As a Black woman, I’m so glad you’re not falling for it. When they start coveting and praising your beauty that’s because they’re actually trying to steal certain things from you. Don’t fall for it. Indian and Brown people have and will always be beautiful. I grew up watching Bollywood movies and this knowledge is not new to me or plenty others from different parts of the world.
What's weird is i hate how this is called the "great shift" because westerners find south asians pretty. I mean this enforces further that beauty revolves around western culture and white people. South Asians have always been beautiful. Mainstream media always portrayed them terribly. But it's so sad to see south asians going along with the great shift thing as if beauty is valid if westerners think so.
It's one of many ways so many desis are still mentally colonized. You can take the colonizer out of the country, but you can't take the colonizer out of the people's minds. The whole fair skin obsession is to look more like the colonizer. Tripping over yourself now that the colonizer finally called you pretty is more pandering to the colonizer. And every time the colonizer has liked something of ours, he's stolen it, without asking and without giving a damn that it's wrong to steal. So be ready to see colonizers spray tanning to look brown and buying the ugliest saris and plastic tikkas they can find, because they don't have a shred of actual taste when it comes to Desi culture. I'll be over here hiding my banarsis thank you. Oh and watch out for the colonizer that wants one of us as a token pet for validation. That comes hand in hand with becoming this seasons "it" accessory.
It’s so crazy bc as a black woman who grew up in the 10th district in Paris (where there’s a big south Asian population), I’ve always found south Asians sooo pretty/handsome !! like I would pass by a clothing shop and be so amazed about the beauty of your dresses and jewelry, I kinda grew up with Bollywood and had south Asians friends which helped me appreciate even more south Asian culture. My mom even used to mix west African and the south Asian hair care routine to do my hair. It’s crazy how people can’t appreciate a race (who’s not white) without making it a trend, like ??? our races are not trends tf and we don’t need the west recognition to realize that we’re desirable (sorry if there’s any mistakes, English is not my first language)
ily💕 thank you sm for your content, I’m not even south Asian but I really enjoy learning about your cultures, traditions and heritage through your channel
Not fully Indian but in regards why do people only notice some culture already beauty, even before the great shift, I knew you guy were a beautiful culture like huh? Why do people only notice them now when its "trending"
Funny thing is we've already been gorgeous, have you seen the malayalis in my area and my gosh we're beautiful, at this point, this is just a TikTok trend that happened to black folk before all of this
As a black women i am so happy to see brown women getb the attention they deserve for their beauty. Especially by western beauty standards that have degraded and humiliated them for so long. It is important to realise that brown or darkerskinned POC are not ugly it is just western or eurocentric standards make us seem that we are
@@ithseemObviously beautiful people exist in every race. . However.. most people of all races have a slight preference for blonde women with blue eyes. . It's been noticed in every culture.
@@Aamir-i7tI would say colored hair and colored eyes not necessarily only blonde hair blue eyes. People just like light everything, hair, skin, eyes. With that being said, its certainly a plus to have those traits, but isnt a deal breaker if you're fugly (at least for me) If he isnt hot I don't care how blonde his hair is, or how blue his eyes are. I certainly do not care about the skin in my opinion, thats a very low rank need, all skin tones are =. If you're hot you're hot.
I hope it does not lead to the fetishization and dehumanization of South Asian Women like it did for East Asian women... or any kind of woman in general. But I know eventually it will and that's the concerning part of this trend.
South Asian women have been fetishised and dehumanised a long time ago. This is not anything new. South Asian (specifically Sri Lankan and Nepalese) women were trafficked to US military bases after the Korean War to work as comfort women and that part of history is still very controversial in Asia and part of the reason why there is aversion towards more military bases in the region. The R&R industry during the Vietnam War thrived on the sex industry in Singapore which attracted US and other Western soldiers between the 1950s and 1970s. Singaporean-Tamil and Sri Lankan (Ceylonese) women were prominent in that industry and there's even a film from that era called "Saint Jack" in which one of the main characters is a Ceylonese woman who is fetishised for her dark skin. It's just not nearly as prominent as East Asian fetishisation.
South Asian women have been fetishised and dehumanised a long time ago. This isn't actually new. South Asian (specifically Sri Lankan and Nepalese) women were trafficked to US military bases after the Korean War to work as comfort women and that part of history is still very controversial in Asia and part of the reason why there is aversion towards more military bases in the region
The R&R industry during the Vietnam War thrived on the sex industry in Singapore which attracted US and other Western soldiers between the 1950s and 1970s. Singaporean-Tamil and Sri Lankan (Ceylonese) women were prominent in that industry and there's even a film from that era called "Saint Jack" in which one of the main characters is a Ceylonese woman who is fetishised for her dark skin. It's just not nearly as prominent as East Asian fetishisation.
We have been fetishised wayy before. Even in the colonial era. The Brits have r@ped our women, even before that, mughal sultanate has did too, putting on restrictions on us.
Wtf is this great shift lol desis were hot loooong before this. You can't make me think my hotness is new just because social media dumbasses say so. I was desirable as a dark skinned south asian and always will be. ✌🏾 my desi ladies you were ALWAYS gorgeous ! Go where you are loved, and if that means outside of colorist desi spaces then so be it!
I'm an American man, and let me tell you this is *not* new and I have no idea where this "great shift" idea is coming from. Halle Berry and Janet Jackson were considered two of the most beautiful women in America over thirty years ago and If you showed American men a video clip of Aishwarya Rai in 1994, I'd bet my left arm that no less than 99% would agree she's nothing short of stunningly gorgeous. I'm genuinely glad you don't need the "validation", but it was there all along.
You’re spot on! South Asian woman are drop dead gorgeous and have been. We are such a diverse beautiful group we have different features and skin tones and I’m very grateful to be me! But like she said anyone can be attractive, since we are all a result of creation from our perfect creator! Don’t put your worth in what others have to say put your worth in knowing who you are ❤
literally same. it's crazy that people see colour/race before the person because i've always seen beauty in the person no matter what they look like or where theyre from!!
They did the same thing with us Black Women online🤦🏽♀️ The internet is shit, filled with a bunch of brainless chronically online idiots who need to leave their homes more often.
As a brown skin Latino, I always founded brown Indian/ South Asian women to be beautiful even before this “great shift”. The insecurities and trauma that South Asian women have to experience because of colorism is just heartbreaking. I’m so glad that most of you are now learning to love yourselves, your brown skin, and your culture. The real great shift is decolonizing our minds.
“You should never place your happiness in other people hands because it can taken away at any moment.” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I am SO GLAD I found your channel Maryam!! x ❤
Yess you're absolutely right, this fetishizing of races is kinda crazy to me. It happened to black people, and then to East asians (korea, japan) where people just started to fetishize them. It's crazy. I am glad that people are appreciating the different races, but its still crazy that its a trend
South asians have always been beautiful ❤️ The amount of time I've heard people saying "oh you're too pretty for an south asian" is insane they just don't want to believe that south asians are pretty
People are way too obsessed with race ,making whole race as a trend is absurd, how th these guys are noticing us now cuz we've been existing and been pretty, first of all these people dont know how south asian beauty looks like cuz of the stereotypes rooted in their brain and when they do meet pretty south asians they'll say stuff like 'you are pretty for an Indian ' or you look like some different race like what do they expect, idk why whole internet has an obsession with us ( mostly seeing hateful stuff ) but others saying is ignorant and when i see few south Asians commenting 'great shift' is just sad and cope....( cuz hate crimes have been increasing towards us lately and lets not even bring social media hate into this discussion, my condolences to Canadian NRIs ) , sending so much love to my south asian brothers and sisters i hope this world heals and world finally see us for what we truly are and respect us 💗🎀
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Oh my gosh, I absolutely love the video! It's so true-whenever people receive Western validation, everything suddenly seems amazing. Take coconut oil, for instance; we all jump on board when it's labelled as healthy by Western standards. I've come across countless girls who have been mistreated by their relatives simply because of their skin tone, not because they're not beautiful-because they are stunning! It's disheartening to see them treated poorly, and while words alone may not change their situations, we can certainly empower them to believe in themselves and recognize their worth.
