I am going to review both of your books on Amazon, but I needed to come here and say that OMG. I did not expect them to speak so well to, be so relevant to this issue - the issue that pretty girls / girls who have people jealous of them have in society / with friends & fam. Both your books are way better than expected. This is coming from a person who has been dealing with these issues and healing for a very long time. I have gotten many books and resources during all of this. But literally None of them spoke to this exact issue, or pretty girl out here dealing with envy and hate. The trauma dump is literally the best resource book I have ever come in contact with for healing too. It's helped me realize so much about myself. And I am starting to feel my strength and self-esteem coming back. You took your time and didn't leave anything out. Most books I buy from youtubers aren't actually worth the $$, they just thrown together quick to make a buck off of people, but wow just Thank you again for all that you do.❤❤
They’re toxic masculinity can’t have any of it they already hate other straight men who compete with them imagine a hot gay guy who has a great personality he will hate them even tho it don’t matter
Don't be a gorgeous overweight girl who lost weight and became drop dead gorgeous. OMG, the hate from jealous people are all over the place, and high value handsome men are coming out of nowhere, it's insane!!!!
when you’re a pretty girl that minds her business & is not scared to speak up for herself, people HATE you. i experience this so often, being pretty definitely has its dark side. it’s so hard to make genuine friends bc those girls turn out to be jealous of you! i experienced this at work recently and i’m sorry to say but it’s always the girls who are in unhappy relationships with bfs that cheat on them/ or they hate how they look physically/ aren’t confident. they would always ask me for health tips, even went as far as asking to go to the gym with me so i can teach them what i know. i was so happy to show them & put them on to my workouts, but then they turn around and hate on me as a collective in their lil group chat??😭😭 like it’s so weird specially when you never did anything to them, but be kind lmao. ughhh and then this personal trainer at my gym i was talking to also tried to humble me… talking abt “if you were really that pretty i would’ve noticed you a long time ago” EXCUSE ME. you don’t need to talk to me then BYE. literally cut her ass off. ppl just hate to see you walk in confidence & try to tear you down. literally just nasty people.
I've experienced the same. Its made me keep fo myself even more and focus on myself more too. Ignore the hate talk your beautiful, and they know that and they know that you know it as well.
Yeah it's a tactic to make you insecure like them don't fall for it. I also find it strange how less attractive people tend to gossip more and sometimes they are not as smart as people think they are I spent all afternoon failing these people because a lot of them are used to the old system where we could bring the price down for the customer to balance the score out. We can't do that anymore apparently they have this habit of leaving one woman to finish their job. There passive aggressive with me if that makes sense because they know I'm not as easily bothered by these tasks as them.
And how should we treat the beginning stages of friendships/commitments with these sort of experiences? After a point i always notice someone trying to bring me down like you said.
Girl I agree, a kid complimented me and said I look like a Barbie, my grandma eye rolled on me, And I felt bad but now I know she’s secretly jealous of me. Thank you for this video girl ❤
🗣️"There is no award for low self esteem" PREACH. They only want humble you to ruin/ even ☠️ you! It's that serious! When I realised this I adopted the traits of a malignant narcissist just to deal with folks like this 🤭 and lo and behold suddenly they're on their p's and q's... Now WHY COULDN'T THEY HAVE BEEN DECENT FROM THE GET GO?😒 oh okay. My freshly manicured foot will NEVAAA leave their necks!
you should def make a video on how to spot good friends and socialise to avoid being ostracised by jealous girls who create smear campagins. btw your channel is a gem
girl. i've always been afraid of acknowledging my own beauty. I'm scared of evil eye and envy and hate. People (including your family, work, strangers) will literally hate you. Now I am learning self love and geting over my people pleasing tendencies. I finally understand that doubting myself and having insecurities soothes their ego. I have to choose me.
neverrrrr be scared to acknowledge your own beauty. if a flower is pretty, you have the right to admire it for its beauty. if a field has beautiful green grass and healthy crops, you have the right to admire it. why not admire your own beauty as well??
You are smart. You're just trying to protect yourself because you know that people are willing to hate and harm out of their envy. Enjoy your beauty to the fullest and yes to do that keep building boundaries that work for you.
Because you have more options with men than he has with women. So he wants to humble you so that you don’t realise you’re too good for him. 😅 This is why you have to date on your level-like she said in the video you have to make friends on your level. 😅 Women who know their worth and won’t be jealous of you because they know their time in the sun is coming too. And date men who know their worth and will always publicly adore you because they feel good being able to go out with a talented, smart, successful, attractive woman. Even if you really are attracted to the goofy guy, date the goofy guy that knows his worth. 😅
I find that people become jealous of your strengths and skills if you are pretty though. It’s like they cannot accept that apart from being pretty you are also funny, smart and have a talent/skill in an area. So then when you perfect your strengths and show them more, they will be more jealous and try to sabotage you more. How do you stop them sabotaging you though? Especially when you cannot avoid them eg in the workplace. The more confident and secure you are, the more you shine in your skills, they more they will try to harm you
This is so true. I don’t know either.. reason why I have become very private in every way, I do not share anything with others; people see me as cold and reserved and strong with boundaries. However, we should not have to do this because of evil intended women.. is not fair.. Hopefully bellazzi has an answer to your question.
I remember this girl at a basketball game went viral just sitting there minding her business! And was bashed for it bc men were attracted to her and she was called all types of 304 and all!. Just bc she had court side seats! And was gorgeous!. Smfh The jealousy etc!.
