HOOKUP CULTURE.
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Are u racist? “If i’m being honest, yes.” 💀 I CANT
OMG STOPPP LOL I'M LITERALLY DYING FROM THIS COMMENTARY- 💀💀💀
I literally saw a comment recently on a vid where the person said "I'm homophobic but this couple is so cute." It reminded me of the bluntness of the 50s character. I mean at least when people are honest with their bias you know exactly who to avoid lol.
😂
Inb4 "oNe ThOuSaNdTh LiKe"
@@max_the_mantis5173 Damn, I can at least respect that they're aware, lol. If they're that aware of it though, and if they can admit a couple is cute despite them being homophobic...then maybe there's hope that they won't be like that in the future? 😅
@@sawyerharris3721 the woman wasnt white so I don't know why she said she was racist.
Fun fact: Her name is Emily as you may or may not know
Thanks
Well Emily is not even Emily
@@NotEvenDante le gaspe 😱
Opp
That's cap she's not even Emily
so blessed to be in this generation where people like her exist
this much likes..?
agreed
Indeed
I conquer.
Yeah but there's a lot of people whos the opposite of her too so I think "so blursed" is more accurate
@@ipiinsih3655 tf does blursed mean
2 in the morning + Emily's voice = sadness cured
bro same, you Indian?
Another Indian passing by
Indian too. Was about to say it’s the middle of the day, but then I realized *time zones*
It's 2 in the morning now in my country.
Indians vibing, where are yall from?
she feels like an older sister when she talks about this stuff
Hahaha I am an older sister actually 🤣
@@notevenemily LMAO
@@notevenemily no,your OUR older sister even if some of us are older 😌
as someone who doesn't have an older sibling, I really love that
Oneechan KAWAIIIII
Sis gave us a whole therapy session.
I love your pfp
@@padmeamidala5161 thanks, I love it too.
@@hannanjerown8122 From which episode ? Their are to many time where Nishinoya is cool and cute.
but what about the inner voice i developed that tells me i'm w0rthl3ss if i do.........and don't.........being g3nd3rflu1d and easily susceptible is not fun :)
AND commentary on societal expectancy
how does she talk about such controversial topics while seeming to not offend anyone!? it's so awesome
I was thinking about that too, it's awesome
It's her personality
It's because she's subtle and doesn't lean towards extreme opinions :)
@@kimwicks5540 ikr
It's because she's got a good head on her shoulders.
i like to think the lady from 1950s learned the error of her ways, stopped being racist and put jimmy in his place
Hi fellow monster prom and not even emily fan
She later lived to 88, and discovered how right the time traveller she met was about 2021’s flaws.
same honestly 50s emily is too pure to stay bad :)
and pegged jimmy*
@@rubenaalexander5007 yes they were.
no premarital staring
You see them AFTER the wedding
Ew I've also heard of.... pre-marital hand-holding 🤢
@@ThatKafkaMain that's too far 🤢🤢
No premarital eye contact 🙅
@@deletedchannel1216 no premarital marriage
@@ThatKafkaMain LMFAOOOO RUNNNN
The part of being afraid of getting hurt so deciding that your okay alone because you don’t want to settle but still thinking it would be nice hit a little too close to home😂
IKR? that was a personal attack
Dang are we the same person cause this hit me like a truck
@@Doctor-Infinite we are all the same person, i am pretty sure everyone has felt like that before.
I felt that from the bottom of my heart
I feel this way all the time. I love to be alone but I crave emotional connection and romantic relationship, but I just don't want to be with anyone I'm so weird
the way i misheard jimmy turner as timmy turner at 3:36 and completely accepted that timmy from fairly odd parents was spreading rumours about emily's 1950s alter ego
I heard Jimmy but my mind also went to the same place
@@secretlyashark8271 SAME
Personally I don't get it. As a woman, for me hooking up is not worth all the risk it comes with. I don't even enjoy conversations with strangers, there is no way I'm interested in hooking up with them
mc23243 as a dude, i agree. Not my thing. But to each their own
Same I'm an introvert and really shy and I'm still and high school and I'm afraid of not having friends when I'm in university and on my own
@@champ1159 don't worry, you will make friends. Group projects, exams and deadlines help a lot in making friends. and in university you meet more likeminded people than in school.
