Yassss,know your worth,if he doesn't show you worth or appreciate your worth,,hes not worth your time..save your body for someone who cares and if he cares he will work to put in that effort to make you his.
hmm so much wisdom?...you taking advice from a woman whos been single for 10 years......what on earth could she know about attracting n keeping the attention of a man...
Onica Durant So men aren’t supposed to have standers for women apparently..? You just gonna interject yourself into his life then expect HIM to bend over backward for you? and when he doesn’t it’s “his problem?” Wow what a prize you must be..
@@collinbrenton6808I'M A GIRL BUT THE GUY I LIKE REJECTED ME SO MANY TIMES THAT I HAD TO COPE WITH IT. U CAN'T DENY THE FACT THAT DOESN'T MATTER HOW GOOD LOOKING OR HIGH VALUE U ARE, IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT, THEY DON'T. 😃😃😃 FUCK I HATE TO SAY THIS BUT *Even when you could be the most expensive strawberry in the world, but his preference (taste) goes to market noni fruit, what can you do?* But don't worry, there will definitely be people who like strawberries. Because every fruit definitely has its fans.
@Hannah Wood You are lowering your standards. I am a non-smoker and smoking is a deal breaker for a LTR. You said it yourself ...... everything stinks!!
@baby turtle underrated comment... and it is true what you say they may want something but they will do and say nothing, then complain they did not get the result
Men, throw away the woman instead of throwing away your standards. If she's not cooperating, she's not interested. Even if the man "gets" her, she's not his "girl", it's just his turn.
"I'd rather be alone than lower my standards." You know what? You're 100% right. I was on the verge of lowering my standards but now they're back up high again. I won't just settle for any guy, I'll keep my standards firmly in mind. Thank you
You are a woman who validates herself. You don't seek someone else to do that job. You know how to be single and are fearlessly confident in that position. You have pearls of wisdom concerning single-hood and have done, (and are continually doing), the hard work of self-love. Not too many ppl choose this because it's not socially acceptable, nor socially understood. I applaud you QUEEN! 👏🏾
Resigned to being alone because I don't match my standards, but I prefer to be honest and be alone than have somebody and feel sad inside because that person doesn't have what I like.
As a Man, a word of advice ladies, Provide value to the, more than just YOU, Some of you in here feel so entitled to a great man yet so many have nothing to offer as a person some of you offer no Value, learn some skills rather than puffing up your face with 10 tones of Makeup You're NOT A QUEEN SO DONT PRETEND TO BE ONE!
@@impossibleisimpossible7375I'M A GIRL BUT THE GUY I LIKE REJECTED ME SO MANY TIMES THAT I HAD TO COPE WITH IT. U CAN'T DENY THE FACT THAT DOESN'T MATTER HOW GOOD LOOKING OR HIGH VALUE U ARE, IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT, THEY DON'T. 😃😃😃 FUCK I HATE TO SAY THIS BUT *Even when you could be the most expensive strawberry in the world, but his preference (taste) goes to market noni fruit, what can you do?* But don't worry, there will definitely be people who like strawberries. Because every fruit definitely has its fans.
Just in the first minute of this video, I immediately felt sad because I'm doing these things just to get a guy who doesn't want me. I really needed this video, I'm going to unfollow him and I'm going to finally realize my worth. Thank you so much for this video. God bless you so so much.
Sometimes, a good and responsible man who likes you will not pursue you...because he knows he's not ready yet.....he knows he cannot give you what you want/deserve yet. He might have some loose ends to tie up. This is actually one of the better types of men b/c he respects you enough to not wanna mess over you, and he's likely put thought and preparation into the type of man he wants to be in a serious relationship. Just sayin... Definitely dont wait around or initiate the pursuit yourself...just dont base your self esteem/value on whether a particular male is immediately all over you. He might be doing you a favor. The ones who move too quickly are often times the biggest red flags.
Or he's just a good and responsible man that realizes healthy relationships are 50/50, and any woman that makes that dynamic about what she thinks she deserves/ wants before he even approaches probably isn't going to lead to a healthy relationship
YES. This has happened to me with a guy who just wasn’t ready and was upfront and honest about wanting to get his life together first before getting into a relationship. We dated and he definitely pursued me at first and of course it hurt when he hit me with his truth, he has distanced himself from me and although I’m super heartbroken I can’t blame him or be mad at his truth. So bittersweet and I can’t help but feel sad he isn’t around anymore
Often these guys who tell you that they aren’t ready and that the need to work out things and resolve “issues” end up marrying someone else, they meet somebody and magically all their things work out.
Ladies if I have one advice for you all.. work on yourself.. get to know who you are what you love what you dont what excites you in life and what doesnt what you do and dont tolerate. Stop copying other women their style way of talking or being.. we can all be inspired by one another but copying will never allow you to get to know who you are truly. Go on a journey wih yourself and do what you have always wanted to do and the right one will come when you least expect it
Hello love. Do you have any tips on how to get to know yourself? I don't really know what I like or who I am. I'm focused on building the new and trying new things, so I can discover mmyself.
The Angel Get to know your physical self through exercise, dance, stretching (any type of healthy movement), know your emotional self by accepting and expressing how you feel to those you trust most (family, close friends, etc), get to know your mental self through reading or engaging in things that are interesting and or challenging to help stimulate your mind, and get to know your spiritual self through prayer, meditation, and etc
I take it like this, if I like a guy and he shows me no interest, that is Gods way of telling me he is not the one made destined for me. To remember that point is quite hard because you want what everyone else has,but if you force something that was not meant to be, you end up with a dude that was all wrong for you, just because you thought the guy was cute. If I chase a guy I want him to chase me too. I'm not about to show interest and the guy looks at me like some desperate fool. Either way the guy meant for us all will come when God is ready for us to experience that.
akeem jack well no. There has been countless of women who have low self esteem and a bland personality that have attracked guys. The type of guys they attract is another conversation but again those type of women do attract a guy. My statement was more so on not forcing yourself on a guy that either doesn't care about you or doesn't really like you when you show him interest. If you show him so much interest and he isn't responding equally then chalk it up to the fact he isn't the one God wants for you.
As a Man, a word of advice ladies, Provide value to the, more than just YOU, Some of you in here feel so entitled to a great man yet so many have nothing to offer as a person some of you offer no Value, learn some skills rather than puffing up your face with 10 tones of Makeup You're NOT A QUEEN SO DONT PRETEND TO BE ONE!
Helen Dickson yes this message needs to shared everywhere . !!! it's too true . it may make some feel guilty but the truth sometimes hurts . we still need to hear it tho !
