If you respect your partner you don't joke about how bad they are at sx. That's not the basis of a good relationship and it certainly isn't respectful. If she was ready for marriage she would have discussed this with you years ago. She isn't ready and needs to grow up. You need therapy to deal with your insecurities. Talk to Kiley.
I would understand pushing back the wedding, but the complete cut and run is also a red flag on him. I’ve noticed in a lot of relationship stories that the guys want to just drop everything at the first sign of conflict. I’m beginning to wonder how their relationships ever progressed that far.
@@Solkard I think it's a little unfair to totally lable it as a guys thing. It's more like an unfavorable contract towards the guys. Marriage might be an equal emotional investment on both sides but it certainly a disadvantage to guys from the financial part of it. Take Hakimi, ok 100% at fault for being divorced. But his ex wife initially demanded 40 millions plus alimony and child support. When you consider that his ex wife that is 15 years older than him which means she had 15 years more work experience and income more than him, her whole net worth is 3 to 4 millions, it's insane that she asks for that amount after a three years marriage or close to that. Even with the settlement which I believe she got 4 millions plus alimony and child support that is still crazy. Basically you made more money than you have ever made in your life just after a couple of years of marriage. Now for this case, certainly this man is insecure but as a partner you respect your relationship. I remember my father once said, child never ever speak about your intimacy to your friends. Because you either disrespect your spouse or you put ideas that didn't exist in your friends head. Which honestly it's true. You see it now one guy or gal is going around sleeping with the whole friend circle. You don't talk trash about your spouse. You might get an advice or two from close friends on how to improve your relationship and communicate but you respect the sanctuary of that relationship.
@@Solkard No, it isn't, at all. She didn't bring this to him and try to improve things, she joked about it behind his back. It absolutely isn't immature to break up over such a big betrayal of trust, and bullying.
I bet Amy is kicking herself for making fun of people when Amy realizes that she threw away her future marriage because of immature behavior by her story1
Agreed. If she doesn’t value sex so much, then why did she talk about her sex life to her friends? Clearly values it, but sees better qualities, for marriage. But then she’ll look for someone else to have great sex with. That’s the problem. That’s why she should’ve told him privately about her intimacy preferences. Why rat to your friends?
S1- a woman who bad mouths you to others is NOT a wife & is the best reason to dump her. She obviously doesn't respect him which ia why she enjoys humiliating him with other people
S1: This guy was a Plan Q... her 17th choice... just like all of us are nowadays. His quest to improve himself uncovered his fiancé's charade. Glad he left.
Unrelated but « Plan Q » or « Plan cul » (same pronunciation) is literally equivalent to the expression « FWB » (« friends with benefits ») in French lol
In story 1 the man was chosen as a good provider for marriage. The men who were better didn’t choose to stay with her. She will always be looking for a man she deems more worthy and better in bed. We know this because she disrespected him, making fun of him. She could have told her friend group she needs to teach him a few things in the bedroom, but she chose to make her boyfriend the joke instead of improving their relationship. She’s not mature enough for marriage.
Story 1: The comment is ridiculous. What she did was a huge breach of trust. What happens in a bedroom should stay in the bedroom. She is not a wife material. I have no idea what "insecure" entails. It sounds like new-speak.
1st story: I don't think there was anything wrong with him walking away from his relationship after finding out that his fiancee was talking bad about him and technically saying that he didn't satisfy her. I don't think that was overreacting because now you this is somebody you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with and if the person isn't satisfied sexually they're going to look for it elsewhere so it's best that he do break it off and walk away right now and find someone that is okay with how he performs. But everybody's saying that he overreacted about the situation of counseling out his marriage I don't now of course moving States and all that stuff that is a bit over the top but everything else he did what he needed to do and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Any time a man has boundaries or standards or self-respect he's put down as insecure. Outta here with that sheet. If he said to his friends that the fiance is a bit chunky and not that great of a looker, but has many other good qualities, and she found out, what should her reaction be?
It is more like breach of trust....if he had been telling hurtful private tails about her to others she would be upset too.... When you are in mature relationship this kind of sharing should not be happening.
The comments in the video on the first story are wildly stupid. A compatible sex life is important to a long-lasting relationship, and if Amy was so disappointed by it that she would admit it to her friends it would definitely become a problem in the future. She loved what the OP offered in terms of finances and security, a good father and provider. She was likely never in love with him, he would never be her first choice romantically. He nuked his life, but on his terms and not at the hands of a judge and crocked divorce system.
Women need to learn that it's not appropriate to discuss sex life or body parts with friends. It doesnt matter if women have always done it. Its always been wrong. That's not something you share with others, it's supposed to be private in your relationship
@@Angel-fz8dr what absolute nonsensical rationalisation of horrible and pathetic behaviour. You should be ashamed of yourselves for even try and justify such rubbish.
