This Couple Have Been Hoarding JUNK For Over 40 Years (Hoarding Documentary) |Absolute Documentaries
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- Опубликовано: 30 мар 2021
- Jasmine Harman’s mum has been a hoarder her whole life. Growing up she even felt her mum over hoarding more than her. Follow Jasmine in this series about Britain's Biggest Hoarders and how this style of living is affecting people. In this documentary, you see a couple of 40 years who only have one place to sit in the whole house and it’s not the toilet, a man who collects thousands of books and a 65-year-old whose health is in jeopardy due to his cramped house!
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That poor lady who has existed like a trapped prisoner in her own home because of her husbands obsessive hoarding. That couple needed help a very long time ago. Over filling a space is dangerous let alone an entire house. I hope they get to start a new and better life together. It must have had a really bad effect on the kids of this couple too growing up in such a mess.
When Alan let all those people help him and afterwards said it was magical, it made me cry! The people in this show are so brave!
"Richard is a little bit in denial" understatement of the century
Right. I'm getting the impression that Richard, leaving aside his neurotic hoarding issue, might just be a bit of a tool anyway. I'm only halfway through the video, so here's hoping he proves me wrong.
Yeah, he's too far gone, in my opinion. So is Alan.
Definitely. The thing is , it's illegal to have to much "junk" on your property
It’s a severe mental illness.
Very compelling. The common theme with hoarders seems to be a total loss of control combined with an overwhelming desire to be in complete control. You can really sense the chaotic inner struggle of the folks dealing with this illness.
NAILED IT!
Usually a loss or betrayal of some kind too. That's what triggers that "out of control" feeling. I know from experience. Even perceived loss, betrayal and rejection are too much for me to handle. I won't let anyone get close enough to leave me.
Well said! It is like the pushmi-pullyu in Dr. Doolittle stories.
@@publicserviceannouncement4777 ouch! 🤥
I also know that some of these Horrors have gone through traumatic experiences in their life
Jasmin is so kind hearted ! What a lovely person !
Did anyone else fall a little bit in love with Jasmine watching this? What a beautiful person.
She is beautiful person inside and out. I have fallen in love with her
Yes,you are right!Jasmine show me so a lot of warm ❤️! If everybody would have so a good ❤️ these people have a little help from theirs neighbors or other people!
Wouldn’t say I love but damn if I knew her Facebook account I would be on there once a day
I'm not a hoarder at all but I would be so happy to move my whole house to a warehouse to organize it.
We renovated our sitting room and lounge and we had to pack up everything. Afterwards we sorted, reorganised and gave away a lot of stuff. It was so cathartic.
That would be cool. 👍🏻
Watching hoarder shows has given me the opposite of hoarding. Any thing I haven’t used in a year (other than certain board games etc.) I give to thrift stores. Makes me happy to think of someone finding a bargain the way I did when a single mom of 4. The less I have including clothes the better I feel.
Me to
It feels cathartic to throw away even a few things for me.. That's why I'm always looking for something to get rid of. But yeah I imagine it was amazing for you:)
I think Hoarding is equal to loneliness, depression, regret, selfishness, loss, lack of self-love , control and so on.
and so on.
Yep my father is a hoarder and has all these things you described
your forgot the main one....LAZY.
@Who Me: I'm lonely, suffer from loneliness, anxiety, social avoidance, depression, anxiety, ("some", Ocd), have had NUMEROUS losses and regrets in life, but NEVER a hoarder. I just CAN'T HAVE things all in MY way around me like that. That's to much, it would drive me absolutely, positively, crazy.
I think guilt over bad things they have done too.
These people are so brave! I wouldn't have the courage to ask for help, let alone on T.V.! I wish them the very best!
I guess the show is looking for them and persuaded them. Hoarders will never ask for help. They always wanted to hoard everything
pro trick: watch series on flixzone. I've been using them for watching loads of movies during the lockdown.
Brave? That word is banded about willy nilly these days. Their not brave they are nuts! How can anyone live like that? Disgusting 😖
The people working with these hoarders are angels! Their patience is amazing and non judgemental, kudos to them all!
