Listen to Coach Craig!!! He’s the best! The coaches really know what they are talking about. The sooner you listen, don’t reach out, and do the work, the chances of things turning around are so much better….You’re at the right place, now you just have to minimize your mistakes. If you’re able to do a coaching; don’t hesitate. I wish I had done it sooner to prevent myself from making unnecessary mistakes….but you can’t change the past. Look forward to catching up soon on another call Coach Craig! Sticking to the plan we made and staying focused 💪
In my opinion, it’s much better (and healthier) to reconnect years later. Change requires time (sometimes years, not months). Of course, a bit of luck is needed-both individuals need to be single-and the connection was special to begin with. If it was just an average relationship, I see no reason to rekindle an old romance.
Honest translation from experience… she’s seeing if she is still available and interested as a backup plan because the grass wasn’t greener. But the other person is still the priority.
Err on the side of caution. Remember that this is a person who is not afraid of hurting you, deeply. No contact works, sure, I even had an ex who reached out to me after 10 years. But the thing is that most often they come back if you had a modicum of importance in their life, but then leave again because you aren’t good enough as you are. End point being is that there are so many people out there for you who would love you for just the one you are.
Hey Craig (and everybody). You came to my mind this morning and I just wanted to thank you for all the hard work you’ve put into this channel, it’s helped me a lot throughout the years. This episode seems fitting so I’ll just explain my story in short: I was struggling getting over my ex for months on end, then met this girl in grad school. We were casual but had to split as she was heading back home and I had to go do work across the US, eventually dated somebody else and had to get over them too. After a year 1/2 not speaking, me and the grad school girl started speaking again earlier this year… and we just got married last week!!! Your videos helped me so much with both breakups, and to anybody else in this position have hope that even if it’s not the person you expect, God has a way of bringing people together. Praying for you all and your respected relationships ❤️
I'm getting to the point where i don't think i want her back, she came back after 7 months she saw i improved, and we had a real nice night. then more silence and she said in a text responding to me saying that she "spiraled" again. i don't know what that meant but im tired of her hurting me like that.
That's a manipulation tactic to see if you're still on the hook or will take the bait. Women do that to guage men if you respond with care or try to problem solve you could be taken advantage I wouldn't get worked up or involved she's basically emotionally abusing you to get reaction from you "I'd redirect her by saying who's problem is that" Don't fall for the woman in distress act you'll be the villain later in her story in your story you'll be captain tried to save a hoe. DO NOT BE EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO THIS WOMAN. These are my words of advice. You are free she sounds like a nightmare to me.
Thank you for your advice these last 2 months since my ex left me. I went "no reaching out" and she continued being highly engaged with my socials, eventually sending some memes. Filled my life with fun times whenever possible. Yesterday we talked briefly and I mentioned I was going to be in her area in 2 weeks for work (we were LDR) and she replied suggesting we get together for a walk or coffee. Wish me luck! 👍
While I agree with most of your content, I have to disagree with the "no contact" strategy if the dumpee was the cause of the breakup. Under this situation, I simply see the dumper leaving but not coming back.. In my situation, I caused the breakup by continuing a bad habit. However, she is starting to return because I'm spending quality time WITHOUT the habit.. I'm treating our time together as a second courtship.. I'm also not contacting her much and "hanging back." I'm also not needy or discussing the relationship. Rather, I'm showing her the best version of myself and reattracting her.. Hang in there, folks. You can get your ex back... Thanks!
@ElevateMyRelationships Thanks. But if the dumpee is at fault, why would the dumpee go into no contact without first showing change? I'm no expert, but wouldn't the dumpee be better off to show change and growth? In your example, shouldn't the guy show that he's no longer needy? Or at least show it before no contact? I showed my ex (the dumper) my growth because I knew that she wouldn't look back if she were unaware.. Luckily for me, she was open to seeing me.. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts and good wishes!
No contact since August 15th. She's been looking at every single post in my story since day 1 of the breakup and to give her more silence, I've been in Radie Silence for 3 weeks now. It's hard because it always felt good to know that she was looking at my post and there was some interest.
