People saw all these TikToks and thought the lesson was “join a running club” when the real lesson was “have a hobby and do things you actually like to do with likeminded people”
@@TheNinjapancake14 yes. Bottom line is that people followed a trend instead of their actual interests. The whole point of a third space being most effective is for people to have common interests
This is a consequence of lacking common spaces. It was much easier to socialise back when there were a lot of community type events. People are just responding to what's available. It's human nature to socialise.
Without walkable cities and "Third" places, its hard to have chance encounters with people. Our cities don't really support being social outside of bars and clubs.
@@trey8823That's just an excuse. We be outside in the hood everyday with nothing but concrete. If you want to create activities, humans will find ways to make it fun. We have to simple step up and show up
Something I’ve noticed is a lack of ability to be friends with people first! So many relationships now go straight in to the romantic phase, completely missing the point of becoming friends with your partner and THEN deciding if you’d like to date. I think that’s why this blew up - you can meet at a run club, become running friends, and then you have a weekly thing to see each other at. Trying to not rush in to something is hard!!
I agree, to be honest I can’t see how people can even think about dating someone until they know them well enough. I met my fiancé in high school and we were friends for two years before we got together. I think friendship should come before relationship. ❤
That's something I've learned with my queer sports league. I've been part of it for about six months, and I haven't dated anyone from it yet, but I'm kind of glad I haven't. I'm still getting to know everyone there, and chemistry isn't built overnight.
@@nobodythenobody9779 guys don't do trends? Oh come on 😂 looksmaxxing, all this sigma shit, andrew tate, bitcoins, nfts, gymratting, suprime, boxing matches, video games. I could keep going. Guys do go crazy over trends.
@@nobodythenobody9779 and you would still be wrong. Celebrities can become trends, and celebrities create trends. It can be trendy to like or follow someone, wear something, eat something. Anything can be a trend. And why? We want validation and belong to a community. And feel like we are "it". And guys follow trends. Guys just seem to think they are these stoic intellectuels who know what they want and go for it. While guys seek male validation through so many ways all the time.
Gen Z realizing for the first time that you need to go outside to find community I wonder when we’ll realize that we should pursue hobbies were genuinely passionate about to be happy, instead of just trying to get laid
I mentioned this to a bunch of Z’rs in a comment section the other day and they had no idea what I was talking about. I realized that they don’t know you have to go outside and actually speak to people to make friends. Fascinating.
it’s the fear of looking stupid and being judged by our peers that really keeps us inside because I brought a skateboard that I had been saving up for for a hot minute and it takes so much courage to go to my local community colleges parking lot to attempt to learn how to cruise on my own because I literally know nobody who skateboards but I’ve been passionate about learning it, since I was very young but due to my parents being like very adamant on how dangerous it is, I never got the chance.
Another thing I've noticed are the attractive "fitfluencers" who have made stay in these run clubs and post their content centered around their attraciveness and almost "in-crowd'/"cool kids" type of vibe. They rarely, if ever, post about the genuine benefits of participating in a running club and moreso just about being popular in these spaces and promoting their attractiveness and potential for romance. I don't if this makes much sense but it's an observation I've had for a while!
That’s the thing you have to be in a city where there are more young people and buy in for these clubs! Running clubs do exist in the suburbs but they are practically empty because most people in the suburbs are too busy raising their families.
@@DiamondFlame45 I have to ask what are your kids supposed to do? The subusrbs in the US have existed since forever. What are your 16+ kids supposed to do? Stay children?
I've been part of a running club for like 2 years now, and while I don't mind this in theory, a lot of people struggle to join run clubs because they're intimidated about not being fit/fast/young enough; a load of people showing up solely looking for people to date (aka attractive people) makes a space that's really trying to seem welcoming into one that wouldn't be welcoming at all
I really hope that hauntedbottles guy upthread reads this. He's out here claiming all these women are just volunteering to him how "touch starved" they are. Guys like him give me the creeps trying to sound all intelligent about making hobby groups into dating circles to "help the touch starved ladies". These incel fever dreams need to stay on the internet and out of real life activities.
This! I’ve been trying to get into running for like the past 3 years but I’m too shy to have ppl see me run or join a club because I don’t think I could keep pace with the regulars. Gonna wait for this trend to pass before I try again 😭
I think the friendship and community aspect of courtship has been lost actually. More people should focus on building stronger community relationships. In this essay I will…
Yeah I agree with what your saying. Dating and romance shouldn't be the focal point I feel that leads to people jumping into things wayyy too early when they should have built that friendship foundation first.
The guys just move on to girl that's willing to give it up without actually getting to know him, and the girls will just go towards the attractive guys that don't care about getting to know them. The guys that are trying to be "friends first" will get friendzoned and the girls will fall into the trap of the attractive guy playing along just to get what they really want and then the guy will move on to the next.
For me this is not something breaking news. As an ambivert person who have multiple hobbies, I could come to the conclusion that whatever hobby clubs you joins, from reading, writing, manga anime, drawing, learning languages, gaming, bicycling,… no matter how serious your community is, there will be a few of them who only have the intention to get laid with other people in the hobby club, not to focus on the hobby they pretend to have interests in. I suggest that you should have clear boundaries and remind them what the main purpose we all present in the hobby club in the first place.
Desperation and a motivation to turn every social opportunity into something potentially romantic or sexual has the opposite effect. No one wants to get with you if your interest in the hobby is superficial and you’re actually deceptive to everyone else and really just want to get laid or date. It’s also pretty immature to only care about that rather than improving yourself or just existing and enjoying your interests and being in the company of likeminded people you can discuss these interests with. That’s horny teenager behavior. Just chill out, stop being so horny and watching porn, and prioritize making friends first and enjoy whatever hobby you’re doing. Do not try to force anything and it will blossom eventually. People get mad that this paradoxical rule exists but it’s just the way psychology works. If you can’t grasp it and change your ways and instead keep staying stubborn and entitled, you will become even more like those dudes in the incel community and eventually just start blaming others and thinking they don’t want you because they’re superficial, rather than the idea that you’re acting like a creep and trying to get with everyone in your hobby group. Unfortunately lots of nerds are socially awkward and inexperienced, or maybe even on the spectrum so it’s harder for them to grasp this even if their intentions are more genuine and not deceptive.
“oh but they want to get laid” so what? You want people locked in their rooms depressed and anxious scrolling their Instagram feed? let them be, why are you so worried about their intentions when you should be happy that the new generations are wanting to get out of this rabbit hold called internet for a bit. C’mon, you guys need to see more the positive instead of just criticizing other people
@@CutiePatutie_SmookiePookieBearit's not as attractive as it sounds if it's a real run. It's not just panting but full blown wheezing. The sweat isn't just a glistening. It's a whole waterfall and if you're actually commiting you see sweat on your shorts which low-key make you look like you peed yourself lol. It's not as attractive as people on Tiktok make it seem unfortunately and if you do like someone there you better get your flirt in before the run because after you hair will be fried and dried from sun, you'll be shaking like a leaf, unable to get a single word in besides water and air conditioning, and let's just hope that salty sweat doesn't get in your mouth while trying to rizz. It's not as hot as it seems to be fair. I could honestly go on as to why I think TikTok is making this ideas seem more attractive than it really would be lol
I joined a run club hoping to socialize and maybe date. It was fun… until we actually had to y’know… Run. Realized I hated running and have not been back
I joined the local lgbtq+ running club here which helped me realize how much of an awkward introvert I truly am. Now I run the same routes but I just run alone~
@@angelface333 yes come on somebody or when she pretended to be an actual psychic to please a boy from school or when she pretended to be that pirate to impress Devon evil sister, not worth your sanity/health over trying to impress someone who won’t accept you for you
this reminds me of the salsa/bachata social scene i'm apart of. a lot men love to flock to these classes and socials to meet women, but they bring alot of their racism against hispanics and gender dynamics to class. i find alot of men love to try to stroke my hands and body in the middle of the dance (which i understand is a contact activity but there is still consent rules). they also get upset when a woman like myself wants to lead in dance and try to speak over me about my knowledge of dance. i have also been stalked too by another male student in my class that was interested in me. the issue too is these salsa and bachata studios also encourage romance in these spaces, which is fine but they need to also emphasize there is consent and lessen gender roles.
