Men and women are physically different from one another. Men are not "better" than women, and women are not "better" than men. Our differences compliment each other. We must respect our natural differences, and respect each other. Nothing can change our natural differences, and that's a very good thing. You can't change a lion into a bunny rabbit, no matter the delusion.
@Nostalgic I agree with you. I would add that it's okay for men or women to ask for support when they need it. Because I do think that as a society we have made it for men to not reach out when in need or that talking about their emotions is wrong. We're all humans living through life and sometimes it sucks and needing help to handle it for a bit doesn't mean you're less than.
@@technoloverish Tbh these “biblical gender roles” were based on our biological differences that were observed and considered the best way for humans to behave and persevere. It’s worked for thousands of years and now people are trying to unbalance it, thus quickly derailing everything Like it or not but the subversion of gender roles is doing a lot more harm to people than anything. Destroying masculinity is making a lot more men appeal to their own mental illnesses. The girlboss paradox is making women lonely and miserable, cuz they’re now forced to follow the same work hours as men. Deranged teachers are reinforcing this idea at schools now, making children confused and creating a whole army to support their ideologies, cuz they know children are sponges and can easily absorb whatever bs adults feed them. “Biblical gender roles” are also scientifically and statistically correct. Men who grew up being treated as women always reverted back to masculinity or traditional masculine behaviors, according to some studies. No one is reinforcing anything, “biblical gender roles” have been a part of society since the beginning of human history. It wasn’t even a thing until leftists made it into a problem, and now it seems like we’re regretting as a species
@@technoloverish What are you talking about? I never said that it should be illegal for people to be gay or for women to have jobs. I’m just saying that this is what the world has been for a long time. No one ever needed a bible to convince themselves of their masculinity or femininity, it was just an ingrained cultural thing that we grew up with. Gay people have existed for eons, they’re just reinforcing this idea more nowadays. I’m a pretty libertarian woman, so people have the freedom to be whatever they want, even idiots. Doesn’t block me from criticizing what they do though Gender roles have become more and more relaxed since the end of WW2, and that’s okay. The problem is when you try to demonize them as awful life styles that should never be explored, going on full extremes with the subversion to the point of actually damaging yourself and the group you’re part of And the thing with biology is that yes, people aren’t confined to their own in the case of gender roles. But it exists, and it becomes a problem when they start to escape it and deny biology exists to fit their own quotas, shitting on anyone who has opposing opinions. And also start treating their subjective feelings regarding biology as totally objective and real
@@capitallunar4053 and other gender roles and societal structures operated and worked for thousands of years before christianity or judaism erased history and were forced on other cultures.
I've had something similar with a gay coworker. I retaliated against him and got fired. I now wish, instead of just threatening him, I acted on the threat immediately
Yes and woman still put up with it. It's too much time and energy to go to HR. And no you don't have to be quiet about it. Just sl#p the heck out of him and keep doing your thing. That's the only punishment he/she will receive.
Yeah. A sign that Samuel Smith is dead, and in time, the "uel" will be replaced with an "antha" just to exclusively milk those under the umbrella, or shove people under the umbrella.
Dating should not be a hassle. Dating is just spending time with someone you love and care for, if you don’t feel that connection then it’s probably not worth it. That simple.
Well yeah i have stopped simping or doing anything to woman i have gotten lot's of compliments saying that I look hot and everything because of my hardwork but i just don't care i have been hurted , blackmailed and almost killed by the gfs i had so no i won't go back if anything i get mind sickness from it
I was raised as a masculine man and still consider myself such. However, I was also raised at the exact same time to respect women and treat them with a lot of respect in all situations. I am the door opening, first date paying type of guy. The problem I have trying to date now is that a lot of women have equated 150 sexual partners as girl power and I just find it very unlady like. When I express that I just get slammed with the girl oppression stuff and all that. I kind of just find myself in a society now where old values don’t fit in. I think old values is exactly what we need again, things have gone way to far.
Go to Saudi Arabia then. You'll totally love sex being illegal and getting killed for dating 😁😁 since it seems to be the type of society you want to live in.
I feel for that guy in the cowboy hat. I'm a woman who used to get sexually harassed at work on a near daily basis by my fellow employees and customers. It is genuinely taxing to constantly be analyzing your every move to avoid drawing unwanted attention to yourself. After the first time I was harassed, I started breaking dress code and leaving my shirt untucked to cover my butt and I stopped wearing a belt because I was afraid to be seen in form fitting clothes. I was a stocker and I learned to squat rather than bend over when reaching for things because a male coworker would always say something inappropriate to me when I did. I was leery about climbing ladders or lifting heavy objects because some of my coworkers took it as an opportunity to touch my backside while pretending to "help" me. Working in that kind of environment is extremely draining and uncomfortable. It is so disgusting that when a man reports sexual assault or harassment, it is not met with the same energy as when a woman reports the same experience. Wrong is wrong regardless of gender.
Something I find important for myself is that I and a lot of my online friends consider ourselves more emotional on average for most men, either because of personalities or problems- but we never considered each other less masculine as a result and we’ve built a sort of instinctual support group. Brothers help brothers.
I shaved my head for exactly that reason. My ex told me he would never date a bald woman. He wouldn't leave me alone. So I shaved my head. Now I am married with 2 lovely intelligent children, and I dye my hair crazy colors often, but I think that's a generational thing as I am a 90s baby
Todays society is extremely hard to navigate, in my opinion for everyone. Men always be told that they should show emotions, that they should not be masculine, that they should not do x, y, z. And when they do show emotions, they are shamed for it. When they are not masculine, they are shamed for it. There are women that are saying ”if he is not paying $300 on the first date, I will ghost him”. 1 big problem is that the extremes are always the one that are showing in media. Both traditional media and social media. It's the outrageous that gets clicks, comments, dislikes/likes so it gets pushed in the algorithm. While the logic more real content are just dissapearing. If a woman demands the guy pays $300 on the first date, that a coffee date or a walk in the park is not acceptable, if he doesn't pick you up in his brand new car he is a bum. What can men expect from women? Just to be clear. Men should not expect sex just because he paid alot of money. But can we expect that you are not inviting your friend to the date? Can we expect that you do not sit on your phone all date? Can we expect that you are polite and not ghost us the day after? Can we expect that you view us as a human being and not a walking atm? So all what men are seeing on social media today is you should be soft, but hard. You should be masculine, but not toxic masculine. You should be chivalrys, but if you are not enough we will just use you. And if I hold the door open for 1 woman, she can be offended because ”How dare you hold the door open for me? Don't you see me as a human that can open the door herself?” How can you navigate that? Then comes stories like Busta Rhymes recently. ”He reacted to much”? So a man is not allowed to react when a stranger grabs his butt? If the exact same thing had happened but swapped genders, the offender would get 5 years in prison? How is that even a topic? A man was SA-d in public, threw a drink in the persons face, and she is the victim(according to some. Most of the comments I've read about it says Busta reacted within reason)? In my opinion, what all men needs to learn. When you can be weak and when you need to be strong. It's a skill that you need to work up. ”ooh, a girl said a mean thing to me”. Chin up, be strong, be logical. Does it really matter? ”I feel lonely and like I have no one to talk to”. Come here, I'll listen without judgment. We also need to learn when to say man up and when to be a soft and understanding to each other. Because if you say man up to someone that really needs to talk. That can lead to very bad things. What is toxic masculinity? What is good masculinity? What is toxic feminity? What is good femininity? We need to start there, and actually be honest with each other. Because if you are saying that you want good masculinity and then only date men that are toxic. Then it is not mens fault, is it?
To the first part I have to say that it’s mostly men shaming other men for not being masculine or for being emotional. Men made this whole "we need to be stoic and emotionless" stuff up.
Ok. Whatever that hyper freak is going on about at the start is beyond me. The problem with the situation is simply that these feminists see ALL masculinity as "toxic." Someone should inform them that masculinity created the western world, eg, its brilliant inventions, government, medicine, pioneering spirit, etc.
Women say they want a feminine guy, but will always go for the masculine dudes. They literally don't know what they want. They are brainwashed into saying these things but don't truly believe in it.
I agree with you, people forget that in order for the feminine to exist the masculine is needed and the other way around, without the feminine and the musculine humans wouldn't exist. We must also keep in mind that while most inventions in most fields from science to politics were created by men but when using this argument people must also remember that for the majority of human history women were seen either as inferior or as stay at home mothers so pursuing an education or a career was impossible for them and therefore didn't have the knowledge to make such inventions. The only women who received education were from royal/very rich families and were a minority. I'm mentioning this because I've seen a lot of people using this argument as a way to belittle women and "prove" that women are inferior/not as smart as men.
Toxicity is not tied to masculine or feminine. Toxicity is it's own thing. If a man or woman is being toxic it's not "toxic masculinity" or "toxic femininity," it's just toxicity. Masculine and feminine traits are not negative ones. Anything toxic coming from people is neither of those things. It is just people being toxic despite what sex they are.
@H&P What has traditional masculinity accomplished? You're seriously asking that? Let's go through a few big examples, since the small ones would keep us here all year. Men led the space race in every nation, allowing humanity to finally touch the stars and opening the door for possibilities so vast, we can't even fully comprehend them yet. Men circumnavigated the globe, charting every continent and making contact with just about every human society on the face of the earth. Thanks to the work of men, I can drive from Seattle to LA in just under a day, or fly across the Atlantic non stop. Men also ended some of the worst practices on earth, and masculine attitudes of stewardship led Britain to make it their mission to end slavery worldwide after abolishing it locally. Masculinity in economics has lifted billions of people out of poverty and allowed billions to live who otherwise never would have existed if not for the technological and societal improvements pushed by men
I have one advice my grandpa passed to me when I was younger, if you're in relationship, and ur sec-half did/said something wrong in public, NEVER! and I mean NEVER! confront him/her around people, guests or YOUR KIDS! This way, u showing your partner no respect, and other will follow it, and do the same.
The non-binary person cutting off the guy saying he was sexually harassed in the workplace and saying what they said has me shaking my head. Men are just as subjected to SA as women, they just don't report it because of the stigma. Stereotypes go both ways. And maybe I'm bias because the first time I found out about a friend/family member that also experienced being assaulted (physically and mentally) was my MALE COUSIN. He was assaulted by his GF at the time and she put him in the hospital. To this day I'm fairly certain he never told the rest of our family. Most of the SA survivors I know personally are men. The reason people think women are assaulted more is because men are taught not to report it, even more so than women struggle to report it. Society has done BOTH sides dirty. And it almost feels like it's pining us against each other. Men and Women have different primal traits and those are meant to compliment each other. For community, protection, and reproduction. Period. Every person also holds a duality of masculine and feminine within themselves. I personally think when your inner world is off balance is when it's a problem. Sorry for the tangent. But Misha, thank you. Your videos are wonderful.
Thank you for bringing light to these issues Misha! I would never be aware of how bad things have become in our society today if not for you. Keep up the Good work! ❤️
when people say men don't cry i laugh at them. i mean we're all a product of our experience, maybe someone has a father or father figure that beat the hell out of them when they were growing up.. it's pretty normal for everyone to show emotion there's no shame in crying or letting it out.
