It’s very rare for me to like someone enough to continue speaking to them for more than a week. If I find one, I usually stop looking, not on purpose but it just happens naturally.
Me too. I sometimes think a man is very good, I decide that on my own, and when we talk he's not that person in my mind, like he's a total different person. I get disappointed and can't continue talking to him anymore.
Talking to so many men at the same time is recipe for future disaster. At same time don't forget that by talking to many men at same time you are wasting precious times of 99.9% of those men. The best thing is to fear and trust Allah.
Asc sister Fatima. Wish you all the best from Nairobi. I just wanted to tell you, do a lot of istiqfaar. Just keep repeating astaqfirullaah as much as you can. Allaah will open for you all the door of barakah bi ithnillaahi tacaalaa. May allaah grant success.
The one I gave a chance to and married after 3 months turned out to be bisexual and looking for a green card. This is something that we don’t talk about in the Muslim community and I must speak up.
Anyone that says they’re talk to multiple people at the same time or is taking more than a couple of weeks to make a decision about marriage is not serious. Courting is not a relationship and it’s not dating. If the goal is marriage then conversations should be focused on determining compatibility in values, lifestyle, expectations, etc. There are questionnaires online that can help focus your conversations. It should take you a week or two to make a decision. If it doesn’t work out then move on. Don’t waste anyone else’s time by talking to multiple people or dragging out conversations if you’re not serious.
Nothing to be scared of Fatma. Love is never a bad idea. If the marriage does not go as expected, then at least you tried. You took a shot at love, and it is worth it. That's what you will be showing people.
As a Turkish person i approve this. My plan is max 2 or 3 kids because there's a saying in our culture, " nicelik değil nitelik" which translates to "not quantity but quality" I want to raise good kids that have potential, not too many kids so they can serve me when I'm old or something. That's old way of thinking, we passed that plus raising a child is hard now days due to living conditions and social media that makes raising kids extra hard because you have to be careful of them and watch them so we prefer quality over quantity plus we are already over populated so it's enough
I have seen many people saying that, but it's very .first of all children are not goods where you define by quality and quantity . Second, there are many billioners out there who do not have kids, and they wish God gave them as even as little as children because kids are pleasing from God.
there is so much khayr (goodness) in marriage, I want to stand in front of Allah and say that I got married for him. I see so much Barak Allah through marriage, for example, raising righteous children will be a Sadaqah Jariyah for you after you pass away. I understand the struggle that comes with marriage but looking at the bigger picture so many rewards and lessons come with it. Never underestimate the power of dua, focus on yourself and when you least expect it Allah will bless you with someone. May Allah bless us with a marriage that brings coolness to our eyes and righteous children. Ameen.
I 💯 agree with, it’s a beautiful act of worship…it’s just like you said the struggles that come with it… but we are Muslims and we are hopeful In Sha Allah, He will grant good spouses 🤲🏾. Thank you 💕
I love how you do your videos now. They are so relateable. I wish there was a way to be connected to you through Snapchat or something. I wanna be friends❤. I made that mistake of talking to 1 guy for over 6 months & had hopes b/c I liked talking to him. I made that mistake 2 times 😂. I had too much loyalty for a situation-ship. Don’t waste that much time otherwise you’ll be in your 30s like me still unmarried. Within a month if they don’t do anything, boy bye. Onto the next option. Start from 18 and have OPTIONS like Fatma said. Remember ladies you’re single till marriage.
Hey sis, I have IG same name (fatma odyssey) hit me up I will follow you back. Thank you 💕 True that 😭, thank you for sharing your experience and input 💕
😂kumbe tuko wengi. this good heartedness and understanding girlfriend business has led us here but anyways life is not a straight line and we have to enjoy the curves of this rollercoaster. im a school teacher and it gives me so much joy when those kids mostly from broken and dysfunctional homes run to hi5 me when the schools open. In the end all that matters is working on ourselves, impacting others positively and most importantly living in gratitude for what we have or don't have. hii dunia na opinions za watu tutaziacha huku tu. as someone in the comments said this advice can be a double edge sword so i don't think you should regret anything. we'll be fine,one day at a time.