Jasmine is the best daughter ever. God Bless all from Canada.
I just love Marion. How cute is she! I can’t imagine how she does it. And what an amazing daughter Jasmine is.
poor woman, he's a complete bully!
It’s so sad to hear Richard say his problem is his older home having fewer places “to put things” than if it was a newer home. He is so oblivious to the fact he has turned his home into a garbage dump. The man actually saves garbage and rotted food. His home is a health hazard and a safety hazard. I’m surprised it hasn’t been condemned. I also find him a bit arrogant.
And Allen’s hoarding is horrendously out of control. I feel so sorry for his wife having to live among a hoard inside and outside her home for 40 years.
Also, in my experience, new builds have less space than older homes, not more.
@@itsacarolbthing5221based on my own perhaps limited experience then the older places have much more storage place. Or even old fashioned homes with separate a living room and kitchen since they have more walls that can have storage items against them.
Richard is what I would describe as "happy as a pig in muck" quite literally. But I bet his neighbours disagree.
It's not about stuff. It's about people, and Jasmine's mom understands that it's (like) an addiction that she will always have to deal with. I am impressed by the compassion of the professionals.
How sad: Allen thinks of books as friends but leaves them outside to rot in the elements. What contradiction and irony.
I thought so too... more like corpses of friends
It very sad
that's because it'ss a mental ilness therefore no logic.
Sooo true.
It’s not on purpose. It’s like keeping a cat outside because at least that way you’re feeding him and if not - the cat would die, and you can’t adopt the cat.
You can’t judge people with mental illness the same way we judge normal people, and hoarding is a severe mental illness.
Jasmine's Mum is so sweet and pretty just like her , And she was actually a very clean hoarder compared to the two men with their stinky food, rotting books and unusable rubbish . Much of her stuff could go to charity shops for resale .
I love Jasmin, because first od all - she really work with those people, she really cleaned TOGETHER with her Mom, second these documentaries look so real, as they show it take days, weeks or even months to go through stuff, instead of other documents where they show rotten, dirty house, full of clatters,.and then 3 days later, everything clean, beautiful and cleaning ladies doesn't look tired, they wearing make up and etc... Thank u so much for uploading it 💞
The way the expressions on the people's faces change, from being to end makes me smile. I feel like I am riding the rollercoaster of emotions along with them.♥️
I am convinced this lady is an angel! 😇 She is so loving and patient with people... bless her! ❤
My heart goes out to the hoarders, their families & the people trying to help them.
Hoarding is such a complicated issue.
Wondering what the recovery rate is 🤔
Why does your heart go out them them? They aren't unhappy, except when others think they need to help them. They do not fit into what society wants then to be and cleaning out their stuff isn't going to make them any more functional.
@@patstokes7040 It's difficult growing up in such a mess. I just threw everything away from dad's house when he had died, took eight weeks as I recall it (4 evenings a week). Everything had to be sorted in different piles: electrical, paper, wood, metal etc. ☹ in the end the guys at the recycling station greeted me with a 'hello' and a nod at each trip.
Amazing presenter, so kind and understanding with the people they are helping!
This documentary is already on youtube and I hoped this was new episodes but I'll still watch anyway because I love Jasmine 💕
I couldn't be friends with someone who throws a tantrum about some old news papers
You need to know it is not about the newspapers. They have another underlying issue.
@@francism3805 very sad to see people living in such dangerous conditions, would be so ready to help with practical work in their homes,
Wow. Very judgmental of you. We all have our struggles.
My mother is a hoarder. She has been since I was about 7. The entire family went through some very shockingly bad treatment from my father. This is a legitimate mental illness, and always has its root in some trauma. You have to walk a fine line. You have to be pushy enough to make sure they are safe, and to not let their addictive behaviour go on too much. Because it is an addiction, collecting things, the shopping along with convulsive buying habits, and it needs to be managed.
After all this time, I'd finally had enough. I told her that either we got her house sorted in a month, or I'd be calling social services.