This video made me cry so much. As an only child, I hbd always wanted acceptance. Not having a dad made me always look for finding love in men. Thank you so much for this video!❤️
I third this. I always looked for acceptance not just in men but with friends too and it led to many toxic relationships. We don't need it, ladies! Good luck to all of you and remember there are people out there just like you - you're not alone! x
So TRUE. Here is a real conversation with the man in my life. i remember this one time in the first month of our dating i was in my hermit mode and i felt like staying in my pj all day. Him: want to grab something to eat? How about dinner? Me: nahh i don't have a car. Him: ill pick you up Me: nahh i don't feel like going out actually Him: ill bring food and we'll hang out in your place Me: oh my place is so messy Him: do you think i give a shit? Me: fine! bring pizza 😂 He shows up 30m later and we watched netflix half naked all day. 3 years later and we are getting married this january 😋 After dating a 'hot and cold, disappearing for a week' kind of guys, meeting this type of men is amazinggg.
One of my friends asked me if I reached out to a man I recently went out with. I said nope. If he wants to talk to me he knows my phone number lol point blank. Never chase or initiate. Make them miss you by initiating nothing.
Girls, it’s simple... believe about him what he consistently does. His words or intentions mean nothing without consistent action in pursuing you. If at the very least 90% of the time he does what he says he is going to do. You have got winner of the prize that is you!
Girls we don't need guys to be happy, don't let a guy walk over you like what I did. You deserve better, don't stress yourself over a guy who doesn't even care about, don't be desperate, know you worthy ❤❤❤#boybye
Yes yes yes yes. I was that girl who was always wondering if a guy liked me until I met the right guy and the way he was made me understand that when guys like someone, they make sure you know.
When you love yourself, you won’t settle for less than what you deserve from a relationship. High Quality Women attract High Quality Men! You never have to lower or degrade yourself!
YES. All of us girls have 'that guy' who kept bugging us even if we showed NO interest. None. That is how they act. Whenever I try to chase, I remember those guys and I *stop*.
*KNOW YOUR VALUE* Period! Once you have realized your worth you will not accept mediocrity, or anyone leading you on. It’s ok to have standards and not compromise #RESERVED
@@nickandchrismom Haha I am so sorry, I didn't know someone commented. But I guess you could say he got right we have been dating for a year now :) But who knows what the future holds🤷♀️
@@user-jp8cm5kr1s I'm so glad that things are turning out well! May this relationship always be a blessing to you in Jesus name! And no worries I understand a lot of times people have probably left me comments and I'll can't even access the comment at all or not for a long while.
I met a guy a couple of weeks ago and our first three dates were amazing or at least that was what i thought. After our third date, he literally changed I don't know why and how. He always said to me 'we will be what you what us to be' and then he just suddenly ghost me like wtf. Anyway gotta learn my value and move on. Thanks for the advice ❤️
Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssss! You better just preach of those standards. Compromising on your standards will not only cost you your heart, it can also cost your self esteem too.
Recently realized that I was trying to convince my ex that I was worth the effort for him to change to make our already 4-year relationship work. My first lesson ending of 2019 is learning to love myself. Other people's rejection of my light isn't a reflection of my worth. bye
The problem is that men have such an easy ride that when a woman has standards most will run a mile and he'll find another woman eager to deliver the goods very easily.
I think the reason a lot of females find themselves pursuing the guy they like instead of sitting back and allowing him to pursue her is out of fear that he'll think she isn't interested and worried that he will move on. But we have to realise look how many guys will go out of their way to even chase a girl who's made it more than clear she isn't interested so how much more when he's interested in you and knows you're interested in him too. All is ladies really have to do is just let him know that there's a mutual interest and if he's really interested he WILL pursue you. 😉
lexie selongo I think girls chase guys because there r so many of us and so less of them so we feel we have to get one before another woman get him. The proportion is not 50 50. There are more girls than guys.
Bigjayking24 I think if a man knows ur value and his value too that he deserves that queen and what he will get by the end this precious tresor he will do everything I m confused between the two thaughts cz i really believe that if a man wants me , knows my value , and his value and all this hard work will pays of by the gorgeous me as a real life benefic he will do much and lot to get me While if he just want a perfect one in easy way it means he doesnt know my value and he doesnt deserve me and i will not feel that this man gonna protect me or value me later on I do believe in that while sometime my friends told me that i should make it more easy cz maybe he lefts bcz her dignity is touched But i can see i can hear from that person and those arround him verbaly and non verbaly that he saw me just the wow and so sure of it for me i just consider it that he doesnt value himself for tht he want easy thing like he doesnt want to pass the proof of i deserve u i will take u and i will not let u go gogeous But sometime i get confused and say maybe im so irrealistic
He was so thrilled when I said I like him, then he said broke up with me 35 days ago after 1.5 year relationship. Never ever say it first. Right guy will chase.
I've been with a guy for five years with out him , not even once, asking me to be his girlfriend. Watching this video made me realize i didn't throw away my standard, I put them in a burning fire and watch them burn slowly. thank you for putting my POV in the right place. BTW i'd commit to you
Breeny... this message was well needed for myself. I just had to drop someone because of a similar situation you just spoke about, I got to the point I needed to ask the right questions and when I got the answers to confirm my instincts I just gave him the ✌🏾I deserve better and I know what I'm worth, and what I can bring to any relationship, since he didn't want to commit I'm out. What you're talking about in this video just reinforced my decision. I've got too much on my plate to even focus on a man and their shenanigans. Just love yourself and love being alone, you learn so much about yourself and to love yourself even more.
Breeny, could you please do a video on being single and never dating as a young woman? I'm 21 and finishing uni this May and all my close friends are engaged/ married or getting married/popping out babies alongside graduation in the next few months to a year and I'm the single friend out of the group. I've never dated anyone and I was only interested in 1 guy during my entire time in uni. I'm super supportive of my friends and their relationships (as long as they're healthy) but I feel left out and they want me to have what they have.
Then start dating...it's that simple. One Issue that single people have is that they think way to much about relationships and how high and low they should put their standards when really all you got to do is go out meet people and date. The less you think about it and become active the better it wil get.
Envoguegirl 92 It's not that simple or easy while in a uni that's in a tiny town. A lot of my male peers just want sex and that's it. I want a real relationship.
gbemi pls start makin urself available to have dates cause u need to start learning abt urself ,type of men u like,things that help make u thrive successfully in relationship, things that cause failure to thrive in the relationship,etc... pls u dont want to be in ur 30's and ur now learning abt men.
alona love I always make myself available since I have a lot of free time outside of classes and schoolwork. I like older guys. 5 years older is my cap. The guys who have asked me out are either assholes, fuckboys, or creeps whose bullshit I could see through from the moments they walked up. Cocky bastards. 😐😐Home is a different story. My town's a good place to raise a family but not to meet people. I still live at home while on breaks and my parents decide who I can bring to their house when I ask. I'm in uni and I have no money to be moving out of my parents' house anytime soon. I'm broke 😂😂😂
this is just preaching the truth, if a man really wants you he will pursue you and some men will lead women on into thinking that they could be something but will not take it any further
The guy I like is so sweet. I'm really shy so I never really talk to him a lot but he still tries to make me smile. Today he said I look amazing when I smile
Owolabby Azeez ... not completely true. Go doesn't give us blessings simply because of our works. He blesses us because of his grace as well. We are to walk as Godly as we can and each day he works on us little by little. There is nothing that we can do to earn Gods love, favor and mercy than anymore than we are doing now! One of the MANY reasons he's beautiful ❤ Peace and blessings brother 😊
ya that's definitely true. I was just saying that ultimately if you want to be a better Student, Bf/Gf, better at work then by becoming a better Christian it flows into those other areas of your life
Guys there’s a reason he said “better christian” not Christians playing religion. If you aren’t growing in Christ and even you can’t do better then you’re not living a better lifestyle.