"Stop placing your worth in other people's hands because it doesn't belong in anyone's hands except yours" This line, it's so beautiful! I'm Indian and I've been told a lot of things by my relatives, especially my aunt about my skin color, ever since i was in 3rd grade (im 17 now) i have a light brown skin color, she told me stuff about how women are supposed to have light skin. I've been told to CLEAN my face. My mum and younger sister are light skinned, i took after my dad's brown skin. I've been told tons of things by others but im really greatful that my dad, mom or sister have never made me feel insecure about my color, they always told me how pretty my skin color is. But I've been bullied in school for my skin too, i was told that im probably adopted cuz of my sister's and my skin color difference. Because of these i couldnt help but try a lot of remedies to bleach my skin, make it lighter but it didnt happen. I eventually got mentally drained and tired from all of this and now I've accepted myself for what i am. I was blinded by the society's pov, i never realised how pretty my skin color is until a few days ago when i decided im gonna embrace every bit of myself. Because of what others thought of my skin and beacuse i only cared about that, i never acknowledged my pretty features! I think every skin color is really pretty, like there isn't any skin color that i didn't find pretty ❤ so yeah, the line that you said, it helped me fuel my self love journey haha. Thank you so much, Maryam! I've been watching you for a month now and i really like the way you think! Im glad i found your channel, keep growing! ❤
2:40 Just a heads up since I haven’t seen ppl define “The Great Shift” in this way, but the phrase “The Great Shift” was essentially coined to refer to the Black guys with dreadlocks noticing the “shift” in being desirable nowadays compared to back around 2016 when Lightskin curly head (Black) guys were the “it” guys and all the craze. So it was considered the great shift for dreadheads to finally be recognized😭 Basically Darkskin dreadheads recently being admired and finally getting their moment to shine is the great shift from in comparison Lightskin curly heads who had dominated around the 2016 Fboy era.😭
I’m an East Asian woman and I have high appreciation and respect for south Asian culture and women. The food is immaculate, the dances are so pretty, the dresses and ornaments are stunning, and the women and men are so beautiful
South Asian women have always been beautiful. I think it’s stereotypes that played a big role. I never understood why south Asians would get so much hate. I know y’all know what I mean. South Asian people get so much hate and no one ever really pointed it out or stood up for us. This trend is ridiculous because south Asians have always been beautiful and the culture. Can’t believe it took people this long to realise how beautiful south Asians are beautiful
There was never a stereotype in America about South Asians being unattractive. (At least not in my lifetime.) South Asian characters in our media are often portrayed as intelligent, friendly, and cheerful but also "confused" by the "modern" western world. And yes, that last part is ridiculous.
Fr, I didn't really care about west's standards and trends, but genuinely I've always found my race to be most attractive... And never understood the hate towards south Asians or Indians in general......
you consider your own race the most attractive, just like in the west they consider themselves the most attractive themselves! congratulations, you are an adequate person without hypocrisy
Indonesian Indian here (YES, WE EXIST!!!!) and I can definitely feel it too in Indonesia. Born and raised here I've always been the subject of colourism and racism from classmates and strangers alike. I'm very lucky that my best friends aren't like that and go all out asking what's right and wrong to say both offline and online. I used to hate being mixed. I look ambiguous, I'm not Indonesian or Indian enough. It was hard to accept that I'm wholly Indonesian AND Indian and I can't separate them because it's what makes me whole. I still receive colourist and racist remarks (not on a daily basis) but now I'm more than brave enough to call them out on their bullshit and stand my ground. It is honestly sad to still see racism when Indonesians come from a diverse society just like India. My facial features have always been gorgeous, my tanned skin beautiful, and my mixed background is my pride ❤️
Isn't your population like 200 million plus? I honestly think the reason Indonesians don't get mentioned much in the USA is that you don't fit in with our government and media's propaganda about terrorism.
If anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood you must living under a rock, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look, also I think nowadays even Bollywood have better diverse looking casts and bollywood is not the only film industry in India so saying hollywood represented us better is pure bs
@heartofstone4712 all human beings want to feel validated and included. When a whole marginalized group have only felt the opposite the need for validation increases. This is basic human nature
I am South African of Indian decent and due to my darker skin guys would not approach me that is a subtle bias. So I think she is talking about dark skinned Indian girls.
If the trend is about fetishization then that's gonna be a eyeroll from me but if it's used as an excuse to give more appreciation towards the South Asians (not just limited to my Indian sisters) then I can be fine w/ it. The only validation that matters is from the one who looks back at you in the mirror :)
Brown girls have always been so gorgeous and pretty af! Can't believe people are so easy to influence. The media tells them who they should and shouldn't find attractive, like a certain race is a "trend". And they listen 🤮
It is insane to me that someone would have the gall to say someone like Priyanka Chopra, Akshay Kumar or any other obviously good looking person isn't. I know everyone has preferences but you can tell when someone is objectively good looking still. The negging is jealousy.
They're not attractive to me. I have no reason to be jealous of them. Sometimes you may find some people attractive whom others don't. Priyanka Chopra would be very average looking in Pakistan-my country. Majority of girls in my college look better than her without makeup. And Akshay Kumar isn't handsome. He is average, but his acting skills are great.
@@Anonymous-he3piyour actress are literally definition of light skinned doesn't make anyone beautiful if their features failed them big time bland ass faces
@@Anonymous-he3pi Well buddy this video is obviously for diaspora people who grew up with racism in the west. So I was not even asking you. The context here is that many non SA's go out of their way to neg obviously attractive people like models and actors. And I have seen them do it with other SA's too like Zayn Malik so don't act all high and mighty. And if they weren't jealous they wouldn't feel the need to keep attacking people they didn't see as attractive. And you do not fund them attractive most likely because of colourism that is prevalent back home whereas other people say it because of negative stereotypes. My comment is about how SA's are viewed in the west not just inds. That's what the video is about they were just examples which happened to be from ind. But I can use many other examples from other SA countries. I remember people writing racist comments about actor Abdullah Ejaz and saying he is not good looking because of where he is from.
As a young south asian person who grew up with the white centric beauty standards of the 90’/early 2000’s I get why some young south Asians are embracing the trend of feeling desired, but I’m glad I’m grown enough to realize that putting my value in a weird, fetishized social media trend is a recipe for disaster!
Wtf, I've always seen y'all as beautiful, hot + extremely attractive but I grew up w' y'alls image + presence in my culture as a half Trinidadian 🇹🇹. There was NEVER a so-called "great shift" in places like Trinidad, Guyana or Suriname. We for the most part have viewed Indian descendant ppl's as very attractive and you can hear it in a lot of our music going from way back, many many years ago to my grandparents time...maybe in my great great grandparents time during colonialism those views were different idk but for the past decades + generations Indian descendant + what some refer to as "dougla" ppl's have been very much embraced/loved and seen as attractive, maybe even highly sought after depending on the individual. In the Caribbean tho we don't view race the same as north americans + many of the Indo-Caribbeans have actually integrated w' the other racial groups over the years so perhaps things are different compared to the USA + Canada where certain east indian ppl's/communities do not really integrate or mix w' others...
Hey! I need to agree with you on this. I'm an Indian who recently moved to the Caribbean (Martinique to be specific) for work. The locals love Indian women so much, especially the hair. I've had people tell me that they were in awe of Martinicans of Indian origin. That made me super happy cause I've never felt so appreciated and admired. Especially when all I see is the racist comments on social media under videos of Indians just being themselves. Comments like "Imagine the smell" under the post of a beautiful Indian girl. There are a few accounts of mixed couples on Instagram. The comments get worse there. I believe that it really differs from country to country. I have friends from Africa who always say they love Bollywood and Indian culture in general, they grew up watching Indian movies. On the other hand, I've also experienced racism just cause I'm brown, I don't wanna mention which nationalities though.
@@kanthisudha5600 I'm an American, and Indian women have always been considered attractive here. I know _exactly_ the kind people making comments like the ones you're alluding to, and trust me, they have a _desperate_ need for someone - anyone -to look down on, and they come to the internet to find them wherever thy can. These people are much more _active_ than they are _numerous_ , if you know what I mean.
Fun fact is that before using social media, I never questioned my beauty or body shape :') It used to bother me a lot until I become 19 and started to love the way I actually am. And surprisingly, loving my own beauty made me find other people attractive whether he/she fall under so called beauty standards or not 🤷🏽♀️ Love from Bangladesh 🥀
I actually disagree with the hollywood indian represention is better thing.I think both bollywood and hollywood is bad when it comes to that representation cause in bollywood they tend to focus on the indian beauty standards ONLY witha few acceptions and hollywood just typecasts south asian's as dark skinned and looking a certain way when in reality south asian's quite literally look like anyone and everyone.
Exactly, if anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood I can only pity them, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive in the west is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look, also I think nowadays even Bollywood have better diverse looking casts and bollywood is not the only film industry in India so saying hollywood represented us better is pure bs
Exactly, if anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood I can only pity them, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look, also I think nowadays even Bollywood have better diverse looking castes and bollywood is not the only film industry in India so saying hollywood represented us better is pure bs
Exactly, if anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood they must be living under a rock, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive in the west is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look
Hollywood does have better representation for darker Indians in these years..which is something whole indian film industries lack despite most of the indian population being dark...darker complexions in india has been and will be portrayed as the comical side character or a maid..or the darker roles will be given to someone with fairer complexion..for once,darker Indians have been done justice to and it is by Hollywood...for once,they feel represented and it is not even by the indian industry..Sad
Exactly both Bollywood and Hollywood fail to represent whole India. Because of Hollywood representation, the Punjabi/Haryanvi people are often said things like You don't look like an Indian, or u r too pretty to be an Indian
omg i am so glad i just discovered your channel i have been wanting to see more south-asian girlies and connect more with my culture its nice seeing a channel like this
Honestly anothe4 thing i absolutely hate about this trend is that most people just categorise south asians as obly being indian. Like thank you maryam for telling that youre not only talking about indians.
Dude, I had no idea we were getting hot, I was only experiencing passive aggressive racism 😂 Im pretty sure foreigners on the internet realize india is getting on the internet, so hey need the viewership
As a native indian (born n raise in india) , it always make my blood boil when west taking credit while it is invented and made in india Such as people in india used charcoal to brush their teeth then british came called us dirty then later they make " charcoal toothpaste " and sell it 🤡 Thank god , now both native indian and NRI is getting to know abt culture and roots ❤
Cloth pads or cloth diapers... It was unsanitary and we were made to switch to "sanitary" napkins and diapers.. Only for the west to realise that cloth pads and diapers are more sustainable...