A crazy thing happened to me. She posted stories on Instagram almost daily since the break up except this month. I haven't watched any of them. This month, when I posted one story (I hadn’t posted anything since the break up), she viewed it within the first 5 minutes and then posted something else, which I didn’t see. and went silent again in IG
@@dequan_synvue_yt7534 Well...the last thing I heard from some mutual friends was that she asked about me, about a month ago (was forced to go NC with them as well). I know dumpers can get curious at some point, but I try not to let the hope form it get the best of me. I hope her posting some story that day, wasn't a test to see if i'm mad at her or something. I need her to reach out to me, even if she's not forward in the way she speaks. I hope this didn't qualify as an indirect approach... It was a 9-month relationship, and I got dumped just a few months before we were supposed to move in together. She took advantage of a situation that legitimately made me angry, and I ended up getting dumped in the middle of an argument. We had 3 phone calls and some back-and-forth messaging during the first month after the breakup, but I’ve gone full no-contact since then. It’s been almost 2 months now. I didn’t beg, but maybe I should’ve told her we couldn’t be friends. Oh well.
@@dequan_synvue_yt7534 Well you know they get curious. But don't get your hopes up. They need to reach out. Even if they do it to talk about some nonsense, then you just seem polite and breef leaving them wanting some more. Like a Clif hanger effect from the tv
I’m four month - but we’ve seen eachother like 1-2 times a month since because mutual friends - first two months weren’t so great lol but I doubt they’ll miss me now
I'm doing no contact cause she asked for space. I'm just giving her what she wants. So far that "They'll come back" hasn't happened yet. But I'll let you know if it does.
She reach out after 3 monthes she dump me and ignore her and now after 2 monthes in sorry that i ignore her.im just to much hert from how she break up with me 2 times already.now im sorry that i ignore her. Its to late to contact her ?
Listen to Coach Craig!!! He’s the best! The coaches really know what they are talking about. The sooner you listen, don’t reach out, and do the work, the chances of things turning around are so much better….You’re at the right place, now you just have to minimize your mistakes. If you’re able to do a coaching; don’t hesitate. I wish I had done it sooner to prevent myself from making unnecessary mistakes….but you can’t change the past.
Look forward to catching up soon on another call Coach Craig! Sticking to the plan we made and staying focused 💪
Thanks for the testimony! Appreciate the kind words! Stick to the plan and I'm here when you're ready for another call
In my opinion, it’s much better (and healthier) to reconnect years later. Change requires time (sometimes years, not months). Of course, a bit of luck is needed-both individuals need to be single-and the connection was special to begin with. If it was just an average relationship, I see no reason to rekindle an old romance.
Honest translation from experience… she’s seeing if she is still available and interested as a backup plan because the grass wasn’t greener. But the other person is still the priority.
Err on the side of caution. Remember that this is a person who is not afraid of hurting you, deeply. No contact works, sure, I even had an ex who reached out to me after 10 years. But the thing is that most often they come back if you had a modicum of importance in their life, but then leave again because you aren’t good enough as you are. End point being is that there are so many people out there for you who would love you for just the one you are.
Hey Craig (and everybody). You came to my mind this morning and I just wanted to thank you for all the hard work you’ve put into this channel, it’s helped me a lot throughout the years. This episode seems fitting so I’ll just explain my story in short:
I was struggling getting over my ex for months on end, then met this girl in grad school. We were casual but had to split as she was heading back home and I had to go do work across the US, eventually dated somebody else and had to get over them too.
After a year 1/2 not speaking, me and the grad school girl started speaking again earlier this year… and we just got married last week!!!
Your videos helped me so much with both breakups, and to anybody else in this position have hope that even if it’s not the person you expect, God has a way of bringing people together. Praying for you all and your respected relationships ❤️
No contact really works. I went radio silence for 1 year and he reached out pleading to Coach Craig Kenneth.
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I changed my number if they want me they know where I live was sick of the breadcrumbs she will come find me
I'm getting to the point where i don't think i want her back, she came back after 7 months she saw i improved, and we had a real nice night. then more silence and she said in a text responding to me saying that she "spiraled" again. i don't know what that meant but im tired of her hurting me like that.
Mine uses the word ‘spiraling’ often as well.
That's a manipulation tactic to see if you're still on the hook or will take the bait.
