Shai and Troy: Living in La La Land | Family or Fiance S3 E2 | Full Episode | OWN

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  • @OWN
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  • @22221mm
    @22221mm 6 месяцев назад +660

    His momma made her son her emotional partner and now she feels she is being replaced. She needs to seek counseling.

    • @masonbell9128
      @masonbell9128 6 месяцев назад +22

      EXACTLY took the words clean out my mouth this is exactly what she has done point blank

    • @lawannasmith
      @lawannasmith 6 месяцев назад +13

      Yessss I couldn’t have said it better thank you 😂

    • @sleepwalkernation
      @sleepwalkernation 6 месяцев назад +6

      Facts

    • @bonitacaldwell1679
      @bonitacaldwell1679 6 месяцев назад +20

      And you see this when you do not see a male (father) present in the family structure. Where is her husband, or his father?

    • @DB-gu6tf
      @DB-gu6tf 6 месяцев назад +17

      Poor lady. She needs to find a connection outside her son.

  • @Del_ita259
    @Del_ita259 6 месяцев назад +329

    His mother acted exactly how a wife would act when her husband tells her he's leaving her for a younger woman. That's not normal.

    • @Life23Live
      @Life23Live 6 месяцев назад +4

      Yup my mil was the same I will never forget the day we got our apartment together she told me I took her son away and all this. He was 27 !

    • @inmytravelstoday
      @inmytravelstoday 6 месяцев назад +10

      He’s her son-husband

    • @tomaradoss3420
      @tomaradoss3420 5 месяцев назад

      Yes!

  • @Apricityville
    @Apricityville 6 месяцев назад +111

    The irony of his mom bringing up religion, but not understanding that you leave your parents to cleave to your mate

  • @aleidakitt-hickman3566
    @aleidakitt-hickman3566 6 месяцев назад +441

    When you get married you leave from your parents . Stop thinking you’re losing a son and you’re gaining a daughter .

    • @brielax4441
      @brielax4441 6 месяцев назад +8

      Amen!!!

    • @tamarabello
      @tamarabello 6 месяцев назад +28

      I don't understand who thinks that way and also sees their daughter in law as competition.

    • @natoshahicks646
      @natoshahicks646 6 месяцев назад +17

      Leave and Cleave🙌🏽

    • @nicolewilliams0318
      @nicolewilliams0318 6 месяцев назад +1

      ​@tamarabello that mother in law to be. Sad....

    • @gab19guerin72
      @gab19guerin72 6 месяцев назад +1

      And that momma is a Christian’s knows what the Bible says about marriage. But she refuses to follow that part of the Bible because it doesn’t serve her interests. Sad

  • @jamalahvernon9176
    @jamalahvernon9176 6 месяцев назад +317

    Grooms mom should be ashamed of herself. He is your son, Not Your Husband.

    • @kimkeller2983
      @kimkeller2983 6 месяцев назад +12

      My EX-husband and his mom were just like this, I gave him divorce papers and told him to go home with his mom….I’ve been happily divorced for 18yrs🤣🤣

    • @charvetteboyd3786
      @charvetteboyd3786 6 месяцев назад +7

      She doesn't realize how she's being. Smh. Poor thing

    • @nick74195
      @nick74195 5 месяцев назад

      And I do not think he is wearing pampas.

  • @marticar995
    @marticar995 6 месяцев назад +64

    That man is not ready to marry anyone besides his mother. Run!

  • @Locstarryael
    @Locstarryael 6 месяцев назад +185

    The fact he looked right at his mom when chai brought up the police officer test 🤦🏾‍♀️😂

    • @malyroberts4054
      @malyroberts4054 6 месяцев назад +19

      Yep, he knew it was about to get heated 🥴🫠

    • @PamelaGrace31
      @PamelaGrace31 6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes I noticed that too!

    • @Aquaria2291
      @Aquaria2291 5 месяцев назад +4

      And she looked right back. She knows she blew up his spot lmaooo.

    • @D.walker87
      @D.walker87 3 месяца назад +1

      She did that on purpose. And she felt good that she knew something that Shai didn't know.

    • @samyaedgefield2082
      @samyaedgefield2082 2 месяца назад +1

      and it proves what tracy said about him not wanting to tell her

  • @demetribryant6490
    @demetribryant6490 6 месяцев назад +130

    If you can’t share life changing information with your potential partner, you don’t need to be married.

