Left Behind in Vietnam | VOA Connect
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- Опубликовано: 18 янв 2018
- Left Behind in Vietnam tells the story of a Vietnam War love affair, a baby, and 48 years later, a reunion.
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I don't know how I feel about this. The family was separated and all, which I feel bad for, but the mom already had a husband and yet had a child with someone else, which I despise.
Thương Trần great points.
I agree with you but during the war years, the mother's life could have been horrible. I don't think I could blame anyone for doing whatever necessary to survive.
Humanity should always come before religion and myths
@Alex Vuong Not disagreeing with you, however, there are some points that Vietnam still has not developed. A country that is still filled with corruption, their previous president (rumoured to have been poisoned by a country *most Vietnamese know*). I totally agree with South Vietnamese people coming back to Vietnam and committing these act, however, Vietnamese people (North n South) themselves also use these services. Some Vietnamese in Vietnam do wish the South Vietnam should of won the war (from experience travelling all of Vietnam) because they believe Vietnam would've been something like Japan or South Korea. The government right now do oppress free speech or anything that believes to stop them from their goals. "There's only hope that the future younger generation will lead Vietnam better."
@@TuanNguyen-dx6kp b/c
she said something that wasn’t translated: “I rather live in shame than abandoning my child.”
The wayward mom said that despite her daughter mixed heritage (and the intense societal AND legal ostracization of these unfortunate children) "she's still my child...I rather being despised/looked down upon" than abandon her to her own fate--the easy option for the vast majority of US servicemen who fathered these Amerasian kids.
@@sonnyng9701 yes and that fact alone shows how much of the willpower that decision which many mothers wouldn’t even made takes.
They are going to hell confirmed 👍
Thank you for this
You know nothing. Where's my child?
The real Victim is the daughter.
How about the husband? Imagine being in the delivery room expecting your child and then see someone elses kid....
Dr. C husband should have choked them both out
And the husband?
@Izzie Storm's World Hell, we're victims too for having to relive it.
Yep, the mom was already married and she was fooling around. But the baby was the real victim. Breaks my heart.
"i rather live in shame than abandoning my child." AND YOU DIDNT EVEN TRANSLATE THAT!!!!!!
But he literally did abandon his daughter
@@user-pp9df6ml6i the mom said it. The father didn't know he had a daughter.
So who bares the sin .. she had a husband .. wasn't raped ? It was for the money you better believe,. They're still doing it today ,,, marry or have a child to get out of there. Get in Canada or USA .. have a child to establish roots ! Divorce and take them for everything they have !!
Most important line in the entire interview with her mom.
he loves his daughter. that a happy ending
My Father had a little girl he left in Vietnam. It haunted him he left her there. 7 years after Dad's death, my sister found us.... Nguyen My
No wonder they came back to US mad. Their conscience was eating at them. They went to vietnam as boys and returned as men.
🤟
I'm so happy your sister found you and you embraced her 🥰
The daughter didn’t ask for any of this. I feel bad for her, but I’m glad she got to know her dad and he loved her and acknowledged her completely.
Joey T this
Did she (daughter) spare a thought for the dad who is with her in labor and probably raised her in a challenging environment after American beat feet and run ? Who is taking care of him ? All the daughter wants is to go to America and find this man who never emotionally or financially support her , her whole life . There are so many channel for him to do so. Only when he is old and dying (probably alone) he acknowledged this daughter. If it's was his prime and this two women shows up. He probably abandon them within a second. This is so mess up in multiple dimensions .
@@MarkzOng The story doesn't say if the Vietnamese husband of her mother stuck around and raised her or not, or if he left at that point. I feel sorry for him too. He didn't ask for any of it either.
666 likes lol
I hate the thing that we all never asked to be brought in this world, this people who grew up without parents have it worst:/
There's a lot they left out in the subtitles. At the part that says "my application was rejected many times" she also said "my life was full of suffering"
Jerry N. Thanks for pointing that out❗️
Thank you!!!
Oh dude that makes it sound a thousand times sadder
i can’t imagine how she was treated
Thanks
When she's sitting next to her father's side-by-side she has his eyes and his smile! Poor girl really suffered!
.. most of these fathers now have family of their own and NEVER want to be found. It’s called a hit and run.
My dad did that. He didn't see combat in Vietnam, he had a desk job. He also got a Vietnamese woman there with him to play house. She believed him, that he would marry her. He already had a family in America, a wife and three kids. He abandoned this lady and a 1 year girl and a 3 year old boy, his children. Came home like nothing happen. They both came to the United States in 1980. They were looking for him, he found out and did everything he could to dodge them until the boy showed up on his front porch. By that time he was divorced from my mama with another family. I never faulted the children, when I finally got to meet them we all cried, but I was thoroughly disgusted with my father's abandonment of them and his callous attitude of their well-being.
Hot wad
Most of the soldiers raped... that's why they don't want to be found
@@noahidewarrior5838 😄
@@donnawatkins8404 all too common
"I was just fooling around I didn't know I was going to get pregnant."
Something tells me you weren't playing twister.
Sex education is so garbage in many countries. U think that's bad, take a look at Japan.
@@animangafan342 jeez what's wrong with japan?