This is exactly what I was thinking about! I don’t want to be hit on when I’m already sweaty, exhausted, and vulnerable… and I don’t think anybody else wants to either lmfao
@@samceledon448The issue is we are trying to carve out space that is for romance and spaces that aren't, but it's antithetical to human nature. It happens where it happens, and we have yet to face the reality of human nature in that way. You can't speak for all women. I have had women in the double digits tell me they're so touch starved that they wish a man would approach anywhere at this point. The only people saying they want less contact are introverts or autistic. These are people who probably were at their happiest during covid. Their experience is valid, but but typical. We simply have to structure society in a way that supports the men and women who want to continue the species. I agree with the og comment about teaching people how to better navigate in those spaces. It's not only teaching men how to better interact with women they don't know, but the same with women. Your average girl in America is sexist towards men. That's just a fact. Your average guy knows he needs a woman, and will say so if you ask. It's not the same the other way around, and that's not on men. It's a two way street.
@@hauntedbottles "your average girl in america is sexist towards men" what does that even mean??? I don't think that GIRLS having an aversion or hesitancy interacting with adult MEN who are not trusted members of their family or learning community is exactly... sexist 😂
Um....the average girl in America is always nice to men as default cuz if not men get real nasty real quick. Any women who aren't usually have had enough with getting attacked by men and just stopped trying since they've realized it's futile.
@@ariesmry What a gross thing you did outting an emphasis on those words to make it seem creepy. Where besides in your head did you see any talking about that dynamic? And yes, if you are immediately fearful of the opposite sex purely because they are that, it's textbook sexism. Do you think fear excuses bigotry?
As much as I love my library system, most activities seem to cater towards babies and kids, and retirees. The only “cool” activities they have are fundraisers involving booze and socializing, lol.
@@pisceanbeauty2503 make sure to ask if they have suggestion cards! Most libraries look at those and really take what you say into account and try their best to create more programs based around your needs
I honestly never knew a run club existed until this video. Hell just reading the title I thought it was just like book clubs where people meet up to talk about books irl instead of Reddit but with a sport. If I was into running I probably would join one or make my own just to run with company. I also have to ask, but if you were going to a run club, why do you think you're gonna find a future spouse out of it? Im pretty sure the people who set these kinds of meet-up-runs are expecting to just run a certain amount of distance with company, maybe make some friends with similar interst, not have it be used as a blind dating site. Especially if you aren't someone who IS and active runner. When Meet-Ups have became the new libraries.
We have one tonight. It’s a fun relay race with a pizza place sponsoring it for some food after. There will be drinks, people bringing coolers and chairs and drinking and eating in the park we just ran around. Most Thursdays start at a bar and lots of people stick around for a drink post run
I’ve been running independently for the past two years and this makes me wanna facepalm. I mean it’s cool that people use run clubs to meet people but using this to just meet someone to date is maybe defeating the purpose 🤦🏻♀️
I’ve been a runner for 15+ years and I honestly don’t think there’s an issue with this trend (just don’t make people uncomfortable). You might trick yourself into a hobby you like and stick with it! People being too judgmental on others starting point tends to be why communities don’t grow or aren’t diverse in personalities.
@@JohnDoe-yo3ed I definitely feel you on that. I could be wrong but I‘m thinking it’s going to be like New Years at the gym. A ton of people join in January then the number of attendees lower and level out by Feb/March. Either way, I just think it’s good practice to be welcoming to newbies since it’s pretty difficult to meet new people in general(friends/running buddies/partners).
The running community could grow in some areas, but in others it doesn't really need to. But people doing some form of exercise always need to increase in numbers.
No one’s saying “don’t run” lol People are saying that run clubs are being misused and just a fad or trend for gen z right now. It’s becoming a safety hazard and taking away from actual runners/people interested in the fitness and community of it.
I’m also curious? What is the stereotype of someone who would join a run club? I’m thinking former hs cross country runners, who were shy nerds or the nice athlete
Living in the suburbs sucks as a someone in the 20s, especially under 25 because you are surrounded by families, married couples and old people. And married women are strangely really intimated by young single women. I know not all, but at least in my burbs.
Not sure if I'm just an older millennial or what, but doing physical hobbies with other people has always been around, and still is. I think it's fantastic that people are discovering the joy and value of leaving their house to do an activity with other people. I think it's nice that people are trying new stuff. Maybe a little weird if they specifically go to do something they're not interested in for a chance to hit, but otherwise that what hobbies are- you do stuff you like and maybe with other people, too. You might meet someone special, which is a bonus, but shouldn't be the goal 🙃
It's really being overblown online and on social media. Even the TikTok mentioned was a REAL runner, joking. I run a club in Florida and people aren't showing up in droves looking to speed date like people are making it seem. A byproduct of running and fitness is a great physique, so when people see a bunch of fit people, sure they're drawn to it. The kicker is you have to RUN when you get there and that's what 95% of people are still showing up for. The fact of the matter is people are yearning for SOCIALIZATION of any kind. All the social media, online, etc. is taking its toll.
As a dude that ran cross country and track in middle school and high school, and I still run. It’s hilarious seeing all these influencer types start running just because it’s “cool” now
Influencers ruin everything, just like they ruined gym culture. I want to be surrounded by people who actually want to exercise, not people who are mainly there to show off their ass and make tiktoks
I have been running in run clubs since last year. I have seen it get SO much popular. I will say I love seeing people out there running but I definitely feel like it depends on what city & place. I ran in SD & it was PACKED with like 500 people every run LOL
@@Ronaldoisbossthere will be no running signs everywhere and if you so happen to do a little jog, you’ll get arrested. Don’t even think about running from robbers either.
Gen Z discovering meeting ppl irl through hobbies is crazy. Let’s see here…*flips through notes* “as a replacement for dating apps” 🤯 screams in elder millennial.
Is this method flawed? Yes 😂 Buuuttt as a fellow gen z I’m glad we’re actively trying to find community and attraction I guess… outside of our phones. I mean back in the day things like this is where some of our parents would meet. I do think it’s taken to the extreme bc of social media and the current state of dating culture.
I actually like this trend for once. 1- you will meet like minded & fit people 2- it's healthier than dating apps, 3- you can network and meet people face to face. Running clubs have a great opportunity to offer more than running. We don't have this phenomenon in Europe yet
The thing about trends though is that we see value in something because a lot of people starts to do it and it’s good to try something new and nothing inherently bad with following trends but it can turn out to be something we do just because it’s trendy to gain social status or what not so the purpose of it is not running in itself anymore. Not saying it’s wrong but if unaware about this types of effect it can lead to us finding community but losing touch with our own authentic selves because even though it is about fitness and healthy lifestyle when you look at it in the surface, what if you actually don’t like it but one still do it because it’s trendy? It’s like exercise is known for its health benefits but it’s not always healthy if you do it excessively or for the wrong reasons. Or the concept of what’s helpful for some might be harmful for others. So being in touch with your own strengths and weaknesses and likes and dislikes and values is still important to make choices that align with what supports you and maybe then you attract or you go for a community you actually like or compatible with ❤️
Once I started seeing more of the run club videos. Straight cringe. Bumble with running shoes. Y’all ain’t finding nobody out there. 😂 ain’t foolin nobody.
