+Lucifer Morningstar So a person's life has no meaning if they don't have offspring? I disagree and there are plenty of other humans having offspring. Personally, it's just not for me.
+Lucifer Morningstar That is fine for the majority but my life is more about having a good time. See as many bands as I can, read as many books as I can and climb as many hills as I can and leave nothing behind. I do not even want a headstone. It will be like I was never here.
I agree that the phrase is not realistic but everyone doesn't necessarily change for the worst and people don't change to become a completely different person to who they really are.
I murdered the right one a long time ago so that I'd never have to admit to having met her. (I'm kidding- the honest statement is that she never existed). Single and happy!
@Shorty I agree with that, people tend to change no matter what the circumstanceand it's true women have divorce and family courts in their back pocket, if they want equality give that shit up.
My friend is going to be married this fall. I asked him why? And he was like why not? Everyone is doing it but it's really stupid unless he's big religious christian which he's not. It's really just about stupid expensive paper nothing more nothing less. Do I need a paper to be friend with someone? I know people were marrying for centuries but now it just feel like wasted time, money.
@@alexandersebela370 every woman knows in her heart that when you marry her she gets enormous security in multiple ways including but not limited to financial, social. She will never consciously think about it that way nor will she ever let you think that way. And if you do think that way she would probably either leave you or convince you to get married
Exactly and for that reason alone I urge everyone to steer clear of marriage. When assets bought before a relationship has even started to get included as marital assets there is something wrong with that industry.
Then don't get married, but how can you back up what you say without having been married? Answer, you cannot, so you make things up like a little child.
@@jimgallagher5902 Maybe you should READ what the person said. "EVERYONE: being married sucks" Meaning EVERYONE who is married is telling him "it sucks! never get married" A wise man learns from his mistakes, a wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. Now as for me, i've been through two major relationships (7 and 10 years) most marriages don't even last 7 years, so when I say marriage sucks I speak from a position of experience. I can tell though that you are the type of person who will just reply with some lame attempt at an insult cause you really have no point to make, just wanted to point out the flaw in your logic, or lack there of.
Bad Ass usually the women are happier than the men because they have one dude on lock down and can use his money. Men are way more miserable because they are in bondage. Why any man would agree to get married is fucking beyond me.
My dog (my grandmother's dog, but I visited every Sunday, so it was like having my own dog) passed away over a decade ago. So good luck getting my dog, divorce lawyers. God isn't gonna just let lawyers take dogs out of Heaven, lol.
Jordan Peterson explained it well, marriage puts a limit mark, a fencing around you and your partner. Its why the ring is oval an you say vows Marriage is suppose to mean "I am not leaving no matter what" Its too easy to pack your bags when you are just living with someone, not the same when you are married. Money aside. People these days are too quick to quit or look for a more "fun life" specially women.
@@btf1287 Make laws favorable to men and then we will talk. Your stupid emotional manipulation along with that tradcon jordan peterson doesn't mean anything
I'm single and content, but so many of my friends are either married and miserable or in a relationship and miserable. I have few friends and happy relationships.
My step dad got divorced recently he lost all his children, has to pay thousands of dollars in court and lawyer fees and is going through depression, Marriage doesn't sound so fun to me.
No, FAILED marriage doesn't sound fair to you. Since you've not even TRIED marriage you have no right or even ability to write intelligently and factually about marriage.
You are right, it isn't fun. But more importantly, why was he divorced? Did an angel come down from heaven and serve him with divorce papers, or did he maybe have some responsibility for the divorce?
And that happeneed how, Jefe? He did NOTHING to cause the divorce? Yep, he did, and that is the part you won't disclose as it would make the divorce seem the right thing to do.
Can u stfu for a minute holy shit, Are you just triggered that the “dumb” People and the “cunts” are the ones who ACTUALLY do experiences. THEY are the ones working on Marriages, Sex, And etc. So don’t complain that you can never be able to get any Dogshit with ur “nopes”
@@jimgallagher5902 why don't you put up a picture of yourself Jim and let us all see your ugly face. You hide behind a keyboard. And you obviously have a lot of time on your hands. You sound like you have issues. Because most people don't go on youtube to write comments antagonising others. They have better things to do
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@@jimgallagher5902 those studies are bought and paid for by the money making divorce industry. But hey if you want to commit financial suicide go right ahead. I like my 3 houses 3 cars and freedom.
This is a brilliant insight, and I wish I could "like" it more than once. Most relationships are an easy way to gain validation for our imperfections and buffer us from the painstaking effort of knowing we aren't all that special and that most of our attitudes suck and need improvement.
I don't understand the point of marriage. if you love the person then just spend the rest of your life with them. You don't have to spend 5-10k on a wedding. You can get married without officially getting married. If you want you can buy the rings as a symbol of your love.
Right a signed piece of paper documented record contract is not a symbol of love. Love is love itself and thats it. So thats what i would say if someone proposed to me. SO if you love me we can still be together we don't need to be married.
You're signing to sustain your wife, kids and new husband once she decides you "don't cover her emotional needs" when you come back from your 12hr job.
Agree. Marriage has also been called a 'social safety net' after a certain age, and I do think that's right and a major factor in people's decision to marry, if not a subconscious one.
in my country, people get married and have kids so that when they get old they would have a "life insurance/caregiver".. they treat their children like they are their insurance or caregiver. "hey you should chose us your parents, your lover can be replaced, but you cant replace us, we are the ones who replaced you, so the money you are saving for your future, just give it to us help us pay the bills and pay for our medical bills, don't save"
If being married and having children makes you happy then DO IT. If living the single life makes you happy then DO IT. Bottomline everyone has the right to live whatever way they wanna live it. Different things makes different people happy and NO ONE is in position to judge how someone else should live their lives if it makes them happy.
Fatal Wreck Exactly. If you're feeling like you're being enslaved if you get married than don't do it. If you love someone so much you would do anything for them do it(yes there is a chance you might divorce or she might cheat on you but that's true commitment). Why is this so complicated for everyone?
There is noone that is not made more happy by being loved and accepted. And feeling secure in that they will continue to be loved an accepted, even if feelings change.
Do it if you want. But be educated on the pitfalls of divorce for men. So many people get married for terribly naive reasons and thus the divorce rate is around 55-60%. Of that number around 70% of divorces are initiated by women. And they'll take half your shit, the house etc etc If you get married, the odds are THIS WILL happen. And this is why I will never marry.
Most people in relationships are not whole with themselves. If two people are whole with one another and are able to be fine with being alone, trusting, focusing on the good,to be aware of how things are, and trying to improve on the bad in the relationship together. Then there shouldn't ever need to be conflict in the relationship. It should just be happy times without the need to find someone so called "better".
Marriage should be decentralized and community centered. The government shouldn't get involved AT ALL with people's personal lives. That means, no alimony, or child support, or welfare checks if you get divorced. There should be NO inherent incentive to get divorced.
Well, thanks to that sort of info as well as knowledge of the MGTOW guys who have been run through the grinder, we have the choice to.... Be 💲MART! ! ✌️☮️
Don't lose hope. My father abandoned my family for some harlot. But I haven't lost hope in Marriage, it depends on who else in your life you should look to. Most religious people I have met have healthy marriages you could look to them. Statistically speaking we are at both at a disadvantage cause neither of us had great examples but then we should look to others for this. Another thing I have heard is that it is best to marry young so that A your less set in your ways and B You'll be more likely to listen to elders advice on marriage than if your older and more likely to think you got it.
I experienced it with my parents too; they are incompatible with each other. They stayed together “because of the kids” and pride. I never wanna relive that.
Hilarious and sad at the same time. This should be repeated many times over as the other rosy trope is usually bandied about. "Arranged and they ended up oh, so happy." BS.
23 years here, We've been through ups and downs in that time, But stuck together, Some of the other couples we have known getting married was the beginning of the end.
I think marriages just like yours are wonderful… And I think we do as humans need companionship. I think the issue is that nowadays there’s so much challenging the institution that it’s hard to find what you had. People are constantly moving onto the next thing with dating apps that are in their phones, they get divorced the second something goes wrong, and there’s been institutional imbalances with women and men and things like divorce. I think the question is how can we find companionship without all of the modern day headaches? Because as humans we need companionship like what you had :-)
Thank you for sharing. I'm looking forward to being married, it's something I definitely want to do. I watched this video so I could see a different perspective and enter the union armed with more than the fantasy that is usually portrayed. Sharing your life with someone and growing with them is a beautiful thing. Nothing beats life-long friendships, and marriage is probably the life-iest long-iest one there is. Lol why are all these other people so bitter about it? Why are single, never been married bitter about it? I suppose going into anything with the wrong/unreasonable expectations will always result in unhappiness.
Man: "I will never get married" People: "Good for ya bro! Sameeee!!!" Woman: "I will never get married" People: "wAit uNtiL yOU tUrN 30 dEAR. yOu'LL rEgrET iT" Lmao. I turn 38 this year and it's been the happiest time in my life. I've traveled around the world, single, childless.
old memes are cool So.. not marrying is setting yourself up for failure. Meaning that marriage is indeed nothing more than a ball and chain. Literally.
Why do we associate reckless behavior as "romantic"? Is it more "romantic" to sleep with someone without protection and end up pregnant when nobody wants that? It's non sense to glorify stupidity. "We're gonna love each other forever!" No, you fucking won't. It's like saying "I'm gonna win the lottery!" Sure.
Marriage "survived" because of our culture: movies showing happy couples, magazines and TV saying that you can only find fulfilment that way. Seriously, kids, if you find someone you really "love", don't get married. Just date, go out and so forth. Marriage is hell.
yes it's state recognition but for my husband and me, it's been far more than that. We view marriage in a spiritual sense so marriage is sacred. Our faith binds our marriage and there's so much meaning to it and that's why my married life has been bliss.
So would it have still been bliss had you gone through the ceremony, proclaimed your vows before church and god, and not signed the legal state document which is secular and has nothing to do with faith and spirituality?
I'd actually beg to differ. Recently I was listening to a psychology podcast about how a guy figured out that when we limit our choices we become more satisfied with the choice that we do make. Marriage is that limiter. The scientist who came up with this even put it to the test and married the woman he was living with for years and is much happier than before. Of course, it does come down to the relationship. I hope things can improve for you
In my entire 20s, I was never single...I was first in a relationship and then eventually got married. It wasn't a bad one, but it didn't work. The divorce was painful and for a brief while after that, there was terrible loneliness and existential dread. Fast forward a few months, and I feel I have grown more as a person than I ever did being in a partnership. Yes, you do learn things like patience, tolerance and cooperation in a marriage. But that's only because those traits work for the marriage. Being single, however, teaches you far more important lessons such as resilience, introspection, strength and is a fantastic tool for spiritual growth.
Maybe you could help me out then I feel nothing but anger and resentment to my ex and its been more than half a year now yet I still sometimes feel like complete shit... I remember the times I had with her and how she's now with the guy that she literally straight up replaced me with and I just start boiling from anger I don't even care about her, I would never even want to be with her again but for some fucking reason I can't let go of the betrayal that I feel...
@@NakedAvanger Betrayal was what shook my marriage too. But I never felt angry because in my heart, I always believed that I was in no way less than the woman who replaced me. When you feel you are in no way lacking compared to any other person, you slowly allow strength and healing to enter. This might not come about overnight. But try visualization in a calm frame of mind. Project your own completeness, regardless of anyone's action or attitude. And more importantly, even if you do not feel it strongly at the moment, mentally affirm, "I forgive this person, and I choose to move on. I have a better life with better people and better experiences waiting for me. So I am going ahead with my journey." Forgiving and projecting kindness on the ones who hurt us is the greatest tool there is to feel incredibly empowered. You got this and you can do it! Although my post says 'a few months', it took me a year and a half to even be able to function. It takes time. Be gentle with yourself.
@@NakedAvanger The truth is Whiskey, people often have mixed desires and intentions, It can be hard to know what to want and what to do, this is why there is so much overlap between being with someone, and being with someone else, It ain't nice for the person left behind, but it is an understandable conundrum, It can also be hard to know if what you feel is resentment from the fact that you were replaced, or the fact that you were left, at the end of the day though, they are really the same thing. You cant blame someone for not wanting to be with you anymore, nor can you blame someone for promising you forever, for they really believed it at the time, these things are often learned in hindsight. But there is something that I do know that is often learned later in life, Love changes, the thing you thought was love at the start fades, you become the same person, their body is your body, and with that the attraction leaves. What is left over, determines whether or not you really were in love with each other in the first place. You can still love her, but you cant be in love with her.
What I got: Marriages will make it harder for you to get away from weak-willed, highly indebted, naturally flighty individuals. ...and this is a GOOD thing???
Ah, so it's your worldview of "humanity is cruddy" that prompts this. I disagree and can think of several examples of long lasting relationships w/o marriage that degradates this line of argument (David Letterman for starters). However any other "institution" that has a 50%+ level of failure with such devastating results for those involved would doubtlessly have been raided by the FBI and closed for business by now.
