Marie B. She’s been sooo courageous about talking this topics, it’s not only hard cause of the social stigma, but also cause of the emotions that come with it on a personal level (they don’t make you feel great) She’s been the best 💕💕💪💪
"we can't deny someone their emotions" -- I wish this could be a more widely spread message, we should first accept that emotions are always real, even if the person's reason for it may not be.
This is soo encouraging.. being able to talk about this on a public podcast, being able to show a you that’s more vulnerable than the one that people want you to show... talking about things that people don’t want you to talk about 👏THANK👏YOU Big love to Eric and Amber 💪🥰🥰
Seriously... thank you Eric for your podcast. I doubt if even one K media would ever talk to Amber or someone else who was close to those who are not here anymore about this. I hope Korea improves. It's a long way but small steps are better than none.
XCornelia14 It’s not just Korea. Not even America talks about mental health so openly and sensitively on mainstream/public forum. Don’t berate unless you come from a culture that perfectly demonstrates what you’re criticising another country for.
@@XCornelia14 I don't know what K Ea is going on about. This comment was much more mature than the people that constantly shame the country and don't contribute.
My dad just passed away, he got murdered and this had been a really really hard time, thank you amber, I see how you really want to do something good, and that you know how we feel, it's really that, been kind, people should love more, I loved how you said the harmony thing... Is really hard to me to talk about my feelings with someone and I'm going to therapy, when I go my mom always says to everyone that I have something for the school or something and that makes me feel like I'm not normal, and i can't say that I'm not okay... You helped me so much with your music and your words, I wish you happiness, we love you, thank you
violeta Prieto hope you read it. But do you know that your reaction towards your dad tragedy is ACTUALLY NORMAL. You are human being with feeling and emotion. It’s so normal.. You are still living and somehow have this will to seek help is already a big step. Talk with yourself first as yourself is your very best friend and someone you can trust the most. Dont talk to just everybody if you are not feel comfortable, it will make it worse. Trust me. Talk to someone that you can trust, that truly listen to you. If you have no one, write diary, try to understand your emotion and why you feel that instead of just ignoring it, because it will make it worse in the future. Last, you are deserve to be happy for you now and your future.
violeta Prieto My condolences. I’m happy that you’re seeing a therapist, and regardless of what some people say, you ARE normal. Your reaction is extremely normal, and taking care of your mental health is extremely important - it’s not something to be ashamed of.
I am very appreciative of the open-ness of this discussion. This, more than anything, NEEDS to be discussed. Mental health needs to be the norm across the board, especially in a high pressure industry such as Korean Entertainment.
"When everything seems hopeless just take one day at a time. And if one day becomes too much, just take one hour at a time. And if one hour becomes too much, then just take one minute at a time.” - Skam OG Words to live by.
it's kinda sad how the video of her talking about mental health gets like 9 times less views than her talking about the kissing scene. You go Amber, thank you for speaking up! and thank you Eric of course for bringing up this topic. It's sensitive but very needed
Mental illness is a Disease and must be taken seriously,I am please to see Amber shining a light on it.I am sure right now she's helping someone in a dark place .it doesn't cost you anything to be kind to each other. Bravo!!💪👏🏻👏🏿👏🏾🙏🏽🌍
Amber has always been one idol that has always stood out for me, ultimate girl bias. This is a huge issue with the kpop industry, but EVERY industry and EVERY walk of life. I'm super glad she's talking about it, instead of just nodding&saying she's fine.
And this is why I love Amber, because all of growing up I’ve had a lot of mental health problems and my mom has always told me I can’t tell anyone. Because it would ruin how people see are family and they would think are family was weird and wouldn’t want to hangout with us because of all my brain problems. But since I’ve moved with my dad and don’t live with my mom anymore I’m finally going to see someone and told my doctor about all that’s wrong.
I met Amber during Tour X this weekend and it has genuinely been the best money and time I have fully invested in ever!! Amber is such a lovable soul!! During my turn of meet and greet I reminded her she is such an inspiration to so many people but to get some selfcare too and she said she is trying her best to do so. I'm very glad artists and fans can have these conversations now and actually bring light towards the stigma. I thank Amber for opening up so much to the public about her personal mental health struggles. This llama is totally amazing~~❤
Amber and Eric!!! Thank you for bringing this up to the public!!! The mental health issue is something we can't ignore. I am 100% agree with you, if you have something dark is going on in your mind, or you feel so heavy about your life, don't know what to with it, please see a therapist or psychiatrist. Or if you don't want to see them, you can talk to your family or your friends. I understand that your family or your friends might say "aww don't think much about it", or "JUST go to see a therapist", or the worst, " just take anti-depressant". IF YOU HAVE YOUR FAMILY OR FRIEND in that situation, never said that to them, it will discourage her more to seek help. Be a shoulder to lean on, ear to listen to their deep thoughts, and once they are done sharing their secrets that I believe soo hard to come out from their mouth, please offer proper help. I believe that seeing therapists crossing on their minds, but they might be feeling uneasy about, afraid about it, need some courage about it. So the thing you can do is Ask. ASK if it's okay to go to a therapist TOGETHER? Offer your existence while the therapists are helping your family or friend in their room. Knowing that someone close to them is waiting outside, truly care for their health, will encourage her. It will make them feel "oh there are certain people that actually want me alive and moving on even though it's hard now, at least I'm not alone". Feeling alone against this cruel world is the worst thing you might ever feel. The impact is terrifying as how much hopeless, powerless, unworthy of anything, you thought you might be when YOU ARE NOT. So please fam, be there for the ones that you loved. ❤ And be kind to one another. This is the one that we can easily forget. We can easily hurt someone's feelings without any intentions. We joke about almost everything now and in my opinion, that's not a good idea to do as some people might take things seriously on everything they heard or read and some don't. So please be careful about what you say and write as well. ❤❤❤❤❤
I didn't know she and Goo Hara were friends :'( I appreciate her being open to talking about this, it's very important and vital to her healing from the tragedies. Much love~
I’ll always love Amber. She’s such an amazing person. I feel so emotional seeing her going through so much just like the rest of f(x) have been with sulli’s passing :( I hope she’s at peace. When I was 11 I fell in love with f(x). Sulli’s beauty stunned me, I’d never seen someone so beautiful. Her heart was just as beautiful. I’m 20 now and many things have happened, both good and bad, and this last year the most heart wrenching and unbelievable thing that could’ve ever happened did. I still think of Sulli daily since her passing and my heart aches every time. More than ever I find myself wishing I could go back in time. I’m only a fan, I can’t imagine what Amber is going through. Amber; you’re so strong. You’ve always been a beacon of light. You’re resilient, down to earth, and gentle. You only want to spread love, and in a world as cruel as this, that’s all we can do. Thank you for speaking up about this. We love you 💛💛💛
She`s so genuine, and I can`t say that about a lot of artists,cause I don`t know them personally,which is okay that they don`t show a lot for people to talk about, but Amber somehow makes me sure that I love her exactly as a person, not only as an artist, she makes me feel like she`s my very good friend, just far away.