@@adrienneroxanne9833 I just googled that story. I went to private school in Virginia and there were blond blue eyed girls so much more gorgeous than that girl. And they were all treated like celebrities and hated by most girls. The loser guys also assumed they were stuck up
My relationship with my sister has never been the same since she told me “you’re not that pretty” when I was saying words of affirmation in front of the mirror to hype myself up after having a panic attack (in front of her) due to the pressure of being a first-year engineering student. Mind you, she was at a low point in her life and I had been her rock, I was the only person that listened to her and would also say words of affirmation to her.
She wouldn’t have felt the need to say that to you if your reassurance in yourself didn’t trigger her. Even if she is at a low, let that be your affirmation that you are indeed gorgeous.
I went sooooo long not actually seeing myself for who the world seen me as.I could not understand why I was treated a way by women....however they knew. Even within my family. I've never heard anyone call me pretty. I was also the ugly duckling as well so I grew into my looks but mannn its been a journey. Got a therapist, dermatologist, and have been learning how to exist within my feminine space (finding my sense of style, signature scents, finding my hairstyles). I will be reaping my own benefits of pretty privilege I am no longer playing small.
Jesus loves you and died on the cross so you can find salvation through him before this world passes away. Acts 2:38 commands us to repent, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ (not the titles) & receive the Holy Spirit. John 3:5 also states that we cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven without being born of the water and the spirit. First you must believe in Jesus who died for your sins (John 3:16). Find a church/community that baptizes in Jesus name and believes in the Holy Spirit
Omg, same!!! And while I still don't think I'm drop dead gorgeous etc all the time, I definitely have my moments, and I had to "swan", so I didnt recognize it! It's layers to this
A guy that was with me because of my beauty told me he hates that I know I’m pretty and he likes humble girls. I blocked his number while he was talking and never saw him again.😂
@@angelluxor yeah too many guys can’t handle not being NEEDED and that’s the brightest red flag for me. If you’re happy on your own they try to create a problem in your life and “fix” it for you and become your HERO.🤢
Good for you girl, if he can't handle how awesome you are, then tell him go find less. If I ever have someone in my life do that, I'll tell them to find a humble girl then. No one stopping them. No need to humble me.
Guys, today I went on a solo date, there were a lot of men staring at me, then one of those men called me. And I told him that he was the man and he was the one who had to approach me and he called me arrogant and wanted to argue with me. Damn!, being gorgeous is a thing. A lot of them bully you and a lot of them disrespect you. These men can't see a beautiful girl, they want to have you and if they don't, they want to make you feel bad🤦♀️.
People have been calling me haughty for decades for the simple reason that I'm not afraid to look people in the eyes and I walk with my head up. I'm not that petty but if you insist on me being pretentious, I'll give you what you want 😊😁 I'm not even pretentious but more confident about myself regardless of how I decide to shownup. If I can't be confident because it's triggering, thats a you problem 🤷♀️😂
Yup on point. People will talk smack because they’re “looking” for something to talk about not because there is something to talk about. So I’d rather just be authentic.
I’ve played the clown for so long as opposed to being confident to be liked by ppl that ENVIED me. I noticed when I got compliments some friends would eye roll or pass snide remarks.These days I’m fully wearing my crown! And leaving those haters behind 🎉
This video came right on time, last weekend I was at a concert in L.A and as I was on my way to the rest room I had to pass this guy. He says to me “ hey beautiful how are you?” I responded I’m fine. He then says “how is your brother “, and I responded I don’t have a brother. He then says, “oh you look just like a guy I know, I thought you were his twin”. I just said oh and walked off. Later that night a woman less attractive than I met him at the bar, and I continued to catch him looking at me throughout the night. I was so confused by this bizarre encounter, & struggled to understand what his angle was, but after watching this video it all makes sense smh 😂.
And I must add for the last part when you start saying that it will be multiple people that will try to tear you down. I hope that people in these comments understand that it CAN be multiple people at once hating you for no good reason and you’ll always have those people that say “oh it’s not possible that that many people are against so you must be the problem” you’re NOT the problem. It’s definitely possible that people will form armies against you. Especially your own family or at small towns/schools exc don’t let people gas light you into thinking u must of done something to deserve it I must say you healed a part of me when you said you must heal & not take the envy personal I’ve been physiologically & physically tortured by my own siblings & I think the lord knew I needed to her this bad
Wow! I’ve always lowered myself for other women at parties. I’d dress down intentionally so that I wouldn’t get attention and others would get it. I once had a friend get so upset that I was pretty and I felt so bad for her, I told her to go into the bathroom and I changed my wardrobe with her. I look back at those photos and think, why didn’t I just wear my cute outfit. Her outfit was something I wouldn’t of worn but I did it for her. 🙄
I have been enjoying life ever since.. not being tooo caring about everything around me.. not extending myself too much and regretting it, because I don’t have time for myself as a result… I feel great. And the one thing that matters most- my anxiety has gone DOWN significantly. My mental health is so important to MYself. Thank you.
Good move using tyla, people keep calling her an "uppity African" and its so annoying. Even my sister was talking shit saying "why can't she hold her own awards? Like get a hold of yourself" like girl??? Just say you wish you could live that life and move on, jealousy is such a nasty disease fr
at first i was like “she can hold her own awards” until i looked up how tiny she really is i was like wow.. she has a nice slim frame AND she’s very short 😭 it makes sense and those awards ARE heavy
@chaeffected2711 I know bruh, she's little and probably stays skinny for beauty standards as well. Like it's really not that big of a deal, let girlie be tiny with skinny arms lmao
I feel like I had a glow up over this past year where I really just started to work on my self for the first time in my life. i've started dressing how I want and putting more effort into looking really nice everyday. I'm also just big on faking it until i make it now, I try to present myself as being confident and self assured (the way I walk, the way I talk, reading more books that grow my intellect) but I feel like it''s turning the people who I am close to against me. I thought I was going crazy at first but every conversation now has hidden jabs and the energy with people I used to be at peace around now feels so off and like I need to constantly defend myself and my character. Idk it's just strange how the people that I feel use to support me now treat me as if they are almost preying on my downfall so they can sit and watch- it'ss weird to come to terms with cus it feels so fake sometimes.
