Being A High Value Woman Is A Myth

Поделиться
HTML-код
  • Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
  • Buy MY BOOK:
    snipfeed.co/ma...
    20 feminine energy principles:
    www.margaritan...
    Polarity MasterClass (20 secrets to long lasting attraction & love) :
    www.margaritan...
    Amazon book list:
    www.amazon.com...
    Become Magnetic (Free Ebook):
    www.margaritan...
    Email me: info@margaritanazarenko.com

Комментарии • 195

  • @lauren3027
    @lauren3027 23 дня назад +79

    Havent listened to this yet but the title is so aligned with my recent realizations.... its called having class not high value, everyone has value, while class is not intrinsic

    • @cesargomez1637
      @cesargomez1637 22 дня назад +4

      Embrace morality, marriage, long term relationships.

  • @corlianoltej
    @corlianoltej 23 дня назад +212

    Please consider an episode of advice to women in their 20’s, aside from dating. Hobbies, habits, self care, finances, passions, jobs etc🤍

    • @tayb2276
      @tayb2276 23 дня назад +4

      i would love it❤

    • @Fleuraces
      @Fleuraces 22 дня назад +1

      Would be amazing 😍

    • @deniasolis
      @deniasolis 22 дня назад +5

      Women of all ages could use all of these advices. 🫶🏽

    • @alaskayoung584
      @alaskayoung584 22 дня назад +1

      yes please❤

    • @kelly.nicole
      @kelly.nicole 22 дня назад

      I wish she would do some stuff for healing as a parent or healthy ways of parents there’s so any ideas. Assuming most of her fan base has kids/is planning on it soon.

  • @Sar_bear77
    @Sar_bear77 23 дня назад +74

    I was the one being chased in my relationship, at first. I had mutual friends with my boyfriend, same friend group, knew him for 5 years prior to us dating. I knew he had a thing for me, but i gave off black cat energy. I worked out everyday, was in the best shape of my life. Focused on my friends and family. It drove my boyfriend nuts. He would would message me daily, sending flirty texts, memes, asking to take me for dinner. For once in my life, i wasnt looking for a relationship and it felt so good to be wanted. I felt like a star. Eventally, after months of him begging, I gave in and went on a date with him. We've been together 4 years and looking to get engaged soon. I will say, he definately doesnt chase me as much anymore and i miss that feeling. Its definately an ebb and flow of me wanting him and then him wanting me. But more often then not, id say ive become the chaser. I need my black cat energy back. Been trying hard to focus on myself more and get my body back in the best shape, and also go out with friends and family more. Hopefully that does the trick. 😅

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 22 дня назад +20

      It’s probably quite natural to lose some black cat energy as the relationship develops. The trick is never to lose it completely x

    • @jibarabicha4853
      @jibarabicha4853 22 дня назад +1

      Men only chase to get the conquest. Once they “got you” they drop their efforts and get relaxed in the relationship. Some get wayyy too relaxed and that’s when women start feeling unappreciated. My ex literally stopped dressing up for me and doting on me the way he used to. When I brought it up, he said to my face: ‘I don’t need to do all that anymore, I already got you ‘

    • @hermesgirl0015
      @hermesgirl0015 22 дня назад +13

      Unfortunately, for men, the chasing is a game and once they conquer, they stop working for the relationship.

    • @Val.Kyrie.
      @Val.Kyrie. 22 дня назад +16

      Have a hobby that takes you away from him. I do knitting and crochet (and beading and chainmail and henna) which take focus. I will watch or listen to my own stuff with headphones and do my crafting. Even if we are in the same house, I’m “away” from him and he needs to get my attention if he needs me.

    • @PandolfoCarla
      @PandolfoCarla 22 дня назад +3

      Sometimes is about the flip on the feminine and masculine energies…

  • @ishtaneel8305
    @ishtaneel8305 22 дня назад +12

    I’m 45, single, very sexy, middle class. Teenagers ask me for tips & my mom’s new friends ask if I’m her grand daughter. I realised I’m anxious & wanted to change at 30. Healing takes long, I decided I’ll give up on babies at 37 coz I dint find a pursuer. It hurt but better than remaining an anxious. I chose to continue working on my inner child. She is became my baby. As an anxious or Co dep we easily get into toxic men. Instead of passing on toxic family trauma to next gen, it’s better to heal this life. We women shd not be obsessed with just giving birth but focus on giving d kid a emotionally healthy family & future. If we unite n not give babies to such men, they will mend ways. Babies or money must not come on d path of our evolution, neither is it Gud for d baby or society.

  • @kellysegerson1915
    @kellysegerson1915 22 дня назад +30

    I love your videos, but there is a difference between being chased and being pursued. If you’re chasing something, it’s running away from you. If a man is chasing you, it’s because he’s searching for validation outside of himself. A man who respects himself is not going to chase a woman because he doesn’t need outside validation, and understands that a relationship is reciprocal. Pursuit is healthy whereas “the chase” is typical in men who are emotionally unavailable or only view women as objects they have to win.

