Ignorance Of How Attraction Works Leads To Rejection

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  • Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024

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  • @hunternixonfishing2500
    @hunternixonfishing2500 2 года назад +157

    The best gift you can give someone is the gift of missing you…..or a little gas money right now. Thanks for the video bro!

    • @aminutewithmyles
      @aminutewithmyles 2 года назад +5

      Gas money? 😮 High rollin ain’t cha!?

    • @patrickorourke41
      @patrickorourke41 2 года назад

      @@aminutewithmyles baller status

    • @sonjalibby6490
      @sonjalibby6490 2 года назад +1

      Gas money would be awesome. Skip the food or coffee, take me to Valero.

    • @brendanmcpike184
      @brendanmcpike184 2 года назад +1

      Let’s go Brandon👍🏽

  • @aitorinarra
    @aitorinarra 2 года назад +32

    I think it’s a blessing that this guy got rid of this woman. I read 3% man over ten times, and I’m now reading it again. It changed my dating life and I’m much happier now. But there’s a thing that might not fully understand. Following the rules of the book will make you attractive, and she’ll stick around, but I don’t think that’s enough. In the case of this guy for example, I don’t think this is a good woman; not even if he had followed the rules. I don’t want a woman who thinks “he likes me too much, I don’t like that”. That’s not how you build a 40 years marriage and a family. A good woman will evaluate whether or not you’re a good match, and she’ll overlook these first stages of infatuation on your part, knowing that she’s in for the long run, and that you’ll be the strong professional and good provider that you are, not showing neediness once that honeymoon phase is over (which by the way, i hate that word of "needy": that concept only exists if the other person doesn't correspond, otherwise it's called "to be in love with each other"). But if you’re with a woman who is playing these games, you will definitely get her around following the rules of 3%, but for how long? that’s not a woman who you want to be with. Anyway, thank you so much coach for all you do.

    • @urbantraxx3756
      @urbantraxx3756 6 месяцев назад +1

      I totally agree , the right women won't play games

  • @griff4899
    @griff4899 2 года назад +16

    As coach says, women need to know if they push you too far, you'll walk and never look back. They will respect you more if they know that you have that strength. They need to feel your strength.

  • @Mancer1980
    @Mancer1980 2 года назад +50

    Wow, another girl completely wasting a guy's time just to feel better about herself. Shocking.

    • @CoachCoreyWayne
      @CoachCoreyWayne  2 года назад +70

      If you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch. No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. It’s not complicated.

    • @hybridous
      @hybridous 2 года назад +1

      does this happen a lot?à

    • @Mancer1980
      @Mancer1980 2 года назад +13

      @@CoachCoreyWayne Agreed. It just doesn't justify her crap behavior - she knew what she was doing.

    • @Mancer1980
      @Mancer1980 2 года назад +12

      @@Fuji_Investments He def needed to back off but nice girls won't lead you on like this.

    • @Robin-is3ke
      @Robin-is3ke 2 года назад +6

      I know from my experience with an absolute hot ex (10 years relation) that you never, never must wait till she figured out her emotions. I learned it the hard way (thanks also to my ego) that if you going to wait she will use you for backup/ plan b. Don’t be fooled by her nice ass tricks like, baby you need to give me time to heal, and then when i’m ready i will let you know… you’re being tested and yes the change you’re going to be replaced is big! Check out 7 principles to get an ex back is the best option of Corey. I sended her the message i don’t want to be in a platonic relation, you can reach out to me if you change your mind and i never looked back.. she’s no happy with her new guy. Her loss, i moved on.. and it felt great!

  • @jeffstone4624
    @jeffstone4624 2 года назад +100

    It's sad and frustrating, but when she checks out on you. She's checked out. If it's not her idea to get back together you might as well move forward and use Coach's work on the next one.
    Save yourself the humiliation of bending the knee for someone uninterested in you.

    • @videogamefreak753
      @videogamefreak753 2 года назад +7

      Learned this the hard way couple months ago

    • @jeffstone4624
      @jeffstone4624 2 года назад +5

      @@videogamefreak753 same here, brother.

