Yup, I have seen a similar situation like this in I feel for her and the parents. It's a lot of sick evil twisted guys out here that would really try to be something that their not only for their own desire, they will lie on you, and make others to believe false accusations , they will drain the hell out of you for some type of control . That's why you would see a lot of people going through this same exact thing and will act like nothing is going on when something deep like this is affecting their mental and they may end up harming themself because a lot of people judge so it's like they have to suffer in silence and your thoughts may eat you up .These types of guy are narcissist and they do come to KILL, STEAL AND DESTROY. Please stay prayed up no matter what.
I'm so sorry for his loss. His daughter's story parallels mine, down to the Herpes infection, seizing passport, forcing me sign checks. The only difference was that I told my parents and they kept forcing me to stay because divorce would bring shame to the family. When I tried to take my life, my doctor who had treated me for previous beatings talked to me long and hard. Eventually, I planned for a year and took my kids and ran away. I've been so isolated but thankful that I was able to get the courage from God to run away.
I’m here for you ❤you ever need me just write. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’ve been through a lot of things especially with 2 different males. So I totally get. Love you !!
The boyfriend's name is Ryan Leggets. This man should be in jail! For infecting her with STD, blackmail, abuse!! So glad the father shared his story to the media. And ladies if you hear or see this man, RUN!!
Glad he was named. But yes you will still be praying upon other black women now that he has a functional modus operandi nailed down. A lot of black women in Africa and the UK fetishize this type of man. And as long as he can keep getting stuff out of them he's going to keep on.
It takes strength for that father to come out and talk about the loss of his daughter. Those people who contributed to her demise will surely meet their fate sooner or later.
Well now his face is plastered on the internet, he will be persona non grata in many places. I'm not advocating for violence, but he won't be sporting that smug look much longer...
THEY CAN'T HIDE FROM GOD. WE MAY NEVER SEE WHEN THE GUILTY ARE PUNISHED, BUT THEY WILL BE EITHER HERE ON EARTH OR IN HELL. NO ONE WILL EVER GET AWAY WITH ABUSING ONE OF GOD'S CHILDREN.
Parents please teach you children about the demons that go bumping in the night that don't look like demons. Salt looks like sugar and there are sheep's in wolves clothing. But they can't hide for long and get away with it. Narcissist aren't very smart.
Saddened ME, 😢My Condolences to her Family, Dad I salute you speak up for your Beautiful 1st born❤ Prayers for Justice and Healing Process 🙏 ,I'm familiar with this pain,Thieves are watching ,They are Devils and closer than you think😢 They want your lifestyle ,so they prey on you! Pure evil.
My daughter took her own life 4/8/19 she was a month away from turning 21 , absolutely beautiful girl inside & out had loads of amazing friends, I miss her every day every minute every single heartbeat hurts , my condolences to all the families going through this nightmare day in day out my heart & love are with you all 🙏❤️🦋
Prayers for you and your family, so sorry you are going through that pain. Also thank you for sharing, please continue to do so. You’re helping others in a way you may not be aware of. I’ve had these same thoughts many times and it’s words like these that show me I can’t put my parents through that kind of pain. God bless💕
As a father of a young daughter this frightens me about the future. But I thank this man and his bravery as I believe he is telling this story to help others to protect their kids from evil. May the almighty take care of her in the afterlife.
I’m so glad that you care for your daughter. Always be there for her, my dad was there for me growing up but now is MIA all the time due to addiction. If there is one thing you can do for your child, please don’t ever let substances take over your life. It affects them so much more than you think. Everyday I wonder why I wasn’t good enough for him and why he couldn’t choose me over alcohol. I told him he gets sober or he loses me forever. Of course you know what he chose. My dad has put me through unexplainable pain and I will never be the same again
Be your daughter's confidante and pray without ceasing... try not to worry as it won't help. Let them know you need to meet so their friends do invite them over ... offer to drop them off etc and when it gets to boyfriends it will be more natural. They don't even need any boyfriend. Courtship and then marriage... lol
You are right. Psychology tries to explain it away-giving us theories and studies but there is no explanation that can give sense to what is nonsensical. Evil is non-sensical and trying to make sense out of narcissism just makes one lose the mind. & It’s not worth it.
@@Merebaby72 You trivialise other people’s experiences. It’s a reflection of your lack of empathy and it’s you who should be pitied. Empathy helps people connect, with life, others, with nature, with animals etc and without it you’ll probably never experience peace or true joy. I won’t be surprised if you have no peace in you
This story is heartbreaking. She was treasured by her family, and this demonic leach in the form of a human was introduced to her by her "best" friend. With friends like THAT who needs enemies????
I wholeheartedly agree. It should start at thirteen when kids start to get interested in relationships. Their hormones are raging and they need guidance.
The parents need to do that! The kids are already not listening to the teachers! Teachers are quitting for a reason. No I’m not a teacher but I do have kids in school that speak about how horrendous these kids act!
@@caribdoll1800 maybe they are not listening because they know 99% of what they learn will not be applicable to real life. This class however…very helpful I was a good student but even I felt that way. Spanish was my favorite class because I could take what I learned and immediately use it.
This is heartbreaking for parents to see their child going through abuse and not being able to help. It’s despicable and he should be held accountable for his actions 🌸
This is terrible. Listen to the father’s warning. I was in a similar situation. The guy turned out to be pure evil. He didn’t have any of the things he claimed to have. Found out he’s sexually reckless, sleeping around every where, unprotected. Got a young girl pregnant during our relationship. Borrowed money and never paid it back. Ripped off a bunch of people in fake business ventures, and the list goes on 😮
Look at the guy the epitome of pretty boy, but a wicked spirit. Don’t let the looks fool you. Yet, the family in Spain that is cunning cruel level of abuse. I pray anyone who reads this is gets out of situation. And finds peace, safety, self love and abundance ❤
This woman was so very beautiful, and I empathize with the pain of falling madly in love with a demon. Narcissism should be taught in elementary schools because there are just some evil people in this world. Evil is real and exists and MANY people have given themselves over to the evil. Narcissists only goal is to USE and DESTROY beautiful souls. My cousin killed himself over a narcissist last year and I am a survivor of narcissist abuse.
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h She moved on quickly with a new supply, no remorse nor regret. My young cousin could not understand this evil and felt he could not go on in this life. Very sad.
I couldn’t agree more. Narcissism is real y’all . Narcissist = Devil in human form no better way to explain this. They exist and the red flags are very clear. I’ve been through narcissistic abuse as well I was only 17 at the time knew nothing about narcissism. Are you beautiful, successful, cool, classy, chic, intelligent, name it, something or someone anyone would want to have around them like as a friend or partner, hot cake or on demand type of thing, bright future and all, something like that? Are they very charming and cute and promise and patronise you in a way that’s difficult to resist even though it’s uncalled for and so early they barely know you for instance and you barely know them as well but they blind you, they literally trying to buy you with all these promises overtly or covertly. Now it’s nice to be cute and charming. I mean you want someone you call a friend to be cute and charming and nice to you right but the key word is balance watch out for the balance in their actions is it over the top over complementing even though nothing has prompted it. Do they treat you with no single regard for your time, values, emotions, feelings, boundaries, name it, you as a person like somehow they just expect you to have none like you’re supposed to be an object or sth. Lastly, and most importantly, your instinct or your loved ones or both like this girls dad for instance never liked him or your instincts will just tell you something doesn’t feel right about them you can’t quite place your hands on it, it just doesn’t feel right my God what does your instincts say about you notice you never liked them like you just have your hair strands stand up straight around them you don’t feel chill and relaxed around them something feels off and strange about them. That’s it that’s them run and never look back. Discard them before they discard you and I mean it DISCARD them because they are worthless pieces of shit that’s exactly what they are. Because that’s when abuse hooks your brain and you start becoming mentally messed up. Just nicely walk away mentally yes everything happens mentally they attack your subconscious so you discard them there right in your subconscious and physically too remove yourself completely if you can. in fact you can. You definitely can disconnect from them completely. Anything that has to do with them, make sure you’re not part of them. Severe the relationship with them asap and permanently because it doesn’t get better so find yourself peace of mind and don’t bother dealing with them.
Your reply is truly powerful… all the things you said are so true Especially about the fact that children should be thought of narcissists and to be aware to not trust people very fast because evil does exist… That is the reason Jesus’s word says… abide in Him and He will abide in you… put all your plans including the people who surround you at His feet.., trust all aspects of your life unto God..and He will direct your path That is why Jesus said I came not to bring peace but the sword… because we are in warfare in this life… evil exists In Ephesians it says Put on the full armour of God, so that in the evil Day you will be able to stand
Im a survivor of narcissistic abuse and they pushed me to suicide many times cause I have a plethora of mental illnesses and 2 inoperable brain tumors, so I basically spend my life in the hospital and at medical appointments, I thought I was the luckiest to find my ex and her accept my illness, oh boy was I wrong, she made me absolutely miserable. I got close to her bestie of 15yrs and even she encouraged me to leave her cause she recognized I deserved better, she even said that my ex will never find someone like me again..her bestie gave me the courage to leave..she also treated her bestie like shyt, she survived 15yrs of her abuse, I barely made it through 2yrs, I dumped her and she's been trying to contact me but iv been ignoring her and cause of it she refuses to give me back my things in hopes I will contact her for them...she's gunna be waiting a mighty long time for that to happen, she even told her bestie that she's willing to change and I highly doubt that, the only thing I'm happy about is the fact I met her bestie and she's become like a sibling to me and I'm happy she's found the one and they're engaged to be married.