Fatima, MashaAllah you're so funny.... 😂 May Allah bless you with a kind, principled, loving man who fills your life with love, and may you also have love for him. Be optimistic about what Allah can give you, I know it's easy to be sinical but your dua will not be fully fulfilled until you believe in Gods abundance.
I think the problem now with having kids is that its just not as affordable anymore. Back then especially in poor countries, raising kids was pretty cheap so people could have max 6-10 kids, as not all of them would go to school and would help in the family business or take care of their elderly parents. Now the economy is changing and even people with graduate degrees struggle to find jobs. And even if they do, they don't have time to raise as many kids of their own. On top of that as you said there are people who opt to go childfree, and now we're seeing they have more stable lives and are happier, tho some struggle with loneliness. Though I've only watched a few of ur vids, I think you would be a great wife and mother! Inshallah may Allah bless you with happiness :)
It depends on your strength, this affects your stress levels in your life, I’m a strong woman insha Allah, married at the age of 19, I’m now 38 with 5 children and 2 jobs as a Registered Nurse. Yes we have our challenges but there is so much joy in it too. Sometimes you get lucky but sometimes you have to work with what you have, it’s never a 100%. May Allah open the doors for you and provide you with the right one. I feel like the right one is always right in front of you 😊
Wa alaykum sallam babygurl I love your in depth sit downs and also love outside Fatma. Keep us on our toes by switching it up in sha Allah. Also maybe ask the viewers what topics they'd be interested in you covering about love, relationships and marriage. Personally, Id love to hear your views on the 5 love languages and the attachment styles in relationships. Maybe as your audience grows you can cover a topic and have a panel of online guests from your subscribers . As to the subject matter at hand, ive always preferred the one man approach. The thought of speaking to multiples and mixing emotions never sat well with me. I cant be serious with several men because i dont have that bandwidth. The caveat is to give it a time limit and keep it halal. Just throwing it out there but would you ever consider chronicling your journey on a halal marriage app? There is a woman that was in her late 50/60s that did this with the intent of finding a husband and I found it really interesting to follow her along. I cant imagine im the only one who would follow you along if you decided to make it a series. She never mentioned the men's names or insulted them just spoke about her interactions and the lessons she learned along the way . I cant imagine it not being a hit on YT.
Thank you Idyll, I really love your in put Allahumma barik. For sure I will keep you guys on your toes. I also enjoy the sit downs because I love sharing my thoughts 🤗. Same gurl, same I was really struggling getting to know multiple men at the Samar time. But I agree in the last part, very IMPORTANT. Honestly, I tried two marriage apps but it didn’t work 😭🤣🤣 I gave up wallahy. I don’t even wanna hear those apps, let me meet that man on the outside 😭😭. But we will see, unless I find an interesting app…the ones out here are 😭. I should start my own app 🤭. Thank you gurl. Love you 💕
Hello, thank you sister for the video. I think this is very instructive to hear your life lessons from a younger listeners perspective. May allah bless you and give you easy.
I disagree, focus on one person at a time, for both men and women. Multiple persons complicate your decisions. Plus nowadays, Muslim court for too long, you would definitely know with thorough background checks if this person is the one you want to settle down with.
Please don't encourage talking to more than one person, trust and commitment is very important for marriage. I think the best thing is not to waste time on making decisions.
