Preventing Divorce: Top 3 Life Hacks for Singles | George Blair-West | TEDxBrisbane
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- Опубликовано: 23 апр 2018
- Psychiatrist Dr George Blair-West has a bold and empowering message about choosing a life partner and avoiding divorce: it can be hacked. Forget romantic destiny. When it comes to the all-important decision of selecting someone to share your life with - and the lives of your potential children - a romantic, loving heart must be met with an informed and thoughtful mind. Dr George Blair-West is an author, researcher and psychiatrist. He sub-specialises in trauma and relationship/sex therapy.
In the 1990s, his peer-reviewed research papers literally rewrote the textbooks on suicide and depression. He then turned his focus to the overlooked research into the psychological forces that prevent weight loss. The bestselling Weight Loss for Food Lovers: Understanding our minds and why we sabotage our weight loss and related research papers led to media & speaking appearances around the world. In 2010 he was named one of the top 20 most influential obesity experts in the world.
His inspirational novel, The Way of The Quest, was a ‘how to’ of finding one’s meaning and purpose in life and went on to receive three international awards. But it is helping people make sense of relationships that he sees as his most important work. He is currently writing his fourth book, How to Make the Most Important Decision of Your Life, with his dating coach daughter. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
TL;DR if you're in a rush:
1. Wait to grow older
2. Be influencable
3. Be reliable and have your partner's back
Wasn't it, choose a partner who is influenceable? Make sure you both have equal power in decisions.
Fantastic video and information. The divorce rate would be very low if men and women married the right partners. That can only happen through self awareness. Most people don't actually know what brings them happiness. They are expecting others to *_make_* them happy.
that is so true
Yeah I totally agree
@Azima Akbarova. For some people, it seems like they only learn these things too late. :)
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Totally agree about the second point. I've always had the feeling that it is very hard to maintain a healthy relationship with a man that you can't convince about anything.
Elena Kusevska I’ve had the same experience with women
Reliability, he hit the nail on the head.
Tinder guys dont know what it means to protect and stand by by someone
The entire talk is an argument for a lifestyle choice. There are benefits to marrying young and having children young too. It's just a statistic. People should make their lifestyle choices based on what they want at that moment in their life.
Yes. But for some decisions you have to think long-term (like having children). You may think you want them 'at that moment in your life' but you have to be sure that you will be happy with that choice forever.
Amazing Video!! It helped to change some of my views on marriage.
Good info. Got me thinking
Thanks for the Information
Great presentation and information. X
It seems I've been carrying this entire marriage, which is WHY I am suffering from illness now, I think. I have never had that supportive issue from my partner. It's something I've accepted as a weakness he's suffered due to childhood issue. But it's affected me so long, I am thinking about what Dr. Blair-West says about leaving for my health/age's sake.
Great advice.
this is brilliant!
thank you sir.
Marriage is not a problem...😋
Marriage is a Priceless gift from God..👫
I agree with you god bless you
thanks shameem..
No one is actually forced to either get married or to believe in "God".
I am Muslim and your thorough is like that same Muslim love you from India
Says who?
Divorce wasn’t as prevalent because the laws didn’t protect women. Women stayed in abusive marriages because they couldn’t afford to leave. Regan changed that in California first.
because that accounts for the rate of change. or the majority of relationships are abusive by your standards. Clearly your opinions are not backed by stats or proportional reasoning.
RebeccaWhite30 now it's the exact opposite, and men aren't protected In marital situations. Interesting twist...
Excellent!
Great talk
Brilliant 🙏❤
What he said matched what I did....
Thanks
Superb stats ....
Maybe we didn't had divorces back then. But, what to say about when one spouse (usually the man) just leave? This is something that happens till this day.
I think he could have talked about a lot of things that couples could work on their relationships.
And, I was a little upset when he said that we choose the man or woman to be the father or mother of our children. It's not the case to me, and I believe to many people this days, who do not want to have children.
