Thank you so much for making this video! I'm a British Asian (Gujarati) in my mid-twenties and I kind of have the opposite situation - I was also in a predominantly white primary school but my parents were pretty lenient, and my high school was much more diverse. But unlike almost all my South Asian friends who preferred western culture and media over eastern, I've just been stuck in Bollywood/Kollywood music and movies for years now 😂 Though my values are more western than eastern, English music just seems to resonate with me less. It makes no sense to me because music has no language (right?) and why would I deviate away from the culture I grew up in? One thing I have noticed is that I get similar culture crises when I'm around white people and I feel like they're uncomfortable with how different I may seem to be. The reflections continue :P Ps. This was so engaging to listen to, you're an excellent speaker :D
Thank you for sharing. As a native born Mexican, I lived there until I was 9, I have always felt that I have had an ethnic Identity Crisis. Growing up in Texas the lack of diversity kept me from connecting with my ethnicity outside the home, and therefore, I adopted the "white" culture similar to what you explain in the video. As an adult I still continue to struggle to connect with my Mexican heritage even though I am native in spanish and do my best to engage in Mexican celebrations. With that being said, I often feel as if I am being judged by those of the same skin color and ethnic background as mine do to my majority adoption of the U.S. culture as well. Not to mention the fact that my significant other happens to be Anglo. This is something that I am still trying to comprehend and how to control it, but after watching your video I have concluded that I should not try to control it and accept the fact that I am Mexican, American, Texan, Californian, and most of all I am human. I look forward to reading your book as well!
My culture is my identity and personality, it gives me spiritual, intellectual and emotional distinction from others. But Having friends from other cultures makes me more creative. In fresh ways about space and how people create their own world and environment. It is best way to connect between creative thinking and cross-cultural relationships.
I am in the same situation.... although I am of Sikh descent, I feel 100% Swedish as I was brought up here. I never learned Punjabi as a kid but am now making an effort to learn it. It's really awkward and my Punjabi is really bad :/ I am going to India this november, I am quite scared though because of how bad my mother tongue is. I know very little of Sikh culture.
I'm Indian Canadian, who happens to be Punjabi and Sikh as well, and lived in Toronto as well, but unlike you I moved 15 times between 5 countries, and they retired in India. I'm currently there but going through really alot of issues. I just came across your channel today and kind of love bombed it lol. I'm going through a lot of anxiety right now. I also grew up with whites but in the US when my Dad got an H1B visa
Thank you for such a wonderful video! You hit the nail on the head when you said you are not of the culture of your friends, you are a friend or guest. Unfortunately I feel this way even in my own inherited cultures: I'm half Muslim Nigerian and Catholic Kittian and raised in the UK. Everyday and almost every experience feels like an identity crisis because accepting part of my cultural heritage means denying another part. Living culturally Caribbean e.g. going to church, carnival, eating pork souse, drinking rum and listening to soca music is in direct opposition to praying 5 times a day, spending time with the Muslim community, wearing a hijab, eating halal and speaking fulfulde. Plus I've the Anglo British culture to juggle alongside these vastly different cultures. I've not found a way to reconcile my cultural identity and I've never fitted in or felt a sense of belonging in either of my inherited cultural backgrounds. I've tended to identify more as west African because in the UK this community values higher educated and shares more of the conservative values I grew up with and now hold. However, most Nigerians in the UK are Christian and from traditionally opposing tribes than my own. I've friends from other west African countries but there I am guest because we are a different tribem nationality and religion. Does anyone else relate? Does anyone have ideas on how to go about reconciling these opposing cultures?
I am from India... So, my father was a Military Personnel, So we literally had to move to a new place every 3 month because of his postings on different places... And because of that I had to change schools & languages very often... (FYI, I can speak 3 languages fluently because of this and also know 7 more that are not really fluent) And in schools, Whenever a teacher/student would ask "Where are you from?" I LITERALLY NEVER HAD AN ANSWER FOR THAT WHEN EVERY OTHER PERSON NEARBY KNEW "Where was he/she from... And it was always so so embarrassing for me... I got bullied cause' of that.... And never really got to connect to a specific cultural identity. This video was literally SO SO RELATEABLE FOR ME. Thank you so so much for this video Ritu Didi! ❤️❤️ You literally changed my life. 🥰❤️
Thanks for being bold, truthful and authentic. Yes these words resonate. I think you might be scratching the surface of this idea. It is the confusion of the first generation, with parent immigrants. I come from a country where we are the fourth generation of (not migrants) but slave, indentured laborers and colonialists. To top it up, I descend from all three. Like it wasn't enough, I then migrated to Australia and became a parent. I would love to hear your views around parenting based on your research. How do you intend to pass this idea later on? I don't know how to explain this to my son one day.
I was born in Brampton by the way. I was in Canada til I was 5, lived in India for a year, and later lived in the US for 12 years in pretty much white America. I didn't see brown people for a long time. And then my parents moved up to Canada later, and that was the first time I saw brown people again, Pakistanis in Mississauga. Just 3 years, and then they moved to India. I was so lost.
Thank you so much for making this video!