I absolutely love how you always tie in your wisdom with God and scriptures. Yes! Hidden Gem. I'm not for everybody. God is looking out in ways we don't even know 👏😤🗣📣❤ #reserved
Some guys are shy and aren’t comfortable making the first move. Girls like making first moves and end up having successful relationships with a guy who doesn’t make moves first. Just because guys can’t find the gut to make a move, doesn’t mean they aren’t worth it. If they reject you, their loss, but shy guys should be understood just as much.
Oh my god. My boyfriend just broke up with me last week saying he had doubts etc etc all bs. but this video has seriously helped me thanks so much girl💜
Join the club I have never been taken out for Valentine's Day either and I think Valentine's Day is so romantic and I am 46 but now I am raising my standards just sick of being under-valued. I love your videos. Blessings. Amen.
Hello. I am a woman who’s been taken out for birthdays and Valentine’s Day and received a dozen of roses religiously for over 10 years BUT, no commitment. EVER. Do you hear me? EVER. NEVER!!! Gifts for Christmas. Meals cooked, gourmet b himself and all. Best friends and lovers is what we were but NOPE. No t even a mention of commitment. My fault for staying in it so long. I was busy working and hustling and raising my daughter so I overlooked it until I really got a good look and come to terms with what I was really settling for. I’m worthy and a good woman and w know my God has a blessing for me. I know he doesn’t desire for me to be alone forever. Next month I’ll be 56 and am watching and waiting b. Be encouraged my sister.
Ooooooooooooooooo girl you preaching you did not come to play today 😩👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 don't get me started on the guys that hang around and flirt but don't pursue 😤😡😡😡 worst kind worst of the worst
I say it all the time, women should not be pursuing men, it never ends well. On another note, are you sure your lippie is Valentine? I looked it up and it looks like a deep wine color.
Muhsin Moussa it’s actually not. Men are natural chasers, and women chooses or decides to get with the man or not. If a men is not pursuing the woman that he “likes”, then it’s time to move it along.
As a Man, a word of advice ladies, Provide value to the, more than just YOU, Some of you in here feel so entitled to a great man yet so many have nothing to offer as a person some of you offer no Value, learn some skills rather than puffing up your face with 10 tones of Makeup You're NOT A QUEEN SO DONT PRETEND TO BE ONE!
Right on! I made the mistake of holding on to the hope that this man in church liked me and was waiting on him to ask me out but he never did. I read all the signs wrong because I wanted to believe it was true. I've had men pursue me and I knew they were pursuing me so you will know when they do. Dont waste your time because its too precious.
i guess i really needed this. i been having a crush on this guy for so long and when we see each other we talk but he hasnt tried to get my number or ask me out or anything so i really just need to let it go ughhh.
I can relate to you. That's the best thing you can do or else you'll be holding on to a guy who doesn't reciprocate your feelings and that is unhealthy for your confidence. Trust me. Something much will come along. :)
ask him out on a friendly date and once u feel bold tell him that u find him interesting and would like to get to know him betta if he is available. let me know what happens........ the worst thing is he comes with the friend card so what its his lost
pray for the spirit of boldness and for strength cause it can go in ur favor or not but either way we want to walk away a winner. tell him u like the way...........(complete the blanks) and if he is available u would like to b more than friends. then smile look confident even if ur dying inside . DONT DONT LOOK OR ACT DESPERATE AT ALLLLLLLLLLLL. if he says no or he has a gurl friend then just smile and say ok huh u dont know what ur missing and keep on being the best of friends. i hope it wrks for u keep me posted. ohhh i cant wait for u to have that first kiss oh laaaaaaaaa
Wow! This is so insightful and eye-opening. I’ve always been like this, I have never given my precious time for someone who’s a player. I always knew my worth and even though I’d be dying inside, I would never even make him feel that I like him. This served me well throughout my teenage years until I found the one for me at the age of 21.
I think we as a generation has to understand and move away from the idea that a person can text you 24/7. Also if a person doesn't reply it means he doesn't want you or doesn't like you. No career driven man can pull out his phone at work to reply to you. We have to measure likeness in the things he does and says. I'm a teacher and from 8 to 3 honestly I cannot text any man I like because if I do one of my babies may do something they have no darn business. Logically think about his day and what he does throughout it. Be patient ladies. This generation has everything given to them quickly and so we believe relationship should be build on those same principles. No...... also measure a man worth based on how he treats people. Regardless of his religious beliefs a human can still be a terrible individual. Find someone the compliments you, but most of all that you will understand and they will under you as well. But most of all do not place your future in a mans hands based on misguided gender roles. You are allowed to text first you are allowed to make the first move. You won't be a creep..... go for whatever you want life is too darn short
Nothing is wrong with making the first move but when all the moves are left up to you then you know!!! The bottom line is somebody who wants you will not let you go neglected for any long periods ....no gender roles just nature!!!
Ok but my parents have been married and living together for 25 years and both of them work full time jobs. My father STILL manages to call my mother when he gets off of work or is on his break. If he can’t, he sends a text (which takes like 10 seconds lol). To each their own tho 💕
I'm glad I'm seeing this. I will be honest, I had a moment of weakness yesterday and cried just for the fact that when I thought I was ready to put myself out, it blew up in my face. Thought me and this hit it off, he was all for meeting up after talking on the dating app. Then he dropped me, and his tuned changed. I was upset because I thought I was happy enough, but fuck it. I'm focusing on my health, and my goals to get my degree in college. If I'm alone, that's fine. I don't need to sit and wonder what -I- did when it's not ME. I didn't do anything to scare him off or put my ass out for anything. I let it be known what I wanted and suddenly it's me being dropped. It's alright...
Not quite; Sometimes we need a little motivation from the ladies...If one is pursuing you, kindly respond and let it first be a friendly relationship. Not all men pursue women for the right purpose...some want to conquer and leave. This is the only way you know a man loves you; "He is friendly and not selfish. He will put your interest and comfort first."