I definitely thought something was wrong with me. I could never get the beef. In high school, I literally just walked quickly through the halls and minded my business. It was safer that way. Safer for them, because i was definitely one snap from the mental hospital 😅.
This is the best video i swear,i have ever seen in my life. As a pretty girl,this basically literally told my story. For real. And it’s soo complete in so many aspects. Thank you so so so much for this. I feel less alone ❤
Recently joined a new workplace, a workmate said 'looks are not everything' it was the first time he was rude to me. I responded sarcastically 'yea but you can use your looks to your advantage' and he shut up
I am absolutely surrounded by haters.. the more I clip them out the more they are aligning together against me. I've been told I'm guarded, exclusive, a mean girl, etc etc. The haterade out there is wild if you are pretty, successful, and have a man.. wow. Pretty much every woman that was in my bf's inner circle is trying to cause a breakup... the hate they have for me due to him is like nothing I've ever seen.
I so appreciate you making this video. I relate. It is so nice to hear someone speaking a language I can relate to. People will specifically target you and sometimes even try to unalive you all because your beauty and light expose the way they look. I think having a space for beautiful women to gather and share could be lifesaving.
I had a man try to humble me, than after that tried to hit on me. When I told him where to get off, he acted like he didn't know what I was talking about 😢
Love your Matriarchal content. This is my drive too but no videos. Too many damn ideas and games out there. Thank you baby for keeping us all afloat 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶. Respect.
I agree with everything you say of course. And I have been through it all myself. But I do still think … they only do it to you (or to me) because they sense insecurity in us (low self esteem, trauma, whatever it is …). Because I know beautiful women who are at the top of the food chain … and “they” (the insecure jealous people) would never try this with them … because “they” sense their power & status …
Exactly like my family! I divorced completely my husband because he is no good anymore! I stay with him for years even doing 50/50 for My pick me self!!!!😂i grow up in conservative church!!! Saying I need to stay no matter what i stay faithful for 10 years wasted years of my life! Im done then! My pick me mom says pray to God ask forgiveness be humble and stay with him! 😂I appalled!!!! It makes me realize the only person i can trust is my myself and what im doing is the best for me! They just saying that to avoid shame for our family what about men??? I cut contacts with my family and live my best life! I stay away from people who don’t have high self esteem! All my pick me ways i lay it down! The please people in me i turn it offf and only be friends with people with abundance mindset!😂 the truth is ! You are your best friend! Trust no one but God! Even in the Bible dont trust chariots or horses nor any man! Ladies make a room in your heart to trust your choices! Trust that your making decisions to improved your life! Evaluate it too😂 so you won’t be blindsided! Know that you are beautiful fearfully wonderfully made no matter what!
My abusive aunt 😂 I resemble her a lot during her prime, and she used to be proud of it when I was young, now as I got older I catch her seething when people compliment me in front of her (but especially from men). These people are truly miserable on the inside, and that makes them ugly.
GIRLLL if you can watch love is blind habibi but especialllly the reunion - they go against a pretty girl and were sooo insecure and threatened its insane
I really think this is why I always had a hard time getting jobs. 😢💔 I'm here to work and that's it and I'm a good worker. Women can be so catty lol I'm just interested in working.
I had a lot of problems including genetic mental illness. Mental illness doesn't discriminate. Beautiful women can suffer from mental illness too! Depression OCD bpd. Been through it all
And not to mention those certain types of men who will get with you and during the relationship if or when you have a Lackadaisical time, they won’t tell you when you look a hot mess or encourage your self care!, whether or not if you’re going out or even staying in with them, all bc they lack self confidence and it makes them less insecure knowing you not looking your best! Which is sad asf!. They’ll even go as far as to try to discourage you putting effort into your appearance saying things like “you don’t need this or lashes etc” knowing damn well they just threatened by when you make yourself up and doll up. It’s all subtle and over a period of time you don’t even recognize how you haven’t been taking as much care of yourself as you used to! Those men are a danger to women! And will allow you to waste your (beauty potential)!. It’s a thing yes!, you’ll never be at your best self with them!, your most presentable, bc they know pretty privilege is real and they don’t want you to wield your power to the fullest!. That’s why a lot of women glow up after they leave those men.
I'm not a fan but I don't understand the hate toward her. She doesn't need media training or to be humbled. She just seems very self-aware and comfortable in her skin, which is something more people could learn to have for themselves. It's also the a lot of the women who do hate her seem to be older, because once again we think that younger women are the problem, when the problem is Patriarchy.
Baby!!! I didn't even watch the video! Just read the title and I am this way for a reason! Women and men have tried to humble me!! I agreee!! And I come off stuck up idc!!
girl I just came here for some tea on Tyla but in the end it became the therapy session I needed 😂 I had this one friend who would always make these passive aggressive comments and try to put me down whenever she could. She would tell me that im self entitled, that im embarrassing for dancing and having fun, that the people id have fun with are not my real friends. But now I get it, I was always laughing, talking to anyone and moving carefree. While she was on antidepressants and did nothing but lay in bed all day. She was jealous, she wanted what I have.
