How to ask a girl to be your girlfriend
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
- systembytodd.com
Most guys get into game to get a girlfriend they're happy with. So, if that's the goal, once you've been on a few dates, you should go after what you want, and ask her to be your girlfriend, right? Well, no... in fact that is generally a bad idea. Even when it works! Watch the video to see why, and also to see what you should do instead.
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"Would you mind.. becoming my girlfriend, maybe? please? I promise I'll do anything you want"
Did I get it right?
I assume you're kidding.... Lol
@@ichbinhier355 he is
Todd RUclipsr watcher would never do that 😂😂
@@ichbinhier355 youd be a dumbass to assume otherwise just sayin
That’s… beyond this channels reach. Please consider counseling
Convince with your action. Not words. 👍
Ask through being amazing.
Todd is the Socrates of relationships 😂
48 laws of power???
Todd is absolutely right! When I asked a girl I used to date to be my girlfriend the following happened: not only did she refuse, but the relationship got worse and needy me with a scarcity mindset accepted this until we ended on bad terms and I got a heartbreak. I'm glad my mindset is that of abundance and we can all do so much better with that kind of thinking x
Abundance, positivity, thankfullness and manifestation is all we need
When they ask me, who is teaching you pickup, i respond, the best in the world, Todd V.
What are you doing here scooby?!! loool
Walid Ghariani yeah wtf haha, I used to watch scoobys fitness stuff 10 years ago
@@dzllz hahah yeah he was the first fitness OG channel in RUclips. He is still posting by the way.. Looking heal of a natty lol. I still wonder if he's juicing 💉or not tho
Walid Ghariani Scooby is everywhere and I am always natty ;-)
@@nattyking9231 and always picking up girls in the gym lol
Todd is better than Illuminaty.
Wish I could've received this message last year around this exact time I asked a girl if she wanted to be "my girl" and "be official" and she responded with "I don't want to hurt you" and it pretty much made everything awkward for me and it felt like I had lost all my power with her after that conversation.
I feel you man. The same happened to me too. What did you do after?
Todd is completely right about this. I lost all my value with a girl by having a conversation about us dating. Not the first time this has happened either. Never again.
How do you even fix that? I did that before because someone told me to, and now I'm without my favorite girl. What can I do to get her ba k? She sees no value in me
@@marcrodriguez2316 the solution is to make peace with and be okay if she walks away and you don’t have a relationship with her.
Only then can it be about her choosing you, as opposed to any pressure, implied or explicit, from you. She will be able to sense if you’re really okay with whatever decision she makes. And if she believes this, then she has a real choice. The best you can do is give her that choice.
Oh damn hope you get a new girl bro.
Most likely you asked her to be your girlfriend before you demonstrated an ability to provide for her. Did you take her on a trip she wanted to go on before you asked? Did you pay for some nice meals for her before you asked and demonstrate your sacrificial nature before you asked? Most likely your looks combined with your efforts were too insignificant for her, therefore making her feel like she is settling for disappointment if she were to have agreed to be your girlfriend.
@@jillianroselovesfilmandchurros Considering this was 4 years ago. My views have definitely changed on the matter
A better way to think about it is if you're going to propose to your girl. You're already expect her to say yes because you to already acting like it.
So fucking on point. The biggest issue is that most guys do this out of neediness or jealousy, or because they think they are losing the girl and that by doing this they will get her back, but it is completely counterproductive. If you are just having the relationship you want without being worries about what it is you will be much better off, and that will actually make the girl be needy and bring up the "what are we" conversation first. The one thing I would add to this, once you are clearly in the power position and the girl is asking it, there's nothing wrong with actually making her your girlfriend at that point if that's what you want, going to the other extreme to avoid appearing needy is also weird and might even make the girl think that you are insecure or confused which is not attractive, if you really want her to be your girlfriend say it with the right frame (once she has shown the signals she is ready for it by bringing it up first) if yo frame it as though you understand her concern and that you want to put the same energy and time into her that she is putting into you by being exclusive and being actually serious, you are making her feel like she won. So as long as you frame it properly you can get that logical agreement of exclusiveness and everything that entails without looking needy whatsoever.