@@crappyaccount Rampant, untreated syphilis for starters. They don't teach students to go get tested or anything about sexual safety at schools. I know some dude at my university that brought syphilis back with him from japan when he came back from study abroad in Tokyo. apparently when he was with one of the girls he hooked up with there, the condom slipped off or something. i decided to do some research and apparently there was a study done on high schoolers in a rural part of japan (akita i think) where a majority of students reported the most common symptoms of syphilis and most of the ones that got checked, as the study recommended them to do, tested positive for syphilis. They were able to get it treated however would've never fixed it without the study. Theres a japanese girl i knw that hooks up with a ton of guys, even her chick friends are concerned. She's a kind person but u wanna take a shower after hugging. then there was another story, i heard, from my friends that study abroad, of some euro dude was dating a japanese girl at some university and when they were out of condoms or something, she was insisting it was ok to go bareback. the dude was like "HELL NAW!" There's also high abortion rates. My japanese international student friend was from Kyuushu and the fun fact about his town was the rampant abortion rates. its apparently wut his town is known for. i'm all for abortion and all but it shouldn't be so common cause thats disturbing at the end of the day.
i love japanese people, language and culture but i'm not thirsty for them because i was never into them and this gives an even greater excuse. I like armenian girls with big noses and cat eyes.
@@animangafan342 Woooow that's insane, especially for such a developed country.
@@crappyaccount yea. i think a ton of developed countries hav STD problems in general. In the US, rates climb every year. my state, its exponential. i'm not saying be a prude but at least people should have some limits or standards. especially when ur in a developed country and u more than likely have the choice.
food for thought: for every one of these stories with a happy ending, there’re probably thousands without~
Mya G yup, for example my father was a Vietnam war GI baby. He was put up for adoption by his birth mother in fear of retaliation from the communist. My father grew up never knowing his mother or his American Father and became a raging alcoholic and abusive towards my mother which ultimately led to their divorce. Till this day he suffers from alcohol addiction and is unable to hold a job.
Phantastic Jam - not having a family, or parental love as a kid, can do alot to a person’s psyche as they grow older 😕😔 not saying ur dad had an excuse for being the way he is, and domestic abuse is absolutely not okay, but he probably dealt with alot as a kid to end up that way
Almost Vietnamese are happy with this. Only South Vietnam Army family is not happy. More got happy better than few got
Tastes like depression.
Not probably but 110% certainly...
The true MVP was the father that took in the girl even if it wasn't his.
"i'll take care of you, but in return i have to killed like a dozen of your dad' friends"
@Alex Jay lol
Sounds like he didn’t have any other option lmao.
What does "MVP" mean?
A simp
I was all smilin and happy until I realized she already have a husband
Wasn't she also being a traitor by sleeping with the enemy 🙄
@@NyanyiC No, he wasn't the enemy. Vietnam was divided and the Americans were on the side of one half. Don't you know history?
So? It isn't the daughter's fault so why should that minimize your compassion for her?
@@hilaryc3203 I was talkin about their love story....
@@obiwanjovi2925 Who could tell? LOL
Whatever her mother and father's relationship, the child shouldn't be blamed or judge by it. I'm so happy the daughter was able to find her father before it was too late. The daughter really looked like she needed closure.
Needed love and acceptance as well....im glad she got that too.
gina delsasso What’s it called?
No bitch your just weak no control.
No uses información privacidad forma fraude electoral
He wanted the daughter.. point being ..
So she was a married woman who had an affair with an American? My heart goes out to the daughter and jilted spouse, not the parents.
I feel the same way.
Yeah but you dont know her circumstances its easy to judge someone when your not walking in her shoes
@@makenzie8577 you're right but it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
She literally says she was having some fun and didn’t know she would become pregnant.
makenzie she said she was just fooling around, wym
I had a cousin who was born roughly 20 years before I was born. He served 2 tours in Vietnam. Last year I found out he left behind a daughter who was able to get out of Vietnam in the early 1970s. She and I found each other because we both posted our DNA and it came back showing we were connected. I've emailed with her and spoken to her on the phone, and I can't wait to meet her in person - if we can get out of this crazy COVID thing.
I remember my ex's dad once told me while he served in the Korean war he fathered 2 children there and had a full on family/relationship there and once the war was over he left and never reconnected with them
you dodged the bullet for not marrying him😁
He was a FULL ON COWARD!
How could he?!?
@@wasted5742 😂ikr
@@hannahrutledge7340 not really publicized but it was quite common for that to happen in war times but you're right doesn't negate the fact
I feel bad for the child. Having to carry the burden of scorn for something she had no control of or any blame. I'm happy she was able to reunite with her father. May God bless her and grants her eternal happiness for all the hardship she went through in this unforgiving world.
I also feel bad for mixed race kids in homogenous societies. They don't feel like belonging to any side. They suffer and have identity issues. Yet some people keep romantisizing mixed race kids, which I find a bit perverse. Most societies are too cruel and not ready, and it can't be forced by wishful thinking alone. Kids at school and playground can be cruel, utter disgusting little creatures. Last week I met my friend (half Korean, half Austrian) and she kinda admitted her racial identity issues. When she lived in Korea, she still looked and felt like an alien, and in Austria too. I had another friend who was half Thai, half Austrian. Same issues.
That's why even in 2019, at least in homogenous societies, those babies won't be happy. No matter how much the media and their parents want it. People are too cruel to them for simply existing.