The biggest curse that turned out to be a blessing was a narc mom and being an empath…. I never liked the way she acted so I never adopted it …I also never allowed her to mess w me … having to always show myself that what she was doing was about her made me be exactly like what you describe for as long as I can remember… an ex tried to gather a group of people to talk about me i called them My fan club and him the president ….my confidence is not an act, it’s based on everything that I learned and taught myself ….consequently I CAN DO ANYTHING!!! - and anything I choose not to do is EXACTLY that …because I can do anything….who cares if they hate …. True friends cheer weird bitches get close to you to betray you ….I will legit tell them ANYTHING …absolute rubbish ….and wait for it to come back ….and laugh…. Women are only bad if you allow them near you - some men are jokers too they can’t knock you down a peg … 😂😂😂 … you can’t knock down what you didn’t build
U speak nothing but facts. I can tell u’ve dealt with some shii in life and I relate to that. Just so happening to be pretty is a gift that we have/had to learn to use to our advantage. Becuz no matter what we say, do, or been through, ppl are always gonna hate. But yeah nothing u ain’t already said! Rly just came to comment becuz I’ve been noticing a lot of copy cat channels on RUclips lately but none are as real and genuine as you. I absolutely LOVE ur channel🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 It’s been helping me alot
I'm lucky that I came from a fairly happy healthy home and also had beauty. I'm so sorry you didn't have a healthy upbringing. May God bring you healing.
Many women don't really try to text me and post me on their socials when after we went out... But i always get compliments on my looks and personality so i don't understand why this happens
@@ChiamakaLilian-b2q I would agree but I've been unattractive and attractive and it never stopped me in life either way. I had a great personality though and was a real happy positive person. Got bullied for both but at the end of the day you can't let people bring you down
I had this girl try and ambush me she wanted me to put hands on her. We were ex friends and just started talking back after 13 years. It’s was crazy I literally seen the devil in her eyes.
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I am going to review both of your books on Amazon, but I needed to come here and say that OMG. I did not expect them to speak so well to, be so relevant to this issue - the issue that pretty girls / girls who have people jealous of them have in society / with friends & fam. Both your books are way better than expected. This is coming from a person who has been dealing with these issues and healing for a very long time. I have gotten many books and resources during all of this. But literally None of them spoke to this exact issue, or pretty girl out here dealing with envy and hate. The trauma dump is literally the best resource book I have ever come in contact with for healing too. It's helped me realize so much about myself. And I am starting to feel my strength and self-esteem coming back. You took your time and didn't leave anything out. Most books I buy from youtubers aren't actually worth the $$, they just thrown together quick to make a buck off of people, but wow just Thank you again for all that you do.❤❤
@fearless7989 OMG thank you so much!! I’m so glad is helping you! Thank you for the review! I appreciate all the support ! ❤️❤️
I love the "you're going to get older one day" comment. Ok??? And I'm still going to look gorgeous like all the older women in my family! Try again 💅🏽
I know that’s right
AMEN 🙏🏽 😂❤ everyone in my fam looks 10-20 yrs younger than their age. Baby im NEVER getting old 😜😜❤
No it's like "so are you, and?"
"You’re going to get older one day" sounds like an encouragement to be that way lol. Do it now because one day you won’t be able to.
Like for real!!! I even seen old elder woman gorgeous ❤❤❤ and kind
I had a STRAIGHT MAN who wanted to compete with me and humble me
Dusties!!
Same my ex was like this is so crazy 2 me
Same 😢
They’re toxic masculinity can’t have any of it they already hate other straight men who compete with them imagine a hot gay guy who has a great personality he will hate them even tho it don’t matter
Girl me too, my ex friend called me cocky and selfish and lol I’m literally not I swear. 😂
Don't be a gorgeous overweight girl who lost weight and became drop dead gorgeous. OMG, the hate from jealous people are all over the place, and high value handsome men are coming out of nowhere, it's insane!!!!
@TheMspoodle2 Yes you see our girl Lizzo? Omg this is definitely gonna be her! She's already so pretty! 😍
Such people are exhausting!!
This is my exact experience
I have seen so many beautiful plus sized women. I be looking at the faces like damn 👀 . Does anyone else see this? Then the men be acting funny.
THIS PART! You have to redo your entire circle. Trust!
when you’re a pretty girl that minds her business & is not scared to speak up for herself, people HATE you. i experience this so often, being pretty definitely has its dark side. it’s so hard to make genuine friends bc those girls turn out to be jealous of you! i experienced this at work recently and i’m sorry to say but it’s always the girls who are in unhappy relationships with bfs that cheat on them/ or they hate how they look physically/ aren’t confident. they would always ask me for health tips, even went as far as asking to go to the gym with me so i can teach them what i know. i was so happy to show them & put them on to my workouts, but then they turn around and hate on me as a collective in their lil group chat??😭😭 like it’s so weird specially when you never did anything to them, but be kind lmao. ughhh and then this personal trainer at my gym i was talking to also tried to humble me… talking abt “if you were really that pretty i would’ve noticed you a long time ago” EXCUSE ME. you don’t need to talk to me then BYE. literally cut her ass off. ppl just hate to see you walk in confidence & try to tear you down. literally just nasty people.
I've experienced the same. Its made me keep fo myself even more and focus on myself more too. Ignore the hate talk your beautiful, and they know that and they know that you know it as well.
