I agree with her approach. My experience as a therapist, now retired, demonstrated that it is not an organic process. That many clients are aware of the why but are totally stuck in terms of the how to move into change
I could say DBT is one of the things that truly saved my life. I've been practising it full-time now for the past 1,5 year. I think it's just amazing, astonishing that one can create such a complex, smart form of therapy. It's just incredible. I'm beyond grateful.
She is our savior, I just wish that more people would know about this, that's why I try to talk about it frequently within my close circle because even people without BPD would benefit a LOT from it!
@@georgegray2712 actually there is a hospital in my hometown that gives the training. It was always with a group of 10 people or so. I really feel that you need that connection with the other participants, you learn so much from that, it makes an enormous difference. In this program, an individual coach is also a big part of the training. I don't think i could do the training properly just by learning it from a book.
When Dr Linehan said: 'half of my patients when I ask them how they feel their answer is I have no idea, like looking at a fog' - WOW finally someone put in words what me and many others (diagnosed BPD) pretty much feel like every day.. I wouldn't say it's true 'depression' at first, but unfortunately quickly becomes that.
Iva Savic I felt the same way when I listened to her( also diagnosed BPD and GAD), “no idea how I feel”....but the lady who diagnosed me said noway depression as a diagnosis for you, the depression when you feel depressed it’s because of the BPD...
Exactly, this is it. You nailed it in your emphasis of this one sentence she said. I don’t think anyone can understand what that feels unless they’ve lived it. It is, in fact, very similar to looking at a fog.
Having no words for feelings is called ‘alexithymia’. I can be measured using something called the Toronto Alexithymia Scale (or TAS). You can find out through Google.
When my therapist would talk about working on an emotion. I often thought of an invisible box. I had no idea what was in it but I had to figure it out.
Apparently even in GAD emotional tolerance can be very low. DBT is so helpful to a variety of mental health problems, I wish it was the standard for chronic conditions ^^;
Thank you so very much for your work! I use a DBT Workbook for PTSD recovery, and today was hit by 5 triggers within a short time. That profound dread hit, and I cuddled up and had a chocolate, took some me deep breaths and got writing. Each trigger, one at a time, with its related cause and background vulnerability. I recalled a then & now categorizing somewhere, and specified that each trigger was from a trauma back then, but now I actually had far more resources in each area, and this calmed me down. Last, I made a list of the 2 problem areas in the now category...and got to work on one today. The difference between where this would have left me, and where I was now able to take myself today is astounding!
Amazing! Thank you so much for sharing this and explaining. I spent much time doing worksheets and they took me to a whole new plane of functionality. Anyway, hats off to you for the work you're doing...
I am 53. I was originally diagnosed sometime around 1978 with "severe anxiety neurosis" and this one page report could have been out of the BPD playbook. But I was 10. This was even before the DSM 3 came out in 1980. I was then, by 1980 diagnosed with ADHD and put on Ritaline nad Dexedrine. The next decades, I struggled ALOT but no one mentioned "emotional dysregulation" or BPD . I get that BPD is stigmatizing.. but I always felt that something BIG was missing with my diagnoses... in me.. and it was that piece... and now, I feel like too late.. I am broke, barely any money for therapy etc.. so many bridges burned, "friends" lost, opportunities lost... and I never had any of these skills . Just "positive thinking" and other CBT stuff. I had spiritual communities that I was engaged in personal transformation dump me and reject me. No one wants to put up with me. and I am childless, and in a challenging relationship... I don't know if I am going to make it.. I need outside help and there is none really to be had. I have to try and again pick myself up and figure out how to fix all these problems. ..... and I have no money to do it.
I mean, I wanted to do residential day treatment >Can't afford it. I wanted to do group DBT.. all the classes are full. I am just trying to do some treatment with EMDR and I am stuggling with Co-pays.. it sucks.
It is a long way, but I am sure that you can help yourself. In the endeffect it is about emotional learning and learning how to unconcitionally love and accept and feel yourself. Just imagine, you were your own child you love the best you can. Start loving and learning with this child. Be your own good mother. And if you fail, start anew right after that not blaiming yourself for failing. Be patient. Go for it.Good luck!