I wonder how slave children felt
You only see white men kid? What about half black half Vietnamese kids they're suffering more in society after the war.
the words of a real human. thanks you
It was god's fault!
Makes me mad knowing how many children were left behind. I'm disgusted with what my own cousin said when he was stationed in Korea. We were at a relative's funeral and we got to talking, catching up about our lives and about how many kids we each had, and he said he only had one with his wife and pointed her out because i wasn't familiar with her. But then laughed about the one he left behind when he left Korea, the look i gave him left him very uncomfortable and then I told him how sad it was to abandon a child, that child is our family. He didn't want to talk to me anymore, and haven't since that day.
I've seen many videos of these children and how they shunned simply because of their skin color or eye color.
They deserve to be recognized, and I would love to meet this child/relative even though his ass wipe father doesn't.
You are my hero. May God bless you for the heart that you have. This video moved me to the core....
Well said Ma'am. It is sad that he found abandonment amusing. I'm sure if his own father did it to him, it not be funny.
@@marcelvalue nice stats bro. I also sometimes pull stats out of my ass.
@@marcelvalue nah, like all the dudes upvoting their own comments.
Shamefull!!! These kids are human beings. These men (the culprits) do not care about their OWN child/children? Wow! How can a man abandon a child he know exist? Unsure of death, so sow seed (s). Seed (s) tht does not matter because they are tossed to the way side! It is sad, and disgraceful. It's one thing to have fun, but another thing when abandoned children are involved. Wht do they have to do with the selfish behavior of men? I am with you. I refuse to keep company or maintain relationships with individuals who do things like this. It's not because i am better, but because i dont condone certain behavior-this being one of them.
"They are called children of the dust"-as insignificant as a speck to be brushed aside. 😥😥
I guess ill take one of this over bastard...i got called a bastard all through elementary and middle school...i got married many years later only to be called bastard by my mother in law, so yes, the children pat the bigger price
Is that the sequel to Children of The Corn?
@@MM-km5zf it's a reflection of her small minded prejudice minds. This world is full of mixed children. It makes this world beautiful. I'm mix, my kids are mix. Just protect your kids, draw the line, just because she is mother in law doesn't give her the right to talk shit.
@@chris7285 dude, go google it. WTF it's not a movie. These are the children left behind by GI's in Vietnam.
My mom is also a mixed kid in vietnam with an american soldier father and even after immigrating to the U.S., she still never got to meet her father to this day. It breaks my heart truly because she gave up on the idea long ago.
Please get her DNA. Her father might also be registred.
I don't know you, but I'm praying for your mom to find her father 🙏 There's nothing like meeting your blood family 🥰
@@HFDZ119 lol, you don't her DNA. That's why all these killers are getting caught through familial DNA.
Few minutes pleasure might lead to someone's nightmare for their entire life.
Nice2
True
DiWemz Noisry men don’t think about that tho
@@smiley2477 Only lustful men
@Allan the Great you mean destroyed sexual morality
Glad that they met before her dad died. They have same eyes.
Mino Mina - and teeth.
Mino Mina same eyes LOL
I agree. I'm glad that they found each other before he passed. At least the story ended well.
The shape of the teeth to me looks the same
I agreed😭.
Few minutes of pleasure is someones nightmare forever.
Clean
Could be seconds
Extremely wise statement.
Yup! Happens every minute of every day, war or not! And that is real sad because it's all about self satisfaction, nothing more!
Primitive minds will NEVER think past seeking immediate pleasure. It's a problem in a lot of places. Much to the dismay of the many people they bring forth to suffer.
She came to the states to take care of her old man even tho. He left her behind ... she is an angel
Their "fooling around " gave daughter pain of her life
There was option for contraception for men back then, not for vietnamese women.
@@FC-hj9ub the soldiers didn’t have condoms?
@@auxmike718 probably used gum.
Well said bro
She was married even better
Every child deserves to know their parents regardless of the situation.
I feel extremly sorry for the girl and the husband who was cheated upon
These fathers should stand up and find their children ..I was a child without my father all my life ,I'm now 72,almost 73 ..these children deserve to know their dads .
To be fair most are already dead or on their deadbed
Most of these Dads are Dead...or too old to think straight enough to Look their kids up..Some Dont know their dads...but Yes!! Its Wrong...All Wrong
I agree. My Dad went 3 times. My Mom shocked me by asking me if I thought about the possibility. I told her that I would be lying if I hadn't questioned the possibility. She said, your Dad's gone, and I won't be here much longer and I don't know but...She is gone now and I have done 1 DNA and nothing. I am getting ready to do a different one. We will see.
This happens everywhere, all the time when people go on vacations as well. There doesn't always have to be a war. During Vietnam, American magazines had stories in almost every issue concerning these children , orphanages with multitudes of children awaiting news from their father who had gone stateside and were contacted when the authorities had information from the mother prior to the children being admitted to the orphanage/ school. It was called an irresponsible American tradgedy then, these children awaiting for their fathers who never came or were disavowed. Or who tried to find their kids, but were denied the contact. Think of war babies everywhere.
Kind of. I got a dad but he never did anything with us. Very cold.
I think is good to have a good father.
Otherwise makes no difference.
The victim is the daughter, and my heart breaks for her. I know that racial rejection when you don’t really have your own niche. I hope she has love and joy and acceptance each and everyday.
