Im literally in the same position right now. I havent had the best source of support for breastfeeding. I joined FB support groups, talked to women I knew who breastfed about their journeys, even saw a consultant & just never felt I ever got the answers I was looking for. They all gave tips & advice & nothing has worked for me. I bought a new pump. Ive done cookies teas brownies supplements. My supply has just not been enough. Ive felt so much pressure from all different directions to keep trying & never have I heard its okay to give up. No matter how stressful its gotten or how emotionally draining its been, no one has said to me its okay if you dont think you can do it anymore. So Ive been trying despite not making progress. My daughter is two months & Ive already gotten my period after deciding to exclusively bp. I had no idea it would be this hard & I really wish people would have more empathy. I feel your pain & I thank you for sharing your story.
Breastfeeding is HARD. Pumping is HARD. Being a mom is HARD. Mom guilt is even harder. I feel you girl. I’m going through the same things with my son and my supply right now. The mom guilt about stopping has been killing me too. You are an amazing mama with two beautiful, healthy and smart baby girls and that’s all because of YOU. You’re doing the best you can, don’t beat yourself up. You should be SO proud of yourself and the hard work you put into your work, home and family on a daily basis. So many people look up to you, me included. Keep your head up beautiful, you got this🙌🏻👏🏻
I’m actually at 7 months of pumping, exclusively. I am going to quit I don’t even have an issue with my supply, however I’m finding it so hard because I feel guilty for formula. However I just can’t do it anymore. It’s just so difficult no one understands until your in it. I think you’ve done amazing! Many mums don’t even give breast milk! You gave your baby all the healthy stuff for ages!!! It drained you! You have 2 kids! So you’ve done absolutely amazing! Amazing!!! I feel like I will be failing for quiting when I don’t have a supply issue but I have other issues attached with it. And honestly your video has helped me so mum and my response to you I truly feel but yet to myself I am super harsh and I need to share my thoughts with you and say them to myself also 🙈 exclusively pumping is so hard!!! Your kid is super happy and you’ve done amazing! Well done be proud. Xxxxxxxx
I have worked in Maternal pediatrics and NICU for over 30 yrs. You are correct in your statement that exclusively pumping is draining. A commercial formula is made as close to Breastmilk as possible. MANY generations have been fed it since birth and grew up to be intellectually sound & productive adults with a very happy childhood. Choosing to end a stressful and frustrating feeding time for you and your family is a personal choice and a sound mothering choice in your own personal parenting journey. It is not a choice of child neglect or abuse in any way to choose to formula-feed your baby. Commercial formulas are very good and safe for babies. Be strong in your confident parenting choice and ignore the rest. Good luck and God Bless you and your baby.
Don’t beat yourself up. Like you said, it’s not worth it. I just had my first 5 months ago. And we quit when he was a month old because my supply was like yours. He’s thriving on formula and sooo much happier. Do you girl! You know what’s best for your baby!
Me crying at 5:00 am because I’ve only been able to pump a 1/2 oz for the past week, my 4th baby being 35, I needed to hear this. I’ve been so emotional about it, thank you for this❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽
Exclusively pumping is hard work! Good job lasting as long as you did. You are not a failure. You are a great mama who is loving and caring for your baby the best way you can.
Well done you. I am with you, power pumping is a suicide mission when your flow is decreasing. I turned into zombie once I started power pumping and couldn’t stop crying. Why would anyone so mean to moms? Would they rather we starve our babies so not to feed them formula? That’s stupid We all are amazing regardless whenever we decided what’s the best to move on physically and mentally for ourselves and our children
I’m so happy you made this video. I’m exclusively pumping right now and it’s so draining with one baby I can’t even imagine two! I’m honestly considering stopping just because I’m tired of feeling like a cow. I don’t think I can last as long as you did.
Maryssa your not a failure! Your kids are happy, healthy, and loved! Although you made it to 8 months doesn’t make it any easier. Just know your killing it at being a mom and it shows in your precious daughters!
You are so amazing that you were able to pump as long as you did. Pumping is so hard. I honestly can't even do it. Your journey with it was so inspiring.
Pumping is HARD. There is no shame in doing what is best for you and your baby, and what is best for you right now is formula. You are not a quitter or a failure. Hugs, you are awesome. Thank you for sharing your struggle.
Don’t feel bad. I been been pumping for 3 months and I have an abundance that I needed to stop because I’m exhausted and I need to get back on medication for my mental health and I’ve been gaining weight. Trust me I’ve been guilted for stopping but it’s so draining and I put away over 200 bags I think I’m good. I was pumping 6-7 times a day and I also have an 8 year old who needs me. I’ve gradually stopped and I’m down to 3 sessions and the milk is starting to dwindle. I’m sad too but you’ve got a healthy baby. Knowing I’m not alone makes me feel good. This one was bittersweet because she is my last one and it will be the last time I ever breastfeed a baby. Kudos to you momma!!