  • @AmahleMalahla
    @AmahleMalahla 5 месяцев назад +97

    When the twins sang I was like “NO”

    • @msjaim
      @msjaim 5 месяцев назад +7

      Terriblé

    • @MzLady78
      @MzLady78 5 месяцев назад +1

      😬...yeah it wasn't that good

    • @shantelsmith8763
      @shantelsmith8763 5 месяцев назад +5

      And funny built

    • @TigerLilyEverlasting
      @TigerLilyEverlasting 5 месяцев назад +1

      Awful. Cringe 😬

    • @shaygorg1149
      @shaygorg1149 5 месяцев назад +7

      Same thing I said lol and they didn’t even show much of it, I think the producer just didn’t want to hurt their feelings

  • @Lizzievbutterfly
    @Lizzievbutterfly 6 месяцев назад +207

    U know what ?? i didnt realise how Much this show brings. Its a GEM. Reflection on patterns, family dynamics, communication styles really a lot!
    Thk u OWN!❤❤❤❤

    • @bertha8893
      @bertha8893 5 месяцев назад +4

      Definitely!!!! This show helps realize how much time and effort it takes to build a genuine relationship with your partner. I'm happy that I am taking the time to genuinely love and know myself before rushing into a relationship. 😌 ✨️

    • @Lizzievbutterfly
      @Lizzievbutterfly 5 месяцев назад

      @@bertha8893 amen sis

    • @ADW-i1h
      @ADW-i1h 5 месяцев назад +3

      Exactly! I am studying to become a social worker who works with clients in a therapeutic setting. Tracy helps me a lot 😂

    • @Lizzievbutterfly
      @Lizzievbutterfly 5 месяцев назад

      @@ADW-i1h good job hunnnn!!!!!

    • @KeshaM.
      @KeshaM. 5 месяцев назад +2

      Yesss and also I find the same types of issues in the black family dynamics. The over emotions as a mother to a son, the religious veins, the SA trauma the list goes on and on…

  • @chigoziechisom53
    @chigoziechisom53 6 месяцев назад +522

    The groom's mother dropped a bomb on the bride with the police officer news. I think she did it intentionally🤷

    • @danyellewhitehead7625
      @danyellewhitehead7625 6 месяцев назад +25

      I know she did! I think she got an answer this marriage don’t need to happen not even in a year just go ahead and date and enjoy each other for now!

    • @reshawonderbrown2255
      @reshawonderbrown2255 6 месяцев назад +4

      Me too. 😊

    • @sattasana7753
      @sattasana7753 6 месяцев назад +33

      Very intentional and that’s where I question her motives.
      Like she was all smiles when the bride was taken aback.
      She doesn’t want to let her son go at all.
      You can hear her literally sigh when they broke the news of not getting married.
      Willing to bet she is the reason he’s not with his child’s mother. Her sisters were the ones concerned about that all she wanted was her Troy

    • @Anonymouslousy
      @Anonymouslousy 6 месяцев назад +3

      Sure did

    • @Iamlonndanicole
      @Iamlonndanicole 6 месяцев назад +12

      Yes she did it intentionally…its narcissistic in natute

  • @615BlackBarbie
    @615BlackBarbie 6 месяцев назад +95

    He sat down with his mom and said " my woman has a problem with our relationship". That's not what that girl said. He made his woman the bad guy. After reading these comments. A ton of yall lack common sense.

    • @Hotwingzlover84
      @Hotwingzlover84 6 месяцев назад +28

      I was looking for this comment!. He totally threw his Fiance under The Bus. He couldn't even grab his 🥜🥜, and Respectfully tell His Mother that she oversteps.

    • @Magique88888
      @Magique88888 5 месяцев назад +6

      damn you're right, he should have said mom, I'm putting her first.

    • @sus-tw2ls
      @sus-tw2ls 5 месяцев назад +6

      He's not man enough

  • @valerieosei5312
    @valerieosei5312 6 месяцев назад +83

    I love how Tracy called out the pattern in this couple! Troy is trying to excuse his relationship with mom and Shai is falling into that excuse by saying “it’s not a problem” IT IS!!!

    • @DB-gu6tf
      @DB-gu6tf 6 месяцев назад +3

      When she pointed out his anger he couldn’t deny it. She’s good.

    • @valerieosei5312
      @valerieosei5312 6 месяцев назад

      @@DB-gu6tf I’m telling you!!