    • @Robin-is3ke
      @Robin-is3ke 2 года назад +7

      Good one! Rate her by her actions, not her words

    • @silvermine2033
      @silvermine2033 Год назад

      @@videogamefreak753 Me too! Lol

  • @ironyouth3384
    @ironyouth3384 2 года назад +30

    I agree with Coach Corey when he says “If you act like a bitch, women will treat you like a bitch.” This is harsh but true. This guy in the email should have recognized her severe lack of interest when she told him that she didn’t want to be his tour guide. That’s a light bulb moment that he missed. People, especially men, need to understand how powerful language and words are and how you use them. She communicated all he needed to know right then and there. He should have removed his attention and matched and mirrored her lack of interest. Be on your purpose gents and for god’s sake stop pedestalizing these women.

    • @sonjalibby6490
      @sonjalibby6490 2 года назад

      I try communicating all the time with men I date and most of the time they literally don’t hear me. More men need to take CWs advice about feeling heard and understood.

  • @JoseLopez-jo8ce
    @JoseLopez-jo8ce 2 года назад +40

    I don’t want to be your “tour guide” 😂😂 damn that was savage

    • @tonygee6418
      @tonygee6418 2 года назад +6

      Yeah, downright rude

    • @JoseLopez-jo8ce
      @JoseLopez-jo8ce 2 года назад +1

      @@tonygee6418 lol yeah

    • @TheGreatSalsaMan
      @TheGreatSalsaMan 2 года назад +8

      Any woman ever said that shit to me that’d be the end of it. Dumped on the spot and no contact ever again. She could be Kim Kardashian or Scarlet Johanson and I’d want nothing to do with someone that disrespectful again. Men need to learn their worth more than this disrespect from entitled and egotistical women.

    • @Mancer1980
      @Mancer1980 2 года назад

      Entitled, delusional and full of daddy issues. This girl did him a favor, he just doesn't know it yet.

  • @jakesanchez3202
    @jakesanchez3202 2 года назад +9

    She broke it off and I blocked her number because I don’t want someone like that in my life. I want peace.

  • @macioluko9484
    @macioluko9484 2 года назад +144

    You know what else leads to rejection?
    Not reading the book 10-15 times!

  • @svtben
    @svtben 2 года назад +52

    This is why it's so important to always gauge the woman's level of interest first, and modify your own behaviors to act accordingly.

    • @izahrawr1246
      @izahrawr1246 2 года назад +7

      I understand this, but I feel like it's pretending... Fake on my part, I prefer going on my own track and gauging whether it's a good idea, were a good match

    • @Robin-is3ke
      @Robin-is3ke 2 года назад

      Yes! Rating her attraction level also exposures her intentions. Is she really into you? Than you will see her taking action …

    • @drapered7762
      @drapered7762 2 года назад +3

      @@izahrawr1246 Everyone is pretending bro. That’s why it’s called the “dating game.”

    • @izahrawr1246
      @izahrawr1246 2 года назад +1

      @@drapered7762 Not me, I'm not up for pretending... that's lame as fuck

    • @drapered7762
      @drapered7762 2 года назад +2

      @@izahrawr1246 It is lame as fuck. In fact, I hate it. But with pain resulting from rejection, you learn. And if you want to get them, you’ll have to play the game armed with the necessary knowledge.

  • @ChapsShrugged
    @ChapsShrugged 2 года назад +12

    @Coach Corey Wayne " ...in an effort to fix things they typically chase women right out of their lives."
    - I've always told friends to give a woman space until her emotional curve evens out- stop thinking about it, calm down, and let her come to you- but I never correlated it directly to a man's masculine behavior.
    You are a gift to the world, thank you for doing what you do!

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 года назад +1

      When you're right, you're right. And this time, you're right.

  • @shobhitjais
    @shobhitjais 2 года назад +5

    Thank you coach for the video. I was about to reach out to my ex after seeing her picture on a mutal friends insta story today. This video saved me from the humiliation of walking away but then reaching out to her again. Its extremely painful for me to go through the days but i agree she should feel the strength of me walking away and never looking back. Im devasted emotionally right now but im following the 3% man coz i know that in the end it will be worth it. Thanks coach you are my saviour.