Tbh I was kinda doing this without thinking (cause I didn't know how to deal with that situation either) so this is really reassuring, thanks so much dude.
I love hearing stuff from your soccer days in college. The wisdom is always gold! 😂
You're explanation conveys a complete understanding of the situation.
I just wanted to give a big thanks to this channel. I didn't think pick up would be so incredibly hard, it has knocked me on my ass more times than I could count. I was a guy that really could not get a girlfriend to save myself, or so my dumbass younger self thought. Pick up really is a rabbit hole. If I had to tell my old self about getting a gf, it's like graduating from school. Nobody likes the lectures/homework/report cards, but you do it to get a diploma and move on to bigger things and grow. But don't make the diploma your end goal per se, have fun along the way, because that's where the memories are. One thing I did not expect was to actually like this girl, as strange as that may be, it's different than one-itis, it's like she's like family? I can't really explain what it's like but there is a true connection, and not just based on superficial stuff like looks. Like she comes to my boxing matches and stuff, there's a strong supportive element that was not there when I would just blow my load in them and leave. And actually, I would also tell my old self, you really need to know yourself and be strong within and outside if possible to handle a woman. Your problems don't stop when you are in a relationship, they will still throw you shit tests, and test your frame like a mothafucka. You face a myriad of other problems in a relationship. This is my first gf, been with her for 4 years. And in those 4 years I can say it was NOT always easy, I shit you not. TRUST ME. She gets prego and wants to keep the kid or she wants you to move in with her or she wants you to go travelling with her every 6 months or funerals, or her crying on your shoulder about shit or screaming at you and throwing stuff. Or a lack of sex for a bit. Lotta fucked up stuff, REAL stuff, that I would never have anticipated and If I was any weaker would not be able to handle a relationship. People when they meet me say I look tough and talk that way, but they don't know I was once where they were too. We all start somewhere, and I believe you can do it too.
My brother in law might have used this tatic, because my sister had to tell him she didn’t go out with a guy too much unless he was her boyfriend. Then he asked if she would like to be his girlfriend, and she said “yes”.
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I like Todd views relationships as the end goal of game, and even creates education for that topic too. All these pickup gurus who act like banging 1000s of girls is the be-all-end-all are so weird to me.. I can't relate to that mindset, and I expect most guys can't really either. It's so inefficient.. so much energy expended relative to just being in a great relationship with one person.
What if she wants you to ask her.
You shouldn't propose girls. The girls itself will give you the signs like a girlfriend does or ask you what are we or something stuff like that. And the main part here is you should already start acting and talking to her like she is your girlfriend. Also you should maintain the mascuiline frame
I learned the hard way that this is how you make friends. You never ask someone. I was five though. lol But the more you act like and do friend things, it just falls into place.
Video idea: a chronological explanation of these critical moments you talk of, from approach to marriage
Todd is the best person concerning relationships. He is absolutely 100% right. And the guy is not even a psychologist. Forget goofs like Jordan Petersen or the red pill people, just listen to Todd.
If you confess you really missing power of walk away. Like, you already can't just turn it to "friends with benefits" or something like that. And if you wanna more girls it's gonna stop you.
So you've finally found a girl who seems to like you and you'd like to make her your girlfriend. The most obvious thing to do would be to ask her, right? Well, it may "work", but even when it does, it was probably a mistake, and it could also backfire badly. Here's what I do instead...
Great content as always T 😎
mink
How do you fix it?
So pretty much don’t communicate? And just assume we know what the other person is thinking? Nah that’s set up for a terrible relationship.
My Girlfriend is cheating on me😭
Are u still dating her?
Luis Rojas no, i broke up with that bitch 7 weeks ago.
@@emilfrandsen1546 you want me to beat her ass ?