Girl!! You ARE NOT A FAILURE!! This mom shaming bs is such crap! I can't stand it!! I couldn't breast feed with my oldest because she was in the NICU for 24 hours and would never latch because she already was bottle fed there....so when I had my son, I really wanted to breastfeed. My supply was so low and I did EVERYTHING to bring my supply up. It is so emotional and draining on your body. I got an extremely bad case of mastitis and still tried and after that he wasn't interested. He was 4 months old. I beat myself up and it was so unhealthy. Some women can't. It doesn't make them any less of a woman or a mother!!!!! I get it girl. Don't beat yourself up. You are strong and a great momma regardless how your baby eats!! Keep up the great job momma!!😍😘 forget the damn haters! They are haters and will hate on anything because they are miserable. Period. 💗😘
I had low supply with my son and dried up at four months - with my Daughter now my emotions are so all over the place from having two kids that I am quitting on purpose at 8.5 months - I took my Zoloft for the first time today and won’t give her any more milk - I’m heartbroken - but seriously your story is a success ! Pumping and breastfeeding is such an emotional journey and you are giving all the love your babies need ! Sounds like this post was a long time ago - but it is helping me today as today is my last day of giving breast milk
I just started my channel! And this video was suggested for me I swear it’s like fate haha I stopped exclusively pumping once my daughter was 8 months. Exclusively pumping is SO SO SO HARD. Gosh I remember being strapped to the wall and trying to take care of my daughter it’s just so hard. You are amazing mama! I switched to formula once she was 8 months and she is a healthy and perfect toddler now!
You have the cutest little girls! My son Dax is currently 2 months old and I've been exclusively pumping since he was born. I also struggle with a low supply and can't save a freezer stash at all. It can be defeating most days. Especially when I see so many women on youtube that have a freezer full of milk. What matters though is we're keeping our babies fed. Whether that's achieved with formula or breast milk doesn't matter. I can tell both of your girls are so much loved and so happy. Just concentrate on being the wonderful momma I and anyone else who watches this video can tell you are. ❤
I feel you . My son is almost 6 months and my supply is dropping and I work full time and have class at night and a5 year old ... I have to pump 4 times a day at work and once at class and the nurse at home and I am LOSING IT! Tried formula for one bottle with two different kinds and he broke out In hives both times so I decided f it , I’m not going through that again so I’m sticking it out 😩 so much work with being a mom of 2, a wife, an employee and a student . 4 full time jobs essentially
Aaawww love don’t feel like a failure you did amazing I’m currently trying to make my supply go up I’m pumping one oz all day and my son is almost 6weeks and I’m thinking of quitting due to nothing help produce more milk so you did amazing for doing all that time
Your a great mama. Ive been pumping exclusively for 6 weeks and ive been having lots of break downs then i was crying for not waking up at night enough but my baby is still in the nicu :( its alot.
Girl you are NOT a failure! You have a happy healthy baby and that’s all that matters! I exclusively pumped for the first 11 months of my daughter’s life and supplemented with formula until I could give her cows milk. And it was HARD! So hard! And formula just keeps getting better. You’re an awesome mama! So keep it up! ❤️
I get you girl! I have a 18 month old and an almost three week old. My daughter won’t latch and I went through the same thing with my oldest. I understand the guilt. I have been pumping eight times a day. I am dropping to 7 pumps. It takes so much time and the pump hurts because they don’t make the right flange size for me. I feel like I am taking care of three kids and doing it poorly.
You aren't a failure mama 💛 my breastfeeding journey was much shorter than I expected too. At the end of the day, what matters is baby is healthy and happy!
You should never feel ashamed or guilty for choices you make or have to make regarding your kids. You are a wonderful mother and doing the absolute best for them. I'm on my 3rd child and have not been able to breastfeed because of many different circumstances with each child. It has something I have been very passionate about and yet it simple has not worked for me. I'm utterly heartbroken about it. With my 3rd I was actually able to physically nurse him for 4 weeks. I tried it ALL including things not commonly known to help increase supply and to get my boobs to basically work. I only had one side that was producing and I ended up developing a large abscess from ongoing mastitis that required emergency surgery. I'm unable to pump hardly anything. So when people mention to "just pump and bottle feed" it hurts. There's still a sting there. All of my kids have been primarily formula fed. I provided some breastmilk for them and that's ok. I worked hard. Much harder than I should because I'm stubborn. They are all healthy and thriving and perfect. ❤💕
Love your channel. Came across it while searching about quitting exclusively pumping. I’m thinking about going down that road now and having trouble feeling bad about it as well. Thanks for the encouragement 💗
Oh my gosh I don’t think you realize how amazing you are! I am an exclusive pumper and I struggle with my supply too, so I know how taxing it is! I understand the guilty feeling, it’s just natural to feel that way. However, doing what you do is amazing, pumping or not, you’re amazing and your two precious girls are beyond lucky to have you as a Mother. Keep in mind that you exceeded the time that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends a baby to get breast milk. They recommend 6 months and you did almost 8! Pat yourself on the back and treat yourself. Be kind and compassionate to yourself. You would do the same if someone else was in your shoes. You. Are. Amazing. ❤️
Dont worry i am sure you did what you could do!! Dont feel bad people will always judge. You are the best mom stella and lucy can have. I adore you and your beautiful babies. I love watching your vlogs and always wait for them ❤️😘 I have a 4 months old baby boy and he is the world to me so I totally get how you must be feeling ❤️
Aww honey you’re a rockstar!!! I formula fed two healthy babies and get momshamed for it all the time. Fed is best you did what you could, your babies are soooo happy and that’s what matters!!