Narcissistic people can be your very own family too. I went through this for about 2 years straight with my only sibling who is 17 years older than me. Her demands on me once I started working put me in a confused and depressed state but by the grace of God and speaking out I’m alive today and is making progress in healing from that relationship. It’s the mental torture that is most damaging, you feel like you can’t escape it and I believe that’s what drove this beautiful young lady to that point. My heart goes out to her loved ones. Lord please protect us from the evil ones in this world.
What killed her was shame and regret. She probably got so hard on herself. Like how could I,the hardworking girl,the good girl fall for this. Those voices kept whispering, she went through hell. She just wanted peace. Daily torment, every minute she was awake. Painful 😢. ❤❤❤❤❤,the pain in the father's voice. He will never let go,no amount of therapy can heal this man. He will take this pain to the grave
Yes, it's very difficult for a "good" girl, who has done everything right in her life, whose parents are glowing with pride over her achievements, to accept and t acknowledge that she has been so very wrong in her choice of a partner. If only these girls could be taught that IT'S OKAY - in fact, healthy - to be terribly wrong at times. That's how you grow as a person, right - by making mistakes? The important thing is to SEE the mistake, give him a kick, and move on.
@@IramCoercereSpare men with the “mistakes” bs. Women seek these type of guys because they think it’s some type of a flex but as soon as ish hits the wall they want everyone’s sympathy.
I feel so sad for her. I just want to give her a hug and tell her that as destroyed as she feels, she can rebuild her self esteem and come back stronger than ever. She could have sued the “boyfriend” and potentially have a criminal case against him. She was so beautiful and you can see she was truly beautiful inside, as well as outside 😢
You see 1 red flag run for your life, don’t give the person a chance, there’s nothing to fix, no room for abuse, so sorry sir for you loss, what a beautiful angel, sending my prayers from South Africa🇿🇦
This is how dark it is trying to find someone worth it. Too much trash, scammers, and horrific beings out there taking advantage of people who want to just find love. It's sick
“I know how guys do..I know what WE do to girls…” No one likes it when it’s done to theirs. All women are some man’s daughter. They’re people too.Sorry for your loss. your daughter had a very bright spirit.
Yup. I have had things of this nature do to me. I no longer date men so I don't have this issue anymore. They are destructive and at this point this is a humanitarian issue. Half the population is living in fear. Down to a narc employer that attempted to abuse me within the first 2 interactions. I don't trust them bc they they stick together.
She dated a narcissist. They are rampant in the UK. They tried me and and I brutalised their ego. The intensity of the injury I caused was very deep and gigantic
True. More Narcissist than people with food or jobs in uk. Thank useless Narcissist for ai taking their jobs. Too big headed and DUMB to do unskilled work!
@chz76 ceremonies in eastern cultures can support souls to move into peace though. Our prayers are with her family and with her for her spirit-souls evolution. Amen
I actually despair with people like you who give advice that deals with etherial and non tangible solutions such as "God" and "Religion" when in reality the advice that needs to get out there is for black people to stick close to their/our culture and things that we know. In circumstances like this, it's a culture that has checks and balances to minimise abuse and predators ...... through contact with those from the extended family.
@@blackmagic6 not everything is about race and no one is stopping you from sticking to your own culture. Stop crying about someone else's beliefs/religion.
When my first boyfriend broke my heart I also had suicidal thoughts. I caught myself on that he will go on with his life and have a family and completely forget about me after my death while I would destroy my parents. My parents are the ones who gave me life, did everything for me, and I just can’t be so stupid to do that for some guy who I can forget about eventually. That was the first and the last time I had that thought. There are more important things and people, especially after the birth of a child you understand that no one matters as much as your own child anymore.
Beautiful women with so many options doing this. Thank God you didn't.. The men must have had you and the victim wrapped around their finger. You made it the poor girl in the video didn't. I suppose you were very young and have now matured into a stronger more resilient woman. Especially now you have Cubs you have become a Lioness. Nothing is more majestic than a protective mother. Or father lol. The claws are sharp and the teeth too. And no predatory creature will venture into your territory. Be careful though because there are leeches and snakes out there who will see your beautiful eyes and think they can enchant them.
That's a beautiful thought! You live for those who love you rather die for those you don't care about you. Wish people keep this in mind. Thank you for sharing this.
@@Pyrrhic537 I was 22 at the time. He was 7 years older. We were dating for 4 years, met in college. He was my first true love, at least that what I thought at the time. But the relationship wasn’t going anywhere and I knew it was going to end. He impregnated a girl. They got married, but it didn’t last a year. I got married 2 years after the break up and moved to the US. He kept sending me emails and never left me alone even when I told him that I was pregnant and happily married. 15 years later he still writes me on social media and I leave the messages unread. The pain he caused me, made me a strong woman. I don’t regret, but sometimes looking back I am impressed with myself how could I even like a loser like him. You wake up eventually, but love can be evil. If the relationship doesn’t work it means that God has a better plan for you.
@Pyrrhic537 Too many options is a gateway towards exorbitant vanity. Somewhat "pretty women" unwilling to be humble or be humbled believe they can have it all. A handsome prince w/ monopoly money and they emotionally dive in head first, supplementing their body, their womb, with no due diligence. No substantiating validation from the father, brother or any fatherly figure. They think they know better and try to hide a monster dressed in sheep's clothing. Even though women experience puberty earlier than men, their emotions keep them in a childlike-reverieing state of mind.
@@baloo212when a person is aching and broken and possibly severely depressed and seeing no way out, they’re not thinking reasonably and hence may do unreasonable things.
If this is painful for me, i can't imagine how painful this is for him. I have tremendous love & appreciation for this gentleman sharing this story, and I will share it with others. Many of my close friends are girl dads, and we know how dangerous we (men) can be. The lure of love is profound and the pain of breaking up can feel unbreakable - if only she knew time would have healed her broken heart... it always does I can see all the good in Dapo from his energy, from his pain, from his selflessness and sacrifice. What a nightmare to only have dreams of what a wonderful lady she would have been.
@@AuditClerk thank you. You know, we are all part of the same fabric, and sometimes moments like these tugs at you to contribute something positive to this tapestry we call life…
How eloquently succinct he describes a narcissist. I've been fortunate to get away but the mental torture is very real. The 2nd time I met one of those hopeless souls, I had already begun my walk with Christ. I believe God saved me from any lasting damage. Her Father has explained this demon precisely and I wish for more people to recognise and guard themselves and others against it. I mean narcissistic abuse is possibly the worst thing you can experience and live through and truly, it is only God and knowing God ( why her father can explain it to clearly) that will save you from it.
I think he was much more than a narcissist however. This guy was a habitual, cold-blooded con man. It's one thing for someone to be a narcissist and only care about themselves. It's completely different to be dating a genuine crook, who is hellbent on destroying the life of any they touch. That's a trait orders of magnitude more despicable and dangerous.
Absolutely agree!! I’ve had one for 20 years and 3 children no one explained to me I didn’t know but God removed him he left me for some other supply and in Consulling I’ve learned about narcissistic people Thank God for His mercy on grace.. Now I live a wonderful peaceful life with Jesus! Hallelujah 🙏🏻
Snap! My daughter did exactly the same thing before lockdown. She jumped in front of a train at Riddlesdown train station 25/04/19. She had EVERYTHING to live for, but nowadays the new generation have a void within that no one can fill. Sorry for your loss.
An advise to all especially women... Learn to love yourself. Relationship is a partnership not one way with you being controlled by the other. Never put your partner on a pedestal above you. You're supposed to be equal irrespective of the money etc. do not allow yourself to be maltreated especially when you have others who love you. RIP Beautiful, I hope you finally found fulfilment the world denied you of.
Why didn't her father approach that guy and let him know he's in her life. These predatory men go for girls and women that are not protected. They can smell insecurity, low self esteem, unprotected. I don't understand why the father didn't sit and explain to his daughter exactly how this guy was abusing her.
@@bellaapple2166it sounded like he didn’t know the details of what happened until after. She was telling her mother. Knowing Nigerian men, if he had known the details he might have killed that a**hole
@@bellaapple2166or how about women/girls stop being over attracted to flashy men…am not trying to victim blame but I noticed that it is more easier for men in most cases to walk out of a toxic relationship than it is for women. Most of the craziest men I have ever seen in my life have the most beautiful women flocking around them and it always makes wonder what these girls find attractive in these type of men? I don’t mean all flashy guys are evil either but at least a month into a relationship is already enough for you to know if it is for you or not. And I believe the dad didn’t do anything serious because he was also looking at him from the point of a successful nice looking young man for his daughter.
This is so sad. The man should be charged with coercive control. Narcissist's end goal is to make their victims commit suicide. She was definitely dealing with a demon in the flesh. God bless her soul and her family. ❤
Some relationships just come into people's life to ruin them. If you are reading this and are going through a bad and toxic relationship. Please don't give up on your life. Leave and stay safe
@@Verolv so sorry about what you went through. My heart is not that strong. I rather leave when it's ruining me. May we never experience things like this
My bf i just broke up with yesterday..he promised me the world he said he will never hurt me treat me bad..broken heart my sons has anxiety and depression from his actions towards me..never again i will ever have trust in another man
I’m sorry to hear that the same happened with my bf but we haven’t told anyone yet. He said he wanted to leave and work on himself. We had a fight over it and I found out that he was hiding some parts of his past. We decided it would be better if we spent less time together. I still kinda miss him but I am still angry and hurt that he would hide stuff like that from me. I also remind myself that he is a narcissistic sociopath (not slander this is literally what he said himself) so he probably won’t miss me, so missing him is pointless. I don’t know that for sure but I tell myself that to cope. His inability to understand just how much it hurt me kind of annoyed me. But it was more so that he understood why I was upset but didn’t care as he decided that it wasn’t relevant and just wanted to move on without addressing it. It’s also hard because I have a really good relationship with his parents and siblings and he does with mine.