    • @NobleAsila
      @NobleAsila 5 месяцев назад

      Tracey usually has a good eye on certain issues that’s what I admire about her work, it’s probably one time I didn’t agree with her, but she’s always been fair and reasonable in her observations on and point

  • @preapetitt546
    @preapetitt546 6 месяцев назад +119

    When they started singing 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @tobemeis2bfree
      @tobemeis2bfree 6 месяцев назад +9

      😂😂😂

    • @tootall234
      @tootall234 6 месяцев назад +17

      Taken aback 😭😭😭😭

    • @jazzc585
      @jazzc585 6 месяцев назад +23

      I was looking for this comment 😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯💯💯💯🙉🙉🙉🙉🙉

    • @shakithayoung3190
      @shakithayoung3190 6 месяцев назад +2

      😂😂😂

    • @singlesista3721
      @singlesista3721 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@jazzc585me too!😂

  • @ThatGirlGiGiNYC
    @ThatGirlGiGiNYC 6 месяцев назад +150

    You have to let your children fly!! The mom is wrong!! I cant

  • @4Mamie4
    @4Mamie4 6 месяцев назад +153

    Mom please allow your son to be a man a husband your not losing. Quit smothering him it's hurting him.

  • @Ginaaaa555
    @Ginaaaa555 6 месяцев назад +90

    Tracy should of did a session with Troy and his mom. She running away like a 2 years old. Troy getting defensive " Why you making me step away from my mommy. "

    • @nemahgracesiame4824
      @nemahgracesiame4824 6 месяцев назад +8

      My thoughts too...
      She could have helped him articulate well what he was super to say. He did not want to take full responsibility instead he said, "she wants to be number 1 and not you" (paraphrased) instead of him saying he is setting boundaries and assures her that he will always be her son. He threw her under the bus, like saying,, "this is not what I want but this is what my partner says she wants" , "I am not the bad person, she is"
      His mom also 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️, what a shame

    • @jahlive1243
      @jahlive1243 5 месяцев назад

      I thought the very same thing and I honestly thought Tracey would’ve. I’m surprised that she left the task for the son to go talk to her.

  • @chigoziechisom53
    @chigoziechisom53 6 месяцев назад +191

    The groom's mother is kinda delusional in my opinion. Looks like she's vying for the position of a partner instead of a mother in her son's life🤷

  • @priscillak88
    @priscillak88 6 месяцев назад +172

    Haven’t seen Traci get real and push back like she did with Troy. She was READING them, and it was powerful. This couple needed it though. They definitely should wait.
    Also, they can’t sing.

    • @saturnladee110
      @saturnladee110 6 месяцев назад +28

      I read your comment before hearing them sing. I am laughing so bad 😂😂😂.

    • @goldielocs41
      @goldielocs41 6 месяцев назад +28

      They definitely can't sing 😐

    • @angelalvarez7085
      @angelalvarez7085 6 месяцев назад +1

      💯

    • @naturallymoi8171
      @naturallymoi8171 6 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@saturnladee110ditto 😂😂😂

    • @lawannasmith
      @lawannasmith 6 месяцев назад +6

      Yes they were flat they need vocal coaches to make it for real. If they go into HipHop or R&B. Troy’s mother was out of order because she wasn’t being his mother she was being a place holder for his woman. Idk what happened to his father but mom needs to do something to make her happy or date someone. I’m grateful that my husband’s mother isn’t like this. His mom has a different place in his heart boundaries needed to be set. Keep your loved ones out of your relationship especially your marriage. I been married with my husband for 4 years and I have gone to her for advice but we have boundaries which is healthy sometimes you gotta learn things with your partner on your own.

  • @tbreezy543
    @tbreezy543 5 месяцев назад +5

    I love Tracy. She is an excellent relationship coach who pays attention to what's being said and not said and speaks the truth.

  • @tamarasherley
    @tamarasherley 6 месяцев назад +62

    His mother acts like he just broke up with her.

  • @s.p529
    @s.p529 6 месяцев назад +111

    This reminds me of the son-husband situation. Mother has such a hold on her son, he takes on the role of what a husband should be doing for her. (And I’m not talking sexual)

    • @elaine21bok
      @elaine21bok 6 месяцев назад +4

      It most definitely is that kinda bond😢

    • @Hotwingzlover84
      @Hotwingzlover84 6 месяцев назад +11

      She made her Son her Emotional Husband. It happens too often

  • @eddetqeq
    @eddetqeq 6 месяцев назад +146

    Russell Wilson and Shai are a dynamic duo Gabriella is very afraid

    • @stellaris915
      @stellaris915 6 месяцев назад +29

      Russell Wilson 😂😂😂

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 6 месяцев назад +3

      Lol

    • @naturallydope6971
      @naturallydope6971 6 месяцев назад +3

      😅😅

    • @adm205
      @adm205 6 месяцев назад +12

      I was thinking the whole time…” he looks like Russell Wilson”…and here we are😂

    • @auntielovechannel2816
      @auntielovechannel2816 6 месяцев назад +2

      😂😂😂

  • @SiennaSong
    @SiennaSong 6 месяцев назад +133

    There are many minefields when you marry a mama's boy.