Yeah it's a tactic to make you insecure like them don't fall for it. I also find it strange how less attractive people tend to gossip more and sometimes they are not as smart as people think they are I spent all afternoon failing these people because a lot of them are used to the old system where we could bring the price down for the customer to balance the score out. We can't do that anymore apparently they have this habit of leaving one woman to finish their job. There passive aggressive with me if that makes sense because they know I'm not as easily bothered by these tasks as them.
Stay flying high sweetheart ❤
Weirdos. I will confidently say you are gorgeous and that trainer noticed you way before and had to build himself up to approach you
And how should we treat the beginning stages of friendships/commitments with these sort of experiences? After a point i always notice someone trying to bring me down like you said.
Girl I agree, a kid complimented me and said I look like a Barbie, my grandma eye rolled on me, And I felt bad but now I know she’s secretly jealous of me. Thank you for this video girl ❤
just checked your page & you're gorgeous
yup that grandma to. she my first critic
Lol my Mom used to tell strangers don't tell her that while giving me the side eye.. 😂
kids always say the truth, you can always count on a kid to find the truth
When i called myself beautiful, my grandma asked me as "who told me that"? Well u obviously would NOT, my "dear" grandma😂😂😂
The “you think your better than everyone” is the comment I’ve heard all my life it gets TIRING
Or you think you’re all that 😩
no - THEY think youre better than everyone! just projecting - i have heard this all my life too
😂i mean we didnt put ourselves up there baby!!!!☆ we just ARE
I know right ?
🗣️"There is no award for low self esteem" PREACH. They only want humble you to ruin/ even ☠️ you! It's that serious! When I realised this I adopted the traits of a malignant narcissist just to deal with folks like this 🤭 and lo and behold suddenly they're on their p's and q's... Now WHY COULDN'T THEY HAVE BEEN DECENT FROM THE GET GO?😒 oh okay. My freshly manicured foot will NEVAAA leave their necks!
We definitely need healthy narcissism to protect ourselves 💅🏽
@@BellazziEnt Can you do a vid on this please?
you should def make a video on how to spot good friends and socialise to avoid being ostracised by jealous girls who create smear campagins. btw your channel is a gem
Thank you babe. Check out two videos of mine. (How to vet your friends, play the social power game and win)
Please do this! 🙌🏾
@@BellazziEntthank you ❤
And DID!☺️
girl. i've always been afraid of acknowledging my own beauty. I'm scared of evil eye and envy and hate. People (including your family, work, strangers) will literally hate you. Now I am learning self love and geting over my people pleasing tendencies. I finally understand that doubting myself and having insecurities soothes their ego. I have to choose me.
Never dim your light to make others feel comfortable! Embrace your beauty sis! 🩷🩷
neverrrrr be scared to acknowledge your own beauty. if a flower is pretty, you have the right to admire it for its beauty. if a field has beautiful green grass and healthy crops, you have the right to admire it. why not admire your own beauty as well??
You are smart. You're just trying to protect yourself because you know that people are willing to hate and harm out of their envy. Enjoy your beauty to the fullest and yes to do that keep building boundaries that work for you.
What’s crazy is that your own man can be jealous of you! It’s really crazy
Because you have more options with men than he has with women. So he wants to humble you so that you don’t realise you’re too good for him. 😅
This is why you have to date on your level-like she said in the video you have to make friends on your level. 😅
Women who know their worth and won’t be jealous of you because they know their time in the sun is coming too.
And date men who know their worth and will always publicly adore you because they feel good being able to go out with a talented, smart, successful, attractive woman.
Even if you really are attracted to the goofy guy, date the goofy guy that knows his worth. 😅
Family too 😂
Marilyn Monroe,Shakira, Britney Spears...
People just don't know this makes you go even harder, because they're a fan & watching hard. I'll keep achieving & being pretty af
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Facts all day sis.....all that hating they do.....ain't doing nothing but make you stunt on them even harder.....😂
All facts sis!
If you’re fine when you’re young you are still fine when you’re older, don’t listen to the haters girls 😘
I find that people become jealous of your strengths and skills if you are pretty though. It’s like they cannot accept that apart from being pretty you are also funny, smart and have a talent/skill in an area. So then when you perfect your strengths and show them more, they will be more jealous and try to sabotage you more. How do you stop them sabotaging you though? Especially when you cannot avoid them eg in the workplace. The more confident and secure you are, the more you shine in your skills, they more they will try to harm you
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This is so true. I don’t know either.. reason why I have become very private in every way, I do not share anything with others; people see me as cold and reserved and strong with boundaries. However, we should not have to do this because of evil intended women.. is not fair.. Hopefully bellazzi has an answer to your question.
You cannot live in fear of humans. You have one life to live, so please don't be anxious about other people's envy. Let your light shine!
I remember this girl at a basketball game went viral just sitting there minding her business! And was bashed for it bc men were attracted to her and she was called all types of 304 and all!. Just bc she had court side seats! And was gorgeous!. Smfh The jealousy etc!.
The blonde girl from a few days ago?
@@adrienneroxanne9833 I just googled that story. I went to private school in Virginia and there were blond blue eyed girls so much more gorgeous than that girl. And they were all treated like celebrities and hated by most girls. The loser guys also assumed they were stuck up
My relationship with my sister has never been the same since she told me “you’re not that pretty” when I was saying words of affirmation in front of the mirror to hype myself up after having a panic attack (in front of her) due to the pressure of being a first-year engineering student. Mind you, she was at a low point in her life and I had been her rock, I was the only person that listened to her and would also say words of affirmation to her.
She wouldn’t have felt the need to say that to you if your reassurance in yourself didn’t trigger her. Even if she is at a low, let that be your affirmation that you are indeed gorgeous.
