This is awesome. 100 days is a tricky time (at least for me)... that is when my mind starts telling me "I am doing great, so obviously I do NOT have a drinking problem anymore, just look how good I'm doing. Surely now I can have ONE beer?" and then the whole thing goes into the toilet. Stick with it, you are off to a great start.
I've been sober now for 382 days and I have never felt better. I quit on the 1st Jan 2023 and I lost about 15kg since then. Before I quit I promised myself each day that I wouldn't drink that day but I always did, that happened for months and months before I finally quit. To begin with, I started with a goal of quitting for 3 months, then when I hit my goal I decided to extend it to six months. On the 1st of July, I was able to take part in the Dunwich Dynamo, a 120mile overnight bicycle ride. I then decide to extend my sobriety for the whole year. When I was counting in the new year this year I was so happy to mark my 12 months of abstinence. Now I know that I do not want to drink again and I look forward to 2 years of sobriety and doing the Dunwich Dynamo for the second time. You can do it and you won't regret it. I feel healthy and happy and have a waist measurement last seen when I was 18 years, I am now 50!
120 miles overnight is insane. My bicycling was a big reason that inspired me to stop entirely too. More bikes, less beers. :-D Congratulations with everything and good luck with everything. :)
My mom has to have brain surgery for a tumor. The stress and worrying is really weighing on my family. I want to stay sober for her. It's been rough, I'm learning that positivity can drive out the stress.
I am 140 days sober! 🎉 I’m an exotic dancer so at my job it’s pretty common to drink. I drank excessively at work for 6 years (somewhat due to social anxiety) before fully accepting that it was affecting my money, and also wasn’t good for me mentally and physically. I had to take a step back from dancing and I worked other jobs…and I hated all of them. I wanted to go back to dancing but I didn’t want to drink, and it felt impossible to separate the two. I was also drinking in my off time, but my drinking was more intense at work. I ended up not working for 4 months due to mental health issues, during which my partner took care of me. Then after 2 months of sobriety I felt confident enough that I could work a job like that sober. Now I never even think about drinking at work. I’m finally comfortable in my skin and I’m making so much more money.
I LOVE your story! That must have been a tough time, sobering up at work, but WOW you DID it! not too many people can do what you've done I bet. Congrats on getting to keep a job you like as WELL as being able to stay sober. That's powerful stuff. 🥰
This is great, 140 days is a huge accomplishment. It is wonderful that you can work at the job you love and stick to an alcohol-free life. Keep it going, you are an inspiration!
Stress is hard... I understand... I not in ur shoes but have a disabled child and her father just died and my Dad too... I have hard time too .. but we can do it... I'll be ur friend to hear u
I'm 61 years old...been drinking a fifth of vodka every two days forEVER. I started my sobriety early, on December 31, because I was the NYE designated driver😅 (that was weird.) I've met several New Years Sober Babies on these sobriety channels. LOVE IT!! I'm enjoying being sober... got energy, feel healthy, even losing a few lbs!!! . It only hurts when I have to turn down invites that I think might REALLY make me want to drink, or when people say they want to visit me and go to all the local breweries. Drinking has always been my "super power" and I haven't told everyone that I'm sober now. it's weird.
I understand about the weird. I'm on day 25 and have told very few people. I guess I don't want to jinx it, as Jae would say. I'm a few years older than you but glad I did this. Hang in there and good luck!
Two days and two hours into my sobriety AND I'm also cleaning up my diet right now. Still facing general lethargy, but I'm curious to see how what I'm doing will positively affect me in all aspects of my life! Although, to keep it simple right now, I'm focussed on my physical wellbeing.
I have battled the bottle the majority of my life. Started at 14...I am almost 60. I had periods of sobriety through the decades. My last drink was Dec 18, 2023. Prolonged use gets worse. Way worse, the level of sickness from it is terrifying. You're young and strong. I'm old, but feeling strong again. Let's pray for one another. We got this!❤
@@TaylorMaid-ho2xw Hello! I'm 61 and have been drinking for 45 years, and for MANY years I've been drinking a fifth of vodka every two days. I'm with ya. WHen I hear people exclaim that they've been drinking for "15 WHOLE YEARS" or whatever, I shake my head and wish _I_ had quit after only 15 years. I'm proud of us ALL and I have to admit, particularly proud of us older folks who haven't given up on our health and happiness. WELL DONE to YOU!!! I'll be thinking of you and wishing us both the best going forward!
CONGRATS!! Yeah, that lethargy is a BEAR, I get it. cut yourself a lot of slack. everything will be much better if you put sobriety as your #1 priority.
Day 17 into my triple challenge: no alcohol, no smoking, NoFap. Starting to feel a mix of 'overpowered' and just plain weird. It's like I'm in an alternate reality where I'm the main character. Documenting every step, so stay tuned for the real, raw, and sometimes strange journey of transformation!
I always like to imagine the absolutely incredible journey of a caterpillar to a butterfly whenever I'm in observation of my own transitions. Talk about strange and unfamiliar. It helps to keep me grounded in the idea that whatever it is, it's not as radical as I may think. Whatever's happening in my head is probably 3x worse than reality
Day 73. Ups and downs, but its worth it. I've used alcohol for decades to try and improve the me i didn't like... Cover up pain... Escape the world. Now I'm sober there's lots to unpick! I've gained £200 a month (probably more). I'm less stressed, but have anhedonia which i know can last for months. Looking forward to the next 73 days (and more!).
Today I'm 19 days sober from alcohol (and cannabis). My Tipping Point Into Addiction In 2019 my Dad was diagnosed with late-stage prostate cancer and it hit my family like a truck. The doctors said that he only had a couple more years to live. I still remember getting the phone call from my Mom like it was yesterday, in complete disbelief, I buried my head into the ground. I kept repeating to myself "This isn't happening" and "This isn't real". But then I saw my Dad in the hospital, weak and in a gown, that really cemented in my mind that this IS real and that this IS happening. After some time I started to accept the reality of the situation and I began to think about the future. I wrestled with the idea that my Dad might not be there to meet my life partner, he might not be there on my wedding day, and he might not be there to meet his grandkid(s). (damn, I'm crying on my keyboard writing this rn.) I fell into depression and started drinking. When the pandemic hit in 2020, I started drinking even more. I was never much of a drinker before my Dad's diagnosis because I have ulcerative colitis and drinking hurts every time. But after 2019, I stopped caring about my own health and well-being. Today my Dad is still alive and is doing better but we still know that he might not be around for long. My reason for drinking eventually became my reason for staying sober. I knew that I didn't want my Dad's final years and last memories of me to be me stumbling around drunk. But it took me some time to realize that. Today I take care of my Dad and cherish the time we have together. I know that staying sober and succeding in life makes him proud, so that's what drives me every day. Thank you Jae for giving all of us a platform to share about ourselves and our experiences. - V
90 days sober. Spent my first New Year’s sober since I was 19 or so. I’m 55. Spent it with a bunch of sober pals at a Thai Restaurant. It’s been a great 3 months. Losing weight, high energy, saving money, not depressed, neat and clean house. My mental focus is off the charts. Added 10k words to a novel I have been writing. Working with a few recently sober friends on their journeys. Giving back is one of the greatest joys of sobriety, I think. There is no meaning or purpose at the bottom of a bottle. The best I could hope for at the bottom of a bottle was a dead worm to eat, when I was drinking tequila. But once the worm was gone, it was just an abyss like every other bottle. That’s all I learned from liquor. Not much of a reward really. And pretty gross.
Found out my sober date is Dec 5th, but this isn't my longest sober time. It's just the first life-changing sober time I've experienced. Two things I've enjoyed since then have been my newfound ability clean, and keep clean, my apartment. I've never been able to do it, let alone keep it clean, for any real amount of time. The other is the amount of actual food I have in my fridge. 3 years ago I was homeless, living off 7-11 subs. They're amazing side effects I wasn't expecting. This sober thing isn't so bad!
This is a great RUclips channel and a great community. I've been watching and supported by this channel for quite a while and happy to say that I'm 630+ days alcohol free and looking forward to celebrating my Year 2 Anniversary in April. I started drinking as a kid (adults actually permitted wine-drinking at holiday tables), then drank to be cool with the cool kids, then drank to be a "wine snob," then drank to sample all the different craft beers, then drank to soothe my relentless anxiety and depression. I had decades of reasons/excuses to drink, but only felt more physically ill and mentally dependent the longer my drinking habit went on. A rather dramatic personal event happened around Eastertime 2022 and made me realize that I was finally sick and tired enough of being sick and tired, so I got rid of the booze and tweaked my lifestyle to avoid temptation (especially in the early days). I hope to remain alcohol-free one day at a time for the rest of my life. Thanks for your support and motivation to do just that, Jae and friends! 🙂
Sober all of January/2024.. my first time really making an effort to quit. Most of the last 15-20 years I’ve drank around 40-50 drinks/week. Been getting counselling/therapy the last six months or so and now feel better than ever!! Thank you Jae for your content and keep up the good work!!
Hey Jae, love your content and commitment to helping others, it takes a big heart to do that. I've watched your vids from when you first started your journey and the difference between now and then is chalk and cheese, huge congratulations to you for overcoming the alcohol curse. After 25+ years of the usual drinking story, last April I became fed-up with starting the week off tired from a few beers over the weekend. I had also started riding my road bike again after 2 years in Jan 2023 and could feel the impact of only just a beer or two the night before a ride. I started having 2-3 week breaks, then only a few beers. Rinse and repeated. On July 1, fell into an unplanned binge session and remember not enjoying the flavour or experience. All I could taste was alcohol and feelings of knowing what I was ingesting wasn't in my best health interest. That night, I woke with two episodes of palpitations and rapid HR, I knew at that moment I was done with drinking. The next 5 months I was completely sober and weirdly during that time I would dream about having a drink and how disappointed I was in myself. I knew this wasn't healthy either so I let the guard down and had a single beer with a mate on Jan 7 this year. Whilst it was OK, I didn't really enjoy it. My desire to have another just wasn't there nor did I get any cravings in the days after. I think your mindset of "sober... again" works for me. I think putting pressure on myself to "never" drink again occupies my thoughts too much. Knowing that I had one beer and didn't want another has actually given me even more strength and desire not to drink. I am also more at peace with myself too, no dreams yet of drinking and feeling ashamed. I know this won't work for everyone, but this is what seems to work for me. Health benefits are too numerous to list, but mainly quality of sleep, being so much more present with my kids and wife, developing self-confidence to engage with others whilst out socialising, no more palpitations, no more anxiety, reduced stress and blood pressure, huge exercise performance gains, lost a very noticeable amount of body fat, clearer skin, healthier eating habits, zero alcohol cravings, better and more consistent mood, waking up everyday with a clear head. ... and yes, my youtube name is quite ironic, but I did enjoy home brewing for several years. I am going to start brewing alcohol free beers, hop water, and alcohol free ginger beer.
Fell off the wagon again sometimes I wish it would just run me over put me out of my misery, you said six months of excuses or six months of progress, I’d rather have the progress I just don’t know how to obtain it.. I keep telling myself difficult is less than impossible which you told me.. thank you for your channel I watch you probably three times a day
Sober now for last 4 months. Loving it. Brain functions better, fat loss, clarity, relationships, memory, clearer skin, more $, self respect, no hangovers, better sleep, and more aligned with my values. I am hooked on sobriety. Here to stay. 1love.