@@smilebehappy6102 If she's not westernized, she will. No western women will ever be satisfied with anything. If Brad fucking Pit can't hold on to a woman, no man can.
@@smilebehappy6102 Yes. The issue isn't that he's bad in bed, it's that his now-ex refused to communicate any issues, didn't bother trying to improve things by telling him what he could do differently, and then mocked him behind his back to his friend.
Story 1: Amy shouldn't have been making fun of his "Skills" behind his back. It shows She had no respect for him. OP wanting to improve himself could have been worded better that it was. Sucks he's alienated his best friend but Again Amy clearly didn't love or respect him and was probably planning on cheating on him. Story 3: which also stuck out it sounds Like the ex cheated more than once and her guilt was eating at her. Op should have left sooner cause when one cheats the relationship is truly over
Story one his ex fiancé had five years to teach him how to make love to her properly I believe she’s only married him for financial reasons if she is not sexually satisfied with him, she is definitely going to be cheating on him in the future, so they should definitely end it now
Is it common for women to discuss even the most privileged information as gossip fuel? How distasteful, men generally only discuss sex with their significant other in the most abstract way, and rather seldomly. Basically, if sex is being had and the frequency, and mostly only if it's particularly noteworthy.
Story 1: please let's stop getting the statement out of context. He dumped her not because of the sex life she did not like. He dumped her because she should not have shared that intimate information with all of her friends and made fun of it. If the roles were reversed, everyone would be roasting the guy in the comments. If she does not like it, that's totally fine, but she should have spoken to him and worked on it and gone to therapy together. Bottom line is there is no burning desire and she is basically settling for him. Blessing in disguise is he dodged a magnum bullet 😂😂😂😂😂
Story 1: He was only there for a paycheck for her. She didn't love him. She didn't care about him. She was using him for his money and what he could provide. Typical woman
nowhee in the sorry did he say he made a lot of money and she was broke, you are framing the story to suit ur biases. lots of women are in relationships with bad sex and dont communicate it to the spouses yet confide in friends.
Exactly! Dudes just be talking. They would feel salty as hell if their girl said at the table to her friends: "My man is good in bed, but I've had bigger." These dudes would be crying 😂😂
Story 1: I am going to say NTA. Yes, OP is a bit insecure, but through this he has discovered very key things about his partner. 1. All of their personal business will always be shared out with others. 2. If she's had better sx before and is not being fulfilled with OP, the moment she crosses paths with one of those old lovers, those legs are going to fly Wie open for old time's sake. 3. Neither of them are mature enough for marriage.
@@kevinspacey5325 It seems like a lot of folks are okay with being disrespected in the name of not being called insecure. People are pathetic nowadays.
Story 2: Not that hard to decide. Cheaters are not worth spending time with. Having a drug problem is really the red flag. She’s not worth it. What she does on her own is not your problem. HEY GUY SHE CHEATED!!
In that first story… it’s horrible how that woman told her friends he wasn’t good in bed but never told him that. Should’ve been the opposite; that’s a very private thing. Makes one think what else she’s hiding from him. OP was right to call off the wedding, you do not want to marry someone who lies to you and keeps secrets from you that she doesn’t keep from her real friends.
This speaks to Something DEEPER about Men, Women, Relationships, and our DIFFERENCES. Ladies, US MEN Don't talk about our Sex Life regarding our Spouses with Friends. PERIOD. As a Man I DON'T WANT ANYONE FANTASIZING ABOUT MY WIFE, and I'm Sure NOT gonna give them ANY HELP. Ladies you DON'T have to TELL your Friends Everything.
5:14 in and Wow a lot of people are talking smack because of him making his own life choice, you DO you and 🤬 what others think. In the second story the other dude knew how she was and abused it, sure people are responsible for their own lives. But both need to be in a place of wanting to change.
Why in the world would op date someone who had a drug addiction for 10 years op needs to dump his girlfriend and seek counseling and rehabilitation and stay away from his ex story2
Right??? That would be like a women saying "I met this guy that is a degenerate gambler that keeps losing his rent some months and buys me nice gifts other months depending on how he's doing, should I marry him?"
People shitting on S1's OP because he stands for the truth while trying to better himself is wild. Marriage is built on honesty and communication. The fact that Amy would rather rant to her friends instead is a red flag. Also for the younger boys out there : "I chose him for the full package" means "I settled for stability and I might look for the thrills elsewhere".
S1: op is kind of pathetic for the begging about gossip but the real issue here is wtf the fiancee is doing joking about their intimate life. That a lone is grounds for calling off the wedding.