@::Feukka:: I hear you, I heard that lots of times before to of "men don't cry, those who cries are pusseis" . Reality everyone cries just some show more than others. Like I also heard "real strong men do cry when they feel sad, that shows that they aren't afraid to show their emotions, compared to the others that tries to act and be tough".
I guess men aren't taught that they can be normal men and still be vulnerable. It's cool to be strong and protective, but still be able to cry and share their feelings with their loved ones.
I once shared my feelings with the woman who was my partner at the time. She told me that my feelings were wrong. She got dumped and I'm staying single.
The reason all these people are confused about masculinity is because they grew up without a father. Fathers teach their sons how to be a man. A boy raised by only a woman misses out on that.
Not really, it's the ideology, it's true that children need a father figure as much as a mother, especially men, but if you analyze years ago (even now) there were many single mothers who raised boys, and they didn't come out feminine, why? because the social rules of that time indicated women: feminine and men: masculine, but now the idea of gender has been perverted and many have changed their way of educating because many follow like sheep what society dictates, many young people and children are changing gender due to fashion, from what they see in social media, instead of because they need it, it has also changed that there is early exposure to digital media at a young age, an age of great emotional instability easy to manipulate
so why the men leave? It's th mother that are leaving it's the men. And why in times of wars where fathers were away their sons grew up just fine? trying to blame single mothers when they do so much for their kids is just false and sad. Men have the option to opt out from fatherhood and they do women don't. If you want to blame a parent it's the father.
@@nanomia In times of war, children were aware that their father's are away at war. It is when father's go away because the mother is a whore, or the father is immoral or irresponsible, is what can cause children to become confused about their masculinity and other foolish things. Furthermore, I did not say anywhere it was the mother's fault. There are many reasons why a woman becomes a single mother, sometimes the father's fault, sometimes the mother, sometimes both, but the statistics show that a household without a father is not good. And two fathers do not count, neither two mothers: both man and woman is what constitutes a marriage.
US women recently invented the trend of financially exploiting men by pretending to be romantically interested only to receive expensive food for free.
My parents have been married nearly 23 years (roughly half their lives), and their first date was at a macaroni grill because my dad had a gift card for it. They still talk about how good the food was. A date is meant to get to know someone better. My parents’ date was such a success because my mom went to learn who my dad was, not to get familiar with the amount of money he had. Turns out, he’s a great guy! Thanks for choosing a great dad, mom :)
I am metrosexual, which means I have a sense of fashion, and come off as gay, because of the way I talk, and act, except you are not actually gay. These bio guys take it to the next level acting like they have the same say as actual women. Yes I have femininity in me, but it doesn't mean I want to be a woman. I'm perfectly fine as a boy, and I'm not into guys.
Completely understandable. Feminine guys are a thing, but nowadays its so construed. To many it would mean your trans or nb or something else when it just means this how you behave, its not about gender, its just your personality which is where the problem lies. People treat their gender like its their personality, like its their entire thing. Gender is WHAT you are not WHO.
ah im into feminine stuff but im also very masculine lol since im into metal woo. what i do is mostly around guys and i just happen to like guys more than women.
We are still out here , but we have checked out. This isn’t a world we can or want to operate in. When men don’t want anything to do with you, we leave. Adult men don’t want drama, we don’t want to talk about it, or argue . We just leave . When presented with something so ridiculous and full of emotion , please don’t expect us to participate . We are busy providing for our family, being with like minded friends, and pursuing our interests.
You know that there are men who can be as emotional and less rational as women? Men take up the majority of crimes, do you think those crimes were made by mature men?
@@TheKing-qz9wd you are correct but if you look at what media and popular culture is pushing, that's what I speak of . We don't want any part of it . If you do, fine, do your thing , but I wont participate in it and neither will my family . We have our own circle where that world doesn't exist.
When you keep your head busy with your own life and personal relationships, dramas and controversial situations suddenly become a lot more irrelevant for you
The same-sex attracted guy is spot on regarding how his lack of a father makes him look for men to fulfil that gap in his life and he is being totally honest. I respect that. I experienced the same thing when I was SSA.
What sad world we are living in! Listening to these men and how you explain different scenarios makes me appreciate being older. My heart hurts for young people today so confused and chaotic. I personally think social media is making people brain dead and just being sheep following the trends. Just heartbreaking.
Tate's popularity is a result of that famous pendulum swing feminists love to talk about. You know... the one that almost never swings back the other way.
Just found your channel so I'm binging. I have to tell you that you are definitely a "breath of fresh air" after all the usual lunatics we encounter on social media. You are young but so together and intelligent! I really enjoy your outlook on things. Keep up the great work!
There's no such thing as "toxic masculinity." People can be all different kinds of toxic and it's not tied to what kind of chromosomes they have. If someone is being toxic, they're being toxic. Period.
my idea of toxic masculinity is like guys shouldnt cry or show emotion. It's basically the role of men in society that reduces and removes their ability to express themselves in a productive way. "Men dont cry". Or they can't be raped. Many examples. It defiantly is real.
@@somebodyoncetoldme2664 Except men don't typically cry. It's just not something men do. Besides, there are plenty of healthy ways to show emotion without doing much. Most northern cultures have figured it out. Slavic men, whether Russian, Polish, even Czechs, who are as much Germanic as Slavic, don't outwardly express emotion, but they are still fully emotive. Watch one of their war movies, you'll see exactly what I mean. There can be intense emotions with barely a movement
@@filmandfirearms Idk about them and dont care eneough tbh so Imma stick to western culture. But yeah men don't cry as much as women but they still feel the same emotions without physical representation of it. But they are still crying just without producing tears as easily. But my point still stands that the expression of emotions for men is reduced because of toxic masculinity pushed by everybody. How does toxic masculinity not exist then in the case I just said or in any other topic?
There are a lot of expectations for men. Women almost always get a pass for everything. 😢 He wasnt complaining about holding the door for the female, he was saying that females expect a lot. 🤦♂️
Finally! Thank you Misha for talking about healthy masculinity without shaming men who don't fully conform to masculine roles. Men should accept their masculinity without shaming other men for not being as masculine as they are. As a gay man, I find it extremely insulting when a guy identifies as nonbinary because they are not "masculine enough." Men and women should be allowed to embrace both their masculinity and femininity without changing their gender.
Keep it up Misha. You are bright, beautiful and fiercely honest... all of which are seriously lacking, particularly in your age group. I thought mine was bad ( I just turned 40, to place myself age-wise.) you are one brave girl... and I truly respect you. On the " Non-Binary" BS, ya know, in High School I was pretty androgynous. It was a simple and clearly defined meaning and had been for centuries. Literally from the early 1600s until about 5 minutes ago... we were simply androgynous.
The problem in my eyes started when we slowly normalized hyper sexualizing homosexuality. I think the new James Bond was the trojan horse, the last movies in the Daniel Craig series seemed a little off. I remember watching Ralph the movie maker review of one of them, he critiqued the intro song and it did seem really off. Fast forward into today, same dude who did that song literally created video vomit for any hetero or mild mannered person. It's just raw shock for attentions sake, but young people are most vulnerable to this form of stealth entertainment.
@@stephenblack5425 For a James Bond opening theme, yea it sounded pretty gay now that I think about it. Not that there is anything wrong with that just kind of strange they'd pick James Bond, a sly woman loving spy. But I guess since Daniel Craig is gay that was the intention, just something I didn't know.
@@trevinsingh9390 Daniel Craig might be Bi but he's definitely not gay because he's married to a woman. And as for that Sam Smith song, yeah that song sounds quite gay but it also sounds very mysterious, tragic and royal that perfectly suits the tone of Daniel Craig James Bond movies.
Must say I'm shocked that nobody mentioned how nasty and shady it was of the non-binary guy to minimize Christian and his struggles/trauma regarding his father not being present. Calling it "that Freudian daddy issue stuff" is just so condescending in my opinion, and just because Christian doesn't have the same viewpoints or mindset as him, he felt comfortable enough to behave that way. I'm sure if it was someone who was more similar to the non-binary guy regarding ideology and beliefs, the reaction wouldn't have been the same. Men, masculine or not, face all kinds of struggles throughout their lives and it's so disheartening to see that until they finally speak up (especially in forums as public as this one and with total strangers), they're just putting each other down.
I have to say, a little tip for men, don't pay for things till the girl has demonstrated they actually have some basic level of commitment. It is a simple case of not being naive.
Ok cool, all he listed there is the "bare minimum" for men, being funny, having something going for yourself, some stories to tell, being interesting, opening doors, pulling out chairs, the sidewalk walking, making sure she's safe, all of this is the bare minimum for men, agreed. Now can you please list for us "the bare minimum" for women?
"Oh NO... Fathers are NOT needed in the family" 🤨...I've always been secure in my identity. A LOT of that has to do with (being lucky enough in my life) having MASSCULINE role models to look up to. My rule in life passed down to me is to be the type of man that I would want my Mother, my Grandmothers, my Nieces, MY WIFE to encounter when they go out into the World... Stoic, grounded, confident, reliable, responsible, protective, helpful, mannered and cultured, humorous... and yes, at times aggressive and forceful if the situation calls for it. But with the preconceived notions MOST modern women have been brainwashed into having about men like me, WE are seen as the problem AND continuing cause of their perceived victimhood and issues.... You can't be a man these days. They won't LET YOU be one. And it starts as young as they can by treating males as 'defective girls' in our society.....
fatehrs are needed in the family ebcuase that lkeads to crime. Chidlren who grow up without a ftaher ar emor elikeley to run awya from home, drop out of school anbd turn to crime
the whole male SA victims being ignored really sucks especially when there are videos of women talk about it as a joke or in extreme cases talking about it as an employer and saying he won't be listened to...
1:51 Misha, you hit the nail on the head there: If you think you're being used, don't go on a second date. Simple! You don't click w/ someone, just don't go around them (if possible).
@@userequaltoNull Yes, teacher I know what that means. Do YOU know what it means when someone holds up 3 fingers and says, 'read between the lines' ? No need to be patronizing, dude!
I don't think that masculinity is dying, I just think that many people get caught up in their gender as if it were their complete identity. In my case, I am a woman, but I focus on the things that make up for my identity to feel like myself. So for example, I may not wear lots of jewelry and makeup but that doesn't make me any less of a woman because I my femininity in a way that is right for my identity. I don't know if i expressed correclty my point.
i love how some random flamboyant dude announces that he's non-binary and everyone else in the room either doesn't know what that means or thinks "that's nice"
I'm 70 years old, and I can honestly say I have no idea what the he'll is happening in the world today . We seem to have got to the stage where we have to believe anything we're told . I no longer know what a woman is . Fat people are not fat, and if I get a pronoun wrong . The pronoun police will get me . I'm living in a world where common sense and free speech no longer exists.
This video is very interesting. The guy who admits he needs a masculine male because he lacked that in his upbringing is so real, that’s all I needed to hear. But people in the lgbtq suppress this reality, unstable role models, divorced parents or a missing parent can all lead to various ‘problems’. This is one of them!