Thanks for sharing your perspective and experience; I agree that when it comes to human behavior and motivation, no one rule applies universally across the board. We all respond a little differently to similar situations, and I think maybe it would be better if hard-and-fast rules about relationships gave way to more nuance and understanding.
Amen sister! Finally someone telling the truth- I'm tired of listening to women crying over men not wanting them. I'd rather stay alone for the rest of my life than case a man! Like what for? If he won't chase me, he don't deserve me.
So true! I use to think my standards were too high , as this is what women tend to be accused of. I realised that 'I'm asking for the bare minimum' as you put it.
Yes I am not chasing any man especially this year. I'm more focus on my business this year. I don't have the time for "fuck boys" anymore! Too old for this shhhh! Valentine's comes and goes and I ain't bothered at all. If he can't make me happy then goodbye before I throw hot grits his way. Don't come popping up around me when ya ready. Boy bye 👋🏾 . Great video
It means you haven't grown up past a 12 year old school girls mentality. Any woman over 20 that still thinks that men should just approach a woman just because she breaths still has alot of growing up to do.
I am glad I subbed you. The breaking point of my relationship was that jerk of a bf body shaming me and I agree w you that intrinsic value is priceless and no individual has the right to disrespect others. So I left him. It was hard leaving him believe me but I #preserved my dignity and now I've #reserved myself for something better.
"I know who I am."
Imani Shola - precisely ❤️
Yassss,know your worth,if he doesn't show you worth or appreciate your worth,,hes not worth your time..save your body for someone who cares and if he cares he will work to put in that effort to make you his.
hmm so much wisdom?...you taking advice from a woman whos been single for 10 years......what on earth could she know about attracting n keeping the attention of a man...
Best part honestly
@@BreenyLee Sorry but you make Up is Horrible ,you Look Like a dragg Queen,horrivel ...you Look Like a Clown,you scare the Shit of me😀😂😁
THROW OUT THE GUY BEFORE YOU THROW OUT YOUR STANDARDS. AMEN.
Zanett Schiller should get this as a tattoo 😂😂😂 Amen!!!
Yeah gal
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Amen!
Zanett Schiller lotta single women because of that exact mindset. PRINCE CHARMING ISNT REAL
"if you can't see me then you're blind and that's your problem" 😂😂😂😂 I'm so glad I found her 👏👑👑
Omg lol.....she is very funny!
It's true 100% truth
Onica Durant So men aren’t supposed to have standers for women apparently..? You just gonna interject yourself into his life then expect HIM to bend over backward for you? and when he doesn’t it’s “his problem?” Wow what a prize you must be..
I love her
"You may get their attention, but you lose their respect." DAYMNNNNNNNN
Duh cuz something clearly happened between all of that
What’s the time stamp?
@@collinbrenton6808I'M A GIRL BUT THE GUY I LIKE REJECTED ME SO MANY TIMES THAT I HAD TO COPE WITH IT. U CAN'T DENY THE FACT THAT DOESN'T MATTER HOW GOOD LOOKING OR HIGH VALUE U ARE, IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT, THEY DON'T. 😃😃😃 FUCK I HATE TO SAY THIS BUT
*Even when you could be the most expensive strawberry in the world, but his preference (taste) goes to market noni fruit, what can you do?* But don't worry, there will definitely be people who like strawberries. Because every fruit definitely has its fans.
This made me want to leave my man and I don’t even have one
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OMG HAHHAHA U MADE ME LAUGH SO LOUD HAHAH
lol whattt ❤️🤣🤣🤣
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Wow ok😅
"Having standards push useless guys away" #queen
Gooood!!!
Letzz BP soo true
She said it. Read again USELESS GUYS!
Why do you wanna use men in the first place?
@Hannah Wood You are lowering your standards. I am a non-smoker and smoking is a deal breaker for a LTR. You said it yourself ...... everything stinks!!
I agree 100 % with you. This is so true!!! Men are simple: if they want something - they make an effort, if not - they don't.
@baby turtle underrated comment... and it is true what you say they may want something but they will do and say nothing, then complain they did not get the result
Joanna T
Nope. If she isn’t putting in as much effort as me, I’m on to the next one.
Facts! Just make sure you can weld, lift weights and shoot well.
Men, throw away the woman instead of throwing away your standards. If she's not cooperating, she's not interested. Even if the man "gets" her, she's not his "girl", it's just his turn.
@@maxhouse2409 Thread of the year lol
i watch this video once a month for reassurance. I'm on the right track.
I think I will do the same!!
Let me get like you #reserved
Delusional women
It’s been 10 months have you accomplished your mission after taking her advice?
I need to watch this video all the time.
Time to go block some numbers, thank you for this
Yessss👏👏👏
Marian haha she is amazing!!!!
Hahahahah
why block, just delete. That's like holding onto Jean's that dont fit and you may not get back into them again.
Toss.
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"I'd rather be alone than lower my standards."
You know what? You're 100% right. I was on the verge of lowering my standards but now they're back up high again. I won't just settle for any guy, I'll keep my standards firmly in mind. Thank you
Anu R Do you match your standards?
Watch out for that fertility window though. Eggs might be drying up.
@@FrankTenpennyy not everyone wants kids jfc
You are a woman who validates herself. You don't seek someone else to do that job. You know how to be single and are fearlessly confident in that position. You have pearls of wisdom concerning single-hood and have done, (and are continually doing), the hard work of self-love. Not too many ppl choose this because it's not socially acceptable, nor socially understood. I applaud you QUEEN! 👏🏾
Fr meagan
I'd rather be alone than lower my standard...yes
do you match your standards
western woman feminism here.
Resigned to being alone because I don't match my standards, but I prefer to be honest and be alone than have somebody and feel sad inside because that person doesn't have what I like.
As a Man, a word of advice ladies, Provide value to the, more than just YOU, Some of you in here feel so entitled to a great man yet so many have nothing to offer
as a person some of you offer no Value, learn some skills rather than puffing up your face with 10 tones of Makeup You're NOT A QUEEN SO DONT PRETEND TO BE ONE!
@@impossibleisimpossible7375I'M A GIRL BUT THE GUY I LIKE REJECTED ME SO MANY TIMES THAT I HAD TO COPE WITH IT. U CAN'T DENY THE FACT THAT DOESN'T MATTER HOW GOOD LOOKING OR HIGH VALUE U ARE, IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT, THEY DON'T. 😃😃😃 FUCK I HATE TO SAY THIS BUT
*Even when you could be the most expensive strawberry in the world, but his preference (taste) goes to market noni fruit, what can you do?* But don't worry, there will definitely be people who like strawberries. Because every fruit definitely has its fans.
Just in the first minute of this video, I immediately felt sad because I'm doing these things just to get a guy who doesn't want me.
I really needed this video, I'm going to unfollow him and I'm going to finally realize my worth. Thank you so much for this video. God bless you so so much.