As a fan of both Sulli and Hara it hit me hard when they passed away and Amber was the only idol that helped me stay out of my own dark thoughts. I had those kind of thoughts that if someone beautiful and talented could still be unhappy and take their own life then why should I even continue to live but then watching Amber and listening to her brought me out of that dark place and made me realize that I need help. I still haven’t gotten help but I’m still alive so that alone I feel is progress. Thank you Amber for trying to help erase the stigma surrounding therapy and mental health. Some day I will get help for my struggles and it’ll be thanks to you.
THIS NEEDS TO BE TALKED ABOUT MORE OFTEN. Hearing Amber struggle even talking about this breaks my heart. Thank you for being brave. We all needed this.
Eric, thank you for posting this and addressing the importance of mental health. Amber, thank you for sharing your personal experience and your thoughts and just being you. You are both amazing and a real positive influence for people.
I love how she speaks about mental health and openly mentions seeking help during her concerts - such an important message for all to hear. If she were to stop performing (please dont ever), she would make a wonderful peer support worker. We need more people who are willing to let people feel their emotions fully.
Amberㅠㅜ I cried cause I related so much to your struggle. I see the pain in your eyes but I also see your strength, how much you're growing because of these small daily victories to becoming a more honest and better version of yourself. I am so proud of you. My prayers and much love to you ❤
There was this one podcast I heard, with a therapist as a guest. He was talking about the kind of patients he gets and more. There was this one point where he mentioned how he has his own therapist and goes to therapy monthly. I was surprised to hear that because I didn't ever imagine a therapist having his own therapist. When they asked him how did that come to happen he said that just like how we have routine check ups for our physical health, he tries to have the same ones for his mental health. He said how it's important to look after both your physical and mental health and emphasised that if we try to divide our health in those two categories properly, not just physical but also mental, it would be easier to destigmatize it in a better way. Mental health is just as important as physical health and there is nothing wrong with having routine checkups for both. I once had a horrible experience with one therapist, who didn't listen to my problems properly and due to that, I started avoiding it. But thanks to this podcast, everything was instantly cleared. "It has always been as simple as that!" That thought instantly flooded my brain. I couldn't believe how I couldn't see it before. Well, I also know that therapists have to take in a lot when they hear others problems and counsel them. I know that it could take a toll on their health as well and hence they need to stay healthy too. So that is also a big reason for this particular therapist to go for therapy. But that doesn't change the fact how simple mental health has always been. Think of it as a physical routine check up and get myself checked - that's all it is. I hope I can find the courage to reach out for help and I hope the one who helps me doesn't disappoint me. Amber, more power to you for talking about importance of mental health. It means a lot to many people like me, who cannot seem to do much about the demons inside and cannot seem to go for therapy. Hope you keep going girl! Fighting!
I'm soon to finish my studies in clinical and neuropsychology and honestly, as someone who soon will be working in a profession related to mental health, this is such an important message. There is no reason to suffer alone if you can get help. The stigma that goes with getting mental health help is sad and quite honestly: ridiculous. We should be proud and encourage people who want to get better by reaching for that help, not make fun of them.
Been seeing my counselor every other week for years and I absolutely love it. It is so helpful for me. So glad I made the choice to go even though I didn't want to at first.
thank you for this. eric, you asked what needed to be asked so amber could say what needed to be said. you had the conversation we needed to have. thank you both. i love you guys!
I've always felt judged and scared talking to other people about myself. I'm so glad my cousin is in my life, she's the only one I can comfortably talk with.
First of all, thank you to Eric for bringing this up in a respectful manner and even talking abt it at all. I feel like Korea avoids their names bc it's "taboo" and it absolutely should not be. And thank you to Amber for taking the courage to talk abt it. I don't think that can be understated. She is one of the most affected people from all three of the recent tragedies and I'm so glad she's been seeing a therapist and getting the help she needs. I agree with Amber but I wish that there was more put in place systematically in korea to change the stigma of mental health and mental illness and make it easier for ppl to get help. Numerous surveys have shown that many ppl living in korea are afraid to see a therapist bc of other ppl judging them and bc it will go on their medical record. I think there are steps to this issue and asking ppl to be less judgemental is one. The next is to reduce and eliminate the stigma around mental illness and seeing a therapist, educating ppl that having a mental illness doesn't make you "crazy," but the equivalent of seeing a doctor when you have a physical illness. The next is to make therapy accessible to everyone. And along the way, making sure that the therapists and psychologists are properly trained. I will never forget how Jonghyun's "doctor" told him his depression was his fault bc of his personality. All of these steps need to be implemented for real change to occur. I want to be optimistic like Eric and hope that these will happen but unless someone or some organizations step up to actively push these through, we will continue to see these tragedies.
"Be kind..." My little sister always says that your comment on social media could be the pivotal point between life and death, just think before you type. People are so harsh and sometimes we add to the stress! Please be as nice as positive as possible! I have learned this the hard way!!!
It never stops hitting you. 6 years since my best friend passed and I don't think it'll ever stop hitting me randomly. But you learn to accept it, I just hope everyone that loses someone important eventually remembers all the good things about that person. I went from never talking about him to telling stories and constantly reminding people that he existed, I was proud of him up until the very last moment.