As a woman, I've always held the door open, paid for meals, and done most of what men are "expected" to do, for anyone regardless of gender, without expecting that same treatment from any human being. It wasn't taught to me. It came naturally. I will never think it's the "bare minimum" for a man to do anything for me. If he does do it, I always say thank you. I am not entitled to any thing anyone does. Live your life like that and you will be happier and grateful.
The explosives device expert does not complain about opening the door. He is describing female entitlement. When a man goes on a first date, he's aware that it's all about being polite, paying, making the girl laugh - except one thing: his fun. When expectations are too high, the squeeze is not worth the juice anymore.
I love the confident and generally logical style of Misha's content. I hope she finds the time to research facts and data to support her claims, at least sometimes. Regarding her 10:24 comment, "It is more likely for a man to sexually harass a woman than vice versa"...there may be statistical evidence for this, but it seems unlikely that such statistical evidence would be genuinely representative of what really happens (not that I particularly doubt her claim). When we think of sexual harassment, perhaps most of us automatically envision a woman being the butt of gross "jokes" or non-consented inappropriate behaviours; so usually a man answering the question, "have you ever been the victim of sexual harassment?" will just answer "no" because they think that being touched by a woman without permission isn't serious enough to count, or they just don't feel entitled to be seen as a victim because we tend to presume a male to be the perpetrator.
7:46 I totally agree, I have been identifying as a trans man for about 1 year (I was 15, now I am 16), I was born a woman, I have not had any surgeries/hormones (thankfully). Recently, I have realised that I am far too young to decide if I want to change. In school, I was taught that your identity changes until you are 30, so if I feel like a man until I am 30, I am probably trans. But if I just feel like a woman until then, I'm definitely a woman. Not to mention, there are many kinds of women. I don't have to be glittery to feel like a woman.
I mean everyone in general should strive to have a good grasp on their emotions. Instead of promoting a certain standard for each gender, I think we should promote good emotional support for all in accommodation. Having healthy communication between each respective party is the best thing you can do to be understanding of each other and improve each individual’s wellbeing. Focusing on caring for the person should be the priority. I’ve seen more dissatisfaction on guys’ ends from being emotionally neglected than anything else in relationships and that is due to this block. I think if you love someone, it should be about their well-being as an individual before focusing on the shtick of “provider” and “nurturer”. If the person is fed and housed but doesn’t feel seen, are they really being taken care of? If someone gives you 5 bucks and that’s them giving you their all but another throws a k in your face cause they wanna fulfill a role, who’s putting more love into it. Measuring the “providing abilities” is stupid in that imo, where the focus should be on the person being a good partner for their heart not their wallet. If the 5 bucks guy could, he would give you way more than a k cause he already gave you himself. That’s why being emotionally present and mature trumps all these arbitrary notions. Besides that, I like your approach to this
I mean the 1k guy sounds far more financially secure, which is important whether he's in a relationship or single. That shows competence and drive. Gender roles are healthy for a society, it sets standards for the sexes dictated by the broader society. They are best when they align with the instinctual behavior of the sex in question. Our current problems are gender roles that are contrary to our instincts, as well as a lack of gender roles.
@@Indypotter1 if you see a person on the basis of this measurement of value then you should hold yourself to that standard if they “find someone better” rather than value you as an individual Additionally, every person takes the role they are most fitted for. That is something intrinsic. But, managing emotions is a constant. Anger is an emotion. Happiness is an emotion. Sadness is an emotion. Everyone experiences emotions and that isn’t dictated by your body parts. Both have hormonal cycles that are of different intervals, but that doesn’t mean either is exempt from learning how to manage them. It’s shit that woman are excused for jealousy and men for anger for example. A man switching from rage to laughter in minutes is him being moody. That is completely normal. However, being a mature individual with self control is important. We are taught to suppress or over express rather than manage. This more logical and more emotional faf is garbage since everyone is inherently emotional, we’re just taught to express it differently. I’m saying, learn to manage it. That’s way more constructive.
@@AndresPrez well there is no homogeneous society on a global scale, is there? Not even one across time. If you’re opposed to people learning to manage their emotions on both sides and would rather everyone bud heads all the time, have that be your perspective. That’s not very constructive, tho. If you don’t endorse liking your spouse that’s on you, but it’s nice to love the person and not the construct for a change. Roles are fine, but having them be everything is not
@@luna13moth There's always a predominant philosophy and certain ideas that should shade this main one..... Your ideas are ridiculous if you push them as the main one... it's the predominant ideology being pushed right now and it's part of the reason why we're having these problems. Stoicism should be the main philosophy. ..Not your "accommodation at all cost" ideology
Well done, Misha! Many of these things are- ужас. :) Growing up in a Serbian household, I was taught that men should be able to take care of women because it's an honorable thing that helps you be even more masculine. This is how, in my opinion, a man shows he truly cares about you- therefore, he is also able to show his emotions in a healthy, productive way. Women, on the other hand, will take care of the whole family even better when they feel protected- and this is how the whole family stays safe and sound, especially the children. The children in question will also have good role models in this way. Whenever I would mention going out with someone to my grandma, she would always ask two things- "Is he a good man?", and "Can he fix anything around the house?", which pretty much sums up everything I have explained so far. :)) I would also like to add that both "healthy" masculinity and "healthy" femininity are shown in someone's character, not someone's clothes.
As a man in Gen Z we need more masculinity in our Generation seriously Boomers who fought in WW2,Baby Boomers working hard,and Gen X with the cool masculine TV Shows like A-Team and Magnum P.I the 80s man was awesome!
War does not equal masculinity. How can one call oneself a man when wanting to cause suffering to other men, women, and children? That’s quite a radical and extreme view to have, and I would honestly work on reevaluating it.
You guys are are putting words in my mouth I didn't mean to say War makes you a man what I'm trying to say to the Boomer Men were brave fighting in WW2 there bravery is what makes them masculine.
And I'm not fetishizing war! Seriously why aren't you trying to get what I'm saying here.🤦♂️ In a nutshell men in our generation need to be masculine again.
@@FTChomp9980 So, in the absence of war (which I'd hope we all agree is a good thing), how does a man demonstrating bravery manifest itself? Personally, my life is free of having to defend myself from enemy soldiers, charging bears, or random muggings, and I quite like it that way. Does that mean I'm not a man because I don't have an enemy to fight?
@H&P The source doesn't matter if it is true, which it demonstrably is. Weak men are being created by the use of "toxic masculinity." If you can convince a man he is toxic, you attack his heart and steal his strength.
I think the whole stigma behind men crying or showing any type of sadness being a sign of "weakness" is actually dumb. Newsflash: men are not emotionless cyborgs. Like, I'm a guy, if I watch a movie or show and something sad happens like a beloved main character dies or there's a reuniting of a long separated couple, imma be bawling my eyes out. I don't care what other guys might say, if I start tearing up over something sad, just let me be.
The guy with the hat breaks my heart I'm so sorry that he had to be sexually harassed. I know too well that reaction of "haha awesome you should be happy" in response to men being sexually harassed, assaulted, raped, or even little boys and their predatory female teachers. It's a disgusting double standard.
In terms of men being less emotional and more logical that's a fallacy tbh. Women have hormones but so do men, if your argument is on the basis that men have androgens so do women. But to much testosterone is linked actually to implusivity and aggression which is low key an emotion. They only time I could say a women is more emtional than a man in regards to something like that is when she's pregnant.
Came here caus you replied on one of my comments. 😜 Agreed! 💯 There are times in the monthly cycle of a woman where she might be a bit more emotional. Depending on the Person. But men go through cycles too. Just much „faster“. In a Single day. This argument is very old and has since been debunked many times. Funny how some people bring it back…
I'm new to your channel and new to this way of thinking. I've been really liking your more rational approach to social issues! I am glad that I am now approaching 25 and finally maturing enough to realise that I don't have to agree with everything the SJWs and wokes are saying. Great videos!
For the first time I disagree with some Misha points in this video the main one being paying for dates. Personally with equality comes financial stability for both genders/sexes and if that is truly something that society strives for then the old traditions of when women were more oppressed have to be less prevalent in todays western culture. I took my current girlfriend to the park for our first date and then costa for our second. Cost effective 🤣🤣At the end of the Misha is a very young intelligent women but her worldview/perspective will never fully represent what young men go through on the dating market and vice verse because I'm never going to truly know what women go through on the dating market as well
There are many studies showing that women are now making equal or more money than men, on the average. Economic equity is a great thing, but if we have that, it means that "it's the man's obligation to pay" really should get thrown out the window.
Life can be infinitely complicated, if one wants it be so. But men are men and women are women. Finding balance and doing the right actions is the cure Demonizing one of both polarities is toxic and utterly destructive.
I understand that women being selective is a good thing, because it is otherwise they'd be at risk of being manipulated. But as a man the return on dating culture, and I hate to use the word as it's expecting something for being nice, which isn't how being nice should work, but I have no better way to describe it, is simply not worth it at all, the effort you need to put in these days just to be noticed is simply not worth it at all for even the best case scenario so I choose not to partake in it at all.
Being more feminine or masculine isn’t about being female or male. It’s not even about what freaking colors you like or if you like make-up or not - that’s what society created. Every human, man or woman, has feminine and masculine energy. Also being male or female isn’t a personality trait as some people like to treat it nowadays.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
From peronal experience I can tell that men should strive to be as masculine as possible. I've gotten so much happier by taking actions to become more masculine, its like night and day honestly. When you become more masculine as a man, you can be proud of yourself and have a constant fire burning inside you which feels so great
It is the fact that men will complain about doing the bare minimum but at the same time, they want a traditional woman. 2+2 is not equaling 4 like make it make sense.
The first guy wasn't complaining about having to do those things. He was saying how each woman will subjectively judge him on certain things. But it's a guessing game as to what those things are, so we're expected to be everything at all times. And the next day, when he gets ghosted, he starts to become disillusioned as to why even do those things. In his mind, he did all the right things. How confusing to be on a gay date. I mean, did the two men argue on who's more masculine, so they can figure out who pays the bill? Men do not cheat more than women. Statistics show that it is pretty much even. But if you really want to be nitpicky, women initiate divorce 80% of the time. So women are responsible for breaking up 80% of all broken homes.
Men have more sex? Well maybe homosexual men, but heterosexual sex takes one male and one female... so men and women are having exactly the same amount of sex.
The words that are missing are “some” and “most”. Some men have more sex than most women. But the opposite is also true. There are definitely some women who have way more sex than most men …
If you think she's using you for money, don't even go on a first date. Some women have admitted to only going on first dates for free restaurant food. The guy is ALWAYS expected to pay for the first (if not much more), no matter how much a feminist the woman claims to be.
Women wanted equality, so they joined the workforce. This means they should always pay for themselves. Everything is too expensive nowadays for men to pay for women on the first date.
Nowadays I am DEFINITELY not paying for first dates, luckily I am not in the dating game anymore and I have an amazing woman, but damn I feel bad for men in the dating game nowadays, I saw a video just the other day about woman who didn't have to buy herself dinner for a year buy playing on dating apps and having a new date every night.