@@mc23243 thx that's actually reassuring
right
This is why I’m saving myself for marriage and why I also plan on never getting married
Same
saaaaammmmeeeeee!
Exactly
especially as a woman
@Tayler Muilenburg some times there are benefits, though it’s different for every state [if you live in america]
EARLIER THAN A WHITE FAMILY AT AN AIRPORT
Yall chill I'm very white I'm not insulting anyone lmaoo.
then explain why my friends parents took 3 hours to pick her and i up...
@Miss Cute i second this
Hmm.. guess my family must be an exception
😂
@Miss Cute yeah I know, I was just joking 'cause my family's always late 😂
When she said do you use this technology for the good of mankind, I laughed while drinking water, sucked water into my nose, and was coughing for 10 minutes. Thanks a lot Emily
thanks a lot RACHEL
she's not even Emily
@@ivan._._._. my bad you’re right
@@blackcat5771 thanks a lot you IDIOT. thanks a lot Rachel, thanks a LOT. thanks to you my charger's not charging on my iPad because it's got used to YOUR iPad instead of mine. it's not charging my iPad and it's ALL YOUR FAULT.
@@saf5210 lmaoooo
emily: "get down to business...."
me: to defeat the huns
emily: "to defeat the huns"
😮
*unsubscribes so I can subscribe again*
I was just watching Mulan-
Omg i immediately thought of that, the second she said it 😂
YESS the same thing happened to me, i felt like she read my mind
BAHAHAHAHHAHHAHAHHAHHA
DID THEY GIVE ME DAUGHTERS
WHEN I ASKED FOR SONS
the title scared me * currently in class *
Same * currently should probably sleeping * 😂😅
@@letizialorusso1950
sLEeP person I just Met ONlinE-
@@letizialorusso1950 same-😀🤚
"I'm not a sinner"
Lol press x to doubt
X
i am a sinner.
"Im a sinner but didn't did that sin"
@Idk_Reveluv kinda
“Rectangle”
She’s definitely from before the renaissance.
Near the end it really helped me, I'm a dude with intimacy issues because of previous relationships. I never had intercourse because I haven't learned to truly love someone. But I just hope one day when I'm much more healthy I can learn to be intimate and vulnerable in a healthy way. Thank you Emily for the great content, and also helping me realize something about myself, lmao wasn't expecting the epiphany. Yall stay blessed.
im hoping the best for you!!
I'm there with you bro
Idk if you’ve found that person yet but if you haven’t yet, don’t be afraid of busting too soon. It’s okay. Round 2 FIGHT!
WE DID NOT JUST SAY "to defeat the huns" IN UNISON- IM SCARED FJHDKJSDHKJL
@EnchantingEcho did they send me daughters....when i asked for sons
@@zizisgarden You're the saddest bunch I ever met...But you can bet before we're through
@@ari_zona0 mister i'll... make a man, out of you
1950s Emily do be looking pretty tho
It's true, her hair looks really nice here
She is pretty in everything honestly
She really looks like the 2020's Emily.
imagine showing a person from the 50s gen z memes
y e e t
D A V E
They’d enter the 11th dimension 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃
HONSE
EMILY LIKED MY COMMENT WHAT-
@@green_goose1 congratulations!!!
i think hook up culture just makes it harder for people to be able to forge personal connections
I guess. But then again you can choose not to hook up with people. Maybe some people are just more hypersexual and don't feel the need to have a relationship at the current moment. And maybe some people want to have a fulfilling relationship with someone and share a connection with them. It really depends on what you want in the end
@@thesevenkingswelove9554 I think it's because it seems like it's creating a culture where it pressures the woman to "put out" before she's ready and gotten to know the guy more, knowing that if she doesn't, he'll just move on bc he can get some somewhere else super easily thru these apps. makes u feel like a number w the expectation that u should "put out" asap when all ur doing is trying to find something real. that's a very hetero view of things, gay girls don't rly work the same way so i'm good :)
@@abigaelrarts2257
You're assuming that women want emotional connection in order to have sex with a guy. Which isn't necessarily true. Some women just want a one night stand / a sexual based relationship without strings of attachment.
