You Know You're Dating a SWEDISH Man When...
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- Опубликовано: 22 июн 2022
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From the Fika to the awkwardness, to the binge drinking to the equality.. This is what it's like to date a Swede! Are you Swedish, dating a Swedish man? How true are these points for you?
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I had so much fun writing and creating this episode! 🇸🇪 Now a question:
After this video, do you feel you are compatible with Swedish men?
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If I was a woman absolutely no. Life is just one and I prefer to live my life together with someone that makes me surprises and have a lot of passion. But it's a good thing that they share the home duties
The Swedish that doesn’t drink= 👍🏾
I am not one for surprises, Netflix and chill is super cool for me too.
No way am I compatible with Swedish men. No thanks! Give me a Polish guy instead. I loved your vid on Polish man.
Ohhh sure. Ja. Jag vill det.
I'm a swedish woman married to a swedish man, he was too romantic for me at the beginning (I don't like flowers, jewlery or other akward things like dinners at restaurants) I told him to stop so he did.😅 He still buy me presents but things I want and need.
The alcohol-thing is so true (I don't drink myself because I don't like the taste or the effect) but most adult people around me like to binge-drink alkohol at the holidays and some weekends sometimes.
And the coffee, don't like that either, but almost every adult drink that here (I drink pepsi instead).
Swedish men are portrayed like a random friendly NPC in a video game. Passive, unexpressive, non-conversational, casual, etc.
Hahahahahhaha NPC so accurate
Hahahah! I love that you said NPC, Swedish men are for sure all those qualities you mentioned.
Yes most things in the vid checks out.
Is this video realistic though? Are men there really like that?
Youre all just NPCs in my Game
This is hilarious, I showed this to my Swedish boyfriend and he laughed too because when we met first I thought he didn't like me, because he ignored all the signs I gave that I'm interested. But 3 drinks in he comes up to me and says "You have nice glasses"
glasses? 🤓
🤓
R u a muslim
I think your signs weren't clear enough. Less signs and more direct words is better.
@@auguaauaguga6517 wtf does that have to do with anything
I recently met a Swede and he is absolutely like this! Hilarious XD And this girl is super cute and funny. She really nailed the awkwardness of situations
Thank you so much, Dina! They did a great job making this video :)
The chemistry and the timing with these both of them were perfection!
@@AdorableOracle Thank you so much!!!
good luck with that lmao
So über cute, I love this scene! Genuinely, I think first impressions he's mostly a gentleman (except them both going back to his place 🙃.)
Keep it light and never go home with the date - especially a stranger (essentially.)
Date with purpose ✅, love grows and blossoms 💕.
Fika is cool 🆒 😌☮️💬🗨️🇸🇪. What a state of mind!
#staycool 😎
#Scandinavian
#Swedishculture
basically, sounds like the worst nightmare for dates: awkward silences, bland conversation, no spark 🙂
Totally agree. Greek here and this is my worst nightmare.
Makes it look like they're little boys emotionally. Can't be accurate.......
My kind of guy! Extroverted guys just make me feel tired!
They make it seem like we dont even know words exist. lol
This is actually might be kind of refreshing to experience....my culture has wayyyy too many "sparks"
Me, being a Swedish woman with Swedish parents, born and raised here:
- Dislikes the hookup culture
- Rarley drinking alcohol and partying
- Not really a coffee drinker
- Is not afraid of socializing/speaking/interacting with strangers, even though I'm good at small talking, I prefer deep conversations
- Questioning some behaviors and cultural peculiarities
You can imagine I feel like an Alien in my own country. 😂👽
haha i know how you feel :D
you should come to Denmark then :P
Not born but raised in Sweden
- Love Volvo 740 and "raggarkultur"
- Drinking and partying almost every weekend
- Hate interacting with strangers unless i'm drunk xD
what is the hookup culture like in Sweden/
@@Rex1987 I would really like to go to Denmark again.
I've been there once when I was a child in Bilund at Legoland. That was spectacular. And once in Hälsingör. Would love to visit Copenhagen every now and then or other places.
If it wasn't for the language, I would probably live there. Or I would learn Danish, but in the beginning it takes so much energy trying to processing what people are saying, but that goes for other languages as well.
Norwegian is more easy. Could communicate both with people speaking nynorsk and bokmål, using some Norwegian words.
@@panda-ix1xz Hmm.. I would say people tend to be relaxed and not so unfamiliar with sexual encounter at parties and other occasions where sex is acceptable, or rather is expected. When it comes to dating, sex is, in my experience (with a few exceptions) expected and people (men) seem to hurry with intimate situations. I really dislike that, a lot. It's like sex is more important than getting to know each other.
We are both too awkward for a fika date 😂🇸🇪
Thanks for having me in your video 💙
A perfect duo in the most awkward date ever 😂🇸🇪 Thanks for taking part!!
You were great!
Thank you so much, Sean!!
You guys did great, it was very funny
Thank you so much!!! @BruhMcChaddeus
I’m Swedish and Finnish. My parents have a cooking schedule. One day it will be my mom the next it will be my dad. They both share the chores and believe it or not it is very efficient. They get them done faster so they have more time to themselves. Although the first part everyone is passive towards each other. From my experience if you really want to date us skip the small talk and get into deep meaningful conversations.
I believe it: I'm Italian and my husband and I do the same (actually he cooks for our son for lunch and I for dinner, since I work at lunchtime)
But how can you have a deep, meaningful conversation if swedes are unwilling to converse in the first place?