Good thing there is a growing trend of actual men preserving masculinity in this country. As with history past, the weak will get weeded out, and the strong will persevere.
MP: after watching more of your content, I continue to be impressed with your clear thinking. I really hope your family is proud of you - I would be, because it is just so rare to find a young adult with so much good going on in the mind. Now I don't know a thing about you other than what you choose to share, but I can say that if I was in your peer group, you would be someone I admired and would like to learn more where all this comes from. When I was in college, I could hardly think of any of my peers examining life with such rational thought and common sense - or myself for that matter. You have won my respect. And I will hold the door for anyone
Misha..... 1)there is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Those behaviors are toxic regardless of a man or woman behaving that way, but that does not make masculine or feminine toxic... those behaviors are not masculine or feminine.... they are just toxic. 2)doing the bare minimum is not a problem. The problem is that men are expected to be traditional toward women with a body count higher than their own age which is not traditional. Women can go have as many partners as they wish, but they have to confess that they have traded in their traditional self for something else and have thus traded in their right to expect to be treated traditionally. You, having never gotten into hook up culture, have not traded in your traditional values and therefore can expect to be treated traditionally. Furthermore, it is a frustrating experience being traditional toward a woman and then being chastised for opening a door or walking on the street side of the sidewalk, etc. and that is the combination lock that is difficult to figure out when you want to date women. A man should not expect anything in "personal favors" for a date but the kind efforts of a man on a first date do deserve more than a ghosting... a simple phone call saying you do not want a second date would be sufficient for a man. 3)a woman should be selective, but she does not bare a burden alone. A woman has rights that a man does not... she can opt to cancel the pregnancy or carry to term and then go leave the child at a fire station and walk away without consequences.... how is it she can abandon her child at a fire station and not go to jail, but men are serving jail time for refusing to pay child support for a child that is not their own biological child and was conceived with another man when she cheated on her husband? 4) MEN do not talk about their feelings.... because women will mother a son and loose respect for a husband for the same behaviors. This is a man's burden. Our ability to manage our emotions is the trade we make to be a head of a household. Boys have not been taught this in households lead by a mother who divorced the father and got sole custody by a court system that favors mothers. There are even instances where mothers put children up for adoption without consulting the father when he would gladly have taken sole custody. If the myth of men not wanting to care for their children is true... then why is there even a term "custody battle"? 5)a woman in a workplace that wants to be treated equal to a man in a work place should never be sexually harassed... but when she is the harasser? She should be treated like a man. And men's way of treating other men do not involve a HR department. Women want to be treated equally in terms of power but want special treatment in terms of responsibility and accountability... and that is the problem. I like you Misha. You are respectable. You make good, thoughtful and intelligent content. However, just as womanhood should be defined by women... manhood should be defined by men. This blurrung of the gender lines started in the early foundations of f-ism. Men had no part in the making of this mess... and we really should not be participating in it or the clean up as far as I am concerned.
I support the concept that men should be allowed to show emotions, talk about their struggles and stop viewing femininity as weak. Men are human, not emotionless machines. However, there is a difference between embracing humanity and being woke.
That was quite a collection of its. I hope every single it finds peace and happiness, while having no influence whatsoever on communities or anyone in them, especially our kids.
Misha, do please analyze the Calhoun Experiment. Have you heard of it? We are simply living it now. It has become an intractable reality and frankly... I could not care less anymore.
i feel like all of us more right-leaning people should be accepting of gender non conforming people (men who wear dresses etc). cause if people don‘t feel like they can express themselves the way they want, they‘ll end up inventing more of these crazy labels & genders which is honestly the last thing we want right? love you misha ❤
@H&P I beg to differ with the idea that "toxic masculinity" is to blame. If we deeply analyze the situation of troubled men who end up becoming criminals of some sort, we'll find out that in most cases it either stems from abuse or neglect during their childhood, leading them into a dark path. Feminists think that this sort of behavior is rooted in "toxic masculinity" however, this isn't the bigger issue we have in hand. Men can cry, sure. HOWEVER: 1. Crying is not a replacement for professional help. The truth is that the resources available for men who suffer abuse is shockingly low. 2. Men feel like they have to rely on themselves because they ABSOLUTELY have to. When you tell them that they can be THAT vulnerable, you're leading them into a false sense of security over something that really isn't there. 3. When we have such high numbers of men suffering from mental health issues it is disingenuous to say that they don't seek for help. It's not that they don't, but nobody truly listens, plus refer to points 1 and 2 for this. Feminists have been "challenging the patriarchy" and "gender norms" for AGES now. However, the one thing that has stayed relatively consistent is, yet again, the almost non existent resources for male victims of abuse. What have they done about this? Not much really, if anything they are both the quickest to shut down conferences on male mental health and being the biggest opposition to increasing the funding for male victims of abuse, as they can't stand the idea of funding things for men. But they say "men can cry" and call it a day so that means they must be good right? Right? Have you ever wondered why the research on male victims of domestic abuse is so limited? (Some) feminists have actively worked towards the erasure of male victims by threatening everyone who even thinks about doing so. With this in mind it begs the question: Are we aiming wrong? Is it deliberate?
8:30 thank you 👌👌 that is so important. i really struggled with my identity as a man (not that i questioned that i'm a man but more on what that means to me) in my late teens and early 20s. Over the time i realized that the thing defining me as a person (and a man) is, to not give a fuck and do my thing. I have some traits and interests which are traditionally considered masculin (V-shaped body, adventurous, heterosexual, dominant in bed, very good at hookups, surfing skilled with woodworking and repairing at least for an academic, like guns, rock music and beer) and some considered either feminine or just non-masculin (like fashion sometimes very masculin, sometimes flamboyand; like to spend time with female friends; like literature and poetry; not interested in cars, mainstream sports or fitness, not interested in a longer lasting relationship, more agreeable than dominant or confrontative with other people, not interested in career, probably more non-masculin then masculin...). When i accepted that the traits and interests which aren't considered masculin belong to me and won't go away and realized that there is no point in hide them or play a role, i knew i was a man the way i am. Everything comes with advantages and disadvantages and most of the time you can't have both, but having non of them because one is failing at pretending to be someone else is the worst of all outcomes. There are plenty of people who like me how i am and see me as a very interesting person to be around. While i maybe could never get tge respect of some gymbros or have a chance with a woman who wants the traditional standards; the very muscular army guy won't get the respect of some of my intellectual friend and won't have a chance with women looking for something alternative (and its not only ugly unfeminine women, there are always beautiful and interesting ones who look for some intellectual input or the adventure type). For myself i decided to not found a family. I don't want kids and i don't wan't a (traditional) relationship. I need much free space and flexibility, until now i didn't really felt the need for a relationshit. But if that changes, i would wan't someone who i do not have to care too much for, who has a certain level of independece and brings her own experiences with her, who i can share the gokd moment with and support each other in the bad ones. I'm not the "wifey at home" type of guy. With kids: I don't feel the need to have some, i don't like them too much and i am ready to miss all the great feelings as a dad for the benefit of not having the disadvantages. Better not to be a father/mother, than to be a bad one. My brother will get kids anyway, so the bloodline is secured 😂
I mostly agree however, most men being less emotional than most women doesn’t mean they‘re more logical. Emotional doesn‘t necesarily mean irrational. You can Express your emotions while still being logical.
I hold the door open for women and men. It's literally a common courtesy.
Exactly, I was raised to be kind and polite strangers as a woman. So that's what I do.
Especially old folks with a walker
Same. I've been also told to stand up and offer my seat in a public transport to elder folks, pregnant women and people with crutches
I dont hold the door for anyone. Except maby an eldery person who is fragile.
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And witch hunters
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Men and women are physically different from one another. Men are not "better" than women, and women are not "better" than men. Our differences compliment each other. We must respect our natural differences, and respect each other. Nothing can change our natural differences, and that's a very good thing. You can't change a lion into a bunny rabbit, no matter the delusion.
@@technoloverish Exactly, no one should be forced into anything. Treat others like you want to be treated
@Nostalgic I agree with you. I would add that it's okay for men or women to ask for support when they need it. Because I do think that as a society we have made it for men to not reach out when in need or that talking about their emotions is wrong. We're all humans living through life and sometimes it sucks and needing help to handle it for a bit doesn't mean you're less than.
@@technoloverish Tbh these “biblical gender roles” were based on our biological differences that were observed and considered the best way for humans to behave and persevere. It’s worked for thousands of years and now people are trying to unbalance it, thus quickly derailing everything
Like it or not but the subversion of gender roles is doing a lot more harm to people than anything. Destroying masculinity is making a lot more men appeal to their own mental illnesses. The girlboss paradox is making women lonely and miserable, cuz they’re now forced to follow the same work hours as men. Deranged teachers are reinforcing this idea at schools now, making children confused and creating a whole army to support their ideologies, cuz they know children are sponges and can easily absorb whatever bs adults feed them.
“Biblical gender roles” are also scientifically and statistically correct. Men who grew up being treated as women always reverted back to masculinity or traditional masculine behaviors, according to some studies.
No one is reinforcing anything, “biblical gender roles” have been a part of society since the beginning of human history. It wasn’t even a thing until leftists made it into a problem, and now it seems like we’re regretting as a species
@@technoloverish What are you talking about? I never said that it should be illegal for people to be gay or for women to have jobs. I’m just saying that this is what the world has been for a long time. No one ever needed a bible to convince themselves of their masculinity or femininity, it was just an ingrained cultural thing that we grew up with. Gay people have existed for eons, they’re just reinforcing this idea more nowadays. I’m a pretty libertarian woman, so people have the freedom to be whatever they want, even idiots. Doesn’t block me from criticizing what they do though
Gender roles have become more and more relaxed since the end of WW2, and that’s okay. The problem is when you try to demonize them as awful life styles that should never be explored, going on full extremes with the subversion to the point of actually damaging yourself and the group you’re part of
And the thing with biology is that yes, people aren’t confined to their own in the case of gender roles. But it exists, and it becomes a problem when they start to escape it and deny biology exists to fit their own quotas, shitting on anyone who has opposing opinions. And also start treating their subjective feelings regarding biology as totally objective and real
@@capitallunar4053 and other gender roles and societal structures operated and worked for thousands of years before christianity or judaism erased history and were forced on other cultures.
The male sexual abuse part is so real. I’ve had my female bosses do some pretty disgusting shit and I just have to stomach it.
I've had something similar with a gay coworker. I retaliated against him and got fired. I now wish, instead of just threatening him, I acted on the threat immediately
You mean hit them in the stomach?
I can agree with this, especially in the fast food industry.
@@Name.......... Tbh people think they can do more to ppl working 5-9. Cos they look at them inferior.
Yes and woman still put up with it. It's too much time and energy to go to HR. And no you don't have to be quiet about it. Just sl#p the heck out of him and keep doing your thing. That's the only punishment he/she will receive.
Just watching the non-binary guy and the guy in the cowboy hat roll their eyes at each other is worth the time.