The dbt skills workbook (I have the green one) is really helpful. It needs to be practiced and actually read for it to work though haha, I’m sure I’m notthe only one who struggles with persistence and resilience in that aspect. But I’m determined to keep going.
Dr. Linehan, I'll always be thankful to your work and research, as I had never gotten the clarity and help I had until I did a DBT program. Now I know that I can contribute to create my reality and deal with life in a better way. Thank you!
Seronin Aran - most people never get help, funding gets taken away, therapists get made redundant, waiting lists get cancelled, Only wealthy people get any help.
Thanks for good info! I learn that emotion regulation is a key to healing only after 35 years of suffering, searching and trying help, very frustrating. Why did o-one teach it me; ? Grateful to have found out about it, just sad to have lost great life time and health, opportunities.
I know what you mean, I feel I've wasted almost 30 years. Currently in a dbt program but can't help feeling angry I didn't get this kind of help much earlier.
@@marinapavli5178 look up DBT skills, there's ton of resources online nowadays that although do not compare to the full experience, can definitely help you achieve a better life
I wish there were more DBT classes Miss. Linehan, here in Ontario Canada theres just a few agencies that offer DBT and I find it really useful from watching youtube and I plan on taking it if I find a resource ..especially emotional regulation..may god bless you Miss Linehan
Its true but remmember that this process are also effective because the guide of a profesional theraphys i know it can be expencive but.. its really worthy !! ♡ wish you the best
There is a two-year waiting list for the DBT group where I live in Ontario. Very very poor mental health services in Ontario. Always a ridiculous limit on how many times you can see a social worker (like 3 to 6 times), and one-time consult visits with psychiatrists. Mental health services in Ontario are a disgrace, and lack of access causes incalculable suffering.
@@ellemint that's so sad to know. In BC there's a waitlist but generally you're able to get into the group (depending on their assessment of your condition due to "limited resources"). I strongly hope you can get the help and particularly DBT, although I understand access is scarce and difficult. It changed my life x
Mahalo amd aloha Marsha. Its been 4 yes of dbt and I no longer think about killing myself everyday. I never understood what "love ur self" means. I like myself amd the next ascension will be effective in different situations.
Being someone who has BPD... and if anyone who has the condition reads this... I would just like to try and balance this out a little... I get what the Dr is saying... but I feel this casts a very negative look on it... that the lows are lows and only lows... and yes... the lows are the stuff of nightmares... but the highs... the highs are out of this world... when you do have moments of love and happiness... and ecstasy... there's nothing like it.... I'm not saying the Dr is wrong or anything... I just feel this is focusing on the negatives and the negatives only... when I've found one thing I need... and other people I know who have BPD is a more balanced stable approach... it sounds cliché... but it's not all bad and you're not alone... but then what do I know?
I think her point could be “is it worth to have ecstasy - if after that you experience such a suffering”....so perhaps evening out a bit is more liveable....
1. Know what you're feeling; 2. Regulate your emotions: factors that make you vulnerable to being emotional (what happenned yesterday? Did you eat? Did you sleep?) prompting event (can you change it or not?) if you can't change it, check the facts (is your interpretation of the facts correct?)
Im from colombia and the truth is dbt basically changed everything in my life, is a strong process at the begining it was hard and got me tired the most of the time because it needs a lot from your side but .. in the moment it stared to work everything just went easier and better than ever i finished my whole dbt process a few months ago and its being awasome.. ♡ i wish you the best in your process ,patiente overall and a lot of selfcompassion !!