    • @malinAnais
      @malinAnais 22 дня назад

      👏🏼

    • @Laurenwoodruff
      @Laurenwoodruff 22 дня назад +1

      Perfect

    • @jessicaobi1838
      @jessicaobi1838 22 дня назад +1

      Well said

    • @ddanielsmc
      @ddanielsmc 21 день назад +5

      Wow...I thought like this too. Men who are secure, well adjusted and emotionally available aren't wanting to play a game. They know what they are looking for.
      Being pursued is absolutely the right way to look at it. If a woman is open to a man pursuing her she needs not to play games, mutual respect is at the forefront. He should understand the situation well enough and she will receive his honourable advances.
      I can see some guys thinking a woman's genuinely not interested with a chase, which is a shame when a woman does want him to pursue them.

  • @miss.bishhhh
    @miss.bishhhh 22 дня назад +43

    What I like about you is that you don't consider women as goddesses the way so many videos do. You talk about practicality and how things actually are than sugar coat our existence. It's one thing to feel special about being women because we are unique and full of potential but it's another to consider us as some superficial being from a man's perspective. We cannot be who we want to be unless we work on ourselves. There are so many toxic feminine advices online that I almost fell for but then realised that they were destroying my mental health. I like the way you put things out there and destroy myths like these. Much love 💖

    • @mxyxx00
      @mxyxx00 21 день назад +1

      Women are goddesses

    • @oliviaxyz2087
      @oliviaxyz2087 21 день назад

      @@mxyxx00 we indeed are.

  • @irinasp3723
    @irinasp3723 23 дня назад +77

    In perfect world both partners are equally loving. But in reality a couple is more stable when man loves more 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @JugglernautNr9
      @JugglernautNr9 22 дня назад +7

      it's the other way round actually. a man can still be in a relationship with a women for a long time even when his love for her is gone. maybe she is still somewhat attractive to him, the sex is good or it's just very pleasant to be with her because she is acknowledging and appreciating him. we men are usually very simple in that regard. on the other hand, when a women loses feelings for a man she is gone in an instant and will pursue the next relationship where she can "feel" again.

    • @irinasp3723
      @irinasp3723 22 дня назад +19

      @@JugglernautNr9 ok 2 points. When man doesn’t love woman anymore he starts treating her like trash. To him it may seem like nothing changed but it’s not true, any woman can tell you. Secondly, I did not say woman should not love him, I said LESS

    • @JugglernautNr9
      @JugglernautNr9 22 дня назад

      @@irinasp3723 i'm talking from experience, experience with my own relationships and what my friends tell me. i was in a relationship with a girl for seven years. after about two years i realised i don't really have feelings anymore, i liked her, but i didn't really love her. but we had a lot in common and everything else was great. she was pretty, very understanding, not pushy at all, not jealous and really into me the whole time. we did treat each other with respect, i did not cheat, i only began thinking about that during the last year of our relationship, shortly before i eventually ended it. i was 29 and she was in her mid 20s.

    • @JugglernautNr9
      @JugglernautNr9 22 дня назад +2

      @@irinasp3723 "When man doesn’t love woman anymore he starts treating her like trash"
      that's not always true and definitely not the case with normal, healthy men. and women can treat men they don't love anymore like trash as well. they get disrespectful, start verbal fights, use him for money, different tasks, cheat on him behind his back or even openly and much more

    • @irinasp3723
      @irinasp3723 22 дня назад +4

      @@JugglernautNr9 ok my comment was not about that nobody should love nobody, pls read it again. This is my life observation, you’re entitled to yours

  • @trulystarr4507
    @trulystarr4507 22 дня назад +14

    I’ve been chased all my life. Looks, values, intellect & personality yes men love but for the most part - they are the perpetrators, the nuts. The stable, good men aren’t online or chasing…they work, have a close circle of friends and some family, do hobbies and aren’t obsessed with the gym either but stable with great common sense. They’ve been burned like we have & stay more to themselves unless a hidden gem comes along his path. This, as a whole - are 2% of the population now. This as well - is a hard pill to swallow

    • @Nash_Aurora
      @Nash_Aurora 6 дней назад +1

      2% is a lot if we attract these right ones and don't pay attention to wrong ones

  • @GentleSpiritASMR
    @GentleSpiritASMR 20 дней назад +8

    I think it actually is possible to be the one who's chased but at the same time kind of mesmerized with your partner and think "wow that is my man" and the chaser can be successful and high value, too

  • @ilariamasullo3353
    @ilariamasullo3353 19 дней назад +6

    Just because you feel your biological clock ticking doesn't mean all women do. I'm pushing 40 and I still think children are insufferable and I'm so glad there's no one around trying to knock me up and ruin my life. The only reason why I'm scared of hitting menopause is that decreasing oestrogen levels are giving me hormonal acne for the first time in my life 😤

  • @oxford_phd
    @oxford_phd 21 день назад +6

    This is absolutely true! I'm so sick of the advice out there of being the one pursued and being a black cat. I'm naturally more outgoing and take more initiative even in my friend's circle. The advice to act all mysterious, hard to get, and attracting never rests well with me. I also find it a bit rude and entitled! Men are the prize too and they're just as valuable, and there is nothing wrong with pursuing the man you want.