This is very important and I want to spread it around. Thanks for talking about it, Eric and Amber. We can’t avoid it or cover it or hide it or bury it. People try to pretend this isn’t happening in this industry or in that community or in whatever aspect of life one is a part of, because sadness and anger and pain are ugly emotions. When you ask how someone’s doing, people - at least in America - often don’t want to hear about your suffering, they expect an “I’m fine.” So we hide our own ugly emotions. It’s that, but worse for those in the public eye, expected to be ok all the time. Sometimes, things are not ok. And it’s ok... to not be ok all the time, and it should be more accepted, I think, so long as those emotions are being expressed in a safe manner (that is, not doing harm to others). It’s ok - and should be deeply encouraged - to find someone professional to speak to when things aren’t going well. It’s not a shame thing, it’s a GOOD thing. Every person’s mind could use a little backup, I think.
My cousin passed away legit a couple of days after Sulli. And I've been feeling the same way. So thank you Amber for explaining how you've felt and what you're going through atm.
"create an atmosphere of no judgement is what I want to do" -amber.j.liu haters take a look at yourselves again. Imagine hating on someone that is the closest to the perfect human being .God is proud at seeing people like amber exist. amber, you're the sweetest , kindest , strongest and the coolest
I’m so happy that you talk about this stuff, it’s extremely important and IT’S NOT SOMETHING TO BE EMBARRASSED ABOUT! Thank you so much for opening up, it really means a lot💕
I love the way she brought this topic across. She worded her thoughts so well, and it was so accurate to what a lot of people go through. She's really such a smart and thoughtful person and her points are really important to know for every body. I love you Amber!❤️❤️
Ithink theres no one better to ask her these sensitive questions in a well thoughtout n respectful manner than the man himself, Eric. True pure hearted man! Thanks guys for ur friendship!
I have a appointment with a therapist and I felt odd at first but after this video I feel like more confident and I'd like to say thank you so thank you
This should definitely be watched and given a thought about by every K-Pop artist and everyone in the scene of K-Pop. This is beautifully amazing. Thank you for this.
I love how she is not afraid to show her vulnerable side unlike other idols and how she'd addressing mental health which is very important specially to idols because they receive hate constantly. I'm so glad that Amber is handling these situations properly and I hope many people -not just idols, would also try to talk to someone abt there problems and conquer these problems. I also hope that people would stop judging others and saying mean things to others bcs good lord just let people live their lives and mind ur own business.
thankyou for bringing mental health to light!!!. this is a conversation that needs to be spread in korean media and will help people so much by being open and honest. thankyou
This was very inspirational. Thank you to the both of you for talking about mental illness because it is so important to take care of your mental health just as you would your physical health. Wish you both a great 2020!
Yes, this is very much needed right now. With what is going on with the world right now, opening up dialogues like this will slowly but surely come a long way to change public perception of what was once perceived as a taboo subject. It was covered with great sensitivity, a lot of wisdom and with great care not to offend those who may not believe in this. Times are changing. We can't hold onto old beliefs anymore. What's important is that it's relevant now and people need to hear this. Great topic!
Watching this at this time of the pandemic and I am loving how Amber and Eric as well emphasized the importance of fully understanding of what MENTAL HEALTH really is. That's some real and worthy inputs right there ❤ Thank you for this and I love you both.
I love how comfortable they are sitting... Her words really resonate with me especially right now after the year I have. Amber is truly amazing and I love this prodcast, this show for being so open about these situations and conversations.
Tbh i think Amber has changed so much since she have moved back to US but i still think that she’s covering up herself by acting to be strong and keep telling herself i can do it, i will feel better. These kind of feeling will lead to a break down. I really wish people who have emotional problems will have friends who can take the initiative to talk to them. They needed help. I believe Sulli and Hara’s incident really hit them hard. They don’t say it doesn’t mean they have no feeling towards it. They must be painful too. Pleasestop the hate and stop bashing. Understand each other more, take care of people around you.
i have so much respect for amber. this is my 3rd year trying to survive after losing my mom to the same circumstance, and while it's difficult for me to listen about and talk about the topic, it's always ALWAYS best to talk it out. i wish the best for you, amber ♡
Everything said here is sooo relatable and talking to friends and family does really help. Going through the same again after 3 again and it made me realise that i really need to speak up with my family and friends and try not to get anxious again. Was a great great interview...
Amber, I am so proud of you. It must've been so hard for you and I agree, when people say you have everything you shouldn't feel this way. That's not entirely right. Yes, you have everything but with it comes a lot of judgement and responsibility. But also, a lot of limitations. And that could be a lot of pressure as a K-POP singer. Every move you make is taken seriously and you simply joking can be taken seriously by someone who took offense by mistake. They will love you when you "obey" and "listen" to them. But when you want to do it your way, they will bring back your past mistakes and hurt you with it. Like you said at you're concert. You're doing well, just be yourself. Those who truly appreciate, love, and understand you will be there. Haters are going to hate, that's nothing you can change. But what you can change is how you use their negativity to push you through and become a better person. There is always room for improvement. Whether it be your fans, your family, and your friends. They will be there and any time you need them. LOVE YOU AMBER AND ERIC!! ❤❤❤
I’m glad to see that amber is looking for help. Mental health is strong and losing a love one is hard. It’s been three years since I lost my son and it’s a daily process. The best thing is to talk about it. A comfortable place with comfortable people who won’t judge you.
I hope you can feel a type of resilience and find the light again. These topics need more attention in order to break the stigma of mental health.❤ But we can’t give up. We have to keep going. Eric and Amber, I’m sending you love and light.❤Sending my deepest condolences. ❤️🕊️
so glad amber and eric were so honest about this! im dealing with depression and anxiety, have been for a long time, and im going to see a therapist now ! i always felt weird about but its necessary!
i know how it feels i hide everything i lost my nan grandad sister 3 best friends all last year one after another i dont speak i hide everything now it starting to effect me i went saw day6 on sunday and jae spoke to us about dark times and getting help u need and started to accept that i cant do it by myself and am trying to talk to people especially my friends i stupidly didn't get in contact with therapy i was refred to as dont not what to say do ect that thought scared me but its hard to accept when u need more help then being alone i thank my friends for being there there amazing dont no were id be right now if didn't have them supporting me xx amber thank you for your music your support to fans everything same to you eric you guys and just kpop has helped me through so much thank you love you guys so much xxx
Thank you amber.. your words comforted me as I'm also going through rough times this year and the past year. We could only hope and I know that there would be more caring and more understanding people in this world
& to also be kind to YOURSELF. When you can reflect on yourself and question why you did the things you did is also another way of learning of oneself as well.