    • @elaine21bok
      @elaine21bok 6 месяцев назад +12

      Wuuuh Chile tell'm 😅😅

    • @MoJacqui
      @MoJacqui 6 месяцев назад +8

      Agreed!

    • @triciagg756
      @triciagg756 6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes

  • @salome9124
    @salome9124 6 месяцев назад +62

    Moms of boys, the boys cannot disconnect by themselves. We have to give them the permission to put their wives first. It will ruin his life if you don’t allow that. Let him go.

  • @b.jizzle6077
    @b.jizzle6077 6 месяцев назад +32

    That therapist read the hell out of him in therapy lol
    Giving all those excuses as to why he didn’t tell her that he wants to be a police officer. HUGE red flag.🚩 🚩🚩

  • @naiyajahan
    @naiyajahan 6 месяцев назад +44

    I started waiving RED FLAGS! The mother is out of pocket!!!! I am a mother of a son, and he is not her emotional clutch!!

  • @genmore1953
    @genmore1953 5 месяцев назад +11

    Woooah the way the mama snapped was crazy!!!

  • @KeyonnaIsaac
    @KeyonnaIsaac 6 месяцев назад +46

    Pushing the wedding out and learning each other better was the BEST thing I heard!! Mom need to let her son grow up… she is gaining a daughter NOT loosing her son.

  • @FarmerReLa
    @FarmerReLa 6 месяцев назад +58

    Its always interesting to see Mama's boys have that cutting the cord conversation with their moms. Im sure the guys try to avoid it because of the reaction. Its tough for everyone😢

  • @elaine21bok
    @elaine21bok 6 месяцев назад +44

    Girl just walk away, that boy is clearly not ready.

    • @samanthalewis5739
      @samanthalewis5739 6 месяцев назад +1

      I think he’s ready but afraid of hurting his mom. But yes, walk away

  • @CCMoni
    @CCMoni 6 месяцев назад +63

    Are these women out their minds with mom first?! It’s husband and wife not husband and mother.🧐

  • @Kay-od9vt
    @Kay-od9vt 6 месяцев назад +44

    l think the mom purposely spilled the beans about him becoming a cop in order to damage their relationship and hurt Shia. If she doesn’t learn how to backup during the engagement process, she never will. Saying “she’s not your wife yet” sounds crazy. This is a common theme in the black community due to fatherless homes, emotionally incestual relationships between mothers and their sons. Even the fact that Troy often times doesn’t tell Shia when he’s at his mom’s house, is a sign that he subconsciously treats his mom as the “other woman.” It’s weird and inappropriate.
    "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh".
    Genesis 2:24

    • @brielax4441
      @brielax4441 6 месяцев назад +6

      Geez this breakdown is perfect!

    • @Locstarryael
      @Locstarryael 6 месяцев назад

      Spot on

    • @SweetBeeNatural
      @SweetBeeNatural 6 месяцев назад +9

      Just know that this is not a "Black community"/fatherless home issue. That may be your personal experience, but it's definitely cross-cultural and sometimes so much worse in other cultures. TLC had a show about mama's boys and most of the participants were not Black and also had a father figure around growing up. It's a common mother/son dynamic and the reason why so many married people have mother in law problems.

    • @osunlade-daphne2598
      @osunlade-daphne2598 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@SweetBeeNatural , thank you. People use things that are not statistically true to continue to drag, single Black women and mothers. Now don’t give me wrong, the woman in this episode does have some major issues. MAJOR. And they need to be addressed. But I think her issues are more about infantilizing her son that they are about some type emotional husbandless fatherless incestuous situation. I haven’t seen the show that you’re referring to, but overly involved mother-in-laws are a common theme across cultures. Italian moms, Mexican moms, Jewish moms who are hyper fixated on their sons are a stereotype that everybody thinks is is common and even sweet. Let a Black woman do the same thing and she becomes the cause of all the ills in the Black community. 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @Kay-od9vt
      @Kay-od9vt 6 месяцев назад

      @@SweetBeeNatural And just to be clear, I never said this was solely an issue in the black community. Myself, as well as the people in the episode are black, so that is the community I spoke on. And no one was villainizing the black woman, I myself am one. Thank you for adding your input and insight though, I totally agree that it is an issue among many different cultures and races.