Screw people who put moms down for using formula!! Do what you need to do and anyone that has negative thoughts about it can go to hell! You are a great mom and your little baby is so cute as long as she is being fed that is great 👍🏻 I’m having a hard time with my supply and I’m only 2 months in and feel like my supply is coming to an end 😢 we can’t force our bodies to produce milk if it just can’t do formula is the next option and it’s not a bad choice. Don’t let anyone put u down just ignore them
You are a great mom and Stella is a happy and healthy baby. I have 2 babies and was never able to exclusively breastfeed either one. I can so relate to your emotions. But formula is amazing and our little ones have turned out perfectly fine! We just have to stop listening to all the pressure we put on ourselves and trust the Lord with their lives!
Both girls are so cute. Aww mama you are not a failure. Remember #FeedIsBest !! I went through the same thing with my daughter I had to supplement at 7 months and at 9 months my freezer supply was completely out. You’re doing a great job
There is many times I feel the same as you, I had to stop at 9 weeks and the reason why wasn’t the low supply but the fact that I couldn’t directly breasfeed so instead i was exclusively pumping. I did this for a year on the dot with my son so I thought it was going to be easy as first time. i was soo wrong because my almost 4 year old had a very hard time adjusting to the baby and it was soo hard for me to be there for him, for the baby , to pump, take care of the house, the meals and all the other things we as stay at home mom have to deal daily. I told my daughter’s pediatrician and she told me to have happy and healthy kids first you have to be happy and healthy yourself . If they have a mama dealing with depression is not good for the baby and rest of the family, I felt soooo guilty and failure too when I stoped but I had to do it, if I didn’t I dnt know how my mental health was going to be or even if I was going to still be with my family. I plan on having at least one more kid and I will do the same i will try breastfeeding if he/she doesn’t latch I will exclusively pump for as long as I can because I am a mama to two more kids who will need me as much as my future baby will!!
It’s so sad that we live in a time where women have to justify their decisions about how they properly feed their babies. You are a good mom regardless of whether you breast-feed or formula feed your child Period the fact that you try your best in care makes you a good mom. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for your decision about how you feed your baby
🤣 I got heavy into stripes for a bit too! 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽 I'm on my 4th and this is the toughest go I've had, she's 5 weeks, we both had medical issues, (PPH and jaundice ) and I also suspect she might have a bit of a tie on her upper lip, AND I've just now discovered that it apparently takes FOREVER to get "all" the milk out of my breasts!!! I am currently trying out shorter but more frequent pumping sessions and writing for my freemie cups coming tomorrow!!! *Angels singing* THANK YOU FOR SHARING 🤗🤗🤗🤗 ♡ I know I'm gonna cry when I stop too 😢 Ok so also I am going to try a supplemental nursing system and hoping to get her back on the boob that way!!!
Hey mama! Thank you for sharing your struggles with pumping. I was in the same boat a few months ago.. I cried and felt like such a failure for having no choice but to introduce formula. It was so hard! Some people did make me feel bad but I did what I had to do for my baby. Remember you are amazing! And an amazing mother! Your love for your babies radiates through the screen and it is so beautiful!!! Stay strong mama ❤
Rhyana Kae hi what formula did you introduce to your baby I am currently exclusively pumping, yesterday I try to to introduce formula to baby he hated it..
Thanks for sharing. I'm like balling over here because I've struggled from day one, my milk came in at a few weeks and even now I'm only able to get half an ounce to maybe an ounce each session.. I have tried everything and have dedicated this whole month to just pumping and latching.. with no real improvement. Today may be the day that I just stop and I look at my baby and my heart just breaks..
You did not fail!!!! And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. The pediatrician for my 2nd born couldn’t have said it any better when he found out I wasn’t breastfeeding, “screw people’s opinions, if you want to formula feed you do that! No one knows your situation and the reason why you couldn’t or had to stop breastfeeding and honestly it is no one’s business either!” I loved him for that. He was real and honestly what he said is true. As long as your baby is healthy and is being fed is all that matters. No one has room to judge we all do things differently. And if it is breast milk or it is formula your baby is getting fed. And shame on anyone that brings anyone down for not breastfeeding their child or having to stop breastfeeding. You’re doing great!!!!!
U r the farthest thing from a failure ! Formula is great these days !! Plus I never breastfed so I must be the devil but my 16 year old 8 year old and little ones are perfect ( 2 me )
I totally feel you momma! I had to switch from breastfeeding to formula when my daughter was 8 months, I had struggled with my supply the entire time then I got a really bad stomach virus and it completed wiped out the remainder of my supply Don’t beat yourself! You’re not alone! Something that made me feel better was I researched and found a formula I was really comfortable with! 🤗 hugs!!