@@Kminaninrevilo patience
What is your take about Finnish men?
@@smileforhiba It’s not that all different quiet and reserved and like the other Nordic countries their independence. Don’t except grand gestures from them. If you’re too friendly you’ve just killed any likeliness with that person. Also don’t expect smiles or small talk. Be prepared for cold shoulders from everyone. A lot of Nordic people give the cold shoulder to people everyone. Also be prepared for drinking and lots of alcohol. You also don’t try to strike up a conversation with a stranger otherwise you will get a dirty look. Being loud is also frowned upon. I also don’t recommend getting to close to someone and don’t go up to someone and smile. It is also extremely difficult to get in social circles.
Italian woman + Swedish man would be maybe the worst or funniest match in history
Felix and Marzia
Lol korean woman + swedish man would be awful
Thank you kind person,you just gave me the urge to write a comedy about that
arab woman+swedish man= ❤good😂😢
@@yoleeisbored may I ask why? Im a swedish man and live with a korean woman "LOL"
I am Canadian and married to a Swedish man and live in Sweden. when I first met him I had to make all the moves. He kind of ignored me which made me want him more.
He also is very passive and we don’t fight and have such a easy relationship. It’s very true that most Swedes keep to themselves but become the friendliest of people when they are drunk. You can become best friends, but then when you see them at the store or something they almost act like they don’t know you. It’s so hard to make friends!!
Do you think girls want Men they are ignore them
Wow he seems very weak and passive. That would be a nightmare for me but I do like to conquer a challenge lool
Oh, wow... That would really bother me. That's considered extremely rude in my country.
@@ayaebony4461 Passiveness has nothing to do with weakness. Most swedish men I know is very tough and their also very hostile to strangers, that is the soul reason for being passive and not making any "moves"
@@ayaebony4461 passiveness is a common Scandinavian strategy/behavior, not a weakness. While you chill and enjoy a slow paced social flow, others not used to this usually acts out in social panicor urge to pace up/keep up the communication because they feel need of a certain flow. This often leads to you as the "chill out" getting more feedback than the "uninitiated" intended. If the counterpart is initiated they either chills out themselves to, and sometimes you take turns chatting back and forth.
If you try to dominate the social setting, you are likely not getting much more than nod as recognition for what you do.
Wow, you can really feel the chemistry between them…
😅😅😛😛
Oh dear it was awful 😂
Cutie 🤩
The sarcasm is strong in this one.....
@@gellawella they are doing a RUclips comedy sketch…since he’s non-negotiable (unless this RUclipsr has ten Swedish guy friends willing to act) they could’ve found someone with better chemistry with him
As a Brazilian girl, this is a nightmare lol
Pitching in as a Hispanic, 100000% agree. This is such a nightmare scenario.
You might speak Portuguese, but culturally wise... Brazil and the Hispanic portion of LatAm are nearly identical.
yep complete disaster, feminine man
As a north African it’s a nightmare to me as well
@@ohhsally2797
Mashallah, yes!!!
Scandinavians are so good looking, but so dull personality wise. They do make up for it in the music department, tho. 🤷🏻♀️
@@covfefe_drumpfh guuuurl we nee dat passion !!!
What I really like about the Swedes is that they are non confrontational and they hate drama. Swedes are indeed peaceful people and are civilised.
Ahahaha yesss I have a Swedish friend and as a Mexican we love to be updated on the tea and I would spill the tea and he would b like ????? 😂 and that affect me bc ? 😫😂😂
It also means that they are rarely telling the truth and you never know if they are bothered by something or they are fine with it. It's sooo much guessing and not knowing what anyone really thinks. I do like that everyone is friendly and very helpful, but I sense a bit of passive agresiveness. Sometimes its better to be open and have a conversation if things are in the air.
Yes try to approach a Swedish man during the weekend. They are aggressive, ignorant and rude, alcoholic.
I prefer 5 minutes of confrontation where the air gets cleared up, rather than 6 months of passive aggressive bullying because they never talk about their emotions, unless they’ve known you for over 10 years.
Who said they hate drama?? My Swedish bf rarely talks to me and always replies with one word even if I were to write an article.. But in reality once he see that I enjoy my time with friends he gets angry and ask with whom I am 🤣🤣 he doesn't give me any attention yet wants to isolate me from everyone
Im foreigner living In Sweden and its interesting to see the Swedish culture on this channel. I can relate to most of this. They seem friendly on the first hand but harder to be closer friends. It's easier for me to be friends with other emigrants than swedes but after long time it's possible haha. I haven't notice girls approaching guys here but maybe it's Swedish Swedish style. But still good video !
As a swede I would say that some people are like peaches. A soft outer layer and then a hard core that is really difficult to handle.
We swedes are more like a coconut. Hard on the outside but when, or if, you get through it, it's all just sweet insides.
@@smusk2006 well thats Depend of people. Swedes are friendly in first hand but I think you like have your own small group of true friends and for others is hard. But that depends on where you live in Sweden
@@smusk2006 lol nope ,you are peaches
In denmark girls approach me a lot, i would assume it's same in sweden
@@smusk2006 coconut is my favorite fruit 😋
People giving it hate need to realize swede men are more “ideal” for their own women. Sure they might not match your type but for their own women, They do. Its suppose to be just a light video but people giving the guy so much hate lol I am not even .001% swede
I like watching the "You're dating a ________ man if..." and the "You're dating a ________ woman if..." back to back and imaging them together. If there was a "You know you are dating a Swedish woman if..." video, I would try to imagine the Swedish man dating a Swedish woman. It would be interesting to imaging the man going on Fika with a Swedish woman who approached him.
