon as she turned 18 she set the boundary that they are only to contact her from funerals and the odd wedding. They beg to be in her life. She, thankfully, never forgave them and lives a beautiful life with her daughters, free from judgment, gender bigotry, and religious oppression.
Wtf it’s not that serious to disown your parents. Parents are mere humans just like you. We all make mistakes including you. And boys and girls are different and it’s ok to treat them a bit different because the world is DANGEROUS for us women and girls!!!
@@bananafanalll6651not for doing the same thing. Clearly there's more to the story, some parents suck. There's no excuse of "being human" Your kids didn't ask to be born
@@bananafanalll6651 I literally hate when people bring up this line of thinking because if a daughter did get pregnant, there are a good amount of parents who would've disowned her. Heck, in some cultures, they'll still do an honor killing. However, the moment a daughter goes blood doesn't excuse abusive behavior, it's all how could you not unconditionally forgive your parents. It's hypocritical
This is a real parental issue. Who are your sons making out with - someone else's daughter that feels like you do about your daughter.
Teaching both physical and sexual responsibility would change relational outcomes for our society.
In other words, lying about and downplaying the asymmetry of sexual reproduction in order to benefit women. 🙄
@@infernityable1369how is that lying and downplaying?
@infernityable1369 that's what you got from that... responsibility does not have a gender
@@darrielwilliams2628 Pregnancy has a sex. Reproduction is not symmetrical.
Are you pro choice? Do you think women should have to run a gauntlet in order to get an abortion?
Men are BORN with the natural advantage of not needing to get pregnant to reproduce. Men get what women have to pay for, one way or the other, for free. That isn't symmetrical.
Treating it like its symmetrical benefits women more than it does men.
Soo true !!!!
she beyond right getting someone pregnant is bad too
Ya but she shouldn't get pregnant either cause she's a fkn child
Its bad but not as bad as getting pregnant its difrent
The one who get pregnamt is the one who suffer when the baby in the belly not the man
@@novandita9071
Back in time, men were taught accountable. If you get some one pregnant you marry them. Now its whatever not your problem son. She opened her legs.
Back in the day women also didnt spread their legs for anyone but their husband. @@sunnyday4055
@@sunnyday4055the way it is now is how it was for the majority of human history
Anytime I got the "he can't get pregnant" line, I responded with "yeah but you do realize I can't get pregnant by more than one person, but they CAN get multiple women pregnant at the same time,right"
Nick Cannon. Nuff said.
If things get hard, he can run away, you can't.
She has to carry the child,
Risk her life giving birth,
And if all goes well, she has that responsibility for 18 years.
U ain't stupid, u know that.
Shut up, play the game if life. Appreciate that u are loved Unconditionally and get first picked to be saved in an emergency.
@@stephoncox5778Um abortion and adoption exist. It's really not hard to get rid of a kid. But for some reason women are b*tches for leaving, but it's fine for the man to do so.
But your comment is stupid. Women can easily run away even if we give birth. You're not obligated to raise a child you don't want, but we feel pressured to do so.
@@stephoncox5778this is why you can't trust women to make sound decisions. It's like they're children.
@@stephoncox5778
That’s an awful standard to set on your child, he should not be a deadbeat dad, he is as much responsible for that child as the mother who would be risking her health.
The only reason girls get first pick in an emergency is literally _because_ they can get pregnant, they’re more important for population survival than men.
You all forgot the most inportant part.
HE STILL DIDNT SET THE TABLE
😭😭😭
You are just angry. You just want to spread your anger. Go for a walk and meditate
😂😂😂😂 Right! He just walked away from that too!!
Lol, he didn't...
Jack and the baby boy are the ignored children. Of course, he didn’t set the table because 10 minutes later the parents will forget they asked him to.
Don't drop the standard for the girl, raise the standard for the boy.
There's no raising standards. Women will always complain, even if it's in their favor. Just ignore them. Ironically, they'll respect you even more when you do.
@@younglove3362men will always complain about women because they don't want to take accountability for their actions and their consequences. Women complain because it's always women who suffer because of men. Ofcourse you would choose to ignore, and that is why women are complaining
I agree - they BOTH need to be held to the SAME standard
@jeanwagner7031 Agreed
@@younglove3362your slow😊
Another thing that makes me angry about this double standard is not only do they police Diane heavily, they are letting Jack be the kind of guy they’re trying to protect Diane FROM. And it pisses me off when I see this!! You tell your daughter to stay home cause you know what kind of guys are out there but then you let your son go out and date multiple girls and you encourage being sexual…your daughter can only get get pregnant once in a year. Your son can get a whole village pregnant in the same time. I’m sick of it.
It got better
@@NolimitRj-yt someone needs to get their 12 year old back 🥲 he’s running loose in the comments
I completely agree. It is a double standard. I don’t understand either why ppl are more worried about their daughters getting pregnant than their sons getting someone else pregnant. Both scenarios ruin kids lives.