I would drink everyday after work and cap it off by smoking weed. Every cent of disposable income (and then some) went towards beer. After looking at the empties piling up and the checking account shrinking I really want to make a change. I'll be 45 in 24 days so it would be nice to start a new year on the right foot. I've been having some cravings while at work which is why I watch this channel.
The last day I drank alcohol was September 10, so I have been sober for about 127 days. I started drinking as teenager, so I have been drinking for about 40 years. I have been trying to stop for about ten years now. I will quit for a while, then assume I am miraculously "cured" and go back to drinking, thinking that this time I will be able to 'handle" my alcohol and "moderate" my drinking. Every time I end up back where i started, googling "Am I An Alcoholic?" and wondering how I could be so stupid. I want to have an alcohol-free life because I am sick & tired of the damage drinking has caused in my life. I never want to feel the shame, guilt, anxiety and stress that drinking causes for me. I never again want to wake up in the middle of the night after an evening of drinking, feeling waves of panic, wondering how much money I had wasted on booze, wondering if I did or said anything embarrassing or damaging the night before while I was drunk, asking myself how could I be so stupid and why am I so weak, why can't I drink like a "normal person"...? I don't want to end up some sad old drunk. I want to be someone my son can look up to and be proud of. I don't want to drink poison that causes so much damage to my physical, mental and emotional health. I want to live a healthy and happy life without any of the harm that drinking causes. It's not too late for me to become the man I want to be.
I'm a male 42 years of age, i started drinking in my early twenties, just for fun with friends. From Occasional turned to Weekley drinker then 2 or 3 times a week then daily eventually! No matter what time of the day it was, if had a chance then i would start with a 6 or 8 pack beers which ended up with few more or few shots at the end of the night! The shame and embarrassing things have occurred over the years is unreal, alcohol nearly costed my whole life, alcohol affected every single part of my life 😢 if i didn't get myself together and continued on that evil route i wouldn't be here today! So many unpleasant events, so many embarrassing situations, so many sleepless nights, so many unwanted family arguments, even crying alone, the hangovers, the frustrations, and then off course all that hard earned money wasted! 7 months sober today feeling over the moon every day 🙂 Jae, my valuable friend, you have played a big part in my journey. I can't thank you enough.
@GettingSoberAgain I went cold turkey, moderation is kidding ourselves for me! Alcohol should not get into our body whether it's one drop or one bottle full stop for me. Your explanation is excellent Jae thank you again.
I’ve been sober for 18 days!🎉 It took me six years of drinking every night, 40lbs gained, $30K spent on booze, and worsening of depression & anxiety to finally conclude that I need to apply self love. It started with a very bad breakup, a new career, a new place to live, a new life, my mother passing away all in the span of a year, and perpetuated by the lockdown and severe depression. These things are not excuses, but the reality of what transpired. I’m saddened that I chose the path of alcoholism instead of leaning to Christ in my dark hours. He was there with me the entire way. I’m focusing on Him now, and I’ve never felt more alive! Blessings I’m looking forward to include improved health, stronger relationships, focus on being present, excess money, and a smaller waistline! Thank you for your channel, and I’m cheering for others here in the chat!❤
Why is is always so easy to pledge to not drink in the morning, but then evening comes around aaaaaand.... yup here I am with a beer in my hand again. I need to get this out of my life. I quit smoking 15 years ago cold turkey but drinking is another beast altogether.
Started October 2nd and I have put on close to 10 pounds . Thinking about more food as I don't think about what I can drink. Been working out from the start to, starting to get fit at this point.
I haven't gone more than one day without drinking since my early 20's. One day i was able to stay sober for 4 months. It was truly life changing, but i fell off the wagon. That was two years ago. This year I'm starting a new sober streak, 17 days. I hope to not fall off the wagon this time.i can see myself get better and better the longer i go without drinking. Fulfilling a potential i didn't even know i had in my different areas of life. My mental, physical and social expand exponentially the longer i go without drinking. I think about those 4 months and want that again. And i know if i go longer there will be more incredible surprises.
Jae or anyone else reading: I’ve watched at least 50 … videos so far and though fairly new to sobriety (this time) these videos and comments from others that understand the struggle, are enough to inspire me to stay sober all together for good. I never had a drinking problem…I’ve always had a pacing/stopping problem with any bad decision I could make that would numb my reality…alcohol was always my #1 choice…but after a short while clear headed and motivation from this community I am finally embracing and enjoying some clarity. I watched episode 9 earlier and from that episode to this one, the difference in how Jae looks and speaks alone should inspire anyone to stay headstrong! This man is improving lives and consistently reminds us that we learn as we go and are growing stronger each day as a team…a community of positivity! Keep em coming Jae…you are so appreciated brother! I’ll see you in the next video!🙌🏼
Your video "How to get Sober on your Own" somehow popped up... Started Nov 7/23. Bad Day Nov 25th. Came across another of your video about restarting with asterisk*. Day 1* Dec 1/23 again. Not a drop since... hopefully, never will again! Social drinker 20+ years. Worsened during Covid lockdown, etc. It's time to come back out into the light & quit for good!
Hey Jae ! Discovered the channel as I started my sobriety journey in October . Your content has been inspirational and totally instrumental in keeping me right ! Just past the 3 month mark and going strong ! A big thank you from a fan in Bonnie Scotland .
7 days in, and not counting lol or looking back. Feeling more alive each day while improving overall. It ain't easy, but every day, putting in the work to improve makes life worth it. Good luck on everyone's journey. Thank you, J, for your platform. 🙏🏼
The best things in life are free (monetarily) if you put in the effort. You can't buy sobriety or a healthy lifestyle. Keep it up. 19 days sober (...again)
I have been sober for 182 days now, and it has been an excellent improvement on my life. I used to regularly drink as a social ritual weekly, and it started to effect my friendships and health in serious ways. I was a very argumentative drunk and would get super emotional when disagreeing with people. I also dealt with what I assume was early pancreas pains, and didn't want to get pancreatitis. Since I have quit those micro pains completely went away and I also started to feel way more confident in how I communicate. My brain feels snappier and I am able to think of things to say much faster than I did before. My sleep improved and everything. Plus I have been working out and learning piano in the past 6 months. People say that I am nearly a completely different person, but am a lot more enjoyable to be around.
It's great that you have true friends around you that are open and honest enough to be transparent with you about your transformation, not to mention encouraging! consider yourself blessed my friend!
I tried to start dry January but it's soo cold here in England I have started drinking wine, water and ginger the last few days to help me get my tasks done. Will try again tomorrow!
It's quite cold here in New England, also. I'm drinking a lot of nice hot herbal teas throughout my day, adding the occasional energy food (biscuit, fruit). Very warming. Spring is coming! 🌷
Early last September---Jae recommended in one of his Video's to make an early Sobriety New Years Resolution so that when New Years actually came-----I'd be 4 Months ahead of Everyone else. I did exactly that and haven't touched Anything since early last September. It's taken me a long time to finally realize that the 4 Hours of fun at the bar on a Friday Night-----aren't worth feeling like Garbage for the following 2 days. Stay Sober everyone.
I just started my sobriety journey on January 1st. When the pandemic happened I left a career that consumed my whole life and left me extremely burntout. I was very bad at setting boundaries and was always a "yes woman." The trouble was that when I left i felt so empty and lost that I tried to fill that hole with alcohol. I also think I used it to give me the confidence to say no to people who were taking advantage of me. I drank every day from around May 2021 until Jan 1st 2024 and always at home with my husband who is also an alcoholic and is currently still drinking. I tried several times to quit last year, but could never make it past 10 days sober. Then, in August of last year I was diagnosed with uterine fibroids and the doctors proposed a hysterectomy. I am only 32 years old. I may have had these all my life, but one thing is for sure alcohol made all the symptoms worse. Terrible, painful periods coupled with catatonic depression. I am ready to put alcohol down and no longer use it as a crutch to set boundaries or as a torch of self hatred to burn my ego to ashes. I want to come home to myself. I want to heal. I want to step into true authentcity and power. I want to be able to say yes and no to things from a place of balance and true self knowledge. Thank you for reading this and for making a safe space to share my story.
I just started my sobriety journey on Jan 1st. I have been drinking since I was 18. Drink has been woven into my adult life and I have many memories that I am ashamed of. I will be 60 in July and I want a happy and healthy retirement. To have that I know that I have to kick the booze.
23 days today. I decided Christmas Day after waking up with a hangover I cannot and will not do this anymore. This is the longest in ten years I have gone without a drink. Determined to keep going and do Forward On February 💪 I was sober for eight years. Let other people destroy my program and took me ten years to get back to this point. My word of advice. Guard your sobriety like your life depends on it. Because it ultimately does. I fell over and over but I got back up and kept going. There is no AA around me or other programs. the help of this community has made the difference.
@@MelissaBytwork two things. It’s one day at a time period. I know longer care at all who is offended or bothered that I do not drink anymore… and honestly, prayer❤️
Hi Jae. Day 384 today! Thankfully family and friends did intervention on me. I was shocked and in so big denial that I didn't believe I had a drinking problem! Totally insane since I had fatty liver disease and DT's periodically. Thankfully after going to detox and New Found Life in Long Beach with continuing daily AA morning meetings: I get to be sober and present today. Lost 46 pounds with consistent daily workout and zone'ish diet with whole foods and occasional ice-cream meltdown. Also, doing blood panels every six months which are showing my liver is regenerating and healing... total miracle! After being workaholic and functional alcoholic for over 30 years: Get to have a Act 🎬 II of life as a healthy, balanced person. Last, all praise to my Lord and savior Jesus for reclaiming this prodical son from early death.
@GettingSoberAgain Yes sir! Quiting alcohol is such a big deal for me I forget to mention, oh btw: quit copenhagen and all tobacco 126 days ago by God also removing that obsession as well! Still using Nicorette gum; but quite a big deal! Just not so much compared to stopping alcohol use and abuse.
I was always the "functional" alcoholic, didn't miss a day of work, was reliable and seemed fairly ok from the outside. Was just masking the pain of being transgender and not quite being able to be myself. When I did come out I had to wait a long time and just continued to get through the day so I could numb the pain, when I was finally on hormones I felt much relief but wasn't able to stop. About 6 months in the place I was living was due to be demolished and ended up living in a homeless shelter, I still worked but it's hard to find a safe space. Was also studying diploma of beauty so I could eventually get a career rather than a meaningless job. 1 yr later I'm in a safe space and just over sabotaging my potential, currently studying to become a makeup artist, it's day 6 and 2024 is my time to shine and blossom.
@@jeffreyjohnmann I'm certainly not giving up on myself, I have chosen to live just gotta get through a adjustment period. Thanks for the kind words sweetie.
Love this channel. This might sound lame but for the first time in years I was looking for my coffee cup and it was on my work table where I do my art projects and not by the fireplace where I smoke and drink excessively. My desire to drink is fading and my inspiration is coming back to me!