Love your channel!!! I'm breastfeeding now with my 3rd and have never been able to breastfeed past 6weeks with my other 2 I'd love to be able to go as long as you have!!! You are awesome and not a failure!!! 😍😍😍😘😘
I’m struggling with low supply I’ve spent tons of money on supplements and no change... sad to see every mom review a product about great it’s going for them and it did nothing for me... everyday I wanna stop but I try too remind myself the amount doesn’t matter
one thing that u have to underestand is that U DO NOT NEED to give any explanation to ANYBODY.. its uf life n ur baby.. and i know its really hard to pump n feed especially wen u cant get the amount u need... u get frustrated u get worried.. but u shudnt worry at all u did ur best, still doing great with those beauties... just take care of urself n mental health for them as well.. best of luck i m cmmnting from my husband's account
Mama, you did not fail her. I had those same feelings when I weaned my daughter at 6 months. I thought my supply was low. I’ve learned a lot since that experience and we’ll see how it goes with our son (due in June). If you are open or interested since you mentioned possibly having a third, this group has done so much for me emotionally and information-wise. facebook.com/groups/cleavageclub/?ref=share You are enough and a great mom. 💕
Great resource.....I am part of that group as well. Without them I wouldn’t have been aware of my sons lip and tongue tie and I don’t think our breastfeeding journey would have lasted this long without them.
I’m sure you feel pretty free not pumping any more tho!! Because I got sick giving birth and wasn’t able to breastfeed until a month and a half after birth I always strictly used formula. Best thing I’ve ever used is the baby breeza I think that’s what it’s called, but I call it A baby Keurig it’s a life changer!!!!!
Ep With my first child and currently doing it again for my second . First time around it was hell. Second time around still not fun lol. I see all these women’s online with this insane freezer stashes and it’s defeating. Trying my best but I barely produce enough as is.
This is so weird. My baby girl is 7.5 months old and I’ve been exclusively pumping with a over supply this whole time and now I don’t make enough… so weird. I didn’t sleep last night just thinking about giving her formula. It’s all I think about all day long. It’s scary but I know so many moms who give their babies formula and they are fine. I just have to do it.. ugh
I'm an all stripes kinda girl too! Lol cute girls you have there. I'm taking my son to his 1st swimming lesson next week. I've struggled with breastfeeding, so I know how bad it can be and how bad we can be to ourselves. We as moms dont give ourselves the credit we deserve. Pumping is so much work, so even if it's a week, a month, it's fine. Formula is not poison, like you say! I have no idea how I managed to breastfeeding my son to 1yr, now I'm wanting to wean him and stop! Lol my boobs need a vacay!!
Your girls are both adorable!!! How long do babies usually wear the helmets for? The first time I had to buy formula I felt so sad. I literally stood in the formula isle of target for 20 minutes just staring at them wondering if I really needed to. But my daughter was hungry and I had been trying to nurse her all day but she just couldn’t get enough. There’s nothing wrong with formula feeding/supplementing. 💕 Sending love
Here to say, there is nothing worth your sanity or mental health. I chose not to breastfeed my son and felt the same guilt. I hope to pump exclusively with my 2nd but going into it with low expectations...the moment I'm struggling mentally, i wont continue to pump...healthy mom is the best mom
Hi what formula are you currently using, I am currently exclusively pumping, my milk supply is going down and over exhausted I don’t what to do . Yesterday I try giving formula to my baby and he didn’t like it...
The stress of breastfeeding and pumping is enough to deter me from wanting another baby. It's awful to feel like you're judged when it's out of your control. I canNOT imagine exclusively pumping, I would have given up long ago. You are a warrior, mama!
I feel so bad now because I am one of the people who messaged you😭 I’m so sorry! Definitely do not feel guilty! You have a healthy beautiful little baby girl!!
Omg we are twins lol not like look alike but I have a 7 month old girl maybelle and a almost 3year old girl Madison and I’m a stay at home mom and I’m a little obsessed with the act and my baby has an appointment for doc band
I’ve only been pumping for 2 weeks and am already exhausted. You did amazing!!!!
Im literally in the same position right now. I havent had the best source of support for breastfeeding. I joined FB support groups, talked to women I knew who breastfed about their journeys, even saw a consultant & just never felt I ever got the answers I was looking for. They all gave tips & advice & nothing has worked for me. I bought a new pump. Ive done cookies teas brownies supplements. My supply has just not been enough. Ive felt so much pressure from all different directions to keep trying & never have I heard its okay to give up. No matter how stressful its gotten or how emotionally draining its been, no one has said to me its okay if you dont think you can do it anymore. So Ive been trying despite not making progress. My daughter is two months & Ive already gotten my period after deciding to exclusively bp. I had no idea it would be this hard & I really wish people would have more empathy. I feel your pain & I thank you for sharing your story.
Breastfeeding is HARD. Pumping is HARD. Being a mom is HARD. Mom guilt is even harder. I feel you girl. I’m going through the same things with my son and my supply right now. The mom guilt about stopping has been killing me too. You are an amazing mama with two beautiful, healthy and smart baby girls and that’s all because of YOU. You’re doing the best you can, don’t beat yourself up. You should be SO proud of yourself and the hard work you put into your work, home and family on a daily basis. So many people look up to you, me included. Keep your head up beautiful, you got this🙌🏻👏🏻
I’m actually at 7 months of pumping, exclusively. I am going to quit I don’t even have an issue with my supply, however I’m finding it so hard because I feel guilty for formula. However I just can’t do it anymore. It’s just so difficult no one understands until your in it. I think you’ve done amazing! Many mums don’t even give breast milk! You gave your baby all the healthy stuff for ages!!! It drained you! You have 2 kids! So you’ve done absolutely amazing! Amazing!!! I feel like I will be failing for quiting when I don’t have a supply issue but I have other issues attached with it. And honestly your video has helped me so mum and my response to you I truly feel but yet to myself I am super harsh and I need to share my thoughts with you and say them to myself also 🙈 exclusively pumping is so hard!!! Your kid is super happy and you’ve done amazing! Well done be proud.