It’s a show pal
@@starshine2675 they don’t care if boys are running around creating broken homes…they just care if they end up being one of those broken homes. It’s sad
I(22) am the only girl and the oldest. My 21 year old brother never got lectured. My mom told me "men only want one thing" and a whole lot of crap over the years then ignored everything she lectured me about as she watched my brother become the type of guys she wanted me to stay away from. Her only response: "well he's a boy, he's gonna be like that"
He's gotten away with treating women any type of way emotionally and all she did was say "why are you doing that?" and basically laughed it off. She's shamed me for being "active," and he got a smile.
Parents can try to say they dont treat their children different but they do.
As a guy, I hate the whole, "guys only want one thing," that shit feels demeaning
@@dzas_cave
It’s horribly demeaning, men who are raised into monsters aren’t reflective of the actual mature ones.
Men do not only want one thing, some men are just raised awfully and end up wanting that one thing.
@@dzas_cave You need to talk to your fellow man because women have been saying this and they aren't listening
The saddest part is when they end up irresponsible and your parents expect you to turn a blind eye to his sh*t, even at your own detriment.
Think with logic not I feel like it shouldn’t be this way It’s simple would u rather your kid pissed on or doing the pissing
I agree with her, just because he can't get pregnant does t mean he can't get someone pregnant which is still just as much your responsibility as a parent to be in his business.
It would be but sadly if Diane gets pregnant she will have to CARRY that baby and unless it’s adoption she will take care of that child .Jack gets p a girl pregnant Dre and Bo can try and make him but you can’t force him to step up either that’s why there are more SINGLE moms mommas baby daddy’s maybe dad has more of an option to leave mothers not so much..
@@janderson947Both have an option to leave. Adoption is a legal way for a girl/woman to give up legal responsibility to her child. In fact women and girls can drop their newborns off at safe places without any legal consequences. Men and boys don't have the right to relinquish their responsibility to the child in these ways.
@@janderson947Wrong! All mothers and fathers have the option to leave, but mothers just happen to have a more responsible thinking.
There are millions of mothers who abandon their kids yearly, it's just that there are millions more who have a good head on their shoulders and take responsibility.
Father's should learn from that.
@@nickeni3050 let me ask YOU this where do they go unless the grandmother or nearest relative takes them in the system does I never said they didn’t but WHO carries the child definitely not the dad so it takes a toll on the mom physically and emotionally never said the mom won’t leave especially for post pardum but you do see MORE single mothers than fathers…
@@janderson947 Like I said, a mother will for one be more attached and two will choose responsibility... That's why we have more single moms..
Also, if you think relatives are the only places kids abandoned by mothers have been found then think again.
I've seen not heard, seen babies been abandoned by mother's under bridges, kids left behind INTENTIONALLY by their mothers in parks or markets, Kids dumped in front of orphanages by mothers, Kids sold off into labor by mothers who finally decided to leave, Kids left on the streets intentionally, Kids left with a stranger by a mom who gives an "help me hold my kid" excuse to run away ..
If a Father decided to leave, he leaves the baby with their mom; If a mother decides to leave, she leaves the kid in a place that would leave the kid traumatized for life.
So yeah, father's should take responsibility more cause majority of moms who left their kids were mothers who the baby's father left the kid for her to take care of alone
Their letting their son be the exact kind of person that they are trying to keep their daughter from
That's because men and women aren't the same. Men that sleep around are respected. Women that don't sleep around are respected.
@@younglove3362that is exactly what has to change. Why is one gender respected for the thing the other is shamed for. It’s not fair to men, it’s not fair to women, so what exactly are u proving here
@Talentless-daughterofapollo
That you're slow. Men are not valued based off their looks, women are. Women are not based off what they provide, Men are. Women are not based off what physical labor they can and can't do, Men are. Women are not based off how many men they can sleep with, Men are. As much as you want to fall for the bs feminism stuff, we are not equal or the same. So if women want to act like they have penis envy then they'll be treated as such. Just like Men will be labeled weak by both genders if they're toshow their emotional side and submit to women. That's my point 👉. If you don't like it then too bad. But that's what it is.
*They're... And I aggressively agree!
Thanks for removing my reply. 🙄
Cant get pregnant but make someone's daughter pregnant while u don't want dat for ur daughter is hypocrisy
If the other girls parent were strict too then Jack wouldn't have no girls to get pregnant 😂
Ok! So it’s hypocrisy! So what! It’s still the female who is going to suffer!! 🤣🤣
Yes! Absolutely.
@@Hero-and-HooliganNot you shifting blame, you sound like the type of person to say "well what was she wearing."
It's life 😂
"because he cant get PREGNANT" his ass can get someone pregnant every day. She can get pregnant once and is down for 9 months. I'd argue one of these is MUCH WORSE
Yeah hers is cause not only does she have to carry the baby but has to birth it and nurse it he doesn’t
@@corvonthompson4098 no he has to pay child support for any and all kids he has, and if he had a kid every day of the months she's pregnant, then that would be a couple fucking hundred. The THOUSANDS of child support.
@@jace8470hers is still worse. She can possibly die giving birth and cry online about how hard single motherhood is
@@paulekezie465 single motherhood is hard??? As well as single fatherhood??? Being a single parent is difficult?????????? People have a right to complain about that??????????