And that's all that matters really
he doesn't seem too different from German guys so I think we'd get along swimmingly lol
Its ideal until you’ve meet ppl from other places😅
Well written my friend! If it didn’t work on our Swedish woman we would change our tactics.
I dated a Swedish man and it was awkward for me. I live in Austria now and it is similar here as well. There are exceptions. I find the more traveled someone is the easier it is to connect.
The pandemic hit right when I was finally going to head overseas and continue my German studies actually in Germany! And explore the world. It got canceled.😿So I'm still stuck in small-town California dreaming of going and getting involved with cool scholar-activists in Berlin and places like that. The logistics seem daunting.
as a swede who is also a traveller and have lived in 3 different countries, i agree. But this isnt a cultural thing for sweden, this is because you and I as travellers gain a different perespective of the world. We will never belong in any one country ever again, its both a blessing toi have multiple perspectives on life on this earth as it is challenging.
Spot on! As a sixty years old swedish man I can relate to most of it. It was me you portrayed.
This is the most hilariously awkward video in the series yet 😂 Love it!
My boyfriend is swedish and I love him sooooo much. He relates to many of the traits described in this video....but I appreciate deeply the positive ones, because they make life so enjoyable.
Haha I found one person with something positive to say
I'd write a petition for french, german and italian men to be re-done.
Why? Were they inaccurate?
@@BlueSwampyCraft the actors weren't THAT good... let's say that.
I sign for it.
I agree
I'm Swedish and this is 100% accurate. My boyfriend and I are always splitting household work evenly and our finances are also always split evenly.
Ewwww
So he’s your roommate?
@@ayaebony4461 With benefits
Does he make more than you?
@@ayaebony4461 Does splitting chores and economy make your partner a room mate?
I've never in my 30 years of life in Sweden gotten approached by a single woman unless she's very drunk 🤣
yea that one is pretty incorrect
It really depends if you are cute or not lol
Yeah... we are like folks at Iceland. They are next lvl on One Night stands ^^
I have had 3 long term relationships and in everyone of those the girl made the first move. But every story is different
If you're decent looking it will happen alot if you put yourself in situations where it's possible
I'm born and raised in Sweden, this is 100% accurate
my boyfreind is Half swedish half arab but he is %100 like arab man for dating woman and pay the bill and also he is with me for marriage not for fun
I just married a Swede and I can honestly agree that they are a fantastic nation who treats women and men equally. I wish all men were like Swedes!!
Even though Swedes are more forward with sex and dating, I disagree that beginning of dating is so dry and sex-based. But sure, dating a Scandinavian person probably means sex sooner than for other nations.
Swedes are wonderful life partners! 😍
Well that's interesting. But are Scandinavian men loyal like many German men
Dont wish that plz, it would be hell for many women to be feeling like men and paying for everything....too bad.
Thanks God my husband is a real man 😀
@@murkakurka5986 “a real man” lol so ridiculous
@@cotevallejos7230 what rediculous , responsible man who marries you before sleeping with you? Who can provide for you and your children regardless of whether u work or not? Who pays for all expenses including travelling? Who loves u on top of being a provider? Who is romantic? Who can go and fix your visa or car issues? Who carries heavy stuff for you? Who can also help u around the house? Who takes care of himself and looks great for u? Who respect your feelings? Who doesnt make u do anything? Who gives u a choice to work or not? Who doesn't drink or smoke?
Yeah all that I said sounds ridiculous.
And its not ridiculous for u to go for one night stand, get drunk and approach men, and split check as well as fixing your car and carrying heavy bags from supermerket 😀
@@murkakurka5986 Sounds like the past, and it sounds ridiculous .. Be careful with your words when defining people as "real men" or not ... it's very harmful.
Also,, are you dating your man for his person, or for what he provides for you?
As a girl who doesn't go to bars, hesitant to drink and mostly ambivert, I feel like dating in Sweden is going to be very difficult for me. I am usually quiet and love to observe rather than being involved, so approaching a guy first is a bit hard for me. But all the Swedish men I have come across so far and had a chance to have a conversation with, seemed amazing! They were expressive, polite and very friendly. Would love to date a Swedish if I had the opportunity!
yep me too. I'm very friendly though, so I don't mind approaching other people to talk. But this video makes me wonder... they won't make the first move but they also don't talk to strangers ?? How do they meet new people then lol
Girlfriend i thing yo just like me.. these people are strange.. live is boring to their side .. though they don't feel like
@@izmabelle We definitely talk to strangers if they are friendly and quite many of us makes the first move. Don't be afraid ladies.
@@izmabelle Nah....even though we might 'generally' don't make the 1st move or talk to strangers - it is not a rule in any way. We might be reserved - but not rude. Again - generally that is. ;-)
Also - at least if I'm to speak for myself....I feel like the Sun and sunlight plays a huge part in this whole 'debacle' (and lack thereof - it is 'dark' in Sweden/Scandinavia for like 8 months of the year! Buh...).
And I feel as if I get a lot more social in the summertime, or whenever I go abroad to a 'sunnier' country. The lack of sunlight really drains me of most of my 'social energy', so to speak...