Yeah. A sign that Samuel Smith is dead, and in time, the "uel" will be replaced with an "antha" just to exclusively milk those under the umbrella, or shove people under the umbrella.
My exact reaction when I saw the nb guy
Cowboy Curtis had no place at that table
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Society need taliban again
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I always believe in not letting society tell people how to be masciline or feminine. Just be authentic and true to yourselves
So you mean you don't care about that parameter ?
@@AndresPrez yes
@@aw_1890 ah ok......I get it.
I'm a feminine male but I despise feminism and have no problem with masculinity even though I don't prefer it
You will see once you start acting true to yourself confidently, you show your most masculine side ;)
Dating should not be a hassle. Dating is just spending time with someone you love and care for, if you don’t feel that connection then it’s probably not worth it. That simple.
we are in the 4th turning..."weak men create hard times," and it will take "strong men to create good times."
Well yeah i have stopped simping or doing anything to woman i have gotten lot's of compliments saying that I look hot and everything because of my hardwork but i just don't care i have been hurted , blackmailed and almost killed by the gfs i had so no i won't go back if anything i get mind sickness from it
Sadly, I don't care for the world so it can go to hell and I wouldn't even notice.
@@Boywonder543 Dude, if a girl gives you a simple compliment it doesn't means she wants you, there's a difference between kindness and getting hit on.
@@OracleThewise bro i am not talking about compliments it's just my ex gfs did really f@cked up things to me
@@Boywonder543 totally disregarding what has been said in the reply, but here i guess have a cookie for your booboos
I was raised as a masculine man and still consider myself such. However, I was also raised at the exact same time to respect women and treat them with a lot of respect in all situations. I am the door opening, first date paying type of guy. The problem I have trying to date now is that a lot of women have equated 150 sexual partners as girl power and I just find it very unlady like. When I express that I just get slammed with the girl oppression stuff and all that. I kind of just find myself in a society now where old values don’t fit in. I think old values is exactly what we need again, things have gone way to far.
Go to Saudi Arabia then. You'll totally love sex being illegal and getting killed for dating 😁😁 since it seems to be the type of society you want to live in.
I doubt most women are sleeping with over a hundred men .
Facts
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Society need taliban again
And witch hunters
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Welcome to the club brother
I feel for that guy in the cowboy hat. I'm a woman who used to get sexually harassed at work on a near daily basis by my fellow employees and customers. It is genuinely taxing to constantly be analyzing your every move to avoid drawing unwanted attention to yourself. After the first time I was harassed, I started breaking dress code and leaving my shirt untucked to cover my butt and I stopped wearing a belt because I was afraid to be seen in form fitting clothes. I was a stocker and I learned to squat rather than bend over when reaching for things because a male coworker would always say something inappropriate to me when I did. I was leery about climbing ladders or lifting heavy objects because some of my coworkers took it as an opportunity to touch my backside while pretending to "help" me. Working in that kind of environment is extremely draining and uncomfortable. It is so disgusting that when a man reports sexual assault or harassment, it is not met with the same energy as when a woman reports the same experience. Wrong is wrong regardless of gender.
I´m sorry about that:(
And people wonder why I spend less time on the internet than before
Something I find important for myself is that I and a lot of my online friends consider ourselves more emotional on average for most men, either because of personalities or problems- but we never considered each other less masculine as a result and we’ve built a sort of instinctual support group. Brothers help brothers.
And unfortunately brotherhood is falling out of style
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i love that :)
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I say this as a woman (the XX kind, don't worry! Lol) that's wonderful to hear. I wish you guys nothing but goodness. :)
I shaved my head for exactly that reason. My ex told me he would never date a bald woman. He wouldn't leave me alone. So I shaved my head. Now I am married with 2 lovely intelligent children, and I dye my hair crazy colors often, but I think that's a generational thing as I am a 90s baby
Todays society is extremely hard to navigate, in my opinion for everyone.
Men always be told that they should show emotions, that they should not be masculine, that they should not do x, y, z. And when they do show emotions, they are shamed for it. When they are not masculine, they are shamed for it.
There are women that are saying ”if he is not paying $300 on the first date, I will ghost him”.
1 big problem is that the extremes are always the one that are showing in media. Both traditional media and social media. It's the outrageous that gets clicks, comments, dislikes/likes so it gets pushed in the algorithm. While the logic more real content are just dissapearing.
If a woman demands the guy pays $300 on the first date, that a coffee date or a walk in the park is not acceptable, if he doesn't pick you up in his brand new car he is a bum. What can men expect from women?
Just to be clear. Men should not expect sex just because he paid alot of money. But can we expect that you are not inviting your friend to the date? Can we expect that you do not sit on your phone all date? Can we expect that you are polite and not ghost us the day after? Can we expect that you view us as a human being and not a walking atm?
So all what men are seeing on social media today is you should be soft, but hard. You should be masculine, but not toxic masculine. You should be chivalrys, but if you are not enough we will just use you. And if I hold the door open for 1 woman, she can be offended because ”How dare you hold the door open for me? Don't you see me as a human that can open the door herself?” How can you navigate that?
Then comes stories like Busta Rhymes recently. ”He reacted to much”? So a man is not allowed to react when a stranger grabs his butt? If the exact same thing had happened but swapped genders, the offender would get 5 years in prison? How is that even a topic? A man was SA-d in public, threw a drink in the persons face, and she is the victim(according to some. Most of the comments I've read about it says Busta reacted within reason)?
In my opinion, what all men needs to learn. When you can be weak and when you need to be strong. It's a skill that you need to work up. ”ooh, a girl said a mean thing to me”. Chin up, be strong, be logical. Does it really matter?
”I feel lonely and like I have no one to talk to”. Come here, I'll listen without judgment.
We also need to learn when to say man up and when to be a soft and understanding to each other. Because if you say man up to someone that really needs to talk. That can lead to very bad things.
What is toxic masculinity? What is good masculinity? What is toxic feminity? What is good femininity? We need to start there, and actually be honest with each other. Because if you are saying that you want good masculinity and then only date men that are toxic. Then it is not mens fault, is it?
On point. 💯
@@jessicatheoutcast thank you
You make excellent points. I appreciate when people go into detail about whatever argument or points are being made.
@@CoolMintMC thanks
To the first part I have to say that it’s mostly men shaming other men for not being masculine or for being emotional. Men made this whole "we need to be stoic and emotionless" stuff up.
Ok. Whatever that hyper freak is going on about at the start is beyond me. The problem with the situation is simply that these feminists see ALL masculinity as "toxic." Someone should inform them that masculinity created the western world, eg, its brilliant inventions, government, medicine, pioneering spirit, etc.
Women say they want a feminine guy, but will always go for the masculine dudes. They literally don't know what they want. They are brainwashed into saying these things but don't truly believe in it.
I agree with you, people forget that in order for the feminine to exist the masculine is needed and the other way around, without the feminine and the musculine humans wouldn't exist. We must also keep in mind that while most inventions in most fields from science to politics were created by men but when using this argument people must also remember that for the majority of human history women were seen either as inferior or as stay at home mothers so pursuing an education or a career was impossible for them and therefore didn't have the knowledge to make such inventions. The only women who received education were from royal/very rich families and were a minority. I'm mentioning this because I've seen a lot of people using this argument as a way to belittle women and "prove" that women are inferior/not as smart as men.
Toxicity is not tied to masculine or feminine. Toxicity is it's own thing. If a man or woman is being toxic it's not "toxic masculinity" or "toxic femininity," it's just toxicity.
Masculine and feminine traits are not negative ones. Anything toxic coming from people is neither of those things. It is just people being toxic despite what sex they are.
@H&P What has traditional masculinity accomplished? You're seriously asking that? Let's go through a few big examples, since the small ones would keep us here all year. Men led the space race in every nation, allowing humanity to finally touch the stars and opening the door for possibilities so vast, we can't even fully comprehend them yet. Men circumnavigated the globe, charting every continent and making contact with just about every human society on the face of the earth. Thanks to the work of men, I can drive from Seattle to LA in just under a day, or fly across the Atlantic non stop. Men also ended some of the worst practices on earth, and masculine attitudes of stewardship led Britain to make it their mission to end slavery worldwide after abolishing it locally. Masculinity in economics has lifted billions of people out of poverty and allowed billions to live who otherwise never would have existed if not for the technological and societal improvements pushed by men
and also the mess we're in now...take that on too bro
I have one advice my grandpa passed to me when I was younger, if you're in relationship, and ur sec-half did/said something wrong in public, NEVER! and I mean NEVER! confront him/her around people, guests or YOUR KIDS! This way, u showing your partner no respect, and other will follow it, and do the same.
It depends on what it is.
The non-binary person cutting off the guy saying he was sexually harassed in the workplace and saying what they said has me shaking my head. Men are just as subjected to SA as women, they just don't report it because of the stigma. Stereotypes go both ways. And maybe I'm bias because the first time I found out about a friend/family member that also experienced being assaulted (physically and mentally) was my MALE COUSIN. He was assaulted by his GF at the time and she put him in the hospital. To this day I'm fairly certain he never told the rest of our family. Most of the SA survivors I know personally are men. The reason people think women are assaulted more is because men are taught not to report it, even more so than women struggle to report it. Society has done BOTH sides dirty. And it almost feels like it's pining us against each other. Men and Women have different primal traits and those are meant to compliment each other. For community, protection, and reproduction. Period. Every person also holds a duality of masculine and feminine within themselves. I personally think when your inner world is off balance is when it's a problem. Sorry for the tangent. But Misha, thank you. Your videos are wonderful.
Thank you for bringing light to these issues Misha! I would never be aware of how bad things have become in our society today if not for you. Keep up the Good work! ❤️
yeah , feminism really ruined a lot of things.
when people say men don't cry i laugh at them. i mean we're all a product of our experience, maybe someone has a father or father figure that beat the hell out of them when they were growing up.. it's pretty normal for everyone to show emotion there's no shame in crying or letting it out.
@::Feukka:: I hear you, I heard that lots of times before to of "men don't cry, those who cries are pusseis" . Reality everyone cries just some show more than others. Like I also heard "real strong men do cry when they feel sad, that shows that they aren't afraid to show their emotions, compared to the others that tries to act and be tough".
We're human beings, we're not machines
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Society need taliban again
And witch hunters
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Please Misha, never give up the great work you're doing. 👏
Thank you for your videos. It's rare to see someone so young stand up and speak the truth.
I guess men aren't taught that they can be normal men and still be vulnerable. It's cool to be strong and protective, but still be able to cry and share their feelings with their loved ones.
women are not attracted to sensitive men . that's why
@@Thetablepower That's not true for all women.
@Emily Merritt Revel most women are like that , there is a reason why women like the bad boy.
I once shared my feelings with the woman who was my partner at the time. She told me that my feelings were wrong. She got dumped and I'm staying single.
@@edenbreckhouse She sounds like someone you're better off not having in your life. Keep looking.
The reason all these people are confused about masculinity is because they grew up without a father. Fathers teach their sons how to be a man. A boy raised by only a woman misses out on that.