Been Drinking for over 30 years tried quitting 100 times never making it started watching your videos it helped me a lot I decided January 4, 2024 to stop I am now 14 days without a drink thank you
Day 22 sober and starting to feel the benefits. But I must confess I have developed a love for icy poles. I think you call them popsicles in the USA. I guess I need to watch out for that sugar addiction. I’ve never been a sweet tooth in the past. At this stage I’m trying to not be too hard on myself so it may be icy poles daily until the seasons change which has to be better than what was my nightly bottle and a half of champagne. It’s summer over here in Oz. Nothing nicer than an icy pole on a hot summer night - and no hangover the next day. 😂 ☀️🍡
I am now 9 days sober...again. I was sober for 6 months a year ago but got in my own way and started drinking again. Now it is Thursday and I can't stop thinking about drinking tomorrow. Hoping I sleep off that thought.
I was sober for 6 months last year, relented on holiday with in laws as I was too scared to admit to them I have a massive issue. Now drinking for 9 months and I’m worse than ever and miserable. I wanted today to be my first sober day again but just couldn’t. Found out my cancer recovering father has covid and it knocked me. After writing this I’m having tomorrow to be my first again. My husband is sober since January but he is finding it easy. No going to AA, no existential dread… I’m stocking up on vitamins and 5 hct and tomorrow is going to be my first again. Need to be honest and allow myself to be sad. Drink makes my life so much worse and it needs to go. Be responsible for myself stop being so reactive x
February 22nd will be a year for me! Have no desire to drink, and in fact, I have no taste for the stuff any longer. I am disappointed that dome friends who still drink too much haven't cut down . But not my circus, not my monkeys . Sober ? JUST DO IT
I’m 66 years . I had my last drink 12 hours ago. I’m disgusted and disappointed with myself. I have tried to get sober many times. I’m here hoping for the miracle of sobriety. I believe I started to abuse alcohol 22 years ago following my husband’s brain aneurysm. Our son had just turned five. It was a very difficult time. My husband became very disabled and needed care and advocacy. Our son had just turned five. He lost his job and I had to leave mine. It was an incredibly long hard journey for everyone. He died in 2022. Whenever I drank I felt free. Free from all of it. I tricked myself into believing that I was being the best version of myself. All lies. Now I’m truly afraid of not getting sober. Of failing again… I’m sick of putting myself and others in danger. I plan on doing a AA zoom meeting later today. Tomorrow I will go to a meeting in person. I have been listening to these videos for about 4 months and have found them to be very encouraging. Please keep me in your thoughts or prayers. I need them.
I will include you in my morning prayers Kathleen. all I ask, is that if I ask God to show up for you, you also show up for the work that must be done 🙏
35Days AF there have been a couple of days that had some strong cravings but got through it. Am writing everyday which I find helps me. Thank You Jae for all your wonderful work that you put into these videos. 🙏
I've never been a huge drinker at all (twice in my life I had 5 drinks in a day), but I don't process it well at all and a beer and a shot will slow me down tremendously. I started working at a bar and got 2 free "shift drinks" a night and after a few weeks those 8 to 10 drinks a week felt like they were really adding up, and so I decided to stop fully on Saturday June 4, 2022, 592 days ago at the time of this writing. While I've never felt I had a problem or couldn't control myself, my sobriety did help inspire a good few other people to consider cutting back on how much they drink, and I like a lot of videos like this to help be a resource and cheer on anyone else for whatever reason they're not drinking and may feel alone in the crowd.
I’m struggling to get SOBER AGAIN. I have been a chronic relapser for too long. I Have been posting my journey in hopes that I can help another. The period of time I’ve had in sobriety I was able to create some of the best memories that will last a lifetime. Change is inevitable you can choose to resist it or surrender to it. I’m choosing to surrender with help. Thank you for your videos they truly help. I have a lot of work to do and I’m finally willing to do it.
I write, host, film, sound, edit, social media, email, dm, reply to comments, make the thumbnails, schedule the posts, manage the website, the Patreon, create community engagement posts, and sometimes sleep 🤣
At day 24, my Quitzilla shows I'm roughly 82% towards my first month of being alcohol free. That will be my longest streak in over 20 years. As a writer and a runner I tend to have a "big picture" mentality. When I begin a marathon or a novel I don't think about the 26.2 miles or 300 plus pages in front of me but rather break things down to the first 5K or few chapters and build on them. So I'm looking at my first month like my first mile or first chapter. I'm just warming up. An old Nike slogan says there is no finish line. I guess the same can be said of sobriety.
As a writer, you know the importance of a great montage segue. This is your montage moment. When you look back at this moment, you will be proud of yourself!
I stopped drinking a few days after Valentines Day, and committed to 6 months. I’m not sure what day I last had alcohol, but I’m counting it as 2/14 since that’s pretty close and easy to remember. So, I just passed 36 days! I dont know for sure if I have a drinking problem, at least not in the way most people would understand that phrase, but I do believe I’ve long used it as a crutch and that it holds me back from becoming a person I would more like to be. I would have maybe 6-12 beers a week and the occasional bottle of wine, but I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for a long time and just haven’t been able to get rid of it. Alcohol helps in the short run to take the edge off, but I think it also has kept me from really digging in and working on my physical and mental health in a more direct and sustainable way. So, I’m giving it 6 months. One month isn’t nearly enough time to really give sobriety a chance and clear my head long enough to do the kind of work I probably need to do on myself, and 1 year just seems too long! But 6 months seems about right to know if alcohol is really a problem for me, or if it is just a distraction from something else. But I really feel, deep down, that if this 6 months is a success and I really do like myself better as a person, I won’t have any problem making it a more permanent thing! By that time I’ll have a good chunk of evidence one way or the other, and I’ll feel good about going forward with sobriety long term if I see real positive changes from it. Thanks for taking all the time and putting in all the effort you have to create this space. Subscribed! :)
congratulations to you for putting together over a month so far. this is great! I highly suggest to download the quitzilla app. It's free for iOS or Android. It will keep track of your sobriety time for you as well as how much money you we're wasting on alcohol, which is a great additional metric to have your disposal to see how much less money you would have if you would have kept drinking alcohol!
Brother I can't tell you how many times I've restarted my sobriety 😂. I always come back and check in with you. Been subscribed a couple yrs now. Thank you for your service 👏. Your content is very refreshing when getting back on the wagon. Hopefully I can cut this 🍷 off for good.
Drank for 40 years, now I'm 10 months Sober and things are so much better. I don't know why I didn't believe i would get better, but once I did I only wished I would've done it earlier. If you have any doubts, just try sobriety for a week, then a month, and before you know it , 6 months will be gone. Be honest , practice progress not perfection, and most of all, find a sober way of living that works for YOU.
Only 18 days into sobriety, but considering I own/brew/and bartend at a brewery I am proud of myself. Been watching these videos a lot to remind me of the benefits, thank you!
My last drink was on Christmas. It dawned on me that nobody ever said "I got sober and it ruined my life." I picked up the basketball and weights again. Feeling sore from working out is so much better than alcohol withdrawal.
I’m 138 days over and I actually started on this journey to help my full-blown functioning alcoholic husband maybe cut down and I realize my social drinking isn’t doing me any good so I quit you have a lot to do with it! And you’re awesome videos and your shorts that have gotten me through a lot of rough times watching a couple of your shorts.. I got to tell you, though my family is having a rough time with it. My extended family is really trying to push me to just taste a little and it’s surprising and hard to deal with with them. My alcoholic husband, though he is very proud of me, and he supports me go figure.
Some people just do not like change. It takes mental effort to accept the new sober you. Some people would rather you stay in the slot you used to live in. You have to work to rise above their low expectations.
I am pleased to say I have now been sober for 54 days, I feel so much better and even look better. In the past I struggled to go one day without a drink. I had to get control of my alcohol addiction as I was starting to make myself sick. I was so fed up of feeling like crap every day, feeling anxious, feeling angry. I used to sweat a lot too, which was a gross side affect. I didn't know just how much better things would get. A life without alcohol is possible and more than that its wonderful!
I’m a 58 year old male who has struggled with alcohol ever since I first tasted it when I was 14 years old. I grew up with an alcoholic father and alcohol was a huge part of life in general. Once I started my life long quest to be “normal” through drinking to cover my low self esteem and emotional pain. I have lived for over 40 years as a depressed human being who used alcohol as a crutch and a numbing tool. My relationships have been destroyed over and over again. I have been the one who did all the blowing up of these relationships. I am a “runner” who exits stage left as soon as I feel uncomfortable in any situation. I do not know what Joy feels like. I am single (never been married), no children and weak friendships at best. I don’t have a best friend. After destroying non family friendships, all I have left is family. This is difficult when most of my family drink alcohol (basically ALL of them). This is again not a sustainable way to live. I did get sober for 2 years (July 2021-late 2023) after a Rock-bottom health moment made me think it was that or death. I accepted Jesus as my savior and got active in a church. I was doing great and my life did get better. Then a setback in the form of a family issue sent me back down the rabbit hole of alcohol. I literally stopped everything that was going good, left church and all the new people who had come into my life in the last two years. I actually made the reckless decision to physically move away from it all and relocate to a part of the country where my other half of the family lives. I sold my house, bought a new one and now I am miserable living in a colder weather state and am drinking again. I started back up to feel accepted and to stupidly feel accepted by this part of my family. I was always accepted, but they never knew me as a “sober” man and didn’t know how to deal with that. I am once again deeply depressed and without hope. The only thing that is positive is that I am near my aging Mom who is alone and needs some closer family to help with things. Unfortunately she is an alcohol user as well which only gives me more negative influence to drink. I want to quit again but don’t know how to do it and feel good about it. I moved to a place where I don’t know anyone (but Mom), and don’t know where to start. Everyone in this state drinks!….it seems that way anyway. Please pray for me to get something going. I am stuck and don’t feel like I can get out of the hole this time.
It sounds like this is your moment to make a change, my friend. I am 57 and just beginning an alcohol-free life too. I know drinking wasn't helping me, I know it is time now to try something new. It sounds like you are set up for a fresh start, no one knows your past in this new situation you are in, and you can reinvent yourself as an alcohol-free man starting today!
I started my journey on january4th 2024. It finally got through to me that i was drinking myself to death. I looked horrible and felt horrible. My depression and anxiety was through the roof and my mind was so messed up. Im two weeks in and its been a complete change. I look and feel better. My depression and anxiety is almost non existent and my mind is so much better. Instead of ignoring issues; facing tjem head on. Im very underweight and steuggle tp gain. Since ive quit drinking my appetite is great! Im gaining around a pound to two pounds a week. I love it so far. I got started drinking from being in a relationship with a guy that drank with his friends daily. I drank with them to fit in. Just going with the flow. Then me and guy split and i drank out of heartbreak and depression. Before i knew it i was completely hooked. I havent said that ill never drink again but i never said i would either. Just taking it a day at a time. Right now i dont want it. If i ever decide to have a drink again ill analyze the urge and make a decision then.
Life is better without alcohol…the hardest part is finding your group of friends who don’t drink or at least who don’t pressure you to drink with them. Not easy in this world today. There is so much darkness and people feel the need to numb out.
@@Tatman1212 so far I'm loving sober life. I don't really have too many friends. I'm always at home and don't get out much. When I do get a vehicle and job and get to really to start living life again I'll be super protective of my sobriety. As of right now if I do get out and about I usually have my husband or my daughter with me and that helps.keep me from slipping.