"Hookup culture" is more so a personality thing, not a gender thing.
@@unknown0290 I agree. Idk why ppl think that women are so “pure” and emotional lol.
@@pussydestroyer69285 Ikr? Women have urges too lol
ngl I find hookup culture to be quite damaging to a lot of people. I'm college age and I've been in a few relationships, but I've found quite a few of my friends really struggle with validating themselves through hookups
To have the choice to do what you want and not to be judged for it is incredibly important imo, so I'd never say we should villainise hooking up or anything like that; the main issue is that many people seem to fall into it as a coping mechanism, and for them it can be really destructive
That said, some people just get a lot and feel great and that's Aok
Power to all y'all kings, queens, and in betweens
I like your ending. It sounds cute :)
Yeah I have a friend that definitely used hooking up as a coping mechanism for a while and it made me feel awful because I was worried but didn't really know how to talk to her about it without making her feel guilty for it, it's really complicated
Memento mori
Not to mention as women most of the time you don't even get an orgasm out of it. Dude just uses you as a fleshlight and by the time he's done you just wanna go home. Or have I been doing it wrong?
@@HB-pz1cg nope that is pretty much how it goes
You know it's a good day when Not Even Emily uploads
I’m so glad you added “to defeat the huns”, because that literally all I wanna hear after “get down to business” no matter the context
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Someone should make this an add
But no stds with is a side plus, no unplanned pregnancy.
Neat
Damn I just got the limited edition!
Well this is...an unexpected topic to talk about-
Yah lol
It’s only uncomfortable if you participate in it... (;
Who am I kidding this is so guilt trippy ;c
Just had a flash of Emily in her bedroom talking to herself before getting up, changing clothes, sitting back down and resuming the self talk.
*Except now she's facing the other way...*
emily: *makes a video about hookups*
emily: "my age demographic is like 18-24"
me, a 14 year old: *is here anyway*
I'm 17
Same💀💀💀
Yep same
Yeah haha
16-almost-17 here
To be honest once she said "to defeat the huns," I started singing the entire song...
I LOVED THAT MOVIE SO MUCH AS A KID
Wait, are you saying you don't love it anymore??? Take that back right now 😤
You'd hear me singing it every time I workout outside if you lived in my neighborhood lol.
Your way of sarcasm is crazy
Never fail to make me laugh
you quote tweeted one of my replies like a month ago and I'm still riding off that
She liked your comment! Are you gonna something weirdly interesting next?
@@nightmare9597 I might >:))
@@honkahonkanoise what are you gonna do?
Her saying her audience is 18-24:
Me being 25: 👁👄👁
Me being 17:👁👄👁
18
@@arianas7866 lol me too
I’m 34
*sweats intensely in 14*
Sounds like someone is mad at their horse boyfriend....
LMAO
😂😂😂
😂
lol
lmAO
"I have family..."
pshh lucky
I haven't left my home since Einstein...left permantly
👁💧👄💧👁
I'm pretty sure her family could figure out that she has gotten frisky at least twice or else she wouldn't have made this vid. Like she wants to get caught.
I'm sorry 🤚 no hooking up until we profess our love for each other after having been intensely platonic for years
me typing this: oh i'm not demisexual :) haha i love jokes
future me, looming behind: you sweet summer child
@Hi My Name Is no hun than they just want to have that one thing and not u as a person
@Hi My Name Is Yeah, that is definitely true. I won't ever be able to get into a relationship for this reason and it sucks lol
Is that a fellow demisexual I spy...?