I was quoting that statist myself until recently. Divorce (at least in the US) is actually closer to only 1 out of every 4 marriages. As for the making it hard to leave bit, I kind of view it as school. It is probably going to be stressful and we'll want to quit at different points but that doesn't make it bad. It just makes it a difficult thing that, if approached right, can be very good and maturing for us.
I get that Dallas. I see that view point and have considered it in the past, but I can't come around to it. Not given the immense strain divorce inherently puts on most people. That's not even to mention BAD marriages (think spousal abuse) that continue because of expected behavior. As a kid, I had a friend, who's step-dad was abusive to her kids (my friend), openly cheated on her, but she didn't divorce because, in her estimation, "it wasn't what God wanted". With regards to the divorce rate, we could spend long hours into the night discussing the merits or lack there of of various methods, but while 21-22% of those who've EVER divorced (not including married/divorced in multiples which is statistically higher) I do go by the cohort measure rate (which can itself be picked apart 100 which ways) which takes trends and applies them to today. Quoting the Univ of Denver's Scott Stanley "It represents a sophisticated projection of a calculated risk, much like projected life span for babies born today" Heck, if you really want you can take the refined divorce rate (marriages ending in divorce within a given year) then it's only 1.9%. But I'll be fair and make a small retraction as that rate has fallen in the last several years to 40-50%.
"Can be" and "Is generally" are two entirely different ideas. Human nature can be incredibly dark and depraved. Human nature is generally well-intentioned and forward moving.
The usual editing morons make to make others think they're smart when they are not. BTW: Schopenhauer never married but had a relationship with Caroline Richter. I guess even he needed a woman.
I disagree with this video, people who need marriage to be faithful and a good partner need to take a long hard look at themselves, not tie themselves to another person and set themselves up for failure. They deserve the costly process of divorcing.
Most people will marry cuz they think they have found the right person & that they love that person so much that he want to commit himself or herself to the person for good so probably its an unconscious will, but when things turn bad it doesn't mean that they are bad persons or evil or that they 'deserve' costly divorce or whatever ... anyway I believe that marriage still here today cuz it's our very pure human nature ... marriage is & has always been the cornerstone of human existance ... though I don't think I'll ever get married ;)
+ahmed said I disagree that marriage is a cornerstone, historically it has been important to control reproduction and females and to regulate exchanges and relationships between groups. Only in the past century has the character of marriage changed, now the only reason is supposedly love, but I don't consider marriage a demonstration of love, I think that idea is absurd, love isn't demonstrated through marriage in my opinion. If you love someone, you should just be with that person and share your life. I don't consider marriage necessary for that.
+T3MP0 You dont need marriage to demonstrate love ... no you dont in most cases I agree with you ... however, WE as a society do need marriage, you see when I said marriage is a cornerstone I meant that A family which is a result of marriage is the very basic unit in any civilized society that without it things could get pretty chaotic & unstructured in a way. this is why I'm seeing that marriage & family in the way we know it is the cornerstone of our existance.
Yes, family is a building block of any society. BUT, different cultures have different ideas of what marriage implies, and even, of what a family means. Our western culture nowadays doesn't necessarily need people to be married to be a family. That's why I think marriage is obsolete, the ceremony, the tying yourself to another human being forever, the money spent on it, the hardships of divorcing, all of that stuff is not necessary. We don't need to get married. Families we need, marriages we don't. I don't mind things being "unstructured", they are the sign that things are changing. When the structures you are used to living in change, you are obviously going to feel they are chaotic. But I think it's positive that marriage is being revealed as to what it is: a fraud intended to take all of your money away and bring you a shitload of problems that are not necessary to have. Sure it can give you happiness, but so can being with the person you love without being married. I just like to think about how easier would lots of lives be if people could just separate themselves when they can no longer be together. This, of course, if you don't have children. If you have children getting married is necessary because it is a sign of compromise and that you are committed to be under judicial scrutiny if you don't care about your children.
I feel like at the beginning of a relationship you’re fully fascinated about each other. That fascination stems from love. However, as time goes on you get married and start living together. You’re always around each other when not working and you both seem to know most things about each other. So friction starts to occur because most people are addicted to being fascinated and forever lusting a person. This cannot realistically continue for long periods of time especially in a marriage. So people start to complain about each other. It doesn’t mean the couple doesn’t love each other however a lot of the novelty of the relationship has been completed. Another example of this type of relationship is between your parents. You love them dearly but you can’t stand being around them 24/7. You’d rather contact or see them on a time that suits you.
the idea is that that complaining period you describe (called the power struggle stage by psychotherapists) is eventually resolved when you learn to love the person for who they are without trying to change them, and they accept you without trying to change you. Then you enter a period of stability and the relationship improves from then on. But many couples can't move past the power struggle stage either because they are fundamentally incompatible or because they give up too soon or because they don't understand these stages and how to ask for help.
While I think the video has a valid point, I think it glosses over that people who already make good decisions and are not impulsive still get married. My first marriage was a disaster because we didn't 'fit'. It took me many years to finally get out of it because of the financial hole we had dug ourselves into. Not being married would not have changed that hole, or absolved me of child support responsibilities. My wife of 10 years and I fit much better. We have common moral values, although our political views are different. We communicate well and trust each other. We can discuss things and usually can arrive at a compromise. My favorite one is I didn't want a dog, she did. Now we have two dogs. But I don't resent why we have two dogs because we discussed it every step of the way. And I really do like dogs. We don't 'need' to be married, we 'like' being married. Someone who doesn't want to get married probably hasn't found someone they truly trust and can communicate with. They feel the need to be able to just break it off without any after effects. Which is a delusion, because all breakups are difficult. Not having the legal system to back oneself up can actually make it more difficult but not having any avenue to resolve differences. Which is probably why two people break up, they can't resolve differences. And someone who has found someone they truly trust, can resolve differences with, and can communicate with probably doesn't need to get married. But they will because they feel "it's the right thing to do". In the end, it's your life. Do what you think is best for you. And if it doesn't work, don't make the same mistakes the next time.
+Maartje M I have met someone & been together for almost 17yrs we have no kids in our way or pay to get together it's all a shame & just for tax breaks! Not all woman wanna get married & have kids! Only those who are oblivious to the slave work slave labor that's ones kids will hafta endure in the future to pay the almighty taxes to the real ones in charge!!!
@Jimmy Strudel LOL! Fucking simp. Men don't marry for love you jackass. Men only marry to make their woman happy. It's still all about her. And most of them will regret that absurd amount of stupidity later on in life whether they're divorced or not.
@@Silverwind1989 what the hell should you do then?,get shattered? it looks like men do want love, a partner, sex etc. but now it looks like you cant trust a female...without getting cheated or divorced. then better have that one good night and then dump her or if you cant get that far then be happy that you wont have to expirience the madness and depression of getting cheated on or divorced
Marriage is outdated. My parents married 35 years into their relationship purely for legal reasons - it makes inheritance and wills so much easier to write.
I can tell that the commenters who hate marriage are the losers in the same. Sometimes good guys get screwed in a marriage, but much more often guys, like my brother, can't keep their dick in their pants, and then the woman, rightly so, rejects him. The opposite happens as well, but neither is a reason not to get married, but it is a reason that, if you are GOING to get married, to choose your spouse well. I did and I am experiencing wonderful, fun, enjoyable times, and I have been married over 20 years. Look, guys marriage is not the enemy, but picking your spouse based upon breast size is a loser every time, and this is what too many guys, like my brother, do.
Nope, it is not. If you are a loser, and/or your wife is a loser, marriage failure is 100% your fault. If you look at facts, which is the last thing mgtows do, you will see that divorces and other marital issues inevitably arise out of choosing a mate to marry for dumb reasons. My older brother married a woman just because she lived in a very nice home, in a place he could not BEGIN to afford, and for no other reason. This type of idiocy is why most marriages fail.
yeah girls are really expected to get married. Well men are too but it's much more expected for a girl to get married. Girls that aren't married by 28 will be getting funny looks from their families. It gets worse when they get into their 30s. My sister is always being asked about her relationships and when she plans to get married and she's only 23.
yeah girls are really expected to get married. Well men are too but it's much more expected for a girl to get married. Girls that aren't married by 28 will be getting funny looks from their families. It gets worse when they get into their 30s. My sister is always being asked about her relationships and when she plans to get married and she's only 23.
MikeBNumba6 im 25 and once my aunt said that i should lost weight and look up for man before it's too late... Goddammit, i don't even know what direction give to my life yet and i need to have his name and give my family and husband a child . .. ? I don't want to be owned, my name is mine... i just want to share myself to someone that is ready to do the same to me.
+Ambir91 I agree, everyone should have the freedom to live their lives how they want it. Unfortunately there are unwritten patterns us humans had created and we should be able to break free from those cliché cycles. Mostly us women has it more difficult because of social standards, we all know that in society, you wont function as a misfit and this reality is really sad.
Damn I wish more Indians were accepting of this concept. We are still living in 1967. I dread the idea of getting married. In India, the married women has to move in with her husband and HIS PARENTS WTF! She is expected to see her in laws as HER PARENTS and look after them, do the house hold chores etc. Career development is very difficult for a married women unless she's super smart and can efficiently juggle all the responsibilities together. None of my girl friends dig the concept but they do give in to the pressure. I never want to deliberately sign myself up for some awful shit like this.
@The 1995 Stoic It's 2021, it's not just women who are responsible for household chores. It's fair they're split up. It's my opinion though and I ain't going to be touching any dishes if I get married. Yet again, marriage is overrated anyways. Especially with guys that think like you. Maybe some women don't mind doing all the housework, but I do. For all you know I'll probably be the main bread winner if I get married. I mean I'm already running a business now while in school.
+Love Graham. You've had it bad I take it? This really is a place where men congregate to blame women (in cases of legal rights of men vs women that can sometimes be fair), but know that whatever pain you went through will disapppear in due time. Look, I'm not trash. Don't let resentment get the better of you.
I'm 51. I said if I wasn't married by 30, I would never do it.i have never been engaged. Marriage is just a legalized, socially acceptable form of prostitution. I'm a free spirit. I'm not going to change. I'd rather stay single
Auddy Zhi marriage is the longest form of prostitution because men marry with a false ideology that there will be an abundance of sex ... the women marry for the purpose of using her vagina as collateral to obtain resources and financial security ... Then when the women hits 30 her biological clock kicks in she wants children then the needs of the man r no longer important compared to the needs of the child his sexual desires are no longer main priority then 10-20 years pass the women has menopause which causes her estrogen levels to decrease significantly making her lose total desire to have sex and with that being said she also becomes bipolar and angry 24/7 this is why most divorces occur because the man ends up “cheating “ (finding a method of pleasure due to his stable testosterone levels ) and trying to escape verbal abuse from the female during and after menopause ...
POETIK WARRIOR that's complete bollocks. If you had been married you would know that by the time you are married sex has taken a back step and more important issues to deal with which cannot be ignored. Stick with paying for prostitutes - you will never know the happiness of long term relationships, or children or grandchildren. You are already too old.
As a person who had married once and divorced, my advice is to take it slow as fuck, don't let anyone's words get into your head or the tradition of having to get married takes control of you.
My parents got married at 19 (mom) and 24 (dad) - it was right for them and they’re still married today. I think 2 of the factors involved may be that they’re both deeply religious and had to do a lot of things without support from other family and friends. Myself, I’m in my early-30s, female and single - I don’t have a lot of friends but I’m still closely connected to my family. I moved out of the house a little while ago & have a full-time job, an apartment and I’m debt-free. Right now, I’m feeling pretty good being single - my mom would like me to be married soon, but I know I’m in the right place in my life. Being married might help a little more financially and romantically, but that’d be about it! And there’s so much more to marriage than that as this video tries to explain. Everyone has to go their own life path.
against marriage ! - headache , more expenses , responsibility , noise , not clean , no life . for what companionship , if you desire companionship your not truely happy with yourself and to be alone and happy .... for those that say otherwise , your still needy ! we born into this world alone , we die alone. u cant take anything to your death bed !
@@jimgallagher5902 Give it time as you're pathetic hateful and childish comment will backfire on you when you get divorce raped in the future! All marriage really is, is putting your signature on a piece of paper! And signing your shit over to your partner....So by your logic...if you haven't signed a worhless piece of paper...You don't love your partner? Are you insane or what?
The problem with marriage... is the fact that monogamy simply does not work, human nature is not suited for monogamy. Marriage is outdated now in the times of tinder, snapchat and outright promiscuity. Divorce is now very easy. If one huge reason that people stay together is because it's hard to get out of, well, that only demonstrates its failure. Any argument for marriage being successful is quickly rebuked by looking at divorce stats. 50% of marriages end in divorce. And that doesn't include the marriages where people cheat and stay together for the kids, or stay together even though they are not fulfilled. Locking your self in marriage with one person is dumb, especially as a male when the court systems are set up against you. All I see these days are serial monogamists going from one person to another, thinking that it will work this time, each time disappointed. Also, the video says relationships help us become whole... This is the wrong reason to pursue a relationship.
so you don't desire monogamy, or you just "know" it doesn't work? because saying i know this isn't gonna happen doesn't mean you truly want it to happen, you would be just telling yourself, it isn't worth it
It's 42% of marriages that end in divorce, which means while it's not for everyone, it can still be life-worthy engagement for some. And if anyone thinks that another person has to make you fufilled, then it's the mistake of them and not their partner. Relationship and partners are not the end all and be all of life. Nor is poligamy or staying single. It's just a wide array of decisions in life, that brings good and bad into it.