@annettewilcox5413 you're so right, it's the residual racist conduct from the British with their white supremacist ideologies that have created an inner struggle of feeling ugly because if skin colour. The psychological impact is profound and reverberates with each passing generation. I think once racism is eradicated so too will colourism. That'll be the day
@mono8476 in order to address it, one must understand the white supremacist nature of it. Only then when you recognize the entrapment of it all the truth will set u free
The way every person of colour has had the era of fetishisation is crazy,also as someone who has a lot of South Asian friends (I am African) I never really understood the racism especially in the US and of course ...UK but it's nice to see some representation and I hope people can really grow a sense of awareness and unlearning har,ful stereotypes also it's nice to see brown and darker skinned South Asians, especially with curly hair and defined nose bridges on screen and South Asian men not being emasculated on Western media
@@jikan-o6x well well, lemme explain you have some stats, ookay, indian men migrate to abroad more than indian women, so yeah and even if what you r saying is true, then that dosent means that they arent pretty, subjective preference always chnage, there was a time when fat was the subjective preference in india, but logically say how many will love fat women in india today? there was a time when dark skin was considered unnatractive, i wont saaay that now its super attractiven but people still find dark skinned people attractive if they r beautiful which wasnt the case before, and bfore there was a preference for round chubby face in india, but be honest, would youngesters really prefer round face over high cheekbones, there was a time when extremely pale skin wwas considered attractive in england, be honest, how many love thatt skin tone in today"S era? subjective preference affects majority always change, objective beauty? well objective ugliness is physical ugliness or deformities whichrare inhuman being
as a queer malaysian malay, i have always found indians (especially indian women) to be very attractive with their mocha skin, huge round eyes and long nose. maybe because i see some features that i can relate to and that we are a multi-cultural country thus share a lot of customs with each other. never thought it'd be like a trend or something 😅😅😅😅
@@divineflu34567 ah yes, ofc. not saying indians don't have a variety of skintones. it's just i wanted to highlight more of the dark-skinned ones as they are often the ones portrayed as "ugly" iykwm.
1:39 She said facts here! ngl every ever i guess people start trending a "race" as if we never existed. Honestly if you ask my opinion all races are beautiful it's that people never opened their eyes properly.
When and where have they not been attractive? I guess I might be biased since I grew up watching Bollywood movies, but South Asians are extremely attractive
South Asian women have always been Beautiful. Theres a video of non other than the hreat Michael Jackson raving about South Asian women's beauty and that was back in 1983
Hey Girlie! I just recently discovered your channel and omg why are you so damn underrated?!?! I am a 15 year old girl from Sri Lanka I have decently ''fair'' skin, though my skin color is just slightly fairer than the average skin of south asians I don't have any memories of paying attention to my looks as a kid, but when I was around 8 or 9 I started noticing things my family would always compliment my skin color, and when I meet guests or new relatives they would always tell my parents that they are lucky to have such a pretty daughter I didn't mind the compliments but it really bothered me how almost all the compliments I received were based on my skin color it wasn't until I got older that I started noticing that the way I got treated differed to other girls in my family like my sisters and cousins almost all of my female cousins are 5-8 years older than me whenever we took pictures, they would always notice how ''fair'' my skin looks and they often compared themselves and something disturbing happened recently I was talking with my 10 year old little sister and she said that one of her friends at school had really fair skin, and because of that she compared herself to her friend and thought she's ugly another thing is that I notice her always comparing people's skin colors, so much so that I once caught her calling one of our cousins ''ugly'' just because she had darker skin it's really sad to see that these stereotypes and toxic ways of thinking are being imposed on kids! whenever I go out and do sports my grandma tells me that I've gotten dark and that I shouldn't go out as much I even have a very painful memory when I hit puberty and started developing acne several dark acne scars were left on my face and my grandma called me ugly straight to my face
Thank you for your very open & honest comment girly 🤍 I appreciate it very much, it’s great that you are able to point out stereotypes in your family as the first step to combating it is acknowledging it first 💭
I feel like it’s always black people that give me compliments as a darker skin Indian girl and it makes me honestly sad because I feel like it’s just cuz my features are slightly closer to Eurocentric with my hair and nose
Honestly I always felt robbed by our film industries for not properly representing the women, honestly even the men too. This is also why I always will dress in the way I want, a mix depending on my mood, somedays I wear a simple jeans and something comfy like a tank top, and the others I just put on a saree and feel like a diva. I absolutely agree that we should never place our self-worth or value in extrinsic things! If we have pure intentions and if we stay honest to ourselves and our roots we will always be valued by the people who actually matter to us.
I live in nyc and I've been floored by south Asian women since I was a little kod. Also I thank Simone Ashley and Amita Suman for waking up everything else
Hey as a south Indian woman from India, who is actually living in india I want to add certain pointers. Representation of Indian women in media has shifted a lot, Bollywood is not seen as a representation of Indian women or what is desirable in Indian society by anyone anymore. I live in the state of Kerala, here movies and media do have women who have been historically represented well, but unfortunately it has never gotten much attention outside the state (due to language barriers India is a country with multiple languages and culture). Now with the ott platforms gaining traction malayalam movies which show women being represented as we are, are getting traction. So generalising that the west has portrayed Indian women well while in india it's bad, is not accurate. India is a diverse country with many states languages and culture. Representation of women also vary. It's just that Bollywood is what people think of when you speak of Indian cinema or culture. It's just an ignorant take. Secondly the influence of skin whitening and brightening creams and cosmetics have reduced significantly especially in the younger generation. Especially amongst genz. Not that it doesn't exist anymore, but now brands have been forced to change thier branding after backlash from their consumers and General change in public perception. The rise of indian beauty influencers who are dark skinned has helped change atleast some perception. Also it's not related to this vedio but something I have observed, people of Indian origin who live outside India seem to always have a perception of india which is more regressive than actual Indian society, which does has deep rooted flaws but has changed a lot. The change is very uneven yes, in certain parts of the country we have progressed in a way comparable to the west, while in certain parts we are still living in a medivial mindset. But western content creators particularly of Indian origin tend to think we way more regressive than we actually are. It's very annoying.
Hey girlie, thanks for your comment! It's a great insight and yes, I understand your frustrations as well, it can be ver annoying to see that when it doesn't fully represent what's actually happening. You've made some really good points & I'll definitely take them into account in future videos 🫰🏽
Great video 👍 South asians have always been beautiful in our all shades, western beauty ideals shouldn't have any effect on us as we are not western culturally, stay true to your roots guys, don't let anyone make you think you're inferior.
Hey maryam will you talk about so-called facial proportions (upper face, midface, lower face) that should be equal to look attractive or the forehead should be comparetively large. These beauty standards sucks the reason why women are undergoing nose surgery to get a smaller nose...most Indian faces have longer midface with long noses which looks ethereal and regal but nowadays they're looked as insecurity
Not sure who started this ‘great shift’ nonsense but as a Black American male, I’ve always thought South Asian/Indian were gorgeous. When I watched Slumdog millionaire way back in high school, i was mesmerized by the actress Frieda Pinto 😍
Your lucky you're not around them alot, trust me. Most of them hate blacks. I live in Canada where there are unfortunately a ton of them and the reality is that they're most vicious, vindictive racist groups of pple you'll ever meet.
To be honest I wish this trend would grow higher in a sense that it can help us in many industries and different areas ( you know how soft power works, it happened to east Asia for few decades) and as for validation, I want our own culture to create validation in between ourselves, bring brown skins in the movie screen, romanticise being a brown girl, it makes me so sad when I see youg girls thinking sari, kurta is some what unstylish and prefer western clothes, we need to realise how beautiful our culture is, I feel so happy and excited when I see brown girl aesthetic in Tiktok with beautiful kurtas , lehengas, brown girl makeup, it's really amazing!!!
What I find weird is that we are desexualised in the west but at the same time our darker toned counterparts are being appreciated more in the media compared to back home aka Sendhil Ramamurthy, Simone Ashley etc. There are so many layers to this to unravel.
I'm Maharashtrian and my fair-skinned dad rebelliously married my dark-skinned mom in an arranged marriage to deliberately go against the beauty standards of the 90s. I was raised to fully accept my skin colour with pride 💖💖💖 we are all healing bit by bit, it is wonderful to see comment sections like this :)
So true- when our babies are born they receive gold and silver ornaments as gifts from everyone who come to visit them for the first time. We are extremely valuable to place our worth on these weird western trends. Laugh at it and move on. Well said
thank you 🌸🤍 I’m not indian I’m iraqi but I love indian culture not in a weird obsessed way more fascinated girls you got it don’t ever let anyone pull you down 🫶🌸🤍
Dating a race is not a trend, period. I mean preference is different but being flatout racist is entirely different. As a south indian....its just upsetting because we are made fun of in our own country and then we are made fun with outside people. But on the other handdddd we dont need the west to acknowledge our beauty? Because i know my girlies are pretty and are absulote queens with our black lucious locks, I mean have you seen our dresses ? We look like litral princesses compared to whites. So i dont get it why we need their acknowledgement but what we want is the racisim to be reduced. Like you are afraid to show racisim to black but not us ? We are just a few shades lighter thats all. Better show me respect too !
ngl all this does is make me bitter. bc everyone was so committed to convince south asian women that we're disgusting. now that you non-desis find out desi women are attractive you're trying to "invest" in us? ugh.