HAHAHAH HIS IS ME
Best trope😌
the worst case scenario in this culture is for someone to pretend they love you and pretend to be in a relationship with you just so they can get into your pants for a whole year
Not once was risk of getting pregnant or catching an std mentioned, it's very important to be aware of these risks
I hate it I think it’s damaging and sucks. Both parties eventually feel empty afterwards and it’s creating a culture where “the grass is always greener” because of all the dating apps, so nobody wants to commit because there’s so many available options. I’ve been celibate for 2 years because of it. People also automatically assume you’re down to hookup now too and I have to make it explicitly clear I’m not interested in that. People are also much more prone to enter ‘situationships’ now because they can get the good without having to commit and it blurs the lines between partners
Who’s gonna tell her that the “18-24” is minors putting their age as 18
@Idk_Reveluv I’m 14 and I know this kid in my class that has Tinder and idk there might be more ppl who have it. 💀
@@guesswho5314 lmao I remember when I was 11 and had it, but I really just used it to catfish
@@kosyn7324 DID YOU GET CAUGHT
@@spongebobsshoe6224 I did it all the time and didn't, but I did one time.
@@kosyn7324 niiiice
I thought I was the only one that felt this way, I feel like a lot of times people aren't being honest with themselves, I think you hit the nail on the head with the last skit, that everyone wants emotional connection but they feel its easier just to hookup and they're afraid of opening up and being vulnerable for the fear they'll get hurt, but everything that's worth having has a risk x
Well said. I have a lot of friends who are in that place right now.
@@dreamingblue3939 exactly, ever since I can remember I've always known I want to be with one person and have a deep love with them but like she mentioned in the video I noticed too that society has this strange promotion of hookup culture and it being the norm, when really its 9 times out of 10 people missing connection and trying to fill that void with hookups
We could have been born any time throughout history, but we just so happened to be born in a time where Emily exists
Ik this is random but for the longest time I used to think Meme was pronounces "me me" AND NO ONE CORRECTED ME😭🙁
People probably thought you were saying that ironically
I mean...it kinda does in spanish
oof
Oh yini mntase, nobody fr?😅😅
Me, virgin until marriage: sounds like a video for me
I’m 21 and I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship. If it comes it comes :)
Sometimes it doesn't come tho. Or rather it feels that way since so much time goes by (I'm talking months) since any prior possible romantic interaction.
I've found I even have to be the one to initiate things all the time or else I go extended periods of time without any friend prospects. And whenever something comes up, I typically forget the lessons I learned from previous experiences because that's what happens when you go months/years without reinforcing a lesson. You repeat the mistake.
Just saying. If one day you decide you want to experience something different, it's on you to make it happen. The waiting game is a lie.
I'm trying to think of something witty to say that'll show off my sense of humor and intelligence now that I'm early. Give me a minute, I'll be back.
Yo it’s been an hour please come back I miss you
so... did you think of anything?
@@whytho8856 man I hope so I miss them since I found this comment
Time passes, and he has still not returned
Judy it's been 4 HOURS!
Never been this early 😂 swinging by to say hello to the Queen herself.
Hookup culture sucks, well it's just not for me. I have only ever slept with one guy but every other guy I meet will eventually or immediately want to talk about sexual things with you. I'm just not interested without forming an emotional bond/connection which I crave from most people.
Also I haven't fully experienced the cutesy, lovey dovey, and wholesome type of relationship. There is absolutely no romance. I really want someone to lean on, hold hands with, peck, and do things that make me FEEL good. I want to feel inspired to make food for someone I deeply care about.
My whole family and friends ask me why I haven't been dating anyone, well, because I just have shit luck. I am not even picky about appearance at all! I like them all sizes, wide or short. I just want a guy who will work his way into my heart, I am not just going to hand my heart to some dude to play with.