Funny how the most impressive couples I've ever met were unmarried. Fancy that. People with actual self-control and a genuine desire for harmony not born from the shackles of socialized shaming but rather out of honest, mutually beneficial effort and compatible personal traits.
AxaDoble....well put. I agree with everything that you expressed. In my opinion,only a very psychologically mature couple will stay together nowadays. To maintain this,you need skills that are not even talked about in society...particularly conflict resolution skills,and the difficult skill of balancing your needs with empathy for the other person's needs.None of this is talked about much,instead marriage in the West is just an orgy of spending money that you probably should conserve and save.
Shake hir....so if you have maturity and can work out problems as a couple,you will have the ability to stay together regardless. If you don't possess these skills,which should be taught in school and are not,then you will end up apart. Marriage is just a useless expensive sticking plaster to cover up the real failings of society,it encourages an orgy of gluttony and spending,and it is mainly done because society tells you it is a fine idea. Screw that, I'm out.
@Mayo Dog The cohabitation laws are similar to marriage after 2 years cohabiting, especially if children are involved. Still a dangerous path for a man. Thats why the MGTOW guys say 'no marriage, no cohabitation'.
@Shake hir I have a brother and sister, uncles and aunties all divorced, some more than once! My parents would have been happier divorced. Me?, single, happy and MGTOW. No motivation to swim in the modern marriage shark tank.
Marriage is fun for a few weeks or months. Then reality sets in and it's horrid. That's why people divorce. The relationship turns into a relationshit.
Divorce rates been falling for a few decades. The truth is, the average couple getting married today has more like a 75 percent chance of staying married. That means that only about 1 in 4 recent marriages are likely to end in divorce. (www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/heart-the-matter/201704/do-half-all-marriages-really-end-in-divorce) Try using facts instead of your non-existent brain.
Marriage is nothing more than an economic contract. Once the contract is over, you will lose half of your money through alimony, child support, and custody over your kids. And just because you’re married doesn’t mean that your partner is going to be loyal.
It's way worse than half. More like 2/3s. And if there are kids look for 40% of your gross to be transferred to the states designated winner. Kiss your kids goodbye because the state views you as disposable except you better keep paying or off to jail you go.
+The School of Life that's true, but you don't want these moments of unhappiness to come from a relationship, since they're already so frequent in other parts of your life like work etc, and you can't avoid not working, so at least you can control the relationship part of your life.
+BeeleeDatPleighboi 100 the reason most marriages fail is because people think they know what they want.the want someone thats looks perfect, financial matches them.but it all comes down to timing. taking time to talk.taking time to wait.how do we really know what we want.by taking time waiting.and for most of all the world.its just hey I have to have somebody
@@jimgallagher5902 highly doubt you are a lawyer with that level of immaturity. Then again you could be afraid the trend of men swearing off marriage will rob you of business. You seem nervous boy 😂😏
My family and relatives are always surprised whenever I say "I'll stay single" and start to lecture me about the "benefits" of engaging in a relationship. Ironically and funnily enough, they are the very same people to indirectly teach me how relationships really work through everyday activities while not realizing it. What's worse, even though, they also learned some of the bad aspects of it through time, and yet, here they are, still trying to plunge me into the deep end.
No I was anti marriage at school and gets mentioned when family meet up that I have never deviated from this point of view and held it even before I had a first girlfriend.
I am not anti marriage just anti marriage for me. My parents were married for a long time and only death separated them but I have been against the idea since school so your evaluation is incorrect. I have never been married so I have no issues with it in the way you mention. I just don't hold with many traditions. Marriage, Royal Family, Religion are for me all outdated concepts. They were for the previous generations but not mine.
+john mcintosh No I speak for myself but I do think there has been a shift away from supporting traditions like monarchy, religion and marriage and statistics bear this out.
If I didn't believe in marriage, I'd probably relish the idea of being single. What I don't understand are people deluding themselves into believing swiping right and sleeping around is going to make them happy. Maybe marriage isn't for you, but dating someone until you see their first flaw is the saddest, most childish mindset. I feel like that's the most likely future for those who scoff at marriage.
***** That's definitely true. Marriage is not for everyone. It seems people don't have the attention span and too many options for even a meaningful relationship.
it's less about commitment, and more about the disasters that are all too common in divorce courts. everything but splitting the 50% of my assets sounds about marriage, but I do really like my stuff.
You are the first person I have found who shares my mindset. I believe in marriage. I don't believe a relationship can last a lifetime. People don't understand how beautiful a relationship can be. WIthout someone being there for you, you feel worthless. Everyone needs a parner. And having different partners for the rest of your life will make every other elationship less meaningful. It will make you bitter and uncaring towards others. Thats the way I see it.
John Xray I tend to believe in marriage, but I think it's okay if people are committed and don't get married. But I just spent my twenties watching people on tinder and okcupid, it's just so sad and pathetic. They don't want to be let down at all, they can't handle disappointment or self-awareness. It seems maybe like a millenial thing. But a real relationship is about learning to love someone's flaws and expose your own. Those dating sites are incestuous and depressing, friends end up dating the same people, no one grows from the experience, somehow protection from disease is no longer the norm. I know I sound old and prudish, lol. But come on, you can't have nothing but pleasure in this world. We're going to be some lonely people in the decades to come.
Exactly, and this hedonistic mindset so prevalent in the West today is one of the main reasons behind plummeting birth rates, divorce, and absent fathers. Meanwhile, cultures with much less tolerant and progressive worldviews are breeding like mad, with tight family bonds, and are rapidly displacing native Western people in their own countries. Leftism, feminism, hippy-ism, free love, whatever you want to call it, truly is a cancer on Western society.
I, personally, find myself leaning against tradition due to my upbringing. However, I still want to get married. I do not find myself wanting to follow impulse or just casually entering sexual relationships with others. I wish to simply have a single person that I can fully trust, rely on, and unite with in this world. And let them trust and rely on me. Our wedding does not, and will not be grand, our rings won't be worth a fortune. I'm fine with a simple wedding, even without family or friends. When I look at my wedding ring, I do not want to admire its beauty or care about its design, but want to be reminded of the person wearing the other ring, the memories we had together, and my love for them. Even if I have a plentitude of money to spend, I do not want other people's opinions or material goods to be what defines our relationship. I want to marry a person who accepts me for who I am and what I value, and who I will become in the future. I'm willing to accept them them same way in return. I'll be trying my best, even now, for the sake of all this. For the sake of my future wife and family.
Oh dear lord, you my child will see a world of pain with that attitude. I pray to God to give u strength to bear the hell which is about to come to you
Marriage is useless unless you are religious, and the whole "i want to marry because i want to live my whole life with someone" is just nonsense. If you cant live with someone without having signed a paper before, you have to reevaluate your conception of a relationship
With less societal expectation that the two people will stay together, more people will avoid staying together. And a healthy marriage with strong parenting produces the best children.
I'm not religious in any way and marriage isn't important to me exactly in the sense that I know it's just a piece of paper but I think that if you're with someone you're genuinely completely in love with you want to be as close with them as possible and marriage can be (but doesn't have to be) a way to feel even more like a family. Maybe that's just a fantasy and doesn't matter in realistic everyday kind of sense but if you're in a healthy secure feeling relationship prior to getting married and you feel as a couple that it is something you want to do, I think people should go for it. It can have cultural and family benefits.
it will be if you get divorced. You dont have to share your pensions, assets, house, cars and other possessions when you break up with your girlfriend. If you break up with your wife the government is giving her all of that plus your going to be paying thousands more in alimony and lawyer fees.
I don't get marriage. It seems like a bizarre way to live. You have to find this other person that you're not related to, then you have to sign a contract that you'll live with them and sleep with them and do everything together until one of you drops dead.
Actually, you don't sign a contract to sleep with them. The law cannot forcibly make an unwilling spouse sleep with the other spouse. You sign a contract to sleep with ONLY your spouse, and if your spouse says "no", you're sleeping alone.
I made a proposal to my girlfriend several weeks ago. I knew she wanted to marry me but i struggled with that decision for a long time. We're together now for almost 7 years. One reason for that was the belief that the relationship would spoil my self development and life goals. But at some point I realized that a sincere relationship is the best way to work on yourself. It's easy to get along with yourself. Overcoming superficial arguments and dealing with real feelings and fears is best achieved in a trusting relationship. You never reach that point without a partner that does not reflect your behavior and values. But this kind of relationship does not neccessarily need to be a marriage. So I have respect for everyone who does not want to marry.
Why do people get married anymore, sex is readily available, loyalty doesn’t exist, financial security can be achieved being single. In the old days, marriage was done out of necessity to provide for stability and financial well being but nowadays, you don’t need to be married to achieve those things.
This is exactly why I'm married. I chose someone who will help me build what we mutually want in the long run. Sure I get annoyed frequently. But the reasons I married are still there. As we cross milestones, the feeling of serenity and satisfaction magnifies. It's wonderful.
Don't let all of these sad, hurt people affect you. I admire your commitment and hope in the future, my partner and I can approach life and love's challenges with the same level of grace you do. (: Love is an amazing thing. This comment section proves it's also a rare thing that a lot of people are incapable of.
So far as I can tell, from what I've witnessed with married couples, including my own parents, marriage is the committed and passionate study of how to hate one particular human being right down to their molecules.
Seen it many times people "living their best lives" walk out and find out they threw away their family for someone who was exciting for the moment but ultimately they are alone and have to forever live with the consequences of splitting their family. Its not something that should be entered into lightly.
Seaninbabee ofcourse you get forced. Peer pressure, family nagging you etc. Just wait until all your closest friends get married. You'll be scrapping for leftovers
misfit shit happens. People know drinking/doing drugs is dangerous but people still do it. People get caught in the moment and sign their lives away. It happens to the best of us.
@@diomerda111 Sure, in a lot of cases. I guess what I mean is, you can set yourself goals but never account for other people just because you want them included.
Never wanted to get married. No wedding, no white dress, no party. “Marriage” is an economic proposition for some. It’s just a comfortable lifestyle. That’s all.
I am 35 year old single male and I find as I get older more and more men are telling me not to get married.
5 лет назад+7
I am a 39 year old single male, never married, never will marry. My older brother, who is married with three daughters, tells me how hectic his life is now, and he actually envies me.
3 года назад+1
@Rosemary Terra He envied my independent lifestyle. I live as I please; he's stuck at home with three kids and a shrill wife. I assured him that the life of the childfree bachelor was a quiet, peaceful life, and I would never trade it for anything. There is absolutely nothing wrong with pursuing a life of independence and self-fulfillment, especially when the risks of marriage are so obvious these days. My brother and his wife are still married, I believe, only for their kids' sake. It is plain to see that they aren't happy. Most marriages eventually stagnate into monotony. At worst, a man can be left ruined and destitute by divorce, even when he didn't do anything wrong. I have seen too many marriages fail among friends and family. Friends of mine who married young and had kids have privately warned me, "Don't do it!"
I made the decision at a young age that nothing externally good came from marriage. People always talked about how they couldn't stand the other in the relationship. The ones that seemed the happiest are the ones that were recently divorced.
My parents are together and sometimes i cannot comprehend how they are still married. Oh wait, she makes more on paper than my dad. Hmmm makes sense....
I think your idealistic views of marriage may not be mixing well with their practical view. Don't fret, your views are valid! The School of Life is not trying to put your views down or replace them. They are politely giving you a glimpse into the realities of marriage. If you can recognize these realities and attribute them to your ideals, I'm sure you'll have a long-lasting and life-fulfilling marriage
but the stats don't lie nearly 50% fail. Personally I just don't see the benefit in marrying for a guy, i can why women want to marry since they benefit from marriage if works or if it doesn't.
You can agree to spend 50 years or the rest of your life with somebody without signing a marriage document. By making the choice to commit without the traditional or legal strings attached it really puts the focus on the relationship itself which if you're in it for the right reason is the only thing that matters.
Or if they insist on the legal bind, they should be free to sign a contract, but not the marriage contract which imposes government rules on your relationship. They could negotiate the terms of the relationship and consequences of leaving it, and then making it an official contract. Still way more reasonable than the traditional method
@@GeminiCricket21 I tried once to convince my girlfriend to just do the ceremony without getting the government involved at all. No paperwork, just love. She however, was committed to the idea of "legally owning someone". And was positive about the idea that marriage makes it difficult to leave. Needless to say I ran.