We love your videos but the thing with the like 👍🏾 is it saves the video. And tbh I’m here studying or learning so why is there a need for me to rewatch your videos. RUclips needs to sort this issue out or I think that’s how they want it. But I could like a video without saving it I’d Difinitly like yours 👍🏾 👍🏾
I want to know what's your pet peeves, bestie! Also, when did you reach to the point of feeling enough thinking you don't need a man to be happy. And what do you do when you have upset and downs? I think it's smart not to tell a man what we like to see but to tell them what we don't like to stay away from otherwise they might just fake it. In general I don't like guys who lie or act arrogant or act hot and cold and I like men who is honest and straight forward with their feelings and those involved in the community and helping others but not totally consumed by that to the point that I don't feel a priority to them anymore.
this is soo real Masha Allah i made this mistake wasting time with Men and they didnt marry me smh . learn to never do that again im 44 years old now and not married
We have different personalities so stop comparing yourself to others , some people get bored easily so date a lot , these are the ones who will get married and divorced many times if they are not careful , someone like me with strong instincts knows almost immeadiately so there is no right or wrong way to date , I talk to multiple only for a few days because you can’t fake a true connection.
You didn't waste your time, talking to many people while dating other men is disrespect, you were just unlucky. Serious men don't entertain games, just be honest and trust your instincts.
"Talking to one guy at a time was a mistake".. Unfourtnately I did the same mistake 🤷....Stop telling people especially women to "lower their standards"
Sister you're beautiful you need to marry black people especially my African people need to take time to understand the holy Quran and the holy Bible some of the black ladies miss their perfect man all the name of religion religion and tribalism is killing us in Africa
Talking to one guy at a time when dating is a mistake. Neither person is exclusive, so there is no reason to act exclusive. Especially if the other person determines they are not interested after dating you or vice versa. Dating is supposed to be to meet and get to know different people to find a suitable partner. Dating doesn't mean you are in a relationship.
It’s very rare for me to like someone enough to continue speaking to them for more than a week. If I find one, I usually stop looking, not on purpose but it just happens naturally.
Me too. I sometimes think a man is very good, I decide that on my own, and when we talk he's not that person in my mind, like he's a total different person. I get disappointed and can't continue talking to him anymore.
Talking to so many men at the same time is recipe for future disaster.
At same time don't forget that by talking to many men at same time you are wasting precious times of 99.9% of those men.
The best thing is to fear and trust Allah.
nonsense lol Please exercise your options and vet these men fully before deciding who to spend your life with
Asc sister Fatima. Wish you all the best from Nairobi. I just wanted to tell you, do a lot of istiqfaar. Just keep repeating astaqfirullaah as much as you can. Allaah will open for you all the door of barakah bi ithnillaahi tacaalaa. May allaah grant success.
Ameen my sister. Thank you 💕
The one I gave a chance to and married after 3 months turned out to be bisexual and looking for a green card. This is something that we don’t talk about in the Muslim community and I must speak up.
I feel you,,, and it happenes that gay Muslim men take advantage of sisters who want to get married and have family
@@catcoffee7958absolutely, it’s sickening
It is happening out here, and it does need to be said.
Marriage is a sacred union and women have been given a Wali so that he can do a background check on the man because men know each other well.
what do you mean, is he having sex with men or what?
In life, everything gona be hard. Choose your hard. Single life is hard, Marriage is hard.
Anyone that says they’re talk to multiple people at the same time or is taking more than a couple of weeks to make a decision about marriage is not serious. Courting is not a relationship and it’s not dating. If the goal is marriage then conversations should be focused on determining compatibility in values, lifestyle, expectations, etc. There are questionnaires online that can help focus your conversations. It should take you a week or two to make a decision. If it doesn’t work out then move on. Don’t waste anyone else’s time by talking to multiple people or dragging out conversations if you’re not serious.
Right
Nothing to be scared of Fatma. Love is never a bad idea. If the marriage does not go as expected, then at least you tried. You took a shot at love, and it is worth it. That's what you will be showing people.
Money is a problem for us women. We love that thing too much😅
🤭😎
As a Turkish person i approve this. My plan is max 2 or 3 kids because there's a saying in our culture, " nicelik değil nitelik" which translates to "not quantity but quality" I want to raise good kids that have potential, not too many kids so they can serve me when I'm old or something. That's old way of thinking, we passed that plus raising a child is hard now days due to living conditions and social media that makes raising kids extra hard because you have to be careful of them and watch them so we prefer quality over quantity plus we are already over populated so it's enough
I have seen many people saying that, but it's very .first of all children are not goods where you define by quality and quantity .