The most wholesome guy I ever met was twice my age and he didn't have any relationship experience either, I thought he was perfect. Too bad he was hella older than me. I just want a sweet guy who wont expect sex from me too soon, who tolerates my affectionate side, will eat the food I make, and actually enjoys my company.
you just wrote out the problem in plain sight yourself. Guys who are wholesome and don't look at women as trophies they get to dominate and take end up being rejected. Girls say they want nice wholesome guys, but in reality, they actually go for the jerks and assholes, the guys who appear to be confident but is really just narcissism. But that's the kind of personality girls fall for.
I hope you find what you're looking for. I think the right person is well worth waiting for- no matter how long the waiting is.
I got so moved by your words... good luck with your journey and hopefully you will meet your soul mate... you deserve all the best.. you are a gem!
It feels close to home. I also think that asking for a relationship with an emotional connection isn’t too much to expect. And I’ve had the same experience as you. When I tried to talk to guys, they start very quickly to show sexual intentions with me, and in all fairness it grosses me out. I know that not all guys are like that but imagine getting 90% of your interactions being guys wanting you as their sex object.
I think if you’re looking for a genuine guy who will respect you and be romantic with you, you should wait for him :). He’s probably out there waiting for you to be the best version of yourself. Stay strong with your values and don’t settle for less. You deserve to be with a guy who’s genuine! And your age, cute, educated and a gentlemen. There aren’t many guys like that, but they exist :) be on the lookout.
If you don't want a man who expects sex from you
then I would recommend asexual guys :]
I don't have much to add to this
I just wanted for someone to find that we exist
"Why would I ever wanna put myself in a position, where I could be hurt?"
Thiss! This just really hits close to home💀
people who are afraid to get hurt are weak, but when you know you can bear the pain you‘re strong
@@LY-js7ff but why get hurt at all? avoid it as much as you can. That's called being smart and self preserving
@@LY-js7ff It's wise to avoid things that cause you to lose more than you gain.
@@boredhuman3561 lol such a sad mindset, gains in the gym come from repeated tearing and healing of the muscles, gains in any skill require time and effort, having a stable relationship comes from searching, connecting and putting yourself in a vulnerable spot. You probably just haven't had a relationship that's been worth it if you don't feel like it's worth it, because, trust me, a good relationship will add so much to your life that it'll feel completely different.
@@FlygonSal330 the pain is worth it....if it's something you really want in your life ( like you gave the example of a gym.. bearing pain because that's what you want) My comment stands true to me....for me it's not worth it because I can easily live without it.
In the gay community, hookup culture is very common. I was apart of it for a few years, and ended up in a great long-term relationship because of a hookup with 0 expectations.
So true, specialy with gay guys which is understandable. Unfortunately it makes it harder for gay people who are looking for long term relationship to actually find it.
that only happens very rarely, mostly one person gets hurt because she wanted more and the other person just don‘t care hun
I kinda support homosexuality, but I don't support hookup culture, I think sex should be within a strong healthy relationship, for gays and straights
@@mcoolio3943 No one cares whether you approve of their lifestyle. Mind your own business.
@@winstonmarlowe5254 dude, respectfully, shut up. I'm simply putting my view out there. A view not nessessarily hurting anyone. Hbu mind your own business, thanks
That last sketch was too relatable. See you in therapy.
Hehe I have very low sexual or romantic attraction so my life in this area is kinda simple. Kinda love it tbh.
Saaaaame
@Hi My Name Is so being obsessed romantically is somehow good.? Don't shame others for how they are.
@Hi My Name Is what are you even saying? Doing something extreme is never good. However it goes both ways. Being obsessed with someone romantically and sexually is not right.
@Hi My Name Is Well it was hypocrite when you first said that being sexually obsessed is not good when being romantically obsessed with is not as well.
Same
The conversations would be interesting if people will just be honest..
i could never hook up with a stranger. it sounds so scary and awkward. that takes a lot of trust and vulnerability someone could easily take advantage of you or just not be good at it.
