The art of choosing | Sheena Iyengar | TED

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  • Опубликовано: 5 дек 2024

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  • @hbeliever1
    @hbeliever1 Год назад +1464

    If just before this video, you watch the ted talk about "Sleep is your superpower" and "a simple way to break and habit", you probably also saw that philrypz post and you got motivated to change. Good for you ! You are on the right track! I pray for a total change in your life and a restoration of what was lost. May you be able to succeed in all the aspect of your life and go even further beyond your goal! Eager to hear about your success 👊

    • @sirscott16
      @sirscott16 Год назад +16

      wow thank you ! 🤭❤️ can’t wait to hear about your success either !

    • @shrikantkale536
      @shrikantkale536 Год назад +4

      True

    • @kalesantosh
      @kalesantosh Год назад +2

      @@shrikantkale536 Hey there, my birth name was Shrikant but soon after it was changed to Santosh. What are the odds finding you!

    • @kipkemoihillary3790
      @kipkemoihillary3790 Год назад +13

      I couldn't stop but just smile, apparently I am one of those following that thread by philrypz

    • @derberndvonthueringen
      @derberndvonthueringen Год назад +4

      You sir or ma'am have got a really sharp mind. Thank You!

  • @channelthegijoeshow
    @channelthegijoeshow 8 лет назад +233

    I have been fortunate and privileged enough to have been her student..

  • @pup56
    @pup56 Год назад +8

    Seeing this in 2023. So beautiful. Audience looks captivated by her talk!

  • @TheJapanChannelDcom
    @TheJapanChannelDcom 14 лет назад +35

    She has a very open mind and an international perspective..
    very refreshing

  • @ishikajain1398
    @ishikajain1398 Год назад +13

    Sheena is so Calm and Clear while delivering the thoughts and her past experiences.I am very much Delighted with this TED TALK.

  • @whachuwantfromme
    @whachuwantfromme 13 лет назад +59

    I'm halfway through her book, and so far it has done an amazing job at opening my eyes on the way I live my life and why I choose what I choose.

  • @cutifat
    @cutifat 7 лет назад +91

    I watched this video three times. Yes, three times! Professor Lyengar is so attractive, so eloquent, and so full of knowledge and wisdom. What a combination! The fact that she is blind only makes me respect her more.

    • @sidnomaci
      @sidnomaci 8 месяцев назад +2

      Only three??? I watched it at least 20 times. loved it

  • @gailghinis1394
    @gailghinis1394 9 лет назад +27

    This woman is absolutely mesmerizing.

  • @google2com
    @google2com 14 лет назад +67

    This just shows that there is a balance to everything. No choice is just as bad as too many choices!!!

  • @KumoConsulting
    @KumoConsulting 13 лет назад +8

    I live in Japan, have for over a decade, and have experienced the same attitudes for Yearrrrs! The first two minutes are SO TRUE!! The Japanese do NOT allow for choice! What a brilliant opening!! :) Thumbs up!!

  • @lizzie6129
    @lizzie6129 2 месяца назад +1

    It’s strange that I am watching this after 15 years since this video was posted on RUclips and I am glad that I watched it and listened to what she had to say.
    What a beautiful person, what awesome diction and perspective and definitely a person who made a difference in the way we perceive our world.

  • @taniaforafrica
    @taniaforafrica 12 лет назад +37

    She's one of the best speakers i've seen so far on TED. So calm and articulate. Thanks for the message. It was beautiful.

  • @AtlasBlizzard
    @AtlasBlizzard 12 лет назад +37

    I love it. Very insightful story that is also very entertaining, almost effortlessly. I know that when I am presented with too many choices, I get nervous and tend to make worse choices. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one.

  • @ruchacentreheadcsd956
    @ruchacentreheadcsd956 Год назад +3

    Just absolutely fell in love of how insightful and intriguing the entire speech was. Kudos to @Sheena Iyengar

  • @solrheat
    @solrheat 10 лет назад +54

    This is one of the best TED talks I watched. Refreshing, original, thought provoking. Brilliant and charismatic speaker. Loved her sense of humor.
    Thank you, Sheena! :)

  • @150buckfifty150
    @150buckfifty150 14 лет назад +9

    This talk gave me a unique perspective of choice, as I was one of the people who believed that choice is exclusively an independent decision. Very interesting and educational!