And I'm quite sure it's not just me - since you can literally see how the entire social fabric changing whenever it's summer: most people 'lit up', loosen up and all of a sudden you can see people sitting close(r) to eachother, everywhere...like, sitting down to eat and/or drink (coffee, beer or anything else) outside suddenly 'blooms up' from nowhere, everywhere!
It is hard to describe if you haven't experienced it yourself, if not impossible.
Either way - the 'sun-thing' I just described, that surely isn't just my experience...(I've had friends coming from all over the world who 'reports' the same 'phenomenon' - after having lived here for a few years they, much to their own amazement say that they too start to 'hibernate' during the winters...wherever they're originally from! Not all of them, naturally - but many, if not most...).
But like I said - if you haven't lived and felt for yourself what the lack of sunlight does to your psyche...you just cannot understand it.
Well, this is at least my theory - that the weather/climate have played a huge part in shaping our cultural 'norms'.
Sis go to a swedish rave you will have fun ewen if you dont drink and bars and stuff basically you dont have to drink at al you can have non alcoholic drinks i have alot of friends that dont drink at al but we still go out and dance.
I'm Ukrainian, and my man is Swedish, I think this video is funny and somewhere, of course, true 🤣 i love him so much, i do not know its because he is from Sweden or no , but he is the best for me.
Girls , about gifts, just tell them the truth about what you want, and tell them that gifts or flowers are important to you, and you would like him to give them to you more often. Just talk to them more what you feel and want! They can't read your mind 😂 and newer newer ask him to buy you something like a surprise, just choose show and say straight when you don't say what you want, in most cases he will give you just a gift card, for hb and christmas 😂 it's funny but without hints, they don't understand it, but when you say what you want, you get 1000%
By the way , i do not think about extensive gifts anymore , i’m just enjoying our life together.
And, of course, they love to plan and do not make quick decisions.
P.s. so much love to Sweden and Swedish people from Ukrainian and to whole world who support us and help ❤️❤️🇺🇦🇸🇪❤️❤️
I'm Swedish and Ukrainian 😁
U 120% understand men. Best of luck to u and ur man.
l am Kurdish and he is Swedish Arab, but he is %100 like Arab man to treat woman as a queen, and also he treat me equal, and not with me for spending time and fun, he is with me for marriage cause he is muslim, l got best man in the world
If Scandinavians ran the world we'd run out of coffee.
*We'd be conquering the galaxy in search of more planets to grow coffee beans on
I'd fixed it for you.
@@Andersson203 😂😂😂haha I absolutely love this
Funny watching this video as a finnish person because everything just completely resonated with me aswell. No big birthday gifts, seeing everyone as equal, avoiding confrontation, sex not being taboo, dates being as casual AF, drinking changes personality. Yeah fully spot on
Of course I can’t consider this video to be 100% accurate in defining Swedish men, but based on what I’ve seen, they seem like great partners to have! Being casual and non-confrontational are pretty refreshing since it’s not exactly what I’m used to where I live. (Only thing I’m not a big fan of is the casual sex but that’s bc I’m Christian and I know the majority of Swedes aren’t religious so I can see why it’s not considered a big deal in Sweden)
I'm a Swedish woman and I definitely dislike hookups. I'm really anti this hookup culture, because I rarely drink alcohol, but I'm not religious. It just have made me more depressed because I need to connect to people and getting to know them first. Like, I would say, 99% just want to get into your pants. And it's just awkward, with this small talk and in general awkwardness. I could relate to this video because sadly, this is how most Swedish men are.
I stopped dating because of this. And plus, I don't have the energy for dating anyway. But yeah. Being a Swede, who isn't really feeling like a Swede, in Sweden. It's not easy. People are so individualistic, boring.
@@essp3688 kan relatera :/ 💗 har svårt att tänka mig att vara med en svensk man för jag älskar verkligen gentlemän som gör romantiska gester och är uttrycksfulla och passionerade haha!
@@essp3688 sounds like you’re demisexual? Meaning you need to have an emotional connection before having a sexual attraction to someone.
@@gellawella What? Why do people feel the need to just invent words to describe perfectly normal bonds.
@@essp3688 you have nothing to be sorry about yourself dear. You don’t want immediate gratification and that’s you. You own yourself and that’s a wonder ☺️
Norwegian woman here, this is hilarious! :D Love the videos, please keep them coming!
Is norway patriarchal? But its not outright visible. I expect a direct answer not a twisted manipulative one which can include you ‘teaching me who i am’
@@Me_di what the hell kind of drugs are you on, dude.
Truely enjoyed this episode. I've always enjoyed the "you know you're dating ______ men" segments featured on your channel. Pls make more such episodes featuring men from different regions. Really love the portrayals mostly 😊✨
They're easy on the eyes, but Swedes are the polar opposite of the type of guy I'd ever want to date based on this video. Thanks for the heads up! Edit: except for the herring. I love herring lol.
I’m a Canadian living in Sweden with a Swedish boyfriend. But before him, I was dating in Sweden . It’s a strange culture …and the part of not being confrontational- so true . My boyfriend is kinda passive
Awful,passive men are so unnatural to me
gross
Bitter girls in the comments...
@@Fistfury42 I love my boyfriend but the culture is kinda passive
I’m also a Canadian living in Sweden with a Swedish husband who is also very passive. We actually never fight and have a very easy relationship. It’s really nice!