Second, there are many billioners out there who do not have kids, and they wish God gave them as even as little as children because kids are pleasing from God.
@@abdullahiabdi1332I’ve seen plenty of people that raised their kids poorly & they died alone, unfortunately.
Maasha allah
I enjoy these sit downs as well! Love to see your honest, humorous and sassy sides, Masha Allah! 😂❤
🤭🤣 thank you sis 😘💕
I love your sit down videos more they are always spot on with alot of knowledge to gain,thank you.
Thank you 💕💕💕
there is so much khayr (goodness) in marriage, I want to stand in front of Allah and say that I got married for him. I see so much Barak Allah through marriage, for example, raising righteous children will be a Sadaqah Jariyah for you after you pass away. I understand the struggle that comes with marriage but looking at the bigger picture so many rewards and lessons come with it.
Never underestimate the power of dua, focus on yourself and when you least expect it Allah will bless you with someone.
May Allah bless us with a marriage that brings coolness to our eyes and righteous children. Ameen.
I 💯 agree with, it’s a beautiful act of worship…it’s just like you said the struggles that come with it… but we are Muslims and we are hopeful In Sha Allah, He will grant good spouses 🤲🏾.
Thank you 💕
I love how you do your videos now. They are so relateable. I wish there was a way to be connected to you through Snapchat or something. I wanna be friends❤.
I made that mistake of talking to 1 guy for over 6 months & had hopes b/c I liked talking to him. I made that mistake 2 times 😂. I had too much loyalty for a situation-ship. Don’t waste that much time otherwise you’ll be in your 30s like me still unmarried. Within a month if they don’t do anything, boy bye. Onto the next option. Start from 18 and have OPTIONS like Fatma said. Remember ladies you’re single till marriage.
Hey sis, I have IG same name (fatma odyssey) hit me up I will follow you back. Thank you 💕
True that 😭, thank you for sharing your experience and input 💕
😂kumbe tuko wengi. this good heartedness and understanding girlfriend business has led us here but anyways life is not a straight line and we have to enjoy the curves of this rollercoaster. im a school teacher and it gives me so much joy when those kids mostly from broken and dysfunctional homes run to hi5 me when the schools open. In the end all that matters is working on ourselves, impacting others positively and most importantly living in gratitude for what we have or don't have. hii dunia na opinions za watu tutaziacha huku tu. as someone in the comments said this advice can be a double edge sword so i don't think you should regret anything. we'll be fine,one day at a time.
Ushasem 🤗….thank you teacher 🥳🥳🥳
I am so inspired by you. You just seem so selfless. Please make long vlogs 🎉
No disrespect marriage is a beautiful thing just pray to Allah that you don't end up with the wrong person.. That's just my personal opinion.
May Allah allow us to experience the beautiful part🤲🏾🤲🏾 😭😭😭.
Thank you 💕
Amin naa yah Allah. We need to have strong faith and complete trust in Allah. You're very welcome.
same, get to know more and than choose, there is more options nowadays alhamdolilah
Fatima youre crazy please lollll love you sis! May Allah give you the best, Ameen
Amen sis, to all of us 💕💕
Tunakupenda sana Fatma, so much wisdom in your words. The adventure of finding A-Z begins😅
🤣🤣🤣 let’s goooo 💃🏾💃🏾🥳
Asante💕
I have aTurkish male neighbour and he told me think twice before you have children....he was so stressed on that day 😂
Noma sana
Fatima, MashaAllah you're so funny.... 😂 May Allah bless you with a kind, principled, loving man who fills your life with love, and may you also have love for him. Be optimistic about what Allah can give you, I know it's easy to be sinical but your dua will not be fully fulfilled until you believe in Gods abundance.