@@paulekezie465getting more than one girl pregnant in a year is worser than a daughter getting pregnant and her dying isn’t that likely people should be treating there children the same girls and boys should just be taught to be safe and being a single father is a thing
“ he can’t get pregnant “ is you anticipating your kid be a deadbeat dad😂
What a stretch 😂😂😂 smh 🤦🏽
@@winniejohnson5559They’re kinda right though 😭
This reminds me of a really nice girl from high school who had a dad who resigned down on her hard, because ladies are the ones that get pregnant.
She ended up jabbing a hot wire hanger where the sun doesn't shine to get a hysterectomy. 🤦🏾♀️
@@winniejohnson5559 not really it just means that it's not his responsibility which is not what one should be teaching their kids just because he's not pregnant doesn't mean he's not equally responsible for the pregnancy. Ik it's just a show but people act like that irl too.
@@May-yp4we it's a sad truth unfortunately
And then jack have the same conversation with them when he started working for the lakers 🤣🤣🤣
😂
LMAOOOOO
You took the words of my mouth
Double standards cut both ways. There are things you can be more lenient with boys but stricter on girls and vice a versa
@@brettsalazar1886do you have children?
Here’s my thing. If a girl had a bad night and gets pregnant, she can only have that happen every nine months (unless superfetation happens, which is astronomically rare), but a guy on a bad night can get an unlimited number of girls pregnant, so that feels like the bigger risk there
I don't think even Chris brown could pull off this hypothetical
Sounds good on paper, but even if this was a competition, he can't get "unlimited" girls pregnant in one night. A few, sure.
That’s only if the guy even gets that far and statistically most aren’t only a small amount😂😂😂
If the other girls parent were strict too then Jack wouldn't have no girls to get pregnant 😂
@@Hero-and-Hooliganso again we have to police girls bodies instead of teaching men responsibility.
Jack can't get pregnant!
But he can GET someone pregnant!
Felt that in my soul...
You should have bolded “SOMEONE” instead 😅
If all the other girls parent were strict too then Jack wouldn't have no girls to get pregnant 😂
@@Hero-and-Hooligan u mean woman raised daughters!?
@@Hero-and-Hooliganif parents were more strict with their sons, they wouldn’t be so many deadbeats
Grandpa said little boys make babies in the streets, little girls bring babies home.
since some of the people in the comments think she's just going off for no reason she was angry because her parents scolded her for accepting a sweatshirt from a boy in school as she was only cold while her brothers are allowed to flirt and mingle with any girl they want (the parents even high-fiving her brothers for making out with girls under the stairs while her and her sister were expected to avert their eyes from men till their 30s) with no intervention or sit down. that's ALL.
they had an entire lecture set out for her like SHE was the one in the wrong when there was nothing even remotely underhanded going on they just ASSUME it is BECAUSE she and her sister are women. the problem she has with her parents isn't a plea to up and rewrite biological differences she knows exists it's that they simply do not hold her brothers to the same standards of social and societal etiquette on their end of the spectrum that they SHOULD be (a common pattern within the show actually) and it's a valid reason for any young woman to be frustrated/upset about.
Thank you,, haven't seen this episode but Diane always stood on business so I knew it wasn't her fault. 😂
Just wondering - how was this resolved in the show?
@@avp6730
I'm not sure, but hopefully the parents ended up realizing the error of their double standard ways.
Please what's the title
@@miracledavidojoko Black-ish
This was the truth that a lot of humanity needed to hear. And it is the root of a lot of problems in the world. Men and women are biologically different. But we should not be held to different standards of substance and actions. I don't want my son creating fatherless children any more than I want my daughter randomly pregnant. Period
If the other girls parent were strict too then Jack wouldn't have no girls to get pregnant 😂
@@Hero-and-Hooligan so men are too much of babies to have enough sense to think about the consequences of their actions and must have women and other adults do damage control for them instead of being responsible? got it 🙄 then yall cry bout not all men but spew this bullshit
@@Hero-and-Hooliganmy dad was strict as hell and he wasn't stoppin nothin ijs
@@Hero-and-Hooligan
Strict parents create secretive children, so I don't know how that would help.
@@SunshineTheLoverSee ..it’s not all on the boy after all lol
As a girl that grew up with 3 brothers this is so relatable and the only reason they weren’t constantly watching and on my back about everything when I was in hs was because they found out I was gay.
Yep, when wanna play the man's role, they normally get abadoned to fight for themselves. Good
@@stephoncox5778wat👁️👄👁️?
Gay women get pregnant too...and sometimes accidentally on a drunk night with their gay male friend
@@stephoncox5778what man role are u talkin bouttt
@@stephoncox5778 what does this even mean 😭
"But he could get someone pregnant" good point diane, boys are always let off so easily after getting a girl pregnant while she's left to deal with the two big s(setback and shame)
Exactly why girls need to be more careful. Duh
Boys don't have to deal with any physical complications from pregnancy. They don't have morning sickness, gain weight, their feet don't swell, nor do they have to risk their lives in childbirth.
