Interview: ExJW Still Fading

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  • Опубликовано: 4 дек 2024

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  • @southernbawselady7092
    @southernbawselady7092 3 года назад +34

    Awesome interview! 👊
    Please everyone don't waste your life in this mess!!
    You will lose not only your gifts and talents, but also it's a possibility you could lose your life!!
    The hypocrisy is STRONG in this CULT!!

  • @pinkfuschia8140
    @pinkfuschia8140 3 года назад +18

    I was POMI for about 15 years even though I never got baptized in the end. It took that long to completely unravel my mind and all the false doctrines

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +5

      The indoctrination is so deep, it can take years!

    • @kathygriggs5615
      @kathygriggs5615 3 года назад

      I've been disassociated for 37years and unfamiliar with "POMI" what does that stand for?

    • @pinkfuschia8140
      @pinkfuschia8140 3 года назад +1

      @@kathygriggs5615 Hi Kathy, POMI means Physically Out, Mentally In. It is a term used in the ex jehovah's witness community when you have left the meetings, but still have a lot of indoctrination in your mind. The other term used is PIMO, meaning Physically In, Mentally Out, referring to those still attending meetings that no longer believe but can't leave.
      I have uploaded my testimony in 4 parts now and one of my videos talks about the POMI conflict I had for so long.

  • @andreawhittaker9117
    @andreawhittaker9117 3 года назад +15

    Love you ExJW Still Fading! You ARE likeable as you mentioned the elders found you so...so I doubt you will have too much difficulty out there in "the world". You could make a career out of your desire to help others...EXJW Concierge Services!

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +3

      Thanks for watching! I'm sure SF will appreciate your comment 🙂

  • @labelle8110
    @labelle8110 3 года назад +12

    Watching from New-York! Jehovah’s Witnesses Mecca!!

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +1

      Thanks for watching! I hope you enjoyed it 🙂

    • @labelle8110
      @labelle8110 3 года назад

      @@Jexit2020 I certainly did! Thank You !!

  • @roxanneford8149
    @roxanneford8149 3 года назад +10

    Absolutely brilliant interview, thank you to you Riley for your lovely interview style and to this brave young man sharing this story, some great points made, I am so glad to hear he will have some support when he is fully POMO, including his father, I'd love to hear the outcome one day

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +2

      Thanks for watching 🙂
      I'm sure he'll do just fine. He has a good head on his shoulders and has his dad for support.

  • @nineteen8486
    @nineteen8486 3 года назад +20

    watching in outback Australia........

  • @dianeriddick2339
    @dianeriddick2339 3 года назад +7

    You will be alright. Your Dad is by your side. Them people are something else.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +1

      Yes, having outside support is such a big help. His dad has done right by him.

  • @tammyg8031
    @tammyg8031 3 года назад +10

    Can't wait. This will be really good!!!! I love both of these guys!!!!!

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +2

      Thanks, Tammy! 😃

  • @pinkfuschia8140
    @pinkfuschia8140 3 года назад +14

    Read Going Clear by Leah Remini. That made me cry when I saw the similarities with Scientology and all the control etc

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +2

      I felt the same way when I read "Combatting Cult Mind Control" by Steven Hassan. The similarities between the JWs and The Moonies were SHOCKING!

    • @blues3665
      @blues3665 3 года назад

      @@Jexit2020 watch Jason Zelda this man is awesome.

  • @jexodussouthafrica177
    @jexodussouthafrica177 3 года назад +10

    I can relate his struggles. My Jehovah’s witnesses family members choose to have contact with some disfellowshipped members but they tell me that they can’t have contact with forever because I disassociated. Leaving watchtower is the worst “crime” that one can commit in the eyes of those who are highly controlled. #sad

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +2

      That's so sad and twisted. I'm sorry for what's happening to you 😞

    • @jexodussouthafrica177
      @jexodussouthafrica177 3 года назад +2

      @@Jexit2020 it’s all good. They are missing out on having a good relationship with a cool kid like me😂 they miss me for sure😁. I miss those who disconnected with me but life goes on.