  • @devincase3091
    @devincase3091 2 года назад +1

    BUY THE BOOK. Physical and audiobook. Listen to it every time you do chores, shower, workout, or drive. Read it when you need to calm your mind down. I promise you that your mindset will heal. I failed with women for 12 years and the first girl that came into my life after studying Corey's work is a whole different story. 9 months since I met her and the sex/attraction is still increasing. I do almost nothing, other than being present and clear minded about my life when I'm with her.. realizing girls want a light, fun, playful time not 'serious relationship behavior'. The less I do the more she's into me. It's pretty much her contacting me AND telling me days she's free or saying "just lmk when you want to see me and I'll be there" 90% of the time. Thank you Corey.

  • @brandonfoltz4789
    @brandonfoltz4789 2 года назад +8

    The tour guide comment would have been an insta dump for me

  • @RexRaven22
    @RexRaven22 2 года назад +8

    Yeah don’t ask the girl if you can follow her as she is stepping back. Some girls may step away even if they are interested and just need to sort their feelings out…and don’t break her board. Get your own. She’s gone and you are still clinging. Move on.

  • @manuelz2305
    @manuelz2305 2 года назад +2

    This is one of those gold nuggets. Thank you Coach

  • @dorianblach587
    @dorianblach587 2 года назад +4

    Red flag right away when she requested a break for a week. She was likely NOT hanging out with friends, she was testing the waters with another guy. When a woman tells her friends that a guy she is dating needs to grow balls, she is seeking validation and support for her actions. Corey is dead on when he says that you need to look at the big picture and not specific actions that you think led to the position where you are now. It is obvious that you are a needy, emotional person. I can sense that from the letter, but women can sense it in your breathing. So no matter how much you try to “play” the role of being a man in charge, a woman will see right through it. When you broke up with her she likely looked at that as a tactic on your end to regain your power in the relationship. Because no needy guy is going to break up with a woman. He will likely use it as a power play when he is feeling hopeless and not in control. The fact that you then reached out and tried to get back together, only solidified that fact in her mind. I think you are better off looking for happiness elsewhere. Don’t wait around “hoping” she will see the light and take you back. Even if by some strange circumstance that were to happen, it would be a very unsatisfying situation for you. This is where you need to pull your pants up and realize that you are not in your center. NO woman will give you that. Stop searching for love and validation from women. Work on loving yourself and accepting who you are. If you are unhappy in your current emotional state, then you know that state is contrary to who you are. Be honest with yourself and admit that this woman was not making you 💯 percent happy. She was filling an emotional gap or need that you have overlooked or ignored. You are a man, that doesn’t mean you are not allowed to be emotional, it means that you need to take charge of who you are. I speak from experience and I was in a relationship that pretty much went exactly like yours. I could not see the truth then. Believe me when I tellyou, your current facts and beliefs about the situation are not 100 percent accurate. If there is even a 1% chance that you are wrong about one thing, you need to question everything. Wishing you all the best.

    • @shobhitjais
      @shobhitjais 2 года назад

      Thank you for the wise words. This is super helpful.

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe 2 года назад

      Use paragraphs man, I’m dizzy trying to read that!

  • @brenthewitt5155
    @brenthewitt5155 2 года назад +8

    Don't mean to be cold hearted but the chick was never in to this guy No chick would behave this way if they have feelings for you The guy sounds like he needs to toughened up a bit

  • @ajikanfan2
    @ajikanfan2 2 года назад

    see myself so much in this guy, thanks for a great video. great reminder to invest in 3% man, in yourself and in your destiny.

  • @part1801
    @part1801 2 года назад +3

    This guy's mindset totally needs to change to where he's got his own life. Putting too much emphasis on having a girlfriend

  • @albert-lutherrandolph2808
    @albert-lutherrandolph2808 2 года назад +5

    I'm Back, lets go!!!!

  • @KC-lg8qf
    @KC-lg8qf 2 года назад +3

    This guy made tons of mistakes but it also sounds like this chick was a total narcissist. The way she would show him an abundance of affection and then quickly pulled away. See them would go chasing after the affection she should because when narcissists are loved by me you it's so very good.... And they just completely turn cold and you're left thinking what the hell just happened.. he is lucky to be free of this girl.

  • @crenge
    @crenge 2 года назад +1

    I definitely think your the very best in your profession!

