Families being together should be the STANDARD not a flex. If you're part of a broken family or you caused one that's nothing to be proud of. We're celebrating the wrong things nowadays.
Only for black people… every other race understands the importance of marriage and family… we the only race that want to have multiple kids talk about co-parenting which is fake since the women is usually doing everything co parenting means they not arguing if they in the same room as they baby daddy thiers actually no real co parenting it’s verbiage to dress up a sad situation.. black men don’t marry you can look up stats and when they do it doesn’t last… in every group no matter who they date it’s the same failure rate it’s them
It's not that people are celebrating being single. People are celebrating not being in bullshit. People are tired of being disrespected, abused and not being valued. So some of us choose to wait to find quality people instead of settling for trash.
Did he say any of that or was his premise that no matter the bullshit if y'all compatible for the sake of your children and your goals make it work because two is better than one but since you want to act like you don't know no better. Enjoy being single for life
People not together because of lack of communication and willingness to compromise. We live in a society where people get divorced because they not getting along anymore or they found someone else they connected with. If people would learn who they where as an individual and actually develop themselves then you could actually choose a mate you can grow with and work through differences with. But that would make too much sense. Instead we got hot girl summers and getting flown out by random dudes. And men focusing on attaining wealth in order to attract these type of women. Society as a whole digresses day by day.
If yal don’t see that it’s our woman’s bitterness I don’t know what to tell yal. 9/10 of the men I know are trying to make up for the fact that their father wasn’t there. And 9/10 of the women are so used to no man being around they hate good men and pick terrible men on purpose so they can have something to complain about with their mothers/friends. I’ve seen first person a woman try and get simp behavior out of me RELENTLESSLY to no avail and once she got the slightest weakness out of me threw it back in my face. Women want to be apart of the group no matter how toxic it is as long as they belong. We need to be in position to employ ALL of our children to force the next generation to see the family as a power structure. Because our women have no idea what power is
I felt that. Don't disagree. Yet, it has to be said. Men focusing on "wealth to attract women" without any regard to character = mistake. "Wealth to attract women" = not a mistake.
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 dont put it on the men. Attaining money and status has always been apart of the mans dna. Women on the other hand have found it more important to chase the bag rather than raise a family. Women are the only ones running around screaming “ boss bitch” or “ Im independant”. If youre independant then how do we raise and keep a family together?
Right?! Been married for only 19 yrs and when people ask and we tell them they are in awe. My hubby and I coming from families of men And women married 30 plus years- 19 years to us is nothing. We more traditional anyways. 🤷🏽♀️😌
Exist but not heard of because it's mostly sad songs that get airplay and people are more inclined to hurt stories. Nobody wants to listen to those married for long because it violates their fleeting, shallow take on what love is supposed to be- service!
Been wit my wife 20 years and married 11. August 27 will make 12. I'm 33 she turn 32 in August. When people realize how young we are and married wit 3 kids. They be in a world of shock. That's shit be so funny to us. Plus these days grandparents or family ain't family so we take our kids everywhere we go. We have fun and or kids enjoy being with us because we are somewhat young and can relate to them well.
Times have definitely changed. Men have to actually be likable in order for women to actually be with them. There can’t be anymore abuse like there was back in the day because women don’t have to stay and put up with it. Once women were allowed to live life, it’s like they were sheltered kids and went wild once they were let out into the world. Honestly, it’s not a flex because he’s not even married to her. Being a baby daddy and baby momma is definitely not a flex whatsoever. It’s just being modern. There is nothing traditional about what he’s saying.
Generations ago women had to be with men for survival. Women also had to have permission from their husbands to get birth control. So these people who glamorize these past generations really don't know anything about history. Now you have to like you said be likable, have goals have a plan in order for a woman to choose a man and vice versa. And I'm going to need him to marry the mother of his child before he makes any family comments because at the end of the day he is a baby daddy saying a bunch of nothing. Word salad is what he's saying
100% agree... I'm very proud my mom and dad are married and solving any problems they come across together ❤️ and my aunt and uncle are to and my sister and her husband are to they have been married for 9 years and so have me and my husband and it's such a wonderful thing to me because we have beautiful loving examples to show our children of what a strong family unit is! We all work hard and we all help and support eachother ... theirs a war on family it's real and it doesn't want to see you make a family let alone a successful one ...
Desperate female energy. He said he could post his daughter and his family. Family isn't just about rings and marriage. As long as they are together and under the same roof with his girl that's family..
Marriage is important legally and if he dies or she dies for ssi,health insurance,taxes etc… As a nurse I have seen women want to make decisions I am like you can’t only the family can and they get pissed a girlfriend is not a legal title .. you’re either married or ur not .. don’t be a stupid women stay with a man decades and you assed out because you have no legal right to the bank accounts ,health insurance,his 401K etc… most women say they don’t want to get married because they man don’t want to get married .. I have seen those same men after 10+ years marry another women when they stated they never wanted to be married .. they want to be married just not to you .. it’s a hard pill to swallow and most folks in denial
@@Tekka579 It may be family but he was comparing marriage of the past with his shacking of the present as a flex, just bc they're 'together' does not make it the same thing.
@@helena3631 ‼️‼️‼️ Please say it again bc these men are successfully brainwashing women into situations the men wouldn't even accept if the tables were turned. Women fail to realize legally your baby daddy is not considered your family. The child, the mother and the father (if he is on the birth certificate are) no matter what he tells you about bonds and titles you are a nobody IRL unless it's legitimized.