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I quit right at 7 months too and I had a oversupply. You’re right. It is SO draining. Congrats at sticking it out so long!!
I have worked in Maternal pediatrics and NICU for over 30 yrs. You are correct in your statement that exclusively pumping is draining. A commercial formula is made as close to Breastmilk as possible. MANY generations have been fed it since birth and grew up to be intellectually sound & productive adults with a very happy childhood. Choosing to end a stressful and frustrating feeding time for you and your family is a personal choice and a sound mothering choice in your own personal parenting journey. It is not a choice of child neglect or abuse in any way to choose to formula-feed your baby. Commercial formulas are very good and safe for babies. Be strong in your confident parenting choice and ignore the rest. Good luck and God Bless you and your baby.
Don’t beat yourself up. Like you said, it’s not worth it. I just had my first 5 months ago. And we quit when he was a month old because my supply was like yours. He’s thriving on formula and sooo much happier. Do you girl! You know what’s best for your baby!
Me crying at 5:00 am because I’ve only been able to pump a 1/2 oz for the past week, my 4th baby being 35, I needed to hear this. I’ve been so emotional about it, thank you for this❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽
Exclusively pumping is hard work! Good job lasting as long as you did. You are not a failure. You are a great mama who is loving and caring for your baby the best way you can.
Well done you. I am with you, power pumping is a suicide mission when your flow is decreasing. I turned into zombie once I started power pumping and couldn’t stop crying.
Why would anyone so mean to moms? Would they rather we starve our babies so not to feed them formula? That’s stupid
We all are amazing regardless whenever we decided what’s the best to move on physically and mentally for ourselves and our children
8 months was pretty good. I’m struggling here at 3 months
I’m so happy you made this video. I’m exclusively pumping right now and it’s so draining with one baby I can’t even imagine two! I’m honestly considering stopping just because I’m tired of feeling like a cow. I don’t think I can last as long as you did.
Exclusively pumping is SO challenging. I quit earlier than anticipated with my twins and baby boy. You’re doing an amazing job 🌸💜💕
Maryssa your not a failure! Your kids are happy, healthy, and loved! Although you made it to 8 months doesn’t make it any easier. Just know your killing it at being a mom and it shows in your precious daughters!
You have a happy healthy loved baby......nothing about that says failure!!!
Beautifully said!
You are so amazing that you were able to pump as long as you did. Pumping is so hard. I honestly can't even do it. Your journey with it was so inspiring.
Pumping is HARD. There is no shame in doing what is best for you and your baby, and what is best for you right now is formula. You are not a quitter or a failure. Hugs, you are awesome. Thank you for sharing your struggle.
Don’t feel bad. I been been pumping for 3 months and I have an abundance that I needed to stop because I’m exhausted and I need to get back on medication for my mental health and I’ve been gaining weight. Trust me I’ve been guilted for stopping but it’s so draining and I put away over 200 bags I think I’m good. I was pumping 6-7 times a day and I also have an 8 year old who needs me. I’ve gradually stopped and I’m down to 3 sessions and the milk is starting to dwindle. I’m sad too but you’ve got a healthy baby. Knowing I’m not alone makes me feel good. This one was bittersweet because she is my last one and it will be the last time I ever breastfeed a baby. Kudos to you momma!!
You're doing what's best for your baby! You're a great mom ❤
Girl!! You ARE NOT A FAILURE!! This mom shaming bs is such crap! I can't stand it!! I couldn't breast feed with my oldest because she was in the NICU for 24 hours and would never latch because she already was bottle fed there....so when I had my son, I really wanted to breastfeed. My supply was so low and I did EVERYTHING to bring my supply up. It is so emotional and draining on your body. I got an extremely bad case of mastitis and still tried and after that he wasn't interested. He was 4 months old. I beat myself up and it was so unhealthy. Some women can't. It doesn't make them any less of a woman or a mother!!!!! I get it girl. Don't beat yourself up. You are strong and a great momma regardless how your baby eats!! Keep up the great job momma!!😍😘 forget the damn haters! They are haters and will hate on anything because they are miserable. Period. 💗😘
I had low supply with my son and dried up at four months - with my Daughter now my emotions are so all over the place from having two kids that I am quitting on purpose at 8.5 months - I took my Zoloft for the first time today and won’t give her any more milk - I’m heartbroken - but seriously your story is a success ! Pumping and breastfeeding is such an emotional journey and you are giving all the love your babies need ! Sounds like this post was a long time ago - but it is helping me today as today is my last day of giving breast milk
I just started my channel! And this video was suggested for me I swear it’s like fate haha I stopped exclusively pumping once my daughter was 8 months. Exclusively pumping is SO SO SO HARD. Gosh I remember being strapped to the wall and trying to take care of my daughter it’s just so hard. You are amazing mama! I switched to formula once she was 8 months and she is a healthy and perfect toddler now!