  • @mdtausifahmed6205
    @mdtausifahmed6205 Месяц назад +2

    who else watching it in 2024 and still impressed by what she said about choices

  • @rippinsteo
    @rippinsteo 14 лет назад +5

    The ability to choose is the very essence of individuality and free will, along with the attendant ownership and responsibility for the consequneces of choice. Choice enables learning, growth, the acquisition of knowledge, and the empowerment of the individual.

  • @andreasghb8074
    @andreasghb8074 3 года назад +6

    I was very interested in her comments about eastern Europeans. I've been to Hungary in 1989 and again in 2007. The second time things were obviously very different, and most people I spoke to were very positive about the changes (this was before Orban). The one dissenting voice was the cab driver who took me to the airport. He said under the old system he knew his place in society and at work. The uncertainty under the new system was very stressful to him.

  • @mdg936
    @mdg936 9 лет назад +2

    At 20:00 she completely contradicts herself. At this point she says that we should learn to embrace the vast array of choice preferences, not just assuming that everyone likes many different choices, but this is at odds with her main message that we should accept that some people and cultures don't like having too many choices to choose between.

    • @tonychow8120
      @tonychow8120 9 лет назад +3

      +Svalbardea
      you are wrong in
      "embrace the vast array of choice preferences" means no need to judge or choose one preference

  • @yenig2140
    @yenig2140 4 года назад +7

    I took out your book from my local library and was intrigued by the title and as I was reading I was curious about your demeanor and opened up you tube and was not disappointed💫Thank you for relaying you’re research ~

    • @magicknight13
      @magicknight13 3 года назад

      Thank you for also supporting the library!

  • @jlspszj
    @jlspszj 14 лет назад +6

    Nice speech! Personally I think that this really assembles the worldwide situation right now. The availability of choice does benefit humanity as it spurs innovation and creativity. Consumers' wants drive the producers to come up with new products, new products turn into revenue, revenue to income which will drive another round of the process... And I believe that this is the reason for the success of America, from its industrialization to all the various technologies.

  • @leemor
    @leemor 8 лет назад +11

    Bravo! She is so impressive in her presentation of her knowledge . I'm taken by her demeanor.

  • @ParadoXPrincess1
    @ParadoXPrincess1 10 лет назад +11

    LOVE LOVE LOVE IT! I tip my hat to you Ms. Iyengar.

  • @7stg
    @7stg 14 лет назад +3

    Having choice is having responsibility. It gives the potential to act with true intentionality. With choice one can go bigger and fall further. Its unreasonable to blame someone else for ones problems when one is empowered to choose as the sole responsibility rests with chooser. As to society and its role, when one makes poor choices that do impact the whole there are negative ramifications for the one who has been granted the authority to choose and the whole whom that persons choices affect.

  • @blahdelablah
    @blahdelablah 12 лет назад +2

    Her point? There are many points raised, but from my perspective the central message is that we should be more open minded about the effects (both positive and negative) that choice can have on us. Having choice can be an expression of freedom, but when our choices become overwhelming they can leave us feeling trapped. The talk is about developing a more healthy attitude towards choice. This is just what I picked up from the talk, you may have a different opinion.

  • @532flair
    @532flair 5 месяцев назад

    Had the honor of taking her "Think Bigger" class at Columbia for my masters degree and it was such a unique experience that greatly expanded my mind. What a treasure!

  • @MegF142857
    @MegF142857 14 лет назад +3

    I'm glad I was born to live in the United States of America with the choices and independence available. We had an Indian programmer right off plane from India come to work for us in 90s. At the grocery store he was completely overwhelmed and said "Too many choices". After being here awhile he loved all the options available and chose to stay in the United States vs go back to India.
    And... one can choose to not take all the options. That is a choice. I'd rather have that than the opposite.