Thank you Amber, for saying things even when it's hard. Having lost a few friends and family members, I can relate, but especially relate to how hard it is to speak. I couldn't talk about it, and I'm not a public figure. It must be even harder in your position. Thank you - because the close minded people do need to hear.
Amber truely is such an impressive person. No matter how hard or scary it must be for her to talk about these topics, she takes it on because it needs to be talked about and it needs to be heard by the public. That shows amazing strength. ❤️
I hadn't moved yet today and missed an important meeting, too stuck in my head to leave the mattress... but half way through this video I felt a surge of mental clarity that got me up. Thank you Amber and Eric (and @divestudios) for this conversation 🙏🏼❤️
I'm at the same point in my life as Amber. Trying to understand better, comprehend, appreciate, tolerate, really think through my feelings and the feelings of the people around me. Learning
These two😭😭👏😌 I hope Amber is doing okay, same for Eric. My thoughts are always going crazy and driving me insane so it's hard. Depression pulls and pulls so I really hope she and Eric will be okay.💙💙🐳
Good for you Amber! Middle Aged Mom here: talk about negative and scary things. Silence and secrets only hurt people. When you are brave enough to share it encourages others. Be brave and take care of yourself. That’s how you win at life!
This was such an impactful segment. There's a lot of courage in sharing our vulnerability with others. Thank you both. Edit, addendum: Therapy has been so beneficial for my mental health.
@Thank you for being one of the few people that talk about the topic, I am from Argentina and is really common to go to a therapist mostly after the dictatorship on the 70's, I hope more people go to a therapist just to clear their minds, to feel that they have the right to feel whatever they are feeling, going to a therapist should be normal everywhere in the world, especially now because of how social media affects us.
Thank Amber for telling everyone that it's ok to be in therapy!!! Its ok!!! IT'S OK!!!! So many people see it as a weakness and to let others know that you are doing it as well, means SO MUCH!! To all the young people that you have so much influence on you saying it out loud means so much!! I've attempted suicide 3 different times, the 3rd time was last February. That's when I realized I could not do it by myself any longer, and I got help. I lost my sister to suicide in 2007. She left behind 4 children all under the age of 10. I knew I had to break the cycle!! Thank you both so much for talking about the issues that are so important. Everyone matters!! YOU reading this,YOU MATTER!! Tell yourself that a million times a day if you need too!! Much love and respect to you Amber!!!
From what I`ve learned from 2019 based on both events and a personal level, there are cruel and evil people on this earth. Genuinely people with no compasion and humanity. There is eviil out there , but there is also good. But in terms of the public bullying Hara and Sulli went though, there should be laws on severe punishments in bullying public figures and individuals. I dont think changing hearts is possible, some are good people others are not. Laws and policies should be put in place, so that these types of events should never repeat themselves. You cants change hearts I believe, but we can change social norms and attitudes in how individuals should behave, by the using the Law in changing this direction.
The problem is, trying to press charges against social media bullies is hard. Finding these people are not as easy as television make it seem. What we need to change is people's dependency on social media. People have to know when to unplug and remove themselves from that abusive relationship that is social media comments.
The world nor people are black and white. Everyone has good and evil in their hearts it just varies according to which one they nurture the most. Everyone is capable of change but not everyone is willing. Some people are bullies but then grow out of it. Some people start off kind and become cruel. Honestly I agree with Amber. There needs to be more effort in changing individuals. A lot of times people who are cruel are also in pain and they are taking it out on others. Is it right? No. But it's human. Love and kindness would help both the victims find strength and the bullies find healing. At least, that's my philosophy. Sorry that I got long-winded. This is just a subject I'm kind of passionate about.
You can see Amber battling with her emotions and I'm seriously proud of her for speaking about it
Marie B. She’s been sooo courageous about talking this topics, it’s not only hard cause of the social stigma, but also cause of the emotions that come with it on a personal level (they don’t make you feel great)
She’s been the best 💕💕💪💪
Watching amber trying hard not to cry while talking about sulli and hara is so hard as a meu
The Joshepien same you can hear her voice crack a little
She was friends with SHINee’s Jonghyun too. Amber has lost three friends to the same cause. That must hurt like hell
"we can't deny someone their emotions" -- I wish this could be a more widely spread message, we should first accept that emotions are always real, even if the person's reason for it may not be.
"If we all sing the same melody, how could there be harmony?" this is gold.
This is soo encouraging.. being able to talk about this on a public podcast, being able to show a you that’s more vulnerable than the one that people want you to show... talking about things that people don’t want you to talk about
👏THANK👏YOU
Big love to Eric and Amber 💪🥰🥰
Seriously... thank you Eric for your podcast. I doubt if even one K media would ever talk to Amber or someone else who was close to those who are not here anymore about this. I hope Korea improves. It's a long way but small steps are better than none.
XCornelia14 It’s not just Korea. Not even America talks about mental health so openly and sensitively on mainstream/public forum. Don’t berate unless you come from a culture that perfectly demonstrates what you’re criticising another country for.
@@kea8349 I didn't berate and I didn't say it's only Korea. There isn't a country that is perfect.
@@XCornelia14 I don't know what K Ea is going on about. This comment was much more mature than the people that constantly shame the country and don't contribute.
@@kea8349 yes but Korea has the highest suicide rate. It's a tabu that is hard to break.
Mental health is JUST as IMPORTANT as your physical + emotional health‼️🗣🗣🗣
My dad just passed away, he got murdered and this had been a really really hard time, thank you amber, I see how you really want to do something good, and that you know how we feel, it's really that, been kind, people should love more, I loved how you said the harmony thing... Is really hard to me to talk about my feelings with someone and I'm going to therapy, when I go my mom always says to everyone that I have something for the school or something and that makes me feel like I'm not normal, and i can't say that I'm not okay... You helped me so much with your music and your words, I wish you happiness, we love you, thank you
violeta Prieto hope you read it.