Try reframing your mind by asking this question: "What kind of person will I attract into my life in the state that I'm in, and is that the kind of company I want to keep?" Get yourself in the shape and condition that your future partner deserves and that you can be proud of. This is your montage moment 💪
The journey continues, 83 days sober. Its not easy but if it was it wouldnt be worth doing . I love watching these videos Jae, you are a great inspiration and I doubt I would be 83 days jn without the support of this channel and contributors. Everyone! Stick with it, work hard. 😊
It's our duty to closely monitor what's going into our bodies after quitting alcohol. How many calories does your body actually need per day, and how many are you putting in? it's pretty formulaic, just stay on top of the basics: calories in vs calories out/used/burned
Why do you want to be sober? What would be the best part? Think about a positive, alcohol free future. Have you asked for advice from a medical doctor? Could you take yourself to rehab?
Thank you so very much for this site!!! Where are you moving to? I've struggled with relapses for the last year or so, I had a year sober, then went out... repeatedly.... I think your site will help me on a daily basis. Again, thank you so much.
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Thank you so much for what you said. From my heart. Im just trying to do this weekend sober...which gives me 6 days this month sober..i thought that this channel would not want me on it...because im not 100 days, 200 hundred day etc sober....thank you..i might give my full story one day.
Love this imput ! Helping me sooo much ! I am still struggling but tapping in regularly for support and it is sooo helping me ! You are soo real , non judgemental !! I love it ! You are doing amazing work help support %! I thank you ! Sincere,Ly !
It started a little over 3 years ago out of loneliness and turned into a terrible habit. Its cost me thousands, good people, my mental, and the peace i didnt know i already had before this. It’s been costing my memory and days off of binge drinking. Ive acted terrible towards people that love me, caused me to do and say things I couldn’t remember. Just brought me a lot a shame. I’m not happy with myself and what my energy has become. I’m just here to get through this with other people, i just know that i cant start off alone.
Hey guys , I am 49 yo. My sobriety story started when I decided to stop having an erratic lifestyle and learning about codependency in November 2023. I also used to be a people pleaser, drinking was my way of to people’s please and drowning my feelings and it was not serving my inner self . I am now working on my sobriety and focusing on living a happier healthier life. I also joined 12 steps program which has helped me deal with issues of sex and love addiction. I want to be sober because I want to focus on what is important in my life , and alcohol was fuelling my addiction habits for love and sex.
Day 5. I got 60 days last year. I have disappointed myself so many times. I have a problem with something else when i drink, it comes in a jewelery bag. I am feeling a little better right now with a few days under my belt. I am really wanting to stick it out and get my life back on track. It was on track at one point. The money is always a problem especially when you got a guy. Borrowing money from family is so embarrassing yet ill do it and make something up. Horribly embarrassing evenings all the time. Texts. Ive alientated myself from most people in my previous couple chapters of life. I hope i can come back here in a few months and reply to this myself with a number greater than 60 and be feeling physically and emotionally better.
Come back everyday and leave a comment to keep yourself accountable and the community updated! Treat it like your journal along your journey! Here's the main playlist of episodes so you can check out more when you're ready 👍 ruclips.net/p/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt
Sober 20 days now, after getting back to moderate drinking post a 6 month long abstinence... Found myself slowly falling back to same old habits. So I decided to quit for good. Had a sober new year with family. I quit cold turkey both alcohol and tobacco, found out quickly I cant handle going cold turkey on both during the exams so I returned to smoking. This will have to wait. Got small cravings but I wont be back to drinking, got far too much to do and experience sober. I watch your videos daily to reinforce my commitment. Overall Im fine with no drinking, dont necessarily feel better, but I dont feel like crap every morning and surprisingly it turns out I earn much better than I thought. That's good enough for me. Maybe one day I will call my ex, I know I hurt her with my drinking, I think she will be happy that I quit. I lost my job during covid and started drinking in quarantine. Was fun at first but quarantine turned out to last far longer then anyone expected. And even before my relationship with % wasnt exactly healthy, if managable. Cheers, thanks for your help and good luck to all of us!
It sounds like you are doing great, your decision sounds a lot like mine... I kept trying to "moderate" my alcohol intake and that NEVER worked for me, but I kept trying. They say that is the goal of every problem drinker.. to be able to "drink like a normal person". I chased that dream, for about ten years! For me just removing the choice made my life a lot easier. Now I just "don't drink" and I am not wasting time and energy trying to "manage" a situation that was 100% unmanagable for me.
@@jeffreyjohnmann Thanks Jeff! Moderate drinking doesn't work for us for two reasons - with our tolerance we can outdrink anyone - so social drinking is out of the question - and we won't just stop until our bodies refuse to take anymore. Sometimes you just have to accept reality - alcohol is not for us, not anymore and there's no point in pretending otherwise. Best of luck on your journey! :)
Being aware that you have a problem is a good first step. The next step is asking: "How intensely do I want to change for the better?" Perhaps tell your family doctor about your problem. Ask him or her for advice.
Almost done with my first dry January and thinking of continuing my streak. I've been drinking since I was a teenager and I'm 54 now, so this month feels quite liberating to be alcohol free. I've never been physically dependent upon it, but def did not have a healthy relationship with alcohol. I am inspired by these videos and comments to continue trying out this new way of living without alcohol.
I am in the same boat, I am 57 yrs old! I am 142 days sober today and I feel so much shame about my past behavior, especially in front of my son, I feel like I was setting a terrible example for him for so many years. I can't change the past, so I am moving forward to set a good new example for him and show him that alcohol does NOT need to be part of a healthy and happy life. Stick with it, my friend God has a plan for you.
It takes courage, strength, transparency and vulnerability to own up to your actions. accountability is very valuable along your journey! take 30 minutes of your time to write down all the things you learn during your sobriety detour so that the mistake can be learned from and not just remain a mistake!
I’m 68 years old. Don’t remember when I was recently sober. But right now, I’m 3 days sober and feeling great! The money isn’t an issue, I haven’t really alienated anyone. I just want to enjoy my life and feel good physically doing it. And want to be here as long as possible. Good luck to everyone out there. Stay positive and keep working at it.
Cruised past 90---After 100 will be the longest time sober in 40 years
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
This is awesome. 100 days is a tricky time (at least for me)... that is when my mind starts telling me "I am doing great, so obviously I do NOT have a drinking problem anymore, just look how good I'm doing. Surely now I can have ONE beer?" and then the whole thing goes into the toilet. Stick with it, you are off to a great start.
@@jeffreyjohnmann I agree that overconfidence can really hurt you. Don't try to test your strength. Resist temptation.
I know the term “social drinker” is the snare which catches many of us. We think if we stop after 2 drinks, we are good. Such a deceptive concept
I've been sober now for 382 days and I have never felt better. I quit on the 1st Jan 2023 and I lost about 15kg since then. Before I quit I promised myself each day that I wouldn't drink that day but I always did, that happened for months and months before I finally quit. To begin with, I started with a goal of quitting for 3 months, then when I hit my goal I decided to extend it to six months.
On the 1st of July, I was able to take part in the Dunwich Dynamo, a 120mile overnight bicycle ride. I then decide to extend my sobriety for the whole year. When I was counting in the new year this year I was so happy to mark my 12 months of abstinence.
Now I know that I do not want to drink again and I look forward to 2 years of sobriety and doing the Dunwich Dynamo for the second time.
You can do it and you won't regret it. I feel healthy and happy and have a waist measurement last seen when I was 18 years, I am now 50!
Let's go Steph! 120 miles is no easy feat, you got this!
120 miles overnight is insane. My bicycling was a big reason that inspired me to stop entirely too. More bikes, less beers. :-D Congratulations with everything and good luck with everything. :)
NICELY DONE!
hint for Americans: 15kg is about equal to 33 pounds
Love this. Inspiring journey.
My mom has to have brain surgery for a tumor. The stress and worrying is really weighing on my family. I want to stay sober for her. It's been rough, I'm learning that positivity can drive out the stress.
🙏peace for you.
Give your mom the best in return that she gave to you. she deserves to see her baby with bright eyes
I agree with "She deserves to see her darling child with bright eyes. " @@GettingSoberAgain
I am 140 days sober! 🎉
I’m an exotic dancer so at my job it’s pretty common to drink. I drank excessively at work for 6 years (somewhat due to social anxiety) before fully accepting that it was affecting my money, and also wasn’t good for me mentally and physically. I had to take a step back from dancing and I worked other jobs…and I hated all of them. I wanted to go back to dancing but I didn’t want to drink, and it felt impossible to separate the two. I was also drinking in my off time, but my drinking was more intense at work.
I ended up not working for 4 months due to mental health issues, during which my partner took care of me. Then after 2 months of sobriety I felt confident enough that I could work a job like that sober. Now I never even think about drinking at work. I’m finally comfortable in my skin and I’m making so much more money.
I LOVE your story! That must have been a tough time, sobering up at work, but WOW you DID it! not too many people can do what you've done I bet. Congrats on getting to keep a job you like as WELL as being able to stay sober. That's powerful stuff. 🥰
I am glad that you are able to resist temptation while working at a job that you truly love.
This is great, 140 days is a huge accomplishment. It is wonderful that you can work at the job you love and stick to an alcohol-free life. Keep it going, you are an inspiration!
Stress is hard... I understand... I not in ur shoes but have a disabled child and her father just died and my Dad too... I have hard time too .. but we can do it... I'll be ur friend to hear u
This is my 2nd January-meaning 13th month straight-great for weight loss
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
I'm 61 years old...been drinking a fifth of vodka every two days forEVER. I started my sobriety early, on December 31, because I was the NYE designated driver😅 (that was weird.) I've met several New Years Sober Babies on these sobriety channels. LOVE IT!! I'm enjoying being sober... got energy, feel healthy, even losing a few lbs!!! . It only hurts when I have to turn down invites that I think might REALLY make me want to drink, or when people say they want to visit me and go to all the local breweries. Drinking has always been my "super power" and I haven't told everyone that I'm sober now. it's weird.
Also, I'm looking for another super power. I think it's pole dancing or painting or both. We'll see!
one of my goals: be as weird as I was while I was intoxicated, sober.
Being weird while sober is an excellent goal. Be bold instead of bland. @@GettingSoberAgain
Your sharing with us your sober and that’s awesome for us all! I just turned 60 so thank you for showing me I can do this again!!
I understand about the weird. I'm on day 25 and have told very few people. I guess I don't want to jinx it, as Jae would say. I'm a few years older than you but glad I did this. Hang in there and good luck!
Two days and two hours into my sobriety AND I'm also cleaning up my diet right now. Still facing general lethargy, but I'm curious to see how what I'm doing will positively affect me in all aspects of my life! Although, to keep it simple right now, I'm focussed on my physical wellbeing.
Congrats on embracing sobriety. The second week is easier than the first week.
Congrats Brooke!