You did great! 8 months is a big accomplishment. She got it for 8 months that is awesome.
You have the cutest little girls! My son Dax is currently 2 months old and I've been exclusively pumping since he was born. I also struggle with a low supply and can't save a freezer stash at all. It can be defeating most days. Especially when I see so many women on youtube that have a freezer full of milk. What matters though is we're keeping our babies fed. Whether that's achieved with formula or breast milk doesn't matter. I can tell both of your girls are so much loved and so happy. Just concentrate on being the wonderful momma I and anyone else who watches this video can tell you are. ❤
I feel you . My son is almost 6 months and my supply is dropping and I work full time and have class at night and a5 year old ... I have to pump 4 times a day at work and once at class and the nurse at home and I am LOSING IT! Tried formula for one bottle with two different kinds and he broke out In hives both times so I decided f it , I’m not going through that again so I’m sticking it out 😩 so much work with being a mom of 2, a wife, an employee and a student . 4 full time jobs essentially
Aaawww love don’t feel like a failure you did amazing I’m currently trying to make my supply go up I’m pumping one oz all day and my son is almost 6weeks and I’m thinking of quitting due to nothing help produce more milk so you did amazing for doing all that time
Maryssa you are an awesome mom, and you have what your body allowed for as long as you could. A fed baby is a happy baby.
Aww! Your an amazing Mom! I hate that you feel like a failure, it’s just thought of as the next chapter flipping, and 8 months is amazing!
Your a great mama. Ive been pumping exclusively for 6 weeks and ive been having lots of break downs then i was crying for not waking up at night enough but my baby is still in the nicu :( its alot.
Girl you are NOT a failure! You have a happy healthy baby and that’s all that matters! I exclusively pumped for the first 11 months of my daughter’s life and supplemented with formula until I could give her cows milk. And it was HARD! So hard! And formula just keeps getting better. You’re an awesome mama! So keep it up! ❤️
Major props for pumping for that long! It’s so much work😭
I get you girl! I have a 18 month old and an almost three week old. My daughter won’t latch and I went through the same thing with my oldest. I understand the guilt. I have been pumping eight times a day. I am dropping to 7 pumps. It takes so much time and the pump hurts because they don’t make the right flange size for me. I feel like I am taking care of three kids and doing it poorly.
Girl! Fed baby is a happy baby! Just switched to formula and guess what my baby is fine! Thank you for the encouragement!!
You aren't a failure mama 💛 my breastfeeding journey was much shorter than I expected too. At the end of the day, what matters is baby is healthy and happy!
You should never feel ashamed or guilty for choices you make or have to make regarding your kids. You are a wonderful mother and doing the absolute best for them.
I'm on my 3rd child and have not been able to breastfeed because of many different circumstances with each child. It has something I have been very passionate about and yet it simple has not worked for me. I'm utterly heartbroken about it. With my 3rd I was actually able to physically nurse him for 4 weeks. I tried it ALL including things not commonly known to help increase supply and to get my boobs to basically work. I only had one side that was producing and I ended up developing a large abscess from ongoing mastitis that required emergency surgery. I'm unable to pump hardly anything. So when people mention to "just pump and bottle feed" it hurts. There's still a sting there. All of my kids have been primarily formula fed. I provided some breastmilk for them and that's ok. I worked hard. Much harder than I should because I'm stubborn. They are all healthy and thriving and perfect. ❤💕
Love your channel. Came across it while searching about quitting exclusively pumping. I’m thinking about going down that road now and having trouble feeling bad about it as well. Thanks for the encouragement 💗
You are an awesome mom and the mom guilt can be really strong don’t beat yourself up about it and your kids are adorable.
im walking a very similar road right now, its hard and I hear you!
We have a similar story (exclusively pumping mom and an adorable little girl in a helmet). You are not a failure, you are an amazing mama!
You are a great mom and don’t think its a failure because you did everything you could! 💕
Oh my gosh I don’t think you realize how amazing you are! I am an exclusive pumper and I struggle with my supply too, so I know how taxing it is! I understand the guilty feeling, it’s just natural to feel that way. However, doing what you do is amazing, pumping or not, you’re amazing and your two precious girls are beyond lucky to have you as a Mother. Keep in mind that you exceeded the time that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends a baby to get breast milk. They recommend 6 months and you did almost 8! Pat yourself on the back and treat yourself. Be kind and compassionate to yourself. You would do the same if someone else was in your shoes. You. Are. Amazing. ❤️
Dont worry i am sure you did what you could do!! Dont feel bad people will always judge. You are the best mom stella and lucy can have. I adore you and your beautiful babies. I love watching your vlogs and always wait for them ❤️😘 I have a 4 months old baby boy and he is the world to me so I totally get how you must be feeling ❤️
Hello!! Thank you for being so honest in your video. You are not a failure!! Hope you are having a great day!!
Aww honey you’re a rockstar!!! I formula fed two healthy babies and get momshamed for it all the time. Fed is best you did what you could, your babies are soooo happy and that’s what matters!!