  • @draytonbailey3588
    @draytonbailey3588 Год назад +6

    So informative. She is so well spoken.

  • @mccfokl
    @mccfokl 12 лет назад +2

    yes she is! look at 07:37 and 07:40
    it's Braille tactile writing, you don't need eyes to read it

  • @msvispila
    @msvispila 11 лет назад +2

    Well, I was born in Europe and grew up there for 23 years before moving to the US. I can fully understand why the eastern Europeans viewed seven different sodas as just one option. We Europeans see sodas as the bubbly, too sweet stuff that is bad for you. Majority of us don't care how they taste, they are just bad for you and you don't touch the stuff. That's why the sodas were viewed as just one option. When she added water and juice, then they had three options.

  • @TwinkleTVi
    @TwinkleTVi Год назад +2

    Off topic but, For the first time in my life, I saw a Rolex ad.

  • @AtlasBlizzard
    @AtlasBlizzard 8 месяцев назад +3

    This is one of my favorite TED talks, very insightful, but I feel there's a bit of a logical fallacy in her assumption that all Westerners make choices based on their own preferences. Many people make choices (both big and small) based on what friends and/or family think.

  • @cinanglai
    @cinanglai 7 лет назад +2

    I really think NOW is the crucial time people attend and this learn the skills.
    We now can't differentiate fake/true news, we rely too much on how we feels & make too much assumptions

  • @2661960
    @2661960 14 лет назад +5

    This explains a lot as to why I often struggle in making decisions. Sometimes It is hard to decide the right thing to do with so many choices and I try to make choices on what I think will help others only to have someone say "Why didn't you do what you wanted". What I want isn't always best for everyone. If we consulted with others and took the good of everyone into consideration, our choices would be more collective and community minded. We would actually be happier with ourselves.

  • @kj762aa
    @kj762aa 13 лет назад +9

    This is a gem. I'm glad they recorded this.

  • @TheMarkedbyher
    @TheMarkedbyher 11 лет назад +3

    She has a Doctorates on the research topic of how individuals approach choice, the subject matter she's speaking about here
    . She's an actual professor of a Ivy league college, and has credentials far beyond teaching a kindergarten class.

  • @fullfist
    @fullfist 12 лет назад +2

    it's is the sign of a strong mind if one is able to make decisions without regret or fear of failure. that's the kind of person that welcomes a challenge.
    .
    all challenges starts with a decision. Thinking outside the box results in surprising advancements. Sticking to the collectivist, tried and true grants stability but punishes with boredom
    .

  • @WakeRunSleep
    @WakeRunSleep 14 лет назад +3

    I was excited about this topic for the first five minutes; I still am, but there are so many problems with Sheena's conclusions, i don't know where to start.

  • @ShawnRavenfire
    @ShawnRavenfire 11 лет назад +7

    I think one of the reasons (though not the only reason) why the parents would not have wanted the doctor to make the decision for them, is because giving up that power of choice would itself be a choice, in which case, they'd be forced to wonder "what if" THEY had made the choice.
    Also, I think that the paralyzing effect of choice when it comes to finances or health care come from the complexity of the subject matter. People have no trouble choosing between things that are easy to understand.

    • @vigator1301
      @vigator1301 Год назад +1

      I'm a bit late to the party, but I agree. Another point I thought of is where would we draw the line here? If we let doctors make these choices for us about whether our child lives one day or one month, then how long until the choice is between putting a child off life support or having a child with a mental disorder? I'd rather know it was me who made a choice and struggle with that choice than knowing after the fact that the choice was made for me. I'm Swedish by the way so I guess I can't be "accused" of belonging to the american culture group.

  • @s0nyuhshigay
    @s0nyuhshigay 11 лет назад +23

    The woman gives an thought-provoking talk, and the first thing they ask her about is her blindness? It's a shame.

    • @andy4an
      @andy4an 10 лет назад +6

      your's is an interesting comment, but the fact remains that she does have a unique perspective, and she had a great answer.

    • @carinafinoli3636
      @carinafinoli3636 6 лет назад +1

      The way she reacts to the question about her blindness is amazing!!