  • @hudsonchalmers6504
    @hudsonchalmers6504 3 года назад +6

    Its amazing what you can deal with when you are young

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +2

      True. It makes me so happy to see people wake up while still young 😃

  • @iliprivateequity
    @iliprivateequity 3 года назад +2

    It's a trip that 1914 has been buried so deeply. My parents joined in 1974 and 1975. So I was there as a kid for the 1975 prediction. Then, we were taught profusely that before the people alive in 1914 all died, the end would come. That was a staple teaching for years. I knew as a skeptical teen that if 2014 came and the end wasn't here, they were lying and not God's organization. I left the organization in the late 1990s for 12 years and went back in 2010 for about 4 years. Then faded again. So the doctrine for me is stuck in time and I am realizing that if I went door to door preaching now, I would have no idea I was preaching wrong information according to the organization. They literally just created some new crap and kept going like 1914 wasn't a thing. It was featured in Watchtower studies all the time. Amazing how they can hide something that huge and JWs now don't even know about it.

  • @andrewxjw
    @andrewxjw 3 года назад +13

    I can relate to this. I'm also a PIMO ex JW vlogger. I was planning on wearing a bandana mask but when I saw this brother I didn't want anyone to mix us up Lol. Nice interview guys! Excellent points.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +4

      😂
      Thanks for your ongoing support! How's your own fade going?

    • @andrewxjw
      @andrewxjw 3 года назад +5

      @@Jexit2020 thanks! 😄 My fade is going slow but steady. My JW wife has been cool enough to support my fade for the most part. Not that she's waking up. Complicated situation but progressing.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +5

      @@andrewxjw , I'm sure it is very complicated. But you'll get through it. Your freedom is worth it ✊🏾

  • @brt13456
    @brt13456 3 года назад +6

    I just found your RUclips channel and I’m excited to be subscribed I’m 15 and I’m also a pimo since I can’t really do anything about it because of my age. I grew up as a jw and just like any other experience I’ve already started doubting things now that I’m 15 and I’ve done so much research for when I’m ready to get out.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +2

      Thanks so much for subscribing! 😃
      WOW! You're very young! That's a good thing as you still have your whole life ahead of you. You don't have to waste your life in this sham of a "religion".

  • @hudsonchalmers6504
    @hudsonchalmers6504 3 года назад +6

    The big wide world is great

  • @lindabeavis7711
    @lindabeavis7711 3 года назад +2

    Fantastic interview thanks for the share with your story keep going you are doing so well i was pimo for some 9 years until i fled domestic violence in the cult in 2018 with my youngest daughter we are both now thriving in the xjw community

  • @lindafreeman6915
    @lindafreeman6915 3 года назад +6

    You can meet new people and feel better about your life

  • @davidsolomon5881
    @davidsolomon5881 3 года назад +3

    very nice interview Jexit and Still Fading, keep up the good work, You are helping current JWs to escape this destructive cult. Godbless both of you

  • @fujajo2761
    @fujajo2761 3 года назад +5

    It's great to see ex JW's joining forces (so to speak), as an ex jw channels like yours have been such a great healing tool for me and a source of information. Keep the content coming! ❤️

  • @msbutterfly4365
    @msbutterfly4365 3 года назад +6

    My boy Riley doing what he does best, another great interview with another great activist that I follow, thanks guys for fighting the fight and spreading the real truth about this organisation. @ex jw still fading I hope in time you can fully come out and live your authentic life, you so deserve it, but hey I understand the sacrifice that’ll take so in your own time. ☺️

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +4

      Thanks so much for all of your support and positive energy!💙💙💙

  • @jasperfagbuyi9520
    @jasperfagbuyi9520 3 года назад +1

    Nice Video to help those who are still not awake as a JW or ex. I will also recommend the Book of Franz to them to go through. I got it from an Elder who left b4 me and it helped me and my wife that what we did to leave the Cult is good. Try to hear from Franz as former Governing Bodies in the early years, who traveled to many Countries of the World for JW and gave many Talks in their Conventions.

  • @allanu6416
    @allanu6416 3 года назад +16

    I recommend Ray Franz's (ex Governing Body) book "Crisis of Conscience"....it helped me when I left the cult (was in for 35 years).