Not really, it's the ideology, it's true that children need a father figure as much as a mother, especially men, but if you analyze years ago (even now) there were many single mothers who raised boys, and they didn't come out feminine, why? because the social rules of that time indicated women: feminine and men: masculine, but now the idea of gender has been perverted and many have changed their way of educating because many follow like sheep what society dictates, many young people and children are changing gender due to fashion, from what they see in social media, instead of because they need it, it has also changed that there is early exposure to digital media at a young age, an age of great emotional instability easy to manipulate
so why the men leave? It's th mother that are leaving it's the men. And why in times of wars where fathers were away their sons grew up just fine? trying to blame single mothers when they do so much for their kids is just false and sad. Men have the option to opt out from fatherhood and they do women don't. If you want to blame a parent it's the father.
@@nanomia In times of war, children were aware that their father's are away at war. It is when father's go away because the mother is a whore, or the father is immoral or irresponsible, is what can cause children to become confused about their masculinity and other foolish things.
Furthermore, I did not say anywhere it was the mother's fault. There are many reasons why a woman becomes a single mother, sometimes the father's fault, sometimes the mother, sometimes both, but the statistics show that a household without a father is not good. And two fathers do not count, neither two mothers: both man and woman is what constitutes a marriage.
I've NEVER paid 150 for a date - if pizza ain't good enuf we ain't right for each other
Pizza or a movie together. Or hell Applebee's, take me there and id marry you on the spot 😁
US women recently invented the trend of financially exploiting men by pretending to be romantically interested only to receive expensive food for free.
My parents have been married nearly 23 years (roughly half their lives), and their first date was at a macaroni grill because my dad had a gift card for it. They still talk about how good the food was. A date is meant to get to know someone better. My parents’ date was such a success because my mom went to learn who my dad was, not to get familiar with the amount of money he had. Turns out, he’s a great guy! Thanks for choosing a great dad, mom :)
I am metrosexual, which means I have a sense of fashion, and come off as gay, because of the way I talk, and act, except you are not actually gay. These bio guys take it to the next level acting like they have the same say as actual women. Yes I have femininity in me, but it doesn't mean I want to be a woman. I'm perfectly fine as a boy, and I'm not into guys.
Completely understandable. Feminine guys are a thing, but nowadays its so construed. To many it would mean your trans or nb or something else when it just means this how you behave, its not about gender, its just your personality which is where the problem lies. People treat their gender like its their personality, like its their entire thing. Gender is WHAT you are not WHO.
@@derrickdaniels3955 exactly
@@derrickdaniels3955 based
ah im into feminine stuff but im also very masculine lol since im into metal woo. what i do is mostly around guys and i just happen to like guys more than women.
@@aemo6996 6 months later and I forgot about this comment and just came out as Bi LMAO
We are still out here , but we have checked out. This isn’t a world we can or want to operate in. When men don’t want anything to do with you, we leave. Adult men don’t want drama, we don’t want to talk about it, or argue . We just leave . When presented with something so ridiculous and full of emotion , please don’t expect us to participate . We are busy providing for our family, being with like minded friends, and pursuing our interests.
You know that there are men who can be as emotional and less rational as women? Men take up the majority of crimes, do you think those crimes were made by mature men?
That's proper alpha shit. Keep doing what you're doing.
Okay yeah I don't want drama but you say "a world" almost like the ehole planet is the one social ecosystem. Thankfully no, it isn't.
@@TheKing-qz9wd you are correct but if you look at what media and popular culture is pushing, that's what I speak of . We don't want any part of it . If you do, fine, do your thing , but I wont participate in it and neither will my family . We have our own circle where that world doesn't exist.
When you keep your head busy with your own life and personal relationships, dramas and controversial situations suddenly become a lot more irrelevant for you
These people just want to erase the differences between man and women- the one thing that makes us so beautiful
*one direction*
The same-sex attracted guy is spot on regarding how his lack of a father makes him look for men to fulfil that gap in his life and he is being totally honest. I respect that. I experienced the same thing when I was SSA.
Are you talking about Christian Walker?
@@inversion9651 It is the man in the audience. I don't recall his name.
@@zalzalahbuttsaab Do you know what he looks like? His race? Is he the light-skinned black man?
@@inversion9651 Yes
@@zalzalahbuttsaab I see, his father was Hershel Walker and he chested on Christian's mom with other women and had other families with them.
What sad world we are living in! Listening to these men and how you explain different scenarios makes me appreciate being older. My heart hurts for young people today so confused and chaotic. I personally think social media is making people brain dead and just being sheep following the trends. Just heartbreaking.
Applause 👏👏👏👏👏
Tate's popularity is a result of that famous pendulum swing feminists love to talk about. You know... the one that almost never swings back the other way.
Just found your channel so I'm binging. I have to tell you that you are definitely a "breath of fresh air" after all the usual lunatics we encounter on social media. You are young but so together and intelligent! I really enjoy your outlook on things. Keep up the great work!
There's no such thing as "toxic masculinity." People can be all different kinds of toxic and it's not tied to what kind of chromosomes they have. If someone is being toxic, they're being toxic. Period.
my idea of toxic masculinity is like guys shouldnt cry or show emotion. It's basically the role of men in society that reduces and removes their ability to express themselves in a productive way. "Men dont cry". Or they can't be raped. Many examples. It defiantly is real.
@@somebodyoncetoldme2664 Except men don't typically cry. It's just not something men do. Besides, there are plenty of healthy ways to show emotion without doing much. Most northern cultures have figured it out. Slavic men, whether Russian, Polish, even Czechs, who are as much Germanic as Slavic, don't outwardly express emotion, but they are still fully emotive. Watch one of their war movies, you'll see exactly what I mean. There can be intense emotions with barely a movement
@@filmandfirearms Idk about them and dont care eneough tbh so Imma stick to western culture. But yeah men don't cry as much as women but they still feel the same emotions without physical representation of it. But they are still crying just without producing tears as easily. But my point still stands that the expression of emotions for men is reduced because of toxic masculinity pushed by everybody. How does toxic masculinity not exist then in the case I just said or in any other topic?
@@somebodyoncetoldme2664 That's just double standard sexism.
@@MovedbyTruth what?
Misha, you are so on point. You are a bright light in this dark tunnel of craziness. Thank goodness for you ‼️🙏
It would have been nice if Vice had gotten a man on that panel.
it's Vice, this is what you get
@user-ki3nh2ec2t on Vice you don't get men, you get libs
They had cowboy hat guy
There are a lot of expectations for men. Women almost always get a pass for everything. 😢 He wasnt complaining about holding the door for the female, he was saying that females expect a lot. 🤦♂️
Finally! Thank you Misha for talking about healthy masculinity without shaming men who don't fully conform to masculine roles. Men should accept their masculinity without shaming other men for not being as masculine as they are. As a gay man, I find it extremely insulting when a guy identifies as nonbinary because they are not "masculine enough." Men and women should be allowed to embrace both their masculinity and femininity without changing their gender.
Excalty like let's just respect each other that's about it without judgement
Exactly!
Keep it up Misha. You are bright, beautiful and fiercely honest... all of which are seriously lacking, particularly in your age group. I thought mine was bad ( I just turned 40, to place myself age-wise.) you are one brave girl... and I truly respect you.
On the " Non-Binary" BS, ya know, in High School I was pretty androgynous. It was a simple and clearly defined meaning and had been for centuries. Literally from the early 1600s until about 5 minutes ago... we were simply androgynous.
"We woman".... Sir, do you know what you are?
The problem in my eyes started when we slowly normalized hyper sexualizing homosexuality. I think the new James Bond was the trojan horse, the last movies in the Daniel Craig series seemed a little off. I remember watching Ralph the movie maker review of one of them, he critiqued the intro song and it did seem really off. Fast forward into today, same dude who did that song literally created video vomit for any hetero or mild mannered person. It's just raw shock for attentions sake, but young people are most vulnerable to this form of stealth entertainment.
Well I actually liked that Sam Smith song
@@stephenblack5425 For a James Bond opening theme, yea it sounded pretty gay now that I think about it. Not that there is anything wrong with that just kind of strange they'd pick James Bond, a sly woman loving spy. But I guess since Daniel Craig is gay that was the intention, just something I didn't know.
@@trevinsingh9390 Daniel Craig might be Bi but he's definitely not gay because he's married to a woman. And as for that Sam Smith song, yeah that song sounds quite gay but it also sounds very mysterious, tragic and royal that perfectly suits the tone of Daniel Craig James Bond movies.
@@stephenblack5425 No he's not, he has a male partner.
@@trevinsingh9390 dude, his wife's name is Rachel Weisz who is a very well known actress, you can search it if you want.
Must say I'm shocked that nobody mentioned how nasty and shady it was of the non-binary guy to minimize Christian and his struggles/trauma regarding his father not being present. Calling it "that Freudian daddy issue stuff" is just so condescending in my opinion, and just because Christian doesn't have the same viewpoints or mindset as him, he felt comfortable enough to behave that way. I'm sure if it was someone who was more similar to the non-binary guy regarding ideology and beliefs, the reaction wouldn't have been the same.
Men, masculine or not, face all kinds of struggles throughout their lives and it's so disheartening to see that until they finally speak up (especially in forums as public as this one and with total strangers), they're just putting each other down.
I have to say, a little tip for men, don't pay for things till the girl has demonstrated they actually have some basic level of commitment. It is a simple case of not being naive.
I love this “the bare minimum”. It truly is the bare minimum.
For the man to pay the bill 1st date tho? That's just exploitative.
Ok cool, all he listed there is the "bare minimum" for men, being funny, having something going for yourself, some stories to tell, being interesting, opening doors, pulling out chairs, the sidewalk walking, making sure she's safe, all of
this is the bare minimum for men, agreed.
Now can you please list for us "the bare minimum" for women?
@@RVLVRHIPHOP that’s for a man to determine, what he considers the bare minimum
@@m4tta not according to Misha and the comment above bud
"Oh NO... Fathers are NOT needed in the family" 🤨...I've always been secure in my identity. A LOT of that has to do with (being lucky enough in my life) having MASSCULINE role models to look up to. My rule in life passed down to me is to be the type of man that I would want my Mother, my Grandmothers, my Nieces, MY WIFE to encounter when they go out into the World... Stoic, grounded, confident, reliable, responsible, protective, helpful, mannered and cultured, humorous... and yes, at times aggressive and forceful if the situation calls for it. But with the preconceived notions MOST modern women have been brainwashed into having about men like me, WE are seen as the problem AND continuing cause of their perceived victimhood and issues.... You can't be a man these days. They won't LET YOU be one. And it starts as young as they can by treating males as 'defective girls' in our society.....
fatehrs are needed in the family ebcuase that lkeads to crime. Chidlren who grow up without a ftaher ar emor elikeley to run awya from home, drop out of school anbd turn to crime
the whole male SA victims being ignored really sucks especially when there are videos of women talk about it as a joke or in extreme cases talking about it as an employer and saying he won't be listened to...
