While it is true that the husband in Islam does not require his wife’s permission however,she is not in agreement or choose not to ride along this is her decision. Just because he wants to do it, doesn’t mean his wife will choose to be a participant. The success of polygny depends upon ALL those who participate, it ultimately requires the consent of all adults as without that it falls apart. May Allah guide us all to the best understanding and may Allah reward you for opening up your lives and sharing with others. Ameen
I used to think that something was wrong with me for desiring other women. I was taught wrong. I'm glad to be in the process of unlearning the lessons of Western society.
How rich are you? Because desiring and providing is two different things. Do you have land, property, how much do you earn? Can you afford a helper or nanny incase a child is born? Can you afford proper health care ? GO look for money my brother.
Money indeed is important and is men's responsibility. Increasing your financial iq makes you more attractive and gives you options. It helps build vs destroy and is essential to strong leadership. Simply raising your financial iq will help with your confidence. I'll be sharing some case studies soon of clients I've worked with who have increased their finances by over 50X in 6 mo.
SubhanAllah! السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I think some men don't have a backbone at all. Their wife is running their life as far as polygyny is concerned. Who's really in charge of the household anyway?? Coach Nazir is right! A lot of men do want multiple wives, it's in their nature! but are afraid to act or say something. You men out there, stop lying to yourselves/ your wife about how you really feel. May الله give men the ability to be honest with themselves and stop making up excuses! اللهم امين 🧕👳🧕
The idea of expanding the family does come with both the couple agreeing to entering polygyny. Some marriages don’t have a conversation about polygyny and many women act out when they learn their husbands wants another wife. Some Muslim men don’t know how to approach their wives about the interest in another wife. I personally don’t see a problem with polygyny, years ago I learned that I need to have the type of mindset that I am my husband’s concubine, I need to uphold and support his decision, and understand that my husband’s decision to practice polygyny doesn’t and shouldn’t diminish the love he has for me. The solution for practicing Muslim women is read the Quran, Hadiths, seek counseling, enroll in polygyny classes or sessions, and seek out other couples practicing polygyny before you marry (if you can) in order to familiarize yourself with the practice of polygyny. I found that this platform “Outstanding Personal Relationships” is one of the best examples of practicing polygyny because your courses don’t sugar coat bad practices as well as good practices of polygyny.
While no one can say what is right or wrong for each family, how is it right for a husband to marry another wife without the knowledge of his existing spouse(s). If a man really respects and loves his wife he would consider the impact on her and his existing family and not marry another woman in secret. Based on earlier videos, it seems like The Coach was long married to his subsequent wife before his first wife knew of the situation. Then it became “I don’t need permission…because I am the man…” Financial and emotional stability is most important. Am Islam is so much more than polygamy and men banging their chests about how powerful and important they are in their family dynamic.
There are a few things you're confusing in your comment and I hope to provide some clarity here. It appears you're a Muslim and therefore the following is important: 1. Coach Nazir did marry without Coah Fatimah's permission and knowledge, similar to how the Prophet (sws) did. For clarity, we don't encourage pursuing polygyny this way due to societal differences and social conditioning. 2. Marriages aren't secret, it requires witnesses and others at a minimum. Marrying in a public masjid isn't secret, even if private or because you're not invited. Your "if a man really respects..." statement is simply your uninformed hypothesis, we work with men who constantly feel conflicted and wonder if something is wrong with them because of the deep love for their wives and natural inclination for polygyny. You may not like it, we get it, but your dislike or preferences don't make the rules. This is one of the reasons we're bringing these issues to light because polygyny will continue to be practiced but since there's such a lack of practical info, it keeps getting done wrong and many times spawns more problems.
@@NuYork2LA1exactly, why she watching like it's a reality series is crazy to me. This ain't that, it's real people sharing their journey and helping families like mine along the way. Easy to be Ms. Perfect behind a keyboard and judge others, smh.
Exactly. Being a leader means doing what is best for your family. Not what is best for you..doesnt mattter what your tendancies are, but if u know marrying another woman is gonna break your current family up then dont do it but if you dont care about losing your current wife and kids then go ahead and do it. But if u know ur first is gonna get over it and deal with it then go ahead. Point is u gotta weigh all ur options and do what is best for the family u have not break it up to have another one😂😂
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi i aint saying its right. But there is a fine line between love and hate. Once you lose something u cherised dearly that love turns to hatred and you will do anything to hurt him as he hurt you. I'm just pointing out what some women do. Jsut because its wrong isnt gonna stop them 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Even if he did, he would not be true to his natural self. Man’s level of testosterone can be quite high particularly in our “times”, so taking his wife’s permission would be pointless, cuz he would either start to have a certain hatted towards his first wife or he would sleep around, do it anyway.
Many families are destroyed due to that kind of selfish thinking, don’t think attributing something to your “nature” makes it okay. We all have natural tendencies, doesn’t make it right especially without mutual consent from your wife
@@NuYork2LA1 that’s actually not true, there’s multiple factors as to why the nuclear family has dwindled including unbridled capitalism, hyper individualism and tech growth. Polygamy is not the answer you think it is, especially when most man can’t afford to financially or emotionally deal with multiple women (unless you’re lying and deceiving in the process) and most women aren’t okay with sharing their men for multiple reasons. You do you tho
While it is true that the husband in Islam does not require his wife’s permission however,she is not in agreement or choose not to ride along this is her decision. Just because he wants to do it, doesn’t mean his wife will choose to be a participant. The success of polygny depends upon ALL those who participate, it ultimately requires the consent of all adults as without that it falls apart. May Allah guide us all to the best understanding and may Allah reward you for opening up your lives and sharing with others. Ameen
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You just contradicted yourself. Permission and consent are same things. A woman can handle it but chooses not to.