Screw people who put moms down for using formula!! Do what you need to do and anyone that has negative thoughts about it can go to hell! You are a great mom and your little baby is so cute as long as she is being fed that is great 👍🏻 I’m having a hard time with my supply and I’m only 2 months in and feel like my supply is coming to an end 😢 we can’t force our bodies to produce milk if it just can’t do formula is the next option and it’s not a bad choice. Don’t let anyone put u down just ignore them
Hey you made it a few months! I have a 7week old, and have been struggling since day one to produce more than 6oz a day. I have tried everything.
Oh mama. Please remember that God gave you Stella because you're the right mama for her! She will thrive (no matter what) under your love and care!
It’s ok! Don’t beat urself up!😩😩 Ur a good mommy!
You are a great mom and Stella is a happy and healthy baby. I have 2 babies and was never able to exclusively breastfeed either one. I can so relate to your emotions. But formula is amazing and our little ones have turned out perfectly fine! We just have to stop listening to all the pressure we put on ourselves and trust the Lord with their lives!
Both girls are so cute.
Aww mama you are not a failure. Remember #FeedIsBest !! I went through the same thing with my daughter I had to supplement at 7 months and at 9 months my freezer supply was completely out. You’re doing a great job
You know what’s best for your own family
You did and are doing amazing! She’s so so happy and she’s healthy that’s all that matters. Great job!
There is many times I feel the same as you, I had to stop at 9 weeks and the reason why wasn’t the low supply but the fact that I couldn’t directly breasfeed so instead i was exclusively pumping. I did this for a year on the dot with my son so I thought it was going to be easy as first time. i was soo wrong because my almost 4 year old had a very hard time adjusting to the baby and it was soo hard for me to be there for him, for the baby , to pump, take care of the house, the meals and all the other things we as stay at home mom have to deal daily. I told my daughter’s pediatrician and she told me to have happy and healthy kids first you have to be happy and healthy yourself . If they have a mama dealing with depression is not good for the baby and rest of the family, I felt soooo guilty and failure too when I stoped but I had to do it, if I didn’t I dnt know how my mental health was going to be or even if I was going to still be with my family. I plan on having at least one more kid and I will do the same i will try breastfeeding if he/she doesn’t latch I will exclusively pump for as long as I can because I am a mama to two more kids who will need me as much as my future baby will!!
It’s so sad that we live in a time where women have to justify their decisions about how they properly feed their babies. You are a good mom regardless of whether you breast-feed or formula feed your child Period the fact that you try your best in care makes you a good mom. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for your decision about how you feed your baby
🤣 I got heavy into stripes for a bit too! 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
I'm on my 4th and this is the toughest go I've had, she's 5 weeks, we both had medical issues, (PPH and jaundice ) and I also suspect she might have a bit of a tie on her upper lip, AND I've just now discovered that it apparently takes FOREVER to get "all" the milk out of my breasts!!! I am currently trying out shorter but more frequent pumping sessions and writing for my freemie cups coming tomorrow!!! *Angels singing*
THANK YOU FOR SHARING 🤗🤗🤗🤗 ♡ I know I'm gonna cry when I stop too 😢 Ok so also I am going to try a supplemental nursing system and hoping to get her back on the boob that way!!!
Hey mama! Thank you for sharing your struggles with pumping. I was in the same boat a few months ago.. I cried and felt like such a failure for having no choice but to introduce formula. It was so hard! Some people did make me feel bad but I did what I had to do for my baby. Remember you are amazing! And an amazing mother! Your love for your babies radiates through the screen and it is so beautiful!!! Stay strong mama ❤
Rhyana Kae hi what formula did you introduce to your baby I am currently exclusively pumping, yesterday I try to to introduce formula to baby he hated it..
Thanks for sharing. I'm like balling over here because I've struggled from day one, my milk came in at a few weeks and even now I'm only able to get half an ounce to maybe an ounce each session.. I have tried everything and have dedicated this whole month to just pumping and latching.. with no real improvement. Today may be the day that I just stop and I look at my baby and my heart just breaks..
You are not a failure! It's wonderful you were able to pump until 8 months, but even if you hadn't, fed is best!
You did not fail!!!! And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. The pediatrician for my 2nd born couldn’t have said it any better when he found out I wasn’t breastfeeding, “screw people’s opinions, if you want to formula feed you do that! No one knows your situation and the reason why you couldn’t or had to stop breastfeeding and honestly it is no one’s business either!” I loved him for that. He was real and honestly what he said is true. As long as your baby is healthy and is being fed is all that matters. No one has room to judge we all do things differently. And if it is breast milk or it is formula your baby is getting fed. And shame on anyone that brings anyone down for not breastfeeding their child or having to stop breastfeeding. You’re doing great!!!!!
U r the farthest thing from a failure ! Formula is great these days !! Plus I never breastfed so I must be the devil but my 16 year old 8 year old and little ones are perfect ( 2 me )
I totally feel you momma! I had to switch from breastfeeding to formula when my daughter was 8 months, I had struggled with my supply the entire time then I got a really bad stomach virus and it completed wiped out the remainder of my supply
Don’t beat yourself! You’re not alone! Something that made me feel better was I researched and found a formula I was really comfortable with! 🤗 hugs!!