Why are we upset about people joining run clubs? People are getting healthy and fit, this should be praised. The ones who were already running are trying to gatekeep.
Im not against the trend. People need to get their asses out and run anyway. People need to keep trying new things and dont let poeple scare you away from social spaces.
My opinion exactly. People need to get more active anyway 😂 I don’t feel right telling people not do to something that will ultimately better their life
Love the video because I was noticing the same thing all over my fyp and all my coworkers are/were training for marathons. It’s giving the exact same hype when people start working out and going to the garage style gyms, Pilate studios and now (besides run clubs) pickle ball is also on the rise for a dating hobby conglomerate. I agree that we do need a third in person space to mingle and date but i think it’s going to be hard due to the simple fact that people on social media have this sheep like mentality and are desperate when it comes to dating and social trends. They’re going to end up like a That’s so Raven episode when they realize that they don’t like whatever hobby or activity they picked up just because their friends are doing it or because a cute boy or girl likes said hobby, going to be stuck on stupid and in a uncomfortable situation all because they let their social desperation take over.
As a runner my brain hurts seeing SOOO many people and new runners run in 300$ nike vapor fly’s for a CLUB EVENT. That might just be me bc I’m a broke bitch but I have separate racing and practice sneakers, my racing ones being the higher quality ones. And it’s upsetting seeing people buying crazy expensive gear to fit the runner aesthetic, it’s just another example of over consumption to fit into a trend. The outfits are cute asf I can’t lie, but with the shit economy I’m sure people feel like they can’t be runners if they don’t have/fit the ‘runner look’.
This is just the start of the Gen-Z collective unconscious rediscovering what love means. Im more tolerant of the phases this will take as our generation starts command more of the economic world. Let the 'Eat-Pray-Love' race BEGIN!!!😂💕
lol to people who are saying running clubs are weird. It’s no different than doing cross country as a sport. It does get out of hand where so many ah people show up for the wrong reasons.
I just joined a run club back in the earlier part of the year and it has changed my life. But…. I don’t go to the club for dating . And I think this whole thing forgets is that when you run correctly, you aren’t the most attractive or cute 😂. But, overall, I hope this opens up more third spaces and clubs to end this loneliness epidemic
The run clubs in Atlanta are wild too. I’m not mad at it though. Active people and attractive people. Better than sitting at home meeting people on apps
I live in Krog and I see runners all the time passing through the tunnel and murals lol I prefer power walking because I rather save my energy for weightlifting 😂
Also started going to run clubs a few years ago and there’s just something about this new found obsession with run clubs that pisses me off 😂 and I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but this video does a good job articulating it
I watched the whole video and I’m confused. In cities like Chicago they run along the lake front running trails not in the middle of busy streets. If people want to meet there, let them! If it becomes a safety hazard then they need to reorganize then.
I work as an assistant wedding coordinator, and my most recent wedding was a pair of runners. They ran out of the church and just…away…at the end of the reception. I hate running with an absolute passion, but I love it for them.
No for real! This really is a thing? I heard about something like this a year and a half ago when my play cousin met her bd at a soccer club that sounded something like this. Lol! I didn't know this was becoming an actual thing 😂
I'm a member of multiple run clubs in my area and can attest to them being some of the best third places. I've seen people new to the area join a club and make a ton of new connections on their first day. I've watched friend groups start up and grow, and I have seen a number of relationships start in the community. People seem to have some idea that everyone simply meets up, runs, and goes home. That may be true for some, but that's ignoring the social aspect of run clubs. There are socials after the runs. People will find friends to do things that aren't even fitness/health-related with. Sure, you've got the shirtless men and the women with the extra-form fitting shorts, but that isn't inherently bad, and neither is it bad to want to find a partner who shares your hobbies and lifestyle. There's something for everyone, whether you want to find friends/community, a partner, improve your health and fitness, train for competitive races, etc. I just don't think it's a likely scenario that there will be so many people who join a run club solely seeking dates, that a club is essentially "hijacked" and transformed into a pseudo-dating space.
I don’t see a major problem with this. “Clubs” are inherently social. If you want to be left alone why would you join when you can just run solo? I always thought the purpose was to meet people. And obviously if you’re straight interacting with the opposite sex can potentially turn into dating. I think it’s great people are meeting out in public
Ig im not chronically online enough to know about this. Finding someone in any hobby is a good way to meet people (friends or dates). Tons of people I know met their wife/boyfriend/FWB/bestie/etc. from hobbies like kickball & wine-tasting to knitting & dungeons & dragons
I think it’s great that people who don’t see themselves as runners are giving it a shot and trying to connect with people! And the fact that some people are joining run clubs to find a partner- well, joining a club to find a date is a tale as old as time. Connecting with people is important! However, like many have mentioned, if you are joining a run club, don’t forget the main reason you are there is to run (and have fun)! And if you are not running (and not enjoying yourself), you might want to find a different activity that suits you better.
lol you should be running at a conversational pace. The clubs are to socialize if you want to run seriously your not doing that level of training with a casual 5k. As long as your not being weird about it that really is the point to run and if that will motivate people to workout good for them. If not they will back out soon they won’t be able to it for long
It’s still better than dating apps. You don’t have to worry about fake pictures and you get to see some of their social skills in real time. there’s not a issue with this
1- it's not a dating "trend". people have been finding loves of their lives by interacting with communities for thousands of years. in a community, dating will obviously happen. If you put a group of men and women together into the proximity of each other, some will start dating. people do that even in religious spaces (i.e. churches) for crying out loud. 2- wtf is a "third space" anyway? who finds these names? 3- are you sure that cities cannot be closed down for one day a week? on a smaller scale, this is exactly what's happening in Santiago (Chile). it's only impossible in america (if that is so in the first place). believe me, if an entire city decides to close down for one day a week in order to run, they'll find a way. 4- the majority obviously won't stick around and it doesn't matter. the ones that do will increase run club populations and the rest will find, idk... any single one of - hiking clubs - fencing clubs - debate clubs - book clubs - anime clubs - rowing clubs - car clubs - golf clubs - drawing clubs - chess clubs - nature clubs - gardening clubs - singing clubs - cycling clubs - cooking clubs - basketball clubs - tech clubs - gaming clubs - bowling clubs - pool clubs - skydiving clubs - skating clubs - birdwatching clubs (yes, this is actually a thing) - dancing clubs - stock trading clubs - photography clubs Tiktok dating trends, here I come. 5- if they can't find a club that suits them, they'll create one. we've been looking at screens for so long that we forgot what being human is supposed to look like. the only wrong thing is the "date or bust" mentality towards joining (or creating) clubs. I'm sure gen z will figure this out too in due time.
People complain about loneliness and then are repulsed by anything social happening anywhere else… „be friends first guys“ but „dont come here to find a relationship“…. Aha. So dont be your friend but also somehow get in a relationship…. Society is fucked simply because every social activity is frowned upon when it‘s used as something else. Go find someone through your hobbies. *does this* ew creep, stop ruining my hobby! Yall just want to be single ffs.
There are 3rd spaces but people don’t want to go outside fr ….everyone is comfortable at home. And the pandemic just amplified all of that and staying home seems more safe for people also. There’s still coffee shops, the roller rink, book stores, the gym, park etc. but people don’t go and don’t socialize with one another like we used to.