The part of him writing the letter to the neighbors cracked me up! 😂 I am Brazilian and Brazilians can be very confrontational if we feel that something is wrong. I can be a confrontational bitch if I feel that someone is being unfair or inconsiderate. It'd be interesting to date a Swede. Brazilian culture and Swedish culture are basically the complete opposite 😜🤣
The opposite usually works :)… however same same is normally boring, would be like watching a mirror.
I'm Swedish and my uncle was married to a Brazilian woman. She made super tasty candy sometimes for Christmas, think it was condensed milk with something else.
@@okamimcegg I think you mean she did brigadeiro right?
@@leticiaaraujo2476 Maybe. I asked her what they were called, if it wasn't Brigadeiro, I think the word started with a D. They were delicious, though!
True! But i love brazileras!!! /swede
How can I stop watching this video again and again? Thanks for it! It's an amazing one!
I had no idea that I’m a swede actually. Thanks for helping me with understanding my nature
I was cringing so hard for that coffee date lol
As a Swedish man, I've been on more awkward dates. I honestly didn't see anything wrong with that one.
Bravo! Well done! I totally get the texting culture now. I write descriptively and he just says "Enjoy the day" or "Yes, I'm doing fine." Frustrating but I like this guy so much and for so long ,I just have to adapt. As for "drama" and the Swedish dislike of it, this is spot on too. Lovely video that shows some truths with kindness and humor. Kudos to everyone involved in this production!!! Best wishes from California.
I'm a swedish man, and I recognised everything in this video... good video, it shows that it is not always easy to be different from the rest of the world..
Different in that you want your women to get violated by brown immigrants while you watch
Swede here, I relate to a lot of these, but with platonic relationships. Most of my Swedish friends (out of the ones I know in real life) are terrible at responding, anti-social and shit at planning stuff when we want to hang out. Like... can't we just meet up and have a chat or some shit instead of having to plan activities? 😭 And they 4/5 times will cancel our plans of meeting up because they're tired, suddenly have guests, because their parents said something, or (if it's during school) because they already went home when they KNOW we were supposed to hang out. They piss me off.
Of course not all Swedes are like this, but it's true that most of us are non-confrontational and introverted. My Swedish online friends are pretty good at responding and showing that they care about my existence, though, lol.
But because I've grown tired of my Swedish irl friends, I started going to the foreigners instead when I started high school. They're definitely more social and the best people to go to if you're starved for social interaction and live in Sweden.
Mmm being honest it seems hard to navigate on it
As a Brazilian I could never🤣 it's like a nightmare. The cultures are so different but is good to see it! Great video
It is not that hard when you know about the differences, you just have to be more clear about what you want and not talk in riddles and be a tad more direct :)
Many Latinamerican women would find Swedish men boring but on the other side Swedish men are more loyal and more disciplined and honest then men from Latinamerica ( with exceptions) and many Latinas would have loved those personality traits among Swedish men . Swedish men also don't like to leave their kids when they get a divorce.
Obviously it is a generalization and there are a lot of exceptions. You have introverts and extroverts in all countries and cultures
@@benktlofgren4710no latina can be with a swede ,waaay too different
@@SRBOMBONICA86 Now i want Latina just cuz of it :)
Most “Brazilians” are Europeans themselves, so that’s kinda funny, but that’s southern Europe for you
Swedish people here in Paris were pretty upbeat and extroverted.
Ask them about smelly fish. You will have great conversation. Trust me.
Extroverted people make me tired. So the swedish and norwegian guys shall be for me
It's usually the Swedes that are very extroverted that moves to another country that suit their personality better
Swedish gal here 😊 loved the vid, very cute and very accurate in my opinion. Would like to add one little thing tho, if you want gifts or surprises, just tell him. And ask him what he likes 😊 what makes him feal appreciated.
Being a Czech, I have to admit, that we're really similar to Swedes. We are also shy, when want to approach a girl. Our 🍺🍺🍺 are helped us with it. Men and women are really equal here too. Women usually pay themselves because they are confident and also they don't feel obligated to you. Czech men are good in the kitchen and are able to prepare meal. At least me and my friends can. (Only I don't prefer IKEA like a shop for furniture.)
Maybe there is a little different in dating place in Czechia. On date we like walking to the nature or walking around the city and after walking we go to the pub (in nature special to a pub on the top of hill) or do some picnic in city-park or on the river bank, where you can feel more romantic. And most people are conflict-free and non-confrontational.
Swedes have been always sympathetic to me. Swedish women are smart and beautiful as well 😘. Nice video, greetings from 🇨🇿.
Czech people are a lot more traditional than Swedes. I don't know what are you talking about. And you are a lot more confrontational and racist.
You must live in a parallel Czechia or being only on your phone all the time. Then guess...
That note should be way more aggressive, haha. Angry notes are like our national sport, unsigned of course 😆
I love the awkward music! It blends so well with this awkward dude 😂😂
Oh wow, I have been so waiting for this!!! You are so on point, I met a Swedish guy (moons ago)who swore he was into me, but he behaved exactly like this.
It is great to know that the way he acted is partly due his character which would have frustrated fiery me to no end:)
Thank you for bringing my favorite DATING BEYOND BORDERS series back by the way...
Swedish men are perhaps exactly what I need 😂 I’m very introverted. I usually approach men first when they’re too shy to. I love coffee. I do drink a little whiskey every night but I wouldn’t want alcohol to become an issue in a relationship. I don’t like drunk men and drunk behavior. I like quiet, stern men. Sounds good to me. 😂
Just approach them way before closing time and you be alright 😂
LOL, this is 100% accurate for us. Well done.