But do you know that your reaction towards your dad tragedy is ACTUALLY NORMAL. You are human being with feeling and emotion. It’s so normal..
You are still living and somehow have this will to seek help is already a big step.
Talk with yourself first as yourself is your very best friend and someone you can trust the most. Dont talk to just everybody if you are not feel comfortable, it will make it worse.
Trust me.
Talk to someone that you can trust, that truly listen to you. If you have no one, write diary, try to understand your emotion and why you feel that instead of just ignoring it, because it will make it worse in the future.
Last, you are deserve to be happy for you now and your future.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I wish you happiness in the future 🦋❤
violeta Prieto My condolences. I’m happy that you’re seeing a therapist, and regardless of what some people say, you ARE normal. Your reaction is extremely normal, and taking care of your mental health is extremely important - it’s not something to be ashamed of.
@@tuvois1055 thank you so much for your advices, I do have a diary and it helps me a lot, thank you
🙏🤞💜
I am very appreciative of the open-ness of this discussion. This, more than anything, NEEDS to be discussed. Mental health needs to be the norm across the board, especially in a high pressure industry such as Korean Entertainment.
"When everything seems hopeless just take one day at a time. And if one day becomes too much, just take one hour at a time. And if one hour becomes too much, then just take one minute at a time.” - Skam OG
Words to live by.
it's kinda sad how the video of her talking about mental health gets like 9 times less views than her talking about the kissing scene. You go Amber, thank you for speaking up! and thank you Eric of course for bringing up this topic. It's sensitive but very needed
Mental illness is a Disease and must be taken seriously,I am please to see Amber shining a light on it.I am sure right now she's helping someone in a dark place .it doesn't cost you anything to be kind to each other. Bravo!!💪👏🏻👏🏿👏🏾🙏🏽🌍
Amber has always been one idol that has always stood out for me, ultimate girl bias. This is a huge issue with the kpop industry, but EVERY industry and EVERY walk of life. I'm super glad she's talking about it, instead of just nodding&saying she's fine.
And this is why I love Amber, because all of growing up I’ve had a lot of mental health problems and my mom has always told me I can’t tell anyone. Because it would ruin how people see are family and they would think are family was weird and wouldn’t want to hangout with us because of all my brain problems.
But since I’ve moved with my dad and don’t live with my mom anymore I’m finally going to see someone and told my doctor about all that’s wrong.
Awww sweetie
I hope you're feeling better now
U rock
I met Amber during Tour X this weekend and it has genuinely been the best money and time I have fully invested in ever!! Amber is such a lovable soul!! During my turn of meet and greet I reminded her she is such an inspiration to so many people but to get some selfcare too and she said she is trying her best to do so. I'm very glad artists and fans can have these conversations now and actually bring light towards the stigma. I thank Amber for opening up so much to the public about her personal mental health struggles. This llama is totally amazing~~❤
Amber and Eric!!! Thank you for bringing this up to the public!!! The mental health issue is something we can't ignore.
I am 100% agree with you, if you have something dark is going on in your mind, or you feel so heavy about your life, don't know what to with it, please see a therapist or psychiatrist. Or if you don't want to see them, you can talk to your family or your friends.
I understand that your family or your friends might say "aww don't think much about it", or "JUST go to see a therapist", or the worst, " just take anti-depressant". IF YOU HAVE YOUR FAMILY OR FRIEND in that situation, never said that to them, it will discourage her more to seek help.
Be a shoulder to lean on, ear to listen to their deep thoughts, and once they are done sharing their secrets that I believe soo hard to come out from their mouth, please offer proper help. I believe that seeing therapists crossing on their minds, but they might be feeling uneasy about, afraid about it, need some courage about it.
So the thing you can do is Ask. ASK if it's okay to go to a therapist TOGETHER? Offer your existence while the therapists are helping your family or friend in their room.
Knowing that someone close to them is waiting outside, truly care for their health, will encourage her. It will make them feel "oh there are certain people that actually want me alive and moving on even though it's hard now, at least I'm not alone".
Feeling alone against this cruel world is the worst thing you might ever feel. The impact is terrifying as how much hopeless, powerless, unworthy of anything, you thought you might be when YOU ARE NOT.
So please fam, be there for the ones that you loved. ❤
And be kind to one another. This is the one that we can easily forget. We can easily hurt someone's feelings without any intentions. We joke about almost everything now and in my opinion, that's not a good idea to do as some people might take things seriously on everything they heard or read and some don't. So please be careful about what you say and write as well.
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I didn't know she and Goo Hara were friends :'( I appreciate her being open to talking about this, it's very important and vital to her healing from the tragedies. Much love~
I’ll always love Amber. She’s such an amazing person. I feel so emotional seeing her going through so much just like the rest of f(x) have been with sulli’s passing :( I hope she’s at peace.
When I was 11 I fell in love with f(x). Sulli’s beauty stunned me, I’d never seen someone so beautiful. Her heart was just as beautiful. I’m 20 now and many things have happened, both good and bad, and this last year the most heart wrenching and unbelievable thing that could’ve ever happened did.
I still think of Sulli daily since her passing and my heart aches every time. More than ever I find myself wishing I could go back in time. I’m only a fan, I can’t imagine what Amber is going through.
Amber; you’re so strong. You’ve always been a beacon of light. You’re resilient, down to earth, and gentle. You only want to spread love, and in a world as cruel as this, that’s all we can do. Thank you for speaking up about this. We love you 💛💛💛
She`s so genuine, and I can`t say that about a lot of artists,cause I don`t know them personally,which is okay that they don`t show a lot for people to talk about, but Amber somehow makes me sure that I love her exactly as a person, not only as an artist, she makes me feel like she`s my very good friend, just far away.
As a fan of both Sulli and Hara it hit me hard when they passed away and Amber was the only idol that helped me stay out of my own dark thoughts. I had those kind of thoughts that if someone beautiful and talented could still be unhappy and take their own life then why should I even continue to live but then watching Amber and listening to her brought me out of that dark place and made me realize that I need help.