That last part hit , you know times is changing for men when they become made fun of because they treat their women right. For example Russell Wilson. For it to be actually nauseating for him to be the perfect man Ciara was blessed with. It’s terrible. I blame the music of this generation for that shift, we need to bring back old school morals. Our married grandparents who has a life long history in each other’s company should be our example.
That's not true. Alot of these shows make too many generalizations. It starts with the black man because black women settling for living together instead of waiting for marriage. The man is supposed to be the head of the family but they are out wanting to have other men or multiple women so how can a woman marry with no partner. Black women are also to blame for allowing that and not having control over their reproductive responsibility. Why keep getting pregnant when you are not married? Think about the kids 🤔
@@talk2flonow261 bw have been culturally trained not to view bm as leaders. As a matter of fact most bw have been taught not to need bm in any capacity with the exception of having children. It makes sense that bw have the highest percentage of kids born out of wedlock and the lowest marriage rate among women in America. To be fair marriage is becoming obsolete among westernized in general.
This man is not old enough to know in real time what was going on 3 generations ago. These guys just want women to take their word on what was happening back then without talking about the causes of the problems between blk men and blk women. Women should talk to their grandmother's generation of women to know what was really going on. People were getting married back then. There were reasons that women started filing for divorces but blk men dont want to talk about the part they played in that. Notice he said his girl and daughter. He did not say his wife. Flex for real by marrying the woman and raise your child in the same household as a family if they are together already anyway.
@@robertwillis6552 That’s a lie Black bums like to use to deflect from the facts that Black men have been creating and abandoning multiple children with multiple women for decades. Children that Black men have NO intention of raising. Tragic
People stay together because that's what they were taught people don't put up with the b******* anymore we are not our grandparents nor are we are great grandparents no or we are parents
Nowadays I don’t even trust those flexing about their families being together. Lots of times the parents are miserable, can’t stand each other, and cheating. They just putting on an act for friends and neighbors.
Wow! Preach babes! Because there are so many marriages of 10, 15, 20,30 years are now going through a divorce. Damn where did the love go smh! Husband and wives become strange bedfellows due to high rent and mortgage. Husband sleeps in the basement wife sleeps on the second floor leaving the children confused that they don't know how to be in a healthy relationship. Those out here who want love rather be single than be married
Who are these boys we're looking at and talking to with baby hair, ponytails and pink lips with lip gloss... find the real men and then maybe we can talk!!!
@@magnum-kj5ip I'm opposed to having friends, I'm like a certain type of man,and he's kind of rare.i respect a man that chooses wisely, not so much for beauty but other important qualities.
Just imagine the same energy everyone placing on the relationship sector, we focused it on financial matters and rising individually, I never hear talk of finding self first, Just the blame Game...Luvwrld
Families are the building blocks of any community, if we don’t focus on how to make relationships work then we’ll continue to be divided and have no community…..
Being at peace rather being with a toxic person. People don't understand the reason why kids are messed up and think a toxic relationships is a thing to do. Long as your in a relationship. Now when they're adults they are doing what they're shown. Instead of saying it is ok to be single because life isn't being stressed in a relationship.
I don't think that women are choosing to be single and alone. I tend to believe that when a woman has had her heart broken, been cheated on, disrespected, abused mentally and physically or has been with someone who was not responsible, someone who didn't live by their word or promises, or the woman has had to act like the man in the relationship, they just got fed up and tired doing way too much in the relationship. It's like, why bother? What's the use of tryna find that one special man? Some of us just hunch our shoulders and come to the realization that being alone is better than being in a relationship that doesn't go anywhere.💔
This is what I call the color purpling of the black communities if u go back to the civil rights movement black women choose welfare over keep the family together and big mama wasn't the head of the house big daddy was but y'all forget that black men sacrifice themselves to make sure big mama was ok because black women wasn't moving there family in to white neighborhood black men was get fact straight
Same us we men. Fuck holes and chase after bag. What’s the big deal anyway. Marrying is like setting yourself a trap for a woman take half of your wealth. Smh
I think people today would love to be together as a family. I also think that kids saw when the family was together they saw some in the family used people and didn't pull their weight. They used members in the family to do what they didn't want to do. Like watch their kids, cook for them, and they didn't want to put in any money for doing that. Now those same people are saying we need to bring the village back, why?
Imnot happy separated nor bragging but saving my life that’s the difference Seur! Don’t tell people to stay in a toxic relationship because you will say they’re bragging lol! 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I blame the hip hop culture. Ppl don’t know how to differentiate a rap music video from real life that’s what real ppl aspire to even when that lifestyle is unrealistic and unhealthy.
Being a wife for over 25 years & raised children I'm look down on by neighbors or friends like I'm stupid for living like this!...I look at the world as stupid No integrity, No respect for family & No love & nobody fights for it period! This generation is the me myself & I generation.
It is more celebrated because more people can not find the person for them. So stay positive and be proud of where you are and unfortunately a lot of people are still single.🤷🏽♀️
Proud of the Family units, need more role model’s for this younger generation, their has been a major identity crisis……in roles, leadership, and structure, blind leading the blind, the desperate energy that they are feeling and experiencing is no point of reference, outside of God, this is the missing link, our fore fathers were raised by people of prayer and commitment to God in keeping the family alive, it’s much needed in today society.