Hookup culture kinda ruined romance, natural flirting etc. And it makes dating quite difficult for conservative people like me who has to think about both their and their parents' religious belief.
This is such a treat. 🥺
Ahh yes. The culture that no one wanted
If no one wanted the culture they wouldn’t participate in it
@@merrybright5732 well yeah sadly
@@nyxs_time_alone not sad, no one’s forcing you to partake
@@merrybright5732 yeah you are right lol
@@merrybright5732 that's just a lie lmao people been trying to force each other into it at 12 or 13 years old already
"I believe my main demographic is 18-24 year olds"
Me who has been watching Emily since I was 12 and am now almost 15...
i've only been watching her for a little while but same i'm about to be 15😂
@@whytho8856 lmao same 😂. I'll turn 15 on February 9th ✨
@• Ma'am This Is A Wendys • be safe on the internet
@• Ma'am This Is A Wendys • good :D
Almost 17
Me, an aromantic asexual person watching this: a.
yep, asexual here too
Same lol
Repeat after me:
Emily is da prettiest out there
“Get down to business.... to defeat the Huns.” LMAOOO bruh
falling in love and having a special emotional connection with just one person is the greatest gift of all time. the hookup culture has taken something beautiful and made it cheep and worthless. i was never part of the hook up culture - i tried to do everything right - but my heart has been broken a few times now and it was for the same reason each time ........... they valued money over love. it really hurt but i eventually realized that many people are incapable of higher level emotion. love is when two people share one soul. i made the decision to continue waiting and i feel ......... like ....... a seed under the frosty winter snow waiting for the warm shining sun of spring. true love is the reward at the end of the journey.
Correction, true love is reward on an end of your journey which is fine. However please don't speak like it is for all. This might not be what you mean but you sounded like you spoke for all.
What do you mean by "they valued money over love" in relation to "hookup culture"?
I hope you're able to find that. It's well worth waiting for- so don't settle for something lesser that isn't worth the trouble and pain.
@@unknown0290 yeah, i think lust is a way better alternative than that
Finally someone speaks about this. I'm tired of being shamed for not wanting to engage in this culture
The way you exposed me.. oh to actually venture out to meet new people and normalize wanting emotional connection and tearing down my walls.. really hit too close to hole huh
dalhe forte jovem
Close to hole huh
“You can stay with me in 2020”
I see u haven’t celebrated New Years yet?
tell me how i didn't even bat an eye at that-
Maybe she filmed this before 2021
You forgetting Chinese New Year is in like February
@@awesomeenbyperson714 wait, do people who celebrate chinese new year see january as being the same year as december?
not trying to be rude, i am simply uncultured. also sorry if this is unintelligible words are hard
@@whytho8856 it feels like 2020 still😂
why does this feel like a therapy appointment
"So he wants to break things with you"
I usually don't think about hookup culture but whenever I start to think about it I realize I am glad that I am ace.
As ace I'm a weird place. I have a hard time finding people attractive without having feelings for them. And I don't want a relationship now, cause I've broke up a 4 years engagement. But it doesn't mean I don't wanna physical experience. So it's just a mess.
I for one, do not wish to participate in hook up culture, and I do not wish anyone to be forced into hookup culture, so, do what you want.
Analysis from an older person:
For men, hookup culture creates a division in a small group that gets all the sex they desire and a large group that is invisible to women.
For women, hookup culture makes it really hard to find a romantic partner because the men she has sex with have no intention in forming a relationship. Furthermore the best man she hooked up with will become the entry bar to judge a potential partner, resulting in unrealistic expectations making it even harder to find a boyfriend.
Hookup culture only benefits a small group of men and an even smaller group of promiscuous women who don't want a relation. It complicates things for the rest.
💯
I love your videos and the bits where you're arguing against characters! It reminds me of contrapoints!
