I will be turning 60 in May, I was married at 25, divorced at 43, and have been single since my divorce nearly 16 years ago. I haven’t dated since my divorce and have no desire for another relationship. I love living on my own. My time is my own and I don’t have to consider anyone else when making decisions. I’ve made my home my happy place and my sanctuary, and I don’t want or need anyone else to share that space with me. For those that want to have a relationship….go for it, but not all of us want that in our lives.
I completely understand, thank you for sharing. I have also been married twice two divorces and have written books about my experiences using poetry from my journals and life experiences and journey of therapy and healing form narcissistic abuse. I've been happily enjoying life with myself for 8 years. I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos.
I believe every word you say. No amount of money or material wealth can substitute genuine peace, love, respect, mental/emotional/psychological health, and well-being. The sooner we learn this, the sooner we will avoid wasting many of our years on the very things that move us further away from a fulfilling life. It's all a distraction that can consume us if we are not careful to discern. I pray for women who are stuck in a toxic or harmful cycle where it seems impossible to leave it all behind when you know in your gut it does not feel right. Trust in yourself, because your intuition is there to protect you.
I've been out of a relationship for a long time also. Clearly, I needed the time to sort things out in my head and come to some realisations. I feel like I understand myself so much better and know where I have to put in the effort to heal issues and beliefs
Happy Saturday, Emily. Excellent video, very well said & spoken❤ people need to understand you are speaking about you & your experience!! You should be proud of yourself you are at a point where you are happy and content cheers to you friend 🥂👏👏💗
I’m 61 now- married at 23 then divorced at age 45 and have been on my own since. I’ve tried dating over the years and it’s really turned out to be sooooo disappointing and exhausting. A few times I got into a relationship for a few months however, the men I dated hadn’t recovered financially or dealt with their anger and issues from their own divorces. at this point. I’m content to just focus on my own plans. I’m strong inside and know how to lean on myself and my faith life when I need courage.
It’s weird to me that people encourage women (or anyone really) to take the time. Heal. Go to therapy. Learn to be content. Etc. Etc. Etc. But then when someone like you actively does that for 10 years they put down that decision? That’s wild behavior. Good for you. You give me hope.
God bless! I am a widow at 50. My much older husband passed away three years ago. He had poor health and that put a lot of stress on the marriage. May he rest in peace. I have not dated anybody. Nit even a single date. Many have asked me out. I find most were unattractive and also loaded with problems, especially alcohol/ addictions/ divorce issues. Younger men were attracted too, but only interested in sex. I have to say, I do enjoy my peace and being financially independent. I’m an introvert and thrive in this environment. I read and travel. I do miss having somebody to talk to on deeper topics/interests and occasionally go on a trip with, but that’s OK.
I will add. For someone who is extremely middle class this advice feels hard to take from someone coming from privilege. When you say something like being able to afford “only a very modest home”. That is something I will likely never have. As someone who has been married over 24 years and mostly home with my kids, I have NOTHING. Sure marital assets. But it will come out to very little at the end of my marriage. And then you are semi-trapped. So, I will continue to listen. But you slightly lost me with all the homes, jewelry, vacations, designer stuff, cars, etc. There’s no way you’ve had to completely rely on yourself now. No shade. No hate on that. It’s just a different world someone like me will never experience or understand.
@@melgon25 hi, I did a video on this to address this comment. Thanks for posting. I’m sure a lot of other people are asking themselves the same question. My divorce was extremely contentious considered a high conflict divorce and so I knew that spousal support was not going to be an option and I couldn’t afford to fight. So I took what he offered and left. It was just enough that I could buy myself a home. I consider myself very fortunate to be able to even afford that as I know there’s a lot of other women where this is not even an option.❤️
Ooooh, nothing like a victim mentality, is there? That way you can whine about your shitty life without having to ACT. I say this as someone who did it for 16 long painful years until I just snapped and kicked him out. Envy is a disability.
My mom is in her 60s, twice divorced, and vowed to never speak to a man again. Outside of coworkers and direct family, of course. It’s hilarious to me as her daughter, I’m in my first marriage and can’t wait for the day that I can do the same lol!