I don't know what generation his talking about because you (CAN NOT)compare the 50s, 60s, and 70s to today's generation for "MANY" reasons. I can listed them down from segregation, to women not being able to have their own bank accounts, and the house laws that were at place. I am so tired of us trying to compare ourselves to our great great great grandparents as if they were completely happy for the 70 years together.... like I don't get, instead of us trying to relive the golden year of the 50s, how about we start having conversations on redefining what a relationship is in today's age?. Why don't we try to redefining what is traditional in today's age? Most men are not plowing the fields like in the Bible and all women have opportunities now that was not an option back then. So why is it so hard for us to evolve. We can't go back in time, so please men and women stop trying to compare yourself to a generation that you weren't apart of. Learn to be open in a relationship and adopt in new standards of love, compassion, honesty, truth, loyalty, and respect for each other. I'm out 🚶🏾♂️
This is so good Jeremiah! Can I go off honey? Like blow you up? Lol k well I've gotta add to what you said cuz it is so perfect. Hope I make sense! We have never, ever seen men or women in their power. Neither. Very important to understand. Men have only ever been in the shadow. Same with women. This whole thing about, "Men have been in the power forever, it's time for women." That's actually not true. Masculinity has been in their shadow expression, and when masculinity is in the shadow expression it looks like things like tyranny. The patriarchy back in the day essentially rose up and did so much damage, especially with the way that they wrote the government. It was the way that out of alignment masculinity decided to not take genuine ownership for femininity and instead decided, "You're doing what I want you to do, no matter whether it's actually in your best interests or not." There was a zero sum game started between the sexes and when the government got involved with that, for women, they really lost all power in society. That put women in the position, like what happens when somebody feels like they can't go directly for what they want, to manipulate. So right now we're dealing with the feminine shadow expression of manipulation over the course of the generations. And it was all orchestrated by the elite, that serve Satan. Because Satan wants to destroy God's people. Always creating division and MOST😔people, actually we All have been subject. Some more than others.
So I figure that relationship vows should be something like this: "So far I like you pretty good, let's see how it goes. I'm gonna do my best to stay in alignment with who I am. Which means, this relationship has a really powerful probability of not only surviving but thriving because I'm going to do everything that I can do to be in alignment. Which means, I'm going to look for the best in you and in everybody and in everything, speaking life and love into everyone and everything and I'm not going to talk hardly ever about things unwanted, I have no desire to speak death into situations or people and I'm going to keep myself so tuned in to God that I have His energy flowing through me SO MUCH, that my capacity to love is going to be more than almost anybody you know, because it'll be steady and consistent and unconditional. Without expectation of what you will or won't give to me. My capacity to love you isn't going to be contingent on anything that you do. I'm leaving you out of that part of the equation. I'm taking full responsibility for how I feel and I'm going to continue to practice it. I'd like to practice it for awhile with you and see how it goes. But I can't make any guarantees because I just want to be in alignment with God, my first love, I wanna know that I can be in alignment without holding someone else hostage to standing on their head, in lots of different ways in order to keep me in alignment. What I'm saying to you, potential lover of my life, is that there are no deal breakers. There is nothing that you can ask of me that would break this deal because my relationship with you is not about that. My relationship with you is about my relationship with God. I will work really hard to not be angry with you for not giving me what I'm lacking in God, but thank you for being a part of aligning me back to Him. And you're really pretty/handsome 😬😄 Your really pretty/handsome, smart, you're tuned in, tapped in and turned on to who God is and His unconditional love. And even if you're not and even if you think you're unlovable, it won't last long hanging around me because God's light in me is addicting and we just can't get enough! It's freedom! It's refreshing. It's bliss. It's not toxic and depressing. It's not death it's life! In other words, have fun with this. We don't need to make long term promises but in the mean time, collect some data. Let's learn from each other and love each other through the lens of God, the One who says WHO WE ARE! I'm trying to find myself and maybe we could hang out while I find myself and finding part of myself means I'm gonna see how much time I can spend with you, with all of the variety that we might introduce into the relationship with one another while I stay in alignment with God's energy. With who He is, what He's about and how I can become more like Him. That's what I'm doing right now. Now I've been married for 13yrs so I may be alil rusty in my game lol but I think it sound pretty functional.
Also, and I'll end it with this!: There is an extremely simple science behind any successful relationship. High masculinity (testosterone) and high femininity (estrogen). A high value woman thinks, feels, and acts beautiful inside and out because she believes she's is. She knows her worth and value. She is intelligent, graceful, respectful, and respectable. She is responsible, kind, loving, sexy, successful, independent, classy, witty, charming, etc. She doesn't play hard to get; she plays fun to get. Her estrogen is high due to her optimistic outlook on life. It is high because she takes care of herself. It is high because she lives in peace, love, and joy. It is also high because she understands she needs help at times, and she gets help, to give back. She loves when her man helps her and understands it's a way he shows romance. Even if it's taking out the garbage for you. Yes, that is romantic, is it not? Testosterone says, "I can do it myself." So let him and embrace that quality through a heart of gratitude. A low value woman is clingy, needy, insecure, complains, exasperates, doesn't try to look her best (naturally), is disrespectful, "doesn't need a man." Blah blah, blah. I can't necessarily speak for what a high value man is, but I can say men are supposed to be the head and a women his crown. We have lost so much of this because we have lost God. Relationship not religion. His unconditional love has to fill us first before we can understand how to love ourselves and then others. Crazy because I think all these things I said, which glory to God honestly, but I think it's what we all know deep down.
Bro I’ve been saying this for the longest, women literally had no rights til like 1971. Of course they stayed with the men, it was literally an act of survival
Let me explain. We saw our grandparents and parents in toxic marriages and we choose not to repeat the cycle that is all..and married mothers don't get help like single mothers .. single mothers have girls night out ,travel ,Bae cations, free weekends. Fun life I wouldn't trade my life for nothing.. sometimes separate is the most healthy
@@joskeyo4877 hahaha. You are the one lying to yourself. Seeing is believing. Most married home are broken but outside it looks good. I don't wanna die pretending to have a happy life with my husband when I don't so..... Separation and divorce matters ikrr.✌✌✌✌
My parents have been together 20+ years and I keep letting women I date incessantly sabotage tf out of what we have. Their parents are typically separated, they resent their fathers, and their mothers give poor examples of a stable home. I’m part of the problem, empathizing to the point they think I’m weak. Interpersonal relationships are harmful based on our unwillingness or inability to detach from the Ego and love appropriately.