Yes but what if I love them so much that I want them as my family LEGALLY. I want everyone to know and accept that the love of my life is LEGITIMATELY MY FAMILY too. 🥺
Everything is cost vs benefit. The potential costs of marriage is: Divorce, Alimony, Child Support/Losing your children, and false accusations of rape and/or domestic violence. There are no potential benefits imaginable, to make those risks acceptable.
There are! There's: Companionship, family, home, sense of belonging, legacy... Think of your own family; the bond you have with your siblings, being taken to school every morning by your parents, sitting down to eat lunch etc etc A lonely life of hook ups, partying, and looseness gives you none of these things. You're also going to age and it will come a point when having many partners becomes a tasteless choir-like distraction. I myself don't want to marry, but I'd like to have a family and perhaps a couple of kids down the road. I would enjoy the childhood that I lost in my kids. It would be lovely, I think.
Omg i regret spending 5+ years thinking about marriage, because family member saying to me always "there's no succees without marriage" I forgot what i wanted in these years thinking about marriage and finding a women. The older i got more people seems to get married i become only one who isn't married, started to feel big anxiety because i started to get older as well. I'm 30 years now and single man and i dont please people anymore how i used to before and peoples face has somekind hate towards me and try to controll me. But i know this right path for me, i can feel it. I dont want marriage just to fit in, i care waay more about my happiness.
This is great my family did the same made me feel guilty for being single now I'm married and miserable just like going to college because my parents told me to now im in student loan debt
@@mateoc7808 most larents dont know whats best for us. If you dont want to go to college, dont go. If you dont want to get married, dont get married. Do what makes you happy on earth, we are all guests.
looks like there are a lot of single people like me out there. i'm happy being single, keeping myself away from heartbreak, arguments, the need to satisfy my partner, and whatnot. meh. the world population is skyrocketing, let's not add more people. let's rock our single life!
I’m fascinated by our culture’s implication that we only have two options: get married or be single. Where are the lifelong, committed partners who decided they didn’t need paperwork in their relationship? 🤔
Committed, lifelong partners is the oddballs of society. Most people only follow what they are used to anyway. I thought a "marriage" is between two people, independent of religion and the government.
me and my boyfriend are that, we call our dynamic a "free relationship" you see, emotionally we are monogamous but physically we can be intimate with others without it affecting our love for each other, we never plan to marry because I believe gay marriage is a sin and my boyfriend just doesn't like marriage, we've been together for 8 months and we truly love each other💕❤
If you are bored with the single life, marriage is a great opportunity to create debt, children, and stress. Just do it. Nike.
Exactly I like an easy life and I can get stress at work for free
The point of life is to spread your genes and advance the species. If you fail to do this, then all you have achieved would have been for nothing.
+Lucifer Morningstar So a person's life has no meaning if they don't have offspring? I disagree and there are plenty of other humans having offspring. Personally, it's just not for me.
Or the wedded can choose not to have kids or get into debt, really cuts down on stress
+Lucifer Morningstar That is fine for the majority but my life is more about having a good time. See as many bands as I can, read as many books as I can and climb as many hills as I can and leave nothing behind. I do not even want a headstone. It will be like I was never here.
Like a wise man once said;
"Marriage is grand. Divorce is hundred grand ".
quantomic1106
That’s a new one for me! FUNNY!!!
Vincent T. Are you high. It’s like 1-3k
*l o l*
No, a moron said that...you know, like you!
@Aaron Kiker : Really? How about providing back up for these "FACTS"? I await your reply with FACTS!!!
My favorite is "You haven't found the right one yet"
That one always makes me laugh, the right one doesn't exist because everyone changes over time.
Wow, you're wise, that one too is my favorite. The right one is yourself, everyone does change overtime that's why marriages are unnatural.
I agree that the phrase is not realistic but everyone doesn't necessarily change for the worst and people don't change to become a completely different person to who they really are.
I murdered the right one a long time ago so that I'd never have to admit to having met her. (I'm kidding- the honest statement is that she never existed). Single and happy!
@@deydraniadiancecht8298 Murdered??!!! Check your spell checker lmao
@Shorty I agree with that, people tend to change no matter what the circumstanceand it's true women have divorce and family courts in their back pocket, if they want equality give that shit up.
I'm honest enough to admit that I'm too selfish to want marriage or kids. I enjoy my solitude. I have my work. I have my hobbies. I'm fine.
I can sympathize.
Same
But if everyone said they don’t want kids wouldn’t humans eventually go extinct?
@@r3b22ber3 Yes, but we are far from having that problem now.
@@r3b22ber3 not as long as feminism tells women the can go bang whomever without consequences.
I think most people just marry out of tradition. They don't think about what it really means or if it's even needed.
I think people need to find out why marriage is so incredibly beautiful and important and it's value. Marriage isn't just a piece of paper
@@JU-ki9wb in that case people should marry without the piece of paper.
My friend is going to be married this fall. I asked him why? And he was like why not? Everyone is doing it but it's really stupid unless he's big religious christian which he's not. It's really just about stupid expensive paper nothing more nothing less. Do I need a paper to be friend with someone? I know people were marrying for centuries but now it just feel like wasted time, money.
@@alexandersebela370 every woman knows in her heart that when you marry her she gets enormous security in multiple ways including but not limited to financial, social. She will never consciously think about it that way nor will she ever let you think that way. And if you do think that way she would probably either leave you or convince you to get married
@Yogesh X i know but this time it's turned around my friend Is pretty poor and he found rich girlfriend maybe that's why, he's male golddigger :D
But if people don't get married, how will the Divorce Industry survive?
+The School of Life That still doesn't mean there is an entire industry dedicated to making profits out of destroyed relationships.
Exactly and for that reason alone I urge everyone to steer clear of marriage. When assets bought before a relationship has even started to get included as marital assets there is something wrong with that industry.
Exactly!
+misfit then get a prenup
lavishgirl Prenups get thrown out almost all the time, they are rarely worth the paper they are written on.
I think ill be single my whole life. I cant deal with people, the only person im comfortable with is myself.
that will be the best decision that you ever made
because once you get involved with somebody legally.... you're fucked
I will do the same.
your comment don't make any sense
hyo hyo hyo a hee hee hee
Jeff Fuehr why
Never sign a contract where the other person gets paid to leave.
Yeah
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I'll remember that regardless of marriage
Fact
Lol
everyone: being married sucks! Never get married!
Me: I don’t want to get married
Everyone: whaaaaat?! Why?!???
Same with school and jobs. Parents especially bitch nonstop how much they hate it, then wonder why their child doesn't like school or their job.
This x1000000000.
Then don't get married, but how can you back up what you say without having been married? Answer, you cannot, so you make things up like a little child.
@@jimgallagher5902 you sound like you fell for the marriage trap and now you're miserable lol
@@jimgallagher5902 Maybe you should READ what the person said. "EVERYONE: being married sucks" Meaning EVERYONE who is married is telling him "it sucks! never get married" A wise man learns from his mistakes, a wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. Now as for me, i've been through two major relationships (7 and 10 years) most marriages don't even last 7 years, so when I say marriage sucks I speak from a position of experience. I can tell though that you are the type of person who will just reply with some lame attempt at an insult cause you really have no point to make, just wanted to point out the flaw in your logic, or lack there of.
All the married people I know complain about being married.
Same, my parents included
Bad Ass Marriage is the worst thing anyone could ever do
Bad Ass usually the women are happier than the men because they have one dude on lock down and can use his money. Men are way more miserable because they are in bondage. Why any man would agree to get married is fucking beyond me.
do you know anyone who doesnt complain?
Mostly the men complain cos it's shit beyond shit
Marriage is great if you want to lose your house, your income, your kids, and your dog.
Don t touch my dog
My dog (my grandmother's dog, but I visited every Sunday, so it was like having my own dog) passed away over a decade ago.
So good luck getting my dog, divorce lawyers. God isn't gonna just let lawyers take dogs out of Heaven, lol.
AAAAAAAAAYEEE
Your dog?
You mean marriage is great if you don't divorce.
Honestly, what's the point of getting married when the chances of getting a divorce is so high? It doesn't seem worth it if you really think about it.
Jordan Peterson explained it well, marriage puts a limit mark, a fencing around you and your partner. Its why the ring is oval an you say vows
Marriage is suppose to mean "I am not leaving no matter what"
Its too easy to pack your bags when you are just living with someone, not the same when you are married. Money aside.
People these days are too quick to quit or look for a more "fun life" specially women.
Young and naive, the worst combination
@@shqiptariidukagjinit It's not all about love. People really change
@@btf1287 Make laws favorable to men and then we will talk. Your stupid emotional manipulation along with that tradcon jordan peterson doesn't mean anything
@@shqiptariidukagjinit u act like people don't change.
I'd rather be single and miserable than married and miserable
sad but totally true, I know, well now I know
Agreed
I'm single and content, but so many of my friends are either married and miserable or in a relationship and miserable. I have few friends and happy relationships.
Sounds like your friends jumped into relationships without knowing what makes them happy and searching for that.
+legisnuntius Oh shut up you idiot.
Marriage is the first step to Divorce
- Ron Swanson
To be born is the first step for dying
Sorry, stupidity is the first step to divorce, so you certainly apply!
Anna is the first step to stupidity.
Stupidity is the first step towards divorce, so you are all set baby!
Ron Swanson is the first step to stupidity. I guess he got you good, huh?
Marriage is a joke period.
Right who wants to give up their freedom and be someones doormat
Chiefs Kingdom :Keep trying little boy...you won't make it. Ha Ha Ha!!
@Chiefs Kingdom : You've spelled your own name wrong: It is correctly spelled thusly:
Chief is Dumb
No, Catspaw is a joke period, as he had his period before he wrote the above.
And Cats Shit just had his period so he is a little cranky.
No one has ever told me “dude you need to get married, it’s awesome!” 😅
I I yup misery loves company!
@@donesy125 FACTS!
😂😂😂😂 exactly
You haven met the right people perhaps? I met a happy couple in La and he said the secret was compromise compromise compromise
@@maryerickson9681 yep. But which partner is compromising?
My step dad got divorced recently he lost all his children, has to pay thousands of dollars in court and lawyer fees and is going through depression, Marriage doesn't sound so fun to me.
Sorry to hear that. Stay close to him. He needs support.
No, FAILED marriage doesn't sound fair to you. Since you've not even TRIED marriage you have no right or even ability to write intelligently and factually about marriage.
You are right, it isn't fun. But more importantly, why was he divorced? Did an angel come down from heaven and serve him with divorce papers, or did he maybe have some responsibility for the divorce?
And that happeneed how, Jefe? He did NOTHING to cause the divorce? Yep, he did, and that is the part you won't disclose as it would make the divorce seem the right thing to do.
Can u stfu for a minute holy shit, Are you just triggered that the “dumb” People and the “cunts” are the ones who ACTUALLY do experiences. THEY are the ones working on Marriages, Sex, And etc. So don’t complain that you can never be able to get any Dogshit with ur “nopes”
This video makes me want to avoid marriage even more.
Which is good for Davey, as no woman anywhere wants him.
@@jimgallagher5902 it's not an insult, you know...
@@jimgallagher5902
No woman? I doubt that
Having a stable job is good enough for women to want a man like that
@@jimgallagher5902 why don't you put up a picture of yourself Jim and let us all see your ugly face. You hide behind a keyboard. And you obviously have a lot of time on your hands. You sound like you have issues. Because most people don't go on youtube to write comments antagonising others. They have better things to do
Brightside44 - All that psycho’s trolling here abruptly stopped 2 months ago. I’m pretty sure he finally started taking his meds, or he was institutionalized. Or his imaginary wife (mom?) has him tied up in the dungeon with a broomstick up his.......
Stay single healthy and wealthy.
Abso-f#ckin-lutely!!! High five!
With some exceptions, this doesn't work. Study after study have shown that married folks make more money that singles, and have much more enjoyment.
WRONG. A trove of studies PROVE that married couples are wealthy in general, while singles are poor.
@@jimgallagher5902 those studies are bought and paid for by the money making divorce industry. But hey if you want to commit financial suicide go right ahead. I like my 3 houses 3 cars and freedom.
@@parzeveltheblunt139 Bullshit!!! At least TRY to make an honest statement: Try this one, dumbass :www.truthorfiction.com/divorce/
The comment section is much better than the video.
Marriage is like a walk in the park... Jurassic Park.
Steve Zanadon
Yeah, “oooh,” “aaah,” that’s how it always starts. Screaming and running come later.......Lost World Jurassic Park
Lol
🤣
Steve Zanadon lmaooooo I literally laughed out loud!!!!!!!
Lol... I have to read your name twice making sure that you are not the other Steven... You know...Spielberg..
I always made fun of people who were old and never got married , Now I understand them and il probably never get married.
Stay single.
Your pockets will jingle.
Yep, jingle with coins, but not paper money. Singles are the largest type of poverty stricken folks.
@@jimgallagher5902 Wrong.
Jim Gallagher is a chump.
Jim Gallagher spotted the beta male
@@jimgallagher5902 speak for yourself, mate 😉
Chances of development increase hugely when we don’t keep running away to people who falsely reassure that there is nothing wrong with us.