1:51 Misha, you hit the nail on the head there: If you think you're being used, don't go on a second date. Simple! You don't click w/ someone, just don't go around them (if possible).
He said he was being ghosted. Do you even know what that means?
@@userequaltoNull Yes, teacher I know what that means. Do YOU know what it means when someone holds up 3 fingers and says, 'read between the lines' ? No need to be patronizing, dude!
I don't think that masculinity is dying, I just think that many people get caught up in their gender as if it were their complete identity. In my case, I am a woman, but I focus on the things that make up for my identity to feel like myself. So for example, I may not wear lots of jewelry and makeup but that doesn't make me any less of a woman because I my femininity in a way that is right for my identity. I don't know if i expressed correclty my point.
i love how some random flamboyant dude announces that he's non-binary and everyone else in the room either doesn't know what that means or thinks "that's nice"
I love you Misha!! Thank you for protecting masculine men since they're attacked in society!! Keep fighting girly!!
I'm 70 years old, and I can honestly say I have no idea what the he'll is happening in the world today . We seem to have got to the stage where we have to believe anything we're told . I no longer know what a woman is . Fat people are not fat, and if I get a pronoun wrong . The pronoun police will get me . I'm living in a world where common sense and free speech no longer exists.
This video is very interesting. The guy who admits he needs a masculine male because he lacked that in his upbringing is so real, that’s all I needed to hear. But people in the lgbtq suppress this reality, unstable role models, divorced parents or a missing parent can all lead to various ‘problems’. This is one of them!
As a woman, I've always held the door open, paid for meals, and done most of what men are "expected" to do, for anyone regardless of gender, without expecting that same treatment from any human being. It wasn't taught to me. It came naturally. I will never think it's the "bare minimum" for a man to do anything for me. If he does do it, I always say thank you. I am not entitled to any thing anyone does. Live your life like that and you will be happier and grateful.
The explosives device expert does not complain about opening the door. He is describing female entitlement. When a man goes on a first date, he's aware that it's all about being polite, paying, making the girl laugh - except one thing: his fun. When expectations are too high, the squeeze is not worth the juice anymore.
I love the confident and generally logical style of Misha's content. I hope she finds the time to research facts and data to support her claims, at least sometimes. Regarding her 10:24 comment, "It is more likely for a man to sexually harass a woman than vice versa"...there may be statistical evidence for this, but it seems unlikely that such statistical evidence would be genuinely representative of what really happens (not that I particularly doubt her claim). When we think of sexual harassment, perhaps most of us automatically envision a woman being the butt of gross "jokes" or non-consented inappropriate behaviours; so usually a man answering the question, "have you ever been the victim of sexual harassment?" will just answer "no" because they think that being touched by a woman without permission isn't serious enough to count, or they just don't feel entitled to be seen as a victim because we tend to presume a male to be the perpetrator.
7:46 I totally agree, I have been identifying as a trans man for about 1 year (I was 15, now I am 16), I was born a woman, I have not had any surgeries/hormones (thankfully). Recently, I have realised that I am far too young to decide if I want to change. In school, I was taught that your identity changes until you are 30, so if I feel like a man until I am 30, I am probably trans. But if I just feel like a woman until then, I'm definitely a woman. Not to mention, there are many kinds of women. I don't have to be glittery to feel like a woman.
I mean everyone in general should strive to have a good grasp on their emotions. Instead of promoting a certain standard for each gender, I think we should promote good emotional support for all in accommodation. Having healthy communication between each respective party is the best thing you can do to be understanding of each other and improve each individual’s wellbeing. Focusing on caring for the person should be the priority. I’ve seen more dissatisfaction on guys’ ends from being emotionally neglected than anything else in relationships and that is due to this block. I think if you love someone, it should be about their well-being as an individual before focusing on the shtick of “provider” and “nurturer”. If the person is fed and housed but doesn’t feel seen, are they really being taken care of? If someone gives you 5 bucks and that’s them giving you their all but another throws a k in your face cause they wanna fulfill a role, who’s putting more love into it. Measuring the “providing abilities” is stupid in that imo, where the focus should be on the person being a good partner for their heart not their wallet. If the 5 bucks guy could, he would give you way more than a k cause he already gave you himself. That’s why being emotionally present and mature trumps all these arbitrary notions.
Besides that, I like your approach to this
Your perspective is drowning this society.... we've had enough of your philosophy... it's time to balance it
I mean the 1k guy sounds far more financially secure, which is important whether he's in a relationship or single. That shows competence and drive.
Gender roles are healthy for a society, it sets standards for the sexes dictated by the broader society. They are best when they align with the instinctual behavior of the sex in question. Our current problems are gender roles that are contrary to our instincts, as well as a lack of gender roles.
@@Indypotter1 if you see a person on the basis of this measurement of value then you should hold yourself to that standard if they “find someone better” rather than value you as an individual
Additionally, every person takes the role they are most fitted for. That is something intrinsic. But, managing emotions is a constant. Anger is an emotion. Happiness is an emotion. Sadness is an emotion. Everyone experiences emotions and that isn’t dictated by your body parts. Both have hormonal cycles that are of different intervals, but that doesn’t mean either is exempt from learning how to manage them. It’s shit that woman are excused for jealousy and men for anger for example. A man switching from rage to laughter in minutes is him being moody. That is completely normal. However, being a mature individual with self control is important. We are taught to suppress or over express rather than manage. This more logical and more emotional faf is garbage since everyone is inherently emotional, we’re just taught to express it differently. I’m saying, learn to manage it. That’s way more constructive.
@@AndresPrez well there is no homogeneous society on a global scale, is there? Not even one across time. If you’re opposed to people learning to manage their emotions on both sides and would rather everyone bud heads all the time, have that be your perspective. That’s not very constructive, tho. If you don’t endorse liking your spouse that’s on you, but it’s nice to love the person and not the construct for a change. Roles are fine, but having them be everything is not
@@luna13moth There's always a predominant philosophy and certain ideas that should shade this main one.....
Your ideas are ridiculous if you push them as the main one... it's the predominant ideology being pushed right now and it's part of the reason why we're having these problems.
Stoicism should be the main philosophy. ..Not your "accommodation at all cost" ideology
Every time I look at Sam Smith I feel nauseous
I toss a drink to all men and women out there who still hold on to sanity and common sense! 🥂
Well done, Misha! Many of these things are- ужас. :) Growing up in a Serbian household, I was taught that men should be able to take care of women because it's an honorable thing that helps you be even more masculine. This is how, in my opinion, a man shows he truly cares about you- therefore, he is also able to show his emotions in a healthy, productive way. Women, on the other hand, will take care of the whole family even better when they feel protected- and this is how the whole family stays safe and sound, especially the children. The children in question will also have good role models in this way. Whenever I would mention going out with someone to my grandma, she would always ask two things- "Is he a good man?", and "Can he fix anything around the house?", which pretty much sums up everything I have explained so far. :)) I would also like to add that both "healthy" masculinity and "healthy" femininity are shown in someone's character, not someone's clothes.
As a man in Gen Z we need more masculinity in our Generation seriously Boomers who fought in WW2,Baby Boomers working hard,and Gen X with the cool masculine TV Shows like A-Team and Magnum P.I the 80s man was awesome!
War does not equal masculinity. How can one call oneself a man when wanting to cause suffering to other men, women, and children? That’s quite a radical and extreme view to have, and I would honestly work on reevaluating it.
You guys are are putting words in my mouth I didn't mean to say War makes you a man what I'm trying to say to the Boomer Men were brave fighting in WW2 there bravery is what makes them masculine.
And I'm not fetishizing war! Seriously why aren't you trying to get what I'm saying here.🤦♂️ In a nutshell men in our generation need to be masculine again.
Ah yes the baby boomers working so hard in the biggest economic growth ever
@@FTChomp9980 So, in the absence of war (which I'd hope we all agree is a good thing), how does a man demonstrating bravery manifest itself? Personally, my life is free of having to defend myself from enemy soldiers, charging bears, or random muggings, and I quite like it that way. Does that mean I'm not a man because I don't have an enemy to fight?
Hard times create strong man , Strong man create good times, Good times create weak men and Weak men create hard times.
Very good observation!
No wonder Nietzsche (before he started talking to his horse) said history is cyclic...
the vicious cycle
Nowadays
@H&P How about right now?
And before that, 1930's with Europe appeasing Hitler...
@H&P The source doesn't matter if it is true, which it demonstrably is. Weak men are being created by the use of "toxic masculinity." If you can convince a man he is toxic, you attack his heart and steal his strength.
Man I’m glad I fell in love with my husband before all this crazy shit happened lol
Girl congratulations 🎉🎂🎉
I'm so glad you included a video of ezra butler because im fed up of her influencing kids to change their gender and start hormone blockers, etc
I think the whole stigma behind men crying or showing any type of sadness being a sign of "weakness" is actually dumb. Newsflash: men are not emotionless cyborgs. Like, I'm a guy, if I watch a movie or show and something sad happens like a beloved main character dies or there's a reuniting of a long separated couple, imma be bawling my eyes out. I don't care what other guys might say, if I start tearing up over something sad, just let me be.
Him not having a father is why he is gay. That's very sad.
the first 10 seconds, I almost didn't watch the entire video. I can't stand that guy.
The guy with the hat breaks my heart I'm so sorry that he had to be sexually harassed. I know too well that reaction of "haha awesome you should be happy" in response to men being sexually harassed, assaulted, raped, or even little boys and their predatory female teachers. It's a disgusting double standard.
In terms of men being less emotional and more logical that's a fallacy tbh. Women have hormones but so do men, if your argument is on the basis that men have androgens so do women. But to much testosterone is linked actually to implusivity and aggression which is low key an emotion. They only time I could say a women is more emtional than a man in regards to something like that is when she's pregnant.
Came here caus you replied on one of my comments. 😜
Agreed! 💯
There are times in the monthly cycle of a woman where she might be a bit more emotional. Depending on the Person. But men go through cycles too. Just much „faster“. In a Single day.
This argument is very old and has since been debunked many times. Funny how some people bring it back…
"Crazy makeup", for sure! Even deeper than the paint.
Masculinity and Femininity is forever here to stay!💪🧚♀️❤️
I'm new to your channel and new to this way of thinking. I've been really liking your more rational approach to social issues! I am glad that I am now approaching 25 and finally maturing enough to realise that I don't have to agree with everything the SJWs and wokes are saying. Great videos!
For the first time I disagree with some Misha points in this video the main one being paying for dates. Personally with equality comes financial stability for both genders/sexes and if that is truly something that society strives for then the old traditions of when women were more oppressed have to be less prevalent in todays western culture. I took my current girlfriend to the park for our first date and then costa for our second. Cost effective 🤣🤣At the end of the Misha is a very young intelligent women but her worldview/perspective will never fully represent what young men go through on the dating market and vice verse because I'm never going to truly know what women go through on the dating market as well
There are many studies showing that women are now making equal or more money than men, on the average. Economic equity is a great thing, but if we have that, it means that "it's the man's obligation to pay" really should get thrown out the window.