The generation during the start of welfare, medicaid, divorce, and child support is when all this started. Keep taking them government handouts sisters💁🏽🤦🏾.
The reason why those things were started was because of the high spousal abandonment and partner abandonment rate of women and children. The government had to clean up the mess abandoning men made. Women and children had to survive somehow,especially when the men weren't doing their job
@@ciladapoeto.5327 not true. Women started leaving men during the Great Depression. They flocked to places like Las Vegas because they legalized divorce. You’re just another woman stating what they are told and not researching what the actual truth is😂😂😂
@@auditingtyranny6727 So you did not address why the women were leaving? It wasn't so much about governmental assistance. It was more about the misogynistic disrespectful behavior of their husband's (cheating etc), and them realizing that it wasn't safe for them to stay in dysfunctional toxic marriages and have children see them being disrespected. You ass-umed I did not do research,when I did..Number 2, the welfare system is most utilized and given out to white women statistically not black. It wasn't easy for black women to even get welfare, they sometimes faced discrimination, it wasn't their first choice but often a last resort because their men were irresponsible and did not handle their responsibilities properly. So nice try , but your mansplaining of this situation left out many factors. Educate urself
The strength of the women is reflected by the man she chooses. He always sounds so confused, you aren't even married, the census would classify your girl as a single parent house hold not a traditional family how you are apart of the problem yet cant even see it
When you go to the suburbs you will see very fast how being a independent parent is foolish. You can make 70k a year while your wife makes anywhere between as little as 20k and yall can have savings living in a nice neighborhood where you don't have to worry about crackheads
If being married is turnt inside out, for this generation, then this generation has been punked out & deceived by social media false narratives, & bamboozled, into living a lifestyle that's destroying the family unit, that builds strong morally stable people.
About damn time....a man/human that understands cause and effects...but I guess if you make so much sense... there wouldn't be any podcast or shows with men complaining about women
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Families being together should be the STANDARD not a flex. If you're part of a broken family or you caused one that's nothing to be proud of. We're celebrating the wrong things nowadays.
ONLY OUR COMMUNITY and thats a shame
@@plymakkayestudio1827 yeah I hate our community I wish I was white sometimes
so true
Only for black people… every other race understands the importance of marriage and family… we the only race that want to have multiple kids talk about co-parenting which is fake since the women is usually doing everything co parenting means they not arguing if they in the same room as they baby daddy thiers actually no real co parenting it’s verbiage to dress up a sad situation.. black men don’t marry you can look up stats and when they do it doesn’t last… in every group no matter who they date it’s the same failure rate it’s them
Fax
Thats just in America. Travel the world and you'll see in most countries the family unit is prized and respected.
He, himself is separated from his family.
Facts! Because America Practices INDEPENDENCE
In mexico theirs family units that have hundreds of years of history. Im part of one. We HATE how the family system broke in the west
It's not that people are celebrating being single. People are celebrating not being in bullshit. People are tired of being disrespected, abused and not being valued. So some of us choose to wait to find quality people instead of settling for trash.
Did he say any of that or was his premise that no matter the bullshit if y'all compatible for the sake of your children and your goals make it work because two is better than one but since you want to act like you don't know no better. Enjoy being single for life
Amen
You look soo manly
People not together because of lack of communication and willingness to compromise. We live in a society where people get divorced because they not getting along anymore or they found someone else they connected with.
If people would learn who they where as an individual and actually develop themselves then you could actually choose a mate you can grow with and work through differences with. But that would make too much sense. Instead we got hot girl summers and getting flown out by random dudes. And men focusing on attaining wealth in order to attract these type of women. Society as a whole digresses day by day.
The unwillingness to compromise seems extremely due to women. Something like 80% of divorces are filed by women.
You SAID THAT!💯
If yal don’t see that it’s our woman’s bitterness I don’t know what to tell yal. 9/10 of the men I know are trying to make up for the fact that their father wasn’t there. And 9/10 of the women are so used to no man being around they hate good men and pick terrible men on purpose so they can have something to complain about with their mothers/friends. I’ve seen first person a woman try and get simp behavior out of me RELENTLESSLY to no avail and once she got the slightest weakness out of me threw it back in my face. Women want to be apart of the group no matter how toxic it is as long as they belong. We need to be in position to employ ALL of our children to force the next generation to see the family as a power structure. Because our women have no idea what power is
I felt that. Don't disagree. Yet, it has to be said. Men focusing on "wealth to attract women" without any regard to character = mistake. "Wealth to attract women" = not a mistake.
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 dont put it on the men. Attaining money and status has always been apart of the mans dna. Women on the other hand have found it more important to chase the bag rather than raise a family. Women are the only ones running around screaming “ boss bitch” or “ Im independant”.
If youre independant then how do we raise and keep a family together?
5-10-15-20 years anniversary are like dinosaurs 🦕 these day,it barley exists
Right?! Been married for only 19 yrs and when people ask and we tell them they are in awe. My hubby and I coming from families of men And women married 30 plus years- 19 years to us is nothing. We more traditional anyways. 🤷🏽♀️😌
Exist but not heard of because it's mostly sad songs that get airplay and people are more inclined to hurt stories.