I have battled the bottle the majority of my life. Started at 14...I am almost 60. I had periods of sobriety through the decades. My last drink was Dec 18, 2023. Prolonged use gets worse. Way worse, the level of sickness from it is terrifying. You're young and strong. I'm old, but feeling strong again. Let's pray for one another. We got this!❤
@@TaylorMaid-ho2xw Hello! I'm 61 and have been drinking for 45 years, and for MANY years I've been drinking a fifth of vodka every two days. I'm with ya. WHen I hear people exclaim that they've been drinking for "15 WHOLE YEARS" or whatever, I shake my head and wish _I_ had quit after only 15 years. I'm proud of us ALL and I have to admit, particularly proud of us older folks who haven't given up on our health and happiness. WELL DONE to YOU!!! I'll be thinking of you and wishing us both the best going forward!
CONGRATS!! Yeah, that lethargy is a BEAR, I get it. cut yourself a lot of slack. everything will be much better if you put sobriety as your #1 priority.
Day 17 into my triple challenge: no alcohol, no smoking, NoFap. Starting to feel a mix of 'overpowered' and just plain weird. It's like I'm in an alternate reality where I'm the main character. Documenting every step, so stay tuned for the real, raw, and sometimes strange journey of transformation!
I always like to imagine the absolutely incredible journey of a caterpillar to a butterfly whenever I'm in observation of my own transitions.
Talk about strange and unfamiliar. It helps to keep me grounded in the idea that whatever it is, it's not as radical as I may think. Whatever's happening in my head is probably 3x worse than reality
I am a 64 year old woman that needed to turn my life around to see my Grandchildren grow up. I am today 91 days sober.
👏👏👏 For the grandbabies!
Congrats on your long sober streak. Compliment your grandbabies on their accomplishments.
It’s a journey guys, never stop quitting.
Day 73. Ups and downs, but its worth it. I've used alcohol for decades to try and improve the me i didn't like... Cover up pain... Escape the world. Now I'm sober there's lots to unpick! I've gained £200 a month (probably more). I'm less stressed, but have anhedonia which i know can last for months. Looking forward to the next 73 days (and more!).
Congratulations on your sober streak. Keep up the good work.
Today I'm 19 days sober from alcohol (and cannabis).
My Tipping Point Into Addiction
In 2019 my Dad was diagnosed with late-stage prostate cancer and it hit my family like a truck. The doctors said that he only had a couple more years to live. I still remember getting the phone call from my Mom like it was yesterday, in complete disbelief, I buried my head into the ground. I kept repeating to myself "This isn't happening" and "This isn't real". But then I saw my Dad in the hospital, weak and in a gown, that really cemented in my mind that this IS real and that this IS happening. After some time I started to accept the reality of the situation and I began to think about the future. I wrestled with the idea that my Dad might not be there to meet my life partner, he might not be there on my wedding day, and he might not be there to meet his grandkid(s). (damn, I'm crying on my keyboard writing this rn.)
I fell into depression and started drinking. When the pandemic hit in 2020, I started drinking even more. I was never much of a drinker before my Dad's diagnosis because I have ulcerative colitis and drinking hurts every time. But after 2019, I stopped caring about my own health and well-being. Today my Dad is still alive and is doing better but we still know that he might not be around for long. My reason for drinking eventually became my reason for staying sober. I knew that I didn't want my Dad's final years and last memories of me to be me stumbling around drunk. But it took me some time to realize that.
Today I take care of my Dad and cherish the time we have together. I know that staying sober and succeding in life makes him proud, so that's what drives me every day.
Thank you Jae for giving all of us a platform to share about ourselves and our experiences.
- V
I agree that being sober allows one to fully savor the last pleasant memories with a dying relative.
90 days sober. Spent my first New Year’s sober since I was 19 or so. I’m 55. Spent it with a bunch of sober pals at a Thai Restaurant.
It’s been a great 3 months. Losing weight, high energy, saving money, not depressed, neat and clean house. My mental focus is off the charts. Added 10k words to a novel I have been writing.
Working with a few recently sober friends on their journeys. Giving back is one of the greatest joys of sobriety, I think.
There is no meaning or purpose at the bottom of a bottle. The best I could hope for at the bottom of a bottle was a dead worm to eat, when I was drinking tequila.
But once the worm was gone, it was just an abyss like every other bottle.
That’s all I learned from liquor.
Not much of a reward really. And pretty gross.
Congratulations on your sober streak. Keep up the good work.
Found out my sober date is Dec 5th, but this isn't my longest sober time. It's just the first life-changing sober time I've experienced. Two things I've enjoyed since then have been my newfound ability clean, and keep clean, my apartment. I've never been able to do it, let alone keep it clean, for any real amount of time. The other is the amount of actual food I have in my fridge. 3 years ago I was homeless, living off 7-11 subs. They're amazing side effects I wasn't expecting. This sober thing isn't so bad!
Congratulations on being energetic enough to clean your apartment and eat healthy food that you like.
95 headed for 100 SUNDAY!
LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! 💯
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep it up Francis
3 weeks away from 8 months dry, and sober The first sober XMAS in 32 years. All the best for the people who are taking the brave step to go dry
Congrats on your sober streak. Keep up the good work Mark
This is a great RUclips channel and a great community. I've been watching and supported by this channel for quite a while and happy to say that I'm 630+ days alcohol free and looking forward to celebrating my Year 2 Anniversary in April. I started drinking as a kid (adults actually permitted wine-drinking at holiday tables), then drank to be cool with the cool kids, then drank to be a "wine snob," then drank to sample all the different craft beers, then drank to soothe my relentless anxiety and depression. I had decades of reasons/excuses to drink, but only felt more physically ill and mentally dependent the longer my drinking habit went on. A rather dramatic personal event happened around Eastertime 2022 and made me realize that I was finally sick and tired enough of being sick and tired, so I got rid of the booze and tweaked my lifestyle to avoid temptation (especially in the early days). I hope to remain alcohol-free one day at a time for the rest of my life. Thanks for your support and motivation to do just that, Jae and friends! 🙂
Congratulations on your long sober streak.
Sober all of January/2024.. my first time really making an effort to quit. Most of the last 15-20 years I’ve drank around 40-50 drinks/week. Been getting counselling/therapy the last six months or so and now feel better than ever!!
Thank you Jae for your content and keep up the good work!!
Congrats on having a sober and dry January. Keep up the good work.
@@gwillis01 Thank you!
Hey Jae, love your content and commitment to helping others, it takes a big heart to do that. I've watched your vids from when you first started your journey and the difference between now and then is chalk and cheese, huge congratulations to you for overcoming the alcohol curse.
After 25+ years of the usual drinking story, last April I became fed-up with starting the week off tired from a few beers over the weekend. I had also started riding my road bike again after 2 years in Jan 2023 and could feel the impact of only just a beer or two the night before a ride. I started having 2-3 week breaks, then only a few beers. Rinse and repeated. On July 1, fell into an unplanned binge session and remember not enjoying the flavour or experience. All I could taste was alcohol and feelings of knowing what I was ingesting wasn't in my best health interest. That night, I woke with two episodes of palpitations and rapid HR, I knew at that moment I was done with drinking.
The next 5 months I was completely sober and weirdly during that time I would dream about having a drink and how disappointed I was in myself. I knew this wasn't healthy either so I let the guard down and had a single beer with a mate on Jan 7 this year. Whilst it was OK, I didn't really enjoy it. My desire to have another just wasn't there nor did I get any cravings in the days after. I think your mindset of "sober... again" works for me. I think putting pressure on myself to "never" drink again occupies my thoughts too much. Knowing that I had one beer and didn't want another has actually given me even more strength and desire not to drink. I am also more at peace with myself too, no dreams yet of drinking and feeling ashamed. I know this won't work for everyone, but this is what seems to work for me.
Health benefits are too numerous to list, but mainly quality of sleep, being so much more present with my kids and wife, developing self-confidence to engage with others whilst out socialising, no more palpitations, no more anxiety, reduced stress and blood pressure, huge exercise performance gains, lost a very noticeable amount of body fat, clearer skin, healthier eating habits, zero alcohol cravings, better and more consistent mood, waking up everyday with a clear head.
... and yes, my youtube name is quite ironic, but I did enjoy home brewing for several years. I am going to start brewing alcohol free beers, hop water, and alcohol free ginger beer.
Do you ever make Kombucha??
There’s a good idea. A mate who also brews used to brew kombucha so I’ll tap into his knowledge and experience
@@anemlachhomebrewing3690 having some as we speak 😋
Fell off the wagon again sometimes I wish it would just run me over put me out of my misery, you said six months of excuses or six months of progress, I’d rather have the progress I just don’t know how to obtain it.. I keep telling myself difficult is less than impossible which you told me.. thank you for your channel I watch you probably three times a day
Watch the videos about preparing to change your life and about early sobriety by Jae.
@@gwillis01 Thank you I will
Sober now for last 4 months. Loving it. Brain functions better, fat loss, clarity, relationships, memory, clearer skin, more $, self respect, no hangovers, better sleep, and more aligned with my values. I am hooked on sobriety. Here to stay. 1love.
Congrats on four months of sobriety. Keep up the good work.
I would drink everyday after work and cap it off by smoking weed. Every cent of disposable income (and then some) went towards beer. After looking at the empties piling up and the checking account shrinking I really want to make a change. I'll be 45 in 24 days so it would be nice to start a new year on the right foot. I've been having some cravings while at work which is why I watch this channel.
The last day I drank alcohol was September 10, so I have been sober for about 127 days. I started drinking as teenager, so I have been drinking for about 40 years. I have been trying to stop for about ten years now. I will quit for a while, then assume I am miraculously "cured" and go back to drinking, thinking that this time I will be able to 'handle" my alcohol and "moderate" my drinking. Every time I end up back where i started, googling "Am I An Alcoholic?" and wondering how I could be so stupid.
I want to have an alcohol-free life because I am sick & tired of the damage drinking has caused in my life. I never want to feel the shame, guilt, anxiety and stress that drinking causes for me. I never again want to wake up in the middle of the night after an evening of drinking, feeling waves of panic, wondering how much money I had wasted on booze, wondering if I did or said anything embarrassing or damaging the night before while I was drunk, asking myself how could I be so stupid and why am I so weak, why can't I drink like a "normal person"...?
I don't want to end up some sad old drunk. I want to be someone my son can look up to and be proud of. I don't want to drink poison that causes so much damage to my physical, mental and emotional health. I want to live a healthy and happy life without any of the harm that drinking causes. It's not too late for me to become the man I want to be.
That’s is great!! Keep loving and telling yourself that…!🥳
Congratulations on your long sober streak. You are a good role model for your son.
I hear you.
I'm a male 42 years of age, i started drinking in my early twenties, just for fun with friends.
From Occasional turned to Weekley drinker then 2 or 3 times a week then daily eventually!
No matter what time of the day it was, if had a chance then i would start with a 6 or 8 pack beers which ended up with few more or few shots at the end of the night!
The shame and embarrassing things have occurred over the years is unreal, alcohol nearly costed my whole life, alcohol affected every single part of my life 😢 if i didn't get myself together and continued on that evil route i wouldn't be here today!
So many unpleasant events, so many embarrassing situations, so many sleepless nights, so many unwanted family arguments, even crying alone, the hangovers, the frustrations, and then off course all that hard earned money wasted!
7 months sober today feeling over the moon every day 🙂
Jae, my valuable friend, you have played a big part in my journey. I can't thank you enough.