Same! On stupid Bumble app
Cherie I think a lot of us needed this video. I'm going through a divorce and this video confirms it was the right choice.
and 1 year later that guy is probably completely irrelevant in your life.
Same it hurts really bad...
cherieglam I just learned he had a girlfriend and I been doing the same. Waited for him like a dumbass. It’s not worth it ladies, it’s not worth it.
"He sold you a dream and you believed it " ... hurts deep
If he really loves you, you wouldn’t be doubting that by now. Cuz he will tell u, will let u know and he will pursue u. 👌🏻
Sometimes, a good and responsible man who likes you will not pursue you...because he knows he's not ready yet.....he knows he cannot give you what you want/deserve yet. He might have some loose ends to tie up. This is actually one of the better types of men b/c he respects you enough to not wanna mess over you, and he's likely put thought and preparation into the type of man he wants to be in a serious relationship. Just sayin... Definitely dont wait around or initiate the pursuit yourself...just dont base your self esteem/value on whether a particular male is immediately all over you. He might be doing you a favor. The ones who move too quickly are often times the biggest red flags.
Or he's just a good and responsible man that realizes healthy relationships are 50/50, and any woman that makes that dynamic about what she thinks she deserves/ wants before he even approaches probably isn't going to lead to a healthy relationship
Good points
YES. This has happened to me with a guy who just wasn’t ready and was upfront and honest about wanting to get his life together first before getting into a relationship. We dated and he definitely pursued me at first and of course it hurt when he hit me with his truth, he has distanced himself from me and although I’m super heartbroken I can’t blame him or be mad at his truth. So bittersweet and I can’t help but feel sad he isn’t around anymore
Love this!
Often these guys who tell you that they aren’t ready and that the need to work out things and resolve “issues” end up marrying someone else, they meet somebody and magically all their things work out.
Ladies if I have one advice for you all.. work on yourself.. get to know who you are what you love what you dont what excites you in life and what doesnt what you do and dont tolerate. Stop copying other women their style way of talking or being.. we can all be inspired by one another but copying will never allow you to get to know who you are truly. Go on a journey wih yourself and do what you have always wanted to do and the right one will come when you least expect it
Hello love. Do you have any tips on how to get to know yourself? I don't really know what I like or who I am. I'm focused on building the new and trying new things, so I can discover mmyself.
The Angel how old are you? I can answer your question.. I know this is 4 months later but I am at that stage in life.
The Angel Get to know your physical self through exercise, dance, stretching (any type of healthy movement), know your emotional self by accepting and expressing how you feel to those you trust most (family, close friends, etc), get to know your mental self through reading or engaging in things that are interesting and or challenging to help stimulate your mind, and get to know your spiritual self through prayer, meditation, and etc
Almost every woman in the comment section needs to hear this
The Angel stay single and allow yourself to be in solitude that's where you gonna be able to know yourself, that how i was able to know myself❤
I take it like this, if I like a guy and he shows me no interest, that is Gods way of telling me he is not the one made destined for me. To remember that point is quite hard because you want what everyone else has,but if you force something that was not meant to be, you end up with a dude that was all wrong for you, just because you thought the guy was cute. If I chase a guy I want him to chase me too. I'm not about to show interest and the guy looks at me like some desperate fool. Either way the guy meant for us all will come when God is ready for us to experience that.
Bonita Pandora real talk!
Or you are just to insecure and have no personality to attract him. Think
akeem jack well no. There has been countless of women who have low self esteem and a bland personality that have attracked guys. The type of guys they attract is another conversation but again those type of women do attract a guy. My statement was more so on not forcing yourself on a guy that either doesn't care about you or doesn't really like you when you show him interest. If you show him so much interest and he isn't responding equally then chalk it up to the fact he isn't the one God wants for you.
Well said, I agree. Peace to you hunny
So true!! Sometimes as women we look for "closure" and what I've realized is that his "indecisiveness" IS closure....he's just not that into me! lol
WHO ELSE FELT LIKE SHE WAS TALKING EXCALTY TO YOU🔥🔥✊🙎💃
Sharon H meee
Sharon H meeeee 😂😂😂😂😊
Meeeeeee!!!!!🙋🏽♀️
😥😥😥😥😥
As a Man, a word of advice ladies, Provide value to the, more than just YOU, Some of you in here feel so entitled to a great man yet so many have nothing to offer
as a person some of you offer no Value, learn some skills rather than puffing up your face with 10 tones of Makeup You're NOT A QUEEN SO DONT PRETEND TO BE ONE!
“I’m going to remove myself from that situation, and I’m going to love myself “ ❤️👏🏼
I wish it was possible to like this video more than once. More girls need to understand this message. Preach🙏🏾
Helen Dickson yes this message needs to shared everywhere . !!! it's too true . it may make some feel guilty but the truth sometimes hurts . we still need to hear it tho !
She preaching aint she
This video made me cry so much. As an only child, I hbd always wanted acceptance. Not having a dad made me always look for finding love in men. Thank you so much for this video!❤️
I'm the exact same, only child no father, always allowing myself to get heartbroken
BlissBeautyMagic it will all get better my love xx
I third this. I always looked for acceptance not just in men but with friends too and it led to many toxic relationships. We don't need it, ladies! Good luck to all of you and remember there are people out there just like you - you're not alone! x
Me too girl. Men play too many games nowaday's😒
Ebzyh l 100% thanks for always sharing. I'm trying to get some therapy for it, it's not always been easy but I know that I can make it xx
The 21 people who disliked the video are the ones who lower their standards to impress men.
Or they are men!
Well said but this made me laugh too
"Pick me's"
"Throw away the guy before you throw away your standards."
"You got goals baby girl" she's like my beautiful fairy godmother or sum I love her
I️ just Block so many numbers within 5 mins of the Video
Lmaoooo
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Good job girl
Next level savage 😂
Brittny Hall 💜💜💜💜
Keep being STRONG!!! The RIGHT Man will PURSUE you Queen 👑
Lol
Agreed
So TRUE. Here is a real conversation with the man in my life. i remember this one time in the first month of our dating i was in my hermit mode and i felt like staying in my pj all day.
Him: want to grab something to eat? How about dinner?
Me: nahh i don't have a car.
Him: ill pick you up
Me: nahh i don't feel like going out actually
Him: ill bring food and we'll hang out in your place
Me: oh my place is so messy
Him: do you think i give a shit?
Me: fine! bring pizza 😂
He shows up 30m later and we watched netflix half naked all day.
3 years later and we are getting married this january 😋
After dating a 'hot and cold, disappearing for a week' kind of guys, meeting this type of men is amazinggg.
One of my friends asked me if I reached out to a man I recently went out with. I said nope. If he wants to talk to me he knows my phone number lol point blank. Never chase or initiate. Make them miss you by initiating nothing.