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад

      It's an excellent book! Eye-opening and shocking at the same time.

  • @karencramer6491
    @karencramer6491 3 года назад

    I have listened to many of your interviews Riley, and often shook my head at the coldness and cruelty this association forces on their members, but hearing this man speak about his concern for his brother's fragility as his reason for staying PIMO broke my heart. It is my observation that there are many, many good, caring and intelligent people under the control of the JW organisation who are sadly locked in and unable to realise their full human potential.

  • @hudsonchalmers6504
    @hudsonchalmers6504 3 года назад +18

    I am 76, you wont change them, Get out since you have found the door. You are delaying the inevitable go thru' and deal with it

    • @blues3665
      @blues3665 3 года назад +4

      Wish everyone would watch Jason Zelda hidden from Jehovah Witness videos, they are awesome.

    • @theresefournier3269
      @theresefournier3269 3 года назад +2

      Ahmein. Just trust our heavenly Father, who never lied. And never will. The greatest Teacher, i ever knew.

  • @brt13456
    @brt13456 3 года назад +5

    It’s crazy and so scary to me how some people don’t get out of it til they’re in their 20s or 30s because of the guilt and fear that this religion brings. I’m afraid I’ll turn out to stay longer than what I think I will because of fear.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +3

      Thanks for watching 🙂
      Each and every week, I speak to at least one person who didn't leave until well after middle-age! It's so sad! I left in my early 40s and that was long enough!

  • @reinaldofranco2966
    @reinaldofranco2966 3 года назад +2

    Great interview. 9:25 I remember that talk by Morris about brothers that are not MS at 25 are not spiritual. 🤦🏻‍♂️ I was married by then but I thought that was unfair for the men that were were good but because the GB says they’re not, others listen.

  • @kimmychong7029
    @kimmychong7029 3 года назад +1

    I am Pomo, but I still have contact with my parents somewhat. I believe this open line with them is still open because they have a hope I will come back and also because they love my young daughter. I only contact them to make sure they are doing ok and for them to be able to have my daughter in their life. I will always be there to help them. And I will take care of them if or when they need it. But I feel a small amount of pressure coming from them since I left the military. And they know I got into the military to be able to support myself financially.
    I did watch the most recent memorial, but only did just to hear what was being said. And I did not tell them that I did watch it. I knew eventually it would be asked and I wanted to be able to say, yes, I did watch. I have more to say, but my story is very long. I am not trying to give my parents a false hope, but I don’t want them to have to draw that line in the sand with me. Because if or when they do, I won’t be having contact with them. I won’t allow harsh comments to be said to me anymore. And they are not going to indoctrinate my child. I will still be there for them for as much as they would allow. I won’t leave them, it would be them leaving me and their grandchild. 😞

  • @Hearwithyourears
    @Hearwithyourears 3 года назад +3

    Great interview 👌🏽thanks

  • @leannazanewich
    @leannazanewich 3 года назад +6

    Looking forward to this!👍

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +3

      I hope you enjoy it!

    • @leannazanewich
      @leannazanewich 3 года назад +2

      Really enjoyed this. I think the fact that "Still Fading's" Dad is not a JW will help him get through this fading process. My Dad was never a JW, my Mum was very devout. My Dad always loved me unconditionally (so grateful for this)...not so much with my Mom...so much for JW's being a "loving " organization. I think if both parents are devout it would be that much more difficult to leave the borg.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +3

      @@leannazanewich , I agree. I'm glad you had you had that support from a loving father 🙂

    • @leannazanewich
      @leannazanewich 3 года назад +2

      @@Jexit2020 me too!

  • @rdhawk929
    @rdhawk929 3 года назад +1

    Awesome interview! So open and real. 👍👍👍

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @marvelprince9893
    @marvelprince9893 3 года назад +2

    Excellent interview, thank you for sharing this video.

  • @davidmoult3726
    @davidmoult3726 3 года назад +3

    I’m scheduled for my judicial committee tomorrow night. I’m not going.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +1

      I'm sorry to hear about your judicial but I'm pleased to hear that you're defiant against them. The only power they have over you is that which you give them.