Everyone is beautiful in their own ways no matter what their races are. Combination of confidence and humbleness equals beauty. Love from Bangladesh. 🇧🇩
Bangladeshis are literally the best south Asian, always been and always will be 👑 idky she talking like Indian and Pakistanis are the same race as Bangladeshis like hell nawww🤣🤣she trying it🤣🤣
As a Pakistani what’s so funny to me is the same ppl who hate on south Asians literally thirst over zayn Malik & then they claim that he looks good cus of his “white”side 😂😂 when he looks exactly like his Pakistani grandfather they hate to admit it I always laugh out loud like babe white boys look like Liam Payne not zayn malik
The racism against south Asians in the UK is so bad to the point there’s a slur pak* zayn Malik is definitely their karma lmao the same ppl who hated Pakistanis now their daughters are loving Pakistanis😂
Hi @Maryam, just a quick thought. As you said that the Western media and Hollywood represent us better in terms of our skin tone but I feel that they too have got it entirely wrong. I feel just like how Indian/ South Asian media has always pushed towards more fair individuals the Wester media has focussed only on the dusky skinned individuals, which I feel is just as bad. I really think that they should also be more diverse because now in most Western countries there is an ideal set that South Asias can only be dark skinned and not light skinned(you can see this from the comment sections of may fair skinned Indian Influencers). This I feel is just as bad as the promote light skin agenda. Just a reminder I have nothing against dark or fair skinned people but I feel that incomplete representation is quite harmful because it creates false narratives and spreads misinfromation. I would really like to hear your thoughts on it. Regards and love
Hey girly! I really appreciate your comment 💗 I hear you & completely understand your point. Women in South Asian are very diverse and it is important (as you mentioned) for us to be represented in every way (light skinned, dark skinned, various features, hair textures etc). However, the point I was making is that the West doesn't demonise dark skinned individuals in the way that Bollywood does. While the West may mainly only showcase darker skinned (South Asian) individuals, that act is not present at all in Bollywood or in Pakistani TV shows. I agree that both sides need to do better but it does make me happy that darker skinned desi queens are getting some sort of representation - be it in Western media 🫰🏽✨
I am from India, and I am very grateful to come across this video. Personally I was in abroad and was not only fislike by people there but also hated by Indians as well despite having fait skin. I have multiple mental disorders and it wa undiagnosed and people saw me as dome sort of freak. I felt that as an Indian I am not auppose to make other Indians look bad or let them down but I did and regret it still.It is nice to hear that I don't have to prove my validation to anyone and to only take care and focus on myself. I hope your channel grows ❤❤❤
The sleek look is made with gels or foam, cause oil still doesnt take away the frizz. But I agree there needs to be beauty representation from all places in the world in movies and music videos.
Just subbed!! And btw we have the same name!! :) This was such an amazing analysis and I just wanted to add, as a North African Arab girl (Algerian), I relate a lot to the once being seen as "weird, nerdy, ugly and hairy" but now suddenly seen as baddies like it feels so gross seeing the sudden switch-up!! And as you said, we never needed their validation in the first place! Anyways, stay beautiful and ignore the bullshit queen!!
It feels so incredibly patronizing. I was definitely the awkward, nerdy brown girl growing up and I'd be the butt of jokes, like for example boys in middle school would ask me out as a prank. Now I had a glow up and all of a sudden guys find me attractive, and now this "great shift" became a thing?? I always knew South Asian women were beautiful-- my mother, my sister, all the women in my family are gorgeous and it's only in the past year or so that I've been made aware that we're the race that westerners find the least attractive. I was disgusted by their baseless contempt and poorly concealed racism then, and I still find it disgusting now that they're trying to say all of a sudden we're attractive, when we've always been all along. Let's just call it for what it is, it's fetishization. It's so, so patronizing that the same people who made fun of us before growing up are trying to appeal to us now. The absolute gall it takes to feed into negative racial stereotypes so proudly one second, and then do a complete 180 the next as if it never happened is astounding.
2:40 Girl they still hate us black women, and they let us know that we're in last place everyday. We just laugh and continue to be that girl, marching to our own beat. I'm West African but raised in America, so I see the race and ethnicity trend from the inside and the outside. It's just the unfortunate side effect to melting pot societies
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@@maryam_couture Shondaland
@@maryam_couture Thank you for making your video ❤ from 🇧🇩
As a Black woman, I’m so glad you’re not falling for it. When they start coveting and praising your beauty that’s because they’re actually trying to steal certain things from you. Don’t fall for it. Indian and Brown people have and will always be beautiful. I grew up watching Bollywood movies and this knowledge is not new to me or plenty others from different parts of the world.
Well said. South Asians have ancient cultures that had beauty and artistic values predating both colonial and western standards .
@@lovelylittlegirl3332 🫶🫶
exactly, this is well said
Right here with you!
Bollywood sucks. Watch Malayali movies from Kerala! We make actually good movies.
What's weird is i hate how this is called the "great shift" because westerners find south asians pretty. I mean this enforces further that beauty revolves around western culture and white people. South Asians have always been beautiful. Mainstream media always portrayed them terribly. But it's so sad to see south asians going along with the great shift thing as if beauty is valid if westerners think so.
Eloquently said✨
The name itself bothers me "the great shift"
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
It's one of many ways so many desis are still mentally colonized. You can take the colonizer out of the country, but you can't take the colonizer out of the people's minds. The whole fair skin obsession is to look more like the colonizer. Tripping over yourself now that the colonizer finally called you pretty is more pandering to the colonizer. And every time the colonizer has liked something of ours, he's stolen it, without asking and without giving a damn that it's wrong to steal. So be ready to see colonizers spray tanning to look brown and buying the ugliest saris and plastic tikkas they can find, because they don't have a shred of actual taste when it comes to Desi culture. I'll be over here hiding my banarsis thank you. Oh and watch out for the colonizer that wants one of us as a token pet for validation. That comes hand in hand with becoming this seasons "it" accessory.
I feel sorry for you 😢. @@jikan-o6x
It’s so crazy bc as a black woman who grew up in the 10th district in Paris (where there’s a big south Asian population), I’ve always found south Asians sooo pretty/handsome !! like I would pass by a clothing shop and be so amazed about the beauty of your dresses and jewelry, I kinda grew up with Bollywood and had south Asians friends which helped me appreciate even more south Asian culture. My mom even used to mix west African and the south Asian hair care routine to do my hair.
It’s crazy how people can’t appreciate a race (who’s not white) without making it a trend, like ??? our races are not trends tf and we don’t need the west recognition to realize that we’re desirable
(sorry if there’s any mistakes, English is not my first language)
I appreciate your comment so much! 😊
ily💕 thank you sm for your content, I’m not even south Asian but I really enjoy learning about your cultures, traditions and heritage through your channel
As a south asian, I've always felt like African culture resembles ours a lot
SOUTH ASIANS WERE ALWAYS GORGEOUS so WTF
interesting
I'm a South Asian woman, and I don't care what they think anymore. We're not here to impress anyone.
Not fully Indian but in regards why do people only notice some culture already beauty, even before the great shift, I knew you guy were a beautiful culture like huh? Why do people only notice them now when its "trending"
@Taiminshao why should we let one group of people determine what's beautiful or not anyway. They're not the supreme judges or anything.
@hehehe5664 Yeah, wish everyone was like that doing their own thing no validation
They will hate you regardless
@@MeniMass I have better things to do with my time than engage with racists.
It's so disgusting hearing people rate types of races, ethnicities and cultures though! Like what give you the right to generalise that badly??
I find it to be very cringey content
Moreover, what gives anyone the right to rate another human being. Sorry, I find it gross - i know that’s an unpopular opinion.
It’s because white standards see POC as a commodity
average american brain fr lmao
@@random-zz8utand Arab
In Algeria if we see a beautiful brown girl with long black hair we tell her "you look like an Indian woman" as a compliment 😊
Aw I love that!
Stop lying, there are no Indians in North Africa. Your brown skin people are just Arabs
wow!
Awww I melted reading this! It's so sweet!
Yeah, it is so cute. i am algerian, and it is true we do that ❤@maryam_couture
Funny thing is we've already been gorgeous, have you seen the malayalis in my area and my gosh we're beautiful, at this point, this is just a TikTok trend that happened to black folk before all of this
We’ve been knowing 😎🫰🏽✨
@@maryam_couture By the way your name is literally my middle name I'm in shock
Oho, then I guess I should consider myself cute, cuz people often think I am Malayali lol( am from north India tho:)😂❤
They really like to pick and choose as if POC are pizza toppings...
It's giving a black mirror dystopia type thing.
As a black women i am so happy to see brown women getb the attention they deserve for their beauty. Especially by western beauty standards that have degraded and humiliated them for so long. It is important to realise that brown or darkerskinned POC are not ugly it is just western or eurocentric standards make us seem that we are
Desi woman here, and thank you for your support. No one deserves to be done dirty because of their race
It’s mostly white women because white men are actually attracted to dark skin
Uhm... Are you sure you're a black woman, because it seems to me like you're a dude
@@ithseemObviously beautiful people exist in every race.