@@LoFromNOright…only teach girls responsibility. The boys don’t need to know the consequences of being a parent at a young age. They don’t need to prepare for fatherhood if they get someone pregnant. Unprepared fathers have worked WONDERS for our communities.
@@LoFromNOfatherlessness is a problem because of this mindset.
@@LoFromNO well exactly the problem (when only one person has to take responsibility is exactly why sh*t will always bee a problem👀
she ain't lying
But she's being very disingenuous the fact that you're agreeing with a minor who has no actual understanding of the world is beyond me and it shows the mindset of all females when they want to compete with men but they cannot be men😊
Ngl even so Idm boys Gon be boys you have to protect the girls of kourse it'll be different this ep was pointless ion see why she mad 😂
@@Iamfaadeoutbc theyre being sexist to her???
Not really. There are double standards for a reason. Men and women are not the same and work differently. There are plenty of double standards that affect men way more than women. Like prison sentences. Men get way more time than women for the same crime. In domestic abuse calls. It is the man who is put in handcuffs when cops arrive at the place without even ask questions first. Basically saying that men are the abuser while women are the victim just assuming. Not to mention college and business hiring women because they are women. So what double standers are worst
Womp womp womppppppp
The show is Black -ish and it's on apple TV, Hulu and Disney plus
What episode and season is it?
@@nazyiaali I don't know I just started watching it
Secret agent alert!
Secret agent alert!
@@nazyiaalis7 e7
Finally😂
Thank you
Don't know what this show is, but she is right. Her parents are hypocrites.
It's Blackish. An ABC sitcom on for 8 seasons. Won several awards for the show and the actors during it's time on tv.
My parents were too, and for good reason. No one was going to adduct my big bad ass, but not the same for my sister. If I had got someone pregnant the consequences in my family wouldn’t be in there every second. But if my sister get pregnant we all pay for it immediately. When I did something wrong my punishments were also way worse than my sister. It’s was more important that the son had harsher consequences because I can do way more negative damage in society. My parents also paid for my sisters college, but I had to find my own way which I did. My parents treated us all different from each other but it was for good reason and it worked. Treating all your kids the same doesn’t always work, some kids need different stuff to grow. I just needed more freedom than my sister to grow and she needed more attention. The genders are very different let’s stop pretending they are not.
@@Melly-uh7rkLet's stop pretending these type of excuses half the time don't create resentful kids that will never talk to you
@@Melly-uh7rkat the end of the day people are people who need to be treated with respect. As for children, it's a parent's job to steer their babies in the right direction and meet them where they're at (accommodating parent style to the type of child they have). All of this while also not being hypocrites as well as not perpetuating patriarchal biases.
@@Melly-uh7rk nah I firmly believe the genders are even more different, past the physical, because of how each are raised, not really determined by DNA and not really natural. If both genders were raised more smartly, the genders wouldn't feel like different species to one another and there would be less divide. You not getting your college paid for just because you're a male is one example of the faulty raising going on for decades. And yet many men wonder why women are a little too focused on money, well when they get raised in similar ways your sister did, how could they not? When they are the ones who get more attention, how could they not grow up to love attention in obnoxious and unnecessary ways? When men are taught from a young age that they are to not cry and they are to hold their emotions back (even though baby boys can often come out the womb crying, meaning it's a right for all of us), how can they not grow up to be emotionally dull (many are to the point sex becomes the thing that they feel the most about and for, causing a few different problems)
and create a lot of issues within their lives and other's?
For context a guy from her class gave her a sweatshirt bc she was cold and she accepted it. They both lectured her for doing that.
don't watch the show but wtf? Is this the 1800s? Is she ruined now and will she be forced to marry the boy to save her name since no decent man will ever want to marry her?
^Apparently as keeping the sweatshirt would “lead the guy on”, she wore the sweat shirt home bc the dude said she could keep it but Dad told her she had to give it back. She says alright and takes it off and she’s wearing a tank top and shorts (which is a pretty normal outfit) and her Dad completely flips out on her.
Then when her mom comes home she lectures her too.
its less about being treated equally and more about being treated different for doing the same thing. having the same qualifications but no getting the job, being told they’re “aggressive” when men are seen as assertive, being “disgusting” and “unhygienic” if they dont shave, etc etc
Yup absolutely with the daughter. Im single mom of 2 boys i always tell them get married and take care of ur family. Break the curse
I don't think they will listen to you once they are 18 to 19 so shhhh
@@saltz_n_pepper3332 Because you wouldn't? No one cares what you think, you don't even know them.
@@saltz_n_pepper3332you can’t 100% determine what your teens will do with their newly found freedom. But you instill good morals and values in them like owning up to your mistakes and supporting the person they impregnated- whatever the choice might be. Because it takes two to get pregnant, both can also think about safe sex
I wouldn't pressure them to get married since that doesnt guarantee security, but you're right.