I'm a British Asian (Gujarati) in my mid-twenties and I kind of have the opposite situation - I was also in a predominantly white primary school but my parents were pretty lenient, and my high school was much more diverse. But unlike almost all my South Asian friends who preferred western culture and media over eastern, I've just been stuck in Bollywood/Kollywood music and movies for years now 😂 Though my values are more western than eastern, English music just seems to resonate with me less. It makes no sense to me because music has no language (right?) and why would I deviate away from the culture I grew up in? One thing I have noticed is that I get similar culture crises when I'm around white people and I feel like they're uncomfortable with how different I may seem to be. The reflections continue :P
Ps. This was so engaging to listen to, you're an excellent speaker :D
Thank you for sharing. As a native born Mexican, I lived there until I was 9, I have always felt that I have had an ethnic Identity Crisis. Growing up in Texas the lack of diversity kept me from connecting with my ethnicity outside the home, and therefore, I adopted the "white" culture similar to what you explain in the video. As an adult I still continue to struggle to connect with my Mexican heritage even though I am native in spanish and do my best to engage in Mexican celebrations. With that being said, I often feel as if I am being judged by those of the same skin color and ethnic background as mine do to my majority adoption of the U.S. culture as well. Not to mention the fact that my significant other happens to be Anglo. This is something that I am still trying to comprehend and how to control it, but after watching your video I have concluded that I should not try to control it and accept the fact that I am Mexican, American, Texan, Californian, and most of all I am human. I look forward to reading your book as well!
My culture is my identity and personality, it gives me spiritual, intellectual and emotional distinction from others. But Having friends from other cultures makes me more creative. In fresh ways about space and how people create their own world and environment. It is best way to connect between creative thinking and cross-cultural relationships.
I am in the same situation.... although I am of Sikh descent, I feel 100% Swedish as I was brought up here. I never learned Punjabi as a kid but am now making an effort to learn it. It's really awkward and my Punjabi is really bad :/
I am going to India this november, I am quite scared though because of how bad my mother tongue is. I know very little of Sikh culture.
My dad comes from village and we are living in city and I suffer from Identity Crisis and that's how Bollywood was invented. Same thing for u
Amazing
You are such a beautiful woman. I am so sorry you had to go through this.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's nice to hear things from your perspective. Also, you have a lovely speaking voice. Keep it up!
I'm Indian Canadian, who happens to be Punjabi and Sikh as well, and lived in Toronto as well, but unlike you I moved 15 times between 5 countries, and they retired in India. I'm currently there but going through really alot of issues. I just came across your channel today and kind of love bombed it lol. I'm going through a lot of anxiety right now. I also grew up with whites but in the US when my Dad got an H1B visa
Thank you for such a wonderful video!
You hit the nail on the head when you said you are not of the culture of your friends, you are a friend or guest.
Unfortunately I feel this way even in my own inherited cultures: I'm half Muslim Nigerian and Catholic Kittian and raised in the UK.
Everyday and almost every experience feels like an identity crisis because accepting part of my cultural heritage means denying another part. Living culturally Caribbean e.g. going to church, carnival, eating pork souse, drinking rum and listening to soca music is in direct opposition to praying 5 times a day, spending time with the Muslim community, wearing a hijab, eating halal and speaking fulfulde.
Plus I've the Anglo British culture to juggle alongside these vastly different cultures.
I've not found a way to reconcile my cultural identity and I've never fitted in or felt a sense of belonging in either of my inherited cultural backgrounds.
I've tended to identify more as west African because in the UK this community values higher educated and shares more of the conservative values I grew up with and now hold. However, most Nigerians in the UK are Christian and from traditionally opposing tribes than my own. I've friends from other west African countries but there I am guest because we are a different tribem nationality and religion.
Does anyone else relate?
Does anyone have ideas on how to go about reconciling these opposing cultures?
go back then. I'm sure there's an other immigrant that can take your place that won't whine as much
I am from India...
So, my father was a Military Personnel, So we literally had to move to a new place every 3 month because of his postings on different places...
And because of that I had to change schools & languages very often... (FYI, I can speak 3 languages fluently because of this and also know 7 more that are not really fluent)
And in schools, Whenever a teacher/student would ask "Where are you from?" I LITERALLY NEVER HAD AN ANSWER FOR THAT WHEN EVERY OTHER PERSON NEARBY KNEW "Where was he/she from...
And it was always so so embarrassing for me... I got bullied cause' of that.... And never really got to connect to a specific cultural identity.
This video was literally SO SO RELATEABLE FOR ME.
Thank you so so much for this video Ritu Didi! ❤️❤️
You literally changed my life.
🥰❤️
Thanks for being bold, truthful and authentic. Yes these words resonate. I think you might be scratching the surface of this idea. It is the confusion of the first generation, with parent immigrants. I come from a country where we are the fourth generation of (not migrants) but slave, indentured laborers and colonialists. To top it up, I descend from all three. Like it wasn't enough, I then migrated to Australia and became a parent. I would love to hear your views around parenting based on your research. How do you intend to pass this idea later on? I don't know how to explain this to my son one day.
I am 14 years. I lost my head😭😭😭😭i am so scared. I want my head.
I can completely feel you. Right now I'm feeling the same
Herr Fioole is der goat
Lady don't consider Punjab, a part of India.
So she has a Khalistani Ideology.
What is khalistan ? I heard it in North India , when I was in Chandigarh but have no knowledge aside of that , maybe it's a North Indian people thing
Lmao she is saying here parents are indian immigrant calling herself indian women where you heard her saying this. 🤔
I was born in Brampton by the way. I was in Canada til I was 5, lived in India for a year, and later lived in the US for 12 years in pretty much white America. I didn't see brown people for a long time. And then my parents moved up to Canada later, and that was the first time I saw brown people again, Pakistanis in Mississauga. Just 3 years, and then they moved to India. I was so lost.
Proud to be Indian
go back then
Bomboclat
Identity is maya
Boi
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