  • @Elementalism
    @Elementalism 28 дней назад

    He called her on her behavior but she thought he didn't have a set of balls. Either this woman has no idea calling her took a set or how he called her on it wasn't as described and instead he was whining.

  • @andrew6297
    @andrew6297 2 года назад +1

    Elvis left the building lol!

  • @montrellhall7348
    @montrellhall7348 2 года назад +3

    CDub is the goat 💯

  • @popeyethepirate5473
    @popeyethepirate5473 2 года назад +2

    I'm in Miami!! Just waiting to bump into you lol

  • @baileyanderson4873
    @baileyanderson4873 2 года назад +1

    Coach I need help. I’ve been dating a girl for 8 months now, we are very much in love. Our attraction for each other a high and things are great (your book is flawless been applying for a decade). How do I influence a girl to become the best version of herself without coming off as a asshole. In my eyes she’s got it all, I just wish she had more drive & desire to accomplish goals/make more money/not get fat ect.
    Her father basically handed everything to her on a platter and never cut the umbilical cord. I don’t want that neediness and/or cushion to continue in her (our) life together. I will not marry her AND her dad if you get me. Thanks in advance if you see this.

  • @miggy2002
    @miggy2002 2 года назад +10

    Lol Corey used to be such a savage. Would have torn this guy to shreds 😂 it's nice to see that evolution in Corey. In saying that, it was super entertaining. I miss it 😛

    • @ThatBinghamHikes
      @ThatBinghamHikes 2 года назад +7

      I miss old coach roasting dudes for the dumbass shit they do with women.

    • @TheGreatSalsaMan
      @TheGreatSalsaMan 2 года назад +4

      @@ThatBinghamHikes Whe we can see their errors because we are blessed with knowledge what good does it do to kick someone whos face is already in the mud? Most boys aren’t taught this shit and are trying their best to better themselves. While they fail it’s important to help them understand WHY they failed in a nice way because who reacts well to being told they’re wrong smugly just because we know our shit? That being said these emails always make me cringe internally because I understand how these things work now and I’ve been there and done that myself in the past. We all started the same way, ignorant and confused by the enigma that is women. Being ignorant and beta is nothing to be ashamed of, however staying that way and not changing is to be shamed. We should be helping our fellow brothers who need it instead of knocking them down when they’re struggling and trying their best. I’m no casanova but I help my fellow brothers out when I can. I gave a young man advice once that led him to scoring with a girl he wanted and it felt awesome to help out a guy who didn’t know much.

    • @miggy2002
      @miggy2002 2 года назад

      @@TheGreatSalsaMan woah easy 😂. I agree 100% with what you're saying, and I lead people every day in my job and personal life. I even acknowledged/praised Corey's "evolution" in his approach as a coach. It was still super entertaining to hear and see him call men out when they do stupid shit. I didn't see it as tearing someone down at all. It's giving them a dose of reality, and it's entertaining for the viewers.
      That's not really my style of approach because I'd be too afraid of hurting someone's feelings, but if it was used with me, I wouldn't get butthurt about it. The entire curriculum is based around being a man who remains centred regardless of what is thrown at him. If you can't handle a little tough love, then you are not ready to be a 3% man. Guaranteed.

    • @TheGreatSalsaMan
      @TheGreatSalsaMan 2 года назад

      @@miggy2002 Yes but only 3% of men take criticism well. Hell I’ve read 3% man and sometimes even I don’t take criticism well. I don’t let it show but we’re all just human. But yeah good on coach for being a bit less blunt. Trust me guys get enough harsh doses of reality from women, we don’t need to be giving it to each other as well 😂

  • @kizzyk3731
    @kizzyk3731 2 года назад

    The end hit different.

  • @jefferycoleman4371
    @jefferycoleman4371 2 года назад

    Sounds like saying that to her actually prevents her from falling for him.

  • @maticjevsnik7935
    @maticjevsnik7935 2 года назад +1

    Is recindling possible ?Do women forget about teh needy past If teh Guy becomes masculine?

  • @Xxxxxrrr6464
    @Xxxxxrrr6464 9 месяцев назад

    Very relatable

  • @Lankim26
    @Lankim26 2 года назад +4

    Hi coach, could you please provide examples of how YOU would've have approached these certain situations as if you were the writer? I understand that he was making mistakes in the video but I want to know what the correct course of action would be.