She told me I have to ask her
She basically allready told me she wants to be my girlfriend
There is this one girl from my class that i had a crush on since 1st grade, we are very good friends. Yesterday we finished the 8th grade witch means that our class is breaking up and everyone will continue their education in highschool. Because of the end we had a prom and i went on it with her( a expirience i will never forget). I was thinking of asking her to be my girlfriend when we finish completing our final exams and getting points for highschool but sometimes i think that she is out of my level( she is pretty, cute, very smart ,funny, and has a bunch of friends). I think i will ask her after all but it will be a hard period in my life if she rejects me( since ive been crushing on her for so long).
This man is the definition of " i know how women work,"
He thinks he knows what I want but knows nothing
Great content as always. Reminded me of something you said in the relationships manifesto. Can you make a video on what to look for before you can even tell a girl is flakey, what causes them to be flakey, etc. Steps to a more solid number
finna try ts right now
Man this is really great advice! And there I was about to ask the question!
thanks for the tips before i make any mistake.
When you and your girlfriend fight a lot, how do you know when it's just not meant to be and it's better to break up and when it's better to try to work on your understanding of each other and have better communication?
when you fight a lot it's gonna end eventually based on my experience, I would recommend to take a break 4-5 weeks to think about it, if it's meant to be you are gonna get together after break
How can I be more closer to her and build a closer connection with the girl without becoming a bestfriend?
These videos are better than RSD Max - good shit Todd
I agree to your point who ask it most of the time if not all, would got the inferior (not inherently bad) frame. And it is better to start act like one, watch if she respond positively and escalate to the point you can bring her fully into your life (with trust and pure intent) rather that asking it in the first place. But, what I know in the most of eastern world, like in patriarchs Asian country, that would be a problem, since you need some kind of establishment to bring a girl with you to like a social event or some public space. So, my advice, instead asking for more, you can make a speech about your value, your intent, value and condition, basically close your sale for her, and tell "I got shit, and I have clear plan for us, so if you feel like it, you can go with me, but here's the deal..." like that, and if she doesn't sure yet, you should let her go for some times. perhaps, she'll make decision, or not at all. make sure you know where you are in the relationship and where you are heading, with or without her. that would be more effective rather than asking directly. and as always, loves your appreciation Todd, the most practical advice I've ever had in my life, and that it works
Could you please make a more detailed version of this vid? I can't understand it well
Todd should charge serious money for the content in this video. Priceless.
I ply Mine craft
How to game a family friend
This was exactly what I needed
lo hey todd love the great content
l can't believe i'm about to ask you a question while in between sets in the field. oh well here goes:
how quickly and how much should one set premise in a night game scenerio in order to hook in a nightgame set assuming he is competing with a fair amount of distraction in the venue.
i feel like a habit of going over kill tryna set my premise in the beginning which makes it too obvious but if i tone it down, my sets don't hook. its almost like a weird quantity of premise versus quality of premise conundrum (quality being effective yet obvious premise that im tryna tone down)
Great advice...where was this 4 years ago lmfao
Todd the best pick up coach by far
Guys I’m gonna ask a girl out today wish me luck I will update this
Bro it's been a month any luck
@@ptm8326 rejection
I asked a girl out I liked and she turned on me like a light switch
I wanna ask out my crush out
did u do it its been 2 years?
I asked a girl "where do you see this going" and immediately regretted it lol.
I’m asking her in two days. Come back to this comment to find out if it worked out!
Tyler Griffin waiting for your feedback
Ulysses Alves - sorry I’m late, she shot me down. It’s all good though, just gotta keep lookin haha
Tyler Griffin sorry, man. Yeah, like people use to say: “That which doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”. You’ll have this on your side in your next move. Good luck.
Ulysses Alves - In all honesty, I actually pussed out. I haven’t asked her to be my girlfriend yet, but I did ask her out for a 3rd date. It’s not over yet, but you’re totally right. I’ll let you know how it ends. Thanks for the support bro ✊
I've always done this and never even realized till now.
Heres some advice. Dont ask her to be your girlfriend.
What’s the solution then?