Nobody wants to listen to those married for long because it violates their fleeting, shallow take on what love is supposed to be- service!
@@sg5720 19 yrs long time. Unless y’all had 60years together thn 19 would b uh chip
Been wit my wife 20 years and married 11. August 27 will make 12. I'm 33 she turn 32 in August. When people realize how young we are and married wit 3 kids. They be in a world of shock. That's shit be so funny to us. Plus these days grandparents or family ain't family so we take our kids everywhere we go. We have fun and or kids enjoy being with us because we are somewhat young and can relate to them well.
Social media is a poison to relationship bar none
Too many evil people in the world. Parents and siblings are way too jealous and vindictive towards their children, wanting to see them suffer.
I agree
Times have definitely changed. Men have to actually be likable in order for women to actually be with them. There can’t be anymore abuse like there was back in the day because women don’t have to stay and put up with it. Once women were allowed to live life, it’s like they were sheltered kids and went wild once they were let out into the world.
Honestly, it’s not a flex because he’s not even married to her. Being a baby daddy and baby momma is definitely not a flex whatsoever. It’s just being modern. There is nothing traditional about what he’s saying.
Your view of history is distorted. We black people did not have forced marriages so what are you talking about
You act like every woman in a heterosexual blk relationship was abused somehow... 😂🤣😂🤣
Generations ago women had to be with men for survival. Women also had to have permission from their husbands to get birth control. So these people who glamorize these past generations really don't know anything about history. Now you have to like you said be likable, have goals have a plan in order for a woman to choose a man and vice versa. And I'm going to need him to marry the mother of his child before he makes any family comments because at the end of the day he is a baby daddy saying a bunch of nothing. Word salad is what he's saying
@@pottnosticator3907 some black people did have forced marriages especially when they were in slavery
100% agree... I'm very proud my mom and dad are married and solving any problems they come across together ❤️ and my aunt and uncle are to and my sister and her husband are to they have been married for 9 years and so have me and my husband and it's such a wonderful thing to me because we have beautiful loving examples to show our children of what a strong family unit is! We all work hard and we all help and support eachother ... theirs a war on family it's real and it doesn't want to see you make a family let alone a successful one ...
Wow your so lucky. I wish I had that.
1st gen stayed together no matter what, sec gen started excepting separation, current gen "my best life" glorify being single
Whow he's speaking a lot of necessary insightful truth.
He ain’t lying. People so use to being divided that they turn their nose up at a young happy family in public.
*Salute* to the single life! ✊🏽
Meanwhile he ain't marry his girl, so based on past standards he's separated too🤯
Desperate female energy. He said he could post his daughter and his family. Family isn't just about rings and marriage. As long as they are together and under the same roof with his girl that's family..
Marriage is important legally and if he dies or she dies for ssi,health insurance,taxes etc… As a nurse I have seen women want to make decisions I am like you can’t only the family can and they get pissed a girlfriend is not a legal title .. you’re either married or ur not .. don’t be a stupid women stay with a man decades and you assed out because you have no legal right to the bank accounts ,health insurance,his 401K etc… most women say they don’t want to get married because they man don’t want to get married .. I have seen those same men after 10+ years marry another women when they stated they never wanted to be married .. they want to be married just not to you .. it’s a hard pill to swallow and most folks in denial
@@Tekka579 It may be family but he was comparing marriage of the past with his shacking of the present as a flex, just bc they're 'together' does not make it the same thing.
@@helena3631 ‼️‼️‼️ Please say it again bc these men are successfully brainwashing women into situations the men wouldn't even accept if the tables were turned.
Women fail to realize legally your baby daddy is not considered your family. The child, the mother and the father (if he is on the birth certificate are) no matter what he tells you about bonds and titles you are a nobody IRL unless it's legitimized.
@Jay Hendrix your sadly mistaken if u think thats true
When my kids were in high school, they said their friends were shocked my wife and I were together 18 and 20 years. Been married now 30 years.
That last part hit , you know times is changing for men when they become made fun of because they treat their women right. For example Russell Wilson. For it to be actually nauseating for him to be the perfect man Ciara was blessed with. It’s terrible. I blame the music of this generation for that shift, we need to bring back old school morals. Our married grandparents who has a life long history in each other’s company should be our example.
I was just telling my girl how the modern woman would rather be a single mother than a wife
True
Soo Sad 😢
let them stay and suffer 🤷🏽♂️
That's not true. Alot of these shows make too many generalizations. It starts with the black man because black women settling for living together instead of waiting for marriage. The man is supposed to be the head of the family but they are out wanting to have other men or multiple women so how can a woman marry with no partner. Black women are also to blame for allowing that and not having control over their reproductive responsibility. Why keep getting pregnant when you are not married? Think about the kids 🤔
@@talk2flonow261 bw have been culturally trained not to view bm as leaders. As a matter of fact most bw have been taught not to need bm in any capacity with the exception of having children. It makes sense that bw have the highest percentage of kids born out of wedlock and the lowest marriage rate among women in America. To be fair marriage is becoming obsolete among westernized in general.
I’m tryna flex like him ✊🏽 we need black families
I'm trying to listen to him but I can't get past this full face of makeup while still trying to be masculine
Right....I was shocked when he said he had a girl....lookin a bit shaky to me 😅
When I actually saw women having "divorce parties" I knew it was going down hill without any brakes
Exactly trying and working to keep your family together is a flex
This man is not old enough to know in real time what was going on 3 generations ago. These guys just want women to take their word on what was happening back then without talking about the causes of the problems between blk men and blk women. Women should talk to their grandmother's generation of women to know what was really going on. People were getting married back then. There were reasons that women started filing for divorces but blk men dont want to talk about the part they played in that. Notice he said his girl and daughter. He did not say his wife. Flex for real by marrying the woman and raise your child in the same household as a family if they are together already anyway.