Someone please advise me. I seem to be, in my opinion, on the opposite end of the spectrum of how I handle my emotions. They are so easy for me to turn off or to ignore and thereby stop feeling them. I intellectualise often in order to stop feeling angry when I am triggered. I distract myself from some feelings when I do not want to feel them. When I feel a certain strong emotion, such as anger, and I feel it in my body, acting on it still feels very much within my control; so much so, that I am really convinced that either my reasoning mind will convince me to do otherwise, or I will act out my anger so as to release it; but that I get to choose which one of these options I will make; it isn't a total control; sometimes I do snap. I often think about how I can improve my life and what I can do concerning non-self-improvements and self-improvement topics. I am not a very spontaneous or artistic person, though I do appreciate the beauty of the natural world and human-art. One of the thoughts I have had multiple times in my life is that it is better to be the way I am, or to be as I aspire to be; which is very much in control of my emotions, than to struggle to control one's emotions. So often people with less emotional self-control acts out in a way that makes their life more difficult or undesirable for them. Their actions seem to be the opposite of wise actions. How can they be wise if they do not act wisely? I desire for other people to have a very strong emotional self-control too. I am convinced that many people would suffer much less in life if they could be a little more easy-going and be able to control or shut down some of their emotions such as anger and self-pity (along with the action of crying) or find a different way of experiencing them without lashing out at people around them or complaining to others about effects that resulted from their lashing out at others. I do not feel superior to people who are emotionally unstable. I do not feel that I am better than them or worth more than them as a person. I only believe that it would be better if they were more like me concerning emotional self-control. Someone tell me if I am mistaken, and why, if I am mistaken.
So im 30, i was diagnosed with BPD in 2017. Ive noticed i handled stress and frustration and negative fwelings increasingly worse as time goes by. Idk wtf if going on but it kind of scares me..
Hello! I'm a DBT therapist from Brazil and would like to translate/put subtitles in portuguese for that and other Marsha's videos. Can you allow that type of edition? Thanks!
Can a treatment for general anxiety disorder with escitalopram turn the disorder into some kind of BPD? Because I had GAD, and now I'm feel emptiness, I cut, I do impulsive things and then feel confused, all began when I started with lexapro. By the way, I'm seeing a doctor.
I don't think DBT is in anyway a panacea. If you can find anyone versed in Mentalization Based Therapy, I think it is very effective in dealing with the interpersonal challenges BPD presents. As well, if you can find a group or treaters with whom you really connect and who are offering up ideas that interest you and inspire you to explore... anyway, that might be a good litmus test for a direction to take. For me, DBT was useful in understanding the architecture of the diagnosis, but other modalities (like mentalization based therapy) really dug deeper for me into the challenge of deconstructing my own thoughts and feelings (as well as being curious about other peoples') experience so that I could begin to redirect my behavior.
I really struggle with DBT ...comming up to 3 mths in and my 1-2-1 seems intent on making me quit.. telling me its not for everyone. Have no rappor with them ..
@@echase416 I have news for you: Life = Suffering. Period. Acceptance is the LAST thing you want, if you want to try to improve conditions. Also, Tolerance = Enablement. You wouldn't have your nice little cell phone if people just accepted relay drums.
@@TheMercilessEye yeah.. easy for people to come and comment on others. I just remember monet saying ppl act as if they understand my art but in fact they don’t need it they only need to love it. So ppl act as if they understand others lives and situations whereas they could only be a helping hand. I remember a mean person who wanted to give me a gift- the first after knowing me 10 years!- and that was the book by Mayo clinic about chronic pain. And I had already told him I. Don’t need it but he was insisting. This is reality of human beings they just want to force what they feel it is okay to you
@@TheMercilessEye yea and I add:) wanting to force their ideas to others as if they know all contexts and situations. I don’t like the other comments from the other person that suffering is pain and not acceptance. Even though I have chronic pain myself and can reject this but I don’t like it not for myself but for the sake of others in a sense that I don’t allow myself to judge others pain and if they accept they don’t suffer. The person instead of judging should just work on developing their empathy or just not saying any thing that can hurt someone in pain . Have a nice day!.
I agree with her approach. My experience as a therapist, now retired, demonstrated that it is not an organic process. That many clients are aware of the why but are totally stuck in terms of the how to move into change
I could say DBT is one of the things that truly saved my life. I've been practising it full-time now for the past 1,5 year. I think it's just amazing, astonishing that one can create such a complex, smart form of therapy. It's just incredible. I'm beyond grateful.