@@Obviouslynotabackupaccount thank you💕
I went sooooo long not actually seeing myself for who the world seen me as.I could not understand why I was treated a way by women....however they knew. Even within my family. I've never heard anyone call me pretty. I was also the ugly duckling as well so I grew into my looks but mannn its been a journey. Got a therapist, dermatologist, and have been learning how to exist within my feminine space (finding my sense of style, signature scents, finding my hairstyles). I will be reaping my own benefits of pretty privilege I am no longer playing small.
Enjoy your privilege. Bask in it ❤️❤️
Jesus loves you and died on the cross so you can find salvation through him before this world passes away. Acts 2:38 commands us to repent, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ (not the titles) & receive the Holy Spirit. John 3:5 also states that we cannot enter into the kingdom of heaven without being born of the water and the spirit. First you must believe in Jesus who died for your sins (John 3:16). Find a church/community that baptizes in Jesus name and believes in the Holy Spirit
Omg, same!!! And while I still don't think I'm drop dead gorgeous etc all the time, I definitely have my moments, and I had to "swan", so I didnt recognize it! It's layers to this
Women hate me and I don’t even think I’m pretty. 😂 im ugly in pictures
A guy that was with me because of my beauty told me he hates that I know I’m pretty and he likes humble girls. I blocked his number while he was talking and never saw him again.😂
Not blocking him mid conversation 😂 🎉🎉🎉
He wanted to be the source of validation because he feels worthless. You knowing you are pretty yourself gives him no power.
@@angelluxor yeah too many guys can’t handle not being NEEDED and that’s the brightest red flag for me. If you’re happy on your own they try to create a problem in your life and “fix” it for you and become your HERO.🤢
Yass 👏🏽👑
Good for you girl, if he can't handle how awesome you are, then tell him go find less. If I ever have someone in my life do that, I'll tell them to find a humble girl then. No one stopping them. No need to humble me.
Guys, today I went on a solo date, there were a lot of men staring at me, then one of those men called me. And I told him that he was the man and he was the one who had to approach me and he called me arrogant and wanted to argue with me. Damn!, being gorgeous is a thing. A lot of them bully you and a lot of them disrespect you. These men can't see a beautiful girl, they want to have you and if they don't, they want to make you feel bad🤦♀️.
People have been calling me haughty for decades for the simple reason that I'm not afraid to look people in the eyes and I walk with my head up.
I'm not that petty but if you insist on me being pretentious, I'll give you what you want 😊😁
I'm not even pretentious but more confident about myself regardless of how I decide to shownup. If I can't be confident because it's triggering, thats a you problem 🤷♀️😂
THIS!!! 🎯🎯🎯
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Yup on point. People will talk smack because they’re “looking” for something to talk about not because there is something to talk about. So I’d rather just be authentic.
I’ve played the clown for so long as opposed to being confident to be liked by ppl that ENVIED me. I noticed when I got compliments some friends would eye roll or pass snide remarks.These days I’m fully wearing my crown! And leaving those haters behind 🎉
This video came right on time, last weekend I was at a concert in L.A and as I was on my way to the rest room I had to pass this guy. He says to me “ hey beautiful how are you?” I responded I’m fine. He then says “how is your brother “, and I responded I don’t have a brother. He then says, “oh you look just like a guy I know, I thought you were his twin”. I just said oh and walked off. Later that night a woman less attractive than I met him at the bar, and I continued to catch him looking at me throughout the night. I was so confused by this bizarre encounter, & struggled to understand what his angle was, but after watching this video it all makes sense smh 😂.
And I must add for the last part when you start saying that it will be multiple people that will try to tear you down. I hope that people in these comments understand that it CAN be multiple people at once hating you for no good reason and you’ll always have those people that say “oh it’s not possible that that many people are against so you must be the problem” you’re NOT the problem. It’s definitely possible that people will form armies against you. Especially your own family or at small towns/schools exc don’t let people gas light you into thinking u must of done something to deserve it
I must say you healed a part of me when you said you must heal & not take the envy personal I’ve been physiologically & physically tortured by my own siblings & I think the lord knew I needed to her this bad
Relatable ❤
Omg this girl use to terrorize me in college, it all makes sense now
Wow! I’ve always lowered myself for other women at parties. I’d dress down intentionally so that I wouldn’t get attention and others would get it. I once had a friend get so upset that I was pretty and I felt so bad for her, I told her to go into the bathroom and I changed my wardrobe with her. I look back at those photos and think, why didn’t I just wear my cute outfit. Her outfit was something I wouldn’t of worn but I did it for her. 🙄
I love Tyla and all young BW who KNOW they’re the shit and refuse to be humble. ❤❤❤
Never compare yourself and never feel responsible for someone else's jealousy.❤ They are hurt. Leave them be.
I have been enjoying life ever since.. not being tooo caring about everything around me.. not extending myself too much and regretting it, because I don’t have time for myself as a result… I feel great. And the one thing that matters most- my anxiety has gone DOWN significantly. My mental health is so important to MYself. Thank you.