They let other men come in when they leave and hurt, molest or kill their kids. Weak men. Irresponsible man.
Because during the civil rights movement black women choose welfare over keep the family together look it up
@@robertwillis6552 That’s a lie Black bums like to use to deflect from the facts that Black men have been creating and abandoning multiple children with multiple women for decades. Children that Black men have NO intention of raising. Tragic
Plenty of married men get dogged out playing by the rules then you'll say they should have picked better 😐
Was his message skewed or did you just have an emotional response, because you ran your BD off for some bullshit reason
Now he preaching!
People stay together because that's what they were taught people don't put up with the b******* anymore we are not our grandparents nor are we are great grandparents no or we are parents
Bc we watched families fall apart, go into financial debt, and hate their lives
Together we stand. Divided we fall.
Nowadays I don’t even trust those flexing about their families being together. Lots of times the parents are miserable, can’t stand each other, and cheating. They just putting on an act for friends and neighbors.
Wow! Preach babes! Because there are so many marriages of 10, 15, 20,30 years are now going through a divorce. Damn where did the love go smh! Husband and wives become strange bedfellows due to high rent and mortgage. Husband sleeps in the basement wife sleeps on the second floor leaving the children confused that they don't know how to be in a healthy relationship. Those out here who want love rather be single than be married
Who are these boys we're looking at and talking to with baby hair, ponytails and pink lips with lip gloss... find the real men and then maybe we can talk!!!
I'm in such disbelief that having structured family is considered a flex.
That HAIRLINE distracted me from the point he was trying to make 😬.
Most my girlfriends have never been married. I want to get married again, I can't just be someone's girlfriend, I'm your wife or I'm your friend 😏.
Hey friend foh
Yeahhh why did you leave your first husband. You lost your chance. Foh
@@dontshowmyname9561 would you be with someone who belittled you daily?
@@dontshowmyname9561 I'm a very beautiful woman, I have endless chances ♥️
@@magnum-kj5ip I'm opposed to having friends, I'm like a certain type of man,and he's kind of rare.i respect a man that chooses wisely, not so much for beauty but other important qualities.
I’m bless men single life, most of my homies are struggling on child support crazy baby mama drama
keep Enjoying life Sir 🙏🏽
@@mafamac4069 Yes sir
Yale sound stupid white men program 🙄 slaves to believe that it's wrong to be wanting to reproduce and build family Wille lynch fully fulfilled.....
Just imagine the same energy everyone placing on the relationship sector, we focused it on financial matters and rising individually, I never hear talk of finding self first, Just the blame Game...Luvwrld
Right. .. self development ... Get you right first
Families are the building blocks of any community, if we don’t focus on how to make relationships work then we’ll continue to be divided and have no community…..
@@bigdog52ups1 it all starts from the men.
Being at peace rather being with a toxic person. People don't understand the reason why kids are messed up and think a toxic relationships is a thing to do. Long as your in a relationship. Now when they're adults they are doing what they're shown. Instead of saying it is ok to be single because life isn't being stressed in a relationship.
Less media more loyalty
I don't think that women are choosing to be single and alone. I tend to believe that when a woman has had her heart broken, been cheated on, disrespected, abused mentally and physically or has been with someone who was not responsible, someone who didn't live by their word or promises, or the woman has had to act like the man in the relationship, they just got fed up and tired doing way too much in the relationship. It's like, why bother? What's the use of tryna find that one special man? Some of us just hunch our shoulders and come to the realization that being alone is better than being in a relationship that doesn't go anywhere.💔
This is what I call the color purpling of the black communities if u go back to the civil rights movement black women choose welfare over keep the family together and big mama wasn't the head of the house big daddy was but y'all forget that black men sacrifice themselves to make sure big mama was ok because black women wasn't moving there family in to white neighborhood black men was get fact straight
Same us we men. Fuck holes and chase after bag. What’s the big deal anyway. Marrying is like setting yourself a trap for a woman take half of your wealth. Smh
Brilliant! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I think people today would love to be together as a family. I also think that kids saw when the family was together they saw some in the family used people and didn't pull their weight. They used members in the family to do what they didn't want to do. Like watch their kids, cook for them, and they didn't want to put in any money for doing that. Now those same people are saying we need to bring the village back, why?
My parents have been together 41 years . I only hope to have that.
Imnot happy separated nor bragging but saving my life that’s the difference Seur! Don’t tell people to stay in a toxic relationship because you will say they’re bragging lol! 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Say it Rico people are so happy to be separated SMH....
Trust issues
My parents are 70. I'm 38. I'm single no kids. Women my age started the whole not needing a man bullshit. I went my own way. Done with it all.
I blame the hip hop culture. Ppl don’t know how to differentiate a rap music video from real life that’s what real ppl aspire to even when that lifestyle is unrealistic and unhealthy.
Outstanding message My dear.✅✅&✅🥰
Truth Be Told, You Are On Point.💯✌️🏽
Being a wife for over 25 years & raised children I'm look down on by neighbors or friends like I'm stupid for living like this!...I look at the world as stupid No integrity, No respect for family & No love & nobody fights for it period! This generation is the me myself & I generation.
This is simply people don't want humble themselves they want to live a movie music video
This guy finally talking something I can listen to.
