Also lastly: have fun. Everything doesn’t have to be deep. Every connection doesn’t have to be deep. Enjoy people in the moment. That’s what life is about. People don’t need to know you on a deep level for you to connect and have fun with them. Enjoy them in the moment
This part the missing piece. Often people miss this critical point, for this to work and not become addicted external validation, you need two things: Personal interests Actively, intentionally, and consistently satisfy the personal need for understanding You understand yourself fully and work to do so it creates a regular standard and bar and fills that need so others can’t inflate their value by feeling or feigning “understanding you”
1. dont look at your phone, keep your head high act like a somebody, they are not better than you, its just your insecruity speaking at a social event DO NOT isolate yourself and be in a corner (being uncomfortable and looking akward will repel people to talk to you) The more socialable you look, the more people will want to be social with you (introduce yourseld, strike a convo) 2. Master the art of SMALL TALK when you are in a social environment, you need to learn how to work the room observe the dynamics (who is leading the convos, who is approachable, where you might naturally fit in) try to lean towards people who are conversational and have good social skils dont be 2 eager but be open, don't be desperate 3. make them feel important (but not too much) people love to talk about themselves listen more than you talking try to show geniune body language mirror body language and match energy/vibe name drop in conversations (it was great talking to you [name]) (I got too lazy and didn’t finish 😭)
Girl you’re helping me heal. I come from a family of models, singers, actresses. My mom was a beauty pageant queen and won the national title. I grew up in this patriarchal, upper class environment and rebelled strongly against it all my life. But at the same time I had problems making authentic friendships in this “authentic” environment I was craving for, always used and people become jealous of what I have. I blamed myself, never feeling good enough. Until I realized that it’s not me, it’s the world around me puts so much emphasis on how I look, THEY value my looks and make it a thing, always saying something about my appearance even though I feel humble about myself and try to bring myself down to their levels. This society forces me to play the game… it doesn’t matter what you do as a woman, it’s never right. So I Might as well win the game. Thank you, gonna order your book. Greetings from Amsterdam
PLEASE do a video about how to socialise in college and build a social circle, especially if the classmates already know about my existence but we've never talked before 🙏🏼
Appreciate the thoughts. I'm an introvert (with looks) who recently moved to NYC and I have a lot of trauma - these are great reminders on how to cultivate power as you establish a network
I love this video ! Thank you for this ! I used to think why do I have to do this ? And I see alot of people think that it’s sad that you can’t “be yourself” and we all just be genuine and accept each other . But let’s be real with human nature, plus do you really want a group of strangers to know everything about you when you walk into a room? I’m learning to appreciate networking because it’s good to take your time with people. This is great business advice !!
Her video is helpful for those of us who are introverted at maintaining social skills that we would otherwise lose if we didn't practice them, which actually leads to isolation, suffering, and isn't safe. I think her suggestions help us to know how to control the amount of attention we get and manage it rather than feel like we have no choice but to hide it in order to protect it. I can relate because I have a career that requires having an open heart and offering empathy. So social situations used to feel draining--that is until I learned how to distribute my energy, control my energy output, and also harness energy. We've entered the Age of Aquarius. This is no longer the time for introverts to be loners or avoid social situations. It's time to gain more social skills even if you are a person who recharges alone. Think about it---having only one power source (in this case, being alone) leaves you more vulnerable to when that power source isn't as available. And in our near future, alone-ness will become increasingly more scarce.
I would caution against doing all of this all the time because you’re going to come off as inauthentic and people can tell. For example continuously using someone’s name, everyone is aware of that trick now. Don’t take on peoples beefs or drama but trying to remain completely neutral will reveal who you are. Doing too much of this will make you come across as fake and a square with no real personality and people will know. There will come a day where people realize you are fake. Most of this is still great advice, just don’t overdo it and still have some edge or personality.
I do not mean continuously use their name. lol that’s just weird. Remaining neutral is best for acquaintances. This video is about networking and surface level relationships
Those tips are very useful indeed; but it hurts to know that we need to follow all these rules, accept gossip but don't gossip ourselves, be guarded, while other people may run around saying absolutely whatever they want (including politic talk) and we just need to sit there and nod.