Also, if he isn’t great at sex and she doesn’t like it, she should’ve told him. But the fact that she told her friends, over her fiancè is weird. Also, this would make her loyalty in question later, as if she’s talking about her intimate life with her friends, in this context, meaning she isn’t satisfied. That would lead to speculations about her loyalty later. OP dodged a bullet there.
never understood the female need to share such intimate things about there partners with their friends... I mean, now all her friends look at him differently, think about him differently, that need to gossip has such negative knock on effects, and yet there is surprise and tears when their toxic behavior gets exposed. and yes, guys who do that too are as pathetic as women who cant keep their mouths closed in respect of their partners. honestly, it cowardly behavior to go behind someone's back when you have problems or issues with them instead of just opening up and being honest, to approach them to work on solutions to make the sex life better for both of them, it could have been a chance to grow closer, but no... she might have found that there were things about her that could have made her too better in the bed, that he too desired.
The people in these comments should reread the stories before weighing in. Bad sec wasn’t the problem in the first story. Public humiliation was. The OP wasn’t an addict in the next story. His partner was. Pay attention!
This man is a liar about his insecurities. Is constantly asking for reasons to break up with his fiancé. He found it and left from everyone’s existence.
While I admit that what his fiance did sucks, but this was something that they could have communicated. He definitely was a very insecure person for sure. He jumped the gun to me. It's something that you can talk about now that it is out there.
S1" guy was insecure. Asked for it when he kept bugging her friend to say something wrong about him. He is an idiot. He could have worked on it with his fiancee. Sex is something you can get better on. He just needed to communicate with his fiancee better in the bedroom. Don't be like this idiot guys. Talk talk talk. Be secure enough in yourself. Go to therapy. Work on yourself.
His fiance was immature for talking about sex performance of her partner to her friends. There are just some things that don't need to be talk about to others. She clearly did it to humiliate him and folks defending her and calling him insecure are the biggest idiots. You wouldn't like it if your girl said: "My man is good in bed, but I've had way bigger." You would feel some type of way. Enough of the nonsense.
Him constantly asking wasn't insecurity...his gut was telling him something and he went with it. ALWAYS trust your gut. He'd have been cheated on and divorced within a few years and she'd have gotten half his shit, fleeced him for a kid that wasn't his, and had him live a lie and waste his life.
I have worked in construction. Construction guys will talk about women they had a one night stand with, but what I have never, ever, EVER heard a guy talk about, in all my years, is his sex life with his wife/fiancée/long-term GF. Not once! EVER! If the woman is the mother of his children, they will even avoid subjects adjacent to the more salacious topics. When I was a young guy in my late teens, two women where I worked regularly shared stories about their husbands with each other, within earshot of other people in the breakroom, including teenage boys and girls who worked at the fast food restaurant. It was utterly crass and inappropriate anywhere, but doing it within listening distance of 14-19 year olds was creepy AF.
S1: I see the insipid White Knight brigade strikes again. Imagine if OP had mocked his fiancee's body to his friends? Everyone would hit the roof! He made the right choice leaving her. She is not wife material.
Well its reddit so white knight brigade s1mp1ing isn't a surprise. NGL I do really do hate white knights going through gate lengths for a shot at 2/10 female cat. It has enabled a lot of bad behaviour by giving unwarranted attention and protection to the "fairer" sex who don't deserve it and screws over a lot of dudes.
Out of all the friendships I’ve had throughout the years only two guys ever cheated on their partners while 36+ women i knew cheated on theirs. If your wife to be said you weren’t good in bed to her friends then there’s is NO WAY she will stay faithful and will justify it however she wants. Why is it one in a million to find a woman who has personal accountability? Why does every woman say they’re a 10 while spending 3 hours on make up and push-up bras?
I had this same problem with my fiance. Again her bf told me. I was upset at this. When I calmed down I realized this was an opportunity for a chance for honest communication. It was awkward at first but led to a greatly improved sex life. Luckily we both worked at it.
Redditors have a lot to say about situations they know little about. I’m sure OP in story 1 had many other concerns and red flags about her but that this was merely the final straw.
How is it an issue of both here when it's only the female who gossiped about their intimacy? Try and explain your reasoning, perhaps there's something I didn't pick up when listening to the story.
Even my mum says that you shouldn’t discuss your intimate life with your friends or family members, unless you want advice then that’s a different thing. But that’s probably what a sex therapist is for. Correct me if I’m wrong.
S2 - Stays with a drug addict, and bad things happen... SHOCKING! Are all men getting this weak and stupid? S3 - DUMP the cheater, and she made you miserable for three years because of HER guilt
I hope the reddit commenters who criticized him, will face the same thing where their gf / wife mock his sexual prowess to her group of female friends, then they will know how it feels.
S1. That is reddit for you. Exes sex memories haunting his fiance's sex life but the problem is him, LOL. This is the proof that body count matters, the past is not just the past.