Its not your kids so it doesn't matter what you wouldn't do. Its better to marry then the fornicate @NebulaKat345
That is such a fair argument!! Just because your daughter can get pregnant doesn't mean your son can't get someone pregnant. I 100 % believe boys should be held to just as high of a standard as girls when it comes to these things.
boys get loose girls and untrained girls pregnant & brought shame to their parents ,how careless parent they are
But the girl has the most power when it comes unto opening the gateway..That's why parents are more serious when it's a girl...Boys don't have the power when it comes to sex ,most women have control over that.
@@yoboybigj875 no, they really don't. its fair game on both sides tf?.
@@spooki_koki9881I think what he’s saying is if the girl doesn’t want it, sex doesn’t happen. Unless she’s raped, but that becomes a different conversation. So assuming everyone is acting respectfully and not violating anyone’s body, for sex to happen (for the most part), the woman is typically the one to give the green light
Your son can still be responsible for a child even if he isn’t the pregnant one.
My boi!
Majority of the child care will fall on mom it’s just another double standard hmmmm
This episode was highly needed. Thank you to the writer that touched on this BS standard.
Movie title pls
@@adekunleopeyemi5799it called black-ish it a series
@@adekunleopeyemi5799 its a show and it's called black-ish
@@adekunleopeyemi5799black-ish
SHE HAS A VALID POINT!!! THAT’S HOW IT WAS FOR ME GROWING UP.
She has a damn good point.
No she doesn't. A girl supposed to have class, have lesser work or be at home but People fool them to go work along with their husbands and let cost of living rise out of control. In this case Boys will always be boys. Girls are known to be smarter at a younger age so when they doing dumb things they are to punished more severely
Diane is smarter than Jack by a country mile.
Yup
Massive respect for kids who stand up to their parents with logic and not just anger
Tell ‘em Diane! 💪🏽
B.S boys and girls are different that's the way it's always been and always will be you must want your daughter online and shirtless people are fools these days
Yasss
U women don't mind being treated differently when there's a crisis or a war that needs fighting.
The name of the movie/ series pls
@@maryam2501 blackish
She’s right. A boy and girl can post pics online of the same context and they’ll get completely different reactions
Plus boys pics are not safer than girls pics, there’s just a different set of standards when those pics escape their original posts.
Both can still be targets of predators, both can still be victims of bullying, and both can have their pictures stolen without consent.
Parents wouldn't have to worry about daughters getting pregnant if boys were taught not to get girls pregnant
💯💯💯
The dumbest comment yet
@psychandson6337 if you have a problem with it your clearly just part of the problem 😆
@@lilliedicks5534it’s a dumb comment because it implies that guys try to get girls pregnant when it’s usually an accident in which both party’s are equally at fault
@@lilliedicks5534 Girls could also just wait till marriage
Lol I had the same arrangement once, they replied with the fact that they would be responsible for my baby while they wouldn’t have to do anything for my brother’s baby 🤷🏽♀️
And that's the quiet part ppl like this mean when they say nonsense like this
She is totally right just like Diane is your daughter and you don’t want her to become a pregnant teen, Ashley is someone’s daughter who doesn’t want her to be a pregnant teen. It takes two to get pregnant.
But the girl has the most power when it comes unto opening the gateway..That's why parents are more serious when it's a girl...Boys don't have the power when it comes to sex ,most women have control over that.
the boy has the freedom to influence, coerce or pressure because parents are not on him to not do those things that can result in pregnancy. Case in point no one’s telling Diane’s brother that he can’t do certain things because he can get a girl pregnant. Maybe if we had the same expectation of avoiding pregnancy made on both males and females we may have less teen pregnancies. If the girl is pregnant the guy is too. It takes two.
If youve never seen the show,, Diane is always like this 🤣 its not an "attitude," its her personality. Almost everyone in the house is usually afraid of her, except her grandma.
Wait what is the show called??
@@sunshinecarpBlack-ish it’s on Disney plus or Hulu
@@sunshinecarp Black-ish
She is a 100% correct on this show the treat her totally different
Yep
They celebrated him making out in the school stairwell? Really?! i knwo dayum well if she was caught rhey would of waxed rhat behind.
He almost did at the school dance.
@@dezeraejames9698 listen with all the scary situations of being accused of s.a. to later turn out to be false, I would be making sure my son understands why that's so risky.
@@erikafigueroa5128 I thought I wrote SHE, but apparently didn't and I do know about these false accusations going on with these young and older men.
@@dezeraejames9698 Oh she almost did, wooo I would have a talk with her too, that's risky for her on so many levels including s.a. and not being believed.
That's what Dre did and he also let her have her say about how she is growing into a young woman now; a conversation that's been going on since the beginning parent and teenage relationships.
Super lucky to be the one breaking weird double standards and sexism alongside my brother.
Neither of us were or would ever be wild enough to worry about, but still.
Certain _colors_ being for girls or boys , “girls can’t be messy,” “boys don’t cry” it’s all a bunch of Bull and we actively went out of our way to point out how much bull it is!
I remember i talked with my mom about how she treats me differently from my brothers. And i tell her how come i wasn't allowed to hang out with my friends, but he can anytime. And she hit me with cause he can't get pregnant.. as soon as i heard that, i stopped talking cause i knew there was no point in talking with someone who uses that as a reason.