Try DMT otherwise you're practicing horticulture and never planting a tree.
She is our savior, I just wish that more people would know about this, that's why I try to talk about it frequently within my close circle because even people without BPD would benefit a LOT from it!
Are you taking therapy?
@@georgegray2712 actually there is a hospital in my hometown that gives the training. It was always with a group of 10 people or so. I really feel that you need that connection with the other participants, you learn so much from that, it makes an enormous difference.
In this program, an individual coach is also a big part of the training.
I don't think i could do the training properly just by learning it from a book.
🙏🏽🤙🏽✌🏽 I get it. 4yrs of that book for me saved me! So very glad we r here. Aloha.
When Dr Linehan said: 'half of my patients when I ask them how they feel their answer is I have no idea, like looking at a fog' - WOW finally someone put in words what me and many others (diagnosed BPD) pretty much feel like every day.. I wouldn't say it's true 'depression' at first, but unfortunately quickly becomes that.
Iva Savic I felt the same way when I listened to her( also diagnosed BPD and GAD), “no idea how I feel”....but the lady who diagnosed me said noway depression as a diagnosis for you, the depression when you feel depressed it’s because of the BPD...
Exactly, this is it. You nailed it in your emphasis of this one sentence she said. I don’t think anyone can understand what that feels unless they’ve lived it. It is, in fact, very similar to looking at a fog.
Me, too. I was like: "Am I supposed to know how I feel?"
Having no words for feelings is called ‘alexithymia’. I can be measured using something called the Toronto Alexithymia Scale (or TAS). You can find out through Google.
When my therapist would talk about working on an emotion. I often thought of an invisible box. I had no idea what was in it but I had to figure it out.
She is already a legend. Our Borderline Queen😊
She makes me know this is just a human thing we have to do in moments....lol
This emotional disregulation can also come from people suffering from PTSD.
Also in ADHD and bipolar I think
I have CPTSD and DBT really helps.
Apparently even in GAD emotional tolerance can be very low. DBT is so helpful to a variety of mental health problems, I wish it was the standard for chronic conditions ^^;
Yes. I have C-PTSD and DBT really is helping me manage the emotionality and reactivity of subconscious triggers.
Bpd is usually a comorbidity to ptsd
1:20 - Emotional Literacy
1:39 - Emotion regulation and vulnerability factors
2:03 - Prompting event and interpretation
Thank you God for this woman!!!
No thank Marsha.
She is damn good and thanks.
Amen
Thank you, Marsha for everything you have done to help those of us with Borderline.
Thank you so very much for your work! I use a DBT Workbook for PTSD recovery, and today was hit by 5 triggers within a short time. That profound dread hit, and I cuddled up and had a chocolate, took some me deep breaths and got writing. Each trigger, one at a time, with its related cause and background vulnerability. I recalled a then & now categorizing somewhere, and specified that each trigger was from a trauma back then, but now I actually had far more resources in each area, and this calmed me down. Last, I made a list of the 2 problem areas in the now category...and got to work on one today. The difference between where this would have left me, and where I was now able to take myself today is astounding!
Amazing! Thank you so much for sharing this and explaining. I spent much time doing worksheets and they took me to a whole new plane of functionality. Anyway, hats off to you for the work you're doing...
Victoria Lewis Good for you, it is so important to write and to know your plan when you have triggers. Proud of you :)
What workbook did you use?