Asking what other people say about you behind your back is a bad idea. When Kiley refused to answer OP shouldn't have kept bothering her to spill the beans. Kiley obviously shouldn't have told OP what was said in confidence. Alcohol can cause alot of embarrassment. Kiley was left very embarrassed when OP repeated what he said. OP should probably have taken it on-board and tried to adjust things in the bedroom rather than confronting her about it. If these adjustments didn't improve things then ending the engagement might have been an option. Once it was all out in the open I can understand his ending the engagement and moving State. He was obviously feeling humiliated. A fresh start in a new State might be the best thing, now that he never wants to face his previous circle of friends. Everyone knowing the reasons he cancelled the wedding would be highly embarrassing for him
It is probably because of past bad experience. There may be some red flags that OP noticed. Still OP's ex needed to work on the problems and not to publicly spill intimate facts. That is why there is a saying - "what happen behind closed doors, stay behind closed doors" or something like that.
Kiley sided with the fiancé over her best friend by hiding her making fun of him. Stop defending her lying to him for 5 years. That info should have been only for OP to hear.
story 2: dude is asking for advice about what to do w/his wife who is a crackhead and sleeping w/her dealer..seriously?! you needed to ask for advice?! it anit that hard bro!!! dump that 304...why tf did you hook up in first place knowing she was doing drugs?!
If you respect your partner you don't joke about how bad they are at sx. That's not the basis of a good relationship and it certainly isn't respectful. If she was ready for marriage she would have discussed this with you years ago. She isn't ready and needs to grow up. You need therapy to deal with your insecurities. Talk to Kiley.
You slept with all the F boys and you didn't teach your man a couple of moves.
I would understand pushing back the wedding, but the complete cut and run is also a red flag on him. I’ve noticed in a lot of relationship stories that the guys want to just drop everything at the first sign of conflict.
I’m beginning to wonder how their relationships ever progressed that far.
@@Solkard I think it's a little unfair to totally lable it as a guys thing. It's more like an unfavorable contract towards the guys. Marriage might be an equal emotional investment on both sides but it certainly a disadvantage to guys from the financial part of it.
Take Hakimi, ok 100% at fault for being divorced. But his ex wife initially demanded 40 millions plus alimony and child support. When you consider that his ex wife that is 15 years older than him which means she had 15 years more work experience and income more than him, her whole net worth is 3 to 4 millions, it's insane that she asks for that amount after a three years marriage or close to that. Even with the settlement which I believe she got 4 millions plus alimony and child support that is still crazy. Basically you made more money than you have ever made in your life just after a couple of years of marriage.
Now for this case, certainly this man is insecure but as a partner you respect your relationship. I remember my father once said, child never ever speak about your intimacy to your friends. Because you either disrespect your spouse or you put ideas that didn't exist in your friends head. Which honestly it's true. You see it now one guy or gal is going around sleeping with the whole friend circle. You don't talk trash about your spouse. You might get an advice or two from close friends on how to improve your relationship and communicate but you respect the sanctuary of that relationship.
Sure, talk to Kiley, but he really should seek out a therapist.
@@Solkard No, it isn't, at all.
She didn't bring this to him and try to improve things, she joked about it behind his back. It absolutely isn't immature to break up over such a big betrayal of trust, and bullying.
S1 She's the one with the problem not OP. She has no respect for him and needs to grow up before she gets into a relationship again.
She won't. I can guarantee it. She'll just go from relationship to relationship hoping for something different with that attitude of hers.
I bet Amy is kicking herself for making fun of people when Amy realizes that she threw away her future marriage because of immature behavior by her story1
S1: Women over share, so this is on her. Also she most likely would've cheated on him in the future.
Probably already has cheated.
Agreed
Agreed.
If she doesn’t value sex so much, then why did she talk about her sex life to her friends? Clearly values it, but sees better qualities, for marriage. But then she’ll look for someone else to have great sex with. That’s the problem.
That’s why she should’ve told him privately about her intimacy preferences. Why rat to your friends?
S1- a woman who bad mouths you to others is NOT a wife & is the best reason to dump her. She obviously doesn't respect him which ia why she enjoys humiliating him with other people
S1: This guy was a Plan Q... her 17th choice... just like all of us are nowadays. His quest to improve himself uncovered his fiancé's charade. Glad he left.
Unrelated but « Plan Q » or « Plan cul » (same pronunciation) is literally equivalent to the expression « FWB » (« friends with benefits ») in French lol
@@plackiplicki3531 Lol! Gotta love French wordplay.
In story 1 the man was chosen as a good provider for marriage. The men who were better didn’t choose to stay with her. She will always be looking for a man she deems more worthy and better in bed. We know this because she disrespected him, making fun of him. She could have told her friend group she needs to teach him a few things in the bedroom, but she chose to make her boyfriend the joke instead of improving their relationship. She’s not mature enough for marriage.
I don't get the negative comments on story 1. She was shit talking OP. It wasn't about the bedroom action but the betrayal.
If all it takes is "He's not the best in bed but he's a full package" to burn bridges and fuck yourself over then good luck living with anyone.