Where are you from? I'm from Brazil, none of us have their own "racial niche" lol We're everything and nothing at the same time and it's all good. I won't go so far to tell you there's no racism here, cuz there is. But even a white person, as myself for instance, is mixed race so racism have subtler forms.
Yup, and the poor husband too
@@Aliezafroes Maybe because Brazil is a lot more diverse in culture and races than somewhere in Asian where it is mostly Asians. (Not trying to sound mean)
She doesn't look so different though
@@NyanyiC
Right! The only difference I see is she has her dad’s nose.
"Sins of our fathers".
I'm an adopted child, never seen my biological father. Although my case were different than this, I know how she felt.
My mother is also a an Amerasian that never found her father and I never got a chance to meet my grandfather, I would very much love to connect to my other family
You are just like me dear
You look more talking to dear can get to know more about each other as friend we can talk on google hangouts if you don’t mind or Viber what do you think
That would be awesome!
Can we get to know more about our self can I get your Viber number or email
Better live your life the way it's going now, don't believe in Hollywood; you will be treated like trash if you near any American's home as an Asian (brown people)
This video left me in tears. Glad she was recognized and she was able to be with her Dad before he died
Life sucks and then you die. Oh wait, this had a somewhat happy ending.
Me too
Helen Molina and got a lot of love from him
I really feel sorry for the Vietnamese husband who got cheated on.
Don't worry. he killed many American soldiers in return. Made many American widows.
Raped torture that was reality.
@@jesswonderwoman6739 Right if she was abused, her husband would have probally killed her after he found out she was carrying another mans baby, stop making excuse for cheaters, it doesnt matter if its a man or a women, cheating is cheating, if you are unhappy get divorced. You are basing everything on assumptions, as if later it turned out well after cheating.
@@moonar5820 at the end of the day people like to fck regardless of race and status. Get over it!
Kalikakumar Chowdhury thats an accusation with no proof
all the comments are talking about the negative aspects of this, but the love that gary and his daughter share is amazing. brought me to tears
"Negetive aspect"
🙄
I am so glad you found your father, he was so blessed to find you!! Even though I am sure he is gone, you are so blessed to have found him. You wont understand how lucky you were until you are older. May God Continue to Bless You!!
"I even thought of committing suicide" isn't it horrible how the selfishness of 2 people can completely scar an innocent person's life?
2? You must be really REALLY strong
Mariela Meneses the women probably got raped, shut up. They didn’t choose to have kids with their enemies
AIBAS BNGE Now this isn’t about the rape part but just gonna say that there were two types of Vietnamese back then. There were North Vietnamese and South Vietnamese. Americans allied with the South. You can take that as you will, if it makes it better or worse.
@@aibasbnge6178 I'm talking about the people who appear on the video and their story. What are you on?
@@aibasbnge6178 You're replying to the wrong video.
She said, "My dad can call me whatever he wants!" Such a pure heart! I hope he left her everything, and I am so glad the family is happy to have her.
You would hope so.
I loved it whenever she said that
My grandfather had 4 kids in Vietnam and 3 kids here at home. Though he had no contact with the kids in vietnam cos of the circumstances of what happened, he put all 7 of his kids through school. The woman in vietnam married a man when my grandpa came home and he had my grandma at home who had had two kids that werent his while he was at war. My grandpa was not the cheating type, he loved my grandma with all his heart til he past away in 2019, he has a total of 14 or 15 grandchildren. 5 living, 1 deceased here and im not sure if any of the 8 others past away but i know his 4 kids in vietnam had 8 kids between them when i was like 12. Condoms weren't a big thing back then and they were gone for years. It was a different life and none of them thought theyd make it home. A lot of men in the military will do that while at war even to this day but we use condoms now so there's less kids that come from it. Imagine being at war, shot at and people trying to kill you all the while still having human urges and then this nice woman(nurse or someone that sheltered them or gave them food) is the only beauty you see in this horrible chaos. You forget home my grandpa would say, you dont forget what you have or whos at home but you forget thats your life cos now your life iswar
F*ck that!!! He was supposed to be there helping no throwing his little d*ck around smh... Whyte mfs ALWAYS colonizing another country... Keep that story to yourself, that's some disgusting sh*t!!
He prayed Hod send him an angel and right when he needed it the most years later she came..how beautiful is that God Bless you your family and your beautiful Angel Girl..Amen
I know a guy that got a girl pregnant over there and when he found out he left immediately. When he came back got the states he got married and could never have a baby with her.
This man is a Trash but Karma will get to him nobody can walk in the world and do this and don t have any punisher trust me.
@@jeangreyfan4148 he died regretting that he left a baby over there. He said God punished him by closing his wife’s womb.
LMAO KARMA GOT HIS ASS
Serves him right!
@@MakeupPearls .....so who was really punished, Him or his wife for not being able to conceive children?
Bruh, im vietnamese and the way the daughter talked in vietnamese broke my heart
Cái cách tụi da trắng bình luận phía trên mới làm người Việt mình broke heart đấy bạn à.