I think as a runner, they are cool but for 1 Some don’t seem to actually wanna run or walk and they just want to socialize/date others They seem to center 18 and up when there are so many hs runners And ulterior motives
if there were to be a high school runners club then i think that should be made through the school, like any other club. they’d have at least a teacher as a fill in coach, otherwise there’s nothing inherently wrong with running clubs being 18+ ( especially under the context of people going to socialize)
I went to run club for the first time last week and it was amazing Fun, chill run and tons of people for $0! What’s the downside?? Also dating apps suck
I didnt know they join run clubs for dating..i genuinely started running cause I gained weight and running is the easiest sport (as in I dont have to find a community, no need to book any venue, just lace up n run). I havent join any club tho
i used to work for a running specialty store that host run clubs, and there is a culture behind run clubs! they're a great third place for some people and its nice that people are meeting others in person while being active than swiping left and right or forcing themselves to date. its way more authentic (if you actually like running lol)
Theres nothing wrong with this, people need to touch grass. Dating apps is a money grab and i doubt many people find genuine connection. I am glad people are joining running clubs, we need real life friendships and community. i hope people start going out and actually being social now.
This is a gatekeeping video lol im 31 and have been running since i was 15. Im happy this is a thing for people. I feel like more people will stick with it.
New trend to me. If this space helps people build social skills or new social connections that people are craving, I am all for it. Just nothing can be a silver bullet..particularly for loneliness.
In terms of dating and why the dating pool is bad rn. We have too many options. You talk to one get bored off to the next or they don’t meet your expectations off to the next. Too many options is bad. It leaves people questioning whether they’re even good enough for dating.
14:28 NO FR these girls i been seeing join running clubs i’ve seen some ppl in setting up… are the same ones who i’ve seen voluntarily not participating in exercises like jogging, stretching or conditioning. (This was when we were warming up for an active games night in a society)
I dont think its that big a deal really, it can potentially be ruined by weirdos like any other social function, but i think ppl that enjoy fitness should ride the trend and try something new instead of forever working out alone longing for socializing/ dating.
Honestly I don’t see anything wrong with finding a partner at run club. It’s really hard to eat these days and also I feel like it’s better than finding your future husband at a club
My cousin met his wife filling when my uncles besties broke his wrist and my uncles forced him to finish the bowling league thing apparently my best friend met his wife at a paint and drink thing after covid
I disagree that this is a problem. You could argue this about chess clubs or knitting groups or any other hobby that we want to do as a group. Prior to the internet, people met in real life without a screen or middle man like a dating app. You can still run alone if running in a club is “ruined” by people using it to date and mate. This is the least problematic trend I’ve heard of as of late.
I think they became popular because of fat phobia too. A lot of people go to running clubs to find romantic prospects because they think it’s a way to filter out people with bigger bodies
😂😂😂this is hilarious! I’ve been a runner for ten years, and I remember going on one date with someone I met online. He saw I was a runner and suggested a running date. The way he was wheezing and coughing, we had to stop. That’s when he told me he’d never run before. Why are you suggesting it, my guy? I hope people aren’t how here trying to run a marathon to meet someone 😅😅😅
People saw all these TikToks and thought the lesson was “join a running club” when the real lesson was “have a hobby and do things you actually like to do with likeminded people”
Lesson?
right 😭
You think these kids can read? Btw I am Gen Z lol
I do that and still can’t find someone I need to join a run club 😭😭😭
@@TheNinjapancake14 yes. Bottom line is that people followed a trend instead of their actual interests. The whole point of a third space being most effective is for people to have common interests
This is a consequence of lacking common spaces. It was much easier to socialise back when there were a lot of community type events. People are just responding to what's available. It's human nature to socialise.
Without walkable cities and "Third" places, its hard to have chance encounters with people. Our cities don't really support being social outside of bars and clubs.
@@trey8823 and this is why we have a lonely pandemic. And it's only gonna get worse as the next generations are raised in this type of environment.
@@trey8823That's just an excuse. We be outside in the hood everyday with nothing but concrete. If you want to create activities, humans will find ways to make it fun. We have to simple step up and show up
@@hauntedbottlesidk bout u but even in the hood people are hanging outside less compared to back in the day it’s sad
@@LondonMoneyCashEnterprise not here. They are significantly worse humans than when I was younger, but outside nonetheless lol.
Something I’ve noticed is a lack of ability to be friends with people first! So many relationships now go straight in to the romantic phase, completely missing the point of becoming friends with your partner and THEN deciding if you’d like to date. I think that’s why this blew up - you can meet at a run club, become running friends, and then you have a weekly thing to see each other at. Trying to not rush in to something is hard!!
Exactly
I agree, to be honest I can’t see how people can even think about dating someone until they know them well enough. I met my fiancé in high school and we were friends for two years before we got together. I think friendship should come before relationship. ❤
That's something I've learned with my queer sports league. I've been part of it for about six months, and I haven't dated anyone from it yet, but I'm kind of glad I haven't. I'm still getting to know everyone there, and chemistry isn't built overnight.
@@Obviously.Ivy10 because this isn't realistic
@fakegyllen yeah it is at least the physical. What is chemistry?
Just make sure you actually like running before trying to date them. 😂
I am more than 100% sure the guys are just there to run and the girls heard about it on ticktok
Guys don’t even do “trends” 😂
@@nobodythenobody9779 guys don't do trends? Oh come on 😂 looksmaxxing, all this sigma shit, andrew tate, bitcoins, nfts, gymratting, suprime, boxing matches, video games. I could keep going. Guys do go crazy over trends.
@@maravi9773 some of those things are legit trends but some are just celebraties or hobbies, I should have said guys do much less trends
@@nobodythenobody9779 and you would still be wrong. Celebrities can become trends, and celebrities create trends. It can be trendy to like or follow someone, wear something, eat something. Anything can be a trend. And why? We want validation and belong to a community. And feel like we are "it". And guys follow trends. Guys just seem to think they are these stoic intellectuels who know what they want and go for it. While guys seek male validation through so many ways all the time.
@@maravi9773 you're conflating seeking validation with following trends, I can seek validation without following a trend
Gen Z realizing for the first time that you need to go outside to find community
I wonder when we’ll realize that we should pursue hobbies were genuinely passionate about to be happy, instead of just trying to get laid
I mentioned this to a bunch of Z’rs in a comment section the other day and they had no idea what I was talking about. I realized that they don’t know you have to go outside and actually speak to people to make friends. Fascinating.
@@karenmassey8354 to be fair RUclips comment sections are a pretty abnormal sample selection
this is a step in the right direction!
@@JackH_123 I hope you’re right😂
it’s the fear of looking stupid and being judged by our peers that really keeps us inside because I brought a skateboard that I had been saving up for for a hot minute and it takes so much courage to go to my local community colleges parking lot to attempt to learn how to cruise on my own because I literally know nobody who skateboards but I’ve been passionate about learning it, since I was very young but due to my parents being like very adamant on how dangerous it is, I never got the chance.
Another thing I've noticed are the attractive "fitfluencers" who have made stay in these run clubs and post their content centered around their attraciveness and almost "in-crowd'/"cool kids" type of vibe. They rarely, if ever, post about the genuine benefits of participating in a running club and moreso just about being popular in these spaces and promoting their attractiveness and potential for romance. I don't if this makes much sense but it's an observation I've had for a while!
Peacocking!!! Honestly that still sounds worth dealing with, for the benefits of being in a community!
I am more than 100% sure the guys are just there to run and the girls heard about it on ticktok
Guys don’t even do “trends” 😂
Nah it does make sense. In any community there's people who care about gaining clout off of it
Projecting your own insecurities pretty hard with this take
my run club (fast walk club) is me and the geriatric townies at the nearly demolished mall 💕 working on making it a polycule
That’s the thing you have to be in a city where there are more young people and buy in for these clubs! Running clubs do exist in the suburbs but they are practically empty because most people in the suburbs are too busy raising their families.