Most likely women and/or white knights.
Men are at fault, in the event they are not they are for feeling hurt, of not they are for reacting that way
Story 1: The comment is ridiculous. What she did was a huge breach of trust. What happens in a bedroom should stay in the bedroom. She is not a wife material. I have no idea what "insecure" entails. It sounds like new-speak.
Unfortunately the wrong group probably responded to this Reddit post initially, a lot of people agree with this guy anywhere else I’ve seen this
Insecure = whenever you do something a woman doesn’t like
Damn, the reddit commentors arent living in reality... if your partner talk about you behind your back, and not with you, run and never look back.
💯
It's Reddit, what do you expect?
1st story: I don't think there was anything wrong with him walking away from his relationship after finding out that his fiancee was talking bad about him and technically saying that he didn't satisfy her.
I don't think that was overreacting because now you this is somebody you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with and if the person isn't satisfied sexually they're going to look for it elsewhere so it's best that he do break it off and walk away right now and find someone that is okay with how he performs.
But everybody's saying that he overreacted about the situation of counseling out his marriage I don't now of course moving States and all that stuff that is a bit over the top but everything else he did what he needed to do and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
What’s wrong with being insecure? Humanity would not be here without it
TESTIFY!!!!!
Any time a man has boundaries or standards or self-respect he's put down as insecure. Outta here with that sheet.
If he said to his friends that the fiance is a bit chunky and not that great of a looker, but has many other good qualities, and she found out, what should her reaction be?
It is more like breach of trust....if he had been telling hurtful private tails about her to others she would be upset too....
When you are in mature relationship this kind of sharing should not be happening.
S1 OP dodged a bullet. She pinned him as the beta bucks. And will forever look for the Alpha who fucks. Be the player not the simp.
The comments in the video on the first story are wildly stupid. A compatible sex life is important to a long-lasting relationship, and if Amy was so disappointed by it that she would admit it to her friends it would definitely become a problem in the future. She loved what the OP offered in terms of finances and security, a good father and provider. She was likely never in love with him, he would never be her first choice romantically. He nuked his life, but on his terms and not at the hands of a judge and crocked divorce system.
Great point. It’s so much better to break up before getting married… not after. At least he gets to keep half his shit.
Women need to learn that it's not appropriate to discuss sex life or body parts with friends. It doesnt matter if women have always done it. Its always been wrong. That's not something you share with others, it's supposed to be private in your relationship
😄😄 Brother, they have always done this and always will do.
@@Angel-fz8drthat's why he said that it doesn't matter whether they do it. That does not make it appropriate.
@@benzemamumba As humans, we need to accept human nature, appropriate or not. As men, we need to give them something good to talk about.
@@Angel-fz8dr what absolute nonsensical rationalisation of horrible and pathetic behaviour. You should be ashamed of yourselves for even try and justify such rubbish.
@@benzemamumba chill bro. im just stating some facts.
Story 1) best decision he could have made.
@@smilebehappy6102 If she's not westernized, she will. No western women will ever be satisfied with anything. If Brad fucking Pit can't hold on to a woman, no man can.
@@smilebehappy6102 Yes.
The issue isn't that he's bad in bed, it's that his now-ex refused to communicate any issues, didn't bother trying to improve things by telling him what he could do differently, and then mocked him behind his back to his friend.
Absolutely. Hopefully he’ll find a woman who’ll not only truly love and appreciate everything about him, but also respect him and their private life.
Story 1: Amy shouldn't have been making fun of his "Skills" behind his back. It shows She had no respect for him. OP wanting to improve himself could have been worded better that it was. Sucks he's alienated his best friend but Again Amy clearly didn't love or respect him and was probably planning on cheating on him.
Story 3: which also stuck out it sounds Like the ex cheated more than once and her guilt was eating at her. Op should have left sooner cause when one cheats the relationship is truly over
Amy was the village bicycle and settled for the nice guy
Yup.
Truth
Wow. Incel much?
@@SR-og5ec nope
@@SR-og5ectell me, what is an incel?
Story one his ex fiancé had five years to teach him how to make love to her properly I believe she’s only married him for financial reasons if she is not sexually satisfied with him, she is definitely going to be cheating on him in the future, so they should definitely end it now
First story, she didn't love him,or she would have talked to him. Instead of telling her friends. So things aren't to be shared with friends.
or she loved him and didnt want to hurt his feelings because it didnt matter much to her
@@VeryGoodDeals bwahahahaha, good one..........oh.......you were being serious, weren't you?...........bwahahaha
Is it common for women to discuss even the most privileged information as gossip fuel? How distasteful, men generally only discuss sex with their significant other in the most abstract way, and rather seldomly. Basically, if sex is being had and the frequency, and mostly only if it's particularly noteworthy.
You are supposed to be your partner's greatest defender, not their greatest betrayer. Words can't be unsaid, and actions have consequences.