  • @dondrial
    @dondrial 6 месяцев назад +31

    Yall mamas gotta stop making your sons yall boyfriends

    • @SiahSiah
      @SiahSiah 6 месяцев назад

      It’s getting ridiculous 😂

  • @theculturalconfusion7748
    @theculturalconfusion7748 6 месяцев назад +36

    Him and his mammy need counseling. This unhealthy, surrogate partner relationship they have is sick.

  • @ayanahood1812
    @ayanahood1812 6 месяцев назад +14

    He just looking for someone to take care of that baby…RUN you deserve BETTER

  • @LeshaFBaby
    @LeshaFBaby 6 месяцев назад +62

    From the clip, I thought she was in the mirror having a full conversation with herself 😂

    • @4Mamie4
      @4Mamie4 6 месяцев назад +3

      Lol.

    • @keshait5144
      @keshait5144 6 месяцев назад +2

      Same lol

    • @reshawonderbrown2255
      @reshawonderbrown2255 6 месяцев назад +8

      The mother is scared to let her son grow up. My friend and his mom is the same way. I call him a mom’s boy. I have two sons myself and I love them deeply and both are grown and I let them fly away from the nest and be a man and not to hold there hand on everything but if they need to talk I will listen but I don’t interfere with their relationship.

    • @LeshaFBaby
      @LeshaFBaby 6 месяцев назад

      @@reshawonderbrown2255 my bd was the same and I walked away

    • @SthandwaM
      @SthandwaM 5 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂😂😂 I choked on my food reading this

  • @shaynajordan7150
    @shaynajordan7150 6 месяцев назад +19

    I need a Tracy in my life.. she is so real!

  • @Iamjeffsledge
    @Iamjeffsledge 6 месяцев назад +57

    "I was impressed that she could hold a conversation"....the bar is on the ground. They are childish....they act like they're still in high school.

    • @natemclarke
      @natemclarke 6 месяцев назад +1

      lmao

    • @muzimthembu453
      @muzimthembu453 6 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂😂 The bar is in hell, chile...

  • @BleuReign13
    @BleuReign13 6 месяцев назад +26

    Mom is a problem! You are not his wife! You are not being pushed aside, you're taking a MOTHER'S place..let him grow up and be a man!!

  • @MzTwEeT1989
    @MzTwEeT1989 6 месяцев назад +10

    The mom must be single! "You just gon push me aside and choose her?!!" She needs to let her son grow up, whether he stays with this young lady or someone else

  • @Nettassafehaven
    @Nettassafehaven 6 месяцев назад +38

    His mother is going to ruining this relationship smh. She is a manipulating her son as a lot of women do smh. He is not ready to grow up for real. He couldn't have grown up with a man around him.

  • @Mary-zd6ow
    @Mary-zd6ow 6 месяцев назад +13

    Troy refuses to validate Shai's feelings. He wants to do what he wants to do and not change things. When you come into a marriage there is a lot of compromise on both sides and you are creating your own family unit.

  • @marriejames01
    @marriejames01 6 месяцев назад +51

    We need a new season!

    • @IamTiaB
      @IamTiaB 6 месяцев назад +12

      I been watching all of these all over. THIS to me was the number one show on OWN. They need to bring it back

    • @NobleAsila
      @NobleAsila 5 месяцев назад

      @@IamTiaBand @marriejames01 y’all preaching! And I’ve been binge watching the same episodes too😩 I have a feeling with her focused on her new show, she’s been focused on that, hopefully she revive this show because it’s great and enlightening

  • @TheJocha31
    @TheJocha31 6 месяцев назад +18

    I never want this type of relationship with my son...she is holding him emotionally hostage. So scary.