This is a brilliant insight, and I wish I could "like" it more than once. Most relationships are an easy way to gain validation for our imperfections and buffer us from the painstaking effort of knowing we aren't all that special and that most of our attitudes suck and need improvement.
But it's always the wife who finds something to complain about. No matter what you do.
I love this.
@@tarikay93"it's always the wife"
I don't understand the point of marriage. if you love the person then just spend the rest of your life with them. You don't have to spend 5-10k on a wedding. You can get married without officially getting married. If you want you can buy the rings as a symbol of your love.
Right a signed piece of paper documented record contract is not a symbol of love. Love is love itself and thats it. So thats what i would say if someone proposed to me. SO if you love me we can still be together we don't need to be married.
well said
Geez the whole video was about the explanation of the POINT of being married.
You're signing to sustain your wife, kids and new husband once she decides you "don't cover her emotional needs" when you come back from your 12hr job.
You're right
I think some people marry and have kids because they don’t want to be lonely. Not because they necessarily want kids.
Agree. Marriage has also been called a 'social safety net' after a certain age, and I do think that's right and a major factor in people's decision to marry, if not a subconscious one.
I think you have nailed it. I think loneliness is the real reason. The rest is all PR.
Yea but you can just be in a relationship then. There problem solved
No. It's called human nature. Question what has removed you from it?
in my country, people get married and have kids so that when they get old they would have a "life insurance/caregiver".. they treat their children like they are their insurance or caregiver. "hey you should chose us your parents, your lover can be replaced, but you cant replace us, we are the ones who replaced you, so the money you are saving for your future, just give it to us help us pay the bills and pay for our medical bills, don't save"
If being married and having children makes you happy then DO IT. If living the single life makes you happy then DO IT. Bottomline everyone has the right to live whatever way they wanna live it. Different things makes different people happy and NO ONE is in position to judge how someone else should live their lives if it makes them happy.
Fatal Wreck Exactly. If you're feeling like you're being enslaved if you get married than don't do it. If you love someone so much you would do anything for them do it(yes there is a chance you might divorce or she might cheat on you but that's true commitment). Why is this so complicated for everyone?
You two are so logical I feel like I found my soul group lol I feel exactly the same!
@Fatal Wreck: Damn straight =)!
There is noone that is not made more happy by being loved and accepted. And feeling secure in that they will continue to be loved an accepted, even if feelings change.
Do it if you want. But be educated on the pitfalls of divorce for men. So many people get married for terribly naive reasons and thus the divorce rate is around 55-60%. Of that number around 70% of divorces are initiated by women. And they'll take half your shit, the house etc etc
If you get married, the odds are THIS WILL happen. And this is why I will never marry.
Marriage it's self is not the problem. It's the person "THEY" chose, settled, tolerated, was given an ultimatum, scared to be alone, to marry.
You're right, marriage is not the problem, Divorce law's are... women know this or learn it from......who?
amazing a comment that is actually intellectual
Most people in relationships are not whole with themselves.
If two people are whole with one another and are able to be fine with being alone, trusting, focusing on the good,to be aware of how things are, and trying to improve on the bad in the relationship together.
Then there shouldn't ever need to be conflict in the relationship. It should just be happy times without the need to find someone so called "better".
Marriage should be decentralized and community centered. The government shouldn't get involved AT ALL with people's personal lives. That means, no alimony, or child support, or welfare checks if you get divorced. There should be NO inherent incentive to get divorced.
@@oldmanjinkinsskyrim737 Well you don't know the condition of my household. Of you knew it you won't be making this statement.
Almost every guy I work with that is married is miserable and says “if I could do it all over again I wouldn’t “
Well, thanks to that sort of info as well as knowledge of the MGTOW guys who have been run through the grinder, we have the choice to....
Be 💲MART! ! ✌️☮️
Then your guys are either stupid or chose poorly.
Jim Gallagher you’re a miserable bitch. Stop pretending to be man on here.
Honesty at it's most truthfully funny!
@Koal Kottentail Good comment Koal.
Marriage is bad, I have seen it through my parents eyes. I don’t want to replicate that suffering, not for me, not for anyone else.
Don't lose hope. My father abandoned my family for some harlot. But I haven't lost hope in Marriage, it depends on who else in your life you should look to. Most religious people I have met have healthy marriages you could look to them. Statistically speaking we are at both at a disadvantage cause neither of us had great examples but then we should look to others for this. Another thing I have heard is that it is best to marry young so that A your less set in your ways and B You'll be more likely to listen to elders advice on marriage than if your older and more likely to think you got it.
Sorry your parents were incompatible, but this is NOT the outcome of most marriages.
I experienced it with my parents too; they are incompatible with each other. They stayed together “because of the kids” and pride. I never wanna relive that.
So, you are saying your mom & dad were a bad match. So what? Just because your parents didn't make it, don't be a wimp and assume you can't.
@@jimgallagher5902 why are you going on stupid rants on marriage? Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Just be silent and go be toxic somewhere else
The single wish to be married. The married wish to be dead.
@@jimgallagher5902 Fuck off,you turd of shit,Im surprised if no one has even reported you yet.
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Yes, but only if they are married to you.
No, but everyone wishes you would go away little boy.
The above was said by Ann Landers, so I guess Moron473 is a fan of women's advice.
My parents were arranged to be married and they still remain unhappily married for 35+ years!
lmao
Hilarious and sad at the same time. This should be repeated many times over as the other rosy trope is usually bandied about. "Arranged and they ended up oh, so happy." BS.
That is like a drop in the whole ocean.
That sums it up... They stick together because they are scared of being alone
I've been with the same girl for 26 yrs and we're not married.
then she's the one
Depending on where you live, you could still be subject to common law marriage.
23 years here, We've been through ups and downs in that time, But stuck together, Some of the other couples we have known getting married was the beginning of the end.
You're common law. If you separate, you'll experience most of the problems divorcing couples have to deal with.
+InandaroundTO Not where I live.Common law don't exist.
The only people who benefit from marriage are Lawyers
And women
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@@shekubooti8623 when they divorced they get most of the money
@@shekubooti8623 yes tf
No
Damn, all my interest in marriage was blown away when I looked at my own parents while growing up. The truth was, after all before me all the time.
Same here,
Same yara
Yall have bad parents
Me too ❤
I for one enjoyed being married it lasted 60years until I lost the love of my life I wish more could enjoy the union
I think marriages just like yours are wonderful… And I think we do as humans need companionship. I think the issue is that nowadays there’s so much challenging the institution that it’s hard to find what you had. People are constantly moving onto the next thing with dating apps that are in their phones, they get divorced the second something goes wrong, and there’s been institutional imbalances with women and men and things like divorce. I think the question is how can we find companionship without all of the modern day headaches? Because as humans we need companionship like what you had :-)
Thank you for sharing. I'm looking forward to being married, it's something I definitely want to do. I watched this video so I could see a different perspective and enter the union armed with more than the fantasy that is usually portrayed. Sharing your life with someone and growing with them is a beautiful thing. Nothing beats life-long friendships, and marriage is probably the life-iest long-iest one there is. Lol why are all these other people so bitter about it? Why are single, never been married bitter about it? I suppose going into anything with the wrong/unreasonable expectations will always result in unhappiness.
@The 1995 Stoic And you live in the land founded by criminals , rapists and racists? Much better i suppose?
@The 1995 Stoic lool so your slating where all of humanity comes from then... Dummy
Man: "I will never get married"
People: "Good for ya bro! Sameeee!!!"
Woman: "I will never get married"
People: "wAit uNtiL yOU tUrN 30 dEAR. yOu'LL rEgrET iT"
Lmao. I turn 38 this year and it's been the happiest time in my life. I've traveled around the world, single, childless.
The Period Blade is a moron. He (she? it?) makes things up with the futile hope of sounding smart.
Uh oh, your comment triggered a snowflake. Period jokes...so cutting edge and original lol. Glad you're happy with your life, hun.
@@jimgallagher5902 Alert, triggered idiot here. Can't help to feel so angry huh? Stuck with your hopeless marriage life?
I hope I can say the same thing in 20 years.
I'm 25 and i can proudly say i never want to get married. Who wants to clean up after a grown ass man. LMAO
So.. its more romantic NOT to marry, since you choose more freely to be with that person despite all the hurdles.
More hedonistic.
Exactly, you trust the other person enough that you don't need to marry them to make sure they stay loyal
old memes are cool
So.. not marrying is setting yourself up for failure. Meaning that marriage is indeed nothing more than a ball and chain. Literally.
that's why over 50% of marriages end in divorce...
Why do we associate reckless behavior as "romantic"? Is it more "romantic" to sleep with someone without protection and end up pregnant when nobody wants that? It's non sense to glorify stupidity. "We're gonna love each other forever!" No, you fucking won't. It's like saying "I'm gonna win the lottery!" Sure.
Marriage "survived" because of our culture: movies showing happy couples, magazines and TV saying that you can only find fulfilment that way.
Seriously, kids, if you find someone you really "love", don't get married. Just date, go out and so forth. Marriage is hell.
marraige for me has been bliss. Sorry you can't find it that way
+Leanne Marie Would it not be bliss if you were together without state recognition of your union?
yes it's state recognition but for my husband and me, it's been far more than that. We view marriage in a spiritual sense so marriage is sacred. Our faith binds our marriage and there's so much meaning to it and that's why my married life has been bliss.
So would it have still been bliss had you gone through the ceremony, proclaimed your vows before church and god, and not signed the legal state document which is secular and has nothing to do with faith and spirituality?
I'd actually beg to differ. Recently I was listening to a psychology podcast about how a guy figured out that when we limit our choices we become more satisfied with the choice that we do make. Marriage is that limiter. The scientist who came up with this even put it to the test and married the woman he was living with for years and is much happier than before. Of course, it does come down to the relationship. I hope things can improve for you
In my entire 20s, I was never single...I was first in a relationship and then eventually got married. It wasn't a bad one, but it didn't work. The divorce was painful and for a brief while after that, there was terrible loneliness and existential dread. Fast forward a few months, and I feel I have grown more as a person than I ever did being in a partnership. Yes, you do learn things like patience, tolerance and cooperation in a marriage. But that's only because those traits work for the marriage. Being single, however, teaches you far more important lessons such as resilience, introspection, strength and is a fantastic tool for spiritual growth.
Thank you for sharing.
No women is ever single. Who filed for divorce? :)
Maybe you could help me out then
I feel nothing but anger and resentment to my ex and its been more than half a year now yet I still sometimes feel like complete shit...
I remember the times I had with her and how she's now with the guy that she literally straight up replaced me with and I just start boiling from anger
I don't even care about her, I would never even want to be with her again but for some fucking reason I can't let go of the betrayal that I feel...
@@NakedAvanger Betrayal was what shook my marriage too. But I never felt angry because in my heart, I always believed that I was in no way less than the woman who replaced me. When you feel you are in no way lacking compared to any other person, you slowly allow strength and healing to enter. This might not come about overnight. But try visualization in a calm frame of mind. Project your own completeness, regardless of anyone's action or attitude. And more importantly, even if you do not feel it strongly at the moment, mentally affirm, "I forgive this person, and I choose to move on. I have a better life with better people and better experiences waiting for me. So I am going ahead with my journey." Forgiving and projecting kindness on the ones who hurt us is the greatest tool there is to feel incredibly empowered. You got this and you can do it!
Although my post says 'a few months', it took me a year and a half to even be able to function. It takes time. Be gentle with yourself.
@@NakedAvanger The truth is Whiskey, people often have mixed desires and intentions, It can be hard to know what to want and what to do, this is why there is so much overlap between being with someone, and being with someone else, It ain't nice for the person left behind, but it is an understandable conundrum, It can also be hard to know if what you feel is resentment from the fact that you were replaced, or the fact that you were left, at the end of the day though, they are really the same thing. You cant blame someone for not wanting to be with you anymore, nor can you blame someone for promising you forever, for they really believed it at the time, these things are often learned in hindsight. But there is something that I do know that is often learned later in life, Love changes, the thing you thought was love at the start fades, you become the same person, their body is your body, and with that the attraction leaves. What is left over, determines whether or not you really were in love with each other in the first place. You can still love her, but you cant be in love with her.
What I got: Marriages will make it harder for you to get away from weak-willed, highly indebted, naturally flighty individuals. ...and this is a GOOD thing???
Ah, so it's your worldview of "humanity is cruddy" that prompts this. I disagree and can think of several examples of long lasting relationships w/o marriage that degradates this line of argument (David Letterman for starters). However any other "institution" that has a 50%+ level of failure with such devastating results for those involved would doubtlessly have been raided by the FBI and closed for business by now.
Also, that highly indebted bit? Check your own video at the 1:56 mark.
I was quoting that statist myself until recently. Divorce (at least in the US) is actually closer to only 1 out of every 4 marriages. As for the making it hard to leave bit, I kind of view it as school. It is probably going to be stressful and we'll want to quit at different points but that doesn't make it bad. It just makes it a difficult thing that, if approached right, can be very good and maturing for us.