Yeah l saw someone saying, if their daughter gets pregnant their responsible for the baby but if the son gets someone pregnant it's the girls parents that are responsible for the baby, something like that. Dbt be having sex before marriage period men and women that evens it out nicely.
While I understand her anger, I have to say this: unfortunately we don't live in a world where your parents can treat you the same as your male siblings, and it's not about being unfair, but about protecting you, when I was younger my father confessed that if my sister and/or I had been males, he would have given us a little more freedom, he saw I was about to complain and get angry and all that, but then he told me: "as a girl, you're more likely to be r*ped, killed, "disappear", I know you are strong, and I know you would fight, but at the same time I know you don't really stand a chance against a son of a b*tch willing to destroy our lives" I felt the fear in his words, and how he was trying to protect us, and I feel sad for all of those with daughters, because I know the wished they could be as carefree as they are with their sons (I'm not saying men are not in danger, but you know what I mean), all I did was tell him I love him and I hugged him. In this sick world, thousands of girls disappear due to s3x traffic, cartels, r*pe or worse. We should be teaching boys not to be r*pists, or harm women (or other human) instead of teaching girls how to avoid it, but in the meantime, our parents have the hardest job.
Instead of treating your daughter like defenseless puppies, raise your sons to respect the answer "no".
@@micaela2284 that's what I said, but how many parents actually do that?
@@MAUUmadness they don't if we don't make them. It's getti g better in some ways. My grandparents took the opposite approach, they taught me to go for blood if put in that situation. Carrying myself like this has helped me to avoid much problems from strange men in public. Only problem I had was a high school boyfriend before grandparents really drilled in the kill or be killed mindset. My only regret is they didn't start earlier. Now all of my male friends tell me I'm scary, and that we wouldn't be friends if we had met at work because they wouldn't approach me. There is another way. One where we can live our lives like a boy/man could. We should be afraid, if anything they should be afraid of what would happen of they tried. This is the world I dream of, but I know we won't get there is we don't refuse to let predators get away with it.
@@micaela2284 I think we're saying the same thing, I wasn't raised to be a damsel in distress, but against a group of men I know what would happen, I'm sorry if it was not clear and there was a misunderstanding.
Yep. Our parents said, "You make adult decisions, you will take on adult consequences." it goes for us ladies and the lads too.
The other one was "make your own money, stay in your own house and then you can engage in adult intimate activities that can affect our grandbabies." 😅
Put things in perspective for us.
She is the best character on the show
relate this to my core! household chores were mine since i was young because i was a girl. i couldn’t even mention a boys name even if they were my classmates. while my brother was allowed to date very young. no wonder i got into more trouble and became a good liar.
“My boy!” But when it’s the other way around the girl is shunned or scolded. I’m making sure my children are getting the same lectures.
I don't want my son creating fatherless children, giving diseases, or breaking hearts
I don't want my daughter getting randomly pregnant, getting a disease, or getting her heart broken
@@UnknownExistence-q2j right, but guys can also get a disease or get heart broken lol
@@_melany_melo_ I meant i do want any of my future kids being players, they're gonna stay with one person, if that don't work out they just don't date or find the right one. I don't want them being players
Right. If the daughter said she had a bf and the brother said he caught them making out she’d immediately be told to break up with him or told she’s too young for that. They congratulate their son not knowing the girl he’s doing that with is someone’s daughter, sister, cousin, most important of all she’s also a person but no it’s just “congrats on gettin some.”
@@MY_LEG- It's only bc he can't get pregnant 🤔🤔
Boys and girls should be treated differently but equally
Right, it was a mistake for them to set the expectation that they would treat them the same. They should be treated differently, but fairly.
My Ma treated us differently. She let my big bro go outside, to parties to events. But, she did tell us both not to get or get anyone pregnant. I have two sons. My brother doesn’t have children. He’s a lot more financially stable because he married once, stayed married and didn’t have children.
“He can’t get pregnant” so you would force your daughter to take care of her baby, but would be fine letting your son live his life like he’s not a dad. Being pregnant isn’t what makes you the parent, buddy.
Double standards exist for a reason It is what it is the female will always be more responsible for a kid especially teenagers That’s Y u shield your daughter from that even more so wen she has a brother around same age
She's beyond right
The sad part is that jack is being allowed to be the type of guy they want to protect Diane from.
Ikr💔
Honestly, that is a reasonable stance and is only fair! I always thought that and will continue too.
Are you talking about let boys be a menace and don't let girls breathe? How is this reasonable and fair? You should explain to both kids about safe sex and how to treat their partners and be treated by them with respect. How can you be mad at boys for treating your daughter the same way your son is treating other girls?
Are you agreeing with the sexist parents or the girl?
This is facts my cousin had this same statement at Thanksgiving and had the whole family quiet 😂. I was so proud.