How have you been able to do all the traveling financially? I’m newly single and love to travel but don’t make a great salary. Its so awesome you have a friend that loves to travel
@@pearlfeather9326 I have one son that is a commercial pilot so obviously I have great perks for flying often times free. I have another son who runs adventure excursions all around the world so obviously there I also can benefit. But the biggest change in my life is I no longer buy things I have what I need and all my money goes towards experiences and collecting memories not stuff. I bought a home that I could afford from the payout of my divorce and I put every penny into that house because I did not want to have a mortgage. I wanted to minimize my expenses since I was not getting any spousal support. I started two businesses and thank God they were successful enough for me not to worry about the monthly bills this did not come easy as I worked 18 hour days for the first two years. I have friends that do not travel as they spend the majority of their income on buying new clothes new shoes, new bags, new pillows for their homes… for the past few years I have been on a do I need it or do I want it mindset and that has really helped me be able to afford my travels.
You don’t need to “justify” your lifestyle, it just implies to me that its hard for you to put yourself in the “shoes” of single women working hard just to pay for food, rent and life’s expenses, supporting children, etc. And some of us fell out of a comfortable home and life style with our divorces and are now struggling to exist.
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I will be turning 60 in May, I was married at 25, divorced at 43, and have been single since my divorce nearly 16 years ago. I haven’t dated since my divorce and have no desire for another relationship. I love living on my own. My time is my own and I don’t have to consider anyone else when making decisions. I’ve made my home my happy place and my sanctuary, and I don’t want or need anyone else to share that space with me. For those that want to have a relationship….go for it, but not all of us want that in our lives.
@@sloanchessman5783 agreed!!!
Do you pet the Kitty?
Divorced for 36 years, dated, but never remarried. 68 now, and love my quiet, simple, independent life. ❤
@@sparkytoday8455 I’m really starting to think this is a movement… so many similar comments. Enjoy your simple independent life.❤️
I completely understand, thank you for sharing.
I have also been married twice two divorces and have written books about my experiences using poetry from my journals and life experiences and journey of therapy and healing form narcissistic abuse. I've been happily enjoying life with myself for 8 years. I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos.
I believe every word you say. No amount of money or material wealth can substitute genuine peace, love, respect, mental/emotional/psychological health, and well-being. The sooner we learn this, the sooner we will avoid wasting many of our years on the very things that move us further away from a fulfilling life. It's all a distraction that can consume us if we are not careful to discern. I pray for women who are stuck in a toxic or harmful cycle where it seems impossible to leave it all behind when you know in your gut it does not feel right. Trust in yourself, because your intuition is there to protect you.
I've been out of a relationship for a long time also. Clearly, I needed the time to sort things out in my head and come to some realisations. I feel like I understand myself so much better and know where I have to put in the effort to heal issues and beliefs
the title resonates and the video is so relatable. thank you for sharing
@@whegotsa8874 you’re welcome ❤️
Happy Saturday, Emily. Excellent video, very well said & spoken❤ people need to understand you are speaking about you & your experience!! You should be proud of yourself you are at a point where you are happy and content cheers to you friend 🥂👏👏💗
I love being alone as well... if i meet my perfect mate - it will be an extra layer of fluffy frosting on an already perfect cake...
@@gurrrrlish love this!!
I’m 61 now- married at 23 then divorced at age 45 and have been on my own since.
I’ve tried dating over the years and it’s really turned out to be sooooo disappointing and exhausting.
A few times I got into a relationship for a few months however, the men I dated hadn’t recovered financially
or dealt with their anger and issues from their own divorces.
at this point. I’m content to just focus on my own plans.
I’m strong inside and know how to lean on myself and my faith life when I need courage.
@@nancykay4128 i’m really starting to feel like this is a growing trend❤️
It’s weird to me that people encourage women (or anyone really) to take the time. Heal. Go to therapy. Learn to be content. Etc. Etc. Etc. But then when someone like you actively does that for 10 years they put down that decision? That’s wild behavior. Good for you. You give me hope.