Thank you! Thankfully I found one I do love, and I’m really comfortable with the ingredients + Stella loves it! Made my decision so much easier 💗💗
Love your channel!!! I'm breastfeeding now with my 3rd and have never been able to breastfeed past 6weeks with my other 2 I'd love to be able to go as long as you have!!! You are awesome and not a failure!!! 😍😍😍😘😘
I’m struggling with low supply I’ve spent tons of money on supplements and no change... sad to see every mom review a product about great it’s going for them and it did nothing for me... everyday I wanna stop but I try too remind myself the amount doesn’t matter
one thing that u have to underestand is that U DO NOT NEED to give any explanation to ANYBODY.. its uf life n ur baby.. and i know its really hard to pump n feed especially wen u cant get the amount u need... u get frustrated u get worried.. but u shudnt worry at all u did ur best, still doing great with those beauties... just take care of urself n mental health for them as well.. best of luck
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You have two beautiful babies- there is nothing to feel like a failure over.
Mama, you did not fail her. I had those same feelings when I weaned my daughter at 6 months. I thought my supply was low. I’ve learned a lot since that experience and we’ll see how it goes with our son (due in June). If you are open or interested since you mentioned possibly having a third, this group has done so much for me emotionally and information-wise. facebook.com/groups/cleavageclub/?ref=share
You are enough and a great mom. 💕
Great resource.....I am part of that group as well. Without them I wouldn’t have been aware of my sons lip and tongue tie and I don’t think our breastfeeding journey would have lasted this long without them.
Janel D I’m so glad I found them while pregnant with the next one!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!🙏🏻❤
I’m sure you feel pretty free not pumping any more tho!! Because I got sick giving birth and wasn’t able to breastfeed until a month and a half after birth I always strictly used formula. Best thing I’ve ever used is the baby breeza I think that’s what it’s called, but I call it A baby Keurig it’s a life changer!!!!!
Awhh I can’t wait to get Liam into swimming lessons I’m just not sure when the right time is to start! Maybe now would be the perfect time!
Ep With my first child and currently doing it again for my second . First time around it was hell. Second time around still not fun lol. I see all these women’s online with this insane freezer stashes and it’s defeating. Trying my best but I barely produce enough as is.
This is so weird. My baby girl is 7.5 months old and I’ve been exclusively pumping with a over supply this whole time and now I don’t make enough… so weird. I didn’t sleep last night just thinking about giving her formula. It’s all I think about all day long. It’s scary but I know so many moms who give their babies formula and they are fine. I just have to do it.. ugh
Thank you! 🥺
I can relate.
I'm an all stripes kinda girl too! Lol cute girls you have there. I'm taking my son to his 1st swimming lesson next week. I've struggled with breastfeeding, so I know how bad it can be and how bad we can be to ourselves. We as moms dont give ourselves the credit we deserve. Pumping is so much work, so even if it's a week, a month, it's fine. Formula is not poison, like you say! I have no idea how I managed to breastfeeding my son to 1yr, now I'm wanting to wean him and stop! Lol my boobs need a vacay!!
I’m quitting pumping at this exact moment and I’ve felt so guilty and sad all week long.. your video made me feel better, thank you.
I am so glad it could help! Now that she's two and thriving...I see that me choosing to quit for my mental state was FINE. You got it, girl!
I understand it is fine you trying your job
i also stopped nursing around the 7 month mark
Your girls are both adorable!!!
How long do babies usually wear the helmets for? The first time I had to buy formula I felt so sad. I literally stood in the formula isle of target for 20 minutes just staring at them wondering if I really needed to. But my daughter was hungry and I had been trying to nurse her all day but she just couldn’t get enough. There’s nothing wrong with formula feeding/supplementing. 💕
Sending love
She will be in her helmet for about 2 and a half months once it's all said and done!
Here to say, there is nothing worth your sanity or mental health. I chose not to breastfeed my son and felt the same guilt. I hope to pump exclusively with my 2nd but going into it with low expectations...the moment I'm struggling mentally, i wont continue to pump...healthy mom is the best mom
Also where did you get that necklace?! I tried following the link but nothing came up
Hi what formula are you currently using, I am currently exclusively pumping, my milk supply is going down and over exhausted I don’t what to do . Yesterday I try giving formula to my baby and he didn’t like it...
Congratulations mama you did amazing, 8months is a long time to exclusively give your baby breastmilk. Well done X
The stress of breastfeeding and pumping is enough to deter me from wanting another baby. It's awful to feel like you're judged when it's out of your control. I canNOT imagine exclusively pumping, I would have given up long ago. You are a warrior, mama!
You’re awesome maryssa ❤️
dont beat yourself up.. a fed baby is a healthy baby
I feel so bad now because I am one of the people who messaged you😭 I’m so sorry! Definitely do not feel guilty! You have a healthy beautiful little baby girl!!
Omg no not something to feel bad about 😂😂 I just needed to address it!!
Stella is the BEST !! So freaking cute
Omg we are twins lol not like look alike but I have a 7 month old girl maybelle and a almost 3year old girl Madison and I’m a stay at home mom and I’m a little obsessed with the act and my baby has an appointment for doc band
Oh and I strictly use formula and my kids are great
Your kids are insanly cute!
Wtf 8 months is more than enough is this a joke
You’re rude lol
No you do not suck! You tried till you were no longer producing breast milk!