They will lie, manipulate, justify their behaviour, rationalise their illnesses, relapse, cry, scream, throw tantrums, and have breakdowns. You end up being the bad guy. But a line has to be drawn. Her house was filthy, the piles were dangerous, food was being kept that was off, it was impossible to clean, and all around it was a bad situation. But, I persisted. There was not a ton of compromises, only actually usable items were to be kept. I did not allow her to bargain with me, wheedle or keep her old habits. She had a very blunt choice: go along, or lose her home and freedom essentially. I am her eldest child, and at that point I considered it my duty to step in and make sure my mother was taken care of, if she could not take care of herself.
The threat still stands. If her house gets back to that same condition again, the call will be made. You have to back it up with counselling and professional help, but someone needs to put their foot down.
Although it has caused me a lot of grief, and I know she dislikes me for it, I will maintain my position without fail. Because I love my mother, and I won't help her destroy herself through illness. It's just the same as a drug problem, and should be dealt with the same way. It's all about control, hiding and skewed perspectives with them.
At one point however, I had to lay down the law with my mother. I told her if she did not accept help to make her house functional, I would call in social services. I would rather she hated me, and be safe in a home, than dead, injured or stuck in a house that she can't get out of in an emergency.
She realised I was absolutely serious, and had already made preparations to put this in motion. I told her she that if the place wasn't sorted out in a month, I'd make the call. After some angry yelling, and bad feelings between us, she had to accept it. I supported her, and helped clean up. All family members pitched in. I informed all of them that under no circumstances were they to take any furniture to store for her, or help her get new things.
I'm 35 now. I have tried all my life to help her get it under control. At 32, was when I put my foot down once and for all. She is disabled, and in very bad health. She actually gave me hoarding tendencies. I realised this a number of years ago, and it alarmed me. I looked around and saw piles of boxes, clutter and stuff that I had no idea what it all was. At that point I made a choice. Gave myself a month, and hired a skip. Anything that had not been of yse to me in the last six months went into that skip. Broken, whole, furniture, precious memory things, it didn't matter. I was ruthless. And it was the best thing I ever did for myself. I keep on top of it by pulling myself up when shopping.
I'd find myself thinking "oh, I might need that." So, I would stop, and actually think. 1: Do I have this already? 2: Am I SURE I do not have this? 3: Will it be actually used? 4: Can I afford this? 5: Where will this item go, tidy in my house, with the current space I have? 6: Am I buying this because I need it or just because I want it? 7: Are my answers to these previous questions truthful? 8: Will this continue to be used regularly?
By running through these questions in my head, whenever I see something I fancy, I avoid hoarding again. It works for me. Every month, I have a proper clean up, and the items I currently have are assessed.
I’m so sorry you had to live like that.
I wish this severe mental illness had an easier treatment or even a cure. 💔
Get richard a computer, introduce him to wikipedia and youtube lol
I feel sorry for the neighbours, sight, smell, vermin etc.
Don’t forget the landlord if they’re not the owners!
I agree, but it’s a severe mental illness. They can’t help it.
I see how the illness manifests in these folks but I cannot wrap my brain around how someone can look at a filthy piece of garbage and see something of value.
Richard is honestly a bad-tempered slob, and walking about on all that rotting and putrid food proves it.
With the men, especially, I'd guess that Autism ('Aspergers') is a big part of the issue for many- I'm always amazed- watching hoarding documentaries as a diagnosed autistic- that more hoarders aren't picked up as being on the autism spectrum. Both Richard and Alan, for instance, have an absolutely typical pedantic manner of speaking and- it appears- thinking. Personally, I'd consider suggesting that these people are assessed for autism before trying other mental health interventions- because things like this typically work better if especially tailored for the neurodiverse mind.