  • @DubaiGuy08
    @DubaiGuy08 13 лет назад +3

    Wow, Sheena Iyengar is smart, articulate and persuasive! What an illuminating, well-delivered talk on choice and choosing!

  • @chungdha
    @chungdha 14 лет назад +6

    @cooperbep3 Me too only noticed it when they show that she was reading braille from the sheet.

  • @deerfish3000
    @deerfish3000 8 лет назад +10

    "Freedom of choice is what you got. Freedom from choice is what you want." Freedom of Choice - DEVO

  • @onlywhenprovoked
    @onlywhenprovoked 14 лет назад

    Individual humans have ALWAYS been the ones to decide what happens to their offspring, just like every other animal does. To say that this is a new, learned, or negative thing... is mind blowing.
    To give the state, or other authority figures control over your body or over your children.... to chose to give them life and death power over you - is new, learned, and negative.

  • @eastmanweb
    @eastmanweb 13 лет назад +1

    This presentation is a gift to the Internet. My world view has expanded from watching it.

  • @lilianka3943
    @lilianka3943 10 лет назад +14

    she is amazing.

  • @D4V1DC00L
    @D4V1DC00L 13 лет назад +5

    prof Sheena is certainly an inspiring person. Would love to hear more of her...

    • @UmarAli-jr1rk
      @UmarAli-jr1rk Год назад

      Can you please tell me if she is blind

  • @cahiteshsachdev
    @cahiteshsachdev Год назад

    What she said in the last experience of herself was adorable and glamorous as well! Nothing is sexier than being original!

  • @bendietrees
    @bendietrees 11 лет назад +1

    Interesting, I'm an American living in Australia and I find the lack of choice frustrating and suffocating, as though I'm being told what to like. Gets you thinking.

  • @hik7181
    @hik7181 9 месяцев назад

    Recomendo o ted talk da Sheena Iyenga: a arte de escolher

  • @Hijodeganas1
    @Hijodeganas1 11 лет назад +2

    Interesting video. I see a couple problems, though.
    1. Is the problem individual choice, or an overwhelm of choice? It seems like there are two preimses in one argument.
    2. Is the problem that individual choice and/or an overwhelm of choice, or that people do not know how to properly make choices? In other words, should we be reducing choices, collective choices, or learning how to make better individual choices?

  • @HigherPlanes
    @HigherPlanes 14 лет назад +2

    When I walk down the cereal Isle at the local supermarket, I get to choose which nutritionally devoid breakfast cereal goes in my body. Thanks choice!

  • @ssrmurthy6691
    @ssrmurthy6691 6 лет назад +1

    Madam! You are inspiration to the depressed & illmotivated..great speech!

  • @deleteme924
    @deleteme924 11 лет назад +1

    It will forever remain a mystery to me why TED talks have people disliking them

  • @ThePocketbass
    @ThePocketbass 11 лет назад +1

    Let me say how much I respect her.---What is not addressed is the dangers of "collective think." How easily Ms. Iyengar, applauds the idea of Asian kids doing better because of a commitment to community expectations as opposed to the failures of individual choice posed by the "Western model." Could it not be that the difference in performance is directly related to the destruction of our most basic societal group, the family?

  • @FatDeadElvees
    @FatDeadElvees 9 лет назад +41

    "Of course, you and I know that coke is the better choice."

  • @touchthesky15
    @touchthesky15 4 месяца назад +1

    So informative..such meaningful experiements and research. Thank you

  • @bhavishajogi1775
    @bhavishajogi1775 Год назад

    Despite the many factors that can influence our choices, we ultimately have the power to decide what we do… this power gives us sense of self determination

  • @youtubeogcreator
    @youtubeogcreator 7 лет назад +2

    She is absolutely AWESOME!!!