Bruh bruh
Ok guys so hear me out my grandfather work as a mechanic in a ship once and they were deployed to the Vietnam to deliver some things this happened during the war. My grandfather told me that the girls were forced by their parents to board the ship and asked the sailors a favor to claim that they are their wives in order to save them. My grandfather loved a woman and got her pregnant but after a months the boat has to leave Vietnam and my grandfather told me that it was really heartbreaking to see the girl crying when the boat was about to leave. I really need your help guys to find some information about the woman my grandfather loved, I dont know her name because my grandfather never mentioned her name and I got really curious what happened to her. My grandfather is a sailor from Philippines. Im sorry for my bad English my grandfather's name is Castor but I wont mention the last name please please guys. I will mention my grandfather's last name if "Castor" rings a bell
@@avocado9924 sir I got sum info about castor
Avocado I’m so sorry I really hope you find who you are looking for🙏
I was just a small child and remember our soldiers coming home. I also remember my parents ready to adopt a vietamese baby but that fell through when mom became pregnant with her 6th child. I remember it was such a sad time in our lives to see our veterans be treated so ugly. Today I have so much respect for ALL our veterans. They will always have my respect and I will thank them every chance that I can. Many are dying with a secret in their hearts, Many have also lived their days of hell too. God bless America and God bless our military and alies.
I remember reading an old National Geographic from the early 80's about Vietnam and the war's legacy. One picture showed children obviously fathered by Americans and how they were treated as second class half-breeds in Vietnam. As the son of a German born mom, I can totally relate in how I was treated a few times growing up in a small town.
I don’t know why I am just seeing this now, but my mom was a victim in this too. she was also bullied for being half American and was given up for adoption but luckily a very good Vietnamese family adopted my mom and raised her with love without any prejudice. My mom’s real mom found her when she was 16 and told her who her real father is. My mom went to the United States and she created a life here. She wasn’t able to find her father yet. It took many years but may older brother made an ancestry and we found my grandfather’s family and my moms half siblings. Unfortunately when we finally found him, he already passed but our bond is still staying with our new family. They said he used to talk about wishing he could meet his child.
Been half American should have been more envious
This woman was not the victim. Her husband was.
@@TitoTimTravels The daughter was a victim
Don't talk nonsense and talk about a given topic
@@stevekang3931 how is this nonsense? they are actually sharing their real life experiences that directly correlates to the topics described in the video. What is wrong with you?
Mom was fooling around and her daughter became a victim
I feel bad for her
Mother and father
I mean, isn't being a victim better than not being alive?
@@jw4277 well it really depends. some ppl would rather die
This is the only beauty of life, bringing forth new life. She was unfaithful to a faithful husband yet God gave her an Angel for a man she's not married too. God bless the rest of the kids left behind.
Beautifully written my sister!
She looks so much like her Dad ♥️
I spent the last 25 years of my career working for urgent care in Michigan. I don't remember the times I have been asked by Vietnamese/Americans, "Are you my father" once they found out I had served in Vietnam. I was a newly wed with a baby on the way back home so I never messed around when I was there.
You did the job. Be proud of your actions Mr Warren.
I'm sure when he saw her knew that was his daughter . Very strong resemblance.
mizzury54 UG as Hades,poor soul.
@@FINEDENTIST Only a low-life soulless person would make such a comment. You know, like our current President.
My uncle adopted five Vietnamese, he was able to bring over several of their family members as well back in 1975. That family has flourished in Pasadena California. A matter of fact, they are some of the most intelligent people I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing, and I an very proud to call them Family.
I am very proud that they have assimilated to American culture, because not everyone does. They are just as American as apple pie now.
This is so heart warming. I'm so happy for that Vietnamese. Who found her father. I'm glad uncle Sam allowed her to come see her father in america.
As sweet as this was the US ARMY has a tendency to leave children behind everywhere they go and not all have a parent like Nga’s mother who was able to take care of her despite everything. I really wish the military would emphasize the use of contraception.
They do. But boys will be boys. And what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas mentality is rampant everywhere, even in civilian world. So how do you expect that to be contained? Hormones will be hormones. Men have an innate need to procreate. Its inherently nature talking, just our social construct limiting that urge due to social acceptance. The only way to curb it, is to pull the military out of such areas or not have military presence in such areas. You dont think this type of issues happen in the USA, near military bases? The same thing happens. American single mothers I've seen more than my fair share having been in the Army myself for 5 years.
@john son If you think that less military presence would save tax dollars money, you are unfortunately incorrect. Their will certainly be more wars and with it more loss of life. That in itself costs way more tax dollars and human life than the status quo. In fact, the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan cost tax payers trillions of dollars. There is a reason why there are military bases located in strategic places around the world: deterrence. Security should always come first before addressing other issues as those issues wont even be on peoples minds if their livelihood is at stake.
@john son There are cause and effect from every decisions and there are no right answers. It's about picking the lesser of two evils. Hence why politics is such a complicated realm to be in, you can't satisfy everyone. That goes for most things in life.
Boys will be boys is not a good excuse for men to not be able to keep it in their pants. It’s a justification to not reprimand men who behave badly. It’s the reason boys and men can get away with a lot of stuff, and I’m not a social justice warrior, but I hear that a lot. Oh boys will be boys, well boys wouldn’t be boys if there was consequences to their actions
it was an inhuman war as war often is. Just look at the Syrian crisis today. Nobody cares about these refuges
My dad had a girlfriend and son in Vietnam before he met my
mom. She says a letter came from the girlfriend saying the boy died. He was heartbroken 😞
my deepest condolences.