I totally agree. To the untrained a eye it could appear like arrogance or stubbornness
Not a hoarder but I’m addictive with the show and it helps me keep my home safe and sound; It happened when I lost my first son… (2011-forever 22, and my oldest son ( (2021- forever 34… hoarders help keep me under control… thank you for that…😇😇♥️
Jasmine I hope YOU READ this. I am so THANKFUL for your mom and yours, (And other people in your show) BRAVERY. I know there are many rough things in life and showing it publicly like on this show is not easy at all. It will/does INSPIRE others. Your kindness and dedication of reaching out finding and assembling teams and your time to help these people you also found is INCREDIBLE. I hope you keep it up and know this stranger from this world is IMPRESSED PROUD and GRATEFUL
I think that the worst thing for me, as a hoarder was losing the identity that came with attaching myself to material objects. People around me could not understand how crucial these items were to my daily survival. I often would cling to these things because the things never disappointed me, the people disappointed me at times. I was able to see that my home was just a storage space for things, and that I wasn’t using the things, they were just taking up empty space in my mental and physical life. I finally looked past the echo of an empty space and moved forward in my life, but it took a long time to realize that these things were actually hurting me, keeping me from building relationships that hold the true meaning of love. I gave myself permission to have more meaning-more than just having and storing things. I’m going to add that I am so much calmer and cleaning is a lot easier now too!!!
The moment I saw Mrs Vassila I thought I was looking at my mom. And then it hit me, she is a refugee from Cyprus like my mom. Bless their hearts they have been through so much pain and loss 😢
It's to bad that hoarders don't realize that stepping on all the stuff you treasure is breaking it or ruining it. Hoarding is a mental disorder. There's cases that some hoarders will keep dead rodents and/or animals.
Alan couldn't see anything but his own wants, needs, and desires. His choices had and still may have isolated and pushed away his wife and children, and he did so with little to no regard for their feelings or their needs. Having a mental illness is difficult, and for the most part, people will leave you to deal with it however you as an informed consenting adult chooses to deal with it. However, when your mental illness directly impacts others, including your neighbours it becomes an issue. For Alan to continue leaving his belongings outside the front and back of his and Mirian's house will encourage snakes, rodents, invasive insects, foxes, etc. That puts the greater community at risk and he has no right to do that. Mirian must truly love Alan, otherwise, she probably would have divorced him years prior and saved herself the time & heartache.
YES I agree - that both Alan and Richard are locked into their own reality - their mental capacity seems very diminished - they really can't communicate or understand what others are saying . I feel these two men are a danger to themselves and should be in psych unit .
@@batterbury4477 It's possible that if after some therapy and the properties being cleared, if it is clear to the family that neither party are able to overcome their dangerous behaviour the families may need to contact solicitors who can request the court for a court-ordered psych hold on the men. Sometimes it's safer for an individual and everyone else for them to be in a stable and secure environment where they can get the therapy and perhaps medication they need.
Snakes?!
This woman is so lovely. Inside and out.❤
Difficult to deal with an angry hoarder
Dealing with a hoarder I would freak out in like 10 minutes.
Same here, I have zero tolerance with these people.
I'm watching this and I feel bad for the hoarders but at the same time I just want them to set their house on fire and start again
@@gillianbrookwell1678 not even getting to be in the same room as Jasmine Harman would tempt me to deal with a hoarder.
We need more research on the psychological foundations and better therapy, as it is they’re almost impossible to deal with when in denial.
Everyone needs to stop judging. These hoarders need help, and Love!
Because you’re not a mental health professional. 🤷♀️
Richard & his OLD newspapers (it's not "news" anymore) ~ reminded me of a terrible news story I read a while back. I'm sure this happens more often than reported!.
In upstate New York, an elderly man, was buried alive by a pile of newspapers that fell over on him. His neighbors noticed he wasn't collecting his newspapers or mail; they were piling up. They called the police ... It took a while before they located his remains. Sadly, he had cut off all contact with his whole family, so they didn't know he was dead, until the authorities notified them.
In the end, his "stuff" killed him 😢
It's the pleasure of having human company that I feel makes Alan able to let things go. Human relationships and praise are so important and I fear that if/when this stops he will go back. Friendship and companionship are so important
Obviously hoarding is triggered by loss or trauma. I can’t help but wonder if these lovely people also have an imbalance of vitamins and minerals and good gut bacteria, all which affect the mind and brain?