  • @jonathanaugustin647
    @jonathanaugustin647 10 лет назад +14

    Why can't we ever acknowledge that other cultures can be rude as well.
    Lying to a paying customer about something as simple as sugar (a blind customer at that) is rude and there is no way around it.
    When other cultures are being rude we make excuses for them like:
    "Oh, it is just their way of life, they meant no ill will by it"
    But if we as Americans come off as offensive to a foreigner we are deemed culturally insensitive become we are expected to make the foreigner feel comfortable. I think the respect should be reciprocated, that's all.

    • @manalkhanofficial
      @manalkhanofficial 7 лет назад +1

      so you are aware that people find americans + canadians +australians + europeans rude?

    • @Diveintonewenglish
      @Diveintonewenglish 7 лет назад +3

      Jonathan Augustin In Japan they are looking out for the customer. It is accepted that the person working knows best. From that mindset, it wouldve been rude for them to give something they consider as bad.

    • @manalkhanofficial
      @manalkhanofficial 7 лет назад +2

      is it just me...or do people worldwide perceive americans + all people in english-speaking countries as rude? why is it that we tend to perceive specifically people from western countries as rude when there are rude people all over the world? is it because they are very straight-forward and can be very blunt up front? or is it because their definition and perspective of "boundaries" is very strict and inflexible compared to all the cultures worldwide? i do believe all human beings of all races, cultures, ethnic groups are equally rude, nasty, judgemental, vicious and inhumane but what differs from culture to culture and as well as person to person are the factors, situations, behaviors that would cause one group of people to act rude as opposed to differing factors, situations and behaviors triggering the similar pattern of behavior in another culture or maybe in another person.

    • @manalkhanofficial
      @manalkhanofficial 7 лет назад

      not trying to sound cynical or black-or-white, i do recognize that all human beings are endowed with a realistic blend of positive and negative qualities. irrespective of what positive qualities every human being has, i believe people from all around the world are or atleast have the potential of being equally rude, nasty, judgemental and vicious.
      but that is not what worries me. what worries me instead, is when we unconsciously internalize the negative voices and comments of people and it gets ingrained so deeply in our minds, that we are not even aware those negative voices are behind the choices we are making in our day-to-day lives unless we are hit by crisis which forces us to reflect on the motives and reasons behind our behaviors.

    • @littledrone2010
      @littledrone2010 7 лет назад

      I found this comments just late. But giving respects to each other is very important in fact. In this case, we need to think about how our reactions will make a person's or a country's image down.

  • @subikramhansda
    @subikramhansda Год назад

    Wow completely took me off guard how I have been choosing. So much factors related to choosing you can't impose something to another.

  • @KathBorup
    @KathBorup 11 лет назад +1

    The story at the end with the nail polish was great.

  • @zweisteinJ
    @zweisteinJ 14 лет назад +1

    this woman is blind.... and she did all this spectacular job researching... Respect..

  • @priyanshi_daheriya
    @priyanshi_daheriya Год назад +1

    a)Make your own choices
    b)Be true to yourself

    • @愚園強鬼
      @愚園強鬼 Год назад

      a)When I went to US, I never went to MaC, but went to SUBWAY.
      I enjoied limitless choice. I never leave without sandwich.
      I was impressed turky meat and tuna always.
      She must also enjoy Subway choice.
      b) Buy and read her marketing bible book of “Jam law” and make sure by yourself.
      Even kids can understand “Jam law” is FAKE and they cry “Place the 4 kinds best seller jams”. Kids are honest. Adult like you change the feeling like “I must be wrong”..

  • @Dgtlsrcrss01
    @Dgtlsrcrss01 12 лет назад +1

    Choice is the global 'way of the future' like it or not. We have access to more and more information...the constraint is our willpower and time to sift through it all. Some people don't like choice...because it requires you to take responsibility for your actions, and to build good decision-making skills. But those skills are also vital for entrepreneurship and leadership, so what's the problem with building them?

  • @xapemanx
    @xapemanx 14 лет назад +14

    didnt know she was blind, till they shows the braille paper

  • @jbowes2
    @jbowes2 14 лет назад

    @spankthamunkey War is not always fought over resources. Resource issues are not a prerequisite for starting a war. Such an explanation denotes a very simplistic understanding of interstate and intrastate relations. Wars are fought for many different reasons, and while the causes of some wars can be partly explained by a resource issue it is an inadequate explanation.