I get that Dallas. I see that view point and have considered it in the past, but I can't come around to it. Not given the immense strain divorce inherently puts on most people. That's not even to mention BAD marriages (think spousal abuse) that continue because of expected behavior. As a kid, I had a friend, who's step-dad was abusive to her kids (my friend), openly cheated on her, but she didn't divorce because, in her estimation, "it wasn't what God wanted".
With regards to the divorce rate, we could spend long hours into the night discussing the merits or lack there of of various methods, but while 21-22% of those who've EVER divorced (not including married/divorced in multiples which is statistically higher) I do go by the cohort measure rate (which can itself be picked apart 100 which ways) which takes trends and applies them to today. Quoting the Univ of Denver's Scott Stanley "It represents a sophisticated projection of a calculated risk, much like projected life span for babies born today" Heck, if you really want you can take the refined divorce rate (marriages ending in divorce within a given year) then it's only 1.9%. But I'll be fair and make a small retraction as that rate has fallen in the last several years to 40-50%.
"Can be" and "Is generally" are two entirely different ideas. Human nature can be incredibly dark and depraved. Human nature is generally well-intentioned and forward moving.
“Marrying means to halve one's rights and double one's duties “
Arthur Schopenhauer
Yep, choose one VERY unusual man to make an argument for all men. BTW, the vast marjority of mgtows have not a CLUE who schopenhauer was.
He is my favourite philosopher now
The usual editing morons make to make others think they're smart when they are not. BTW: Schopenhauer never married but had a relationship with Caroline Richter. I guess even he needed a woman.
Yeah, as most morons like you do, you take one sentence said many years ago and pretend it is the way it is for all people.
Nope, it means to use an intelligent man's remark out of context.
I disagree with this video, people who need marriage to be faithful and a good partner need to take a long hard look at themselves, not tie themselves to another person and set themselves up for failure. They deserve the costly process of divorcing.
Most people will marry cuz they think they have found the right person & that they love that person so much that he want to commit himself or herself to the person for good so probably its an unconscious will, but when things turn bad it doesn't mean that they are bad persons or evil or that they 'deserve' costly divorce or whatever ... anyway I believe that marriage still here today cuz it's our very pure human nature ... marriage is & has always been the cornerstone of human existance ... though I don't think I'll ever get married ;)
+ahmed said I disagree that marriage is a cornerstone, historically it has been important to control reproduction and females and to regulate exchanges and relationships between groups.
Only in the past century has the character of marriage changed, now the only reason is supposedly love, but I don't consider marriage a demonstration of love, I think that idea is absurd, love isn't demonstrated through marriage in my opinion.
If you love someone, you should just be with that person and share your life. I don't consider marriage necessary for that.
+T3MP0 You dont need marriage to demonstrate love ... no you dont in most cases I agree with you ... however, WE as a society do need marriage, you see when I said marriage is a cornerstone I meant that A family which is a result of marriage is the very basic unit in any civilized society that without it things could get pretty chaotic & unstructured in a way. this is why I'm seeing that marriage & family in the way we know it is the cornerstone of our existance.
Yes, family is a building block of any society. BUT, different cultures have different ideas of what marriage implies, and even, of what a family means. Our western culture nowadays doesn't necessarily need people to be married to be a family.
That's why I think marriage is obsolete, the ceremony, the tying yourself to another human being forever, the money spent on it, the hardships of divorcing, all of that stuff is not necessary. We don't need to get married. Families we need, marriages we don't.
I don't mind things being "unstructured", they are the sign that things are changing. When the structures you are used to living in change, you are obviously going to feel they are chaotic. But I think it's positive that marriage is being revealed as to what it is: a fraud intended to take all of your money away and bring you a shitload of problems that are not necessary to have. Sure it can give you happiness, but so can being with the person you love without being married.
I just like to think about how easier would lots of lives be if people could just separate themselves when they can no longer be together.
This, of course, if you don't have children. If you have children getting married is necessary because it is a sign of compromise and that you are committed to be under judicial scrutiny if you don't care about your children.
your fucking stupid, this imganiary thing called "marriage" should not be the thing that dictates if you stay loyal to your partner.
I feel like at the beginning of a relationship you’re fully fascinated about each other. That fascination stems from love. However, as time goes on you get married and start living together. You’re always around each other when not working and you both seem to know most things about each other. So friction starts to occur because most people are addicted to being fascinated and forever lusting a person. This cannot realistically continue for long periods of time especially in a marriage. So people start to complain about each other. It doesn’t mean the couple doesn’t love each other however a lot of the novelty of the relationship has been completed. Another example of this type of relationship is between your parents. You love them dearly but you can’t stand being around them 24/7. You’d rather contact or see them on a time that suits you.
the idea is that that complaining period you describe (called the power struggle stage by psychotherapists) is eventually resolved when you learn to love the person for who they are without trying to change them, and they accept you without trying to change you. Then you enter a period of stability and the relationship improves from then on. But many couples can't move past the power struggle stage either because they are fundamentally incompatible or because they give up too soon or because they don't understand these stages and how to ask for help.
So you’re saying that married people should live in different homes, maybe see each other a few times a week.
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youre probably muslim.
im not taking anything from a muslim.
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I don’t wanna work that hard
While I think the video has a valid point, I think it glosses over that people who already make good decisions and are not impulsive still get married. My first marriage was a disaster because we didn't 'fit'. It took me many years to finally get out of it because of the financial hole we had dug ourselves into. Not being married would not have changed that hole, or absolved me of child support responsibilities.
My wife of 10 years and I fit much better. We have common moral values, although our political views are different. We communicate well and trust each other. We can discuss things and usually can arrive at a compromise. My favorite one is I didn't want a dog, she did. Now we have two dogs. But I don't resent why we have two dogs because we discussed it every step of the way. And I really do like dogs.
We don't 'need' to be married, we 'like' being married.
Someone who doesn't want to get married probably hasn't found someone they truly trust and can communicate with. They feel the need to be able to just break it off without any after effects. Which is a delusion, because all breakups are difficult. Not having the legal system to back oneself up can actually make it more difficult but not having any avenue to resolve differences. Which is probably why two people break up, they can't resolve differences.
And someone who has found someone they truly trust, can resolve differences with, and can communicate with probably doesn't need to get married. But they will because they feel "it's the right thing to do".
In the end, it's your life. Do what you think is best for you.
And if it doesn't work, don't make the same mistakes the next time.
Well said
Dude that is too long for people to read
You impulsively married your first wife? You impulsively made a decision?
Wrong they know how fake & fugazi it is! Waste of of money time & effort!!
+Maartje M I have met someone & been together for almost 17yrs we have no kids in our way or pay to get together it's all a shame & just for tax breaks! Not all woman wanna get married & have kids! Only those who are oblivious to the slave work slave labor that's ones kids will hafta endure in the future to pay the almighty taxes to the real ones in charge!!!
If you get married, know this: Feeling of being in love eventually disappears by the time.
People get married for love???
Moron of the North: No, it doesn't, unless, like you, one is stupid enough to prefer big boobs rather than intelligence and decency in a woman.
Exactly! Oxytocin levels drop.
Shut up, you liar. You are not married, and even if you were, the feeling of being loved would be erased in ANY woman by your thorough wimpy manner.
@Jimmy Strudel LOL! Fucking simp. Men don't marry for love you jackass. Men only marry to make their woman happy. It's still all about her. And most of them will regret that absurd amount of stupidity later on in life whether they're divorced or not.
Marriage and relationships are a scam. Focus on developing yourself
Yep, focus on being alone 100% of the time and sexless. Wow what a life that will be!! NOT!!
In today's world I couldn't agree more my friend.
@@Silverwind1989 what the hell should you do then?,get shattered? it looks like men do want love, a partner, sex etc. but now it looks like you cant trust a female...without getting cheated or divorced. then better have that one good night and then dump her or if you cant get that far then be happy that you wont have to expirience the madness and depression of getting cheated on or divorced
sasa ha you just said the pure truth
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Marriage is outdated.
My parents married 35 years into their relationship purely for legal reasons - it makes inheritance and wills so much easier to write.
it also musta been sensual or sexual.....otherwise, you would not be here writing about marriage and that of your parents.
I won’t even marry for that reason. My common-law relationship is enough. Don’t want to be part of a system I detest
@@J.S.3259 fair enough, we used it for a holiday :’)
If I had known all this information before I would have chosen differently, marriage is overrated indeed.
I can tell that the commenters who hate marriage are the losers in the same. Sometimes good guys get screwed in a marriage, but much more often guys, like my brother, can't keep their dick in their pants, and then the woman, rightly so, rejects him. The opposite happens as well, but neither is a reason not to get married, but it is a reason that, if you are GOING to get married, to choose your spouse well. I did and I am experiencing wonderful, fun, enjoyable times, and I have been married over 20 years. Look, guys marriage is not the enemy, but picking your spouse based upon breast size is a loser every time, and this is what too many guys, like my brother, do.
And why didn't you know all this information? Plenty of men have known it over the centuries, and either went ahead of avoided marriage.
Nope, it is not. If you are a loser, and/or your wife is a loser, marriage failure is 100% your fault. If you look at facts, which is the last thing mgtows do, you will see that divorces and other marital issues inevitably arise out of choosing a mate to marry for dumb reasons. My older brother married a woman just because she lived in a very nice home, in a place he could not BEGIN to afford, and for no other reason. This type of idiocy is why most marriages fail.
@@jimgallagher5902 Jim Gallagher is an unnattractive woman pretending to be a beta simp.
@@jimgallagher5902 Jim Gallagher is an unattractive wall smasher with a yeast infection pretending to be a man with one testicle.
I don't like idea of merriage and I'm a girl. Most people I see getting merried do it mostly because they are ''supposed to''.
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yeah girls are really expected to get married. Well men are too but it's much more expected for a girl to get married. Girls that aren't married by 28 will be getting funny looks from their families. It gets worse when they get into their 30s.
My sister is always being asked about her relationships and when she plans to get married and she's only 23.
yeah girls are really expected to get married. Well men are too but it's much more expected for a girl to get married. Girls that aren't married by 28 will be getting funny looks from their families. It gets worse when they get into their 30s.
My sister is always being asked about her relationships and when she plans to get married and she's only 23.
MikeBNumba6 im 25 and once my aunt said that i should lost weight and look up for man before it's too late... Goddammit, i don't even know what direction give to my life yet and i need to have his name and give my family and husband a child . .. ? I don't want to be owned, my name is mine... i just want to share myself to someone that is ready to do the same to me.
+Ambir91 I agree, everyone should have the freedom to live their lives how they want it. Unfortunately there are unwritten patterns us humans had created and we should be able to break free from those cliché cycles. Mostly us women has it more difficult because of social standards, we all know that in society, you wont function as a misfit and this reality is really sad.
Damn I wish more Indians were accepting of this concept. We are still living in 1967. I dread the idea of getting married. In India, the married women has to move in with her husband and HIS PARENTS WTF! She is expected to see her in laws as HER PARENTS and look after them, do the house hold chores etc. Career development is very difficult for a married women unless she's super smart and can efficiently juggle all the responsibilities together. None of my girl friends dig the concept but they do give in to the pressure. I never want to deliberately sign myself up for some awful shit like this.
if that's the idea of marriage then I will not sign up for that either lol
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and they feel shit after close to 40s!
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After reading all the comments, I feel a sense of togetherness with all of you,... I enjoyed reading the comments more than the video🤣🤣🤣
Sameee
Ditto!
I don't hate marriage but I feel like I don't fit in the mould and its my personal happiness that matters and not what others want.
@The 1995 Stoic It's 2021, it's not just women who are responsible for household chores. It's fair they're split up. It's my opinion though and I ain't going to be touching any dishes if I get married. Yet again, marriage is overrated anyways. Especially with guys that think like you. Maybe some women don't mind doing all the housework, but I do. For all you know I'll probably be the main bread winner if I get married. I mean I'm already running a business now while in school.
@@angy101rulz I'm happily single, self-supporting and no kids.. I do my own dishes and my own laundry. Problem solved and alimony avoided. 😊
What is the number one cause of divorce?
Marriage!
Ha cuz thats the only way you can get a divorce
*WAIT*
Yup. Just like being born is the number one cause of death.
+Love Graham. You've had it bad I take it? This really is a place where men congregate to blame women (in cases of legal rights of men vs women that can sometimes be fair), but know that whatever pain you went through will disapppear in due time. Look, I'm not trash. Don't let resentment get the better of you.
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I'm 51. I said if I wasn't married by 30, I would never do it.i have never been engaged. Marriage is just a legalized, socially acceptable form of prostitution. I'm a free spirit. I'm not going to change. I'd rather stay single
hows that kind of form?