@@DiamondFlame45 I have to ask what are your kids supposed to do? The subusrbs in the US have existed since forever. What are your 16+ kids supposed to do? Stay children?
I am more than 100% sure the guys are just there to run and the girls heard about it on ticktok
Guys don’t even do “trends” 😂
@@nobodythenobody9779Guys definitely do trends LMAOO where do you think the “learn to be an alpha male” epidemic came from? 😂😂😂😂
@@LucidKay9114 yeah it’s like 95% girls doing it, and what you talked about isn’t a trend, we just got sick daily common misandry finally 😂
I've been part of a running club for like 2 years now, and while I don't mind this in theory, a lot of people struggle to join run clubs because they're intimidated about not being fit/fast/young enough; a load of people showing up solely looking for people to date (aka attractive people) makes a space that's really trying to seem welcoming into one that wouldn't be welcoming at all
yes this would put me off massively, I don't go running to be hit on. I look like a wet tomato after a run lol
@@Llkolii real, i get so sweaty and musty
I really hope that hauntedbottles guy upthread reads this. He's out here claiming all these women are just volunteering to him how "touch starved" they are. Guys like him give me the creeps trying to sound all intelligent about making hobby groups into dating circles to "help the touch starved ladies". These incel fever dreams need to stay on the internet and out of real life activities.
This! I’ve been trying to get into running for like the past 3 years but I’m too shy to have ppl see me run or join a club because I don’t think I could keep pace with the regulars. Gonna wait for this trend to pass before I try again 😭
❤
Im calling the next trend: reading clubs , especially in libraries that stay open late
Ok but I’d jump on that
I’d love that 😍
Lol but that would actually be cute tho and better than this probably
This don’t even sound bad 😂😂 just gotta make sure people aren’t hooking up in the corner somewhere 😂
I am more than 100% sure the guys are just there to run and the girls heard about it on ticktok
Guys don’t even do “trends” 😂
I think the friendship and community aspect of courtship has been lost actually. More people should focus on building stronger community relationships. In this essay I will…
Yeah I agree with what your saying. Dating and romance shouldn't be the focal point I feel that leads to people jumping into things wayyy too early when they should have built that friendship foundation first.
It's almost as if our ancestors knew what they were doing and tradition is actually good...
The guys just move on to girl that's willing to give it up without actually getting to know him, and the girls will just go towards the attractive guys that don't care about getting to know them. The guys that are trying to be "friends first" will get friendzoned and the girls will fall into the trap of the attractive guy playing along just to get what they really want and then the guy will move on to the next.
@@mimigooloo5203💯
@@thelegacyofgaming2928*some traditions are good
For me this is not something breaking news. As an ambivert person who have multiple hobbies, I could come to the conclusion that whatever hobby clubs you joins, from reading, writing, manga anime, drawing, learning languages, gaming, bicycling,… no matter how serious your community is, there will be a few of them who only have the intention to get laid with other people in the hobby club, not to focus on the hobby they pretend to have interests in. I suggest that you should have clear boundaries and remind them what the main purpose we all present in the hobby club in the first place.
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Desperation and a motivation to turn every social opportunity into something potentially romantic or sexual has the opposite effect.
No one wants to get with you if your interest in the hobby is superficial and you’re actually deceptive to everyone else and really just want to get laid or date. It’s also pretty immature to only care about that rather than improving yourself or just existing and enjoying your interests and being in the company of likeminded people you can discuss these interests with. That’s horny teenager behavior. Just chill out, stop being so horny and watching porn, and prioritize making friends first and enjoy whatever hobby you’re doing. Do not try to force anything and it will blossom eventually.
People get mad that this paradoxical rule exists but it’s just the way psychology works. If you can’t grasp it and change your ways and instead keep staying stubborn and entitled, you will become even more like those dudes in the incel community and eventually just start blaming others and thinking they don’t want you because they’re superficial, rather than the idea that you’re acting like a creep and trying to get with everyone in your hobby group. Unfortunately lots of nerds are socially awkward and inexperienced, or maybe even on the spectrum so it’s harder for them to grasp this even if their intentions are more genuine and not deceptive.
“oh but they want to get laid” so what? You want people locked in their rooms depressed and anxious scrolling their Instagram feed? let them be, why are you so worried about their intentions when you should be happy that the new generations are wanting to get out of this rabbit hold called internet for a bit. C’mon, you guys need to see more the positive instead of just criticizing other people
Okay but like what even is at all attractive about run clubs its literally just... running together😭
Exactly 😭😂😂
You don't find it attractive when people are sweaty and out of breath?
/sarcasm
@@CutiePatutie_SmookiePookieBearit's not as attractive as it sounds if it's a real run. It's not just panting but full blown wheezing. The sweat isn't just a glistening. It's a whole waterfall and if you're actually commiting you see sweat on your shorts which low-key make you look like you peed yourself lol. It's not as attractive as people on Tiktok make it seem unfortunately and if you do like someone there you better get your flirt in before the run because after you hair will be fried and dried from sun, you'll be shaking like a leaf, unable to get a single word in besides water and air conditioning, and let's just hope that salty sweat doesn't get in your mouth while trying to rizz. It's not as hot as it seems to be fair. I could honestly go on as to why I think TikTok is making this ideas seem more attractive than it really would be lol
If You're into running and a healthy lifestyle, it's a good place to find people into the same
believe it or not people like to do stuff together
I joined a run club hoping to socialize and maybe date. It was fun… until we actually had to y’know… Run. Realized I hated running and have not been back
Me too I hate running
I joined the local lgbtq+ running club here which helped me realize how much of an awkward introvert I truly am. Now I run the same routes but I just run alone~
Relatable
No, just Black.
They don't like us
@@jasonhaven7170 Admittedly that also played a part… It’s in Portland OR and the group is over 95% white, cis gay men.
@@justinrolfe5396 Gotta move, man
Wait do they have a walking club 😂
Fr 😂😂😂
some places do yeah!! qnd theyre pretty socially focused usually
I believe it's called a hiking club 😂
This sounds like a episode of that’s so raven, why are people trying to start relationships with a lie, don’t go chasing what’s not interested in you
the one where she pretended to be a super athletic russian gymnast and had to go running every morning? that one’s a classic 😭💗
@@angelface333 yes come on somebody or when she pretended to be an actual psychic to please a boy from school or when she pretended to be that pirate to impress Devon evil sister, not worth your sanity/health over trying to impress someone who won’t accept you for you
@@Apricotwarrior sheesh she’s pretended to be a lot of people for boys’ approval 😭🤦🏾♀️
Women trends
this reminds me of the salsa/bachata social scene i'm apart of. a lot men love to flock to these classes and socials to meet women, but they bring alot of their racism against hispanics and gender dynamics to class. i find alot of men love to try to stroke my hands and body in the middle of the dance (which i understand is a contact activity but there is still consent rules). they also get upset when a woman like myself wants to lead in dance and try to speak over me about my knowledge of dance. i have also been stalked too by another male student in my class that was interested in me. the issue too is these salsa and bachata studios also encourage romance in these spaces, which is fine but they need to also emphasize there is consent and lessen gender roles.