VintageAfro91 This ! Lol I actually deleted the guy number so now he has no choice.because I don’t have his number
This is the hard part about dating nowadays. The game of you first no you first no you first. It’s annoying
@@user-vy4nr9ci2e issa pride issue
qwerty asdfg Their mans purpose/passion means nothing to them. Everything is only nice and friendly as long as they are on the receiving end.
@qwerty asdfg So what makes those feminine men "high value" in your opinion?
Girls, it’s simple... believe about him what he consistently does. His words or intentions mean nothing without consistent action in pursuing you. If at the very least 90% of the time he does what he says he is going to do. You have got winner of the prize that is you!
I rather be alone then lower my standards😀😂😊👍👏💯
I see cats in your future
@@jamescollins6347 the cat woman joke is pathetic mate!
Girls we don't need guys to be happy, don't let a guy walk over you like what I did. You deserve better, don't stress yourself over a guy who doesn't even care about, don't be desperate, know you worthy ❤❤❤#boybye
Women, who love God are diamond💎
Yes yes yes yes. I was that girl who was always wondering if a guy liked me until I met the right guy and the way he was made me understand that when guys like someone, they make sure you know.
When you love yourself, you won’t settle for less than what you deserve from a relationship. High Quality Women attract High Quality Men! You never have to lower or degrade yourself!
YES. All of us girls have 'that guy' who kept bugging us even if we showed NO interest. None. That is how they act. Whenever I try to chase, I remember those guys and I *stop*.
*KNOW YOUR VALUE* Period! Once you have realized your worth you will not accept mediocrity, or anyone leading you on.
It’s ok to have standards and not compromise
#RESERVED
"God is such a protective father, he doesn't want you out anywhere" AMEN
Me watching this:
**changes my phone background that was a picture of him**
**deletes the heart emoji next to his contact**
Update? Did you get over him or did he get right?
@@nickandchrismom Haha I am so sorry, I didn't know someone commented. But I guess you could say he got right we have been dating for a year now :) But who knows what the future holds🤷♀️
@@erm12302 Commented :)
@@user-jp8cm5kr1s I'm so glad that things are turning out well! May this relationship always be a blessing to you in Jesus name! And no worries I understand a lot of times people have probably left me comments and I'll can't even access the comment at all or not for a long while.
@@nickandchrismom thank you
“You don’t have to be everyone cup of tea”
👏👏👏👏
Thank you! "If you can't see me, when you're blind" Perfectly said, 2017 ain't chasing nobody.
The last 5 minutes where you spoke about God keeping you like a precious treasure in a museum, for your protection gave me chills all over! ❤️
Same here..
Sad but true save yourself for Someone that feels the same way simples
I met a guy a couple of weeks ago and our first three dates were amazing or at least that was what i thought. After our third date, he literally changed I don't know why and how. He always said to me 'we will be what you what us to be' and then he just suddenly ghost me like wtf. Anyway gotta learn my value and move on. Thanks for the advice ❤️
Omg the same thing happened to me! :(
@baby turtle jokes on the guy he isnt good enough anyways.
@baby turtle but saying he did that for a hotter girl doesn't feel too good.
I know this feeling to well.
Same here, and i thank God he did that so early and i didn't waist more time
Just played this in the shower. Best shower ever.
Why did it take God so long to put me on your channel, I have been needing these videos🤦🏾♀️
Lol. Ikr
Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssss! You better just preach of those standards. Compromising on your standards will not only cost you your heart, it can also cost your self esteem too.
Dionne Kaliisa - that's Right!
The only person I'm chasing is god.
I right behind you Cherrelle🙏💕
Hello!
God*
@@njeri.m997 !!!!!!!!!
You're chasing ghosts
Recently realized that I was trying to convince my ex that I was worth the effort for him to change to make our already 4-year relationship work. My first lesson ending of 2019 is learning to love myself. Other people's rejection of my light isn't a reflection of my worth. bye
Changing your whatsapp picture 5 times a day..😂😂😂 sooo me
😂😂😂😂😂😂
The problem is that men have such an easy ride that when a woman has standards most will run a mile and he'll find another woman eager to deliver the goods very easily.
I think the reason a lot of females find themselves pursuing the guy they like instead of sitting back and allowing him to pursue her is out of fear that he'll think she isn't interested and worried that he will move on. But we have to realise look how many guys will go out of their way to even chase a girl who's made it more than clear she isn't interested so how much more when he's interested in you and knows you're interested in him too. All is ladies really have to do is just let him know that there's a mutual interest and if he's really interested he WILL pursue you. 😉
Toni Sara well said.
lexie selongo 💯💯💯💯
You just answered my question and saved me from unnecessary worry.
lexie selongo I think girls chase guys because there r so many of us and so less of them so we feel we have to get one before another woman get him. The proportion is not 50 50. There are more girls than guys.
Bigjayking24
I think if a man knows ur value and his value too that he deserves that queen and what he will get by the end this precious tresor he will do everything
I m confused between the two thaughts cz i really believe that if a man wants me , knows my value , and his value and all this hard work will pays of by the gorgeous me as a real life benefic he will do much and lot to get me
While if he just want a perfect one in easy way it means he doesnt know my value and he doesnt deserve me and i will not feel that this man gonna protect me or value me later on
I do believe in that while sometime my friends told me that i should make it more easy cz maybe he lefts bcz her dignity is touched
But i can see i can hear from that person and those arround him verbaly and non verbaly that he saw me just the wow and so sure of it for me i just consider it that he doesnt value himself for tht he want easy thing like he doesnt want to pass the proof of i deserve u i will take u and i will not let u go gogeous
But sometime i get confused and say maybe im so irrealistic
So weird that I found you after I deleted this guy that I've been chasing's number. Looks like I'm on the right path. Thank you 💓
He was so thrilled when I said I like him, then he said broke up with me 35 days ago after 1.5 year relationship. Never ever say it first. Right guy will chase.
I've been with a guy for five years with out him , not even once, asking me to be his girlfriend. Watching this video made me realize i didn't throw away my standard, I put them in a burning fire and watch them burn slowly. thank you for putting my POV in the right place. BTW i'd commit to you
Breeny...these wise talks are definitely part of your calling. Thank you. #reserved
Just think of how many women she has helped with this video. Definitely a calling. Subscribed.
Breeny... this message was well needed for myself. I just had to drop someone because of a similar situation you just spoke about, I got to the point I needed to ask the right questions and when I got the answers to confirm my instincts I just gave him the ✌🏾I deserve better and I know what I'm worth, and what I can bring to any relationship, since he didn't want to commit I'm out. What you're talking about in this video just reinforced my decision. I've got too much on my plate to even focus on a man and their shenanigans. Just love yourself and love being alone, you learn so much about yourself and to love yourself even more.