Ameen
I used to think that something was wrong with me for desiring other women. I was taught wrong. I'm glad to be in the process of unlearning the lessons of Western society.
How rich are you? Because desiring and providing is two different things. Do you have land, property, how much do you earn? Can you afford a helper or nanny incase a child is born? Can you afford proper health care ? GO look for money my brother.
@@melvisgumbo You go look for money.
Money indeed is important and is men's responsibility. Increasing your financial iq makes you more attractive and gives you options. It helps build vs destroy and is essential to strong leadership.
Simply raising your financial iq will help with your confidence. I'll be sharing some case studies soon of clients I've worked with who have increased their finances by over 50X in 6 mo.
Every woman deserves a husband and every man has a duty to a marriage. Brother you've done one of the most important thing in your religion.
SubhanAllah! السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I think some men don't have a backbone at all. Their wife is running their life as far as polygyny is concerned. Who's really in charge of the household anyway?? Coach Nazir is right! A lot of men do want multiple wives, it's in their nature! but are afraid to act or say something. You men out there, stop lying to yourselves/ your wife about how you really feel. May الله give men the ability to be honest with themselves and stop making up excuses! اللهم امين 🧕👳🧕
The idea of expanding the family does come with both the couple agreeing to entering polygyny. Some marriages don’t have a conversation about polygyny and many women act out when they learn their husbands wants another wife. Some Muslim men don’t know how to approach their wives about the interest in another wife. I personally don’t see a problem with polygyny, years ago I learned that I need to have the type of mindset that I am my husband’s concubine, I need to uphold and support his decision, and understand that my husband’s decision to practice polygyny doesn’t and shouldn’t diminish the love he has for me. The solution for practicing Muslim women is read the Quran, Hadiths, seek counseling, enroll in polygyny classes or sessions, and seek out other couples practicing polygyny before you marry (if you can) in order to familiarize yourself with the practice of polygyny. I found that this platform “Outstanding Personal Relationships” is one of the best examples of practicing polygyny because your courses don’t sugar coat bad practices as well as good practices of polygyny.
Concubine?
As-salam-ulakum I think this is one of the most important aspects for us men looking to start this journey
While no one can say what is right or wrong for each family, how is it right for a husband to marry another wife without the knowledge of his existing spouse(s). If a man really respects and loves his wife he would consider the impact on her and his existing family and not marry another woman in secret.
Based on earlier videos, it seems like The Coach was long married to his subsequent wife before his first wife knew of the situation. Then it became “I don’t need permission…because I am the man…”
Financial and emotional stability is most important. Am
Islam is so much more than polygamy and men banging their chests about how powerful and important they are in their family dynamic.
There are a few things you're confusing in your comment and I hope to provide some clarity here.
It appears you're a Muslim and therefore the following is important:
1. Coach Nazir did marry without Coah Fatimah's permission and knowledge, similar to how the Prophet (sws) did.
For clarity, we don't encourage pursuing polygyny this way due to societal differences and social conditioning.
2. Marriages aren't secret, it requires witnesses and others at a minimum. Marrying in a public masjid isn't secret, even if private or because you're not invited.
Your "if a man really respects..." statement is simply your uninformed hypothesis, we work with men who constantly feel conflicted and wonder if something is wrong with them because of the deep love for their wives and natural inclination for polygyny.
You may not like it, we get it, but your dislike or preferences don't make the rules.
This is one of the reasons we're bringing these issues to light because polygyny will continue to be practiced but since there's such a lack of practical info, it keeps getting done wrong and many times spawns more problems.
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshiright, help these arm chair quarterbacks get the story straight!
@@NuYork2LA1exactly, why she watching like it's a reality series is crazy to me. This ain't that, it's real people sharing their journey and helping families like mine along the way.
Easy to be Ms. Perfect behind a keyboard and judge others, smh.
Exactly. Being a leader means doing what is best for your family. Not what is best for you..doesnt mattter what your tendancies are, but if u know marrying another woman is gonna break your current family up then dont do it but if you dont care about losing your current wife and kids then go ahead and do it.
But if u know ur first is gonna get over it and deal with it then go ahead.
Point is u gotta weigh all ur options and do what is best for the family u have not break it up to have another one😂😂
He can do it. And then she can leave with the kids. And then he can start from square one again.
Apparently you fail to recognize 'the kids' are HIS too. They aren't luggage, smh. How disrespectful and careless to use children.
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi i aint saying its right. But there is a fine line between love and hate. Once you lose something u cherised dearly that love turns to hatred and you will do anything to hurt him as he hurt you. I'm just pointing out what some women do. Jsut because its wrong isnt gonna stop them 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi the point is weigh all ur cards and consider the risks of your actions. Thats what a tru leader does.
The men are to leaded the families not the women. The Most High is the man headed.
To keep it real don't even ask to have sex but accept a serious rejection.
What does this even mean? I tried to add punctuation but still get nothing...
Even if he did, he would not be true to his natural self. Man’s level of testosterone can be quite high particularly in our “times”, so taking his wife’s permission would be pointless, cuz he would either start to have a certain hatted towards his first wife or he would sleep around, do it anyway.
Many families are destroyed due to that kind of selfish thinking, don’t think attributing something to your “nature” makes it okay. We all have natural tendencies, doesn’t make it right especially without mutual consent from your wife
More families are destroyed due to monogamy, look at the stats, so miss us with your false assumptions.
@@NuYork2LA1 that’s actually not true, there’s multiple factors as to why the nuclear family has dwindled including unbridled capitalism, hyper individualism and tech growth. Polygamy is not the answer you think it is, especially when most man can’t afford to financially or emotionally deal with multiple women (unless you’re lying and deceiving in the process) and most women aren’t okay with sharing their men for multiple reasons. You do you tho
Absurd