    • @davidmoult3726
      @davidmoult3726 3 года назад +1

      @@Jexit2020 thank you brother. It really sucks. My whole family will just go ...poooof. Just about to text them and let them know. I appreciate your content so thank you for that. I work in London too so be cool to meet you one day and share experiences maybe 👍🏼

  • @lynncarter4964
    @lynncarter4964 3 года назад

    It's the worst of paradoxes, but a common sales method: you create a problem or a fear in a customer, then you present the solution, by selling them a product. Your depressed brother was raised in a repressive religion, which holds threats over him. He probably doesn't know that, so he then looks to the CAUSE of the depression to save him, without realizing it. I may be totally wrong, this is just an idea. It's a common phenomenon in abusive relationships and other control groups. And unfortunately, there's still nothing you can do. All I can do to help my sister leave, despite her need for the paradise to fix her health (caused by stress), is to be faded out, as I am, and always show her how happy I am, how much my stress related illness has improved etc. My job is only to be HAPPY. And wait. Thanks for telling your story so honestly, it helps so so much.

  • @Lexi_Rose222
    @Lexi_Rose222 3 года назад +4

    Looking forward to this

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +1

      I'm sure you'll like it 🙂

  • @FallenGrace-rj1iu
    @FallenGrace-rj1iu 3 года назад

    Love the point of Russell. I was told I was disrespectful when we were studying Gods Kingdom Rules and I asked how Russell was any different from John Smith with the Mormons. We knock them for following man but how are we different 🧐🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @drendabaerwolf8579
    @drendabaerwolf8579 3 года назад +5

    It's the occult. I'm after my sister's and I don't care if they get mad. I can't believe I haven't been blocked yet

  • @sammyytube5999
    @sammyytube5999 3 года назад

    Glad that I am non track with much of the good advice here. I learned quickly from the reactions of just a couple of people that I had to suffer and cry privately while making myself research more and find an outlet in the ex JW community particularly those sharing content and experiences, not just angry bashing. If you are on the fence or just waking up, the angry bashing (although warranted from hurt which one must come to understand) only helps to validate the weaponizing word Apostate that the GB uses to guilt and threaten you so you don't dare to look. Yes, if you still have fear about loosing relationships in the community; take you time and start putting distance in you communications always with the realization that they are willing to abandon you first for the organization. In the meantime, start working on your social skills showing yourself more open to new relationships and w/o too much judgement since you are trained to see them as worldly. Even if you don't find a friend of similar personality right away, at least you are becoming more receptive and comfortable for your new life. In new conversations, avoid the topic of religion. If it does come up, don't call your religion a cult. If you are still attending meetings because it is hard to break away from a routine, start skipping a few meetings or keep that camera off to do other things in the background. You have to break up the 2 hours of hypnosis. When the time comes to cut the ties, I suggest closure to one or two people dearest to you to let them know what your appreciated about your time together. While you explain that this is something that your conscience has to do, you don't have to go into ugly truths to shatter their community and protection even though you will look unspiritual. But at least you controlled the exit better and armed yourself with more knowledge so the opinion of others won't bother you as much. Finally, the elders are not your friends at this point. Don't speak to them in the process to give them a chance to mark you. Just hand in your letter of disassociation or disappear if you still can't bring yourself to write it yet.

  • @susanheidemann790
    @susanheidemann790 3 года назад

    Riley, you posed the question, how does one handle having an unbelieving mate knowing they’re going to die. I was in the org for 20 years. The sisters were repeatedly told That we had to take up the head ship role since our husbands were not members and we’re being controlled by Satan himself. In essence they were teaching us to disrespect and fear our husbands. Unfortunately my marriage ended after 28 years. I blame the organization for this.
    Older women in the congregation known elder-ets what council Us young mothers to not listen to our husbands. So again, they had double standards. Jehovah says listen to your husband and the organization says you don’t have to listen if he’s an unbeliever doing Satan‘s work in your home. I’ve spent the past 20 years out of the organization. I was POMI for quite a few years before waking up. It was Channels like yours that assisted in my waking up.
    Keep up the great work… I absolutely love your story and wish you much success, joy, PEACE and happiness in life✌️

  • @hudsonchalmers6504
    @hudsonchalmers6504 3 года назад +6

    Fortunately I was not Borne in. Daughters out Grandsons out. Son sort of totally non practising

  • @marvalice3455
    @marvalice3455 3 года назад +7

    I was born a JW, but always felt calling it "the truth" was cringe af. But that is a whole thing

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +1

      Well done for realising that at such young age! What's your situation like now?