@@Ryanlee978 The DBT Workbook
Thank you for sharing your practical skills and how your diligence is helping you
I am 53. I was originally diagnosed sometime around 1978 with "severe anxiety neurosis" and this one page report could have been out of the BPD playbook. But I was 10. This was even before the DSM 3 came out in 1980. I was then, by 1980 diagnosed with ADHD and put on Ritaline nad Dexedrine. The next decades, I struggled ALOT but no one mentioned "emotional dysregulation" or BPD . I get that BPD is stigmatizing.. but I always felt that something BIG was missing with my diagnoses... in me.. and it was that piece... and now, I feel like too late.. I am broke, barely any money for therapy etc.. so many bridges burned, "friends" lost, opportunities lost... and I never had any of these skills . Just "positive thinking" and other CBT stuff. I had spiritual communities that I was engaged in personal transformation dump me and reject me. No one wants to put up with me. and I am childless, and in a challenging relationship... I don't know if I am going to make it.. I need outside help and there is none really to be had. I have to try and again pick myself up and figure out how to fix all these problems. ..... and I have no money to do it.
I mean, I wanted to do residential day treatment >Can't afford it. I wanted to do group DBT.. all the classes are full. I am just trying to do some treatment with EMDR and I am stuggling with Co-pays.. it sucks.
It is a long way, but I am sure that you can help yourself. In the endeffect it is about emotional learning and learning how to unconcitionally love and accept and feel yourself. Just imagine, you were your own child you love the best you can. Start loving and learning with this child. Be your own good mother. And if you fail, start anew right after that not blaiming yourself for failing. Be patient. Go for it.Good luck!
The dbt skills workbook (I have the green one) is really helpful. It needs to be practiced and actually read for it to work though haha, I’m sure I’m notthe only one who struggles with persistence and resilience in that aspect. But I’m determined to keep going.
Dr. Linehan, I'll always be thankful to your work and research, as I had never gotten the clarity and help I had until I did a DBT program. Now I know that I can contribute to create my reality and deal with life in a better way. Thank you!
My emotions are so high I can't even express myself. Plus it is hard when I'm calm cuz I don't feel anything
Emotional Dysregulation also comes from CPTSD, and I think that is the common factor in a high promotion of BPD.
Totally agree. Some more deep factors need to be look at. Ii wonder how are the programs? If they address CPTSD.
The UK has very much to learn from this lady..
Seronin Aran - most people never get help, funding gets taken away, therapists get made redundant, waiting lists get cancelled, Only wealthy people get any help.
So too do we Americans......clearly!
gonna watch this later. I have BPD so I have so much to learn.
I hear you. 🙏🏾🌎💜
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Thanks for good info! I learn that emotion regulation is a key to healing only after 35 years of suffering, searching and trying help, very frustrating. Why did o-one teach it me; ? Grateful to have found out about it, just sad to have lost great life time and health, opportunities.
I wish it was possible for me too.I don t think there s such help I can get in my country or my pocket...
I know what you mean, I feel I've wasted almost 30 years. Currently in a dbt program but can't help feeling angry I didn't get this kind of help much earlier.
@@marinapavli5178 look up DBT skills, there's ton of resources online nowadays that although do not compare to the full experience, can definitely help you achieve a better life
We use these videos to aid in teaching acceptance the clients really like this lady, great video
I wish there were more DBT classes Miss. Linehan, here in Ontario Canada theres just a few agencies that offer DBT and I find it really useful from watching youtube and I plan on taking it if I find a resource ..especially emotional regulation..may god bless you Miss Linehan
We also wish there were more resources out there. I think you are, sadly, expressing a common desire / wish of many.
Its true but remmember that this process are also effective because the guide of a profesional theraphys i know it can be expencive but.. its really worthy !! ♡ wish you the best
There is a two-year waiting list for the DBT group where I live in Ontario. Very very poor mental health services in Ontario. Always a ridiculous limit on how many times you can see a social worker (like 3 to 6 times), and one-time consult visits with psychiatrists. Mental health services in Ontario are a disgrace, and lack of access causes incalculable suffering.
@@ellemint that's so sad to know. In BC there's a waitlist but generally you're able to get into the group (depending on their assessment of your condition due to "limited resources"). I strongly hope you can get the help and particularly DBT, although I understand access is scarce and difficult. It changed my life x
Mahalo amd aloha Marsha. Its been 4 yes of dbt and I no longer think about killing myself everyday. I never understood what "love ur self" means. I like myself amd the next ascension will be effective in different situations.