I think hookup culture as you said comes with pros and cons. I think it's really dependent on the person, and how secure they are tbh (also… If they have an influence of any kind). Hookup culture does tend to overlap with people who use it as a way to validate themselves and shame others who aren't as sexually active. And it’s not always obvious either, it can be statements that really wear you down over time. It does and can force people to feel that they need to participate in that culture to feel accepted and valid amongst their peers. You have to be a certain kind of person to be okay with consistent hookups, and if you’re not- then you’re not and that’s okay. You don’t really hear that enough imo.
There’s also that weird pressure as a woman where you’re either seen as prudish, or not empowering for not being “sexual” or “kinky” enough; on the flip side you’re seen as “easy”, and all sorts of derogatory terms if you indulge in sexual activities. No winning at all.
Not entirely tied to hookup culture, but I think this all bleeds together. To add onto that bit of empowerment, there’s also this weird dissonance where if you’re not having so-called kinky sex, then you’re not empowered or feminist enough which feels deeply unfeminist in itself lol, but I think that ties into hookup culture because seeing that messaging spread out (far enough for someone really young to see it) is lowkey kind of insidious and grooms a lot of women to feel they need to indulge in bdsm activities both in relationships and casual hookups. AND! For way too many men to think that they can choke women without consent (due in part to this messaging). It’s legitimately dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing, and a little more dangerous when you’re engaging with a stranger. You can seriously hurt somebody!
I think our perception of sex and female sexuality has largely been skewed due to the male gaze. I think a lot of proclamations of being kinky/very into hookup culture are geared towards men in a palatable way :/ instead of sex positivity and enjoying sex in whatever way you want. It always feels pointed towards someone instead of just enjoying sex as it is.
It’s way worse when I see creators casually talk about hookups and bdsm-adjacent things (and often play it as what makes them cool) without ever advocating for safety, consent, comfort zones, and testing. Especially since a lot of younger viewers tune in, and don’t feel comfortable listening to these topics from their teachers, parents etc. I think people should be more cognizant of their words, and that they’re not invalidating people for doing what they want with their bodies. I hope that came across clearly lmao. It’s a complicated topic that could take me hours to write LMAO
Againnnn, love your videos! :)
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Very intelligent, well articulated, emotionally knowledgeable, mature comment we got here!
To add on your point of bdsm-like practices, it's making me think of ths youtuber Kat Blaque and how she uses the term Vanillas (non bdsm practictioners) in an almost condescending way. Almost how "virgins" is sometimes used in a derogatory way
Let it be known that I am THIRSTY for how "ages ago" Emily looked!
I definitely agree with you. Hookup culture gave me a lot of fun stories and freedom to explore what I want, but it also made me so, so afraid to feel emotionally attached to people, eventually breaking my heart (because I did usually end up falling for someone who wasn't as committed in the end).
I'm glad I was able to kind of let go of the "I'm not looking for anything serious" mindset, because I was probably restraining myself emotionally more than I initially thought. Being able to let yourself feel those feelings is so much better than constantly worrying about committing to someone (in any way).
Hi, if you're reading this, we need to get some things straight.
I'm not
But also, you are loved, are valid, and deserve good things because you have a purpose in the world! It really is true, and please stay hydrated, have a bite to eat, maybe stretch to get your blood flowing? Because you are enough. ✿
3:43 "you can stay in 2020 with me"
*EMILY ITS 2021*
I’m convinced there’s more than one Emily every time you nail your sketches. Great vid as always.
“Eww you don’t marry them”..
“WHAT ?!!!! “
I nearly died laughing.
Chad loves that women think this is liberation.
The risk of getting hurt: we don't love that for us, but it's always there
I’m 55. U guys are crazy AF!! I’m still single in Australia and the hookup culture is prolific in every demographic now. I’m struggling to find a proper, deep connection with ANY woman these days! 🤦🏼♂️ It only leads to ruin….