    • @ThatBinghamHikes
      @ThatBinghamHikes 2 года назад +3

      Read the book it’s free online. Coach wouldn’t say “i would have done xx”

    • @teddyjennings1137
      @teddyjennings1137 2 года назад +4

      two words "HAVE CONFIDENCE"In yourself and there's need to correct anything

    • @Lankim26
      @Lankim26 2 года назад +3

      @@ThatBinghamHikes thanks Alex. I actually have read the book about 6 times now, and continuing to do so. It's just that I ran into a situation so similar to this about 1 month ago and I'm just trying to retrace my steps and figure out how my philosophy and actions killed the relationship.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 года назад +2

      Here's some advice from a guy approaching 60, happily with the same woman for decades. 1)be polite, honest, & direct 2) say what you mean, and mean what you say. Put another way- your words & actions MUST ALIGN!
      Failing point one means you are living a lie. Failing point two means you are sending out a mixed message.
      And do not be afraid of the sunk cost fallacy. Be ready the leave the movie anytime you decide staying is no longer worth it because you have already invested money to see the entire film. Understand that occasionally you will bet/invest in the wrong woman.

    • @ThatBinghamHikes
      @ThatBinghamHikes 2 года назад +1

      @@Ace.0.0.0. thanks :) good lowdown on cultivating a strong relationship

  • @Kickback-dm7zt
    @Kickback-dm7zt 2 года назад

    Video couldn't have come at a better time.

  • @Liam_D
    @Liam_D 2 года назад +1

    Amazingly good info and advice, but that outro "music" is just noisy garbled nonsense.

  • @kimorady8791
    @kimorady8791 2 года назад

    Coach Corey, what's ur thoughts about attachment theory? Because it's looks like this girl has an avoidant attachment

  • @VoiceOfThe
    @VoiceOfThe 2 года назад +1

    Way more downside risk for a MAN you mean rather than a woman. Once she’s pregnant, the man’s on the hook financially.

  • @robertgregg3522
    @robertgregg3522 2 года назад

    Coach, your wisdom is priceless

  • @zzawoignatius3226
    @zzawoignatius3226 2 года назад

    Hey! Cocah, If a girl says she is till single. what is the meaning?

  • @barad-dur9236
    @barad-dur9236 2 года назад

    14:36 lmao

  • @without3566
    @without3566 2 года назад +2

    Yeoow

  • @anthonyjacksonjr4812
    @anthonyjacksonjr4812 2 года назад

    💪🏾💪🏾😎

  • @kimmerhorsen7050
    @kimmerhorsen7050 2 года назад

    Not interested in monagamy, just polygamy white boy yaint gon tell me wtf to do

  • @joekienzle5803
    @joekienzle5803 2 года назад +1

    Talk more on fruit loops

  • @alexanderhanooman
    @alexanderhanooman 2 года назад +1

    Hahahaha read the book make notes.

  • @BrownBoy-xv4xr
    @BrownBoy-xv4xr 2 года назад +1

    Secret to successful love life: don't follow anything this man says!! And if you listen to him just listen to him to learn what not to do and by that I mean just do the opposite to what he or ANY of these so called "relationship coaches" out there are saying.
    And I guarantee you success in life or at least in your love life💯

  • @Robin-is3ke
    @Robin-is3ke 2 года назад +1

    Don’t chase guys!! Let her do the chasing (70%)! I know from my own experience with an absolute hot ex (10 years relation) that you never, never must wait till she figured out her emotions. I learned it the hard way (thanks also to my ego) that if you going to wait for her, she will use you for back-up / plan b. Don’t be fooled by her nice ass tricks like ‘baby you need to give me time to heal, and then when i’m ready I will let you know’ you’re being tested and yes the change you’re going to be replaced is 100%
    Check out 7 principles to get an ex back of Corey. I sended her the message that I don’t want to be in a platonic relation, ‘you can reach out to me if you change your mind’ and never looked back! She’s I guess now happy with her new guy. Her loss, I moved on.. and it felt great! Read the book 10 - 15 times!