  • @Emillyy94
    @Emillyy94 22 дня назад +17

    I know Matthew Hussey advises to drop the hankerchief as well, I’ve tried making eye contact, approaching guys, trying to start conversations and giving compliments and it seems like so far most just don’t know how to carry on a conversation or want to. So I have pretty much just given up on trying to focus on an outcome and going to live my life and not even try anymore.

    • @ddanielsmc
      @ddanielsmc 22 дня назад +4

      Please don't give up. Believe me when I say you being proactive will pay off in the end. I've seen it.
      Men want to be needed. Ask them their view/opinion on something. Now and again don't be afraid to need something from them, like ask for their help. They are likely to feel good they helped you and of course, 'needed'.
      If they aren't in the most conversational mood, you could say that you have to be somewhere soon and you'd be open to getting know eachother. In fact, you could lead with this approach. It takes some of the pressure off both of you. Exchange contact numbers and see what happens.
      Good luck, I'm willing this for you.

    • @Emillyy94
      @Emillyy94 21 день назад

      @@ddanielsmc Thank you for the encouragement and advice! I really appreciate it and will keep trying to reach out and connect with others. Is it weird or too forward to give a guy your number even if he doesn’t offer his?

    • @ddanielsmc
      @ddanielsmc 21 день назад +2

      @@Emillyy94 I know what you mean, it does appear foward but I also think it shows you as someone that's assertive. Another method could be to connect via social media, that's if they have it e.g. Instagram etc. Of course, you'd need it too.

    • @Emillyy94
      @Emillyy94 21 день назад

      @@ddanielsmc Thank you! I don’t have IG but I would be fine giving out my number if I was interested in them and they seemed like someone I’d like to talk to again. Thanks again for the advice.

    • @aminaadam3617
      @aminaadam3617 20 дней назад +3

      That is so true.I am 40 and being on the dating market,one has to carry forward the conversation.Always steering it and making it lively.I know for many men,it takes time but as a woman, we want to see effort from their side.😂😂

  • @andi..9265
    @andi..9265 22 дня назад +5

    what she is talking about applies to young women too.. as a beautiful young woman.. even drop dead gorgeous beautiful you are replaceable.. to be truely secure you have to become more in his eyes.. he has to see you as valuable on all levels not just a pretty face.. pretty faces age and change but your value stays.

  • @Shanieceflordi
    @Shanieceflordi 22 дня назад +86

    Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k 22 дня назад +1

      It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

    • @Shanieceflordi
      @Shanieceflordi 22 дня назад +1

      Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k 22 дня назад

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k 22 дня назад

      he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @Shanieceflordi
      @Shanieceflordi 22 дня назад

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
      Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

  • @jennspth2freedom
    @jennspth2freedom 22 дня назад +5

    You're like the sister I never had! I appreciate you so much and all the hard work you put into your content.

  • @elodiegerard378
    @elodiegerard378 22 дня назад +7

    Loved this genuine video. It's all about balance in supporting each other. Each aspect of one's life is only a small percent of our personalities and I find that making a relationship successful is about finding how each one can help the other grow by completing each other. I am happily married to a great man and I often tell him I'm lucky to have him. He tells me the same thing. It's so true when you say we have to work on ourselves too. And this never stops. I find we cannot expect to get princess treatment if we don't act with kindness with our man, and you have said it in another video, which comes back to my mind regularly, we should be easy to be around, while remaining ''hard to get'', in a gentle way, in order to subtlety have him want to continue doing everything he can for us (that only works if your man is not a narcissist/psychopath. (I was married to one before). I wish everybody to be happy and to heal from past wounds. We are resilient! Have strong boundaries and be kind to one another. God bless everyone!

  • @MrJweb19
    @MrJweb19 23 дня назад +13

    Very good points! A lot of online relationship content is for dismissive avoidants, not those with anxious attachment styles

  • @kiki-nb5uw
    @kiki-nb5uw 23 дня назад +22

    This is frustratingly contrary to everything you’ve ever said on this channel. I agree but there’s something jarring about you advertising being this black cat etc and only now you’re like “but not if you’re old”.
    I know that’s not the intent but it’s how it comes off. Hopefully this balanced perspective continues

    • @heatherpilaroscia9911
      @heatherpilaroscia9911 22 дня назад +8

      Yeah I feel slightly confused by this message

    • @spoofsister
      @spoofsister 22 дня назад +3

      Well, hopefully when you have matured you do not need to play black cat because you already are one naturally and do not run after men and make „pretty please“ to catch their attention.