Verbally asking a lady to be your girlfriend is similar to verbally asking someone to be your friend. It's not outrageous but it is a little strange, almost as if you're portraying them as a business associate not a lover
hell yeah! don't demand it, command it! you sound like a sports announcer, by the way..lol
See this is what I hate about dating in 2024, it’s all the mental warfare games men and women feel they HAVE TO play with each other, if I love you to death and I wanna be with you, I just wanna be honest about that and TELL you, you’re supposed to be my woman, not my enemy or my mental competition. If we love each other, let’s just be honest about it and be together, it suppose to be very simple. I also feel like we only feel the need to play these mental power games, when we’re trying to be with someone we feel doesn’t love us the way we love them. A girl who truly loves you, will lick you toes for you if you ask her, so she’ll DEFINITELY be ecstatic about you asking her to be your girlfriend.
Hang out, have fun and hook up.
If she really wants you, she’ll take care of the rest.
Okay Corey Wayne ;)
My guy! Thanks for the lesson.
Yes I did that mistake too by asking 😀 But eventually I improved.
My question is what if she does the same? Me and her are having a break atm coz she said she felt like it wasn’t going anywhere and she wanted me to ask her out properly but I didn’t
yes! yes! im already doing that and she's act like it to
Well first of all dont make it weird by looking at your crotch and saying Hi Todd
Didn't work! i watched only a few seconds of the vid.
The fact that we all look this up💀💀
Have you read the book "30 Days to Stop Being a Crazy Girlfriend" by Logan Tindell? It takes a mindfulness approach with some humor.
So instead of asking who she me as good friend or something i just acted casual then
Wtf this guy’s a genius
i want a boyfriend.
What am I doing
Todd, you always say to be so awesome she can't help but want you. What being awesome means? For example, what makes you awesome?
hey Todd... What do I do when my girl's mad at me?
Never argue with your woman. If she is mad, give her space and only apologise if you really hurt her.
but how can I know my position? maybe I'll act like she is my GF while she doesn't think like that or she is putting me like the 2nd guy?
How do you pull a girl who is working (ex: a cashier or waitress)
I'm curious on this too
These girls tend to be on their feet all day.
Use a vector that involves a couch and/or a foot massage. They're exhausted enough to instantly magnetize to such ideas.
I could get into more detail but I trust you'll be creative enough to get the gist.
@@ConzultheGreat thanks
You have to use duh magic line brodude; "ma dick, your mouth"
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For real no bs info come to Todd v
I've never heard you talk about 'connection'. Hay Todd, where do I go to post questions because I have never got any answered yet.
I’m 22 and a girl I’ve been talking to for a couple years has been asking me to ask her to be my girlfriend an it kinda pushes me to not ask even though I feel like I should and this is the best women I’ve ever met . What should I do ?
Bruh if she asks you to ask that you just have to do it she is giving it to you
This girl I’m seeing wants to be my girlfriend and we’re both ready to take it a step forward soooo ima do it
Complicated. Way too complicated
Well for me that ended in after one year not knowing if i am (was) her boyfriend at all, or some kind of affair.
How about:
He: Smth. was just cossing my mind about me and you but...I dont know you good enough, we should just take it sl.., nvm just forget it that I even brought it up.
She: what is it..
Him: no,no,no I just tell you later, I like you and all but I dont think its the right time yet... I dont know you well enough so nvm.
could smth like this work?
Way to goo, broo. 👍
What to do when you both know you're more than friends and are lovers (she openly told me that we are lovers) but in public or with friends she will jokingly say that I'm her friend and that "we are just friends" I know this is a shittest and teasing but what are thoughts? Should you go along with it or tell people otherwise
Go along with it, taking that too serious (especially if she’s clearly joking) will make you seem somewhat insecure & lead to losing value to her and probably the other people also, personally I’d make a joke out of it and be relaxed & comfortable enough around her that it’s obvious that you’re more than just friends
How to feel worthy of 8s 9s and 10s , instead of feeling so lucky that she even talk to me and not reject me immediately?