Heartbreaking to watch. I hope this person is brought to justice. Too many times narcissists get away with this behaviour. There is more than one way to kill a person. Verbal and emotional abuse is one of them. I am holding you in my prayers Mr Ogundipe.
I meet one guy from a date up after being single for 10 years! He breaks my heart by gaslighting me and making me lose my confidence! It's been 3 years and I have not recovered yet! Sorry for your lost 😔
@@sharonc7031 well yeah... she was young and innocent. She thought that life is easy. Then she got Herpes and her boyfriend was stealing from her. How was going to live with Herpes and ever trust men again. She didn't want to live like most of us, with harden heart and bitter. If she has to live, she would probably just live a boring life, since maybe her friends know about her having herpes. They probabl will use that to oppress her from job and other opportunity. She didn't want to live like that.
We women need to develop a relationship with God the Father first of all. Let Jesus love you like He loves the church. A husband does not complete a woman, and it is better for a woman to be eternally single than to be with a dangerous man
Only God can give anyone a good man especially in this end times were men are possessed with all sorts of demons and are extremely evil. This young girl died in May 2023 which was when my fiancé started stealing all my money to the point I will be begging him to return it so I could eat and buy my medication but he didn’t care because he needed my money to spend on his friends. Not once did this man buy me anything, not even a card on my birthday. Once I finally escaped the relationship, my parents found a way to make me the bad one as African parents do so I've sent them this video so they can see this is happening to other young girls
@@kathyalex778no one is saying a husband is needed to complete a woman. Yes God needs to be first. But there appears to be a significant dearth of men in this world that are actual husband material. Mentally, emotionally, spiritually healthy men….there appears to be a serious lack available for a women who want to marry.
The day average Simple heterosexual women decide to be with simple average men that they see everyday working along them and aren’t over the top (high value or perceived high value) the better they will find men that will give them what they seek, a real partner in life not just in finance. The same for men, when we start treating women well, open up, build and strengthen our frame through love all of our other successes will follow, the goal of success is not to show off to others, it is simply to provide more time to be around those you love and protect daily. The truth is right in front of us. We have the power of choice still.
Thank you Dapo. I share the same sad Tragic experience of loss as you. She meant the world to me. Some guys are spineless, vain, users who can never amount to anything good. Many of them will have daughters too, Karma is real. Beware of lowlife destructive people. Be good to yourselves.
There are lots of videos on RUclips about Narc abuse, sociopaths and psychopaths. I’m not judging or blaming this young lady but sometimes people let vanity and ambition cloud their good judgement. For those of us who are familiar with the disorder can take one look at that guy, his cars and the way he stares down the camera and say he’s a walking RED FLAG. Also the friend group looks vain. Women like this have only care about the image of things “like look at all my pretty friends” for social media aesthetics but there’s no quality to those relationships.
Firstly it didn't make the news because the victim's black and the offender is white ..... let's call it for what it is. Black people need to know that the grass is not greener on the other side. Do not interracially date. Black man + Black Woman = Beautiful family. PS: Did everyone catch the fact that the European man in this story eventually went back to his European woman?
A beautiful girl with great potential & bright future falling victim to a narcissistic demon sent by dark forces to cut her life short. It’s heartbreaking 💔. My deepest condolences to the family.
As a Nigerian man, and a father... I hope that I never have to endure what he's enduring. But some part of me has a different take in this as well. I feel as if... and this is me understanding my culture... I feel as if his daughter didn't have the type of relationship with her parents that could have saved her life. I could be completely off-base here but it stands to reason that as parents, we need to always aspire to have an open and understanding relationship with our babies. I've seen several cases where the pressure to succeed or meet the expectations of our parents drive an unknown wedge between parent and child. It happens, the world over. Particularly in traditionalist/conservative cultures where meritocracy plays a large role in social constructs. It's natural to want our children to aspire to be the best we believe they can be but along the way... we need to prioritize an emotionally healthy and open relationship with them. It's a balance that we as parents have to endure. It's our duty and obligation for us to be someone our children can turn to when they feel like the world is closing in around them. The pressure of the modern world have made this so much more of an imperative than it ever was. A parent should never have to bury their child and I hope the Alanis' parents someday find peace. It's a terrible situation.
Your comment is very insightful. Let me add the following: You can deduce from what the dad says and from what you see that he and the white mother were no longer together - for how long already is unclear. At best, a broken home isn’t an ideal environment for the development of children; at worst it can be the foundation of tragic events in the children’s futures. Given that the man wasn’t necessarily responsible - at any rate not solely responsible - for the breakup of the marriage or relationship, it’s not as if it’s his fault that his daughter’s relationship with him wasn’t in the end as close as it needed to be. Having said that, we can only theorize and speculate without being sure that any of the things we say are true. The priority at this time, really, is to give comfort to the bereaved father. If any lessons need to be learned, he and his family will have learnt these without any of us needing to rub it in.
The way Mr Dapo the father kept mentioning 'the mother' over and over it's quite obvious he and his daughter's mother were estranged or had not been together for a while so he was basically just supporting his daughter financially, but it looks like she didn't grow up under his care. I don't know if he and mother were ever married and got divorced later on but I have to make an opinion and observation {which I might catch some flak for it but it's necessary to say and is pretty much common knowledge but not talked about...} Most marriages between Africans(Nigerian in this case) and westerners (British in this case I assume) don't stand the test of time, esp if the couple lives in the west. It's different if the westerner wife relocates with her husband to his hone country and decides to make a life in the new country, where the laws and traditions guiding marriage are more concrete and she would have made her mind up to try to acclimate to the new structure... Not so in the west, eventually things break down to the point of where seperation is inevitable, this also happens to African couples who live in the west, but not to degree of mixed marriages.. The gulf and differemces in beliefs, traditions, cultural norms eventually become too wide.. I have quite a few relatives and acquaintances who had children with British women, some married or some just dating and almost none lasted more than a decade at most if that.. Once the initial romantic feelings and attraction fade away and they have to rely on familial bonds and family relationships to get them through stormy waters, things break down... God bless the man and keep him strong through this horrible tragedy.
Sorry for your loss. His payment for what he has done to your daughter will be given to him in due course! Thank you for sharing your story to warn others.
Your daughter was very beautiful. May her soul rest in perfect peace. May God console the family and give you the justice that you all rightfully deserve.
It's a painful death as the father explains as tears are rolling down his cheeks. So sad to lose such a brilliant daughter. May the Almighty God give you the heart to find peace as you remember your daughter.
This has troubled me since watching it yesterday morning. Nothing anyone can say to you will give you comfort, so I pray that God wraps you in His arms and wipes your tears. It is just heartbreaking.
My heart breaks for her family and friends. She had a such a bright future ahead of her. That’s such a horrible experience. I have been there and it’s devastating when someone you love betrays you. My mental health deteriorated severely and it took years to get over it. I pray God comforts this grieving family and blesses them with the peace that surpasses all understanding. Rest in Paradise 🙏🏽
I'm sorry for your pain. No father (or mother) should have to bury a child. Your daughter had a glorious future mapped out infront and if not for this despicable human being she would be thriving. My sincerest condolences to you and your entire family. May you create a legacy in her memory. Shalom. 💔😔🙏🏾
It is so painful that she went too far before realizing how uncomfortable her dad felt about her lover and her friend was not a true friend. May her beautiful soul rest in peace. very heartbreaking💔
Dear Mr Oladapo Ogundipe, I am so immensely sorry for your loss. May her beautiful soul rest in peace. Sending you and your wife a tight hug and love. I wish I could take away your pain.
I met an animal recently from Uk on online dating similar to this that was gaslighting me and telling me he is rich and constantly lies and lies. I’m just blessed I was protected and never met him in person but he was evil as well. I feel for this father 😢she was so beautiful and had such a bright future! May she Rest In Peace poor lady
Narcissism should be taught in schools. Abusive techniques like gaslighting, future faking, love bombing and blackmail should be explained to young people so they can know when they’re being manipulated and seek the right help.
@@jmonie02 Emotional manipulation and financial abuse can happen regardless of whether it’s a sexual relationship. Herpes can be contracted even if a condom is worn as it is transmitted via skin-to-skin.
@@MissMimimimi They weren't married. he trapped her with herpes first. Once you have herpes, you kind of belong to that person who gave it to you. They weren't married. What I am saying is that to prevent all this drama in this way is to not have sex before marriage. You are the same type that says people can get pregnant with condoms. You are also being manipulative in your reply. i hope you know that.
@@jmonie02You can get STIs even if you’re married, a piece of paper won’t prevent that. Narcissistic people can still have sex with other people and be deceitful even if you are married. This is well documented.
Heartbreaking story. You do your best to raise decent kids only for some low life to come and ruin it all. Boyfriend was clearly insecure and incapable of realising its potential and took it out on this poor girl.