I feel so sorry for those people suffering from that disorder. However I find it rather interesting with what explanations they come up when they are asked why everything is so cluttered
Before finishing this episode, I got up and tossed somethings out.
Hoarding is something deeply emotional. I think it could be linked to many other pshycological disorders.
Can't even think of hoarding. Organising is my way of feeling in control!!
I know a hoarder who hoards because her mother was taken to auschwitz and had all her possessions taken away, they even took her humanity from her and shaved all her hair, so when she survived auschwitz she started hoarding because she couldn’t have anyone touch her stuff ever again..
it was a huge eye-opener for me in terms of the emotional side of hoarding.
My grandmother,aunt and I are horders..for me it's a feeling of control and I have a thought of if I get "it" I will have it when I need it..I must declutter and organize to keep things in check or it gets out of control..these videos make me realize how bad it can get if I am not careful!!!..Thankyou 🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️
Laura, you're the first one I saw when scrolling through the comments that says "I'm a hoarder", so. What strikes me is a hoarder don't seem to be able to differ good stuff from trash. Can you? Would that skill be possible to train, what do you think?
Good luck! 👍 Maybe the trick is to realise you can re-buy most things second hand if you really, really need it and realise you've thrown it away by mistake. Or that you can take a digital photo of the item and don't have to keep the actual physical item.
Jasmine is so sweet and caring 💖
Hoarding is such an isolating, severe entail illness that I had no idea hoarders can even find love or be in a relationship… it touched my heart seeing that couple…
It says this is from March 2021 but there is a lot of information about hoarding. It’s a mental illness that is usually triggered by the loss of someone significant or abuse suffered and not ever dealt with. It also very commonly has elements of OCD which in the name says compulsive disorder. Meaning that even if the person wants to stop or knows it’s irrational it’s a compulsive act that usually needs therapy and learning new ways of thinking too actually break the cycle.
im glad ur all getting better.and are reaching out for help ..
I have no patience for this behavior. Society should not allow hoarders to do this to family members and neighborhoods. It is abuse that should not be tolerated.
I really think a lot of hoarders are so selfish, they really don't care about other people.
Excellent video.
Fantastic!!!!
Richard seems to me to intellectualize everything. he sounds upper class to me, yet he comes from a family that struggled...perplexed.
She says She doesn't know what to expect! Well you say you have put up with your mother's hoarding for years, so you must know what to expect. The plain fact is that it's very difficult to help a hoarder unless they are willing to change and after getting out of a 40 year relationship with a hoarder husband, I have come to the conclusion that these people never change, or if they do stop, they start hoarding again.
sadly thats true, they very rarely stop, and even after a huge clearout, it doesnt take long for it to all start over..its very sad...but its a horribly selfish disorder when a family has to grow up with it..destroys childhoods, isolates children completely from a normal social life..
At least it takes a lot of time to fill the house that much again.. It always feels a little disappointing to know that all the work of good-willed people will not stop this cycle
They need continued therapy, otherwise, they will hoard again.
I feel so bad for these people. I would hate to live that way.
My husband has hoarder tendencies. I go through stuff when he's not here. He handles it better when he doesn't see it thrown away. He understands that he can't make those decisions easily. He was adopted as an infant and keeps things in response to feeling that he was unwanted by his birth parents. When his cousin contacted his birth parents he was told that they didn't want him then and don't want him now. That really through him into a tailspin emotionally, terrified that he would get the same response.
Thanks so much for your help ❤
When they do the close up interview of Jasmine and she's in the dark, she looks so much like Daphne from Scooby-Doo
We discovered after 27 years of not being allowed to enter the property, that my sister was a very very bad hoarder. She committed suicide last year. Maybe it was her way out
@The Artist Hoarding has probably always been around in some way or form. For most people, prior to the industrial age, everyday items were more costly, so you kept and reused things until they were unusable. Clothes were passed down or remade, metal was melted into something new, and when a burglar took your bowl, you no longer had a bowl. Material and food items were survival, security, and signs of wealth. People kept things because otherwise they may not be able to get something else. Once products became cheaper, it became easier to acquire things, whether by buying or finding discarded. Hoarding probably grew because of it, but old stories frequently mention the local packrat, even long before industrialization.