I wish your channel had existed and that I had heard this information when I was a teenager. Seriously, as an attractive, talented, and ambitious woman who grew up in a highly patriarchal and narcissistic family system, ALL your information has been SO HELPFUL. Bella (do you go by Bella or Bellazi?), you are very well-researched on these particular topics. Sending you lots of love 🫂👑❤🔥
I absolutely loved this video. Really needed this advice! ❤ Btw, is there a way to join your discord server? The link you provided says it’s no longer working 🥲
What happens if you show up to an event and experience micro agression from most of the people you interact with? How do you maneuver that with these goals?
As an introvert who has spent wayyyy to much time inside I'll admit, this video felt quite daunting. Only means its something I've 100% have to jump right into. Very informative
I like your videos and I feel like most of the time you give good content 😊 however be careful as some of the things you have described can apply to autism
Glow Getter Guide Book:
a.co/d/c4arE62
Trauma Dump Journal
a.co/d/jd9Muyf
Discord: discord.gg/73tC7dAVgT
Also lastly: have fun. Everything doesn’t have to be deep. Every connection doesn’t have to be deep. Enjoy people in the moment. That’s what life is about. People don’t need to know you on a deep level for you to connect and have fun with them. Enjoy them in the moment
This! 🎉
This part the missing piece. Often people miss this critical point, for this to work and not become addicted external validation, you need two things:
Personal interests
Actively, intentionally, and consistently satisfy the personal need for understanding
You understand yourself fully and work to do so it creates a regular standard and bar and fills that need so others can’t inflate their value by feeling or feigning “understanding you”
This is great advice. This whole video and channel! I needed to hear this. Subscribed 🔥🖤
1.
dont look at your phone, keep your head high
act like a somebody, they are not better than you, its just your insecruity speaking
at a social event DO NOT isolate yourself and be in a corner (being uncomfortable and looking akward will repel people to talk to you)
The more socialable you look, the more people will want to be social with you (introduce yourseld, strike a convo)
2.
Master the art of SMALL TALK
when you are in a social environment, you need to learn how to work the room
observe the dynamics (who is leading the convos, who is approachable, where you might naturally fit in)
try to lean towards people who are conversational and have good social skils
dont be 2 eager but be open, don't be desperate
3.
make them feel important (but not too much)
people love to talk about themselves
listen more than you talking
try to show geniune body language
mirror body language and match energy/vibe
name drop in conversations (it was great talking to you [name])
(I got too lazy and didn’t finish 😭)
Girl you’re helping me heal. I come from a family of models, singers, actresses. My mom was a beauty pageant queen and won the national title. I grew up in this patriarchal, upper class environment and rebelled strongly against it all my life. But at the same time I had problems making authentic friendships in this “authentic” environment I was craving for, always used and people become jealous of what I have. I blamed myself, never feeling good enough. Until I realized that it’s not me, it’s the world around me puts so much emphasis on how I look, THEY value my looks and make it a thing, always saying something about my appearance even though I feel humble about myself and try to bring myself down to their levels. This society forces me to play the game… it doesn’t matter what you do as a woman, it’s never right. So I Might as well win the game. Thank you, gonna order your book. Greetings from Amsterdam
As a 21 year old planning on moving to nyc for my career & networking this video has gifted a lot of guidance and confidence 🖤 thank you so very much
Best of luck! ❤️❤️
@@BellazziEnt same to you, thank u!!❤️❤️❤️
PLEASE do a video about how to socialise in college and build a social circle, especially if the classmates already know about my existence but we've never talked before 🙏🏼
This channel is GOLD. Keep it up!
This is so helpful and it’s actually specific advice lol. All these other girls js repeat the same ish this is so refreshing
lol you’re teaching us how to be ✨demure✨ 😌
Yes! Very Demure...Very Mindful 😊💫
Appreciate the thoughts. I'm an introvert (with looks) who recently moved to NYC and I have a lot of trauma - these are great reminders on how to cultivate power as you establish a network
Wish you the best queen
I love this video ! Thank you for this ! I used to think why do I have to do this ? And I see alot of people think that it’s sad that you can’t “be yourself” and we all just be genuine and accept each other . But let’s be real with human nature, plus do you really want a group of strangers to know everything about you when you walk into a room? I’m learning to appreciate networking because it’s good to take your time with people. This is great business advice !!
Nope I’m introverted, I need a lot of alone time. And also my energy is scarce. Not all people get access to me. To each is own.
I was about to comment the same thing lol. Too much attention drains me lol. I much prefer to be mysterious. I'm polite but not everyone's friend .