Women do that to guage men if you respond with care or try to problem solve you could be taken advantage I wouldn't get worked up or involved she's basically emotionally abusing you to get reaction from you "I'd redirect her by saying who's problem is that"
Don't fall for the woman in distress act you'll be the villain later in her story in your story you'll be captain tried to save a hoe. DO NOT BE EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO THIS WOMAN. These are my words of advice.
You are free she sounds like a nightmare to me.
Sounds like games. Next!
There is serious mental sickness out there amongst women right now. No one is talking about this.
@@ElevateMyRelationships You can't keep growing each time a relationship goes downhill. There's only so much 'growth' you can do.
Thank you for your advice these last 2 months since my ex left me. I went "no reaching out" and she continued being highly engaged with my socials, eventually sending some memes. Filled my life with fun times whenever possible.
Yesterday we talked briefly and I mentioned I was going to be in her area in 2 weeks for work (we were LDR) and she replied suggesting we get together for a walk or coffee. Wish me luck! 👍
Good luck my friend
Good luck buddy!
Good luck bro...hold your head up high....and keep the faith!
Take her out in the evening dude. Hang out hook up have fun 😉
While I agree with most of your content, I have to disagree with the "no contact" strategy if the dumpee was the cause of the breakup. Under this situation, I simply see the dumper leaving but not coming back.. In my situation, I caused the breakup by continuing a bad habit. However, she is starting to return because I'm spending quality time WITHOUT the habit.. I'm treating our time together as a second courtship.. I'm also not contacting her much and "hanging back." I'm also not needy or discussing the relationship. Rather, I'm showing her the best version of myself and reattracting her.. Hang in there, folks. You can get your ex back... Thanks!
@ElevateMyRelationships Thanks. But if the dumpee is at fault, why would the dumpee go into no contact without first showing change? I'm no expert, but wouldn't the dumpee be better off to show change and growth? In your example, shouldn't the guy show that he's no longer needy? Or at least show it before no contact? I showed my ex (the dumper) my growth because I knew that she wouldn't look back if she were unaware.. Luckily for me, she was open to seeing me.. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts and good wishes!
What if they reach out but only to accuse you of doing something ridiculous and that you obviously didn’t do?
No contact since August 15th. She's been looking at every single post in my story since day 1 of the breakup and to give her more silence, I've been in Radie Silence for 3 weeks now. It's hard because it always felt good to know that she was looking at my post and there was some interest.
Same
A crazy thing happened to me. She posted stories on Instagram almost daily since the break up except this month. I haven't watched any of them. This month, when I posted one story (I hadn’t posted anything since the break up), she viewed it within the first 5 minutes and then posted something else, which I didn’t see. and went silent again in IG
@@compaqq178 Same. I don’t get why they do this
@@dequan_synvue_yt7534 Well...the last thing I heard from some mutual friends was that she asked about me, about a month ago (was forced to go NC with them as well). I know dumpers can get curious at some point, but I try not to let the hope form it get the best of me. I hope her posting some story that day, wasn't a test to see if i'm mad at her or something. I need her to reach out to me, even if she's not forward in the way she speaks.
I hope this didn't qualify as an indirect approach...
It was a 9-month relationship, and I got dumped just a few months before we were supposed to move in together. She took advantage of a situation that legitimately made me angry, and I ended up getting dumped in the middle of an argument. We had 3 phone calls and some back-and-forth messaging during the first month after the breakup, but I’ve gone full no-contact since then. It’s been almost 2 months now.
I didn’t beg, but maybe I should’ve told her we couldn’t be friends. Oh well.
@@dequan_synvue_yt7534 Well you know they get curious. But don't get your hopes up. They need to reach out. Even if they do it to talk about some nonsense, then you just seem polite and breef leaving them wanting some more. Like a Clif hanger effect from the tv
I’m four month - but we’ve seen eachother like 1-2 times a month since because mutual friends - first two months weren’t so great lol but I doubt they’ll miss me now
I'm doing no contact cause she asked for space. I'm just giving her what she wants. So far that "They'll come back" hasn't happened yet. But I'll let you know if it does.
What do you do if they reach out to you?
She reach out after 3 monthes she dump me and ignore her and now after 2 monthes in sorry that i ignore her.im just to much hert from how she break up with me 2 times already.now im sorry that i ignore her.
Its to late to contact her ?
What about 4 years later
Thank you Craig
Good one i🎉❤