Good move using tyla, people keep calling her an "uppity African" and its so annoying. Even my sister was talking shit saying "why can't she hold her own awards? Like get a hold of yourself" like girl??? Just say you wish you could live that life and move on, jealousy is such a nasty disease fr
at first i was like “she can hold her own awards” until i looked up how tiny she really is i was like wow.. she has a nice slim frame AND she’s very short 😭 it makes sense and those awards ARE heavy
@chaeffected2711 I know bruh, she's little and probably stays skinny for beauty standards as well. Like it's really not that big of a deal, let girlie be tiny with skinny arms lmao
I feel like I had a glow up over this past year where I really just started to work on my self for the first time in my life. i've started dressing how I want and putting more effort into looking really nice everyday. I'm also just big on faking it until i make it now, I try to present myself as being confident and self assured (the way I walk, the way I talk, reading more books that grow my intellect) but I feel like it''s turning the people who I am close to against me. I thought I was going crazy at first but every conversation now has hidden jabs and the energy with people I used to be at peace around now feels so off and like I need to constantly defend myself and my character. Idk it's just strange how the people that I feel use to support me now treat me as if they are almost preying on my downfall so they can sit and watch- it'ss weird to come to terms with cus it feels so fake sometimes.
I hope you will meet more authentic people in your life 🙏🍀
Been watching your videos as a young attractive latino gay man and you have hit every mark thank you for your work fr🙏🙏
I get those remakes from male more than women
Ur laugh tho!!! ILY
Dusties!!
Listening to this on repeat ❤
i love how all the comments in here are from pretty girls. our experiences are universal.😭😩
I definitely thought something was wrong with me. I could never get the beef. In high school, I literally just walked quickly through the halls and minded my business.
It was safer that way. Safer for them, because i was definitely one snap from the mental hospital 😅.
This is the best video i swear,i have ever seen in my life. As a pretty girl,this basically literally told my story. For real. And it’s soo complete in so many aspects. Thank you so so so much for this. I feel less alone ❤
Lmao I was told I act like I’m better than everyone
The insecurity jumped out 😂
Recently joined a new workplace, a workmate said 'looks are not everything' it was the first time he was rude to me. I responded sarcastically 'yea but you can use your looks to your advantage' and he shut up
THIS IS TRUE !!!! Keep up the great content girl.
I am absolutely surrounded by haters.. the more I clip them out the more they are aligning together against me. I've been told I'm guarded, exclusive, a mean girl, etc etc. The haterade out there is wild if you are pretty, successful, and have a man.. wow. Pretty much every woman that was in my bf's inner circle is trying to cause a breakup... the hate they have for me due to him is like nothing I've ever seen.
I feel you on a deeper level, and I thank you for your authenticity. You are a light to many people. Stay golden loves
when your pretty you have men and your "friends" mad at you. They will try to humble you it has happen to me.
I am 32 and expecting that people changed but they still treat me the same. And more I stand for my self the more they hurt
I so appreciate you making this video. I relate. It is so nice to hear someone speaking a language I can relate to. People will specifically target you and sometimes even try to unalive you all because your beauty and light expose the way they look.
I think having a space for beautiful women to gather and share could be lifesaving.
so real. thank you for spreading this awareness
I had a man try to humble me, than after that tried to hit on me. When I told him where to get off, he acted like he didn't know what I was talking about 😢
its exhausting
Sho is!!
Embrace your beauty, People will criticize you either way! 🎉💯
The intro spoke to my soullll!! I’ve heard all of those things!!!
I have THE EXACT SAME experience as this! Thank you for this video😊❤
Excellent video and congrats on 10k subs beautiful! 😻
Always had trouble setting boundaries because of this!
So true, thank you for this video! ❤
This helped a lot. And to helo me not be afraid to be beautiful to look good.
Being beautiful is not a guarantee of happiness. Some people have terrible childhoods families
Love your Matriarchal content. This is my drive too but no videos. Too many damn ideas and games out there. Thank you baby for keeping us all afloat 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶. Respect.
Thank you ❤
You are very welcome beautiful SOUL @@BellazziEnt
Sometimes I felt guilty for being beautiful because it wasn't fair to others. I felt bad that other people weren't given as good of looks.
Exactly, insecure people want you to dim your glow so they can feel better about themselves.
Wake up honey, Bellazzi uploaded a new video
I agree with everything you say of course. And I have been through it all myself. But I do still think … they only do it to you (or to me) because they sense insecurity in us (low self esteem, trauma, whatever it is …). Because I know beautiful women who are at the top of the food chain … and “they” (the insecure jealous people) would never try this with them … because “they” sense their power & status …
For real ❤❤❤ what makes you pretty is being a woman who dont talk shit about a womans appearance unless if provoke aka being direspected
I fall asleep to your videos every night as a part of my spiritual practices AND chaos magick rituals. Thank you for doing what you do.
So sweet! Thank you for supporting me ❤
SAME
ME TOO IDK WHY
This is a good message, a lot of girls have to hear this, thank you.
Exactly like my family! I divorced completely my husband because he is no good anymore! I stay with him for years even doing 50/50 for My pick me self!!!!😂i grow up in conservative church!!! Saying I need to stay no matter what i stay faithful for 10 years wasted years of my life! Im done then! My pick me mom says pray to God ask forgiveness be humble and stay with him! 😂I appalled!!!! It makes me realize the only person i can trust is my myself and what im doing is the best for me! They just saying that to avoid shame for our family what about men??? I cut contacts with my family and live my best life! I stay away from people who don’t have high self esteem! All my pick me ways i lay it down! The please people in me i turn it offf and only be friends with people with abundance mindset!😂 the truth is ! You are your best friend! Trust no one but God! Even in the Bible dont trust chariots or horses nor any man! Ladies make a room in your heart to trust your choices! Trust that your making decisions to improved your life! Evaluate it too😂 so you won’t be blindsided! Know that you are beautiful fearfully wonderfully made no matter what!
thanks for the advice ive struggled all my life :(( i became ugly and talked to no one and just become shy
My abusive aunt 😂 I resemble her a lot during her prime, and she used to be proud of it when I was young, now as I got older I catch her seething when people compliment me in front of her (but especially from men). These people are truly miserable on the inside, and that makes them ugly.