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However.. most people of all races have a slight preference for blonde women with blue eyes.
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It's been noticed in every culture.
@@Aamir-i7tI would say colored hair and colored eyes not necessarily only blonde hair blue eyes. People just like light everything, hair, skin, eyes.
With that being said, its certainly a plus to have those traits, but isnt a deal breaker if you're fugly (at least for me)
If he isnt hot I don't care how blonde his hair is, or how blue his eyes are.
I certainly do not care about the skin in my opinion, thats a very low rank need, all skin tones are =.
If you're hot you're hot.
I hope it does not lead to the fetishization and dehumanization of South Asian Women like it did for East Asian women... or any kind of woman in general. But I know eventually it will and that's the concerning part of this trend.
South Asian women have been fetishised and dehumanised a long time ago. This is not anything new. South Asian (specifically Sri Lankan and Nepalese) women were trafficked to US military bases after the Korean War to work as comfort women and that part of history is still very controversial in Asia and part of the reason why there is aversion towards more military bases in the region. The R&R industry during the Vietnam War thrived on the sex industry in Singapore which attracted US and other Western soldiers between the 1950s and 1970s. Singaporean-Tamil and Sri Lankan (Ceylonese) women were prominent in that industry and there's even a film from that era called "Saint Jack" in which one of the main characters is a Ceylonese woman who is fetishised for her dark skin. It's just not nearly as prominent as East Asian fetishisation.
South Asian women have been fetishised and dehumanised a long time ago. This isn't actually new. South Asian (specifically Sri Lankan and Nepalese) women were trafficked to US military bases after the Korean War to work as comfort women and that part of history is still very controversial in Asia and part of the reason why there is aversion towards more military bases in the region
The R&R industry during the Vietnam War thrived on the sex industry in Singapore which attracted US and other Western soldiers between the 1950s and 1970s. Singaporean-Tamil and Sri Lankan (Ceylonese) women were prominent in that industry and there's even a film from that era called "Saint Jack" in which one of the main characters is a Ceylonese woman who is fetishised for her dark skin. It's just not nearly as prominent as East Asian fetishisation.
I know you mean well, I hope I didn't come off as rude
We have been fetishised wayy before. Even in the colonial era. The Brits have r@ped our women, even before that, mughal sultanate has did too, putting on restrictions on us.
Wtf is this great shift lol desis were hot loooong before this. You can't make me think my hotness is new just because social media dumbasses say so. I was desirable as a dark skinned south asian and always will be. ✌🏾 my desi ladies you were ALWAYS gorgeous ! Go where you are loved, and if that means outside of colorist desi spaces then so be it!
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They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
I'm an American man, and let me tell you this is *not* new and I have no idea where this "great shift" idea is coming from. Halle Berry and Janet Jackson were considered two of the most beautiful women in America over thirty years ago and If you showed American men a video clip of Aishwarya Rai in 1994, I'd bet my left arm that no less than 99% would agree she's nothing short of stunningly gorgeous.
I'm genuinely glad you don't need the "validation", but it was there all along.
You’re spot on! South Asian woman are drop dead gorgeous and have been. We are such a diverse beautiful group we have different features and skin tones and I’m very grateful to be me! But like she said anyone can be attractive, since we are all a result of creation from our perfect creator! Don’t put your worth in what others have to say put your worth in knowing who you are ❤
Thanks for the lovely comment! 💛
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
I’m black but they’ve always been hot. For me it’s not about race it’s really just about a person who caught my eye in the moment.
fr how are people just realising this they have been gorgeous and always will be periodt.
literally same. it's crazy that people see colour/race before the person because i've always seen beauty in the person no matter what they look like or where theyre from!!
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
@@secrethijabi "...fr how are people just realising this ..." Plot twist, they're not. This isn't new.
They did the same thing with us Black Women online🤦🏽♀️ The internet is shit, filled with a bunch of brainless chronically online idiots who need to leave their homes more often.
As a brown skin Latino, I always founded brown Indian/ South Asian women to be beautiful even before this “great shift”. The insecurities and trauma that South Asian women have to experience because of colorism is just heartbreaking. I’m so glad that most of you are now learning to love yourselves, your brown skin, and your culture. The real great shift is decolonizing our minds.
“You should never place your happiness in other people hands because it can taken away at any moment.” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I am SO GLAD I found your channel Maryam!! x ❤
Thanks sweet girl!💗 I'm glad it found you xx
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@@maryam_couturei love your energy, keep it up ❤
@ thank you so much 💗
Yess you're absolutely right, this fetishizing of races is kinda crazy to me. It happened to black people, and then to East asians (korea, japan) where people just started to fetishize them. It's crazy. I am glad that people are appreciating the different races, but its still crazy that its a trend
South asians have always been beautiful ❤️ The amount of time I've heard people saying "oh you're too pretty for an south asian" is insane they just don't want to believe that south asians are pretty
Very true✨
I have never, ever heard that.
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
Finally somebody said it.
Thank you🙏.
Do you mind if I ask what part of the word the people who said that to you were from?
People are way too obsessed with race ,making whole race as a trend is absurd, how th these guys are noticing us now cuz we've been existing and been pretty, first of all these people dont know how south asian beauty looks like cuz of the stereotypes rooted in their brain and when they do meet pretty south asians they'll say stuff like 'you are pretty for an Indian ' or you look like some different race like what do they expect, idk why whole internet has an obsession with us ( mostly seeing hateful stuff ) but others saying is ignorant and when i see few south Asians commenting 'great shift' is just sad and cope....( cuz hate crimes have been increasing towards us lately and lets not even bring social media hate into this discussion, my condolences to Canadian NRIs ) , sending so much love to my south asian brothers and sisters i hope this world heals and world finally see us for what we truly are and respect us 💗🎀
Yes!! ‘Pretty for an Indian’ is such an ignorant thing to say
@@maryam_couture despite being the biggest community they don't know anything about us , they form their opinions thru biased lens .
@@maryam_couture exactly despite being the biggest community they know nothing about us
They are jealous of us
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Oh my gosh, I absolutely love the video! It's so true-whenever people receive Western validation, everything suddenly seems amazing. Take coconut oil, for instance; we all jump on board when it's labelled as healthy by Western standards.
I've come across countless girls who have been mistreated by their relatives simply because of their skin tone, not because they're not beautiful-because they are stunning! It's disheartening to see them treated poorly, and while words alone may not change their situations, we can certainly empower them to believe in themselves and recognize their worth.
Great points! Thanks for your comment 🫶🏽
"Stop placing your worth in other people's hands because it doesn't belong in anyone's hands except yours"
This line, it's so beautiful! I'm Indian and I've been told a lot of things by my relatives, especially my aunt about my skin color, ever since i was in 3rd grade (im 17 now) i have a light brown skin color, she told me stuff about how women are supposed to have light skin. I've been told to CLEAN my face. My mum and younger sister are light skinned, i took after my dad's brown skin. I've been told tons of things by others but im really greatful that my dad, mom or sister have never made me feel insecure about my color, they always told me how pretty my skin color is.
But I've been bullied in school for my skin too, i was told that im probably adopted cuz of my sister's and my skin color difference.
Because of these i couldnt help but try a lot of remedies to bleach my skin, make it lighter but it didnt happen. I eventually got mentally drained and tired from all of this and now I've accepted myself for what i am. I was blinded by the society's pov, i never realised how pretty my skin color is until a few days ago when i decided im gonna embrace every bit of myself. Because of what others thought of my skin and beacuse i only cared about that, i never acknowledged my pretty features! I think every skin color is really pretty, like there isn't any skin color that i didn't find pretty ❤ so yeah, the line that you said, it helped me fuel my self love journey haha. Thank you so much, Maryam! I've been watching you for a month now and i really like the way you think! Im glad i found your channel, keep growing! ❤
Awh my girly, I just want to give you a big hug 🫂. Thank you for the lovely comment, I’m so proud of you & your self love journey ❤️❤️❤️
@maryam_couture 🫂🫂❤️ ahh thank you so much!! You're the sweetest 💗
2:40 Just a heads up since I haven’t seen ppl define “The Great Shift” in this way, but the phrase “The Great Shift” was essentially coined to refer to the Black guys with dreadlocks noticing the “shift” in being desirable nowadays compared to back around 2016 when Lightskin curly head (Black) guys were the “it” guys and all the craze. So it was considered the great shift for dreadheads to finally be recognized😭 Basically Darkskin dreadheads recently being admired and finally getting their moment to shine is the great shift from in comparison Lightskin curly heads who had dominated around the 2016 Fboy era.😭
Interesting fact, thanks for sharing!
I love you!! as a teen Indian girl this makes me feel so much appreciated especially when you said we receive gold once we born!!
Ily more girlie!!! 🦋🦋
I’m an East Asian woman and I have high appreciation and respect for south Asian culture and women. The food is immaculate, the dances are so pretty, the dresses and ornaments are stunning, and the women and men are so beautiful
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
@@jikan-o6x Stop hating and get a job
Without seeing you, i can guarantee for everyone here that you must be hot!