That’s so sad. I’m sorry for your whole family. So many unanswered questions.
.. having a hoarded house can also be a warped survival strategy ....➡️if the house it too bad too be seen by medics/relatives you can't allow yourself to die yet..
I'm sorry about your sister. She must have been very overwhelmed. You didn't know. I'm sorry for your loss.
Awfully sad for her and all of you.
I always feel that people need access to bathroom and kitchen.
Outstanding documentary!
When I watch these docs, i freak out and want to do a big clean out. I don't hoard if anything I am a minimalist doing big clean outs every 6 months. but i know hoarders, I feel for these people, its an incredibly debilitating mental health condition that takes over their lives and their loved ones. Like other mental health conditions (obsessive/compulsive types of disorders) It should be recognised and proper help provided to these people so they can rehabilitate and regain their lives. They can't help it, it controls them and causes extreme anxiety to move forward, its heartbreaking but without proper CBT therapy and constant support they can't get better. 😥
Sounds like the help they need is just someone in their formative days of hoarding to confront them. Granted this would not always be successful....If not there are laws that need to be enforced for their own good. I knew a hoarder and my wife and I
did not call the authorities although I regret that decision today...She eventually lost her properties and her life as we knew it...
The hoarding was a symptom that needed to be addressed. This seems to reinforce your point. I guess the real question is
"How free is freedom"?
Even if you had called the authorities, the end result would likely have been the same unless she had received intensive mental health care.
One thing that I’ve noticed with hoarders, is that they can be banned from living in the house unless it’s cleaned within a certain amount of time and they STILL fight tooth and nails to keep everything.
Sometimes we loose a friend that means everything.
So we hold on to anything.
I always enjoys your hoarders show.
I wonder if any hoarders just flip and become minimalists
I think not.
Not minimalists, but I got rid of my entire closet and bags and bags of trash and stuff one day.
I’m not exactly a hoarder, I just have a chronic illness that doesn’t allow me to clean up after myself, so on good days I used to just compulsively throw away everything I could without caring…
Having a pause at 12.00 This guy blaiming the mess just occured cause of gravity.... stuff falling down and him not being capable to bend down... that I have no words for
The thing is the hoarders wouldn't know where certain things are if someone threw them out. They wouldn't even remember they had the stuff. I think a lot of hoarders have dementia too.
But that’s another phobia of hoarders.
That if someone came into their homes they’d take something to throw away.
Imagine you let me in for a cup of tea and I took a look at your house and said: he won’t miss this cup, let me just take it and break it outside. And this cup is a memento from your late grandmother…
This is how hoarders feel.
I can't understand that with all the rubbish littering the floors, that they don't sneak a load of it out while the person is not looking. Also have the person admitted to some care unit while a team goes in to clean. They could then get the help they need and return home to a clean house.
Because if they do that - the hoarder will never trust them or anyone else ever again.
This is a severe mental illness. What you just described is akin to stealing.
Everyone has bad life experience. Is that how they try and get murderers off. Well it's the same thing. We hold people hands so they can continue to be a nuisance to others. Can you imagine living next to that house with junk in the yard.
A clear front garden?? I must have a different definition.
I cleared my mom's hoard so many times when she passed I had to clean it all out again.
You’re a very strong person.. it’s not easy..
Yep me too.
They need to get rid of Allen's stuff. Tell him no more just throw it out.
fear of them freaking out
@@alexm566 He'd calm down eventually.
I would be so ashamed if my mom or old man would discover my apartment like in that state :/
So are the hoarders.
I think Richard comes across as a little ungrateful
It’s a mental illness, he’s just confronted like a million demons.. he needs some time to process.
It's a shame so many used book stores in U.S. have closed down. Wonder if their's did. Libraries might like to get some of the books.