You know you’re wrong when even the one you’re coddling calls you out 😅
she is absolutely right
Yep and that's exactly why we have girls wanting to be men and trying to become men and vice versa.. no you aren't treated the same !! Because you are different.!! Please !! Enough with this lunacy.. you are equally different!! One is not better than the other.. this feminist crap 💩 is truly nonsense
she is not right , boys get loose & untrained girls pregnant, then if parents train their girls they will abstain from sx .. the girl is just of her elder brother .. parents are more shameful when their girls are so loose & got pregnant.. it makes their parent hood worhless .. is the girls that accept sex dat , then its the boys that project sex , boys are not the same with the girls
This was my WHOLE childhood. My brothers could do anything they wanted and "its different because you're a girl" was the party fucking line. All because i can get pregnant. It fucking sucked
Double standards exist for a reason I’ll show u The girl would have an overwhelming amount of responsibility for that kid than the boy. U het it?
You're not too smart. Both would be parents so both would be responsible or did your dad leave you so you think men are generally irresponsible?@@carlh287
@@carlh287 it is wrong to hold a man and a woman to two different standards when it comes to having a child. We should hold both parents that contributed to the pregnancy to the same standard of involvement and responsibility for the child
I have 2 older brothers we had the same curfew and same household chore their reasoning is 1 if they get someone pregnant it will also be there problem not just the girls 2 learning basic household skills are essential to survive alone.
She communicated that SO well. Good for her calling them out so eloquently.
Black • ish is such a fun and educational show. Ive been watching it since I was 12. Im a bit older now and now I can understand things better ngl.
It’s true. This is what MOST parents do. They don’t care what their sons do because in their head, if the boy gets someone else’s daughter pregnant then that’s not their problem to deal with, it’s HER PARENTS problem. And they know that their son has the option to opt out and not have to deal with that baby. The double standards are real.
In general, who is telling 13, 14, and 15 year olds make out and risk any of the consequences, isn’t it a parents job to minimize these risks for the well being of their children?
Bro me and my twin sister (both female) get talked to and treated way different ok like if my sister want to go hang out with her friends alone and like run off to hang out our mom is really hesitant about letting her go she will ask lots of questions and what not but with me if I ask she just asks who I’m hanging out with and then say yes it’s not about treating they child different it’s about why they treat you “differently”😂❤
I don't watch this show, but even though the parenting isn't the best, the communication flow is at a higher tier than most. I have hope for them. Especially Jack; lowkey, his addition at the end there probably helped to highlight and resolve the disparity Diane wanted acknowledged in the first place. Seems like a nice family.
Diane be coming with the teachable moments. Nuggets of wisdom.
Damn she got them there!
Tried this conversation multiple times with my parents and only got beat and called ungrateful. Proceed at your own risk kids, being in your 20s will not save you💀
“He can’t get pregnant.” Dumb af excuse. 💀💀💀
Guess what, he can’t, but if he decides to play around he can get every girl in town pregnant. Watch as he busses off and let’s mommy and daddy take the heat from the girls’ parents, then get forced to pay child support (assuming the parents won’t force the daughters to abort the babies).
Congratulations on the new job and 19k subscribers!!
My goal this month is to finish writing my academic paper, at least, spend 2 hours on it per day . Fingers crossed 🤞🏽😇
Is it me or krew have gotten much more comfortable on camera . So proud of them ❤❤❤
We are three brothers and 1 girl in my family, we are all treated differently. No matter how you try you can't treat your kids the same even in the same gender not to talk of different. My dad is over protective of my sister and he only takes advice from her, while if we as boys get into trouble, he could literally leave us to find our way out. She always got more allowances, but we had more freedom of movement, so we can't pretend like all the genders can be treated the same. Being a teenage mother would ruin her life, while her brother inpregnating a girl wouldn't do much except the child support payments which he is underage to pay
And thats why it's f up, why is a teenage pregnancy would only "ruin" a girl future? Because we as a society don't put the same expectations of parenting on men, a teenage boy could get 10 different girl pregnant in just one day but how many kids can one girl have in the same amount of time?
@@paolac.9468 because the guy is not carry baby for 9 months, a guy won't have his relationship chances affected by a baby, a guy won't burden his family with an unplanned baby. Instead of arguing about how society is, accept it as it is. Why can't a broke guy get married but a woman can, why do women get shelters while men stay homeless, why is an unemployed man a failure, while an unemployed woman isn't? That's just life you win some you lose some but you can't only complain about the double standards that don't benefit you
THIS COMMENT IS IT! Men and women are different like boys and girls are. I was the only girl of two and although I’m the oldest, my brothers are far taller and bigger than me. Everywhere I went I had to take at least one of them, but they were fine to go places on their own. But with that, if my brothers wanted anything or to do anything my dad and mom would tell the boys to ask me. As I was the more responsible (being the oldest) and I knew more information about them than my parents did. They always trusted my judgment.
She looks like a tiny China Anne Mcclain
She has a point...
Not saying they need to less up on how they treat her...
They just need to tighten up on their leniency with the boy, or he'll easily go astray
This Show is Sorely Missed And Very Much Needed especially in 2024 ! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Yup, she's absolutely right. I have fraternal twins, a boy and a girl I always tell them you have 18 years to be a kid. You have 60 to 80 years to do adult things. Don't rush your first kiss Or feel pressure into having sex or smoking weed or get drunk Or Being experimental. You only get one childhood. But you have multiple experience to grow as an adult.