South Asian women have always been beautiful. I think it’s stereotypes that played a big role. I never understood why south Asians would get so much hate. I know y’all know what I mean. South Asian people get so much hate and no one ever really pointed it out or stood up for us. This trend is ridiculous because south Asians have always been beautiful and the culture. Can’t believe it took people this long to realise how beautiful south Asians are beautiful
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
There was never a stereotype in America about South Asians being unattractive. (At least not in my lifetime.) South Asian characters in our media are often portrayed as intelligent, friendly, and cheerful but also "confused" by the "modern" western world. And yes, that last part is ridiculous.
Fr, I didn't really care about west's standards and trends, but genuinely I've always found my race to be most attractive... And never understood the hate towards south Asians or Indians in general......
Star quality 🌟
you consider your own race the most attractive, just like in the west they consider themselves the most attractive themselves! congratulations, you are an adequate person without hypocrisy
That Rekha picture HIT! She’s a QUEEN
OMG RIGHT?? I LOVE HER
Indonesian Indian here (YES, WE EXIST!!!!) and I can definitely feel it too in Indonesia. Born and raised here I've always been the subject of colourism and racism from classmates and strangers alike. I'm very lucky that my best friends aren't like that and go all out asking what's right and wrong to say both offline and online. I used to hate being mixed. I look ambiguous, I'm not Indonesian or Indian enough. It was hard to accept that I'm wholly Indonesian AND Indian and I can't separate them because it's what makes me whole. I still receive colourist and racist remarks (not on a daily basis) but now I'm more than brave enough to call them out on their bullshit and stand my ground. It is honestly sad to still see racism when Indonesians come from a diverse society just like India. My facial features have always been gorgeous, my tanned skin beautiful, and my mixed background is my pride ❤️
Isn't your population like 200 million plus? I honestly think the reason Indonesians don't get mentioned much in the USA is that you don't fit in with our government and media's propaganda about terrorism.
Indonesians are dark themselves how are they racist to you?
If anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood you must living under a rock, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look, also I think nowadays even Bollywood have better diverse looking casts and bollywood is not the only film industry in India so saying hollywood represented us better is pure bs
So true
Ok but recently south Asians have been represented better in Hollywood especially cuz of south Asian writers like Mindy Kailing
Idk if you watched mean girls, but one of the main characters from the trio was an Indian girl
@@archivez101 mindy kaling has helped in reaffirming the stereotypes, she caused more harm than benifit
@@archivez101 mindy kaling only helped in reaffirming the stereotypes she caused more harm than anything
american brown people be going crazy over validation strange. like why yall just can't be regular human being?
@heartofstone4712 all human beings want to feel validated and included. When a whole marginalized group have only felt the opposite the need for validation increases. This is basic human nature
It is not validation it is objectification
I'm South Africa of Indian decent and I have never been told I'm undesirable because I'm Indian. I didn't even know it was a thing.
I am South African of Indian decent and due to my darker skin guys would not approach me that is a subtle bias. So I think she is talking about dark skinned Indian girls.
I'm Indian but both of y'all are so pretty 😍 much power to you ! You go girl !
@@serinagovender8047100% this!!
It is a American thing so that's why you don't know
I don't think it is a thing. Certainly not in America in my lifetime.
"You are an intentional creation of a perfect being"...GURL you are spittin faxx and I'm heree for it
Thanks girly 😚😚
If the trend is about fetishization then that's gonna be a eyeroll from me but if it's used as an excuse to give more appreciation towards the South Asians (not just limited to my Indian sisters) then I can be fine w/ it. The only validation that matters is from the one who looks back at you in the mirror :)
Yeah, I am just a small bit Indian but you shouldn't be proud that someone feitsh your whole race
Brown girls have always been so gorgeous and pretty af!
Can't believe people are so easy to influence. The media tells them who they should and shouldn't find attractive, like a certain race is a "trend". And they listen 🤮
I know right 🙃
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
The indian people you showed in those picture were already attractive before any great shift, now its due to to social media the great shift came
omg i literally found your channel today and i have no self control anymore. i really love your videos
omg 😭😭❤️❤️❤️
Samee
not everybody are beautiful but Beauty is in every race.
I work in the entertainment industry and I’m glad people are noticing the shift.
It is insane to me that someone would have the gall to say someone like Priyanka Chopra, Akshay Kumar or any other obviously good looking person isn't. I know everyone has preferences but you can tell when someone is objectively good looking still. The negging is jealousy.
Yeah, it’s easy to see when someone is objectively attractive - regardless of their race
They're not attractive to me. I have no reason to be jealous of them. Sometimes you may find some people attractive whom others don't. Priyanka Chopra would be very average looking in Pakistan-my country. Majority of girls in my college look better than her without makeup. And Akshay Kumar isn't handsome. He is average, but his acting skills are great.
@@Anonymous-he3piyour actress look like men ain't feminine to indian eye's so there is that too
@@Anonymous-he3piyour actress are literally definition of light skinned doesn't make anyone beautiful if their features failed them big time bland ass faces
@@Anonymous-he3pi Well buddy this video is obviously for diaspora people who grew up with racism in the west. So I was not even asking you. The context here is that many non SA's go out of their way to neg obviously attractive people like models and actors. And I have seen them do it with other SA's too like Zayn Malik so don't act all high and mighty. And if they weren't jealous they wouldn't feel the need to keep attacking people they didn't see as attractive. And you do not fund them attractive most likely because of colourism that is prevalent back home whereas other people say it because of negative stereotypes.
My comment is about how SA's are viewed in the west not just inds. That's what the video is about they were just examples which happened to be from ind. But I can use many other examples from other SA countries. I remember people writing racist comments about actor Abdullah Ejaz and saying he is not good looking because of where he is from.
As a young south asian person who grew up with the white centric beauty standards of the 90’/early 2000’s I get why some young south Asians are embracing the trend of feeling desired, but I’m glad I’m grown enough to realize that putting my value in a weird, fetishized social media trend is a recipe for disaster!
Wtf, I've always seen y'all as beautiful, hot + extremely attractive but I grew up w' y'alls image + presence in my culture as a half Trinidadian 🇹🇹. There was NEVER a so-called "great shift" in places like Trinidad, Guyana or Suriname. We for the most part have viewed Indian descendant ppl's as very attractive and you can hear it in a lot of our music going from way back, many many years ago to my grandparents time...maybe in my great great grandparents time during colonialism those views were different idk but for the past decades + generations Indian descendant + what some refer to as "dougla" ppl's have been very much embraced/loved and seen as attractive, maybe even highly sought after depending on the individual. In the Caribbean tho we don't view race the same as north americans + many of the Indo-Caribbeans have actually integrated w' the other racial groups over the years so perhaps things are different compared to the USA + Canada where certain east indian ppl's/communities do not really integrate or mix w' others...
Hey! I need to agree with you on this. I'm an Indian who recently moved to the Caribbean (Martinique to be specific) for work. The locals love Indian women so much, especially the hair. I've had people tell me that they were in awe of Martinicans of Indian origin. That made me super happy cause I've never felt so appreciated and admired. Especially when all I see is the racist comments on social media under videos of Indians just being themselves. Comments like "Imagine the smell" under the post of a beautiful Indian girl. There are a few accounts of mixed couples on Instagram. The comments get worse there. I believe that it really differs from country to country. I have friends from Africa who always say they love Bollywood and Indian culture in general, they grew up watching Indian movies. On the other hand, I've also experienced racism just cause I'm brown, I don't wanna mention which nationalities though.
@@kanthisudha5600 I'm an American, and Indian women have always been considered attractive here. I know _exactly_ the kind people making comments like the ones you're alluding to, and trust me, they have a _desperate_ need for someone - anyone -to look down on, and they come to the internet to find them wherever thy can.
These people are much more _active_ than they are _numerous_ , if you know what I mean.
Fun fact is that before using social media, I never questioned my beauty or body shape :') It used to bother me a lot until I become 19 and started to love the way I actually am. And surprisingly, loving my own beauty made me find other people attractive whether he/she fall under so called beauty standards or not 🤷🏽♀️ Love from Bangladesh 🥀
Thanks for sharing this 💛
I actually disagree with the hollywood indian represention is better thing.I think both bollywood and hollywood is bad when it comes to that representation cause in bollywood they tend to focus on the indian beauty standards ONLY witha few acceptions and hollywood just typecasts south asian's as dark skinned and looking a certain way when in reality south asian's quite literally look like anyone and everyone.
Exactly, if anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood I can only pity them, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive in the west is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look, also I think nowadays even Bollywood have better diverse looking casts and bollywood is not the only film industry in India so saying hollywood represented us better is pure bs
Exactly, if anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood I can only pity them, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look, also I think nowadays even Bollywood have better diverse looking castes and bollywood is not the only film industry in India so saying hollywood represented us better is pure bs
Exactly, if anyone think Indians have better representation in Hollywood they must be living under a rock, the major reason for us being considered nerd and unattractive in the west is because of how hollywood and western medias portrayed us all these years, and the typecasting is worse than we think they only cast stereotypical looking or what they think how indians suppose to look
Hollywood does have better representation for darker Indians in these years..which is something whole indian film industries lack despite most of the indian population being dark...darker complexions in india has been and will be portrayed as the comical side character or a maid..or the darker roles will be given to someone with fairer complexion..for once,darker Indians have been done justice to and it is by Hollywood...for once,they feel represented and it is not even by the indian industry..Sad
Exactly both Bollywood and Hollywood fail to represent whole India. Because of Hollywood representation, the Punjabi/Haryanvi people are often said things like You don't look like an Indian, or u r too pretty to be an Indian
omg i am so glad i just discovered your channel i have been wanting to see more south-asian girlies and connect more with my culture its nice seeing a channel like this
I appreciate your comment 🥹 thanks girlie 💗
Honestly anothe4 thing i absolutely hate about this trend is that most people just categorise south asians as obly being indian. Like thank you maryam for telling that youre not only talking about indians.