☹damn
Ok guys so hear me out my grandfather work as a mechanic in a ship once and they were deployed to the Vietnam to deliver some things this happened during the war. My grandfather told me that the girls were forced by their parents to board the ship and asked the sailors a favor to claim that they are their wives in order to save them. My grandfather loved a woman and got her pregnant but after a months the boat has to leave Vietnam and my grandfather told me that it was really heartbreaking to see the girl crying when the boat was about to leave. I really need your help guys to find some information about the woman my grandfather loved, I dont know her name because my grandfather never mentioned her name and I got really curious what happened to her. My grandfather is a sailor from Philippines. Im sorry for my bad English my grandfather's name is Castor but I wont mention the last name please please guys. I will mention my grandfather's last name if "Castor" rings a bell
@@avocado9924 I k mk ow him because him and I were good friends we met in the ship we worked to fix the same thing a lot of hard work
@@JosePerez-ok8ez where are you from?
very emotional story, i was very touched when i heard this. But overall as a south-vietnamese i would like to thank Gary Writig for the fact that u and ur army have helped us to fought along the Southern Vietnamese side to defeat against the communist to bring back peace and happiness for our country. Though, you have left our side during the war and peace didn't come in the end, due to too much wars and political rivals within the both country. But as a South Viettnamese i would rlly like to acknowledge and give a great thanks to you and your mens because u have risked too much of your life and blood to protect us for the long journey of peace and happiness that we got of 2 decades. Thank you very much!! rest in peace
Wow! Heartbreaking story but at the same time, is warm and comforting that he was alive to meet her.
My father went to Vietnam war and I always wondered if I have any siblings there, my father past and he never mentioned if there was a possibility.
Hats off to the cousin who got this rolling when she got contacted. Truly, she could’ve shrugged it off and go after inheritance.
That's what I was thinking.
Vietnam war- one of the most pointless war in history
Also the Afghanistan Iraq Syria and many more created by us
@@farhanahmad8628 actually. All were created through the cold war. So not o ly USA but also russia
pointless? What war wasn't pointless?
Hahahah and it’s 2019 and people are still getting killed over in Laos and no one ain’t goin do shit about it all talk no gas
Most wars are pointless
Bring tears in my eyes. At last love and humanity triumph. Let this world be a heaven for all beings with the blessings of God.
My birthday is November 23rd I will light a candle for your dad . So beautiful and I am so happy you got to meet xxxx Such love wow xxxx
My father too was american military and died in Vietnam. Never got the chance to ever meet him and I’m still looking to find his grave.
John Ogo I’m sorry man :(
No matter how long it takes dont give up man . I wish you tge best of luck on your journey.
Sorry for your lost, maybe try to come to Việt Nam and searching for him. Our family lost a member in the war too. Eventually we found him in the graveyard along with his comrades at Đường 9 graveyard in Quảng Trị. Don’t stop trying to find your farther because family come first.
Sorry to hear that he probably got put in a barial ground over there as a lot of American bodys was left dead all over there im very sorry bout that man very sad
@@nguyenvusontung8212 Quảng Trị was one of the most hotly contested battlegrounds in Vietnam. The ship I served on was constantly doing fire support operations for our American troops in that region. I regret your loss and sufferings, and look to this for hope; Exports were $10.5 billion; imports were $47.8 billion. The U.S. goods and services trade deficit with Vietnam was $37.3 billion in 2017. Vietnam is currently our (US) 17th largest goods trading partner with $58.9 billion in total (two way) goods trade during 2018, it is far better to trade goods instead of bullets.
Quảng Trị là một trong những chiến trường nóng bỏng nhất Việt Nam. Con tàu tôi phục vụ liên tục thực hiện các hoạt động yểm trợ hỏa lực cho quân Mỹ của chúng tôi trong vùng đó. Tôi lấy làm tiếc cho những mất mát và đau khổ của bạn, và nhìn vào điều này để hy vọng; Xuất khẩu là 10,5 tỷ USD; nhập khẩu là 47,8 tỷ USD. Thâm hụt thương mại hàng hóa và dịch vụ của Hoa Kỳ với Việt Nam là 37,3 tỷ USD trong năm 2017. Việt Nam hiện là đối tác thương mại hàng hóa lớn thứ 17 của chúng ta (Hoa Kỳ) với 58,9 tỷ USD trong tổng kim ngạch thương mại hàng hóa (hai chiều) trong năm 2018, tốt hơn nhiều là trao đổi hàng hóa thay vì đạn.
This is true, I been living in Vietnam since 2013, I see lots of Vietnamese in the late 40s-50s with white and black American features
Do locals have any way or website where they can try to locate their American fathers? I know for sure I have a half sibling in Vietnam
wow I’m vietnamese and I can’t tell that ☹️. Haven’t seen many half breed yet in my life. I’m from Ho Chi Minh city btw
@@thanglongpham6723 dude calling them " half breed" is quite derogatory.
@@TheShahkulu is he wrong?
@@TheShahkulu Maybe his mother tongue isn't English and he mistranslated it or took it word by word?
I wanna know how the husband reacted when he found out that wasnt his baby being born.
use your imagination
Well at least he didn't commit infanticide.
My mom lived through the war in Vietnam as a south Vietnamese, the stories she used to tell me were incredible. I tried not to ask many questions only because i could feel the pain in her voice. Thank god for the Canadian scooping her family out of the rough seas...