  • @naturallove6615
    @naturallove6615 6 месяцев назад +20

    This girl needs to leave that man. Girl how can this man have a healthy marriage with you when he doesn’t have a healthy relationship with his mother!! The mother was crying acting like he told her I don’t want you in my life any longer! Their relationship is sick

    • @samanthalewis5739
      @samanthalewis5739 6 месяцев назад +4

      Yeah, mom showed her butt! Cried and walked off like he told her “it’s over”

    • @nicolewilliams0318
      @nicolewilliams0318 6 месяцев назад +3

      Then went in her room and fell out and the family prayed over her! I was like wth!😂😂

    • @naturallove6615
      @naturallove6615 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@nicolewilliams0318 right lmao taking bout idk what happen out there lord smh whole family is nuts

    • @nicolewilliams0318
      @nicolewilliams0318 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@naturallove6615 all of 'em! Lol!

  • @BlessedtoSOAR
    @BlessedtoSOAR 6 месяцев назад +29

    His mother will always be a problem. It's best they part if he doesn't set a clear boundary

  • @BlessedtoSOAR
    @BlessedtoSOAR 6 месяцев назад +30

    His Mom has to let go. Her son is her son, not her husband! His wife will always come first

  • @Anonymouslousy
    @Anonymouslousy 6 месяцев назад +27

    He totally deflected that. Why u keep secrets from your fiancé but tell your mama?? And mama just rubbing it all in her face like you’re insane .

  • @womnofdestiny
    @womnofdestiny 6 месяцев назад +64

    Mom must have been a single mother. Their relationship is twisted.

    • @DB-gu6tf
      @DB-gu6tf 6 месяцев назад +2

      She devoted her entire life to her son now the son has to devote his entire life to her. Sad situation for both.

  • @MISSDAJAVU22
    @MISSDAJAVU22 5 месяцев назад +6

    He had a baby on the way... He disappeared when the baby was born for TWO WEEKS... Then hes pursuing a career as a police officer and doesnt say anything... 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

  • @tshidithebehli1546
    @tshidithebehli1546 5 месяцев назад +14

    Hai, Traci is so underrated. I love how she weeded through the BS. but these people are kids.

    • @kwetsephetla3597
      @kwetsephetla3597 5 месяцев назад +1

      So great seeing another South African in the comments 😊

    • @tshidithebehli1546
      @tshidithebehli1546 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@kwetsephetla3597 I'm addicticed. Trying to find ones I haven't watched

    • @kwetsephetla3597
      @kwetsephetla3597 5 месяцев назад

      @@tshidithebehli1546 Same here!!!

  • @CreolePearls_
    @CreolePearls_ 6 месяцев назад +26

    These 2 never made it to the alter 🚮 I checked their instagram pages and they not even together. Shai is is mother of a little boy ❤

    • @dejaniquenelson9458
      @dejaniquenelson9458 5 месяцев назад +2

      What’s their social media

    • @fammamjam
      @fammamjam 5 месяцев назад +2

      When she said he was gone for two weeks then came back to tell her he had full custody of his daugher and when she got mad that he told his mother he passed his police training and didn't tell her, and finally she said she wanted 5 children while trying to be a professional singer, I knew it was over. He needs a mother for his child, she fit the bill. Few will agree but him telling his mom and not her didn't concern me. He's not running to another woman, that's his mother. What he told his mother was a benefit to their relationship and his overall life, nothing to be mad about. He probally would have told her once it was all done as a surprise to her instead of stressing her out during the recruitment process. He just wanted to maintain his manhood and show himself a provider to her. A marriage lasting is 50/50. Good parents being there for you is 100/100. Hopefully he found a woman that doesn't get upset he confides in his mother when it's no harm to their relationship. A good fiance/wife learns from the mother, that way she can be there for him in a similar manner when the mother dies.

    • @nthomengmajara8575
      @nthomengmajara8575 5 месяцев назад

      😢

    • @rootedhabits
      @rootedhabits 5 месяцев назад

      Good. They’re both immature.

  • @SadeDemu
    @SadeDemu 5 месяцев назад +7

    I don’t like how they kept trying to twist her words.. she wasn’t trying to replace his mother, he kept news from her yet told his mom.. that’s what she had a problem with..

  • @RareGem123
    @RareGem123 6 месяцев назад +14

    Why do families believe that they have to be apart of a private engagement though? Everyone does things differently accept that. At least you'll be apart of the wedding

  • @dbrooks1287
    @dbrooks1287 6 месяцев назад +52

    his mom is one of "THOSE" moms.. EW

  • @jar7840
    @jar7840 6 месяцев назад +32

    Those names 😅
    Shai and Skai
    Cheryl and Cheryl and Uncle Ben.