    • @marvalice3455
      @marvalice3455 3 года назад +2

      @@Jexit2020 now I'm out. (after about four years pomi) most of my family cut me off, but not all of them. I'm just doing the best I can, but I feel like a huge weight is off now that I don't need to deal with all the double think.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +2

      @@marvalice3455 , I know how high the cost of freedom is. I'm so sorry that you've had to pay it. But I'm so pleased that you're free of this group both mentally and physically 🙂💙

  • @Godly-Beard
    @Godly-Beard 3 года назад +5

    Its a shame that he has to go through this... wear a disguise so he won't get shunned & cut off from family, but the JW's claim to be the most "loving" people smh.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +3

      It should be illegal to use the word "love" and "JWs" in the same sentence!

  • @CarAngel
    @CarAngel 3 года назад

    Im a POMO-PR, Wich means physically out/mentally out with positive relating, (to org members) as opposed to POMO-NR, Physycally out/Mentally Out/ Not Relating (to the org members)

  • @greatoutdoorsgear7538
    @greatoutdoorsgear7538 3 года назад +3

    right overboard is absolutley right i showed up for outdoor KH cleanup and i wore white rimmed sunglasses and i had a elders wife comment oh i didnt recognize you with those glasses on clearly just sooo out of line right while others were in shirt and ties sooooo stupid

  • @brucejones8047
    @brucejones8047 3 года назад +3

    Sorry you aren’t able to talk with mom. My spouse is a 35 year JW and hasn’t spoken to their child in 20 years. It lays heavy on the child. The child believes in God but not the .ORG, but that’s not good enough.

    • @Jexit2020
      @Jexit2020  3 года назад +1

      That's heartbreaking! 😞

  • @leetrippii1830
    @leetrippii1830 3 года назад +1

    Do you rely heavily on your family financially that's keeps you in bondage?

  • @daniellehemphill6867
    @daniellehemphill6867 3 года назад

    I did not like going out in field sevice on Saturday

  • @ianpuddick
    @ianpuddick 3 года назад +3

    I can’t recognise him

  • @ready2danceagain
    @ready2danceagain 3 года назад

    Get your dad to make an IRREVOCABLE TRUST, NOW!!!! When I heard you say that your "family would disown you," I had to write my experience. My dad also was a non-JW... my mom, PIMI. She gladly (I'll say greedily, selfishly now) accepted the 3 apostates help to "keep her house from being condemned." For a year and a half, maybe two, we worked one day a week with our truck & dumping trailer, clearing her land, then the inside of her house (my old dad had dementia & had become a hoarder). The MINUTE he died, my PIMI "I am not helping" sister" & her PIMI elder husband took her to a lawyer to change the will to a trust, DISINHERITING the people who had saved her.
    My dad worked so hard his whole life, was going to leave all 5 kids an equal amount. Now, the two PIMI sisters and my never JW brother will inherit all.
    My POMO, never baptized sister, who's 64, must live without hope of healthcare, relief from a terrible narcissistic boss, work till she's who knows how old. It is a cold, vengeful, cowardly cruel thing to do.... but believe me. .. they DO have a cold enough heart to do it. Be prepared. Get your dad to make an IRREVOCABLE trust.

  • @kadootje77
    @kadootje77 3 года назад

    That is so weird and true and disgusting, because leaving the borg doesn't mean you are 'sinning' , you can still Love God and the bible, but even when the reason to leave is because you know they don't follow the bible, they still treat you like your scum ....also many have their jobs within the borg and never worked away from it, it is terrifying to leave....interestingly: many active families/people are waking up, so also pioneers etc...

  • @daniellehemphill6867
    @daniellehemphill6867 3 года назад

    Am a ex Jehovah's Witness I could not be around my cousin my Mother's sister children