7 months Let's GOOOOOOO!!!!!
@GettingSoberAgain I went cold turkey, moderation is kidding ourselves for me! Alcohol should not get into our body whether it's one drop or one bottle full stop for me. Your explanation is excellent Jae thank you again.
Congratulations on seven months of sobriety. Keep up the good work.
You rock dude. I'm trying to get there myself.
Sounds like you are extremely happy and counting your blessings
2Days 21hrs 48min .Alcohol free Say's Quitzilla So far so good.
Congrats on embracing sobriety. It gets easier day by day.
I love that app
I’ve been sober for 18 days!🎉
It took me six years of drinking every night, 40lbs gained, $30K spent on booze, and worsening of depression & anxiety to finally conclude that I need to apply self love.
It started with a very bad breakup, a new career, a new place to live, a new life, my mother passing away all in the span of a year, and perpetuated by the lockdown and severe depression. These things are not excuses, but the reality of what transpired.
I’m saddened that I chose the path of alcoholism instead of leaning to Christ in my dark hours. He was there with me the entire way. I’m focusing on Him now, and I’ve never felt more alive!
Blessings I’m looking forward to include improved health, stronger relationships, focus on being present, excess money, and a smaller waistline!
Thank you for your channel, and I’m cheering for others here in the chat!❤
Congratulations on eighteen days of sobriety. Keep striving to improve yourself.
Here's to your new and improved life!
Why is is always so easy to pledge to not drink in the morning, but then evening comes around aaaaaand.... yup here I am with a beer in my hand again. I need to get this out of my life. I quit smoking 15 years ago cold turkey but drinking is another beast altogether.
Life is so much better without alcohol!
The cure is to cut the association between playing/relaxing and alcohol. There are other ways to relax besides going to the bar.
Started October 2nd and I have put on close to 10 pounds . Thinking about more food as I don't think about what I can drink. Been working out from the start to, starting to get fit at this point.
You can drink anything at all that does not contain alcohol. If it won't give you a drunk driving charge, it's safe to drink.
I haven't gone more than one day without drinking since my early 20's. One day i was able to stay sober for 4 months. It was truly life changing, but i fell off the wagon. That was two years ago. This year I'm starting a new sober streak, 17 days. I hope to not fall off the wagon this time.i can see myself get better and better the longer i go without drinking. Fulfilling a potential i didn't even know i had in my different areas of life. My mental, physical and social expand exponentially the longer i go without drinking. I think about those 4 months and want that again. And i know if i go longer there will be more incredible surprises.
WILL NOT > hope to not
Make this your most intense, most bold effort to get sober. Congrats on four months of sobriety.
@@gwillis01 I feel that I can do it this time.
Keep striving to improve yourself alexander @@alexandermancera7629
Jae or anyone else reading: I’ve watched at least 50 … videos so far and though fairly new to sobriety (this time) these videos and comments from others that understand the struggle, are enough to inspire me to stay sober all together for good.
I never had a drinking problem…I’ve always had a pacing/stopping problem with any bad decision I could make that would numb my reality…alcohol was always my #1 choice…but after a short while clear headed and motivation from this community
I am finally embracing and enjoying some clarity.
I watched episode 9 earlier and from that episode to this one, the difference in how Jae looks and speaks alone should inspire anyone to stay headstrong!
This man is improving lives and consistently reminds us that we learn as we go and are growing stronger each day as a team…a community of positivity!
Keep em coming Jae…you are so appreciated brother!
I’ll see you in the next video!🙌🏼
Hey that's my line!!🤣
We are all glad to have you here! Practice makes PROGRESS 💪🤝🙏
Thank you sir🙏🏼
I couldn't agree more!
Your video "How to get Sober on your Own" somehow popped up...
Started Nov 7/23. Bad Day Nov 25th. Came across another of your video about restarting with asterisk*. Day 1* Dec 1/23 again. Not a drop since... hopefully, never will again! Social drinker 20+ years. Worsened during Covid lockdown, etc. It's time to come back out into the light & quit for good!
Hey Jae ! Discovered the channel as I started my sobriety journey in October . Your content has been inspirational and totally instrumental in keeping me right ! Just past the 3 month mark and going strong ! A big thank you from a fan in Bonnie Scotland .
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
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Congrats on embracing sobriety. Keep striving to improve yourself
Hooray!
7 days in, and not counting lol or looking back. Feeling more alive each day while improving overall. It ain't easy, but every day, putting in the work to improve makes life worth it. Good luck on everyone's journey. Thank you, J, for your platform. 🙏🏼
Congrats on embracing sobriety. It gets easier day by day.
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CONGRATS!!! I'm 18 days! Hope you're doing ok.
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@@claradontcara You 2! Keep it up 🤠
Keep it going It gets easier day by day.
The best things in life are free (monetarily) if you put in the effort. You can't buy sobriety or a healthy lifestyle. Keep it up. 19 days sober (...again)
Congrats on your 19 days sober Keep striving to improve yourself.
19 days is a long time! Congrats!
I have been sober for 182 days now, and it has been an excellent improvement on my life. I used to regularly drink as a social ritual weekly, and it started to effect my friendships and health in serious ways. I was a very argumentative drunk and would get super emotional when disagreeing with people. I also dealt with what I assume was early pancreas pains, and didn't want to get pancreatitis.
Since I have quit those micro pains completely went away and I also started to feel way more confident in how I communicate. My brain feels snappier and I am able to think of things to say much faster than I did before. My sleep improved and everything. Plus I have been working out and learning piano in the past 6 months. People say that I am nearly a completely different person, but am a lot more enjoyable to be around.
It's great that you have true friends around you that are open and honest enough to be transparent with you about your transformation, not to mention encouraging!
consider yourself blessed my friend!
I tried to start dry January but it's soo cold here in England I have started drinking wine, water and ginger the last few days to help me get my tasks done. Will try again tomorrow!
I'm in England too Marie. You can do this
It's quite cold here in New England, also. I'm drinking a lot of nice hot herbal teas throughout my day, adding the occasional energy food (biscuit, fruit). Very warming. Spring is coming! 🌷
It seems to me that you would actually feel warmer if you drank a big cup of hot tea. Tea is cheaper and healthier than wine.
Hi just 1 day at a time, and some planning, you can do it,
Early last September---Jae recommended in one of his Video's to make an early Sobriety New Years Resolution so that when New Years actually came-----I'd be 4 Months ahead of Everyone else. I did exactly that and haven't touched Anything since early last September. It's taken me a long time to finally realize that the 4 Hours of fun at the bar on a Friday Night-----aren't worth feeling like Garbage for the following 2 days. Stay Sober everyone.
Keep up the good work Bruce. Congrats on your sobriety.
👏👏👏 4 month head start!!! 👏👏👏
I just started my sobriety journey on January 1st. When the pandemic happened I left a career that consumed my whole life and left me extremely burntout. I was very bad at setting boundaries and was always a "yes woman."
The trouble was that when I left i felt so empty and lost that I tried to fill that hole with alcohol. I also think I used it to give me the confidence to say no to people who were taking advantage of me. I drank every day from around May 2021 until Jan 1st 2024 and always at home with my husband who is also an alcoholic and is currently still drinking.
I tried several times to quit last year, but could never make it past 10 days sober. Then, in August of last year I was diagnosed with uterine fibroids and the doctors proposed a hysterectomy. I am only 32 years old. I may have had these all my life, but one thing is for sure alcohol made all the symptoms worse. Terrible, painful periods coupled with catatonic depression.
I am ready to put alcohol down and no longer use it as a crutch to set boundaries or as a torch of self hatred to burn my ego to ashes. I want to come home to myself. I want to heal. I want to step into true authentcity and power. I want to be able to say yes and no to things from a place of balance and true self knowledge.
Thank you for reading this and for making a safe space to share my story.
Life is better without alcohol, please don't give up on yourself!
Thank you for being here with us 🫂
Coming up to 6 weeks sober, started at the gym 🏋️♀️ feel fantastic for a 60 year old
I am 142 days sober and I'm 57. It is never too late to make a positive change. Stick with it, it sounds like you are doing great!
I just started my sobriety journey on Jan 1st.
I have been drinking since I was 18. Drink has been woven into my adult life and I have many memories that I am ashamed of.
I will be 60 in July and I want a happy and healthy retirement. To have that I know that I have to kick the booze.
Congrats on your sober streak. Working on improving your health by stopping alcohol consumption is an excellent idea.
23 days today. I decided Christmas Day after waking up with a hangover I cannot and will not do this anymore. This is the longest in ten years I have gone without a drink. Determined to keep going and do Forward On February 💪
I was sober for eight years. Let other people destroy my program and took me ten years to get back to this point. My word of advice. Guard your sobriety like your life depends on it. Because it ultimately does. I fell over and over but I got back up and kept going. There is no AA around me or other programs. the help of this community has made the difference.
I did same . Day before Christmas.. I was proud I woke up felling Great.... I stumbled 2xs for a day ...but I'm standing again .. I hear uu
Tell me what else help d uuu
@@MelissaBytwork two things. It’s one day at a time period. I know longer care at all who is offended or bothered that I do not drink anymore… and honestly, prayer❤️
Just started my sobriety journey 2nd January. Birthday tomorrow and very tempted to drink alcohol but going to stay strong.
Who would you poison on their birthday: your best friend or your worst enemy?
Give yourself the birthday gift of good health. Resist the temptation to act out bad habits.
@@gwillis01 Never had a drink and so glad I didn't felt so much better then I would of have 🙏❤️
Congratulations on resisting temptation @@peaceLove1988
Keep up the good work
Hi Jae. Day 384 today! Thankfully family and friends did intervention on me. I was shocked and in so big denial that I didn't believe I had a drinking problem! Totally insane since I had fatty liver disease and DT's periodically.
Thankfully after going to detox and New Found Life in Long Beach with continuing daily AA morning meetings: I get to be sober and present today.
Lost 46 pounds with consistent daily workout and zone'ish diet with whole foods and occasional ice-cream meltdown.
Also, doing blood panels every six months which are showing my liver is regenerating and healing... total miracle!
After being workaholic and functional alcoholic for over 30 years: Get to have a Act 🎬 II of life as a healthy, balanced person.
Last, all praise to my Lord and savior Jesus for reclaiming this prodical son from early death.
46lbs thank you LORD!
@GettingSoberAgain Yes sir! Quiting alcohol is such a big deal for me I forget to mention, oh btw: quit copenhagen and all tobacco 126 days ago by God also removing that obsession as well! Still using Nicorette gum; but quite a big deal! Just not so much compared to stopping alcohol use and abuse.
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
Hello everyone I have been sober for 320 days thanks jade for all you are the best 🎉🎉🎉
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
thank you moving forward every day thank god
I was always the "functional" alcoholic, didn't miss a day of work, was reliable and seemed fairly ok from the outside. Was just masking the pain of being transgender and not quite being able to be myself. When I did come out I had to wait a long time and just continued to get through the day so I could numb the pain, when I was finally on hormones I felt much relief but wasn't able to stop.