The luxury of owning a private property, wouldn't hoard if the landlord was on their backs
Nah, they’d still hoard until they were evicted. It’s been shown on both of the American hoarding programs.
That’s not it, but yes, fear is a deterrent in some cases.
Hoarding is a psychological disorder associated with OCD and anxiety.
And PTSD
So emotional for me I hope everybody clean up afterwards. 😚🐱😚😌😚😌😌😍😌🐱🐱😌😌🐱😉😌😌😚🐱😌😌😚🐱😌😌😍😍
If I were Marion, I would through away all these things without him knowing ...
If I were Marion, I would LEAVE without him knowing. I mean, he probably wouldn't even notice! He'd just think she was lost in the hoard somewhere, and oh well.
That’s what they do sometimes, but it doesn’t stop the hoarder from doing it again and this time they hoard more and trust less.
The idea is to teach them to get better, not do it by force.
The city does clear out homes of hoarders when it becomes a public health issue, but if they do that - the hoarder will keep doing it again.
This show is about helping the hoarders take control over their lives. It’s not about clutter, it’s about severe PTDS-like trauma that’s linked to physical stuff.
I would have left him years ago. It’s obvious he doesn’t love her or he’d change his ways.
He hated her from the beginning of the marriage. This is punishment.
She has wasted her life for nothing.
Intensive CBT therapy and certain SSRI medications can help a lot, depending upon the person.
I just opened the video and got confused for a moment by your first suggestion
Absolutely right!
@@alexm566 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
@@alexm566 a good kick can certainly help some guys feel better, maybe not in this situation lol 🤣
What a amazing,beautiful an very loving daughter,I wish my daughter could love me that way
You ever look a lion in the eye in a zoo and realize they have given up?
I feel really bad for Richard. ( I feel bad for all of them.) I hope his health and home is on the upswing.
Good god it's a pencil!
why does hoaders are junkies always blame their parents they have to be resposible for their own actions
They have a disease, they think in a warped way, don't see they've got a problem and make excuses to fend off criticism.
I’m not saying it’s ok, but that’s the reason they become that way in the first place.
Now, from that point, most people get over it, some more easily than others, while others succumb to their mental illness.
But it’s not as simple as you make it sound.
It’s only simple for those of us who don’t have that problem.
my dad is with newspapers and magazines my mom used to every month get small pile and bin them now she is gone I have to do the same when I go round as if we don't then it gets too much I cleared one pile from 2008 from under the bed last time I was there
I waited until my dad died, it would have been unbearable to try to sit with him sorting his stuff, looking at everything in detail and perhaps remember the entire story how everything had been acquired only to put it back. When he died I took out 2 boxes of stuff and kept it, and threw away about 600 boxes of stuff.
I waited until my dad died, it would have been unbearable to try to sit with him sorting his stuff, looking at everything in detail and perhaps remember the entire story how everything had been acquired only to put it back. When he died I took out 2 boxes of stuff and kept it, and threw away about 600 boxes of stuff.
Oh and dad had piled up granny's stuff when she died, too, when her flat had been emptied some years earlier. 🙄
11:08 What that noise in the background? Did one of the crew trip? :D
I don't know how people can tidy and clean when wearing long hair, floaty scarves and clothes, I would tie it all up and streamline my body if only not to catch my clothes on something sticking out.
Yes, I thought of that.
this is so sad there is always a hidden reason for this behavior
Yeah, like demonic possession...
I feel for them but seriously feel for there neighbors I’d hate them as neighbours as make me so anxious as it’s a ticking time bomb
Don't the Environmental Health dept of the local council have a say? Can't they apply for a court order to allow them to forcibly clear and fumigate these properties on health grounds? I'm astonished they don't realise the risk from typhus and the like.
Alan seems so extremely disconnected with reality.
And Richard, too, in my opinion.
It’s called mental illness.
What a wonderful daughter!
Cannot understand how this situations are not takle with a heavier hand.
"It has to be on their terms", but it has already being like that... And they pum themselfs and other humans in dangerous and unsanitary places.
We say someone clean their house with force, when what?