I’m so sorry that your beautiful daughter felt there was no other way out for her. God rest her delicate soul 🙏🏾✨ I feel and can relate to your pain, my son took his own life aged 27, 6 years ago. I now work for a charity that supports people bereaved by this very sad and traumatic tragedy. Unfortunately spousal abuse is a common reason for our beloved angels leaving us in this final way. I pray this demonic boy receives some retribution for what he did. Sending love and light to you heartbroken parents 💔
I relate to this specific loss all too well. Losing a child is devastating. Losing a child to suicide is unimaginable and indescribable. It’s hard. There’s always so many questions, but they’re no longer here to provide answers. My heart aches for him so much. It’s not a wound time can heal. I miss my daughter always ❤
My condolences to this girls family. Thank you, Punch, for telling the girl's (and her family's) story since the UK refuse to do anything about the clear abuse that led to a young lady taking her life.
This was so heartbreaking. She was looking for peace. Beautiful girls out there please protect yourself. It’s exhausting to always have your guard up but there is true evil walking among us. The scariest part is they don’t see any wrong in what they do. It’s very very frightening. If you see 1 red flag don’t ignore it, run. I used to tell my friend in high school “You’re beautiful and that means you’ll attract people be careful” years later her insecure narcissist husband killed her. I thought it would never happen to me but I almost ended my own life. My situation is a bit different because it’s online but it’s still mentally draining.
I’m sad to know about his daughter. People like the guy who abused her, feel worthless without the best brands. BEWARE of such people. That’s why he chose her, because she was the best. RIP Alanis. 👩🏽🦱🇺🇸
If a parent/ parents take just one look at a child's future partner and later tells that child of his/ her misgivings concerning that union, that child had better listen up and move on without that partner.. because, parents always have a very sharply Honned sixth sense when it comes to their kids wellbeign. Rip to her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You showed great courage telling this story. I’d be in pieces. We have to tell our kids constantly (and ask them constantly if they believe it) that no one can ever say something to make us stop loving them. I’m glad the blackmailing culprits were shown. They’ll pay for it. At the moment they might not think so, but they will.
Very sorry for the loss of this woman. My sister ended her life in 2019 but she had been struggling for over 20 years with depression and depressive episodes that went up and down. No matter the good things that came in and out of her life, that depression never left. We still never imagines she would do anything like that but the pain was too much for her. I think that, although the boyfriend and his actions undoubtedly caused a great deal of mental distress to this woman, it is likely that there were other factors also present. Irrespective, suicide is something that leaves families feeling devastated and I have a lot of sympathy for the father.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for your loss and it’s so important to give voice to this tragedy. My daughter is in a similar situation and I feel like the shame and violence has taken her voice. I will not stop trying to reach her.
That's why you have to be careful the people you bring into your life. Especially if you just meet someone new do health check and background . Believe me one day it could save your life.
Doctors don't test for herpes as the only blood test is unreliable so many people have it without knowing. Typically you you know you've gotten it from recent partner after 3 days to 2 weeks with an outbreak
Watching from Germany and crying with you. The love you have for your daughter is so profound and so is your pain. Wishing you all the strength in the world to keep going. This is just sad.
He looks like a sociopath, dead eyes. The best friend is definitely in on it. Sometimes people get close to you because they envy you. They should both be legally held responsible.
The devil!! She was so Beautiful and had so much to live for. I wished she would have talked to her dad and told him everything! I have told my 4 kids there is nothing in this world that will ever make me ashamed of them!!! I’m so sorry she felt she had no other way out. Prayers for the family 🙏🏾
My sincerest condolences to you sir! Your daughter was a beautiful, intelligent smart young lady. I lost a sister to suicide because of a situation like your daughter! Thanks for sharing your story ❤😢
The love of a father.. Keep telling your daughter story in hopes to warn young women of this man and these type of men out there. Praying for you and her mother strength and comfort in Jesus Mighty Name 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
So sorry for your loss, I was on a delayed train that day infact all service came to a halt the 29th May as you mentioned, we were told there had been a fatality much later with cancellations. Everyone was saddened and some ladies from liverpool and I said a prayer for the family. So sorry for your loss. So so sorry ❤️ what a beautiful child.
This was painful to watch. My heart goes out to the family of this beautiful girl. The father was courageous for sharing and making others aware that evil walks amongst us.
Abuse is Real....that's what exactly my husband, the man I truly loved did to me....if I never ran away and sought help plus therapy, I would be dead....! Abuse is Real. Justice for this lady so he doesn't do it to other women. RIP.
The boyfriend came into his daughters life to steal, kill and destroy her. Similar to the devil
Yup, I have seen a similar situation like this in I feel for her and the parents. It's a lot of sick evil twisted guys out here that would really try to be something that their not only for their own desire, they will lie on you, and make others to believe false accusations , they will drain the hell out of you for some type of control . That's why you would see a lot of people going through this same exact thing and will act like nothing is going on when something deep like this is affecting their mental and they may end up harming themself because a lot of people judge so it's like they have to suffer in silence and your thoughts may eat you up .These types of guy are narcissist and they do come to KILL, STEAL AND DESTROY. Please stay prayed up no matter what.
The new “AI”.
That's what satan does...
Steal, Kill, Destroy.
Yes he was the devil himself.
Is the devil
I'm so sorry for his loss.
His daughter's story parallels mine, down to the Herpes infection, seizing passport, forcing me sign checks. The only difference was that I told my parents and they kept forcing me to stay because divorce would bring shame to the family. When I tried to take my life, my doctor who had treated me for previous beatings talked to me long and hard.
Eventually, I planned for a year and took my kids and ran away. I've been so isolated but thankful that I was able to get the courage from God to run away.
You a clearly very strong!! Keep going!!
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So sorry for what you went through
I’m here for you ❤you ever need me just write. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’ve been through a lot of things especially with 2 different males. So I totally get.
Love you !!
Sending you love,peace and more of God's strength. You are valued and you mean alot to the world. Super proud of your courage
The boyfriend's name is Ryan Leggets. This man should be in jail! For infecting her with STD, blackmail, abuse!! So glad the father shared his story to the media. And ladies if you hear or see this man, RUN!!
Some women will see him as a project. He'll still get by with the ladies unfortunately.
These are the type of men women want so let women learn the hard way.
Thank you for naming this man! People should be and need to be NAMED! Thank you!!
Glad he was named. But yes you will still be praying upon other black women now that he has a functional modus operandi nailed down.
A lot of black women in Africa and the UK fetishize this type of man.
And as long as he can keep getting stuff out of them he's going to keep on.
Sounds like the person who introduced them had a plan..
It takes strength for that father to come out and talk about the loss of his daughter. Those people who contributed to her demise will surely meet their fate sooner or later.
Well now his face is plastered on the internet, he will be persona non grata in many places. I'm not advocating for violence, but he won't be sporting that smug look much longer...
THEY CAN'T HIDE FROM GOD. WE MAY NEVER SEE WHEN THE GUILTY ARE PUNISHED, BUT THEY WILL BE EITHER HERE ON EARTH OR IN HELL. NO ONE WILL EVER GET AWAY WITH ABUSING ONE OF GOD'S CHILDREN.
Parents please teach you children about the demons that go bumping in the night that don't look like demons. Salt looks like sugar and there are sheep's in wolves clothing. But they can't hide for long and get away with it. Narcissist aren't very smart.
Beware who you call friends
Saddened ME, 😢My Condolences to her Family, Dad I salute you speak up for your Beautiful 1st born❤ Prayers for Justice and Healing Process 🙏 ,I'm familiar with this pain,Thieves are watching ,They are Devils and closer than you think😢 They want your lifestyle ,so they prey on you! Pure evil.
He told his daughter’s story and honored her beautifully ❤️❤️
Yes indeed
God save our children from these monsters and friends who are wolves in sheep skin
Amen
😔🙏🏾
Amen
Exactly
No. New title they go by: “AI”.
My daughter took her own life 4/8/19 she was a month away from turning 21 , absolutely beautiful girl inside & out had loads of amazing friends, I miss her every day every minute every single heartbeat hurts , my condolences to all the families going through this nightmare day in day out my heart & love are with you all 🙏❤️🦋
So sorry for your loss 😭. Cannot imagine the pain. I hope you have people around you. Sending you hugs and love ❤
Prayers for you and your family, so sorry you are going through that pain. Also thank you for sharing, please continue to do so. You’re helping others in a way you may not be aware of. I’ve had these same thoughts many times and it’s words like these that show me I can’t put my parents through that kind of pain. God bless💕
@@mz_marmar89❤🫂❤
Very sorry to hear. Prayers for you 🙏🏾 ❤.
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As a father of a young daughter this frightens me about the future. But I thank this man and his bravery as I believe he is telling this story to help others to protect their kids from evil. May the almighty take care of her in the afterlife.
ur daughter will be a suck machine.
I’m so glad that you care for your daughter. Always be there for her, my dad was there for me growing up but now is MIA all the time due to addiction. If there is one thing you can do for your child, please don’t ever let substances take over your life. It affects them so much more than you think. Everyday I wonder why I wasn’t good enough for him and why he couldn’t choose me over alcohol. I told him he gets sober or he loses me forever. Of course you know what he chose. My dad has put me through unexplainable pain and I will never be the same again
Thank you for sharing and your kind advice. May God guide you to a place of peace and forgiveness.