About 6 months in the place I was living was due to be demolished and ended up living in a homeless shelter, I still worked but it's hard to find a safe space. Was also studying diploma of beauty so I could eventually get a career rather than a meaningless job. 1 yr later I'm in a safe space and just over sabotaging my potential, currently studying to become a makeup artist, it's day 6 and 2024 is my time to shine and blossom.
Wow! It sounds like you are definitely on the right path! Please don't give up on yourself, you can have a wonderful life without alcohol.
@@jeffreyjohnmann I'm certainly not giving up on myself, I have chosen to live just gotta get through a adjustment period. Thanks for the kind words sweetie.
Love this channel. This might sound lame but for the first time in years I was looking for my coffee cup and it was on my work table where I do my art projects and not by the fireplace where I smoke and drink excessively. My desire to drink is fading and my inspiration is coming back to me!
Been Drinking for over 30 years tried quitting 100 times never making it started watching your videos it helped me a lot I decided January 4, 2024 to stop I am now 14 days without a drink thank you
Conrats on embracing sobriety. Keep on working to improve yourself don
👏👏👏 14 DAYS 👏👏👏
Day 22 sober and starting to feel the benefits. But I must confess I have developed a love for icy poles. I think you call them popsicles in the USA. I guess I need to watch out for that sugar addiction. I’ve never been a sweet tooth in the past.
At this stage I’m trying to not be too hard on myself so it may be icy poles daily until the seasons change which has to be better than what was my nightly bottle and a half of champagne.
It’s summer over here in Oz. Nothing nicer than an icy pole on a hot summer night - and no hangover the next day. 😂 ☀️🍡
Nothing like an icy sweet treat on a hot summer night. Congrats on choosing sobriety. I like American popsicles also.
I am now 9 days sober...again. I was sober for 6 months a year ago but got in my own way and started drinking again. Now it is Thursday and I can't stop thinking about drinking tomorrow. Hoping I sleep off that thought.
I was sober for 6 months last year, relented on holiday with in laws as I was too scared to admit to them I have a massive issue. Now drinking for 9 months and I’m worse than ever and miserable.
I wanted today to be my first sober day again but just couldn’t. Found out my cancer recovering father has covid and it knocked me.
After writing this I’m having tomorrow to be my first again.
My husband is sober since January but he is finding it easy. No going to AA, no existential dread… I’m stocking up on vitamins and 5 hct and tomorrow is going to be my first again. Need to be honest and allow myself to be sad. Drink makes my life so much worse and it needs to go. Be responsible for myself stop being so reactive x
It's worth it, keep on keeping on.
February 22nd will be a year for me! Have no desire to drink, and in fact, I have no taste for the stuff any longer.
I am disappointed that dome friends who still drink too much haven't cut down .
But not my circus, not my monkeys .
Sober ? JUST DO IT
JUST DO IT!
A true friend wants the best of health for you. If someone wants you only as a drinking partner, that person is not truly your friend.
Well done....
I’m 66 years . I had my last drink 12 hours ago. I’m disgusted and disappointed with myself. I have tried to get sober many times. I’m here hoping for the miracle of sobriety. I believe I started to abuse alcohol 22 years ago following my husband’s brain aneurysm. Our son had just turned five. It was a very difficult time. My husband became very disabled and needed care and advocacy. Our son had just turned five. He lost his job and I had to leave mine. It was an incredibly long hard journey for everyone. He died in 2022.
Whenever I drank I felt free. Free from all of it. I tricked myself into believing that I was being the best version of myself. All lies. Now I’m truly afraid of not getting sober. Of failing again… I’m sick of putting myself and others in danger.
I plan on doing a AA zoom meeting later today. Tomorrow I will go to a meeting in person. I have been listening to these videos for about 4 months and have found them to be very encouraging.
Please keep me in your thoughts or prayers. I need them.
I will include you in my morning prayers Kathleen. all I ask, is that if I ask God to show up for you, you also show up for the work that must be done 🙏
Thank You! I will.
35Days AF there have been a couple of days that had some strong cravings but got through it.
Am writing everyday which I find helps me. Thank You Jae for all your wonderful work that you put into these videos. 🙏
It's the least I can do 🙏
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
@@gwillis01 Thank You 🙏
I've never been a huge drinker at all (twice in my life I had 5 drinks in a day), but I don't process it well at all and a beer and a shot will slow me down tremendously. I started working at a bar and got 2 free "shift drinks" a night and after a few weeks those 8 to 10 drinks a week felt like they were really adding up, and so I decided to stop fully on Saturday June 4, 2022, 592 days ago at the time of this writing. While I've never felt I had a problem or couldn't control myself, my sobriety did help inspire a good few other people to consider cutting back on how much they drink, and I like a lot of videos like this to help be a resource and cheer on anyone else for whatever reason they're not drinking and may feel alone in the crowd.
Congrats on your long sober streak.
@@gwillis01 Much appreciated gwillis. Hope you're having a wonderful day too. :)
I’m struggling to get SOBER AGAIN. I have been a chronic relapser for too long. I Have been posting my journey in hopes that I can help another. The period of time I’ve had in sobriety I was able to create some of the best memories that will last a lifetime. Change is inevitable you can choose to resist it or surrender to it. I’m choosing to surrender with help. Thank you for your videos they truly help. I have a lot of work to do and I’m finally willing to do it.
Do you write all your content? Great stuff. I am doing better but still working on it. Take care. I made it two weeks then had some beer on a trip.
It'a mostly a one man operation Sherri. He occasionally has help from one or two other people.
I write, host, film, sound, edit, social media, email, dm, reply to comments, make the thumbnails, schedule the posts, manage the website, the Patreon, create community engagement posts, and sometimes sleep 🤣
Thanks for trying to help
Congrats on watching the video and being sober curious.
Im still listening...
Ill donate again soon.... You still my peaceful place with good people .. thank u ❤
You're the best, I appreciate you being here with us 🫂
76 days thanks to this channel.
👏👏👏76days👏👏👏
Congrats on seventy six days of sobriety.
At day 24, my Quitzilla shows I'm roughly 82% towards my first month of being alcohol free. That will be my longest streak in over 20 years.
As a writer and a runner I tend to have a "big picture" mentality. When I begin a marathon or a novel I don't think about the 26.2 miles or 300 plus pages in front of me but rather break things down to the first 5K or few chapters and build on them. So I'm looking at my first month like my first mile or first chapter. I'm just warming up.
An old Nike slogan says there is no finish line. I guess the same can be said of sobriety.
As a writer, you know the importance of a great montage segue. This is your montage moment. When you look back at this moment, you will be proud of yourself!
I stopped drinking a few days after Valentines Day, and committed to 6 months. I’m not sure what day I last had alcohol, but I’m counting it as 2/14 since that’s pretty close and easy to remember. So, I just passed 36 days! I dont know for sure if I have a drinking problem, at least not in the way most people would understand that phrase, but I do believe I’ve long used it as a crutch and that it holds me back from becoming a person I would more like to be.
I would have maybe 6-12 beers a week and the occasional bottle of wine, but I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for a long time and just haven’t been able to get rid of it. Alcohol helps in the short run to take the edge off, but I think it also has kept me from really digging in and working on my physical and mental health in a more direct and sustainable way.
So, I’m giving it 6 months. One month isn’t nearly enough time to really give sobriety a chance and clear my head long enough to do the kind of work I probably need to do on myself, and 1 year just seems too long! But 6 months seems about right to know if alcohol is really a problem for me, or if it is just a distraction from something else.
But I really feel, deep down, that if this 6 months is a success and I really do like myself better as a person, I won’t have any problem making it a more permanent thing! By that time I’ll have a good chunk of evidence one way or the other, and I’ll feel good about going forward with sobriety long term if I see real positive changes from it.
Thanks for taking all the time and putting in all the effort you have to create this space. Subscribed! :)
congratulations to you for putting together over a month so far. this is great!
I highly suggest to download the quitzilla app. It's free for iOS or Android. It will keep track of your sobriety time for you as well as how much money you we're wasting on alcohol, which is a great additional metric to have your disposal to see how much less money you would have if you would have kept drinking alcohol!
26th month of sobriety! Get off the alcohol dragon - it pays back, 10x!!
Congrats on your long sober streak.
Brother I can't tell you how many times I've restarted my sobriety 😂. I always come back and check in with you. Been subscribed a couple yrs now.
Thank you for your service 👏. Your content is very refreshing when getting back on the wagon. Hopefully I can cut this 🍷 off for good.
Willfully so! Thanks for coming back...again 😸
Eight minutes with Jae, is better any day than eight minutes with the bottle. Thank you for some inspiration 🗽
🥰🥰🥰 you nice 🥰🥰🥰
Wow, love this comment - good point!!
Drank for 40 years, now I'm 10 months Sober and things are so much better.
I don't know why I didn't believe i would get better, but once I did I only wished I would've done it earlier.
If you have any doubts, just try sobriety for a week, then a month, and before you know it , 6 months will be gone.
Be honest , practice progress not perfection, and most of all, find a sober way of living that works for YOU.
👏👏👏Bravo Jeff!!
Congrats on ten months of sobriety. Keep up the good work.
Only 18 days into sobriety, but considering I own/brew/and bartend at a brewery I am proud of myself. Been watching these videos a lot to remind me of the benefits, thank you!
Knowing how to navigate both worlds is certainly an advantage. From nightwalker to daywalker
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Congratulations on resisting temptation while on the job. Keep striving to improve yourself.
My last drink was on Christmas. It dawned on me that nobody ever said "I got sober and it ruined my life." I picked up the basketball and weights again. Feeling sore from working out is so much better than alcohol withdrawal.
Replacing alcohol with new healthy habits has helped me a lot, too. Keep it going buddy!
Sober since two days after Christmas. Having sobered up twice before I can honestly say I want to stay sober the rest of my life.
Make a list of the benefits of sobriety. Make it as long as you can. Then pick out your favorite reason. Let joy be your motivator not fear.
Day 150 today! Thx Jae
🫂 You bet!
I’m 138 days over and I actually started on this journey to help my full-blown functioning alcoholic husband maybe cut down and I realize my social drinking isn’t doing me any good so I quit you have a lot to do with it! And you’re awesome videos and your shorts that have gotten me through a lot of rough times watching a couple of your shorts.. I got to tell you, though my family is having a rough time with it. My extended family is really trying to push me to just taste a little and it’s surprising and hard to deal with with them. My alcoholic husband, though he is very proud of me, and he supports me go figure.
Some people just do not like change. It takes mental effort to accept the new sober you. Some people would rather you stay in the slot you used to live in.
You have to work to rise above their low expectations.
I’m making more money spending less and sleeping better
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I am pleased to say I have now been sober for 54 days, I feel so much better and even look better. In the past I struggled to go one day without a drink.
I had to get control of my alcohol addiction as I was starting to make myself sick.
I was so fed up of feeling like crap every day, feeling anxious, feeling angry. I used to sweat a lot too, which was a gross side affect.
I didn't know just how much better things would get. A life without alcohol is possible and more than that its wonderful!