    • @twilight_124
      @twilight_124 22 дня назад +3

      Exactly she has taken a 360 turn.

    • @Itswhitneyxxo
      @Itswhitneyxxo 21 день назад +5

      Right definitely threw me off! Thought it was just me

    • @tserafin100
      @tserafin100 21 день назад +1

      Sad i bought her book before i saw this video that doesnt make sense

  • @Poochipup
    @Poochipup 4 дня назад +1

    Wanting a relationship doesn't make one desperate Margarita. It's acting desperate that makes a person desperate.

  • @ramzie8680
    @ramzie8680 22 дня назад +4

    veryy true I am 19 and I know that I won't meet the loml at this certain age because no man in my age range is that fully committed and dedicated to foreverness, which is why I don't mind the "chase" because I am fully aware that there's a certain time for everything and I can't trick myself into thinking I'll find the one now.

  • @PandolfoCarla
    @PandolfoCarla 22 дня назад +3

    Yes this is more down to earth thinking. I love when the chaser flips even weekly, monthly. I like to have them crazy about me but I love to take care of them 🖤.
    I’m traveling to Sydney again to try something with someone very special I met there. Wish me the best ✨ we will harness your best wishes in this comment to make it real!

  • @theoutlawblonde
    @theoutlawblonde 23 дня назад +18

    I will add it’s less stress/easier to be the black cat if you are divorced and already have kids so you’ve already met that kid dream!

  • @madeleinechow2641
    @madeleinechow2641 11 дней назад +1

    Thank you for this nuanced wisdom. The high-value woman / black cat discourse was getting a little out of hand.

  • @mpp8401
    @mpp8401 22 дня назад +5

    Eh idk. You can be a complete star and some men will absorb your energy and not actually give a shit about taking you seriously. Feed their ego…but watch their actions.

    • @samco63
      @samco63 22 дня назад +2

      Yes exactly, unfortunately there’s a lot of men like that. I wish it wasn’t true, and I tried so hard to believe that, but just been burnt time and time again!

  • @pretywhenicryy
    @pretywhenicryy 23 дня назад +19

    i ADORE this woman

  • @LadyGagaSweetBaby
    @LadyGagaSweetBaby 20 дней назад

    This is one of the most realistic and sensible takes I’ve ever heard. I am 26, so still young enough that I don’t feel the clock ticking (I also don’t want kids) and I do have looks on my side, however I’ve realized I am not open to dating anyone who I don’t perceive as an absolute catch. I want the looks, the personality and the wealth. And while I am fortunate enough that I do have access to these men, it’s also true that those men are constantly being bombarded by a variety of options and won’t chase you the same way a guy who knows you’re “out of his league” would.
    I’ve had men send me flowers before I had even agreed to a date, send me gifts, take me to the most wonderful places BUT it was never the men I truly wanted pursuing me so aggressively. The kind of man I wanna be with KNOWS he can have anyone he wants and, as beautiful as one can be, they will simply never pursue you or put you on a pedastal the same way guys with less options do. It’s a sad truth

  • @kikikorner
    @kikikorner 21 день назад

    Just went to KMART and saw your book and bought it. I am a book lover and can I just say the boom floppiness, font, pink colour, white bubbly front font is spot on. So excited to read it!!!!

  • @tessarabennett3951
    @tessarabennett3951 23 дня назад +8

    Why does it have to be either or? Why can’t two people adore and admire each other?

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 22 дня назад +2

      Unfortunately the rise in these “toxic” behaviours has seen an increase in people wanting to exert more control x

    • @bluebutterfly5062
      @bluebutterfly5062 22 дня назад

      Because unrequited love is all too common

  • @alexiadewald4535
    @alexiadewald4535 12 дней назад

    Thank you for this! This was really helpful to me to see there are seasons of wanting. I'm married 5 years and I've always chased. I'm happy to go black cat now, and this podcast will help me maintain balance. I don't want to leave my husband per se, he's kind and loves me (in his avoidant way) and I don't want to take it for granted.
    He may not value me the way he should but I haven't valued myself the way I want to be valued either.
    So I'm thankful for the balance here and my goal is to be securely attached. If he goes, that's fine, he's not for me anymore, but if he stays and supports, then great. I don't want to start over, I'm 43. But I'm not a 10 yet either, so I'm thrilled to work on being my 10. ❤

  • @vanessaprincesssa
    @vanessaprincesssa 14 дней назад +1

    VERY important video to hear and understand, thank you

  • @AllisonSherman7
    @AllisonSherman7 12 дней назад +2

    love video!, My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.,

    • @MaryTongx
      @MaryTongx 12 дней назад

      It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.

    • @AllisonSherman7
      @AllisonSherman7 12 дней назад

      That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?

    • @MaryTongx
      @MaryTongx 12 дней назад

      His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.

    • @MaryTongx
      @MaryTongx 12 дней назад

      Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.