Boy or girl, it’s about principles and values. Not creating broken homes and unexpected children is the product of INTENTIONALLY AND SINCERELY being in a relationship. No cheating, no sleeping around, and NO CHILDREN unless you are mature enough to commit to the responsibility you will be held to/not allowed to forget. The world would be different if people were not coddled and enabled to engage in mature activities while demonstrating the social prowess/self awareness of an ill raised middle schooler.
It’s literally impossible to treat them the same. You can do your best but it’s not easy
If you use the same standards and morals, you can get pretty close. The problem is you raise your girls and coddle your sons
@@sweettreatsoverload4296Definitely the other way around lol . Most boys don’t get coddled at all
@@Mr.Jaquaveon2k it's usually the mother that coddle the son and the father that coddle the daughter. Not all the time tho
Having the same conversation with a family friend the other day. He has a boy and a girl and is funny how he was saying he advice the boy to fuck anything he could because he’s young and he went quiet and offended when I told him out there there’s another man who’s advising his son the same thing and that’s the one who’s gonna mess around with your daughter and you won’t like it.
*There is an old Essence magazine cover story about Diddy and Kim, I NEVER liked how Kim dogged **#JLo** in the pages of that article, because it was obvious to me Diddy treated them both like pieces of ISH!*
*Likewise, Domestic Violence can be a vicious cycle there's so much to unpack!*
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I had this same conversation with my mom it wasn't right I feel ya girl❤
Hes becoming live action Miles Morales more and more by the year 🤣 get this man the role before its too late
She ain’t lying
May God help us to train our boys the same way we train our girls, this is the root of the problems in relationships and marriages, parents wants to protect their girls from the same kind of boys they raise,a girl can only get pregnant once in a year, but a boy can get a thousand girls pregnant in one year, imagine a father hailing his son in such situations,he is raising his kind.
This is a real parenting issue, my mom always says I can't have a boyfriend when im older but my brother can?- it's honestly really annoying
So far I don’t have that issue too bad because I don’t have any sort of social media other than RUclips, but I have experienced it. My mom always tells me not to get pregnant but never tells my brother(who’s ONLY a year away from being 18) not to get anyone pregnant. It is COMPLETELY unfair
So I definitely get her point but real talk both kids are going to have to different life experiences, so they will 100% need different things buuuuuut I think the problem comes when one child is allowed to get away with things the other isnt. Wrong is wrong regardless.
Yea the double standards like do they not realize they’d have to help pay for the kid 😭
Not really seeing as they're training him to be a deadbeat father. " He can't get pregnant " Is enough for me to know how these people think, child not growing inside him equals not his responsibility equals a deadbeat.
@@May-yp4weso true 😌🙏
We're suppose to be treated differently but in terms of other things the same(like dating and teaching men how to be husbands or dads...and taking care of themselves. And mostly cause they're most likely to cause chaos and k*ll
I absolutely ❤ his biggie shirt 🤩😍
This was a good show 🙂
Diane is so right for that, and what she said is so true
Yes!
BE ANGRY.
STAY ANGRY.
She's right, it's not fair, and that the unfairness starts at home.
Girls got a point.
Also the way that they celebrate that he’s “gettin some action” while you know damn sure if she was makin out with someone in a stairwell they’d be berating and grounding her smh
One of the best shows,lots of things to learn..... I loved it
When Dre said "My Boy" I thought it was both so wrong and yet so funny at the same time.
This isn't a black issue, this a society issue. God clearly condemns it for both genders, hence why it is best to wait for marriage and it s frowned upon about fornication.
SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT! "He can get someone NO MANY girls pregnant at the same time, their ONE daughter getting pregnant"
wait what sport doesn’t include a shirt that he plays besides swimjnf
Me too cant you pamper me like the girl, do you think is fair how you're treating me because im a boy 😭😭
her teeth are so perfect, goals
I had a mate whose parents treated her differently than her brother. He ended up a mess: five babies with five different women and in none of their lives. She became sneaky and as soon as she turned 18 she set the boundary that they are only to contact her from funerals and the odd wedding. They beg to be in her life. She, thankfully, never forgave them and lives a beautiful life with her daughters, free from judgment, gender bigotry, and religious oppression.
I'm happy that she made the right decisions
Wtf it’s not that serious to disown your parents. Parents are mere humans just like you. We all make mistakes including you. And boys and girls are different and it’s ok to treat them a bit different because the world is DANGEROUS for us women and girls!!!
@@bananafanalll6651not for doing the same thing. Clearly there's more to the story, some parents suck. There's no excuse of "being human"
Your kids didn't ask to be born
Ooklkaaayy there’s more to this story forsure.
@@bananafanalll6651 I literally hate when people bring up this line of thinking because if a daughter did get pregnant, there are a good amount of parents who would've disowned her. Heck, in some cultures, they'll still do an honor killing. However, the moment a daughter goes blood doesn't excuse abusive behavior, it's all how could you not unconditionally forgive your parents. It's hypocritical