So good, so helpful! People must be made aware there is help!
Being someone who has BPD... and if anyone who has the condition reads this... I would just like to try and balance this out a little... I get what the Dr is saying... but I feel this casts a very negative look on it... that the lows are lows and only lows... and yes... the lows are the stuff of nightmares... but the highs... the highs are out of this world... when you do have moments of love and happiness... and ecstasy... there's nothing like it.... I'm not saying the Dr is wrong or anything... I just feel this is focusing on the negatives and the negatives only... when I've found one thing I need... and other people I know who have BPD is a more balanced stable approach... it sounds cliché... but it's not all bad and you're not alone... but then what do I know?
I think her point could be “is it worth to have ecstasy - if after that you experience such a suffering”....so perhaps evening out a bit is more liveable....
Good point.....highs and lows.....
1. Know what you're feeling;
2. Regulate your emotions:
factors that make you vulnerable to being emotional (what happenned yesterday? Did you eat? Did you sleep?)
prompting event (can you change it or not?)
if you can't change it, check the facts (is your interpretation of the facts correct?)
I wish lol that we could have an indigenous approach also. Itd be so interesting and validating.
What about people that cannot afford the therapy but have been diagnosed? Watch more you tube or break more hearts?
Her memoir is interesting.
I have BPD and started DBT a few months ago, September?!
I think it's helping but would be interested to know others experiences.
thanks in advance
Can you find me on facebook? (Eva Habermann from Berlin) I will contact you to someone, who helps you.
oh well, just write me a message vvehela@gmail.com :) God bless
Im from colombia and the truth is dbt basically changed everything in my life, is a strong process at the begining it was hard and got me tired the most of the time because it needs a lot from your side but .. in the moment it stared to work everything just went easier and better than ever i finished my whole dbt process a few months ago and its being awasome.. ♡ i wish you the best in your process ,patiente overall and a lot of selfcompassion !!
Tiny changes add up.
came here cause i was about to cry and i didn’t know how to calm myself (my bf’s running late)
Thank you!
I am in DBT... not sure if it’s really helping me either...
Glue Sniffer thats a common feeling at the begining but have faith!! And you will see the changes when tou less imagine. Wish you the best♡
Takes years of therapy....
Someone please advise me.
I seem to be, in my opinion, on the opposite end of the spectrum of how I handle my emotions. They are so easy for me to turn off or to ignore and thereby stop feeling them. I intellectualise often in order to stop feeling angry when I am triggered. I distract myself from some feelings when I do not want to feel them. When I feel a certain strong emotion, such as anger, and I feel it in my body, acting on it still feels very much within my control; so much so, that I am really convinced that either my reasoning mind will convince me to do otherwise, or I will act out my anger so as to release it; but that I get to choose which one of these options I will make; it isn't a total control; sometimes I do snap. I often think about how I can improve my life and what I can do concerning non-self-improvements and self-improvement topics. I am not a very spontaneous or artistic person, though I do appreciate the beauty of the natural world and human-art.
One of the thoughts I have had multiple times in my life is that it is better to be the way I am, or to be as I aspire to be; which is very much in control of my emotions, than to struggle to control one's emotions. So often people with less emotional self-control acts out in a way that makes their life more difficult or undesirable for them. Their actions seem to be the opposite of wise actions. How can they be wise if they do not act wisely?
I desire for other people to have a very strong emotional self-control too. I am convinced that many people would suffer much less in life if they could be a little more easy-going and be able to control or shut down some of their emotions such as anger and self-pity (along with the action of crying) or find a different way of experiencing them without lashing out at people around them or complaining to others about effects that resulted from their lashing out at others.
I do not feel superior to people who are emotionally unstable. I do not feel that I am better than them or worth more than them as a person. I only believe that it would be better if they were more like me concerning emotional self-control. Someone tell me if I am mistaken, and why, if I am mistaken.
Thank You 💕😊❤️☺️💟☺️💟❤️☺️💟☺️💟
How many grade schools are teaching these techniques to kids ?