I really enjoyed this video. They're sweet people. The equality part is truly important. 😊
What a beautiful pair of people and good actors as well!
thank you so much!!! :)
damn I guess we are just empty shells with no feelings except our crazy love for herring, hoping to one day get chosen by a woman who will accept an eternity of coffe dates because we are to cheap for dinner dates except when it's herring day on ikea ofc.😂
Not going to lie, it didn’t spark much excitement, but I’ve been living in a more patriarchal chauvinistic society these past years, and I’d gladly trade any dinner dates and grand gestures for cheap coffee dates if it’s with a non chauvinistic man that can take care of himself and treats a woman as his equal. I’d prefer slightly more passionate and romantic relationships than portrayed here, but being respected wins in the end.
😂😂😂 the sarcasm
And it’s not like this? I think all my girl friends had to make the first move on the guys, otherwise nothing happens (if you’re not at a party where they are drunk of course). I don’t know, it seems like you have to be more aggressive as a woman here to get a man, and it’s not really so attractive to me.
@@XGoldenPhoenixX So that's why Nordic women have this hunter vibe. They're scary lol
@@helloworld7818 hahahaa yes XD haha! I don’t though, but I think Swedish men prefer the aggressive hunter girls, maybe they are just used to it haha, I don’t know.
Can you do a video about dating a Maori girl/ boy please? I would love to see my culture included
That would be very interesting to see
You dated ma cuz brah?
Yes! Also dating a Native American or First Nations! Some representation would be neat!!
@@elliewuzzup7689 there are different Native cultures and customs to do one video
"low investment messages" lol I'm dating a Swedish man and this is pretty accurate haha..
To be honest, her response was kinda short and didn't show any kind of interest except a response. A normal Swedish man believes she was not that interested in a conversation after a response like that.
A kind reply just not to ghost.
i really love the actress acting. her awkwardness is just really cute. she’s really gorgeous too
Thank you so much, Raynaldo!!
This was AMAZING! Been looking forward to this video for so long. LOVE LOVE LOVE Sweden and anything related to it. Thank you!!!
You are welcome!!
I was waiting a long time for this and it was really good. I don't think the relationship portrayed here would last, but the scenarios were amusing.
Bro i was waiting for this video for about two year😯 So finally i can watch it❤🇸🇪
I have both a swedish boyfriend and swedish friends. My boyfriend was nothing like this (except fika) when we dated. He took me out on a restaurant, bought me flowers etc. But I recognize the slow messaging with one of my swedish friends lol. It can be annoying. I am Norwegian though, I find swedish men to be abit more reserved in general and more careful/polite if they approach you, than norwegian men (many swedes in Oslo where I live). But other than that there is many similarities. Also from my experience, if Swedish men approach you here they usually starts with telling you are beautiful, and if you want to go for a coffee (fika) 😅. So that one seems true.
very true! very well made Marina!! Merci!!
Actually I’m watching this video only for her :) Her jokes and face expressions are perfect👏
thank you for the amazing compliment!! 😄
I dated a swede and we didn’t work out. I must say the cultural differences were too big, we were polar opposite in every aspect but due to that I guess it was an interesting experience overall. I can definitely relate to the video. My best advice would be that if you’re from a different culture and want to date a swede, you might want to bear in mind the cultural differences and prepare for them prematurely because depending on where you’re from this crucial factor could come into play in your future relationship.
Where are you from and what were the biggest differences?
@@pcelicamaja1713 I’m from Russia. We had different views on literally everything: way of life, family and household organisation, dating, politics etc. I don’t come from a super traditional background but Russia as a whole is still a vastly traditional country so now you can imagine what kind of differences we had. And in general, I knew nothing about Scandinavian way of life, minimalistic, practical, individualistic, progressive. So, if you’re into gentlemanly manners, courting like in romances with knights and all that, this is not your guy.
@@Zhanetta18 what was the main reasonn it didnt workout ?
LMAO I am a sweden and I LOST it at the passive agressive note! so true.
Amazing timing since I'm going to Sweden next week
After watching this video as a Swede I agree with almost everything mentioned in the video. Laughed so much about the note thing, from time to time this appears in the entrance of an apartment building from an annoyed neighbour and usually the problem is then solved. Also about responding the text message, this is very individual but I can easily take several hours to a day before responding and I know several of my male friends are the same.
Though something I did not agree about is that Swedish men are represented as being awkward or quite for a long period of time. It really depends on the chemistry and if the person is comfortable but also individual characteristics. Most people here is actually very talkative when you get to know them but if they are not then it’s also ok and not seen as a problem.
And btw fika in this context is seen as a moment to get to know each other and how well you fit and enjoy talking to each other. This date looks very awkward and i would consider them not a great fit.
Thanks for a great video, would be fun if there also was one for Swedish women!
they made one about Swedish women like 2 years ago. check on their channel 👍
I didn't expect to meet such an amazing woman like you, its a great honored I came across your comment. You look interesting. So I said to myself I had to know you.
That is so funny. Could you do more Skandinavian content, please?
I am Swedish,
But I am not following every tradition and custom, just because my forefathers or society does so.
I am not a parrot. I follow my own path. I judge life decions from a moral perspective, instead of copying everything other people do.
I am a human being. And thinking from myself, gets me further in life, then doing something a certain way, just because that make me "Swedish".
Cool
@@AsandaMahlangu Did I offend you?