Story 1: please let's stop getting the statement out of context. He dumped her not because of the sex life she did not like. He dumped her because she should not have shared that intimate information with all of her friends and made fun of it. If the roles were reversed, everyone would be roasting the guy in the comments. If she does not like it, that's totally fine, but she should have spoken to him and worked on it and gone to therapy together. Bottom line is there is no burning desire and she is basically settling for him. Blessing in disguise is he dodged a magnum bullet 😂😂😂😂😂
Story 1: He was only there for a paycheck for her. She didn't love him. She didn't care about him. She was using him for his money and what he could provide. Typical woman
nowhee in the sorry did he say he made a lot of money and she was broke, you are framing the story to suit ur biases. lots of women are in relationships with bad sex and dont communicate it to the spouses yet confide in friends.
How the fuck did your brain get this from this story.
@@deusexmachina9776 You hit the nail on the head!
@@znk0r Right? Jumped to conclusions, much!
when you're dropped on your head and decide to make a comment
I bet those guys commenting you're insecure wouldn't love it when their partners tell their friends all their insecurities and had it made fun of
Exactly! Dudes just be talking. They would feel salty as hell if their girl said at the table to her friends: "My man is good in bed, but I've had bigger." These dudes would be crying 😂😂
1…. Smart. She would have just cheated later
Story 1: I am going to say NTA.
Yes, OP is a bit insecure, but through this he has discovered very key things about his partner.
1. All of their personal business will always be shared out with others.
2. If she's had better sx before and is not being fulfilled with OP, the moment she crosses paths with one of those old lovers, those legs are going to fly Wie open for old time's sake.
3. Neither of them are mature enough for marriage.
He's not "insecure". . .wtf does that even mean?!? He's hurt, and pissed off and I understand why.
@@kevinspacey5325 It seems like a lot of folks are okay with being disrespected in the name of not being called insecure. People are pathetic nowadays.
What absolute nonsense to call someone insecure for having boundaries and refusing to be disrespected.
...and it's quite cowardly to say they are both at fault in your last point. She's the one who betrayed his trust, she was squarely at fault.
@@benzemamumba ⬆️⬆️⬆️ this dude gets it.
That first story would obviously lead to cheating down the road, she would recent him for being bad and would find any reason to cheat.😂
Story 2: Not that hard to decide. Cheaters are not worth spending time with. Having a drug problem is really the red flag. She’s not worth it. What she does on her own is not your problem. HEY GUY SHE CHEATED!!
He's insecure? Right, because 10 years or so down the road she won't convince herself that she deserves a fling.
In that first story… it’s horrible how that woman told her friends he wasn’t good in bed but never told him that. Should’ve been the opposite; that’s a very private thing. Makes one think what else she’s hiding from him. OP was right to call off the wedding, you do not want to marry someone who lies to you and keeps secrets from you that she doesn’t keep from her real friends.
Don't worry, something something insecure, something something controlling and abusive.
This speaks to Something DEEPER about Men, Women, Relationships, and our DIFFERENCES. Ladies, US MEN Don't talk about our Sex Life regarding our Spouses with Friends. PERIOD. As a Man I DON'T WANT ANYONE FANTASIZING ABOUT MY WIFE, and I'm Sure NOT gonna give them ANY HELP. Ladies you DON'T have to TELL your Friends Everything.
Every time some pathetic fool finds out he's being cheated on and then whines about how he stll loves her, I want to scream!
Story 3: She has a family, remember she cheated on you man. Remember cheaters once forgiven is only waiting for another chance to cheat.
5:14 in and Wow a lot of people are talking smack because of him making his own life choice, you DO you and 🤬 what others think. In the second story the other dude knew how she was and abused it, sure people are responsible for their own lives. But both need to be in a place of wanting to change.
Why in the world would op date someone who had a drug addiction for 10 years op needs to dump his girlfriend and seek counseling and rehabilitation and stay away from his ex story2
Right??? That would be like a women saying "I met this guy that is a degenerate gambler that keeps losing his rent some months and buys me nice gifts other months depending on how he's doing, should I marry him?"
1st story. Op took an intelligent step to dump his GF. I guarantee that after marriage she would definitely cheat on her husband.
Story 1: What goes on it your bedroom is private. It’s only time before she looks for a better sex partner. Walk away!!!!
People shitting on S1's OP because he stands for the truth while trying to better himself is wild.
Marriage is built on honesty and communication. The fact that Amy would rather rant to her friends instead is a red flag.
Also for the younger boys out there : "I chose him for the full package" means "I settled for stability and I might look for the thrills elsewhere".
S1: op is kind of pathetic for the begging about gossip but the real issue here is wtf the fiancee is doing joking about their intimate life. That a lone is grounds for calling off the wedding.
OP’s best friend should have told him his fiancé was bad mouthing him. She was really going to keep quiet and let him marry her.