It's hard to fathom someone's is jealous of me
GIRLLL if you can watch love is blind habibi but especialllly the reunion - they go against a pretty girl and were sooo insecure and threatened its insane
I really think this is why I always had a hard time getting jobs. 😢💔 I'm here to work and that's it and I'm a good worker. Women can be so catty lol I'm just interested in working.
this was such a well made video with heaps of good advice well done!
You never miss 💯
I love your laugh! it's so satisfying to hear, got that classy vibe to it!
Thank you so much for this. I feel so seen!!!!!!
Im glad i found this page ♥️
I had a lot of problems including genetic mental illness. Mental illness doesn't discriminate. Beautiful women can suffer from mental illness too! Depression OCD bpd. Been through it all
And not to mention those certain types of men who will get with you and during the relationship if or when you have a
Lackadaisical time, they won’t tell you when you look a hot mess or encourage your self care!, whether or not if you’re going out or even staying in with them, all bc they lack self confidence and it makes them less insecure knowing you not looking your best! Which is sad asf!. They’ll even go as far as to try to discourage you putting effort into your appearance saying things like “you don’t need this or lashes etc” knowing damn well they just threatened by when you make yourself up and doll up. It’s all subtle and over a period of time you don’t even recognize how you haven’t been taking as much care of yourself as you used to! Those men are a danger to women! And will allow you to waste your (beauty potential)!. It’s a thing yes!, you’ll never be at your best self with them!, your most presentable, bc they know pretty privilege is real and they don’t want you to wield your power to the fullest!. That’s why a lot of women glow up after they leave those men.
This was my ex. I didn't realize it was one of the ways he abused me until years after I left. So sad how men can have evil intentions as such
I really need to heal and humble myself it's hard sometimes
Congrats on 10k!! Omgg
I went through a lot of trauma too. Someone said to me looking at you i thought ahe doesn't have any problems.
I'm not a fan but I don't understand the hate toward her. She doesn't need media training or to be humbled. She just seems very self-aware and comfortable in her skin, which is something more people could learn to have for themselves. It's also the a lot of the women who do hate her seem to be older, because once again we think that younger women are the problem, when the problem is Patriarchy.
yessss u know about emdr and psychosomaticsss, this is why you're so great!!!!
Baby!!! I didn't even watch the video! Just read the title and I am this way for a reason! Women and men have tried to humble me!! I agreee!! And I come off stuck up idc!!
girl I just came here for some tea on Tyla but in the end it became the therapy session I needed 😂
I had this one friend who would always make these passive aggressive comments and try to put me down whenever she could. She would tell me that im self entitled, that im embarrassing for dancing and having fun, that the people id have fun with are not my real friends.
But now I get it, I was always laughing, talking to anyone and moving carefree. While she was on antidepressants and did nothing but lay in bed all day. She was jealous, she wanted what I have.
The biggest curse that turned out to be a blessing was a narc mom and being an empath…. I never liked the way she acted so I never adopted it …I also never allowed her to mess w me … having to always show myself that what she was doing was about her made me be exactly like what you describe for as long as I can remember… an ex tried to gather a group of people to talk about me i called them
My fan club and him the president ….my confidence is not an act, it’s based on everything that I learned and taught myself ….consequently I CAN DO ANYTHING!!! - and anything I choose not to do is EXACTLY that …because I can do anything….who cares if they hate …. True friends cheer weird bitches get close to you to betray you ….I will legit tell them ANYTHING …absolute rubbish ….and wait for it to come back ….and laugh…. Women are only bad if you allow them near you - some men are jokers too they can’t knock you down a peg … 😂😂😂 … you can’t knock down what you didn’t build
U speak nothing but facts. I can tell u’ve dealt with some shii in life and I relate to that. Just so happening to be pretty is a gift that we have/had to learn to use to our advantage. Becuz no matter what we say, do, or been through, ppl are always gonna hate. But yeah nothing u ain’t already said! Rly just came to comment becuz I’ve been noticing a lot of copy cat channels on RUclips lately but none are as real and genuine as you. I absolutely LOVE ur channel🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 It’s been helping me alot
Hurt people hurt others
I'm lucky that I came from a fairly happy healthy home and also had beauty. I'm so sorry you didn't have a healthy upbringing. May God bring you healing.
Yes, I am going to be old someday, and I’m still gonna be finer than you… what’s your point? 😊
You can’t humble me …. I’ve had haters all my life …. Realize haters are your biggest fans
Great topic!! Thanks ❤
I constantly feel like I have to downplay my looks to be more like able to others
Love the way you laugh 👏🏿👏🏿😂😳
Many women don't really try to text me and post me on their socials when after we went out... But i always get compliments on my looks and personality so i don't understand why this happens
5:19 the same thing happened to me in high school
Educationing myself working on my confidence
Many pretty girls are bullied for being pretty.
Yeah that is true ,it can be painful ,but to be fair unattractive women have it worse
@@ChiamakaLilian-b2q I would agree but I've been unattractive and attractive and it never stopped me in life either way. I had a great personality though and was a real happy positive person. Got bullied for both but at the end of the day you can't let people bring you down
28:25 "Whole lotta playing victim and a villain at the same time" 😂
I had this girl try and ambush me she wanted me to put hands on her. We were ex friends and just started talking back after 13 years. It’s was crazy I literally seen the devil in her eyes.
Love this video 👏🏽👏🏽