I knew there would be someone out there who would be at least triggered again. You got something to say? Say it.
I won't judge you. We don't have to be friends or enemies, we can just talk and be respectful and exchange ideas.
Learn about each other.
I trust more people who follow their path and navigate with morality, ethics. Who think for themselves and are able to think out of the box. That means, you can not be easy fooled, coerced, pushed, only because 'everyone does it or thinks this way'. It is even dangerous to not think for yourself and being a parrot, sheep who follows the herd. It could result in a disaster really.
Thank you for your honest post.
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This video is so fun! I always wondered what Swedes are like!
As a latina, I don't know if a swedish man would be for me then :( lol. I like romance.
I think the most romantic gesture is a partner who's been cleaning and cooking when you come home from a long day at work. /Swede
Somebody who can dance, is spontaneous and has a gentle heart towards life's creatures. So yeah, my preferences can be found in every culture :D
Better stick to latinos than
@@Fanniiiy no,omg no
@@SRBOMBONICA86 Just because you wanna be a housewife darling doesn't mean all women want that.
I know that many Swedish men are like this but not all. I am very confident in the first step, romantic and very social.
Not all Swedish men are the same as in this video.
Im a swede and also I can confirm that this is super common and 100% accurate about swedish men! Its rare to find someone Who isnt like this :/
The last two tips are a good deal! Congrats guys! I love the fika date, I don't think silence is awkward.
I didn't expect to meet such an amazing woman like you, its a great honored I came across your comment. You look interesting. So I said to myself I had to know you.
As an American woman, this kind of sounds like me!
I’m very reserved and hate confrontation. It takes a VERY long time to get to know me on a deep level. I feel like relationships should be equal.
Great video! I love watching your channel…I subscribed a while ago!
hello
If the salaries is somewhat equal for sure, being a backpack or a house man/wife ain't that hot nowadays.
I got second hand awkwardness from these two 😂 They are both quite attractive, but their interactions are painful to watch 😂
We are an awkward pair for sure 🤣
@@sabrinaknappett you're beautiful 🥰
@@lajellybeans thank you so much!
I agree, they both they did such a great job portraying the awkawrdness 🤣👌 The acting was amazing !! 👏
I'm Canadian and you described my Swedish boyfriend perfectly.
You forgot the pasta with ketchup!
Dating a Swede sounds so refreshing tbh
And boring 😂 it’s definitely not for the weak or passionate
This is a very accurate depiction of Finnish men, too :D
As a Slav, I enjoy being gallant and romantic with my woman. She will return your kindness, just in a different way. Being completely "bland and equal" takes away something important from the relationship.
Swedish men fit swedish women perfectly lol
not always. I've met swedish men that prefer international women of swedish ones because they are outgoing, warm, sweet and they aren't as toxic when dating@@SRBOMBONICA86
Agreed. I find this gender neutrality makes relationships boring. I could not live like that.
it destoroys the polarity, which is exactly what attracts the sexes! @@roxanne83
Most of these are a bit exaggerated for sure, but true nonetheless. Especially the last one about notes haha, love it!
The comedic music is gold. But Sabrina... wow. HILARIOUS
thank you so much!! :)
As Brazilian, i need a swedish in my house, now! The Brazilians mans doesn't nothing at home 😭 i need help to watch the dishes
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah, as a Swede myself I can tell you that this is pretty much just how big city Swedes behave especially Stockholmers (people from our capital). They're a special breed. Countryside and smaller town-Swedes practically only tick the fika and individualistic box in this video but as for the other points the opposite is true. Except for the mildly complaining note-thing, now that I think about it we all do that for some reason. Probably because conflicts arisen from petty matters are quite rare so we expect to resolve things by simply remarking on them.
So you are saying that the people from smaller cities are nicer?
@@mindrilaana-maria3472 Yes! Stockholm is a attractive city but the people living there 🤢
My brain at minute 7:27: ohh dear Johan you didn't do anything wrong. Viola is just a bit spoiled and shouldn't be demanding expensive gifts 😬
But yesss this is 1000% Swedish guy 😄💕 the getting drunk to speak is sooooo true, which for me is cute 😅 (I played beerpong with a 🇸🇪 guy, it started with a "Hi😐🤝🏻", ended up with "Skålllll 💋👩🏻❤️💋👨🏼👩🏻❤️💋👨🏼👩🏻❤️💋👨🏼👩🏻❤️💋👨🏼👩🏻❤️💋👨🏼👩🏻❤️💋👨🏼", next day "😶🙄😐 Hi.") 😂
I mean
Its nice, respectfull and romantic to buy gifts for your boyfriend/girlfriend during important days like anniversaries.
But yeah you shouldn't demand from the other person to buy you an expensive gift
True equality covers all aspects of life, not just the good ones.
This is all very true. This morning I went into the next room where my Swedish boyfriend was. I asked him if he was ready for coffee and what kind of coffee he wanted. He got irritated, said it was too early for conversation and asked me to text him. So, I did that; I sat down next to him on the sofa and texted him my requests. He texted back. Talk about grouchy people!!!!
sounds about something I would do LOL I'm grumpy in the mornings
Yuck
😂😂
Sounds like a nightmare honestly
I am a Finn and my swedish teacher told us that the most important sentence is: kan vi fika?
Which means: can we go for a coffee?
She told us that the Swedish want to do like everything over coffee. Meetings for example.