Inclusivity is important✨
Dude, I had no idea we were getting hot, I was only experiencing passive aggressive racism 😂
Im pretty sure foreigners on the internet realize india is getting on the internet, so hey need the viewership
As a native indian (born n raise in india) , it always make my blood boil when west taking credit while it is invented and made in india
Such as people in india used charcoal to brush their teeth then british came called us dirty then later they make " charcoal toothpaste " and sell it 🤡
Thank god , now both native indian and NRI is getting to know abt culture and roots ❤
Cloth pads or cloth diapers... It was unsanitary and we were made to switch to "sanitary" napkins and diapers.. Only for the west to realise that cloth pads and diapers are more sustainable...
What’s still an issue is the massive colorism in India that values “fair” skin over everything else!
@annettewilcox5413 you're so right, it's the residual racist conduct from the British with their white supremacist ideologies that have created an inner struggle of feeling ugly because if skin colour. The psychological impact is profound and reverberates with each passing generation. I think once racism is eradicated so too will colourism. That'll be the day
yes! people keep yapping about/demonizing the west for everything. no. we do it to ourselves.
exactly! people keep yapping about/blaming the west for everything. no. india does it to themselves.
@mono8476 in order to address it, one must understand the white supremacist nature of it. Only then when you recognize the entrapment of it all the truth will set u free
So true, I also feel like this "trend" is only focused towards fetishising south asians who meet the euro-centric beauty standards.
The way every person of colour has had the era of fetishisation is crazy,also as someone who has a lot of South Asian friends (I am African) I never really understood the racism especially in the US and of course ...UK but it's nice to see some representation and I hope people can really grow a sense of awareness and unlearning har,ful stereotypes also it's nice to see brown and darker skinned South Asians, especially with curly hair and defined nose bridges on screen and South Asian men not being emasculated on Western media
Desi men date outside of their race more than desi women. desi women are the real least desired.
@@jikan-o6x Not true, it's actually at the same rate
@@jikan-o6x well well, lemme explain you have some stats, ookay, indian men migrate to abroad more than indian women, so yeah and even if what you r saying is true, then that dosent means that they arent pretty, subjective preference always chnage, there was a time when fat was the subjective preference in india, but logically say how many will love fat women in india today? there was a time when dark skin was considered unnatractive, i wont saaay that now its super attractiven but people still find dark skinned people attractive if they r beautiful which wasnt the case before, and bfore there was a preference for round chubby face in india, but be honest, would youngesters really prefer round face over high cheekbones, there was a time when extremely pale skin wwas considered attractive in england, be honest, how many love thatt skin tone in today"S era? subjective preference affects majority always change, objective beauty? well objective ugliness is physical ugliness or deformities whichrare inhuman being
as a queer malaysian malay, i have always found indians (especially indian women) to be very attractive with their mocha skin, huge round eyes and long nose. maybe because i see some features that i can relate to and that we are a multi-cultural country thus share a lot of customs with each other. never thought it'd be like a trend or something 😅😅😅😅
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been. DO you like women with mustaches?
@@jikan-o6x Yes they are beautiful and always have been. Girl in the video is proof of it.
Indians have all types of skin though
@@divineflu34567 ah yes, ofc. not saying indians don't have a variety of skintones. it's just i wanted to highlight more of the dark-skinned ones as they are often the ones portrayed as "ugly" iykwm.
Very important video! I hope it reaches many who need to hear it 👏🏼💖
1:39 She said facts here! ngl every ever i guess people start trending a "race" as if we never existed. Honestly if you ask my opinion all races are beautiful it's that people never opened their eyes properly.
Facts 🫰🏽✨
awesome video!! i love ur vids, they made me realize that i should be so proud of being south asian 🥹 our cultures are beautiful!
this comment touched my ❤️ & yes!! you should
When and where have they not been attractive? I guess I might be biased since I grew up watching Bollywood movies, but South Asians are extremely attractive
South Asian women have always been Beautiful. Theres a video of non other than the hreat Michael Jackson raving about South Asian women's beauty and that was back in 1983
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been
Hey Girlie!
I just recently discovered your channel and omg why are you so damn underrated?!?!
I am a 15 year old girl from Sri Lanka
I have decently ''fair'' skin, though my skin color is just slightly fairer than the average skin of south asians
I don't have any memories of paying attention to my looks as a kid,
but when I was around 8 or 9 I started noticing things
my family would always compliment my skin color, and when I meet guests or new relatives they would always tell my parents that they are lucky to have such a pretty daughter
I didn't mind the compliments but it really bothered me how almost all the compliments I received were based on my skin color
it wasn't until I got older that I started noticing that the way I got treated differed to other girls in my family like my sisters and cousins
almost all of my female cousins are 5-8 years older than me
whenever we took pictures, they would always notice how ''fair'' my skin looks and they often compared themselves
and something disturbing happened recently
I was talking with my 10 year old little sister and she said that one of her friends at school had really fair skin, and because of that she compared herself to her friend and thought she's ugly
another thing is that I notice her always comparing people's skin colors, so much so that I once caught her calling one of our cousins ''ugly'' just because she had darker skin
it's really sad to see that these stereotypes and toxic ways of thinking are being imposed on kids!
whenever I go out and do sports my grandma tells me that I've gotten dark and that I shouldn't go out as much
I even have a very painful memory when I hit puberty and started developing acne
several dark acne scars were left on my face and my grandma called me ugly straight to my face
Thank you for your very open & honest comment girly 🤍 I appreciate it very much, it’s great that you are able to point out stereotypes in your family as the first step to combating it is acknowledging it first 💭
I feel like it’s always black people that give me compliments as a darker skin Indian girl and it makes me honestly sad because I feel like it’s just cuz my features are slightly closer to Eurocentric with my hair and nose
Honestly I always felt robbed by our film industries for not properly representing the women, honestly even the men too. This is also why I always will dress in the way I want, a mix depending on my mood, somedays I wear a simple jeans and something comfy like a tank top, and the others I just put on a saree and feel like a diva. I absolutely agree that we should never place our self-worth or value in extrinsic things! If we have pure intentions and if we stay honest to ourselves and our roots we will always be valued by the people who actually matter to us.
We have been queens and we know that.
Louder 🗣️🗣️
thank you for this video i hope that the younger girls understand that an fair and lovely add cant define them
the western validation part is so true like no one needs the west to tell them they're enough
I’m so glad that I found your channel, love your content so much, girl! 🩷
Awh 🥹 what a sweet comment!! I'm glad my channel found you 💗
@@maryam_couture 🩷🩷
As a Pakistani I feel so loved reading these comments ☺️☺️
You're not included
@@Wiliam-g3g Who do you think you are, William?? 💀
I live in nyc and I've been floored by south Asian women since I was a little kod. Also I thank Simone Ashley and Amita Suman for waking up everything else
ahhh amita suman mention!! i love her so much, genuinely one of the most beautiful women ive ever seen
They aren't beautiful lol and never have been. no one desires those two or even knows who they are.
U said 100% right ✅️✅️✅️,,, south asian has most gorgeous wedding dresses , jewelry, hair care routine that's all amazing ,,,✨️✨️✨️✨️
Let’s not bother with their trends.
We have enough trends to keep us busy with
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no notes, just appreciation. 🙌 thank you for the awesome content.
I appreciate your kind words 🦋
Hey as a south Indian woman from India, who is actually living in india I want to add certain pointers.
Representation of Indian women in media has shifted a lot, Bollywood is not seen as a representation of Indian women or what is desirable in Indian society by anyone anymore. I live in the state of Kerala, here movies and media do have women who have been historically represented well, but unfortunately it has never gotten much attention outside the state (due to language barriers India is a country with multiple languages and culture). Now with the ott platforms gaining traction malayalam movies which show women being represented as we are, are getting traction. So generalising that the west has portrayed Indian women well while in india it's bad, is not accurate. India is a diverse country with many states languages and culture. Representation of women also vary. It's just that Bollywood is what people think of when you speak of Indian cinema or culture. It's just an ignorant take.
Secondly the influence of skin whitening and brightening creams and cosmetics have reduced significantly especially in the younger generation. Especially amongst genz. Not that it doesn't exist anymore, but now brands have been forced to change thier branding after backlash from their consumers and General change in public perception. The rise of indian beauty influencers who are dark skinned has helped change atleast some perception.
Also it's not related to this vedio but something I have observed, people of Indian origin who live outside India seem to always have a perception of india which is more regressive than actual Indian society, which does has deep rooted flaws but has changed a lot. The change is very uneven yes, in certain parts of the country we have progressed in a way comparable to the west, while in certain parts we are still living in a medivial mindset. But western content creators particularly of Indian origin tend to think we way more regressive than we actually are. It's very annoying.