This is exactly what I was thinking about! I don’t want to be hit on when I’m already sweaty, exhausted, and vulnerable… and I don’t think anybody else wants to either lmfao
@@samceledon448The issue is we are trying to carve out space that is for romance and spaces that aren't, but it's antithetical to human nature. It happens where it happens, and we have yet to face the reality of human nature in that way. You can't speak for all women. I have had women in the double digits tell me they're so touch starved that they wish a man would approach anywhere at this point. The only people saying they want less contact are introverts or autistic. These are people who probably were at their happiest during covid. Their experience is valid, but but typical. We simply have to structure society in a way that supports the men and women who want to continue the species. I agree with the og comment about teaching people how to better navigate in those spaces. It's not only teaching men how to better interact with women they don't know, but the same with women. Your average girl in America is sexist towards men. That's just a fact. Your average guy knows he needs a woman, and will say so if you ask. It's not the same the other way around, and that's not on men. It's a two way street.
@@hauntedbottles "your average girl in america is sexist towards men"
what does that even mean???
I don't think that GIRLS having an aversion or hesitancy interacting with adult MEN who are not trusted members of their family or learning community is exactly... sexist 😂
Um....the average girl in America is always nice to men as default cuz if not men get real nasty real quick. Any women who aren't usually have had enough with getting attacked by men and just stopped trying since they've realized it's futile.
@@ariesmry What a gross thing you did outting an emphasis on those words to make it seem creepy. Where besides in your head did you see any talking about that dynamic? And yes, if you are immediately fearful of the opposite sex purely because they are that, it's textbook sexism. Do you think fear excuses bigotry?
Your friendly neighborhood librarian here to remind everyone to support your local libraries. Cute books, cute programs, maybe even a cootie!
Hopefully no cooties!
Ts is a cootie
As much as I love my library system, most activities seem to cater towards babies and kids, and retirees. The only “cool” activities they have are fundraisers involving booze and socializing, lol.
@@pisceanbeauty2503 make sure to ask if they have suggestion cards! Most libraries look at those and really take what you say into account and try their best to create more programs based around your needs
I honestly never knew a run club existed until this video. Hell just reading the title I thought it was just like book clubs where people meet up to talk about books irl instead of Reddit but with a sport. If I was into running I probably would join one or make my own just to run with company.
I also have to ask, but if you were going to a run club, why do you think you're gonna find a future spouse out of it? Im pretty sure the people who set these kinds of meet-up-runs are expecting to just run a certain amount of distance with company, maybe make some friends with similar interst, not have it be used as a blind dating site. Especially if you aren't someone who IS and active runner.
When Meet-Ups have became the new libraries.
We have one tonight. It’s a fun relay race with a pizza place sponsoring it for some food after. There will be drinks, people bringing coolers and chairs and drinking and eating in the park we just ran around. Most Thursdays start at a bar and lots of people stick around for a drink post run
@@keef5 ooh sounds like fun. dont know if they do that here in FL I would need to get started on a running journey.
I’ve been running independently for the past two years and this makes me wanna facepalm. I mean it’s cool that people use run clubs to meet people but using this to just meet someone to date is maybe defeating the purpose 🤦🏻♀️
I’ve been a runner for 15+ years and I honestly don’t think there’s an issue with this trend (just don’t make people uncomfortable). You might trick yourself into a hobby you like and stick with it! People being too judgmental on others starting point tends to be why communities don’t grow or aren’t diverse in personalities.
Right? 😂 it gets people active.
True. I am just worried that it will destroy these clubs since people join with different intentions that just pure running and its benefits
@@JohnDoe-yo3ed I definitely feel you on that. I could be wrong but I‘m thinking it’s going to be like New Years at the gym. A ton of people join in January then the number of attendees lower and level out by Feb/March. Either way, I just think it’s good practice to be welcoming to newbies since it’s pretty difficult to meet new people in general(friends/running buddies/partners).
The running community could grow in some areas, but in others it doesn't really need to. But people doing some form of exercise always need to increase in numbers.
No one’s saying “don’t run” lol People are saying that run clubs are being misused and just a fad or trend for gen z right now.
It’s becoming a safety hazard and taking away from actual runners/people interested in the fitness and community of it.
Because it's the only thing that's social, outside, and free
This. People just want to socialize instead of sitting on social media all day. Let them learn how to be human 😂
Not really though. You just have to look
Don’t they have membership fees? The larger ones at least?
The creativity at the beginning with the reporting YAS honey
i personally wouldn't date the stereotypical type of person who would join a run club, but I like the idea of people having hobbies and 3rd spaces.
What is the stereotypical type of person who would join a run club other than them being athletic?
I’m also curious? What is the stereotype of someone who would join a run club? I’m thinking former hs cross country runners, who were shy nerds or the nice athlete
@@lilygirllisaI live in the city and the stereotypical run club person is your overachieving young urban professional lol
Why? There is no stereotypical type, we just like to run.
@@DiamondFlame45I’m literally from the suburbs but wanna join one in the city bc there are none in the suburbs …
No good looking man can get me to run 😭ever
I don't think they care tbh
Running clubs are viable if you live in a city! If you live in the suburbs, good luck! Suburbs are for raising families and having kids!
and don't even get me started on rural living :,)
Booo let us run in the suburbs too
Living in the suburbs sucks as a someone in the 20s, especially under 25 because you are surrounded by families, married couples and old people. And married women are strangely really intimated by young single women. I know not all, but at least in my burbs.
@@admiraloverdone From the eerily deserted parts of town that feel unsafe to go, to the gravelly uneven roads :,,)
@@admiraloverdoneI live between the suburbs and the rural areas. Depression is my middle name 😢
Something about this hyper-sexualized culture really gets to me.
Not sure if I'm just an older millennial or what, but doing physical hobbies with other people has always been around, and still is. I think it's fantastic that people are discovering the joy and value of leaving their house to do an activity with other people.
I think it's nice that people are trying new stuff. Maybe a little weird if they specifically go to do something they're not interested in for a chance to hit, but otherwise that what hobbies are- you do stuff you like and maybe with other people, too. You might meet someone special, which is a bonus, but shouldn't be the goal 🙃
It's really being overblown online and on social media. Even the TikTok mentioned was a REAL runner, joking. I run a club in Florida and people aren't showing up in droves looking to speed date like people are making it seem. A byproduct of running and fitness is a great physique, so when people see a bunch of fit people, sure they're drawn to it. The kicker is you have to RUN when you get there and that's what 95% of people are still showing up for. The fact of the matter is people are yearning for SOCIALIZATION of any kind. All the social media, online, etc. is taking its toll.
Next in line: dance courses
Again, that has always been a thing - especially as a place to meet someone.
Maybe for Latin dance socials. But not other styles. Dance classes require 100% of your attention, there’s no room to be socializing.
As a dude that ran cross country and track in middle school and high school, and I still run. It’s hilarious seeing all these influencer types start running just because it’s “cool” now
Another runner here, they aren't actually running 😂 just doing it trying to find a boyfriend or girlfriend which is weird
Influencers ruin everything, just like they ruined gym culture. I want to be surrounded by people who actually want to exercise, not people who are mainly there to show off their ass and make tiktoks
I have been running in run clubs since last year. I have seen it get SO much popular. I will say I love seeing people out there running but I definitely feel like it depends on what city & place. I ran in SD & it was PACKED with like 500 people every run LOL
Please don’t make the only hobby I’ve ever have become inaccessible
You will never run out of it, pun intended
All you need is shoes and a place to run, never will be inaccessible
@@Ronaldoisbossthere will be no running signs everywhere and if you so happen to do a little jog, you’ll get arrested. Don’t even think about running from robbers either.
What’s stopping you from running 😂
How dramatic. Are these people stealing your running shoes from you? Taking all the treadmills, trails, parks, sidewalks, and roads?
help why have i never heard of this phenomenon?? 🤣😭
Gen Z discovering meeting ppl irl
through hobbies is crazy. Let’s see here…*flips through notes* “as a replacement for dating apps” 🤯 screams in elder millennial.