    • @AllisonSherman7
      @AllisonSherman7 12 дней назад

      Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.

  • @peacepantherproductions
    @peacepantherproductions 22 дня назад +1

    Ah… I am 50 and my life on paper right now is pretty “horrible”. I had a month+ situation with someone dating. It was going well. He needed to pull away to be alone which is fine. But then no real communication for months. I’ve been in this pattern of people doing that to me for about 15+ years. All I care about now is getting my lifelong passions underway. I also need to do stuff to my face because I have no confidence anymore with my face. My inner world and my personality and everything I’m about is extremely strong. And I work out every day, but I just need to get my finances my face and my life work happening- that’s seriously all I need. I don’t want to be around these crybabies and time wasters anymore. They’re all sick and refuse to get therapy and I don’t care anymore. Haha. I never wanted kids so I’m good there too.

  • @SelfLove-StartsHere
    @SelfLove-StartsHere 22 дня назад +1

    so glad someone talked about this

  • @misselle111
    @misselle111 22 дня назад +1

    Interesting video, thank you for giving valuable and realistic advice to women. However, I don’t fully align with the fact that a woman who supports her man emotionally towards his goals is in a pursuer/golden retriever's energy. I believe this is how it should be in a more traditional relationship. Moreover, this is exactly what a woman should ‘bring to the table’ imo, whether she’s a goddess-looking woman or not :)

  • @jibarabicha4853
    @jibarabicha4853 22 дня назад +6

    Being Black cat over your 30’s because you divorced already, child free and give no F’s about convincing someone how great you are is a thing! If you genuinely enjoy yourself, that energy will transfer to the guy you have your eye on. He will either find you magnetic or is not interested to begin with.
    An unspoken thing is that men’s efforts tend to fizzle out once they got you, golden retriever or not. We could say that romance exists based on how much he wants you and if he’s satiated his desire for conquest by locking you down, so to Speak. Being a black cat can keep them wanting more long term VS the Golden Retriever who may have to keep ‘performing’ to re affirm their ‘value’ for their social status.

    • @QueenNrh
      @QueenNrh 22 дня назад

      I want to be the black cat cause it just doesn’t feel right to be the gomden retriever, but like Margarita mentionned we need to drop the handkerchief abd choose the man we want. Cause mostly it’s only men you’re not interested in that keep chasing, the men we like are busy , also most likely these high value men are more used to women chasing them so to me it’s quite disturbing because you do want the right man the one you like to be chasing you, without you being in your masculin aka golden retriever

  • @dagmarakrol1277
    @dagmarakrol1277 18 дней назад

    Wow. I am shocked that finally somebody said that honestly. Thank you.

  • @bnb0510
    @bnb0510 22 дня назад +2

    Oh my gosh yes! That Greta chick is the #1 person that comes to mind. I watched a few of her videos and quickly realized I needed to exit stage left from her content!

  • @Emilyyy234
    @Emilyyy234 14 дней назад

    Definitely the most real episodes I’ve heard ❤

  • @kimmy1424ily
    @kimmy1424ily 22 дня назад +2

    I appreciate your advice so very much Margarita! It has changed my life in such a positive way, I just finished your book and I am gifting a copy to my nieces. You are truly a blessing to women everywhere. Thank you!

  • @Poochipup
    @Poochipup 4 дня назад +1

    Actually, everyone is replaceable, but not if they're truly in love. Sorry, but it's true. It always goes back to that.

  • @kalinakubiniok5695
    @kalinakubiniok5695 22 дня назад

    Thank You so much, Margarita, always love hearing your guidance.😊 it's really awesome to hear some things more in reality, as opposed to archetypes. Helps me get comfy with me. All Best! X

  • @Maggie-f6w
    @Maggie-f6w 17 дней назад

    I just started watching you the other night. You have already helped me and you make sense more than anyone else ever you are amazing 😍

  • @sophycandice4751
    @sophycandice4751 22 дня назад +2

    Margarita, you're so wise, I am literally shocked!! I finally have an answer to my girl friends who don't feel like following your rules because "man chasing is so old-fashioned and anti-feminist", I'm so happy thank you!!

  • @Poochipup
    @Poochipup 4 дня назад

    Margarita, you say that it's ok if the person leaves the other person, but if your husband leaves, that wouldn't bother you?

  • @f3042
    @f3042 4 дня назад

    Great, great practical advice!

  • @talithaengstroem
    @talithaengstroem 21 день назад

    This! The missing point that a lot of us with a bit more experience have been waiting for someone to say :)

  • @kayladickson8124
    @kayladickson8124 8 дней назад

    I’m not desperate- I just have no confidence. I’ve had an autoimmune disease for 17 years and my self confidence is in the drain. I usually choose guys who like me more than I like them because I haven’t felt good enough to be with the guys I’ve been most attracted to.