Breeny, could you please do a video on being single and never dating as a young woman? I'm 21 and finishing uni this May and all my close friends are engaged/ married or getting married/popping out babies alongside graduation in the next few months to a year and I'm the single friend out of the group. I've never dated anyone and I was only interested in 1 guy during my entire time in uni. I'm super supportive of my friends and their relationships (as long as they're healthy) but I feel left out and they want me to have what they have.
Then start dating...it's that simple. One Issue that single people have is that they think way to much about relationships and how high and low they should put their standards when really all you got to do is go out meet people and date. The less you think about it and become active the better it wil get.
Envoguegirl 92 It's not that simple or easy while in a uni that's in a tiny town. A lot of my male peers just want sex and that's it. I want a real relationship.
gbemi pls start makin urself available to have dates cause u need to start learning abt urself ,type of men u like,things that help make u thrive successfully in relationship, things that cause failure to thrive in the relationship,etc... pls u dont want to be in ur 30's and ur now learning abt men.
if u can afford it move so u can mix and mingle with men
alona love I always make myself available since I have a lot of free time outside of classes and schoolwork. I like older guys. 5 years older is my cap. The guys who have asked me out are either assholes, fuckboys, or creeps whose bullshit I could see through from the moments they walked up. Cocky bastards. 😐😐Home is a different story. My town's a good place to raise a family but not to meet people. I still live at home while on breaks and my parents decide who I can bring to their house when I ask.
I'm in uni and I have no money to be moving out of my parents' house anytime soon. I'm broke 😂😂😂
When sis said " he ain't that into you "
My heart😢😴
Throw away the guy before you throw away your standards 💯
Amen 🙏🏽
Damn you're sexy
Damn you're sexy
"i'd rather be alone than lower my standards" yesss amen ! Like where have u been all my life ????
this is just preaching the truth, if a man really wants you he will pursue you and some men will lead women on into thinking that they could be something but will not take it any further
The guy I like is so sweet. I'm really shy so I never really talk to him a lot but he still tries to make me smile. Today he said I look amazing when I smile
I needed to hear exactly this. This really boosted my self confidence not to overlook some of the bs that I’ve been tolerating lol
Wow I needed to hear this. Thank you. So much.
Girl. YOU TALKED ABOUT EXACTLY ALL I AM GOING THROUGH RIGHT NOW SMH.
Hey you scrooling through...hope you have a phenomenal day. It's SIMPLE Once you become a better Christian everything else follows suit
Owolabby Azeez ... not completely true. Go doesn't give us blessings simply because of our works. He blesses us because of his grace as well. We are to walk as Godly as we can and each day he works on us little by little. There is nothing that we can do to earn Gods love, favor and mercy than anymore than we are doing now! One of the MANY reasons he's beautiful ❤ Peace and blessings brother 😊
ya that's definitely true. I was just saying that ultimately if you want to be a better Student, Bf/Gf, better at work then by becoming a better Christian it flows into those other areas of your life
..or muslim
Sure because being a Christian, especially a better Christian is the key to everything *sarcasm*
Guys there’s a reason he said “better christian” not Christians playing religion. If you aren’t growing in Christ and even you can’t do better then you’re not living a better lifestyle.
I absolutely love how you always tie in your wisdom with God and scriptures. Yes! Hidden Gem. I'm not for everybody. God is looking out in ways we don't even know 👏😤🗣📣❤
#reserved
Some guys are shy and aren’t comfortable making the first move. Girls like making first moves and end up having successful relationships with a guy who doesn’t make moves first. Just because guys can’t find the gut to make a move, doesn’t mean they aren’t worth it. If they reject you, their loss, but shy guys should be understood just as much.
Sofia Fields true! Look at Gigi and Solange❤❤
_true_
ᴘᴏʀᴄᴇʟᴀɪɴ sry guys should step out of their comfort zone and not expect the girl to make a move all the time.
Blair Santillana yeah true, if they always expect girls to make the first move, they’ll never get anything done.
Moses Ait_messaoud huh? I don’t get what you’re tryna say
QUEENS RECOGNIZE QUEENS
Just watching this all by myself eating grilled chicken wings. Thanks so much. Needed to hear this. Be blessed
Yvonne lihusha love chicken wings, a bowl full and I'm happy.
Had to pause this to type AMENt my sister.... *throws money on altar*
liscialapelle lol amen indeed
Oh my god. My boyfriend just broke up with me last week saying he had doubts etc etc all bs. but this video has seriously helped me thanks so much girl💜
Ditto
Join the club I have never been taken out for Valentine's Day either and I think Valentine's Day is so romantic and I am 46 but now I am raising my standards just sick of being under-valued. I love your videos. Blessings. Amen.
Hello. I am a woman who’s been taken out for birthdays and Valentine’s Day and received a dozen of roses religiously for over 10 years BUT, no commitment. EVER. Do you hear me? EVER. NEVER!!! Gifts for Christmas. Meals cooked, gourmet b himself and all. Best friends and lovers is what we were but NOPE. No t even a mention of commitment. My fault for staying in it so long. I was busy working and hustling and raising my daughter so I overlooked it until I really got a good look and come to terms with what I was really settling for. I’m worthy and a good woman and w know my God has a blessing for me. I know he doesn’t desire for me to be alone forever. Next month I’ll be 56 and am watching and waiting b. Be encouraged my sister.
@@darlynnlyons742 Amen! And God will always deliver. 🙏🏾❤️
Ooooooooooooooooo girl you preaching you did not come to play today 😩👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 don't get me started on the guys that hang around and flirt but don't pursue 😤😡😡😡 worst kind worst of the worst
Ahh let's talk about this
I say it all the time, women should not be pursuing men, it never ends well. On another note, are you sure your lippie is Valentine? I looked it up and it looks like a deep wine color.
FemmeK - yes babe, it looks darker than it applies :)
Actually it's your nature to pursue. You are just losing your touch to femininity
Muhsin Moussa it’s actually not. Men are natural chasers, and women chooses or decides to get with the man or not. If a men is not pursuing the woman that he “likes”, then it’s time to move it along.
As a Man, a word of advice ladies, Provide value to the, more than just YOU, Some of you in here feel so entitled to a great man yet so many have nothing to offer
as a person some of you offer no Value, learn some skills rather than puffing up your face with 10 tones of Makeup You're NOT A QUEEN SO DONT PRETEND TO BE ONE!
I RATE YOU B !!!!!!! UR MENTALITY IS ABOVE AND BEYOND, MORE PEOPLE NEED TO THINK LIKE YOU FR
Tatiana santo - Thank you ❤️
When she said tired of these guys wanting to do girlfriend boyfriend stuff but don’t want no titles I FELT THAT
Right on! I made the mistake of holding on to the hope that this man in church liked me and was waiting on him to ask me out but he never did. I read all the signs wrong because I wanted to believe it was true. I've had men pursue me and I knew they were pursuing me so you will know when they do. Dont waste your time because its too precious.
i guess i really needed this. i been having a crush on this guy for so long and when we see each other we talk but he hasnt tried to get my number or ask me out or anything so i really just need to let it go ughhh.