Be your daughter's confidante and pray without ceasing... try not to worry as it won't help. Let them know you need to meet so their friends do invite them over ... offer to drop them off etc and when it gets to boyfriends it will be more natural. They don't even need any boyfriend. Courtship and then marriage... lol
Show her this video when she's 18 or over. There's men waiting to take advantage. Especially much older men easier for them to manipulate young girls.
Narcissism is really the character of the devil. What a heartbreaking story!😢
You are right.
Psychology tries to explain it away-giving us theories and studies but there is no explanation that can give sense to what is nonsensical. Evil is non-sensical and trying to make sense out of narcissism just makes one lose the mind. & It’s not worth it.
A malignant narcissist right there!
And yet she was still with him I’m not even mad at this point😂
@@Merebaby72 You trivialise other people’s experiences. It’s a reflection of your lack of empathy and it’s you who should be pitied. Empathy helps people connect, with life, others, with nature, with animals etc and without it you’ll probably never experience peace or true joy. I won’t be surprised if you have no peace in you
@@Merebaby72be a different story if it was your daughter 😂
This story is heartbreaking. She was treasured by her family, and this demonic leach in the form of a human was introduced to her by her "best" friend. With friends like THAT who needs enemies????
Hard to trust anyone. The father tried to talk to her but her emotions got the best of her...Love. Sometimes is a one-way street.
The father should have watched over the friends of her daughter,, especially if she is his daughter, very rich
Relationship should be a course of study in our schools. Young adults need to be informed about the dangers there in.
Seconded
Exactly. We were talking about this yesterday.
I wholeheartedly agree. It should start at thirteen when kids start to get interested in relationships. Their hormones are raging and they need guidance.
The parents need to do that! The kids are already not listening to the teachers! Teachers are quitting for a reason. No I’m not a teacher but I do have kids in school that speak about how horrendous these kids act!
@@caribdoll1800 maybe they are not listening because they know 99% of what they learn will not be applicable to real life.
This class however…very helpful
I was a good student but even I felt that way. Spanish was my favorite class because I could take what I learned and immediately use it.
This is heartbreaking for parents to see their child going through abuse and not being able to help. It’s despicable and he should be held accountable for his actions 🌸
How can he be held accountable, she had the choice to walk away, as horrendous the situation he put her in, we all have choices
I agree with you 💯
Easy to say you have a choice. When you're in an abusive relationship, the fear that is felt makes it hard to leave
@@21m455easy for you to say because you have no clue what so ever ,judge judy
@lystradoyle-wood9625 yes, and he was blackmailing her.
She was a gentle soul....
Heartbreaking.
Truly is!
This is terrible. Listen to the father’s warning. I was in a similar situation. The guy turned out to be pure evil. He didn’t have any of the things he claimed to have. Found out he’s sexually reckless, sleeping around every where, unprotected. Got a young girl pregnant during our relationship. Borrowed money and never paid it back. Ripped off a bunch of people in fake business ventures, and the list goes on 😮
Waah! I hope you're safe now😮
@@artisthusnatalal3099 thank you. The whole experience has messed up my mental state. Got away from him and working on my recovery.
Far too many of them exist!..
@@Starchild-he3dj 💯💯💯💯
You should never give a man money.
My heart breaks for this man. He is so brave and spoke of her so lovingly and proudly.
I’m 38 years old, not a parent , love children , I know this has to be painful … I admire y’all strength in the comments
He couldn't stand to see her shine that bright so he dimmed her light forever. Monsters walking among us everyday. So very sorry for your loss sir.
Look at the guy the epitome of pretty boy, but a wicked spirit. Don’t let the looks fool you. Yet, the family in Spain that is cunning cruel level of abuse. I pray anyone who reads this is gets out of situation. And finds peace, safety, self love and abundance ❤
This woman was so very beautiful, and I empathize with the pain of falling madly in love with a demon. Narcissism should be taught in elementary schools because there are just some evil people in this world. Evil is real and exists and MANY people have given themselves over to the evil. Narcissists only goal is to USE and DESTROY beautiful souls. My cousin killed himself over a narcissist last year and I am a survivor of narcissist abuse.
Sorry to hear this. Did your cousin's narcissist move on quickly or did they show remorse and regret?
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h She moved on quickly with a new supply, no remorse nor regret. My young cousin could not understand this evil and felt he could not go on in this life. Very sad.
I couldn’t agree more. Narcissism is real y’all . Narcissist = Devil in human form no better way to explain this. They exist and the red flags are very clear. I’ve been through narcissistic abuse as well I was only 17 at the time knew nothing about narcissism. Are you beautiful, successful, cool, classy, chic, intelligent, name it, something or someone anyone would want to have around them like as a friend or partner, hot cake or on demand type of thing, bright future and all, something like that?
Are they very charming and cute and promise and patronise you in a way that’s difficult to resist even though it’s uncalled for and so early they barely know you for instance and you barely know them as well but they blind you, they literally trying to buy you with all these promises overtly or covertly. Now it’s nice to be cute and charming. I mean you want someone you call a friend to be cute and charming and nice to you right but the key word is balance watch out for the balance in their actions is it over the top over complementing even though nothing has prompted it.
Do they treat you with no single regard for your time, values, emotions, feelings, boundaries, name it, you as a person like somehow they just expect you to have none like you’re supposed to be an object or sth.
Lastly, and most importantly, your instinct or your loved ones or both like this girls dad for instance never liked him or your instincts will just tell you something doesn’t feel right about them you can’t quite place your hands on it, it just doesn’t feel right my God what does your instincts say about you notice you never liked them like you just have your hair strands stand up straight around them you don’t feel chill and relaxed around them something feels off and strange about them.
That’s it that’s them run and never look back. Discard them before they discard you and I mean it DISCARD them because they are worthless pieces of shit that’s exactly what they are. Because that’s when abuse hooks your brain and you start becoming mentally messed up. Just nicely walk away mentally yes everything happens mentally they attack your subconscious so you discard them there right in your subconscious and physically too remove yourself completely if you can. in fact you can. You definitely can disconnect from them completely. Anything that has to do with them, make sure you’re not part of them. Severe the relationship with them asap and permanently because it doesn’t get better so find yourself peace of mind and don’t bother dealing with them.
Your reply is truly powerful… all the things you said are so true
Especially about the fact that children should be thought of narcissists and to be aware to not trust people very fast because evil does exist…
That is the reason Jesus’s word says… abide in Him and He will abide in you… put all your plans including the people who surround you at His feet.., trust all aspects of your life unto God..and He will direct your path
That is why Jesus said I came not to bring peace but the sword… because we are in warfare in this life… evil exists
In Ephesians it says
Put on the full armour of God, so that in the evil
Day you will be able to stand
Im a survivor of narcissistic abuse and they pushed me to suicide many times cause I have a plethora of mental illnesses and 2 inoperable brain tumors, so I basically spend my life in the hospital and at medical appointments, I thought I was the luckiest to find my ex and her accept my illness, oh boy was I wrong, she made me absolutely miserable. I got close to her bestie of 15yrs and even she encouraged me to leave her cause she recognized I deserved better, she even said that my ex will never find someone like me again..her bestie gave me the courage to leave..she also treated her bestie like shyt, she survived 15yrs of her abuse, I barely made it through 2yrs, I dumped her and she's been trying to contact me but iv been ignoring her and cause of it she refuses to give me back my things in hopes I will contact her for them...she's gunna be waiting a mighty long time for that to happen, she even told her bestie that she's willing to change and I highly doubt that, the only thing I'm happy about is the fact I met her bestie and she's become like a sibling to me and I'm happy she's found the one and they're engaged to be married.
I know if that was my daughter. This interview would be on a prison phone.
Period.
Word! 🎯
You read my mind
Yeah, I’d be more than happy to avenge my child. If fathers went back to this thinking, there would be less predators in this world.
@@WilliamsPinch💯
Narcissistic people can be your very own family too. I went through this for about 2 years straight with my only sibling who is 17 years older than me. Her demands on me once I started working put me in a confused and depressed state but by the grace of God and speaking out I’m alive today and is making progress in healing from that relationship. It’s the mental torture that is most damaging, you feel like you can’t escape it and I believe that’s what drove this beautiful young lady to that point. My heart goes out to her loved ones. Lord please protect us from the evil ones in this world.
What killed her was shame and regret. She probably got so hard on herself. Like how could I,the hardworking girl,the good girl fall for this. Those voices kept whispering, she went through hell. She just wanted peace. Daily torment, every minute she was awake. Painful 😢. ❤❤❤❤❤,the pain in the father's voice. He will never let go,no amount of therapy can heal this man. He will take this pain to the grave
I think the herpes really destroyed her, and she founding out that he purposely gave it to her.
Yes, it's very difficult for a "good" girl, who has done everything right in her life, whose parents are glowing with pride over her achievements, to accept and t acknowledge that she has been so very wrong in her choice of a partner. If only these girls could be taught that IT'S OKAY - in fact, healthy - to be terribly wrong at times. That's how you grow as a person, right - by making mistakes? The important thing is to SEE the mistake, give him a kick, and move on.
@@someothername9462Thats right. No one of us is without fault and knows it all. We are all humans who need one another
@@IramCoercereSpare men with the “mistakes” bs. Women seek these type of guys because they think it’s some type of a flex but as soon as ish hits the wall they want everyone’s sympathy.
@@bxi1547damn.... You must be such a guy.
That guy will know no peace all the days of his life. May a worse fate befall him.