Auddy Zhi marriage is the longest form of prostitution because men marry with a false ideology that there will be an abundance of sex ... the women marry for the purpose of using her vagina as collateral to obtain resources and financial security ... Then when the women hits 30 her biological clock kicks in she wants children then the needs of the man r no longer important compared to the needs of the child his sexual desires are no longer main priority then 10-20 years pass the women has menopause which causes her estrogen levels to decrease significantly making her lose total desire to have sex and with that being said she also becomes bipolar and angry 24/7 this is why most divorces occur because the man ends up “cheating “ (finding a method of pleasure due to his stable testosterone levels ) and trying to escape verbal abuse from the female during and after menopause ...
POETIK WARRIOR that's complete bollocks. If you had been married you would know that by the time you are married sex has taken a back step and more important issues to deal with which cannot be ignored. Stick with paying for prostitutes - you will never know the happiness of long term relationships, or children or grandchildren. You are already too old.
Then how will your GEN continue..........
everydayfun it won’t ... human civilization is over populated as it is
Marriage is just a great way to permanently ruin your life.
@@jimgallagher5902 well if you marry a good person, then it is
But it's very likely the person you're getting married to is a bitch/asshole
@@y2123-l8c there's no such thing as good person for marriage bitch wake the fuck up
As a person who had married once and divorced, my advice is to take it slow as fuck, don't let anyone's words get into your head or the tradition of having to get married takes control of you.
Great advice!
Why bother being married and having kids when you can be single and enjoy life?
It's beyond me why any man wants to lose his freedom and be someones slave.
@@jimgallagher5902 sex is completely unnecessary
@@y2123-l8c Yes,why have sex, when you can watch hentai, wich is art
@@jimgallagher5902 lol you actually think single people don't have sex? 😂😂 what reality are you living in?
@@Dream_WRLD777 Where did you get your moron's view? I never said anything of the kind, little boy.
My parents got married at 19 (mom) and 24 (dad) - it was right for them and they’re still married today. I think 2 of the factors involved may be that they’re both deeply religious and had to do a lot of things without support from other family and friends.
Myself, I’m in my early-30s, female and single - I don’t have a lot of friends but I’m still closely connected to my family. I moved out of the house a little while ago & have a full-time job, an apartment and I’m debt-free.
Right now, I’m feeling pretty good being single - my mom would like me to be married soon, but I know I’m in the right place in my life. Being married might help a little more financially and romantically, but that’d be about it! And there’s so much more to marriage than that as this video tries to explain.
Everyone has to go their own life path.
Are u married now ?
Are you?
@@kai-sk6de Nope, still not married! :)
@@elliottorres5861 ??
It's too early to conclude I guess
against marriage ! - headache , more expenses , responsibility , noise , not clean , no life . for what companionship , if you desire companionship your not truely happy with yourself and to be alone and happy .... for those that say otherwise , your still needy ! we born into this world alone , we die alone. u cant take anything to your death bed !
Jesus, how many bowls did you smoke in order to make your completely erratic comment?
@@jimgallagher5902 Give it time as you're pathetic hateful and childish comment will backfire on you when you get divorce raped in the future! All marriage really is, is putting your signature on a piece of paper! And signing your shit over to your partner....So by your logic...if you haven't signed a worhless piece of paper...You don't love your partner? Are you insane or what?
@@jimgallagher5902 stfu with all those comments ur making. Bastard.
At one time marriage may have been necessary, but no longer. Singles get along just fine without marshmallows.
The problem with marriage... is the fact that monogamy simply does not work, human nature is not suited for monogamy. Marriage is outdated now in the times of tinder, snapchat and outright promiscuity. Divorce is now very easy. If one huge reason that people stay together is because it's hard to get out of, well, that only demonstrates its failure. Any argument for marriage being successful is quickly rebuked by looking at divorce stats. 50% of marriages end in divorce. And that doesn't include the marriages where people cheat and stay together for the kids, or stay together even though they are not fulfilled. Locking your self in marriage with one person is dumb, especially as a male when the court systems are set up against you. All I see these days are serial monogamists going from one person to another, thinking that it will work this time, each time disappointed. Also, the video says relationships help us become whole... This is the wrong reason to pursue a relationship.
well said
so you don't desire monogamy, or you just "know" it doesn't work?
because saying i know this isn't gonna happen doesn't mean you truly want it to happen,
you would be just telling yourself, it isn't worth it
It's 42% of marriages that end in divorce, which means while it's not for everyone, it can still be life-worthy engagement for some.
And if anyone thinks that another person has to make you fufilled, then it's the mistake of them and not their partner. Relationship and partners are not the end all and be all of life. Nor is poligamy or staying single. It's just a wide array of decisions in life, that brings good and bad into it.
I couldn't agree more. Simply archaic.
Please tell me what *exactly* human nature is. Seems that it is rather arbitrary.
Funny how the most impressive couples I've ever met were unmarried. Fancy that. People with actual self-control and a genuine desire for harmony not born from the shackles of socialized shaming but rather out of honest, mutually beneficial effort and compatible personal traits.
AxaDoble It's still more stable than co-habitation though.
AxaDoble....well put. I agree with everything that you expressed. In my opinion,only a very psychologically mature couple will stay together nowadays. To maintain this,you need skills that are not even talked about in society...particularly conflict resolution skills,and the difficult skill of balancing your needs with empathy for the other person's needs.None of this is talked about much,instead marriage in the West is just an orgy of spending money that you probably should conserve and save.
Shake hir....so if you have maturity and can work out problems as a couple,you will have the ability to stay together regardless. If you don't possess these skills,which should be taught in school and are not,then you will end up apart. Marriage is just a useless expensive sticking plaster to cover up the real failings of society,it encourages an orgy of gluttony and spending,and it is mainly done because society tells you it is a fine idea. Screw that, I'm out.
@Mayo Dog The cohabitation laws are similar to marriage after 2 years cohabiting, especially if children are involved. Still a dangerous path for a man. Thats why the MGTOW guys say 'no marriage, no cohabitation'.
@Shake hir I have a brother and sister, uncles and aunties all divorced, some more than once! My parents would have been happier divorced.
Me?, single, happy and MGTOW. No motivation to swim in the modern marriage shark tank.
Marriage is fun for a few weeks or months. Then reality sets in and it's horrid. That's why people divorce. The relationship turns into a relationshit.
Facts
Divorce rates been falling for a few decades. The truth is, the average couple getting married today has more like a 75 percent chance of staying married. That means that only about 1 in 4 recent marriages are likely to end in divorce.
(www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/heart-the-matter/201704/do-half-all-marriages-really-end-in-divorce) Try using facts instead of your non-existent brain.
Are you married? Nope, you just repeat the filth other moron mgtows (all of them) spew out.
Then you are either stupid or picked a REALLY horrible mate. Which are you?
Jim Gallagher thank you
Marriage is nothing more than an economic contract. Once the contract is over, you will lose half of your money through alimony, child support, and custody over your kids. And just because you’re married doesn’t mean that your partner is going to be loyal.
It's way worse than half. More like 2/3s. And if there are kids look for 40% of your gross to be transferred to the states designated winner. Kiss your kids goodbye because the state views you as disposable except you better keep paying or off to jail you go.
I didn't really get the point of this. It's from a really negative perspective that all marriages end in divorce or are unhappy.
40% of marriages end in divorce and I'd be willing to bet that over 50% are unhappy.
Which means 30% are happy living in a monogamous relationship, so by all accounts it not that an uncommon fufilling way of life.
***** Without them it can hardly be considered life.
+The School of Life that's true, but you don't want these moments of unhappiness to come from a relationship, since they're already so frequent in other parts of your life like work etc, and you can't avoid not working, so at least you can control the relationship part of your life.
dont be so negative then
I think marriage is still good,but it's something people should wait on and not rush into.
Agreed
+ToxicKillzHD timing is everything
It's not good, it was been when women needed men and not anymore. Unless you are good with all odds going against you.
+BeeleeDatPleighboi 100 the reason most marriages fail is because people think they know what they want.the want someone thats looks perfect, financial matches them.but it all comes down to timing. taking time to talk.taking time to wait.how do we really know what we want.by taking time waiting.and for most of all the world.its just hey I have to have somebody
+bitter blue looks like someone's had some issues
Yeah i think i will stick with being single.
Exile Exilesson or just date some one long term
As if you had a choice!! HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!
@@jimgallagher5902 your gay as/f...ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
@Shield Wall :More little boy comments where Shit Wall thinks he'll upset me. Sorry, little boy, didn't work before and it isn't working now.
@@jimgallagher5902 highly doubt you are a lawyer with that level of immaturity. Then again you could be afraid the trend of men swearing off marriage will rob you of business. You seem nervous boy 😂😏
My family and relatives are always surprised whenever I say "I'll stay single" and start to lecture me about the "benefits" of engaging in a relationship. Ironically and funnily enough, they are the very same people to indirectly teach me how relationships really work through everyday activities while not realizing it. What's worse, even though, they also learned some of the bad aspects of it through time, and yet, here they are, still trying to plunge me into the deep end.
This.
Misery loves company...
I'm single and I still think the comment section is full of people with ridiculous bias against relationships and marriage because they had issues.
No I was anti marriage at school and gets mentioned when family meet up that I have never deviated from this point of view and held it even before I had a first girlfriend.
I am not anti marriage just anti marriage for me. My parents were married for a long time and only death separated them but I have been against the idea since school so your evaluation is incorrect. I have never been married so I have no issues with it in the way you mention. I just don't hold with many traditions. Marriage, Royal Family, Religion are for me all outdated concepts. They were for the previous generations but not mine.
agreed
+john mcintosh No I speak for myself but I do think there has been a shift away from supporting traditions like monarchy, religion and marriage and statistics bear this out.
I have literally zero reasons to get married. Just why, to make it hard to leave? That's not a recipe for a happy relationship
Being married with children sounds like hell on earth
@Albert Mora Well, that's how he came to be ;)
Children aren't hell on earth. They can bring a lot of joy into your life.
@@AbrahamSpring and a lot of pain, and pain by its nature hurts you more than joy makes you happy.
children are awesome! but most women on the other hand. nah I'm good.
So bad that they made a TV show out of it called "Married With Children." Yup! Just ask Al Bundy.
If I didn't believe in marriage, I'd probably relish the idea of being single. What I don't understand are people deluding themselves into believing swiping right and sleeping around is going to make them happy. Maybe marriage isn't for you, but dating someone until you see their first flaw is the saddest, most childish mindset. I feel like that's the most likely future for those who scoff at marriage.
***** That's definitely true. Marriage is not for everyone. It seems people don't have the attention span and too many options for even a meaningful relationship.
it's less about commitment, and more about the disasters that are all too common in divorce courts. everything but splitting the 50% of my assets sounds about marriage, but I do really like my stuff.
You are the first person I have found who shares my mindset. I believe in marriage. I don't believe a relationship can last a lifetime. People don't understand how beautiful a relationship can be. WIthout someone being there for you, you feel worthless. Everyone needs a parner. And having different partners for the rest of your life will make every other elationship less meaningful. It will make you bitter and uncaring towards others. Thats the way I see it.
John Xray I tend to believe in marriage, but I think it's okay if people are committed and don't get married. But I just spent my twenties watching people on tinder and okcupid, it's just so sad and pathetic. They don't want to be let down at all, they can't handle disappointment or self-awareness. It seems maybe like a millenial thing. But a real relationship is about learning to love someone's flaws and expose your own. Those dating sites are incestuous and depressing, friends end up dating the same people, no one grows from the experience, somehow protection from disease is no longer the norm. I know I sound old and prudish, lol. But come on, you can't have nothing but pleasure in this world. We're going to be some lonely people in the decades to come.
Exactly, and this hedonistic mindset so prevalent in the West today is one of the main reasons behind plummeting birth rates, divorce, and absent fathers. Meanwhile, cultures with much less tolerant and progressive worldviews are breeding like mad, with tight family bonds, and are rapidly displacing native Western people in their own countries. Leftism, feminism, hippy-ism, free love, whatever you want to call it, truly is a cancer on Western society.
I, personally, find myself leaning against tradition due to my upbringing. However, I still want to get married.
I do not find myself wanting to follow impulse or just casually entering sexual relationships with others. I wish to simply have a single person that I can fully trust, rely on, and unite with in this world. And let them trust and rely on me.
Our wedding does not, and will not be grand, our rings won't be worth a fortune. I'm fine with a simple wedding, even without family or friends. When I look at my wedding ring, I do not want to admire its beauty or care about its design, but want to be reminded of the person wearing the other ring, the memories we had together, and my love for them. Even if I have a plentitude of money to spend, I do not want other people's opinions or material goods to be what defines our relationship.
I want to marry a person who accepts me for who I am and what I value, and who I will become in the future. I'm willing to accept them them same way in return.
I'll be trying my best, even now, for the sake of all this. For the sake of my future wife and family.
Oh dear lord, you my child will see a world of pain with that attitude. I pray to God to give u strength to bear the hell which is about to come to you
you have all the right reasons for getting married. you are on the right path. cheers!!!
@@soumyaagrawal1758 lol u are giving him a horrible advice. This poor guy needs to know reality bro
@@KARTIKEYA007 i think you've been through some bad shit
@@soumyaagrawal1758 why do you say that?