Also, if he isn’t great at sex and she doesn’t like it, she should’ve told him. But the fact that she told her friends, over her fiancè is weird. Also, this would make her loyalty in question later, as if she’s talking about her intimate life with her friends, in this context, meaning she isn’t satisfied. That would lead to speculations about her loyalty later.
OP dodged a bullet there.
How insecure they will say but wont mention the total disrespect...tbh though, it wasnt too malicios imo.
Dude seriously dodged a .50cal bullet. She'd have surely cheated
never understood the female need to share such intimate things about there partners with their friends... I mean, now all her friends look at him differently, think about him differently, that need to gossip has such negative knock on effects, and yet there is surprise and tears when their toxic behavior gets exposed. and yes, guys who do that too are as pathetic as women who cant keep their mouths closed in respect of their partners. honestly, it cowardly behavior to go behind someone's back when you have problems or issues with them instead of just opening up and being honest, to approach them to work on solutions to make the sex life better for both of them, it could have been a chance to grow closer, but no... she might have found that there were things about her that could have made her too better in the bed, that he too desired.
The people in these comments should reread the stories before weighing in. Bad sec wasn’t the problem in the first story. Public humiliation was. The OP wasn’t an addict in the next story. His partner was. Pay attention!
Story 2: I would never get hooked up with a drug addict no matter how beautiful she is!
That is a recipe for disaster!
I don’t understand how partners badmouth each other to their friends. Me and my friends never discussed each other’s girlfriends and never wanted to.
That takes wisdom and maturity.
there are certain lines and boundaries you don't ever cross.
Simple, if you won't trust her, move on and don't look back. Block her.
This man is a liar about his insecurities. Is constantly asking for reasons to break up with his fiancé. He found it and left from everyone’s existence.
Ladies, SOME THINGS YOU "DON'T" HAVE TO DISCUSS WITH YOUR GIRLFRIENDS.
They are too daft to grasp that.
While I admit that what his fiance did sucks, but this was something that they could have communicated. He definitely was a very insecure person for sure. He jumped the gun to me. It's something that you can talk about now that it is out there.
Why would she stick around for 5 years if she wasn't satisfied
I don't know which is worse in story two: "Cheating" or "Dealer"..probably cheating by a nose! Both combined are a black hole of misery!
if this is soo, other things doesn't matter just with this trusting a long term relationship is a risk at this point
S1" guy was insecure. Asked for it when he kept bugging her friend to say something wrong about him. He is an idiot. He could have worked on it with his fiancee. Sex is something you can get better on. He just needed to communicate with his fiancee better in the bedroom. Don't be like this idiot guys. Talk talk talk. Be secure enough in yourself. Go to therapy. Work on yourself.
His fiance was immature for talking about sex performance of her partner to her friends. There are just some things that don't need to be talk about to others. She clearly did it to humiliate him and folks defending her and calling him insecure are the biggest idiots.
You wouldn't like it if your girl said: "My man is good in bed, but I've had way bigger." You would feel some type of way. Enough of the nonsense.
Him constantly asking wasn't insecurity...his gut was telling him something and he went with it. ALWAYS trust your gut. He'd have been cheated on and divorced within a few years and she'd have gotten half his shit, fleeced him for a kid that wasn't his, and had him live a lie and waste his life.
His friend should have told him without him asking his fiancé was bad mouthing him.
@@Dustin81yes absolutely.. You don't call yourself a best friend and withhold such crucial information.
This is why:
No Hyman = NO Diamond.
Amy was an affair waiting to happen.
Story 2. Are you hurting that bad where you know about a drug problem and yet continue to be in a relationship?
I wonder if it's about "Technique"...or "Mechanical!"
Either way she embarrassed him.😂
No ditch her
S2 she only feels that's way now because she got caught
Man: tell me something bad my fiance says about me.
*gets answer*
Guy: 😮
I have worked in construction. Construction guys will talk about women they had a one night stand with, but what I have never, ever, EVER heard a guy talk about, in all my years, is his sex life with his wife/fiancée/long-term GF.
Not once! EVER!
If the woman is the mother of his children, they will even avoid subjects adjacent to the more salacious topics.
When I was a young guy in my late teens, two women where I worked regularly shared stories about their husbands with each other, within earshot of other people in the breakroom, including teenage boys and girls who worked at the fast food restaurant.
It was utterly crass and inappropriate anywhere, but doing it within listening distance of 14-19 year olds was creepy AF.
Why do women do this? (Share about stuff they have no business sharing)
Story 2: Dude, Get Out! She is your drug and from what you said, you’re pretty addicted. What would she have to do for you to finally leave her?
S1: I see the insipid White Knight brigade strikes again. Imagine if OP had mocked his fiancee's body to his friends? Everyone would hit the roof! He made the right choice leaving her. She is not wife material.