Hey girlie, thanks for your comment! It's a great insight and yes, I understand your frustrations as well, it can be ver annoying to see that when it doesn't fully represent what's actually happening.
You've made some really good points & I'll definitely take them into account in future videos 🫰🏽
@maryam_couture thankyou so much for replying. It really means a lot.
@@Neelima0205-x9j your comment deserves to be pinned
Amen, she said what she said
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Great video 👍 South asians have always been beautiful in our all shades, western beauty ideals shouldn't have any effect on us as we are not western culturally, stay true to your roots guys, don't let anyone make you think you're inferior.
Hey maryam will you talk about so-called facial proportions (upper face, midface, lower face) that should be equal to look attractive or the forehead should be comparetively large. These beauty standards sucks the reason why women are undergoing nose surgery to get a smaller nose...most Indian faces have longer midface with long noses which looks ethereal and regal but nowadays they're looked as insecurity
That's actually a great topic to discuss! Thanks for the suggestion girly, I'll make a note of it 💌
@@maryam_couture Welcome Sis❤
Not sure who started this ‘great shift’ nonsense but as a Black American male, I’ve always thought South Asian/Indian were gorgeous. When I watched Slumdog millionaire way back in high school, i was mesmerized by the actress Frieda Pinto 😍
Your lucky you're not around them alot, trust me. Most of them hate blacks. I live in Canada where there are unfortunately a ton of them and the reality is that they're most vicious, vindictive racist groups of pple you'll ever meet.
@@MsDesiree39 to be honest, no moedern indians have blacks
@@MsDesiree39are you black?
To be honest I wish this trend would grow higher in a sense that it can help us in many industries and different areas ( you know how soft power works, it happened to east Asia for few decades) and as for validation, I want our own culture to create validation in between ourselves, bring brown skins in the movie screen, romanticise being a brown girl, it makes me so sad when I see youg girls thinking sari, kurta is some what unstylish and prefer western clothes, we need to realise how beautiful our culture is, I feel so happy and excited when I see brown girl aesthetic in Tiktok with beautiful kurtas , lehengas, brown girl makeup, it's really amazing!!!
The great shift ❌
The great shit ✅
The biggest scam is being told that only certain looking people are attractive 😭😭
Let em know 🎯
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So happy to find a person like you here speaking on this platform 🌬✊
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the message here is...Believe in yourself. "You go girls and boys" 👍
What I find weird is that we are desexualised in the west but at the same time our darker toned counterparts are being appreciated more in the media compared to back home aka Sendhil Ramamurthy, Simone Ashley etc. There are so many layers to this to unravel.
Idk why... since always I’ve seen they so beautiful. Omg! 🔥💘
I'm Maharashtrian and my fair-skinned dad rebelliously married my dark-skinned mom in an arranged marriage to deliberately go against the beauty standards of the 90s. I was raised to fully accept my skin colour with pride 💖💖💖 we are all healing bit by bit, it is wonderful to see comment sections like this :)
I love this!
So true- when our babies are born they receive gold and silver ornaments as gifts from everyone who come to visit them for the first time. We are extremely valuable to place our worth on these weird western trends. Laugh at it and move on. Well said
thank you 🌸🤍 I’m not indian I’m iraqi but
I love indian culture not in a weird obsessed way more fascinated girls you got it don’t ever let anyone pull you down 🫶🌸🤍
Thanks girly! Such a sweet comment 💓
bro how is everyone just realizing how attractive brown people are? The majority of the crushes I’ve had have been brown 😭🙏
Dating a race is not a trend, period. I mean preference is different but being flatout racist is entirely different. As a south indian....its just upsetting because we are made fun of in our own country and then we are made fun with outside people. But on the other handdddd we dont need the west to acknowledge our beauty? Because i know my girlies are pretty and are absulote queens with our black lucious locks, I mean have you seen our dresses ? We look like litral princesses compared to whites. So i dont get it why we need their acknowledgement but what we want is the racisim to be reduced. Like you are afraid to show racisim to black but not us ? We are just a few shades lighter thats all. Better show me respect too !
ngl all this does is make me bitter. bc everyone was so committed to convince south asian women that we're disgusting. now that you non-desis find out desi women are attractive you're trying to "invest" in us? ugh.
Everyone is beautiful in their own ways no matter what their races are. Combination of confidence and humbleness equals beauty. Love from Bangladesh. 🇧🇩
Bangladeshis are literally the best south Asian, always been and always will be 👑 idky she talking like Indian and Pakistanis are the same race as Bangladeshis like hell nawww🤣🤣she trying it🤣🤣
@@Jen-c8tAre you Bangladeshi 🇧🇩?
@@1525boy yes fk is yo problem you Indian?
@@Jen-c8t booooooo! 🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅
THANK GOD YOU CAME UP WITH THIS VIDEO😭❤
As a Pakistani what’s so funny to me is the same ppl who hate on south Asians literally thirst over zayn Malik & then they claim that he looks good cus of his “white”side 😂😂 when he looks exactly like his Pakistani grandfather they hate to admit it I always laugh out loud like babe white boys look like Liam Payne not zayn malik
The racism against south Asians in the UK is so bad to the point there’s a slur pak* zayn Malik is definitely their karma lmao the same ppl who hated Pakistanis now their daughters are loving Pakistanis😂
Pakistanis need more Zayn Malik types
Hi @Maryam, just a quick thought. As you said that the Western media and Hollywood represent us better in terms of our skin tone but I feel that they too have got it entirely wrong. I feel just like how Indian/ South Asian media has always pushed towards more fair individuals the Wester media has focussed only on the dusky skinned individuals, which I feel is just as bad. I really think that they should also be more diverse because now in most Western countries there is an ideal set that South Asias can only be dark skinned and not light skinned(you can see this from the comment sections of may fair skinned Indian Influencers). This I feel is just as bad as the promote light skin agenda. Just a reminder I have nothing against dark or fair skinned people but I feel that incomplete representation is quite harmful because it creates false narratives and spreads misinfromation. I would really like to hear your thoughts on it.
Regards and love
Hey girly! I really appreciate your comment 💗
I hear you & completely understand your point. Women in South Asian are very diverse and it is important (as you mentioned) for us to be represented in every way (light skinned, dark skinned, various features, hair textures etc). However, the point I was making is that the West doesn't demonise dark skinned individuals in the way that Bollywood does.
While the West may mainly only showcase darker skinned (South Asian) individuals, that act is not present at all in Bollywood or in Pakistani TV shows. I agree that both sides need to do better but it does make me happy that darker skinned desi queens are getting some sort of representation - be it in Western media 🫰🏽✨
I am from India, and I am very grateful to come across this video. Personally I was in abroad and was not only fislike by people there but also hated by Indians as well despite having fait skin. I have multiple mental disorders and it wa undiagnosed and people saw me as dome sort of freak. I felt that as an Indian I am not auppose to make other Indians look bad or let them down but I did and regret it still.It is nice to hear that I don't have to prove my validation to anyone and to only take care and focus on myself. I hope your channel grows ❤❤❤
Amazing video!! More people deserve to watch this ... (off the top of my head some tiktokers come to mind xd)
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Proud to be South Asian ❤
Words can't explain how happy I am in seeing your videos ^v^
So sweet 💓
Man this never been out the girls, you guys were already winning it was the guys who need the shift 😭
Waiting for the day bowl cuts become a trend 😂
LOLL
The sleek look is made with gels or foam, cause oil still doesnt take away the frizz. But I agree there needs to be beauty representation from all places in the world in movies and music videos.
Just subbed!! And btw we have the same name!! :) This was such an amazing analysis and I just wanted to add, as a North African Arab girl (Algerian), I relate a lot to the once being seen as "weird, nerdy, ugly and hairy" but now suddenly seen as baddies like it feels so gross seeing the sudden switch-up!! And as you said, we never needed their validation in the first place! Anyways, stay beautiful and ignore the bullshit queen!!
Thanks for the lovely comment girly! 🩷
It feels so incredibly patronizing. I was definitely the awkward, nerdy brown girl growing up and I'd be the butt of jokes, like for example boys in middle school would ask me out as a prank. Now I had a glow up and all of a sudden guys find me attractive, and now this "great shift" became a thing?? I always knew South Asian women were beautiful-- my mother, my sister, all the women in my family are gorgeous and it's only in the past year or so that I've been made aware that we're the race that westerners find the least attractive. I was disgusted by their baseless contempt and poorly concealed racism then, and I still find it disgusting now that they're trying to say all of a sudden we're attractive, when we've always been all along. Let's just call it for what it is, it's fetishization. It's so, so patronizing that the same people who made fun of us before growing up are trying to appeal to us now. The absolute gall it takes to feed into negative racial stereotypes so proudly one second, and then do a complete 180 the next as if it never happened is astounding.
I couldn’t have said it better myself 👏🏽
2:40 Girl they still hate us black women, and they let us know that we're in last place everyday. We just laugh and continue to be that girl, marching to our own beat. I'm West African but raised in America, so I see the race and ethnicity trend from the inside and the outside. It's just the unfortunate side effect to melting pot societies