Because it’s not a lazy person, it’s a person with a severe mental illness.
Take someone with anorexia and start force-feeding them until they gain weight - if you don’t do that right - they will kill themselves.
These are old documentaries - you can find the whole series and more on the original youtube channel called Only Human .
this is related channel, they put it here to start gaining subscribers
@@alexm566 No it's not. They already have 1000s upon 1000s of subscribers to their channel. And these old documentaries that are being passed off as new on this channel, have received more than 500,000 viewings each on the original Only Human channel. So please do not lie.
@@karonmcgregor4753 This channel has only 3.3k subscribers. It is owned by the same people who own Only Human. They put it here to gain more subscribers to THIS channel, not to Only Human. I am not lying, your misunderstanding my words.
@@alexm566 That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. Only Human have 2.08 million subscribers. Why would they want to repeat their whole content on another channel? And if so, is that even allowed on RUclips? I'll check YT guidelines and get back to you.
@@karonmcgregor4753 look how many creators created multiple channels, it's very common and encouraged by youtube
Very sad. I have a heard issue myself but there isn't food, or junk mixed in with the good stuff. Either way it's a hoard when I own 2 storage units full. Garage sale here we come this summer!
Me father also. The garage is fool the Wintergarden almost, both rooms in the basement also- his Room and the leaving room are not nice. But by far better
And I have something of an Anti-Hoard issue. I trow away everything innmidiatly away and do not really regret it😂
There's a difference between a hoard and clutter... with a hoard, eventually the filth, the bugs and the animals appear and become permanent residents. Usually with clutter, one can at least get around without having to step on trash and risk personal injury on a daily basis. It may also be a situation of lacking personal organizational skills. But I would cautiously advise anyone in your situation--having two storage units to keep stuff you may or may not want/ need and never get around to sorting through because life has derailed you somehow--for some, that line will eventually be crossed into characteristics of hoarding. Just some food for thought 🤔
@@kathyevans757 It's only hoarding when the roaches and mice decide it is? Talk about denial. 2 Storage units of stuff in addition to what you live with and use in your house is hoarding.
@@wellyano6964 Huh?🤔
Richard reminds me of Jim from Friday Night Dinner, especially when they found a tin of meat.
There comes a time when there is /so/ much stuff that it can't be tidied up and organised and things have to go, and I do agree that depression is a problem when it comes to hoarding. My partner has started this habit of collecting things that people throw out. (TBH, I don't like seeing good quality things that are still in good condition being thrown out, but you can't save everything, and it's really the fault of the person throwing it out that they've not recycled it, or donated it to a charity shop.) I wonder, too for some people if their physical health has an impact on their tendency to hoard. I have arthritis and I can do a day of cleaning and organising but then have to take a day or two off from doing it to rest before I can start again because the pain in the muscles and joints is awful. People who have other illness that give them fatigue, brain fog symptoms and pain like fibromyalgia will have difficulty too if they don't have support. This is just something to bear in mind.
Brilliant programme didn't know the lady running the show her mother was a border x
The woman needs to be on medication especially when they are clearing away the hoard! it can be loss in life bereavement and abandonment issues also OCD included and compounding it!
My dad watched this and said..why did they shut the asylums...that's dads for you.
And he is right . It harms so many other people. If he were in hospital it could be dealt with as an illness and not destroy. whole families
@@islanddweller3674 Do you have any struggles that harm others? What about harsh criticism?
@@i.m.watching5536 LMAO, harsh criticism, I hope you don't have to go to A&E over a comment on YT
@@kamilasmosna5821 Well at least you had a good laugh. What is your point?
Hoarders can’t go to asylums.
Many hoarders have been through the public system and that’s their original trauma that led them to hoard in the first place.
Hoarding is triggered by not allowing you to have control of your most basic stuff.
I know a hoarder who is the way she is because her mom went to auschwitz.
Once they took everything from her and even shaved her hair - even a piece of lint in her possession became as valuable as gold, because it was hers.
But I agree they shouldn’t have shut down the asylums, we need to put violent people somewhere.