It is more celebrated because more people can not find the person for them. So stay positive and be proud of where you are and unfortunately a lot of people are still single.🤷🏽♀️
Proud of the Family units, need more role model’s for this younger generation, their has been a major identity crisis……in roles, leadership, and structure, blind leading the blind, the desperate energy that they are feeling and experiencing is no point of reference, outside of God, this is the missing link, our fore fathers were raised by people of prayer and commitment to God in keeping the family alive, it’s much needed in today society.
I don't know what generation his talking about because you (CAN NOT)compare the 50s, 60s, and 70s to today's generation for "MANY" reasons. I can listed them down from segregation, to women not being able to have their own bank accounts, and the house laws that were at place. I am so tired of us trying to compare ourselves to our great great great grandparents as if they were completely happy for the 70 years together.... like I don't get, instead of us trying to relive the golden year of the 50s, how about we start having conversations on redefining what a relationship is in today's age?. Why don't we try to redefining what is traditional in today's age? Most men are not plowing the fields like in the Bible and all women have opportunities now that was not an option back then. So why is it so hard for us to evolve. We can't go back in time, so please men and women stop trying to compare yourself to a generation that you weren't apart of. Learn to be open in a relationship and adopt in new standards of love, compassion, honesty, truth, loyalty, and respect for each other. I'm out 🚶🏾♂️
This is so good Jeremiah! Can I go off honey? Like blow you up? Lol k well I've gotta add to what you said cuz it is so perfect. Hope I make sense!
We have never, ever seen men or women in their power. Neither. Very important to understand. Men have only ever been in the shadow. Same with women. This whole thing about, "Men have been in the power forever, it's time for women." That's actually not true. Masculinity has been in their shadow expression, and when masculinity is in the shadow expression it looks like things like tyranny. The patriarchy back in the day essentially rose up and did so much damage, especially with the way that they wrote the government. It was the way that out of alignment masculinity decided to not take genuine ownership for femininity and instead decided, "You're doing what I want you to do, no matter whether it's actually in your best interests or not." There was a zero sum game started between the sexes and when the government got involved with that, for women, they really lost all power in society. That put women in the position, like what happens when somebody feels like they can't go directly for what they want, to manipulate. So right now we're dealing with the feminine shadow expression of manipulation over the course of the generations. And it was all orchestrated by the elite, that serve Satan. Because Satan wants to destroy God's people. Always creating division and MOST😔people, actually we All have been subject. Some more than others.
So I figure that relationship vows should be something like this:
"So far I like you pretty good, let's see how it goes. I'm gonna do my best to stay in alignment with who I am. Which means, this relationship has a really powerful probability of not only surviving but thriving because I'm going to do everything that I can do to be in alignment. Which means, I'm going to look for the best in you and in everybody and in everything, speaking life and love into everyone and everything and I'm not going to talk hardly ever about things unwanted, I have no desire to speak death into situations or people and I'm going to keep myself so tuned in to God that I have His energy flowing through me SO MUCH, that my capacity to love is going to be more than almost anybody you know, because it'll be steady and consistent and unconditional. Without expectation of what you will or won't give to me. My capacity to love you isn't going to be contingent on anything that you do. I'm leaving you out of that part of the equation. I'm taking full responsibility for how I feel and I'm going to continue to practice it. I'd like to practice it for awhile with you and see how it goes. But I can't make any guarantees because I just want to be in alignment with God, my first love, I wanna know that I can be in alignment without holding someone else hostage to standing on their head, in lots of different ways in order to keep me in alignment. What I'm saying to you, potential lover of my life, is that there are no deal breakers. There is nothing that you can ask of me that would break this deal because my relationship with you is not about that. My relationship with you is about my relationship with God. I will work really hard to not be angry with you for not giving me what I'm lacking in God, but thank you for being a part of aligning me back to Him. And you're really pretty/handsome 😬😄 Your really pretty/handsome, smart, you're tuned in, tapped in and turned on to who God is and His unconditional love. And even if you're not and even if you think you're unlovable, it won't last long hanging around me because God's light in me is addicting and we just can't get enough! It's freedom! It's refreshing. It's bliss. It's not toxic and depressing. It's not death it's life! In other words, have fun with this. We don't need to make long term promises but in the mean time, collect some data. Let's learn from each other and love each other through the lens of God, the One who says WHO WE ARE! I'm trying to find myself and maybe we could hang out while I find myself and finding part of myself means I'm gonna see how much time I can spend with you, with all of the variety that we might introduce into the relationship with one another while I stay in alignment with God's energy. With who He is, what He's about and how I can become more like Him. That's what I'm doing right now.
Now I've been married for 13yrs so I may be alil rusty in my game lol but I think it sound pretty functional.
Also, and I'll end it with this!:
There is an extremely simple science behind any successful relationship. High masculinity (testosterone) and high femininity (estrogen). A high value woman thinks, feels, and acts beautiful inside and out because she believes she's is. She knows her worth and value. She is intelligent, graceful, respectful, and respectable. She is responsible, kind, loving, sexy, successful, independent, classy, witty, charming, etc. She doesn't play hard to get; she plays fun to get. Her estrogen is high due to her optimistic outlook on life. It is high because she takes care of herself. It is high because she lives in peace, love, and joy. It is also high because she understands she needs help at times, and she gets help, to give back. She loves when her man helps her and understands it's a way he shows romance. Even if it's taking out the garbage for you.
Yes, that is romantic, is it not? Testosterone says, "I can do it myself." So let him and embrace that quality through a heart of gratitude. A low value woman is clingy, needy, insecure, complains, exasperates, doesn't try to look her best (naturally), is disrespectful, "doesn't need a man." Blah blah, blah.