Is this method flawed? Yes 😂 Buuuttt as a fellow gen z I’m glad we’re actively trying to find community and attraction I guess… outside of our phones. I mean back in the day things like this is where some of our parents would meet. I do think it’s taken to the extreme bc of social media and the current state of dating culture.
I actually like this trend for once. 1- you will meet like minded & fit people 2- it's healthier than dating apps, 3- you can network and meet people face to face. Running clubs have a great opportunity to offer more than running. We don't have this phenomenon in Europe yet
Parkrun?
The thing about trends though is that we see value in something because a lot of people starts to do it and it’s good to try something new and nothing inherently bad with following trends but it can turn out to be something we do just because it’s trendy to gain social status or what not so the purpose of it is not running in itself anymore. Not saying it’s wrong but if unaware about this types of effect it can lead to us finding community but losing touch with our own authentic selves because even though it is about fitness and healthy lifestyle when you look at it in the surface, what if you actually don’t like it but one still do it because it’s trendy? It’s like exercise is known for its health benefits but it’s not always healthy if you do it excessively or for the wrong reasons. Or the concept of what’s helpful for some might be harmful for others. So being in touch with your own strengths and weaknesses and likes and dislikes and values is still important to make choices that align with what supports you and maybe then you attract or you go for a community you actually like or compatible with ❤️
i went to a run club one time and it was just old people, never went again lmao
Was it Pasadena Pacers by any chance? lol
Oh gosh, not old people, how offensive.
Being a country with a high Obesity rate any excuse for people to go outside and get active is a win! Have a fun hobby to meet likeminded people 💕
Yes!! This is honestly so positive! outside fresh air, free, and social!!
Once I started seeing more of the run club videos. Straight cringe. Bumble with running shoes. Y’all ain’t finding nobody out there. 😂 ain’t foolin nobody.
Facts a new club started here in Dallas and their posts now are anxiety inducing and cringe 😬😒
the videos are so cringe. the creators make it so obvious they are only there to pick up women.
Y'all sound like haters, ain't nothing wrong with trying to find a piece.
It’s cringey to try to meet people outside of dating apps? At least they’re trying.
Jesus... You people are way too negative about everything. This is why you're depressed and lonely 😂
Gen Z is finally in their irl era, and I’m so happy for you all.
people of all ages go outside lol
Why are we upset about people joining run clubs? People are getting healthy and fit, this should be praised. The ones who were already running are trying to gatekeep.
Im not against the trend. People need to get their asses out and run anyway. People need to keep trying new things and dont let poeple scare you away from social spaces.
They don’t NEED to run, there are other forms of physical activity, not everyone likes running 😂. Boxing, yoga, dance, anything.
My opinion exactly. People need to get more active anyway 😂 I don’t feel right telling people not do to something that will ultimately better their life
Love the video because I was noticing the same thing all over my fyp and all my coworkers are/were training for marathons. It’s giving the exact same hype when people start working out and going to the garage style gyms, Pilate studios and now (besides run clubs) pickle ball is also on the rise for a dating hobby conglomerate.
I agree that we do need a third in person space to mingle and date but i think it’s going to be hard due to the simple fact that people on social media have this sheep like mentality and are desperate when it comes to dating and social trends. They’re going to end up like a That’s so Raven episode when they realize that they don’t like whatever hobby or activity they picked up just because their friends are doing it or because a cute boy or girl likes said hobby, going to be stuck on stupid and in a uncomfortable situation all because they let their social desperation take over.
As a runner my brain hurts seeing SOOO many people and new runners run in 300$ nike vapor fly’s for a CLUB EVENT. That might just be me bc I’m a broke bitch but I have separate racing and practice sneakers, my racing ones being the higher quality ones. And it’s upsetting seeing people buying crazy expensive gear to fit the runner aesthetic, it’s just another example of over consumption to fit into a trend. The outfits are cute asf I can’t lie, but with the shit economy I’m sure people feel like they can’t be runners if they don’t have/fit the ‘runner look’.
I run in old leggings and baggy I shirts 😂. I do not care about trends.
This is just the start of the Gen-Z collective unconscious rediscovering what love means. Im more tolerant of the phases this will take as our generation starts command more of the economic world. Let the 'Eat-Pray-Love' race BEGIN!!!😂💕
What is this geriatric train of thought? Like what are you actually saying 😂
@@artheaux666 honestly when people talk about how others a chronically online they always sound the most online😂
Somebody get out there and start selling waters!
Didn't even know run clubs existed😭
lol to people who are saying running clubs are weird. It’s no different than doing cross country as a sport. It does get out of hand where so many ah people show up for the wrong reasons.
I just joined a run club back in the earlier part of the year and it has changed my life. But…. I don’t go to the club for dating . And I think this whole thing forgets is that when you run correctly, you aren’t the most attractive or cute 😂. But, overall, I hope this opens up more third spaces and clubs to end this loneliness epidemic
People getting desperate, lol
LMAOOO 😭😭😭 I love the new casting intro
The run clubs in Atlanta are wild too. I’m not mad at it though. Active people and attractive people. Better than sitting at home meeting people on apps
I live in Krog and I see runners all the time passing through the tunnel and murals lol I prefer power walking because I rather save my energy for weightlifting 😂
Also started going to run clubs a few years ago and there’s just something about this new found obsession with run clubs that pisses me off 😂 and I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but this video does a good job articulating it
I watched the whole video and I’m confused. In cities like Chicago they run along the lake front running trails not in the middle of busy streets. If people want to meet there, let them! If it becomes a safety hazard then they need to reorganize then.
I work as an assistant wedding coordinator, and my most recent wedding was a pair of runners. They ran out of the church and just…away…at the end of the reception. I hate running with an absolute passion, but I love it for them.
No for real! This really is a thing? I heard about something like this a year and a half ago when my play cousin met her bd at a soccer club that sounded something like this. Lol! I didn't know this was becoming an actual thing 😂
You telling run club has been a thing. I love running and I would have joined if I had know this existed it only after this video that I learned
Y’all just need something to do 💀
Yea, that's why they joined the clubs instead of sitting at home
I'm a member of multiple run clubs in my area and can attest to them being some of the best third places. I've seen people new to the area join a club and make a ton of new connections on their first day. I've watched friend groups start up and grow, and I have seen a number of relationships start in the community. People seem to have some idea that everyone simply meets up, runs, and goes home. That may be true for some, but that's ignoring the social aspect of run clubs. There are socials after the runs. People will find friends to do things that aren't even fitness/health-related with. Sure, you've got the shirtless men and the women with the extra-form fitting shorts, but that isn't inherently bad, and neither is it bad to want to find a partner who shares your hobbies and lifestyle. There's something for everyone, whether you want to find friends/community, a partner, improve your health and fitness, train for competitive races, etc. I just don't think it's a likely scenario that there will be so many people who join a run club solely seeking dates, that a club is essentially "hijacked" and transformed into a pseudo-dating space.
I don’t see a major problem with this. “Clubs” are inherently social. If you want to be left alone why would you join when you can just run solo? I always thought the purpose was to meet people. And obviously if you’re straight interacting with the opposite sex can potentially turn into dating. I think it’s great people are meeting out in public
Ig im not chronically online enough to know about this. Finding someone in any hobby is a good way to meet people (friends or dates). Tons of people I know met their wife/boyfriend/FWB/bestie/etc. from hobbies like kickball & wine-tasting to knitting & dungeons & dragons
I think it’s great that people who don’t see themselves as runners are giving it a shot and trying to connect with people! And the fact that some people are joining run clubs to find a partner- well, joining a club to find a date is a tale as old as time. Connecting with people is important! However, like many have mentioned, if you are joining a run club, don’t forget the main reason you are there is to run (and have fun)! And if you are not running (and not enjoying yourself), you might want to find a different activity that suits you better.
nahh i wanna join a walk club. just strolling around the city and sightseeing
👏🏾 STOP 👏🏾 BEING 👏🏾 HORNY
Why not go take dance lessons? Dancing makes so many people more attractive. And it's usually more woman than men in those classes.