Thank you so much, for sure in Sha Allah may Allah grant us singles good spouses 🤲🏾💕
MaashaaAllah ua videos r very educative❤
Am glad 🫠
I have missed you Odyssey.
I think the problem now with having kids is that its just not as affordable anymore. Back then especially in poor countries, raising kids was pretty cheap so people could have max 6-10 kids, as not all of them would go to school and would help in the family business or take care of their elderly parents.
Now the economy is changing and even people with graduate degrees struggle to find jobs. And even if they do, they don't have time to raise as many kids of their own. On top of that as you said there are people who opt to go childfree, and now we're seeing they have more stable lives and are happier, tho some struggle with loneliness.
Though I've only watched a few of ur vids, I think you would be a great wife and mother! Inshallah may Allah bless you with happiness :)
Allah akurahisishie wewe na Kila Muislamu Aamin
Ameen
It depends on your strength, this affects your stress levels in your life, I’m a strong woman insha Allah, married at the age of 19, I’m now 38 with 5 children and 2 jobs as a Registered Nurse. Yes we have our challenges but there is so much joy in it too. Sometimes you get lucky but sometimes you have to work with what you have, it’s never a 100%. May Allah open the doors for you and provide you with the right one. I feel like the right one is always right in front of you 😊
Allahumma barik and Ameeen 💕
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Thank you so much ❤❤❤
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Wa alaykum sallam babygurl
I love your in depth sit downs and also love outside Fatma. Keep us on our toes by switching it up in sha Allah. Also maybe ask the viewers what topics they'd be interested in you covering about love, relationships and marriage. Personally, Id love to hear your views on the 5 love languages and the attachment styles in relationships. Maybe as your audience grows you can cover a topic and have a panel of online guests from your subscribers .
As to the subject matter at hand, ive always preferred the one man approach. The thought of speaking to multiples and mixing emotions never sat well with me. I cant be serious with several men because i dont have that bandwidth. The caveat is to give it a time limit and keep it halal.
Just throwing it out there but would you ever consider chronicling your journey on a halal marriage app? There is a woman that was in her late 50/60s that did this with the intent of finding a husband and I found it really interesting to follow her along. I cant imagine im the only one who would follow you along if you decided to make it a series. She never mentioned the men's names or insulted them just spoke about her interactions and the lessons she learned along the way . I cant imagine it not being a hit on YT.
Thank you Idyll, I really love your in put Allahumma barik. For sure I will keep you guys on your toes. I also enjoy the sit downs because I love sharing my thoughts 🤗.
Same gurl, same I was really struggling getting to know multiple men at the Samar time. But I agree in the last part, very IMPORTANT.
Honestly, I tried two marriage apps but it didn’t work 😭🤣🤣 I gave up wallahy. I don’t even wanna hear those apps, let me meet that man on the outside 😭😭.
But we will see, unless I find an interesting app…the ones out here are 😭. I should start my own app 🤭.
Thank you gurl. Love you 💕
Hello, thank you sister for the video. I think this is very instructive to hear your life lessons from a younger listeners perspective. May allah bless you and give you easy.
I disagree, focus on one person at a time, for both men and women. Multiple persons complicate your decisions. Plus nowadays, Muslim court for too long, you would definitely know with thorough background checks if this person is the one you want to settle down with.
You never know truly to be honest which is what scares me.
I agree, you waste time courting for too long, not focusing on just one person.
Am still waiting for the one written for me
Very true
But what if it consumes too much time by focusing only on one person 🤔
If you stand for selectivity,then, you probably loss everything.
Please don't encourage talking to more than one person, trust and commitment is very important for marriage. I think the best thing is not to waste time on making decisions.
Thank you. I agree with you on the last part…but I still stand on getting to know more than one person 🤗.
Longer videos please ❤
😭😭😭 thank you 💕
Yangu sioni super thanx
It's there next next to Share Remix then Thanks with a heart shape.