I hope your mom had a good long life after being rescued from the sea. I served my country's efforts to help the South Vietnamese people resist the Communist from taking over The South. It is a beautiful country, and I'm happy that America and Vietnam are open to tourism. My old base camp was in the Mekong delta, and its now a tourist attraction snake farm. Lol. Take care & stay safe.
Did The soilders bent her over?
My great-uncle fathered three Vietnamese children but he managed to get them and his Vietnamese wife out right before the city was taken. He had to pay a fortune to get them out and nearly didn't make it.
Your uncle sounds like a man in love. The US Army made it more than difficult for married men (which had to be approved by the US Army) to bring their families to the States. No way if you wanted to bring your gf & child back home. Plenty of irresponsible soldiers yes, but many were denied for...hmmm..no reason at all.
This is a real father
Your Uncle seems to be a righteous man.
But why do they make it so hard for men to come home with their families,racism.
@@gloriabowie5629 during that time, soldiers aren't supposed to get involved with any relationship nor sexual engagement. That's against the military protocol. However, what happened has happened so the military and the government had to make amends and this must be done discreetly. You know how nosy others can be.
I do have a half sister, her father left our mom for a commission in Vietnam and told her that he will be back in a week. He’s never did only his empty promises, now my sister she’s in her 50, very sad for those people just abandon them like that!
Perhaps he died, any chance?
My great uncle just found out he had a daughter from the war. Everything always comes around in the end.
"I always wondered why my father wasnt around" I'm guessing her mom's husband left her after he realized the kid wasnt his?
i mean. can you blame him? she cheated on him. especially with the guys that came to kill vietnamese people for their political agenda
@@davidkim6542 the man was propably from south vietnam and us soldiers were allies to the south vietnamese.
yeah i think so to she even said the husband knew the baby was part american
The mother explains that her husband already knew the child was half-American when she went into labor. When the child said her "father" she could've meant her biological father. For all we know the husband could have stuck around and helped to raise her.
@@Duck-re3tm......A lot of South Vietnamese were infiltrated by Vietcong, so you couldn't always be sure.
That womans husband may have fought on the same side as the americans and ultimately ended up betrayed by both his wife and his so called ally. I feel for him and the daughter being left behind by the circumstances 😔
All I can say is I'm happy to see she found out who her Father is regardless of how it happened. Also her step Dad I would of liked to hear more about him and his feelings too. As it must of been hard for him knowing your wife cheated and is pregnant with another man's child. And to be there when she was born tells me he was a really good Man who deserves more credit...
Nobody cares about him 💔
Two things explain why this touches me personally:
-it took me 23 years to find my bio dad, just so you know how important it is for someone to put a face on a parent, and fill a gap in his or her family history;
-My own brother in law, a Frenchman, is the son of a NATO soldier that came from the US in the late fifties, and then left, he too took decades to find his father’s whereabouts and succeeded, it was a happy ending :)
that must have been some very rigorous water splashing
it wasn't water
Hahaha
Chris 🤣🤣🤣
Hose full of sperms y’all! Buckets for even distribution!
A woman gets pregnant differently in Vietnam. It's considered holy to use the water method.
I’m so happy the daughter and father were able to reunite.
Glad she was able to be with her father even for a short time, as clearly she needed to find herself.
I am glad he passed on knowing his daughter and loving her. God rest his soul
I have an American-Vietnamese neighbor, and he got adopted by a old lady. His dad went back to America in 1973, and never come back for him. His father probably forget he has a son in Vietnam. We need those fathers to pay for child support!
😂😂 Who has a sexual relationship with someone who lives across the world? There are consequences and the woman got the shorter end of the stick she always knew was there. Child support???
you're a fucking idiot
Giau Animazion agreed with ya child support is needed .
charnae young some could have been raped by soldiers u know 🤦♀️😒 it has happened don’t be quick to judge not only child support is needed in some cases
@@gabymeneses1758 The American soldiers were raping the Vietnamese women?
During the Vietnam War, these situations happen a lot. Whether they stem from love or lust, I feel horrible for the children that got left behind. Some married women cheated on their husbands and some married men cheated on their wives and then leave the women pregnant and took no responsibility. A lot of children don’t know who their dad is. Some moms sent their newborns over to the US to have a better life, sometimes losing contact. Mixed babies are often bullied bc they’re seen as abnormal. Sad situation overall, I wished the parents were more responsible.
This is why martial infidelity is bad. This is also why it is much wiser for this kind of intimacy to be between two people in a committed relationship instead of all these casual, meaningless meetups.
You must add violence and torture too.
@@mechadoggy what if they werent married? It is still bad and it is called FORNICATION : sex outside marriage (could be prior to marriage too)
@@winolowardichelli2850 not just those, like a beautiful legend of Sicily movie, some of them were done with food.
@@mechadoggy this is why wars are bad. It’s so much wiser to just work together and not kill your own kind. Humans.
I'm happy for the father and daughter. Happy they got to know each other and spend some time together.
He was happy to learn he had a daughter and she was happy to find him. A touching story.
And I don't like how people in the comment section are being all judgy. What do they know of war and the tough choices people have to make?!
i wish my mother had this chance but i know her dad is super proud of her. shout out to my GMA!
I know she felt comforted being in her dad’s arms... full of love 💕
A man that looked for his lost child and reunited with her has my respect. I despise people that turn cold blooded on their family. Hell, I know a guy named Tiger, but I called him Paper Tiger because his long lost daugher looked for him and when he heard that his own blood was looking for him, he turned and asked, what does she want? Money?