  • @laalmonn
    @laalmonn Год назад +1

    Was he showing her the way at 23:57 ?

  • @onotheo
    @onotheo 14 лет назад

    I really like her answer to the question at the of her presentation, even more than the presentation itself.

  • @TheSpankymonkey
    @TheSpankymonkey 14 лет назад +1

    @MrDemonshalo - Odd isn't it. She has her eyes open to the world more than most people with full sight!

  • @muzikfreak007
    @muzikfreak007 11 лет назад

    Hi Malinyc. She an S.T. Lee Professor of Business in the Management Division at Columbia Business School and the Director of the Global Leadership Matrix initiative. She went to Stanford and University of Pennsylvania. I would have been so lucky if she taught me at kindergarten though :)

  • @mykuttiangel
    @mykuttiangel 12 лет назад

    She is a person of repute and has established herself well, in spite of her blindness and is successful professionally and personally (got married and has a boy too!) why to even pass worthless comments? Why not we appreciate what she has to share with us? Her insights are amazing...you just can't bullshit on a TED forum...

  • @christiaankrause6387
    @christiaankrause6387 11 лет назад

    Nice one. I just watched this TED talk: Dan Gilbert: Why are we happy? Why aren't we happy?
    Which seems to be in a similar field. However it doesnt include cultural differences, it does refer to people with alzheimers.

  • @ShawnMcNown
    @ShawnMcNown 13 лет назад +1

    I don't know about You All but this lecture really moved me, and I am grateful for the observations work and thought that went into this [G*D Bless] and thank you @TED

  • @098anne
    @098anne 14 лет назад +2

    Wonderful! I wish she had addressed just how manipulation can and does occur when the number if choices is either increased or decreased. It was hinted at toward the end with the nail polish story. Maybe I put that awkwardly. Too, maybe we ought to make a differentiation between significant choice and non-significant choice? I loved this talk! I have go watch again.

  • @JaneDoe-ci3gj
    @JaneDoe-ci3gj 2 года назад +1

    I thought this video was about how I would be better at making choices.
    It was not that kind of video, but I´m glad i stumbled over it!
    The thing about the former Soviet countries though true are a bit outdated though, they have had capitalism for a long time now.
    Still a very intersting video!
    I have mental problems and when it comes to large decisions I just tend to either freeze up or not anything which is a real problem for me!

  • @DavidEpstein
    @DavidEpstein 14 лет назад +2

    @HumanistWikitopian I hear what you're saying, but we still want to be the ones who choose whether or not to ask for advice, who to seek advice from, how much weight to give to the advice we're give, or whether to ignore that advice entirely. At time we may give up our choice to someone else, either because we simply don't care, or because we don't want the responsibility that comes along with a possible wrong choice. In such a case, we want to choose whether or not we are the ones to choose.

  • @Roguedeus
    @Roguedeus 14 лет назад +1

    The trouble isn't choice. It is responsibility.

  • @TheWheelofLife100
    @TheWheelofLife100 6 лет назад

    Choices are an illusion,I was born a male,didn’t choose,born a Christian,didn’t choose,forced to eat food I didn’t like,didn’t choose,forced to obey by laws of society that I wasn’t responsible for creating,didn’t choose...............

  • @iGamification
    @iGamification 11 лет назад +1

    Most of this talk has to do with cross cultural difference, and collectivist v, individualistic cultures. Being a 3rd culture kid, I feel like she spent the whole time opening up a theme so common to us (those who have been in both types of cultures), but not much further. But it's a crucial concept.

  • @TheFireflyGrave
    @TheFireflyGrave 10 лет назад +9

    This was the funniest TED Talk I've seen. Informative too.

  • @caldercleavelin
    @caldercleavelin 12 лет назад

    You can see her braille script at 7:40. Not that that matters; she's a great speaker.