I can't necessarily speak for what a high value man is, but I can say men are supposed to be the head and a women his crown. We have lost so much of this because we have lost God. Relationship not religion. His unconditional love has to fill us first before we can understand how to love ourselves and then others. Crazy because I think all these things I said, which glory to God honestly, but I think it's what we all know deep down.
Bro I’ve been saying this for the longest, women literally had no rights til like 1971. Of course they stayed with the men, it was literally an act of survival
They rather talk nonsense.
We're does this dude come from
Why buddy wearing lipstick? This generation of black men are Sweet and playing on both teams
Let me explain. We saw our grandparents and parents in toxic marriages and we choose not to repeat the cycle that is all..and married mothers don't get help like single mothers .. single mothers have girls night out ,travel ,Bae cations, free weekends. Fun life I wouldn't trade my life for nothing.. sometimes separate is the most healthy
Keep lying to yourself! You’ll believe your own lies soon enough.
@@joskeyo4877 hahaha. You are the one lying to yourself. Seeing is believing. Most married home are broken but outside it looks good. I don't wanna die pretending to have a happy life with my husband when I don't so..... Separation and divorce matters ikrr.✌✌✌✌
True its crazy what we consider flexing today across the board
It's easier to care for and only for yourself cause you won't get hurt which is sad
How can I watch the full thing? I want to hear more
I don’t like him but he right about this ☹️ and it’s sad ….that’s because people are more about “self” then other people…
So true 🔥 being a family today is a flex 💪 I don't know if thats good or bad... 🤔
He right
He used the right word, shame. Shameless is the new decency.
Love the hair!
My parents have been together 20+ years and I keep letting women I date incessantly sabotage tf out of what we have. Their parents are typically separated, they resent their fathers, and their mothers give poor examples of a stable home.
I’m part of the problem, empathizing to the point they think I’m weak. Interpersonal relationships are harmful based on our unwillingness or inability to detach from the Ego and love appropriately.
Dude gotta be wearing lipstick it’s no way his lips naturally that juicy red
When folks stop bussin it wide and shooting the club up before marriage and before truly knowing one another, things will change…
Being single is the best. The norm isn't for everyone.
he is so right💯
Wow he's 💯 % correct
Real Talk!
Great message
Dreads look weird af with them halfway back on his head
Cucumber more pink than the peach
One and only time so far i agree with this guy .. most the videos i see and hes talking its basically lost time .
I was just thinking about this this morning
The generation during the start of welfare, medicaid, divorce, and child support is when all this started. Keep taking them government handouts sisters💁🏽🤦🏾.
The reason why those things were started was because of the high spousal abandonment and partner abandonment rate of women and children. The government had to clean up the mess abandoning men made. Women and children had to survive somehow,especially when the men weren't doing their job
@@ciladapoeto.5327 not true. Women started leaving men during the Great Depression. They flocked to places like Las Vegas because they legalized divorce. You’re just another woman stating what they are told and not researching what the actual truth is😂😂😂
@@auditingtyranny6727 So you did not address why the women were leaving? It wasn't so much about governmental assistance. It was more about the misogynistic disrespectful behavior of their husband's (cheating etc), and them realizing that it wasn't safe for them to stay in dysfunctional toxic marriages and have children see them being disrespected. You ass-umed I did not do research,when I did..Number 2, the welfare system is most utilized and given out to white women statistically not black. It wasn't easy for black women to even get welfare, they sometimes faced discrimination, it wasn't their first choice but often a last resort because their men were irresponsible and did not handle their responsibilities properly. So nice try , but your mansplaining of this situation left out many factors. Educate urself
So no one is gonna talk about how men and women aren't very compatible in relationships?
I love from the beginning of this clip you can hear and see women don’t LISTEN 👂🏾
Single is celebrated, but being celibacy isn’t 🙄🙄 (CELIBATE AND SINGLE) 🇺🇸🇺🇸
Thank god I’m married and don’t have to worry this whack dating pool👌🏽
The strength of the women is reflected by the man she chooses. He always sounds so confused, you aren't even married, the census would classify your girl as a single parent house hold not a traditional family how you are apart of the problem yet cant even see it
Is that a FADE & BRAD'S?
It's a mess.
@@Yae391 lmbo
This man has both male and female energy coming from him . And looking at him , he has mad female gestures and outward appearance
TF that has to do with the truth that he is spitting...smh!!
Good families is Dope
Facts 💯
When you go to the suburbs you will see very fast how being a independent parent is foolish. You can make 70k a year while your wife makes anywhere between as little as 20k and yall can have savings living in a nice neighborhood where you don't have to worry about crackheads
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wow. That really shook me.
If being married is turnt inside out, for this generation, then this generation has been punked out & deceived by social media false narratives, & bamboozled, into living a lifestyle that's destroying the family unit, that builds strong morally stable people.
It’s so hard for women to listen. They hear what they want to hear.
Sort of and he has a point
See this jersey chain 🔥🔥🔥
Watch out for my book
No. I see people being in a relationship, finances, and married are more respected in society.
So true! He's right, but what us going on with his hairline?
Damn they cant even comprehend... thats sad
About damn time....a man/human that understands cause and effects...but I guess if you make so much sense... there wouldn't be any podcast or shows with men complaining about women
Typically together because divorce wasn't legal, as soon as it was women could leave abusive relationships.
Yo, why tf does this dude have 2 haircuts in 1... my guy trippin
That shirt is so fly. What is it?
Why we still having this conversation
YES! YOU SAYING WHAT I SAID!
I HATE the educational context that lacks in these conversations in general.
And the clips don’t make it any better.