I still haven’t gotten help but I’m still alive so that alone I feel is progress. Thank you Amber for trying to help erase the stigma surrounding therapy and mental health. Some day I will get help for my struggles and it’ll be thanks to you.
Hey you are strong, beautiful and brave,,
Thankyou for fight untill today...💜
THIS NEEDS TO BE TALKED ABOUT MORE OFTEN.
Hearing Amber struggle even talking about this breaks my heart. Thank you for being brave. We all needed this.
Asking for help is a sign of strength. This discussion is awesome and needed.
Eric, thank you for posting this and addressing the importance of mental health. Amber, thank you for sharing your personal experience and your thoughts and just being you. You are both amazing and a real positive influence for people.
I love how she speaks about mental health and openly mentions seeking help during her concerts - such an important message for all to hear.
If she were to stop performing (please dont ever), she would make a wonderful peer support worker. We need more people who are willing to let people feel their emotions fully.
Honestly I m so happy for her ❤️💙 so happy she leaved sm
Now she can do whatever she wants to
Amberㅠㅜ I cried cause I related so much to your struggle. I see the pain in your eyes but I also see your strength, how much you're growing because of these small daily victories to becoming a more honest and better version of yourself. I am so proud of you. My prayers and much love to you ❤
There was this one podcast I heard, with a therapist as a guest.
He was talking about the kind of patients he gets and more.
There was this one point where he mentioned how he has his own therapist and goes to therapy monthly. I was surprised to hear that because I didn't ever imagine a therapist having his own therapist. When they asked him how did that come to happen he said that just like how we have routine check ups for our physical health, he tries to have the same ones for his mental health.
He said how it's important to look after both your physical and mental health and emphasised that if we try to divide our health in those two categories properly, not just physical but also mental, it would be easier to destigmatize it in a better way.
Mental health is just as important as physical health and there is nothing wrong with having routine checkups for both.
I once had a horrible experience with one therapist, who didn't listen to my problems properly and due to that, I started avoiding it.
But thanks to this podcast, everything was instantly cleared.
"It has always been as simple as that!"
That thought instantly flooded my brain. I couldn't believe how I couldn't see it before.
Well, I also know that therapists have to take in a lot when they hear others problems and counsel them. I know that it could take a toll on their health as well and hence they need to stay healthy too. So that is also a big reason for this particular therapist to go for therapy.
But that doesn't change the fact how simple mental health has always been.
Think of it as a physical routine check up and get myself checked - that's all it is. I hope I can find the courage to reach out for help and I hope the one who helps me doesn't disappoint me.
Amber, more power to you for talking about importance of mental health. It means a lot to many people like me, who cannot seem to do much about the demons inside and cannot seem to go for therapy. Hope you keep going girl! Fighting!
I'm soon to finish my studies in clinical and neuropsychology and honestly, as someone who soon will be working in a profession related to mental health, this is such an important message. There is no reason to suffer alone if you can get help. The stigma that goes with getting mental health help is sad and quite honestly: ridiculous. We should be proud and encourage people who want to get better by reaching for that help, not make fun of them.
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Thank you for talking about this.
Even though you can see how hard it is, thank you and you're doing amazing keep going. 💜
Been seeing my counselor every other week for years and I absolutely love it. It is so helpful for me. So glad I made the choice to go even though I didn't want to at first.
thank you for this.
eric, you asked what needed to be asked so amber could say what needed to be said. you had the conversation we needed to have. thank you both. i love you guys!
I've always felt judged and scared talking to other people about myself. I'm so glad my cousin is in my life, she's the only one I can comfortably talk with.
First of all, thank you to Eric for bringing this up in a respectful manner and even talking abt it at all. I feel like Korea avoids their names bc it's "taboo" and it absolutely should not be. And thank you to Amber for taking the courage to talk abt it. I don't think that can be understated. She is one of the most affected people from all three of the recent tragedies and I'm so glad she's been seeing a therapist and getting the help she needs.
I agree with Amber but I wish that there was more put in place systematically in korea to change the stigma of mental health and mental illness and make it easier for ppl to get help. Numerous surveys have shown that many ppl living in korea are afraid to see a therapist bc of other ppl judging them and bc it will go on their medical record. I think there are steps to this issue and asking ppl to be less judgemental is one. The next is to reduce and eliminate the stigma around mental illness and seeing a therapist, educating ppl that having a mental illness doesn't make you "crazy," but the equivalent of seeing a doctor when you have a physical illness. The next is to make therapy accessible to everyone. And along the way, making sure that the therapists and psychologists are properly trained. I will never forget how Jonghyun's "doctor" told him his depression was his fault bc of his personality. All of these steps need to be implemented for real change to occur. I want to be optimistic like Eric and hope that these will happen but unless someone or some organizations step up to actively push these through, we will continue to see these tragedies.
"Be kind..." My little sister always says that your comment on social media could be the pivotal point between life and death, just think before you type. People are so harsh and sometimes we add to the stress! Please be as nice as positive as possible! I have learned this the hard way!!!
I’ve been a fan of Amber for almost 10 years and I’m so proud to have watched her really just blossom as not just an artist but a person
this discussion is super important for all kpop fans
It never stops hitting you. 6 years since my best friend passed and I don't think it'll ever stop hitting me randomly. But you learn to accept it, I just hope everyone that loses someone important eventually remembers all the good things about that person. I went from never talking about him to telling stories and constantly reminding people that he existed, I was proud of him up until the very last moment.
This is very important and I want to spread it around. Thanks for talking about it, Eric and Amber.
We can’t avoid it or cover it or hide it or bury it. People try to pretend this isn’t happening in this industry or in that community or in whatever aspect of life one is a part of, because sadness and anger and pain are ugly emotions. When you ask how someone’s doing, people - at least in America - often don’t want to hear about your suffering, they expect an “I’m fine.” So we hide our own ugly emotions. It’s that, but worse for those in the public eye, expected to be ok all the time. Sometimes, things are not ok. And it’s ok... to not be ok all the time, and it should be more accepted, I think, so long as those emotions are being expressed in a safe manner (that is, not doing harm to others). It’s ok - and should be deeply encouraged - to find someone professional to speak to when things aren’t going well. It’s not a shame thing, it’s a GOOD thing. Every person’s mind could use a little backup, I think.