Also, how to not become needy when they respond well to me?
because usually I start escalating fast and do all the tactics fast ,because I'm so afraid to lose this scarce opportunity
Can someone just tell me some lines to ask her to be my girlfriend plz.
Tood they are trying to tear your channels apart RUclips makes it impossible to find your videos in my sub box or suggestions
What a trash take. Also, Freudian slip there when you said it’s one “aspect” of the game as if connecting with a girl isn’t THE aspect and end goal….
Damn I asked her if she would go to homecoming with me and she said yes, then she said the next day that she wants to be more than friends. Is that good?
Yes, that's good, the point is that you don't have to act "needy" in the relationship ;)
mane i just want to be loved god damm💀
I really need help getting a girlfriend. Would someone who’s a whatever-it-is master help me get my mojo and happiness back? I’d be really grateful. If not… Then I don’t know what will make me happy though.
Todd can you make a video on how to get your friends into game? I feel like pickup is a taboo and I am too uncomfortable telling my friends who don't know about game. Thanks!
Just show them Simple Pickup videos and if they are interested in approaching then recommend them ToddV videos.
And what should I do if I'm with a girl and were going out exclusively cause I know she's only going out with me, she wants me to meet her mom and she still has that '
"open relationship" status in her Facebook. How can I motivate her to change that "open relationship" status in her Facebook?
You dah best , but you already know
Todd, thanks for everything Brother. Yesterday this girl I’ve been seeing and really like asked me to be her boyfriend and she was so excited that I said yes and she likes me a lot more than I like her and it’s adorable 😂❤. It was so unexpected as well. I just kept shooting my shot and meeting girls and finally ended up clicking with one that I really like and she is really hot
cant wait to try this on my imaginary girl.
Hey Todd any tips on how do i game if your 15.
Fu*k me, I fully get this now, and see it so clearly, though I definitely made that mistake in the past of making myself the needy one when she should have been
Gonna watch this twice in a row
Todd, could you please talk about jealousy in a relationship. I had a situation where I was in a monogamous relationship and wasn't jealous at all. And this pissed my girlfriend because she thought that I don't care about her at all. And she even had a thing where she was talking with some guy for a few months in order to provoke me. So my question is: how to show jealousy in a proper way so you don't look insecure and what is the right amount of that? Thanks in advance.
Tell her to cut that bullshit out. Tell her that you're being as real as possible and if it doesn't convince her , It's more of her problem. Not yours.
Sometimes I joke about being jealous in stupid situations to make it funny
I turned down over 100 men until I met a man who asked me directly to be his girlfriend within a month of meeting me. I was relieved to finally have met a man who was mature enough to define the relationship. You are giving other men terrible advice here. To be a high value man, you only need to do a few things. First, wait to pursue a woman until you have intense singular focus. Then, pursue her with genuine interest in getting to know what makes her happy. Then, show her you support her happiness (if she wants a diamond necklace buy her a diamond necklace, if she wants a vacation to somewhere specific, take her to that place.). Then, demonstrate no pressure on her to return any favours, and THEN ask her to be your girlfriend. Most likely she will be proud to date you.
Hmmm it all depends on the girl really tho.. I’m going to ask a girl out tomorrow, I’ll update how it goes
how did it go?
@@SpankySlaps94 I asked and she said yes, then we broke up after 3 months 😔
@@sirmrbean9437 ah sorry about the breakup man. I know how that feels, it's not fun. But keep on following your purpose, and the right girl will want to join onto your program and be with you bro 💪😤
@@SpankySlaps94 thank you so much man, I needed this 🙏 you are a legend
That's what I thought at first but made the mistake maybe not to late thx
So this is why the guy I’m seeing has not asked me to be his girlfriend. I hate this advice... I would want him to ask not me
I like this already
Todd what's ur body count?
lmao nigga probably lost count
he has a video explaining it but hes in the hundreds until he lost count
Lay count, not body count! xD
...unless he's been murdering all those girls afterwards...that could explain why there are such few hot girls
I love what you said in the beginning of the video, it's the guys job to make the girl wanna have sex with him, and it's the girls job to make the guy wanna stay with her.