Life can be infinitely complicated, if one wants it be so. But men are men and women are women. Finding balance and doing the right actions is the cure Demonizing one of both polarities is toxic and utterly destructive.
First dude is not a woman wtf
Yes captain obvious 😜
I understand that women being selective is a good thing, because it is otherwise they'd be at risk of being manipulated. But as a man the return on dating culture, and I hate to use the word as it's expecting something for being nice, which isn't how being nice should work, but I have no better way to describe it, is simply not worth it at all, the effort you need to put in these days just to be noticed is simply not worth it at all for even the best case scenario so I choose not to partake in it at all.
Being more feminine or masculine isn’t about being female or male. It’s not even about what freaking colors you like or if you like make-up or not - that’s what society created. Every human, man or woman, has feminine and masculine energy. Also being male or female isn’t a personality trait as some people like to treat it nowadays.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
From peronal experience I can tell that men should strive to be as masculine as possible. I've gotten so much happier by taking actions to become more masculine, its like night and day honestly. When you become more masculine as a man, you can be proud of yourself and have a constant fire burning inside you which feels so great
It is the fact that men will complain about doing the bare minimum but at the same time, they want a traditional woman. 2+2 is not equaling 4 like make it make sense.
I regularly engage in toxic masculinity
Listening to this weirdos ... you're probably just normal
The first guy wasn't complaining about having to do those things. He was saying how each woman will subjectively judge him on certain things. But it's a guessing game as to what those things are, so we're expected to be everything at all times. And the next day, when he gets ghosted, he starts to become disillusioned as to why even do those things. In his mind, he did all the right things.
How confusing to be on a gay date. I mean, did the two men argue on who's more masculine, so they can figure out who pays the bill?
Men do not cheat more than women. Statistics show that it is pretty much even. But if you really want to be nitpicky, women initiate divorce 80% of the time. So women are responsible for breaking up 80% of all broken homes.
Men have more sex? Well maybe homosexual men, but heterosexual sex takes one male and one female... so men and women are having exactly the same amount of sex.
fax lmao
Sorry dear, but that statement doesn't make any sense as soon as either the man or the woman start having sex with others.
Unless women recycle the same men.
Not true. Women, on average have 3-6 times the bodycount that men do.
The words that are missing are “some” and “most”. Some men have more sex than most women. But the opposite is also true. There are definitely some women who have way more sex than most men …
If you think she's using you for money, don't even go on a first date. Some women have admitted to only going on first dates for free restaurant food. The guy is ALWAYS expected to pay for the first (if not much more), no matter how much a feminist the woman claims to be.
What is the worst crisis we are currently facing?
The downfall of society.
Women wanted equality, so they joined the workforce. This means they should always pay for themselves. Everything is too expensive nowadays for men to pay for women on the first date.
Agreed
agreed, makes sense
Yikes
Nowadays I am DEFINITELY not paying for first dates, luckily I am not in the dating game anymore and I have an amazing woman, but damn I feel bad for men in the dating game nowadays, I saw a video just the other day about woman who didn't have to buy herself dinner for a year buy playing on dating apps and having a new date every night.
Good thing there is a growing trend of actual men preserving masculinity in this country. As with history past, the weak will get weeded out, and the strong will persevere.
MP: after watching more of your content, I continue to be impressed with your clear thinking. I really hope your family is proud of you - I would be, because it is just so rare to find a young adult with so much good going on in the mind. Now I don't know a thing about you other than what you choose to share, but I can say that if I was in your peer group, you would be someone I admired and would like to learn more where all this comes from. When I was in college, I could hardly think of any of my peers examining life with such rational thought and common sense - or myself for that matter. You have won my respect. And I will hold the door for anyone
Misha.....
1)there is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Those behaviors are toxic regardless of a man or woman behaving that way, but that does not make masculine or feminine toxic... those behaviors are not masculine or feminine.... they are just toxic.
2)doing the bare minimum is not a problem. The problem is that men are expected to be traditional toward women with a body count higher than their own age which is not traditional. Women can go have as many partners as they wish, but they have to confess that they have traded in their traditional self for something else and have thus traded in their right to expect to be treated traditionally. You, having never gotten into hook up culture, have not traded in your traditional values and therefore can expect to be treated traditionally. Furthermore, it is a frustrating experience being traditional toward a woman and then being chastised for opening a door or walking on the street side of the sidewalk, etc. and that is the combination lock that is difficult to figure out when you want to date women. A man should not expect anything in "personal favors" for a date but the kind efforts of a man on a first date do deserve more than a ghosting... a simple phone call saying you do not want a second date would be sufficient for a man.
3)a woman should be selective, but she does not bare a burden alone. A woman has rights that a man does not... she can opt to cancel the pregnancy or carry to term and then go leave the child at a fire station and walk away without consequences.... how is it she can abandon her child at a fire station and not go to jail, but men are serving jail time for refusing to pay child support for a child that is not their own biological child and was conceived with another man when she cheated on her husband?
4) MEN do not talk about their feelings.... because women will mother a son and loose respect for a husband for the same behaviors. This is a man's burden. Our ability to manage our emotions is the trade we make to be a head of a household. Boys have not been taught this in households lead by a mother who divorced the father and got sole custody by a court system that favors mothers. There are even instances where mothers put children up for adoption without consulting the father when he would gladly have taken sole custody. If the myth of men not wanting to care for their children is true... then why is there even a term "custody battle"?
5)a woman in a workplace that wants to be treated equal to a man in a work place should never be sexually harassed... but when she is the harasser? She should be treated like a man. And men's way of treating other men do not involve a HR department. Women want to be treated equally in terms of power but want special treatment in terms of responsibility and accountability... and that is the problem.
I like you Misha. You are respectable. You make good, thoughtful and intelligent content. However, just as womanhood should be defined by women... manhood should be defined by men. This blurrung of the gender lines started in the early foundations of f-ism. Men had no part in the making of this mess... and we really should not be participating in it or the clean up as far as I am concerned.
I support the concept that men should be allowed to show emotions, talk about their struggles and stop viewing femininity as weak. Men are human, not emotionless machines. However, there is a difference between embracing humanity and being woke.
Great video, Misha!
For anyone interested in this topic - The Authentic Observer also made great videos about masculinity and femininity 😊
That was quite a collection of its. I hope every single it finds peace and happiness, while having no influence whatsoever on communities or anyone in them, especially our kids.
We women?? what?????????????????
Thank you for your sanity, ma'am. Men still exist....even in this country...
Toxic Feminism has destroyed the family unit by telling us that father's aren't needed.
Misha, do please analyze the Calhoun Experiment. Have you heard of it?
We are simply living it now. It has become an intractable reality and frankly... I could not care less anymore.
i feel like all of us more right-leaning people should be accepting of gender non conforming people (men who wear dresses etc). cause if people don‘t feel like they can express themselves the way they want, they‘ll end up inventing more of these crazy labels & genders which is honestly the last thing we want right? love you misha ❤
The problem is they start bringing it into places that it shouldn’t be in
That first guy 💀💀
I remember seeing him when I was younger and I was so uncomfortable
It is a shame we do basically treat men like we have to always be masculine we can’t show emotions we have to be this way.
It’s okay be weak but not okay to stay weak
If you can't hold it together..... you just can't man. That's who you are
@H&P I beg to differ with the idea that "toxic masculinity" is to blame.
If we deeply analyze the situation of troubled men who end up becoming criminals of some sort, we'll find out that in most cases it either stems from abuse or neglect during their childhood, leading them into a dark path.
Feminists think that this sort of behavior is rooted in "toxic masculinity" however, this isn't the bigger issue we have in hand.
Men can cry, sure. HOWEVER:
1. Crying is not a replacement for professional help. The truth is that the resources available for men who suffer abuse is shockingly low.
2. Men feel like they have to rely on themselves because they ABSOLUTELY have to. When you tell them that they can be THAT vulnerable, you're leading them into a false sense of security over something that really isn't there.
3. When we have such high numbers of men suffering from mental health issues it is disingenuous to say that they don't seek for help. It's not that they don't, but nobody truly listens, plus refer to points 1 and 2 for this.
Feminists have been "challenging the patriarchy" and "gender norms" for AGES now. However, the one thing that has stayed relatively consistent is, yet again, the almost non existent resources for male victims of abuse.
What have they done about this? Not much really, if anything they are both the quickest to shut down conferences on male mental health and being the biggest opposition to increasing the funding for male victims of abuse, as they can't stand the idea of funding things for men.
But they say "men can cry" and call it a day so that means they must be good right? Right?
Have you ever wondered why the research on male victims of domestic abuse is so limited? (Some) feminists have actively worked towards the erasure of male victims by threatening everyone who even thinks about doing so.
With this in mind it begs the question: Are we aiming wrong? Is it deliberate?
Its only toxic people that ruining society
8:30 thank you 👌👌 that is so important. i really struggled with my identity as a man (not that i questioned that i'm a man but more on what that means to me) in my late teens and early 20s. Over the time i realized that the thing defining me as a person (and a man) is, to not give a fuck and do my thing. I have some traits and interests which are traditionally considered masculin (V-shaped body, adventurous, heterosexual, dominant in bed, very good at hookups, surfing skilled with woodworking and repairing at least for an academic, like guns, rock music and beer) and some considered either feminine or just non-masculin (like fashion sometimes very masculin, sometimes flamboyand; like to spend time with female friends; like literature and poetry; not interested in cars, mainstream sports or fitness, not interested in a longer lasting relationship, more agreeable than dominant or confrontative with other people, not interested in career, probably more non-masculin then masculin...).
When i accepted that the traits and interests which aren't considered masculin belong to me and won't go away and realized that there is no point in hide them or play a role, i knew i was a man the way i am. Everything comes with advantages and disadvantages and most of the time you can't have both, but having non of them because one is failing at pretending to be someone else is the worst of all outcomes. There are plenty of people who like me how i am and see me as a very interesting person to be around. While i maybe could never get tge respect of some gymbros or have a chance with a woman who wants the traditional standards; the very muscular army guy won't get the respect of some of my intellectual friend and won't have a chance with women looking for something alternative (and its not only ugly unfeminine women, there are always beautiful and interesting ones who look for some intellectual input or the adventure type).
For myself i decided to not found a family. I don't want kids and i don't wan't a (traditional) relationship. I need much free space and flexibility, until now i didn't really felt the need for a relationshit. But if that changes, i would wan't someone who i do not have to care too much for, who has a certain level of independece and brings her own experiences with her, who i can share the gokd moment with and support each other in the bad ones. I'm not the "wifey at home" type of guy. With kids: I don't feel the need to have some, i don't like them too much and i am ready to miss all the great feelings as a dad for the benefit of not having the disadvantages. Better not to be a father/mother, than to be a bad one. My brother will get kids anyway, so the bloodline is secured 😂
0:10 "We women"
Long pink fingernails don't make you a woman bro
He was moking women and feminism, I gues.
I mostly agree however, most men being less emotional than most women doesn’t mean they‘re more logical. Emotional doesn‘t necesarily mean irrational. You can Express your emotions while still being logical.