  • @saturnladee110
    @saturnladee110 6 месяцев назад +28

    "that's not true" "that's not true at all"
    Meanwhile, doing exactly what he is being accused of. Captain Gaslight!

  • @auntielovechannel2816
    @auntielovechannel2816 6 месяцев назад +24

    I don't like that. His mother is wrong. Go and date, Mom. Cut the cord

  • @thina5918
    @thina5918 6 месяцев назад +8

    Mom and aunt both called Cheryl 😂😂LORD!! Those parents were over it naming those kids that. !!

  • @danatyler9149
    @danatyler9149 6 месяцев назад +15

    I couldn't wait until my sons married! What's wrong with these people!😂

  • @LykzLybra78
    @LykzLybra78 4 месяца назад +4

    Relationship would’ve ended when he disappeared and returned 2 weeks later with a baby in tow.

  • @Locstarryael
    @Locstarryael 6 месяцев назад +13

    I think it’s truly a shame he didn’t consult the ones closest to her before proposing… already starting off on the wrong foot

  • @nemahgracesiame4824
    @nemahgracesiame4824 6 месяцев назад +37

    Early on this episode 😁😁.. please keep them coming.. 🤭
    Learning a lot from all the couples.
    I can see a little bit of myself in all these couples...
    Making necessary changes for a better me🎉🎉

    • @brielax4441
      @brielax4441 6 месяцев назад +1

      Me too!

    • @trishag.971
      @trishag.971 4 месяца назад

      I agree!!! I watch this to see and learn from the dynamics

  • @Beeli-fl4vk
    @Beeli-fl4vk 5 месяцев назад +2

    The producer just lying to these women, their voices are not for singing maybe a rap song😂

    • @cynthialewis3785
      @cynthialewis3785 5 месяцев назад

      Even in their speaking voices they sound like little girls. This episode was a lot!

  • @terrihawkins5367
    @terrihawkins5367 6 месяцев назад +12

    The mother is wrong. That's all. The young man need to grow up.

  • @sherrimcleod8389
    @sherrimcleod8389 5 месяцев назад +5

    My husband and I got married in 6 months and we are still married 17 years later.

  • @monicathomas777
    @monicathomas777 6 месяцев назад +24

    Her son a grown man. Momma need to let go

  • @RubyHayes-j9o
    @RubyHayes-j9o 6 месяцев назад +9

    His attitude scares me 😡 he goes off fast. Beautiful couple yet flying off the handle Ni

  • @Hotwingzlover84
    @Hotwingzlover84 6 месяцев назад +12

    It seems that He wants to keep a wedge between his Woman, and His Mother. Incase it doesn't work out between them, He will be able to go run back to His Mommy smh

  • @Ginaaaa555
    @Ginaaaa555 6 месяцев назад +23

    In competition with your MIL 👍🏽✌🏽

  • @tiffanysmith4389
    @tiffanysmith4389 5 месяцев назад +6

    Run. Stay away from mama boys. Wife comes first. The fact she just found out about him being a cop.. wow. Wait 2 years before being married.

    • @marriejames01
      @marriejames01 5 месяцев назад

      He has a pattern of lying. He lied about the child.

  • @MeashaJonquinnae
    @MeashaJonquinnae 5 месяцев назад +1

    Loved how the therapist clocked his tea

  • @shaunta963
    @shaunta963 6 месяцев назад +9

    We can’t make our sons our partners it’s not right. I really believe whoever he’s with she won’t be happy. They’re adults it’s their lives. It’s way too many clingy people in this dynamic.

  • @2rareejayy390
    @2rareejayy390 6 месяцев назад +15

    The twins are beautiful

  • @brittbritt4661
    @brittbritt4661 6 месяцев назад +19

    His mother is delusional period. She act like that’s her man, getting married isn’t gonna change how he treats you

  • @lavidaloca2344
    @lavidaloca2344 4 месяца назад +1

    Alot of Single father's, just like single mothers, trying to find a step-parent. She needs to pursue her dreams, have a long engagement.

  • @latoyas191
    @latoyas191 5 месяцев назад +2

    I definitely married a man with an overbearing mom. Its been 13 years now. It is a lot of work and something to consider before marriage.

  • @aisharansom6039
    @aisharansom6039 6 месяцев назад +4

    I was waiting for someone to say when two are joined together nobody comes before the other not Mom or Sis

  • @tomaradoss3420
    @tomaradoss3420 5 месяцев назад +3

    The mother doesn’t want them together period!
    Actually the young lady was only saying make me the priority, not push your mom away. But that’s what the mother and son heard.