    • @LyslScentedLife
      @LyslScentedLife 6 дней назад

      Nothing wrong with that. The latter is how most men feel these days, so don't worry about anything :)

  • @helenapisova
    @helenapisova 20 дней назад +1

    Thank you 😘

  • @criticalthinking9924
    @criticalthinking9924 22 дня назад +6

    When i'm being chased i'm turned off so i do like being a golden retriever but not fully and probably no woman likes to be a full golden retriever.If you could come up with other ways of chasing but without looking like we chase,it would be great.
    Personally i would say that secretly finding out what he's passionate about(or gauging what could he like based on other info about him) and becoming very good at it to the point of impressing him but without ever letting him know that you did it for him could be a good strategy.

    • @bluebutterfly5062
      @bluebutterfly5062 22 дня назад +1

      I often feel the same way. I love it when someone shows they love me, but being "chased" is just exhausting and makes me feel like he's just desperate

    • @criticalthinking9924
      @criticalthinking9924 22 дня назад

      @@bluebutterfly5062 Oh yes indeed.I also feel he's desperate especially for sex and it's a big turn off.

  • @susanneosborne7861
    @susanneosborne7861 17 дней назад

    You are spot on! Always like your realistic pov.

  • @loststars_028
    @loststars_028 20 дней назад

    Thank you for being so realistic. This helped a lot.

  • @Alex-gn3cl
    @Alex-gn3cl 4 дня назад

    The thing is, just be authentic and try to heal your traumas as early as possible. Otherwise all this High Value/Black Cat stuff can really mess with your head and you will end up frustrated because you’re doing all the right things but not seeing any results while still being hugely affected by your trauma that is still there. I’ve been into feminine energy content since 2018, and yes it might get you some minor results here and there. But I was still being triggered and attracted to the very wrong type of men and dynamic. And let me tell you narcissists LOVE feminine energy women and you can get incredibly intense love bombing experience when they spot a delicious feminine energy woman. And it can ruin years of your life when you find yourself stuck with them. So the point is - healing traumas is the key. Forget about Black cat and other nonsense. You will attract the relationship that is good for you once you heal your wounds, your energy will shift to the ones that is authentic to you whether it’s black cat or golden retriever or whatever.

  • @donnaokrongly
    @donnaokrongly 22 дня назад

    Margarita, this is a treasure of a video. Thank you for being so real.

  • @hermesgirl0015
    @hermesgirl0015 22 дня назад +2

    Even those gorgeous people have men treat them bad, look at Jennifer Aniston, Sandra Bullock, J Lo… and the list goes on.

    • @ddanielsmc
      @ddanielsmc 21 день назад

      @@hermesgirl0015 I've thought about this before but we don't know the full story or their personality like a partner would.
      I'm not condoning cheating/adultery though. It's wrong.

    • @LyslScentedLife
      @LyslScentedLife 6 дней назад

      No one is exempt from wrongdoing. You sound like some hypocrite.

  • @nathalian.7209
    @nathalian.7209 23 дня назад +11

    My fiance told me one thing that at first i thought it was rude, but more and more i reflect on it it makes total sense. Lots of women are out there playing/telling themselves theyre high value and yet they can't find a great man. he says the problem in that situation is not that the woman it isnt high value, what shes doing wrong is that shes playing out of her league. she's a 7 in looks, 6 in charisma, 8 in skills and yet she's going for the 9, 10 type of men and can't understand why she's not being pursued. If youre a 7 type of women go for the 6,5 type of men and that will be a great match. the hard part here is to be truth to yourself. my fiance and I agreed im a 8,5 and hes a 8 and we're so happy and grateful for each other that we feel like we're both a 10

    • @irinasp3723
      @irinasp3723 23 дня назад

      Dating down always works

    • @user-jw2if3ri5z
      @user-jw2if3ri5z 23 дня назад +6

      Damn poor you

    • @nathalian.7209
      @nathalian.7209 23 дня назад +6

      @@user-jw2if3ri5z why poor me? I just got engaged to a man who gave me the most gorgeous ring, gave me a beautiful house and love me to death. He’s full of honor and integrity, have great relationships with friends and family. An amazing work ethic. Is he the most good looking man I’ve ever seen? No. The most rich and successful, no. So what, I’m not either.

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 22 дня назад +1

      @@nathalian.7209I understand why you have mentioned the “numbers” thing. It is relevant, but there is also such a thing as a “good match” which is what you probably are 😊
      It’s so strange the whole dating scene in these current times. We forget there are still relationships that do actually work x

    • @Sportylottie
      @Sportylottie 22 дня назад

      Rather be single than be miserable dating what you don’t really want. They almost all end up stealing your peace no matter how ugly or poor.

  • @lcamilaag11
    @lcamilaag11 21 день назад

    Nobody talks with this honesty 😅

  • @Raya-5544
    @Raya-5544 22 дня назад +1

    I wil not have to do anything to "make myself" irresistible. You either are or not.