Its very important don't forget it XD
*I'm Arab but after watching this I think I'm Swedish!*
as a danish man in my 30ies i feel alot of it is common to some of the things you experiance since many of the values are the same.
for instance i can remember in my early years at uni, i invited this women out and I for a long time just stood there and said not a lot because i was nervous.
Then i started drinking to get some courage to flirt more with her. But Then i found out she didnt drink like at all and it was pretty awkward. Even more so when she started flirting with other men - while we where out. As a perhaps typical nordic man i havent said it directly that I saw it as a date, so she thought it was just another night out :D
also I remember on a second date with another woman, I somehow said a freudian slip about getting married with her. She was like "what did you say!?" i really had to make her think i was talking about something else to save it. You dont do that at all because we are not a culture that value fast commitment that much.
love it or hate it, alcohol is certainly something we use as a social lubricant. And we can be somewhat indirect in our ways - but belive me, there is often alot of emotions and thoughts going on in the back of our minds.
ps the way we address problems with neighbors are true since many that are living in cities also live in big appartment blocks, non-profit housing companies owning them. Having democracy in local boards, that try to agree on rules for living together is pretty common. And we try to adress such problem in a non-confilctorial way - even if such problems can most certainly end in drama.
But one of the most poplular radio shows that deals with daily dilemmas, one of the most common themes are always "how do i in the best way tell my neighbors that what they are doing is really annoying, but i dont want to say it like that" :P
Sounds great since women and men don’t have to committed to get sex. Culture is sex saturated and easy to go with the flow! Very happy and honest people
Spending years in Sweden as a female having lived in North America and UK, I realise that men ask for sex openly as strangers, apparently that’s normal to have sex before friendship or dates to gauge whether they have a good match, dating first wouldn’t happen like in many other countries. Random sex is very common, I felt like everyone was sleeping with everyone, this is generally among younger people and social drinking bars/clubs.
I thought there was something wrong with me. Now I understand everything is fine. I just happened to be Swedish
😂
Forgive me for all my comments but I have to say that I never knew much about Swedes or what thetly ate and drank before I moved in with him. I eat a lot of fish and I am heavily addicted to coffee. When I unpacked my fish into his refrigerator and set up my coffee makers and 8 pounds of different kinds of coffee, he told me later ,he believed fate had brought him the perfect woman cause he could have Fika all day and his favorite foods too!!
My family are all from Italy which is why I prefer my Swedish LTR. No drama, he is quiet, let's me be myself. He is uncomplicated , dependable and a good man
Wow thank you for making this video and just validating my life!!! I'm born and raised in Sweden but with Armenian roots.. And this video gave me the chills, it's so accurate and I REALLY hate that men here are so passive. The texting part made my blood boil 😅😆I've been wanting to move from Sweden for so long but still have not found a place that is comfortable enough. The system here is really so good! If anyone knows a country (except Spain) with more warmth in the weather and the culture but that still has a good system, please let me know ☺
I am very curious...Why is Spain not included as a warmer country?
Love to know why.😇
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Oh it is included ;) I understand that I wasn't beeing clear, but I just meant that Spain is already on my list but I would like some more options :)
@@veganlife9205
Ooh, i see. I thought, you had some thoughts about Spain and i wanted to know the minuses about Spain.
Good luck and i hope you find the right place for you to live.
Greetings from Belgium.
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 I see ;) Oh thank you so much I appreciate that! I hope you have/find what you wish for as well :) Hugs from Stockholm!
@@veganlife9205
Thank you for your blessings. Take care!🌿
I think it's fair to define what the word "dating" means to be honest. I think when most people think about the idea of a "date" it can essentially be described as a get-together with someone you're attracted to with the intention of doing something more lavish or unusual, which might help explain why Swedish men comes off a bit differently. At large it is because Sweden *doesn't* have a strong dating & pick-up culture. Unless it's a drunken one-night fling you're not usually going to pick up girls or guys at a pub and in some cases you'd probably weird the target of your interest out a bit. People go out mostly to have fun with their friends, not meet strangers.
Generally speaking I find most people who get into a more serious relationship usually do so after first becoming best friends as a process of taking things more slowly and if you click, have things come naturally without the word "date" or sometimes even "relationship" being talked about until it is serious. It's just sort of a given till then. If you change the context from "Going on a date with a potential lover" and replace it with "spending time with a best friend (though with added benefits)" this less extravagant approach to "dating" would probably make more sense. The only real issue with it is of course that intention doesn't come out as strong and giving mixed signals as to whether they're interested in you to begin with.
Oh hell, I thought I'm slowly at conversations, but I didn't expect that somebody could top me. So much embarassing silence and awkwardness 😂😬
could u do one about austrian men next? love the video!!
Even as a swedish woman I can relate to these common traits XD
Hahaha! Absolutely nailed it. I'm Swedish, and a man - so I know.
Of course - this is a stereotype....but generally, I'ld say this is all true! (And, I'll freely admit I probably wouldn't have...ah, let's just keep it 'safe' and 'civil' here...probably wouldn't have had children if it wasn't for the fact that it, at least generally are women who have come up to me. ;-) ).
Although, I generally do not tend to 'think' like most ppl, really do enjoy being alone and also have ADD and (mild case of) Asperger - so, I do not know to what extent I am, to put into this context, 'more Swedish' then general....even so - I must say I recognize all the things you raised here as 'typically' Swedish!
Great job!
This sounds great!! This works out
I am very grateful for this video hhahaha I was freaking out over my text conversations with the Swede I like XD