We love your videos but the thing with the like 👍🏾 is it saves the video.
And tbh I’m here studying or learning so why is there a need for me to rewatch your videos.
RUclips needs to sort this issue out or I think that’s how they want it. But I could like a video without saving it I’d Difinitly like yours 👍🏾 👍🏾
I didn’t know if you like a video it saves 🤔 thank you so much Mohammed, I still appreciate your support 💕
Where is the best place to buy cheaper, nice luggage in Istanbul?
I want to know what's your pet peeves, bestie! Also, when did you reach to the point of feeling enough thinking you don't need a man to be happy. And what do you do when you have upset and downs?
I think it's smart not to tell a man what we like to see but to tell them what we don't like to stay away from otherwise they might just fake it.
In general I don't like guys who lie or act arrogant or act hot and cold and I like men who is honest and straight forward with their feelings and those involved in the community and helping others but not totally consumed by that to the point that I don't feel a priority to them anymore.
What is the name of the book she recomended please ?
From this video it's become clear to me now why you have to got married.
Make a list, you won't able to find all the characteristics you wanted, but if he has at least 80-90% of them, than take him I guess.
When Fatma says maybe you want to marry someone who is already married😂 she means us married guys don't have a chance of getting her😢
Sister dont overthink it ,just think what is important to you and توكل ع الله❤❤❤
I am a woman, I must overthink 😎
this is soo real Masha Allah i made this mistake wasting time with Men and they didnt marry me smh . learn to never do that again im 44 years old now and not married
Where are you@aminah761
44yrs old is too young of you
@@yaqubabdi9532 my age
@@yaqubabdi9532niyada ayad udhise maho
@yaqubabdi9532 44 years is almost mid life. Before you know it you are middle aged.
My mom told me to talk to multiple men at the same time and not get emotionally attached until I made a choice. I didn’t listen to her 😂
My mum Don the opposite,,,, I didn't meet or know any man until 29,,,lack of experience made men play with me,, now at 41 I leaned the hard way.
😭🤣🤣 I hope you learnt now 🤭
You look very good for 38
Masha Allah. Thank you 💕
11:55 Keep your personal life private. That is my advice.
Marriage is what brings comfort when the children are exhausting you lol.
Thanks
Thank you so much for the super thanks 💕💕💕.
Fatma still looking for Mr Right
Because she's talking to too many men 😂
And she can get her mr right 😎💅🏿
Yes and no. Pick options then filter then focus on one
I will talk to one
We have different personalities so stop comparing yourself to others , some people get bored easily so date a lot , these are the ones who will get married and divorced many times if they are not careful , someone like me with strong instincts knows almost immeadiately so there is no right or wrong way to date , I talk to multiple only for a few days because you can’t fake a true connection.
😂😂😂😂 its baaaaad
Ur Niçe may Allah Guide u and all of us
Ameen
You didn't waste your time, talking to many people while dating other men is disrespect, you were just unlucky. Serious men don't entertain games, just be honest and trust your instincts.
you got a point
Marriage is half of your religion.
one person at a time is much better, but you have to give a time limit, after 3 months you have to either get married or move on..
Oh 💯💯 very important
Thank you Sara 💕
Fàtma ...
"Talking to one guy at a time was a mistake"..
Unfourtnately I did the same mistake 🤷....Stop telling people especially women to "lower their standards"
Sister you're beautiful you need to marry black people especially my African people need to take time to understand the holy Quran and the holy Bible some of the black ladies miss their perfect man all the name of religion religion and tribalism is killing us in Africa
Talking to one guy at a time when dating is a mistake. Neither person is exclusive, so there is no reason to act exclusive. Especially if the other person determines they are not interested after dating you or vice versa. Dating is supposed to be to meet and get to know different people to find a suitable partner. Dating doesn't mean you are in a relationship.
Date outside your race and you don’t have to worry about meher.
Every Muslim no matter what race has mehr
I have missed you Odyssey.
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