Not everyone likes dancing, nothing wrong with wanting to run
@@Las645 Not everyone likes running, nothing wrong with wanting to dance.
You will be asked to leave very quickly if you go there trying to perv on women. I wouldn’t want to dance with some creepy dude
lol you should be running at a conversational pace. The clubs are to socialize if you want to run seriously your not doing that level of training with a casual 5k. As long as your not being weird about it that really is the point to run and if that will motivate people to workout good for them. If not they will back out soon they won’t be able to it for long
More running likely came about during the pandemic because it was a safe way to exercise and socialize
Loving your new style of videos soooo good!!!
To some extent meeting people organically specifically to date, makes it less organic.
It’s still better than dating apps. You don’t have to worry about fake pictures and you get to see some of their social skills in real time. there’s not a issue with this
I think it's like any other trendy thing.
Die-hards will keep it alive when the trend followers leave.
I'm all for it. Who cares. If it helps people develop fitter bodies, friends, a hobby, and maybe even a few dates it's a win win in this dystopia
1- it's not a dating "trend". people have been finding loves of their lives by interacting with communities for thousands of years. in a community, dating will obviously happen. If you put a group of men and women together into the proximity of each other, some will start dating. people do that even in religious spaces (i.e. churches) for crying out loud.
2- wtf is a "third space" anyway? who finds these names?
3- are you sure that cities cannot be closed down for one day a week? on a smaller scale, this is exactly what's happening in Santiago (Chile). it's only impossible in america (if that is so in the first place). believe me, if an entire city decides to close down for one day a week in order to run, they'll find a way.
4- the majority obviously won't stick around and it doesn't matter. the ones that do will increase run club populations and the rest will find, idk... any single one of
- hiking clubs
- fencing clubs
- debate clubs
- book clubs
- anime clubs
- rowing clubs
- car clubs
- golf clubs
- drawing clubs
- chess clubs
- nature clubs
- gardening clubs
- singing clubs
- cycling clubs
- cooking clubs
- basketball clubs
- tech clubs
- gaming clubs
- bowling clubs
- pool clubs
- skydiving clubs
- skating clubs
- birdwatching clubs (yes, this is actually a thing)
- dancing clubs
- stock trading clubs
- photography clubs
Tiktok dating trends, here I come.
5- if they can't find a club that suits them, they'll create one. we've been looking at screens for so long that we forgot what being human is supposed to look like. the only wrong thing is the "date or bust" mentality towards joining (or creating) clubs. I'm sure gen z will figure this out too in due time.
People complain about loneliness and then are repulsed by anything social happening anywhere else… „be friends first guys“ but „dont come here to find a relationship“…. Aha. So dont be your friend but also somehow get in a relationship…. Society is fucked simply because every social activity is frowned upon when it‘s used as something else. Go find someone through your hobbies. *does this* ew creep, stop ruining my hobby! Yall just want to be single ffs.
There are 3rd spaces but people don’t want to go outside fr ….everyone is comfortable at home. And the pandemic just amplified all of that and staying home seems more safe for people also. There’s still coffee shops, the roller rink, book stores, the gym, park etc. but people don’t go and don’t socialize with one another like we used to.
I think as a runner, they are cool but for 1
Some don’t seem to actually wanna run or walk and they just want to socialize/date others
They seem to center 18 and up when there are so many hs runners
And ulterior motives
if there were to be a high school runners club then i think that should be made through the school, like any other club. they’d have at least a teacher as a fill in coach, otherwise there’s nothing inherently wrong with running clubs being 18+ ( especially under the context of people going to socialize)
I went to run club for the first time last week and it was amazing
Fun, chill run and tons of people for $0! What’s the downside??
Also dating apps suck
I didnt know they join run clubs for dating..i genuinely started running cause I gained weight and running is the easiest sport (as in I dont have to find a community, no need to book any venue, just lace up n run). I havent join any club tho
i used to work for a running specialty store that host run clubs, and there is a culture behind run clubs! they're a great third place for some people and its nice that people are meeting others in person while being active than swiping left and right or forcing themselves to date. its way more authentic (if you actually like running lol)
"Why are you running? Why are you running?"
I went to run club for the first time last week and it was amazing
Fun, chill run and tons of people for $0! What’s the downside??
Theres nothing wrong with this, people need to touch grass. Dating apps is a money grab and i doubt many people find genuine connection.
I am glad people are joining running clubs, we need real life friendships and community.
i hope people start going out and actually being social now.
This is a gatekeeping video lol im 31 and have been running since i was 15. Im happy this is a thing for people. I feel like more people will stick with it.
If anyone know of a run club where you can just run ya mouth SIGN MY UPH‼️ 👁️👄👁️
😂😂😂😂
I'm glad i have tennis groups. I get the community but then there's a skill ceiling that prevents crowds. 😂 Am I gate keeping? Probably.
New trend to me. If this space helps people build social skills or new social connections that people are craving, I am all for it. Just nothing can be a silver bullet..particularly for loneliness.
In terms of dating and why the dating pool is bad rn. We have too many options. You talk to one get bored off to the next or they don’t meet your expectations off to the next. Too many options is bad. It leaves people questioning whether they’re even good enough for dating.
People are active, more healthy, interacting in real life instead of being sedentary and online 24/7.. I see nothing wrong with this trend.
The problem is that they’re gonna give up in a few days or weeks because they aren’t actually doing it for the running.
14:28 NO FR these girls i been seeing join running clubs i’ve seen some ppl in setting up… are the same ones who i’ve seen voluntarily not participating in exercises like jogging, stretching or conditioning. (This was when we were warming up for an active games night in a society)
girl i just joined a mma gym in a nice area 😭😭
Yall begged for a third space … now yall got it
tiktok please leave my ski lifts alone this winter
I dont think its that big a deal really, it can potentially be ruined by weirdos like any other social function, but i think ppl that enjoy fitness should ride the trend and try something new instead of forever working out alone longing for socializing/ dating.
Honestly I don’t see anything wrong with finding a partner at run club. It’s really hard to eat these days and also I feel like it’s better than finding your future husband at a club
My cousin met his wife filling when my uncles besties broke his wrist and my uncles forced him to finish the bowling league thing apparently my best friend met his wife at a paint and drink thing after covid
I disagree that this is a problem. You could argue this about chess clubs or knitting groups or any other hobby that we want to do as a group. Prior to the internet, people met in real life without a screen or middle man like a dating app. You can still run alone if running in a club is “ruined” by people using it to date and mate. This is the least problematic trend I’ve heard of as of late.
I think they became popular because of fat phobia too. A lot of people go to running clubs to find romantic prospects because they think it’s a way to filter out people with bigger bodies
Hey better than dating apps. Honestly I’m pretty cool with meeting someone during an activity instead of online.
So the Gym creepers have arrived. Ick.
😂😂😂this is hilarious! I’ve been a runner for ten years, and I remember going on one date with someone I met online. He saw I was a runner and suggested a running date. The way he was wheezing and coughing, we had to stop. That’s when he told me he’d never run before. Why are you suggesting it, my guy? I hope people aren’t how here trying to run a marathon to meet someone 😅😅😅