There's a state before that fog that can be beneficial
Nope, totally impulsive. Well, to me.
So im 30, i was diagnosed with BPD in 2017. Ive noticed i handled stress and frustration and negative fwelings increasingly worse as time goes by. Idk wtf if going on but it kind of scares me..
Hello! I'm a DBT therapist from Brazil and would like to translate/put subtitles in portuguese for that and other Marsha's videos. Can you allow that type of edition? Thanks!
RUclips stopped allowing that feature
@@AnnaSzabo a fellow Hungarian in the DBT therapy....
Please make Spanish subtitles
I know alcohol is effecting my progress, but it's hard to cut back further again, catch 22.
Can a treatment for general anxiety disorder with escitalopram turn the disorder into some kind of BPD? Because I had GAD, and now I'm feel emptiness, I cut, I do impulsive things and then feel confused, all began when I started with lexapro. By the way, I'm seeing a doctor.
I have bpd but dbt hasn't helped me much.
I don't think DBT is in anyway a panacea. If you can find anyone versed in Mentalization Based Therapy, I think it is very effective in dealing with the interpersonal challenges BPD presents. As well, if you can find a group or treaters with whom you really connect and who are offering up ideas that interest you and inspire you to explore... anyway, that might be a good litmus test for a direction to take.
For me, DBT was useful in understanding the architecture of the diagnosis, but other modalities (like mentalization based therapy) really dug deeper for me into the challenge of deconstructing my own thoughts and feelings (as well as being curious about other peoples') experience so that I could begin to redirect my behavior.
It probably won’t perhaps mentalization or schema therapy might help
I really struggle with DBT ...comming up to 3 mths in and my 1-2-1 seems intent on making me quit.. telling me its not for everyone.
Have no rappor with them ..
@@BorderlinerNotes names of practitioners in nyc?
What can one do if they can't afford DBT. Is there anything you can do on your own?
Links for Experimenting with Check List!!!🤔
Can any one explain what is meant by emotional regulation in simple words or synonyms
NOT overreacting - staying CALM when you experience distress!!
But how much does it cost to learn these strategies
The book is $15 on Amazon
I’m learning for free at home
It’s a WORKbook, you do the work
The mindfulness angle is a dead end, for a lot of people. She's only offered a partial solution.
Mindfulness involves observing without judging. People stay in suffering mode as long as they keep judging. Also Suffering = pain + non-acceptance.
@@echase416 I have news for you: Life = Suffering. Period. Acceptance is the LAST thing you want, if you want to try to improve conditions. Also, Tolerance = Enablement. You wouldn't have your nice little cell phone if people just accepted relay drums.
@@TheMercilessEye yeah.. easy for people to come and comment on others. I just remember monet saying ppl act as if they understand my art but in fact they don’t need it they only need to love it. So ppl act as if they understand others lives and situations whereas they could only be a helping hand. I remember a mean person who wanted to give me a gift- the first after knowing me 10 years!- and that was the book by Mayo clinic about chronic pain. And I had already told him I. Don’t need it but he was insisting. This is reality of human beings they just want to force what they feel it is okay to you
@@shahilagh "Nothing is the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and contientious stupidity." ---Martin Luther King.
@@TheMercilessEye yea and I add:) wanting to force their ideas to others as if they know all contexts and situations. I don’t like the other comments from the other person that suffering is pain and not acceptance. Even though I have chronic pain myself and can reject this but I don’t like it not for myself but for the sake of others in a sense that I don’t allow myself to judge others pain and if they accept they don’t suffer. The person instead of judging should just work on developing their empathy or just not saying any thing that can hurt someone in pain . Have a nice day!.
Is dbt only for people with borderline?
DBT can be useful for many diagnoses, including basic living challenges. It's likely to help even the healthiest of people.
For everyone it should be taught in school
@@caseywrad4430 exactly
princeroyce
Grandma judy looks like is using an aluase and never went to college.
Oh for pity's sake what is wrong with you?
WHY EVERYBODY TALK SHIT