  • @iberbboo1016
    @iberbboo1016 23 дня назад +8

    mother is mothering

  • @DoKieuPham
    @DoKieuPham 22 дня назад

    there's a book called Magnetic Aura on borlest, and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract anyone with charisma, it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal

  • @jakdee4732
    @jakdee4732 22 дня назад

    Margarita's Girl Power❤..in order to avoid head ache make your Women always rigth.. 😂

  • @wuxian1
    @wuxian1 23 дня назад +1

    hello, Margarita!

    • @Anna-hy3oo
      @Anna-hy3oo 23 дня назад

      Ahaha i had same picture on my whatsapp profile picture ❤

  • @alexandraelena7248
    @alexandraelena7248 22 дня назад +3

    Ladies please go and even have children on your own. Lowering your standards just to have a partner and a father for your children as many generations of women have done will not make your or your children happy on the long term. A man should not be such a high priority. Having a heart of gold is what makes someone high value and a good partner not the age, looks, money...
    Margarita I thought you were giving us some tough love in some of your videos but you come across as bitter and cold.

  • @Ginaglosh
    @Ginaglosh 23 дня назад +7

    Being whatever society values is wrong! We r free to not be anything 🙌

  • @PhanNhuTrinh
    @PhanNhuTrinh 22 дня назад

    It's crazy how nobody is talking about the banned ebook Magnetic Aura from Borlest

  • @Poochipup
    @Poochipup 4 дня назад +1

    We already know men are attracted to looks, you keep repeating that, but it shouldn't be perpetuated. What about the few handsome men involved with less attractive women? That seems like a more interesting and less common topic to dissect. Everything else is common, cliche, superficial. Let's explore something different.

  • @mariamkeithabraham
    @mariamkeithabraham 23 дня назад +2

    You are so on point! I hate it whenever I see ‘high value woman/man’. Please make a video for women DATING FOR MARRIAGE in their 20s 🤍 kind of mid 20s like 24-26.

  • @hestersamanthab4922
    @hestersamanthab4922 22 дня назад

    Do you have advice about dealing with opinions of colleagues and people in general? (I know its a very different topic than this video😊)

  • @ZorahBichChieu
    @ZorahBichChieu 22 дня назад +1

    I can't believe the ebook Magnetic Aura from Borlest isn't a hot topic. It's an incredible read

  • @labibatatanaemma6457
    @labibatatanaemma6457 23 дня назад +1

    OMG IM SO EARLYYY

  • @paolacarrere5740
    @paolacarrere5740 23 дня назад +3

    I love you Margarita you are irremplaçable to us

  • @stoynaatanasova443
    @stoynaatanasova443 21 день назад

    the timing coudt be better

  • @silviazed5515
    @silviazed5515 11 дней назад

    That’s good video .. any advice when u have your own house your own Bisness .. and still expanding and you are 45 , but I must say look 30 ,) and you still wanna have that partnership,
    How ?

  • @ArielMarieBee1123
    @ArielMarieBee1123 21 день назад +2

    I have been following and studying your videos for a long time now on multiple platforms. I’ve been building my black cat persona and it’s worked for me in miraculous ways.
    This video comes off as a contradiction to every video you have ever made. You go back and forth even in this video. Even the title contradicts your entire message, teachings, and platform of “being her.”
    I think you experienced something that made you a bit bitter today and then made a video in the wrong energy and chaotic mindset. This is the opposite of everything you have ever taught and has a very hopeless, conform to society or die alone because you need to settle, and this ramble did not translate well at all.
    Very confusing, very contradicting, very demeaning and not uplifting to women as whole here.

  • @magneticalex
    @magneticalex 22 дня назад

    I loved the video! Very well explained and full of valuable insights. I'm also sharing similar content on my channel, and it's amazing to see how topics like this can inspire so many people

  • @hightreestess
    @hightreestess 22 дня назад

    I am priceless! 💗

  • @lidamooini2064
    @lidamooini2064 22 дня назад +4

    Stopped following. The advertising is cheap.

    • @DR-fd6vu
      @DR-fd6vu 16 дней назад

      The content is priceless 👌

    • @LyslScentedLife
      @LyslScentedLife 6 дней назад

      ​@@DR-fd6vu and sarcastic 😂

  • @Poochipup
    @Poochipup 4 дня назад +1

    You're telling people not to be themselves, to change in order to be liked by the other person. It's one thing to improve yourself, which we all should do in life, it's another to become someone else. No thanks. Also, why would a woman want to pursue a man, lol. I'm not attracted to a man who isn't assertive.

  • @avalonmoonshine5760
    @avalonmoonshine5760 23 дня назад +1

    Its so funny that as a 20smth yr old, I just decided to do these things for myself, to solidify my personality, and it really does make the men's heads turn.