Well its reddit so white knight brigade s1mp1ing isn't a surprise. NGL I do really do hate white knights going through gate lengths for a shot at 2/10 female cat. It has enabled a lot of bad behaviour by giving unwarranted attention and protection to the "fairer" sex who don't deserve it and screws over a lot of dudes.
Out of all the friendships I’ve had throughout the years only two guys ever cheated on their partners while 36+ women i knew cheated on theirs. If your wife to be said you weren’t good in bed to her friends then there’s is NO WAY she will stay faithful and will justify it however she wants. Why is it one in a million to find a woman who has personal accountability? Why does every woman say they’re a 10 while spending 3 hours on make up and push-up bras?
I don't discuss female body parts with the guys because I consider it disrespectful. I expect women to do the same with their friends.
I had this same problem with my fiance. Again her bf told me. I was upset at this. When I calmed down I realized this was an opportunity for a chance for honest communication. It was awkward at first but led to a greatly improved sex life. Luckily we both worked at it.
Why TF did you fiance have a boyfriend?! 🤨
Where was this video shot? The area seems amazing.
Story 2. Op you are not helping. You are enabling her bad behaviour. Get some help for her and yourself.
Redditors have a lot to say about situations they know little about. I’m sure OP in story 1 had many other concerns and red flags about her but that this was merely the final straw.
'Am I crazy," yes you are!
Don't ask questions that you don't like the answer to.
Story 1. If both parties cannot be honest there is no trust. No trust means no relationship.
How is it an issue of both here when it's only the female who gossiped about their intimacy?
Try and explain your reasoning, perhaps there's something I didn't pick up when listening to the story.
Im sorry. With that finance did was terribly wrong & embarrassing. Despite her actions we can negate the fact that OP still needs help & therapy.
There are, or should be, things you keep in house. This is one of them.
Even my mum says that you shouldn’t discuss your intimate life with your friends or family members, unless you want advice then that’s a different thing. But that’s probably what a sex therapist is for. Correct me if I’m wrong.
Let go of the hate and resentment. All that comes from the devil.
S2 - Stays with a drug addict, and bad things happen... SHOCKING! Are all men getting this weak and stupid?
S3 - DUMP the cheater, and she made you miserable for three years because of HER guilt
Every woman tells her friend group intimate details about her man, which is disturbing
Story 3 @ 12:06
Umm she had sex with somebody months after their son was born? How ? Doesn't it take at least 6 months to recover after giving birth ?
Holy shit the girl said she loves everything about him. You cant be the best at everything
What's your argument here?
I hope the reddit commenters who criticized him, will face the same thing where their gf / wife mock his sexual prowess to her group of female friends, then they will know how it feels.
Story 1 when u look for a wayout ul find it .
If she was an expert at it means she has a lot of experience.
Why the hell would you be with someone that is addicted to substance for 10 years ?? Do you not value you own life and time ? Like WTH
S1. That is reddit for you. Exes sex memories haunting his fiance's sex life but the problem is him, LOL. This is the proof that body count matters, the past is not just the past.
Amy got her loving while on vacation..😂..Run....
Also: She talks too much
Youre dating someone who has a dealer? Wtf
Is the relationship between the two of you and her friend group, or just the two of you?… how ever it is, that’s how it gonna be
Why would you talk about your intimate life with your friends?
Asking what other people say about you behind your back is a bad idea. When Kiley refused to answer OP shouldn't have kept bothering her to spill the beans. Kiley obviously shouldn't have told OP what was said in confidence. Alcohol can cause alot of embarrassment. Kiley was left very embarrassed when OP repeated what he said.
OP should probably have taken it on-board and tried to adjust things in the bedroom rather than confronting her about it. If these adjustments didn't improve things then ending the engagement might have been an option.
Once it was all out in the open I can understand his ending the engagement and moving State. He was obviously feeling humiliated. A fresh start in a new State might be the best thing, now that he never wants to face his previous circle of friends. Everyone knowing the reasons he cancelled the wedding would be highly embarrassing for him
It is probably because of past bad experience. There may be some red flags that OP noticed. Still OP's ex needed to work on the problems and not to publicly spill intimate facts. That is why there is a saying - "what happen behind closed doors, stay behind closed doors" or something like that.
Kiley sided with the fiancé over her best friend by hiding her making fun of him. Stop defending her lying to him for 5 years. That info should have been only for OP to hear.
Zero respect. Zero future. Ya'll stuffed it. Won the stupid prize.
story 2: dude is asking for advice about what to do w/his wife who is a crackhead and sleeping w/her dealer..seriously?! you needed to ask for advice?! it anit that hard bro!!! dump that 304...why tf did you hook up in first place knowing she was doing drugs?!
Me thinks many a simp left comments in the first story.
There is always going to be someone better. She stayed with you for 5 years? You can’t be that bad….