Take heart, Sir!
Cursing based on a one sided story? Only an immature mind would do this.
@@sarumoh I said what I said! You can't change that.
@@SandraSalomeAngolorctrAGREE✅✅✅
@@sarumohoh move along
@@sarumohmeaning what
I feel so sad for her. I just want to give her a hug and tell her that as destroyed as she feels, she can rebuild her self esteem and come back stronger than ever. She could have sued the “boyfriend” and potentially have a criminal case against him. She was so beautiful and you can see she was truly beautiful inside, as well as outside 😢
That friend may have been jealous and set her up.
@@tanyaglenn2854 that is exactly what happened
@@tanyaglenn2854Envy is so damn dangerous. I said the same
@@tanyaglenn2854😅😅😅 Could be but I sure don't see the hell why? I personally think he's all that in the looks department.
Sounds like a honey trap to me
You see 1 red flag run for your life, don’t give the person a chance, there’s nothing to fix, no room for abuse, so sorry sir for you loss, what a beautiful angel, sending my prayers from South Africa🇿🇦
This is how dark it is trying to find someone worth it. Too much trash, scammers, and horrific beings out there taking advantage of people who want to just find love. It's sick
“I know how guys do..I know what WE do to girls…” No one likes it when it’s done to theirs. All women are some man’s daughter. They’re people too.Sorry for your loss. your daughter had a very bright spirit.
We all know how women do to men too .Separated by women from their children and commit suicide .
@@Exe3D …or maybe I didn’t.
Yup. I have had things of this nature do to me. I no longer date men so I don't have this issue anymore. They are destructive and at this point this is a humanitarian issue. Half the population is living in fear. Down to a narc employer that attempted to abuse me within the first 2 interactions. I don't trust them bc they they stick together.
She dated a narcissist. They are rampant in the UK. They tried me and and I brutalised their ego. The intensity of the injury I caused was very deep and gigantic
LOL! what did you do? 😂
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True. More Narcissist than people with food or jobs in uk. Thank useless Narcissist for ai taking their jobs. Too big headed and DUMB to do unskilled work!
Please share what you did. I hope you're fine now🤗🤗
It is prevalent, but not everyone is aware of narcissism and it’s not always easy to spot the signs especially if they are hidden like covert types ❤
I am so so sorry you loss your daughter. Sending prayers to your entire family.
Your daughter was a beautiful person. May she rest in perfect peace, and may God bring you comfort. ❤️
Commiting suicide does not make one rest in peace.
@chz76 ceremonies in eastern cultures can support souls to move into peace though. Our prayers are with her family and with her for her spirit-souls evolution. Amen
I actually despair with people like you who give advice that deals with etherial and non tangible solutions such as "God" and "Religion" when in reality the advice that needs to get out there is for black people to stick close to their/our culture and things that we know. In circumstances like this, it's a culture that has checks and balances to minimise abuse and predators ...... through contact with those from the extended family.
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@@blackmagic6 not everything is about race and no one is stopping you from sticking to your own culture. Stop crying about someone else's beliefs/religion.
When my first boyfriend broke my heart I also had suicidal thoughts. I caught myself on that he will go on with his life and have a family and completely forget about me after my death while I would destroy my parents. My parents are the ones who gave me life, did everything for me, and I just can’t be so stupid to do that for some guy who I can forget about eventually. That was the first and the last time I had that thought. There are more important things and people, especially after the birth of a child you understand that no one matters as much as your own child anymore.
Beautiful women with so many options doing this. Thank God you didn't..
The men must have had you and the victim wrapped around their finger. You made it
the poor girl in the video didn't.
I suppose you were very young and have now matured into a stronger more resilient woman. Especially now you have Cubs you have become a Lioness. Nothing is more majestic than a protective mother. Or father lol. The claws are sharp and the teeth too. And no predatory creature will venture into your territory.
Be careful though because there are leeches and snakes out there who will see your beautiful eyes and think they can enchant them.
That's a beautiful thought! You live for those who love you rather die for those you don't care about you.
Wish people keep this in mind. Thank you for sharing this.
@@Pyrrhic537 I was 22 at the time. He was 7 years older. We were dating for 4 years, met in college. He was my first true love, at least that what I thought at the time. But the relationship wasn’t going anywhere and I knew it was going to end. He impregnated a girl. They got married, but it didn’t last a year. I got married 2 years after the break up and moved to the US. He kept sending me emails and never left me alone even when I told him that I was pregnant and happily married.
15 years later he still writes me on social media and I leave the messages unread. The pain he caused me, made me a strong woman. I don’t regret, but sometimes looking back I am impressed with myself how could I even like a loser like him. You wake up eventually, but love can be evil.
If the relationship doesn’t work it means that God has a better plan for you.
@Pyrrhic537 Too many options is a gateway towards exorbitant vanity. Somewhat "pretty women" unwilling to be humble or be humbled believe they can have it all.
A handsome prince w/ monopoly money and they emotionally dive in head first, supplementing their body, their womb, with no due diligence. No substantiating validation from the father, brother or any fatherly figure. They think they know better and try to hide a monster dressed in sheep's clothing.
Even though women experience puberty earlier than men, their emotions keep them in a childlike-reverieing state of mind.
@@baloo212when a person is aching and broken and possibly severely depressed and seeing no way out, they’re not thinking reasonably and hence may do unreasonable things.
If this is painful for me, i can't imagine how painful this is for him.
I have tremendous love & appreciation for this gentleman sharing this story, and I will share it with others. Many of my close friends are girl dads, and we know how dangerous we (men) can be. The lure of love is profound and the pain of breaking up can feel unbreakable - if only she knew time would have healed her broken heart... it always does
I can see all the good in Dapo from his energy, from his pain, from his selflessness and sacrifice. What a nightmare to only have dreams of what a wonderful lady she would have been.
What a beautiful, poignant statement. You truly are a gem.
@@AuditClerk thank you. You know, we are all part of the same fabric, and sometimes moments like these tugs at you to contribute something positive to this tapestry we call life…
yes you can more than imagine it.
How eloquently succinct he describes a narcissist. I've been fortunate to get away but the mental torture is very real. The 2nd time I met one of those hopeless souls, I had already begun my walk with Christ. I believe God saved me from any lasting damage. Her Father has explained this demon precisely and I wish for more people to recognise and guard themselves and others against it. I mean narcissistic abuse is possibly the worst thing you can experience and live through and truly, it is only God and knowing God ( why her father can explain it to clearly) that will save you from it.
Nicely said. Only God
Amen 😢🙏
Oh shut up. U have no idea what a narcissist is. U females love to change up definitions that apply to y'all nature.
I think he was much more than a narcissist however. This guy was a habitual, cold-blooded con man. It's one thing for someone to be a narcissist and only care about themselves. It's completely different to be dating a genuine crook, who is hellbent on destroying the life of any they touch. That's a trait orders of magnitude more despicable and dangerous.
Absolutely agree!! I’ve had one for 20 years and 3 children no one explained to me I didn’t know but God removed him he left me for some other supply and in Consulling I’ve learned about narcissistic people Thank God for His mercy on grace.. Now I live a wonderful peaceful life with Jesus! Hallelujah 🙏🏻
Snap! My daughter did exactly the same thing before lockdown. She jumped in front of a train at Riddlesdown train station 25/04/19. She had EVERYTHING to live for, but nowadays the new generation have a void within that no one can fill. Sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss ❤ pray God comforts you and wraps you in his loving arms 🙏🏼
@@kaoshi_kutie Thank you. Bless you 🙏 💚
I lost a child I know how u feel baby everyday it’s a hole in ur heart sending u love peace and strength 💜🙏✝️
So so sorry for your loss xx
So sorry to hear and condolences
An advise to all especially women... Learn to love yourself. Relationship is a partnership not one way with you being controlled by the other. Never put your partner on a pedestal above you. You're supposed to be equal irrespective of the money etc. do not allow yourself to be maltreated especially when you have others who love you. RIP Beautiful, I hope you finally found fulfilment the world denied you of.
Why didn't her father approach that guy and let him know he's in her life. These predatory men go for girls and women that are not protected. They can smell insecurity, low self esteem, unprotected. I don't understand why the father didn't sit and explain to his daughter exactly how this guy was abusing her.
@@bellaapple2166it sounded like he didn’t know the details of what happened until after. She was telling her mother. Knowing Nigerian men, if he had known the details he might have killed that a**hole
@@bellaapple2166or how about women/girls stop being over attracted to flashy men…am not trying to victim blame but I noticed that it is more easier for men in most cases to walk out of a toxic relationship than it is for women.
Most of the craziest men I have ever seen in my life have the most beautiful women flocking around them and it always makes wonder what these girls find attractive in these type of men? I don’t mean all flashy guys are evil either but at least a month into a relationship is already enough for you to know if it is for you or not.
And I believe the dad didn’t do anything serious because he was also looking at him from the point of a successful nice looking young man for his daughter.
This has nothing to do with loving yourself, you need to encourage them to be wise.
@@ASmith-jn7kfwhen you love yourself, wing wise and not tolerating rubbish follows
This is so sad. The man should be charged with coercive control. Narcissist's end goal is to make their victims commit suicide. She was definitely dealing with a demon in the flesh. God bless her soul and her family. ❤
The police themselves use these tactics. This is why people like him get away with this type of abuse
As a parent, and human this absolutely broke my heart! My condolences !