  • @Daisytheprincessss
    @Daisytheprincessss 23 дня назад

    Good advice 16:17

  • @biancarowena9040
    @biancarowena9040 22 дня назад +2

    I think of Tony Robins, and his very feminine-energy wife, I see them as this type of example where she became irreplaceable in his life, he was always out there touring all the time and she went with him, she was and is so supportive and now even doing a women’s conference, but she’s got that soft female energy and yet she was definitely not the black cat, I can tell. Anyhow, just a thought, towards how what your saying in this video would work for those women who want to be golden retriever type (or at least not black cat) and still stay in their feminine soft energy, Tony Robin’s wife is a beautiful example

  • @stella441
    @stella441 22 дня назад

    Someone’s been watching too much Psychacks 🧐

  • @LaTuânĐình
    @LaTuânĐình 22 дня назад

    you need to find the banned ebook magnetic aura from borlest even if it's the last thing you do in life

  • @Justyna-dg4hs
    @Justyna-dg4hs 22 дня назад

    Just as black cat energy being better than being light feminine is a myth that you like to spread lot

  • @TremelJackson
    @TremelJackson 8 дней назад

    All this chasing got me tired so I gave up lol

  • @kimjaniga7517
    @kimjaniga7517 21 день назад

    You loose me every time during your commercial part.

  • @shellysauder3789
    @shellysauder3789 23 дня назад +8

    Monotonous, rapid rambling on and on. You may be making some good points, but they’re lost in your mind-numbing babble

    • @designedtoshine7457
      @designedtoshine7457 22 дня назад +6

      Mean. nasty. Unnecessary. You took time out of your life to put down someone who is trying to help the community. Yuck. 👎🏻

    • @elodiegerard378
      @elodiegerard378 22 дня назад +2

      @@designedtoshine7457 and untrue!

    • @shellysauder3789
      @shellysauder3789 22 дня назад +2

      @@elodiegerard378 My opinion is 'true' 😊

    • @shellysauder3789
      @shellysauder3789 22 дня назад +1

      @@designedtoshine7457 and still, my experience of this blabbering is shared by 7 other people.... ('time out of my life'? Help the community'? .. by crying about her Birkin bag getting wet? LOL😂

    • @designedtoshine7457
      @designedtoshine7457 22 дня назад +1

      @shellysauder3789 yes she is trying to "help the community" .
      She is giving advice to ladies who have suffered heartache in thier personal lives from lack of information, life experiences and teachings that this woman has.
      She is sharing her hard earned wisdom and her method of delivery is HER choice.
      The fact that 7 other people agree with your poor manners, lack of appreciation and inability to express your oh so valuable opinions in a kind and constructive way?
      Just means that there are 7 additional ungrateful il-mannered folks standing next to you.
      It takes skill to give constructive criticism OR to give an opinion without being offensive.
      It is a skill you lack.
      Therefore, you are unqualified to give her communication tips.
      Telling someone that thier work is "mind-numbing babble" is rude, unkind, needlessly meanspirited.
      Again. Yuck.

  • @mostbeautifulbelovedgarden
    @mostbeautifulbelovedgarden 23 дня назад +7

    You are absolutely right. I have had anxious attachment and practicing freedom relationally keeps things so much easier. I also deleted all social media except linkedin, RUclips, Reddit, and Pinterest. This makes me inaccessible unless someone has my phone number and only 30 people have that. Plus the added bonus of no anxiety from socials.
    So when I go to the gym, even though I just cut my hair and feel boyish 😂 a man who I used to have on social media came right outside the members only area at the gym to do his pushups and curls and other erotic motions while watching me run and walk 😂 almost felt like a zoo exhibit but I must have looked good!! Even with the Diana cut 😋

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 22 дня назад +5

      Erotic gym motions 😂😂😂

    • @mostbeautifulbelovedgarden
      @mostbeautifulbelovedgarden 22 дня назад +1

      @@lou15176 it could have been push day or it could have been a display of capability 😉

  • @Juuung9
    @Juuung9 23 дня назад +4

    After breakup therapy 🥹💙

    • @violet6839
      @violet6839 23 дня назад

      🤗 sending you the biggest hug. I promise it doesn’t feel like it right now but it gets better and you do heal.

  • @PatriciaArgentina-s2b
    @PatriciaArgentina-s2b 22 дня назад

    Reginella (Queeny) Margarita
    I wasted time, youth, money, children, and my life!
    I want to be chased, but I want a mutual chase. I hate a doting over the top like (me) returning it to me. I need to talk to you. You will fall down and say why.
    I cannot be with someone I do not like. (boring)
    How would you navigate setting boundaries when individuals may not readily respect them. I struggle to establish boundaries with someone who has not respected the ones I've attempted to set.
    Is it too late to rectify this situation, or do you believe there's a chance to mend the issues I've encountered? I pose this question because it seems my husband has disregarded every boundary I've tried to implement. We met in 1995 and married in 2002; we got divorced in 2013 and remarried in 2015. Besides considering divorce, we have already divorced and remarried. What options are available when I am clearly dissatisfied with current affairs?
    Best,
    Patricia