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
@gwillis01 thank you very much! I plan to 😊
I’m a 58 year old male who has struggled with alcohol ever since I first tasted it when I was 14 years old. I grew up with an alcoholic father and alcohol was a huge part of life in general. Once I started my life long quest to be “normal” through drinking to cover my low self esteem and emotional pain. I have lived for over 40 years as a depressed human being who used alcohol as a crutch and a numbing tool. My relationships have been destroyed over and over again. I have been the one who did all the blowing up of these relationships. I am a “runner” who exits stage left as soon as I feel uncomfortable in any situation. I do not know what Joy feels like. I am single (never been married), no children and weak friendships at best. I don’t have a best friend. After destroying non family friendships, all I have left is family. This is difficult when most of my family drink alcohol (basically ALL of them). This is again not a sustainable way to live. I did get sober for 2 years (July 2021-late 2023) after a Rock-bottom health moment made me think it was that or death. I accepted Jesus as my savior and got active in a church. I was doing great and my life did get better. Then a setback in the form of a family issue sent me back down the rabbit hole of alcohol. I literally stopped everything that was going good, left church and all the new people who had come into my life in the last two years. I actually made the reckless decision to physically move away from it all and relocate to a part of the country where my other half of the family lives. I sold my house, bought a new one and now I am miserable living in a colder weather state and am drinking again. I started back up to feel accepted and to stupidly feel accepted by this part of my family. I was always accepted, but they never knew me as a “sober” man and didn’t know how to deal with that. I am once again deeply depressed and without hope. The only thing that is positive is that I am near my aging Mom who is alone and needs some closer family to help with things. Unfortunately she is an alcohol user as well which only gives me more negative influence to drink. I want to quit again but don’t know how to do it and feel good about it. I moved to a place where I don’t know anyone (but Mom), and don’t know where to start. Everyone in this state drinks!….it seems that way anyway. Please pray for me to get something going. I am stuck and don’t feel like I can get out of the hole this time.
Sending prayers to you and your struggle. God is with you and will help you. You are not alone in this struggle.
It sounds like this is your moment to make a change, my friend. I am 57 and just beginning an alcohol-free life too. I know drinking wasn't helping me, I know it is time now to try something new. It sounds like you are set up for a fresh start, no one knows your past in this new situation you are in, and you can reinvent yourself as an alcohol-free man starting today!
I started my journey on january4th 2024. It finally got through to me that i was drinking myself to death. I looked horrible and felt horrible. My depression and anxiety was through the roof and my mind was so messed up. Im two weeks in and its been a complete change. I look and feel better. My depression and anxiety is almost non existent and my mind is so much better. Instead of ignoring issues; facing tjem head on. Im very underweight and steuggle tp gain. Since ive quit drinking my appetite is great! Im gaining around a pound to two pounds a week. I love it so far.
I got started drinking from being in a relationship with a guy that drank with his friends daily. I drank with them to fit in. Just going with the flow. Then me and guy split and i drank out of heartbreak and depression. Before i knew it i was completely hooked.
I havent said that ill never drink again but i never said i would either. Just taking it a day at a time. Right now i dont want it. If i ever decide to have a drink again ill analyze the urge and make a decision then.
Stick with it, you are doing great. Life really is a lot better without alcohol....
Life is better without alcohol…the hardest part is finding your group of friends who don’t drink or at least who don’t pressure you to drink with them. Not easy in this world today. There is so much darkness and people feel the need to numb out.
@@jeffreyjohnmann ty so far I'm loving it!
@@Tatman1212 so far I'm loving sober life. I don't really have too many friends. I'm always at home and don't get out much. When I do get a vehicle and job and get to really to start living life again I'll be super protective of my sobriety. As of right now if I do get out and about I usually have my husband or my daughter with me and that helps.keep me from slipping.
I’m dropping a bottle of spirits a day. I’m looking for ways to get out. I just lost a lady I loved a lot, that’s on me. Appreciate your channel.
Try reframing your mind by asking this question: "What kind of person will I attract into my life in the state that I'm in, and is that the kind of company I want to keep?"
Get yourself in the shape and condition that your future partner deserves and that you can be proud of.
This is your montage moment 💪
You are gonna do it❤
The journey continues, 83 days sober.
Its not easy but if it was it wouldnt be worth doing .
I love watching these videos Jae, you are a great inspiration and I doubt I would be 83 days jn without the support of this channel and contributors.
Everyone! Stick with it, work hard. 😊
Keep it going!!! 83 days is a huge accomplishment!
Congrats on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
1 day at a time gang, keep it every body.....
Yes definitely, I get in trouble when I look too far ahead
I’ve been sober 117 days, and I love it, but it’s really disappointing how much weight I’ve gained! Am I the only one?
Watch closely your sugar intake. People in early sobriety often crave sugar
It's our duty to closely monitor what's going into our bodies after quitting alcohol. How many calories does your body actually need per day, and how many are you putting in?
it's pretty formulaic, just stay on top of the basics: calories in vs calories out/used/burned
hello Jae
Howdy do...how are you?
Thanks for your kind comment, mate . All the best to you !
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Why do you want to be sober? What would be the best part? Think about a positive, alcohol free future.
Have you asked for advice from a medical doctor? Could you take yourself to rehab?
I want to become fully sober but I keep failing, can yall please give me some encouragement!
how about this...
50 signs its time to quit drinking!
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Life is better without alcohol!
Thank you so very much for this site!!! Where are you moving to?
I've struggled with relapses for the last year or so, I had a year sober, then went out... repeatedly.... I think your site will help me on a daily basis.
Again, thank you so much.
Thanks for hanging out and taking time to comment 🤓
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Thank you so much for what you said. From my heart.
Im just trying to do this weekend sober...which gives me 6 days this month sober..i thought that this channel would not want me on it...because im not 100 days, 200 hundred day etc sober....thank you..i might give my full story one day.
The story that you have isn't the story you're destined to 💪
Love this imput ! Helping me sooo much ! I am still struggling but tapping in regularly for support and it is sooo helping me ! You are soo real , non judgemental !! I love it ! You are doing amazing work help support %! I thank you ! Sincere,Ly !
You're welcome sincerely 😊
Im waiting for a year to do my testimony 🙏 so it’s coming ;)
Mathew here and I’m sober for more than 110 days ! Today I’m starting sober from 🌿🌳 too. Today will be my first day I haven’t puffed in years !
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1 day sober here 😅, absolutely glad i found this community
It started a little over 3 years ago out of loneliness and turned into a terrible habit. Its cost me thousands, good people, my mental, and the peace i didnt know i already had before this. It’s been costing my memory and days off of binge drinking. Ive acted terrible towards people that love me, caused me to do and say things I couldn’t remember. Just brought me a lot a shame. I’m not happy with myself and what my energy has become. I’m just here to get through this with other people, i just know that i cant start off alone.
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@@GettingSoberAgain thank you so much. I’m glad to be here
Hey guys , I am 49 yo. My sobriety story started when I decided to stop having an erratic lifestyle and learning about codependency in November 2023.
I also used to be a people pleaser, drinking was my way of to people’s please and drowning my feelings and it was not serving my inner self .
I am now working on my sobriety and focusing on living a happier healthier life.
I also joined 12 steps program which has helped me deal with issues of sex and love addiction.
I want to be sober because I want to focus on what is important in my life , and alcohol was fuelling my addiction habits for love and sex.
Awareness is powerful in this one 💪
Day 5. I got 60 days last year. I have disappointed myself so many times. I have a problem with something else when i drink, it comes in a jewelery bag. I am feeling a little better right now with a few days under my belt. I am really wanting to stick it out and get my life back on track. It was on track at one point.
The money is always a problem especially when you got a guy. Borrowing money from family is so embarrassing yet ill do it and make something up.
Horribly embarrassing evenings all the time. Texts. Ive alientated myself from most people in my previous couple chapters of life.
I hope i can come back here in a few months and reply to this myself with a number greater than 60 and be feeling physically and emotionally better.
Come back everyday and leave a comment to keep yourself accountable and the community updated! Treat it like your journal along your journey!
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Sober 20 days now, after getting back to moderate drinking post a 6 month long abstinence... Found myself slowly falling back to same old habits. So I decided to quit for good. Had a sober new year with family. I quit cold turkey both alcohol and tobacco, found out quickly I cant handle going cold turkey on both during the exams so I returned to smoking. This will have to wait. Got small cravings but I wont be back to drinking, got far too much to do and experience sober. I watch your videos daily to reinforce my commitment. Overall Im fine with no drinking, dont necessarily feel better, but I dont feel like crap every morning and surprisingly it turns out I earn much better than I thought. That's good enough for me. Maybe one day I will call my ex, I know I hurt her with my drinking, I think she will be happy that I quit. I lost my job during covid and started drinking in quarantine. Was fun at first but quarantine turned out to last far longer then anyone expected. And even before my relationship with % wasnt exactly healthy, if managable.
Cheers, thanks for your help and good luck to all of us!
It sounds like you are doing great, your decision sounds a lot like mine... I kept trying to "moderate" my alcohol intake and that NEVER worked for me, but I kept trying. They say that is the goal of every problem drinker.. to be able to "drink like a normal person". I chased that dream, for about ten years! For me just removing the choice made my life a lot easier. Now I just "don't drink" and I am not wasting time and energy trying to "manage" a situation that was 100% unmanagable for me.
@@jeffreyjohnmann Thanks Jeff! Moderate drinking doesn't work for us for two reasons - with our tolerance we can outdrink anyone - so social drinking is out of the question - and we won't just stop until our bodies refuse to take anymore. Sometimes you just have to accept reality - alcohol is not for us, not anymore and there's no point in pretending otherwise. Best of luck on your journey! :)
Happy 3 weeks sober 🥳🥳🥳
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks man! You're the best ❤️
Started the month off well, but then failed. Back at it today- this weekend is important to me that I don’t drink, so I hope that drive will help me.
Effort > Hope
Report back Monday morning with your progress report 🫡
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Being aware that you have a problem is a good first step. The next step is asking: "How intensely do I want to change for the better?"
Perhaps tell your family doctor about your problem. Ask him or her for advice.
6 months nearly. 20 kilos lost. Making better decisions.
I found the same thing, my choices are better without alcohol in the mix. Keep it going!
20 kilos!!! 👏👏👏
Almost done with my first dry January and thinking of continuing my streak. I've been drinking since I was a teenager and I'm 54 now, so this month feels quite liberating to be alcohol free. I've never been physically dependent upon it, but def did not have a healthy relationship with alcohol. I am inspired by these videos and comments to continue trying out this new way of living without alcohol.
Keep the streak alive!!!
I am in the same boat, I am 57 yrs old! I am 142 days sober today and I feel so much shame about my past behavior, especially in front of my son, I feel like I was setting a terrible example for him for so many years. I can't change the past, so I am moving forward to set a good new example for him and show him that alcohol does NOT need to be part of a healthy and happy life. Stick with it, my friend God has a plan for you.
Back on first day sober ❤😢
It takes courage, strength, transparency and vulnerability to own up to your actions. accountability is very valuable along your journey!
take 30 minutes of your time to write down all the things you learn during your sobriety detour so that the mistake can be learned from and not just remain a mistake!
I’m 68 years old. Don’t remember when I was recently sober. But right now, I’m 3 days sober and feeling great!
The money isn’t an issue, I haven’t really alienated anyone. I just want to enjoy my life and feel good physically doing it. And want to be here as long as possible.
Good luck to everyone out there. Stay positive and keep working at it.