But I do agree with the tips that he gave. Maturity, one really knowing what he or she wants in life and relationships, having some experience, being open to compromise and ultimately being there for each other. It's about partnership, and what is best for both. Never to compete with one another. Always be gentle and thankful. I found this very helpful in my marriage. We had a hard start, but now, almost seven years later we're very happy and appreciative.
espectacular.
Merciiiiii, this is amazing
Nice Video
Liked
I thought 5 or 6 would be staying single.
Both remained empty. At first I thought he was pumping up the drama, but he simply forgot about them.
Just reading the title (at work and can't watch it yet) - "[...] Divorce [...] hacks for singles."
I'm going to guess the answer is "don't get married".
Can influenceable also mean compromise?
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Marriage is a problem, divorce is a bigger problem :-0
Divorce is sometimes the solution to a bad marriage, but it costs a lot more. 😀
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I guess as someone who's never and probably never will be in a relationship, I should be glad I'll never have to suffer through a heart break.
fieryelf which means you have never experienced love and I would say you are extremely unlucky !!! Loving someone makes us vulnerable but it's one of the most amazing feeling ~~~ and being loved my someone whom you love, you should experience it once in your life !!! Life is meaningless without love ...
Never say never ! :p
I discovered this video on Secret Fixer Blueprint - there are lots awesome videos there that should help you
CEO of a charity cause this shht literally killed me...
Separated from Husband then he dies, Dad dies and no money to help me in the past year, about to lose my home sad!!! Still in shock!!
really so stay possitive
no condition is perment
Sorry to hear. Stay strong
Marriage is the very first cause of divorce. I made a t-shirt about that.
Sense of humor is very important, and seeing a psychologist to learn about your failed marriages is what we did before my husband and I married for 21 years.
Margo Bellamy Yes, it is. And that’s how I’m saving myself from this all... I’d rather have someone chosing everyday to stay with me.
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Turkishhh😠😬😒😲😳i dont understandddd
Beyini iyi seç, bir de geç yaşta evlen demiş.
5th
This guy sounds like my lecture...very interesting subject but the voice makes me sleepy 😴
That's how more TedTalks usually are. You have to be interested about the subject to want to listen to it. Not all information is spoonfed, so you kind of just have to deal with it.
pezpeculiar Sweetheart, I already know that since I watch Ted talks every day and just because his voice makes me sleepy, does not mean the subject is or was uninteresting. So! Read, digest and think before replying. Thanks though, you tried ;)
Alrighty, ma'am. Have a nice decade.
pezpeculiar hahaha Thanks
Don’t depend on someone else for your happiness
Just don’t
Preventing divorce: don't get married
The good way to keep partners ' relationship are
1)man/woman must choose a good partener by studying all factors (comportement education etc.)
2)he/her must be faithful and not envying from others men/women
3) she must obey him and he must respect him, if you have any problems you would try together to solve them.
In this case you could love each other and be happy but if you make your choice because this girl is beautiful or this guys is handsome romantic etc your relationship never be strong
Most people love based only on outer looks ... that's so sad
Bary why you're seeming astounded ?this is just a name
Under 30 you embrace over you’re too stubborn
dont married simple :)
In Islam you can get your solutions. Your statistics are from America alone. It seems that the speaker likes to break rules and with that mind set he is giving advice to other people.
45 % of woman decided to line their pockets and get rid of their boring partner.
Worst TED talk I have ever seen.
Collected Works Explain why.
Tyler Jones Because he is using violence to solve problems.
Collected Works I did not see that part, could you point it out for me?
To him, Homosexuality is OK, Having affairs outside marriage is OK, Marriage after 30 years old is the best !!! If you all marry after 30, the man power of your country will decrease more and your country's development will be less. You will not able to retire early for your small children/child. You will have to stay with a headache in your old age. HIV is the creation of Homosexuality. And outside marriage affairs cause many many problems in the society.
What will people do at the crucial time of their puberty to 30? Adultery?