Seems a reasonable question to venture. Everyone wants something, a d $$$ is one of the tops.
Privacidad no fraude no historias robadas escribir es bueno
A true mother who had a husband but he stayed at her side and helped raise this daughter. War is a horrible event in so many ways.
what a lovely MAN her father is ! so suffice it to say there are tens of thousands of "men" in america who are not really MEN except for this gem of a M A N.GOD BLESS HIM
Everything was wrong about this war, literally EVERYTHING
Mo Ali The NSA and the United States Government finally admitted in the early 2000’s that the Vietnam Conflict was started based on a lie. The North Vietnam Army never fired on the USS Maddox or USS Turner Joy Navy Ships!!! War is, and has always been about profit. Look up the Gulf of Tonkin Incident.
@Howie P because America always starts wars based off a white lie just so they can carry on feeding you all with oil
@@bryonwatkins1432 yep I agree, plus they make the lives in the east hell for my people just to make westerners lives easy, until my people become strong enough and take back what's ours, you all can live in clean, modern structures funded by our natural resources
BRYON ~ LOL Dear sir, if the VN War had been so simple!
Except for the stated cause -- to keep a people free from a brutal Communist dictatorship -- was just. I'm an ESL teacher and have known many many South Vietnamese who went through terrible experiences because we left them high and dry and pulled out, not just troops, but the support they needed to defend themselves (The USSR kept backing the North). The Big Lie that we were told by Cronkite and other anti-war liberals was that "They didn't want us there anyway" -- they did appreciate our help. The people of the South were devastated by the Communist thugs of the North" -- there was nothing wrong with lending them a much needed helping hand. Luckily some were able to flee and make it to freedom here.
Great story 😄 I have a Vietnamese cousin and aunt . It took 3yrs of red tape for my uncle ,a soldier to finally get them into the USA but he did it. 😀 Thank GOD
I am so glad they found each other.
I did not think I had any more human emotions left in me however it seems you have gotten The Last Tear to fall to my eye thank you
I'm a Man. And I would just wanna remind myself and all those Men who's reading this.
Please Think Before Having Fun with a Girl. It may be really fun and Great at the moment of having it. There are so many girls who have faced a lot of consequences after being left with a Child. Just like the old woman. Their Daughter didn't made any mistake by getting into this world. But she is getting blames for her Parents teenage Mistakes.
We as a Man, We always have Options to Choose. We Have the power and Ability to take Decision way more better then Woman. Before doing something which is fun yet risky try to think about the consequences that we and people around us would Face. Thanks for Reading.
I agree 💯
@@danthonysmith4972 thanks.
Just empty it outside..
I can't picture my partner goes to abortion clinic. I would rather quickly register our marriage instead.
@@arsenalic23 instead
So much sadness in his daughter’s eyes. It’s heartbreaking.
I was having a rough day until I saw this. Angels exist, bless you all ❤
God’s bless you, wishing you getting well and happy.
Sad but a beautiful reunion. She’s got her dad’s smile. Just your an amazing person, dont let anyone tell you different.
I feel for the women of every country America has been at war with
America is a nation of immigrants.
@@DavidLee-ik9up Exactly, my friend. Just ask the natives, what's left of them.
The married women who choose to cheat on their husbands? I feel sorry for her daughter, and her husband, but not for her.
@@DavidLee-ik9up
I hate America and hope it gets crushed.
This is a Vietnam war thing, this doesn't normally happen in Afghanistan or Iraq
It's deeply moving; actions are done when young in haste, love, whatever. Then there's a whole lifetime to reflect on it and try to make amends for our hasty actions.
Yes!! I've heard all about it & definitely believe EVERY word of it!
My mom has alot of interesting/ disturbing stories from that time in her life.... I appreciate you MAMA 💕
....So touching. Every child wants to be with their dad.
Not me.
@@Knqneal1 you black?
Damn regular ass tomatoes, it's like that?
Do you really think he wanted to see the girl? If so, do you really think that he didnt have a chance to go back to vietnam to look for her?.... Do you think such an honorable man would sleep with a married woman and never come back?
bolosh
This reunion made me cry.
My father is a Vietnam vet who was not involved with my mother while he was drafted. He saw brutal violence over there including rape. Some of these babies were the result of rape commuted not just by Vietnamese soldiers but by American soldiers. My uncle died from effects caused by Agent Orange in 1996 and also fathered a child and did the right thing and married the Vietnamese woman he fell in love with and had his son with. I still have contact with his son and wife to this very day.
Always Remember the one who suffers is the child born out of affair
Their whole existence is tainted by their parents lust.
Exactly this ^^^
😭
get yourself fixed if your peter wanders.
Thank you for your kind thoughts! I am one of them and ONLY if you knew how I'd suffered!
I am who have no home, in Viet Nam, I was an American kid in America, I am a Vietnamese woman. I do thank God every day for everything he had planned for me, good and bad! Bad...so i can learn to be good and good.... so i can learn to be grateful!
Blame the Governments on both sides. He wanted to do the right thing and was not allowed. The daughter wanted to do the right thing and was not allowed.
Maybe it was love and not lust.
Maybe the husband was forced on her like many were. You can not judge like some Bible school know it all.