God bless! I am a widow at 50. My much older husband passed away three years ago. He had poor health and that put a lot of stress on the marriage. May he rest in peace. I have not dated anybody. Nit even a single date. Many have asked me out. I find most were unattractive and also loaded with problems, especially alcohol/ addictions/ divorce issues. Younger men were attracted too, but only interested in sex. I have to say, I do enjoy my peace and being financially independent. I’m an introvert and thrive in this environment. I read and travel. I do miss having somebody to talk to on deeper topics/interests and occasionally go on a trip with, but that’s OK.
I have close bonds with my girlfriends. I know it’s not the same, but we do travel together and have really great deep meaningful conversations.
❤️
Hi you look great for your age I'm the same live alone not dating currently to messy today the options are not up to my standards ❤
@@RitaDoran-p4v I totally hear you!!!
I will add. For someone who is extremely middle class this advice feels hard to take from someone coming from privilege. When you say something like being able to afford “only a very modest home”. That is something I will likely never have. As someone who has been married over 24 years and mostly home with my kids, I have NOTHING. Sure marital assets. But it will come out to very little at the end of my marriage. And then you are semi-trapped. So, I will continue to listen. But you slightly lost me with all the homes, jewelry, vacations, designer stuff, cars, etc. There’s no way you’ve had to completely rely on yourself now. No shade. No hate on that. It’s just a different world someone like me will never experience or understand.
@@melgon25 hi, I did a video on this to address this comment. Thanks for posting. I’m sure a lot of other people are asking themselves the same question. My divorce was extremely contentious considered a high conflict divorce and so I knew that spousal support was not going to be an option and I couldn’t afford to fight. So I took what he offered and left. It was just enough that I could buy myself a home. I consider myself very fortunate to be able to even afford that as I know there’s a lot of other women where this is not even an option.❤️
Ooooh, nothing like a victim mentality, is there?
That way you can whine about your shitty life without having to ACT.
I say this as someone who did it for 16 long painful years until I just snapped and kicked him out.
Envy is a disability.
My mom is in her 60s, twice divorced, and vowed to never speak to a man again. Outside of coworkers and direct family, of course. It’s hilarious to me as her daughter, I’m in my first marriage and can’t wait for the day that I can do the same lol!
@@liz5066 lol❤️
How have you been able to do all the traveling financially?
I’m newly single and love to travel but don’t make a great salary.
Its so awesome you have a friend that loves to travel
@@jayhulrs1435 I’ll make a video about this soon❤️
Other people are overrated
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🥰
Got cat(s)?
@@datther 2 cats 2 dogs!
Well you obviously have decent resources because you wouldnt be going on all those fancy trips.
And just what did your "modest" house cost?
@@pearlfeather9326 I have one son that is a commercial pilot so obviously I have great perks for flying often times free. I have another son who runs adventure excursions all around the world so obviously there I also can benefit. But the biggest change in my life is I no longer buy things I have what I need and all my money goes towards experiences and collecting memories not stuff. I bought a home that I could afford from the payout of my divorce and I put every penny into that house because I did not want to have a mortgage. I wanted to minimize my expenses since I was not getting any spousal support. I started two businesses and thank God they were successful enough for me not to worry about the monthly bills this did not come easy as I worked 18 hour days for the first two years.
I have friends that do not travel as they spend the majority of their income on buying new clothes new shoes, new bags, new pillows for their homes… for the past few years I have been on a do I need it or do I want it mindset and that has really helped me be able to afford my travels.
@@Mamamoynesit’s all about priorities. Some people prefer “things” while others of us prefer “experiences”.😉
You don’t need to “justify” your lifestyle, it just implies to me that its hard for you to put yourself in the “shoes” of single women working hard just to pay for food, rent and life’s expenses, supporting children, etc. And some of us fell out of a comfortable home and life style with our divorces and are now struggling to exist.
The jealousy and insecurities are showing
@Dti_lover-y7o
Omg...not jealous at all!
You have some nerve even saying that.
Im just saying shes in a much better position than a lot of people.