My cousin passed away legit a couple of days after Sulli. And I've been feeling the same way. So thank you Amber for explaining how you've felt and what you're going through atm.
"create an atmosphere of no judgement is what I want to do" -amber.j.liu
haters take a look at yourselves again. Imagine hating on someone that is the closest to the perfect human being .God is proud at seeing people like amber exist. amber, you're the sweetest , kindest , strongest and the coolest
its hit harder when amber talk about the incident 😭 growing up with idol groups from 2nd gens the memories flash back....
This hit me hard, damn.
I’m so happy that you talk about this stuff, it’s extremely important and IT’S NOT SOMETHING TO BE EMBARRASSED ABOUT! Thank you so much for opening up, it really means a lot💕
This is how you change lives. Way to be someone that really makes a difference Amber.
I love the way she brought this topic across. She worded her thoughts so well, and it was so accurate to what a lot of people go through. She's really such a smart and thoughtful person and her points are really important to know for every body. I love you Amber!❤️❤️
thank you for being so open about this, Amber!
Ithink theres no one better to ask her these sensitive questions in a well thoughtout n respectful manner than the man himself, Eric. True pure hearted man! Thanks guys for ur friendship!
thanks for bringing amber thanks for opening up...
I have a appointment with a therapist and I felt odd at first but after this video I feel like more confident and I'd like to say thank you so thank you
I loved this so much. Yes mental health is important. Don't ever feel like your alone and can't talk with anyone. Spreading love ❤
This should definitely be watched and given a thought about by every K-Pop artist and everyone in the scene of K-Pop. This is beautifully amazing. Thank you for this.
Thank you Eric and Amber for this video
i really love how genuine and honest amber is. she inspired and encouraged me in so many ways and ill always be here rooting for her
I love how she is not afraid to show her vulnerable side unlike other idols and how she'd addressing mental health which is very important specially to idols because they receive hate constantly. I'm so glad that Amber is handling these situations properly and I hope many people -not just idols, would also try to talk to someone abt there problems and conquer these problems. I also hope that people would stop judging others and saying mean things to others bcs good lord just let people live their lives and mind ur own business.
she's addressing* lol sorry for the typos and wrong grammar
Your words are beautiful Amber.. Keep believing dear.
thankyou for bringing mental health to light!!!. this is a conversation that needs to be spread in korean media and will help people so much by being open and honest. thankyou
Amber, I am at the same emotional level you're at. And your openness and candid honesty is a gift. "Good job Amber," indeed.
This was very inspirational. Thank you to the both of you for talking about mental illness because it is so important to take care of your mental health just as you would your physical health. Wish you both a great 2020!
Yes, this is very much needed right now. With what is going on with the world right now, opening up dialogues like this will slowly but surely come a long way to change public perception of what was once perceived as a taboo subject. It was covered with great sensitivity, a lot of wisdom and with great care not to offend those who may not believe in this. Times are changing. We can't hold onto old beliefs anymore. What's important is that it's relevant now and people need to hear this. Great topic!
Watching this at this time of the pandemic and I am loving how Amber and Eric as well emphasized the importance of fully understanding of what MENTAL HEALTH really is. That's some real and worthy inputs right there ❤ Thank you for this and I love you both.
This conversation is so comforting, thank you Amber and Eric ♥️
we have to learn to be empathetic, you always have to put yourself in the place of the other
fioxd some people can’t do that there narcissistic
Thank you too to Eric for giving Amber opportunity to talk about this important topic and being there for her.
I'm in tears. I still can't believe that there is no more Sulli... I know Amber, it's too hard, stay strong llama..
I love how comfortable they are sitting... Her words really resonate with me especially right now after the year I have. Amber is truly amazing and I love this prodcast, this show for being so open about these situations and conversations.
Tbh i think Amber has changed so much since she have moved back to US but i still think that she’s covering up herself by acting to be strong and keep telling herself i can do it, i will feel better. These kind of feeling will lead to a break down. I really wish people who have emotional problems will have friends who can take the initiative to talk to them. They needed help. I believe Sulli and Hara’s incident really hit them hard. They don’t say it doesn’t mean they have no feeling towards it. They must be painful too. Pleasestop the hate and stop bashing. Understand each other more, take care of people around you.
i have so much respect for amber. this is my 3rd year trying to survive after losing my mom to the same circumstance, and while it's difficult for me to listen about and talk about the topic, it's always ALWAYS best to talk it out. i wish the best for you, amber ♡
Yo, you are amazing and brave....😉
Thankyou for keep trying and moving on...
Wish you all the best..💜
I really like how Amber and Eric talked about mental health, I hope because of this a lot of people will change their mind about mental health
I love how comfortable amber is sitting also how confident amber is talking about mental health in this show :>
Everything said here is sooo relatable and talking to friends and family does really help. Going through the same again after 3 again and it made me realise that i really need to speak up with my family and friends and try not to get anxious again. Was a great great interview...
Amber, I am so proud of you. It must've been so hard for you and I agree, when people say you have everything you shouldn't feel this way. That's not entirely right. Yes, you have everything but with it comes a lot of judgement and responsibility. But also, a lot of limitations. And that could be a lot of pressure as a K-POP singer. Every move you make is taken seriously and you simply joking can be taken seriously by someone who took offense by mistake. They will love you when you "obey" and "listen" to them. But when you want to do it your way, they will bring back your past mistakes and hurt you with it. Like you said at you're concert. You're doing well, just be yourself. Those who truly appreciate, love, and understand you will be there. Haters are going to hate, that's nothing you can change. But what you can change is how you use their negativity to push you through and become a better person. There is always room for improvement. Whether it be your fans, your family, and your friends. They will be there and any time you need them. LOVE YOU AMBER AND ERIC!! ❤❤❤
I’m glad to see that amber is looking for help. Mental health is strong and losing a love one is hard. It’s been three years since I lost my son and it’s a daily process. The best thing is to talk about it. A comfortable place with comfortable people who won’t judge you.