Some relationships just come into people's life to ruin them. If you are reading this and are going through a bad and toxic relationship. Please don't give up on your life. Leave and stay safe
@CarolinelsahAlways
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Your absolutely right! I went through it . never again!
Never again.
@@Verolv so sorry about what you went through. My heart is not that strong. I rather leave when it's ruining me. May we never experience things like this
@@tania0070 💯
I’m sorry father, but she didn’t want you to know you were right about this monster! That was her guilt that she let you down! Love her! ❤❤❤
Young girls/boys please to not rush into a relationship. Listen to your parents as they have experiences and they can guide you better.
As a father, it breaks my heart. Always stay close with your children, and give them time to open up about anything. Support and guide them always. ❤
My bf i just broke up with yesterday..he promised me the world he said he will never hurt me treat me bad..broken heart my sons has anxiety and depression from his actions towards me..never again i will ever have trust in another man
I’m sorry to hear that the same happened with my bf but we haven’t told anyone yet. He said he wanted to leave and work on himself. We had a fight over it and I found out that he was hiding some parts of his past. We decided it would be better if we spent less time together.
I still kinda miss him but I am still angry and hurt that he would hide stuff like that from me. I also remind myself that he is a narcissistic sociopath (not slander this is literally what he said himself) so he probably won’t miss me, so missing him is pointless. I don’t know that for sure but I tell myself that to cope. His inability to understand just how much it hurt me kind of annoyed me. But it was more so that he understood why I was upset but didn’t care as he decided that it wasn’t relevant and just wanted to move on without addressing it.
It’s also hard because I have a really good relationship with his parents and siblings and he does with mine.
At least he broke up with you and didn’t cheat ,it could be worse
Heartbreaking to watch. I hope this person is brought to justice. Too many times narcissists get away with this behaviour. There is more than one way to kill a person. Verbal and emotional abuse is one of them. I am holding you in my prayers Mr Ogundipe.
You’re absolutely right smh
I agree with you 💯
I was thinking the same thing
They all get away with it
@@aselyne5631 yes.
So awful.
Too awful.
I meet one guy from a date up after being single for 10 years! He breaks my heart by gaslighting me and making me lose my confidence! It's been 3 years and I have not recovered yet! Sorry for your lost 😔
I'm sorry
May you find healing in Jesus Christ!
So sorry ,dear.
@@moni28b90Amen!
Thank goodness you escaped him. Please do not let that person back in.
So unfortunate..the guy(her partner) is a malignant narcissist..they appear charming to attract their victims and then destroy them
That's why yooung people need to listen to their parents.
This was what I said to my self , a narcissistic operating on an extreme level
She must have been too beautiful to exist here.
@@sharonc7031 well yeah... she was young and innocent. She thought that life is easy. Then she got Herpes and her boyfriend was stealing from her. How was going to live with Herpes and ever trust men again. She didn't want to live like most of us, with harden heart and bitter. If she has to live, she would probably just live a boring life, since maybe her friends know about her having herpes. They probabl will use that to oppress her from job and other opportunity. She didn't want to live like that.
So true, and they all dress the same as well same type of cars, same haircut everything
It's so hard for our daughters to find good men to be with or marry. RIP
We women need to develop a relationship with God the Father first of all. Let Jesus love you like He loves the church. A husband does not complete a woman, and it is better for a woman to be eternally single than to be with a dangerous man
Only God can give anyone a good man especially in this end times were men are possessed with all sorts of demons and are extremely evil. This young girl died in May 2023 which was when my fiancé started stealing all my money to the point I will be begging him to return it so I could eat and buy my medication but he didn’t care because he needed my money to spend on his friends. Not once did this man buy me anything, not even a card on my birthday. Once I finally escaped the relationship, my parents found a way to make me the bad one as African parents do so I've sent them this video so they can see this is happening to other young girls
@@kathyalex778no one is saying a husband is needed to complete a woman. Yes God needs to be first. But there appears to be a significant dearth of men in this world that are actual husband material. Mentally, emotionally, spiritually healthy men….there appears to be a serious lack available for a women who want to marry.
The day average Simple heterosexual women decide to be with simple average men that they see everyday working along them and aren’t over the top (high value or perceived high value) the better they will find men that will give them what they seek, a real partner in life not just in finance. The same for men, when we start treating women well, open up, build and strengthen our frame through love all of our other successes will follow, the goal of success is not to show off to others, it is simply to provide more time to be around those you love and protect daily. The truth is right in front of us. We have the power of choice still.
Well of course because they ignore the men who are actually good for them.
Thank you Dapo. I share the same sad Tragic experience of loss as you. She meant the world to me. Some guys are spineless, vain, users who can never amount to anything good. Many of them will have daughters too, Karma is real. Beware of lowlife destructive people. Be good to yourselves.
So sorry for yr loss.
Condolences.
Proud of this man's strength. May God continue to give you strength to stand in the wicked world
This made me cry😢😢😢😢I live in Manchester and never heard this story on the news. I think this story should be shared to warn others. ⚠️
There are lots of videos on RUclips about Narc abuse, sociopaths and psychopaths. I’m not judging or blaming this young lady but sometimes people let vanity and ambition cloud their good judgement. For those of us who are familiar with the disorder can take one look at that guy, his cars and the way he stares down the camera and say he’s a walking RED FLAG. Also the friend group looks vain. Women like this have only care about the image of things “like look at all my pretty friends” for social media aesthetics but there’s no quality to those relationships.
@@camille3083you said a lot. Reminder.🙏🏾
@@camille3083 a lot of times “good sex” also clouds their judgment. I hate that she contracted herpes from him.
Firstly it didn't make the news because the victim's black and the offender is white ..... let's call it for what it is.
Black people need to know that the grass is not greener on the other side. Do not interracially date. Black man + Black Woman = Beautiful family.
PS: Did everyone catch the fact that the European man in this story eventually went back to his European woman?
@@blackmagic6EXACTLY
A beautiful girl with great potential & bright future falling victim to a narcissistic demon sent by dark forces to cut her life short. It’s heartbreaking 💔. My deepest condolences to the family.
Why do you idiots use the term narcissist out of context. U don't know the meaning
As a Nigerian man, and a father... I hope that I never have to endure what he's enduring. But some part of me has a different take in this as well. I feel as if... and this is me understanding my culture... I feel as if his daughter didn't have the type of relationship with her parents that could have saved her life. I could be completely off-base here but it stands to reason that as parents, we need to always aspire to have an open and understanding relationship with our babies. I've seen several cases where the pressure to succeed or meet the expectations of our parents drive an unknown wedge between parent and child. It happens, the world over. Particularly in traditionalist/conservative cultures where meritocracy plays a large role in social constructs.
It's natural to want our children to aspire to be the best we believe they can be but along the way... we need to prioritize an emotionally healthy and open relationship with them. It's a balance that we as parents have to endure. It's our duty and obligation for us to be someone our children can turn to when they feel like the world is closing in around them. The pressure of the modern world have made this so much more of an imperative than it ever was. A parent should never have to bury their child and I hope the Alanis' parents someday find peace. It's a terrible situation.
Your comment is very insightful. Let me add the following: You can deduce from what the dad says and from what you see that he and the white mother were no longer together - for how long already is unclear.
At best, a broken home isn’t an ideal environment for the development of children; at worst it can be the foundation of tragic events in the children’s futures.
Given that the man wasn’t necessarily responsible - at any rate not solely responsible - for the breakup of the marriage or relationship, it’s not as if it’s his fault that his daughter’s relationship with him wasn’t in the end as close as it needed to be.
Having said that, we can only theorize and speculate without being sure that any of the things we say are true. The priority at this time, really, is to give comfort to the bereaved father. If any lessons need to be learned, he and his family will have learnt these without any of us needing to rub it in.
The way Mr Dapo the father kept mentioning 'the mother' over and over it's quite obvious he and his daughter's mother were estranged or had not been together for a while so he was basically just supporting his daughter financially, but it looks like she didn't grow up under his care.
I don't know if he and mother were ever married and got divorced later on but I have to make an opinion and observation {which I might catch some flak for it but it's necessary to say and is pretty much common knowledge but not talked about...}
Most marriages between Africans(Nigerian in this case) and westerners (British in this case I assume) don't stand the test of time, esp if the couple lives in the west.
It's different if the westerner wife relocates with her husband to his hone country and decides to make a life in the new country, where the laws and traditions guiding marriage are more concrete and she would have made her mind up to try to acclimate to the new structure...
Not so in the west, eventually things break down to the point of where seperation is inevitable, this also happens to African couples who live in the west, but not to degree of mixed marriages..
The gulf and differemces in beliefs, traditions, cultural norms eventually become too wide..
I have quite a few relatives and acquaintances who had children with British women, some married or some just dating and almost none lasted more than a decade at most if that..
Once the initial romantic feelings and attraction fade away and they have to rely on familial bonds and family relationships to get them through stormy waters, things break down...
God bless the man and keep him strong through this horrible tragedy.
Sorry for your loss. His payment for what he has done to your daughter will be given to him in due course! Thank you for sharing your story to warn others.
Most definitely!!! Gal 6:7👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Your daughter was very beautiful. May her soul rest in perfect peace. May God console the family and give you the justice that you all rightfully deserve.
I feel for the father 😢. Take heart Sir and may her gentle soul continue to rest in peace Amen.
It's a painful death as the father explains as tears are rolling down his cheeks. So sad to lose such a brilliant daughter. May the Almighty God give you the heart to find peace as you remember your daughter.