Her video is helpful for those of us who are introverted at maintaining social skills that we would otherwise lose if we didn't practice them, which actually leads to isolation, suffering, and isn't safe. I think her suggestions help us to know how to control the amount of attention we get and manage it rather than feel like we have no choice but to hide it in order to protect it. I can relate because I have a career that requires having an open heart and offering empathy. So social situations used to feel draining--that is until I learned how to distribute my energy, control my energy output, and also harness energy. We've entered the Age of Aquarius. This is no longer the time for introverts to be loners or avoid social situations. It's time to gain more social skills even if you are a person who recharges alone. Think about it---having only one power source (in this case, being alone) leaves you more vulnerable to when that power source isn't as available. And in our near future, alone-ness will become increasingly more scarce.
I have put a major guard over myself, I find it hard to even be social.😭
I understand
This is GOLD. Accept this as your shortcut; take it from one who knows...
I'm filling out my Glow Getter book. This is a perfect listen. ❤
Yesss! Thank you for supporting ❤️❤️
I love your channel so much. Keep it up!!!
Thank you so much!!
definitely my path
This is helpful for my neurodivergent brain. Thank you!
My brain just grew so much omg
Thank you so much for this video it’s so critical for us awkward girlies who overthink so much !! Definitely going to practice this from now 💖
You are so welcome girlie ❤️❤️
This was some realllll shittt. Thank you for this as I just started a new job today with mostly white ppl and it’s giving me some good advice !
Excellent advice here, thank you❤
Glad it was helpful! ❤️
Thanks this was needed.
Keep these coming ❤
You just gave the ladies Gems 💎 ❤
I would caution against doing all of this all the time because you’re going to come off as inauthentic and people can tell. For example continuously using someone’s name, everyone is aware of that trick now. Don’t take on peoples beefs or drama but trying to remain completely neutral will reveal who you are. Doing too much of this will make you come across as fake and a square with no real personality and people will know. There will come a day where people realize you are fake. Most of this is still great advice, just don’t overdo it and still have some edge or personality.
I do not mean continuously use their name. lol that’s just weird. Remaining neutral is best for acquaintances. This video is about networking and surface level relationships
And you can still show your personality while doing all of this
Do not ever show up to any social event by yourself!! Have a friend go with you!!!
Those tips are very useful indeed; but it hurts to know that we need to follow all these rules, accept gossip but don't gossip ourselves, be guarded, while other people may run around saying absolutely whatever they want (including politic talk) and we just need to sit there and nod.
I think you misunderstood the video love
This is more for surface level relationships
These are all very important and informative tips!
This is good advice
I love your channel ❤
more eyes needa see this account boo i’ve watched sooo many of these, soooo helpful!!!!❤️❤❤❤
Love this
What type of events do we attend ?
What are your goals? Based on your goals choose which events are beneficial for your life
@@BellazziEntcould you maybe make more content on benefits you can get from different events/different kinds of socialites, etc?
I wish your channel had existed and that I had heard this information when I was a teenager. Seriously, as an attractive, talented, and ambitious woman who grew up in a highly patriarchal and narcissistic family system, ALL your information has been SO HELPFUL. Bella (do you go by Bella or Bellazi?), you are very well-researched on these particular topics. Sending you lots of love 🫂👑❤🔥
I absolutely loved this video. Really needed this advice! ❤
Btw, is there a way to join your discord server? The link you provided says it’s no longer working 🥲
Thanks for supporting love. Here is the link: discord.gg/WDbxvddh
@@BellazziEnt Thank you! ❤️
showing up to the ball with my real face on 😢
What happens if you show up to an event and experience micro agression from most of the people you interact with? How do you maneuver that with these goals?
Talk to the people that are open to talking to you
As an introvert who has spent wayyyy to much time inside I'll admit, this video felt quite daunting. Only means its something I've 100% have to jump right into. Very informative
Your videos are the best
Great tips❤
Yes all of it
wow more viddeos like this please and thank tou for your efforts
Thank you ❤
Idk I feel like it’s so much work lol and it’s hard if you come from a conservative family that watch your every move.
We need to move out from our toxic household
I like your videos and I feel like most of the time you give good content 😊 however be careful as some of the things you have described can apply to autism
💜💜💜
Kim Kardahsian and Addison Rae do this par excellent!!!! excelent!!!!
Lol no thanks
First 😅❤
Hi Sloane ❤️❤️🥰
Great video lots of useful info