Be healthy Amber, Eric, f(x)... I love all of you.. 💕
I hope you can feel a type of resilience and find the light again. These topics need more attention in order to break the stigma of mental health.❤
But we can’t give up. We have to keep going. Eric and Amber, I’m sending you love and light.❤Sending my deepest condolences. ❤️🕊️
This conversation is so necessary. I appalled them both for having the courage to speak on this.
so glad amber and eric were so honest about this! im dealing with depression and anxiety, have been for a long time, and im going to see a therapist now ! i always felt weird about but its necessary!
i know how it feels i hide everything i lost my nan grandad sister 3 best friends all last year one after another i dont speak i hide everything now it starting to effect me i went saw day6 on sunday and jae spoke to us about dark times and getting help u need and started to accept that i cant do it by myself and am trying to talk to people especially my friends i stupidly didn't get in contact with therapy i was refred to as dont not what to say do ect that thought scared me but its hard to accept when u need more help then being alone i thank my friends for being there there amazing dont no were id be right now if didn't have them supporting me xx amber thank you for your music your support to fans everything same to you eric you guys and just kpop has helped me through so much thank you love you guys so much xxx
Thank you amber.. your words comforted me as I'm also going through rough times this year and the past year. We could only hope and I know that there would be more caring and more understanding people in this world
& to also be kind to YOURSELF. When you can reflect on yourself and question why you did the things you did is also another way of learning of oneself as well.
Thank you Amber, for saying things even when it's hard. Having lost a few friends and family members, I can relate, but especially relate to how hard it is to speak. I couldn't talk about it, and I'm not a public figure. It must be even harder in your position. Thank you - because the close minded people do need to hear.
Me too I get exhausted at night but hey if you think on the bright side sunrises are beautiful so that gets me through lonely nights
My brother passed away in September of 2018 and it hurts still so much. Sometimes you accept it sometimes you dont.
Amber truely is such an impressive person. No matter how hard or scary it must be for her to talk about these topics, she takes it on because it needs to be talked about and it needs to be heard by the public. That shows amazing strength. ❤️
Super important subject! Thank you both for your honesty and encouragement.
Both of you are beautiful people! Hearing you talk brings me peace, thank you Amber.
Amber is the strongest influence in my life. I am so proud of her for opening up, I know it's not her personality. I love our llama 💜
Amber is such a BEAUTIFUL PERSON OMG, we need more Ambers in this worrrld!!
I hadn't moved yet today and missed an important meeting, too stuck in my head to leave the mattress... but half way through this video I felt a surge of mental clarity that got me up.
Thank you Amber and Eric (and @divestudios) for this conversation 🙏🏼❤️
I'm at the same point in my life as Amber. Trying to understand better, comprehend, appreciate, tolerate, really think through my feelings and the feelings of the people around me.
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Awesome video. A good therapist can help you so much. No need to be ashamed and it’s not bc you have a problem.
I want to have her emotional quotient. She's so self aware, what a wonderful quality.
These two😭😭👏😌
I hope Amber is doing okay, same for Eric. My thoughts are always going crazy and driving me insane so it's hard. Depression pulls and pulls so I really hope she and Eric will be okay.💙💙🐳
Good for you Amber!
Middle Aged Mom here: talk about negative and scary things. Silence and secrets only hurt people. When you are brave enough to share it encourages others. Be brave and take care of yourself. That’s how you win at life!
This was such an impactful segment. There's a lot of courage in sharing our vulnerability with others. Thank you both.
Edit, addendum: Therapy has been so beneficial for my mental health.
Amber is such an icon. I love her so much and it's great she is able to speak out about this
Amber I adore her. I am glad she is talking about this and getting help. I also adore Eric.
@Thank you for being one of the few people that talk about the topic, I am from Argentina and is really common to go to a therapist mostly after the dictatorship on the 70's, I hope more people go to a therapist just to clear their minds, to feel that they have the right to feel whatever they are feeling, going to a therapist should be normal everywhere in the world, especially now because of how social media affects us.
Thank Amber for telling everyone that it's ok to be in therapy!!! Its ok!!! IT'S OK!!!! So many people see it as a weakness and to let others know that you are doing it as well, means SO MUCH!! To all the young people that you have so much influence on you saying it out loud means so much!! I've attempted suicide 3 different times, the 3rd time was last February. That's when I realized I could not do it by myself any longer, and I got help. I lost my sister to suicide in 2007. She left behind 4 children all under the age of 10. I knew I had to break the cycle!! Thank you both so much for talking about the issues that are so important. Everyone matters!! YOU reading this,YOU MATTER!! Tell yourself that a million times a day if you need too!! Much love and respect to you Amber!!!
From what I`ve learned from 2019 based on both events and a personal level, there are cruel and evil people on this earth. Genuinely
people with no compasion and humanity. There is eviil out there , but there is also good. But in terms of the public bullying Hara and Sulli went though, there should be laws on severe punishments in bullying public figures and individuals. I dont think changing hearts is possible, some are good people others are not. Laws and policies should be put in place, so that these types of events should never repeat themselves. You cants change hearts I believe, but we can change social norms and attitudes in how individuals should behave, by the using the Law in changing this direction.
The problem is, trying to press charges against social media bullies is hard. Finding these people are not as easy as television make it seem. What we need to change is people's dependency on social media. People have to know when to unplug and remove themselves from that abusive relationship that is social media comments.
The world nor people are black and white. Everyone has good and evil in their hearts it just varies according to which one they nurture the most. Everyone is capable of change but not everyone is willing. Some people are bullies but then grow out of it. Some people start off kind and become cruel. Honestly I agree with Amber. There needs to be more effort in changing individuals. A lot of times people who are cruel are also in pain and they are taking it out on others. Is it right? No. But it's human. Love and kindness would help both the victims find strength and the bullies find healing. At least, that's my philosophy. Sorry that I got long-winded. This is just a subject I'm kind of passionate about.
@@kickrockspleze True that.
@@lovenpeace319 I truly hope you're right
thanks this definitely helped me a lot tonight while i am having a bit of a sad moment