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Dear Heavenly Father, please give this father and mother strength, love and guidance🙏🏻
He should’ve been thanking the stars for his phenomenal luck in having a girl like her. What an absolutely gorgeous girl.
This has troubled me since watching it yesterday morning. Nothing anyone can say to you will give you comfort, so I pray that God wraps you in His arms and wipes your tears. It is just heartbreaking.
My heart breaks for her family and friends. She had a such a bright future ahead of her. That’s such a horrible experience. I have been there and it’s devastating when someone you love betrays you. My mental health deteriorated severely and it took years to get over it. I pray God comforts this grieving family and blesses them with the peace that surpasses all understanding. Rest in Paradise 🙏🏽
I'm sorry for your pain. No father (or mother) should have to bury a child. Your daughter had a glorious future mapped out infront and if not for this despicable human being she would be thriving. My sincerest condolences to you and your entire family. May you create a legacy in her memory. Shalom. 💔😔🙏🏾
My heart goes out to this father😢
I hurt to hear of this devastating loss. So sorry Dad, your bright star has gone. Sincere condolences.
It is so painful that she went too far before realizing how uncomfortable her dad felt about her lover and her friend was not a true friend. May her beautiful soul rest in peace. very heartbreaking💔
Dear Mr Oladapo Ogundipe, I am so immensely sorry for your loss. May her beautiful soul rest in peace. Sending you and your wife a tight hug and love. I wish I could take away your pain.
I met an animal recently from Uk on online dating similar to this that was gaslighting me and telling me he is rich and constantly lies and lies. I’m just blessed I was protected and never met him in person but he was evil as well. I feel for this father 😢she was so beautiful and had such a bright future! May she Rest In Peace poor lady
I'm glad you're safe. Becareful of online dating
Narcissism should be taught in schools. Abusive techniques like gaslighting, future faking, love bombing and blackmail should be explained to young people so they can know when they’re being manipulated and seek the right help.
Not having sex before marriage is taught in religion. At least use a condom.
@@jmonie02 Emotional manipulation and financial abuse can happen regardless of whether it’s a sexual relationship.
Herpes can be contracted even if a condom is worn as it is transmitted via skin-to-skin.
@@MissMimimimi They weren't married. he trapped her with herpes first. Once you have herpes, you kind of belong to that person who gave it to you. They weren't married. What I am saying is that to prevent all this drama in this way is to not have sex before marriage. You are the same type that says people can get pregnant with condoms. You are also being manipulative in your reply. i hope you know that.
@@jmonie02You can get STIs even if you’re married, a piece of paper won’t prevent that. Narcissistic people can still have sex with other people and be deceitful even if you are married. This is well documented.
@@jmonie02you sound very young and very ignorant. This was a massively abusive relationship in every way
My heart goes out to the Father. I also lost a son (David) 2015 to suicide he was 21.
Heartbreaking story. You do your best to raise decent kids only for some low life to come and ruin it all. Boyfriend was clearly insecure and incapable of realising its potential and took it out on this poor girl.
Kids gotta be street smart too. You can't be raising perfectly decent kids for them to be abused.. this is my mission when I have kids
I’m so sorry that your beautiful daughter felt there was no other way out for her. God rest her delicate soul 🙏🏾✨
I feel and can relate to your pain, my son took his own life aged 27, 6 years ago. I now work for a charity that supports people bereaved by this very sad and traumatic tragedy. Unfortunately spousal abuse is a common reason for our beloved angels leaving us in this final way. I pray this demonic boy receives some retribution for what he did.
Sending love and light to you heartbroken parents 💔
So sorry that happened to him 😢
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Love to the father! Please don't blame yourself! You are a good dad. God knows the best. Keep her memories alive....... She was such a beauty
I relate to this specific loss all too well. Losing a child is devastating. Losing a child to suicide is unimaginable and indescribable. It’s hard. There’s always so many questions, but they’re no longer here to provide answers. My heart aches for him so much. It’s not a wound time can heal. I miss my daughter always ❤
This is a real father, keep standing keep seeking justice because he will move on to another young lady to destroy.
Rest in Peace. I’m sorry for your loss. So many have died at the hands of narcissists.
Weak people
My condolences to this girls family.
Thank you, Punch, for telling the girl's (and her family's) story since the UK refuse to do anything about the clear abuse that led to a young lady taking her life.
They even refused to investigate the theft of her data and documents. They don't need her alive to follow that trail.
My deepest and most sincere condolences to you and your family 🙏🏾
This was so heartbreaking. She was looking for peace. Beautiful girls out there please protect yourself. It’s exhausting to always have your guard up but there is true evil walking among us. The scariest part is they don’t see any wrong in what they do. It’s very very frightening. If you see 1 red flag don’t ignore it, run.
I used to tell my friend in high school “You’re beautiful and that means you’ll attract people be careful” years later her insecure narcissist husband killed her.
I thought it would never happen to me but I almost ended my own life. My situation is a bit different because it’s online but it’s still mentally draining.
I’m sad to know about his daughter.
People like the guy who abused her, feel worthless without the best brands. BEWARE of such people. That’s why he chose her, because she was the best. RIP Alanis. 👩🏽🦱🇺🇸
If a parent/ parents take just one look at a child's future partner and later tells that child of his/ her misgivings concerning that union, that child had better listen up and move on without that partner.. because, parents always have a very sharply Honned sixth sense when it comes to their kids wellbeign. Rip to her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You showed great courage telling this story. I’d be in pieces. We have to tell our kids constantly (and ask them constantly if they believe it) that no one can ever say something to make us stop loving them.
I’m glad the blackmailing culprits were shown. They’ll pay for it. At the moment they might not think so, but they will.
This is painful
Very sorry for the loss of this woman. My sister ended her life in 2019 but she had been struggling for over 20 years with depression and depressive episodes that went up and down. No matter the good things that came in and out of her life, that depression never left. We still never imagines she would do anything like that but the pain was too much for her. I think that, although the boyfriend and his actions undoubtedly caused a great deal of mental distress to this woman, it is likely that there were other factors also present. Irrespective, suicide is something that leaves families feeling devastated and I have a lot of sympathy for the father.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for your loss and it’s so important to give voice to this tragedy. My daughter is in a similar situation and I feel like the shame and violence has taken her voice. I will not stop trying to reach her.
Omg, so sorry for lost of his beautiful intelligent daughter 🙏🏽 hope the family gets justice
That's why you have to be careful the people you bring into your life. Especially if you just meet someone new do health check and background . Believe me one day it could save your life.
Or the ones who deliberately walk in .... !
I’ve told ppl for yrs to do this
Doctors don't test for herpes as the only blood test is unreliable so many people have it without knowing. Typically you you know you've gotten it from recent partner after 3 days to 2 weeks with an outbreak
I don’t understand why people do this automatically especially if you plan on having sex with someone
Im so sorry for your loss. Your story will surely be a guiding light to my future. Your daughter did not deserve this cruelty. God will vindicate her.
Poor Mr Ogundipe 😢 what a beautiful intelligent woman gone too soon.
Watching from Germany and crying with you. The love you have for your daughter is so profound and so is your pain. Wishing you all the strength in the world to keep going. This is just sad.
Beautiful daughter, condolences to this family! Thanks for sharing your story! 🙏🏽
I am so sorry for your loss, may the Lord comfort you🙏
He looks like a sociopath, dead eyes. The best friend is definitely in on it. Sometimes people get close to you because they envy you. They should both be legally held responsible.
Please God. Give this woman and her family justice.
The devil!! She was so Beautiful and had so much to live for. I wished she would have talked to her dad and told him everything! I have told my 4 kids there is nothing in this world that will ever make me ashamed of them!!!
I’m so sorry she felt she had no other way out. Prayers for the family 🙏🏾
My sincerest condolences to you sir! Your daughter was a beautiful, intelligent smart young lady. I lost a sister to suicide because of a situation like your daughter! Thanks for sharing your story ❤😢
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The love of a father.. Keep telling your daughter story in hopes to warn young women of this man and these type of men out there. Praying for you and her mother strength and comfort in Jesus Mighty Name 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
So sorry for your loss, I was on a delayed train that day infact all service came to a halt the 29th May as you mentioned, we were told there had been a fatality much later with cancellations. Everyone was saddened and some ladies from liverpool and I said a prayer for the family. So sorry for your loss. So so sorry ❤️ what a beautiful child.
Sad when you have a bright light. These evil narcissists or psychopath like to put it out! Sensitive ones. Protect your heart and soul at all cost!
The pain in the father's voice cuts deep.I am so sorry for your loss. May he be comforted in the hands of our Lord Jesus's Christ.❤🥰
Poor man. I hope you find peace sir and may justice prevail
Watching this father’s heartbreak was almost too much. He will never get over this. May she rest in peace 🙏
My deepest condolence. The younger generation is lost to evil. Such a beautiful young lady. Continue to live until you can feel alive again.
That's a powerful word ❤
This was painful to watch. My heart goes out to the family of this beautiful girl. The father was courageous for sharing and making others aware that evil walks amongst us.
Abuse is Real....that's what exactly my husband, the man I truly loved did to me....if I never ran away and sought help plus therapy, I would be dead....! Abuse is Real. Justice for this lady so he doesn't do it to other women. RIP.
So glad to hear you had the strength and the knowledge to get out of a bad relationship in one piece . Stay strong and God Bless You . ❤️🙏🏼