  • @mitch3x3
    @mitch3x3 12 лет назад

    at the very least watch this part --> 12:35 - 12:58
    it is true representation of the evolution of consumerism

  • @SephoraBelle
    @SephoraBelle 12 лет назад +2

    I like what you wrote, very true and well expressed. Thank you for your perspective.

  • @Rajking01
    @Rajking01 11 лет назад

    Sheena Iyengar was born in Toronto, Canada in 1969. Her parents had emigrated there from Delhi, India.

  • @TROJANHORSECHAVALON
    @TROJANHORSECHAVALON Месяц назад +1

    Innovation=Choice

  • @smokenojoke8182
    @smokenojoke8182 Год назад +1

    Choice =innovation

  • @2011Mehwish
    @2011Mehwish 10 лет назад

    Please let people express their experiences. She did not say explicitly that Japanese people are bad. Don't assume. She expressed her experience only and she like anyone else has the right too.

  • @shigekoy1405
    @shigekoy1405 7 лет назад +2

    We Japanese have a custom to drink cold green tea with sugar in summer. Some restaurants have it. But not many, I think.
    And most restaurants in Japan serve green tea to all customers for free. So you have to order something else other than tea!

    • @teresafrancespole-bakergou6183
      @teresafrancespole-bakergou6183 5 лет назад

      So her problem wasn't that she wanted sugar in her green tea, but that she wanted a paid extra in her free drink.

  • @andy4an
    @andy4an 10 лет назад +3

    If you have loved ones who would depend on you to make medical decisions for them, you owe it to them to discuss what they will want at the end of their life.
    Don't be stuck wondering. KNOW.
    This will allow you to make difficult decisions when you can still laugh and smile, rather than in the midst of a stressful crisis.

    • @MrZAP17
      @MrZAP17 8 лет назад

      +weesh ful Why should it matter what they want if you're the one who has to make the decision? If they're already at the end then it shouldn't matter to them anyway. As it is the decision would ultimately affect you far more.

    • @andy4an
      @andy4an 8 лет назад

      ***** because there are more than two people in the world.
      What about my mom's sisters, mom, daughter, friends?
      Quality of life decisions are counter-intuitive and hard for other people to grasp as the right answers. i don't want to ruin relationships, or create bad blood as the result of doing what is best for my mom.

  • @davidchi
    @davidchi 14 лет назад

    @HumanistWikitopian I think you've misunderstood the point of the video if that's what you conclude. She's pointing out that there are a variety of ways in which people can choose, choice made in isolation is one extreme and choice made by society and culture another. There are obviously gradients, and I doubt there can truly be choice in isolation since almost everyone is socialized to various degrees.

  • @MaiaUnfiltered
    @MaiaUnfiltered Год назад +1

    Excellent Ted talk. Loved it all ❤

  • @Heartyface4
    @Heartyface4 12 лет назад

    her voice and her mind are beautiful.

  • @TheRooster602
    @TheRooster602 11 лет назад

    Solzhenitsyn said that, in the camps, when presented with a choice in the absence of backgound information explaining relative risks/benefits of the alternatives, they would flip a coin (so to speak). If things went poorly, there was no self-recrimination for choosing wrongly.

  • @Epicurean999
    @Epicurean999 4 года назад

    2020 Quarantine did bring A Nerdy Beast OUT OF ME....Indebted forever for such spectacular talk.
    Love and Respect from INDIA
    🇮🇳💓🙏

  • @arun6004
    @arun6004 13 лет назад

    @tessb I think you have a valid point - if you are really interested in the research data that backs up the anecdotes, you should give her book a read. I was surprised to see how different the book was when compared to this talk!

  • @fruitblossomblue1133
    @fruitblossomblue1133 12 лет назад

    That is true, 25% of it lies on the European continent. But there are so many countries that would have served as a much better example as eastern European countries than Russia, being entirely in Europe, not just one quarter of them.

  • @chateaubriand2525
    @chateaubriand2525 5 лет назад +1

    It is quite natural that Japanese children ar glad to be praised by their mothers cuz their parets are their everything in their childhood. Which means that they cannot act what they have to do by themselves. That’s too bad but that is the truth in Japan.