Rather be single for the rest of my life. I can have more fun that way, lol. Not interested in having kids either.
@Wayne96819 I don't comprehend you
@Wayne96819 irrelevant
Marriage is useless unless you are religious, and the whole "i want to marry because i want to live my whole life with someone" is just nonsense. If you cant live with someone without having signed a paper before, you have to reevaluate your conception of a relationship
With less societal expectation that the two people will stay together, more people will avoid staying together. And a healthy marriage with strong parenting produces the best children.
I'm not religious in any way and marriage isn't important to me exactly in the sense that I know it's just a piece of paper but I think that if you're with someone you're genuinely completely in love with you want to be as close with them as possible and marriage can be (but doesn't have to be) a way to feel even more like a family. Maybe that's just a fantasy and doesn't matter in realistic everyday kind of sense but if you're in a healthy secure feeling relationship prior to getting married and you feel as a couple that it is something you want to do, I think people should go for it. It can have cultural and family benefits.
Dance God not always true
Peachy Cheri 🤔🤔🤔
Have you ever been married?
Is this the place I line up to lose half my shit?
Bill Burr.
He's married & has kids so..
No, the place you lose have your shit never comes, because you have nothing, except what mommy & DADDY GIVE YOU.
@@hasnainabbasdilawar8832 Yeah why did he get married after knowing this?
@@sullya6967 he's a comedian.
In the end, my marriage was no more of a commitment than any other girlfriend.
Not having children was the best decision I ever made.
either she drinks the pill.....or you wear trojans.
What's ur age?
it will be if you get divorced. You dont have to share your pensions, assets, house, cars and other possessions when you break up with your girlfriend. If you break up with your wife the government is giving her all of that plus your going to be paying thousands more in alimony and lawyer fees.
@@boston312. I was referring to how people will still just walk away. My wife got nothing in our divorce but her grandmothers chair.
I don't get marriage. It seems like a bizarre way to live. You have to find this other person that you're not related to, then you have to sign a contract that you'll live with them and sleep with them and do everything together until one of you drops dead.
thelittlepilgrim Its almost like a obsession
thelittlepilgrim haha thats great 😂
thelittlepilgrim ikr that's just creepy
Actually, you don't sign a contract to sleep with them. The law cannot forcibly make an unwilling spouse sleep with the other spouse. You sign a contract to sleep with ONLY your spouse, and if your spouse says "no", you're sleeping alone.
You're saying it's better when you're related? 🤔
Marriage survived because you get a tax discount :)
If you want tax breaks - incorporate. (c) Doug Stanhope
The same tax benefits apply to civil partners too. At least in the UK.
Don't pay taxes...
Fuck the IRS.
In Capitalist America, you don't fuck the IRS.... The IRS fucks you! :P
+Swaroop Repaka I haven't paid taxes in years
I made a proposal to my girlfriend several weeks ago. I knew she wanted to marry me but i struggled with that decision for a long time. We're together now for almost 7 years. One reason for that was the belief that the relationship would spoil my self development and life goals. But at some point I realized that a sincere relationship is the best way to work on yourself. It's easy to get along with yourself. Overcoming superficial arguments and dealing with real feelings and fears is best achieved in a trusting relationship. You never reach that point without a partner that does not reflect your behavior and values. But this kind of relationship does not neccessarily need to be a marriage. So I have respect for everyone who does not want to marry.
Are you still married?
Why do people get married anymore, sex is readily available, loyalty doesn’t exist, financial security can be achieved being single. In the old days, marriage was done out of necessity to provide for stability and financial well being but nowadays, you don’t need to be married to achieve those things.
Yeah
Exactly, it's served it's purpose and we've evolved.
This is exactly why I'm married. I chose someone who will help me build what we mutually want in the long run. Sure I get annoyed frequently. But the reasons I married are still there. As we cross milestones, the feeling of serenity and satisfaction magnifies. It's wonderful.
TheStonesQT93 how's it been for the past 11 months?
+Paradise Lord Ryu she left him for the 22 year old Brazilian pool boy
you can do all those things un married
I got married because fornication is a sin and im not having kids with different men.
Don't let all of these sad, hurt people affect you. I admire your commitment and hope in the future, my partner and I can approach life and love's challenges with the same level of grace you do. (:
Love is an amazing thing. This comment section proves it's also a rare thing that a lot of people are incapable of.
Marriage is a burden disguised as a blessing.
just like children
So true
So far as I can tell, from what I've witnessed with married couples, including my own parents, marriage is the committed and passionate study of how to hate one particular human being right down to their molecules.
😄😂🤣🤣😜
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Seen it many times people "living their best lives" walk out and find out they threw away their family for someone who was exciting for the moment but ultimately they are alone and have to forever live with the consequences of splitting their family. Its not something that should be entered into lightly.
speak for yourself. All this alone shaming never made sense to me. As an introvert I love my solitude and alone time.
I think those people are few and far between
Don't get married it's a trap
Its always has been.
The only trap is Tyler's and he needs to shut it.
Nope, it isn't, unless you are a moron like Tyler.
@@jimgallagher5902 Shut the fuck up Jim, you are a stupid fool.
It's a trap for men. For women is the ultimate goal... Alimony, Assets, Child support...
Marriage. The greatest man- control tool ever known to man.
Made by man, to help both woman and man control themselves. But men only pit themselves in nooses.
Men - no one forces you to be married. It's your choice. Dumbass.
Seaninbabee ofcourse you get forced. Peer pressure, family nagging you etc. Just wait until all your closest friends get married. You'll be scrapping for leftovers
+TheJackal Most of my close friends have been married and for a lot of them I was there at the wedding..,..and the divorce
misfit shit happens. People know drinking/doing drugs is dangerous but people still do it. People get caught in the moment and sign their lives away. It happens to the best of us.
"We'll always stick together" just sounds like naive, wishful thinking to me.
That's because it is
@@diomerda111 Sure, in a lot of cases. I guess what I mean is, you can set yourself goals but never account for other people just because you want them included.
Never wanted to get married. No wedding, no white dress, no party. “Marriage” is an economic proposition for some. It’s just a comfortable lifestyle. That’s all.
I am 35 year old single male and I find as I get older more and more men are telling me not to get married.
I am a 39 year old single male, never married, never will marry. My older brother, who is married with three daughters, tells me how hectic his life is now, and he actually envies me.
@Rosemary Terra He envied my independent lifestyle. I live as I please; he's stuck at home with three kids and a shrill wife. I assured him that the life of the childfree bachelor was a quiet, peaceful life, and I would never trade it for anything. There is absolutely nothing wrong with pursuing a life of independence and self-fulfillment, especially when the risks of marriage are so obvious these days. My brother and his wife are still married, I believe, only for their kids' sake. It is plain to see that they aren't happy.
Most marriages eventually stagnate into monotony. At worst, a man can be left ruined and destitute by divorce, even when he didn't do anything wrong. I have seen too many marriages fail among friends and family. Friends of mine who married young and had kids have privately warned me, "Don't do it!"
@Rosemary Terra marriage started failing as soon as women got power. Stop this BS.
I made the decision at a young age that nothing externally good came from marriage. People always talked about how they couldn't stand the other in the relationship. The ones that seemed the happiest are the ones that were recently divorced.
My parents are together and sometimes i cannot comprehend how they are still married. Oh wait, she makes more on paper than my dad. Hmmm makes sense....
Then you should have waited until you lived more of life and you would have found out you were wrong.
This video concentrates a little too much on the negatives and assumes all marriage are traditional and are the same.
newlywed alert. :p
I think your idealistic views of marriage may not be mixing well with their practical view. Don't fret, your views are valid! The School of Life is not trying to put your views down or replace them. They are politely giving you a glimpse into the realities of marriage. If you can recognize these realities and attribute them to your ideals, I'm sure you'll have a long-lasting and life-fulfilling marriage
+shahrel rafiqin lol true
I found that the video concentrated on the underlying merit of marriage.
but the stats don't lie nearly 50% fail. Personally I just don't see the benefit in marrying for a guy, i can why women want to marry since they benefit from marriage if works or if it doesn't.
You can agree to spend 50 years or the rest of your life with somebody without signing a marriage document. By making the choice to commit without the traditional or legal strings attached it really puts the focus on the relationship itself which if you're in it for the right reason is the only thing that matters.
Or if they insist on the legal bind, they should be free to sign a contract, but not the marriage contract which imposes government rules on your relationship. They could negotiate the terms of the relationship and consequences of leaving it, and then making it an official contract. Still way more reasonable than the traditional method
my thoughts exactly
You don’t have to get married if you love someone that should be good enough
That makes too much sense
Or at least they could do the festivities related to marrying without the paperwork/government contract thing.
@@GeminiCricket21 I tried once to convince my girlfriend to just do the ceremony without getting the government involved at all. No paperwork, just love. She however, was committed to the idea of "legally owning someone". And was positive about the idea that marriage makes it difficult to leave. Needless to say I ran.
@@randomnumbers84269 I’m glad you did. Seems very possessive and controlling.
Yes but what if I love them so much that I want them as my family LEGALLY. I want everyone to know and accept that the love of my life is LEGITIMATELY MY FAMILY too. 🥺
Too Late. Already swallowed the red pill.
Brad bro , how is the life ? do you think you did the right thing ?
@@budsyremo Absolutely he did the right thing!
The "red pill" to Brad is his male lover's spunk.
By which Brad means he had his first period.
Brad what Brad means by the red pill is that he swallowed his boyfriend's used tampon
Everything is cost vs benefit. The potential costs of marriage is: Divorce, Alimony, Child Support/Losing your children, and false accusations of rape and/or domestic violence.
There are no potential benefits imaginable, to make those risks acceptable.
There are! There's: Companionship, family, home, sense of belonging, legacy... Think of your own family; the bond you have with your siblings, being taken to school every morning by your parents, sitting down to eat lunch etc etc A lonely life of hook ups, partying, and looseness gives you none of these things.
You're also going to age and it will come a point when having many partners becomes a tasteless choir-like distraction. I myself don't want to marry, but I'd like to have a family and perhaps a couple of kids down the road. I would enjoy the childhood that I lost in my kids. It would be lovely, I think.
Even if you get married, your self control might break and you cheat, or she cheats. Why dafug is this still a question?
Omg i regret spending 5+ years thinking about marriage, because family member saying to me always "there's no succees without marriage" I forgot what i wanted in these years thinking about marriage and finding a women. The older i got more people seems to get married i become only one who isn't married, started to feel big anxiety because i started to get older as well.
I'm 30 years now and single man and i dont please people anymore how i used to before and peoples face has somekind hate towards me and try to controll me. But i know this right path for me, i can feel it. I dont want marriage just to fit in, i care waay more about my happiness.
This is good
This is great my family did the same made me feel guilty for being single now I'm married and miserable just like going to college because my parents told me to now im in student loan debt
@@mateoc7808 Im so sorry to hear that you are miserable and married. I hope you get your happiness back!
@@mateoc7808 most larents dont know whats best for us. If you dont want to go to college, dont go. If you dont want to get married, dont get married. Do what makes you happy on earth, we are all guests.
I WATCH OTHER PPL AND LEARN FROM THEIER MISTAKES
Apparently not, as you can't even spell "their" correctly.
Yep, you've learned all the mistakes your friends have, but none of their ways to succeed.
Sure you do, which is why you don't know how to spell "their" properly. What a moron you are.
@@jimgallagher5902 you do realise you don't need to be married to have a great life, do you?
@@y2123-l8c I am single and I have wonderful life peace within brothers ✌️
all I heard was blah blah blah your dad isn't coming back
Roasted
Sorry 'bout that, Obama...
ever again!
LOL
That One Black Kid LMFAO
looks like there are a lot of single people like me out there. i'm happy being single, keeping myself away from heartbreak, arguments, the need to satisfy my partner, and whatnot. meh. the world population is skyrocketing, let's not add more people. let's rock our single life!
Lea, you have the right idea.
Precisely Lea.
So, basically you are a 100% pussy who know one wants.
Sure, there are TONS of morons, so it was a lead pipe cinch other morons would group together.
@@jimgallagher5902 Jim or whoever you are please can you stop commenting, its pointless cuz no one gives a shit.
I’m fascinated by our culture’s implication that we only have two options: get married or be single. Where are the lifelong, committed partners who decided they didn’t need paperwork in their relationship? 🤔
Committed, lifelong partners is the oddballs of society. Most people only follow what they are used to anyway. I thought a "marriage" is between two people, independent of religion and the government.
THIS!!!!!
me and my boyfriend are that, we call our dynamic a "free relationship" you see, emotionally we are monogamous but physically we can be intimate with others without it affecting our love for each other, we never plan to marry because I believe gay marriage is a sin and my boyfriend just doesn't like marriage, we've been together for 8 months and we truly love each other💕❤
@user-nn5bx4pi6e that's perfectly fine for straight people but me and my boyfriend can't get married, gay marriage is a sin