I can relate to you. That's the best thing you can do or else you'll be holding on to a guy who doesn't reciprocate your feelings and that is unhealthy for your confidence. Trust me. Something much will come along. :)
ask him out on a friendly date and once u feel bold tell him that u find him interesting and would like to get to know him betta if he is available. let me know what happens........ the worst thing is he comes with the friend card so what its his lost
alona love what do i say?
pray for the spirit of boldness and for strength cause it can go in ur favor or not but either way we want to walk away a winner. tell him u like the way...........(complete the blanks) and if he is available u would like to b more than friends. then smile look confident even if ur dying inside . DONT DONT LOOK OR ACT DESPERATE AT ALLLLLLLLLLLL. if he says no or he has a gurl friend then just smile and say ok huh u dont know what ur missing and keep on being the best of friends. i hope it wrks for u keep me posted. ohhh i cant wait for u to have that first kiss oh laaaaaaaaa
alona love easier said than done lol i will try. i might see him today I'll let you know when i do say something lol
Wow! This is so insightful and eye-opening. I’ve always been like this, I have never given my precious time for someone who’s a player. I always knew my worth and even though I’d be dying inside, I would never even make him feel that I like him. This served me well throughout my teenage years until I found the one for me at the age of 21.
I think we as a generation has to understand and move away from the idea that a person can text you 24/7. Also if a person doesn't reply it means he doesn't want you or doesn't like you. No career driven man can pull out his phone at work to reply to you. We have to measure likeness in the things he does and says. I'm a teacher and from 8 to 3 honestly I cannot text any man I like because if I do one of my babies may do something they have no darn business. Logically think about his day and what he does throughout it. Be patient ladies. This generation has everything given to them quickly and so we believe relationship should be build on those same principles. No...... also measure a man worth based on how he treats people. Regardless of his religious beliefs a human can still be a terrible individual. Find someone the compliments you, but most of all that you will understand and they will under you as well. But most of all do not place your future in a mans hands based on misguided gender roles. You are allowed to text first you are allowed to make the first move. You won't be a creep..... go for whatever you want life is too darn short
very mature comment
Nothing is wrong with making the first move but when all the moves are left up to you then you know!!! The bottom line is somebody who wants you will not let you go neglected for any long periods ....no gender roles just nature!!!
Ok but my parents have been married and living together for 25 years and both of them work full time jobs. My father STILL manages to call my mother when he gets off of work or is on his break. If he can’t, he sends a text (which takes like 10 seconds lol). To each their own tho 💕
@@gloss2313 thank you👏👏👏. Some women just will accept anything
True
I'm glad I'm seeing this. I will be honest, I had a moment of weakness yesterday and cried just for the fact that when I thought I was ready to put myself out, it blew up in my face. Thought me and this hit it off, he was all for meeting up after talking on the dating app. Then he dropped me, and his tuned changed. I was upset because I thought I was happy enough, but fuck it. I'm focusing on my health, and my goals to get my degree in college. If I'm alone, that's fine. I don't need to sit and wonder what -I- did when it's not ME. I didn't do anything to scare him off or put my ass out for anything. I let it be known what I wanted and suddenly it's me being dropped. It's alright...
You are literally flawless my eyes hurt
I'm 27 I haven't dated or been in a relationship either and I'm turning 28 soon 😏
Same sis..dont feel bad God is covering us
@@apsalmsbeat I'm 25 and same lol
@@nihilisticbarbie well shoot gang gang!! Lol 😘
I'm 27 and tired of lowering my standards,I'm done with it all. Not chasing.
Same here :)
A man who finds a wife. Woooow i really never thought of it this way. Nothing more accurate than this.☺ im definitely hitting the subscribe button💓
Heidi Temba
If I were a gambling man I’d wager that the phrase in question refers to a Proverbs 31 wife. Not many of those around 😳
Not quite; Sometimes we need a little motivation from the ladies...If one is pursuing you, kindly respond and let it first be a friendly relationship. Not all men pursue women for the right purpose...some want to conquer and leave. This is the only way you know a man loves you; "He is friendly and not selfish. He will put your interest and comfort first."
Thanks for sharing your perspective and experience; I agree that when it comes to human behavior and motivation, no one rule applies universally across the board. We all respond a little differently to similar situations, and I think maybe it would be better if hard-and-fast rules about relationships gave way to more nuance and understanding.
👌👌👌 plus some are shy, believe or not. With more 'feminine' energy. And that's ok, really sweet.
Steve Boukambou from reading his comment you can clearly see that he is a gay man from Kenya.
A high value man with alot of substance and much to offer never put a women first over himself. What is she gonna bring to the table?
Amen sister! Finally someone telling the truth- I'm tired of listening to women crying over men not wanting them. I'd rather stay alone for the rest of my life than case a man! Like what for? If he won't chase me, he don't deserve me.
Damn i miss him... Girl grab me the henny bc this is too much truth for me to handle
Straight up!
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So true! I use to think my standards were too high , as this is what women tend to be accused of. I realised that 'I'm asking for the bare minimum' as you put it.
Yes I am not chasing any man especially this year. I'm more focus on my business this year. I don't have the time for "fuck boys" anymore! Too old for this shhhh! Valentine's comes and goes and I ain't bothered at all. If he can't make me happy then goodbye before I throw hot grits his way. Don't come popping up around me when ya ready. Boy bye 👋🏾 . Great video
so touching, i need to carry this energy into 2019. thank you so much for this.
PRESH. Right
Thanks sweetie you have no idea what you have done for me right now. You explained it correctly. Now I'm firm. I ain't chasing no-one.
End of 2019 best believe 2020 we ain’t chasing no men!!!!
Exactly
20/20 might be good vision but this year i cant see myself chasing a man.
Cause we are being chase
By a virus
Amen!!! You give me so much encouragement to stay on the right path and to continue to not deal with the BS of these boys.
That Lucas shade tho 🐸🍵
lucas?? from bkchat??
AMEN! I swear you're the older sister I need lol
Lol
"What is wrong with you ?" Shouldn't be a question towards someone who is single... wtf does that mean?
It means you haven't grown up past a 12 year old school girls mentality. Any woman over 20 that still thinks that men should just approach a woman just because she breaths still has alot of growing up to do.
I am glad I subbed you.
The breaking point of my relationship was that jerk of a bf body shaming me and I agree w you that intrinsic value is priceless and no individual has the right to disrespect others. So I left him. It was hard leaving him believe me but I #preserved my dignity and now I've #reserved myself for something better.