I totally feel you! This video makes me feel understood. I often go looking for an emotional connection, but end up only getting physical intimacy. It's weird how you are comfortable being naked in front of someone but not dare to text them good night. I'm so tired of the push and pull game in modern dating where you will be seen as needy if you want something stable and serious. I'm taking a break from dating due to the pandemic and some bad experiences in the past. But like you said, liking someone feels good! The butterflies feeling is the best even though you risk getting hurt. I'm talking in circles but I do hope that I can still hopeful about the real kind of love exists in the midst of chaotic hookups.
3:45 "you can just stay in 2020 with me"
Why does that sound so scary :(((
could break the timeline.... ngl that doesn't sound so bad
I'd rather live in the AD than in 2020
i've been in the situation where i started to get emotionally attached to my hookups because i was feeling very lonely. so being less "experienced" at the time hook up culture made me look for emotional intimacy in the wrong place. so i totally understand you when you say it's good but risky
"Before you like...get down to business.."
Me: ..to defeat..the Hans
And then u actually SAID it lmaoo.
I don't remember that song from Frozen..
I love how you just attack bad people in the funniest way
Hookup culture... You're either judged for participating, but judged equally (if not more so) for not participating.
truer truth has never been said
@hiiumaa Nooo everyone has to approve of my choices 100% of the time or else it's oppression!
Do y'all really hang out with so judgmental people?
That was a really cute outfit for her 50's self.
Guys, she's seeing someone ✨
This was too funny and real. Just taken a big break from relationship stuff and was super happy doing my own thing but I just started talking to someone, and I honestly forgot how nice it is to be messaging someone back and forth and realising you've had a big goofy smile on your face the whole time. You can forgot those amazing little parts of forming a connection with someone after going through a bad relationship and it feels amazing to rediscover them. Thanks for shining a spotlight on this subject :)
Having casual sex is NOT liberating in the least Lmfao.
Good video though!
Exactly Krissy. And you can't endorse casual sex, promiscuity, hook-ups etcetera and then turn around and complain, as Emily does, that there is a lack of committed relationships and emotional intimacy. Please.
The problem are people who are saying "there is nothing wrong with hooking up, it's just not for me".
That scene was depressing. Notice I said “SCENE”, it felt like a movie tbh
You're totally not wrong...
Ok. This maybe unrelated but Emily's videos give me the feeling of a Friday when I'm done with all my school work for the week. A stressful week. Now I'm at my (only) friend's house and we're discussing these topics.
Emily: I won't go into my personal experience.
Also Emily: Shares a lot of precise and what it seems like experience-driven thoughts on hookup culture.
me: *intensely thinking about how I will never have a healthy relationship nor find true love because hookup culture just kinda... messed me up honestly*
Emily: look I made a whole video about it, so at least u can laugh about the troubling truth!
ahhh yess, life is good :)
I believe it is all personal preference and whatever you need for your current self. If you know that all you want is to try this or that then go for it, but if it is to find a connection then this is not the route to go. Finding a connection through hookup is the same as using porn, at the moment you will feel nice, but right after when the cuddle chemicals kick in you feel even more empty inside.
Personally, I believe the best way to attract long term relationships is to be comfortable with yourself being alone. It is very attractive to see someone passionate and independent. ofc I'm not the best to give advice as my current and only serious relationship. We met on ff14 online as we were in the same guild and they played a female avatar so for a long time I thought they might be a girl. Even then I thought I would become lesbian for them.
Right, this video completely matched my thoughts on this topic. I love body positivity and stuff and I don't see hookups as a bad thing, but I feel like a lot of norms have changed socially in this age. It's odd to find someone. Then again, maybe now we're more selective in who we date and stuff. Since last century things like divorce were such a taboo, I feel like it was more likely to end up with a mismatch and just be satisfied. Because we're so mobile regarding dating this day and age we're allowed to be more selective which I think is great because it gives you better odds of finding someone that really fits you. Lovely video greets from the Netherlands xox.