  • @KwanzaMyesha
    @KwanzaMyesha 6 месяцев назад +7

    So so glad they put it off AND now there is a need for boundaries and stick to them❤️

  • @777LisaB
    @777LisaB 6 месяцев назад +12

    Did y’all like the Twins musical performance?!?🥴

  • @krissyK6128
    @krissyK6128 5 месяцев назад +3

    The groom’s mother is selfish and cannot appreciate that a boundary must be set between her and her son. She needs to understand your place as his mom and allow his relationship with his fiancé to blossom.

  • @Iamlonndanicole
    @Iamlonndanicole 6 месяцев назад +10

    Tracy please deal with these mothers!!!!!!!

  • @godfrey7944
    @godfrey7944 6 месяцев назад +9

    I wonder if Troys' Mom has/had a Man in her life if she would tell Troy everything first before telling her Man? ........NOT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.

  • @shantakoa8596
    @shantakoa8596 6 месяцев назад +8

    I had to leave a relationship because he was so close to his mother. She was causing too many problems and he did not see a problem 🤔

  • @danyellewhitehead7625
    @danyellewhitehead7625 6 месяцев назад +6

    So he attacks what she loves as much as he loves his mother. And I see the bitterness that she would even and he trying to teach her the same as she tried to teach him! But passion for my calling vs where I stand to my man is truly a different line.

  • @goodchick88
    @goodchick88 6 месяцев назад +27

    Troy must be his mom's ONLY!

    • @womnofdestiny
      @womnofdestiny 6 месяцев назад +5

      And she had to have been a single parent

    • @dememurphy7859
      @dememurphy7859 6 месяцев назад +5

      I'm a single parent with 3 sons... I don't have that kind of attachment to them!! This is crazy how she took him saying it's time to cut the cord

    • @nicolewilliams0318
      @nicolewilliams0318 6 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@womnofdestinyI'm a single mom and I'm not like that with my son so what do you mean?🤔

    • @nicolewilliams0318
      @nicolewilliams0318 6 месяцев назад +1

      What?

  • @ShayBoogie444
    @ShayBoogie444 18 дней назад +1

    Girlfriends obsession on coming before their mother is weird af. It's different type of love. One you shouldn't try and compete with.

  • @gettheedgenow7079
    @gettheedgenow7079 6 месяцев назад +12

    Troy's mother said that she was happy that they decided to defer their marriage for a year, but what she's really happy about is that she gets to keep her husband (unchallenged) for another year.

    • @samanthalewis5739
      @samanthalewis5739 6 месяцев назад

      Correction - keep him and push her “competition” away!

  • @ambermindless247
    @ambermindless247 6 месяцев назад +7

    😂🤣 I wish her mother would d interjected in that dinner his mother is WRONG you cling to your wife so during your engagement should be preparation for the future

  • @danadane5497
    @danadane5497 6 месяцев назад +2

    I’m a single mom of three sons and I’m am not like this at all. I want my sons to grow up and be productive men in society and for their future family.

  • @gab19guerin72
    @gab19guerin72 6 месяцев назад +3

    Notice her mom did not speak in the end. She knows that the relationship is in trouble as long as the groom’s mother doesn’t change her mindset. The bride will always come second to mom. His mom should relinquish him but she won’t and he won’t put his wife first.

  • @SiahSiah
    @SiahSiah 6 месяцев назад +3

    They both have their heads in the clouds. You want 5 kids and be a singer ?? Girl wtf are you even talking about 😂😂😂

  • @janedeane3656
    @janedeane3656 6 месяцев назад +12

    Yall wrong for the title of the video

    • @samanthalewis5739
      @samanthalewis5739 6 месяцев назад +4

      Had to go back and check the title. That’s exactly where these people are “la la land”

  • @sattasana7753
    @sattasana7753 6 месяцев назад +7

    I don’t think they remained together though.. Groom’s mom must be happy.

  • @rottielove2012
    @rottielove2012 6 месяцев назад +10

    His mom needs to sit down somewhere

  • @RondoFromOndo
    @RondoFromOndo 6 месяцев назад +7

    Cheryl and Cheryl. Sisters? I need some answers please cuz im confused.

    • @KindTiffany
      @KindTiffany 5 месяцев назад +1

      The aunt could be his father's sister.

  • @Nina-Bananaaa
    @Nina-Bananaaa 5 месяцев назад +7

    Nobody mentioned that they can’t sing?